Exactly. Some people are afraid to be by themselves though, so they’ll take whatever comes their way, even if it means terrible relationship after terrible relationship.
Honestly, I am almost 24 and never been in a romantic relationship, never had my hand held, never kissed a girl, obviously never had sex. Sometimes I feel like that doesn’t allow me to fully appreciate being alone, since it’s all I ever known.
I'm with you brother. I'm 21 and being alone is all I've ever known. How am I supposed to appreciate it when my heart yearns for something that I may never have?
I'm 25 years old, and like you I never had a girlfriend, had sex or kissed a girl. I feel you, a LOT. What the video says is right, we can live a fulfilling life by ourselves, but it is not the way I want to live my life. I have emotional and sexual needs that are unmet that are making me soffer, I can't think of going through life without having some to cuddle with, making love, sharing moments of happiness and sadness... someone I can be myself with. I can't think of life without having someone to love
@@Sagemobeing single has perks but let’s be honest the only people that gloat about how great single life is are usually people that are envious of others relationships
Never been in a relationship before. Life`s been great still, the sky still above, still blue, the food taste as good, the coffee smells as good, the sun shines the same.
Being in a relationship has a lot of momentum great stuff but sometimes the lasting stress isn't worth it. And the stress is huuuugeee. People are not 100% mentally healthy nowadays. There's always issues from one or both sides.
Wow man 71? I am a 23 year old guy who never had a girlfriend before. I did go on my first ever date 5 months ago at the age of 22 and she was 19(20 now) and had my first hug too but sadly she turned out to be toxic to me 2 weeks after the date and blocked me everywhere and I also went out with a female friend 4 months ago who is also 23 and ate in a big restaurant but idk whether to count it as a date. But almost 3 weeks ago, I got a new crush on this girl in a class where we go for preparation of exams to get into an MBA B School as I just graduated college 7 months ago but we are in different classrooms. She is also within the 21-23 age range and I had been too shy to talk to her but 2 weeks ago eventually with the help of my friends and one of her classmate I was able to talk to her and again said her Hi last week. That classmate of her did say she is single but last week another of her classmate said that she probably has a boyfriend so that makes me feel confused whether to pursue her or not but I won't believe it unless she herself says she has a bf. 6 days ago, I again talked with her a bit and even we did handshake and she smiled too but I was definitely still sounding a bit nervous while talking with her. Sadly she still didn't follow me back or reply to my first dm to her on Instagram and its been 10 days already so idk whats up as she was still friendly with me 6 days ago. She is very very pretty almost model like and I just look average. Without my glasses, I look better but I have high power so should wear them all the time and look really nerdy and dorky in it so idk whether I even have a chance with her. I had crush on another girl in the same classes for the past 6-7 months and she also turned 23 last month. I liked her a lot and she even called me cute several times and I also gave her chocolate 2 weeks ago but was too shy to say her that I liked her but she probably knew I had a crush on her tho. Sadly she is ignoring me these days as she came to know about my new crush on this another girl. I also have been chatting with this girl on Instagram for the past 7 months and we used to be in the same school too but didn't know each other that time and now she is in a different college. She is 19(turning 20 in April) and she is super sweet and we are both foodies and send each other virtual hugs and chat daily talking about almost everything. We will meet soon too and go to eat somewhere but I am still single in the end.
@@manosijroy8282 As you age if you take care of yourself you will have plenty of options when women are young they want a supreme man but as they age they just want normal but here is the catch as man age we become the superior man vs our younger self and that opens the door to women of all ages once you reach 36 your sexual market value will be equivalent to the girl that had a womans body with the short shorts on bouncing around in gym class thats the best example I can give because I'm sure every boy had a gym crush but the message is keep living and you will see the days I speak of
@@manosijroy8282I'm 30 and I'm not gonna read all that, what did you think to yourself bothering an old man and expecting him to read all your stuff?(No offense tho)
So many say this foolishness, because it doesn't account for self-accountability. Not failing is typical better than failure. Relationships are reflective of YOU. It's better to be a better person, who can co-bond with others, especially with a partner, instead of being a perpetual bad selector in people and partners instead of failing at it. You're welcome.
@@Kontroversial84 I can't answer that, I've never been with the right person and I am not interested in looking . I love my own company and don't want to compromise.
I'm isolated by my own actions, struggling with relationships due to mental health issues and societal pressures, haunted by painful memories and bitterness towards myself and the world, I feel exhausted and powerless amidst the chaos.
The boat isn't full yet, though am sure others feel the same. As have I. *virtual bear hug*!! for you are loved, no matter the struggles. You matter, amidst the chaos. You can be light, within any dark abyss.
Sending virtual hugs. I felt lost at sea for a while. It took spending time with myself to actually learn to love myself and value myself. It happened slowly, and at first I didn't notice the gradual change. I was at a stage where I would involuntary yelp when certain memories hit (stuff I held deep shame over, or guilt, or embarrassment) Thise feelings are sticky and insidious, they take a while to process and there is no forcing or magic solution. One day I found myself turning my little involuntary yelps into a tune. Then deciding to "sing" a favourite song but only in weird yelps. And then laughed so much. It became that every time my body did some involuntary noise to shock me away from an uncomfortable memory I could choose to continue that noise as a tune into investigating that memory. I turnec from avoidant and aversion to curiosity and self discovery. And when I do something near 'mortifying' now I make up a little yelp melody/ dance immediately. So that it becomes an "inside joke" known only to me and also embracing how fucking weird I am in a kind way
I'm with you. But it's insanity to think that because something happened once or even a few times then it is going to keep happening that way. Get some help with your mental health and don't give up my friend. I know it doesn't seem like it sometime, but you belong in this world and you will meet people that are happy that you are alive and made happy by you presence.
same, addictions throughout my adult life, failed relationships, friendships, family disintegration. Career is a whole animal on its own, everything has felt hopeless for some time.
Wow SAME. On that journey right now. I’ve had a long term relationship, now I’ve enjoyed long term singleness and grown as a person. I think I’m ready to find the right partner. Wishing you the same as well ❤🙏🏽
@@AntonMidtsundstadfind something that makes you go straight forward like a sport or music or anything you’d like and waste your energy on it so there’s no place for the misery in your life also you can read love yourself by kamal ravikant it helped me go through the break up few months ago but you’ll probably find it a corny psychology book wish you the best man hope you’ll get through that
idk, i've been alone my whole 20's and i'm 28 now. I feel like it stunded my growth to always stay single. Except maybe career wise. But even then I feel like i'm not that advanced or anything
@@deyowtf Thank you for taking some time to give some advice ☺. Yes I think you have a point, try to have fun and to find passion in other things to fill the hole. Loving yourself is something im not very good at sustaining, some days I do, most days I dont. I listened to a audio sample of the book you recommended, it was interesting, I might buy it accually. Thanks again.
@@rongike I don't agree with this statement. First you make mistakes no need to gloss over. If you do the right things and draw the right conclusions your mistake turns into a lesson. Learning these lessons will grant you wisdom, but most people never get this far
That's maybe the best way of putting it. There are pros and cons to both being in a relationship and being single. Your life isn't (or at least shouldn't be) defined by your relationship status. It's what you make of it what truly matters. Getting a rescue dog was my first step from climbing back from the isolation caused by a chain of bad relationships and getting my trust torn into pieces. I built myself up and learned to enjoy life again, and now suddenly i have a partner who really completes me and we've been having talks of actually building a future together. Our goals in life really align eerily well and there's such a deep mutual understanding and love which i never thought i could ever even imagine experiencing.
@@BerryBeastie It's extremely rare in these days when everyone seems so detached, disconnected, selfish, and shallow. But if you get lucky and keep your head and hopes up you might find someone you want to spend the rest of your life with. I used to love being alone because of the peace and solitude and being free to do whatever whenever, but I'm now experiencing that same feeling but just sharing it with someone who I am in love with. Even after all this time it still feels like this is all just a dream because good things like this just don't usually ever happen to me.
@@grungeisdead8998 it is if you make that choice. I made that choice years ago to stop going out looking for someone and just chilled at home and focused on me and leave dating alone for up to 6 months, it's been 8 years this coming summer. Have felt no need to get involved with some broad just because that's what everyone else is doing. I'm 42 by the way, I'm not earlier in life. If you choose to stay single, it is a choice. I mean unless you got females throwing themselves at you day in and day out, then it might be a harder choice.
