Im an intern at a juvenile facility, these kids stories break my heart, especially as a parent. And a loving, caring, parent is what most of these kids need.
An intern? Make sure you set your feelings, emotions, and countertransference in check. Every child has a story, and as we know, there's more to the story both, good and bad. I worked in a JF for a while, their mindset, manipulating ways, behavior helped me learn to keep my feelings at the door. I saved my empathy and compassion for the ones that want to change. Don't fall for the emotional trap, set boundaries, and every worker will be successful. Good Luck!
i hope u can make a difference. Its the small things people do in there i still remember some off them i spend 20 months im 40 now i still remember some off them. When ur a teen its make so much impact and all were i was looking for was real love and some to say i do matter
And the guards could really use some training, especially with the kids who don't have supportive parents (like Kevin). A pep talk isn't going to cut it.
I haven't watched many of these shows but it really is sad. I can imagine ever saying I don't want my child to come home. If my kids are bad I ground them. We talk things out. The parents that throw away their kids like a bad apple are just pathetic l.
@@v4v819 I live in Spain. We do not send children to prison. For violent offenders we use small group homes much like boarding schools for living together in an educational group of up to eight minors between 15 and 17 for cases of violence by minors towards parents which is the most common offence brought before our courts. There are individual goals for each juvenile to help them develop social skills. It is quite intensive and expensive and completely different from the American system.
So sad to see what this kid is going through , sometimes I get so frustrated and indignant with the irresponsible parents who put their lives above their kids!
💯 agree! We live in the most selfish, irresponsible, careless society of all time. These kids are the products of that. It breaks my heart for them. They need to learn coping skills and help them to break their family curse.
@liz d’royale yeah, considering the lady who was talking to him in the last part of the video, the security guard. Unless I misinterpreted your comment
My heart just breaks for these kids. I don't know the answer, but I think a very stable home life and lots of love might have kept these kids out of jail.
Not true... My brother got incarcerated and we had a stable home with two loving parents... And my friend had an unstable home with no parents and abusive foster's and he's a lawyer now! So there goes your theory... Back to the drawing board you communist... Nice try though! :P
Damn it, Kevin broke my heart. He's so hurt, angry and lost. I'm not a therapist so I don't know what he needs but I would have found it impossible not to hug the kid when he is crying. I could never ever do this job. Big props to that lady talking to Kevin. Is he ok now??
I want to give them all hugs too, but I'm very maternal. The guards could really use better training in how to keep things from escalating. She was trying to give him a pep talk, but he can't even think clearly when his needs haven't been met for years. I mean, his mom has only come to see him one time! 😥
No Kevin is not ok...the 2nd part of this story in the remarks section states: He was arrested in 2016 for carrying a handgun without a license, received a 2 year prison sentence and was released in 2018. In August of 2021, he was arrested on charges of rape, confinement and domestic battery. Those are some pretty heavy charges if they remain, and carry somewhat long sentences and given his past they'll most likely be sure to give him the max for all of them. This kid was given a really lousy start to life, the whole system failed him time and time again, he had absolutely nobody on his side, and no family or support otherwise. Its no wonder he went down the path he did, and the way the system works, he's a great example of why the system doesn't do anything to help these kids...it further screws with their minds, driving them deeper into worse problems than the original one. To think that he initially ended up in this predicament because his mother called the cops because he swung at her....damn if I woulda done that to my mom I'd find myself waking up the following week...cops wouldn't be involved she'd just have given me a good beating to remember who's boss. Parents today it seems just have kids because they can, they don't want them obviously, so they do whatever they can to put them into the system, whether it be prison, or the foster system...they just want to be rid of them so they can go back to living life however they deem fit, the child got in their way and must be removed by any means necessary, even if it means making up fake accusations to get them thrown in prison or taken away by CPS.
Sometimes the parents just don't have the copion. Skills to handle there children they need therapy so they can raise there children take them to church and maybe they would have a different out come unless it's medical condition god help these children and god put them here on earth and this is not there purpose we were born to serve the lord Jesus Christ thanks
My heart breaks for Kevin. He's got so much hurt, and has no idea how to cope with it. He needs therapy, not prison. Furthermore, that prison needs to improve their restraint methods. Crowding him into a corner like that is going to cause him to panic and assault staff quicker, it's more difficult to control the restraint, and it puts him at greater risk of injury. Keeping a little bit of a distance and waiting for Kevin to move away from the bed and wall would have allowed staff the opportunity to try to deescalate him further and would have allowed Kevin that extra second to think. It also allows for floorspace that's free of obstacles and space to move if a restraint is needed. But roughly 90% of escalations can be resolved without using restraints.
@Security You don’t have to believe me, I really don’t care. But the fact of the matter is those cops run the same restraint and de-escalation program as we do, and they’re doing it 100% wrong
@@jerrybroxson1174 These are human beings, not animals. The fact that you were so quick to make that comparison saddens me. Emerging evidence is showing that restraint is unnecessary more times than not, and can actually result in deeper psychological and behavioral issues down the road. Now there are obvious scenarios in which de-escalation is not possible and a restraint is needed for safety, but this was a power struggle, through-and-through. They also did not follow the proper restraint protocol, which would have been a lot more smooth and effective and would have resulted in less physical struggling.
@Security open a book on development - or use your TH-cam time to actually look at an article on it. You don’t have to be a psychiatrist to know kids don’t do this shit for shits and giggles. It sounds like you didn’t have any adults in your life that contributed to your emotional or general intelligence either from the looks of your comments. Pity :/
😢😢😢😢😢 my heart is broken to see these kids going through a tough life in prison. I can't get my head around why a child is imprisoned for being a runaway. Utterly ridiculous! Bless these kids.😢
Can someone please explain to me how you can be arrested for "running away from home"? I don't see why the parents won't file a missing person report instead.
If you remember the tv show 'Family Affairs: Annisa Jobes, the little 'Buffy', went after divorcement to father and stepmother. When the faher died, she stayed with the stepmother in her common home, innocent and not thinking about; it was _her home _ Bit her Mother sued her too for being a 'Runawsy', and she literally came imto prison because, met awful experiences, it is said she was even raped. She never could could come clear with her experiences, took drzgs and died from them being young, I think even a teenager. She had done _nothing_ , just grieved for her beloved father and stayed with her loving stepmother. Would you have known you had to leave in that case your stable loving home? Her Mother was mean, she lived since years somewhere else; why wasn't she just _told_ she had to move back to her Mother, instead of throwing her into jail? I could not believe that law exists. It destroyed this child. If I imagine I would have been thrown into jail when my Grandfather doed in my teenage time...! You do not know how to endure the kiss, and in that hard time and without doung anything bad you are brought into prison, endure incredible things, and have afterwards to go to the one who is responsible for your nightmare! Who in hell made this law???
I feel so bad for Kymyada. Her mom puts her in jail instead of therapy which is what she really needs. Unfortunately since she had a child the cycle will probably repeat itself. I hope she is doing well 💕
@@lukiitas_arias when some adults commit a crime even if they just owe the IRS or a little thing no therapy for them even adults with disabilitys no help I don't consider kids special I wasn't as a kid
In all honesty we have no idea what her Mom had been putting up with. Kymyada said it was all a 'misunderstanding' but then on the phone with her Mom we found out she was partying and running the streets not home taking care of the baby she supposedly was missing in jail. She is 17, almost an adult, so she needs to make better choices.
@@johnnywalker8326 exactly, her mom doesn't want a litter of bastard children that are gonna be dumped on her while her five head daughter takes no responsibility and goes out smoking blunts and drinking 40's.
I grew up in a horrible family beatings molested and all the things that come with a crackhead stripper mom. I left home at 14 on the streets till 18. At some point you need to be responsible for yourself no matter what your problems are. I grew up and got married at 18 and 35 years later we have a beautiful family and grand kids. All successful and happy. I was lucky to find such a great wife. I do feel bad for kids who have horrible parents. It’s unreal in America we don’t have better help for our kids. Sadly those kids are our future and we are failing them.
