One of the best things I've learned in life is too get away from toxic people and negativity. I enjoy being around positive people and love to fill my day with joy, I get more stuff done, and overall I'm living a better life now.
just remember, men are imperfect. There will always be toxic person around to harass you , judge you and criticize you to bring down your morale. Just keep a far far distance away from these toxic people. Good luck and Good bye Liam Gimenez. 😉👻🐮🐅🐘🐠🐜🥷👂👈💅🧤🗝️🪜✂️
Gee. I had to go the distance, and learn about all these the hard way. Graduated from the school of hard knocks. And when I did find someone like me, they passed away. Now I battle depression and lonliness on a daily basis. It hurts to lose someone who shares all the positive, and cast out the negative things, and have that sunshine smile and open heart, that when you look into their eyes, you truly can see their soul as well. I reflect on what time was shared, and truly feel blessed by having just that.
It's easy to escape from a toxic friend,but when you know that it's a close family member that you love but can't deal anymore with this toxicity, then it's very hard to move on. At least that's my experience.
I found it works to send them a link... to this video and the other one is better i think, 6 signs your dealing with a toxic person.. I havent heard back from the ones i sent it to... LoL, Instead of me making examples of them, I let the video do it. This way they can see they are KNOWN ISSUES. Its not just me,. lol
When you're in trouble the narcissist won't be there for you because they think they're the ones who are in trouble, they are the biggest victim of everything or their problems are much more important than the others', so they don't have time or energy to spend on other people.
Anyone who tries to bring you down, only wishes to rise to your level. Anyone who doubts you, only doubts their own ability more. So ask youself? why waste your life around such toxicity?
Yeah sometimes they're a little bit fun and then they're mostly tops that you know all the signs but the worst ones are the ones that pretend to be cool and and your friend and then you find out later secretly they're not having said that there's a lot of beautiful people in my life as well
Don't sit very close to them... always maintain a distance, one meter or more... this will give you little confidence... imagine yourself now in this space and they don't exist in that space... also will help you read their body language well ...
Set up appointments with your friends to do an activity both of you enjoy. Allow no one inside your home, car, work space, and tell people you are not available unless you schedule in with them at a time both you can agree on, and for an amount if time you can aggree on.
I know & have recognized at least 3 people in my life like this & are toxic, it's all about them. I've given so much of myself & they don't give anything healthy in returning. I've distanced myself from them, yet remain pleasant with boundaries ,& don't let them always be on my mind
I know a person like this. Always ask for help and people help but when people need help. never there help out only care about himself nobody else. they will also suck all your energy.
I, at 33, have no person in my life that is interested or even kind to me. So many people dont even uplift me but judge and harass me and be extremely selfish. I cant stand it anymore! I need better people in my life, im still trying to find some. Everytime i needed support in life, ive been called selfish and noone barely understands me. I hate how society is and what so many people are becoming.
Just got rid of them. Theyre still calling but less so now I just ignore them .. theyre very dangerous .. as are toxic people .. selfish no faith or trust . Negativity constant judging and criticisms . Always about them.. your never going to change them.. let it go and them..
Some people are born broken and will never do sh!t for society or anyone else. They are inadequate and only fit for spending their lives in never-ending therapy sessions.
Man you just described my older sister who I love very much but can’t stand to be around. I’m unable to relax and just be myself around her. I just don’t know what to do or say because I don’t want to set her off. I don’t understand how anyone could be this way all the time. It must be extremely exhausting......
@@stormythunder4k - If You Show them it bothers you, they will keep on doing it. I once hid under my sister’s bed for 15 min to scare her. When I shook the bed to scare her she didn’t react even a little, so I gave up!
Even though most of the points are pretty well put following such a list could be very misleading, if you yourself are not a good friend. We all have insecurities and flaws, and a true friend won't expect you to be perfect but should be able to see and help you through your struggles, and the other way around. For example, the one who is nosy about your experiences might be lonely or has abandonment issues, but it does not make them controlling. If a person is more direct and passionate they might sound aggressive without trying to control your choices. The so-called vampire could be an uncontrollably anxious person not necessarily someone who wants to hurt you - such people are very concerned and care deeply.
I am experiencing and have experienced Number 6, and I finally had enough! I’ve distanced myself from this “friend” for the past 3 1/2 weeks. Feels good too.. You don’t realize how draining these type of individuals can be.. Whew!!
Planet Psych yes I did, and it’s driving them crazy because there was no explanation on my part. But I know in my heart of hearts, they know that they’re behavior is the reason why. I’m not their only friend that has distanced themselves.. This “friend” is quite intrusive, nosy, messy, an instigator, a LIAR, manipulative, and a victim all in one.. Just glad that I had enough and a nudging to make my exit..
I had a toxic friend once and she told me she was dying of cancer. She wanted to make me feel bad for telling her cat to shut up. That was 10 years ago..... she’s still alive but she’s not my friend.
Note to self, "don't be another planet in this toxic solar system." I love it! Another note to self, if they are worried, but respectful, they may be looking out for your well being. If they are agressive and argumentative, they are trying to control you.
Thank you. I'd like to add if you are unsure of your Toxic Person be positive but be careful their true colors come out but like a caged animal they attack. It's so frightening Toxic People can be dangerous.
