Why are people not getting married anymore?

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  • @jcnlaw
    @jcnlaw ปีที่แล้ว +7180

    Experienced divorce attorney here. Marriage is simply too big a risk in modern times. Divorce and family court can derail your life, even if you didn’t do anything wrong. Better to live your best life and do the things that bring you joy. You can still have terrific relationships without inviting state laws into your life and finances.

    • @Random_dud31
      @Random_dud31 ปีที่แล้ว +103

      Do prenubs help?

    • @feliciaboston6365
      @feliciaboston6365 ปีที่แล้ว +158

      No sir. If I divorce I want half for my efforts and energy

    • @gbb82
      @gbb82 ปีที่แล้ว +813

      @@feliciaboston6365As a guy, this is scary to hear.

    • @andrehines
      @andrehines ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Random_dud31 Prenups don't work because the woman can contest the prenup in court for years, forcing you to spend hundreds of thousands, even millions of dollars just to get the courts to enforce the prenup. Most men can't afford to contest and so are forced to settle.

    • @slayer2608
      @slayer2608 ปีที่แล้ว +334

      @@feliciaboston6365depends how long you were married and whether it was your fault the marriage happend. I believe in fairness women can have half of the man cheated or physically assaulted her but she can’t just call it off and take half

  • @BD1ZZ
    @BD1ZZ ปีที่แล้ว +1782

    The best way to avoid divorce court? Never get married.

    • @Yousuckdeeznuts
      @Yousuckdeeznuts ปีที่แล้ว +32

      😂

    • @nextleader7543
      @nextleader7543 ปีที่แล้ว +136

      Girlfriend = rent a wife. Easier to replace a girlfriend when she hits the wall and get a new younger and more beautiful girl.

    • @chefrabbaigoldenbergsteins5018
      @chefrabbaigoldenbergsteins5018 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +25

      No morals when laws dont even ask for it

    • @CDeuce152
      @CDeuce152 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      Absolutely

    • @bro918
      @bro918 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@nextleader7543 incel

  • @Boostlagg
    @Boostlagg ปีที่แล้ว +2452

    Never sign a contract where the other party will benefit by breaking it

    • @winning3329
      @winning3329 ปีที่แล้ว +81

      You mean like when you're husband cheats

    • @gontse1386
      @gontse1386 ปีที่แล้ว +711

      ​@@winning3329or the wife decides she's not happy

    • @314jrock
      @314jrock ปีที่แล้ว

      @@winning3329 Studies show that women cheats more then men.

    • @mr.anderson4755
      @mr.anderson4755 ปีที่แล้ว +231

      @@winning3329 Real question, I've seen you in every comment here. Did you have a bad experience with a specific man?

    • @OneNiftyBoi
      @OneNiftyBoi ปีที่แล้ว +341

      @@winning3329 When your husband cheats he loses his house and possibly even support system /friends, employment and reputation. That doesn't sound like a benefit for any sane man. What are you on about??

  • @JaredScott-dp8nj
    @JaredScott-dp8nj 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +984

    It’s amazing how they talk about how expensive it is to get married, and they never mentioned how financially devastating it is to get divorced.

    • @Zsxcdwefivm
      @Zsxcdwefivm 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      it's because that is their agenda. They won't speak if it won't benefit.

    • @josem9144
      @josem9144 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +41

      Emotional devastating is worse 😢

    • @Frivals
      @Frivals 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

      🤦‍♂️The reason is not economical, if is expensive a married life then how can people survive with only 1 salary alone?
      the reason is because the current zeitgeist is a war against males.
      In Muslim countries they are in similar economic problems but there is no problem with marriages because there is no war against males.

    • @g.narayanareddy1630
      @g.narayanareddy1630 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +55

      It doesn't match their narrative.
      They never consider men's problems and perspective.

    • @ifitistobeitisuptome
      @ifitistobeitisuptome 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +45

      Finacially devastating ......FOR MEN!!

  • @portalomus
    @portalomus ปีที่แล้ว +1391

    I work 60-70 hours a week to make ends meet, when am I supposed to date? Or meet anyone? On top of that I've worked way too hard to risk marrying the wrong person and destroying my personal or financial life, let alone my mental health. I've seen what bad marriages can do and it it's better to be single and free than with someone and miserable.

    • @sly_g
      @sly_g ปีที่แล้ว +76

      Facts fam!

    • @andrewchung83
      @andrewchung83 ปีที่แล้ว +52

      its also better to have a loving spouse and kids than being single and hysterical.

    • @Spidido
      @Spidido ปีที่แล้ว +207

      ​@@andrewchung83no its not

    • @CatsInHats-S.CrouchingTiger
      @CatsInHats-S.CrouchingTiger ปีที่แล้ว +38

      That’s a very accountable attitude. Building with someone who is equally accountable and matches your values is key. Today, men are quite afraid of women with their lists of to do’s, love can get very lost when one partner takes over everything, leaving the other to follow or give all the decisions to the one who has the lists of goals and objectives, which leaves the partner cold & left out. It’s tough these days for men to marry.

    • @sly_g
      @sly_g ปีที่แล้ว +24

      @@CatsInHats-S.CrouchingTiger Tough to find the right partner is on both sides. Not just men. I'd say it's even harder on women being on the passive end of things.

  • @doylejodi7502
    @doylejodi7502 ปีที่แล้ว +2272

    I did my part. I had 3 children. Today, childcare, child rearing are too costly. I don’t blame anyone who chooses not to marry or have children. It’s hard enough to financially sustain oneself.

    • @rayrwyr
      @rayrwyr ปีที่แล้ว

      Men want to marry and have multiple children and they can afford it. But they cannot afford divorce. Wife cheats and divorces him and he loses all his money and children.

    • @texasgermancowgirl
      @texasgermancowgirl ปีที่แล้ว +64

      Agreed

    • @buttofthejoke
      @buttofthejoke ปีที่แล้ว +95

      I always thought I'll have kids. My partner and I wanted to adopt at least 3 kids. But the expenses are so much, I can't even think of having kids.. it'll lock us in a financial lockdown for at least 2 decades. No relaxing in the evening, brunches on weekends, impromptu vacations, traveling back to my home country. We still haven't been able to save enough for downpayment, so definitely not having kids. We'll donate to some charities but we are not in a mental state to take even more responsibilities

    • @ll2323
      @ll2323 ปีที่แล้ว +99

      This is my retirement plan. NO KIDS!

    • @BizzeeB
      @BizzeeB ปีที่แล้ว +79

      "I did my part". Are you a brood mare?? There are plenty of other "parts" a person can play...

  • @thatweirdbwah_
    @thatweirdbwah_ ปีที่แล้ว +185

    Because Gen Z and Millennials have been raised by parents whose love, and marriage fell out and had to witness what kind of problems marriage and divorce can create. From financial instability, to the toll it takes on ones psyche, its just not worth it.

    • @Goodwillwinoverevil1984
      @Goodwillwinoverevil1984 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      I guess I'm in the minority, that's sad lol.

    • @justsomerandomhomie1794
      @justsomerandomhomie1794 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      ​@@Goodwillwinoverevil1984Aren’t you the woman who said she'd give up her kidney to save her husband? How are you doing rn?

  • @clara4942
    @clara4942 ปีที่แล้ว +745

    People can’t afford rings, clothes, ceremony, transport, honeymoon, house deposit (let alone actual house), pregnancy, medical bills for child’s birth, daycare, schooling. We’re just hoping we can afford to get old.

    • @briancalifornia1
      @briancalifornia1 ปีที่แล้ว +56

      Right it amazes me how people can afford all that people are struggling to support themselves alone

    • @Seen_not_heard
      @Seen_not_heard ปีที่แล้ว +37

      I'm just hoping to retire at a reasonable age, at this rate, I'll be working until 90. Or Death.
      I can't afford a car, how can I afford anything else?

    • @mazedar_tv
      @mazedar_tv ปีที่แล้ว +13

      In canada they can’t afford food too now 😢. Shame on humanity

    • @PortugalZeroworldcup
      @PortugalZeroworldcup ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Meanwhile the population increases in Brazil, Mexico, Nigeria, India Egypt etc

    • @user-eu7md1ew9s
      @user-eu7md1ew9s 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Yes you could've afforded these. You dont need to spend a lot.

  • @Doriginal5
    @Doriginal5 ปีที่แล้ว +1871

    Men are avoiding divorce laws. This literally isn’t that complicated.

    • @Ace01010
      @Ace01010 ปีที่แล้ว +393

      oh trust me they know, they're just playing dumb to not shine light on it.

    • @tanyamilewski5700
      @tanyamilewski5700 ปีที่แล้ว +155

      And women are avoiding slavery. It isn’t that complicated

    • @Ace01010
      @Ace01010 ปีที่แล้ว +650

      @@tanyamilewski5700 did you just compare being a mother and holding down a household as slavery 🤣🤣.

    • @tanyamilewski5700
      @tanyamilewski5700 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Ace01010 yes because what do you get for that? You work work work and most men don’t appreciate it or think it’s not worth anything so what’s the point of having babies and working like a dog for nothing, not to mention being controlled by another person? It’s only worth it if you get something from it or if it’s appreciated. Most men don’t have such appreciation of what it takes or what it’s worth so most men want slaves not wives therefore yes it’s slavery and no thanks.

    • @TheSushiandme
      @TheSushiandme ปีที่แล้ว +287

      ​@tanyamilewski5700 if they marry a rich guy, it's a vacation 😂

  • @GLamoRousCooKie
    @GLamoRousCooKie ปีที่แล้ว +1982

    You addressed everything except the real issues. The steep economic decline, severe inflation with practically unchanged wages, higher workload, longer work hours, insanely competitive workplace with less chance of promotion, longer studies, cultural shifts, severe societal division and distrust of one another, p0rn addiction, etc etc.

    • @DisasterService
      @DisasterService ปีที่แล้ว

      You forgot to mention the organized demoralization of men and boys, and the runaway hypergamy of women.

    • @chillinJohnny
      @chillinJohnny ปีที่แล้ว +180

      In the past 1 man could feed the family
      Now you're looking for that 8th roommate so you're able to pay rent
      (I'm exaggerating, but I would blame mainly inflation and overpopulation that creates demand)

    • @johnisaacfelipe6357
      @johnisaacfelipe6357 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      No, there are three main causes, industrialization, feminism, and the pill. All three taken together utterly destroys marriage as a concept and institution, so maybe in the future, men and women will just have designer children and they would get raised in community day care centers

    • @ThomasJDavis
      @ThomasJDavis ปีที่แล้ว +76

      @@ss-mw9dj It most definitely IS about the money. Sure, it's also about social media and feminism. But you have to contextualize being a home owner and building a family through its economic feasibility within any given country. Many people in Africa have a lot of kids because of the high mortality rates and the fact that physical labor is often still needed to acquire basic physical needs like food, water and shelter.

