💕howdy my neighbors! and happy sunday to those who ACTUALLY take care of their children I mean- who said that? anyways! this video is CRAZY, it started off being about family vloggers on tiktok and the dark side to it all-BUT, I ended up going down a HUGE rabbit hole about the viral tiktok family 'the resisneilt jenkins'- who are a whole family of 7 (and counting) with one bedroom, and they make their kids sleep on the kitchen floor due to being low income...which at first sounds very sad, HOWEVER- little did I know it would lead me to the first baby mamas tiktok account exposing the dad for being a deadbeat and owing child support, someone finding out the jenkins aren't even married and in fact "Mrs.Jenkins" is married to an ex convict still that's in prison for SA'ing someone? they already have like 6 kids (one of them is not hers and is being posted nonconsensually on her tik tok) and Mrs.Jenkins says she wants more just to become a full time tiktoker? lord have mercy! the mom was also exposed for saying her mixed baby will have superior genetics for being with a man of color..y'all...this is a lottttttt. Also to top it all off...THEY LIVE LIKE 25 MINUTES AWAY FROM ME BYEEEE!!! And EVERYDAY there is more and more info coming out! so if some stuff has been left out, updated or added to this insane story- that's why! Either way I hope you all enjoy this video cause after this, I need a drink and a nap fr. In the meantime comment down below what your opinions are on this topic or comment some video ideas! Have a great rest of your week and see you next Sunday! 💕 - ST
Can you talk about how we're supposed to believe the economy is doing well, but no one can afford anything? The last time I checked not even enough money for basics let alone for extras isn't how money gets flowing. It feels like we've been gaslit, and NO ONE wants to talk about it. And this goes outside of overconsumption bc Millennials and Gen Z are being CRUSHED by low wages, and high cost of living.
@@_salemtovar_ I grew up in a family with 10 kids on a $40k salary… with my youngest sister being born with extreme medical needs that made it so we couldn’t make ends meet. My mother always brings up the time she said we were “eating like orphans in the DR” (where she worked for a year) to make sure we didn’t realize that we were only eating beans and rice because we couldn’t afford food. I love every one of my siblings but it makes me really upset to know that the financial/food trauma and CPTSD wasn’t necessary, and my parents could have saved me the struggle 😭
“How can people possibly take care of so many kids?” They can’t. I’ve known many quiverful families and the oldest kids end up taking on a ton of responsibility for their younger siblings because the parents physically do not have enough time to devote to every child.
Well, that's not inevitable, though. I also know some families with lots of kids where parents have enough energy and organisation skills to actually take fantastic care of all of them. The teenagers babysit sometimes, but it's their chore quota and they have their own lives and aren't parentified. It's just not for everyone, and the people who succeed at it don't treat any of their kids like commodities, which is relatively rare nowadays in general.
yup. Know a friend who is the eldest daughter and constantly helped out with her brothers (just had their second daughter recently) and i could tell she was taking HEAVY amounts of parenting
I was a single mum of 6, well 5 , the 6th came along when she was in highschool when I adopted her then, but my biological kids the oldest two are 13 months apart, the next set of kids the same ,and the baby, is 13 years younger than the oldest, and while I did all of the raising with my oldest 4, when it came time for that youngest one,I can admit, I was working 3 jobs and while there was always an adult in the house, I'm sure my oldest kids kept an eye and did most of the caring for their sister because they didn't let anyone touch her because of the trauma and suspicion we had of people after leaving an abusive relationship. So you are correct. Even as a single mum who was present a lot, I still had to work ,and I don't see how a normal family with even kids give them the quality time they need,while ALSO supporting a household in today's economy. Even two parent households with one child. You still have to clean your house, manage your house, decompress,the kid has homework, by the time life happens, what does quality time look like besides just showing up for your children..same as I did or many other single parents of big families who had less on our plates back then 💔
the irony of the dad play little nightmares with the kids during their “gaming sesh”…. the game about the horror of childhood, being neglected and subjected to the whims of adults trying to hurt you
@@eldritchtourist I’m generalising here but kids are more likely to know and see that they’re poor because of little things that might set them apart like clothes, school trips, school lunch etc but with rich kids they have every need and want met, the monthly budget doesn’t need to be shuffled around to to be able to afford something that wasn’t originally planned for, so the children don’t realise that it’s not the norm for everybody.
I would have to watch and sometimes help my parents steal groceries when I was a kid because we didn’t have enough money. At the same time, my parents would try to hide it from me, but I would have constant anxiety because I knew how bad we were struggling.
Seriously like I remember being in the second grade crying for picture day because my mom could never get a dress for it I would literally sit there thinking that picture day is only for rich families
What you said about poverty and uncleanliness aren’t mutually exclusive is SO TRUE. My mom had 5 kids and we had enough but not much and we were always cleaning.
@brianacruz6905 this hits. My mom always talks about how I was the perfect little baby doll. She wanted a toy. Not a human with their own opinions and experiences. They completely forget there's anything after the baby they have. It's so sad for the children.
@@LS-kc5xg insane to think so many mothers are like this. I cut off mine at 16 because she couldn’t handle the fact I’m human with own thoughts and not her toy anymore. I hope we all heal.
Yeah they are going to grow up and be actual people and they are going to hate the crap she put them through when they notice other kids have a more stable upbringing 😂
@@LS-kc5xgI hear this, i have a twin, there are many pics of us as babies and small children dressed identically except in different colors. By age 7 I put my foot down and she let us decide, but the doll thing is real 😂
@@bix0fresa There's also a reason it was said while they were still in the Garden of Eden surrounded by fruit, not after they were kicked out in the barren deserts lol
@@Lee-Foster yeppp. God is telling us to be fruitful so we CAN multiply safely and responsibly. and if i remember correctly, some husbands and wives in genesis only had 1 child (mostly a son)
@@ava-lc8gd Well, the bible mostly just listed first born sons, and most of them had "other sons and daughters" follow after, but they were from a family so famous and well off they got to be listed in the freaking bible so obviously they weren't poor lol They were their day's Kardashians. And they had multiple generations to build up and pass down wealth. And most of them lived like 900 years before dying and passing on that wealth so you can build up even more wealth living that long lol
This makes me so thankful for my parents. When times were tough my siblings and I got the beds and my parents slept on an air mattress in the living room. They never ever complained about it. Real parents put their kids first no matter what
There’s absolutely no reason for these kids to sleep on the kitchen floor… Even a bunk bed with a trundle & a futon instead of a sofa in the living room would sleep 5, and can be folded away during the day for space…
As a Christian, the fact that people push those scriptures as a way to justify pumping out kids is so disgusting. God condemns abandoning your kids, God condemns selfishness and pride, God condemns neglecting children and putting yourself first. ALL OF WHICH THEY'RE DOING!! Children are THE most precious things to the Lord and Jesus. And harming them is not going to turn out well for you at alllll
From that time Jesus began to preach and say “Repent [change your inner self-your old way of thinking, regret past sins, live your life in a way that proves repentance; seek God’s purpose for your life], for the kingdom of heaven is at hand.
They bible thumpers they taking certain phrases and scriptures and spinning them for themselves. God didn’t make the Bible for them to choose and pick what sin they can and can’t do. These people genuinely make me laugh
@@salometipsandtricks2786 you got the definition of repent wrong. God repents over 30 times in the OT. Repent cannot mean "feeling bad about past sin". God cannot sin. It is simply not in His nature. Repent "metanoia" is simply a change of mind. In the context of salvation, it is a change of mind from unbelief to belief. Stop trusting in your works for your salvation ❤️ Jesus paid it all.
It depends on the culture… Some cultures believe in extended/multigenerational households, and the kids grow up feeling the same… I see no problem with parents & grandparents living in the same household, especially given the cost of childcare; my mom was available to babysit my daughter while I worked, and I was able to trust she was in a safe & nurturing environment, while saving $1000+/month…
I had a baby at 19, worked two jobs for several years, put a roof over our heads but our crappy apartment was spotless. I couldn’t give everything I wanted but I could give a clean house. Don’t have a second till 10 years later when we were in a better place. Poverty doesn’t not mean dirty…that’s a parents choice.
@@kerryberry142 very well said. I had a baby at 20, busted my butt and was super poor. I didn’t have much but what I did have was clean. There’s a stark difference between poor and trashy. I’m broke, not trashy.
You are a certified badass. For real. My mom had 3 alone with as many jobs, and our house was always spot. Less. It's a choice. Thanks for choosing to be a great parent.
My mom was a young mother to my older brother and I came along 9 years later. Our house was kinda cluttered cause we both have ADHD but our mom taught us how to keep a home clean and orderly!
I feel so bad for those kids as a mom, and the fact that he says he doesn’t want a W-2 job because of the money is a flat out lie. If he gets a W-2 job his wages will be garnished for like the $30,000 and back child support that he owes. He is the definition of a dirtbag.
Im a single mum to 2 in a 2 bed house. Kids have a bedroom each, i have a fold out sofa in the living room. Children need their own space, their need of privacy is greater than my own, their need for a proper space to sleep, unwind, relax, is greater than my own.
When I had to downsize after my divorce I gave my son the bedroom. Now we own a three bedroom and a back house for everyone to visit comfortably. It took time and work but we did it together as a family, it's something that I can pass on and that feels amazing.
this family is gnarly. i grew up poor (with five siblings and a SAHM) and my dad was working THREE JOBS at one point. i don’t understand grown men who act like they’re too good for work.
Listen to God when He "tells you" to multiply but not listening when he tells you to be responsible, to work hard and to provide for your family is craaazy
My mom has 9 siblings and they were struggeling growing up. Out of those 10 kids only my mom and her twin sister decided to have kids. I literally have 1 cousin from 9 aunts and uncles…… Take from that what you will.
@@sarahtaavetti eh everyone is different. My mom is one of twelve children. They were poor poor. All but one of her siblings has had children and are pretty happy and successful.
Yeahhhh they need a HARD awakening. I can't say the kids ending up in the foster system would be better for their mental health or physical safety but those parents definitely need oversight and consequences for neglect.
I understand people who fall into hard times and end up in a one bedroom apartment while they try to get back on their feet. These people are MOCKING that.
Yes!! They're happy where they are and refuse to do the work to better their situation. Real parents keep going and work to get themselves back on their feet. Nothing wrong w struggling, it's the parents being complacent that's the issue here. And they need to clean their house !!! :(
@@MeowMeow-sy2miif your kids have their own beds, they’re doing well. Please don’t feel bad about the lack of space, it really isn’t a necessity. It’s a nice to have but nothing to stress yourself over.
My mom was a SAHM for the first few years of my life. She told me that she started working again because I asked her, "Why are we poor?" I was in kindergarten. Kids know. They hear the parents' conversations, and they remember when they say we can't afford something and can tell how different their lifestyle is from other kids.