The glass is half empty and half full that's reality. Sometime when people fail to make sound decisions, that is not as cautious it could have been, afterwards they come for the person who they truly only think of as the heavy lifter. When I engage in trying to cultivate a realistic view point of what is more likely to happen if they take the idea and it turns out favourable, because of observing duedilligence, in the retelling, the idea was all theirs. If they don't take the 💡 and unfavorable reality results...their is tention between us. As if I 'm in their way due to their shame or whatever. I'm glad that I am over that toxic trap. My energy is all mine again.😎
I also learned aswell they shush you alot when your talking to which is big sign there toxic and make it all about themselves, also not about clothes about anything they can one up you on they will
Being able to spot their harmful behaviour is the first step to minimising their impact. You might not be able to change what they do, but you can change what you do with it, and any idea that toxic somebody in your life might have that they can get away with it.
I don't have time to strategise around them. I chop them out of my life, punto. Life is too short to deal with other people's sh!t, especially when such people can't see beyond their own eyelashes.
I currently have a friend who’s the vampiric negativity type. When I started talking about a body mod I was excited to get done in a gc, while the other active people were also casually talking about it, that one friend started saying how they didn’t like piercings, and just went on another long, negative rant. It made everything really awkward and I could tell a few others were put off. I do feel a bit sorry for that friend, but at the same time, I found their texts quite draining to read, because they were kind of a perpetual Debbie Downer. I really want to like them as a friend but it’s difficult when they behave like this.
I knew something was wrong with both of my parents by the time I was three years old. My dad was explosive and heartless and my mother self absorbed--they were alike. I left home hours after hs graduation. They divorced and over the years I was estranged from both off and on for longer and longer. It was hard to be without family so I'd go back to try again but it was always worse than ever. They both said I was the defective one. My dad died at 86 and I didn't feel a thing. My mom is 94 will live forever. He was a sociopath and she's a malignant narcissist. I told them both what disorders they have but it didn't do any good--their disorders run throughout their families. Some people leave and never go back but others keep knocking their heads against the wall like me. If I'd known then what I know now I would not have gone back and instead cultivate permanent relationships elsewhere.
@@Elizabeth-yg2mg This is why I decided to set strong boundaries with my Mom and Step Dad!! Boundaries that keep me safe and sound! Anyway, getting your own place helps! This way they can't guilt trip you, whenever they feel like it! 🤨
Elizabeth. I am sorry you had two Narcissistic parents. Both of my parents were also malignant narcissists. I always knew something was very wrong with them too. It took me until I was 59 to finally go no contact permanently. I have been happier and healthier than I ever was in my whole life. I wish you the same peace and happiness. Psalm 27:10.
This is what I've experienced most of my life toxic one sided relationships especially having family that is one sided my father and sister are both one sided .
Guys i have a prblm if anyone experienced the same pls advise me. I have a frnd.when we met he was ok we great determination to study.we were in hostel.but after months he started changing he became possessive in me.And started loving me than himself.He had many bad experiences in his childhood.I think thats why he is behaving like this.He never became angry with me bcz he is afraid that i would not talk with him.But after few months he was so negative and possessive . I cant sit with other frnds.Can talk to them freely.i just felt a barrier to talk with other frnds.And i dont even know why he cries saying i ignored him.And this made me ignore him bcz i cant concentrate in studying.i ignored him and he became more sad that he ate food less studied less.i didn't knew that he was not eating and studying i realised it now.all this happened a year ago and at this lockdown he telled me all this that he was not eating etc.now i am pretending to be happy with him and ok with him bcz of the feeling guilty that i made his +1 class worse.He has many health issues also.He has depression.And it increases bcz of me.He is afraid everytime that i will ignore him.And this increases his depression.i dont like his talking style and behaviour. He always wait in whatsapp for me to come online.i can't chat with others when i am chatting with him.he want me stay with him everytime.I dont know what to do.i dont know what is wrong or good.pls tell me.if u know
you can't and should not be responsible for other's life. according to what you told here, it's obvious that your relationship is based on guilt. he is controling you in this way - by telling you how poor he is, by isolating you, by taking your time. you are his narcissistic supply. this is TOXIC relationship! you better study about narcissistic people, there are many videos here on youtube, and strengthen yourself and the most important - run for your life! or (if you can't) at least take distance gradually. all the best.
And started loving me than himself😭 you are a true nice person even wanting advice from stranger........... Just tell him you can't be friend with him on these condistion adn feel afraid to tell the truth ......if he don't try to understand your feeling and persuad you to be in his side than you will also suffer same fate like him and start hating yourself..............So let him know your true feeling if he understand don't feel shame on ignoring him at least for year ....if he is a suicidal person than that's completely different story...........i think most of us just don't die because of own sadness and suffering ..........just we must experince left alone to become strong alone in our alonliness...........
Hi There, Though i appreciate this and most of your other videos, one thing i cannot agree upon. That's the "vampire in the room" statement. As what your video about honest people describes, they can be blunt (iow the impossibility to lie makes them so) can also be seen as negative. I used to be a "Every thing is going to be okay guy". But since i,ve been through a depression there are some topics which trigger strong negative emotions within me and thus make me then ventilate them. That doesn't mean i purposely want to ruin the conversation. Also, when the laughing is about things that happened to others (iow gossip), most of the time i will show my discomfort about it too. Besides this i do like your videos in general!
