It's amazing how clear you are. I've watch countless videos on this subject, and yours are the more simple to understand, and to the point. You also give an unbiased perspective on what our attachment styles acutally are. I am in a breakup process with a DA whom I love like I have never loved in my life. She did the breakup excactly as you describe, and after 4 months of no contact she came back as "friends" but it's obviously more than that. It's 8 months already and the situation drags. Thank you for your insights.
Also: secure breakups don’t involve the dumper circling back to flirt with /send sexual or nostalgic content to the dumpee afterwards. This is immature avoidant behavior by someone who freaks out irrationally and then later regrets his decision.
I am so grateful for this information. I simply could not detect any change in her feelings towards me, and we had one of our best dates ever even after she had told me she was now in an exclusive relationship with someone else. I felt used and discarded. This happened right after I had helped her move into her own place, and we would have been in a position to escalate the relationship. The information in this video serves as a kind of validation for my feeling that we were developing a deeper connection. If we weren't, it wouldn't have felt so weird, and she wouldn't have insisted so strongly that we were "just friends".
My ex broke up with me after about a week of hardly texting. (Just before Christmas.) And giving little responses. I had to keep asking what’s up and if she’s ok and she eventually told me she has been dating someone else. It was a Long distance relationship, but we were together for 1.5 years… Told her a month before she was the one… 2 weeks before she told me how much she loved me… I just don’t get why she was so heartless about Jy as she can post on social media like nothing happened we were nothing and she done nothing wrong. How is that human? Should I post about her on social media for all to see?
Are you Brad Pitt and is She Angelina Jolie ? really you want to embarrass and call her out publicly why ? She was direct and let you down saying she is seeing someone else, but maybe she just didn't want to tell you the truth that she see's thinks she can not stand in you, what if she is single still and simply can not see it working, what if she is seeing someone so what, it's her life. She is trying to be nice to you and you are asking people if you should pull a dick move and call her out on her personal social media pages to just show how much of a prick you really are. I mean wow, you got anger problems man, obviously if you even cared about her at all you would not be even thinking or asking about calling her out for all her family and others to see, just to embarrass and drag your dirty laundry out in public, dude, your a jerk. you need to figure out why you want to be so mean to her, and then ask if that is why she left you in the first place, your intentions are bordering on weather the drag everyone else into her business without asking her, without her consent, just to be a asshole. Think about it. Did she try to publicly shame you ? Why are you trying to get revenge and get even, what the hell man ? Obvious to me you really do not like her that much, or you would simply forgive her immediately and in your heart wish her all the best, but no your a moron and a prick who wants to bad mouth her in public on social media. If I were her I would not want to even go out with you in public or introduce you to anyone else I know, because first moment you are unhappy your going to pull out your bullhorn and make an announcement for the world to see and talk trash, its pathetic really you know, its petty and shows you do NOT give a flip about her in the first place. Man she made the right choice. You have no business in a relationship, until you go get therapy and work on your being a jerk, your attitude problem is the problem right there ! Screw you man. I'd knock you out if you did that to my sister. Cry baby.
your comment is evidence you think like a moron, yea she will rush into your arms if you threaten to post harassment comments on her social media and announce your Ill will feelings towards her.
"Should I post her in social media for all to see?" that right there tells me you have a flimsy frame and no wonder she was cheating on you. Learn how not to be the Nice Guy.
@ How? So you don’t think others should know? It will make her more accountable. It will give other guys a heads up. Should we not look out for each other? And why should she get away with doing this? I also beeline her sister knows about it and didn’t say anything and she’s a mental health professional…
@KyleTheDalek Dude have some dignity and just walk away. It's clear you need to really sharpen your game up, not just towards the women but especially towards yourself.
It's amazing how clear you are. I've watch countless videos on this subject, and yours are the more simple to understand, and to the point. You also give an unbiased perspective on what our attachment styles acutally are.
I am in a breakup process with a DA whom I love like I have never loved in my life. She did the breakup excactly as you describe, and after 4 months of no contact she came back as "friends" but it's obviously more than that. It's 8 months already and the situation drags. Thank you for your insights.
I'm really glad this video was clarifying for you, and I appreciate your kind words! I'm sorry you're going through this. Brighter days are ahead.
Also: secure breakups don’t involve the dumper circling back to flirt with /send sexual or nostalgic content to the dumpee afterwards. This is immature avoidant behavior by someone who freaks out irrationally and then later regrets his decision.
That is definitely not a hallmark of secure breakups, agree!
I am so grateful for this information. I simply could not detect any change in her feelings towards me, and we had one of our best dates ever even after she had told me she was now in an exclusive relationship with someone else. I felt used and discarded.
This happened right after I had helped her move into her own place, and we would have been in a position to escalate the relationship.
The information in this video serves as a kind of validation for my feeling that we were developing a deeper connection. If we weren't, it wouldn't have felt so weird, and she wouldn't have insisted so strongly that we were "just friends".
I agree with your assessment, and I'm so glad this video was helpful to you!
My ex broke up with me after about a week of hardly texting.
(Just before Christmas.)
And giving little responses.
I had to keep asking what’s up and if she’s ok and she eventually told me she has been dating someone else.
It was a Long distance relationship, but we were together for 1.5 years…
Told her a month before she was the one…
2 weeks before she told me how much she loved me…
I just don’t get why she was so heartless about Jy as she can post on social media like nothing happened we were nothing and she done nothing wrong.
How is that human?
Should I post about her on social media for all to see?
Are you Brad Pitt and is She Angelina Jolie ? really you want to embarrass and call her out publicly why ? She was direct and let you down saying she is seeing someone else, but maybe she just didn't want to tell you the truth that she see's thinks she can not stand in you, what if she is single still and simply can not see it working, what if she is seeing someone so what, it's her life. She is trying to be nice to you and you are asking people if you should pull a dick move and call her out on her personal social media pages to just show how much of a prick you really are. I mean wow, you got anger problems man, obviously if you even cared about her at all you would not be even thinking or asking about calling her out for all her family and others to see, just to embarrass and drag your dirty laundry out in public, dude, your a jerk. you need to figure out why you want to be so mean to her, and then ask if that is why she left you in the first place, your intentions are bordering on weather the drag everyone else into her business without asking her, without her consent, just to be a asshole. Think about it. Did she try to publicly shame you ? Why are you trying to get revenge and get even, what the hell man ? Obvious to me you really do not like her that much, or you would simply forgive her immediately and in your heart wish her all the best, but no your a moron and a prick who wants to bad mouth her in public on social media. If I were her I would not want to even go out with you in public or introduce you to anyone else I know, because first moment you are unhappy your going to pull out your bullhorn and make an announcement for the world to see and talk trash, its pathetic really you know, its petty and shows you do NOT give a flip about her in the first place. Man she made the right choice. You have no business in a relationship, until you go get therapy and work on your being a jerk, your attitude problem is the problem right there ! Screw you man. I'd knock you out if you did that to my sister. Cry baby.
your comment is evidence you think like a moron, yea she will rush into your arms if you threaten to post harassment comments on her social media and announce your Ill will feelings towards her.
"Should I post her in social media for all to see?" that right there tells me you have a flimsy frame and no wonder she was cheating on you. Learn how not to be the Nice Guy.
@ How?
So you don’t think others should know?
It will make her more accountable.
It will give other guys a heads up.
Should we not look out for each other?
And why should she get away with doing this?
I also beeline her sister knows about it and didn’t say anything and she’s a mental health professional…
@KyleTheDalek Dude have some dignity and just walk away. It's clear you need to really sharpen your game up, not just towards the women but especially towards yourself.
Your looks are distracting. In a good way