@@ReptarKingOfMeat awww that’s so sad to me. My mechanic’s kids felt poor growing up. I told them, look, some people have parents who have more money but they are gone more. You don’t have to go to daycare and you get to spend time with your parents. There are a lot of people who make a lot of money but prioritize work over time with kids. I was happier when my mom was a SAhM even though that meant less money.
@@lauralaforge558and there are jobs that pay more without more work hours, it just costs education which is a big investment for people trying to climb out of poverty :')
My dad got laid off from his 6 figure auto industry job during the great recession. He worked at Auto Zone until he could get back in his field again. I feel so blessed to have a dad like that when there's people like this out here popping out kids 😶
This happened in my family too. My mom had just given birth to my little brother and had been the stay at home parent for a while due to health complications that forced her to quit her job. My dad then took over so she could get a job until they were both able to work. My dad worked as a janitor and it did stress him out a lot but I know he did it all for us. I just don’t understand how people could willingly put their children through situations like that. It’s very disheartening.
I remember getting my hair done by a hairstylist in Hawaii. he was originally from Oklahoma. We were talking about how we grew up. He said he was dirt poor but you better believe his crusty little house was well taken care of. That he would clean the windows outside with newspapers and just try to make it look nice; to not feel embarrassed. Lots of people wash their clothes by hand all over the world, and hang them up to dry. Not just leave them in a moldy pile. 🤦🏻♀️
So glad you talked about being poor but still having a clean home. I grew up poor and even though some of our houses were janky or borderline decrepit doesn’t mean the place was dirty. We once live in an old country general store that had been lightly converted to be a home and even that place was as clean as my mom could keep it.
THANK YOU for pointing out that being poor does not mean living in a garbage dump. I grew up poor, had a homeless spell, and even at our worst everyone still had goddamn chores. The messiest people I ever moved in with after I started renting were the most financially stable growing up, because they were used to being cleaned up after.
@@catherineblair1221 no I didn't, I agreed and gave an example to support. I think you misunderstood the meaning of an estate, in the UK it generally refers to a council estate
@@donkeylambtaxi8725 i grew up 13 in a one bedroom our house was spotless. But the damage of being left to your own devices cause parents can watch you with so many kids and also have to work.
Giving them money is NOT going to help anyone. There are so many programs in Oregon. Out of spite ,he won't work??!God forbid he pay for one of his kids.
It's so selfish. He won't work because he's "more than that'? Well, you're not if you have 5 kids to provide for, plus all the child support he owes smh.
Also let's not forget the "god will provide while working in unobvious ways" mindset quiverful/evangelicals/fundies are fed and buy into. They are seeing people's donations as god providing and rewarding them for the choices they made. Giving them money/beds ect is letting them further convince themselves they're doing right and god is on their side
The bible is a historical manuscript written by Jewish religious leaders to record the history of the children of Israel and the odyssey of Jesus Christ. It should be read in the historical context that it was written. There are 66 books and each book has a different author, literary style, genre, and intensed purpose. There is poetry, narrative, letters, songs, etc. People read a random verse from a random chapter and think it applies to them directly which is 100% incorrect. People who try to justify their crappy actions with a singular verse completely disregard the context of the entire book and make a fool of themselves. Reading is what? FUNDAMENTAL. Biblical illiteracy is dangerous.
@@PennyTovar The fruits that God is actually looking for isnt children, it’s the fruit of the Spirit which are the characteristics of God! God is requiring us to grow in His character that’s the being fruitful and multiply and he uses the analogy of birthing children to compare the process of obtaining his character
LITERALLY PREACH, I have 3 siblings and my mom was a single parent and we were STRUGGLING for a very long time but we were never dirty, the house was never dirty and while we didn’t have too much food to eat we always had dinner and breakfast to eat. Even if it was the same dinners for days straight we NEVER went without a bath and food. It’s crazy how people like this just CHOOSE to have children and put a child through this and it’s the same people who will question why their kids won’t talk to them when they are adults.
People who deliberately and maliciously avoid child support are the worst kind of people. The father is probably the one I’m the most pissed off about tbh.
If I ever was struggling, had that many kids, and was living in a 1 bedroom apartment: the kids are sleeping in the bedroom while me and my partner are sleeping in the living room.
like... why are you letting all of your YOUNG children sleep in the kitchen, right next to the front door??? what if there was an intruder??? ESPECIALLY in portland??? like... having a PS5 and TWO tvs while your children are sleeping on foam mats screams neglected
Yeah I understand that people buy nice things when they're better off, but you could easily sell a ps5 so those poor kids have a bunk bed@@gavinpotter9286
@@audreym3908 when my kids were young we had a one bedroom and that is what I did. The kids had their own beds in the bedroom and I slept on a pull out in the living room. We all struggle but we have to put the kids first and lessen their struggle as much as we can.
I hate the way that a lot of people in the US talk about millennials and gen z like they hate children and are selfish for not having them. A lot of right wing grifters are blaming the decline of births on children hating liberals and a lack of godliness 🙄 it poisons the entire topic. The real issue is the economy and higher modern standards for what a healthy life for a child should be like. I would personally love to be a mother. It's one of my greatest desires for my life. But I refuse to even chance bringing a child into this world if I cannot provide an adequate life for it financially or emotionally/spiritually. The way the economy and capitalism are set up right now, it would be impossible for me to rent a 2-3 bedroom home in my region, let alone buy one. I'd have to work two jobs and so would my partner. When would we see our kids and nurture them in the way they deserve? It's an impossible situation that so many of us are being put in. I have friends who work extremely high paying jobs who can barely afford daycare because it's now the cost of what college tuition was a decade or so ago. That is INSANE. How is anyone supposed to feel good about having kids and raising them in this environment? It's so depressing.
We should really pressure platforms to not allow family channels when it’s so obvious that they make their money by abusing their kids. Why is TH-cam Tik Tok and them not doing anything about this. It’s disgusting.
She might not be rich but with 6 sister she is living perfectly fine in fact in vacation. So is it really her or her daughters. It;'s so easy to tell people to do things.
Honestly, those birthday parties are becoming a thing of the past quickly. I threw one for my daughter at the trampoline park, nothing crazy. Just a grocery store sheet cake and their mid-tier package. It came out to $400 and we had maybe 5-6 kids. I could only do it bc my mother helped and her dad split it halfway with me. Even Chuck-E-Cheese is like $200.
@mikomikasa3958 This is why we're opting to just take our daughter and one or two friends for a day at the zoo or beach or other activity. A cake and an activity and a few gifts costs less than food for a half dozen people and decorations plus the cake.
I hate how my initial knee-jerk reaction of "This woman is a race fetishist" ended up being on point. But yeah. These people really do have a way of handling themselves when, if you know, you know.
So I grew up split across two households because my parents got divorced when I was 4, and both of them were deep into poverty. I'm talking I was taken away from my dad by CPS and given to my paternal grandparents because of how poor we were and rather than fight CPS, he broke his lease and moved back in with his parents. I'm talking almost every other weekend my dad was dropping me off at an entirely different place in my very early childhood because my bio mom was couch hopping with my two half siblings from her previous marriage. When I say the difference is SHARP between a poverty home with a loving parent (my dad) VS a poverty home with a neglectful parent (my bio mom), I mean it. I didn't have my own bed when visiting my bio mom until I was 10 (even though she managed to get a home when I was 7) - my sleeping options were the floor covered in piles of dirty laundry that I would push together to make a 'bed', a couch that reaked of cat piss (yes she had several cats), or a mostly deflated beanbag chair. Meanwhile with my dad, he ALWAYS made sure I had a clean home and that I had my own bed to sleep in. When he had trouble paying the heating bill in the winter, he piled his own blankets onto my bed to make sure I would be warm enough at night until he was able to scrape enough money together to get it paid. The Jenkins is a neglectful home. There's no love in that home. Plain and simple.
You live literally somewhere around 30-40 minutes away from me, and I love knowing this. Be careful about telling more about where you live. We don't want crazy people thinking it is okay to visit you 😭 ❤
My husband grew up in a similar situation. He slept on a "bed" of wood palates with a futon mattress and an old unzipped sleeping bag as a blanket. 3 dogs and 6 cats. Pet feces and urine everywhere. But his mom and dad refused to buy off brand groceries or house supplies even though you couldn't see the counter or the table under all the moldy dishes and junk. I will never understand people like this.
^why TF aren’t you asking about 3 dogs?! They’re literally way bigger and cost twice as much as a cat. You’d need a luxuriously spacious house to properly care for 3 dogs! Y’all cat haters are sooo transparent 🫥
@@somebicycle6684 my best friend in high school grew up like that. So many pets and six kids. The dad refused to work. It was so toxic and seeing how they all grew up... It was hard. My friend had to work three jobs in high school to keep her parents' lights on and get school supplies for her younger siblings. Awful.
@@samaraisnt You do know small dogs exist right? 😂 Also the comment didn't come across as hateful towards cats. Just that 6 cats is too much. Like at least three is a lil better. But you are getting triggered here over imaginary things. Like chill, babe
Im 24. My mom was a hoarder and our house was a mess. If i lost something it was lost forever in that house.. i could buy a cute skirt and first time i washed it it was gone forever. That has result in me, now 24 years, getting panic attacks everytime i have to search for something longer than 5 minutes… Living in such a messy house really gave me life long problems. I grew up poor too, im still poor, but theres a difference between being poor and being messy
As I will say again and again. All kids should have parents. Not all parents should have kids EDIT: Mom I’m famous 🥹 And thank you everyone for agreeing! I can’t believe the amount of times I’ve had to say this about some parents though
my best friend in elementary school grew up in an almost identical situation. she was the oldest sister of 4 or 5 other sisters at the time and lived in a 3 bedroom house (the third “bedroom” was a converted basement) her father was fully set on having a son and wasn’t going to let his wife stop having kids until she gave birth to a boy. it was such a sad and strange dynamic, the house was always filthy and it just made me really sad for her and her mom. anyway we lost touch in middle school when her family moved to the middle of nowhere to be able to afford a bigger house and by the time i found her on facebook in early high school she had 2 more little sisters and finally a baby brother. so count that all together and she was the oldest of 7 or 8 younger siblings. all living in a cramped little house in the middle of nowhere with what seemed like not a lot of income. it’s so depressing to think back on it, i just hope she’s doing ok now as an adult.
11:29 Nuh uh girl, you didn't get lice from the cats, Y'ALL gave the cats lice! Cats are meticulously clean animals which is more than anyone can say about this weird tiktok lady.
Absolutely agree with the cleanliness thing. My husband has family overseas who are not well off at all and there little place is IMMACULATE. Being poor does not equal dirty.
Growing up in an impoverished area and then passing exams to get into a fancy school, I can say that as a general trend that poorer families tend to be much more house proud and clean. With a few exceptions of course. But I do remember being shocked at friends who would get the latest phone and loads of pocket money, but their house wasn't hoovered every day or they didn't have to make their bed.
