That's what um saying, instead of just telling us how to navigate men like this, they should also be telling women to also avoid them not act like its normal
Yeah I was thinking the same thing. Some dudes know exactly what they’re doing and it’s scary manipulative. I’ve been in several situations like they’re grooming me except they’re my age
It’s our father’s job to protect us from this destructive nature of men and veer us towards men who have our best interest at heart. It’s our mother’s job ( along with her fathers help) to choose our father in the form of a husband.
Your content triggers me so much! You make me remember how I used to be treated. Suppressed emotions are finally coming up to the surface so that I can heal it. Thank you 🙏🏽
What frustrates me is guys like this seem to just get a “pass” for this type of behaviour, as if the behaviour is justified because it's “just what boys do”. And as women it’s our problem to learn “to not be naïve and shoulda known better.” Why is it constantly the woman’s responsibility? Pisses me off dude and turns me off from being in a relationship at all. I know not all men are like this. My brother is not like this in ANY capacity. And I have high respect for men. But a guy I encountered this year COMPLETELY changed my perspective of men. I wasted 4 months on him, he LIED straight to my face saying he was looking for a longterm relationship, only to try to bed me (which was not gonna happen), slept around with other women and mocked me for it to make me jealous, and would go hot and cold on me to try to keep me attached. Sick of the games, sick of trying to pick apart what’s true and what’s not from guys, and constantly running in circles trying to figure out what men are mature and what ones are toddlers. It’s like I need a phD in psychology just to find a half decent person ffs. What’s the point of asking a guy anything when there’s a 99% chance of being lied to and deceived anyways? I’m happier on my own. I’m just done. I want someone to grow with and build an empire with but I’m tired and give up. Done trying. If someone wants to be with me they’re gonna have to try real hard because there will be no effort or interest on my end. Sorry for venting guys, its just been a hard year xx
I feel you. I've given this guy a chance and it seems like he only wants to try and sleep with me. I was too naive. Now, it's even harder for me to open up to someone because I feel like they only want your body. Working on self love rn and tbh I give up with these men and will only try to focus building an empire by my own, no wishing for a prince charming to save me. I can already see a better future ahead of us with or without these demonic creatures.
I completely understand you and it’s so frustrating. I’ve been through several situations where I’ve literally been groomed in a way. They know what they’re doing. It’s disgusting. I don’t know how or where to meet a decent guy anymore.
This happened to me recently. Guy was telling me “Are you ready for forever? You and me forever together.” It was CRINGE. How are women into this? This guy spent the entire 2 hours love bombing me and I just rolled my eyes. I was so turned off! So confused as to how women fall for this! Aren’t they so turned off??
He’s speaking life into the unhealed parts of her. She eats it up bc she’s likely been starving for the type of attention/compliments he’s giving. Not realizing she’s being love-bombed, bread crumbed, etc. Healing is so vital!
Not to a woman who was deprived of love and attention as a child. She has no idea what real love is or what to expect. Before such advice, women used to attract narcissistic men and lessen their lessons the hard way
That's a poor attempt at love bombing. Love bombing is more like giving you attention almost daily, giving you compliments, buying you things, making various plans for dates and then they take you out once, try to sleep with you and when you don't do it they go completely ghost.
I'm glad you're talking about this in terms of energy. I've seen a few videos where they talk about how a man dumps out his negative energy into you when it's not a respectful relationship. Women don't really have the desire to do this and not as easy of a capacity to do this. We are the temple, gotta be really careful about who gets to come in. High standards.
I went on a date recently and straight up told the guy on the phone FIRST before going on the date that I was 'not interested' in sex on the first date OR going for a'ride' in his car & I wouldnt be offended if he didnt want to meet. He was the perfect gentleman & paid for dinner on the full understanding that I was willing to pay my half. Tell them your boundaries from the beginning & let them decide......
