As an empath our kind hearts in seeing genuine good in all gets seen as gullible and vulnerable to use and take advantage of us which sucks especially as were big main target to the narcissist especially the covert one who just wants to make one's life hell being so mean then nice as two faces do and yet play nice guy to everyone else so no one would ever believe you that they could be so cruel smh... They just like to make a soul miserable because thats how they truly are. And worst they sabotage you to make you do bad things just like how a rapist roofees their pray for sex they'll do whatever to use you then make you look like the bad guy and i should know my ex use to roofee me he'd mix it in my drink even put weed in my food with some weed butter i was so paranoid and was so embarrassing as i didnt know especially as i had to drive smh....their straight criminals trying to look innocent by getting away with their insidious cruel ways.
Empaths can't see themselves as victims. We have to learn how to separate ourselves from toxicity, and knowing that it is okay to remove ourselves from a negative situation.
Cymbolic Human Unfortunately, it's usually caused by abusive parents and their children learn unhealthy ways of coping in order to survive! It's no wonder many children become narcissistic adults, or go too far the other way, which isn't healthy either. 😥
Cut off anyone who ever causes you stress, block this person for good. Get in touch with your wounded self let the pain from missing this dude come feel it and cry be sad let the feeling be.... that is the only way to get over someone. Than get hobbies or ask yourself, what is your passion, what is your dream? Then practice your goal/dream/passion on most days or discover the albums of a new or old artiste. I recently discover H.E.R she is very interesting. Or whatever you like except putting your energy into sadistic people. Girls who grow up with absent father figures are target for emotional manipulators.
I'm so mentally sick and disoriented in the relationship I'm in, sometimes I feel like I'm losing my mind. This information helped me find new way to protect myself. Thank you very much! And keep up the good work!
My husband has badly manipluted me, gaslighting, ghosted me for 3 years. When I started looking up narcissist traits. I stumbled on codependency. Which some codependency people such as myself attract these kinds of people. I wasn't usually nasty or rude to people. But I had about half of the traits.
Yeah, in the same way an autistic savant can't function by themselves but if you put them in front of a piano they're a virtuoso, so too are these manipulators born to be this way. It's just the way their minds are warped!
With all due respect, keeping your focus on THEM is a great way to ensure that you KEEP being manipulated by them. Rather, I would suggest keeping your focus on your own internal guidance, because this will NEVER fail you. Cheers!
If you don't recognise the signs,should you be suspicious of motives,hidden agenda or ulterior motive,strategy occurs to manipulate,avoid the facts if their twisted,control the conversation,if they don't deliver any promises,bluffing actions and words as slander,sarcasm hurts peoples feelings,is there doubt in your psyche,defensive and plays dumb,selfish intentions,turmoil torment and treachery ✔️❌💥💲
@Christina Anderson that,s good that you,re learning. I have been in several of those types also. They recognize, after they have gotten your trust, that you can be manipulated and hurt. And boy, does it hurt. If someone in your family has done this, you will subconsciously seek out people like them because they make you feel comfortable. But when you think you really like them, they gaslight you and are relentless that you believe that everything that went wrong was ENTIRELY YOUR FAULT!!! it,s very hard to not look for these relationships and be sucked into this inevitable hell again. One time I had two people that used me _ a boyfriend and the older woman that introduced us and then worked together to break us up. Sick. And I mean all three of us.
Facts💯%. School teaches/ program you to get.a job and be control by the system. The Streets teaches about life and question everything u learned in school system and become a free thinker in order to follow and guided by your Divine purpose and fulfill it successfully 💯%
Psychological manipulation is a type of social influence that aims to change the behavior or perception of others through indirect, deceptive, or underhanded tactics. By advancing the interests of the manipulator, often at another's expense, such methods could be considered exploitative and devious
My ex recognized himself that he was manipulative, he was very successful in almost all ways but his home life. Getting what you want in a manipulative way usually comes at a price.
My ex was a master manipulator. I was young and wasn't aware of his tactics until one day the light came and i moved away from him quickly and never tolerated that mess from anyone ever since my early 20's. I'm 44 ...young and thriving in positive vibes now
Mine actually read books about how to manipulate others. He was also proud of his ability to do it. When it ultimately failed with me he became frantic and unhinged. Just glad I prepared well in my getaway!
I find that the most attractive people are the absolute best at manipulation. It's a good idea to rely upon yourself so you don't need anyone else for anything, that way you can sit back and watch their intentions.
I agree. However, us normies have a choice. The beautiful have been taught (often by the normies) that we will often do anything to bask in their presence. They have been taught they only have to show up to receive benefits & privileges. They do not have to make any kind of effort. I think this is a case of biology. Men will do most anything to be with an attractive woman. Women will make themselves available to be with an attractive man. Attraction can not be negotiated.
looks has nothing to do with it. people can not be put into a box like that. you may as well say all jews or blacks or white people. there are just real aweful people and they come in every flavor. but so do the good ones.
Thank you for video my ex constantly criticized me horribly and tried his best to make me feel bad about myself. He would turn things I would say to him in confidence and then use them against me. His other tactic is the silent treatment. He constantly lied to me about wanting to be with me but never took any action to do it. After 5 years I just ghosted him, blocked him completely. Stopped letting him use me. Let him see how it feels. Very hurtful, but my love for myself won out.
Pamela Kelley Good on you and it's extremely freeing when you don't even think about them anymore, or care about who they'e with and so on! It's a huge relief compared to how caught up I used to be with men who said they loved me, yet sure didn't act like it. ❤
They say that about me all the time.... SMH... Too much knowledge can be dangerous..... I'm always accused of being a manipulator on an intellectual level.... I can't help it if I was a debate team fanatic since 12 years old. I think it's a lot of misrepresentation and misinterpretation of what these people are because he wanted to make a long list. PEACE.
@@TheEnigmaticDeenTruth I believe your truth here. That amazes me more than being manipulated by the bully. You show strength and truth which makes you a valuable person. It's the bully's that run over other's lives and think they are God like being, in another word a narcissist. They rarely admit to this. I wish I could see more people like you in my surroundings.
Manipulators....also known as bullies...if they were bullies in school then they become adult bullies. Whoever manipulated you in adult life is sure to of been a bully in school. Makes sense now. Thank you for your videos
I use to believe that yet I do not anymore. They just have you fooled because again manipulators are very good at fooling kind hearted people. Making us think they are unaware of their manipulating behavior. I just actually figured this out from an ex friend. Yet I am grateful to know the truth. 💕
@@catzska yea I agree with you. I once thought they didn’t know but you have to plan to manipulate someone because you are trying to get something from someone, just like premeditated murder is no accident. It was planned. People may hurt you accidentally thinking they were doing right by you if they are ignorant but because it was not done on purpose they will work to not hurt you again but a manipulator knows what they do and keeps hurting you after being told that they hurt you
I think everyone manipulates a little. But to ouright just do it and not even care about hurting people and especially when you call them on it, they freak out or yell. Then they either bring up old things that you can barely remember (bpd family mber did this to me yesterday )and/or they actually project everything that they do onto you. They accuse you of doing the gas lighting etc stuff they do to you, now you are bad and they are "victims".
@@jacobsabrina74 There's nothing good about MANIPULATING someone or being a manipulator, so when a person has manipulated someone... Trust me, they literally don't care & won't care about hurting that person. Good intentions & manipulating can never mix, & a manipulator is never remorseful. If they can get away with it once, they'll continue to do it.
Trauma bond with one is the worst. Felt sooo deeply sorry for them for what happened to them when they were little. They KNOW this. They don't feel bad about it, but they know YOU WILL. This makes you feel pity on them so later u feel GUILTY about leaving them. Which... THEY leave YOU, never the other way..