Wow 😳 I have known people who are like that they're so toxic and guess what I avoid these types of people, they don't change it's all about them you are nothing in their eyes so don't waste your time these people bring you down.
having trouble with this toxic work colleague, ever since i put him in his place, he hasn't gotten over it at all and pretends like we're okay, from time to time he will make snarky comments at me, seriously getting sick and tired of this fool
There are many videos on how to deal with ppl like that. Emotionally distance yourself, know who you are dealing with, only communicating through email or when someone else is present, and bringing it up to hr if they don't stop.
They aren't worth it, despite all they think. That is precisely why they keep trying to start drama, because they don't exist and are invisible otherwise. Suckers are gonna suck in life, and that's their sh!t to deal with, never yours.
They undermine anyone's interests that are not the same as their own. They promote their own interests as valuable and worthwhile, while other's are discredited as stupid and wasteful.
Hello this is waht my daughter like she is my only one daughter, my x husband was controlling so now I have to deal with daughter, she argues with me about everything amd never listens to me always shouts and so negativity round the house, when she’s not home it is so peaceful, she is is very toxic I have health issues like depression anxiety and also have a spine injury, she’s not understanding at all, can anyone help me please What to do, it has got to the stage where I’m done because my husband was violent and controlling so how I have to put up with her help please
it's ok everything will be ok in the end............her nature of behaviour towards you will change when she will experience the same trauma but it's not too late to let her change if you let her live alone with herself and avoid being around her for at least one year than improve yourself loving yourself so you and she an love one each other like a true friend..................and she will know or experience true pain of not having around you..........
Yes they can. You can, no family member gets a "free pass", make friends your family and cherish the ones that do love you, weigh up is their weaknesses worth their strengths, do their strengths outweight their weaknesses. You don't have to "cut-ties" with them, however you can have a break/some space from them, and create boundaries and not be as "close" with them. Make new friends and again make them your family, focus on them and your family who loves you, then you simply will not have much of a chance of focusing on the ones who don't love you. Also, if someone is "toxic" this usually doen't mean they are a "bad" individual, the simple truth is "hurt people, hurt people" Hope this helps. (P.s: Please, feel free to subscribe to my channel, thanks. 🙏)
The ultimate test that always works..... Tell a friend you think is toxic a fake story of failure and embarrassment and right as you reveal the punch line of the worst part, look at their face and how they try to hide the smile, if they do try to hide it, most wont.... They get off on it.. This is how you know they are not a friend and are going to destroy any dreams you tell them through reverse manifestation. People can help you manifest dreams to come true, some will help take them away. Avoid the ones who really are not a friend and keep the dreams secret to those you are not sure of. I can say this, ever tell someone your dreams and right away you think, wow, now that i told them it wont come true... bingo.... you told a toxic person who wishes only harm to come to you and your body sensed it. We are all psychics, even if you do not understand that, you have experienced it. =)
@@Jblah If that doesn't make sense, look into the law of attraction, manifestation, meditation, chakra system. Those will help one understand what has been said here.
”Spiritual Vampire”: In short, a person who is constantly negative is not reaching for straws, hoping that their friends might have solutions or at least compassion. It is not because their life IS constantly negative and they are defeated. Ostracise them. Dont let them ruin your fun. People with problems are just boring and lazy. Real friends are fun and carefree and give YOU energy. People that actually need you and takes some effort are just selfish. God save us from pop psychology.
I have a question in reference to No.1. *Anyone is welcome to share their opinions* 1. If an individual(sl) is entirely too involved or welcome themselves into aspects of your life that they have no business & DECIDE NOT TO LEAVE YOU THE FŮÇĶ ALONE AFTER YOUVE ASKED NUMBEROUS TIMES, ISN'T THAT THE EXACT SAME THING & DOESN'T IT HAVE THE SAME EFFECT AS BEING SELF-CENTERED? 🧐🧐🧐🙄🙄🙄🙄 ORRRRRR HEAR ME OUT!!! Could that be surfed under the same category as being said "self-centered"? For example, it could be labeled self-centered because of the aggressive method of being aggravating, annoying,& irritating to the point of no return🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔. The consistency of constant bullsh!+ (from my POV) is self-centered. Only thinking about what you want & not GAF about the individual you won't leave the hell alone! The resonation in this video is uncanny & I guess ppl do ... do it to try to control the other party & ITS NOT GOVING QHQT THEY MAY THINK IT MAY BE GIVING & IN THIS CASE OF THE EX ... CONSISTENCY IS NOT THE 🔑 BUT MINDING THE BUSINESS THAR PAYS DOES. Thank You All Smart Individuals For Attending MY TEDTalk ANDDDDDDD Potentially giving me multiple answers to my question(s) 🙏🙏🙏
A wife can be toxic. Especially the one that controls your decisions everytime. How can you get away from a wife like that if she doesn't want to leave my house and if i formally let her out she screams and makes a scene to the neighbors.Then she is still around and controls me. I can't even go out of the house alone coz she thinks I will meet a girl, which I'm not.. and she is good in defensive arguments.