Yeah but remember if he asking you out you should never pay for your dinner if there’s a grown able bodied man in front of you. That’s his problem and u should just leave if he tries to pull that shit lol.!
the only thing about this topic , it doesn't really touch on men pressuring women and making her uncomfortable to the point where decisions are changing
Yes! I wish I knew this stuff when I was younger, I didn't have a male in my life (brother/father/uncle) and wasted alot of time and had my heart broken by several undeserving men
Ugh, the last guy I have been interested in (for just one month) told me straight up he was sick of how everyone is looking for casual hookups and he's not into that. I agreed with him and it was all cool but soon enough he was focusing a lot on the spicy talk even though I was trying to tone it all down and go back to other topics..... Now I told myself not to initiate chat with him (he's very far away from me) and he hasn't texted un 3 whole days 🙄🙄🙄 so I know now what was happening here, he thought there was an opportunity for distraction even though I'm so far away and we agreed casual wasn't for us!
This fish analogy is soo on brand to watch because i literally played this out in my mind with the last trickster that came into my life , i was the big fish that he almost caught, he was a fisherman too 😂
Not sure what to think. I went on a date with a guy. He kissed me literally on the first hour of the date. I pushed on off and he tried THREE more times (and I kept pushing him off). I STUPIDLY gave him the benefit of doubt and stayed because I was like an hour away from home and bought concert tickets and didn’t want to waste my money. He was kinda being rude to me during that and just wanted to dance. Wasn’t much talking tbh because the music. Went back to my car because I was tired and needed a reset before I drove home. (He ubered there btw) so I felt bad because he spent like $150 on that date just to see me. So that’s also why I stayed. But he was in the car with me and I literally got assaulted(like the worst kind). Like idk how many times I gotta say no and I don’t want to. Literally turning my head away from his mouth. And he literally didn’t care. I didn’t want to be violent because I don’t wanna get in trouble or get beat up. So yeah. He lied about so many things on text/calls before we met irl on the date. Not sure how to protect myself from that. Just creepy manipulative dudes. He was 24 btw. Such a young age. I’m only 21. We were both sober which is even scarier.
Don't ever worry about being 'mean' or hurting someone's feeling over your own safety. What happened wasn't your fault. I want you to know moving forward that it's okay to hurt someone's feelings vs YOU being in physical danger. Predators prey on sympathy. Sending you lots of love & light!
Truth specifically the #3 soul control makes you lock in and when you decide to leave the connection its difficult to break the soul connection even after months being no contact. Thank you Tomisin your vids help me through this painful time ❤❤❤
This is the stupidest analogy I have ever seen as a 45 year old. I had an ex fiancé twenty years ago, poor lower-class struggling blue collar guy with a white collar education. He never asked questions about my life, who I am, or what my childhood was like, likes, dislikes, hopes, dreams, goals, fantasies, wishes. He never wanted to meet my family and her me as an option throughout the sexual relationship. Twenty years later after we broke up yet he and his friends snd family still follow my social media, they found out I inherited the net worth of my father, 1.2 million dollars worth of assets. This was the lamest comparison I have ever seen, men often don’t realize due to laziness, pure laziness snd self-centeredness that they are sleeping with golden treasure. It’s not that long term sgd has been put in one category by him or another. Oftrn the case is he is fo self-involved, and self-focused he forgets that there is a hidden, silent treasure at the end of his fuck for several years. You should do a video for men, on how yo give women the right attention to discover what a young high-value marraiage-material candidate they are. Stop doing videos for women, and start teaching clueless, young, lost. immature men how to date properly if they are searching for a wife eventually instead!