This Kind of people, very common in life, is your best teacher. It allows you to discover not only your weaknesses, but also, and specially, your strengths, stengths that you don´t know you have until you face these people, whenever you dare to do it.
All my three older brothers used intellectual bullying to belittle me when I was younger. They manifested all of these red flags, I am estranged from them now by choice, I have no need for them in my life and I have moved on without them. Just because they are blood family doesn’t mean you owe them anything.
Im getting there my brother is the same i wish iT isnt sow but its the reality my God its true 🆘☠️😔 i hope you are well and aresurrounded by loving people 🦋❤️🙏🏴☠️☠️🦋🤟
Yes. Blood doesn't mean a thing if it's used only to keep you down, in the tiny boxes they make for you. My family consists of those who see me and see my love, and who love me for me.
I see your point of view. How ever I wasn't always this way. Life has taught me to not be so naive, and let me tell you. That I was much. Resulting in much pain and suffering. I do care for others but I care more about my self. I need to be well. You cant pour from an empty cup.
@Cody SwiftCaster I don't think so. I don't demand or expect anything from anyone. Everyone is free to do whatever they please. I worry about my inner work and act accordingly. 😊
@@vanessita4138 Don't listen to him. Your philosophy is how life should be lived. There's no selfishness in living for your self, as long as you hurt no one else.
Good for you! It took me a long time to learn how to do this (had a very good teacher, unfortunately) but now I don't let it happen. Or I should say, I always recognize when others are trying to manipulate me but it's my choice if I decide to play along - never theirs.
They will also speak very low so you have to strain to hear them, to draw you in. They do it on purpose while acting like you've got a hearing problem, when you don't. Its a form of gaslighting. Once you have experienced them, you'll start seeing more and more people around you who use gaslighting techniques to control everything, including you. If they find out they cannot control you eventually they will give up...if you're lucky.
Yup... I met him head to head, toe to toe especially in the courtroom when he tried to get custody of our twins.. Don’t come between a mama bear and her cubs. He picked the wrong damn gal to play it! It’s been several years since we “disappeared”. The children are happy again.. 🙌🏻🙌🏾
@@GuardianAngel.. Or… they’ll pretend not to hear you say something at all. Another tactic to keep you repeating yourself and keep the momentum (cue arguments) going. They all play by the same handbook.. nothing special about these fucqs.. lol
Oh my god I remember I had a dude whisper shit to himself about me or something else but it is supposed to be for me and id be like what? He’d be like I dint even say anything and sometimes I’d just answer his sentence like yeah I know right I hate that stupid bitch too he’d get so thrown off he’s even sometimes continue the sentence or just stay quiet I recorded this mf just to prove to MYSELF that I wasn’t trippen. I met the worst of the worst right after him bc of him and it got me into so much shit and after them I can’t be manipulated I just see the bs so quick and I always did but now I’m better at just plain not letting them control me one even said it drives him crazy that he can’t control me I’m the only one who he’s never been able to control or something like that
My sister has manipulated me for years. I’m just now seeing her for who she is and has always been. Better late than never. Thanks for this mush needed for me video.
Did anyone warn you ? Friends or a significant other? They say the red flags that you don’t see is in a position where you can’t see them and other people can see them because they are from a different point of view and see it clear as day. (I hope that makes sense)
Whenever you feel like you’re always walking on egg shells around someone, you can bet your bottom you’re being psychologically manipulated. Especially if you catch yourself always having to explain yourself.
I dunno what type of personality I have, but I've never felt that feeling as an adult. Being an adult male, I can't comprehend that notion in myself because I tend to get more physical if someone tries to exert power over me in a situation. Not saying I put my hands on those people, but my body language begins to shift at that point and a bit of aggression starts to come out. Id say the reason for that is because id never do anything of that nature to anyone that didn't deserve it, so the fact someone's trying it on me when I'm minding my business will be the reason im so quick "check" that person if you will. I feel for people who have to deal with these kinda people tho.
Thank you for this video. I recently realized how manipulative my cousin is. Long story short, after years of months going by with periods of ghosting, she only contacts me when it’s convenient for her. If I call her, it’s been up to 4 months for her to return my call. (There’s much more to the story..) I have no doubt she’d gaslight me and play the victim, if I expressed my resentment of her behavior towards me. She made plans with me last week and never showed up or contacted me. I tried to call her, she sent it to voicemail... So, I changed my phone number, and I’m going no contact with her. ... I think No contact is best, when dealing with ppl who have these types of narcissistic traits. I don’t need or want the drama and upset in my life...And yes, she makes fun of me too, and says she’s, “only joking” ... I’m sooo done it’s hurtful and infuriating... But I’ll grieve my losses and move on now... Thanks for the video, and an opportunity to vent a little ❤️😌you hit the 🎯
The loud speaking, I do this, however I am the victim and they used my emotional dysregulation to further manipulate. "Look at you you can't even control yourself." 😪
Yep. Kept happening with my ex until I realized what he was doing. After that, no one can get me to that point. I have full control over myself and am so unbothered
I have learned to go over "their" heads when they have tried to undermine me especially in the work place - those manipulators thought they had the last say, but in the meanwhile I have got what I wanted...I just kept quiet 🤭
You definitely sound like a master manipulative person, word for word... You may want to examine and analyze your behavior before it comes back to haunt you.
My Mother was a Master Manipulator. So it's really hard when you've been raised by one :( She's gone now, passed away in 2019, but I still miss and love her.
I'm sorry❤ btw Jesus loves you. God sent him on the cross to die for YOU so you can be freed from sin and spend all eternity in heaven. He’s coming soon!
Has anyone experienced someone baiting you into sharing your pain or a struggle, then they pity you (eg. that must be so hard for you) Then they abruptly change the topic to something superficial like something they bought recently or a new haircut? It’s very subtle but I’m guessing it must be common. It seems like they are getting off on others pain?
they are also cataloging your pain so that they can use it later. It's consistent that narcissist will bring up your fears or insecurities to control your emotions.
What's worse is when the manipulator tries to manipulate others that you were the manipulative one! It's like a tripple soccer punch to the brain. 1) Here's some abuse 2) Omg you're so abusive 3) I'm going to tell everyone what you did to me.
I've seen that referred to as "bait and bash"-- the narc pokes you and pokes you, and then when you finally react, they play the victim or act like YOU are the one with the "negative energy"...
my dad is a narcissist so i know how to spot one, I have some traits but i rarely use it because brings on this anger inside me and also im escaping this mad house and not letting it carry on through generations
Wow! I can't tell you how many times from my childhood through out my adult life that I had to deal with these people. The older I get the easier it is to spot them also.
Another way is to say that they love you and all they don't want anything but you and your love. I'm with one right now and I'm sick and tired of the arguing and being tortured to the break of insanity. Because I swear that that is what he's trying to do.
They dont take responsibility for there actions, make you feel inadequate. They play dumb and ignore you for control. This character is soooooo jacked...
It's easy to be manipulated, especially when you already need a reason to believe it....advice... control your own perception...because it is better to own your bias.
Ooooh, this is my former friend to a T! =P Glad I got away from that. He did almost all of this stuff to me, but when he did the silent treatment to me I made that backfire on him so bad. I had had it with him and I took his silence as good news and didn't come back to him. He did NOT expect that. LOL! XD His loss.