@@RyanAnderson-dyNw well, I've seen some ugly ass dudes with beautiful girls and they didn't have money. A great personality can change a lot and so can some weights and exercise. You're only defeated if you acknowledge defeat.
@@erictalkington5674 I have seen that too. I'm not saying it doesn't happen. I notice you said a great personality AND weights. Let's acknowledge weights don't always work. Neither does great personality. There are medical conditions and genetic dispositions that can prevent easy improvement to a certain people's bodies. How often do you see ugly ass dudes with hot girls? Not often is my guess. I don't see it often, let alone ever lived it. Defeated? Only an idiot doesn't see the forest from the trees or recognize when they aren't winning THAT fight. Attitude helps, it doesn't change eye sight or what they find appealing. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Beauty is only skin deep. That's what they say but those sayings only pay-off for the unattractive when others have fallen from their peak physical looks. Usually of old age, flat out bad reputation, or unpleasant unplanned physical deformity from a number of causes. Part of my reason I don't get along with fate, and God. They kinda suck and I have no use for things that dont no help me.
This is such underrated advice. I’ve had so many friends who are always in a relationship and have trouble dealing with who they are. I have often told them they need to spend some time alone in life to have to with themselves head on. You learn a lot when you are left alone with yourself.
Loneliness is a fear that many face. But if you can face that loneliness, accept it, love it, then the fear doesnt exist anymore. Imagine living a life where youre not motivated by the fear of loneliness. Imagine living a life where your happiness is not dependent on a person or thing outside of yourself.
100% agree with this. I think being late diagnosed autistic is part of it. My last relationship was really good but having had many years together we realised we had become close friends but no longer romantic. I started to feel like a burden, that I needed to prove I could do it alone. I also knew he needed romance. A couple of years after we amicably broke up he found a new partner, and she was the one to call me and tell me and say she didn't want to interfere with our friendship. She's become a close friend over the last 5 years, and he has stayed a friend. So breaking up I made one friendship stronger without burden, and gained another really close friend which isn't easy late 30s/early 40s. I don't feel incomplete, I've learned to trust myself and find what I love about myself. I'm not against another romantic relationship, but I don't need that. Only people who deeply truly know me
@@AnimeFridaysI'm in the same boat as well. There is a unique set of happiness created with another person or a group of friends or community, but it's just as fleeting as making money in my experience. There's so much more liberation and autonomy and empowerment when I've made myself my own best friend for years, basking in my solitude and loving myself to the point that it eventually led me to having a boyfriend anyways turning 28 since I got so much love to give. Happiness from other people is so fleeting, that I even feel like my partner is now coming to terms how giving me solitude more than usual is better for the both of us since there's a deeper level of inner joy he realized he can't really give me. Even when in a relationship, having a mindset like a single person of knowing to make my own happiness is proving to be more vital than ever.
That's exactly right, you two! Happiness is a term often conflated... There's happiness as an emotion and happiness as a state of mind. As a state of mind, it includes peace, self-acceptance and forgiveness, and fulfillment. When you are who you want to be, and enjoy being that person. That's magic.
@@AnimeFridays I'm married with six kids. I still value my solitude... But you're missing out on half the picture. You should try to cultivate a close relationship with somebody outside of yourself. We're social creatures at the end of the day.
@TREY_CHAMBERS_95 That's Right Because Blood Is Thicker Than Water I Have A Sister Who Thinks She's Gonna Set "boundaries" And Distance Herself From Her Own Family That's Fine But That Abusive Husband of Her's Eventually Is Going To Grow So Unreasonable They Will Be Forced To Separate But By Than Her Family Will Be Gone And All That Will Be Left Is Her Because That's What Abusive Men And Women Do They Will Isolate You So That You Have No One To Talk To And When You Try To Reconnect With Your Family Their Justifiably PYST At You For Prioritizing A Stranger Over Your Own Flesh And Blood No Spouse Is Your Family They Will Leave The Second The Paycheck Stops But My Sister Will Always Be My Sister No Matter What And She Knows Who She Can Call When She Needs Help
I think it's a good idea to learn how to be alone. I can think of at least one instance in your life when you will be completely alone and no one will be able to help you. At that moment, having experience with being alone, will make a difference. The other reason is enlightenment, or refinement if you will, requires a lot of introspection and acquisition of knowledge. This is maybe a little easier to make time for when you're single.
I really don't feel alone. There's so much stuff to learn about that are far more interesting than needing to cater to a "significant other". I'm trying to learn programming and markup language. I edit in photoshop and blender. I mod games. I recently rebuilt a sportsbike engine and on my way to repair another one with an electrical problem. There's so much other stuff thats more interesting than just continuing the species. I might come across someone but for now it doesnt matter. I just go along with whatever because that's what life is - an endless project. For someone to raise a family is achievement, for me - a dumb chore. I'd rather fabricate a front fork compression tool than try to lie to a woman to like me. It's what I am and I don't feel an ounce of guild being like that.
I heard the title of a book, 'Single at Heart,' and had an ah-ha moment. I'm not in a relationship not because I don't want one, or because I couldn't find it, but because it's not a priority in my life. I'm not people focused. "Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people" (E. Roosevelt).
Being single should be the height of your life to discover who you are. Use this freedom to explore, travel, get an education, and get your finances together that way you can your best self which more attractive to a potential partner when your ready for a relationship and if not you are living live.😊
Eh this is only easy for adults who already have somewhat of their like together. Being a young adult in college living paycheck to paycheck unable to go out and have any fun, it’s hard for this to be the height of your life. Then there are people who are intimidated by people who are confident and seem to have their life together, especially women. It’s weird but a woman being independent and career driven scare off potential partners.
That just sounds like a way to cope until you get older and are 'ready' only to find out you're 30+ and have no experience in a relationship which deters most people.
@@yourlocalbudtend3r it's good to see someone else who feels the same way though in these past few months I've realized I'm not really attracted to relationships and or romantic stuff, I'm simply aromantic and actively feel disgusted just by imagining myself doing anything like that, I guess that's called being romantic repulsed, kind of like being sexually repulsed which I'm somewhat not, I would never want to do that but I feel just a tiny bit attracted, unlike with romance where there's nothing. Now I've forgotten the context of the video above, but I hope this was somewhat related, I've been on a little self discovery journey and I've also learned that what I desire would be at least some friendships with people who have the same interests as me. But I'm too traumatized by my past experiences to ever feel like I could connect with someone that way. I've never had any true friendships and I've been completely alone in that regard since highschool. Thus I don't feel like I can easily trust those who're not my immediate family. At least I grew in a decent enough environment yet still old fashioned when it comes to thinking. But enough about me, if anyone is still reading this just follow your heart and keep trying even if you keep failing, but also try different things to not get sucked up in a void solely because of that issue.
"Marriage is that wonderful institution that, when two people are together can solve the problems that they otherwise wouldn't have being single" - Mark Twain
❤ Being with right person who understands you , supports you emotionally is actually wonderful thing , ❤ Waking up from bed alone , preparing your breakfast, going to work come home 🔄 hung with friends one a week is something else that i have no adjective to describe 😅
Yeah but would you still want to wake up alone, make ur breakfast alone & work alone while you're 40? Your friends will have a family of their own, and go on family vacations while then you'll hang out alone. Would you want that?
@@BerryBeastie nah I am good with my house and car just going to buy new bike for rides you enjoy with right person I would think about it after laws get changed if not I am good with my assets besides divorce rate is pretty high
Swooping in like a lone superhero in a world full of sidekicks! Your video on staying single is like a breath of fresh air in a crowded room. Thanks for reminding us that it's cool to fly solo sometimes, finding our own groove and rocking it. Keep shining that light on the single life.
This is incredibly interesting! I grew up with a mother who was obsessed with having friends, and she always pushed me to get out of the house and be with people. She made me think it was weird not to be. She’s on her third husband and hasn’t been single for more than a few months since she was 14 years old. She’s been gaslighting me into her way of thinking for as long as I can remember. yes I’m a wreck because of it. Another factor for me in being single is that I don’t trust many people. 9 out of 10 people end up disappointing me in the end. I’m an only child and have never had an issue with my own company. I have lots of interests. I’m a musician so I can easily entertain myself, and I could spend hours and hours listening to music and finding new artists.
