Thank goodness for experts like you, to help me understand what happened! Amazingly, her low-emotional energy state was to start dating! She's also histrionic, so it's a form of fawning, I guess. She also disassociated in my presence, which was weird to watch. I was asking hard questions, and she actually took out her phone, put in earphones, and started listening to music, not to block me out, but to avoid feeling those uncomfortable emotions. And yes, she came back years after dismissing me the first time. After she dismissed me the first time I realized something was off, so I was able to engineer things so that she started seeing a therapist.
Wow! I love how you say the call you get sounds delicious. I also love the part where you say click bait. Yes it would be nice to know if my DA would ever come back. The real question is, why would I want her to? Thank you for the information. You really give me the closure I need. Thank you
Reached out on my DA ex ( yesterday) after 2months plus after of breakup and no contact via test, didn't beg nor sound need, I was like " let's not make pride n ego ruin our beautiful connection" did that cause from these videos they're scared of being open or vulnerable to reach first, so her replied was, there's nothing to work out , she's moved on, that I should do thesame, I now knew she was long gone before the disconnect, and has alot to do do about her not me, and that's final from my side, that was my last shot... you all can blame me for rwaching out like my friends did, but I'm fine... I'm an empath who don't give up easily.
@@barnabaskalu wow man. That is cold man you know a lot of these videos. Tell us if we reach out. This is what’s gonna happen. They’re not gonna give us the answer we wanna hear.
I did the same after 2 months. I never chased her and we had 4 hours long talk. Like nothing changed but we haven't discussed relationship at all. 3 months since then have passed and no word from her. I haven't wished her happy bday also which was month and half ago. I'm okay with not having the closure or her reaching out. I understand that this has nothing to do with me and that it is time to move on and find someone healthy. It's a shame because we had good times overall and haven't fought once. She even cried at the end of the breakup while claiming she has no feelings whatsoever while simultaneously saying I was kindest bf, that she never opened up to someone as to me, had most laugh with and that I'm pretty as picture can be, often referred me as a gentleman too, but it is what it is. I'm happy because I know I handled this whole thing with grace and gave my best while at the same time didn't smother her and respected her wishes. Wish her all the best but it's time to look forward and see what future has in store for me.
@@Mate_Mateo wow man. A powerful statement. You know mine told me she never opened up to anyone like she opened up to me. Also, she also told me I was the kindest and most loving boyfriend she ever had. I’m with you what a shame these people waste their lives for nothing maybe we’re looking at it from the wrong angle. Maybe they don’t really need anything. There were several times in the relationship that I thought that I should’ve left her exactly where I first saw her instead of getting off my motorcycle and walking over saying hi. I should’ve just started the motorcycle up. Gotta look good. Look at her butt Cause she has a nice butt and I should’ve just burned out and all this nonsense would’ve never been.
@@MadMaxMan2008 my bro, how one can go cold, and move so easily after 4years, baffles me, like women ain't emotional in a positive smh , selfish set of people, I just don't want her to ruin my loving heart, like she bruised my heart the deepest
Very useful information, Laura. Thank you. Is the experience of the fearful avoidant any different? Is their anxious side triggered once they reactivate?
@LuisPerez-jf8vj She contacted me after 5 years. Wasn't really waiting, I thought I'd never see her again. Then suddenly she's in my house. She hasn't really "healed," but we are communicating again.
@fev0903 It's kind of a long story I've known her for 25 years. She is still struggling with anything too emotional, but is fine with the friendly stuff. I'm trying to slowly move things along. She lives 1300 miles away so I can't really see her easily. I'm hoping the holidays will warm her up a bit, I sent her a somewhat emotional Christmas present.
Thank goodness for experts like you, to help me understand what happened!
Amazingly, her low-emotional energy state was to start dating! She's also histrionic, so it's a form of fawning, I guess.
She also disassociated in my presence, which was weird to watch. I was asking hard questions, and she actually took out her phone, put in earphones, and started listening to music, not to block me out, but to avoid feeling those uncomfortable emotions.