There are so many layers to this, men point of vue also. It needs to be said, not every woman is worth the investing and the waiting. Sad to say, but it is what it is. Because guys have been also burnt by malicious women, they are not willing to do all the heavy stuff to "conquer" her heart. In today's society, where so much abuse has been made on both sides, I find it normal for both, man and woman, to be proving themselves through dating. It needs to be reciprocity and respect, yes, but it's not realistic for us women to wait for a man to jump through all these hoops for us before even getting to know the real you, not the you that just enjoys going to restaurants and only having fun... And from a woman standpoint too, I know I like to have a certain quality of sex. If I wait after these men to properly pursue me for 3-4 months before testing the sex, is it any better for me if we arrive at the sex part and I see he doesn't live up to the standard? Not for me...so my opinion is that sex needs to be involved after 2-3-4 dates, but us women need to be emotional intelligent enough to keep our cool, to see it for what it is, getting to know someone very early stages, and if after 2-3-4 months we see it doesn't shift into anything more than that, have the courage to walk away. And I guarantee you, if you're a keeper ( as a woman) the guy comes back to offer you something serious in no time. And anyways there are not many men that even qualify for this "discovery" job...it's difficult to find one that peaks your interest intelligence point of vue, emotional, sexual, be fun, respectful etc etc...so you're not going to do to many 3 months "trials"
Completely true. Sometimes these dating videos tend to pick a very far fetched POV. And as you said for some people, the physical aspect is key to assess compatibility and chemistry.
That is SO good! Thank you! I was super protected when growing up - nobody spoke to me abt these things & as an accomplished adult woman I just ended talking to a man almost 40 who has yet to make strides at being protector & provider -
To the "fisherman", I'm a big whale 🐋 😊. He doesn’t have a big enough net to catch me. Hard to imagine 💔 there are still humans who kill whales, very very brutally. Great video, thank you. Such important information
I wish i had found you a week earlier! I mean i should have known better anyway, I gave it up to this guy and as soon as he put it inside, like 3 seconds, he was done!... worst sex ever!
Take a look at the people around you when you go to the store….how many still have a mindful soul inside and how many are just zombies? You can’t expect intimacy from people who have no soul.
It’s a little confusing when you refer to us “ladies” as “you guys”. A little semantics here, but referring to us as “ladies” is a bit more clear with your point.
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Absolutely ❤❤❤
Can you talk about why no one is calling out men for pushing the boundaries like this? It’s actually very disrespectful
That's what um saying, instead of just telling us how to navigate men like this, they should also be telling women to also avoid them not act like its normal
Yeah I was thinking the same thing. Some dudes know exactly what they’re doing and it’s scary manipulative. I’ve been in several situations like they’re grooming me except they’re my age
It’s our father’s job to protect us from this destructive nature of men and veer us towards men who have our best interest at heart.
It’s our mother’s job ( along with her fathers help) to choose our father in the form of a husband.
Your content triggers me so much! You make me remember how I used to be treated. Suppressed emotions are finally coming up to the surface so that I can heal it. Thank you 🙏🏽
I agree , this is great that finally a guy tells the truth isn’t it?😮❤
@ yes finally ❤️🙌🏽
It does, it convinces me to withhold access again, again and again. His content is like a romance repellent 😂
Yeah he triggers me so much it makes me upset tho tbh
@Roseberrylove :( wish I could help you and support you when you feel triggered ❤️
What frustrates me is guys like this seem to just get a “pass” for this type of behaviour, as if the behaviour is justified because it's “just what boys do”. And as women it’s our problem to learn “to not be naïve and shoulda known better.” Why is it constantly the woman’s responsibility? Pisses me off dude and turns me off from being in a relationship at all. I know not all men are like this. My brother is not like this in ANY capacity. And I have high respect for men. But a guy I encountered this year COMPLETELY changed my perspective of men. I wasted 4 months on him, he LIED straight to my face saying he was looking for a longterm relationship, only to try to bed me (which was not gonna happen), slept around with other women and mocked me for it to make me jealous, and would go hot and cold on me to try to keep me attached. Sick of the games, sick of trying to pick apart what’s true and what’s not from guys, and constantly running in circles trying to figure out what men are mature and what ones are toddlers. It’s like I need a phD in psychology just to find a half decent person ffs. What’s the point of asking a guy anything when there’s a 99% chance of being lied to and deceived anyways? I’m happier on my own. I’m just done. I want someone to grow with and build an empire with but I’m tired and give up. Done trying. If someone wants to be with me they’re gonna have to try real hard because there will be no effort or interest on my end. Sorry for venting guys, its just been a hard year xx
I feel you. I've given this guy a chance and it seems like he only wants to try and sleep with me. I was too naive. Now, it's even harder for me to open up to someone because I feel like they only want your body. Working on self love rn and tbh I give up with these men and will only try to focus building an empire by my own, no wishing for a prince charming to save me. I can already see a better future ahead of us with or without these demonic creatures.