I’ve been single all my life. I didnt want it. I’m just not someone anyone can love. So for me, i had to learn to accept being single. I had to learn to see life from a different angle. When i did, I realized, i am strong enough to do it. I am strong enough to be alone and yet happy. And in that way, im not truly alone. I have close friends, so when im lonely, i go see them.
For some of us there is no friends and family at all. I knew since l was a teenager that love will never come my way and now at age 62 I knew I was right. I will always remember my mom saying over three decades ago...it will come, someone will find you. Wouldn't that be nice.
It would come. Nothing is ever too late to try. Im 18 with no "lover" because im not confident enough and no one ever approches me but im still hoping. Never give up
After spending last 20 years single, my greatest fear is not death ... my greatest fear is that somehow someway I will be forced to not be single anymore ... this pure freedom is so sweet that can't be compared to anything ... be free brothers and sisters, listen to yourself and ignore the dumb people around you !
Being alone is better than being someone who brings out the stress in you not the best in you .. I'm 39 almost 40 I don't care about dying alone I have a daughter was married for five years to the person who made me feel the most lonesome in this planet called earth... I go karting I do parachuting (skydiving) play videogames..I work hard for my seven year old and that's the new love of my love don't stress over women be happy maybe one day God will send you someone he designed for yourself but for the first time in years im happy being alone! Here you go guys 🌹
Same here. I'll say not only looks but also personality. I don't have that side of myself anymore which wants to go out and meet a girl because I'm pretty aware what happened in my past. I want to be on my own inside my own personal space.
Physical attributes isn’t based on love, it’s based on lust. Love is an action on wanting the greater good for someone at all times, lust is a gratification based on selfish needs.
@@Ricaninthephilippines Yeah, and love comes after "lust". "First impression matters" is literally the best thing one can say here. "Love on first sight" is not actual love. Real love comes after weeks, months even. Until then, there's 100% looks, 0% personality in almost all cases. That will go down to maybe 80% / 10%. But the initial stuff is purely optical and shallow things. Humans (and other animals too) are extremely superficial beings, that's just in our genes. It's like a colorful, male bird showing off its pretty feathers to a female.
I haven't been in a relationship in many years. I don't mind, I have cats, who are a delight! I love my single life, but I do need human connection with someone I love or like a lot. No compromises. Me first!😻🐾
Use this as an opportunity to better yourself!! You now have more time to focus on yourself and do things you want to do start working out or create a goal for yourself, you want whoever dumped you to see how much you have changed for the better in their absence show them that “I don’t need you, in fact I’m doing better than when I was with you” attitude
You have to find yourself a person that loves you and wants to be loved by you. Not one who wants to love someone and be loved someone. Because ironically relationships get lonely when they are looked upon to only satisfy loneliness without understanding the person you plan to be with, but flourish beautifully when you understand them first and then decide if you want to share your life with theirs.
Being single is a trap. I have been single for years now and it's getting too comfortable, like I live in my own little world where I am the queen of everything and I do everything as I want. It's like an absolute freedom to do whatever the hell I want. It's not for everyone though, as there are people who can not stand to be alone for that long. I can, so I got too comfortable in my own little world I created. It goes as far that I got extremely picky when there is a possible romantic relationship in my way, and when I don't feel it, I sabotage it. Even though I do whine sometimes that I would like to have a partner, I also get so picky about potential dates that it seems impossible to find what I would want.
Do you have close friendships? I ask this because even without a partner you can still have an amazing life with close friends supporting you and helping you throughout life which can cause you to focus on the people in your life than someone you want in your life. But in my case I’m single, have no friends, struggle with mental illness and living on my own. So life is miserable even while I’m focusing on my career and not worrying about the future.
@@Brae2723 I have friends, but not close. I meet nice people sometimes on the streets or occasions and that helps too. I would like to have real close friends, but so far, no luck for me. Talking to nice people you meet wherever does help, though. Also, if you have a family with whom you are close. I also try to combat loneliness when it happens by helping animals, to be honest, mostly cats, and that makes me also meet some nice, but also some quite nasty people. Good and bad everywhere. Nothing can guarantee you happiness and feeling not alone, not even relationships. I am an absolute control freak so doing all by myself kind of makes me feel more comfortable. But yes, it can get lonely.
@@biljam972 I knew it..I'm a scorpio and I have alot of close friends who are virgo and I can see the pattern..you are a truly good and dependable soul and I definitely wanna keep up with you
I've been single for some time now, and I'm fine with that. In fact it's helped me grow as a person in many ways. If someone comes along then great, if not then I'm cool with that also. Society's expectations, are not my own.
@@boomerang0101 If by that you mean not needing to act like a needy "macho" man child. And having the confidence, experience and intelligence to be fully at peace with being single, instead of jumping into dead end relationship after dead end relationship just for the sake of it. Then whatever you say kid.
I have no family, no friends and no next of kin. Even though I agree with what you say; when you are in my position where you are extremely prejudiced against, you have to lean on yourself and become resilient, reliant only on yourself and trust your decisions. It makes you stronger and more single-minded, I think you have no choice. It has a lot of advantages, perhaps more than disadvantages. I think you are better on your own than to be in the company of toxic family and friends. Great video. From Perth WA
I have no problem choosing singleness. When I tried having a dating relationship I was absolutely miserable. Living by myself is the lifestyle that brings me peace.
Not promoting being single but I always tell this: I am already single so I will not gonna let myself sad and suffer because of this. It took me years to find the joy of being alone after my long term relationship ended. But now, I can do anything, go anywhere by myself. It’s quite fulfilling and fun..My family and friends didn’t understand why I love to go somewhere by myself. I just can’t describe the peace and happiness that I feel 😅😅😅
This video is exactly what I needed to hear! You perfectly capture the empowering side of being single, and remind us that happiness is achievable regardless of relationship status. Thanks for spreading positivity and self-love!😊❤
1. No Stress, 2. No Arguments, 3. No Nagging, 4. No B.S. & 5. No Extra Bagages..living alone doesn't bother me at all I like my freedom since 2011. woman can come and go but they can not move in with me period!
As someone who's never been in a real intimate relationship, I can honestly tell you that the hardest part is finding friends and people to spend some of your free time with. I'm perfectly fine spending big part of my time alone (actually prefer it), but when I have a weekend that I want to do something different it becomes harder to find people for that, since at the age of 30, most of my friends are married, or in long-term relationships and they do these things with other couples. Yes, I'm doing many of these things alone too, but sometimes having people to share the experience is much better. The other thing is that get so used to being alone that you feel detached from other people....as you basically are living in your own world. It's hard to give a damn about anything and anyone out of the 'perfect' little world you have created.
My gf dumped me on new years after two years of me being a closed off alcoholic. Couldn’t figure out why I was like that. I loved her, but knew I wasn’t “good enough” and self sabotaged. I thought if I ended things I couldn’t live with myself. She made the decision for me. Trying to get things back together now, realizing a lot about myself now that I’m alone, and I have more hope. Thanks for the encouragement.
I drafted a Relationship Agreement for a hypothetical partner and all the components of it are exhausting. I didn't realize how much work relationships are until I broke it down to its components: Communication, Compromise, Conflict Resolution, Financial Planning, Social Events, Regular Dates, Health and Emergency, Cohabitation, Social Media Etiquette as it pertains to the relationship, Electronic Communications, End of Life Situations, etc. I'm so relieved I'm single.
I prefere beeing alone forever, i treated it like a challenge to myself, obviously i always wanted a relationship, but after deep toughts i discover that i will be not free anymore, and that is not as good as people or parents make it sound to be, i know that it will be a difficult and challenging life but, i hope that in the end i will be proud of myself.
I was the person who is never been in any relationships. But have some a lot of hurtful attachments too. Now i realise you have to be alone. Thanks for this video man. Now i will be focusing on myself only.
I had to find and watch this video sooner. Had a breakup with my first love after 4 years of a "perfect" relationship and it took months to be ok-ish. Do not give your heart to someone too fast or without knowing their worth. Be what you want in a partner and it will come one day.
I'll never understand the "find yourself" concept. In the context or a relationship or not, I've never not understood who I was. At times I tried to make people happy by doing things I wouldn't normally, but I always knew who I was while doing so.