@unclenought6385 exactly! The amount of pride in house cleanliness I saw in India, especially amongst poorer people, was exceptional. And yep, I knew people at uni who you might consider "rich" that were the biggest slobs ever. It's very much the mindset of "I have all of this stuff, why would I need to take care of it?"
Vancouver here, love your channel. This family is a scamming joke. I feel horrible for these children as it's obvious that they are grifting off of them. I'm a mom of twins, raising them alone and I work my ass off making sure they have everything. Thank you for calling out these kinds of people. This is truly disturbing!
This isn't about poverty. That is a situation the family is in. This is about parents willingly and repeatedly choosing their own wants over their children's needs. Crappy parents in any socio-economic class do this. It's just easier to see with the lack of resources.
Yep. I waa the poor housecleaner with an immaculate small place or even immaculate car when we lived out of that .....and those upper class houses were gross until I cleaned them!
I’ve known a few moms who had to get a one bedroom for one adult & 2 kids. The bedroom was always set up for the kids, and mom would transform the living room to somehow magically be a living room during the day & a bedroom at night. Some even fit their real bed into the living room rm. but the proper bedroom with a door and the egress windows? The kids always got that, no question.
My parents really wanted another baby after me, but after my dad was laid off & ended up taking a new job with a huge pay cut, they decided to stop at just one kid. But I really feel like a lot of people out there just keep popping em out, thinking, “oh well I’ll figure it out later”😭 And people have the balls to say us who choose to be childfree are selfish…the REAL selfish people are the ones bringing kids into lives of neglect and poverty, all while knowing it’s only going to get harder. And as someone who grew up well below the poverty line: it ain’t fun, and kids DO know when things are tough. And on a lighter note: my dog’s always finding the most random crap to chew on, too. Stuff I can’t even identify when I wrestle it away from her lol
@@missdenisebee THANK YOU! I'm childfree also, and it's ridiculous how people push everyone to have kids. I struggle enough on my own without adding more mouths to feed.
I support people that want to be child free and they should remain child free!! Imagine having more parents like this that pop kids out when they didn’t even want the responsibility….. it would be more chaos than there already is. Also god forbid a child gets sick and needs extra care and attention. Riding the parenthood rollercoaster is not for everyone, there should be limitations.
Well men in the USA government be viewing women as baby makers only. Plus abortion bans and access to birth control. And religious shame about it. It's not so simple sadly
i just wanted to say that i really appreciate the fact that your voice has become a bit louder and clearer in your videos, personally it's much easier to hear and understand as someone whose native language isn't english. and i really love all the humor and personality that you've gotten to showcase this way too. subscribed
This drives me so crazy because i'm twenty seven and I love kids.I would love to have kids. However, despite that, i'm choosing not to at this point, because it's more important to me that I set up a future child to have a successful and happy life than it is that I have an entertaining plaything to show off. I feel like it just really shows where people's priorities are
This video was deeply healing, as someone who grew up as the eldest of 7 children. We had our own rooms (sometimes), but I remember my next oldest sis and I giving each other Jim from the office stares when our parents announced their final baby. We had moved into a new house and all had our own rooms, but we knew we'd be the ones having to share again. Between that and the "free babysitting," I was so happy when I got to live alone. My husband enjoys quiet time just as much as I do, so it's been very peaceful. Going over to my parents house is overstimulation to the max, but I do love seeing my siblings. Those parents from the video are straight up raising their children like cattle. It is abhorrently neglectful, and the fact that it's on video should be more than enough for CPS to remove the kids. They shouldn't be forced to deal with the consequences of their parents'actions.
@Y355MIN Baby horders. She's getting something out of being pregnant and he's getting something out of constantly knocking her up. They could honestly give fk all about what happens to the kids post birth. Just like animal horders who "save" the pets so they can rot in their own filth indoors.
In my experience, the people that complain about government moochers ARE the moochers. In every case I know, pretty much. I don’t want children. My dad even stated, “The government will take care of your kid”. Uh, no, they will not, and I wouldn’t want that anyway. He’s not a liberal man.
@Mink_Tracks oh the cousin is, im not sure about the subjects of this video, but my mom's cousin keeps having kids because religion and you get more money in food stamps and rental assistance in oregon with the more kids you have
👏 👏 👏 Yes! Thank you for saying it, I grew up VERY poor and my mom taught me how to clean and always kept our apartment spotless! We did not have a lot of clothes but our clothes were always clean, moldy clothes? What?! That’s not poor that’s being nasty period.
Ahhhhh that's crazy! These adults do not deserve their children. Their kids cannot thrive in a cramped one bedroom apartment!! Also they are not helping the stigma of people in poverty who need the support
I get been poor ,my grandparents were dirt poor with 15 kids but they were no bumps who don't want to work they work their ass off also my grandma's house was clean af ,thats why my dad and his siblings barely got sick. They may be low income but they also lazy af that they neglect their kids and their living space also why 2 cats when they can barely keep up with their kids.😅
@@imitationporcelainsame my great grandma was one of 27 KIDS!!!! but they still worked as hard as they could, even tho it was olden times so they likely didnt teach the most respectful and wholesome of things but wtv😭💀
as someone with 3 brothers who used to live in a 2 bedroom apartment with one bathroom, i can instantly tell these kids will grow to resent their parents 💀. my parents used to sleep in the BATH just so me and my brothers didn't have to be 4 to a room. ik providing for a kid/kids these days is very expensive but bro they barely even pretend they care about them 💀💀
Growing up with people like this- they definitely are using every government program available. Which, when you need it, you need it. But folks like this purposely keep having kids to keep those benefits.
The bit about the whole place smelling of cat pee is low-key triggering because. I had to deal with smelling of that and smoke a lot as a kid. That can have health effects, living in that kind of condition, but it also leads to bullying. The kids are gonna suffer at school or in any environment where people can smell them
@@leegale945 Yes! I kept thinking about that with the laundry too. If laundry is left there, EVERYTHING the kids wear will smell. I feel so bad for the kids...
I foster kittens for a rescue along with having cats of my own. Anytime you have multiple cats in a small space it's going to have some kind of odor. But there's "I clean and keep up the litter boxes" odor, and then there's "I don't care" odor. I have had cats refuse the litter box for MONTHS and use a secret spot the whole time for peeing and no one could smell it until we discovered it. The idea of the whole apartment smelling strongly of cat pee makes my head hurt with the amount of neglect that it requires to get to that point.
How many times do we gotta keep telling people not to have kids if they're not financially stable? It annoys me to my core. If you can't check mark all the requirements you need to have a child, don't have a child.
big picture though, isn’t the U.S. trying to force people into having kids? like Maybe a teen mom would give up a kid for adoption but existing families will just try to make it work. Point is, we’re about to see a lot more of this from people who would have preferred to not have more kids
I feel like with these quiverful types, it goes so far beyond just the matter of meeting kids' physical/material needs. I think it's possible for a family to have quite little materially, but for the parents to be truly devoted to their children with the time that they have and make them feel loved and nurtured even if maybe they have to share a room with their sibling or most of their clothes are from the thrift store. However, even in the best imaginable financial circumstances, there's just a number of kids beyond which 2 adults just can't possibly meet all of their emotional needs. The Jenkins are really a double whammy, they're refusing to take responsibility for these children's material needs and they're having more than they can emotionally care for.
Okay but abortion bans don't allow this. Pregnancy happens and many can't access options. So I think it's overly simple to say "just don't" for many people in poverty. This woman however, is neglectful and using religion as an excuse which is common. Look at Mormons.
The economies not “bad”, it’s just bad for lower or middle income people. We handed it over to the wealthy through tax cuts, attacks on unions, a stagnant minimum wage, etc.
When I was 5-6, I did not have a real bed. It was horrible. I could never sleep. I was scared. My parents had a bed, of course. I can't tell you what that does to a child. You don't just forget when your parents treat themselves better than you.
The whole internet gets mad and goes crazy about her saying she wants to go viral to have more kids, but then immediately makes her go viral for their benefit 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
20:57 Just a quick correction Andrew Jenkins child that is in her videos is not Arlitas kid. He is from a second woman who we haven’t seen yet. From what I understand he hasn’t seen Arlitas son since the son was very young. So he has three baby mamas total.
@@cxysxo love unfortunately does not require logic. I respect Arlita though for not showing her kid on camera. If you see her video she seems to be doing a great job.
Girl yes thank you!! Like I’ve lived in an SRO (iykyk) and sure the communal bathrooms weren’t amazing but there was still a person who cleaned them twice daily…. And I kept my room super clean. Like being broke is not mutually exclusive with being unclean….
Thank you for the super like! 🩷 I'm glad you're here and I hope you're in a better situation! Even then, yes- poor doesn't equal filthy or dirty. I grew up in a bad situation, but my mom always taught us to clean! Alot of people use it as an excuse and it strengthens the stereotype that people who struggle financially are uneducated and filthy which is not true!!!
Love how you talked about the true meaning of the bible verse. I took a Human Se*suality course in college and something the professer talked about always stuck with me. It was all about all the "rules" of the bible and the uses of them. All the rules had practical reasons for them. The not eating cloven-hooved animals rule was because those animals had a higher chance of spreading diseases or something like that. The reasons for having a bunch of kids, and also polygamy (because we're talking old testiment rules here) was really simply for preservation of people. SOOOOOO many would die, and die early, so you'd want to have as many children as possible with as many wives as possible, so that your family would survive. It's all VERY practical. Even the rules about not wearing clothing with more than 3 colors (which purists like to ignore) was because production of material with lots of colors was expensive and a sign of wealth. So that rule was more meant to keep people from spending their money on useless things to show their wealth. Translating that to today is more like saying "Hey maybe don't buy that LV bag, be humble"
So happy I saw this video. Someone asked me “have you seen the family with 6 kids in a 1 bedroom” and I told them no but was asked how I felt anyway and said “it depends, there’s a lot of factors I don’t know” and I’m so happy that’s the decision I made because this is NOT where I thought it was going but I also understood neglect and selfishness was a possibility
I have one sister, I’m the eldest. I remember going to get groceries with my mom and my sister would ask to get a candy or some snack, like all children do, and I could see the pain and guilt in my mom’s eyes, now I understand fully the reason behind it, but as a child I just thought “she doesn’t want to say no, we can’t have that right now”. She would kinda look at me like asking if I also wanted something, cause maybe she could get one extra thing but not two, so I would always say “thanks mom, but no, I’m good”, and the relief in her face, to be able to say yes to my sister and think that I was ok and didn’t want anything, but I just picked up her expressions and knew “the right answer”. I saw her making all sorts of things to sell so that we could have more money, I knew it would make her feel a bit more at ease if I said “no, I’m good”.
They say that their kids don't have beds because they broke them. But if that was the case, the kids would still have mattresses. The kids are sleeping on FOAM. Make it make sense.
Thank you for commenting on how being poor and being dirty are NOT the same thing. I grew up extremely poor. However, my home was always clean and comfortable and I was always hygienic. Just because you don't have a lot of money doesn't mean you have to be filthy and live in squalor. These are two separate problems.