Scare . Is Toxic people monster in the Horror Movies ? I was Abused by my country’s people , A Lot . They’re Just Criminals , but , they don’t think about they’re criminal , it’s Big Problem . I always , Holly … ? Or what a … ? . Abuse ! Most Horrible Behavior is Abuse to another people . Suicide is most terrible thing on this planet , I think . Why people Force to the other people “ Suicide “ ? I Never Understand it . Then , Don’t be Sick , That’s The Toxic people . Abuses the others , then , Don’t be Sick ? What ?
Phew, my ex really destroyed my self-esteem....🙈 I actually clicked on the video because I was afraid I might be the toxic person, but luckily nothing applies to me😅. But for my ex everything is true, except maybe the vampire thing, which was/is only partly true... 🤣 Fortunately I don't have any friends like that 🙏
I have a Very High IQ and I actually have Autism related Catatonia and Lyme disease. I have all these traits except I laugh when stuff is funny to me. 😊
This video is not for me its intented to the filipina mistresss helper from Hongkong , the narcissistic traits of parent of ex husband still neefs the supply from Hongkong helper to get the she want from ex husband ,and the mistress helper from hongkong will give everything ( the world) just to buy the love she want from ex husband she chased my ex husband but I already disposed / dumped my ex husband...
Toxic people i run into them a lot sometimes i don't give them the benefit of doubt i don't mind avoiding them i don't mind losing them and finally i don't mind not talking to them anymore I'm strictly with positive vibes only i smile every day and night a negative person i keep them out of my life i stay clear away from them i don't trust people who are like that.
Toxic person will always criticize you. Just ignore them and focus on your own objectives
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How to ignoring your wife?
One of the best things I've learned in life is too get away from toxic people and negativity. I enjoy being around positive people and love to fill my day with joy, I get more stuff done, and overall I'm living a better life now.
Same here. Toxic people are draining
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How do you get rid of those toxic people though- it’s not easy.
That's great to be around positive people. But make sure that is a genuine positivity and not a toxic positivity. Balance is the key
Same but impossible in you have to work with them.
My whole life I was surrounded by toxic people and friends but now I'm doing my best to avoid them.
just remember, men are imperfect. There will always be toxic person around to harass you , judge you and criticize you to bring down your morale. Just keep a far far distance away from these toxic people. Good luck and Good bye Liam Gimenez. 😉👻🐮🐅🐘🐠🐜🥷👂👈💅🧤🗝️🪜✂️
Same
Timestamps:
0:13 Selfish inflexibility
1:35 Embarrassing Blackmail
2:40 Vampiric Negativity
3:59 Constant Judgement
5:18 Centre of the universe
6:29 Overstepping boundaries
7:48 Defensive arguments
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I wanna be toxic and wicked😈
Gee. I had to go the distance, and learn about all these the hard way. Graduated from the school of hard knocks.
And when I did find someone like me, they passed away. Now I battle depression and lonliness on a daily basis. It hurts to lose someone who shares all the positive, and cast out the negative things, and have that sunshine smile and open heart, that when you look into their eyes, you truly can see their soul as well.
I reflect on what time was shared, and truly feel blessed by having just that.
I know someone just like this SCARY they NEVER laugh & are manipulative! Listen to your instincts from the beginning !! Good video !
True
Not laughing is a bad thing ?
This describes narcissism perfectly.
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Exactly
Yes 🥰
Takes one to know ?
Hopefully this will help someone like it helped me: “Don’t let negative and toxic people rent space your head. Raise the rent and kick them out”
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It's easy to escape from a toxic friend,but when you know that it's a close family member that you love but can't deal anymore with this toxicity, then it's very hard to move on. At least that's my experience.
same happens with me
happens 2 me... beuty girl
run away til it's too late...
I found it works to send them a link... to this video and the other one is better i think, 6 signs your dealing with a toxic person.. I havent heard back from the ones i sent it to... LoL, Instead of me making examples of them, I let the video do it. This way they can see they are KNOWN ISSUES. Its not just me,. lol
@@RobMonty248 Yeah I would do it if I didn't have to maintain a good relationship with that person.
When you're in trouble the narcissist won't be there for you because they think they're the ones who are in trouble, they are the biggest victim of everything or their problems are much more important than the others', so they don't have time or energy to spend on other people.
What?
Anyone who tries to bring you down, only wishes to rise to your level.
Anyone who doubts you, only doubts their own ability more.
So ask youself? why waste your life around such toxicity?
Too many of the people in my life are toxic. I don't know how to get away from them. I cannot move at this time. It's exhausting.
Yeah sometimes they're a little bit fun and then they're mostly tops that you know all the signs but the worst ones are the ones that pretend to be cool and and your friend and then you find out later secretly they're not having said that there's a lot of beautiful people in my life as well
Mantras :)
Don't sit very close to them... always maintain a distance, one meter or more... this will give you little confidence... imagine yourself now in this space and they don't exist in that space... also will help you read their body language well ...
Set up appointments with your friends to do an activity both of you enjoy. Allow no one inside your home, car, work space, and tell people you are not available unless you schedule in with them at a time both you can agree on, and for an amount if time you can aggree on.