    • @70newlife
      @70newlife ปีที่แล้ว

      ​@@ThomasJDavisdude most people around the world rent as much as 70% rent all their life. The West has destroyed the family by feminism and family and divorces law. Bring Shariah.

  • @yourqueen1111
    @yourqueen1111 ปีที่แล้ว +903

    marriage is not a solution. you need to solve all your childhood trauma on your own and not drag another person and kids into it. enough of generational trauma. love and heal yourself first!

    • @ll2323
      @ll2323 ปีที่แล้ว +80

      This is the biggest thing they leave out. They’ll mention everything from pay, to human rights, to leisure or self determination.

    • @vuksgitau
      @vuksgitau ปีที่แล้ว +46

      And thus is exactly why I've not sought a relationship with anyone I'm working on myself, learning to love myself and it has taken time, alot of it.

    • @wesmo_
      @wesmo_ ปีที่แล้ว +16

      DIVORCE IS NOT A SOLUTION, as living alone lead to feelings of sadness and loneliness. Marrying another person also doesn't guarantee happiness. Instead, the key lies in seeking help for your marriage and being cautious of engaging with progressive psychologists who might promote woke ideologies.

    • @wesmo_
      @wesmo_ ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@vuksgitau You are born loving yourself, is not hard to be self centered, just let your demons take over.

    • @momo33727
      @momo33727 ปีที่แล้ว

      amen

  • @alparslankorkmaz2964
    @alparslankorkmaz2964 ปีที่แล้ว +385

    as a GenZ living in Turkey, the issue with the marriage is not about rising expenses but finding someone that you can trust. Everyone is playing around, no one can expect young people to get married.

    • @jonathancunningham8739
      @jonathancunningham8739 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      Because Gen z is at that kind of age of university colleges high schools all you have to do is wait and be patience many are looking for a committed relationship however many are focus on education but at about 28 to 30 many will start to slow down just look at Millennials countless articles saying end of committed couples but now most are either getting married and romantic partners or are engaged to be married it just takes time I hope you will not listen to those negative articles most are made by dating sites for endorsement.

    • @mrconfusion87
      @mrconfusion87 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      ​@@jonathancunningham8739Not so true in my circles. A lot of unwed among my peer group (I am in my mid-going-late 30s now)! 🤣🤣🤣

    • @danielbrown3461
      @danielbrown3461 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Money has to be part of it. Why not give Robots a try?

    • @Ekam-Sat
      @Ekam-Sat 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I am Christian… but my advice is to find a traditional Muslim girl.

    • @مجتهد-خ2ف
      @مجتهد-خ2ف 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      All world same now girls want complete study and work no one want marriage expect form rich man ​@@Ekam-Sat

  • @relighg
    @relighg ปีที่แล้ว +272

    One of the most important reasons why I just decided to stay single is because of the unpredictability of my income flow. So If I Imagine myself having kids, I'd have to work twice as hard to provide for their needs. However i do understand why the government is so concerned about declining marriage and birth rates. basically a family unit drives the economy growth because you have to spend a lot for your family while being single gives you the freedom just to decide anything in life. you can even go off grid if you want to.

    • @stankssmile5865
      @stankssmile5865 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      In the past your same financial cornern tying up with enforced increased productivity was called as “kids make you want to be a better person”

    • @ppen8359
      @ppen8359 ปีที่แล้ว

      Government is worried about marriage because it is worried about number of tax payers in the future.

    • @CordeliaWagner
      @CordeliaWagner ปีที่แล้ว +25

      Singles spend their money otherwise. They travel and spend more for personal fun

    • @letsthinkbriefly3761
      @letsthinkbriefly3761 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      The biggest perspective we rather not delve into is that humans need to procreate to not go extinct and also a civilized (Conscious civilization) system to support. However, looking at the current situation the modern world has created it is not going well for humans.

    • @GearZNet
      @GearZNet ปีที่แล้ว +7

      ​@@letsthinkbriefly3761 Almost like the modern world isn't stable or is antithetical to the natural order. 🤔It'll sort itself out though, the people who have the most children and can continue that trend are the inheritors of the world.

  • @jaughnekow
    @jaughnekow ปีที่แล้ว +617

    Starting a family is expensive.
    There's more financial instability than before.

    • @theBear89451
      @theBear89451 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Starting families used to be profitable. Both decisions are financially stable for their time.

    • @dipset4016
      @dipset4016 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      You’re funny. This is mainstream media, what do you expect? They have values to uphold you know

    • @winning3329
      @winning3329 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      ​@@mr.anderson4755You men care more about money than to have a family. Remember that women even if you are not married to them cost money.

    • @ladyville3
      @ladyville3 ปีที่แล้ว

      what are you feeding your kids? lol

    • @esceneknausicalci
      @esceneknausicalci ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Starting a family now is incredibly costly.

  • @dsimondublin
    @dsimondublin ปีที่แล้ว +117

    Divorce, financially ruined, depression, etc. A million reasons not to get married can only think of a handful of reasons to get married. I'll pass on tradition and keep my life simple.

    • @djm2189
      @djm2189 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Kiss. Keep it simple st*pid 😅🤟

    • @dsimondublin
      @dsimondublin ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @djm2189 yep have to agree. Best quote I ever heard was from my grandfather. Said "just cause you want to sleep with her, doesn't mean you have to marry her!" Honest but true

    • @dedesunbeam9361
      @dedesunbeam9361 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      0 reasons to get married if you're smart enough not to have any kids.

  • @dreddy_g
    @dreddy_g ปีที่แล้ว +51

    During a recent family get-together, I had a married distant relative try to "shametalk" me for a couple of minutes into getting married while his wife was there.
    I politely asked him when was the last time he was able to keep a whole paycheck for himself, after taking out half of the household expenses. He got pissed at me for asking him a personal question.

  • @Proftracy313
    @Proftracy313 ปีที่แล้ว +805

    As a Nigerian living in Nigeria, to be respected by society, you must be married. To hold public office, you also must be married as it is believed that, being in a marriage shows that you are responsible and can be trusted with vast resources. That’s the biggest lie ever told. The married ones who hold public office, are the most corrupt and loot all of our funds.

    • @AskMiko
      @AskMiko ปีที่แล้ว +71

      Seems many societies are similar. When a single person runs for office their status is used against as a smear campaign

    • @brutustantheiii8477
      @brutustantheiii8477 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      It’s still like that in the more higher echelons of power and wealth and status and high society

    • @Proftracy313
      @Proftracy313 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Napstone deep breaths. That was so long but, interesting too.

    • @ksmith2852
      @ksmith2852 ปีที่แล้ว

      Not that way in Western countries because women many times earn more money than a man.

    • @Ibrahim-5318
      @Ibrahim-5318 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Absolutely true, in some society, Parents who are poor will even go to the extent of disowning their children because they are not ready to marry. Having Family is a dream and sweet. When I was young, I had dream of holding to lover bird - while being youthful but today my opinion diverged from my dream quite some distance due to experiences and I am 26 and I am not sure if Marriage is something on the Horizon for me.

  • @waj4ever16
    @waj4ever16 ปีที่แล้ว +1029

    Wow. How do you do an entire show without going over the number one reason which is divorce? Mind blowing.

    • @zenden6564
      @zenden6564 ปีที่แล้ว +252

      Cos it's gynocentric.

    • @medhavimanus
      @medhavimanus ปีที่แล้ว +376

      Because a women is narrating it.

    • @jellymatsuryuka6853
      @jellymatsuryuka6853 ปีที่แล้ว +68

      the actual number 1 reason is because most people who get into marriage go into divorce is really just because they had unrealistic expectations that weren't met and couldn't deal with it later.

    • @etta5487
      @etta5487 ปีที่แล้ว +31

      What do you mean? People aren't getting married because they are afraid of divorce?

    • @zenden6564
      @zenden6564 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      @@etta5487
      1. 50% of 1st marriages divorce, higher with any subsequent marriages.
      2. Antique divorce laws in the modern era, weaponised by Feminist family Law Courts & Govt destroy men, taking his home, his children and most his assets while socially demonising his reputation. Male suicide rate is four times the female rate for a reason.
      3. The median average length of a marriage in the Anglo-West is 8 years from marriage/1st cohabitation to separation.
      4. Social decay means successful single men have plentiful sexual access to women anyway.
      5. Marriage rates have steadily fallen over the last five decades, from ~70%+ to ~30%, lower for the Caucasians group
      6. By 2030, 50% of women 18 to 40yo will be single and barren, and 45%+ of all children will be in single mother homes.
      Conclusion: the Feminists have won a complete victory to destroy society, with demographic collapse. Marriage is now only a lifestyle choice for showboating rich men, not the working class or lower middle class. Everything Pearl talks about, in broad terms is spot on.

  • @nanagyambibi7426
    @nanagyambibi7426 ปีที่แล้ว +941

    I had amazing parents and came from a beautiful loving home....and then one day they get a divorce and from 12 to 18 my household dynamics shift significantly. I remember how that felt, I remember how it made me view marriage, I remember how each member of our family's livelihood changed. So now at 32 I worked really hard to get to where I am today, it is extremely difficult to want to drive down that same road. Its very hard for the ones that come from divorced homes.

    • @arthursosajr.2031
      @arthursosajr.2031 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      well spoken

    • @winning3329
      @winning3329 ปีที่แล้ว +59

      Because people especially men marry for lust and not love and this makes the relationship doomed

    • @tyrellanderson4722
      @tyrellanderson4722 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Oh that's your fear talking indeed.

    • @macrick
      @macrick ปีที่แล้ว +125

      @@winning3329 No, because there's no fault divorce and women can just pull the cord and collect the cash and prizes. There's no incentives for men to get marry other than having legitimate children.

    • @SELFCAREMODEL
      @SELFCAREMODEL ปีที่แล้ว

      Oh wow

  • @The4Tifier
    @The4Tifier ปีที่แล้ว +40

    I think it mostly comes down to not finding the right partner to trust and build a healthy marriage with, not having the means to support and grow a healthy family (crap economy), and not having benefits that can outweigh the consequences.
    That, and to be honest, some people just really aren’t marriage material to begin with.

  • @perolagrande
    @perolagrande ปีที่แล้ว +773

    Casual sex, and sex outside marriage are no longer taboo, so rushing to get married aged 18/19 just to get 'laid' (which was the case until the mid-20th century) no longer carries the same appeal. Dating apps and societal values encourage short-term casual relationships over long-term commitment.

