When a Man Stops Chasing You, Here's What to Do (and how to prevent it!)
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When he stops paying attention to you STOP paying attention to him,I match the energy you give me to the energy I give you ,I never want to force somebody to be with me
Exactly On Point ✔💯💯
Totally agree with you 😊
Girl, yes
When he decides to keep silent I do exactly the same
Truth plus they play too many games
The chasing thing is not love. When you’re soul mates you set up the grounds and commit to each other. That’s what valuable relationship is.
Exactly! Wow! Finally! It is easy and natural! That is what love looks like. And if he looses interest or stops valuing you because you are always there for him he is more into the adventure than your own person! A man that truly likes and loves a woman gets excited when she answers, not when she doesn’t.
Precisely, if you like what you see , why start playing stupid games and women of certain age do not have time for indecisive men.
Amen
@@irenawanjiru It's really hurtful.
Really ladies, it’s as simple as matching the energy he gives you and don’t be easily impressed. Most men aren’t worth your time so why pour energy into an unworthy cause? Be as in love with yourself as humanly possibly! It’s the only way to protect yourself from the time wasters.
This!!!!
Facts!
So wise Natashea!! 😊
Thank you!
Makes lot of sense...you are right..
When a man wants you, he will be consistent in his energy AND actions period!! No games no bs
If a men stops chasing you. Just let him go! Is obvious that he’s not interested in you anymore...
Amen. These people are CRAZY with their stupid games.
Some men don't chase actually. I just give a little interest and if she doesn't appreciate it enough i just act as she doesn't exist and switch to other girls
@@nurhesen You're a fool.
@@leesteal4458 life is too short to wonder
Not all men chase & are aggressive. Some are actually shy / inexperienced and prefer women to show interest...
ughhh im too lazy for all these rules + men play too much. Im being a nun. byyyyee. EDIT: woww thx for all the likes. comments got me 😂😂
I agree, they DO play too many games. I've also given up. But I thank people like this coach who tells the truth so we can make the decision to stay away. You should check out Greta dating coaches videos aswell.
😂😂 it's true. Why toooo much holywood in love
Ay thought I was the only one who's tired of these rules and games I don't have energy nor heart for, just exhausting and sounds pointless
when you really like someone, youll suddenly gain all the energy and creativity youll need. LOL
Me too 😔
"Never accept bad behaviour." So key. ♥️
I really don’t have patience for this ‘chasing’ game. I’m just going to wait for a non complicated guy that really knows what he wants. Dating should be more simple, natural and less stressful.
Keep waiting all your life. There's no such guy coming in 😂😂
It’s actually sad that my boyfriend use to chase me until I started really caring about the relationship. Now I’m always a 2nd choice to everything. Thank you for the advice!
If he stops chasing you, stop giving him attention. Pretty common saying but it's true; "Men are like cats, keep chasing him and he'll run away, ignore him and he'll come running to you"
This is THE WORST advise anyone can give. You're advising women to play hard to get. Keep this up and they'll lose their crush for good. Know the quality of a guy before you run from him. Remember, you're just one of many fishes in a barrel.
@@peterchou5161 If a guy really likes you then you should have to fight for his attention.
Shut up
Starcaller - Not true. I really like this girl. I gave her a lot of attention to the point where I'm borderline needy. All she did was kicked me to the curb. She's very talkative w her co-workers, but has very little to say w me. Plus her attitude is very stuck up toward me.
@@peterchou5161 shut up
1. As soon as he knows he has you. 2. Only spend time with him when he shows he really wants it/deserves it. Don't lavish him with attention. 3. Don't accept bad behavior. 4. Allow him to do the chasing. 5. Don't play games. Really be hard to get.
thank you Andrea this is so true, as soon as he knows he has me, he started to reveal all his bad behaviours. you are right, dont play game, be really really hard to get
True..
@@silversilver0 Women are the prize? Hmm...not with that chubby face lol
@Dravidian 071CabooseBoyz Chubby women can get high quality men, they just do not get easily low quality and immature boys but that is a blessing. I am not chubby so I have to spend time getting rid of low quality men hitting on me and is annoying.
@@silversilver0 Sorry butter face, no dice
I thought I liked men but now I'm reconsidering
Lol, me too
If a man stops chasing me this means the police finally explained to him about the restraining order.
Lol
that`s it
Bahahaaaa! Didnt work on my ex tho..