I completely understand you and it’s so frustrating. I’ve been through several situations where I’ve literally been groomed in a way. They know what they’re doing. It’s disgusting. I don’t know how or where to meet a decent guy anymore.
This happened to me recently. Guy was telling me “Are you ready for forever? You and me forever together.”
It was CRINGE. How are women into this? This guy spent the entire 2 hours love bombing me and I just rolled my eyes. I was so turned off! So confused as to how women fall for this! Aren’t they so turned off??
Maybe they aren’t as exposed to that type of energetic as you are
Yeah, right, the most unattractive and dumbest thing a guy can do telling a girl 2 hours into knowing her how much he loves her lol 😮😱💔🙊🙉🙈
He’s speaking life into the unhealed parts of her. She eats it up bc she’s likely been starving for the type of attention/compliments he’s giving. Not realizing she’s being love-bombed, bread crumbed, etc. Healing is so vital!
Not to a woman who was deprived of love and attention as a child. She has no idea what real love is or what to expect. Before such advice, women used to attract narcissistic men and lessen their lessons the hard way
That's a poor attempt at love bombing. Love bombing is more like giving you attention almost daily, giving you compliments, buying you things, making various plans for dates and then they take you out once, try to sleep with you and when you don't do it they go completely ghost.
Its so scary how so many of your videos just MAKE SENSE😭😭😭😭 like you express what i was feeling for ages!!
You are so emotionally aware and articulate in a way that’s so clear and way to understand. I appreciate you so much!!
I'm glad you're talking about this in terms of energy. I've seen a few videos where they talk about how a man dumps out his negative energy into you when it's not a respectful relationship. Women don't really have the desire to do this and not as easy of a capacity to do this. We are the temple, gotta be really careful about who gets to come in. High standards.
I went on a date recently and straight up told the guy on the phone FIRST before going on the date that I was 'not interested' in sex on the first date OR going for a'ride' in his car & I wouldnt be offended if he didnt want to meet. He was the perfect gentleman & paid for dinner on the full understanding that I was willing to pay my half. Tell them your boundaries from the beginning & let them decide......
Yeah but remember if he asking you out you should never pay for your dinner if there’s a grown able bodied man in front of you. That’s his problem and u should just leave if he tries to pull that shit lol.!
the only thing about this topic , it doesn't really touch on men pressuring women and making her uncomfortable to the point where decisions are changing
Soul ties are real.🙏🏽🙏🏽
I'm so happy my man is working on his projects so hard to be able to protect and provide for me. I am his dream woman so he's working extra hard 🥰❤️
Is he your dream man?
😂😂😂😂
Bro code does not at all exist on this channel😭. Loving the exposure and raw truth. #Players club
I needed you to tell me this as a young girl with no father figure...all young girls need to hear this❤
Babygirl, same..........😢
Yes! I wish I knew this stuff when I was younger, I didn't have a male in my life (brother/father/uncle) and wasted alot of time and had my heart broken by several undeserving men
This is the best channel I’ve ever found😊
Never touched a hot pot when my mom told me to to lol
I don’t even think about sleeping with anyone on a date, they just take it all wrong!
Your videos are awesome. Thank you for helping a sister out! ❤🎉
Thank you for ur content! I finished the video straight away and noticed i m the shark in the sea😂🎉
now THIS is beneficial content thank you. this actually helps gain clarity to avoid getting taken advantage of.