I feel like alot of people are toxic nowadays
anyone else, who doesn't care about other toxic people, but came here just to make sure, they themselves are not toxic!
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I know & have recognized at least 3 people in my life like this & are toxic, it's all about them. I've given so much of myself & they don't give anything healthy in returning. I've distanced myself from them, yet remain pleasant with boundaries ,& don't let them always be on my mind
I know a person like this. Always ask for help and people help but when people need help. never there help out only care about himself nobody else. they will also suck all your energy.
I really enjoyed this and I have an old friend who is like this and I'm glad I dont chill with him anymore
I, at 33, have no person in my life that is interested or even kind to me. So many people dont even uplift me but judge and harass me and be extremely selfish. I cant stand it anymore! I need better people in my life, im still trying to find some. Everytime i needed support in life, ive been called selfish and noone barely understands me. I hate how society is and what so many people are becoming.
Just got rid of them. Theyre still calling but less so now I just ignore them .. theyre very dangerous .. as are toxic people .. selfish no faith or trust . Negativity constant judging and criticisms .
Always about them.. your never going to change them.. let it go and them..
Some people are born broken and will never do sh!t for society or anyone else. They are inadequate and only fit for spending their lives in never-ending therapy sessions.
Man you just described my older sister who I love very much but can’t stand to be around. I’m unable to relax and just be myself around her. I just don’t know what to do or say because I don’t want to set her off. I don’t understand how anyone could be this way all the time. It must be extremely exhausting......
You are not alone feel the same
My brothers really pisses me off. Whenever I try to sleep, they make a lot of noise. It's so irritating
@@stormythunder4k - If You Show them it bothers you, they will keep on doing it. I once hid under my sister’s bed for 15 min to scare her. When I shook the bed to scare her she didn’t react even a little, so I gave up!
I don't show them that it irritates me. I just sit idle in my bed listening to their annoying voices.
Toxic people are scary. Their energy is strong and unhealthy to be around.
Huh that doesnt make sense
Even though most of the points are pretty well put following such a list could be very misleading, if you yourself are not a good friend. We all have insecurities and flaws, and a true friend won't expect you to be perfect but should be able to see and help you through your struggles, and the other way around. For example, the one who is nosy about your experiences might be lonely or has abandonment issues, but it does not make them controlling. If a person is more direct and passionate they might sound aggressive without trying to control your choices. The so-called vampire could be an uncontrollably anxious person not necessarily someone who wants to hurt you - such people are very concerned and care deeply.
They dont value ANYONE as an individual.
Huh that doesnt make sense
There are two solutions, either you accept the other as it is or you leave.
Another great video!!! Thank you ❤❤❤🙏
No contact preferably.
Huh that doesnt make sense
First, put yourself in their shoes, only then can you decide if they are toxic.
Its difficult when you have friends who constantly moan but never do anything to improve their situation
Huh that doesnt make sense
Limiting your choices is a way of ruining your life.
I am experiencing and have experienced Number 6, and I finally had enough! I’ve distanced myself from this “friend” for the past 3 1/2 weeks. Feels good too.. You don’t realize how draining these type of individuals can be.. Whew!!
So true, hopefully you cut them off hey
Planet Psych yes I did, and it’s driving them crazy because there was no explanation on my part. But I know in my heart of hearts, they know that they’re behavior is the reason why. I’m not their only friend that has distanced themselves.. This “friend” is quite intrusive, nosy, messy, an instigator, a LIAR, manipulative, and a victim all in one.. Just glad that I had enough and a nudging to make my exit..
I need nr 2 no toilet paper tho
I had a toxic friend once and she told me she was dying of cancer. She wanted to make me feel bad for telling her cat to shut up. That was 10 years ago..... she’s still alive but she’s not my friend.
Note to self, "don't be another planet in this toxic solar system." I love it! Another note to self, if they are worried, but respectful, they may be looking out for your well being. If they are agressive and argumentative, they are trying to control you.
I watch videos like this to validate that all my friends are toxic & it's not all in my head 🙁
Huh that doesnt make sense
The person who is negative is probably depressed and can’t help how awful they feel.
person who is negative is probably depressed 👍🏻
Huh that doesnt make sense
1:51 :If you can't keep your secrets yourself, how can you believe others to keep them?
SAY NO TO TOXICITYYYYYYY ‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️
Amen 🙏
Toxic, yes. Narcissistic, definitely!
Thank you. I'd like to add if you are unsure of your Toxic Person be positive but be careful their true colors come out but like a caged animal they attack. It's so frightening Toxic People can be dangerous.
Huh that doesnt make sense
I had a friend who has 1,2,3,4,5 qualities... Life is better after I cut her of but she positioned my mind already :(
Thanks for so knowledgeable videos, I like your videos very much. I learned many things from your videos.
Hey bro. I also tried to make one video of this kind. Do check that, i hope you will like that also 💚
Guess who’s gonna have to unfriend all her friends but 2 of them after watching this vid?
There are allot of sick mentally unbalanced people out there. Stay alert and keep your guard up. Try not to be a vulnerable person.
