❤HAPPY HISPANIC HERITAGE MONTH TO ALL MY ALT/NEURODIVERGENT/MISUNDERSTOOD HISPANIC FOLLOWERS OUT THERE!!!🥳🎉 I hope we can have open/healthy conversations about what we need to improve on in our community online and outside of social media- we need better representation & there's some stuff we just gotta stop doing all together fr. Comment down below your fav non-problematic / non-toxic hispanic influencers! Let's show some love ❤❤❤
If you're not trying to start your own business, its not that important. The education you get will help in running a business. In my experience its about who you know, not what you know that makes you successful in the job market. Its just a personal achievement at this point.
I would but I have a learning disability and I'm constantly being denied a 504 plan for my ADHD because I'm a mixed teenage girl who can't even get help because of the place I live.
As a Mexican living in the US, I don’t feel like they represent us either. These influencers feel like puppets of what Americans want us to be like when we’re nothing like this.
I’m a Latina that dropped out of high school 😅 I’m in my mid twenties trying to get my GED! Young people, please finish school.. life is harder if you don’t
I’m a Latina in tech and when you mentioned having to be your own role model is hard, I felt that in my soul. I was told by professors that I would never get accepted to grad school because they wouldn’t take “someone like me”. I’m now in my last year of my masters program and now take the time to mentor other Latinas curious about entering the tech world. Love this video and the message 🫶🏼
Im a Latino software engineer in university!! Its important to prepare people or they’ll just drop out honestly. The Latino community often does not get enough support academically and mentally, especially from our families. My family never had the knowledge to help me with homework and stigmatized getting mental help. Even though I’m considered a good student, I still feel like I’m at my breaking point very often because of all the issues I’m carrying with me. Ive seen many young latin@s who drop out because of similar struggles- despite their brightness. Please push hard yall, we’ve got this
the amount of trauma and issues we carry with us to school are insane. education can break cycles but the road is so difficult and tests u in every way possible. I’m also a latina in mechanical engineering and I hope u find success bro❤️
I hope you are taking advantage of your university resources. If you haven't already done so look into getting mental health counseling at your schools. Many schools offer these services free of cost or low cost. Some even have low cost clinics. The counselors may be able to guide you to some resources for first generation students. I went through what you are going through and I understand how hard it it. Animo y si se puede
First gen here- I graduated with my nursing degree abt a year ago and seeing my parents and family so proud of me when I walked the stage gave me a sense of fulfillment that their hard work did not go unrecognized in this country. My husband (not Latino but black) is the only one to graduate college and is about to graduate med school (entirely paid for by the military) and the thought of us providing a future where our kids will never have to face the amount of poverty/hardships that we faced is one of the most proudest achievements of our lives. It truly does start with education.
@@Chick3nugg3t Congratulations! We are so proud of you and I’m glad you are giving your kids the opportunity to live in an environment where they don’t have to worry about poverty❤️🙏🏼
@dearava4744 yeah same. I have 0 clue who any of these people are lmao. I thought this was gonna be more indepth topic but these are basically teenage influences on tiktok lol
As a black American woman, I see so many parallels between this issue pertaining to the internet and our respective racial communities. I give you my total love and empathy. Happy Hispanic Heritage month and keep pushing for the holistic representation you deserve 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
For real, especially the feeling of being disconnected from your culture. I'm from South Africa and I can't speak my mother tongue because my school didnt allow us to speak it and I grew up feeling so much shame around it and feeling like I'm less black (coconut) because of it. Now that I'm older I still feel like I need to relearn my language but I no longer have the feeling that I need to "earn back" my blackness, and that diversity in the black experience is a good thing
It’s scary how much I related to this as an Australian. See now that you know I’m Australian what’s popping into your head? Dangerous animals Steve Irwin g’dsy mate how’s it goiiiin. No. I’m just another human trying to make her way though life. My name is Greek. Sorry my name isn’t more Australian. Yeah I eat vegemite. So what. Sorry. It drives me insane that I’ve been reduced to dangerous animals and bogan accents 😡
I'm a black woman and lemme sit my butt down and watch in solidarity with ya'll. Social media and influencer space as a whole has been.....ummm....not conducive to my people and our culture. Between it being picked apart, the caricatures, culture vultured in such brazen and offensive ways, the tone deaf inputs and rush judgement by people who've never even seen one of us irl lmaooo and just...the toxic drama over the activism and community organizing? I've seen the same thing happening to the hispanic community too. Sad hugs. 🫂
Right, I don’t have tiktok and would get called weird by people in school because of that. I wouldn’t get offended because I felt happy and good about not having tiktok or any other social media.
When you said “I’m proud of you Mija” got me instantly in tears. In our culture even being successful in school or in life is never acknowledged. It’s almost like our families thrive in making others miserable. This video was amazing to watch, you’re doing great. Thank you for your voice, it matters.
POP OFF girl. You spoke to me as someone feeling left out of my own community. You can be happy, fun, and smart at the same time. We need hispanics to show us that you don’t have to just choose one
I remember I used to work with this dude who liked me, but would only flirt with me saying things "Oh I like spicy Latinas" or comment on more stereotypical Hispanic comments. He even said "Oh you're not really Latina because you're not mean"..JAW DROPPING
I went on a date with a guy thinking we’d be a great match from all the talking and texting we did before we met up and he absolutely ruined any attraction I had to him. Everything was fine until he started to be pushy and not care about my opinions. The last straw for me was when he said “I’ve always seen myself marrying a Mexican”. And at first I felt weird about what he said but couldn’t find out why. Then I was thinking deeper about it and I found out that he just wanted to typical stereotypes of Latina women. He wanted me to clean and cook and take care of him like it was my full time job (plus everything else that latinas are stereotyped for). And I’m absolutely not like that lol. Broke it off with him the next day because I don’t play like that.
these people are not latinos, not hispanics, they are all of americans with mexican parents who makes them feel as latinos, but they are not latin people
@@ferziovelazquez5254 exactamente 🤌es sólo esa obsesión de muchos estadounidenses de pertenecer a un grupo de cualquier ámbito y tienden a hacerlo su personalidad completa.
@@Vantemma I know but most of them like the girl of this video, even tough this american Influencers are not latinos, just every latin american feels weird watching this people
@@coffeepls-e7u Cualquier latinoamericano que vive en sus respectivos países se sintió raro e incómodo viendo a estas personas que no conocemos de nada, solo los conocen los estadounidenses con raíces latinas como la chica del video, también catalogarlo como latinos es incorrecto ya que nadie se sintió identificado con estos videos o ideas
Can someone shed light into the rampant sexual assault on young Hispanic girls? I see it all the time in my work and 100% of the suspects are close family members.
Unfortunately it's a very common issue here in Latinoamérica, for example my country México, not only does almost every woman experience SA of some kind (and yes, most of the abusers are family members) but also female homicides are a huge problem, there's many every single day, it's exhausting, sad and terrifying
@@SA-sb2wh it reminded me of the many times Mexicans told me I had great legs when I was 11-12. I didn’t even realize how disgusting it was till a grown man followed me around the Mexican grocery store trying to flirt. I didn’t wear shorts for over a decade after that.
@@alsolark3029I’m so sorry you had to experience that. I hate how this type of thing is so normalized and how it endangers the girls and women in our community 😔
@@dm96177 this is so gross and I’ve experienced it too. And unfortunately it’s very “normal” in the Hispanic community. Please talk about this behavior more Salem
@@alsolark3029I hate that you are pinning that gross behavior that stem from the male gaze in general to the Mexican identity, it’s a male gaze problem that comes from patriarchal societies, when you specifically keep pointing out “Mexicans” like you did in your comment it reinforces the white supremacy stereotypes of racialized people being sexual abusers, what you are describing Anglos do as well overwhelmingly, it’s unnecessary to attach “Mexican” to it.
Being told “I’m not black/white enough” was one of the most hurtful yet benefiting things to hear. It allowed me to find my identity outside of my race. Making everything about stereotypes in culture can be very dangerous for a lot of minority groups.
As a black American… FELTTTT it’s such a beautiful thing to start seeing your culture grow and develop and accept diversity within your community. You can be “weird” and “geeky” and have different interests AND NOT BE WHITE. It doesn’t strip you of your cultural identity.
Literally. As a white fan if those things, I find it wild when people gatekeep it. Like…it’s art, it’s music, it’s for everyone. ESPECIALLY Miku with the Miku around the world art movement.
Something else I picked up on with hispanic influencers is that you don't see dark skin hispanic influencers, the influencers who are closer to european beauty standers or as they are know as "guerritos" or "guerras" have lighter skin,blond hair, small noses etc would have more of a following then dark skins.
@@alexismonroy4345 Colorism is a huge issue in both the Hispanic and black community as well. It's so sad. I'm afro latina and seeing how much they prefer lighter skin over darker skin is really sad. I'm somewhere in the middle, but to them my skin would be considered dark
32:33 this is so funny because as a Black alt girl the most metal, emo, goth, etc. people i know and see are Latino. that’s why it’s so crazy when people try to say you aren’t really a part of that if you’re not white
My Mexican husband works for 1%percenters. All his wHite coworkers get so shocked with the fact that he doesn’t drink Modelos or party every weekend with loud music. We’re already a caricature to them, why do we have to keep feeding into it.
Omg yeah, my mom's white but my dad's Mexican and she still says stuff like that. And when I call her out on it she literally gets mad at me and calls me negative
Why can’t people do that though? Not every Latino needs to, but not every Latino should stop either, however white people should stop judging an entire group of people based on some of the people who they find wrong, the issue is with MY people not Latinos who drink beer and like to dance
Well partying isn’t a bad thing either. Stereotypes are bad yes but combating that with trying to please white people by rejecting part of your culture like Mexican music and family gatherings isn’t the answer either. Not saying ur husband is doing that btw. Just sometimes people think assimilating to white culture is the answer. Sometimes ppl come off as pretentious and ashamed of their culture. Exist and be as you are if u aren’t harming anyone.
My husband worked sales with a very privileged white guy who comes from a wealthy family. They got into deep conversation at one point, and the guy looks at him all shocked and says, “Man, you’re the smartest beaner I’ve met!” He actually said that and expected my husband to be flattered by his comment.
My ex best friend who is latina left highschool 2 weeks before graduation because she did not believe in herself. It still breaks my heart and we stopped being friends because I tried to get her to come back but she didnt listen. I've almost graduated from university now and I still think about her.
Sometimes it starts from the household. I had a friend that also dropped out because she had two babies back to back in high school from a guy who was mostly at prison. I think this guy was in his mid 20s and was in her mom’s circle of friends (Lots of grooming was normalized in my community 💔) our friendship fizzled out over the years. :( I hope she got out of that household. It’s hard to escape people like that.
@evy7930 Totally agreed, my friends parents didn't really care for education either and her 2 younger sisters dropped out shortly after her. I feel like if her parents said something they would atleast have a highschool diploma, it really annoyed me how passive they were at the time.
This was so refreshing for so many reasons. Our community feels so distant from one another, and always feels like Hispanic people severely underrepresented in the media. We need to start holding Hispanic creators accountable and demand a certain level of respect to the Latino image.
It's not just latino culture that's becoming toxic its practically every culture that has this weird glorification of certain stereotypes that social media pressures us to become making us insecure and uncomfortable with acceptance with who we are convincing us to do stupid stuff like this
@@BombshElle_7don’t give your kids cell phones it will improve. This is what happens when you don’t raise your kids, and let the internet raise your kids.
I feel like this is even true for white folks. The most popular accounts are either barefoot and pregnant faith healer or hyper aggressive conspicuous consumption ultra femininity girly. These things get criticized less than "ghetto" content but they still promote and normalize harmful behaviors. I feel like it's mostly the algorithm to blame and not to be overly conspiratorial but I think it's on purpose.
I'm seeing this within the Asian American community as well. It seems like there is this strange collectivist need to partake and craft a social identity within stereotypes. We don't seem to realize how damaging this is and plays into many dangers for our communities.
It's not that there is a lack of diversity, the Latino community is very diverse, it's just a lack of representation because of how discriminatory the Latino/Hispanic community is. As an Afro-Panamanian, I've been looked down on by other Hispanics and told I'm not Hispanic because of the way I look, the way I speak Spanish, and my people's culture. The way the Hispanic community hides people who don't represent what they want Hispanic culture to be defined as is crazy, but once they do something big, they claim them, you don't see anybody saying Celia Cruz isn't Hispanic because of her achievements. The way we have Americans still believing Latino/Hispanic is a race (it is an ethnicity) and that there aren't Black, White, Asian, native Latinos/Hispanics (who aren't biracial/mixed) still to this day blows my mind.😑
it's not a lack of representation globally, it is a lack of representation in the United States. Majority of these toxic influencers you guys refer to it as "hispanic influencers" are Hispanic Americans that were born in the US and not in Latinamerica
@@yuyinho not you belittling their experience lol. No matter how you spin it, it's a lack of representation, GLOBALLY. There are toxic and racist Latinos in LATAM and the States and saying that the toxic ones are only the ones born in the US is erasing the problems in the Latin community with race. OP is right, and you just proved it.
TY!!!! From a white half Cuban, it is super validating to see this. The racism and gatekeeping within the community is awful. Also, the homophobia too because there's a lot of LGBTQ+ Hispanic and Latinos out there (Queer here lol) who have experienced biphobia, homophobia, transphobia, etc from cis and straight Hispanics/Latinos mainly due to catholic ties to religion.
afro-panamians arent really hispanic, you guys are of jamaican origin for the most part, how are jamaicans of hispanic origin? you do not go around calling someone like Selena Quintanilla an anglo just because shes an american for many generations, even your culture, accent, way of life is gonna be jamaican, being born in an Hispanic nation doesnt make you hispanic the same way me being born in the USA doesnt make me anglo
Thank you for this! As a biracial Latina it’s been hard to fit in to either side of my heritage. It’s refreshing to hear other young people discuss this because it is sad that some of us are shamed by other Latinos because we weren’t raised in our culture. My ex gave me such a hard time for being too white then my white side makes me feel weird for embracing my Hispanic heritage. Even my Mexican family isn’t super cultural so it’s tough finding a place to fit in the world. Thanks for making me feel seen and talking about this issue! Much love to you and ms Penny 🫶🏽🦆
depending on where you are from, I would recommend going to cultural events, here in California (San Diego and Los Angeles) you see a lot of them. We just had Hispanic heritage month festivals, and some are preparing Day of the dead altars right now.