@@nataliepelz7932 We are lucky that we listened only ourselves. Never comprise to anyone! They want to ruin you so then they can play you like a cat with a mouse 🐁
@@phoenixbird4435 thank you so much! I was able to graduate in Business and now looking for a job. I'll never compromise for no one! I even wrote a book on how mean people ruin your life and how to win them in Wattpad
@@marinabodrick9665 So pleased for you,staying strong and achieving in life without the unwanted negativity in your life. True survivor, a excellent role model to show all women we can achieve on our own x
Thank you so much for this succinct video educating & preventing people from enduring this psychologically horrific experience, hurting good peeps and messing up lives. Heres to strengthening good people and educating our kids re same!! Xx
This channel has taught me so much about life and how personalities affect us and other’s. We should all learn from this channel and do the right thing. Promote ❤️ not War . Well done once again guys .👍
Nicely laid out list of tactics. The manipulator being described here is clinically referred to as a Narcissist. They often live in a fantasy world of their own amazingness and they use people as supply to bolster their own sense of entitlement and grandiosity. There are studies available on these people and their tactics. It's surprisingly easy to get caught up with these kinds of manipulators, especially if you are trusting or have grown up in a disfunctional household or been traumatized in the past. A narcissist can spot a vulnerable person to prey upon in a millisecond.
Awesome. Thank you for this video. This is very true and often missed,but invitations to parties or acting friendly can be and many times are a way to manipulate you. These people act as friends,and they are just fake friends. All the points of fake friends would fit a manipulator too.
I think it would be also very important to mention that all people are guilty of some of these traits, depending on circumstances, state, health, situation, genetic/parental influence, environment etc. So it's all not really just black & white. Because of this, judging someone and labelling them automatically as a manipulator/psychically ill because they did these things at some points to some people can be very unjust. Self-justification, ignorance, biases, fallacies are common in all of us, nobody is resistant to them. If something sounds logic in one case at some point, it doesn't necessarily mean that it's entirely true or reasonable always. Negative emotions can make us easily forget about the good ones. I was very wrong in many things, and I still make mistakes. So the priority should be I think rather not to avoid, but first at the very least try to make another person be aware of how their actions make us feel, without playing the victim, blaming, criticising and comparing to others (this can be really difficult and I know this from experience, still learning how to do it properly BTW). Many people are not always immediately aware how their actions can affect others. If they don't accept our point of view/feelings, don't understand it and make it clear that they don't see any reason to change their behaviour (because f.e. "I am right, and you are wrong/sick etc."), then and only then - when most hope is lost - I would consider avoiding.
Very true I was just thinking the same thing just before I got to this comment but some have a natural ability to drag you into their pit of misery master manipulating often brought on by the green eyed monster
Really interesting to see the subtle methods of communication people use for manipulation and it's usually not easily noticeable for most of us. Thanks for sharing
Recovering manipulator here: I remember having done a lot of these and being called out for them by my EX. The truly crazy thing was most of what I did and said wasn't in a mindset of "I have to fool this person and control them" it was "I'm scared and need to build some slack into my environment to be safe" of course there was little to no thought as to others emotional safety but I didn't enjoy doing it just to do it. I did it because I felt I "had to" let me put it another way. The first person any truly good manipulator, conman, emotionally controlling partner has to fool is themselves. That doesn't mean I was/am blameless. I had agency and choices the whole time. It does mean though that in a very real sense some manipulators aren't living in the same would as other people. Again, I want to make it clear. we are all responsible for our actions. Setting back and being like "well I have a mental disorder" or whatever and doing fuck all about it is what garbage people do. That said in my experience the truly "gifted" manipulators are so deep in their own bs they can't see a world outside of it.
I used to call it wolf packing in my former relationship. It was when my ex and his children would gang up and make fun of me or my children for a single mishap. I never realized I was being gaslight until now…. 10 years later
Excellent video, on target! Very informative. Unfortunately, I know all of the tactics spoken of in your video and the correct way to react or not react is more like it!! I struggle greatly with the latter!!! Thank you for so many educational videos. I learn so much from you. I love the mans voice who narrates, something very calming and kind about it❤️ makes a person want to listen to his wisdom.
My mother and ex-husband are both master manipulators. I didn't even realize it until recently because my mother conditioned me for ex-husband. Needless to say I have had a lot guilt and other issues to work through.
Via the media... and it’s global, right now and called the scamdemic and the great economic reset (Klaus Schwab) Look it up.. Agenda 21... and the pre planned practiced Event 201 (done in nov of 2019) And that was headed by The Gates foundation... A major investor in pharmaceutical companies, a drug pusher of vaccines... look it up...
@Earth Citizen then why are there no real change in the number of deaths in 2020 2019 2018 2017. its real but not what they are making it out to be its a flu just like every other year. this was not about health. never ask the car salesmen to inspect the car for you to buy.
I could say tarot reading manipulate my thoughts, feelings, actions that I didn't trust myself anymore, I was so lost I thought it's the fault of that person bcs that's what readings tell me. Tarot readings could be so manipulators that you begin to become insecure and anxious. I stop waching tarot readings and I feel way much better 🙏❤
Why would you hand your power over to anyone, including tarot ? No one is in charge of your life except for you! Tarot is meant to be a guide, not an end all be all. It’s assistance to tap into your subconscious...helping you with inner guidance, not to dictate the future of the outcome. We as humans, have free will.
Tarot directly reflects your inner state of mind. The most experienced tarot readers always advise to read them with a clear mind after some meditation. No matter what cards you get, you still need to interpret the result using your own belief system. If your belief system is incompatible with this specific practice, you can either change it or find some other way of asking for guidance.
I think there are social manipulators, there's probably self help or how to succeed in business books out there on how to be one of these people. Some people communicate with others in order to benefit the group, others just talk to hear themselves talk and to be the centre of attention.
the worst is the person who grows up in this toxic environment, he or she thinks it is normal to manipulate people. Go through their whole life without knowing it. Kinda broken.
Thank you for all your hard work on these videos. I find them predominantly helpful and useful towards self-care and mitigating future harm. Simultaneously I struggle with the size of certain lists, because of personal focus issues and also how many of these actions can also not be forms of manipulation at times... but I reckon having to figure this all out in specific and varying details is the ultimate goal to be most aware and most able,
I remember there was a time where I cut all the contact with people. I didn't want them to worry about me, but they did it anyways. Now that I know that isn't correct and generates desperation, I won't do it again.
At 60 years old I have met many and have been very close to many. At this age, every trick has been tried on me. Now that I am aware, I am forced to set boundaries and keep most people at arms length.
I’ve never had a good or loving relationship with my older sister bc she has most of these traits. I really wish she would appreciate what I do for her, but the words “thank you” and “I’m sorry” simply don’t exist in her vocabulary. I’m 27, she’s 41. Maybe I’m being harsh but.. I think I’ve reached my limit. I’m done trying to get a crumb of appreciation or affection from her. I’m just done.
Let the pain go and mourn their loss. Try to respond not react. Let go of your expectations of her and when you say you're done mean it. But don't be dramatic about it
behavourally an excellant video. My take on the word manipulator actually is that the video is actually talking about narrcissists,sociopaths,physcopaths, and sometimes borderline personalities. Basically cluster B personalities that encompass all or most of these disorders with narcissism being the through line.
Bring you to THEIR territory. (You moved to their house). They listen and dig (how you think) Overwhelm with information (intellectual bully) Twist the facts Block with red tape. Speaking louder (squeaky wheel) They give you bad news. (Distraction) Ultimatums.
So helpful.. thx. This confirms my thoughts about you S.Moses. I knew one she (older) pretended to be a colleague & friend after I had been to her. After she got a huge loan from me she put debt into bankruptcy months later. Never denied debt to my attorney. Admitted & bragged about knowing how to get what she wants from ANYBODY cause she majored in psychology at Shaw! Reap what you sew...