It's easier for some than others. It takes some longer to get over their trauma, sounds like you found someone to help you. What about those who don't?😢😢😢
As true as it is, the problem is the way the court system and foster care system works. Both are beyond broken, but nobody cares as long as the right people are getting their pockets lined with tax payer dollars to keep the sham going. Putting a kid behind bars certainly doesn't make them better. Sometimes it makes it worse...sometimes nothing changes. Most of the time the child just turns to aggression, its the only thing they know because that's how the system does to them, so they think that's how its supposed to be. These kids in the system either prison, or foster care, are just a number. They're not cared for, they're not looked after, they're just there as a number to support the monetary income system. What the kids need is a solid steady parent/guardian in a home where they have a structured day to day activity schedule to follow. They've come from a life of shambles, to only be given more of it in the justice system or foster care system. The reason I bring the foster care system into this, is due to the way both systems are ran. Both throw a child from here to there, without a care in the world as to the outcome of that child. Neither system is built upon what we know that a child needs. Both are built upon keeping the kids from being social, and growing up in a family. Keep them an orphan forever, so as they grow up and become of age they're able to reproduce the same type of offspring to keep the process of institutionalism going. Kids need a structure system to keep them on track, they need loving family, friends, and a community that cares, that guides, encourages, helps them, and gives them a home where they feel and know they are safe. Neither the foster system, nor the court system will ever provide any of that. In the foster system a child is usually moved from place to place as the foster parents decide that isn't their perfect child, take them away...in the court system they decide which concrete room they can stare at the walls in for a few days, weeks, or years, until the system gets someone else to replace them. Both systems just keep passing the buck till the child turns 18, then they're dropped out like they never existed....in the court system they could be tossed into the adult system and left for dead as well. Either way, the child becomes and adult, and is then dumped out into society without any sort of help, and no education on where to go, what to do, and how to be an adult. Just because they turned 18 doesn't mean they're ready to be on their own, and after being institutionalized in one form or another, they certainly have no skill set to survive out there in the world. Rather than those kids being thrown in a concrete box they should be out learning skills, learning to cook, keep house, socialize with people outside of the institution, learn a trade, something of value to them when they get out. Make it into more of a mission rather than an institution. These kids need love, guidance, people who care, an education, and life skills...what they don't need are untrained guards dragging them all over the place. They're kids, if you need security guards to work with kids, you are in the wrong profession, period. Those kids in there yelling, and carrying on are only doing so because that's the way they're treated in those concrete buildings. They're confined in a tiny room for months or years, they're taken here and there based on what a judge thinks sounds cool. They're left hanging by a noose without any sort of light at the end of the tunnel, none of them know how long they're in there for, many of them don't even belong there in the first place, they just have parents who shouldn't have been allowed to have kids in the first place, and use the kids as they're scape goat to get out of trouble, but put the kid into a system of failure so they can go out and party and do whatever it is they want without having the burden of a child to care for.
So very sad. I grew up in Lake county Illinois. My brother has been in this jail several times. He was a product of my dad and my step mom. He had no discipline and had a ton of poor influence around him. I’m very grateful for my mom leaving my dad when I was 3 and being raised by a loving step father with guidance and discipline. I did still have a relationship with my alcoholic father and I loved him. Just glad to have been raised in a healthy environment.
you have a horrible "justice" system... inhumane. the coloured girl why the heck is she shackeled!!?? maby you could first in a friendly way ask her what happened in HER opinion... she is a CHILD who ran away...mayby. Ask yourself is it really normal to treat a child like a criminal over somthing like this!!?? Try treating those kids like you really care IF you care that is. I know i "sound" angry that's because i am.....
Kevin, you deserve so much more than you allow yourself to have. Pick yourself up, stand proud, you are worthy of it. Please, please give 'you' that chance. So young, don't let this be your future. 🙏🙏🙏
I used to work in a detention center 40 years ago. The kids did not wear prison uniform and I never had to put them in cuffs. They were there until they had to go to court which was within a few days. Most of them were there for prostitution, theft or runaway. Rarely were they on opiate drugs. I am astounded how we treat children these days. A damn shame.
It sucks but they can’t just ignore it whenever someone says something about hurting or killing themself. Blankets in jail are typically used to tie up and hang 🏗⚰️🪦 the person. That’s why they give him that types of blanket. The facility is responsible for all the kids there so they must ensure he won’t kill himself on their watch. I completely understand and agree that it’s a pretty messed up way of dealing with it. In my opinion it might even make some.
Calamari has done a remarkable job talking with these troubled teens i would like u to have videos on the latest updates how they are doing ur a remarkabke crew u are all caring people
Hopefully you talk to them and actually know what's going on. All it takes is one day your off guard to find out the truth from parents that think they know there children. ❤️
I feel for Kevin, his dad and natural mentor is in jail and I'm not surprised he doesn't like his Mum's boyfriend. What he needs is structure, guidance and support that parents will give, which he won't get at home because of a situation he has no influence on. Maybe a military cadet school could give him that and the friends he'd make could support him and encourage him. I'm looking forward to part two and an update on Kevin. Hope it turns out OK for him. I feel it won't have a good ending.
Most kids really want structure. It promotes learning and maturity. Kids can’t be expected to know things without being taught. I think you are right he would probably thrive in a setting like that. There are a couple of military schools in Indiana.
I was Kevin. He's a lost soul with no support. He's hurt. This breaks my heart. I wish I could help kids like Kevin now before he has a record for life like I do.
The trouble is you would never know that a kid has a problem like this, until they're on the news. We as a society turn our back to kids now because of how we would be labeled or worse if seen talking to or helping a child that isn't our own. Even worse, having a record as you say, and I have one too, even the thought of helping a child makes me cringe, in today's world all it takes is someone to make up a false story and bam your record now includes being a child predator. The system is so screwed up in so many ways they built it like this on purpose as to keep people with great hearts from being able to help, and step in and protect a child in need when they're family/home isn't doing the job.
Her heart is in the right place, but trying to give these empty kids a pep talk just isn't cutting it. They know she cares, but the guards could really use better training on communication skills. There aren't enough positive words that help when a child is completely empty and wounded.
@@VioletJoy The words don't help, and the physical contact that many here are trying to lean towards is a huge NO NO in these settings. It'll quickly end your career and life if you step over that boundary.
This made me teary-eyed. How does society help these kids? Society's imperfections created the environment that in a way created and nurtured the circumstances that led to their incarceration. How can we do better? How can we help them? These kids matter. People matter. They need attention, correction, education, and love. They need to be believed in and provided guidance. I'm optimistic that they have a lot of good in them that can be shared if they just get the chances to do so. Not one chance. Many chances.
Nah, my friend works in one and he's dumb and a doper... But for someone with nothing but a high school degree and 2 brain cells to rub, it's a better paying job then most college students including me who's out of a job because of the economy...
I worked at a group home for 11 years. These kids have so much potential but have nobody positive to guide them. Kevin's story is like so many of the youth I worked with. Parents would just stop responding or visiting their kids and then get angry when they would act up. It was almost like the parents just decided once their kid got into trouble, they were no longer the parent and that the "state" could take care of them now. It's heart breaking.
@Cassie Chlon - First of all, thank you for the important work you did at the group home. Most people know very little about these systems and as you say, the stories can be absolutely heartbreaking. We appreciate you taking the time to comment, especially considering the work you've done. It's only by illuminating these stories that the public can begin to understand what all of us who witness these stories understand.
US has lots of "throw away problem" such as juveniles who misbehaved sent to the system, then when fed up with spouses -divorce another throw away, when dont want the fetus another throw away -abortion... when society leaves behind religion - there is less guilt in throwing away our problems like old age parents instead of caring for them. By the same token many parents threw away their children when they reach 18 yr old like they could magically fend for themselves...society reaps what it sows....
@Ash & Emi - good point. Hadn't thought about it that way. Those cells are definitely tiny. It certainly doesn't make for an ideal situation to bring order to chaos. Thanks as always for being here with us!
Being a mother / father is the hardest job iv ever loved ! Not having a support system makes it even harder . Then been having back surgeries 1st one at 14 made it extra harder ! However children being Gods greatest gift to us & what we do with them" instil in them " love " care for & attend to them" is our gift to God ! I took it seriously!! Once you become a parent " its not about you anymore " its all them !
I work with elementary kids with severe emotional and behavioral problems. It’s rare that 2 stable parents are at home. It’s mostly boys and 99% of the kids are with single mom, foster care, group home or living with a relative.
I don’t have children, never wanted one. Breaks my heart to see these unfortunate young people. I wish I could take them all and give them the love they should have been getting!!!!