If someone comes along, I should open my hand and allow them in? Why be in a romantic relationship? Being in one opens the opportunities of cheating, divorce, miscommunication, not being good enough for your lover, the love fades, their true colors are revealed, a rushed relationship, not being up to truly be yourself and so much more.
She left me 2 days after valentines day. I got her flowers and her favorite candy. She told me she wasn't ready for a relationship after leading me on for so long
It's too funny. Loneliness has been kicking my ass lately. You're correct. Its no fun having no one to celebrate the small accomplishments with. Soeone to readily share your thoughts and feeling with. However, I also enjoy doing what I want when I want and I have no one else's standard to live up to.
Preach it, brother. My experience has been that, once you are up-n-running on the happily single track, then girls start coming on to you. It seems ironic, but I don't think it is. In other words, it's not east to stay happily single for very long. Girls take the idea of a friendship without a romantic entanglement as a challenge. God is quoted in Genesis as saying "It is not good that the man should be alone."
Im 25 years old, 26 in a month & never been on a date. I could care less. It gets lonely & tough but i worked though it. The freedom & long car rides are breath taking. It gets easier belive me. Thanks for Aperture for this beautiful vid.
Managing housework while single can also be a lot easier. There's only you making messes, and it's much faster to clean up right away when it's just your dishes, etc. Less laundry to do. Especially if you're a woman it's likely being single is going to be easier from the standpoint of housework. Plus you can make your own routines. You don't have to work with someone else to form a routine.
I've just lost any hope of getting into a relationship. I nearly died over a decade ago, and I remember the first couple of years afterward I felt incredibly lonely. I still do today, but I also know that just because I am in a relationship, doesn't equate to infinite happiness. It's like society is pressuring you to get into a relationship, at least it feels like that to me. I want to try my own thing, whether or not I find someone else is up in the air. I'm happy regardless of what happens in my future.
@@kellyTaylor-uv3coMy Grandma was nearly 70 years old when she lost her husband. She was battling with dementia for years prior. Although she was never abusive or neglectful towards her children, they just put her in a nursing home and never check on her. She passed away five years ago all alone. I feel guilty all the time because I completely forgot about her.
TLDW 1. Independent in certain aspects is a skill only you can control. 2. Better to not be manipulated by media 3. Let your clear mind focus on the actions taken. 4. Take care yourself and family before doing to others. Small acts of kindness don't fall in the above statement. 5. Learn to enjoy the alone time you have now. You'll never know if you can have it again.
33 y.o man here. I'm still virgin and never had a long term rell with any girl. Sometimes it sucks, but you never miss something that you never had. But from my little experiences and also observations, I truly believe that being alone is way better than a bad company.
@@alitava6844 if you are a girl I see because women need to love first but if you are a man I think you masturbate because there is no otherway than this
Talking to significant other: "We need to break up. Aperture said it's better to be single."
Get used to having people throw balled-up pieces of paper at you
Rofl
on valentines too, unforgettable😂
Ya 😢 but after the breakup, each person re-evaluates 🎉 and we begin a new 🥰 better because of the breakup.
This is progress 🤔 this is evolution 🧬
if you Both Earn more money then your all set
If you've been in a bad relationship you'll see the beauty of being single.
Yes
Ind33d😊
@@thevixenxiiiyes indeed😊
Exactly. Some people are afraid to be by themselves though, so they’ll take whatever comes their way, even if it means terrible relationship after terrible relationship.
Trust me ik it’s the best feeling
The Sun is all alone. Yet, it still shines.
The sun is 1 star out of more than 100 billion in just our galaxy. The sun is FAR from alone
And all the planets rotating around it...
@@maxpower4868 yet the closest sun is still 40,208,000,000,000 km away
@ne0n863 in measurements corresponding to human capabilities that is a VERY far distance. In the grand scheme of things, that's a next door neighbor
The sun has the moon metaphorically though
Honestly, I am almost 24 and never been in a romantic relationship, never had my hand held, never kissed a girl, obviously never had sex. Sometimes I feel like that doesn’t allow me to fully appreciate being alone, since it’s all I ever known.
I'm with you brother. I'm 21 and being alone is all I've ever known. How am I supposed to appreciate it when my heart yearns for something that I may never have?
Me NBSN....im love being single....theres a peace and happy
I'm also almost 24 and have never been in any relationship as well.
Same ! I think is better to focus on us and our goals .@@fParad0x_
I'm 25 years old, and like you I never had a girlfriend, had sex or kissed a girl. I feel you, a LOT. What the video says is right, we can live a fulfilling life by ourselves, but it is not the way I want to live my life.
I have emotional and sexual needs that are unmet that are making me soffer, I can't think of going through life without having some to cuddle with, making love, sharing moments of happiness and sadness... someone I can be myself with.
I can't think of life without having someone to love
bro uploaded that video on valentines for a reason ☠☠
@SamoaVsEverybody814Yep
Cope video for single people
😂😂 for all us lonely mofos
@@Sagemobeing single has perks but let’s be honest the only people that gloat about how great single life is are usually people that are envious of others relationships
😂😂😂
Bold of you to share this on valentines Day.
bold of you to be watching this on valentines day
@@Brute_1 💀
The game was rigged from the start
Indeed 😅😅
@@Brute_1 Fortune favors the bold.
Never been in a relationship before. Life`s been great still, the sky still above, still blue, the food taste as good, the coffee smells as good, the sun shines the same.
That's a great comment & view 🙂
👏👏👏👏👏
And no partner to abuse you, you are doing great😃
Being in a relationship has a lot of momentum great stuff but sometimes the lasting stress isn't worth it. And the stress is huuuugeee. People are not 100% mentally healthy nowadays. There's always issues from one or both sides.
damn bro you ok?
I'm 71 years old and I've been single most of my life. Yes I've had my love affairs, but I have to admit I love being single.
Wow man 71? I am a 23 year old guy who never had a girlfriend before. I did go on my first ever date 5 months ago at the age of 22 and she was 19(20 now) and had my first hug too but sadly she turned out to be toxic to me 2 weeks after the date and blocked me everywhere and I also went out with a female friend 4 months ago who is also 23 and ate in a big restaurant but idk whether to count it as a date. But almost 3 weeks ago, I got a new crush on this girl in a class where we go for preparation of exams to get into an MBA B School as I just graduated college 7 months ago but we are in different classrooms. She is also within the 21-23 age range and I had been too shy to talk to her but 2 weeks ago eventually with the help of my friends and one of her classmate I was able to talk to her and again said her Hi last week. That classmate of her did say she is single but last week another of her classmate said that she probably has a boyfriend so that makes me feel confused whether to pursue her or not but I won't believe it unless she herself says she has a bf. 6 days ago, I again talked with her a bit and even we did handshake and she smiled too but I was definitely still sounding a bit nervous while talking with her. Sadly she still didn't follow me back or reply to my first dm to her on Instagram and its been 10 days already so idk whats up as she was still friendly with me 6 days ago. She is very very pretty almost model like and I just look average. Without my glasses, I look better but I have high power so should wear them all the time and look really nerdy and dorky in it so idk whether I even have a chance with her.
I had crush on another girl in the same classes for the past 6-7 months and she also turned 23 last month. I liked her a lot and she even called me cute several times and I also gave her chocolate 2 weeks ago but was too shy to say her that I liked her but she probably knew I had a crush on her tho. Sadly she is ignoring me these days as she came to know about my new crush on this another girl. I also have been chatting with this girl on Instagram for the past 7 months and we used to be in the same school too but didn't know each other that time and now she is in a different college. She is 19(turning 20 in April) and she is super sweet and we are both foodies and send each other virtual hugs and chat daily talking about almost everything. We will meet soon too and go to eat somewhere but I am still single in the end.
@manosijroy8282 you cannot be a real person...
Inde3d me to😊
@@manosijroy8282 As you age if you take care of yourself you will have plenty of options when women are young they want a supreme man but as they age they just want normal but here is the catch as man age we become the superior man vs our younger self and that opens the door to women of all ages once you reach 36 your sexual market value will be equivalent to the girl that had a womans body with the short shorts on bouncing around in gym class thats the best example I can give because I'm sure every boy had a gym crush but the message is keep living and you will see the days I speak of
@@manosijroy8282I'm 30 and I'm not gonna read all that, what did you think to yourself bothering an old man and expecting him to read all your stuff?(No offense tho)
Well said! Better to be on your own than be with the WRONG person!