This by far the shortest most informative video getting straight to the nitty gritty...I would share this video without doubt!!!
Thank you, Tomisin!
you are the best! i wish i saw your videos a few months ago when i was dealing with my current ex. would have saved myself some tears🤣🤣🤣
No huggy no kissy til i get a wedding ring. Black crows had it right. Just don't touch.
I think that’s the opposite extreme
Ugh, the last guy I have been interested in (for just one month) told me straight up he was sick of how everyone is looking for casual hookups and he's not into that. I agreed with him and it was all cool but soon enough he was focusing a lot on the spicy talk even though I was trying to tone it all down and go back to other topics..... Now I told myself not to initiate chat with him (he's very far away from me) and he hasn't texted un 3 whole days 🙄🙄🙄 so I know now what was happening here, he thought there was an opportunity for distraction even though I'm so far away and we agreed casual wasn't for us!
Fantastic discussion
Excellent analysis
Thank you Sir
I love this man!!! ❤
This fish analogy is soo on brand to watch because i literally played this out in my mind with the last trickster that came into my life , i was the big fish that he almost caught, he was a fisherman too 😂
Seeing this at the right time. I was at a cross road 😂
Not sure what to think. I went on a date with a guy. He kissed me literally on the first hour of the date. I pushed on off and he tried THREE more times (and I kept pushing him off).
I STUPIDLY gave him the benefit of doubt and stayed because I was like an hour away from home and bought concert tickets and didn’t want to waste my money. He was kinda being rude to me during that and just wanted to dance. Wasn’t much talking tbh because the music. Went back to my car because I was tired and needed a reset before I drove home. (He ubered there btw) so I felt bad because he spent like $150 on that date just to see me.
So that’s also why I stayed. But he was in the car with me and I literally got assaulted(like the worst kind). Like idk how many times I gotta say no and I don’t want to. Literally turning my head away from his mouth. And he literally didn’t care. I didn’t want to be violent because I don’t wanna get in trouble or get beat up. So yeah. He lied about so many things on text/calls before we met irl on the date. Not sure how to protect myself from that. Just creepy manipulative dudes. He was 24 btw. Such a young age. I’m only 21. We were both sober which is even scarier.
Don't ever worry about being 'mean' or hurting someone's feeling over your own safety. What happened wasn't your fault. I want you to know moving forward that it's okay to hurt someone's feelings vs YOU being in physical danger. Predators prey on sympathy. Sending you lots of love & light!
That's assault. IDK what to do in those situations. We must learn to scream grape when these situations arise.
Truth specifically the #3 soul control makes you lock in and when you decide to leave the connection its difficult to break the soul connection even after months being no contact. Thank you Tomisin your vids help me through this painful time ❤❤❤
This is the stupidest analogy I have ever seen as a 45 year old. I had an ex fiancé twenty years ago, poor lower-class struggling blue collar guy with a white collar education. He never asked questions about my life, who I am, or what my childhood was like, likes, dislikes, hopes, dreams, goals, fantasies, wishes. He never wanted to meet my family and her me as an option throughout the sexual relationship. Twenty years later after we broke up yet he and his friends snd family still follow my social media, they found out I inherited the net worth of my father, 1.2 million dollars worth of assets.
This was the lamest comparison I have ever seen, men often don’t realize due to laziness, pure laziness snd self-centeredness that they are sleeping with golden treasure. It’s not that long term sgd has been put in one category by him or another. Oftrn the case is he is fo self-involved, and self-focused he forgets that there is a hidden, silent treasure at the end of his fuck for several years. You should do a video for men, on how yo give women the right attention to discover what a young high-value marraiage-material candidate they are. Stop doing videos for women, and start teaching clueless, young, lost. immature men how to date properly if they are searching for a wife eventually instead!
Sadly, healthy dating videos for men don’t do well on TH-cam. The algorithm only pushes the disgusting red pill incel content to be seen.
Young women needs these videos to get the men to treat them better.
So glad I came across your content!!!
You always have great content. You like a big brother to me.