What he heck is happening in america that watching anime makes you less latin@?! Literally is part of our culture to make edits of anime characters in camisetas de futbol! There is not a man in my generation who's path of life wasn't affected by Goku, Los Caballeros del Zodiaco or Supercampeones! HAVE NON OF YOU EVER HEARD OF REI CHIQUITA?!
REAL 🗣‼️ We literally have such a strong connection to anime and its not even a recent thing 😭✋️ everyone's tíos love Los Caballeros del Zodiaco and everyone's tías love Candy Candy
exactly my friend who love anime love editing them to have t shirt of their favorite latin america football team or wearing their national clothing like their national hat or traditional clothing like how liking anime make you less hispanic make no sense especially how people in latin america love anime
Also your sister is really awesome. She’s very eloquent and has such clear diction and values. I loved hearing her talk lol would totally listen if she had a podcast
NO FR. Also the vocabulary. WE DONT SPEAK LIKE THAT. like come on. Its funny. But when you got people calling these influencers slow. They might think the rest of us are slow asf too
Nombre porque cuando oyi sobre videos de TikTok dicendo q Latinos dicen "foo" o "ese" como maneras a referir a otras personas, me poni bien confundido. Mis padres son de Mich. Pero yo no, entonces me poni más confundido sabiendo q yo no hago esas cosas. Ni me llamo chicano por causa de eso.
That’s wild, because she literally showcased “Foosinmedicine”. It’s not how you speak, and to denigrate people who do speak like that as being “slow” is purely your own personal bias. It’s its own dialect. It is now “slow” it is just as valid and intelligent as any other dialect. And this isn’t just my own bias, I say this about Appalachian, midland, and every other accent and dialect.
@@anaceweirdo1579 Yeah but the slang they are referring to it is yours and your community, like none of those words and mannerism came from actual Mexican nationals, it’s a Mexican American slang, maybe you don’t do it but it is from your community don’t act like you don’t know where it came from either.
@@ericktellez7632 apparently I'm not a part of that community since I don't know anyone of my relatives who do that, nor younger cousins. Imagina, los hijos de mexicanos no queriendo ser identificado con una estereotipo tan idiotico.
Did anyone watch John Leguizamo’s recent monologue at the Emmy’s? It was so empowering to see someone call out Hollywood stereotypes and demand more representation. Unfortunately it’s not just Hollywood pushing negative stereotypes about Hispanics but our OWN people!
I didn’t watched this year’s Emmys, but I have one issue with Mr. Leguizamo. He excludes Afro-Latinos whenever he calls out Hollywood. Other than that, he’s not that bad💯
I’m not Latino or Hispanic, I’m African American but to me this speaks to a lot of the issues that Black or Afro-Latinos face who do speak up about social issues to Latinos who are ignorant and perpetuate stereotypes and hateful rhetoric. Specifically about afro centric appearances, and being divisive towards people of darker complexion, not realizing that we all face a form of over-policing and violence but instead making it seem like Latino is it’s own race that deserves to be treated better especially if you are lighter skin and have straighter hair. I live in NJ and where I live I feel like there’s so much unsolved animosity between Latinos (this includes Afro Latinos in some regards) and African Americans here and I know if they talked more they would realize they have more in common than they have differences.
You put this perfectly! As an Afro-Latino from NYC, I’ve experienced not so present moments with non-black Latinos. I’m not saying everyone is bad, but from my experience. Certain Latinos made it clear that I wasn’t the same. Being Black, barely speaking Spanish, and awkward (unique) = ostracized🫤
As an afro-latino and dominican girllll i feel you, I remember being in this catechism class for my communion, how everyone was so dismissive of not only black folks but queer people, neurodivergent and such, is not talked about enough how social consevatism is so rooted in our community and as a queer person too it has taken a hit on me ngl, and its all to achieve this standard of european/christian ideals that we will just never get, like, we are literally being made to fight with each other about whos ghetto, whos the "real" x, whos woke, whos an oreo without realizing the real issue at hand
The thing is, is hard not have animosity when there is never any mention and highlighting of positive examples of cooperation. Not just social media or media at large but in normal conversation is entirely discussions of the negative aspects of Latin Americans and pointing out the individual examples of racism and never or hardly ever any examples of positive interactions and you won’t let me lie here, no forum online and in media points out those positive stories between the groups ever. Like, yeah bringing attention and calling the behavior out but if that’s all is done, and never reinforce the positive interactions ever then it won’t really ever change. It’s not about receiving applauses it’s about highlighting good examples to create a positive feedback, not denying the negative examples either but having an actual balance and right now is entirely negative.
@@ericktellez7632 Then maybe it’s time to change that. We’re in a time were we can build platforms to start highlighting what we want to see. I know I had wonderful cross culture experiences with Latinos from PR, DR Mexico, and parts of South America. I don’t wanna tokenize them but I would love to see more people showcase how beautiful it is when we come together. I will say one of my favorite experiences from college was going out to teach English to the men and women who immigrated here and where struggling with the language. In turn I learned more from them and about them and it was enjoyable, I wish I got to do it even today.
@@Njirimara That's so unfair :( I'm sorry. You don't deserve that, nor anyone in your communion class who was Black, biracial, queer or neurodiv. From my family, I try to speak out about it when my parents' social conservatism starts showing up, but because they're religious or believe in a very strict, non-compromising view about what identities are acceptable, they hate gay people, they repeat microaggressions, and yeah. It sucks because these are the things we should talk about to form accepting communities within our Latine commuity, but are never receptive.
I think some people can be tacky or whatever but ghetto really in most cases is just used in a racist and classist context. All races have rude and obnoxious people but only poc are called ghetto when white people aren’t. In some cases you are labeled as “ghetto” for simply being darker skinned and poor bc of the insane colorism and classism in the U.S/Mexico.
insane for someone from a country ran by criminals to be calling anyone or anything ghetto. no other country in the world has let criminals overrun their own government and economy.
This video is something that I’ve been trying to explain to my other Latino friends for a long time! My father is a first gen Latino doctor from the South Bronx who was able to get into Brown on a full ride scholarship. My grandparents placed such great importance on school and academic excellence, and my parents want to make sure that I also fulfill my education. I plan on becoming a cancer researcher and pursuing a degree in biochemistry; your sister’s story reminds me so much of my father’s!
As a mother myself, I find it JUST AS DISTURBING that the 13yr old girl's parents are allowing her to even be on tiktok, let alone be a tiktok creator. If they took that away from her....there wouldn't be creepy men and women talking so unbelievably disturbing and disrespectfully in her comments or online. Let's hold 👏 her parents 👏 responsible 👏 first and foremost! I would NEVER do this to my daughter who is 20 now when she was younger nor my now 15yr old either! 😡
Parents allowing this behavior for money and fame is a tale as old as time. These kinds of parents are no better than the ones who drop off their young children at the Nickelodeon studio and leave them there alone with the wolves. So I agree, it starts right at home and what this little girls parents are allowing to happen (feeding her to the internet wolves).
It gets even worse sometimes they show up on the news. And the newscasters are talking about what the parents are doing are totally the best thing to do for their kid
Idk how as people of color.. people watch a media who sexualizes minors & have zero representation for people of color, a media that’s deep into white worshipping among other issues .
African Americans 🫱🏽🫲🏼 Latinos/Hispanics rn No but genuinely it’s so upsetting that the few people that are the stereotype represent our communities and push all the negative stereotypes and dehumanization and sexualization of our people and expect us to be one way but simultaneously hate us when we are that way
I appreciate how semi- educational the second half of the video became. I work in a Hispanic serving institution in higher education. I knew the statistics, but I didn't realize the "why" of the unique struggles Latino students face.
@@_salemtovar_ as someone with MOSTLY inattentive and impulsive ADHD, it's so relatable to see your journey. your content really helps me understand and appreciate the differences in our brains. keep being awesome, salem! and, my brother's on the spectrum
It's hard for people to develop their own identity. That's why people default to being a man or woman, whatever their race or ethnicity is, or their sexuality.
The fact that I teared up when you said "I'm proud of you mija" is so telling. This was a great video. I'm going to share it with my friends and family! 🦆
Salem...I hate but also appreciate that my experience is so much like yours. The over-sexualization since hitting puberty, all against my will and often by my own family, the restrictive protestant background, being told I'm too serious for caring about social issues, and never feeling "Hispanic" enough. I was prevented from getting more into my culture from grandparents and great grandparents being forced to speak English, told to demonize any of our indigenous root, and so much more. Thank you for being a balanced, powerful, intelligent and compassionate voice for us (and funny as hell), giving me Hispanic people to inspire me, especially women.
I'm kinda surprised that Lele pons wasn't mentioned, when she was selling this "toxica latina" back when "Vine" existed. But great video and both your explanations are so detailed and well-spoken. ❤
@@viktoriamarkovicova1019 I was surprised she also didn’t mention Malu Trevejo who went for belly dancing as a minor and now mostly just engages in toxica drama
I agree! The majority of these are Mexican American but there are other non-Mexican American influencers that are soooo lame and feed into silly stereotypes
I’m curious why a lot of the negative stereotypes and sentiments are similar in the Latino/ Hispanic and Black communities. Like education is a white thing, children being pushed to assist in parenting their siblings, over sexualizing children, and more
It would be interesting to know when exactly the change happened from immigrants that understood the value of hard work and being humble to a generation of spoiled barely latino americans
@@cheeto_chief_Well, I don't see the incentive for second-gen latino americans to work hard when they've grown up watching their parents work ethic exploited. My dad took every opportunity to tell me I don't want to be like him and to find a different way to get by.
@@Jewel_Screaming_Chango8387 I gotta slightly disagree, idk about reaeggeton but for rap it’s only become so much more hateful and violent relatively recently. I think it’s a mixture of many racial issues within the US. Some of which are perpetuated by our oppression and others are perpetuated by us as a group
To be fair... Even if they had 3 college degrees they'd still not be able to find a job. Education in the US was always about being a good worker ant and making money... And now only worker ant is possible. They're reflecting the economy they were raised in
@alexandrahenderson4368 having a highschool degree is certainly going to help them out more than hurt them; what is the actual benefit of not getting one? More free time? these kids still don't know what they want to do in life; if they want to go into a particular career (ex. healthcare) they're going to have to get their education up and backtracking all the way to 7th grade is going to be expensive. I mean really, should they just give up on life as a whole? America has its issues but I think messages like those are only going to drive hopelessness, su/cide, and mental health issues in the next generation if they're repeatedly shouted at with zero guidance. No hate, I just think messages like these did me more harm than good in highschool
It's because so much of social media is glorifying influencer lifestyle and say it's “cringe” to encourage learning and education. You don't need s degree to make viral videos.
@@alexandrahenderson4368no I'm sorry i disagree to an extent. Having a piece of paper in your hand is just the end result. What about being able to have a normal conversation with people? Or even an educated conversation? Proper grammar in your sentences? Use of vocabulary in context? Formal education in a classroom exposes kids to things they would otherwise not know about. Nah kids these days are or of touch, and those kids make it much more difficult for the kids that want and try to learn.
Im Mexican American and don’t feel like I fit in society , I’m not “Mexican enough because” hits the core , reason why I don’t go to family parties anymore..
@@eleazarchavez943 I feel ya there. I’m mixed and lived with the more redneck/country folk side of the family and got side eyed for not “acting more Latina” at times.
Can't say much because I don't know your particular case, but I would definitely advice you to do your research about Mexican culture, maybe watch content made by Mexican youtubers. Don't do it to fit, just do it to know the culture, to understand it and be informed.
I feel you, what’s worse is that i’m slowly forgetting words in Spanish, I feel less and less mexican each day. I can understand it, I just can’t speak it and it sucks… I also hate how common it is to make fun of people like me instead of educating!! my parents didnt even teach me either, I was forced to learn and understand as I grew but it’s hard considering i live in a mostly english-speaking area and even grew up with english being the main language i’d speak since schools and the people in the area are mostly english speaking. I feel so bad because when it comes to family, I can barely talk. I’m a naturally quiet and closed off person but when they want to speak to me I can only say a few words to them and that’s it.
You shouldn’t exhaust yourself trying to make an effort it goes both ways! If they don’t try to be in your life they’re not worth stressing over for. I was the leper visiting my “fam” in MX because how I would dress and would listen to metal. Oh ! but if they need something (💲) they remember they have a “relative”
i was 13 and out of NOWHEREEEE ppl at school started calling me thicc and men at the mall started staring at me and it pisses me off bc not only is that bad enough, but i was always wearing jeans and a hoodie. it’s so. 👎
It’s shocking, I have a 12 year old daughter and now when I shop with her out at stores guys break their necks especially if they don’t notice I’m there. That is never going to change so just be aware of your personal space and surroundings and if anyone tries to cross that boundary let them know you’re a minor and get help. Take care! ❤
Please please please stay safe. I'm 19 now, and what I've noticed was that the ages I got the most catcalled and harassed was between 13-17 years old. I got into a bunch of 'relationships' with people atleast 8 years my senior during that time, and I didn't feel like anything was wrong. But know, that an adult shouldn't be anywhere near you at that age, especially romantically and s3xually. Stay safe, for your sake, and don't let those creeps anywhere near you ❤
i'm Egyptian muslim and i actually relate to this on so many levels . Even in the "Egyptian- western" side of tiktok we are seen as the "funny poor" people while in reality we are so much more than that.
I could never find the word to describe this but yes!!! I'm going to start using "funny poor" from now on because it's exactly how most people see ANYONE from Latin America. They see us like one big joke, even though there is so much more depth to everyone's lives.
Seeing juju flex not graduating was so infuriating for me. My family left Durango in the 1920s after the death of my great-great grandfather because he left behind my grandmother and seven daughters. I was the first woman in my family to get a college degree-and went on to my masters degree and definitely do not fit the stereotypes. I want to see more influencers lifting up the Latino community. That’s why I have respect for creators like Galilea, Salem, and Fernanda Cortes.