Cases like Kevin's are so difficult it seems. On one hand you want to feel sorry for them and let them out and go back home, on the other hand you realize what they're coming from and the unstable home life they have and you know going back to that isn't going to do them any good. Its almost like they'd be better off going to a different home because obviously their family doesn't care enough about them to keep them from going down this road of destruction. Seemed as though Kevin's mom just wanted him out of the way so she could sleep around while his dad was in prison. Can't party and sleep with other people when you got kids in the way. His little brother got placed in a home at 12....now Kevin is heading towards a path of destruction and at some point the road ends whether he goes to prison indefinitely or killed...there's no way out of where he's headed with the attitude and anger he has, its going to further get him into trouble. Having him sitting in juvenile jail isn't the best for him, going home isn't the best for him. He can't really be placed in the foster system I wouldn't think, what we need are safe homes for these kids with people who can work with them one on one on a continual basis rather than waiting till they act out in the case of Kevin. He misses his mom, but rather he needs people in his life that will love him and care for him, and most important listen to him and help guide him through his tough times where he is confused, lost, and needs someone he can trust that'll lend a hand and guide him the right direction. Kevin isn't the only one, there's probably tens if not hundreds of thousands of kids out there in this same predicament. They prison/juvenile system isn't where they belong, and obviously home isn't either...the foster care system isn't going to help in this case, kids like Kevin need a constant, consistent role model to live with for the long term to get them on track and keep them there, and continue to build positivity, love, and encouragement into their routines rather than giving it to them one day, taking it back the next, and tossing them in a concrete cell and walking away the next day. Teens are the most vulnerable out there as they're bodies are changing, hormones are raging, they don't understand it, they just want everything to be ok, but they don't know how to get to that point, and having a broken home, or otherwise unstable home pushes them to do things that they wouldn't do otherwise...some for attention, some out of frustration; regardless they need to be put in a home where they're given one on one care continuously where they are given a stable positive atmosphere and the love they are missing and the guidance they're needing. Kevin himself said most of them can have a successful life....well it maybe true in their mind, its the getting them out of the system so they can and getting them the education and guidance so they can be successful is the key to this. Hopefully Kevin is doing better and continues to improve in his mental stability and wellbeing.... As followers of this channel, many of us only can hope these kids can turn their lives around and grow up and be successful members of society...at the same time we as members of our communities need to take the time and show a positive example to the kids in our towns, show them we do care about them, and leave the stereotypical thoughts about kids behind. I was several years ago one of those people who thought, ugg kids these days....they're terrible, they are disrespectful, etc. No...actually most of them are just the opposite....and many of them actually are steps away from being in the same predicament that Kevin and others are in. We as community members need to put aside our stereotyping, and our anti-social towards the younger crowd mentality and jump in and help whenever we get a chance. It does truly make a difference...it might not right then, but as time goes by, you stop and talk to a kid, help them, acknowledge a good deed they did, etc. it makes a difference, it shows that people care, outside their home, that they're not alone, that for the most part other members of the community aren't out to get them contrary to the way they're taught anymore to run away from everyone that comes near them...that's where many of these kids in the system have been harmed, they've been taught from a very early age that everyone except their parents are out there to hurt them, kidnap them, or whatever...so when things aren't right at home, school, or otherwise, who does the kids turn to for help, everyone is bad, can't talk to anyone....they act out, they start going down the wrong path because they can't control their emotions, their anger, they see others doing bad stuff, they accept it as being ok...if only the general public could step in and point them in the right direction without the poor kid fearing for their lives. We as community members need to show these kids we care, we are here to help anytime they feel they need it. I know I took a wrong turn a few years ago, left me with a Felony. Many of these kids don't have that type of record, and we need to steer them away from that path, it only wrecks their future for good, in many ways, in many ways they'll never realize until its too late. As a kid they're typically ehh whatever I'm a kid nothing bad will happen....well....maybe not this time, or the next, but those days are numbered...at some point it'll all go south. My felony was for theft. Had nothing to do with kids, violence, drugs, etc....theft. What did that get me? Dead end jobs, can no longer do one of the things I loved to do; go to the shooting range...why? Because with a felony you can no longer own or possess guns, or ammunition...doesn't matter what the felony was for. Also, this past year to year and a half I've had a huge urge to become a foster parent, even though being single makes it a struggle as it is...having a felony ended that opportunity to help kids too. Then I was like hmm, I'm single, I have no family, an empty home, a spare bedroom....I could adopt a child and give them a forever home....ohh there's that felony again....nope can't do that either. With the current situation in the world with the COVID mess, so many businesses hiring....so many job opportunities where you have the ability to move up, get paid more, have retirement benefits, health care, etc. Oh....there's that felony again...you are stuck with what you have. People with these types of criminal records really should be speaking out to help these kids understand...that road you are heading towards isn't going to end well, being successful in the world, isn't going to be quite as easy with a Felony....you thought getting an "F" on your report card was bad...try having that on your permanent public record for life. You thought being grounded was bad for failing that class....having a FELONY is 100x worse...it follows you forever, it prevents you from doing a lot of things. Think you want to be able to travel and see the country, or the world....yeah pretty limited when you have a FELONY and cannot leave the county or the state you live in. You are always being watched....you think being a kid and being out in town is bad with the public watching over you...think about how it feels being a felon and everyone watching your every move in a negative way, like oooh what can we catch him doing so we can turn him in so he can go to prison....yeah that's where you are headed with a felony. If we could somehow figure out how to get in and speak to kids in these institutions, paint them a picture, or write a book on it, or a movie, maybe it would help a few...maybe? Your documentaries following these kids are quite hard to follow sometimes....not in a bad way, its just sad to see kids....kids....people that I'm old enough to be parents of throwing their lives away, or their parents throwing their kids' lives away because heaven forbid they grew up and became the parents they should be since they decided to have a kid or kids...When the parents are acting worse than the kids are, its no wonder the kids get out of control and end up where they do...and there's no other blame but the parents....rather the lack of parenting.
@William Sevier - thank you for such thoughtful, well stated words. After doing this work for 23 years, we, too, still find it hard to digest some of the stories we see and cases we hear. But you are so right -- it truly DOES make a difference when community members step up to help kids during the most chaotic time of their lives. We've seen it over and over again. We're also glad you mention the extreme challenges people face when they have a felony on their record. We've followed many kids over the years who unfortunately move from the juvenile system to the adult system. The difference between the two--and having that felony attached to your name--makes a huge difference. As you say, so many mountains to climb, so many things you're prevented from doing once that felony follows you. Your words are a poignant reminder to teens out there everywhere who think getting into trouble isn't that big of a deal. As you know, it can take very little to change your life forever. Thanks again for being here with us and taking the the time to post such thoughtful comments. Greatly appreciated.
What you have stated about the kids is so true and very touching as well as your personal experience, this is a hard world we live in and it’s getting worse however that doesn’t mean that we must lose hope we try to deal with each day as it comes and contribute what we can in whatever way we can.
@@CalamariProductions I appreciate all you do, and enjoy the videos you provide for us. I did stupid stuff and have the felony to prove it and would hope my experience could help keep someone else from following my stupid ideas in the future. I live in a pretty small town of about 5500-6000. Lots of kids in town are in similar situations with family, although kept pretty hidden most times. We have 80-90 kids in town who are homeless, I assume with their families, otherwise I'd think the protective services would have stepped in and taken them by now if they were in fact on their own. Many in this town are poverty level, or slightly above, so lots of not great conditions for a lot of kids in the area. Nothing for kids to do in this town, so lots of things for them to do to get into trouble of course, one of the biggest issues is the drugs/alcohol/cigarettes issues. In a town this small, yet we have 3 different children's homes....1 of which is a last step for kids to turn themselves around because their next step would be juvenile prison.... In a town this size you wouldn't think of there being so many kids with so many problems, but it seems like its a starting ground for a lot of problems due to the lack of things for kids to do here, both parents working, or on welfare and not working, but regardless not at home to be parents, so the kids run the streets, and unfortunately end up into trouble in one way or another.
@@faykouri1162 For me, the struggles I've had throughout my life, I guess maybe that's why I'm always trying to help kids, I've been there done that, go the Felony to go with my dumb mistakes. I work at McDonalds....woohoo...I have a job, not anything like what I wanted growing up....but what you are left with as a result of bad choices. The furthest I can go working at McDonalds is crew...I cannot be a manager because of my felony being theft....so, I'm stuck on the lowest end of the ladder. I did manage to move up to being a crew trainer, but only because right now we aren't required to do crew training tasks related to cash registers...I am only in production, I'm only making the food, I don't deal with customers or money....so even being a crew trainer I'm extremely limited as to what I am able to do. I could move up to maintenance (janitor), I was for several years but due to the extra things I was being tasked to do for the amount of pay I am getting, was far above my pay grade, so I stepped down to crew, and just recently moved one step forward to being able to train new crew members in production and train them and treat them the way I would like to be treated....show them the right way to do things, give them the guidance they need to be successful, in hopes that one day they quit and get into the career of their choice and be able to look back and be thankful they were given the chance and given the guidance they needed to be successful. I'd love to be able to go back and change my path, but what's done is done, and all I can do is keep trying to go forward with what I know now, and try and help guide others down the right path by using my poor decisions as an example.
All charges of domestic was dropped criminal confinement drop so to the producers that slandered my name with the false charges I expect an apology. My names Kevin wells. I have a house a family now and travel for work state to state. I’ve had my fair share of run ins after this episode but was able to get it completely together. Married man living life 😊 my mother really honestly never cared about anything but herself. She’s doing good herself but we do not speak and I think life’s been better that way. I appreciate all the good comments and prayers ❤
Wow when she told him she had his dad and brother in there 😞 Poor Kevin he needs guidance and therapy not jail ❣️some kids shut down, however he’s open to talk and express his feelings, that’s huge. Hope the very best for him.
It ridiculous seems to me parents have a lot of problems, than expected for the system to fix it. Juvenile system isn’t the place for them. Foster system no better.
This is good for me to watch as some of the kids in our program [I can't say the name] can and do end up here. Something we desperately don't want to see happen.