    • @Akrmdz444
      @Akrmdz444 ปีที่แล้ว +32

      People care about themselves now, they dont care about our future they think we are doomed which is wrong 😢

    • @rockwithyou2006
      @rockwithyou2006 ปีที่แล้ว +88

      @@Akrmdz444 They don't because the insane laws fucked their present/future.

    • @NSWSES1990
      @NSWSES1990 ปีที่แล้ว

      Really?

    • @ayar2
      @ayar2 ปีที่แล้ว +45

      @@Akrmdz444 considerings today's overpopulation and sustainability problems Id say they're doing Earth's a favor.

    • @Akrmdz444
      @Akrmdz444 ปีที่แล้ว +28

      @@ayar2 "Earth overpopulation" we literally use 10% of earth total labd if not then lower than that, atleast 80% of earth land is inhabitated and potable land which 2% of them are agriculture land/ or other stuff

  • @raphaelostrowski6336
    @raphaelostrowski6336 ปีที่แล้ว +896

    Marriage only works if a society is traditional. If there is no common traditional values in place in a complex institution like marriage, it will break over time

    • @90sthegoldenera84
      @90sthegoldenera84 ปีที่แล้ว

      In an Indian state called Keeala, females file false harassment cases and media totally support them..

    • @judeskylabardooo8286
      @judeskylabardooo8286 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      aptly stated

    • @LucareonVee
      @LucareonVee ปีที่แล้ว +90

      If that’s true, then marriage should die. 😎

    • @neoreign
      @neoreign ปีที่แล้ว +115

      @@LucareonVee it's on life support, soon it will die.

    • @jetgdvsdfgd
      @jetgdvsdfgd ปีที่แล้ว +1

      The west is in decline and this is only another indicator amongst hundreds

  • @rassemsassi5274
    @rassemsassi5274 ปีที่แล้ว +246

    Personally I've seen that older generations' been marrying for all the wrong reasons, resulting in divorce and caused so much trauma in their children's lives. I would love to get married and start my own family but I also need to put all the work that other generations didn't so I have a healthy marriage and raise my kids in the best conditions... As simple as that.

    • @winning3329
      @winning3329 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Because men married for lust and not love and the relationship is doomed

    • @satyasankalpapanigrahi9416
      @satyasankalpapanigrahi9416 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      ​@@winning3329same for women, women marry for money as they see men as their own ATM 🏧

    • @lydokope5210
      @lydokope5210 ปีที่แล้ว

      Many older generation physical child abuser

    • @albihysenaj5997
      @albihysenaj5997 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Right men in the 50s and 60s started marrying for lust and not love before it was love now then lust now young generation are single and not interested in anyone anymore

    • @brutustantheiii8477
      @brutustantheiii8477 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@winning3329and women married for an ATM and a financial indentured servant. Get outta here with that disinformation. Because only now, only men have to keep our traditional roles while the opposite sex is liberated

  • @mogleesh-22
    @mogleesh-22 ปีที่แล้ว +300

    No marriage no drama and no divorce.
    No wife, know life.

    • @alicerayne9461
      @alicerayne9461 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      No marriage ever been there done that it might work for some if you like to be controll by someone cheated on have your money gone, these are men that I try to be with they will love you if you have a House a car and a job, then they will leave you with nothing, yes women do it to however men have a better track record of it from what I went though So no never again XD

    • @Scrittlescrattle
      @Scrittlescrattle ปีที่แล้ว +33

      No man no murder 🤷‍♀️

    • @mogleesh-22
      @mogleesh-22 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      @@Scrittlescrattle No man no Hu-man.

    • @amukbir8777
      @amukbir8777 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

      ​​@@Scrittlescrattle
      Not the same. If a man never marries he can never get divorced.
      If a woman never gets married she can still get murder 😭
      And there are women who murder men aswell so its not exclusive to one gender.

    • @stoned8034
      @stoned8034 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Scrittlescrattle no man = indigenous

  • @chunkalunkin2000
    @chunkalunkin2000 ปีที่แล้ว +290

    Why get married forever when you can just wake up one day say you're not feeling it and get divorced a week later?

    • @FadeHook23
      @FadeHook23 ปีที่แล้ว +118

      and she takes half your stuff!

    • @xXEGPXx
      @xXEGPXx ปีที่แล้ว +36

      Nobody ever wakes up and just decides to get divorced, sure sounds like your wife left you and you are coping

    • @hotheadsniper
      @hotheadsniper ปีที่แล้ว +113

      ​@@xXEGPXxfeminists here people.😂😂

    • @UptownSigma
      @UptownSigma ปีที่แล้ว +97

      @@xXEGPXxyour right.. Women are way smart to just wake up and divorce u. The divorced is planned before the marriage

    • @MidwestFarmToys
      @MidwestFarmToys ปีที่แล้ว

      @@xXEGPXx it seems like that to the man because the woman plans it behind your back for months and months and makes sure she builds all of the pieces of a winning case against you, and then drops it on you unsuspecting and suddenly once all the pieces are in place for her to destroy your life

  • @alter3go411
    @alter3go411 ปีที่แล้ว +67

    I am not surprised CNBC chose to play it safe and not adress the giant elephant in the room. Marriage is a raw deal with no upside for men in today's society

    • @misssterling3094
      @misssterling3094 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Well just leave women alone all together.

    • @machupikachu1085
      @machupikachu1085 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@misssterling3094 Japan started the MGTOW like 30 years ago. They've been working on Stepford Wives ever since. It won't be long now...

    • @gomahklawm4446
      @gomahklawm4446 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @machu.... As soon as that happens, no man will choose a woman over a robot.

  • @genovasquez8361
    @genovasquez8361 ปีที่แล้ว +123

    Actually Single Unmarried men dont need as much money.
    We arent consumers like that.
    Outside of
    Beer, Play Station, Netflix We dont have many expensses.
    We can do a studio or one bedroom.
    If we do exercise or work from home we may have a two bedroom
    We dont need two cars, its just us, so we buy one car.
    We have more options to spend less on rent, since we dont have to be concern with being SA like women do.
    We can do cheap rent no house. we have groups of guys that we can band together.
    Men who are single have less expenses.

    • @bratzboyz
      @bratzboyz ปีที่แล้ว +24

      Totally true, I have roommates...had them for a long time. Even though the rent goes up, we're still doing fine! I still have my one car, savings, retirement, I'll be 40 soon and I've yet to fall on tough times. Being a single guy is just not as hard as I thought it was going to be when I moved out. 🧐

    • @genovasquez8361
      @genovasquez8361 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      @@bratzboyz being single guy since I was 22 and 46...it's the best thing

    • @victorpradha9946
      @victorpradha9946 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Frankly, imagine if someone subtracted the beer and playstation and instead read books freely obtained from the library or via inexpensive on-line venders. Sat in a park and drank tea/coffee (maybe even made at home rather than an expensive coffee house). Imagine also if these single people volunteered through local church groups or community organizations instead of ocupying themselves with streaming services and social media. A much less expensive life filled with far more creativity and social interaction.

    • @solaris5922
      @solaris5922 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      They are the most loneliest too. This is why they are so comfortable harassing women on the street

    • @StevenSanchez_95
      @StevenSanchez_95 ปีที่แล้ว +37

      @@solaris5922ummm……..No

  • @mnh1956
    @mnh1956 ปีที่แล้ว +162

    It is better to be single and alone than in a crazy dysfunctional relationship.

    • @Swingman30
      @Swingman30 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Exactly

    • @ThinkingJames
      @ThinkingJames 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      As a married person, I agree with you.

    • @Danikmapper1og
      @Danikmapper1og 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Fr

  • @aliali-ce3yf
    @aliali-ce3yf ปีที่แล้ว +407

    Cheating seems to be trendy and even romanticized. Divorce rates are high. Divorces can be financially devastating. Plus how many times are you getting "settled" for? All that grief and stress, for not much upside. It makes much more sense to stay single.

  • @iamsurojit
    @iamsurojit ปีที่แล้ว +306

    People are getting smarter. They are giving more thought to the idea of getting married. Getting married or getting a divorce, both should be treated serious matters, be given enough consideration. Why so much hurry to make important decisions of life?

    • @BombshElle_7
      @BombshElle_7 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Amen!

    • @jellymatsuryuka6853
      @jellymatsuryuka6853 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      if both parties know how marriage actually is, the risk of divorce is almost nonexistence.

    • @Sona77.
      @Sona77. ปีที่แล้ว +3

      People rush because they just want kids

    • @علي-ش7ث8ب
      @علي-ش7ث8ب ปีที่แล้ว +5

      life is not eternal and women are infertile by the age 45!!!people are really getting smart

    • @marmedalmond9958
      @marmedalmond9958 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Sona77. why marry. You can adopt one?

  • @Nitra813
    @Nitra813 ปีที่แล้ว +627

    The desire for marriage has not decreased, the risks and costs of getting married and heading a household has greatly increased. Every time I get on Facebook someone is getting engaged or getting married. I do bridal makeup for work and there’s no shortage of brides.
    I believe people have a better understanding what it takes to maintain a HEALTHY marriage and are being smarter about their approach so that means they’re getting married for different reasons and waiting longer to marry.
    The Bible states that “marriage should be honored by all” but there was no commandment for every human being to enter into marriage or childbirth. The stats will change over time so I don’t get hung up on the number TODAY.

    • @jragon9215
      @jragon9215 ปีที่แล้ว

      She’ll take all your money through divorce, alimony, and child support and she will find a way to blame it on a man.

    • @Sveltdre
      @Sveltdre ปีที่แล้ว +131

      Women want to be brides, but not wives. The wedding is a party get together, for her to gloat.

    • @pabloescobarschanclas
      @pabloescobarschanclas ปีที่แล้ว +97

      @@Sveltdre sure, it’s always the woman’s fault…..you realize it takes two to tango, right?

    • @winning3329
      @winning3329 ปีที่แล้ว

      ​@@Random_dud31The menoshpere is toxic and that means you have been polluted and women need to avoid you at all cost.
      You can buy a house plant to keep you company

    • @ppen8359
      @ppen8359 ปีที่แล้ว +33

      It is not desire for marriage but desire for show off.

  • @r.m10234
    @r.m10234 ปีที่แล้ว +53

    I am a 33 years old man, never married. I want to share my experience.
    Sometimes I get bored only because people of my age are busy with daily stuff they got themselves into. If you have friends, a single life could be fun. Many times I think about how I can do stuff which benefit the poor people.