So many say this foolishness, because it doesn't account for self-accountability. Not failing is typical better than failure. Relationships are reflective of YOU. It's better to be a better person, who can co-bond with others, especially with a partner, instead of being a perpetual bad selector in people and partners instead of failing at it. You're welcome.
Yes ofc
Seems like every girl I try to date is the wrong one and treats me like shit becaus ei have mental disorders and autism....
But do you think it's better to be on your own than to be with the right person?
@@Kontroversial84 I can't answer that, I've never been with the right person and I am not interested in looking . I love my own company and don't want to compromise.
I'm isolated by my own actions, struggling with relationships due to mental health issues and societal pressures, haunted by painful memories and bitterness towards myself and the world, I feel exhausted and powerless amidst the chaos.
The boat isn't full yet, though am sure others feel the same. As have I. *virtual bear hug*!! for you are loved, no matter the struggles. You matter, amidst the chaos. You can be light, within any dark abyss.
Sending virtual hugs. I felt lost at sea for a while. It took spending time with myself to actually learn to love myself and value myself. It happened slowly, and at first I didn't notice the gradual change. I was at a stage where I would involuntary yelp when certain memories hit (stuff I held deep shame over, or guilt, or embarrassment)
Thise feelings are sticky and insidious, they take a while to process and there is no forcing or magic solution.
One day I found myself turning my little involuntary yelps into a tune. Then deciding to "sing" a favourite song but only in weird yelps. And then laughed so much.
It became that every time my body did some involuntary noise to shock me away from an uncomfortable memory I could choose to continue that noise as a tune into investigating that memory. I turnec from avoidant and aversion to curiosity and self discovery.
And when I do something near 'mortifying' now I make up a little yelp melody/ dance immediately. So that it becomes an "inside joke" known only to me and also embracing how fucking weird I am in a kind way
I'm with you. But it's insanity to think that because something happened once or even a few times then it is going to keep happening that way. Get some help with your mental health and don't give up my friend. I know it doesn't seem like it sometime, but you belong in this world and you will meet people that are happy that you are alive and made happy by you presence.
same, addictions throughout my adult life, failed relationships, friendships, family disintegration. Career is a whole animal on its own, everything has felt hopeless for some time.
Was in a relationship from 16yo to 27yo. It definitely stunted my growth as a person. Took me a couple years to learn how to be alone
Wow SAME. On that journey right now. I’ve had a long term relationship, now I’ve enjoyed long term singleness and grown as a person. I think I’m ready to find the right partner. Wishing you the same as well ❤🙏🏽
just broke up with my partner and first love of 4 years after finding out that she cheated on me...I feel betrayed and lonely... any advice?
@@AntonMidtsundstadfind something that makes you go straight forward like a sport or music or anything you’d like and waste your energy on it so there’s no place for the misery in your life also you can read love yourself by kamal ravikant it helped me go through the break up few months ago but you’ll probably find it a corny psychology book
wish you the best man hope you’ll get through that
idk, i've been alone my whole 20's and i'm 28 now. I feel like it stunded my growth to always stay single. Except maybe career wise. But even then I feel like i'm not that advanced or anything
@@deyowtf Thank you for taking some time to give some advice ☺. Yes I think you have a point, try to have fun and to find passion in other things to fill the hole. Loving yourself is something im not very good at sustaining, some days I do, most days I dont. I listened to a audio sample of the book you recommended, it was interesting, I might buy it accually. Thanks again.
One of the worst feelings is getting into a relationship and later realizing it was a mistake.
there are no mistakes in life, only experiences, some that you want to repeat, some you make sure never to repeat.
Which I'm going through rn
@@rongike I don't agree with this statement. First you make mistakes no need to gloss over. If you do the right things and draw the right conclusions your mistake turns into a lesson. Learning these lessons will grant you wisdom, but most people never get this far
Ahh a Shin Megami Tensei fan
@@ErosMorelli You know SMT? You are based asf.
Coming from a dysfunctional family, being alone seems priceless❤❤❤❤
Omg 😂😂 #FACTS! 🎉
This speaks volumes
😢
Amen
Me, dysfunctional and poor. We lived in a one room apartment. Sucked.
No interaction no drama pure peace no desire no hurt only dedication to work
Well said!
Yes the best ❤ 😊
Being alone is better than being with a toxic person, & being with the right companion who helps you grow is better than being alone.
Yes.
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🔥
🤘
That's maybe the best way of putting it.
There are pros and cons to both being in a relationship and being single. Your life isn't (or at least shouldn't be) defined by your relationship status. It's what you make of it what truly matters.
Getting a rescue dog was my first step from climbing back from the isolation caused by a chain of bad relationships and getting my trust torn into pieces. I built myself up and learned to enjoy life again, and now suddenly i have a partner who really completes me and we've been having talks of actually building a future together. Our goals in life really align eerily well and there's such a deep mutual understanding and love which i never thought i could ever even imagine experiencing.
@@Litepaw You said it well, and it's great to know there are still genuine companions.
@@BerryBeastie It's extremely rare in these days when everyone seems so detached, disconnected, selfish, and shallow. But if you get lucky and keep your head and hopes up you might find someone you want to spend the rest of your life with.
I used to love being alone because of the peace and solitude and being free to do whatever whenever, but I'm now experiencing that same feeling but just sharing it with someone who I am in love with. Even after all this time it still feels like this is all just a dream because good things like this just don't usually ever happen to me.
I choose to stay single because I feel like I just function better by myself to be honest. I also enjoy being able to do what I want in life.
Bold of you to think I have any control on the fact that I'm single
My genes made that decision for me
Lmao he does talk about being single like it’s a choice and not an unfortunate circumstance
@@grungeisdead8998 it is if you make that choice. I made that choice years ago to stop going out looking for someone and just chilled at home and focused on me and leave dating alone for up to 6 months, it's been 8 years this coming summer. Have felt no need to get involved with some broad just because that's what everyone else is doing. I'm 42 by the way, I'm not earlier in life. If you choose to stay single, it is a choice. I mean unless you got females throwing themselves at you day in and day out, then it might be a harder choice.
@@RyanAnderson-dyNw well, I've seen some ugly ass dudes with beautiful girls and they didn't have money. A great personality can change a lot and so can some weights and exercise. You're only defeated if you acknowledge defeat.
@@erictalkington5674 I have seen that too. I'm not saying it doesn't happen. I notice you said a great personality AND weights. Let's acknowledge weights don't always work. Neither does great personality. There are medical conditions and genetic dispositions that can prevent easy improvement to a certain people's bodies. How often do you see ugly ass dudes with hot girls? Not often is my guess. I don't see it often, let alone ever lived it. Defeated? Only an idiot doesn't see the forest from the trees or recognize when they aren't winning THAT fight. Attitude helps, it doesn't change eye sight or what they find appealing. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Beauty is only skin deep. That's what they say but those sayings only pay-off for the unattractive when others have fallen from their peak physical looks. Usually of old age, flat out bad reputation, or unpleasant unplanned physical deformity from a number of causes. Part of my reason I don't get along with fate, and God. They kinda suck and I have no use for things that dont no help me.
This is such underrated advice. I’ve had so many friends who are always in a relationship and have trouble dealing with who they are. I have often told them they need to spend some time alone in life to have to with themselves head on. You learn a lot when you are left alone with yourself.
Loneliness is a fear that many face. But if you can face that loneliness, accept it, love it, then the fear doesnt exist anymore. Imagine living a life where youre not motivated by the fear of loneliness. Imagine living a life where your happiness is not dependent on a person or thing outside of yourself.
That's the life I live and have for almost 8 years now. It's as glorious as it sounds!
@@heavenlydenied As an incel, the only way to win is not to play.
I have begun to understand that loneliness isn't that bad
I literally told my friend these exact things this morning. I'm going to be single and stay single. Meeting people is exhausting.
If you're trained to exist digitally, yes it is. Go out. Touch grass. Touch ass.
100% agree with this. I think being late diagnosed autistic is part of it.
My last relationship was really good but having had many years together we realised we had become close friends but no longer romantic. I started to feel like a burden, that I needed to prove I could do it alone. I also knew he needed romance.