@That girl is golden everyone needs to hear your comment! Have you watched Sam Vaknin? He did a 58 minute video..he is a genius (iq currently 180) & a narcissist. He tells you all about how they think. It was the most enlightening video about narc. I've EVER watched. On his channel it's titled "How Narcissist Experiences/reacts to no contact"
@@jacobsabrina74 You might've heard of the other self-confessed narcissist called HG Tudor, who is assisting many thousands of people too! He had a break for a while and is posting videos again now. ❤
What if your manipator is so powerful the he or she gets in contact with everyone that has ever been in your life. Turning every person that you have ever known against you. Even that you have known them over twenty years or more.driving you out of society causing every person to despise you. That nothing will bring them back to the person they once were. By the dozens against you and you have done nothing to no one. Every time you make new friend,they turn them against you. Hated and disposed by every one and have done none of the the things that was said about you. That they had turned into zombies going after you.
You are so right I am so glad I saw your text. This is what my husband has done to me. We been married 34 yrs. Besides loosing my home he didnt pay Taxes now we are renting. Dec2 I just found out that he hasnt paid Rent for 4 mths . I am divorcing Him. But just like you said he has turned Everyone against me...horrible Stories that's the reason I stated Isolating. My family even come to me I hope they believe me. I am ready To start a new life without him No more silent treatments No more rejections after 3 mths Off marriage . He talked me to Into quitting my job. Big mistake Felt trapped with 2 children But they are both grown up Doing well. Thank God
Liz......silent treatment. Candice.......convenience......with friends like this, who needs enemies.....neighbors=narcissistic stalkers......I'm so done with manipulative people
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What's tragic is when people also side with the manipulator.
I’ve done it myself. I’ve actually defended them. Not my proudest moment but in my past for a reason
What they do best
They’re very convincing, it’s a big part of being a good manipulater
I agree sideing with the abusers
Yea my cousins sided with the manipulator horrible
“It's easier to fool people than to convince them that they have been fooled.” ― Mark Twain
mark twain was a wise person.fooling people is very easy there for almost all so called elites are dulls.
Sad isn't it?!
@@jjmoore132 Pathetic.
Wow
That statement applies to so much of what is going on in America 🇺🇸 Truly sad & a shame.
Just walk away...nothing will change if you stay. Don’t beg, don’t bargain just leave.
I like that one Michael it is usually the way I handle it and I have to believe it irritates them to no end
It s True
Best comment in this thread so far...
exactly.
_ best manipulation is to stay, so leave and never look back, or the ijjit will think you already miss 'it' ... ... ...
The easiest way to manipulate someone...tell them what they want to hear.
Yes true jus tell them.... don't verb it.......fill them with words.....😀
Go in one ear and out the other that's why i keep my ears cleaned out.
@@barbaraannhenderson9049 ear buds
Ex-gods not reall
Shoot them
I hate gaslighting sooo much
Then develop more confidence in yourself
Your name is pretty :)
@@apollofateh324 Thank you😊
@@apollofateh324 ...and YOUR name is powerful
@@juanagallo7497 thanks fam dawg LMAO 😂✨
Yep, divorced a Master Manipator. Cost half my life. Freedom is well worth it.
Good job, dude👍
Crazy how you get sucked into it, and then when you get out you’re like, “WTF was I thinking?!?!”
Was it a man or woman
Me too....12 years of it. Now I’m FREE ! Glad you are too, finally🙌🏾
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We empaths suffer most, especially when dealing with such situations
As an empath our kind hearts in seeing genuine good in all gets seen as gullible and vulnerable to use and take advantage of us which sucks especially as were big main target to the narcissist especially the covert one who just wants to make one's life hell being so mean then nice as two faces do and yet play nice guy to everyone else so no one would ever believe you that they could be so cruel smh... They just like to make a soul miserable because thats how they truly are. And worst they sabotage you to make you do bad things just like how a rapist roofees their pray for sex they'll do whatever to use you then make you look like the bad guy and i should know my ex use to roofee me he'd mix it in my drink even put weed in my food with some weed butter i was so paranoid and was so embarrassing as i didnt know especially as i had to drive smh....their straight criminals trying to look innocent by getting away with their insidious cruel ways.
@@inspireresilience6413 I'm sorry you experienced this.
Empaths can't see themselves as victims. We have to learn how to separate ourselves from toxicity, and knowing that it is okay to remove ourselves from a negative situation.
Empathetic people are the best manipulators though.
@@kathrynb130 how
Manipulators start young and I know an 8 year old who already
plays the victim. Also shifting blame away from themselves. They start young...
Yes
Yep, how they get lots of practice
They learn It from thriller parents
Cymbolic Human Unfortunately, it's usually caused by abusive parents and their children learn unhealthy ways of coping in order to survive! It's no wonder many children become narcissistic adults, or go too far the other way, which isn't healthy either. 😥
Learned behavior
First manipulation is when you love someone who doesnt love you back and always and waste you and your time
Cut off anyone who ever causes you stress, block this person for good. Get in touch with your wounded self let the pain from missing this dude come feel it and cry be sad let the feeling be.... that is the only way to get over someone. Than get hobbies or ask yourself, what is your passion, what is your dream? Then practice your goal/dream/passion on most days or discover the albums of a new or old artiste. I recently discover H.E.R she is very interesting. Or whatever you like except putting your energy into sadistic people. Girls who grow up with absent father figures are target for emotional manipulators.
@@nietzschesmuse true' Bt one learn by his /her own expérience until you get hurt you are unable to know how live life of self love first
@Karina yeah
That's love bombing or honeymoon phase from a narc .
Janegachie Gachie It seemed normal to me because my parents were like that, due to their own horrendous childhoods. 😥
I'm so mentally sick and disoriented in the relationship I'm in, sometimes I feel like I'm losing my mind. This information helped me find new way to protect myself. Thank you very much! And keep up the good work!
It sounds like you're a victim of gaslighting.
You definitely are focused, sound and moving forward. Thank you
My husband has badly manipluted me, gaslighting, ghosted me for 3 years. When I started looking up narcissist traits. I stumbled on codependency. Which some codependency people such as myself attract these kinds of people. I wasn't usually nasty or rude to people. But I had about half of the traits.
Me too!!
Get out. It only gets worse.
They aren't masterminds they just think in a manipulative way.
Yeah, in the same way an autistic savant can't function by themselves but if you put them in front of a piano they're a virtuoso, so too are these manipulators born to be this way.
It's just the way their minds are warped!
With all due respect, keeping your focus on THEM is a great way to ensure that you KEEP being manipulated by them. Rather, I would suggest keeping your focus on your own internal guidance, because this will NEVER fail you. Cheers!
That works, I have a certain respect and quality of life and they don't like that but if you don't give in they'll leave you alone.
Ok😔
Fact.
If you don't recognise the signs,should you be suspicious of motives,hidden agenda or ulterior motive,strategy occurs to manipulate,avoid the facts if their twisted,control the conversation,if they don't deliver any promises,bluffing actions and words as slander,sarcasm hurts peoples feelings,is there doubt in your psyche,defensive and plays dumb,selfish intentions,turmoil torment and treachery ✔️❌💥💲
@Christina Anderson that,s good that you,re learning. I have been in several of those types also. They recognize, after they have gotten your trust, that you can be manipulated and hurt. And boy, does it hurt. If someone in your family has done this, you will subconsciously seek out people like them because they make you feel comfortable. But when you think you really like them, they gaslight you and are relentless that you believe that everything that went wrong was ENTIRELY YOUR FAULT!!! it,s very hard to not look for these relationships and be sucked into this inevitable hell again. One time I had two people that used me _ a boyfriend and the older woman that introduced us and then worked together to break us up. Sick. And I mean all three of us.