My sis and I knew we were poor. We also saw our parents get laid off from their jobs and working 2 part time jobs each. We grew up real fast. But our parents always put us first with food clothes school. I’m judging them hard…real hard.
@tc7909 exactly! My dad worked and did a lot of overtime to provide for me and my siblings. Food and our safety/hygiene were always taken care of. They are just selfish.
Nobody never pointed out I was poor but I always knew. I had the only bed room in the appartment and I didn’t want my friend to come over bc I was scared they would gossip about at school. I CANT IMAGINE BEING FILMED AT THAT AGE AND POSTED ON SOCIAL MEDIA (and I was the one sleeping in the room not even a random mattress in the kitchen) And yes I was a ONLY child growing up in low class, with a single mom (that happens to be narcissistic) and it was TRAUMATIC. You don’t need to know you’re poor to understand your life is unfair and unhappy.
this is the first video i’m watching of yours and it’s amazing! one thing i will say is that some of the research is incorrect, the first child of Drew’s has not seen him since he was 5 and he abandoned at 2 years old. the child who appears in stephanie’s videos is from another relationship.
Please I hope you don't take this the wrong way, but I'm genuinely glad you stopped the whispering!!! This is so much easier to watch tysm for taking the feedback 💓💓💓
i stopped watching for awhile because of that. if she wanted to make a separate asmr channel that’s cool but i wasn’t into it for the video essay/commentary vibe
@@aalmondmilksame. I HATE asmr. It gives me the exact opposite of whatever dopamine hit you’re supposed to feel. Can’t stand it. I’m so glad she stopped. lol.
I guarantee they didn’t tell the apartment how many people would actually be living there. They have those rules for a reason, I’m surprised they haven’t been evicted yet.
I honestly think because of how mixed the family is, I wouldn't be surprised if the landlord see some of the kids, and think some are from another unit or just visiting
This makes me angry. I’ve been divorced 6 years, and he left 10 years ago. He walked out the day he got his cdl, and left me and our 2 kids 👉🏻 to be with the NEW baby momma he knocked up. I had NO CLUE this was going on. He was supposed to be getting his CDL. Instead he left andHID for 4 years (with his family’s blessing!), to avoid divorce, to NOT pay me child support. Did I mention the newest baby momma was A YEAR OLDER THAN OUR OLDEST SON??? And she is also such a miserable person that if he even calls us, and she finds it - she screams, yells, and is physically violent for weeks afterwards. So he quit calling and quit caring. She rules his life in a way that I NEVER DID. I’ve raised the youngest myself for the last 10 years. He now has 4(!) other kids, she refuses to work, and they live in absolute poverty and filth. He won’t even let my youngest talk to his siblings and get to know them. Then when I show up asking why I’m not getting child support, I get screamed and told I’m the trash. She almost threw her baby at me in anger when I told her to get a job. She is INSANE. And she wins because he is spineless, and has nowhere else to go. I hate what it’s done to our lives. We were once a normal family that people looked up to, and aspired to be. Now we are all damaged messes, thanks to HIS decisions. I HATE MEN WITH MULTIPLE WOMEN AND FAMILIES, WHO PICK AND CHOOSE WHO TO TAKE CARE OF. My kids didn’t deserve this.
It looks like most rental places around here (Oregon) say two person per bedroom plus 1. Meaning you could have 5 in a 2 bedroom. But it isn’t enforced by a law, just the rental agreement. Are the laws you are referring to change when the occupants are related or unrelated? I know lots of places have limits on how many unrelated occupants there are, but not familial. Just curious, thanks!
This is so upseting on so many levels. I came from a single parent household where we lived with my grandparents. Me and my Mom shared a bedroom till I was four. She worked so hard to make a better life for the both of us. I get poor, but this, is absolutely unacceptable.
As a person with 9 siblings… I feel really bad for these children. I was neglected a lot as a child. You really cannot emotionally, forget financially support more than like 3 children and that’s at your healthiest.
People like this absolutely make my blood boil. There are people who are struggling to get pregnant or have had alot of losses. Why is it people like this that are the most fertile? My heart breaks for these sweet children💔
At least have the decency to give the bedroom to the KIDS and sleep on the kitchen floor yourself. They don’t get a say in where they live because they are CHILDREN and you’re the PARENTS so at least act like it.
EXACTLY! I can’t comprehend why SO MANY PEOPLE misunderstood the phrase “family of 6 going on 7” and she mentioned 2 parents. Is math that hard? Like 7 (family) - 2 (parents) does NOT equal 7 kids. One person misunderstood and everyone else ran with it. Like get your facts straight so you can hate accurately
@@asdfghjkl.196That's still a lot of kids and a lot of people in a 1 bed. it's still not acceptable to force kids to live in this bs reality. These kids are going to grow up and never talk to their parents again
@@asdfghjkl.196 Not sure the point of being pedantic? Either way it's 7 individuals living in a cramped filthy environment, 5 of which are innocent children and 2 are able bodied adults responsible for this mess of a reality. Doesn't matter if it was 1 or 10 kids
When I was in a two bed house with two kids (f8&m6) I slept on the sofa in the living room for 2 years until till we were able to get a 3bed social housing home. My kids always come ahead of me. I currently have one away at university and my youngest is at home for 2 more years. I put off moving to single floor living that my doctors and my physical and occupational therapists want for over 2 years because of my children’s needs to stay in our current home for school. Now I’m having to make that move but only because it’s now right for my kids. I don’t u derstand people that don’t put their kids first.
💕howdy my neighbors! and happy sunday to those who ACTUALLY take care of their children I mean- who said that? anyways! this video is CRAZY, it started off being about family vloggers on tiktok and the dark side to it all-BUT, I ended up going down a HUGE rabbit hole about the viral tiktok family 'the resisneilt jenkins'- who are a whole family of 7 (and counting) with one bedroom, and they make their kids sleep on the kitchen floor due to being low income...which at first sounds very sad, HOWEVER- little did I know it would lead me to the first baby mamas tiktok account exposing the dad for being a deadbeat and owing child support, someone finding out the jenkins aren't even married and in fact "Mrs.Jenkins" is married to an ex convict still that's in prison for SA'ing someone? they already have like 6 kids (one of them is not hers and is being posted nonconsensually on her tik tok) and Mrs.Jenkins says she wants more just to become a full time tiktoker? lord have mercy! the mom was also exposed for saying her mixed baby will have superior genetics for being with a man of color..y'all...this is a lottttttt. Also to top it all off...THEY LIVE LIKE 25 MINUTES AWAY FROM ME BYEEEE!!! And EVERYDAY there is more and more info coming out! so if some stuff has been left out, updated or added to this insane story- that's why! Either way I hope you all enjoy this video cause after this, I need a drink and a nap fr. In the meantime comment down below what your opinions are on this topic or comment some video ideas! Have a great rest of your week and see you next Sunday! 💕 - ST
OH NO NOT THE 25MIN AWAY WTF😭😭
get ur nap girly, thanks for the slay (meaning u slayed not them obvi💀) vid as always🙏🙏
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omg girl this is slightly off topic but I NEED TO KNOW is that alocasia in the background real?? 😭❤
Can you talk about how we're supposed to believe the economy is doing well, but no one can afford anything? The last time I checked not even enough money for basics let alone for extras isn't how money gets flowing. It feels like we've been gaslit, and NO ONE wants to talk about it. And this goes outside of overconsumption bc Millennials and Gen Z are being CRUSHED by low wages, and high cost of living.
Creating struggle, I feel, is such a different level of privilege
that's a very good way to put it! and very true unfortunately
Honestly, this is such a good and simple way to describe this whole situation. It’s come full circle in the WORST way
@@_salemtovar_ I grew up in a family with 10 kids on a $40k salary… with my youngest sister being born with extreme medical needs that made it so we couldn’t make ends meet. My mother always brings up the time she said we were “eating like orphans in the DR” (where she worked for a year) to make sure we didn’t realize that we were only eating beans and rice because we couldn’t afford food.
I love every one of my siblings but it makes me really upset to know that the financial/food trauma and CPTSD wasn’t necessary, and my parents could have saved me the struggle 😭
Wow, very well said!
yesssssssss
“How can people possibly take care of so many kids?” They can’t. I’ve known many quiverful families and the oldest kids end up taking on a ton of responsibility for their younger siblings because the parents physically do not have enough time to devote to every child.
Well, that's not inevitable, though. I also know some families with lots of kids where parents have enough energy and organisation skills to actually take fantastic care of all of them. The teenagers babysit sometimes, but it's their chore quota and they have their own lives and aren't parentified. It's just not for everyone, and the people who succeed at it don't treat any of their kids like commodities, which is relatively rare nowadays in general.
yup. Know a friend who is the eldest daughter and constantly helped out with her brothers (just had their second daughter recently) and i could tell she was taking HEAVY amounts of parenting
I was a single mum of 6, well 5 , the 6th came along when she was in highschool when I adopted her then, but my biological kids the oldest two are 13 months apart, the next set of kids the same ,and the baby, is 13 years younger than the oldest, and while I did all of the raising with my oldest 4, when it came time for that youngest one,I can admit, I was working 3 jobs and while there was always an adult in the house, I'm sure my oldest kids kept an eye and did most of the caring for their sister because they didn't let anyone touch her because of the trauma and suspicion we had of people after leaving an abusive relationship. So you are correct. Even as a single mum who was present a lot, I still had to work ,and I don't see how a normal family with even kids give them the quality time they need,while ALSO supporting a household in today's economy. Even two parent households with one child. You still have to clean your house, manage your house, decompress,the kid has homework, by the time life happens, what does quality time look like besides just showing up for your children..same as I did or many other single parents of big families who had less on our plates back then 💔
@@Cationna doubt that
Then low and behold, they become estranged in adulthood
the irony of the dad play little nightmares with the kids during their “gaming sesh”…. the game about the horror of childhood, being neglected and subjected to the whims of adults trying to hurt you
Yeah, surprised no one else pointed it out honestly
Best artsy horror game since Inside.
@@alex-tf2up THE IRONY!
“Children don’t know they’re poor”
Ya I dropped out at 15 to work a full time job because I was unaware we were broke my whole life 🙄
I hate when people act like kids are just stupid as hell. I absolutely knew I was a poor kid.
Way way way way way more common for kids to not know they're rich.
@@eldritchtourist I’m generalising here but kids are more likely to know and see that they’re poor because of little things that might set them apart like clothes, school trips, school lunch etc but with rich kids they have every need and want met, the monthly budget doesn’t need to be shuffled around to to be able to afford something that wasn’t originally planned for, so the children don’t realise that it’s not the norm for everybody.
I would have to watch and sometimes help my parents steal groceries when I was a kid because we didn’t have enough money. At the same time, my parents would try to hide it from me, but I would have constant anxiety because I knew how bad we were struggling.