And yes, she came back years after dismissing me the first time.
After she dismissed me the first time I realized something was off, so I was able to engineer things so that she started seeing a therapist.
You hit the ball out of the ballpark with this one! Well done.
Thank you!
I like your videos, you're very knowledgeable and authentic. You should definitely try to do some longer-form style ones.
Thank you! I probably will in the future when I have a bit more time. So glad you're here.
Wow! I love how you say the call you get sounds delicious. I also love the part where you say click bait. Yes it would be nice to know if my DA would ever come back. The real question is, why would I want her to? Thank you for the information. You really give me the closure I need. Thank you
Thank you for the kind words! So glad this helped you.
Reached out on my DA ex ( yesterday) after 2months plus after of breakup and no contact via test, didn't beg nor sound need, I was like " let's not make pride n ego ruin our beautiful connection" did that cause from these videos they're scared of being open or vulnerable to reach first, so her replied was, there's nothing to work out , she's moved on, that I should do thesame, I now knew she was long gone before the disconnect, and has alot to do do about her not me, and that's final from my side, that was my last shot... you all can blame me for rwaching out like my friends did, but I'm fine... I'm an empath who don't give up easily.
I know it's so hard, but she has given you valuable information by her choices, which we can use as closure. Wishing you the best.
@@barnabaskalu wow man. That is cold man you know a lot of these videos. Tell us if we reach out. This is what’s gonna happen. They’re not gonna give us the answer we wanna hear.
I did the same after 2 months. I never chased her and we had 4 hours long talk. Like nothing changed but we haven't discussed relationship at all. 3 months since then have passed and no word from her. I haven't wished her happy bday also which was month and half ago. I'm okay with not having the closure or her reaching out. I understand that this has nothing to do with me and that it is time to move on and find someone healthy. It's a shame because we had good times overall and haven't fought once. She even cried at the end of the breakup while claiming she has no feelings whatsoever while simultaneously saying I was kindest bf, that she never opened up to someone as to me, had most laugh with and that I'm pretty as picture can be, often referred me as a gentleman too, but it is what it is. I'm happy because I know I handled this whole thing with grace and gave my best while at the same time didn't smother her and respected her wishes. Wish her all the best but it's time to look forward and see what future has in store for me.
@@Mate_Mateo wow man. A powerful statement. You know mine told me she never opened up to anyone like she opened up to me. Also, she also told me I was the kindest and most loving boyfriend she ever had. I’m with you what a shame these people waste their lives for nothing maybe we’re looking at it from the wrong angle. Maybe they don’t really need anything. There were several times in the relationship that I thought that I should’ve left her exactly where I first saw her instead of getting off my motorcycle and walking over saying hi. I should’ve just started the motorcycle up. Gotta look good. Look at her butt Cause she has a nice butt and I should’ve just burned out and all this nonsense would’ve never been.
@@MadMaxMan2008 my bro, how one can go cold, and move so easily after 4years, baffles me, like women ain't emotional in a positive smh , selfish set of people, I just don't want her to ruin my loving heart, like she bruised my heart the deepest
17 months of no contact and still ongoing
Great job!
Very useful information, Laura. Thank you. Is the experience of the fearful avoidant any different? Is their anxious side triggered once they reactivate?
Sometimes yes, absolutely.
5 years.
5 years and still waiting? Or did it take 5 years?
@LuisPerez-jf8vj She contacted me after 5 years. Wasn't really waiting, I thought I'd never see her again. Then suddenly she's in my house. She hasn't really "healed," but we are communicating again.
@@thebattery500
Well, how is it going? How do you know she hasn't healed?
@fev0903 It's kind of a long story I've known her for 25 years. She is still struggling with anything too emotional, but is fine with the friendly stuff. I'm trying to slowly move things along. She lives 1300 miles away so I can't really see her easily. I'm hoping the holidays will warm her up a bit, I sent her a somewhat emotional Christmas present.
why does this matter?