The streets will teach more than what a classroom ever will when it comes to real life.
I started their by the glory of God Im finally at school again
Facts💯%. School teaches/ program you to get.a job and be control by the system. The Streets teaches about life and question everything u learned in school system and become a free thinker in order to follow and guided by your Divine purpose and fulfill it successfully 💯%
@@wandabrown538 very true.
Those can be hard lessons though.
You got that right!!!
Psychological manipulation is a type of social influence that aims to change the behavior or perception of others through indirect, deceptive, or underhanded tactics. By advancing the interests of the manipulator, often at another's expense, such methods could be considered exploitative and devious
yep
Are you just writing straight from the dictionary?
@@mybigyear I search for tye best definition and then post it for all .. hoping some will understand
Psychological manipulation....translation: politics 101.
Thanks!
My ex recognized himself that he was manipulative, he was very successful in almost all ways but his home life. Getting what you want in a manipulative way usually comes at a price.
My ex would tell me that he’s a manipulator too 🤣 he said it’s his best quality 🤷🏼♀️ he twisted my brain so much...
Nice profile:)
My ex was a master manipulator. I was young and wasn't aware of his tactics until one day the light came and i moved away from him quickly and never tolerated that mess from anyone ever since my early 20's. I'm 44 ...young and thriving in positive vibes now
Seriously yes
Mine actually read books about how to manipulate others. He was also proud of his ability to do it. When it ultimately failed with me he became frantic and unhinged. Just glad I prepared well in my getaway!
Dealing with manipulative people all around me! Unable to trust anyone in the process. 🙏❤
Well said Soooooo true 👍
I find that the most attractive people are the absolute best at manipulation. It's a good idea to rely upon yourself so you don't need anyone else for anything, that way you can sit back and watch their intentions.
I agree. However, us normies have a choice. The beautiful have been taught (often by the normies) that we will often do anything to bask in their presence. They have been taught they only have to show up to receive benefits & privileges. They do not have to make any kind of effort. I think this is a case of biology. Men will do most anything to be with an attractive woman. Women will make themselves available to be with an attractive man. Attraction can not be negotiated.
@Earth Citizen same lol
looks has nothing to do with it. people can not be put into a box like that. you may as well say all jews or blacks or white people. there are just real aweful people and they come in every flavor. but so do the good ones.
Definitely not a wise statement.
Practicing that right now, so far so good.
Thank you for video my ex constantly criticized me horribly and tried his best to make me feel bad about myself. He would turn things I would say to him in confidence and then use them against me. His other tactic is the silent treatment. He constantly lied to me about wanting to be with me but never took any action to do it. After 5 years I just ghosted him, blocked him completely. Stopped letting him use me. Let him see how it feels. Very hurtful, but my love for myself won out.
Um can you please provide an update? This was awesome serving of humble pie
Pamela Kelley Good on you and it's extremely freeing when you don't even think about them anymore, or care about who they'e with and so on! It's a huge relief compared to how caught up I used to be with men who said they loved me, yet sure didn't act like it. ❤
Pamela Kelley, you deserve better 🙏🙏🙏
Good...run from this
I am so happy for you!
Intellectual bullying I've come into that, with highly intelligent people like to make me feel stupid!!! It really ticks me off.
@George Bush I commend you for being brave enough to admit it.
Do you have a real name, Sir. Your name gave me a smile
They say that about me all the time.... SMH... Too much knowledge can be dangerous..... I'm always accused of being a manipulator on an intellectual level.... I can't help it if I was a debate team fanatic since 12 years old. I think it's a lot of misrepresentation and misinterpretation of what these people are because he wanted to make a long list. PEACE.
@@TheEnigmaticDeenTruth I believe your truth here. That amazes me more than being manipulated by the bully. You show strength and truth which makes you a valuable person. It's the bully's that run over other's lives and think they are God like being, in another word a narcissist. They rarely admit to this.
I wish I could see more people like you in my surroundings.
@@Latoree33 PEACE. I appreciate the kind words.
The simpler the language, the greater and wider the impact.
A bit like giving gifts ; it's the thought ( your own , that is) that counts.
Manipulators....also known as bullies...if they were bullies in school then they become adult bullies. Whoever manipulated you in adult life is sure to of been a bully in school. Makes sense now. Thank you for your videos
Many times people also manipulate without even knowing it, just out of habit... that makes it even more difficult to detect
I use to believe that yet I do not anymore. They just have you fooled because again manipulators are very good at fooling kind hearted people. Making us think they are unaware of their manipulating behavior. I just actually figured this out from an ex friend. Yet I am grateful to know the truth. 💕
@@catzska yea I agree with you. I once thought they didn’t know but you have to plan to manipulate someone because you are trying to get something from someone, just like premeditated murder is no accident. It was planned. People may hurt you accidentally thinking they were doing right by you if they are ignorant but because it was not done on purpose they will work to not hurt you again but a manipulator knows what they do and keeps hurting you after being told that they hurt you
@@catzska & @Servant Status Ministries I agree!
I think everyone manipulates a little. But to ouright just do it and not even care about hurting people and especially when you call them on it, they freak out or yell. Then they either bring up old things that you can barely remember (bpd family mber did this to me yesterday )and/or they actually project everything that they do onto you. They accuse you of doing the gas lighting etc stuff they do to you, now you are bad and they are "victims".
@@jacobsabrina74 There's nothing good about MANIPULATING someone or being a manipulator, so when a person has manipulated someone... Trust me, they literally don't care & won't care about hurting that person. Good intentions & manipulating can never mix, & a manipulator is never remorseful. If they can get away with it once, they'll continue to do it.
Placing boundaries with these people feels like a power struggle. Don't feel guilty and stay strong.
Trauma bond with one is the worst. Felt sooo deeply sorry for them for what happened to them when they were little. They KNOW this. They don't feel bad about it, but they know YOU WILL. This makes you feel pity on them so later u feel GUILTY about leaving them. Which... THEY leave YOU, never the other way..
Oh goodness you have a good point
This Kind of people, very common in life, is your best teacher. It allows you to discover not only your weaknesses, but also, and specially, your strengths, stengths that you don´t know you have until you face these people, whenever you dare to do it.
All my three older brothers used intellectual bullying to belittle me when I was younger. They manifested all of these red flags, I am estranged from them now by choice, I have no need for them in my life and I have moved on without them. Just because they are blood family doesn’t mean you owe them anything.
Im getting there my brother is the same i wish iT isnt sow but its the reality my God its true 🆘☠️😔 i hope you are well and aresurrounded by loving people 🦋❤️🙏🏴☠️☠️🦋🤟
Me too. Life is great without them.
Yes. Blood doesn't mean a thing if it's used only to keep you down, in the tiny boxes they make for you. My family consists of those who see me and see my love, and who love me for me.
I catch on really quick. I cant be manipulated. I honor myself and do as I please. No amount of guilt trips or other tricks will make me a puppet.
Wow that's pretty hubristic of you
I see your point of view. How ever I wasn't always this way. Life has taught me to not be so naive, and let me tell you. That I was much. Resulting in much pain and suffering. I do care for others but I care more about my self. I need to be well. You cant pour from an empty cup.
@Cody SwiftCaster I don't think so. I don't demand or expect anything from anyone. Everyone is free to do whatever they please. I worry about my inner work and act accordingly. 😊
@@vanessita4138 Don't listen to him. Your philosophy is how life should be lived. There's no selfishness in living for your self, as long as you hurt no one else.