A couple of years after we amicably broke up he found a new partner, and she was the one to call me and tell me and say she didn't want to interfere with our friendship. She's become a close friend over the last 5 years, and he has stayed a friend. So breaking up I made one friendship stronger without burden, and gained another really close friend which isn't easy late 30s/early 40s.
I don't feel incomplete, I've learned to trust myself and find what I love about myself.
I'm not against another romantic relationship, but I don't need that. Only people who deeply truly know me
It's the trusting people that is exhausting for me
💗
I like you, I'm also prefer to be single too. But they call me gay for that Xd
Coming home to an empty apartment and waking up in it, are some of the great pleasures of life.
Yes it is.
Single life: Where the only commitment is our own solitude.
Exactly. That's my feeling of complete peace. Me myself and I.
I've found my people ❤
@@elza32358 No you don't, chase your Chad and leave us alone with your antics.
Just as valentine's day is approaching an end....he knows EXACTLY what he's doing...nicely done
Approaching its end? It’s only 12 gang
@@smoiealexis2921 timezones exist gang
@@foofington5431 you got me , my fault 🤦🏾♂️ totally forgot , have a great day !
Detachment is key. I'm 61 and have been single for 29 years. Life is good. I want for nothing.
Same for detachment ! 🤍🤍
I'm 62, I agree.
How did you do it ? I'd like to live like that but I find myself drifted towards relationships
@@HibaTalbioui it definitely takes determination and focusing on the goal. That lends itself to engaging the behaviors to reach that goal.
29 years? But did uh still have sex with female?
Something tells me I needed this
You have so much freedom it's crazy.
If you live paycheck to paycheck is not freedom, it's a nightmare being alone!
@@Yuri-nc9vlI agree!
I love it!
If only I had financial freedom.
Being single is the happiest I’ve ever been, I realized I don’t need to be in a relationship at all and I accepted that fact
After such a horrible valentine's because of a heartbreak, this video feels like a gift. Thank you
Same, broke up a week before Valentine’s🚬🗿
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Solitude is different than loneliness. Im finally in good company 💪
I love being single and alone. I dropped all my friends after I awakened. Happiest I've ever been
Lol
@@rickyfitness252 I know it sounds bizarre. But it's just a different feeling when you can create your own happiness without relying on others
@@AnimeFridaysI'm in the same boat as well. There is a unique set of happiness created with another person or a group of friends or community, but it's just as fleeting as making money in my experience. There's so much more liberation and autonomy and empowerment when I've made myself my own best friend for years, basking in my solitude and loving myself to the point that it eventually led me to having a boyfriend anyways turning 28 since I got so much love to give.
Happiness from other people is so fleeting, that I even feel like my partner is now coming to terms how giving me solitude more than usual is better for the both of us since there's a deeper level of inner joy he realized he can't really give me. Even when in a relationship, having a mindset like a single person of knowing to make my own happiness is proving to be more vital than ever.
That's exactly right, you two! Happiness is a term often conflated... There's happiness as an emotion and happiness as a state of mind. As a state of mind, it includes peace, self-acceptance and forgiveness, and fulfillment. When you are who you want to be, and enjoy being that person. That's magic.
@@AnimeFridays I'm married with six kids. I still value my solitude... But you're missing out on half the picture. You should try to cultivate a close relationship with somebody outside of yourself. We're social creatures at the end of the day.
I’ve stopped caring about having someone. The idea of love for someone else that isn’t my family means nothing anymore.
@TREY_CHAMBERS_95 That's Right Because Blood Is Thicker Than Water I Have A Sister Who Thinks She's Gonna Set "boundaries" And Distance Herself From Her Own Family That's Fine But That Abusive Husband of Her's Eventually Is Going To Grow So Unreasonable They Will Be Forced To Separate But By Than Her Family Will Be Gone And All That Will Be Left Is Her Because That's What Abusive Men And Women Do They Will Isolate You So That You Have No One To Talk To And When You Try To Reconnect With Your Family Their Justifiably PYST At You For Prioritizing A Stranger Over Your Own Flesh And Blood No Spouse Is Your Family They Will Leave The Second The Paycheck Stops But My Sister Will Always Be My Sister No Matter What And She Knows Who She Can Call When She Needs Help
I think it's a good idea to learn how to be alone. I can think of at least one instance in your life when you will be completely alone and no one will be able to help you. At that moment, having experience with being alone, will make a difference. The other reason is enlightenment, or refinement if you will, requires a lot of introspection and acquisition of knowledge. This is maybe a little easier to make time for when you're single.
I really don't feel alone. There's so much stuff to learn about that are far more interesting than needing to cater to a "significant other". I'm trying to learn programming and markup language. I edit in photoshop and blender. I mod games. I recently rebuilt a sportsbike engine and on my way to repair another one with an electrical problem. There's so much other stuff thats more interesting than just continuing the species. I might come across someone but for now it doesnt matter. I just go along with whatever because that's what life is - an endless project. For someone to raise a family is achievement, for me - a dumb chore. I'd rather fabricate a front fork compression tool than try to lie to a woman to like me. It's what I am and I don't feel an ounce of guild being like that.
To each is own
Exactly dude, you sound so relatable to me 🤝💯
Grind on brothas and sisters. Need not worry about others but focus on bettering and growing yourself and make the garden flourish, best wishes ✨🦾
INTJ? 🤔
@@shawnshawn2699 INTJ-T
A fitting day to upload such a video.
Being aromantic comes with its upsides
I heard the title of a book, 'Single at Heart,' and had an ah-ha moment. I'm not in a relationship not because I don't want one, or because I couldn't find it, but because it's not a priority in my life. I'm not people focused. "Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people" (E. Roosevelt).
Being single should be the height of your life to discover who you are. Use this freedom to explore, travel, get an education, and get your finances together that way you can your best self which more attractive to a potential partner when your ready for a relationship and if not you are living live.😊
Eh this is only easy for adults who already have somewhat of their like together. Being a young adult in college living paycheck to paycheck unable to go out and have any fun, it’s hard for this to be the height of your life. Then there are people who are intimidated by people who are confident and seem to have their life together, especially women. It’s weird but a woman being independent and career driven scare off potential partners.
That just sounds like a way to cope until you get older and are 'ready' only to find out you're 30+ and have no experience in a relationship which deters most people.
Very well said
@@vali69that is exactly how I feel
@@yourlocalbudtend3r it's good to see someone else who feels the same way though in these past few months I've realized I'm not really attracted to relationships and or romantic stuff, I'm simply aromantic and actively feel disgusted just by imagining myself doing anything like that, I guess that's called being romantic repulsed, kind of like being sexually repulsed which I'm somewhat not, I would never want to do that but I feel just a tiny bit attracted, unlike with romance where there's nothing. Now I've forgotten the context of the video above, but I hope this was somewhat related, I've been on a little self discovery journey and I've also learned that what I desire would be at least some friendships with people who have the same interests as me. But I'm too traumatized by my past experiences to ever feel like I could connect with someone that way. I've never had any true friendships and I've been completely alone in that regard since highschool. Thus I don't feel like I can easily trust those who're not my immediate family. At least I grew in a decent enough environment yet still old fashioned when it comes to thinking. But enough about me, if anyone is still reading this just follow your heart and keep trying even if you keep failing, but also try different things to not get sucked up in a void solely because of that issue.
"Marriage is that wonderful institution that, when two people are together can solve the problems that they otherwise wouldn't have being single" - Mark Twain
…but who’d want to live in an institution?
even shoes can put with or without socks.
❤ Being with right person who understands you , supports you emotionally is actually wonderful thing ,
❤ Waking up from bed alone , preparing your breakfast, going to work come home 🔄 hung with friends one a week is something else that i have no adjective to describe 😅
Yeah but would you still want to wake up alone, make ur breakfast alone & work alone while you're 40? Your friends will have a family of their own, and go on family vacations while then you'll hang out alone. Would you want that?
@@BerryBeastieyou can still be alone and poor after a divorce relationship don’t guarantee that you won’t be alone
@@MMC619 That's why being with the right person matters. All marriages don't end in divorce. Choose your spouse rightfully.
@@BerryBeastie nah I am good with my house and car just going to buy new bike for rides you enjoy with right person I would think about it after laws get changed if not I am good with my assets besides divorce rate is pretty high
@@MMC619 Okay whatever.