    • @garyoakham9723
      @garyoakham9723 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Just give them your money

    • @ndahiya3730
      @ndahiya3730 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Find a friend (a woman) who can do both, appreciate & criticize you (not in public though). Someone who doesn't stop at speaking of the shortcoming but also tells the solution. Grab her hand and ask her if she is already taken.
      Read some research, long term marriage is about companionship, not 5ex, not money, not anything else.
      In any case, we living being need loving companions. Those who don't have a human, go for pets .... and cry, because cats and dogs have much shorter life spans.

    • @prashnaveetprasad8339
      @prashnaveetprasad8339 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@ndahiya3730animals age better than human
      Human and up in retirement home while
      Animal starts up new game😎

    • @ndahiya3730
      @ndahiya3730 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@prashnaveetprasad8339 Haven't you seen American cats who live longer than 15-16 years or dogs that live longer than 12 years? They just drag themselves. Even if they don't, how many dogs, cats, cows, parrots or other pets have you heard that live past 30 years?
      None except elephant & tortoise. Not many can afford to have an elephant and not many know what to feed a tort or how to keep it cool in a flat.
      So, I repeat my assertion, humans need human companions - friends and relatives. Companions that share a lot of common ground.

  • @sharonh2991
    @sharonh2991 ปีที่แล้ว +381

    I’m a boomer and I was 32 when I got married and my husband was 36. The idea of getting married was always so odd to me, it was something my parents generation did not something I and my friends did. It took me a couple of years to get used to referring to someone as my husband. We’re now in our 60s and I have at least 10 close friends my age who never married and many others who never had children, and none of them regret their choices. I’ve always believed that my generation started the movement to avoid marriage.

    • @azraelfirstofhisname8695
      @azraelfirstofhisname8695 ปีที่แล้ว +41

      Yes starting with no default divorce in the 80s pushed and endorsed by Regan amongst other things…

    • @gilcraftsource
      @gilcraftsource ปีที่แล้ว +13

      ​@@azraelfirstofhisname8695no marriage, more tax, married people pay joint tax so marriages failed when government got involved..

    • @amorepsyche808
      @amorepsyche808 ปีที่แล้ว

      Perfect only rich people will pass their genes to next generation not a bad deal

    • @GlynDwr-d4h
      @GlynDwr-d4h ปีที่แล้ว

      Nah, you started the movement to create a society where young people can no longer afford to start families.

    • @___DJ__
      @___DJ__ ปีที่แล้ว +25

      @@azraelfirstofhisname8695 - no-fault divorce, birth control, legalized abortion, family court, spousal support, and alimony...I think that about sums it up

  • @BombshElle_7
    @BombshElle_7 ปีที่แล้ว +307

    But if people are stilling cohabiting and becoming parents like they're married, they're going to have the same expenses and experiences. So marriage really isn't the problem. Relationships are just challenging in general.

    • @SK-le4lj
      @SK-le4lj ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Agree

    • @tcs07d
      @tcs07d ปีที่แล้ว +39

      You are missing the one aspect of everything and that's the dissolution of marriages. Yes at giving time within cohabitation the cost is exactly the same but when cohabitation relationship end, we don't have to worry about paying two lawyer, court fees etc. No alimony, no losing half of your savings and retirement etc.

    • @bromack3
      @bromack3 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      "Relationships are just challenging in general."
      Yes... and thanks to feminism, relationships are very challenging.

    • @greencandyy6632
      @greencandyy6632 ปีที่แล้ว +34

      People that live together before committing to marriage usually break up and never get married. This is why marriage is not a thing in modern society. The tradition of marriage provides a foundational path toward a long-lasting relationship in binding a woman and a man. People nowadays just date and break up like it's a game.

    • @RR.LL.3B
      @RR.LL.3B ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@tcs07dwell I don’t think that’s fair for housewives unless you are paying them an allowance because where is there promised security

  • @KyudoKun
    @KyudoKun ปีที่แล้ว +86

    Getting married and raising a family is really expensive. Over inflation, lower wages and the impact of pandemic. It's not just a US problem but a global problem..
    Getting married is a luxury, not a privilege nowadays.

    • @sir_evergreen
      @sir_evergreen ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Facts

    • @diohyuga6737
      @diohyuga6737 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      And it’s a luxury that is outdated.

    • @gomahklawm4446
      @gomahklawm4446 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Only a true fool of a man would get married under current laws.

    • @علي-ش7ث8ب
      @علي-ش7ث8ب ปีที่แล้ว +1

      that's just an excuse for being lazy and not wanting to work on a relationship.

    • @علي-ش7ث8ب
      @علي-ش7ث8ب ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@margeryojije7862
      People don't even want children anymore!!!

  • @selfknowledge9560
    @selfknowledge9560 ปีที่แล้ว +314

    In today's world staying single is a wise choice.

    • @andaleangel9510
      @andaleangel9510 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      100% agree with you Mr!

    • @faraon2012
      @faraon2012 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      They are gay or lesb 😮

    • @selfknowledge9560
      @selfknowledge9560 ปีที่แล้ว +51

      @@faraon2012 Even Jesus was single for life. Does it make him gay too?

    • @zazzleq6139
      @zazzleq6139 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

      @@selfknowledge9560 they cannot think 🤭 look at how your question paralysed them

    • @BEACHDUDE71
      @BEACHDUDE71 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Agreed

  • @gloriathomas3245
    @gloriathomas3245 ปีที่แล้ว +204

    My cousin married the girl whom he knew from childhood...and got divorced in less than a year

    • @sigkfred
      @sigkfred ปีที่แล้ว +39

      Seems way too common these days.

    • @whentheimposterissus8376
      @whentheimposterissus8376 ปีที่แล้ว +40

      Same with my brother. Both cheated onto each other within a year. Though my sister in law did it first and my brother out of guilt told her about his sin. My sister in haw played victim card and even we were not supporting our brother but later it was disclosed that she herself was cheating onto him with her gym trainer. And funny thing is both fought with their families to get married 😂

    • @rahulvig5298
      @rahulvig5298 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      ​@@whentheimposterissus8376😂😂

    • @Radiation580
      @Radiation580 ปีที่แล้ว

      Xaxaxaxax😂

    • @matthew_natividad
      @matthew_natividad ปีที่แล้ว

      Ouch

  • @nawsh2252
    @nawsh2252 ปีที่แล้ว +556

    I'm about to turn 40 in a few weeks. I've literally never even been in a situation in which marriage was even a consideration. In part for all the reasons detailed in this video. But also, romance and dating dynamics have changed a lot. Basically everyone my age is in some combination of being traumatized and jaded. Hyper vigilant cautiousness plus option paralysis.
    I already got a vasectomy... Just going to do my thing from here.

    • @4X4ish
      @4X4ish ปีที่แล้ว +9

      I'm sorry you haven't been able to experience that my man.

    • @agnosticmanquestionsall2409
      @agnosticmanquestionsall2409 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@4X4ish We don't want to experience marriage, a gf is no different than a wife, the only thing a wife can do better is rob you blind if she wants.

    • @askeladd60
      @askeladd60 ปีที่แล้ว +127

      ​@@4X4ishexperience what? A failed marriage?

    • @nawsh2252
      @nawsh2252 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      @@askeladd60 hahaha, yeah, you can go ahead and take it there. :D

    • @hoffafiles
      @hoffafiles ปีที่แล้ว +84

      43 in the same boat. I've seen so many of my friends lives ruined from relationships, it has kept me single for the last 20 years. It's lonely, but it is far less stress.

  • @paullin178
    @paullin178 ปีที่แล้ว +185

    Marriage is a commitment with your life. The seriousness of Marriage is not well understood by many before they getting married. The root cause of all chaos is the lack of commitment.

    • @winning3329
      @winning3329 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      Because people especially men don't marry for love they marry for lust and the marriage is doomed

    • @paullin178
      @paullin178 ปีที่แล้ว +42

      @@winning3329 well I that case, I would say women marry rich men just for their divorce share.

    • @OneNiftyBoi
      @OneNiftyBoi ปีที่แล้ว

      Simple and clear.
      That and the financials and risk (especially for men) involved make it difficult to argue for marriage.

    • @stankssmile5865
      @stankssmile5865 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@winning3329lust is served for free even on dating and hook up apps, men don’t need to marry to get it. And women are earning their own money to not fall under subjugation from a man.

    • @conductor6577
      @conductor6577 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      Woman marry for money and whenever that men loses his job, gets sick, or the economy goes into a depression. You can be certain that the divorce paper is not far from her hand.

  • @floshi6519
    @floshi6519 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +24

    Too many risks for men.

  • @saulgoodman2018
    @saulgoodman2018 ปีที่แล้ว +175

    Marriage is not for everyone.

    • @gomahklawm4446
      @gomahklawm4446 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      Only a true fool of a man would get married under the current law.

    • @briancalifornia1
      @briancalifornia1 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@gomahklawm4446 seems like they are a lot of them out there turning the blind eye knowing that the woman they are engaged to, for any reason or anytime beyond their control , can take half their finances, and put a claim on all their future earnings, and be paying her alimony the rest of their lives, and have their life financially destroyed

    • @Amadeus_Eisenberg
      @Amadeus_Eisenberg 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Marriage is for no one. There are increasing amounts of things that people do that are for no one.

    • @kwolf2145
      @kwolf2145 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Especially not for western simps.

  • @aritraakhastagir4737
    @aritraakhastagir4737 ปีที่แล้ว +224

    If people can't support a family, it's wise not to marry. I mean really, why make your own and other people's lives miserable. I'm from West Bengal in India. Most families here, have the mindset that one must marry irrespective of their income. People are convinced and pressurized into getting married. Not marrying is almost viewed as being abnormal. :(

    • @kzal421
      @kzal421 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Hi there...from Kerala. Although here presently age of marriage is getting pushed . I know many people especially women who are afraid of getting married - if they are from liberal family , financially secure they are atleast un married until 30. That's the prst gen... don't know whether it will change

    • @perpetualprocrastinator
      @perpetualprocrastinator ปีที่แล้ว +15

      People are starting to realize a boogeyman called 498A

    • @krox477
      @krox477 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      People who have failed marriages advice others to get married the irony

    • @Letsgo-sg4cy
      @Letsgo-sg4cy ปีที่แล้ว +10

      I am also from West Bengal (kolkata). Cheating is everywhere. People are afraid to get married

    • @perpetualprocrastinator
      @perpetualprocrastinator ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@Letsgo-sg4cy Not only cheating. Betrayal can come in many forms and in the end that is the only feeling left behind that matters ......Feeling Betrayed.

  • @johnshafer7214
    @johnshafer7214 ปีที่แล้ว +321

    Marriage and a college degree has become the biggest, worthless, overrated and useless piece of paper. I did both and regretted both. When you reward irrational behavior, you get the mess we are dealing with now.