Good for you! It took me a long time to learn how to do this (had a very good teacher, unfortunately) but now I don't let it happen. Or I should say, I always recognize when others are trying to manipulate me but it's my choice if I decide to play along - never theirs.
you haven't truly lived until you manipulate a manipulator 😤
yes!
True , but is possible 😉
Absolutely
Lol, sounds great.
Ooh how? Please do tell!! This work with Narcs too?? Please share
You just described a narcissist. Let's use a good label for an evil person & be specific. Thanks.
Melissa Adams,You are beautiful 🌹🌹🌺,hope you are not with a narc 😈!!
Calling narcissists “evil” really simplifies a complex disorder.
you can be manipulative without being a narcissist. everyone has been or is manipulative in some way
They will also speak very low so you have to strain to hear them, to draw you in. They do it on purpose while acting like you've got a hearing problem, when you don't. Its a form of gaslighting. Once you have experienced them, you'll start seeing more and more people around you who use gaslighting techniques to control everything, including you. If they find out they cannot control you eventually they will give up...if you're lucky.
Yup... I met him head to head, toe to toe especially in the courtroom when he tried to get custody of our twins..
Don’t come between a mama bear and her cubs. He picked the wrong damn gal to play it! It’s been several years since we “disappeared”. The children are happy again.. 🙌🏻🙌🏾
Son Of A!! so that’s what he did to me, thanks for bringing this tactic to my attention Young Lady.
@@GuardianAngel..
Or… they’ll pretend not to hear you say something at all. Another tactic to keep you repeating yourself and keep the momentum (cue arguments) going.
They all play by the same handbook.. nothing special about these fucqs.. lol
Oh my god I remember I had a dude whisper shit to himself about me or something else but it is supposed to be for me and id be like what? He’d be like I dint even say anything and sometimes I’d just answer his sentence like yeah I know right I hate that stupid bitch too he’d get so thrown off he’s even sometimes continue the sentence or just stay quiet I recorded this mf just to prove to MYSELF that I wasn’t trippen. I met the worst of the worst right after him bc of him and it got me into so much shit and after them I can’t be manipulated I just see the bs so quick and I always did but now I’m better at just plain not letting them control me one even said it drives him crazy that he can’t control me I’m the only one who he’s never been able to control or something like that
thanks
Best advice if you're being manipulated...walk away and NEVER LOOK BACK.
great
My sister has manipulated me for years. I’m just now seeing her for who she is and has always been. Better late than never. Thanks for this mush needed for me video.
Me too. 👍
Did anyone warn you ? Friends or a significant other?
They say the red flags that you don’t see is in a position where you can’t see them and other people can see them because they are from a different point of view and see it clear as day.
(I hope that makes sense)
@@CelinaAnderson1227 People aren't going to warn people about family manipulation....unless someone is actively seeking counseling.
My sister does exactly the same to Me...just because I don't have any children....
The worst is when people still don’t realise when they have been manipulated even after it’s over
Yes wake up and walk away or keep the at a far.
yep it s clear hp movie since a long time, targeted since birth
I got out of such Relationship. He was my fiance. I never felt I was engaged. Used to crave for his attention. But I finally I am out of it
Whenever you feel like you’re always walking on egg shells around someone, you can bet your bottom you’re being psychologically manipulated. Especially if you catch yourself always having to explain yourself.
Amen!
I dunno what type of personality I have, but I've never felt that feeling as an adult. Being an adult male, I can't comprehend that notion in myself because I tend to get more physical if someone tries to exert power over me in a situation. Not saying I put my hands on those people, but my body language begins to shift at that point and a bit of aggression starts to come out.
Id say the reason for that is because id never do anything of that nature to anyone that didn't deserve it, so the fact someone's trying it on me when I'm minding my business will be the reason im so quick "check" that person if you will.
I feel for people who have to deal with these kinda people tho.
My mom :/
I remember I called my ex out for always acting like a victim lol he said “I’m blocking you”🤣. So glad I left that loser.
My ex did the same B's I said your lose nigga lol 😂💯
He left you.....
@@chadstar1246 Don’t point it out😭
Nice.
Thank you for this video. I recently realized how manipulative my cousin is. Long story short, after years of months going by with periods of ghosting, she only contacts me when it’s convenient for her. If I call her, it’s been up to 4 months for her to return my call. (There’s much more to the story..) I have no doubt she’d gaslight me and play the victim, if I expressed my resentment of her behavior towards me. She made plans with me last week and never showed up or contacted me. I tried to call her, she sent it to voicemail... So, I changed my phone number, and I’m going no contact with her. ... I think No contact is best, when dealing with ppl who have these types of narcissistic traits. I don’t need or want the drama and upset in my life...And yes, she makes fun of me too, and says she’s, “only joking” ... I’m sooo done it’s hurtful and infuriating... But I’ll grieve my losses and move on now... Thanks for the video, and an opportunity to vent a little ❤️😌you hit the 🎯
Being SUPER ULTRA nice is also a form of manipulation! If it's too good to be true, it definitely is!
Gosh you must not meet good and positive real people
This is not true, their are beautiful human beings in this world
Yep yep yep 👍 👌 well said that is the truth all they are doing is sweet talk so that you think he is a nice person
Some ppl.are extra nice as a result of trauma..it's not always a manipulative tactic..but more a fear of upsetting others x
not true; you can be nice and normal
Thank you. My word of the year is boundaries.
Yep yep yep 👍 👌 well said that is the truth truthhhhhhh truthhhhhhh
The loud speaking, I do this, however I am the victim and they used my emotional dysregulation to further manipulate. "Look at you you can't even control yourself." 😪
I got used with tactic for a long time too. Bless them though because it just forced me to control my anger.
I get louder when I’m frustrated because the manipulator (narc) won’t listen & keeps interrupting me.
@@morningsong8077 I understand. They call it reactive abuse.
Yep. Kept happening with my ex until I realized what he was doing. After that, no one can get me to that point. I have full control over myself and am so unbothered
Exactly
I have learned to go over "their" heads when they have tried to undermine me especially in the work place - those manipulators thought they had the last say, but in the meanwhile I have got what I wanted...I just kept quiet 🤭
No not quiet. You may have to answer for your role.
Very important to be quiet until it is safe
I do this too. I just go about my business, not showing all my cards, until or unless I literally have to stand up directly against them.
I’ve done the same thing at work. He doesn’t try it with me anymore. 👍🏾😎
You definitely sound like a master manipulative person, word for word... You may want to examine and analyze your behavior before it comes back to haunt you.
My Mother was a Master Manipulator. So it's really hard when you've been raised by one :( She's gone now, passed away in 2019, but I still miss and love her.
I'm sorry❤ btw Jesus loves you. God sent him on the cross to die for YOU so you can be freed from sin and spend all eternity in heaven. He’s coming soon!
My mom is and people around me. Shit sucks. rip to her tho
Has anyone experienced someone baiting you into sharing your pain or a struggle, then they pity you (eg. that must be so hard for you)
Then they abruptly change the topic to something superficial like something they bought recently or a new haircut?
It’s very subtle but I’m guessing it must be common. It seems like they are getting off on others pain?
they are also cataloging your pain so that they can use it later. It's consistent that narcissist will bring up your fears or insecurities to control your emotions.
What's worse is when the manipulator tries to manipulate others that you were the manipulative one! It's like a tripple soccer punch to the brain. 1) Here's some abuse 2) Omg you're so abusive 3) I'm going to tell everyone what you did to me.
Eesh, been there
Please don’t say omg as a cuss word that’s offensive to God.