I spent 6months there on c-wing.It is the oldest part of the jail . My cell had tadpoles growing and no running water in the middle of summer . Mr.B once told me every day above ground is a good day . I still say that every morning.
Yea it was a life learning experience lol But I’m doing good , I’m married with 3 children and I have my own painting business . I provide service to the NWI region now . Interior and Exterior painting 👍🏽.
"But I know for a fact that had I had a father, I'd have some discipline. I'd have more confidence. Your mother cannot calm you down the way a man can. Your mother can't reassure you the way a man can. My mother couldn't show me where my manhood was. You need a man to teach you how to be a man." - Tupac Shakur
Yep two kids in and the both talk a lot about their mother. My mom took care of me and worried about my grades. My dad taught me home training, respect and how to conform to societal norms.
Criminals don’t value assimilating into society. They see themselves as a special individual and have no interest in being like everyone else. That’s sort of the way many mothers treat their children. The mother plays extremely important roles and so does the father. Evolution dictates women take care and nurture their children no matter what what. This ensures mother’s don’t abandon their youth and they survive
My heart feels with sadness evey time i watch these vidsos they dont have the love and support of families they turn to drugs to gangs for accpetence its sad the juvenile courts are filled up no end in sight
I get the feeling that a lot of these kids are here only because there's no place else to put them. Throwing a minor out of the house because she won't follow rules, and then reporting her as a runaway, is classic. It shows how untrustworthy the parents are. Furthermore, what the courts refer to as "running away" is really "not being at home because it's impossible to cope with the parents' behavior." Once the kid is 18, and can legally apply for public housing, none of the things they do will get them in any trouble with the law.
Poor kids. If you can't give kids, patience, guidens, food, home 🏡, lots of 💘 love. Simply don't have kids to suffer. This kids have hard times on expressing they need help. God help and bless them all and the kids outside prison
How sad this young man needs a family to just love him. And guide him through the hard times. Not put him away in a detention center. If I was able I would take in all the lonely children across the U.S. it just breaks my heart to see this. 😢😢😢❤ Teenagers are my heart. I feel they are the most miss understood people. They need love, direction, and discipline. (not abuse discipline)
Kids need love, that’s true, but as a foster parent for over17 years most of the kids rebel when they start feeling that you care or love them, they’re not used to that and it honestly scares them into defiance. “ don’t need to be told what to do” “ they’re old enough to take care of themselves “ to old to be adopted” everyone needs to be loved!
@Shakeela Meyer - yes, these stories can be sad, but we always hope that teens move on to have productive lives after their time in these systems. Thank you for watching.
Under different circumstances, these kids would be living at home, getting rehab and therapy in a high priced therapeutic facility. These kids’ crimes seem to be getting born into poverty, to parents incapable of raising them, to ineffective schools unable or unwilling to meet their needs. And sticking them in lockup prepares them for nothing but life in adult prison. None of these kids, when calm, seems to be “evil,” or desirous of living life as a criminal. As the one girl said, she was forced by her environment to grow up early, forfeit your childhood or die on the streets. Horrible! I do hope she can get out, go home to her baby and start life in a better environment.
Wow Im kinda shocked that the majority of the comments are about Kevin and how much the person that made the comment feels bad for him but out of the comments I read and no I didn't read every single comment but out of the ones I read all were for Kevin and in support of him and none were in support of Kymada or her baby daughter which sucks and is sad
What happened to JOSH. SO MANY OF THESE STUDENTS ARE FAILED BY THE PARENTS AND SYSTEM. OTHER THAN A NEUROLOGICAL PROBLEM THESE CHILDREN ARE THROWN AWAY BY THEIR OWN PARENTS.
It breaks my heart to hear a child getting arrested from running away from home, surly there is something wrong in the house. How can the child be held responsible for that
This one is a tough one to watch...a misunderstanding put a teen mom in there...I hope things improved. As for Kevin...seeing him unload and crying out..I would have given him a hug. he's asking for his mom and her not coming is making the situation worse for him. For many kids it seems like theres a lot of love and affection thats lacking which is sad. I hope his story does/did turn out good in the end...i see a lost hurt kid when I look at his eyes.
@candilease938 - thank you for watching and commenting. We do updates on a lot of the kids, so we hope you will look through all our videos and check some of them out. Some of the updated videos are called "Then & Now." Appreciate you watching and taking the time to comment!
They mentioned peer pressure and home life, but mental health, not caused by the first 2, is close or at the top of the list, being around 2 boys that have been diagnosed with bipolar and autism, regardless of a perfect home life, they feel no pain, remorse, CANNOT take authority, cannot tell the truth, their mental state controls them, the kid named Kevin caused me some flashbacks, with the older boy acting just like he, the younger one (19yo) is identical to the oldest one, but he was willing to take the meds prescribed to him and he's doing fairly well. They need full time staff that knows how to handle mental illness, punishing them will cause them to act out more, though, some crimes they need to be locked up regardless to protect the people around them, It's a tough, sad situation for everyone involved.
Im an intern at a juvenile facility, these kids stories break my heart, especially as a parent. And a loving, caring, parent is what most of these kids need.
An intern? Make sure you set your feelings, emotions, and countertransference in check. Every child has a story, and as we know, there's more to the story both, good and bad. I worked in a JF for a while, their mindset, manipulating ways, behavior helped me learn to keep my feelings at the door. I saved my empathy and compassion for the ones that want to change. Don't fall for the emotional trap, set boundaries, and every worker will be successful. Good Luck!
i hope u can make a difference. Its the small things people do in there i still remember some off them i spend 20 months im 40 now i still remember some off them. When ur a teen its make so much impact and all were i was looking for was real love and some to say i do matter
Ppppppppp
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And the guards could really use some training, especially with the kids who don't have supportive parents (like Kevin). A pep talk isn't going to cut it.
I'm going to pray for Kevin, he needs unconditional love, guidence, and peace
Broken children. Broken by their parents. They need help. Heartbreaking.
That's right, parents are getting away with it and the children are paying.
I haven't watched many of these shows but it really is sad. I can imagine ever saying I don't want my child to come home. If my kids are bad I ground them. We talk things out. The parents that throw away their kids like a bad apple are just pathetic l.
They need prison... It's their best last resort if prison can't help these kids nothing can!
@@v4v819 I live in Spain. We do not send children to prison. For violent offenders we use small group homes much like boarding schools for living together in an educational group of up to eight minors between 15 and 17 for cases of violence by minors towards parents which is the most common offence brought before our courts. There are individual goals for each juvenile to help them develop social skills. It is quite intensive and expensive and completely different from the American system.
Love and empathy go a long way. Too many kids being let down by parents. Truly heartbreaking.
Too many people should never be parents.
So sad to see what this kid is going through , sometimes I get so frustrated and indignant with the irresponsible parents who put their lives above their kids!
Look lol up as I pop N.
💯 agree!
We live in the most selfish, irresponsible, careless society of all time. These kids are the products of that. It breaks my heart for them.
They need to learn coping skills and help them to break their family curse.
Right!
@liz d’royale she is very likely a parent, or at the very least she knows how to be responsible with kids from working in juvie for many years
@liz d’royale yeah, considering the lady who was talking to him in the last part of the video, the security guard. Unless I misinterpreted your comment
My heart just breaks for these kids. I don't know the answer, but I think a very stable home life and lots of love might have kept these kids out of jail.
Not true... My brother got incarcerated and we had a stable home with two loving parents... And my friend had an unstable home with no parents and abusive foster's and he's a lawyer now! So there goes your theory... Back to the drawing board you communist... Nice try though! :P
Damn it, Kevin broke my heart. He's so hurt, angry and lost. I'm not a therapist so I don't know what he needs but I would have found it impossible not to hug the kid when he is crying. I could never ever do this job. Big props to that lady talking to Kevin. Is he ok now??
I want to give them all hugs too, but I'm very maternal. The guards could really use better training in how to keep things from escalating. She was trying to give him a pep talk, but he can't even think clearly when his needs haven't been met for years. I mean, his mom has only come to see him one time! 😥
No Kevin is not ok...the 2nd part of this story in the remarks section states: He was arrested in 2016 for carrying a handgun without a license, received a 2 year prison sentence and was released in 2018. In August of 2021, he was arrested on charges of rape, confinement and domestic battery. Those are some pretty heavy charges if they remain, and carry somewhat long sentences and given his past they'll most likely be sure to give him the max for all of them.
This kid was given a really lousy start to life, the whole system failed him time and time again, he had absolutely nobody on his side, and no family or support otherwise. Its no wonder he went down the path he did, and the way the system works, he's a great example of why the system doesn't do anything to help these kids...it further screws with their minds, driving them deeper into worse problems than the original one.
To think that he initially ended up in this predicament because his mother called the cops because he swung at her....damn if I woulda done that to my mom I'd find myself waking up the following week...cops wouldn't be involved she'd just have given me a good beating to remember who's boss.