    • @winning3329
      @winning3329 ปีที่แล้ว +53

      Sounds like you made some bad decisions and now instead of doing some self reflection you just blame everyone else.

    • @tringuyen7519
      @tringuyen7519 ปีที่แล้ว +32

      My college degrees were BSEE & MSEE from Georgia Tech. My professional career was lucrative. What was your college degree? English Literature? Art History?

    • @johnshafer7214
      @johnshafer7214 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      @@tringuyen7519 it was in science. Most of my friends in the science degrees are also doing something they could have done straight out of high school.

    • @polarisss148
      @polarisss148 ปีที่แล้ว

      ❤❤❤❤

    • @MrWood-qd6kr
      @MrWood-qd6kr ปีที่แล้ว +16

      I’m married with a college degree and doing well. Definitely blessed.

  • @simonmarshall19
    @simonmarshall19 ปีที่แล้ว +33

    This is why I don’t ever wanna get married at all . Cause here in Canada divorce rates are going up . Plus it’s a waste of space and money .

  • @Rayji10
    @Rayji10 ปีที่แล้ว +372

    I think we're living in a moment of history that more than never people are questioning the status quo and not committing themselves in social expected behaviors, but looking much more for meaning and real joy. Marriage most of the time in history was set as duty rather than a joyful experience.

    • @gomahklawm4446
      @gomahklawm4446 ปีที่แล้ว

      Exactly. Because the ruling class wants to have people to send to war. Plain and simple.

    • @michaeljeffery7466
      @michaeljeffery7466 ปีที่แล้ว +41

      I'd add to that people are lost. The culture has derailed traditional pathways.

    • @thomasward00
      @thomasward00 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Marriage isn't about Happiness, never has been... It's about Family and Duty.... Women are the ones who pay the most, they age out and are washed up by 35-40, whereas Men regularly get married well into their 60's...
      Men make a lot more money than Women

    • @boston312
      @boston312 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      well said

    • @JB-kx9bx
      @JB-kx9bx ปีที่แล้ว +33

      ​@@thomasward00 The average woman in her mid 30s still getting more dates than the average guy of any age. Also if you look at average income for the 30 yrs old an under women now make more than men.

  • @EmJea
    @EmJea ปีที่แล้ว +134

    My thoughts:
    1) Advent of Internet and on demand entertainment leads to less need for companionship
    2) Building on above point, social media is like a 24x7 night club - worst thing to happen to us
    3) Rising costs coupled by expensive education - leading to low skills and low salary and practically zero savings rate
    4) Women doing really well for themselves (which is awesome) compared to 50 years back which unfortunately makes them not super attracted to the pool of men from above point
    5) Inter culture marriages/relationships leading to cultural norms fading away from next gen a lot of which included settling down with a family
    6) Having a child is really expensive - businesses have made sure of that

    • @cniht
      @cniht ปีที่แล้ว +18

      You forgot the most important one. Divorce. The legal consequences of divorce punish men ruthlessly and can literally lead to destroying their entire lives.

    • @HesiJimboSplash
      @HesiJimboSplash ปีที่แล้ว +2

      This is how i feel too. Consta

    • @sarahillingworth9257
      @sarahillingworth9257 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Your points are spot on!

    • @RedAndTheCompany567
      @RedAndTheCompany567 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Spot-on. I agree with everything you just mentioned. The only thing missing is divorce. Other than that I see things exactly the same way.

    • @Frivals
      @Frivals 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Number 2 is the most accurate. And females only gain from that.
      🤦‍♂️The reason is not economical, if is expensive a married life then how can people survive with only 1 salary alone?
      the reason is because the current zeitgeist is a war against males.
      In Muslim countries they are in similar economic problems but there is no problem with marriages because there is no war against males.

  • @Robert-mz9hi
    @Robert-mz9hi ปีที่แล้ว +247

    I'm 44 years old, never married, no children. I've been single since 2009 and loving it. I'm staying single as long as I live.

    • @mauser8515
      @mauser8515 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Enjoy your cats.

    • @Robert-mz9hi
      @Robert-mz9hi ปีที่แล้ว +61

      @@mauser8515 Nope I have no cats. Plus when I die, my nephews will inherit everything I have. So, I will have a legacy.

    • @mauser8515
      @mauser8515 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      @@Robert-mz9hi that’s not a legacy. Your nephews will become custodians of your stuff. A legacy is a transfer of genetics, ideas, and traditions. It’s not simply a transfer of “stuff”.

    • @Robert-mz9hi
      @Robert-mz9hi ปีที่แล้ว +79

      @@mauser8515 My nephews share my genes, ideas, and have the same tradition as I do. I taught them how to run my business. I gave them knowledge. I order to run a business, you have to know how to run it. They share the same genes as me and my brother who's their father and will carry on my last name.

    • @gsxr1189
      @gsxr1189 ปีที่แล้ว +31

      ​@@mauser8515 Enjoy working until it's almost time to die to financially recover from the 60% divorce rate.

  • @Me97202
    @Me97202 ปีที่แล้ว +134

    Not being married and not having kids allowed me to retire at age 58. And I took fabulous vacations, enjoyed 5 star restaurants and dated a lot of women. I had those things plus my *solitude* whenever I want.
    And I’ve never seen a marriage that I envy.

    • @2up2care38
      @2up2care38 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Yes! I'll be retired at 49. Kids would not allow that.

    • @yajas4900
      @yajas4900 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      But after you who will be your heir?

    • @Vincent-en8kp
      @Vincent-en8kp ปีที่แล้ว +2

      What a sad life you've had

    • @Jabrownie23
      @Jabrownie23 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@yajas4900 It'll be like Mr. Burns, he'll hold an audition.

    • @steveburke7675
      @steveburke7675 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      @@yajas4900 Who cares?

  • @poetry-and-protest
    @poetry-and-protest ปีที่แล้ว +85

    What a shallow treatment of an important topic. The decline of marriage needs to be discussed but it has nothing to do with the price of a wedding cake.

    • @user-xo5dc6hf7c
      @user-xo5dc6hf7c ปีที่แล้ว +3

      It’s the ring! I can’t afford a cake after buying the ring.

    • @89playstation65
      @89playstation65 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      And she can't accept a wedding ring from Walmart? What matters is the ring is a symbol of love. Not how much it costs or where it came from.

    • @salmanazhar5306
      @salmanazhar5306 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      they don't want to admit that marriage is declining because of men getting wrecked in divorce courts

    • @honkhonk5181
      @honkhonk5181 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yeah it has more to do with the fact that the women have become so toxic and difficult to deal with. You can barely say hello to girls anymore without them thinking you’re some kind of creepy psycho. In fact, in the UK you can actually be jailed for no more than looking at them. Not kidding, that’s actually a thing now!

    • @riodweber
      @riodweber ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Did you only watch the first 1 minute of this video? Lol

  • @lavieestunsonge4541
    @lavieestunsonge4541 ปีที่แล้ว +310

    The decline of marriage isn’t just about the economic implications so often spouted. It’s also due to the way society is changing. People have more outlets and opportunities to venture out and explore more options than in the past. Also, the nasty legal disputes that may arise from a divorce. If two people really, truly love each other, it ought to be stronger than a label and a piece of paper.

    • @honkhonk5181
      @honkhonk5181 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      True, but instead of saying people have more outlets and opportunities, I’d say it’s women specifically that have all the options. Otherwise why would damn near two thirds of young men be single?

    • @CyberSecurityFashionDesigner
      @CyberSecurityFashionDesigner ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@honkhonk5181women don’t have many options with age lol I think men have all the options

    • @sir_evergreen
      @sir_evergreen ปีที่แล้ว +1

      ​@@CyberSecurityFashionDesignerthank you

    • @CyberSecurityFashionDesigner
      @CyberSecurityFashionDesigner ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@sir_evergreen anytime!

    • @honkhonk5181
      @honkhonk5181 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@CyberSecurityFashionDesigner yes with age you start dropping in sexual desirability but hey, at least you got to ride the cc in your 20s unlike us men who’re lucky to get any action or female attention at all ever. The reason so many men are single is because the women are, according to the stats, only going after the top ten percent of guys and not giving anyone else a chance.

  • @skyblue5509
    @skyblue5509 ปีที่แล้ว +54

    My wife through false allegations of child abuse tried to win divorce and put me into prison. She won temporary custody. After 3.5 years the court cleared me of initial accusation, but now my children who used to love me don't want to see me at all. The ex spouse didn’t get any punishment for false allegations. It cost me a lot of money to fight in courts to clear my name. Too sad the system is one sided. I lost all my faith in justice. The social workers from department of children who initially believed all words without any proof didn’t lose their jobs either. They ruined my relationship with children.

    • @michaelchoi5247
      @michaelchoi5247 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      very sorry to hear, but I suggest you start looking into improving your consciousness and entering into spirituality to make life more meaningful. Trust me just give it a chance to seek yourself and your true purpose my friend. Hope all is well.

    • @proph9916
      @proph9916 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      The same happened to me. Except she also acused me of domestic violence

    • @Ekam-Sat
      @Ekam-Sat 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I agree but we shouldn’t ignore these things are happening either.

    • @boston312
      @boston312 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      The divorce lawyers and social workers are there to.make money off of you. Your mistake was trusting the system to began with

  • @scottmescudi3423
    @scottmescudi3423 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

    Getting married in our day and age is simply the biggest blunder you can make as a man, it’s a trash deal with literally the risk of financial ruin, depression, endless divorce procedures, etc but almost zero upsides. Not to mention the global decline in the quality of women in the West.

  • @akashzz4347
    @akashzz4347 ปีที่แล้ว +146

    The desire to marry has not decreased, may be even increased.
    what changed is cost of living...there was a time when one person income can sustain a family, now...despite two people working, people are barely meeting their ends needs

    • @chetan257
      @chetan257 ปีที่แล้ว

      Just because you are poor ..everyone is ..
      I am rich enough .. and my friends are even richer than me ..
      Laws are against men … women cheats alot ..
      So men are avoiding marriage

    • @coleengoodell7523
      @coleengoodell7523 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Exactly!

    • @MrWood-qd6kr
      @MrWood-qd6kr ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Other, more important reasons.

    • @karenmonson9893
      @karenmonson9893 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      This is true.

    • @jenfoster128
      @jenfoster128 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      It isn't the cost of living it is people's expectation of their standard of living. My grandparents had 8 kids. In a 3bed 1bath house. Only one car. My grandmother stayed home and my grandfather worked. They went out to dinner twice a year. For their anniversary and on my grandmother's birthday so she didn't have to cook. When they went on 'vacation' it was to visit relatives so they had a place to stay for free. But people today think not having two cars, an ensuite bathroom and each child not having their own room is unacceptable. People could still easily live on one income if they chose to but they want more things.