@@ally462if people looked into Juju’s situation, she has literally expressed regret about not graduating on time and not going to college immediately. I feel like this rush of judgement and lack of research exemplifies some of the mentality in our community.
i clicked because im on that side of tiktok surrounding wendy and willito. i never knew other hispanics had the same issues with their culture like how us african americans have with ours. i also feel social media plays a big part of everyone wanting to represent stereotypes for views or clout and it js sets us back yearsss
Salem, to start off, you look great! We need to stop treating Hispanic/Latino, as well as other POC communities, as monoliths. It's sad when we ourselves only pay attention to influencers that fit negative stereotypes. I feel it's partly due to the lack of educational opportunities and the strong conservative values (machismo/religion/marianismo) a lot of these influencers come from. I remember reading a comment on a Filipino video, and they too struggle with anti-intellectualism. I think the Hispanic/Latino community also struggles with this issue. I appreciate your sister being part of the small growing group of influencers that has managed to make their way into healthcare. I have too and noticed that we need more representation in other sectors, especially science.
This is a very interesting topic, I tuned in bc i normally only see black drama at the forefront of everything so it’s interesting to hear a Hispanic person talk about Hispanics in the media
This is a great analysis. I love your perspective. I also want to add that the fact this kids don’t embrace our culture it’s because of the parents. First generation has faced so much trauma, discrimination, racism that they don’t want to impose Latino culture on their kids. Parents don’t want their kids to go through the same as them. It all comes from fear and colonialism is still present. We as parents should be proud of who we are and pass that along to our children. However, it’s hard when you face all those issues in this society. For them is a way to protect their kids, and it just becomes a real problem in the future. Such as what is happening now.
Thank you for this Salem ❤️ I’m black and Mexican and honestly it’s tough to watch only certain influencers get pushed. I’ve never felt Mexican enough growing up and the greatest hate comes from the Latin community. The community is very anti-black and it something that’s still so tough for myself. Plus if you’re into education and leveling up, it’s frowned upon. Almost like a crabs in a bucket mentality. We need to do better foreal and I’m so happy you’re speaking on this.
Foos in medicine AND your sister Penny are people I actually lookup to because tbh… they are the first Latinos I have seen in the media that have pursued higher education and have motivated me to do so💪
This entire topic is super interesting to me. I’m Latina from the Caribbean- so this is pure anecdotal- but both my parents were college educated (my mom in DR and my dad through work since he did HS in the US). I think your parents own attitudes and achievements in education influences how well you do as a child. If a group or community is more focused on survival and economic success, I can see how education takes a back seat especially in countries where education is poorly funded/structured. Me and every woman in my family (the men were given the pass to fail unsurprisingly but that’s another topic) made it to higher education and beyond. Me and my cousins all hold the minimum of a bachelors in science, liberal arts, etc due to the pressure from our family to be educated (some of my cousins and family friends have non college educated parents so we’re a mixed bag). Like it was so bad that we couldn’t party or date bc school was more important. So this topic is so far out of my scope of reality so this video is quite interesting. Amazing job!
@@kenishinobi666 what’s the alternative then? Is it best to avoid the fact that she’s born in the U.S. and only mention figures specific to Mexico? Isn’t that kind of going against the point of suddenly because you’re a 2nd generation immigrant you’re no longer considered Latina? Her perspective is valid even if it doesn’t cover the full picture. It’s hard to capture every Latin American country and every single identity out there because it’s so diverse.
@rra7490 Well, she said we need to do better, and that includes her. So why can't she start with better research. When it comes to non US Latine representation, she could have named Che Guevara, Salvador Allende, Emiliano Zapata, María Quinteros de Meros, Simon Bolivar, Comandanta Ramona (Zapatista), and Berta Caceres. She doesn't have to name them all but at least make folks aware that there is more to Latine representation that what is portrayed in our current media. These folks deserve recognition by their community and naming them helps prove the point that we are not a monolith.
i’m guatemalan american but lived in mexico for 7 years (in morelia michoacan!) and i think another big factor in the american diaspora is that our idea of what “latino” culture in filtered through others persceptions. whether that’s media we consume, our parents memories or idealistic hopes, or the news, sometimes that is all we have. alt culture/tribus urbanas is latino culture. anime is latino culture. philosophy, surrealist literature, scientific innovation, drag queens, brutalist architecture, ska/punk music, and so much more is latino culture. but in the diaspora we don’t always get to see all that. my christian conservative family certainly never showed me that aspect of latinidad. also the whole “no sabo” discourse i find particularly frustrating. my guatemalan grandmother is maya k’iche and speaks spanish as a second language. is she a “no sabo” because she speaks with a distinct accent, and uses “incorrect” grammar? are we really using a colonizer language as a gauge of authenticity?
Omg yes! I was born in Guatemala and I hear my migrants/migrants' children relatives say “this (whatever nice thing) is for los americanos” and it just makes me feel so many things! Who told you that? You also deserve nice things, including education! It’s los gringos who started that discourse and we believed it. Ps I also hate when they say “americanos”. we’re all americanos, from the America continent. Use estadounidense lol
There’s not such thing as Latino culture USA borns made it seem like we all have a variant of USA mexican culture n is not true. Does Bolivia and Brazil got the same culture. No
Also I’m Nicaraguan you’re also centam we got other languages besides Spanish in our countries n we got different cultures . This doesn’t apply to us in the slightest.
all the more power to your grandmother! my parents know a bit of quechua but because we live in the US now, they're slowly forgetting it. It's a privilege to still have your grandma with us speaking her indigenous language, especially as indigenous culture continues to die out. Also yeah, calling others "no sabo" is hurtful and not constructive at all (*cough* dad). My dad told me stories laughing at "no sabo" kids not conjugating correctly or using incorrect words, and it built the idea that not knowing Spanish correctly was an embarrassment. Maybe he emphasized maintaining Spanish so we wouldn't forget where we came from as first-gen immigrants (Peruvian!), but Spanish comes in so many different forms within the diaspora itself. A Peruvian's Spanish isn't the same as a Colombian's, nor an Argentinian's, or a Dominican because each of our Latino cultures has their own accent, slang/jergas, and expressions - and we should be celebrating those differences instead of saying one form of Spanish is the "right way" to speak it; otherwise we're playing into the same assimilation culture the U.S. forces onto Latine/os. I really wanted to talk about this because his words affected how I was way too wary of other Latine/os' Spanish growing up, and that was harmful to my Latine/o peers and community members and to myself - trying to gauge how "Latino" we were from how much Spanish we knew, and losing the chance to make friendships. (Edited for grammar)
this is the first time hispanics are experience there first LolCOWs . we arent supporting our artist, painters, musicians, educators, story tellers, musicians, ect ect. its just stereotypes and ignorance. and it gets DEEP cus this effect us in multiple layers, from media, culture, and irl interactions.
There's also A LOT of homophobia amongst young Latino men, and it makes me sad because you would think that GenZ and younger would no better, but sadly, they don't. AND in regards to mental health, I've noticed that speaking about it or using certain terms is seen as "being or acting white". There's still a lot of growth that the Latino community needs. Hopefully with more awareness, we'll get there.
As someone from Latin America I hate the cartoonish latino stereotype that Americans have created and exported to the rest of the world through movies and now social media.
American with Latino immigrant parents here. I completely agree. Most of these kids are 3rd gen with parents raised in America. They think that the unique subsection of American culture that their parents belong to (descendants of immigrants) is somehow representative of people who are actually from Latin America. Nobody I know who isn't from the United States fits any of the stereotypes that they have created about Latino people.
You warmed my heart when you said “I’m really proud of you mija” Also at 11 years old my own family would comment on my body (because I had a booty) which I was unaware of because I was just a CHILD but they would comment on my body and how I would walk, and that I was walking like that on purpose to show off my butt or to get the little boys attention. Gosh hearing that at the moment was confusing and remembering now really breaks my heart and I’ve vow to NEVER do that to a niece, nephew, son, daughter, friend NO ONE. Thank you for this video by the way.
Salem, i'm so glad you decided to speak on this issue, I know as a 16 year old high school student seeing people like juju set us years behind what our parents have came to this country for is so disappointing. I work hard everyday in school to be able to prove to my parents that their sacrifices weren't for nothing, and your sister is an inspiration to me because I want to study to become an RN as well!
Same my parents came from the countryside and value education mostly because they grew up poor and they migrated to the usa so that me and my sibling would get a better education if they saw the younger generation of people advocating latinos to not go to school they would be disappointed by the regression that we did
I’m a nearly 40 year old white woman but I love your content. It’s very clear that education is an issue you and your sister are so passionate about and you’re both very inspiring. I hope the younger girls out there look up to you both. Just cause you look like a beautiful bombshell doesn’t mean you aren’t clever as hell. Great video, very insightful.
I was born and raised in the Netherlands, because my family came from the Dominican Republic to give future generations a better chance at education. When you and your sister talked about automatically feeling discouraged/dumb about excelling in education, I felt that. Growing up I always thought that I wasn't smart enough to get a good/stable job in the future but when I saw my older sister working hard and graduate from college, I got hope that I could do it as well. I'm happy that I held on to that hope and worked hard for my accomplishments. I graduated high school and college, currently studying to become a chemist analist. I hope that my cousins (and future kids in my family) can feel encouraged as well, I want to help them stay motivated. (Sorry for any grammar mistakes btw, English isn't my first language)
Girl I feel for you and completely relate, I feel like this is a common issue in all female communities. It’s sad to see women promoting this lifestyle and then getting mad when men treat us as objects and it’s like geeh I wonder why…bc there’s sooooo many women throw their self worth away on sexualizing themselves, materialism, drama, and never picking up a book that’s not smut… breaks my heart that the role models for women are NOWHERE TO BE SEEN!
As a fellow Latina who likes old Hollywood and is a theater kid while listening to artists like Rina Sawayama, Sabrina Carpenter, Chappell roan, Renee Rapp, and likes to watch TV shows like tales of the teenage mutant ninja turtles and Interview with the vampire while being a comic book geek at the same time, I always felt like if I didn’t listen to Banda, ranchero music, or like all of the foods, it thought that it would mean that I’m not Mexican enough but after this video I feel more seen and I’m glad that I found a neurodivergent Latina creator like you and Penny. EDIT: on occasion my favorite Hispanic musicians to listen to are Jose Jose, Becky G, Danna Paola, and Shakira but my point still stands.
Something unfortunate too is we hispanics hate on eachother and beef and feel healous and envy homding eachother back. Another reason why we dont progress as a race either, amazing video btw, gonna spread the word abt this. Reespect from on great mind ti another
As a Hispanic, I’m so proud of my culture as well as I’ve seen people that are striving to break generational curses, or how to emotionally educate our kids so there is some strides toward better Hispanics but I’ve had the same thoughts on how these Hispanics have platforms but we only have ourselves to blame.
I'm not Hispanic, however, in the Pakistani community, we are expected to graduate college and then immediately get married. I have heard multiple of stories of Pakistani women who got their degrees, got married, and never did anything with their degrees. They were expected to give birth to tiny humans, raise those tiny humans, and have them married and taken care of by their spouses. They eventually feel unfulfilled with their lives. Hearing their stories inspired me to get a job and a degree of my own in mechanical engineering.
Fellow ND Latina girlie here. I’m also a no sabo kid and I grew up in a suburb. Plus I’m brown. The amount of stigma I’ve faced for not being Hispanic enough is insane. I’m a 1st gen American but I’m still treated like I’m not Hispanic enough because none of those stereotypes suit me. I love chicharron, I love hot Cheetos, I love pupusas and baleadas and tostones as much as the next girl but that does not define me as a person. I’m happy to see more representation for fellow “odd” Hispanic girlies on the internet because it’s important for *ALL* of us to be seen.
I’m white and I appreciate the content you share and talking about the issues in the Latino community-I want to learn about other cultures and be more aware and understanding instead of watching people eat hot Cheetos. I’m also neurodivergent and I grew up in a very rural part of New Hampshire where there was so little diversity and it unfortunately stunted so many people, and when they do see Latino or black people-they make negative assumptions. My friend worked at Walmart (she’s Latina) and she constantly had to deal with awful racist people. It was heartbreaking and our community needs to do better too-that’s why videos like this are so valuable and need to be seen.
Media from Latin America, US Latinos, and Latinos outside of the US who immigrated to other countries (or even their children who are first gen Latino-Other nationality) are all important to understanding that our diaspora is diverse. @the comment above me. Yes, as a Peruvian immigrant, I yearn that my country and its issues are considered important in the international community. But I'm not going to invalidate the experience of Latinos who have lived in the US their entire lives. Both experiences shape who we become.
As a Puerto Rican, born and raised in FL, I know this is a hard topic to divulge in and you did it with such grace and eloquence. I would love more videos about these topics. Hispanic & Latinos are much more than just attractive, ditzy, bottom of the totem pole riff-raff. We need to step up as a community because having representation is sooo important for our future generations.
I’m not not Latino or Hispanic but I do have a story pertaining of this, so basically back in 6th-7th Grade the middle school I was in was very diverse and I happened to have more classes with Latinos and Hispanics and that’s when I noticed something they acted as you would expect of kids yknow school is boring etc and just act out and generally things that fit within the stereotypes. But the thing is despite trying to act and/or see dumb and superficial they were actually pretty smart and thoughtful and honestly it hurts to see people with so much potential abandon themselves to stereotypes and racism. I do hope that they managed to outgrow that as I lost contact with them after 7th grade but your video reminded me of that.
@@yohann3825 Just because you're not hispanic or latino doesn't mean you can't be either as the terms have nothing to do with race or ethnicity. David Beckham can rightly call himself Hispanic even though he's British on account of his relationship with Spain.
I’m a first-generation college graduate and Registered Nurse. I struggled throughout school because my parents are immigrants and had little to no education on the subject of college/university. Although I have finally made it, I sometimes feel different from the rest of my family because none of them went to school. It’s a bit depressing being categorized as “different” or “weird” by extended family members because you no longer fit the mold that the stereotypes built.
as a first gen college stem graduate too i figured it all out myself i don't understand what everyone finds so hard abt navigating college and financial aid,, they literally tell you how to do anything
it's so wild to me that people will say you are or aren't latine for liking a certain genre of music lmao... i'm a neurodivergent latine as well and also love alt/goth music and idk if it's just me but latines always be at alt/goth shows and events! one of my fave subgenres of music (ebm), in my experience, has a huge latine following. people are too trapped in their own bubble & stereotypes it's kind of embarrasing.