Seriously like I remember being in the second grade crying for picture day because my mom could never get a dress for it I would literally sit there thinking that picture day is only for rich families
What you said about poverty and uncleanliness aren’t mutually exclusive is SO TRUE. My mom had 5 kids and we had enough but not much and we were always cleaning.
She always say she wants more "babies", but she never talks about them being kids/children, like she doesn't think about them AFTER being babies 😢
@brianacruz6905 this hits. My mom always talks about how I was the perfect little baby doll. She wanted a toy. Not a human with their own opinions and experiences. They completely forget there's anything after the baby they have. It's so sad for the children.
@@LS-kc5xg insane to think so many mothers are like this. I cut off mine at 16 because she couldn’t handle the fact I’m human with own thoughts and not her toy anymore. I hope we all heal.
A lot of people have that mentality unfortunately :(
Yeah they are going to grow up and be actual people and they are going to hate the crap she put them through when they notice other kids have a more stable upbringing 😂
@@LS-kc5xgI hear this, i have a twin, there are many pics of us as babies and small children dressed identically except in different colors. By age 7 I put my foot down and she let us decide, but the doll thing is real 😂
" The bible says, be fruitful & multiply"
Baby... I see the multiplication.. yet, no fruit 😕
@@m.nikkie946 😂😂😂 so good
And there is a reason that be fruitful is said first 🤨🤨
@@bix0fresa There's also a reason it was said while they were still in the Garden of Eden surrounded by fruit, not after they were kicked out in the barren deserts lol
@@Lee-Foster yeppp. God is telling us to be fruitful so we CAN multiply safely and responsibly. and if i remember correctly, some husbands and wives in genesis only had 1 child (mostly a son)
@@ava-lc8gd Well, the bible mostly just listed first born sons, and most of them had "other sons and daughters" follow after, but they were from a family so famous and well off they got to be listed in the freaking bible so obviously they weren't poor lol They were their day's Kardashians. And they had multiple generations to build up and pass down wealth. And most of them lived like 900 years before dying and passing on that wealth so you can build up even more wealth living that long lol
At least with horrible family vloggers, they’re basically documenting their own evidence for the authorities.
Makes it that much easier for the police you’re right 😂
Small wins 😭
They never think fr like you putting all the ducks in one row for the picking 💀
Ruby Franke definitely comes to mind
makes me want to be a family vlogger just to never show my kid or husband on it xD
This makes me so thankful for my parents. When times were tough my siblings and I got the beds and my parents slept on an air mattress in the living room. They never ever complained about it. Real parents put their kids first no matter what
There’s absolutely no reason for these kids to sleep on the kitchen floor… Even a bunk bed with a trundle & a futon instead of a sofa in the living room would sleep 5, and can be folded away during the day for space…
I’m glad someone is talking about how he’s EVADING child support and opting for poverty to continue to do so. DESPICABLE
As a Christian, the fact that people push those scriptures as a way to justify pumping out kids is so disgusting. God condemns abandoning your kids, God condemns selfishness and pride, God condemns neglecting children and putting yourself first. ALL OF WHICH THEY'RE DOING!! Children are THE most precious things to the Lord and Jesus. And harming them is not going to turn out well for you at alllll
From that time Jesus began to preach and say “Repent [change your inner self-your old way of thinking, regret past sins, live your life in a way that proves repentance; seek God’s purpose for your life], for the kingdom of heaven is at hand.
Right like it boils my BLOOD
@@nattryyann Exactly. Religion should NOT be something to justify the selfishness and pure neglect towards vulnerable children.
They bible thumpers they taking certain phrases and scriptures and spinning them for themselves. God didn’t make the Bible for them to choose and pick what sin they can and can’t do. These people genuinely make me laugh
@@salometipsandtricks2786 you got the definition of repent wrong. God repents over 30 times in the OT. Repent cannot mean "feeling bad about past sin". God cannot sin. It is simply not in His nature. Repent "metanoia" is simply a change of mind. In the context of salvation, it is a change of mind from unbelief to belief. Stop trusting in your works for your salvation ❤️ Jesus paid it all.
28:26 "your children owe you nothing" YES. my grandma always said "your children are not investments"
@@clm3385 your grandma was wise, bless her
The time and effort you invest into them is though and more "parents" need to learn this. 😔🥺
It depends on the culture… Some cultures believe in extended/multigenerational households, and the kids grow up feeling the same… I see no problem with parents & grandparents living in the same household, especially given the cost of childcare; my mom was available to babysit my daughter while I worked, and I was able to trust she was in a safe & nurturing environment, while saving $1000+/month…
They did not ask to be here. Adults forget that aspect.
I had a baby at 19, worked two jobs for several years, put a roof over our heads but our crappy apartment was spotless. I couldn’t give everything I wanted but I could give a clean house. Don’t have a second till 10 years later when we were in a better place. Poverty doesn’t not mean dirty…that’s a parents choice.
@@kerryberry142 very well said. I had a baby at 20, busted my butt and was super poor. I didn’t have much but what I did have was clean. There’s a stark difference between poor and trashy. I’m broke, not trashy.
You are a certified badass. For real.
My mom had 3 alone with as many jobs, and our house was always spot. Less. It's a choice. Thanks for choosing to be a great parent.
Proud of you ❤
My mom was a young mother to my older brother and I came along 9 years later. Our house was kinda cluttered cause we both have ADHD but our mom taught us how to keep a home clean and orderly!
And plus you didnt had 6 other kids .
I feel so bad for those kids as a mom, and the fact that he says he doesn’t want a W-2 job because of the money is a flat out lie. If he gets a W-2 job his wages will be garnished for like the $30,000 and back child support that he owes. He is the definition of a dirtbag.
@@Paco.Sinbad yeah, he knows that money will go straight to back child support he owes.
@@kimberlyhood4095 they won’t garnish his whole check they will take his taxes …..that’s what they did to my dad
@@Langlangsland right, I know most states are going to garnish wages, it just depends on how much you owe.
Im a single mum to 2 in a 2 bed house. Kids have a bedroom each, i have a fold out sofa in the living room. Children need their own space, their need of privacy is greater than my own, their need for a proper space to sleep, unwind, relax, is greater than my own.
When I had to downsize after my divorce I gave my son the bedroom. Now we own a three bedroom and a back house for everyone to visit comfortably. It took time and work but we did it together as a family, it's something that I can pass on and that feels amazing.
These kids will grow to resent their parents (if they don’t already) and I don’t blame them one bit.
i dont even know them and i resent them
@@_salemtovar_😂
I did
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Exactly 💯
this family is gnarly. i grew up poor (with five siblings and a SAHM) and my dad was working THREE JOBS at one point. i don’t understand grown men who act like they’re too good for work.
Listen to God when He "tells you" to multiply but not listening when he tells you to be responsible, to work hard and to provide for your family is craaazy
@@giselioliveira630 💯💯
My mom has 9 siblings and they were struggeling growing up. Out of those 10 kids only my mom and her twin sister decided to have kids. I literally have 1 cousin from 9 aunts and uncles…… Take from that what you will.
Unfortunately, your mom and her twin didn't learn the lesson.
@@sarahtaavetti eh everyone is different. My mom is one of twelve children. They were poor poor. All but one of her siblings has had children and are pretty happy and successful.
omg. watching this all the way thru and getting to the part about moldy laundry...whyyyy haven't CPS taken those kids yet? oh my goodness.
Yeahhhh they need a HARD awakening. I can't say the kids ending up in the foster system would be better for their mental health or physical safety but those parents definitely need oversight and consequences for neglect.
I understand people who fall into hard times and end up in a one bedroom apartment while they try to get back on their feet. These people are MOCKING that.
Yes!! They're happy where they are and refuse to do the work to better their situation. Real parents keep going and work to get themselves back on their feet. Nothing wrong w struggling, it's the parents being complacent that's the issue here. And they need to clean their house !!! :(
@@tired_mom I feel bad making my 9 and 12 year old share a room because I can't afford 4 bedrooms 😂 these people are insane!!
@@MeowMeow-sy2mi omg i found another meowmeow
Exactly, there was a woman with one child in a one bedroom apt and she gave him the bedroom!!
@@MeowMeow-sy2miif your kids have their own beds, they’re doing well. Please don’t feel bad about the lack of space, it really isn’t a necessity. It’s a nice to have but nothing to stress yourself over.
My mom was a SAHM for the first few years of my life. She told me that she started working again because I asked her, "Why are we poor?" I was in kindergarten. Kids know. They hear the parents' conversations, and they remember when they say we can't afford something and can tell how different their lifestyle is from other kids.
Exactly. I hate that “kids don’t know they’re poor” nah they do. They at least know where they sit compared to others around them.
@@ReptarKingOfMeat awww that’s so sad to me. My mechanic’s kids felt poor growing up. I told them, look, some people have parents who have more money but they are gone more. You don’t have to go to daycare and you get to spend time with your parents. There are a lot of people who make a lot of money but prioritize work over time with kids. I was happier when my mom was a SAhM even though that meant less money.
@@lauralaforge558and there are jobs that pay more without more work hours, it just costs education which is a big investment for people trying to climb out of poverty :')
@@lauralaforge558 Lies, this one is a bot too
@@VLuava5v5 who is the bot, sorry?
My dad got laid off from his 6 figure auto industry job during the great recession. He worked at Auto Zone until he could get back in his field again. I feel so blessed to have a dad like that when there's people like this out here popping out kids 😶
@@alexalynn5952 same my dad was an engineer he got laid off and worked delivering beer.
That's awesome, I'm so happy for you 🎉
My dad was a union worker making 6 figures, he went to Home Depot! There’s no shame in working
You all have wonderful dads....I'll add my dad to that list, as well ❤
This happened in my family too. My mom had just given birth to my little brother and had been the stay at home parent for a while due to health complications that forced her to quit her job. My dad then took over so she could get a job until they were both able to work. My dad worked as a janitor and it did stress him out a lot but I know he did it all for us.
I just don’t understand how people could willingly put their children through situations like that. It’s very disheartening.
I remember getting my hair done by a hairstylist in Hawaii. he was originally from Oklahoma. We were talking about how we grew up. He said he was dirt poor but you better believe his crusty little house was well taken care of. That he would clean the windows outside with newspapers and just try to make it look nice; to not feel
embarrassed.
Lots of people wash their clothes by hand all over the world, and hang them up to dry. Not just leave them in a moldy pile. 🤦🏻♀️
So glad you talked about being poor but still having a clean home. I grew up poor and even though some of our houses were janky or borderline decrepit doesn’t mean the place was dirty.
We once live in an old country general store that had been lightly converted to be a home and even that place was as clean as my mom could keep it.
THANK YOU for pointing out that being poor does not mean living in a garbage dump. I grew up poor, had a homeless spell, and even at our worst everyone still had goddamn chores. The messiest people I ever moved in with after I started renting were the most financially stable growing up, because they were used to being cleaned up after.