“Accept the things to which fate binds you, and love the people with whom fate brings you together,but do so with all your heart.”
Marcus Aurelius
what do ppl who been given a bad fate do? like someone starving in north korea or yamen eta eta?
@@NightmareRex6that's why I don't believe in fate
@@fParad0x_ Fate is real. Having good fate is the real privilege. I'm not coping. I know from my experiences.
send mailing em a Care Package..... they are dealing with, or not. move on.
I’ve lived like that all my life.
I can’t deal with people around me 24/7
Haha bro same here 😂🎉
Same for me too
Swooping in like a lone superhero in a world full of sidekicks! Your video on staying single is like a breath of fresh air in a crowded room. Thanks for reminding us that it's cool to fly solo sometimes, finding our own groove and rocking it. Keep shining that light on the single life.
This is incredibly interesting! I grew up with a mother who was obsessed with having friends, and she always pushed me to get out of the house and be with people. She made me think it was weird not to be. She’s on her third husband and hasn’t been single for more than a few months since she was 14 years old. She’s been gaslighting me into her way of thinking for as long as I can remember. yes I’m a wreck because of it. Another factor for me in being single is that I don’t trust many people. 9 out of 10 people end up disappointing me in the end. I’m an only child and have never had an issue with my own company. I have lots of interests. I’m a musician so I can easily entertain myself, and I could spend hours and hours listening to music and finding new artists.
I’ve been single all my life. I didnt want it. I’m just not someone anyone can love. So for me, i had to learn to accept being single. I had to learn to see life from a different angle. When i did, I realized, i am strong enough to do it. I am strong enough to be alone and yet happy. And in that way, im not truly alone. I have close friends, so when im lonely, i go see them.
Being alone forever is my greatest pleasure. Thank you for the video.
I dont know what is happiness so i can never be unhappy 😊
boo
I’ve been single for over 3 years. It really isn’t that bad. It’s actually quite joyous
I been single for 8 years & ill never have it any other way.
For some of us there is no friends and family at all. I knew since l was a teenager that love will never come my way and now at age 62 I knew I was right. I will always remember my mom saying over three decades ago...it will come, someone will find you. Wouldn't that be nice.
It would come. Nothing is ever too late to try. Im 18 with no "lover" because im not confident enough and no one ever approches me but im still hoping. Never give up
After spending last 20 years single, my greatest fear is not death ... my greatest fear is that somehow someway I will be forced to not be single anymore ... this pure freedom is so sweet that can't be compared to anything ... be free brothers and sisters, listen to yourself and ignore the dumb people around you !
I totally agree. I was married 25 years, divorced and dated a lot...I love being single. Man, 61.
Being alone is better than being someone who brings out the stress in you not the best in you .. I'm 39 almost 40 I don't care about dying alone I have a daughter was married for five years to the person who made me feel the most lonesome in this planet called earth... I go karting I do parachuting (skydiving) play videogames..I work hard for my seven year old and that's the new love of my love don't stress over women be happy maybe one day God will send you someone he designed for yourself but for the first time in years im happy being alone! Here you go guys 🌹
I want to stay single, grew up bullied and abused. I don't trust anyone. Plus love is based solely on looks...
Same here. I'll say not only looks but also personality. I don't have that side of myself anymore which wants to go out and meet a girl because I'm pretty aware what happened in my past. I want to be on my own inside my own personal space.
Its all about personality and game now, and I don't have it
Exactly cheers,
Physical attributes isn’t based on love, it’s based on lust. Love is an action on wanting the greater good for someone at all times, lust is a gratification based on selfish needs.
@@Ricaninthephilippines Yeah, and love comes after "lust". "First impression matters" is literally the best thing one can say here. "Love on first sight" is not actual love. Real love comes after weeks, months even. Until then, there's 100% looks, 0% personality in almost all cases. That will go down to maybe 80% / 10%. But the initial stuff is purely optical and shallow things. Humans (and other animals too) are extremely superficial beings, that's just in our genes. It's like a colorful, male bird showing off its pretty feathers to a female.
I haven't been in a relationship in many years.
I don't mind, I have cats, who are a delight!
I love my single life, but I do need human connection with someone I love or like a lot.
No compromises. Me first!😻🐾
I appreciate this being posted on the day after I got broken up with
Ooh, the day before Valentine’s Day? I feel bad for you
☹️
@@FalsestPositive yeah man, it sucks, like really really sucks
@@ANTINATALIST_lewis my exact feelings
Use this as an opportunity to better yourself!! You now have more time to focus on yourself and do things you want to do start working out or create a goal for yourself, you want whoever dumped you to see how much you have changed for the better in their absence show them that “I don’t need you, in fact I’m doing better than when I was with you” attitude
1:59 “it’s unrealistic to think one person can fulfill your every need and desire “ needed this thanks @aperture
Single, now three years down the line, i finally feel complete and happier. 🙏
The moment you no longer care about being single, is the moment love will start coming into your life.
Speak for yourself
Stay single is my happiest desire
You have to find yourself a person that loves you and wants to be loved by you. Not one who wants to love someone and be loved someone.
Because ironically relationships get lonely when they are looked upon to only satisfy loneliness without understanding the person you plan to be with, but flourish beautifully when you understand them first and then decide if you want to share your life with theirs.
I loved how you classified a partner trying to talk to you as noise. Lol❤😂
Being single is a trap. I have been single for years now and it's getting too comfortable, like I live in my own little world where I am the queen of everything and I do everything as I want. It's like an absolute freedom to do whatever the hell I want. It's not for everyone though, as there are people who can not stand to be alone for that long. I can, so I got too comfortable in my own little world I created. It goes as far that I got extremely picky when there is a possible romantic relationship in my way, and when I don't feel it, I sabotage it. Even though I do whine sometimes that I would like to have a partner, I also get so picky about potential dates that it seems impossible to find what I would want.
Do you have close friendships? I ask this because even without a partner you can still have an amazing life with close friends supporting you and helping you throughout life which can cause you to focus on the people in your life than someone you want in your life. But in my case I’m single, have no friends, struggle with mental illness and living on my own. So life is miserable even while I’m focusing on my career and not worrying about the future.
@@Brae2723 I have friends, but not close. I meet nice people sometimes on the streets or occasions and that helps too. I would like to have real close friends, but so far, no luck for me. Talking to nice people you meet wherever does help, though. Also, if you have a family with whom you are close. I also try to combat loneliness when it happens by helping animals, to be honest, mostly cats, and that makes me also meet some nice, but also some quite nasty people. Good and bad everywhere. Nothing can guarantee you happiness and feeling not alone, not even relationships.
I am an absolute control freak so doing all by myself kind of makes me feel more comfortable. But yes, it can get lonely.
Are you a virgo?
@@shawn9635 Bingo! Yes, I am, actually.
@@biljam972 I knew it..I'm a scorpio and I have alot of close friends who are virgo and I can see the pattern..you are a truly good and dependable soul and I definitely wanna keep up with you
I've been single for some time now, and I'm fine with that. In fact it's helped me grow as a person in many ways.
If someone comes along then great, if not then I'm cool with that also. Society's expectations, are not my own.
no one in society expects anything of you nowadays. Literally the most free time period in history.
Lol beta
@@daarom3472lies
@@marktunnicliffe2495 loser
@@boomerang0101 If by that you mean not needing to act like a needy "macho" man child. And having the confidence, experience and intelligence to be fully at peace with being single, instead of jumping into dead end relationship after dead end relationship just for the sake of it. Then whatever you say kid.
I'd rather be forever alone than to share one minute of my life with a poisonous entity.
I have no family, no friends and no next of kin. Even though I agree with what you say; when you are in my position where you are extremely prejudiced against, you have to lean on yourself and become resilient, reliant only on yourself and trust your decisions. It makes you stronger and more single-minded, I think you have no choice. It has a lot of advantages, perhaps more than disadvantages. I think you are better on your own than to be in the company of toxic family and friends. Great video. From Perth WA
Ditto.
I have no problem choosing singleness. When I tried having a dating relationship I was absolutely miserable. Living by myself is the lifestyle that brings me peace.