@@Kaybye555 out of all things you could’ve said you are offended at another person using language they feel the most comfortable with It’s not hurting you or influencing you why are you getting so offended
Very similar in the black community. I can't tell you how many times my black card was so called taken simply because I don't like things like grits or sweet potato pie SMH
@@phillyjawnlolo089 I wouldn't consider grits a black people food. The people that want to revoke your black card for that sound misinformed. Grits are more associated with the southern US rather than a specific racial group. I would expect a white person from the south to care more about grits than a black person who's not from the south
lmao same. I hate sweet potato pie but I love Pumpkin pie. I also get told i talk like a white person and cause I don't dress a certain way people just assume I'm white washed and didn't grow up in the hood, when I absolutely did😂 It's weird cause I've always considered myself to be culturally very black, I just don't feel like we have to like everything just cause it's normalized in black culture
Man, as a Hispanic male, our work ethic is over 9000. We work hard but I've noticed too as you mentioned about being a hard worker is that the amount of our people who lack financially literacy is ridiculous, specifically in investments, spending, saving. They don't know anything about stocks, assets, value. If they could break through that mental barrier and combine hardwork with investing. Such a huge leap in finances could be passed onto in our dna.
This is SO IMPORTANT. I'm latina (not mexican), tall af, skinny af, and white af, and people DONT BELIVE ME when I say I'm latina. I have to start YELLING in Spanish for them to believe me, and yet they say "you don't sound latina" because my accent is not mexican. ANd then they go like "oh you don't look latina". wtf man
I'm half African American and half Mexican. I think my struggle with finding community comes from others denying my identity because I don't fit the stereotypes that people can easily accept. But it's interesting: I've had Mexican peers push me out by viewing me as a Black stereotype, and I've had Black folks tell me I'm not Black because I have a Mexican father and speak Spanish. 🤨 I think that many Latinos have similar issues with mixed identity---whether it's because of mixed race/ethnicity, an unconventional upbringing, or the label of being a hyphenated American. It's hard to feel a sense of belonging when you aren't the single, stale image of your culture that people constantly project.
Damn. Ya'll went hard. This was nothing but good takes from beginning to end. It's wild that you are your sis are "not hispanic enough" in certain situations. I always feel not Mexican enough, but it just goes to show there's no ideal Mexican.
As an undiagnosed afro latina/hispanic (Haitian and Dominican) girl with ADHD and possibly autism, it makes me happy to know that you're on the spectrum! But seriously, both the Black and Latino community have the same problem. They're always focused on drama, stereotypes, etc., but aren't actually doing anything to progress as a community. We need to do better!
omg dominican and haitian? i know that some tea, i dont know if it matters but just in case and in general, as a dominican just know tu ere de lo nuetro period, you dont have to prove yourself to anyone 💖
@@Njirimara Aw tysm! Yeah it's difficult cuz my mom doesn't believe that I have either conditions yet she complains about my symptoms all the time lol. And unfortunately, I don't speak Spanish since I didn't grow up with or know about my Dominican roots. And my ADHD is making it really difficult for me to learn Spanish
@@blossxma girl i feel you :c, dominicans are often veeery conservative, in a bad way, and felt for the longest that i didnt belong in the culture because i wasn't this violent, hyper-masculine, high-horse self-serving religious person ppl wanted me to be (im queer), even if I'm actually first generation. Honestly, either from your environment or by your parents, your culture affects you. your culture is what you make it to be, there are multiple ways to connect with it that arent language (there are even dominican communities in dr that only speaks english), and maybe what we need is more people that fall out the norm to be open to comfort the ones that do too, maybe that way we wouldnt have so many toxic men and women in our community. tldr: Theres no reason why u got to inherit generational trauma and not inherit ur culture lol.
@@Njirimara omg I'm queer too! I'm bisexual and aromantic (tho I think I might be omnisexual again) and Haitians are hella homophobic. Some are also really religious so being gay is frowned upon. Same with Dominicans. It sucks! I want to be a Writer, Voice Actress, Director, TH-camr, Photographer, Manga Artist, and Visual Artist and I hope that I can create art to show that not only do queer Haitians exist, but that we're capable of doing a lot more than what society believes about us.
As a BW I was also so hyper-focused on the problems within my community thinking we were the only ones struggling and having internal conflicts it’s eye-opening learning about what other communities’ experiences. Very eye-opening I appreciate you for this❤️🦆
i grew up learning and speaking Spanish, in school kids didn't think I was Latina and thought i was lying. I had pale skin, Golden honey brown hair, curly hair who was a gifted kid. Someone from my own race wouldn't believe me.people would say "she's white", "she is pale as a ghost".each time i tried to fit in but felt left out due to how i look
That's weird because most of the people from my Venezuelan culture who came to my country of birth, Trinidad are called papaya/ poppoi skin(they're pale in complexion). Yet I relate to you but opposite in complexion. In trinidad my locals 9/10 ALWAYS consider you Hispanic is you're fair in colour. So whenever I say, soy Venezuelana they be like, "so why yuh not fair? You rell black"
@@wizziboo Yes, white-passing Latinos do get white privilege in some aspects but in others I imagine it's hurtful when someone tries to take someone's identity away because of how they look. It's no such thing as "looking Latina". Latino isn't a race.There are Latinos of all races but they are all still Latino
I mean, as a Latin American not living im the US these people are pretty irrelevant, I don't know any of them, I feel like this is a problem in the Mexican-American sphere probably, not Hispanic, as you didn't mention any Spanish, Colombian, Chilean, etc. Tiktokers
My senior quote was "ponete las pilas" - Mami because that is what she told me, and I was successful in high school, graduating with my associates degree and diploma at the same time.
@laural794 according to what grammatical rules? It is spelled correctly. I understand if to you it might seem incorrect but to a large part of Latin America that uses the voseo instead of the tuteo, it is absolutely correct.
Welcome my friend, to the discussion of problematic, stereotypical influencers negatively impacting our communities. Most of the video essays on TH-cam from Black creators are talking about the same thing in our community 😩✨
I was always an alt girl (or a rockerita). I was born in PR, Spanish was my first language, I've lived in PR on and off for a total of 15 years. I've voted in PR elections, protested in San Juan, protested here in the US. And all my life I've been told I'm not "latina" enough. Not just by white people, but everyone. Other latinos, other boricuas, black people, Asian people. Almost everyone I've met has at least commented that I don't "look" Puerto Rican. I've never met the social criteria for "latina" because I'm goth and nerdy and don't follow the latin trends. It's been a lifelong struggle of mine to be alienated by my own culture when it feels so inextricably linked to my personal identity. Everyone assumes that by being different you're actively rejecting or inherently against the established culture-- not that you can simultaneously appreciate and participate in both. It's not all bad though, at least in recent years people have stopped automatically assuming every rocker is satanic. Honestly I graduated HS in 2011 in PR and literal teachers and security guards felt like it was alright to call kids satanic because they shop at Hot topic. The amount of othering and also sexualization I got in school for being "satanic" was honestly traumatizing. Now as an adult I know it wasn't really about satanism or "protecting the kids", but because I wasn't presenting as a Latina correctly. 🧛♀️ alt-latinas 4 life 🧛♀️ Thank you Salem for putting into words something I've been feeling for a long time. 🖤
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❤HAPPY HISPANIC HERITAGE MONTH TO ALL MY ALT/NEURODIVERGENT/MISUNDERSTOOD HISPANIC FOLLOWERS OUT THERE!!!🥳🎉 I hope we can have open/healthy conversations about what we need to improve on in our community online and outside of social media- we need better representation & there's some stuff we just gotta stop doing all together fr. Comment down below your fav non-problematic / non-toxic hispanic influencers! Let's show some love ❤❤❤
It's you obviously! Thank you for being amazing! LUV YAAAAAAAA
HAPPY HISPANIC HERITAGE MONTH!!!!!
@@_salemtovar_ 🦆 amazing video, it’s always important to open up these conversations to older and younger people within our community.
happy hispanic heritage month! btw everyone afro-latinos exist!
@@aliag1728 Yes, we do exist❤️!
Young people, please graduate from high school. It is so important for your future, don’t be ignorant.
2nded. Its fine to get your bag but get your education first. Knowladge lasts a lifetime.
If you're not trying to start your own business, its not that important. The education you get will help in running a business. In my experience its about who you know, not what you know that makes you successful in the job market. Its just a personal achievement at this point.
I would but I have a learning disability and I'm constantly being denied a 504 plan for my ADHD because I'm a mixed teenage girl who can't even get help because of the place I live.
ok because im in the brink of high school
@@jamesd5532 Most jobs require a diploma. Bffr
I don't think Mexican people living in Mexico as myself feel that US influencers are representative of us and our culture
They don’t, I’ve seen them comment and say they don’t act like that and even call the influencers pochos
As a Mexican living in the US, I don’t feel like they represent us either. These influencers feel like puppets of what Americans want us to be like when we’re nothing like this.
Hispanic Heritage is an American way for pochos to connect it's not really for us Latinos living in Latin America or first gens
@@kimberly338 yes you are. You can deny it all you want but stereotypes exist for a reason.
It's not about how we view them its about how uneducated people in other parts of the world or the U.S view them
I’m a Latina that dropped out of high school 😅 I’m in my mid twenties trying to get my GED! Young people, please finish school.. life is harder if you don’t
@@No_675 I’m so proud of you! I hope the people in life are proud of you too. Good luck with your GED.
Are Latina parents not strict with education?
@@whi1870 based on the video, I’d say not really. But it’s not to say all…however, it’s getting more prevalent with dropouts
Good for you. Good luck ❤
Not Latina, but I Def had to FIGHT for my education due to my disabilities.
As a Black woman, different cultures but the same thing! We focus more on the BS/ stereotypes is very disturbing.
There's a ton of similarities
Facts.
Yup!
i was gonna come here and say this! we need to do better for ourselves as POC!
Yeah I’m a black girl and I always get called getto for no reason it just makes me sad because all I want is to be myself and it’s just rude
I’m a Latina in tech and when you mentioned having to be your own role model is hard, I felt that in my soul. I was told by professors that I would never get accepted to grad school because they wouldn’t take “someone like me”. I’m now in my last year of my masters program and now take the time to mentor other Latinas curious about entering the tech world. Love this video and the message 🫶🏼
Yes I'm happy for you as I can be as a stranger on the internet. Also nice Hotaru pfp💗
Good for you. Pay it forward!
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Im a Latino software engineer in university!! Its important to prepare people or they’ll just drop out honestly. The Latino community often does not get enough support academically and mentally, especially from our families. My family never had the knowledge to help me with homework and stigmatized getting mental help. Even though I’m considered a good student, I still feel like I’m at my breaking point very often because of all the issues I’m carrying with me. Ive seen many young latin@s who drop out because of similar struggles- despite their brightness. Please push hard yall, we’ve got this
the amount of trauma and issues we carry with us to school are insane. education can break cycles but the road is so difficult and tests u in every way possible. I’m also a latina in mechanical engineering and I hope u find success bro❤️
THIS!
I hope you are taking advantage of your university resources. If you haven't already done so look into getting mental health counseling at your schools. Many schools offer these services free of cost or low cost. Some even have low cost clinics. The counselors may be able to guide you to some resources for first generation students. I went through what you are going through and I understand how hard it it. Animo y si se puede
As someone who graduated with a CS degree. You got this, it will be worth it in the end.
ough the unable to help with homework was so real, my parents werent able to help me since 4th or 5th grade since they didnt understand very well
First gen here- I graduated with my nursing degree abt a year ago and seeing my parents and family so proud of me when I walked the stage gave me a sense of fulfillment that their hard work did not go unrecognized in this country. My husband (not Latino but black) is the only one to graduate college and is about to graduate med school (entirely paid for by the military) and the thought of us providing a future where our kids will never have to face the amount of poverty/hardships that we faced is one of the most proudest achievements of our lives. It truly does start with education.
Awww, I love that for you. Congratulations! 😊
Congrats to the both of you!! That’s inspiring, wish your family the best!
Love this for yall, as a first gen this gives me hope and confidence
@@Chick3nugg3t congrats to both of y’all !! Great job 💞
@@Chick3nugg3t Congratulations! We are so proud of you and I’m glad you are giving your kids the opportunity to live in an environment where they don’t have to worry about poverty❤️🙏🏼
I'm a Mexican, living in México, I'm so proud to not know about any of the mentioned influencers lmao
@dearava4744 yeah same. I have 0 clue who any of these people are lmao. I thought this was gonna be more indepth topic but these are basically teenage influences on tiktok lol
@@dearava4744 Frs these influencers aren’t known in Mexico they’re only known by Mexican Americans lol.
Y? En mexico estan igual. Puro morro reggaetonero o que idolatran peso pluma. Se ponen en las redes sociales bailando esas pendej...das.
Basado paisano
i live in the states and i dont either lol i stay away from social media . its a cancer
As a black American woman, I see so many parallels between this issue pertaining to the internet and our respective racial communities. I give you my total love and empathy. Happy Hispanic Heritage month and keep pushing for the holistic representation you deserve 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
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@@Naistov I was thinking the same thing.
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For real, especially the feeling of being disconnected from your culture. I'm from South Africa and I can't speak my mother tongue because my school didnt allow us to speak it and I grew up feeling so much shame around it and feeling like I'm less black (coconut) because of it.