I've seen that referred to as "bait and bash"-- the narc pokes you and pokes you, and then when you finally react, they play the victim or act like YOU are the one with the "negative energy"...
my dad is a narcissist so i know how to spot one, I have some traits but i rarely use it because brings on this anger inside me and also im escaping this mad house and not letting it carry on through generations
They try to make you look bad too!
This is so sad... my ex would do almost all of these to me..
Same . 10 years later I’ve been wired to his control
At least they're exes now.
Wow! I can't tell you how many times from my childhood through out my adult life that I had to deal with these people. The older I get the easier it is to spot them also.
Another way is to say that they love you and all they don't want anything but you and your love. I'm with one right now and I'm sick and tired of the arguing and being tortured to the break of insanity. Because I swear that that is what he's trying to do.
They dont take responsibility for there actions, make you feel inadequate. They play dumb and ignore you for control. This character is soooooo jacked...
True
It's easy to be manipulated, especially when you already need a reason to believe it....advice... control your own perception...because it is better to own your bias.
Good for you for uploading a checklist! Some I'm guilty of (interrupting!!), some I endured from my judgy family. Thank you! It's a daily effort.
Ooooh, this is my former friend to a T! =P Glad I got away from that. He did almost all of this stuff to me, but when he did the silent treatment to me I made that backfire on him so bad. I had had it with him and I took his silence as good news and didn't come back to him. He did NOT expect that. LOL! XD His loss.
My ex boyfriend was like that. He even went as far to ask me to drop from College! That was the last straw! Luckily i dumped him and his evil soul
Well done you. Trust me you had a lucky escape ! I hope you are safe and well and happy x
Same here! He wanted me to quit my job, my friends, my family 😣
@@nataliepelz7932 We are lucky that we listened only ourselves. Never comprise to anyone! They want to ruin you so then they can play you like a cat with a mouse 🐁
@@phoenixbird4435 thank you so much! I was able to graduate in Business and now looking for a job. I'll never compromise for no one! I even wrote a book on how mean people ruin your life and how to win them in Wattpad
@@marinabodrick9665 So pleased for you,staying strong and achieving in life without the unwanted negativity in your life. True survivor, a excellent role model to show all women we can achieve on our own x
I live with them but stopped talking to my older sister aged 23 I’m 18 and I can’t wait to finally experience freedom
I learned a couple of new things about manipulators that I suspected but wasn't sure of, so thank you. Very informative.
My only hope is that everyone who needs to see this does before it's too late for them.
Natasha Goldstein, you are too precious 🌹🌹🌷 to be with a narc 😈!
@@oscarwilliamson1264 thank you sweetheart
@@natashagoldstein878 which country are you from?
@@oscarwilliamson1264 America
@@natashagoldstein878 wow!😍😍😍😍😍,are you on Hangouts or Gmail so we can always talk 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻?
Thank you so much for this succinct video educating & preventing people from enduring this psychologically horrific experience, hurting good peeps and messing up lives. Heres to strengthening good people and educating our kids re same!! Xx
Thank you for that support. 🙏
This channel has taught me so much about life and how personalities affect us and other’s. We should all learn from this channel and do the right thing. Promote ❤️ not War . Well done once again guys .👍
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Nicely laid out list of tactics. The manipulator being described here is clinically referred to as a Narcissist. They often live in a fantasy world of their own amazingness and they use people as supply to bolster their own sense of entitlement and grandiosity. There are studies available on these people and their tactics. It's surprisingly easy to get caught up with these kinds of manipulators, especially if you are trusting or have grown up in a disfunctional household or been traumatized in the past. A narcissist can spot a vulnerable person to prey upon in a millisecond.
Awesome. Thank you for this video. This is very true and often missed,but invitations to parties or acting friendly can be and many times are a way to manipulate you. These people act as friends,and they are just fake friends. All the points of fake friends would fit a manipulator too.
Yep, people like this are impossible to love
I think it would be also very important to mention that all people are guilty of some of these traits, depending on circumstances, state, health, situation, genetic/parental influence, environment etc. So it's all not really just black & white. Because of this, judging someone and labelling them automatically as a manipulator/psychically ill because they did these things at some points to some people can be very unjust. Self-justification, ignorance, biases, fallacies are common in all of us, nobody is resistant to them. If something sounds logic in one case at some point, it doesn't necessarily mean that it's entirely true or reasonable always. Negative emotions can make us easily forget about the good ones. I was very wrong in many things, and I still make mistakes. So the priority should be I think rather not to avoid, but first at the very least try to make another person be aware of how their actions make us feel, without playing the victim, blaming, criticising and comparing to others (this can be really difficult and I know this from experience, still learning how to do it properly BTW). Many people are not always immediately aware how their actions can affect others. If they don't accept our point of view/feelings, don't understand it and make it clear that they don't see any reason to change their behaviour (because f.e. "I am right, and you are wrong/sick etc."), then and only then - when most hope is lost - I would consider avoiding.
true,right, reasonable, i agree.there is no nirvana,people are doomed.
Very true I was just thinking the same thing just before I got to this comment but some have a natural ability to drag you into their pit of misery master manipulating often brought on by the green eyed monster
It's not too hard to identify a manipulator who hasn't tried to change or changed.
sounds like reflection and accountability is important. this gave me a larger lens to focus on how I received others genuinely. Thanks
Exactly, half the ppl in this comments are the same , nobody wants to look at themselves!
Really interesting to see the subtle methods of communication people use for manipulation and it's usually not easily noticeable for most of us. Thanks for sharing
Canadian social workers( child protection workers ) , lawyers and judges should watch this video.
Love from Toronto( 🇨🇦)
Thanks !
Tobiah and Peter got school the last time for the cool kids table for sale RCMP and the rooster crowing
Recovering manipulator here:
I remember having done a lot of these and being called out for them by my EX. The truly crazy thing was most of what I did and said wasn't in a mindset of "I have to fool this person and control them" it was "I'm scared and need to build some slack into my environment to be safe" of course there was little to no thought as to others emotional safety but I didn't enjoy doing it just to do it. I did it because I felt I "had to"
let me put it another way. The first person any truly good manipulator, conman, emotionally controlling partner has to fool is themselves. That doesn't mean I was/am blameless. I had agency and choices the whole time. It does mean though that in a very real sense some manipulators aren't living in the same would as other people.
Again, I want to make it clear. we are all responsible for our actions. Setting back and being like "well I have a mental disorder" or whatever and doing fuck all about it is what garbage people do. That said in my experience the truly "gifted" manipulators are so deep in their own bs they can't see a world outside of it.
Thank you for delivering a testimony about how u did not know and how when u realized started to fix it. And that it came from a place of fear.
I used to call it wolf packing in my former relationship. It was when my ex and his children would gang up and make fun of me or my children for a single mishap. I never realized I was being gaslight until now…. 10 years later
I'm so sorry you went through that. It sounds like it is in the past, though, so GOOD. xo
Covert narcissist favourite tool is Manipulation! Very informative video. Thank you.
Excellent video, on target! Very informative. Unfortunately, I know all of the tactics spoken of in your video and the correct way to react or not react is more like it!! I struggle greatly with the latter!!! Thank you for so many educational videos. I learn so much from you. I love the mans voice who narrates, something very calming and kind about it❤️ makes a person want to listen to his wisdom.
My mother and ex-husband are both master manipulators. I didn't even realize it until recently because my mother conditioned me for ex-husband. Needless to say I have had a lot guilt and other issues to work through.
Yes, in a relationship from 4 years, outof which 3 years married. Finally deciding to cut the cord.
There are Psychological Manipulators of entire countries...
Via the media... and it’s global, right now and called the scamdemic and the great economic reset (Klaus Schwab) Look it up.. Agenda 21... and the pre planned practiced Event 201 (done in nov of 2019) And that was headed by The Gates foundation... A major investor in pharmaceutical companies, a drug pusher of vaccines... look it up...