Parents today it seems just have kids because they can, they don't want them obviously, so they do whatever they can to put them into the system, whether it be prison, or the foster system...they just want to be rid of them so they can go back to living life however they deem fit, the child got in their way and must be removed by any means necessary, even if it means making up fake accusations to get them thrown in prison or taken away by CPS.
In a different world, he seems like he'd be a nice kid. Someone ought to love him.
Might not have happened if he'd taken up 🥊. Best thing any boy can do
All young boys need their mother.....he deserves a mother that loves and cares for him and will nurture him.
Sometimes the parents just don't have the copion. Skills to handle there children they need therapy so they can raise there children take them to church and maybe they would have a different out come unless it's medical condition god help these children and god put them here on earth and this is not there purpose we were born to serve the lord Jesus Christ thanks
@@delorisbrown6822 wow lol smh 🤦 😪
My heart breaks for Kevin. He's got so much hurt, and has no idea how to cope with it. He needs therapy, not prison. Furthermore, that prison needs to improve their restraint methods. Crowding him into a corner like that is going to cause him to panic and assault staff quicker, it's more difficult to control the restraint, and it puts him at greater risk of injury. Keeping a little bit of a distance and waiting for Kevin to move away from the bed and wall would have allowed staff the opportunity to try to deescalate him further and would have allowed Kevin that extra second to think. It also allows for floorspace that's free of obstacles and space to move if a restraint is needed. But roughly 90% of escalations can be resolved without using restraints.
@Security I work in a high acuity inpatient psychiatric hospital with teenagers. I know what I’m talking about.
@Security You don’t have to believe me, I really don’t care. But the fact of the matter is those cops run the same restraint and de-escalation program as we do, and they’re doing it 100% wrong
@Security okay, sure. 👍
@@jerrybroxson1174 These are human beings, not animals. The fact that you were so quick to make that comparison saddens me. Emerging evidence is showing that restraint is unnecessary more times than not, and can actually result in deeper psychological and behavioral issues down the road. Now there are obvious scenarios in which de-escalation is not possible and a restraint is needed for safety, but this was a power struggle, through-and-through. They also did not follow the proper restraint protocol, which would have been a lot more smooth and effective and would have resulted in less physical struggling.
@Security open a book on development - or use your TH-cam time to actually look at an article on it. You don’t have to be a psychiatrist to know kids don’t do this shit for shits and giggles. It sounds like you didn’t have any adults in your life that contributed to your emotional or general intelligence either from the looks of your comments. Pity :/
😢😢😢😢😢 my heart is broken to see these kids going through a tough life in prison. I can't get my head around why a child is imprisoned for being a runaway. Utterly ridiculous! Bless these kids.😢
my only guess is to why they would arrest a runaway child is to protect them from any potential dangers they might encounter in the "streets."
Can someone please explain to me how you can be arrested for "running away from home"? I don't see why the parents won't file a missing person report instead.
Right. Obviously they run away for a reason but yeah Uu can really go to jail for that
It's illegal for a minor. Duh.
If you remember the tv show 'Family Affairs: Annisa Jobes, the little 'Buffy', went after divorcement to father and stepmother. When the faher died, she stayed with the stepmother in her common home, innocent and not thinking about; it was _her home _
Bit her Mother sued her too for being a 'Runawsy', and she literally came imto prison because, met awful experiences, it is said she was even raped. She never could could come clear with her experiences, took drzgs and died from them being young, I think even a teenager.
She had done _nothing_ , just grieved for her beloved father and stayed with her loving stepmother. Would you have known you had to leave in that case your stable loving home?
Her Mother was mean, she lived since years somewhere else; why wasn't she just _told_ she had to move back to her Mother, instead of throwing her into jail? I could not believe that law exists. It destroyed this child. If I imagine I would have been thrown into jail when my Grandfather doed in my teenage time...! You do not know how to endure the kiss, and in that hard time and without doung anything bad you are brought into prison, endure incredible things, and have afterwards to go to the one who is responsible for your nightmare!
Who in hell made this law???
SICK, I think they hate their children.
In most states,it is illegal for a minor to run away from home.
I feel so bad for Kymyada. Her mom puts her in jail instead of therapy which is what she really needs. Unfortunately since she had a child the cycle will probably repeat itself. I hope she is doing well 💕
*YES FRIEND VERY GOOD*
@@lukiitas_arias when some adults commit a crime even if they just owe the IRS or a little thing no therapy for them even adults with disabilitys no help I don't consider kids special I wasn't as a kid
In all honesty we have no idea what her Mom had been putting up with. Kymyada said it was all a 'misunderstanding' but then on the phone with her Mom we found out she was partying and running the streets not home taking care of the baby she supposedly was missing in jail. She is 17, almost an adult, so she needs to make better choices.
@@johnnywalker8326 exactly, her mom doesn't want a litter of bastard children that are gonna be dumped on her while her five head daughter takes no responsibility and goes out smoking blunts and drinking 40's.
I grew up in a horrible family beatings molested and all the things that come with a crackhead stripper mom. I left home at 14 on the streets till 18. At some point you need to be responsible for yourself no matter what your problems are. I grew up and got married at 18 and 35 years later we have a beautiful family and grand kids. All successful and happy. I was lucky to find such a great wife. I do feel bad for kids who have horrible parents. It’s unreal in America we don’t have better help for our kids. Sadly those kids are our future and we are failing them.
ohhh man, didnt anyone tells you? no one gives af
Alot aren't as strong as others..no matter never turn ur back on kids....🙏🏿
It's easier for some than others. It takes some longer to get over their trauma, sounds like you found someone to help you. What about those who don't?😢😢😢
Thank you for sharing.
@@Hester_prynne Oh I know plenty of people just like you nobody’s who don’t gaf. Just like a nobody cheers.
I worked with troubled children and each case is heart breaking.
These parents have a lot to answer for. Some people should not have children.
Yes my parents put me in care and I'm glad I'm away from them now . And being a great mum to my children
This is not the answer, this will just make them worse. Usually it’s the parents who are the real problem. Institutionalizing a kid will NOT help
We've got to make improvements if anything is going to change.
As true as it is, the problem is the way the court system and foster care system works. Both are beyond broken, but nobody cares as long as the right people are getting their pockets lined with tax payer dollars to keep the sham going.
Putting a kid behind bars certainly doesn't make them better. Sometimes it makes it worse...sometimes nothing changes. Most of the time the child just turns to aggression, its the only thing they know because that's how the system does to them, so they think that's how its supposed to be.
These kids in the system either prison, or foster care, are just a number. They're not cared for, they're not looked after, they're just there as a number to support the monetary income system.
What the kids need is a solid steady parent/guardian in a home where they have a structured day to day activity schedule to follow. They've come from a life of shambles, to only be given more of it in the justice system or foster care system.
The reason I bring the foster care system into this, is due to the way both systems are ran. Both throw a child from here to there, without a care in the world as to the outcome of that child. Neither system is built upon what we know that a child needs. Both are built upon keeping the kids from being social, and growing up in a family. Keep them an orphan forever, so as they grow up and become of age they're able to reproduce the same type of offspring to keep the process of institutionalism going.
Kids need a structure system to keep them on track, they need loving family, friends, and a community that cares, that guides, encourages, helps them, and gives them a home where they feel and know they are safe. Neither the foster system, nor the court system will ever provide any of that. In the foster system a child is usually moved from place to place as the foster parents decide that isn't their perfect child, take them away...in the court system they decide which concrete room they can stare at the walls in for a few days, weeks, or years, until the system gets someone else to replace them. Both systems just keep passing the buck till the child turns 18, then they're dropped out like they never existed....in the court system they could be tossed into the adult system and left for dead as well. Either way, the child becomes and adult, and is then dumped out into society without any sort of help, and no education on where to go, what to do, and how to be an adult. Just because they turned 18 doesn't mean they're ready to be on their own, and after being institutionalized in one form or another, they certainly have no skill set to survive out there in the world.
Rather than those kids being thrown in a concrete box they should be out learning skills, learning to cook, keep house, socialize with people outside of the institution, learn a trade, something of value to them when they get out. Make it into more of a mission rather than an institution. These kids need love, guidance, people who care, an education, and life skills...what they don't need are untrained guards dragging them all over the place. They're kids, if you need security guards to work with kids, you are in the wrong profession, period.
Those kids in there yelling, and carrying on are only doing so because that's the way they're treated in those concrete buildings. They're confined in a tiny room for months or years, they're taken here and there based on what a judge thinks sounds cool. They're left hanging by a noose without any sort of light at the end of the tunnel, none of them know how long they're in there for, many of them don't even belong there in the first place, they just have parents who shouldn't have been allowed to have kids in the first place, and use the kids as they're scape goat to get out of trouble, but put the kid into a system of failure so they can go out and party and do whatever it is they want without having the burden of a child to care for.