Now that I'm older I still feel like I need to relearn my language but I no longer have the feeling that I need to "earn back" my blackness, and that diversity in the black experience is a good thing
It’s scary how much I related to this as an Australian. See now that you know I’m Australian what’s popping into your head? Dangerous animals Steve Irwin g’dsy mate how’s it goiiiin. No. I’m just another human trying to make her way though life. My name is Greek. Sorry my name isn’t more Australian. Yeah I eat vegemite. So what. Sorry. It drives me insane that I’ve been reduced to dangerous animals and bogan accents 😡
I'm a black woman and lemme sit my butt down and watch in solidarity with ya'll. Social media and influencer space as a whole has been.....ummm....not conducive to my people and our culture. Between it being picked apart, the caricatures, culture vultured in such brazen and offensive ways, the tone deaf inputs and rush judgement by people who've never even seen one of us irl lmaooo and just...the toxic drama over the activism and community organizing? I've seen the same thing happening to the hispanic community too. Sad hugs. 🫂
@@Bunn.B do Hispanic people ever come in solidarity for black people?
I hate how all the wrong stuff goes viral
@@britneyt9253Just couldn't stay on a positive note huh??😅🤦🏽♀️
@@DominiqueNicole144yeah, but it is a legitimate question. I’m Afro Latina, and it’s strange getting hatred from both sides.
Ever since I first saw a yt woman dub over her voice that of a black person, it felt like we were all about to go downhill...
I feel for you. ❤
I must be old, who are these people? Deleting social media has been the best decision I ever made, save me the brain rot
fr i can’t recommend deleting the scrolling apps enough, i feel so good ab my extra 20 hours a week.
Exactly brain rot is real and the new generation perpetuate it
I’m asking the same question 😂
Who are these babies ??
Oh yea! Same here 😂
Right, I don’t have tiktok and would get called weird by people in school because of that. I wouldn’t get offended because I felt happy and good about not having tiktok or any other social media.
When you said “I’m proud of you Mija” got me instantly in tears. In our culture even being successful in school or in life is never acknowledged. It’s almost like our families thrive in making others miserable.
This video was amazing to watch, you’re doing great. Thank you for your voice, it matters.
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POP OFF girl. You spoke to me as someone feeling left out of my own community. You can be happy, fun, and smart at the same time. We need hispanics to show us that you don’t have to just choose one
You read my mind.
I remember I used to work with this dude who liked me, but would only flirt with me saying things "Oh I like spicy Latinas" or comment on more stereotypical Hispanic comments. He even said "Oh you're not really Latina because you're not mean"..JAW DROPPING
bro really exposed himself like that 😭
I really never gonna understand people stupidity being mean isn't a hispanic trait it a human trait and a very toxic trait
I went on a date with a guy thinking we’d be a great match from all the talking and texting we did before we met up and he absolutely ruined any attraction I had to him. Everything was fine until he started to be pushy and not care about my opinions. The last straw for me was when he said “I’ve always seen myself marrying a Mexican”. And at first I felt weird about what he said but couldn’t find out why. Then I was thinking deeper about it and I found out that he just wanted to typical stereotypes of Latina women. He wanted me to clean and cook and take care of him like it was my full time job (plus everything else that latinas are stereotyped for). And I’m absolutely not like that lol. Broke it off with him the next day because I don’t play like that.
@@marcen7067 period. ❤
It’s the fact that I’ve never met a “spicy Latina” AND IM literally a latina
As a Latina that actually lives in Latin America, the amount of stereotypes that USA has of us sometimes is insane to watch
these people are not latinos, not hispanics, they are all of americans with mexican parents who makes them feel as latinos, but they are not latin people
@@ferziovelazquez5254 exactamente 🤌es sólo esa obsesión de muchos estadounidenses de pertenecer a un grupo de cualquier ámbito y tienden a hacerlo su personalidad completa.
@@ferziovelazquez5254 most of this influencers parents are not Mexicans
@@Vantemma I know but most of them like the girl of this video, even tough this american Influencers are not latinos, just every latin american feels weird watching this people
@@coffeepls-e7u Cualquier latinoamericano que vive en sus respectivos países se sintió raro e incómodo viendo a estas personas que no conocemos de nada, solo los conocen los estadounidenses con raíces latinas como la chica del video, también catalogarlo como latinos es incorrecto ya que nadie se sintió identificado con estos videos o ideas
Can someone shed light into the rampant sexual assault on young Hispanic girls? I see it all the time in my work and 100% of the suspects are close family members.
This
Unfortunately it's a very common issue here in Latinoamérica, for example my country México, not only does almost every woman experience SA of some kind (and yes, most of the abusers are family members) but also female homicides are a huge problem, there's many every single day, it's exhausting, sad and terrifying
hmm...
@@noname-ww1oh vestiges of colonialism, we’re experiencing a colonial hangover.
Well I mean most are thrown into being a woman at 16. And you guys celebrate it
The “don’t wear shorts cus your tio is coming over” is too real. And yes. No one talks about that 😔
@@SA-sb2wh it reminded me of the many times Mexicans told me I had great legs when I was 11-12. I didn’t even realize how disgusting it was till a grown man followed me around the Mexican grocery store trying to flirt. I didn’t wear shorts for over a decade after that.
@@alsolark3029I’m so sorry you had to experience that. I hate how this type of thing is so normalized and how it endangers the girls and women in our community 😔
I used to get cat called walking home from the bus by Hispanic men in my neighborhood when I was literally eight years old.
@@dm96177 this is so gross and I’ve experienced it too. And unfortunately it’s very “normal” in the Hispanic community. Please talk about this behavior more Salem
@@alsolark3029I hate that you are pinning that gross behavior that stem from the male gaze in general to the Mexican identity, it’s a male gaze problem that comes from patriarchal societies, when you specifically keep pointing out “Mexicans” like you did in your comment it reinforces the white supremacy stereotypes of racialized people being sexual abusers, what you are describing Anglos do as well overwhelmingly, it’s unnecessary to attach “Mexican” to it.
Being told “I’m not black/white enough” was one of the most hurtful yet benefiting things to hear. It allowed me to find my identity outside of my race. Making everything about stereotypes in culture can be very dangerous for a lot of minority groups.
As a black American… FELTTTT it’s such a beautiful thing to start seeing your culture grow and develop and accept diversity within your community. You can be “weird” and “geeky” and have different interests AND NOT BE WHITE. It doesn’t strip you of your cultural identity.
frrr its like only white people are allowed to be geeky, cuz everyone else has their own stereotypes that people just assume about them
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Exactly!! I feel so seen!! 🥹
The whole thing abt “ur acting white” is so dumb cuz what does acting “white” even mean 😭
Literally. As a white fan if those things, I find it wild when people gatekeep it. Like…it’s art, it’s music, it’s for everyone. ESPECIALLY Miku with the Miku around the world art movement.
Something else I picked up on with hispanic influencers is that you don't see dark skin hispanic influencers, the influencers who are closer to european beauty standers or as they are know as "guerritos" or "guerras" have lighter skin,blond hair, small noses etc would have more of a following then dark skins.
Wish I could upvote this x1000 because it’s so true
@@alexismonroy4345 yup sucks she didn’t touch on that part while speaking about so many different kinds of diversity
BINGO!
THANK YOU, they forget hispanic is NOT a race. i'm a black latina. we dont get representation
@@alexismonroy4345 Colorism is a huge issue in both the Hispanic and black community as well. It's so sad. I'm afro latina and seeing how much they prefer lighter skin over darker skin is really sad. I'm somewhere in the middle, but to them my skin would be considered dark
32:33 this is so funny because as a Black alt girl the most metal, emo, goth, etc. people i know and see are Latino. that’s why it’s so crazy when people try to say you aren’t really a part of that if you’re not white
My Mexican husband works for 1%percenters. All his wHite coworkers get so shocked with the fact that he doesn’t drink Modelos or party every weekend with loud music. We’re already a caricature to them, why do we have to keep feeding into it.
Omg yeah, my mom's white but my dad's Mexican and she still says stuff like that. And when I call her out on it she literally gets mad at me and calls me negative
Why can’t people do that though? Not every Latino needs to, but not every Latino should stop either, however white people should stop judging an entire group of people based on some of the people who they find wrong, the issue is with MY people not Latinos who drink beer and like to dance
Well partying isn’t a bad thing either. Stereotypes are bad yes but combating that with trying to please white people by rejecting part of your culture like Mexican music and family gatherings isn’t the answer either. Not saying ur husband is doing that btw. Just sometimes people think assimilating to white culture is the answer. Sometimes ppl come off as pretentious and ashamed of their culture. Exist and be as you are if u aren’t harming anyone.
My husband worked sales with a very privileged white guy who comes from a wealthy family. They got into deep conversation at one point, and the guy looks at him all shocked and says, “Man, you’re the smartest beaner I’ve met!”
He actually said that and expected my husband to be flattered by his comment.
@@NoSoupForYou-zu9dj casually calling someone a slur is horrible oml???
My ex best friend who is latina left highschool 2 weeks before graduation because she did not believe in herself. It still breaks my heart and we stopped being friends because I tried to get her to come back but she didnt listen. I've almost graduated from university now and I still think about her.
@@ritzee13 damn the saddest story I’ve heard I hope their doing well
@@Nobody-hc9tn I honestly don't know how she is because she refuses to talk to me for trying to get her to come back to school.
Sometimes it starts from the household. I had a friend that also dropped out because she had two babies back to back in high school from a guy who was mostly at prison. I think this guy was in his mid 20s and was in her mom’s circle of friends (Lots of grooming was normalized in my community 💔) our friendship fizzled out over the years. :( I hope she got out of that household. It’s hard to escape people like that.
@evy7930 Totally agreed, my friends parents didn't really care for education either and her 2 younger sisters dropped out shortly after her. I feel like if her parents said something they would atleast have a highschool diploma, it really annoyed me how passive they were at the time.
You can't make anyone do anything. Her journey is her own and though it may be sad it not your job to make her do anything.
This was so refreshing for so many reasons. Our community feels so distant from one another, and always feels like Hispanic people severely underrepresented in the media. We need to start holding Hispanic creators accountable and demand a certain level of respect to the Latino image.
It's not just latino culture that's becoming toxic its practically every culture that has this weird glorification of certain stereotypes that social media pressures us to become making us insecure and uncomfortable with acceptance with who we are convincing us to do stupid stuff like this
I was thinking the same. This is happening in every community, and I don't think it's going to improve.
Ain’t that the truth 🇦🇺
@@BombshElle_7don’t give your kids cell phones it will improve. This is what happens when you don’t raise your kids, and let the internet raise your kids.
I feel like this is even true for white folks. The most popular accounts are either barefoot and pregnant faith healer or hyper aggressive conspicuous consumption ultra femininity girly. These things get criticized less than "ghetto" content but they still promote and normalize harmful behaviors. I feel like it's mostly the algorithm to blame and not to be overly conspiratorial but I think it's on purpose.
I'm seeing this within the Asian American community as well. It seems like there is this strange collectivist need to partake and craft a social identity within stereotypes. We don't seem to realize how damaging this is and plays into many dangers for our communities.
It's not that there is a lack of diversity, the Latino community is very diverse, it's just a lack of representation because of how discriminatory the Latino/Hispanic community is. As an Afro-Panamanian, I've been looked down on by other Hispanics and told I'm not Hispanic because of the way I look, the way I speak Spanish, and my people's culture. The way the Hispanic community hides people who don't represent what they want Hispanic culture to be defined as is crazy, but once they do something big, they claim them, you don't see anybody saying Celia Cruz isn't Hispanic because of her achievements. The way we have Americans still believing Latino/Hispanic is a race (it is an ethnicity) and that there aren't Black, White, Asian, native Latinos/Hispanics (who aren't biracial/mixed) still to this day blows my mind.😑
it's not a lack of representation globally, it is a lack of representation in the United States. Majority of these toxic influencers you guys refer to it as "hispanic influencers" are Hispanic Americans that were born in the US and not in Latinamerica
Biracial American with Dominican heritage and I agree 100%
@@yuyinho not you belittling their experience lol. No matter how you spin it, it's a lack of representation, GLOBALLY. There are toxic and racist Latinos in LATAM and the States and saying that the toxic ones are only the ones born in the US is erasing the problems in the Latin community with race. OP is right, and you just proved it.
TY!!!! From a white half Cuban, it is super validating to see this. The racism and gatekeeping within the community is awful. Also, the homophobia too because there's a lot of LGBTQ+ Hispanic and Latinos out there (Queer here lol) who have experienced biphobia, homophobia, transphobia, etc from cis and straight Hispanics/Latinos mainly due to catholic ties to religion.
afro-panamians arent really hispanic, you guys are of jamaican origin for the most part, how are jamaicans of hispanic origin? you do not go around calling someone like Selena Quintanilla an anglo just because shes an american for many generations, even your culture, accent, way of life is gonna be jamaican, being born in an Hispanic nation doesnt make you hispanic the same way me being born in the USA doesnt make me anglo
Thank you for this! As a biracial Latina it’s been hard to fit in to either side of my heritage. It’s refreshing to hear other young people discuss this because it is sad that some of us are shamed by other Latinos because we weren’t raised in our culture. My ex gave me such a hard time for being too white then my white side makes me feel weird for embracing my Hispanic heritage. Even my Mexican family isn’t super cultural so it’s tough finding a place to fit in the world. Thanks for making me feel seen and talking about this issue! Much love to you and ms Penny 🫶🏽🦆
depending on where you are from, I would recommend going to cultural events, here in California (San Diego and Los Angeles) you see a lot of them. We just had Hispanic heritage month festivals, and some are preparing Day of the dead altars right now.
Not you listing like ppls real names and then you js go “PITBULL” like I got jumpscared
SAME i flinched
mr.worldwide jumpscare
I started laughing 💀
El chavo got me again 😂
@@_salemtovar_lmao😭
What he heck is happening in america that watching anime makes you less latin@?! Literally is part of our culture to make edits of anime characters in camisetas de futbol! There is not a man in my generation who's path of life wasn't affected by Goku, Los Caballeros del Zodiaco or Supercampeones! HAVE NON OF YOU EVER HEARD OF REI CHIQUITA?!