The glass is half empty and half full that's reality. Sometime when people fail to make sound decisions, that is not as cautious it could have been, afterwards they come for the person who they truly only think of as the heavy lifter. When I engage in trying to cultivate a realistic view point of what is more likely to happen if they take the idea and it turns out favourable, because of observing duedilligence, in the retelling, the idea was all theirs. If they don't take the 💡 and unfavorable reality results...their is tention between us. As if I 'm in their way due to their shame or whatever. I'm glad that I am over that toxic trap. My energy is all mine again.😎
I also learned aswell they shush you alot when your talking to which is big sign there toxic and make it all about themselves, also not about clothes about anything they can one up you on they will
Yeah they don't care about what you're saying unless it directly benefits them.
"Vampiric Negativity" and do self pitying people also happen to fall into that category?
Being able to spot their harmful behaviour is the first step to minimising their impact. You might not be able to change what they do, but you can change what you do with it, and any idea that toxic somebody in your life might have that they can get away with it.
I don't have time to strategise around them. I chop them out of my life, punto.
Life is too short to deal with other people's sh!t, especially when such people can't see beyond their own eyelashes.
if you know someone who is constantly negative they need a friend more than ever ,,,,that is a sign of a mental health issue duh
I currently have a friend who’s the vampiric negativity type. When I started talking about a body mod I was excited to get done in a gc, while the other active people were also casually talking about it, that one friend started saying how they didn’t like piercings, and just went on another long, negative rant. It made everything really awkward and I could tell a few others were put off. I do feel a bit sorry for that friend, but at the same time, I found their texts quite draining to read, because they were kind of a perpetual Debbie Downer. I really want to like them as a friend but it’s difficult when they behave like this.
Huh that doesnt make sense
...the people who gave this video a thumbs down....toxic.
Keep clear of toxic people.
Owen - So true you will feel better
@@maysmith7969Does barking nonsense get you excited?!🤡
1:26 when someone describes selfish friend with a man that’s about to stab you, then I’m concerned
What should you do if you have "toxic" parents?
Do you suddenly end the relationship?
If so, how do you tell them, you're done! 😥
😂😂😂
I knew something was wrong with both of my parents by the time I was three years old. My dad was explosive and heartless and my mother self absorbed--they were alike. I left home hours after hs graduation. They divorced and over the years I was estranged from both off and on for longer and longer. It was hard to be without family so I'd go back to try again but it was always worse than ever. They both said I was the defective one. My dad died at 86 and I didn't feel a thing. My mom is 94 will live forever. He was a sociopath and she's a malignant narcissist. I told them both what disorders they have but it didn't do any good--their disorders run throughout their families. Some people leave and never go back but others keep knocking their heads against the wall like me. If I'd known then what I know now I would not have gone back and instead cultivate permanent relationships elsewhere.
@@Elizabeth-yg2mg This is why I decided to set strong boundaries with my Mom and Step Dad!!
Boundaries that keep me safe and sound!
Anyway, getting your own place helps! This way they can't guilt trip you, whenever they feel like it! 🤨
Elizabeth. I am sorry you had two Narcissistic parents. Both of my parents were also malignant narcissists. I always knew something was very wrong with them too. It took me until I was 59 to finally go no contact permanently. I have been happier and healthier than I ever was in my whole life. I wish you the same peace and happiness. Psalm 27:10.
@@donnalehman1832 Thanks, Donna. I am much happier and healthier away too. Take care.
These 7 signs of a toxic person are examples of narcissism.
I love the way you guys get right into it!
Huh that doesnt make sense
These people are not only Toxic but Evil too!!
Do with them like the Roberta Flack song - Kill them softly. Killing them softly with his song killing them softly with his song.
Just leave the house. They are everywhere.
How to maintain our mental and physical fitness?
love and improve yourself......................😘
It adopts the rhythm of nature: its secret is patience
Continue 2 be BLESSED y'all! 2gether WE can weather ANY storm & finish STRONG!!!😊♥️
Toxic people are hard to get a long with you must rid yourself of these hateful people,cut them off,ASAP..
This is what I've experienced most of my life toxic one sided relationships especially having family that is one sided my father and sister are both one sided .
Guys i have a prblm if anyone experienced the same pls advise me. I have a frnd.when we met he was ok we great determination to study.we were in hostel.but after months he started changing he became possessive in me.And started loving me than himself.He had many bad experiences in his childhood.I think thats why he is behaving like this.He never became angry with me bcz he is afraid that i would not talk with him.But after few months he was so negative and possessive . I cant sit with other frnds.Can talk to them freely.i just felt a barrier to talk with other frnds.And i dont even know why he cries saying i ignored him.And this made me ignore him bcz i cant concentrate in studying.i ignored him and he became more sad that he ate food less studied less.i didn't knew that he was not eating and studying i realised it now.all this happened a year ago and at this lockdown he telled me all this that he was not eating etc.now i am pretending to be happy with him and ok with him bcz of the feeling guilty that i made his +1 class worse.He has many health issues also.He has depression.And it increases bcz of me.He is afraid everytime that i will ignore him.And this increases his depression.i dont like his talking style and behaviour. He always wait in whatsapp for me to come online.i can't chat with others when i am chatting with him.he want me stay with him everytime.I dont know what to do.i dont know what is wrong or good.pls tell me.if u know
you can't and should not be responsible for other's life. according to what you told here, it's obvious that your relationship is based on guilt. he is controling you in this way - by telling you how poor he is, by isolating you, by taking your time. you are his narcissistic supply. this is TOXIC relationship! you better study about narcissistic people, there are many videos here on youtube, and strengthen yourself and the most important - run for your life! or (if you can't) at least take distance gradually.
all the best.