Thumps up Tomisin
Such a powerful show
What if men lie about their goals and ambitions just to get you to think that they are doing something with their lives or they will?
Watch their actions not their words
This is really good information, again 😳
Your videos are very valuable. As a relationship and dating coach, I feel I am learning new things useful both for myself and my clients.
Love your content, thank you🙏🏼📚🌱🌟
You are the best❤❤
There are so many layers to this, men point of vue also. It needs to be said, not every woman is worth the investing and the waiting. Sad to say, but it is what it is. Because guys have been also burnt by malicious women, they are not willing to do all the heavy stuff to "conquer" her heart. In today's society, where so much abuse has been made on both sides, I find it normal for both, man and woman, to be proving themselves through dating. It needs to be reciprocity and respect, yes, but it's not realistic for us women to wait for a man to jump through all these hoops for us before even getting to know the real you, not the you that just enjoys going to restaurants and only having fun...
And from a woman standpoint too, I know I like to have a certain quality of sex. If I wait after these men to properly pursue me for 3-4 months before testing the sex, is it any better for me if we arrive at the sex part and I see he doesn't live up to the standard? Not for me...so my opinion is that sex needs to be involved after 2-3-4 dates, but us women need to be emotional intelligent enough to keep our cool, to see it for what it is, getting to know someone very early stages, and if after 2-3-4 months we see it doesn't shift into anything more than that, have the courage to walk away. And I guarantee you, if you're a keeper ( as a woman) the guy comes back to offer you something serious in no time.
And anyways there are not many men that even qualify for this "discovery" job...it's difficult to find one that peaks your interest intelligence point of vue, emotional, sexual, be fun, respectful etc etc...so you're not going to do to many 3 months "trials"
Completely true. Sometimes these dating videos tend to pick a very far fetched POV. And as you said for some people, the physical aspect is key to assess compatibility and chemistry.
Stopped reading at “women need to prove themselves through dating.”
That is SO good! Thank you! I was super protected when growing up - nobody spoke to me abt these things & as an accomplished adult woman I just ended talking to a man almost 40 who has yet to make strides at being protector & provider -
You are doing God’s work. Thanks the Lord he is blockkkkked!!!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Taking advantage on purpose tor selfish means is disgusting and imaature.
24:31-25:05 that's some real insight right there
🦈 let's be sharks folks!
Interesting Topic
This is no such thing as soul ties first and also this focus can occur sexless relationship as well. Poor information.
heyyy tomisin ;))
To the "fisherman", I'm a big whale 🐋 😊. He doesn’t have a big enough net to catch me. Hard to imagine 💔 there are still humans who kill whales, very very brutally. Great video, thank you. Such important information
So what do I do if I already find myself here?
dayum
I wish i had found you a week earlier!
I mean i should have known better anyway, I gave it up to this guy and as soon as he put it inside, like 3 seconds, he was done!... worst sex ever!
Good analogy… :/
Tomisin❤
Amen 👏
But what if the sex was bad?😂
Am a bigfish🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊
Guys don’t want to do messaging etc after sex? Why?
Take a look at the people around you when you go to the store….how many still have a mindful soul inside and how many are just zombies? You can’t expect intimacy from people who have no soul.
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Because I am not wife material 😭
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trusting this over the ebook Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki? no wonder the same cycles keep happening
10:40
Omg
It’s a little confusing when you refer to us “ladies” as “you guys”. A little semantics here, but referring to us as “ladies” is a bit more clear with your point.
pls add subs in spanish so i can show your videos to my sisters
nobody talks about the ebook Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, but it’ll flip how you see everything
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why stick to surface-level stuff when the ebook Magnetic Aura hits you with the real truth
ebook Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki shows how to break free, but most people don’t even try
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How disgusting 😂😅
@tomisin please ban the title of this book and this author from your comments i can’t take this shit anymore
🙄smdh give it a rest!
not saying this is bad, but ebook Magnetic Aura makes it look basic