REAL 🗣‼️ We literally have such a strong connection to anime and its not even a recent thing 😭✋️ everyone's tíos love Los Caballeros del Zodiaco and everyone's tías love Candy Candy
exactly my friend who love anime love editing them to have t shirt of their favorite latin america football team or wearing their national clothing like their national hat or traditional clothing like how liking anime make you less hispanic make no sense especially how people in latin america love anime
Latinos love anime. We bring soooooo much money to Japan, just like we do kpop. We are big groupies
Many Latina countries have such a interesting history with anime and dubs too!!
fr like goku is so popular here, even old people know those characters
Also your sister is really awesome. She’s very eloquent and has such clear diction and values. I loved hearing her talk lol would totally listen if she had a podcast
NO FR. Also the vocabulary. WE DONT SPEAK LIKE THAT. like come on. Its funny. But when you got people calling these influencers slow. They might think the rest of us are slow asf too
Nombre porque cuando oyi sobre videos de TikTok dicendo q Latinos dicen "foo" o "ese" como maneras a referir a otras personas, me poni bien confundido.
Mis padres son de Mich. Pero yo no, entonces me poni más confundido sabiendo q yo no hago esas cosas. Ni me llamo chicano por causa de eso.
That’s wild, because she literally showcased “Foosinmedicine”. It’s not how you speak, and to denigrate people who do speak like that as being “slow” is purely your own personal bias.
It’s its own dialect. It is now “slow” it is just as valid and intelligent as any other dialect. And this isn’t just my own bias, I say this about Appalachian, midland, and every other accent and dialect.
Right !! Not all of us are uneducated, loud and dramatic😅
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Yeah but the slang they are referring to it is yours and your community, like none of those words and mannerism came from actual Mexican nationals, it’s a Mexican American slang, maybe you don’t do it but it is from your community don’t act like you don’t know where it came from either.
@@ericktellez7632 apparently I'm not a part of that community since I don't know anyone of my relatives who do that, nor younger cousins.
Imagina, los hijos de mexicanos no queriendo ser identificado con una estereotipo tan idiotico.
Did anyone watch John Leguizamo’s recent monologue at the Emmy’s? It was so empowering to see someone call out Hollywood stereotypes and demand more representation. Unfortunately it’s not just Hollywood pushing negative stereotypes about Hispanics but our OWN people!
@@madyoro his show on Netflix is so great too!!
Ngl it’s absolutely both, Hollywood isn’t exactly doing y’all many favors :(
I didn’t watched this year’s Emmys, but I have one issue with Mr. Leguizamo. He excludes Afro-Latinos whenever he calls out Hollywood. Other than that, he’s not that bad💯
@@madyoro Well John Leguizamo is also a clown 💀
@@JulianSteve ????? How so? I didn’t know that.
Sigh!!! As a member of the black community, we are going through the same thing. I hope things get better for us all. #happyhispanicheritagemonth
Facts!
I’m not Latino or Hispanic, I’m African American but to me this speaks to a lot of the issues that Black or Afro-Latinos face who do speak up about social issues to Latinos who are ignorant and perpetuate stereotypes and hateful rhetoric. Specifically about afro centric appearances, and being divisive towards people of darker complexion, not realizing that we all face a form of over-policing and violence but instead making it seem like Latino is it’s own race that deserves to be treated better especially if you are lighter skin and have straighter hair. I live in NJ and where I live I feel like there’s so much unsolved animosity between Latinos (this includes Afro Latinos in some regards) and African Americans here and I know if they talked more they would realize they have more in common than they have differences.
You put this perfectly! As an Afro-Latino from NYC, I’ve experienced not so present moments with non-black Latinos. I’m not saying everyone is bad, but from my experience. Certain Latinos made it clear that I wasn’t the same. Being Black, barely speaking Spanish, and awkward (unique) = ostracized🫤
As an afro-latino and dominican girllll i feel you, I remember being in this catechism class for my communion, how everyone was so dismissive of not only black folks but queer people, neurodivergent and such, is not talked about enough how social consevatism is so rooted in our community and as a queer person too it has taken a hit on me ngl, and its all to achieve this standard of european/christian ideals that we will just never get, like, we are literally being made to fight with each other about whos ghetto, whos the "real" x, whos woke, whos an oreo without realizing the real issue at hand
The thing is, is hard not have animosity when there is never any mention and highlighting of positive examples of cooperation. Not just social media or media at large but in normal conversation is entirely discussions of the negative aspects of Latin Americans and pointing out the individual examples of racism and never or hardly ever any examples of positive interactions and you won’t let me lie here, no forum online and in media points out those positive stories between the groups ever. Like, yeah bringing attention and calling the behavior out but if that’s all is done, and never reinforce the positive interactions ever then it won’t really ever change. It’s not about receiving applauses it’s about highlighting good examples to create a positive feedback, not denying the negative examples either but having an actual balance and right now is entirely negative.
@@ericktellez7632 Then maybe it’s time to change that. We’re in a time were we can build platforms to start highlighting what we want to see. I know I had wonderful cross culture experiences with Latinos from PR, DR Mexico, and parts of South America. I don’t wanna tokenize them but I would love to see more people showcase how beautiful it is when we come together. I will say one of my favorite experiences from college was going out to teach English to the men and women who immigrated here and where struggling with the language. In turn I learned more from them and about them and it was enjoyable, I wish I got to do it even today.
@@Njirimara That's so unfair :( I'm sorry. You don't deserve that, nor anyone in your communion class who was Black, biracial, queer or neurodiv. From my family, I try to speak out about it when my parents' social conservatism starts showing up, but because they're religious or believe in a very strict, non-compromising view about what identities are acceptable, they hate gay people, they repeat microaggressions, and yeah. It sucks because these are the things we should talk about to form accepting communities within our Latine commuity, but are never receptive.
It’s crazy because Mexicans in Mexico are not ghetto like the Mexicans here in the US.😭 We have to do better.😭
We don't speak like that. And none of their stories are relatable. We live very differently
Yeah but Mexico has their version of "ghetto" you know like when people say "Eres naco"
focus on not trying to be cut up or shot by cartel luv like that’s more ghetto than compton (a middle class mexican suburb of LA)
I think some people can be tacky or whatever but ghetto really in most cases is just used in a racist and classist context. All races have rude and obnoxious people but only poc are called ghetto when white people aren’t. In some cases you are labeled as “ghetto” for simply being darker skinned and poor bc of the insane colorism and classism in the U.S/Mexico.
insane for someone from a country ran by criminals to be calling anyone or anything ghetto. no other country in the world has let criminals overrun their own government and economy.
This video is something that I’ve been trying to explain to my other Latino friends for a long time! My father is a first gen Latino doctor from the South Bronx who was able to get into Brown on a full ride scholarship. My grandparents placed such great importance on school and academic excellence, and my parents want to make sure that I also fulfill my education. I plan on becoming a cancer researcher and pursuing a degree in biochemistry; your sister’s story reminds me so much of my father’s!
As a mother myself, I find it JUST AS DISTURBING that the 13yr old girl's parents are allowing her to even be on tiktok, let alone be a tiktok creator. If they took that away from her....there wouldn't be creepy men and women talking so unbelievably disturbing and disrespectfully in her comments or online. Let's hold 👏 her parents 👏 responsible 👏 first and foremost! I would NEVER do this to my daughter who is 20 now when she was younger nor my now 15yr old either! 😡
It’s a problem for sure. Parents think just because it’s available and legal it’s safe. But sadly that’s not the case.
Parents allowing this behavior for money and fame is a tale as old as time. These kinds of parents are no better than the ones who drop off their young children at the Nickelodeon studio and leave them there alone with the wolves. So I agree, it starts right at home and what this little girls parents are allowing to happen (feeding her to the internet wolves).
It gets even worse sometimes they show up on the news. And the newscasters are talking about what the parents are doing are totally the best thing to do for their kid
????let’s hold the creep old men responsible instead
@starstruckeed in a perfect world I would agree with you, but this isn't.
The Miku reference really got me 😭 thank you for representing us ‘weird’ alt latinas
-a goth autistic lesbian who also loves miku
YOOOO ENSTARS PFP SPOTTED
Wtf
UR JUST LIKE ME
This too real😭
Idk how as people of color.. people watch a media who sexualizes minors & have zero representation for people of color, a media that’s deep into white worshipping among other issues .
African Americans 🫱🏽🫲🏼 Latinos/Hispanics rn
No but genuinely it’s so upsetting that the few people that are the stereotype represent our communities and push all the negative stereotypes and dehumanization and sexualization of our people and expect us to be one way but simultaneously hate us when we are that way
100%
I appreciate how semi- educational the second half of the video became. I work in a Hispanic serving institution in higher education. I knew the statistics, but I didn't realize the "why" of the unique struggles Latino students face.
Did I just hear Salem say she’s on the spectrum ?? my lil autistic heart just fluttered
i got a late diagnoses at 19! and i also have two cousins on the spectrum :) small world
@@_salemtovar_ as someone with MOSTLY inattentive and impulsive ADHD, it's so relatable to see your journey. your content really helps me understand and appreciate the differences in our brains. keep being awesome, salem! and, my brother's on the spectrum
@@_salemtovar_ONE OF US!!!! ONE OF US!!!! ONE OF US!!!! ONE OF US!!!!
@@_salemtovar_ it woyld be cool to see you talk about it more!
@@River.flows.As a fellow Autistic/ADHD gal, I’d love to see Salem make a video about it too (no pressure, no rush)!
i just turned 18 and i dropped out, this video made me realize that i need to keep going.
You can do this!!
@@saltyriz7734 tysm 🫶🫶
Keep going ,it’s annoying but in the society that we live in ,you need it .
@@happycow1 brother just finish online it’s not hard we have AI now
The day when people figure out that they're individuals is going to be crazy.
That’s the thing though, majority of people aren’t individuals, they group think and allow others to dictate their thoughts and behaviors
It's hard for people to develop their own identity. That's why people default to being a man or woman, whatever their race or ethnicity is, or their sexuality.
@@registeredaccountant3850like finding out more about their identity? Like cultural wise?
Why develop your own personality when you can just adopt one haha
The fact that I teared up when you said "I'm proud of you mija" is so telling. This was a great video. I'm going to share it with my friends and family! 🦆
Salem...I hate but also appreciate that my experience is so much like yours. The over-sexualization since hitting puberty, all against my will and often by my own family, the restrictive protestant background, being told I'm too serious for caring about social issues, and never feeling "Hispanic" enough. I was prevented from getting more into my culture from grandparents and great grandparents being forced to speak English, told to demonize any of our indigenous root, and so much more. Thank you for being a balanced, powerful, intelligent and compassionate voice for us (and funny as hell), giving me Hispanic people to inspire me, especially women.
I'm kinda surprised that Lele pons wasn't mentioned, when she was selling this "toxica latina" back when "Vine" existed. But great video and both your explanations are so detailed and well-spoken. ❤
@@viktoriamarkovicova1019 I was surprised she also didn’t mention Malu Trevejo who went for belly dancing as a minor and now mostly just engages in toxica drama
I agree! The majority of these are Mexican American but there are other non-Mexican American influencers that are soooo lame and feed into silly stereotypes
I’m curious why a lot of the negative stereotypes and sentiments are similar in the Latino/ Hispanic and Black communities. Like education is a white thing, children being pushed to assist in parenting their siblings, over sexualizing children, and more
Rap and reaeggeton are to blame
@@Jewel_Screaming_Chango8387 Narco cultura as well
It would be interesting to know when exactly the change happened from immigrants that understood the value of hard work and being humble to a generation of spoiled barely latino americans
@@cheeto_chief_Well, I don't see the incentive for second-gen latino americans to work hard when they've grown up watching their parents work ethic exploited. My dad took every opportunity to tell me I don't want to be like him and to find a different way to get by.
@@Jewel_Screaming_Chango8387 I gotta slightly disagree, idk about reaeggeton but for rap it’s only become so much more hateful and violent relatively recently. I think it’s a mixture of many racial issues within the US. Some of which are perpetuated by our oppression and others are perpetuated by us as a group
THANK YOU FOR MAKING THIS VIDEO. I've felt so alone for years. Glad to see more like minded kin folk with a bigger platform speak out on this topic
As a teacher, I get so stressed because my 7th graders do not care about their education. Flat out, do not care. They have no drive or motivation.
To be fair... Even if they had 3 college degrees they'd still not be able to find a job. Education in the US was always about being a good worker ant and making money... And now only worker ant is possible. They're reflecting the economy they were raised in
Its hard to care when the household aint right. I see whats happening on the therapy side
@alexandrahenderson4368 having a highschool degree is certainly going to help them out more than hurt them; what is the actual benefit of not getting one? More free time? these kids still don't know what they want to do in life; if they want to go into a particular career (ex. healthcare) they're going to have to get their education up and backtracking all the way to 7th grade is going to be expensive.
I mean really, should they just give up on life as a whole? America has its issues but I think messages like those are only going to drive hopelessness, su/cide, and mental health issues in the next generation if they're repeatedly shouted at with zero guidance. No hate, I just think messages like these did me more harm than good in highschool
It's because so much of social media is glorifying influencer lifestyle and say it's “cringe” to encourage learning and education. You don't need s degree to make viral videos.
@@alexandrahenderson4368no I'm sorry i disagree to an extent. Having a piece of paper in your hand is just the end result. What about being able to have a normal conversation with people? Or even an educated conversation? Proper grammar in your sentences? Use of vocabulary in context? Formal education in a classroom exposes kids to things they would otherwise not know about. Nah kids these days are or of touch, and those kids make it much more difficult for the kids that want and try to learn.
Im Mexican American and don’t feel like I fit in society , I’m not “Mexican enough because” hits the core , reason why I don’t go to family parties anymore..
@@eleazarchavez943 tap back into your roots.
@@eleazarchavez943 I feel ya there. I’m mixed and lived with the more redneck/country folk side of the family and got side eyed for not “acting more Latina” at times.
Can't say much because I don't know your particular case, but I would definitely advice you to do your research about Mexican culture, maybe watch content made by Mexican youtubers. Don't do it to fit, just do it to know the culture, to understand it and be informed.
I feel you, what’s worse is that i’m slowly forgetting words in Spanish, I feel less and less mexican each day. I can understand it, I just can’t speak it and it sucks… I also hate how common it is to make fun of people like me instead of educating!! my parents didnt even teach me either, I was forced to learn and understand as I grew but it’s hard considering i live in a mostly english-speaking area and even grew up with english being the main language i’d speak since schools and the people in the area are mostly english speaking.
I feel so bad because when it comes to family, I can barely talk. I’m a naturally quiet and closed off person but when they want to speak to me I can only say a few words to them and that’s it.