So very sad. I grew up in Lake county Illinois. My brother has been in this jail several times. He was a product of my dad and my step mom. He had no discipline and had a ton of poor influence around him. I’m very grateful for my mom leaving my dad when I was 3 and being raised by a loving step father with guidance and discipline. I did still have a relationship with my alcoholic father and I loved him. Just glad to have been raised in a healthy environment.
Im from Lake County too.
Why the fuck would you call your own brother a product bit degrading i would never say so even he does
you have a horrible "justice" system... inhumane. the coloured girl why the heck is she shackeled!!?? maby you could first in a friendly way ask her what happened in HER opinion... she is a CHILD who ran away...mayby. Ask yourself is it really normal to treat a child like a criminal over somthing like this!!?? Try treating those kids like you really care IF you care that is. I know i "sound" angry that's because i am.....
@@mackramer4935 this show is actually following Lake County Indiana not Illinois
Oh Lord. Kevin. Poor kid is so traumatised. This brought me to tears. No child should have to go through this.
Kevin, you deserve so much more than you allow yourself to have. Pick yourself up, stand proud, you are worthy of it. Please, please give 'you' that chance. So young, don't let this be your future. 🙏🙏🙏
I used to work in a detention center 40 years ago. The kids did not wear prison uniform and I never had to put them in cuffs. They were there until they had to go to court which was within a few days. Most of them were there for prostitution, theft or runaway. Rarely were they on opiate drugs. I am astounded how we treat children these days. A damn shame.
Kids need more of this just look out side for once
Locking a kid up and making them sleep on a bare floor with a damn paper "blanket", cuz they said they gonna hurt themselves is just so wrong..
America Babylon, country of HATE
That’s because some may have a tendency to harm themselves with blankets.
So what should they do
It sucks but they can’t just ignore it whenever someone says something about hurting or killing themself. Blankets in jail are typically used to tie up and hang 🏗⚰️🪦 the person. That’s why they give him that types of blanket. The facility is responsible for all the kids there so they must ensure he won’t kill himself on their watch. I completely understand and agree that it’s a pretty messed up way of dealing with it. In my opinion it might even make some.
They need to beat them like in old days, we are soft on kids and that’s the problem.
Calamari has done a remarkable job talking with these troubled teens i would like u to have videos on the latest updates how they are doing ur a remarkabke crew u are all caring people
I have three boys,living happy in our home,I feel so sory for this child🥺
I wouldn’t feel too bad for him. He got arrested for rape & confinement in 2021
As I aged in prison it broke my heart to see so many young people coming to prison
I don't have any boys at home but I have a girl friend and a cat.
Neće te slušat do kraja vekova bre zeno.
Hopefully you talk to them and actually know what's going on. All it takes is one day your off guard to find out the truth from parents that think they know there children. ❤️
I feel for Kevin, his dad and natural mentor is in jail and I'm not surprised he doesn't like his Mum's boyfriend. What he needs is structure, guidance and support that parents will give, which he won't get at home because of a situation he has no influence on. Maybe a military cadet school could give him that and the friends he'd make could support him and encourage him. I'm looking forward to part two and an update on Kevin. Hope it turns out OK for him. I feel it won't have a good ending.
Most kids really want structure. It promotes learning and maturity. Kids can’t be expected to know things without being taught. I think you are right he would probably thrive in a setting like that. There are a couple of military schools in Indiana.
It's too late for Kevin 😉 this behavior is set...
He raped someone, don't fell bad
How can we help Kevin and his lil brother ? If’s there anyway of follow up episodes about them .
@@jeep19 yeah he has a very extensive criminal record now
I was Kevin. He's a lost soul with no support. He's hurt. This breaks my heart. I wish I could help kids like Kevin now before he has a record for life like I do.
The trouble is you would never know that a kid has a problem like this, until they're on the news. We as a society turn our back to kids now because of how we would be labeled or worse if seen talking to or helping a child that isn't our own.
Even worse, having a record as you say, and I have one too, even the thought of helping a child makes me cringe, in today's world all it takes is someone to make up a false story and bam your record now includes being a child predator. The system is so screwed up in so many ways they built it like this on purpose as to keep people with great hearts from being able to help, and step in and protect a child in need when they're family/home isn't doing the job.
He raped someone, don't feel bad
Jamie is great at her job. The way she speaks to these boys and treats them with compassion but still stern, is making a difference.
Her heart is in the right place, but trying to give these empty kids a pep talk just isn't cutting it. They know she cares, but the guards could really use better training on communication skills. There aren't enough positive words that help when a child is completely empty and wounded.
@@VioletJoy The words don't help, and the physical contact that many here are trying to lean towards is a huge NO NO in these settings. It'll quickly end your career and life if you step over that boundary.
I really hope that these kids grow to be better people. And become great parents for their children
This made me teary-eyed. How does society help these kids? Society's imperfections created the environment that in a way created and nurtured the circumstances that led to their incarceration. How can we do better? How can we help them? These kids matter. People matter. They need attention, correction, education, and love. They need to be believed in and provided guidance. I'm optimistic that they have a lot of good in them that can be shared if they just get the chances to do so. Not one chance. Many chances.
How can we help them? Be a mentor. Volunteer. Hang out with the neighborhood teens. Job coach. Hire them. Incentivize.
You must have to be a very special and strong person to work in these facilities - total respect
And patient....
Nah, my friend works in one and he's dumb and a doper... But for someone with nothing but a high school degree and 2 brain cells to rub, it's a better paying job then most college students including me who's out of a job because of the economy...
I hope Kevin and Kymyada are doing well in their adulthood
These mothers are something else. Parents fail their kids and it creates angry kids who take their anger out on the public
I worked at a group home for 11 years. These kids have so much potential but have nobody positive to guide them. Kevin's story is like so many of the youth I worked with. Parents would just stop responding or visiting their kids and then get angry when they would act up. It was almost like the parents just decided once their kid got into trouble, they were no longer the parent and that the "state" could take care of them now. It's heart breaking.
@Cassie Chlon - First of all, thank you for the important work you did at the group home. Most people know very little about these systems and as you say, the stories can be absolutely heartbreaking. We appreciate you taking the time to comment, especially considering the work you've done. It's only by illuminating these stories that the public can begin to understand what all of us who witness these stories understand.
US has lots of "throw away problem" such as juveniles who misbehaved sent to the system, then when fed up with spouses -divorce another throw away, when dont want the fetus another throw away -abortion... when society leaves behind religion - there is less guilt in throwing away our problems like old age parents instead of caring for them. By the same token many parents threw away their children when they reach 18 yr old like they could magically fend for themselves...society reaps what it sows....
Another good video that needs to be seen by everyone
Thank you calamari productions
My heart breaks for Kevin😭. Praying for him
I get calling a code green echo but to me it seems harder for the staff to move around when the cell is full of adults
@Ash & Emi - good point. Hadn't thought about it that way. Those cells are definitely tiny. It certainly doesn't make for an ideal situation to bring order to chaos. Thanks as always for being here with us!
Very true
Also, they really didn’t need that many people…. Like what the hell were the office ladies gonna do that the others weren’t??? Come on now…..
Being a mother / father is the hardest job iv ever loved !
Not having a support system makes it even harder . Then been having back surgeries 1st one at 14 made it extra harder ! However children being Gods greatest gift to us & what we do with them" instil in them " love " care for & attend to them" is our gift to God ! I took it seriously!! Once you become a parent " its not about you anymore " its all them !
So sad praying for these young adults to find someone to give them the help they need ❤️🙏🏼
My heart breaks for these children-yes, children. They're so lost and broken💔
I work with elementary kids with severe emotional and behavioral problems. It’s rare that 2 stable parents are at home. It’s mostly boys and 99% of the kids are with single mom, foster care, group home or living with a relative.
You should change jobs. Your judgmental attitude is disgusting and those kids deserve better 🤷♀️
I’m 35 years old, seeing Kevin reminded me of how I used to lash out. Angry and confused. Hurts. It really hurts.
I don’t have children, never wanted one. Breaks my heart to see these unfortunate young people. I wish I could take them all and give them the love they should have been getting!!!!
I hope Kevin gets the help he so much deserves.
Kevin has a good insight about wanting to do something with his life. He isn't broken if he can come up with that on his own.
So sad for Kevin, he has had no chance in life I really hope he cones out a better person
He is true man.
he don't like to see any other irrelevant person around his mom.
I appreciate.
Nice and brilliant.