And started loving me than himself😭
you are a true nice person even wanting advice from stranger...........
Just tell him you can't be friend with him on these condistion adn feel afraid to tell the truth ......if he don't try to understand your feeling and persuad you to be in his side than you will also suffer same fate like him and start hating yourself..............So let him know your true feeling if he understand don't feel shame on ignoring him at least for year ....if he is a suicidal person than that's completely different story...........i think most of us just don't die because of own sadness and suffering ..........just we must experince left alone to become strong alone in our alonliness...........
I have seen number 6 more often
Hi There, Though i appreciate this and most of your other videos, one thing i cannot agree upon. That's the "vampire in the room" statement. As what your video about honest people describes, they can be blunt (iow the impossibility to lie makes them so) can also be seen as negative. I used to be a "Every thing is going to be okay guy". But since i,ve been through a depression there are some topics which trigger strong negative emotions within me and thus make me then ventilate them. That doesn't mean i purposely want to ruin the conversation. Also, when the laughing is about things that happened to others (iow gossip), most of the time i will show my discomfort about it too. Besides this i do like your videos in general!
Huh that doesnt make sense
I had a toxic friend once he literally controlled my life until I got into grade 9
Huh that doesnt make sense
Wow 😳 I have known people who are like that they're so toxic and guess what I avoid these types of people, they don't change it's all about them you are nothing in their eyes so don't waste your time these people bring you down.
having trouble with this toxic work colleague, ever since i put him in his place, he hasn't gotten over it at all and pretends like we're okay, from time to time he will make snarky comments at me, seriously getting sick and tired of this fool
There are many videos on how to deal with ppl like that. Emotionally distance yourself, know who you are dealing with, only communicating through email or when someone else is present, and bringing it up to hr if they don't stop.
They aren't worth it, despite all they think. That is precisely why they keep trying to start drama, because they don't exist and are invisible otherwise.
Suckers are gonna suck in life, and that's their sh!t to deal with, never yours.
What to do if you are the toxic friend?
Number 7...damn what an eye opener
Can two toxic person i mean a couple toxic can understand each other?
Thank you so much for this video this will help me a lot
Thank you very much for this reminder!!! :)
They undermine anyone's interests that are not the same as their own. They promote their own interests as valuable and worthwhile, while other's are discredited as stupid and wasteful.
Huh that doesnt make sense
That is what you called fake friend
Yes
The most toxic grp of ppl r those we term smallish ppl
So, how you help toxic person? What should I do then to toxic person?
I really wish I could find an answer for that
Be like the water , its the Key
Toxic friends are no friends at all.
Needs to be taught by entities outside the home from early ages for the benefit of all.
Hello this is waht my daughter like she is my only one daughter, my x husband was controlling so now I have to deal with daughter, she argues with me about everything amd never listens to me always shouts and so negativity round the house, when she’s not home it is so peaceful, she is is very toxic I have health issues like depression anxiety and also have a spine injury, she’s not understanding at all, can anyone help me please
What to do, it has got to the stage where I’m done because my husband was violent and controlling so how I have to put up with her help please
it's ok everything will be ok in the end............her nature of behaviour towards you will change when she will experience the same trauma but it's not too late to let her change if you let her live alone with herself and avoid being around her for at least one year than improve yourself loving yourself so you and she an love one each other like a true friend..................and she will know or experience true pain of not having around you..........
What?
So can your own family (sister) be toxic ? How can you let someone you love as family that they are this way ?
Yes they can. You can, no family member gets a "free pass", make friends your family and cherish the ones that do love you, weigh up is their weaknesses worth their strengths, do their strengths outweight their weaknesses. You don't have to "cut-ties" with them, however you can have a break/some space from them, and create boundaries and not be as "close" with them. Make new friends and again make them your family, focus on them and your family who loves you, then you simply will not have much of a chance of focusing on the ones who don't love you. Also, if someone is "toxic" this usually doen't mean they are a "bad" individual, the simple truth is "hurt people, hurt people"
Hope this helps.
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Liam Nicholson thank you so much for your advice I appreciate it I’m screen shorting saving to rembr this always !
@@naomii494 You're welcome, I'm sure you do, that's okay, and great! Would you like to keep "in-touch"?
Liam Nicholson Yes !
@@naomii494 Okay. Cool, ya got "WhatsApp" or somin?
The ultimate test that always works..... Tell a friend you think is toxic a fake story of failure and embarrassment and right as you reveal the punch line of the worst part, look at their face and how they try to hide the smile, if they do try to hide it, most wont.... They get off on it.. This is how you know they are not a friend and are going to destroy any dreams you tell them through reverse manifestation. People can help you manifest dreams to come true, some will help take them away. Avoid the ones who really are not a friend and keep the dreams secret to those you are not sure of. I can say this, ever tell someone your dreams and right away you think, wow, now that i told them it wont come true... bingo.... you told a toxic person who wishes only harm to come to you and your body sensed it. We are all psychics, even if you do not understand that, you have experienced it. =)
What?