You shouldn’t exhaust yourself trying to make an effort it goes both ways! If they don’t try to be in your life they’re not worth stressing over for. I was the leper visiting my “fam” in MX because how I would dress and would listen to metal. Oh ! but if they need something (💲) they remember they have a “relative”
i was 13 and out of NOWHEREEEE ppl at school started calling me thicc and men at the mall started staring at me and it pisses me off bc not only is that bad enough, but i was always wearing jeans and a hoodie. it’s so. 👎
It’s shocking, I have a 12 year old daughter and now when I shop with her out at stores guys break their necks especially if they don’t notice I’m there. That is never going to change so just be aware of your personal space and surroundings and if anyone tries to cross that boundary let them know you’re a minor and get help. Take care! ❤
Please please please stay safe. I'm 19 now, and what I've noticed was that the ages I got the most catcalled and harassed was between 13-17 years old. I got into a bunch of 'relationships' with people atleast 8 years my senior during that time, and I didn't feel like anything was wrong. But know, that an adult shouldn't be anywhere near you at that age, especially romantically and s3xually. Stay safe, for your sake, and don't let those creeps anywhere near you ❤
i'm Egyptian muslim and i actually relate to this on so many levels . Even in the "Egyptian- western" side of tiktok we are seen as the "funny poor" people while in reality we are so much more than that.
I’m watching this as an Egyptian too and i didn’t expect to see others of us in the comment section :’). Refreshing to see someone else who gets it
BRO SAME!!! I'M ALSO EGYPTIAN MUSLIM AND FAAACCTTSSSS
What I see Egyptian as rich people more I think it bc mbc but your Arabic sound funny for non speakers I think it sound romantic
I could never find the word to describe this but yes!!! I'm going to start using "funny poor" from now on because it's exactly how most people see ANYONE from Latin America. They see us like one big joke, even though there is so much more depth to everyone's lives.
Seeing juju flex not graduating was so infuriating for me. My family left Durango in the 1920s after the death of my great-great grandfather because he left behind my grandmother and seven daughters. I was the first woman in my family to get a college degree-and went on to my masters degree and definitely do not fit the stereotypes. I want to see more influencers lifting up the Latino community. That’s why I have respect for creators like Galilea, Salem, and Fernanda Cortes.
Girl relax!!!! College is COLONIAL!
Learning is great but school is colonial. That’s not something we need to have to be good humans!
She did graduate, she was just a super senior.
@@ally462if people looked into Juju’s situation, she has literally expressed regret about not graduating on time and not going to college immediately. I feel like this rush of judgement and lack of research exemplifies some of the mentality in our community.
i clicked because im on that side of tiktok surrounding wendy and willito. i never knew other hispanics had the same issues with their culture like how us african americans have with ours. i also feel social media plays a big part of everyone wanting to represent stereotypes for views or clout and it js sets us back yearsss
Salem, to start off, you look great!
We need to stop treating Hispanic/Latino, as well as other POC communities, as monoliths.
It's sad when we ourselves only pay attention to influencers that fit negative stereotypes. I feel it's partly due to the lack of educational opportunities and the strong conservative values (machismo/religion/marianismo) a lot of these influencers come from.
I remember reading a comment on a Filipino video, and they too struggle with anti-intellectualism. I think the Hispanic/Latino community also struggles with this issue.
I appreciate your sister being part of the small growing group of influencers that has managed to make their way into healthcare. I have too and noticed that we need more representation in other sectors, especially science.
I agree with you⭐️!
This is a very interesting topic, I tuned in bc i normally only see black drama at the forefront of everything so it’s interesting to hear a Hispanic person talk about Hispanics in the media
This is a great analysis. I love your perspective. I also want to add that the fact this kids don’t embrace our culture it’s because of the parents. First generation has faced so much trauma, discrimination, racism that they don’t want to impose Latino culture on their kids. Parents don’t want their kids to go through the same as them. It all comes from fear and colonialism is still present. We as parents should be proud of who we are and pass that along to our children. However, it’s hard when you face all those issues in this society. For them is a way to protect their kids, and it just becomes a real problem in the future. Such as what is happening now.
Thank you for this Salem ❤️ I’m black and Mexican and honestly it’s tough to watch only certain influencers get pushed. I’ve never felt Mexican enough growing up and the greatest hate comes from the Latin community. The community is very anti-black and it something that’s still so tough for myself. Plus if you’re into education and leveling up, it’s frowned upon. Almost like a crabs in a bucket mentality. We need to do better foreal and I’m so happy you’re speaking on this.
Foos in medicine AND your sister Penny are people I actually lookup to because tbh… they are the first Latinos I have seen in the media that have pursued higher education and have motivated me to do so💪
This entire topic is super interesting to me. I’m Latina from the Caribbean- so this is pure anecdotal- but both my parents were college educated (my mom in DR and my dad through work since he did HS in the US). I think your parents own attitudes and achievements in education influences how well you do as a child. If a group or community is more focused on survival and economic success, I can see how education takes a back seat especially in countries where education is poorly funded/structured.
Me and every woman in my family (the men were given the pass to fail unsurprisingly but that’s another topic) made it to higher education and beyond. Me and my cousins all hold the minimum of a bachelors in science, liberal arts, etc due to the pressure from our family to be educated (some of my cousins and family friends have non college educated parents so we’re a mixed bag). Like it was so bad that we couldn’t party or date bc school was more important. So this topic is so far out of my scope of reality so this video is quite interesting.
Amazing job!
You just know this woman does her research because she is so informative about every topic she covers!
She doesn't do enough research. You can tell by her reference to important latine historical figures. So US centric.
@@kenishinobi666people are so easily please i found her ignorant right off the bat
@@kenishinobi666 what’s the alternative then? Is it best to avoid the fact that she’s born in the U.S. and only mention figures specific to Mexico? Isn’t that kind of going against the point of suddenly because you’re a 2nd generation immigrant you’re no longer considered Latina? Her perspective is valid even if it doesn’t cover the full picture. It’s hard to capture every Latin American country and every single identity out there because it’s so diverse.
@@kenishinobi666Its a 40 minute video, cant mention every important figure. So picky. Plus you talk about what you know.
@rra7490 Well, she said we need to do better, and that includes her. So why can't she start with better research. When it comes to non US Latine representation, she could have named Che Guevara, Salvador Allende, Emiliano Zapata, María Quinteros de Meros, Simon Bolivar, Comandanta Ramona (Zapatista), and Berta Caceres. She doesn't have to name them all but at least make folks aware that there is more to Latine representation that what is portrayed in our current media. These folks deserve recognition by their community and naming them helps prove the point that we are not a monolith.
i’m guatemalan american but lived in mexico for 7 years (in morelia michoacan!) and i think another big factor in the american diaspora is that our idea of what “latino” culture in filtered through others persceptions. whether that’s media we consume, our parents memories or idealistic hopes, or the news, sometimes that is all we have.
alt culture/tribus urbanas is latino culture. anime is latino culture. philosophy, surrealist literature, scientific innovation, drag queens, brutalist architecture, ska/punk music, and so much more is latino culture. but in the diaspora we don’t always get to see all that. my christian conservative family certainly never showed me that aspect of latinidad.
also the whole “no sabo” discourse i find particularly frustrating. my guatemalan grandmother is maya k’iche and speaks spanish as a second language. is she a “no sabo” because she speaks with a distinct accent, and uses “incorrect” grammar? are we really using a colonizer language as a gauge of authenticity?
Omg yes! I was born in Guatemala and I hear my migrants/migrants' children relatives say “this (whatever nice thing) is for los americanos” and it just makes me feel so many things!
Who told you that? You also deserve nice things, including education! It’s los gringos who started that discourse and we believed it.
Ps I also hate when they say “americanos”. we’re all americanos, from the America continent. Use estadounidense lol
There’s not such thing as Latino culture USA borns made it seem like we all have a variant of USA mexican culture n is not true.
Does Bolivia and Brazil got the same culture. No
Also I’m Nicaraguan you’re also centam we got other languages besides Spanish in our countries n we got different cultures . This doesn’t apply to us in the slightest.
Puro Michoacán!!!!!!!!!🪶🐆
all the more power to your grandmother! my parents know a bit of quechua but because we live in the US now, they're slowly forgetting it. It's a privilege to still have your grandma with us speaking her indigenous language, especially as indigenous culture continues to die out.
Also yeah, calling others "no sabo" is hurtful and not constructive at all (*cough* dad). My dad told me stories laughing at "no sabo" kids not conjugating correctly or using incorrect words, and it built the idea that not knowing Spanish correctly was an embarrassment. Maybe he emphasized maintaining Spanish so we wouldn't forget where we came from as first-gen immigrants (Peruvian!), but Spanish comes in so many different forms within the diaspora itself. A Peruvian's Spanish isn't the same as a Colombian's, nor an Argentinian's, or a Dominican because each of our Latino cultures has their own accent, slang/jergas, and expressions - and we should be celebrating those differences instead of saying one form of Spanish is the "right way" to speak it; otherwise we're playing into the same assimilation culture the U.S. forces onto Latine/os. I really wanted to talk about this because his words affected how I was way too wary of other Latine/os' Spanish growing up, and that was harmful to my Latine/o peers and community members and to myself - trying to gauge how "Latino" we were from how much Spanish we knew, and losing the chance to make friendships. (Edited for grammar)
this is the first time hispanics are experience there first LolCOWs . we arent supporting our artist, painters, musicians, educators, story tellers, musicians, ect ect. its just stereotypes and ignorance. and it gets DEEP cus this effect us in multiple layers, from media, culture, and irl interactions.
There's also A LOT of homophobia amongst young Latino men, and it makes me sad because you would think that GenZ and younger would no better, but sadly, they don't. AND in regards to mental health, I've noticed that speaking about it or using certain terms is seen as "being or acting white". There's still a lot of growth that the Latino community needs. Hopefully with more awareness, we'll get there.
YES, THIS ^^^^^
Among young Latino men? Are you serious? Among all young men LOL.
Nothing wrong with homophobia
@@Carlozz_vlogsweirdo
@@55CINCO55 I mean, as a queer Latino man myself they’re not wrong
As someone from Latin America I hate the cartoonish latino stereotype that Americans have created and exported to the rest of the world through movies and now social media.
This where you’re wrong is not just Americans. USA borns especially chicano culture perpetuated the idea that all of latam is the same.
Chilean here and big SAME
American with Latino immigrant parents here. I completely agree. Most of these kids are 3rd gen with parents raised in America. They think that the unique subsection of American culture that their parents belong to (descendants of immigrants) is somehow representative of people who are actually from Latin America. Nobody I know who isn't from the United States fits any of the stereotypes that they have created about Latino people.
You warmed my heart when you said “I’m really proud of you mija”
Also at 11 years old my own family would comment on my body (because I had a booty) which I was unaware of because I was just a CHILD but they would comment on my body and how I would walk, and that I was walking like that on purpose to show off my butt or to get the little boys attention. Gosh hearing that at the moment was confusing and remembering now really breaks my heart and I’ve vow to NEVER do that to a niece, nephew, son, daughter, friend NO ONE. Thank you for this video by the way.
Salem, i'm so glad you decided to speak on this issue, I know as a 16 year old high school student seeing people like juju set us years behind what our parents have came to this country for is so disappointing. I work hard everyday in school to be able to prove to my parents that their sacrifices weren't for nothing, and your sister is an inspiration to me because I want to study to become an RN as well!
Same my parents came from the countryside and value education mostly because they grew up poor and they migrated to the usa so that me and my sibling would get a better education if they saw the younger generation of people advocating latinos to not go to school they would be disappointed by the regression that we did
Proud of both of you!! Study hard and make sure to reach out sooner than later if you are struggling or need support ❤ cheering u on
I’m a nearly 40 year old white woman but I love your content. It’s very clear that education is an issue you and your sister are so passionate about and you’re both very inspiring. I hope the younger girls out there look up to you both. Just cause you look like a beautiful bombshell doesn’t mean you aren’t clever as hell. Great video, very insightful.
I can’t believe you guys are sisters! Are used to watch Penny’s videos back when I was in high school! That’s awesome
But JLo is not a part of it 😂😂😂😂
fr tho we don't stan people who don't sing their own songs, have no talent and party with pdiddy
@@_salemtovar_ and that’s on periodt 💅🏽💅🏽
☕️🫖
Her "mi gente latino" spell has been defeated 🎉
@@_salemtovar_that female “entertainer” whom I don’t know… I don’t know her.
I was born and raised in the Netherlands, because my family came from the Dominican Republic to give future generations a better chance at education. When you and your sister talked about automatically feeling discouraged/dumb about excelling in education, I felt that.
Growing up I always thought that I wasn't smart enough to get a good/stable job in the future but when I saw my older sister working hard and graduate from college, I got hope that I could do it as well. I'm happy that I held on to that hope and worked hard for my accomplishments. I graduated high school and college, currently studying to become a chemist analist.
I hope that my cousins (and future kids in my family) can feel encouraged as well, I want to help them stay motivated.
(Sorry for any grammar mistakes btw, English isn't my first language)
Yeaaa dominicann
@@ddurlon 🇩🇴🇩🇴🇩🇴
Girl I feel for you and completely relate, I feel like this is a common issue in all female communities. It’s sad to see women promoting this lifestyle and then getting mad when men treat us as objects and it’s like geeh I wonder why…bc there’s sooooo many women throw their self worth away on sexualizing themselves, materialism, drama, and never picking up a book that’s not smut… breaks my heart that the role models for women are NOWHERE TO BE SEEN!
Hearing your sister and you talk about your personal experiences made me tear up. You guys deserve the best
As a fellow Latina who likes old Hollywood and is a theater kid while listening to artists like Rina Sawayama, Sabrina Carpenter, Chappell roan, Renee Rapp, and likes to watch TV shows like tales of the teenage mutant ninja turtles and Interview with the vampire while being a comic book geek at the same time, I always felt like if I didn’t listen to Banda, ranchero music, or like all of the foods, it thought that it would mean that I’m not Mexican enough but after this video I feel more seen and I’m glad that I found a neurodivergent Latina creator like you and Penny.