Yeah my mum grew up on an estate. My mum, aunt and uncle are very clean.
@@ionia2376 I think you misunderstood what op said. Anyway i think being messy is a mental health issue.
Amen
@@catherineblair1221 no I didn't, I agreed and gave an example to support. I think you misunderstood the meaning of an estate, in the UK it generally refers to a council estate
@@donkeylambtaxi8725 i grew up 13 in a one bedroom our house was spotless. But the damage of being left to your own devices cause parents can watch you with so many kids and also have to work.
i don’t trust people named jenkins
me neither. old man jenkins in spongebob was always starting drama smh 😩
Help-😭
WHAT ABOUT HOWL JENKINS???
@Ollo-z5i protected by his shining dishonesty until he wasn't didn't make him honest. his wife, on the other hand
@Ollo-z5i the only exception 😨
Giving them money is NOT going to help anyone. There are so many programs in Oregon. Out of spite ,he won't work??!God forbid he pay for one of his kids.
It's so selfish. He won't work because he's "more than that'? Well, you're not if you have 5 kids to provide for, plus all the child support he owes smh.
@@mateo2550 like, what does that even mean?! These people are just selfish and stupid, scary combination.
I'd give the other woman money out of spite 😂
Also let's not forget the "god will provide while working in unobvious ways" mindset quiverful/evangelicals/fundies are fed and buy into. They are seeing people's donations as god providing and rewarding them for the choices they made. Giving them money/beds ect is letting them further convince themselves they're doing right and god is on their side
Without mentioning, about receiving EBT/snap money for groceries, Medicaid and government benefits for being single and jobless mother.
The bible is a historical manuscript written by Jewish religious leaders to record the history of the children of Israel and the odyssey of Jesus Christ. It should be read in the historical context that it was written. There are 66 books and each book has a different author, literary style, genre, and intensed purpose. There is poetry, narrative, letters, songs, etc.
People read a random verse from a random chapter and think it applies to them directly which is 100% incorrect. People who try to justify their crappy actions with a singular verse completely disregard the context of the entire book and make a fool of themselves.
Reading is what? FUNDAMENTAL. Biblical illiteracy is dangerous.
And that's on what? Being literate 💅🏼
@@PennyTovar The fruits that God is actually looking for isnt children, it’s the fruit of the Spirit which are the characteristics of God!
God is requiring us to grow in His character that’s the being fruitful and multiply and he uses the analogy of birthing children to compare the process of obtaining his character
LITERALLY PREACH, I have 3 siblings and my mom was a single parent and we were STRUGGLING for a very long time but we were never dirty, the house was never dirty and while we didn’t have too much food to eat we always had dinner and breakfast to eat. Even if it was the same dinners for days straight we NEVER went without a bath and food. It’s crazy how people like this just CHOOSE to have children and put a child through this and it’s the same people who will question why their kids won’t talk to them when they are adults.
People who deliberately and maliciously avoid child support are the worst kind of people. The father is probably the one I’m the most pissed off about tbh.
For real
The mother is an enabler. Not much different. Poor kids.
Right, & she brags about smoking weed, & that’s not cheap. Ridiculous
@@JesusIsKingForever77 WHAAAAT???
@@JesusIsKingForever77omg I didn't catch thaaat... that's crazzzyyyyyy...
11:09 I’m glad you pointed out this classist comparison. Comparing bad parenting to being poor is such a dangerous thing to do.
If I ever was struggling, had that many kids, and was living in a 1 bedroom apartment: the kids are sleeping in the bedroom while me and my partner are sleeping in the living room.
Exactly!!
like... why are you letting all of your YOUNG children sleep in the kitchen, right next to the front door??? what if there was an intruder??? ESPECIALLY in portland??? like... having a PS5 and TWO tvs while your children are sleeping on foam mats screams neglected
THIS!!!!
Yeah I understand that people buy nice things when they're better off, but you could easily sell a ps5 so those poor kids have a bunk bed@@gavinpotter9286
@@audreym3908 when my kids were young we had a one bedroom and that is what I did. The kids had their own beds in the bedroom and I slept on a pull out in the living room. We all struggle but we have to put the kids first and lessen their struggle as much as we can.
I hate the way that a lot of people in the US talk about millennials and gen z like they hate children and are selfish for not having them. A lot of right wing grifters are blaming the decline of births on children hating liberals and a lack of godliness 🙄 it poisons the entire topic. The real issue is the economy and higher modern standards for what a healthy life for a child should be like.
I would personally love to be a mother. It's one of my greatest desires for my life. But I refuse to even chance bringing a child into this world if I cannot provide an adequate life for it financially or emotionally/spiritually. The way the economy and capitalism are set up right now, it would be impossible for me to rent a 2-3 bedroom home in my region, let alone buy one. I'd have to work two jobs and so would my partner. When would we see our kids and nurture them in the way they deserve? It's an impossible situation that so many of us are being put in. I have friends who work extremely high paying jobs who can barely afford daycare because it's now the cost of what college tuition was a decade or so ago. That is INSANE. How is anyone supposed to feel good about having kids and raising them in this environment? It's so depressing.
Politics has nothing to do with being a decent human being.
We should really pressure platforms to not allow family channels when it’s so obvious that they make their money by abusing their kids. Why is TH-cam Tik Tok and them not doing anything about this. It’s disgusting.
@@lizzfrmhon because they get money off of the neglect, too. Capitalism 😊
yo my mom grew up with no running water or electricity in another country with 6 sisters and yet they at least had a bed for the kids. this is crazy.
Same with my mom had 12 siblings lived in the actual dirt and my grandmother still kept it clean
She might not be rich but with 6 sister she is living perfectly fine in fact in vacation. So is it really her or her daughters. It;'s so easy to tell people to do things.
A BOOK FAIR ... A BIRTHDAY PARTY.. ETC .. that's all it takes for a child to know . I hate when people say that.
Honestly, those birthday parties are becoming a thing of the past quickly. I threw one for my daughter at the trampoline park, nothing crazy. Just a grocery store sheet cake and their mid-tier package. It came out to $400 and we had maybe 5-6 kids. I could only do it bc my mother helped and her dad split it halfway with me. Even Chuck-E-Cheese is like $200.
@mikomikasa3958 And a sad thing is it would probably still be $200 to cook all that food from scrach. Instead of eating out
@@mikomikasa3958this is true, however, just spending the day at a friends house, they will know.
@@lilygirllisa it is. That’s what I did for my daughter’s birthday, party at home, all the food homemade. Cost the same. 🫠
@mikomikasa3958 This is why we're opting to just take our daughter and one or two friends for a day at the zoo or beach or other activity. A cake and an activity and a few gifts costs less than food for a half dozen people and decorations plus the cake.
I hate how my initial knee-jerk reaction of "This woman is a race fetishist" ended up being on point. But yeah. These people really do have a way of handling themselves when, if you know, you know.
You can always tell 😂
@@manicpepsicola3431they do have a certain look to them,you can always tell
Omg I always forget about them untill I get jumpscared by one online 😂
You can ALWAYS tell. And its alot of yt women doing it.
her bio says “multi-cultural” family. girl what culture are you bringing to the table 😭
So I grew up split across two households because my parents got divorced when I was 4, and both of them were deep into poverty. I'm talking I was taken away from my dad by CPS and given to my paternal grandparents because of how poor we were and rather than fight CPS, he broke his lease and moved back in with his parents. I'm talking almost every other weekend my dad was dropping me off at an entirely different place in my very early childhood because my bio mom was couch hopping with my two half siblings from her previous marriage.
When I say the difference is SHARP between a poverty home with a loving parent (my dad) VS a poverty home with a neglectful parent (my bio mom), I mean it. I didn't have my own bed when visiting my bio mom until I was 10 (even though she managed to get a home when I was 7) - my sleeping options were the floor covered in piles of dirty laundry that I would push together to make a 'bed', a couch that reaked of cat piss (yes she had several cats), or a mostly deflated beanbag chair. Meanwhile with my dad, he ALWAYS made sure I had a clean home and that I had my own bed to sleep in. When he had trouble paying the heating bill in the winter, he piled his own blankets onto my bed to make sure I would be warm enough at night until he was able to scrape enough money together to get it paid.
The Jenkins is a neglectful home. There's no love in that home. Plain and simple.
You live literally somewhere around 30-40 minutes away from me, and I love knowing this. Be careful about telling more about where you live. We don't want crazy people thinking it is okay to visit you 😭 ❤
@@patiencesilvers1762 Ngl the first part of this comment sounds mad creepy lmaoo
My husband grew up in a similar situation. He slept on a "bed" of wood palates with a futon mattress and an old unzipped sleeping bag as a blanket. 3 dogs and 6 cats. Pet feces and urine everywhere. But his mom and dad refused to buy off brand groceries or house supplies even though you couldn't see the counter or the table under all the moldy dishes and junk. I will never understand people like this.
Six cats? Why?!
^why TF aren’t you asking about 3 dogs?! They’re literally way bigger and cost twice as much as a cat. You’d need a luxuriously spacious house to properly care for 3 dogs! Y’all cat haters are sooo transparent 🫥
@@somebicycle6684 my best friend in high school grew up like that. So many pets and six kids. The dad refused to work. It was so toxic and seeing how they all grew up... It was hard. My friend had to work three jobs in high school to keep her parents' lights on and get school supplies for her younger siblings. Awful.
Why mental healthcare needs to be ✨free✨
@@samaraisnt You do know small dogs exist right? 😂 Also the comment didn't come across as hateful towards cats. Just that 6 cats is too much. Like at least three is a lil better. But you are getting triggered here over imaginary things. Like chill, babe
Im 24. My mom was a hoarder and our house was a mess. If i lost something it was lost forever in that house.. i could buy a cute skirt and first time i washed it it was gone forever. That has result in me, now 24 years, getting panic attacks everytime i have to search for something longer than 5 minutes…
Living in such a messy house really gave me life long problems. I grew up poor too, im still poor, but theres a difference between being poor and being messy
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my aunts house was like this and i used to spend a lot of time there and i feel the same way as you
I have to work on this
I tend towards this but I'm fortunate to have a cleaner for a husband that has helped to get me into a good routine. I do it for him and with him.
As I will say again and again. All kids should have parents. Not all parents should have kids
EDIT: Mom I’m famous 🥹 And thank you everyone for agreeing! I can’t believe the amount of times I’ve had to say this about some parents though
REAL REAL REAL REALLLL i love this saying, no more accurate way to put it imo
facts
Wish I could like this a million times!