@@Jblah If that doesn't make sense, look into the law of attraction, manifestation, meditation, chakra system. Those will help one understand what has been said here.
@@RobMonty248 bruh i didnt even read what u said i was just trolling lol
LOA? The secret to life is not be aware when you are doing well. GL dude
@@Jblah LOL ok, fun!
Those people who seem to always love playing “devil’s advocate” anytime your emotions are on the line -> they aren’t playing at all!!!
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”Spiritual Vampire”:
In short, a person who is constantly negative is not reaching for straws, hoping that their friends might have solutions or at least compassion.
It is not because their life IS constantly negative and they are defeated.
Ostracise them.
Dont let them ruin your fun.
People with problems are just boring and lazy.
Real friends are fun and carefree and give YOU energy.
People that actually need you and takes some effort are just selfish.
God save us from pop psychology.
Huh that doesnt make sense
@@Jblah ofcourse it does.
@@MarcelGomesPan what are u talking about lol
Almost all people now are toxic.
myself included.......even i don't know that i am being toxic
Why does this only talk about frends and not other people?
I have a question in reference to No.1. *Anyone is welcome to share their opinions*
1. If an individual(sl) is entirely too involved or welcome themselves into aspects of your life that they have no business & DECIDE NOT TO LEAVE YOU THE FŮÇĶ ALONE AFTER YOUVE ASKED NUMBEROUS TIMES, ISN'T THAT THE EXACT SAME THING & DOESN'T IT HAVE THE SAME EFFECT AS BEING SELF-CENTERED? 🧐🧐🧐🙄🙄🙄🙄 ORRRRRR HEAR ME OUT!!! Could that be surfed under the same category as being said "self-centered"? For example, it could be labeled self-centered because of the aggressive method of being aggravating, annoying,& irritating to the point of no return🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔. The consistency of constant bullsh!+ (from my POV) is self-centered. Only thinking about what you want & not GAF about the individual you won't leave the hell alone! The resonation in this video is uncanny & I guess ppl do ... do it to try to control the other party & ITS NOT GOVING QHQT THEY MAY THINK IT MAY BE GIVING & IN THIS CASE OF THE EX ... CONSISTENCY IS NOT THE 🔑 BUT MINDING THE BUSINESS THAR PAYS DOES. Thank You All Smart Individuals For Attending MY TEDTalk ANDDDDDDD Potentially giving me multiple answers to my question(s) 🙏🙏🙏
A wife can be toxic. Especially the one that controls your decisions everytime. How can you get away from a wife like that if she doesn't want to leave my house and if i formally let her out she screams and makes a scene to the neighbors.Then she is still around and controls me. I can't even go out of the house alone coz she thinks I will meet a girl, which I'm not.. and she is good in defensive arguments.
You gotta get the divorce bro she using you and obviously doesn't respect you.
Thanks for your advice bro.
like my sister............
friend lol i would move on. i got family like this. yes close family like mom and dad lol
Scare . Is Toxic people monster in the Horror Movies ? I was Abused by my country’s people , A Lot . They’re Just Criminals , but , they don’t think about they’re criminal , it’s Big Problem . I always , Holly … ? Or what a … ? . Abuse ! Most Horrible Behavior is Abuse to another people . Suicide is most terrible thing on this planet , I think . Why people Force to the other people “ Suicide “ ? I Never Understand it . Then , Don’t be Sick , That’s The Toxic people . Abuses the others , then , Don’t be Sick ? What ?
Thank you so much! That is my boss. Or should say EX boss!!!
Phew, my ex really destroyed my self-esteem....🙈
I actually clicked on the video because I was afraid I might be the toxic person, but luckily nothing applies to me😅. But for my ex everything is true, except maybe the vampire thing, which was/is only partly true... 🤣
Fortunately I don't have any friends like that 🙏
The wrong people unmetered exposure will make you feel like you are the one who is off.
Does it means we are different people and maybe we need to understand each other
Yes I I don't like people like this 😊😅🙏
Are toxic people necessarily narcissists ?
I have a Very High IQ and I actually have Autism related Catatonia and Lyme disease. I have all these traits except I laugh when stuff is funny to me. 😊
It's always about them! 😠😢😪💔🙏
Hi
This video is not for me its intented to the filipina mistresss helper from Hongkong , the narcissistic traits of parent of ex husband still neefs the supply from Hongkong helper to get the she want from ex husband ,and the mistress helper from hongkong will give everything ( the world) just to buy the love she want from ex husband she chased my ex husband but I already disposed / dumped my ex husband...
I know someone just like this
Toxic people i run into them a lot sometimes i don't give them the benefit of doubt i don't mind avoiding them i don't mind losing them and finally i don't mind not talking to them anymore I'm strictly with positive vibes only i smile every day and night a negative person i keep them out of my life i stay clear away from them i don't trust people who are like that.
Great I married one 😔
you jumped the gun too quickly my friend, best of luck!
May God help you
@Luv4em i know and I’m sure paying the price 💔😢
Huh that doesnt make sense
Ugh i know someone like this
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