Not promoting being single but I always tell this: I am already single so I will not gonna let myself sad and suffer because of this. It took me years to find the joy of being alone after my long term relationship ended. But now, I can do anything, go anywhere by myself. It’s quite fulfilling and fun..My family and friends didn’t understand why I love to go somewhere by myself. I just can’t describe the peace and happiness that I feel 😅😅😅
This video is exactly what I needed to hear! You perfectly capture the empowering side of being single, and remind us that happiness is achievable regardless of relationship status. Thanks for spreading positivity and self-love!😊❤
Cope
1. No Stress, 2. No Arguments, 3. No Nagging, 4. No B.S. & 5. No Extra Bagages..living alone doesn't bother me at all I like my freedom since 2011. woman can come and go but they can not move in with me period!
6. No sex
As someone who's never been in a real intimate relationship, I can honestly tell you that the hardest part is finding friends and people to spend some of your free time with. I'm perfectly fine spending big part of my time alone (actually prefer it), but when I have a weekend that I want to do something different it becomes harder to find people for that, since at the age of 30, most of my friends are married, or in long-term relationships and they do these things with other couples. Yes, I'm doing many of these things alone too, but sometimes having people to share the experience is much better.
The other thing is that get so used to being alone that you feel detached from other people....as you basically are living in your own world. It's hard to give a damn about anything and anyone out of the 'perfect' little world you have created.
@@gipvision6937 your not missing anything.
My gf dumped me on new years after two years of me being a closed off alcoholic. Couldn’t figure out why I was like that. I loved her, but knew I wasn’t “good enough” and self sabotaged. I thought if I ended things I couldn’t live with myself. She made the decision for me. Trying to get things back together now, realizing a lot about myself now that I’m alone, and I have more hope. Thanks for the encouragement.
I drafted a Relationship Agreement for a hypothetical partner and all the components of it are exhausting. I didn't realize how much work relationships are until I broke it down to its components: Communication, Compromise, Conflict Resolution, Financial Planning, Social Events, Regular Dates, Health and Emergency, Cohabitation, Social Media Etiquette as it pertains to the relationship, Electronic Communications, End of Life Situations, etc.
I'm so relieved I'm single.
I prefere beeing alone forever, i treated it like a challenge to myself, obviously i always wanted a relationship, but after deep toughts i discover that i will be not free anymore, and that is not as good as people or parents make it sound to be, i know that it will be a difficult and challenging life but, i hope that in the end i will be proud of myself.
I was the person who is never been in any relationships. But have some a lot of hurtful attachments too. Now i realise you have to be alone. Thanks for this video man. Now i will be focusing on myself only.
My last relationship was so awful, and being single for 6 months has been nothing but peace. Thank god.
im in solitude, the best version i can be, single since 2019
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Happy belated Valentine Destiny!
Lmao 5 years being single is the best you got?
@smokinj0e don't looking for anything else 🤷🏻♀️
I had to find and watch this video sooner. Had a breakup with my first love after 4 years of a "perfect" relationship and it took months to be ok-ish. Do not give your heart to someone too fast or without knowing their worth. Be what you want in a partner and it will come one day.
it’s best to be single till you achieve the best version of yourself
that the idea of the video. Well said
Then when you get a girl, she will change your back to your worse self😂
So much cope
What does that even mean? How can you know you've achieved that best version of yourself?
There is no "best" lol we all need love
Single and happy , staying this way till the end
I'll never understand the "find yourself" concept.
In the context or a relationship or not, I've never not understood who I was.
At times I tried to make people happy by doing things I wouldn't normally, but I always knew who I was while doing so.
It's like where did you lose yourself
If someone comes along, I should open my hand and allow them in? Why be in a romantic relationship? Being in one opens the opportunities of cheating, divorce, miscommunication, not being good enough for your lover, the love fades, their true colors are revealed, a rushed relationship, not being up to truly be yourself and so much more.
She left me 2 days after valentines day. I got her flowers and her favorite candy. She told me she wasn't ready for a relationship after leading me on for so long
That's probably because she was still fucking Chad sorry dude
Lol
😂😂😂 candy thats why she left 😂😂😂😂😂😂😢😢😂😂😂
@@Beela2020 she got me candy too?
@@mexigamer9825 she is a women you are a man thats the difference u got me.
Success is self satisfaction😊 not human attention
This video is the best! It not only got to me, emotionally, but to others I thought about and shared with. You are the best. Keep it up!
Even if i don't fully agree with him, good video, makes some valid points.
It's too funny. Loneliness has been kicking my ass lately. You're correct. Its no fun having no one to celebrate the small accomplishments with. Soeone to readily share your thoughts and feeling with. However, I also enjoy doing what I want when I want and I have no one else's standard to live up to.
I like being single. Could not imagine having someone to be with
Some people need it, others can't do it. Myself, I most definitely can.
This video hits specially hard today.
To bring a child into this mad world i don't want that so i stay single FOREVER..
@@Constantinos-Cy I mean being in a relationship doesn't necessarily mean procreating,but oh well.
@@Constantinos-Cy just get with a woman who hates kids
@@Constantinos-Cy find someone who doesn't want babies
Loneliness doesn't come from having nobody around you, it comes from not being able to communicate the things that are important to you
~ Carl Jung
Clean your room bucko
Preach it, brother.
My experience has been that, once you are up-n-running on the happily single track, then girls start coming on to you.
It seems ironic, but I don't think it is.
In other words, it's not east to stay happily single for very long.
Girls take the idea of a friendship without a romantic entanglement as a challenge.
God is quoted in Genesis as saying "It is not good that the man should be alone."
Im 25 years old, 26 in a month & never been on a date. I could care less. It gets lonely & tough but i worked though it. The freedom & long car rides are breath taking.
It gets easier belive me. Thanks for Aperture for this beautiful vid.
Managing housework while single can also be a lot easier. There's only you making messes, and it's much faster to clean up right away when it's just your dishes, etc. Less laundry to do. Especially if you're a woman it's likely being single is going to be easier from the standpoint of housework. Plus you can make your own routines. You don't have to work with someone else to form a routine.
Most men do nothing in the household, they are like a child women have to take care of.
I needed this.
One of your best video.
Solitude is gold!
I've just lost any hope of getting into a relationship. I nearly died over a decade ago, and I remember the first couple of years afterward I felt incredibly lonely. I still do today, but I also know that just because I am in a relationship, doesn't equate to infinite happiness. It's like society is pressuring you to get into a relationship, at least it feels like that to me. I want to try my own thing, whether or not I find someone else is up in the air. I'm happy regardless of what happens in my future.
As a bachelorette, I absolutely LOVE my freedom and peace. I refuse to give that up.
Who will come visit when you are old ???
@@kellyTaylor-uv3coMy Grandma was nearly 70 years old when she lost her husband. She was battling with dementia for years prior. Although she was never abusive or neglectful towards her children, they just put her in a nursing home and never check on her. She passed away five years ago all alone. I feel guilty all the time because I completely forgot about her.
Bachelorette? More like a spinster
TLDW
1. Independent in certain aspects is a skill only you can control.
2. Better to not be manipulated by media
3. Let your clear mind focus on the actions taken.
4. Take care yourself and family before doing to others. Small acts of kindness don't fall in the above statement.
5. Learn to enjoy the alone time you have now. You'll never know if you can have it again.
I'm never alone. I've got good ol' Smith&Wessen to keep me company. Unfortunately, it only knows one very loud word.
BANG! 😂 💀
True compatibility is hard to find but once found, a precious jewel. 😊
33 y.o man here. I'm still virgin and never had a long term rell with any girl.
Sometimes it sucks, but you never miss something that you never had.
But from my little experiences and also observations, I truly believe that being alone is way better than a bad company.
33 and Virgin 😮😮😮 wow 😂😮😮😅😂😂
@@Beela2020 LoL. I am muslim and also have moral values. I'm not a cat to have sex casually and regularly
@@alitava6844 if you are a girl I see because women need to love first but if you are a man I think you masturbate because there is no otherway than this
@Beela2020 what's the issue
@@yashsinghal1023 There is no one everyone is free I m just amazed
Never been in a relationship and I wanna experience one at least once 😭
You might wanna read these comments first. 😅
@@artawhirler already saw the comments and full video
@@shalxndaus. Never even touch a guy man 😭
You should. It's good❤
@@artawhirlerfor real though, it’s not worth it.
single life is better.❤
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It is not, there is a reason you have to keep reminding us you are happy
I agree
had any other choice?