😂😂
@@crimestoppers1877 I'm sorry someone hurt you....💔
When a man stops chasing you probably he finds someone new that’s it !
anne smith right this moment we’re not together and you are right. So from this day onwards I should love myself more than him as he didn’t see my worth. Focus on possibilities of everyday brings me. I will get up from the mud he puts me. Love myself than love a person who never existed! Life is beautiful than to waste on someone who wasted my true love. Thanks for the advices and thoughts. Bless us all
Crime Stoppers by saying he loves me but he’s with somebody , accusing me some things I’ve never done but it was him who does it, shaming me , degrading me and calling me all the names I’m not. I can’t imagine how a man I loved so much would disrespect me😞 but yeah one day I may forgive him but right this moment I can’t when I know in my heart I have this hates
For me? It’s not ok for a man or a woman as well to have two loves as it will be named by what we call “cheater” that is why those who love truly will get hurt more than those who play. Why can’t be contented?, why can’t be so damn honest and tell someone I didn’t love u anymore, why need to cheat and take someone for granted? But they won’t . Worst part ? They will left u broken
Crime Stoppers in my opinion regarding about this one u talking is that, why need to enter in that complicated situation? When U can have them single women out there for sure, I really not agree about having a relationship to a married woman or man not bcoz it’s a sin nor husband or wives can file a case against u but bcoz in the eyes of GOD it’s not acceptable and it’s immorality. And let us say u both pursue that u want it, do u want to be divorced and all the things u had will be given to her? Do u want to have a cheater wife? Do u want to have a non peaceful life? Yes we are all free to do whatever can make us happy But is doing that thing can make us genuinely happy? I know woman in USA are liberated but I know also that there are some who’s single and loyal
Crime Stoppers a “gold digger cunt “ one of the names my Ex calling me , how come a ever loyal woman called by the names like that?, how come after all the sacrifices I’ve done for our relationship he has the courage to call me like that , how come when I didn’t asked anything specially money matter , but yeah, maybe he can’t accept his mistake , he want to show everyone his perfect! that is why the woman he loved he didn’t hesitate to shame in any cost whenever he gets a chance. Saddest part of relationship when u love truly u will die daily. Honest and loyal woman exist but others take them for granted. Other woman cheats because their partners cheat, man cheats because of sex but other woman cheats because of love, affection, commitment that her husband or partners cannot give her. Man cheat not because he has no respect to a woman, Man cheats because he has no respect in himself. Man cheat because contentment was not in his vocabulary.
If true love does exist , there’s shouldn’t be chasing and being so difficult . you love someone from heart 💓
This is hysterical to me. I was engaged 7 times. Yep. SEVEN. I left 2 at the altar. I decided I wanted a marriage like my parents had (57 years until Dad's death). After realizing how happy I was and how grateful I was for my life, I met a nice man. Attractive, same religion, same politics, similar educations. We dated. When he asked me to marry him I said "Why ruin a great thing?" I did accept and then he got scared after giving me the engagement ring and said we should "think" about this for 24 hours! He actually set a time limit. He never got it. I removed the ring and told him I appreciated his "gift" but I couldn't accept anything from anyone so uncertain or conflicted. Neither one of us had been married before, I understood his fear. I thanked him for a lovely evening and said "Good Night." Hysterically, 24 hours went by and I never heard a word from him. As much as I cared about him, I knew that without him, I still had a wonderful life. He phoned at 28 hours. He was amazed that I was calm and hadn't called him! Simply put, 38 years later, he's a wonderful father, a wonderful husband....and funny, but a great friend! Ladies, you CANNOT value a husband or subsequent children if you CANNOT first value YOURSELF.
thank you for sharing! :) Life improves when you value yourself!
What happened to all the previous 7 engagements? Why did they ended? Did they cheat or neglected
@@sallylemon5835 same question.
Thank you💜
Sounds like a jackass just waiting 4 another time 2 let you down!
When a man stop chasing you, you should stop looking for his chasing and move on without him. Some men just don't know what they want. They are miserable with themselves and make up poor excuses to support their unstable habits. Women don't force a man to love and appreciate you, know your WORTH!!!!
This is exactly the dating advice men get... "Don't chase women... Lol so if both male and female aren't chasing one another or show normal human emotional pull to each other... Then everyone is gonna die alone... Lol good luck
@@0221dmcalister I don't think woman care because men are mostly not great partners which is why the divorce rate is climbing. Men just want someone to baby them, have their kids and give them sex and women land up feeling so alone and used therefore zero incentive to get with a man
@@makeitcount2985 .. I'm sorry you've been burned, but I could easily say the same thing about women and how they spread their legs for any swinging dick. Us as men are fed up with taking bs from women... A ton of us are going MGTOW. If you don't understand what that is, look it up... Stop feeling sorry for yourself
Abundance!!! 🙌
@@0221dmcalister feeling sorry for myself lol, is that what you took away from my comment seriously!? You took woman feel lonely and overburdened in empty marriages and equated that to self pity I'm gobsmacked. Why would women want to be with men who aren't good partners!?.... and I mean emotional connection and partnership here. As for a handful of slutty women, who you guys don't hesitate to sleep with, those women are not representative of the majority of women
When a man stops chasing you. RUN THE OTHER WAY!
Exactly!!
Lol. That is right.
Amen
It works.
Literally
If a guy stops chasing me, there is nothing I would do to prevent it; I would encourage it. If he stops chasing me, that tells me he isn't into me and I should value my time and love myself better to move on and find someone mature who doesn't "chase" but wishes to get to know me. If the chasing stops, I embrace it and run away like the wind.
Anna Marie k think by “chase” you may intend to state “pursue”... If a man IS chasing you, then it is probably because you are already running away...