Cases like Kevin's are so difficult it seems. On one hand you want to feel sorry for them and let them out and go back home, on the other hand you realize what they're coming from and the unstable home life they have and you know going back to that isn't going to do them any good. Its almost like they'd be better off going to a different home because obviously their family doesn't care enough about them to keep them from going down this road of destruction. Seemed as though Kevin's mom just wanted him out of the way so she could sleep around while his dad was in prison. Can't party and sleep with other people when you got kids in the way. His little brother got placed in a home at 12....now Kevin is heading towards a path of destruction and at some point the road ends whether he goes to prison indefinitely or killed...there's no way out of where he's headed with the attitude and anger he has, its going to further get him into trouble. Having him sitting in juvenile jail isn't the best for him, going home isn't the best for him. He can't really be placed in the foster system I wouldn't think, what we need are safe homes for these kids with people who can work with them one on one on a continual basis rather than waiting till they act out in the case of Kevin. He misses his mom, but rather he needs people in his life that will love him and care for him, and most important listen to him and help guide him through his tough times where he is confused, lost, and needs someone he can trust that'll lend a hand and guide him the right direction. Kevin isn't the only one, there's probably tens if not hundreds of thousands of kids out there in this same predicament. They prison/juvenile system isn't where they belong, and obviously home isn't either...the foster care system isn't going to help in this case, kids like Kevin need a constant, consistent role model to live with for the long term to get them on track and keep them there, and continue to build positivity, love, and encouragement into their routines rather than giving it to them one day, taking it back the next, and tossing them in a concrete cell and walking away the next day. Teens are the most vulnerable out there as they're bodies are changing, hormones are raging, they don't understand it, they just want everything to be ok, but they don't know how to get to that point, and having a broken home, or otherwise unstable home pushes them to do things that they wouldn't do otherwise...some for attention, some out of frustration; regardless they need to be put in a home where they're given one on one care continuously where they are given a stable positive atmosphere and the love they are missing and the guidance they're needing.
Kevin himself said most of them can have a successful life....well it maybe true in their mind, its the getting them out of the system so they can and getting them the education and guidance so they can be successful is the key to this.
Hopefully Kevin is doing better and continues to improve in his mental stability and wellbeing....
As followers of this channel, many of us only can hope these kids can turn their lives around and grow up and be successful members of society...at the same time we as members of our communities need to take the time and show a positive example to the kids in our towns, show them we do care about them, and leave the stereotypical thoughts about kids behind. I was several years ago one of those people who thought, ugg kids these days....they're terrible, they are disrespectful, etc. No...actually most of them are just the opposite....and many of them actually are steps away from being in the same predicament that Kevin and others are in. We as community members need to put aside our stereotyping, and our anti-social towards the younger crowd mentality and jump in and help whenever we get a chance. It does truly make a difference...it might not right then, but as time goes by, you stop and talk to a kid, help them, acknowledge a good deed they did, etc. it makes a difference, it shows that people care, outside their home, that they're not alone, that for the most part other members of the community aren't out to get them contrary to the way they're taught anymore to run away from everyone that comes near them...that's where many of these kids in the system have been harmed, they've been taught from a very early age that everyone except their parents are out there to hurt them, kidnap them, or whatever...so when things aren't right at home, school, or otherwise, who does the kids turn to for help, everyone is bad, can't talk to anyone....they act out, they start going down the wrong path because they can't control their emotions, their anger, they see others doing bad stuff, they accept it as being ok...if only the general public could step in and point them in the right direction without the poor kid fearing for their lives. We as community members need to show these kids we care, we are here to help anytime they feel they need it.
I know I took a wrong turn a few years ago, left me with a Felony. Many of these kids don't have that type of record, and we need to steer them away from that path, it only wrecks their future for good, in many ways, in many ways they'll never realize until its too late. As a kid they're typically ehh whatever I'm a kid nothing bad will happen....well....maybe not this time, or the next, but those days are numbered...at some point it'll all go south. My felony was for theft. Had nothing to do with kids, violence, drugs, etc....theft. What did that get me? Dead end jobs, can no longer do one of the things I loved to do; go to the shooting range...why? Because with a felony you can no longer own or possess guns, or ammunition...doesn't matter what the felony was for. Also, this past year to year and a half I've had a huge urge to become a foster parent, even though being single makes it a struggle as it is...having a felony ended that opportunity to help kids too. Then I was like hmm, I'm single, I have no family, an empty home, a spare bedroom....I could adopt a child and give them a forever home....ohh there's that felony again....nope can't do that either. With the current situation in the world with the COVID mess, so many businesses hiring....so many job opportunities where you have the ability to move up, get paid more, have retirement benefits, health care, etc. Oh....there's that felony again...you are stuck with what you have. People with these types of criminal records really should be speaking out to help these kids understand...that road you are heading towards isn't going to end well, being successful in the world, isn't going to be quite as easy with a Felony....you thought getting an "F" on your report card was bad...try having that on your permanent public record for life. You thought being grounded was bad for failing that class....having a FELONY is 100x worse...it follows you forever, it prevents you from doing a lot of things. Think you want to be able to travel and see the country, or the world....yeah pretty limited when you have a FELONY and cannot leave the county or the state you live in. You are always being watched....you think being a kid and being out in town is bad with the public watching over you...think about how it feels being a felon and everyone watching your every move in a negative way, like oooh what can we catch him doing so we can turn him in so he can go to prison....yeah that's where you are headed with a felony. If we could somehow figure out how to get in and speak to kids in these institutions, paint them a picture, or write a book on it, or a movie, maybe it would help a few...maybe?
Your documentaries following these kids are quite hard to follow sometimes....not in a bad way, its just sad to see kids....kids....people that I'm old enough to be parents of throwing their lives away, or their parents throwing their kids' lives away because heaven forbid they grew up and became the parents they should be since they decided to have a kid or kids...When the parents are acting worse than the kids are, its no wonder the kids get out of control and end up where they do...and there's no other blame but the parents....rather the lack of parenting.
@William Sevier - thank you for such thoughtful, well stated words. After doing this work for 23 years, we, too, still find it hard to digest some of the stories we see and cases we hear. But you are so right -- it truly DOES make a difference when community members step up to help kids during the most chaotic time of their lives. We've seen it over and over again.
We're also glad you mention the extreme challenges people face when they have a felony on their record. We've followed many kids over the years who unfortunately move from the juvenile system to the adult system. The difference between the two--and having that felony attached to your name--makes a huge difference. As you say, so many mountains to climb, so many things you're prevented from doing once that felony follows you. Your words are a poignant reminder to teens out there everywhere who think getting into trouble isn't that big of a deal. As you know, it can take very little to change your life forever. Thanks again for being here with us and taking the the time to post such thoughtful comments. Greatly appreciated.
What you have stated about the kids is so true and very touching as well as your personal experience, this is a hard world we live in and it’s getting worse however that doesn’t mean that we must lose hope we try to deal with each day as it comes and contribute what we can in whatever way we can.
@@CalamariProductions I appreciate all you do, and enjoy the videos you provide for us.
I did stupid stuff and have the felony to prove it and would hope my experience could help keep someone else from following my stupid ideas in the future.
I live in a pretty small town of about 5500-6000. Lots of kids in town are in similar situations with family, although kept pretty hidden most times. We have 80-90 kids in town who are homeless, I assume with their families, otherwise I'd think the protective services would have stepped in and taken them by now if they were in fact on their own. Many in this town are poverty level, or slightly above, so lots of not great conditions for a lot of kids in the area. Nothing for kids to do in this town, so lots of things for them to do to get into trouble of course, one of the biggest issues is the drugs/alcohol/cigarettes issues. In a town this small, yet we have 3 different children's homes....1 of which is a last step for kids to turn themselves around because their next step would be juvenile prison....
In a town this size you wouldn't think of there being so many kids with so many problems, but it seems like its a starting ground for a lot of problems due to the lack of things for kids to do here, both parents working, or on welfare and not working, but regardless not at home to be parents, so the kids run the streets, and unfortunately end up into trouble in one way or another.
Well said
@@faykouri1162 For me, the struggles I've had throughout my life, I guess maybe that's why I'm always trying to help kids, I've been there done that, go the Felony to go with my dumb mistakes. I work at McDonalds....woohoo...I have a job, not anything like what I wanted growing up....but what you are left with as a result of bad choices. The furthest I can go working at McDonalds is crew...I cannot be a manager because of my felony being theft....so, I'm stuck on the lowest end of the ladder. I did manage to move up to being a crew trainer, but only because right now we aren't required to do crew training tasks related to cash registers...I am only in production, I'm only making the food, I don't deal with customers or money....so even being a crew trainer I'm extremely limited as to what I am able to do. I could move up to maintenance (janitor), I was for several years but due to the extra things I was being tasked to do for the amount of pay I am getting, was far above my pay grade, so I stepped down to crew, and just recently moved one step forward to being able to train new crew members in production and train them and treat them the way I would like to be treated....show them the right way to do things, give them the guidance they need to be successful, in hopes that one day they quit and get into the career of their choice and be able to look back and be thankful they were given the chance and given the guidance they needed to be successful.
I'd love to be able to go back and change my path, but what's done is done, and all I can do is keep trying to go forward with what I know now, and try and help guide others down the right path by using my poor decisions as an example.
Poor Kevin, he said he was feeling anger at 6 or 7 yrs. old? A child that young doesn't even know HOW to express their anger, hurt, and inner pain.