Our Governments are doing this now with a fake virus. All to enslave us and Poison us!
Latte Brown That's right and it's absolutely amazing how one person can have so much power, but they are experts at what they do. 😩
@Earth Citizen No it's a Scam to bring in the Great Reset!
@Earth Citizen then why are there no real change in the number of deaths in 2020 2019 2018 2017. its real but not what they are making it out to be its a flu just like every other year. this was not about health. never ask the car salesmen to inspect the car for you to buy.
I work with these people! They surround me! It's exhausting and so very stressful! 😭
You should ask yourself why they are choosing you. Try saying no. Always be polite, honest, and direct. Take control of the situation.
Worked for six years under a master manipulator boss. I know what you are talking about.
Thank God this time is over.
SPOT ON EVERY SINGLE POINT...IVE EXPERIENCED...TY FOR WAKING ME UP...TIME FOR CHANGE
I could say tarot reading manipulate my thoughts, feelings, actions that I didn't trust myself anymore, I was so lost I thought it's the fault of that person bcs that's what readings tell me. Tarot readings could be so manipulators that you begin to become insecure and anxious. I stop waching tarot readings and I feel way much better 🙏❤
Wow i feel the exact opposite. But thats the beauty of humans. Every experience effects another differently
Why would you hand your power over to anyone, including tarot ? No one is in charge of your life except for you! Tarot is meant to be a guide, not an end all be all. It’s assistance to tap into your subconscious...helping you with inner guidance, not to dictate the future of the outcome. We as humans, have free will.
Tarot reading is witchcraft. Pray to God. Witchcraft is evil.
Tarot directly reflects your inner state of mind. The most experienced tarot readers always advise to read them with a clear mind after some meditation. No matter what cards you get, you still need to interpret the result using your own belief system. If your belief system is incompatible with this specific practice, you can either change it or find some other way of asking for guidance.
@@yeswing10 well said Soooooo Soooooo Soooooo true true true only God almighty is your protector 🙏
I think there are social manipulators, there's probably self help or how to succeed in business books out there on how to be one of these people. Some people communicate with others in order to benefit the group, others just talk to hear themselves talk and to be the centre of attention.
the worst is the person who grows up in this toxic environment, he or she thinks it is normal to manipulate people. Go through their whole life without knowing it. Kinda broken.
I did and that is the reason I wAlked away when I could. I made myself a better person as a person. The reason was my family was never worth it
As Lindsey below states, it is tragic when people side with the manipulator. This is a very informative video.
Thank you for all your hard work on these videos. I find them predominantly helpful and useful towards self-care and mitigating future harm. Simultaneously I struggle with the size of certain lists, because of personal focus issues and also how many of these actions can also not be forms of manipulation at times... but I reckon having to figure this all out in specific and varying details is the ultimate goal to be most aware and most able,
Putting distance between you and the manipulator is amazingly refreshing.
I remember there was a time where I cut all the contact with people. I didn't want them to worry about me, but they did it anyways. Now that I know that isn't correct and generates desperation, I won't do it again.
At 60 years old I have met many and have been very close to many. At this age, every trick has been tried on me. Now that I am aware, I am forced to set boundaries and keep most people at arms length.
So many traits of the narcissist. What a sad, sad existence.
Truly!
reminds me of a “friend” that invited me into her home, even fed me, then proceeded to do some really cold blooded shit to me.
Brilliant work.... every thing has been explained 👍 thanks a million
I’ve never had a good or loving relationship with my older sister bc she has most of these traits. I really wish she would appreciate what I do for her, but the words “thank you” and “I’m sorry” simply don’t exist in her vocabulary. I’m 27, she’s 41. Maybe I’m being harsh but.. I think I’ve reached my limit. I’m done trying to get a crumb of appreciation or affection from her. I’m just done.
Let the pain go and mourn their loss. Try to respond not react. Let go of your expectations of her and when you say you're done mean it. But don't be dramatic about it
My ex manager used to do most of this. I’m so glad I have resigned after 3-4 weeks of working with the company.
yep past employers, my dad s extended family, mom s boyfriend, and girlfriend s of fuckboys lol
THIS WAS ACTUALLY A GREAT VIDEO!!! tHANKS FOR MAKING IT!!!!!
behavourally an excellant video. My take on the word manipulator actually is that the video is actually talking about narrcissists,sociopaths,physcopaths, and sometimes borderline personalities. Basically cluster B personalities that encompass all or most of these disorders with narcissism being the through line.
Bring you to THEIR territory. (You moved to their house).
They listen and dig (how you think)
Overwhelm with information (intellectual bully)
Twist the facts
Block with red tape.
Speaking louder (squeaky wheel)
They give you bad news. (Distraction)
Ultimatums.
So true! I am amazed grown people do this!
So helpful.. thx. This confirms my thoughts about you S.Moses.
I knew one she (older) pretended to be a colleague & friend after I had been to her. After she got a huge loan from me she put debt into bankruptcy months later. Never denied debt to my attorney. Admitted & bragged about knowing how to get what she wants from ANYBODY cause she majored in psychology at Shaw!
Reap what you sew...
My one coworker was just like that. Taught a lesson he will never ever forget.
I could be a master, I was completely destroyed by my own family.
@That girl is golden everyone needs to hear your comment! Have you watched Sam Vaknin? He did a 58 minute video..he is a genius (iq currently 180) & a narcissist. He tells you all about how they think. It was the most enlightening video about narc. I've EVER watched. On his channel it's titled "How Narcissist Experiences/reacts to no contact"
i believe me 2
since my grandma raised me and died september 2011, bmo
@@jacobsabrina74 You might've heard of the other self-confessed narcissist called HG Tudor, who is assisting many thousands of people too! He had a break for a while and is posting videos again now. ❤
Everyone manipulates to further their aims.. you tube gurus often comment about their success having you become a fanboy :)
Your right. Very true and correct. Put up strong boundaries and never surrender or care about them.ℹ️💯✅❤️✝️🙏🏿📖🗡👊🏿👌🏿👍🏿🥷☯️😎
those people are so mean and cruel and evil stay away from them 💔
I'm glad I listened to this. I've manipulated and didn't realize it...
What if your manipator is so powerful the he or she gets in contact with everyone that has ever been in your life.
Turning every person that you have ever known against you.
Even that you have known them over twenty years or more.driving you out of society causing every person to despise you.
That nothing will bring them back to the person they once were.
By the dozens against you and you have done nothing to no one.
Every time you make new friend,they turn them against you.
Hated and disposed by every one and have done none of the the things that was said about you.
That they had turned into zombies going after you.
That just shows you that you didn’t need those people in your life anyway. True friends and family would never believe lies about you.
@@jamiehatfield7392 exactly
Gang stalking
You are so right I am so glad I saw your text. This is what my husband has done to me. We been married 34 yrs.
Besides loosing my home he didnt pay
Taxes now we are renting. Dec2
I just found out that he hasnt paid
Rent for 4 mths . I am divorcing
Him. But just like you said he has turned
Everyone against me...horrible
Stories that's the reason I stated
Isolating. My family even come to me
I hope they believe me. I am ready
To start a new life without him
No more silent treatments
No more rejections after 3 mths
Off marriage . He talked me to
Into quitting my job. Big mistake
Felt trapped with 2 children
But they are both grown up
Doing well. Thank God
@@jamiehatfield7392 so evil
Liz......silent treatment. Candice.......convenience......with friends like this, who needs enemies.....neighbors=narcissistic stalkers......I'm so done with manipulative people