  • @trigganometry168
    @trigganometry168 ปีที่แล้ว +156

    I’ve been with my high school sweet heart for almost 30 year. Not married and we are both happy as can be.

    • @winning3329
      @winning3329 ปีที่แล้ว +31

      Until your sweetheart finds someone better then that person is free to walk away with absolutely no strings attached.
      I've seen this alot

    • @mr.anderson4755
      @mr.anderson4755 ปีที่แล้ว

      Don't listen to "winning". She ain't winning like you are. She lives in fear and wants to trap a man against his will for her own security. Abandonment issues probably. Cheers to 30 more years.

    • @steph6109
      @steph6109 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      You should check common law marraige laws in your area.
      You sound like someone who doesn't have much but she'll still get half

    • @TsiHang
      @TsiHang ปีที่แล้ว +27

      ​@@winning3329How does a marriage help in this situation?

    • @KG-ii2yx
      @KG-ii2yx ปีที่แล้ว +16

      @@winning3329 who hurt you

  • @Rumade
    @Rumade ปีที่แล้ว +97

    Marriage only works if you're honest about it from the complete beginning. When my husband and I met, we were honest about everything- what we both wanted (kids), what the financial situation was, anything else that we needed to know for the future. We didn't blindly fall in love and then go "hehehe let's get married!". There were practical considerations, like visa issues, to consider- we're from different countries and currently living in mine but plan to return to his. Without a spouse visa, it would be difficult to return.
    Plus in his country, children outside of marriage is frowned on.

    • @علي-ش7ث8ب
      @علي-ش7ث8ب ปีที่แล้ว +5

      business as usual.

    • @ndahiya3730
      @ndahiya3730 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      bless your common sense.

    • @TheHamburgler123
      @TheHamburgler123 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Sounds perfectly reasonable and level headed. So many couples just "wing it" and don't even bother to imagine what their relationship will look like as it progresses. It's absolute insanity.

  • @musaib34
    @musaib34 ปีที่แล้ว +116

    People are not running away from marriage. They are running away from divorce.

    • @memebro3181
      @memebro3181 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Those are same thing. Divorce can't happen if there is no marriage.

    • @musaib34
      @musaib34 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@memebro3181 divorce laws are the problem not marriage.

    • @memebro3181
      @memebro3181 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@musaib34 Without marriage there won't be divorce and divorce laws. Let two consenting adults do w/e they want. They don't need marriage.

    • @smh6016
      @smh6016 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Bingo! Men want marriage…. But not the divorce. Women want….. everything, bring nothing and stand to gain in divorce.

    • @Ekam-Sat
      @Ekam-Sat 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yes. Also that 70% of divorces are filed by women… I mean what the heck.

  • @Ghost-Rider667
    @Ghost-Rider667 ปีที่แล้ว +84

    I'm 36 years old, I have no kids and never been married. I just never saw the benefits in being married.

    • @danhilarious1395
      @danhilarious1395 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      I’m 36 also I’m thinking free agent for life

    • @0fficialselena__90
      @0fficialselena__90 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      I'm only 20 years old and even younger than that, I never really saw the benefit in it either.

    • @bratzboyz
      @bratzboyz ปีที่แล้ว +21

      I'm 40 years old, and let me tell you...single life is AWESOME! 🥳

    • @jdzajdza
      @jdzajdza ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Wait until you hit 40 years old. Friends are not permanent. Family is

    • @mlg1279
      @mlg1279 ปีที่แล้ว +32

      ​@@jdzajdzaThere are a lot of old people, who are married and have children but still end up in old age homes.

  • @Anotherhumanexisting
    @Anotherhumanexisting ปีที่แล้ว +93

    I think it’s trauma/attachment/loneliness. Personally I had an emotionally neglectful childhood and have not been able to figure out how to maintain a stable healthy relationship. I have no interest in getting married because I do not trust.

    • @winning3329
      @winning3329 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Every man I dated has walked out on me, why would I risk putting effort in a man and risk him walking away and another woman reaping the benefits

    • @jj4774ns-te5px
      @jj4774ns-te5px ปีที่แล้ว +7

      We all ought to work on ourselves and strive to become better as person.
      True, one first needs to be on the way to get healed (doesn't need to be fully healed, but that shall be the set direction) , then get into a relationship.

    • @embo_5787
      @embo_5787 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@jj4774ns-te5px this is like the only comment I've seen I saw based in self accountability and actionable steps and not fear and loathing

    • @Racko.
      @Racko. ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@winning3329 If EVERY man you dated has walked out on you when you were such a perfect angel then you're not telling ppl something that you must of done for that to happen

    • @علي-ش7ث8ب
      @علي-ش7ث8ب ปีที่แล้ว

      that's simply wrong,it's the opposite marriage is your cure.

  • @simonpegg1196
    @simonpegg1196 ปีที่แล้ว +63

    I feel that following are the reasons people around the world are not interested in getting married: -
    1) General chaos in the world. In one word - instability. 2) Inflation 3) Job uncertainty 4) Trust issues 5) Unwillingness from either partner to sacrifice their needs 6) In case of a couple having children, unwillingness of older generations to lend a hand in raising their grandchildren 7) Lack of flow of money down generations.

    • @LucasFernandez-fk8se
      @LucasFernandez-fk8se ปีที่แล้ว

      8) high straight divorce rates. LGB divorce rates are lower but the heteros have a 50/50 shot basically of divorcing. With it being difficult to get married in the first place Listing 1-7 I don’t think the straights (90%+ the population) are going to be any more incentivized too go into marriages that have a 50% failure rate

    • @krox477
      @krox477 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Lack of awareness on mental health

    • @evilds3261
      @evilds3261 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@krox477When things reach a head, it seems like many people will be caught "unawares."

    • @gouthamvarma381
      @gouthamvarma381 ปีที่แล้ว

      rigged family courts against men

    • @TheHamburgler123
      @TheHamburgler123 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I think number six has to due more with the fractured nature of families these days. Kids grow up, go to college and find jobs half way across the country. Children aren't living in the near proximity of their parents as often as they once did.

  • @momogoes3329
    @momogoes3329 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    If Japan wants more people to marry they need to increase wages and restrict working hours. People don't have the time or resources to raise a child.

  • @krizel2447
    @krizel2447 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    Saw a video before saying that in the past getting married was the beginning of the couple’s journey, now it is seen as the end.

  • @melliott3681
    @melliott3681 ปีที่แล้ว +189

    Marriage is not worth the financial risk, nor the financial reality (nor the emotional angst, and I can say the same for having children too). I divorced over 20 years ago. It was one of the best financial and emotional decisions I made. Honestly, I hope this trend continues. The American government and US corporations need to realize they can only wrangle so much money from us before we change and adapt so living doesn't cost so much or have such a detrimental effect on our happiness. And the video stated governments are worried about the economic consequences....well, you could have helped to prevent this from coming by regulating the cost of goods and services so people can afford to marry, raise kids, and live decent lives!! But, nope, profit over people was the mindset of governments and corporations all over the world, and this is the result. Duh...it's not rocket science.

    • @bromack3
      @bromack3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      "u could have helped to prevent this from coming by regulating the cost of goods and services so people can afford to marry, raise kids, and live decent lives!"
      There are more financial incentives for being an unmarried single mother than supporting a 2 parent household. I've always that a rather odd way to handle marriage and producing children.

    • @gonnacry4513
      @gonnacry4513 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      ​@@bromack3The thing which is rewarded in the generation is what most people end up doing, isn't it

    • @brutustantheiii8477
      @brutustantheiii8477 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@bromack3EXACTLY

    • @sandrajackson709
      @sandrajackson709 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@bromack3 It shouldn't be about incentives when it comes to marriage and having children andt to encourage population growth. It's about an individual having options available to them regardless of their decision to be married, not be married, or not to remain in a marriage where no happiness is to be found, or when it comes to deciding whether or not to have children. Marriage and children is too big of a commitment, a lifelong commitment when children are involved so no coercion of any type should be imposed on anyone

    • @melliott3681
      @melliott3681 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      @@bromack3 There are no incentives for being an unmarried single mother. There is only financial government assistance. Why? Because America is a society that allows its males to impregnate a woman then walk away with no financial responsibility for the child. There is only a small amount of government assistance that ensures single women raising children live in poverty. And you're mad about that? You should compare the amount of money our government spends on assisting singles mothers vs. how much they fund for our military. The majority of our taxes go towards having the world's biggest military force. A military that is there for job and career purposes, mainly for the males of our country who can also use this to pay for college. But you're mad about a little assistance going to unmarried single mothers? Unbelievable!

  • @prashantkumarsrivastava1977
    @prashantkumarsrivastava1977 ปีที่แล้ว +39

    I am part of a generation that can't afford to get married, the cost of marriage is almost catching up to buy a house, I don't own a house, so the choice is simple own a home in near future or get married and push that 20 years forward. Plus other expenses, they add up a lot. Maybe tak to less than top 10% of people and you will get answer. It's too costly to marry 9or have families, just too damn costly.

    • @tikifreaky5204
      @tikifreaky5204 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      A costly wedding ceremony is completely unnecessary. Go to the court house & get married at low cost. Any women who demands a costly ceremony does not value marriage but values the social status. Don’t marry a woman like this , she’ll likely divorce u.

    • @CatholicTraditional
      @CatholicTraditional ปีที่แล้ว

      @@tikifreaky5204It costs a lot more to be married and have kids than the wedding.

    • @misssterling3094
      @misssterling3094 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@CatholicTraditional The living expenses will still exist though. A marriage does make living more costly.

  • @natashasingha0078
    @natashasingha0078 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Divorce broke my brother in to pieces Those pieces couldn’t be put back together. He ended up dying in Hospice.

  • @mainman2256
    @mainman2256 ปีที่แล้ว +36

    Flat out don’t want government or religion involved in my relationships but also we have made societies that make it hard just to provide a decent life for one’s self. We have made societies that prioritize financial economies funneling money up for a few instead of quality of life for most people. We have been, and will continue, actively making it the way it is.

    • @gomahklawm4446
      @gomahklawm4446 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      That's capitalism. It's going to get SO much worse.

    • @evilds3261
      @evilds3261 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@gomahklawm4446Yeah, low supply and high demand results in the price for the supply going high. Thus, if there are fewer young people than there are old people, then young people could give their services to the highest bidder and have the retired folk compete for their services. Also, if profit becomes the most important thing, then if a job is not profitable for a worker, then they have no incentive to work or keep working at their job. If you are required to spend more than you earn, you are not making a profit.