That whole lean on me song the kid’s were singing had me dead 🤣😂
My heart goes out to these kids. Heartbreaking and unfair.
All charges of domestic was dropped criminal confinement drop so to the producers that slandered my name with the false charges I expect an apology. My names Kevin wells. I have a house a family now and travel for work state to state. I’ve had my fair share of run ins after this episode but was able to get it completely together. Married man living life 😊 my mother really honestly never cared about anything but herself. She’s doing good herself but we do not speak and I think life’s been better that way. I appreciate all the good comments and prayers ❤
Why the hell did they have you naked here??
I can relate to this broken kids life. 💔
I hope and pray and Kim and Kevin are doing better ,,and all the kids
Edit: “code green means an emergency and needs back up”
*15 out of shape old women run up the stairs*
I’m rolling😂😂
I wish the best for Kevin. I also had no family support but had to quit the blame and take charge of my life.
Wow when she told him she had his dad and brother in there 😞 Poor Kevin he needs guidance and therapy not jail ❣️some kids shut down, however he’s open to talk and express his feelings, that’s huge. Hope the very best for him.
You so much want to give that young lad a hug of reassurance. It looks such a cold place ☹
The jacked up thing was the kid singing lean on me was the only chance of hope in that place
It ridiculous seems to me parents have a lot of problems, than expected for the system to fix it. Juvenile system isn’t the place for them. Foster system no better.
Learn to write correctly every one of these kids did something to be there
This is good for me to watch as some of the kids in our program [I can't say the name] can and do end up here. Something we desperately don't want to see happen.
We have got to pray and ask God to please intervene and deliver these kids to a good life .
My heart aches for Kevin. This precious life is being wasted . He needs love desperately.
I love this channel
If I work there , I would cry almost every day , I see those kids .
Why they're monsters? They have to learn or they'll do worse things.
I spent 6months there on c-wing.It is the oldest part of the jail . My cell had tadpoles growing and no running water in the middle of summer . Mr.B once told me every day above ground is a good day . I still say that every morning.
@219Fishing - Cwing was nasty, for sure. Sorry you spent time there. You know the reality of it all. Hope all is much better for you now.
Yea it was a life learning experience lol But I’m doing good , I’m married with 3 children and I have my own painting business . I provide service to the NWI region now . Interior and Exterior painting 👍🏽.
That damn defense lawyer is so fine to me lol. I watch these for him sometimes lol
The kid singing in the background when hes talking to kevin is perfect
That's a lady talking to him in the cell
"But I know for a fact that had I had a father, I'd have some discipline. I'd have more confidence. Your mother cannot calm you down the way a man can. Your mother can't reassure you the way a man can. My mother couldn't show me where my manhood was. You need a man to teach you how to be a man." - Tupac Shakur
Yep two kids in and the both talk a lot about their mother. My mom took care of me and worried about my grades. My dad taught me home training, respect and how to conform to societal norms.
Criminals don’t value assimilating into society. They see themselves as a special individual and have no interest in being like everyone else. That’s sort of the way many mothers treat their children.
The mother plays extremely important roles and so does the father. Evolution dictates women take care and nurture their children no matter what what. This ensures mother’s don’t abandon their youth and they survive
beautifully put
I don’t need a man to show me what being a man is. Let me create my own code and my own perspective.
Always excuses. It takes a special man to man up no matter his circumstances.
I want to work with youth like this. Everyone needs love and care especially our youth.
My heart feels with sadness evey time i watch these vidsos they dont have the love and support of families they turn to drugs to gangs for accpetence its sad the juvenile courts are filled up no end in sight
Oh my god so sad god help him
Its like this all across America
I get the feeling that a lot of these kids are here only because there's no place else to put them. Throwing a minor out of the house because she won't follow rules, and then reporting her as a runaway, is classic. It shows how untrustworthy the parents are. Furthermore, what the courts refer to as "running away" is really "not being at home because it's impossible to cope with the parents' behavior." Once the kid is 18, and can legally apply for public housing, none of the things they do will get them in any trouble with the law.
My heart breaks for Kevin and that girl with the baby!
Poor kids. If you can't give kids, patience, guidens, food, home 🏡, lots of 💘 love. Simply don't have kids to suffer. This kids have hard times on expressing they need help. God help and bless them all and the kids outside prison
How sad this young man needs a family to just love him. And guide him through the hard times. Not put him away in a detention center. If I was able I would take in all the lonely children across the U.S. it just breaks my heart to see this. 😢😢😢❤ Teenagers are my heart. I feel they are the most miss understood people. They need love, direction, and discipline. (not abuse discipline)
très touchantes l'histoire de ces adolescents ,celle de Kevin m'a fait vraiment pleuré ,heureusement qu'il y'a de surveillants à l'écoute
Kids need love, that’s true, but as a foster parent for over17 years most of the kids rebel when they start feeling that you care or love them, they’re not used to that and it honestly scares them into defiance. “ don’t need to be told what to do” “ they’re old enough to take care of themselves “ to old to be adopted” everyone needs to be loved!
Kevin was like SpongeBob two hours later cutting up during kymyadas story code green 😆
I just want to hug Kevin 🤗❣️
My heart just bleeds fr ths child i pray he gets the help he needs and go to school and become some body
No child should be treated like a criminal for running away from home wtf America.
I feel for That kid pulling his banana apart to eat it 😂 the teasing you would get for eating a banana correctly in this place must be relentless.
it’s them singing in the background “we all need somebody to lean on” that’s sad asf ! they just need somebody to love them & never stop
@nya2357 - of all songs for a kid to be singing in a dark cell house, that one seemed especially sad.
So sad for these kids
So sad to see this .my eyes ful tears scrolling
@Shakeela Meyer - yes, these stories can be sad, but we always hope that teens move on to have productive lives after their time in these systems. Thank you for watching.
@@CalamariProductions i wil respect
It truly breaks my heart to see children suffer like this 😥 😥 😥
8:08 ~> 6 or 7 strong men over a boy for the boy´s security! Tell me another joke!
Under different circumstances, these kids would be living at home, getting rehab and therapy in a high priced therapeutic facility. These kids’ crimes seem to be getting born into poverty, to parents incapable of raising them, to ineffective schools unable or unwilling to meet their needs. And sticking them in lockup prepares them for nothing but life in adult prison. None of these kids, when calm, seems to be “evil,” or desirous of living life as a criminal. As the one girl said, she was forced by her environment to grow up early, forfeit your childhood or die on the streets. Horrible! I do hope she can get out, go home to her baby and start life in a better environment.
It's a regular thing having broken kids in broken homes especially in military families and children end up in juvenile detention it's so sad
Wow Im kinda shocked that the majority of the comments are about Kevin and how much the person that made the comment feels bad for him but out of the comments I read and no I didn't read every single comment but out of the ones I read all were for Kevin and in support of him and none were in support of Kymada or her baby daughter which sucks and is sad
We know why !
What happened to JOSH.
SO MANY OF THESE STUDENTS ARE FAILED BY THE PARENTS AND SYSTEM.
OTHER THAN A NEUROLOGICAL PROBLEM THESE CHILDREN ARE THROWN AWAY BY THEIR OWN PARENTS.
Poor kevin you can see how lonley he is bless him
Most parents don't care. Broken homes. Dysfunctional homes. We are reaping what we have sown. So sorry for kids.
Poor kevin 1 visit from his mum that is poor parenting
It breaks my heart to hear a child getting arrested from running away from home, surly there is something wrong in the house. How can the child be held responsible for that
This one is a tough one to watch...a misunderstanding put a teen mom in there...I hope things improved. As for Kevin...seeing him unload and crying out..I would have given him a hug. he's asking for his mom and her not coming is making the situation worse for him. For many kids it seems like theres a lot of love and affection thats lacking which is sad. I hope his story does/did turn out good in the end...i see a lost hurt kid when I look at his eyes.
Wish they did updates on these kids
@candilease938 - thank you for watching and commenting. We do updates on a lot of the kids, so we hope you will look through all our videos and check some of them out. Some of the updated videos are called "Then & Now." Appreciate you watching and taking the time to comment!
They mentioned peer pressure and home life, but mental health, not caused by the first 2, is close or at the top of the list, being around 2 boys that have been diagnosed with bipolar and autism, regardless of a perfect home life, they feel no pain, remorse, CANNOT take authority, cannot tell the truth, their mental state controls them, the kid named Kevin caused me some flashbacks, with the older boy acting just like he, the younger one (19yo) is identical to the oldest one, but he was willing to take the meds prescribed to him and he's doing fairly well.
They need full time staff that knows how to handle mental illness, punishing them will cause them to act out more, though, some crimes they need to be locked up regardless to protect the people around them, It's a tough, sad situation for everyone involved.
Were there follow up programs on these children
*IM AN INTERN AT JUVENILE FACILITY THESE KIDS STORIES BREAK MY HEART👍♥️*