EDIT: on occasion my favorite Hispanic musicians to listen to are Jose Jose, Becky G, Danna Paola, and Shakira but my point still stands.
Something unfortunate too is we hispanics hate on eachother and beef and feel healous and envy homding eachother back. Another reason why we dont progress as a race either, amazing video btw, gonna spread the word abt this. Reespect from on great mind ti another
As a Hispanic, I’m so proud of my culture as well as I’ve seen people that are striving to break generational curses, or how to emotionally educate our kids so there is some strides toward better Hispanics but I’ve had the same thoughts on how these Hispanics have platforms but we only have ourselves to blame.
I'm not Hispanic, however, in the Pakistani community, we are expected to graduate college and then immediately get married. I have heard multiple of stories of Pakistani women who got their degrees, got married, and never did anything with their degrees. They were expected to give birth to tiny humans, raise those tiny humans, and have them married and taken care of by their spouses. They eventually feel unfulfilled with their lives. Hearing their stories inspired me to get a job and a degree of my own in mechanical engineering.
Such great points; I’ve been thinking about these same kinds of issues for a while now. Thank you Salem!!✨
Fellow ND Latina girlie here. I’m also a no sabo kid and I grew up in a suburb. Plus I’m brown. The amount of stigma I’ve faced for not being Hispanic enough is insane. I’m a 1st gen American but I’m still treated like I’m not Hispanic enough because none of those stereotypes suit me. I love chicharron, I love hot Cheetos, I love pupusas and baleadas and tostones as much as the next girl but that does not define me as a person. I’m happy to see more representation for fellow “odd” Hispanic girlies on the internet because it’s important for *ALL* of us to be seen.
What’s 4+4
@@Cosmocomelywhat does this mean?
@@Lillysilly772 it mean that they ATE THIS UP
I’m white and I appreciate the content you share and talking about the issues in the Latino community-I want to learn about other cultures and be more aware and understanding instead of watching people eat hot Cheetos. I’m also neurodivergent and I grew up in a very rural part of New Hampshire where there was so little diversity and it unfortunately stunted so many people, and when they do see Latino or black people-they make negative assumptions. My friend worked at Walmart (she’s Latina) and she constantly had to deal with awful racist people. It was heartbreaking and our community needs to do better too-that’s why videos like this are so valuable and need to be seen.
Watch actually media from Latin America if you’re that interested.
Media from Latin America, US Latinos, and Latinos outside of the US who immigrated to other countries (or even their children who are first gen Latino-Other nationality) are all important to understanding that our diaspora is diverse. @the comment above me. Yes, as a Peruvian immigrant, I yearn that my country and its issues are considered important in the international community. But I'm not going to invalidate the experience of Latinos who have lived in the US their entire lives. Both experiences shape who we become.
As a Puerto Rican, born and raised in FL, I know this is a hard topic to divulge in and you did it with such grace and eloquence. I would love more videos about these topics. Hispanic & Latinos are much more than just attractive, ditzy, bottom of the totem pole riff-raff. We need to step up as a community because having representation is sooo important for our future generations.
As a biracial Hispanic I cried watching this. Thank you for talking about this and bringing awareness to this problem. We feel seen Salem ❤
I’m not not Latino or Hispanic but I do have a story pertaining of this, so basically back in 6th-7th Grade the middle school I was in was very diverse and I happened to have more classes with Latinos and Hispanics and that’s when I noticed something they acted as you would expect of kids yknow school is boring etc and just act out and generally things that fit within the stereotypes. But the thing is despite trying to act and/or see dumb and superficial they were actually pretty smart and thoughtful and honestly it hurts to see people with so much potential abandon themselves to stereotypes and racism. I do hope that they managed to outgrow that as I lost contact with them after 7th grade but your video reminded me of that.
Yes! I went to primarily Hispanic schools and so many kids tried so hard to seem aloof and uncaring about school but they were actually so smart
@@yohann3825 Just because you're not hispanic or latino doesn't mean you can't be either as the terms have nothing to do with race or ethnicity. David Beckham can rightly call himself Hispanic even though he's British on account of his relationship with Spain.
@@gloriathomas3245 nope, he's just a british man who spent time in spain. it doesn't go beyond that.
I’m a first-generation college graduate and Registered Nurse. I struggled throughout school because my parents are immigrants and had little to no education on the subject of college/university. Although I have finally made it, I sometimes feel different from the rest of my family because none of them went to school. It’s a bit depressing being categorized as “different” or “weird” by extended family members because you no longer fit the mold that the stereotypes built.
You probably type out your annoying bio daily lol first gen Americans are so funny haha
as a first gen college stem graduate too i figured it all out myself i don't understand what everyone finds so hard abt navigating college and financial aid,, they literally tell you how to do anything
it's so wild to me that people will say you are or aren't latine for liking a certain genre of music lmao... i'm a neurodivergent latine as well and also love alt/goth music and idk if it's just me but latines always be at alt/goth shows and events! one of my fave subgenres of music (ebm), in my experience, has a huge latine following. people are too trapped in their own bubble & stereotypes it's kind of embarrasing.
Metal is also very popular in Latino America. Latine? Latinamerican has no gender and can be used while being more grammatically correct. Win win
@@Kaybye555 out of all things you could’ve said you are offended at another person using language they feel the most comfortable with
It’s not hurting you or influencing you why are you getting so offended
@@Kaybye555 some ppl prefer using the e, some dont, it really doesnt matter in the long run
Alt goth emo etc HAS BEEN part of latino culture!!! Like thats why those bands do so good in latin american countries
@@Shaytan.666 because it’s not a real word theres no real “language” there wtf is latine that’s not Spanish or English it’s made up like a lot of..nvm
Very similar in the black community. I can't tell you how many times my black card was so called taken simply because I don't like things like grits or sweet potato pie SMH
Not gonna lie sister, you sleepin on that sweet potatoe pie 😂😋
@@phillyjawnlolo089 I wouldn't consider grits a black people food. The people that want to revoke your black card for that sound misinformed. Grits are more associated with the southern US rather than a specific racial group. I would expect a white person from the south to care more about grits than a black person who's not from the south
lmao same. I hate sweet potato pie but I love Pumpkin pie. I also get told i talk like a white person and cause I don't dress a certain way people just assume I'm white washed and didn't grow up in the hood, when I absolutely did😂 It's weird cause I've always considered myself to be culturally very black, I just don't feel like we have to like everything just cause it's normalized in black culture
Don’t fret. I don’t like sweet potato pie or soul food
You don't like grits???
Man, as a Hispanic male, our work ethic is over 9000. We work hard but I've noticed too as you mentioned about being a hard worker is that the amount of our people who lack financially literacy is ridiculous, specifically in investments, spending, saving. They don't know anything about stocks, assets, value. If they could break through that mental barrier and combine hardwork with investing. Such a huge leap in finances could be passed onto in our dna.
This is SO IMPORTANT. I'm latina (not mexican), tall af, skinny af, and white af, and people DONT BELIVE ME when I say I'm latina. I have to start YELLING in Spanish for them to believe me, and yet they say "you don't sound latina" because my accent is not mexican. ANd then they go like "oh you don't look latina". wtf man
@@charlotteniza936 what does that have to do with the video? lol
SAME!!! IT'S SO ANNOYING!!!
@@zy1232LS 0:33???
@@zy1232LS Did you not watch the video yourself?
I'm half African American and half Mexican. I think my struggle with finding community comes from others denying my identity because I don't fit the stereotypes that people can easily accept. But it's interesting: I've had Mexican peers push me out by viewing me as a Black stereotype, and I've had Black folks tell me I'm not Black because I have a Mexican father and speak Spanish. 🤨 I think that many Latinos have similar issues with mixed identity---whether it's because of mixed race/ethnicity, an unconventional upbringing, or the label of being a hyphenated American. It's hard to feel a sense of belonging when you aren't the single, stale image of your culture that people constantly project.
Lol your going thru an identity crisis and calling people who aren't stale😂
Damn. Ya'll went hard. This was nothing but good takes from beginning to end.
It's wild that you are your sis are "not hispanic enough" in certain situations. I always feel not Mexican enough, but it just goes to show there's no ideal Mexican.
As an undiagnosed afro latina/hispanic (Haitian and Dominican) girl with ADHD and possibly autism, it makes me happy to know that you're on the spectrum!
But seriously, both the Black and Latino community have the same problem. They're always focused on drama, stereotypes, etc., but aren't actually doing anything to progress as a community. We need to do better!
omg dominican and haitian? i know that some tea, i dont know if it matters but just in case and in general, as a dominican just know tu ere de lo nuetro period, you dont have to prove yourself to anyone 💖
@@Njirimara Aw tysm! Yeah it's difficult cuz my mom doesn't believe that I have either conditions yet she complains about my symptoms all the time lol. And unfortunately, I don't speak Spanish since I didn't grow up with or know about my Dominican roots. And my ADHD is making it really difficult for me to learn Spanish
@@blossxma girl i feel you :c, dominicans are often veeery conservative, in a bad way, and felt for the longest that i didnt belong in the culture because i wasn't this violent, hyper-masculine, high-horse self-serving religious person ppl wanted me to be (im queer), even if I'm actually first generation. Honestly, either from your environment or by your parents, your culture affects you. your culture is what you make it to be, there are multiple ways to connect with it that arent language (there are even dominican communities in dr that only speaks english), and maybe what we need is more people that fall out the norm to be open to comfort the ones that do too, maybe that way we wouldnt have so many toxic men and women in our community.
tldr: Theres no reason why u got to inherit generational trauma and not inherit ur culture lol.
@@Njirimara omg I'm queer too! I'm bisexual and aromantic (tho I think I might be omnisexual again) and Haitians are hella homophobic. Some are also really religious so being gay is frowned upon. Same with Dominicans. It sucks! I want to be a Writer, Voice Actress, Director, TH-camr, Photographer, Manga Artist, and Visual Artist and I hope that I can create art to show that not only do queer Haitians exist, but that we're capable of doing a lot more than what society believes about us.
@@Njirimara😭😭😭😭 I WAS ALSO ABOUT TO COMMENT ON MY OWN Trauma cause growing up I’ve felt like I’m Dominican enough and it suuuuckkksss
As a BW I was also so hyper-focused on the problems within my community thinking we were the only ones struggling and having internal conflicts it’s eye-opening learning about what other communities’ experiences. Very eye-opening I appreciate you for this❤️🦆
;) thank you !! we need more of our people discussing this problem
should've mention the "foos gone wild" also feel like it does more harm to our community
It would be kinda like french-american influencers going oui oui and eating baguettes in every video
Going oui oui 😂
i grew up learning and speaking Spanish, in school kids didn't think I was Latina and thought i was lying. I had pale skin, Golden honey brown hair, curly hair who was a gifted kid. Someone from my own race wouldn't believe me.people would say "she's white", "she is pale as a ghost".each time i tried to fit in but felt left out due to how i look
That's weird because most of the people from my Venezuelan culture who came to my country of birth, Trinidad are called papaya/ poppoi skin(they're pale in complexion). Yet I relate to you but opposite in complexion. In trinidad my locals 9/10 ALWAYS consider you Hispanic is you're fair in colour. So whenever I say, soy Venezuelana they be like, "so why yuh not fair? You rell black"
@@D4N1_1SM3 can’t be mad about privilege can you
@@wizziboo Yes, white-passing Latinos do get white privilege in some aspects but in others I imagine it's hurtful when someone tries to take someone's identity away because of how they look. It's no such thing as "looking Latina". Latino isn't a race.There are Latinos of all races but they are all still Latino
@@jailynjackson7867exactly, people forget that in Latinoamérica basically you can see people of all races
Yo prolly have more European heritage then most Latinos
I mean, as a Latin American not living im the US these people are pretty irrelevant, I don't know any of them, I feel like this is a problem in the Mexican-American sphere probably, not Hispanic, as you didn't mention any Spanish, Colombian, Chilean, etc. Tiktokers
My senior quote was "ponete las pilas" - Mami because that is what she told me, and I was successful in high school, graduating with my associates degree and diploma at the same time.
It's "PONTE LAS PILAS"
@@laural794 depende, en Argentina, Uruguay y Paraguay se dice así. No todos los países latinos hablan/escriben igual 🤷♀️
@@jesicagarcia8587 si pero en Español es considerado incorrecto, gramaticamente.
@laural794 according to what grammatical rules? It is spelled correctly. I understand if to you it might seem incorrect but to a large part of Latin America that uses the voseo instead of the tuteo, it is absolutely correct.
Welcome my friend, to the discussion of problematic, stereotypical influencers negatively impacting our communities. Most of the video essays on TH-cam from Black creators are talking about the same thing in our community 😩✨
Could you recommend any of the Black creators who've made these videos? I'd like to learn from them too!
@@miau6451Zarria Simmons, Toni Bryanne, and then if you watch those you’ll see more in recommendations
I was always an alt girl (or a rockerita). I was born in PR, Spanish was my first language, I've lived in PR on and off for a total of 15 years. I've voted in PR elections, protested in San Juan, protested here in the US. And all my life I've been told I'm not "latina" enough. Not just by white people, but everyone. Other latinos, other boricuas, black people, Asian people. Almost everyone I've met has at least commented that I don't "look" Puerto Rican. I've never met the social criteria for "latina" because I'm goth and nerdy and don't follow the latin trends. It's been a lifelong struggle of mine to be alienated by my own culture when it feels so inextricably linked to my personal identity. Everyone assumes that by being different you're actively rejecting or inherently against the established culture-- not that you can simultaneously appreciate and participate in both.
It's not all bad though, at least in recent years people have stopped automatically assuming every rocker is satanic. Honestly I graduated HS in 2011 in PR and literal teachers and security guards felt like it was alright to call kids satanic because they shop at Hot topic. The amount of othering and also sexualization I got in school for being "satanic" was honestly traumatizing. Now as an adult I know it wasn't really about satanism or "protecting the kids", but because I wasn't presenting as a Latina correctly.
🧛♀️ alt-latinas 4 life 🧛♀️ Thank you Salem for putting into words something I've been feeling for a long time. 🖤
De pura Cepa. Born in PR too. You're not alone. Far from it. Keep following your interest(s) to your heart's content.