  • @wdhubb
    @wdhubb ปีที่แล้ว +51

    It's not rocket science. Men dont want to get screwed by the divorce laws and the family courts.

    • @jayluis189
      @jayluis189 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      YES. The only fuckin comment on here that says that. Idk if this channel is deleting comments or something but yeah, it's Obvious af.

    • @Greentrees60
      @Greentrees60 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      And women have to work and don't want to get home act like moms to their spouses as well as their kids (especially in Asia).

    • @lancerussell755
      @lancerussell755 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@jayluis189 Not deleting, that isnt part of the feminist woke agenda.

    • @lyamorian767
      @lyamorian767 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      You know what, it can happen to women too. I supported by husband for years while he was half- heartedly getting a degree, and when he had it, he divorced me and got haf of my money, so... yeah, I shouldnt have supported him in the first place and it was my fault that I did, but reading thia narrative that it is only men who pay upsets me

    • @lancerussell755
      @lancerussell755 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      @@lyamorian767 on average it’s the men that usually get screwed. Because of the dynamic of marriage, men don’t like women making more, and women don’t like men making less. So your dynamic is uncommon. Just accept it as karma for all the men that get screwed!

  • @bn8579
    @bn8579 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    It doesn’t work. We know this. Majority of those married are miserable

  • @stevier3510
    @stevier3510 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Divorce financially crippled me. Because we had children, and she got custody, she got most of the cash and prizes. It's not 50/50. I wouldn't get married again in the West.

    • @stevier3510
      @stevier3510 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @reader-tested Not in the Philippines as they don't have divorce (Also the Vatican doesn't have divorce but not much to do there!)

  • @sigmarules9429
    @sigmarules9429 ปีที่แล้ว +139

    Historically speaking, Marriage is a kings arrangement to ensure stable population for military and work.

    • @olivur_1459
      @olivur_1459 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Historically speaking, who are you to talk?

    • @olivur_1459
      @olivur_1459 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@DisasterService both you and him

    • @sigmarules9429
      @sigmarules9429 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@olivur_1459 whats your problem?

    • @hobbithallows
      @hobbithallows ปีที่แล้ว

      True
      Biased against women earlier
      Now it’s biased against men
      Scam should stop

    • @angiedoe597
      @angiedoe597 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@olivur_1459ask yourself that question! Just like you have the freedom to comment, so does that person 🤷🏻‍♀️

  • @zippy_uk1046
    @zippy_uk1046 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    As a man, you have a choice in 2023:
    A) Marry some entitled, bombed out and ungrateful woman who resents not marrying the rich guy/6.2 chad she dated in her 20s while feels entitled to cash you out in Divorce while you don't get to see your kids and even if she does not, you get to see her SMV decline while maintaince sex dries up
    OR
    B) Avoid the divorce disaster, still get sex, date younger women, be free, retire early and you can still be a father and have the same rights as if you were married to your children - NONE
    AS A MAN IN THE WEST, DON'T GET MARRIED

    • @theredstar6493
      @theredstar6493 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Follow option B as a man in India and now you're getting charged under grape on the pretext of false promise to marry!
      They'd also not let you adopt a child as long as you're a single heterosexual man (mind you this is the same judiciary which is fighting to legalise same sex marriage & allow homosexual men to adopt as per their wish)

    • @zippy_uk1046
      @zippy_uk1046 ปีที่แล้ว

      India, fines as it people are, is not part of the West.

  • @shubhammaheshwari7139
    @shubhammaheshwari7139 ปีที่แล้ว +366

    Say no to marriage and yes to stress free and happy life❤

    • @sainadhreddy1762
      @sainadhreddy1762 ปีที่แล้ว +46

      Well said save money and travel world
      😅

    • @jonathancue1584
      @jonathancue1584 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Amen

    • @midi6615
      @midi6615 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      I agree 👍

    • @matthew_natividad
      @matthew_natividad ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@sainadhreddy1762I’m just trying to save up atm

    • @arnoldshmitt4969
      @arnoldshmitt4969 ปีที่แล้ว +42

      @@artby1285 better lonely than stuck in a failing marriage where your partner hates you .

  • @IAMYUNGGAF
    @IAMYUNGGAF ปีที่แล้ว +10

    The fact that they started calculating how much a fancy wedding cost at the beginning shows why most marriages shouldnt happen. Does not take all that for a real commitment. That is a show

  • @OnlineSchoolofEnglish
    @OnlineSchoolofEnglish ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Who in their right mind would want to bring a child into this world? Has anyone taken notice of the pollution piling high? Wars, famines, economic uncertainty, climate change? Medical care and education are for the privileged class... Vocational courses (e.g.: HVAC, electrician, plumbing, etc) cost a fortune... How can the working class carve a living? And as if that weren't enough, the EU Parliament--the Dutch in particular--have been forcing farms to shut down and are imposing the introduction of insects as a food source to replace meat! Don't take my word for it. Google it!

  • @specialiseesi6746
    @specialiseesi6746 ปีที่แล้ว +126

    I´ve always run away from marriage. But going from relationship to relationship is terribly exhausting emotionally. You need someone for the long haul.
    And in my country (Brazil) I know lots and lots of very solid and long marriages. Actually the vast majority of people around me. I don´t see marriage declining here.

    • @sly_g
      @sly_g ปีที่แล้ว +20

      People still need each other after all. It's only natural.

    • @keizelharf5393
      @keizelharf5393 ปีที่แล้ว

      Honest question, but why you exhausting? Is it about wedding's budget or another problem?

    • @bn8579
      @bn8579 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Because people in religious countries would rather stay in miserable marriages than divorce because it’s a “sin”

    • @ifuknjk
      @ifuknjk ปีที่แล้ว +3

      get a dog

    • @jkardez4794
      @jkardez4794 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@ifuknjk Dogs are not financially secure .

  • @___beyondhorizon4664
    @___beyondhorizon4664 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    She bought a wedding cake for this report instead of just checking the price 😅 I see....
    During the end of my college semester, my friend asked me to be her bridesmaid, suddenly I realized that I have to spend my savings on her wedding. I was planning to visit Japan and see my family. So I told her I can't participate in her wedding buying special dress which only to be worn once and logistics and hotel etc. I went to Japan for the first time instead, I worked hard to save up for this bucket list. We haven't lost contact since.
    I don't understand why people want to drain friends budget on destination wedding, by forcing people to the place they like.

  • @poppopw5305
    @poppopw5305 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    "Marriage is a diabolical leverage game in the US. Devoid of religious significance or the idea of love, marriage is nothing but an awful contract that you shouldn't sign" - Dave Chappelle

  • @elitechampion
    @elitechampion ปีที่แล้ว +34

    In Australia you don't have this choice. Once you live with someone for a year or two romantically, you are in a de facto marriage which is identical to a real marriage within Australian borders. It's important to choose the right partner, one that doesn't believe in divorce (quite a rare find these days).

    • @herrwahnsinn4229
      @herrwahnsinn4229 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Why would you ever let a woman live with you?

    • @burmesepython393
      @burmesepython393 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      In Canada, it’s 6 months

    • @brutustantheiii8477
      @brutustantheiii8477 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@burmesepython393I thought it was 2 years? In any case thanks for the update and I wouldn’t risk ANY time

    • @humansvd3269
      @humansvd3269 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yeah, Australia loves to extract money from men.

    • @eldios831
      @eldios831 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      This is wby i advice..everyone has their own home...companionship is never far away...best if you go for the most not great looking chiks😜

  • @chapelknight951
    @chapelknight951 ปีที่แล้ว +617

    Man, I love how responsible Japan is.

    • @rattlehead999
      @rattlehead999 ปีที่แล้ว +49

      Responsible how?

    • @insomniacresurrected1000
      @insomniacresurrected1000 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      😂

    • @sparc4ux
      @sparc4ux ปีที่แล้ว +167

      @@rattlehead999 Very low child out of wedlock unlike the US.

    • @solaris5922
      @solaris5922 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      @@weird-guy true 💀

    • @shaaravguha3760
      @shaaravguha3760 ปีที่แล้ว +32

      @@weird-guy Not necessarily true. The main reason the birthrates are so low is because they haven't allowed immigrants (who generally bring it up) into the country.

  • @RockyMaiviaMiami
    @RockyMaiviaMiami ปีที่แล้ว +27

    It’s a bad deal. Sex is free to women. Women make similar money but desire a man that makes more than her. She can access this man but it does not make sense to marry her as most women want him. The men women want see women as a liability and most women see most men as undesirable and most men either aren’t desired by their equal or gave up.
    Family court is another issue as it does not take into account new social norms and many times promotes behavior to take advantage of the system rather than support the growth of the people.

  • @dixonyaarmouf4630
    @dixonyaarmouf4630 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    Men… never marry them, there are no unicorns. Never get leveraged and always protect your finances.

  • @csu111
    @csu111 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    Interesting they didn't mention any divorce demographics or family courts and the injustices that arise from them.

    • @lancerussell755
      @lancerussell755 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Because that would be anti women, and that's a big no no is 2023

  • @donaldcodes
    @donaldcodes ปีที่แล้ว +37

    1. Too expensive
    2. alimony and child support payments suck
    3. divorce also sucks

  • @enid9911
    @enid9911 ปีที่แล้ว +42

    When a man marries all that awaits him is alimony and child support. Why should he do it?

    • @MsSemki
      @MsSemki ปีที่แล้ว +13

      If for a man the worst fear is to support his children, he's not worth to be married to in the first place. Shame!

    • @enid9911
      @enid9911 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      @@MsSemki The money is based on a man's income, so sometimes the mother will receive unreasonable amounts of money on top of the fact that the law doesn't even say it has to be used on the children.

    • @nastyayoyo4963
      @nastyayoyo4963 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Men: don't want to marry because of fear of divorce, alimony and child support --> solution is to sign pre-nup
      Women: don't want to marry because wives are often seen as primarily responsible for taking care of children and the house / household chores, may lose careers (especially in Asia), hence losing financial independence and freedom --> solution is to change society? A lot more difficult to do.
      Edit: the reasons mentioned in the video about men being less marriageable because of modern service-based economies apply.
      Lack of trust seem to be prevalent for both sides. Women --> feel that men are just interested in sex or taking advantage of them. Men --> feel that women are just interested in money or ripping the men off. Hence both genders steer clear from one another.

    • @workingshlub8861
      @workingshlub8861 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      @@MsSemki going to jail because he cant pay the insane amount of support so his ex can get 300$ haircuts while the kids has ragged dirty clothes and shoes that dont fit......yea that is a shame

    • @machupikachu1085
      @machupikachu1085 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@MsSemki supporting your children means being there for them. Mommy taking their money and spending it on what she deems important? Shame!