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my best friend in elementary school grew up in an almost identical situation. she was the oldest sister of 4 or 5 other sisters at the time and lived in a 3 bedroom house (the third “bedroom” was a converted basement)
her father was fully set on having a son and wasn’t going to let his wife stop having kids until she gave birth to a boy. it was such a sad and strange dynamic, the house was always filthy and it just made me really sad for her and her mom.
anyway we lost touch in middle school when her family moved to the middle of nowhere to be able to afford a bigger house and by the time i found her on facebook in early high school she had 2 more little sisters and finally a baby brother. so count that all together and she was the oldest of 7 or 8 younger siblings.
all living in a cramped little house in the middle of nowhere with what seemed like not a lot of income. it’s so depressing to think back on it, i just hope she’s doing ok now as an adult.
11:29 Nuh uh girl, you didn't get lice from the cats, Y'ALL gave the cats lice! Cats are meticulously clean animals which is more than anyone can say about this weird tiktok lady.
Yeah.. I’ve never heard of cats having lice
@@JessicaRodriguez-zy5gz yeup animal lice and pet lice are different
Her man was on the “are we dating the same guy” Portland facebook page in September 😂
@@kindasavvy4566 👀👀👀😂
@@kindasavvy4566 🫖 🤣
Yikes
@@kindasavvy4566 very embarrassing 🫢
Damn. Did anyone post it to Reddit? I wanna see 👀
That "mom" is disturbing to me. Like, the "dad" is gross but, she unsettles me.
Have you seen her going on and on about her husband's "Superior African genes"? She's DEFINITELY not okay.
It feels like her entire personality is just… being pregnant
@@CraftyMagicDollz oh wow I already consider a tonne of Quiverfull couples basically shitty bdsmers but that is just. 😬
@@CraftyMagicDollzit’s way worse because he feeds that information to her
@@Varikas She's giving Michelle Duggar a run for her money.
Absolutely agree with the cleanliness thing. My husband has family overseas who are not well off at all and there little place is IMMACULATE. Being poor does not equal dirty.
Growing up in an impoverished area and then passing exams to get into a fancy school, I can say that as a general trend that poorer families tend to be much more house proud and clean. With a few exceptions of course. But I do remember being shocked at friends who would get the latest phone and loads of pocket money, but their house wasn't hoovered every day or they didn't have to make their bed.
@unclenought6385 exactly! The amount of pride in house cleanliness I saw in India, especially amongst poorer people, was exceptional. And yep, I knew people at uni who you might consider "rich" that were the biggest slobs ever. It's very much the mindset of "I have all of this stuff, why would I need to take care of it?"
Vancouver here, love your channel. This family is a scamming joke. I feel horrible for these children as it's obvious that they are grifting off of them. I'm a mom of twins, raising them alone and I work my ass off making sure they have everything. Thank you for calling out these kinds of people. This is truly disturbing!
Ooop i grew up low income and the kids who have lots of siblings and cats /pets the neglect effects every living thing in the homes
My grandmother used to say you can't help it if you're poor, but you can help being dirty
This isn't about poverty. That is a situation the family is in. This is about parents willingly and repeatedly choosing their own wants over their children's needs. Crappy parents in any socio-economic class do this. It's just easier to see with the lack of resources.
Yep. I waa the poor housecleaner with an immaculate small place or even immaculate car when we lived out of that .....and those upper class houses were gross until I cleaned them!
I’ve known a few moms who had to get a one bedroom for one adult & 2 kids. The bedroom was always set up for the kids, and mom would transform the living room to somehow magically be a living room during the day & a bedroom at night. Some even fit their real bed into the living room rm. but the proper bedroom with a door and the egress windows? The kids always got that, no question.
My parents really wanted another baby after me, but after my dad was laid off & ended up taking a new job with a huge pay cut, they decided to stop at just one kid. But I really feel like a lot of people out there just keep popping em out, thinking, “oh well I’ll figure it out later”😭 And people have the balls to say us who choose to be childfree are selfish…the REAL selfish people are the ones bringing kids into lives of neglect and poverty, all while knowing it’s only going to get harder. And as someone who grew up well below the poverty line: it ain’t fun, and kids DO know when things are tough.
And on a lighter note: my dog’s always finding the most random crap to chew on, too. Stuff I can’t even identify when I wrestle it away from her lol
@@missdenisebee THANK YOU! I'm childfree also, and it's ridiculous how people push everyone to have kids. I struggle enough on my own without adding more mouths to feed.
Childfree here. MAKE THE WORLD BETTER…at least affordable.
I support people that want to be child free and they should remain child free!! Imagine having more parents like this that pop kids out when they didn’t even want the responsibility….. it would be more chaos than there already is. Also god forbid a child gets sick and needs extra care and attention. Riding the parenthood rollercoaster is not for everyone, there should be limitations.
some people really think of having children as a "right" and not a privilege.
Well men in the USA government be viewing women as baby makers only. Plus abortion bans and access to birth control. And religious shame about it.
It's not so simple sadly
i just wanted to say that i really appreciate the fact that your voice has become a bit louder and clearer in your videos, personally it's much easier to hear and understand as someone whose native language isn't english. and i really love all the humor and personality that you've gotten to showcase this way too. subscribed
This drives me so crazy because i'm twenty seven and I love kids.I would love to have kids. However, despite that, i'm choosing not to at this point, because it's more important to me that I set up a future child to have a successful and happy life than it is that I have an entertaining plaything to show off. I feel like it just really shows where people's priorities are
This video was deeply healing, as someone who grew up as the eldest of 7 children. We had our own rooms (sometimes), but I remember my next oldest sis and I giving each other Jim from the office stares when our parents announced their final baby. We had moved into a new house and all had our own rooms, but we knew we'd be the ones having to share again. Between that and the "free babysitting," I was so happy when I got to live alone. My husband enjoys quiet time just as much as I do, so it's been very peaceful. Going over to my parents house is overstimulation to the max, but I do love seeing my siblings.
Those parents from the video are straight up raising their children like cattle. It is abhorrently neglectful, and the fact that it's on video should be more than enough for CPS to remove the kids. They shouldn't be forced to deal with the consequences of their parents'actions.
People are treating their children like accessories… popping more of them when they want to and discarding the others.
@Y355MIN Baby horders. She's getting something out of being pregnant and he's getting something out of constantly knocking her up. They could honestly give fk all about what happens to the kids post birth. Just like animal horders who "save" the pets so they can rot in their own filth indoors.
People like her don’t want children, they want to be pregnant and to have babies. Once their child is past the baby stage, they’ve lost interest.
My mom's cousin lives this way, but then complains about people living off the government, im tempted to get her a mirror to look in
In my experience, the people that complain about government moochers ARE the moochers. In every case I know, pretty much.
I don’t want children. My dad even stated, “The government will take care of your kid”. Uh, no, they will not, and I wouldn’t want that anyway. He’s not a liberal man.
Is she on government assistance?
@Mink_Tracks oh the cousin is, im not sure about the subjects of this video, but my mom's cousin keeps having kids because religion and you get more money in food stamps and rental assistance in oregon with the more kids you have
👏 👏 👏 Yes! Thank you for saying it, I grew up VERY poor and my mom taught me how to clean and always kept our apartment spotless! We did not have a lot of clothes but our clothes were always clean, moldy clothes? What?! That’s not poor that’s being nasty period.
What you said about the number of people who PRAISE the mediocrity because it makes them feel better about their own mediocrity…..
Yasssss!👏👏👏
Ahhhhh that's crazy! These adults do not deserve their children. Their kids cannot thrive in a cramped one bedroom apartment!! Also they are not helping the stigma of people in poverty who need the support
I get been poor ,my grandparents were dirt poor with 15 kids but they were no bumps who don't want to work they work their ass off also my grandma's house was clean af ,thats why my dad and his siblings barely got sick. They may be low income but they also lazy af that they neglect their kids and their living space also why 2 cats when they can barely keep up with their kids.😅
@@imitationporcelainsame my great grandma was one of 27 KIDS!!!! but they still worked as hard as they could, even tho it was olden times so they likely didnt teach the most respectful and wholesome of things but wtv😭💀
as someone with 3 brothers who used to live in a 2 bedroom apartment with one bathroom, i can instantly tell these kids will grow to resent their parents 💀. my parents used to sleep in the BATH just so me and my brothers didn't have to be 4 to a room. ik providing for a kid/kids these days is very expensive but bro they barely even pretend they care about them 💀💀
Well your parents were good for prioritizing the kids, I don’t think it’s easy of fun sleeping in a bathroom.
Chile they almost burned me at the stake for saying children don’t owe their parents anything 😂 anyone who thinks otherwise is thoroughly insane!
@@thesurfacewater amen, they want hierarchy, and then hate the consequences of it
Growing up with people like this- they definitely are using every government program available. Which, when you need it, you need it. But folks like this purposely keep having kids to keep those benefits.
being poor does not have to = dirty. my grandparents who grew up in the depression era raised me on a low income, and they were SO clean.
The bit about the whole place smelling of cat pee is low-key triggering because. I had to deal with smelling of that and smoke a lot as a kid. That can have health effects, living in that kind of condition, but it also leads to bullying. The kids are gonna suffer at school or in any environment where people can smell them
@@leegale945 Yes! I kept thinking about that with the laundry too. If laundry is left there, EVERYTHING the kids wear will smell. I feel so bad for the kids...
I foster kittens for a rescue along with having cats of my own.
Anytime you have multiple cats in a small space it's going to have some kind of odor. But there's "I clean and keep up the litter boxes" odor, and then there's "I don't care" odor.
I have had cats refuse the litter box for MONTHS and use a secret spot the whole time for peeing and no one could smell it until we discovered it. The idea of the whole apartment smelling strongly of cat pee makes my head hurt with the amount of neglect that it requires to get to that point.
Kids used to think I smoked... stinking of smoke is so horrible. All of us are asthmatic.
How many times do we gotta keep telling people not to have kids if they're not financially stable? It annoys me to my core. If you can't check mark all the requirements you need to have a child, don't have a child.
Because they "don't believe in abortion" and refuse to let the child be adopted
At the very least, stop having multiple children, stop at one if you aren’t stable,
big picture though, isn’t the U.S. trying to force people into having kids? like Maybe a teen mom would give up a kid for adoption but existing families will just try to make it work. Point is, we’re about to see a lot more of this from people who would have preferred to not have more kids
I feel like with these quiverful types, it goes so far beyond just the matter of meeting kids' physical/material needs. I think it's possible for a family to have quite little materially, but for the parents to be truly devoted to their children with the time that they have and make them feel loved and nurtured even if maybe they have to share a room with their sibling or most of their clothes are from the thrift store. However, even in the best imaginable financial circumstances, there's just a number of kids beyond which 2 adults just can't possibly meet all of their emotional needs.
The Jenkins are really a double whammy, they're refusing to take responsibility for these children's material needs and they're having more than they can emotionally care for.
Okay but abortion bans don't allow this. Pregnancy happens and many can't access options. So I think it's overly simple to say "just don't" for many people in poverty.
This woman however, is neglectful and using religion as an excuse which is common. Look at Mormons.
The economies not “bad”, it’s just bad for lower or middle income people. We handed it over to the wealthy through tax cuts, attacks on unions, a stagnant minimum wage, etc.