  • @Edward-zw9ld
    @Edward-zw9ld 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    For MEN: the juice isnt worth the squeeze, especially in Cali.🎉

  • @EZurg
    @EZurg ปีที่แล้ว +18

    NEVER SIGN A CONTRACT WHERE THE OTHER PARTY SIGNIFICANTLY BENEFITS FROM BREAKING IT.

  • @dalskiBo
    @dalskiBo ปีที่แล้ว +21

    Quality of life has greatly diminished - people are having the most basic enjoyments placed outside their reach, and the rich keep getting richer...

    • @coldones9505
      @coldones9505 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Quality of life was destroyed because of all the money that was printed off during the imaginary pandemic that people were swindled into believing in by politicians and their beloved doctors and scientists.

  • @chailatecookies7341
    @chailatecookies7341 ปีที่แล้ว +44

    I enjoy my alone time and peace as being alone doesn’t always mean being lonely . I love it here ❤❤

    • @gomahklawm4446
      @gomahklawm4446 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      304^^^^

    • @chailatecookies7341
      @chailatecookies7341 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@gomahklawm4446 We all know you are lol

    • @dodji582
      @dodji582 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Lie

    • @DeadPiixxel
      @DeadPiixxel 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@chailatecookies7341 you're a ex 304

  • @commentatorxyz5514
    @commentatorxyz5514 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    The comments section is far more informative on this topic than the CNBC video.

  • @spaghettiking7312
    @spaghettiking7312 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    People are so alone and can barely meet anyone in the first place. Then there's the matter that everyone's wages are stagnant, yet the price of everything is up (especially housing and weddings). Then there's the fact that there's a 50% divorce rate, and people have so little money that they consider having one child torture at this point. And their child probably will be even more depressed than they are once they come of age. Our society is a mockery, and people can barely survive in it, physically, mentally or socially.

  • @jukio02
    @jukio02 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    Half of the people I know are either divorced, getting divorced or getting close to a divorce. One couple actually decided not to get a divorce but are separated because one person in the relationship doesn't want to pay alimony.

    • @jonathanjacobs5783
      @jonathanjacobs5783 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      It must be the woman that will pay alimony.. LOL

    • @jukio02
      @jukio02 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      @@jonathanjacobs5783 It is. 😂

    • @jonathanjacobs5783
      @jonathanjacobs5783 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@jukio02 Hahahahahhaahhahahahahaha

    • @Kyle906-Q8
      @Kyle906-Q8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Lmao yep probably thr woman. I completely understand why ANYONE would want to avoid paying alimony.

    • @AHLDN
      @AHLDN ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Same the ladies I know they got a divorce and the man hasn’t seeing kids and they pay child support or some ladies I know are working on getting a divorce.

  • @HarrisPilton789
    @HarrisPilton789 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    Because being married to the wrong person sucks!!!!!

  • @FirstHandLLC
    @FirstHandLLC ปีที่แล้ว +74

    I got married when I was 22, divorced at 24. Very glad I experienced marriage while I was young, poor and stupid so now I don’t have to. I’m almost 39 now, own a successful business and there is no way I would risk a single dollar of it by getting married, worked way too hard for it! So my advice for young people is, get married while you have nothing, this way you’ll know your wife is not marrying you for your money or don’t do it at all, you won’t miss anything! You can have a serious relationship and kids without getting married.

    • @patriktoth6258
      @patriktoth6258 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Your failure is someone else's success. Thank you for the advice

    • @peteranon8455
      @peteranon8455 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      You wouldn't risk your business now, but you'd advocate for people to lose their business still? That makes zero sense to anyone who starts a business.

    • @FirstHandLLC
      @FirstHandLLC ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@peteranon8455 Where did I say that? I said if you really want to get married, do it while you don’t own anything, but you are better not getting married at all as it does nothing for you !

    • @bl1429
      @bl1429 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      My Aunt and Uncle didn't get married until he was on his deathbed, so she could collect his Finacial benefits.

    • @thrashingmetal
      @thrashingmetal ปีที่แล้ว

      Get married without papers

  • @d.l.hemmingway3758
    @d.l.hemmingway3758 ปีที่แล้ว +41

    Marriage is obsolete in modern times.

  • @maribelle7673
    @maribelle7673 ปีที่แล้ว +283

    Marriage and kids are highly overrated🤷‍♀️ The single life is HEAVEN😎

    • @kimberlyperrotis8962
      @kimberlyperrotis8962 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      I agree🙂

    • @conductor6577
      @conductor6577 ปีที่แล้ว +54

      Wait until you’re 45 alone in the hospital with no one coming to see you. Reality catches up with everyone sooner or later.

    • @chuckscott-cy7iq
      @chuckscott-cy7iq ปีที่แล้ว +54

      @@conductor6577 I'd rather own a parrot.

    • @NishantSharma-tr6xl
      @NishantSharma-tr6xl ปีที่แล้ว +129

      @@conductor6577 wait untill you are 80...seeing your kids fighting over property and leaving you in elder care facility..Reality catches up with everyone sooner or later.

    • @companybroadcast2890
      @companybroadcast2890 ปีที่แล้ว +74

      @@conductor6577 Wait untill you get old and frail and none of your "FAMILY" members are concerned about you. Reality catches up with everyone sooner or later

  • @victorSoCal
    @victorSoCal ปีที่แล้ว +13

    I chose to be single.. travel.. and have fun… don’t need to be attached to someone else ✈️🙏🏽

  • @JezaLoki
    @JezaLoki ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Like many men, I wanted to meet a girl, fall in love, get married, have a family. But my 20s was nothing but rejection, heartbreak and loneliness. Now I’m early 40s. Never married and childless. If no one wants to date you, what chance do you have of getting married ?

    • @babalarassrah
      @babalarassrah ปีที่แล้ว

      sad man, i have pity for you, travel, play video games

    • @speedythings7396
      @speedythings7396 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      BlackPill

    • @JezaLoki
      @JezaLoki ปีที่แล้ว

      @@speedythings7396 ha yeah... a bit of that.

    • @JM-cv7nv
      @JM-cv7nv 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Real suggestion: travel to the Philippines or Ukraine in search of companionship. You may find them to be more accepting. Western women now, delusionally, expect perfection.

  • @victorpradha9946
    @victorpradha9946 ปีที่แล้ว +85

    The biggest threat to the institution of marriage is increased personal autonomy, love of independence and financial freedom. People like being able to travel spontaneously, and not having to coordinate their affairs with another. People like being "unburdened" fromm having to buy that house (which is getting out of reach) and "settling down" to have children with a place where they have room to roam. More and more people are choosing themselves over the sacrifices inherent with getting married, being faithful, and raising children.

    • @seeingstars199
      @seeingstars199 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      This is me! I just can’t see myself having to be on the same page as someone at all times like so exhausting. I live alone and couldn’t fathom having it any other way!!!

    • @DetroitMuscle
      @DetroitMuscle ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@seeingstars199you are weak

    • @JF-vw9lv
      @JF-vw9lv ปีที่แล้ว +20

      @@DetroitMuscle sounds like they can stand on their own two feet financially and emotionally which is the opposite of weak.

    • @seeingstars199
      @seeingstars199 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@JF-vw9lv he gets no women he don’t know up from down 😂

    • @RR.LL.3B
      @RR.LL.3B ปีที่แล้ว +11

      @@DetroitMusclebecause she knows what she wants ? Isn’t it the opposite

  • @baldeagle4710
    @baldeagle4710 ปีที่แล้ว +91

    Marriage has catastrophic consequences

    • @laurachristianson1688
      @laurachristianson1688 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I grew up in a time when my parents thought that marriage was what would protect me I guess. Every guy I dated from late high school years on was who I should marry…not my high school love . Two abusive husbands later I have been happily living with him for nearly eighteen years…..

    • @علي-ش7ث8ب
      @علي-ش7ث8ب ปีที่แล้ว

      cooperation,responsibility,sense of fulfillment,not being alone,sex,patience,discipline,having a purpose,....how are these catastrophic?

    • @gsabic
      @gsabic ปีที่แล้ว

      @@علي-ش7ث8ب sex? jajaja

    • @evilds3261
      @evilds3261 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@علي-ش7ث8بOne person's trash is another's treasure. Everyone has varying sets of values.

    • @علي-ش7ث8ب
      @علي-ش7ث8ب ปีที่แล้ว

      @@evilds3261
      I think without marriage you can't be full human.

  • @earwasel2-c2j
    @earwasel2-c2j หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I've seen many marriages follow the same pattern: The newlywed couple is very happy for a time. Then the woman realizes she doesn't like something about the man, so she tries to change him. Over time, she finds more things she doesn't like, and eventually she complains so much that the man's life becomes a living hell. The man withdraws from the woman to protect himself psychologically, which makes the woman even angrier. Eventually, things blow up, and the woman blames the man for her life not turning out the way she wants. The woman initiates a divorce, alienates the man from friends and family, takes away his children, and financially ruins him.
    This happened with my parents, some of my cousins, and three out four of my best friends. The men always take the blame for everything.
    I chose never to get married, and I gave women up ten years ago. I'm definitely happier than I would have been had I ended up stuck in a bad relationship.

    • @JayClearman411
      @JayClearman411 22 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      Facts..you get 3 rings in marriage as a guy…engagement ring,wedding ring an suffering!

    • @billwalton4571
      @billwalton4571 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Its exactly how it is, it happened to me and i was basically single while I was 'married'. It was completely sexless, and now Im 12 years after she divorced me and im broke, never been with a girl, it honestly doesn't matter, its only society that says it matters and it does but what are we supposed to do? Its really sad the world has become like this because it did not used to be this way.

  • @XPXhumble
    @XPXhumble ปีที่แล้ว +94

    Marriage for a men is the worst gamble you can take In life

    • @ChenBeixuancultivatingnshieeet
      @ChenBeixuancultivatingnshieeet ปีที่แล้ว +1

      just co-habitate {don't sign any documents together, or share bank accounts or mortage} keep it simple, if she don't like it get your passport and head abroad (remember not to fall for foreign womens tricks either, they will try to get you to marry or take them to your country, at that point they start swinging the marriage grape vine and looking for new guys'

    • @eveharris30
      @eveharris30 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Especially for a woman.

    • @bear8190
      @bear8190 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      @@eveharris30 no

    • @akhripasta2670
      @akhripasta2670 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Dowry is gone
      Alimony is still there

    • @eveharris30
      @eveharris30 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @bear8190 No what?