When I was 5-6, I did not have a real bed. It was horrible. I could never sleep. I was scared. My parents had a bed, of course. I can't tell you what that does to a child. You don't just forget when your parents treat themselves better than you.
The whole internet gets mad and goes crazy about her saying she wants to go viral to have more kids, but then immediately makes her go viral for their benefit 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
20:57 Just a quick correction Andrew Jenkins child that is in her videos is not Arlitas kid. He is from a second woman who we haven’t seen yet. From what I understand he hasn’t seen Arlitas son since the son was very young. So he has three baby mamas total.
yikes..I wonder how this man even got these 3 women to love him
@@cxysxo love unfortunately does not require logic. I respect Arlita though for not showing her kid on camera. If you see her video she seems to be doing a great job.
Sounds about right
“The only king he gives you is Burger King and he doesn’t even wanna work there”😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭☠️
Girl yes thank you!! Like I’ve lived in an SRO (iykyk) and sure the communal bathrooms weren’t amazing but there was still a person who cleaned them twice daily…. And I kept my room super clean. Like being broke is not mutually exclusive with being unclean….
Thank you for the super like! 🩷 I'm glad you're here and I hope you're in a better situation! Even then, yes- poor doesn't equal filthy or dirty. I grew up in a bad situation, but my mom always taught us to clean! Alot of people use it as an excuse and it strengthens the stereotype that people who struggle financially are uneducated and filthy which is not true!!!
Love how you talked about the true meaning of the bible verse. I took a Human Se*suality course in college and something the professer talked about always stuck with me. It was all about all the "rules" of the bible and the uses of them. All the rules had practical reasons for them. The not eating cloven-hooved animals rule was because those animals had a higher chance of spreading diseases or something like that. The reasons for having a bunch of kids, and also polygamy (because we're talking old testiment rules here) was really simply for preservation of people. SOOOOOO many would die, and die early, so you'd want to have as many children as possible with as many wives as possible, so that your family would survive. It's all VERY practical. Even the rules about not wearing clothing with more than 3 colors (which purists like to ignore) was because production of material with lots of colors was expensive and a sign of wealth. So that rule was more meant to keep people from spending their money on useless things to show their wealth. Translating that to today is more like saying "Hey maybe don't buy that LV bag, be humble"
So happy I saw this video. Someone asked me “have you seen the family with 6 kids in a 1 bedroom” and I told them no but was asked how I felt anyway and said “it depends, there’s a lot of factors I don’t know” and I’m so happy that’s the decision I made because this is NOT where I thought it was going but I also understood neglect and selfishness was a possibility
I used to work in a nursing home and these are the kind of parents that die alone.
I have one sister, I’m the eldest. I remember going to get groceries with my mom and my sister would ask to get a candy or some snack, like all children do, and I could see the pain and guilt in my mom’s eyes, now I understand fully the reason behind it, but as a child I just thought “she doesn’t want to say no, we can’t have that right now”. She would kinda look at me like asking if I also wanted something, cause maybe she could get one extra thing but not two, so I would always say “thanks mom, but no, I’m good”, and the relief in her face, to be able to say yes to my sister and think that I was ok and didn’t want anything, but I just picked up her expressions and knew “the right answer”. I saw her making all sorts of things to sell so that we could have more money, I knew it would make her feel a bit more at ease if I said “no, I’m good”.
They say that their kids don't have beds because they broke them. But if that was the case, the kids would still have mattresses. The kids are sleeping on FOAM. Make it make sense.
Thank you for commenting on how being poor and being dirty are NOT the same thing. I grew up extremely poor. However, my home was always clean and comfortable and I was always hygienic. Just because you don't have a lot of money doesn't mean you have to be filthy and live in squalor. These are two separate problems.
I grew up poor and our house was super clean. You don’t need to have a bunch of money to keep your house clean.
Just remember, Comet is like $1, being poor doesn’t mean being dirty 😂
@@dorothy6200 yes! dollar tree has so much in terms of cleaning supplies, including brand name if needing brand is that important to the person.
5$ at the dollar store......cleans that whole apartment
My sis and I knew we were poor. We also saw our parents get laid off from their jobs and working 2 part time jobs each. We grew up real fast. But our parents always put us first with food clothes school. I’m judging them hard…real hard.
@tc7909 exactly! My dad worked and did a lot of overtime to provide for me and my siblings. Food and our safety/hygiene were always taken care of. They are just selfish.
Nobody never pointed out I was poor but I always knew. I had the only bed room in the appartment and I didn’t want my friend to come over bc I was scared they would gossip about at school. I CANT IMAGINE BEING FILMED AT THAT AGE AND POSTED ON SOCIAL MEDIA (and I was the one sleeping in the room not even a random mattress in the kitchen)
And yes I was a ONLY child growing up in low class, with a single mom (that happens to be narcissistic) and it was TRAUMATIC.
You don’t need to know you’re poor to understand your life is unfair and unhappy.
I don't feel bad for the parents, but boy oh boy do I feel bad for those children who didn't ask to be born into that situation.
this is the first video i’m watching of yours and it’s amazing! one thing i will say is that some of the research is incorrect, the first child of Drew’s has not seen him since he was 5 and he abandoned at 2 years old. the child who appears in stephanie’s videos is from another relationship.
Girl! I live in Eugene (about 90 miles away from Portland) I was like I KNOW there are programs for these folks, they just aren’t tapping in!
Please I hope you don't take this the wrong way, but I'm genuinely glad you stopped the whispering!!! This is so much easier to watch tysm for taking the feedback 💓💓💓
i stopped watching for awhile because of that. if she wanted to make a separate asmr channel that’s cool but i wasn’t into it for the video essay/commentary vibe
@@aalmondmilksame. I HATE asmr. It gives me the exact opposite of whatever dopamine hit you’re supposed to feel. Can’t stand it. I’m so glad she stopped. lol.
@@KAydelott7Voice asmer is the worst
Idk i still get a weird feeling from the small mouth noises due to the microphone...its probably just me though. I pick up on smallnoises
How is it legal to have that many ppl in a 1 bdrm apt??? I think in my state it’s a cap of 3 ppl (including kids) per bedroom…
I guarantee they didn’t tell the apartment how many people would actually be living there. They have those rules for a reason, I’m surprised they haven’t been evicted yet.
I honestly think because of how mixed the family is, I wouldn't be surprised if the landlord see some of the kids, and think some are from another unit or just visiting
It’s not, I believe it was reported that they may get evicted.
It isn't..
I was wondering the same thing
This makes me angry. I’ve been divorced 6 years, and he left 10 years ago. He walked out the day he got his cdl, and left me and our 2 kids 👉🏻 to be with the NEW baby momma he knocked up. I had NO CLUE this was going on. He was supposed to be getting his CDL. Instead he left andHID for 4 years (with his family’s blessing!), to avoid divorce, to NOT pay me child support. Did I mention the newest baby momma was A YEAR OLDER THAN OUR OLDEST SON??? And she is also such a miserable person that if he even calls us, and she finds it - she screams, yells, and is physically violent for weeks afterwards. So he quit calling and quit caring. She rules his life in a way that I NEVER DID. I’ve raised the youngest myself for the last 10 years. He now has 4(!) other kids, she refuses to work, and they live in absolute poverty and filth. He won’t even let my youngest talk to his siblings and get to know them. Then when I show up asking why I’m not getting child support, I get screamed and told I’m the trash. She almost threw her baby at me in anger when I told her to get a job. She is INSANE. And she wins because he is spineless, and has nowhere else to go. I hate what it’s done to our lives. We were once a normal family that people looked up to, and aspired to be. Now we are all damaged messes, thanks to HIS decisions. I HATE MEN WITH MULTIPLE WOMEN AND FAMILIES, WHO PICK AND CHOOSE WHO TO TAKE CARE OF. My kids didn’t deserve this.
I feel you. I once broke a pearl necklace and the pearls went everywhere. My dog loves to try to eat them!
A 40 minute Salem video about a topic I’ve never heard of? Perfect
You legally need at least 3 bedrooms to have that many kids in some states. Not sure about Oregon but definitely over here on the East Coast.
Oregon is the Wild West. We have no housing but.....this woman lived in a 3 bedroom....super hard to get,...with her mom and left to be with this dude
@@AgingStudent I wonder if she's "slumming it" for the novelty
It looks like most rental places around here (Oregon) say two person per bedroom plus 1. Meaning you could have 5 in a 2 bedroom. But it isn’t enforced by a law, just the rental agreement.
Are the laws you are referring to change when the occupants are related or unrelated? I know lots of places have limits on how many unrelated occupants there are, but not familial. Just curious, thanks!
This is so upseting on so many levels. I came from a single parent household where we lived with my grandparents. Me and my Mom shared a bedroom till I was four. She worked so hard to make a better life for the both of us. I get poor, but this, is absolutely unacceptable.
As a person with 9 siblings… I feel really bad for these children. I was neglected a lot as a child. You really cannot emotionally, forget financially support more than like 3 children and that’s at your healthiest.
Man i was about to renew one of my streaming services i watch shows on, about 20 minutes ago - but then i found this, ur editing is amazing!❤
People like this absolutely make my blood boil. There are people who are struggling to get pregnant or have had alot of losses. Why is it people like this that are the most fertile? My heart breaks for these sweet children💔
At least have the decency to give the bedroom to the KIDS and sleep on the kitchen floor yourself.
They don’t get a say in where they live because they are CHILDREN and you’re the PARENTS so at least act like it.
0:17 they have 4 kids. Pregnant with #5. And two adults. So currently there is 6 people total in the house.
EXACTLY! I can’t comprehend why SO MANY PEOPLE misunderstood the phrase “family of 6 going on 7” and she mentioned 2 parents. Is math that hard? Like 7 (family) - 2 (parents) does NOT equal 7 kids. One person misunderstood and everyone else ran with it. Like get your facts straight so you can hate accurately
@@asdfghjkl.196That's still a lot of kids and a lot of people in a 1 bed. it's still not acceptable to force kids to live in this bs reality. These kids are going to grow up and never talk to their parents again
@@coffeepandacat i know it’s bad and unacceptable. Did you read the last sentence of my comment?
@@asdfghjkl.196 Not sure the point of being pedantic? Either way it's 7 individuals living in a cramped filthy environment, 5 of which are innocent children and 2 are able bodied adults responsible for this mess of a reality. Doesn't matter if it was 1 or 10 kids
When I was in a two bed house with two kids (f8&m6) I slept on the sofa in the living room for 2 years until till we were able to get a 3bed social housing home.
My kids always come ahead of me. I currently have one away at university and my youngest is at home for 2 more years. I put off moving to single floor living that my doctors and my physical and occupational therapists want for over 2 years because of my children’s needs to stay in our current home for school. Now I’m having to make that move but only because it’s now right for my kids.
I don’t u derstand people that don’t put their kids first.