Not necessarily true. Most men into the chase are players. They love the chase so you sleep with him, then when they have sex they disappear. Likely telling all their friends how they had sex with you. There are plenty of men not into chasing or mind games. Why would a good man chase a woman who seems uninterested? Good luck with your logic.
This is so true. He started remembering his friends. He started remembering he wanted to play games. He started remembering there are sports he wants to do and I became an annoyance. He wants to spend less time together. Want more time for himself... because I'm always available. Because I loved too much. 💔💔💔
Funny but it is true what you say. ....
Yes very much true
How are you with your relationship so far?
I experienced the same if there are things that i learned now is that i shouldn't be available and keep myself busy love myself more and value myself more .
@@itoshii12345 relationship did not survive. Love in moderation and don't forget yourself in the process.
I never bother doing anything if a guy stops paying attention to me. There are so many more.
Elisa Mastromarino how is that working for you? Interested 😉
Elisa Mastromarino show me where they are kkkkkkkk.
Exactly why we men shouldn't chase.
Lol maybe if I looked like you....
MC1R Mutant Faerie You're perfectly beautiful. ❤
Men are sooooooo much work. Where are the guys who like me and just want to be around me without me having to jump through hoops to keep him interested??? UGH When can I relax and just be myself?!!
Becky Tull right now! You should always be yourself, that's the only way for you to attract the one who is worthy of beautiful you!!:)
Yuli Nahari I am myself and then they leave. The girls who play games and treat guys like crap get them. Im better off single if I have to constantly turn myself into a damn pretzel. People only date my looks they don’t care that I have a heart and want to give support
Becky Tull it’s better to be single than faking that you’re okay while anticipating some necessary attention from your boyfriend. Been there done that. Just chill away on your own stuff. You deserve to be happy whether you’re in a relationship with someone else or just yourself!
ikr! but i just found out im schizo, so im screwed. at least you have hope. count your blessings.
Becky Tull I’m going to be honest it’s probably because you’re chasing after the wrong guy
so are we supposed to make a guy chase us our whole frickin life?? omg exhausting lol
G G exactly!! Boys Vs. Men! More accurately...a man who’s had a strong taste of his mortality will be ready to settle down! Prior to this they think they are going to live and be youthful forever!!
Right smh
I assumed it was just until marriage
@GG T87 Woman logic.
Exhausting for who?You meant for men chasing women .
This is exactly how I landed my dream man. It happened naturally, there was no game playing on either side. I wanted to change fields and wasn't happy being a nurse. I applied and was accepted into college to chase after another degree and break off into the psychology field. I was so busy with all that i couldn't prioritize my time with him and he loved having to chase after me and think of ways to steel my time away from my studies. He wanted to go back and get his masters too and my studying all the time inspired him to prep and study more as well.
Real men won't play games!
There are no real men out here most men are married some gay others to lazy
Cheryl Lesley Thanks and the same goes for real women too. Only the hurt and bitter women out would say otherwise and it’s best that they be in no relationship or marriage with any man with that type of toxicity. Thanks again for sharing because there’s there’s still some of us real men out here 🙂
Exactly! It is or it isn't!
Mature Men won’t play games especially if they are older than you and there’s some good age gap going. Right there is built in value for the woman being a catch and a prize simply because she’s younger and more youthful. I’m not thrilled about this much because I tend to date younger men and my one gripe with older men is they do tend to be too paternal and controlling at times. It’s a total turn off.
There are no real men
Sometimes when they quit chasing, I breath a sigh of relief!!!
😂😂😂
I literally had this guy chase me for 2.5 years while I was in a relationship with someone else. When my relationship finally ended... he asked me on a date... I said no, I wasn’t ready to date. A month later... I agreed to hang out with him. After hanging out a few times... I began to catch feelings. Told him how I was feeling and asked him how he feels about me. Whole dynamic changed.... like dude... you literally puppy dog eyed me the entire time I was dating someone else. I’m finally interested back... and you get weird? .... what’s the point if this is the way it works. Ugh. Ugh.
He's making you suffer the 2.5 years he wasted on you. It's payback time. And it's obsession. Not love. Love hurts. And most can't handle the pain. Did you discuss his feelings in those 2.5 years? Did he show his frustration openly?
Typical hunter mentality of men
@@Protestan88 No one asked him to.
@@carinaa.6394 I don't think he's being rational in his decision making. People do weird things when they're hurt and emotional.
It sounds like you mistreated him to be honest. He was wise to give you a taste of your own medicine.
Some men chase women just for the thrill of it...once that thrill wears off they move on to another.
Much like a child with a new toy.
Very well said, very true.
Good point..end of.
and women do
Christine Begg true
Yup
I've lost faith in men. Been hurt for so long I'm done :(
Cleo Muñiz ... sorry, Cleo. I think I'm about 5 years away from coming to that conclusion myself. But you know what, I can give up but I don't want to become bitter. I would give up just to avoid becoming bitter. And I'm the type that would turn bitter if I wasn't careful. You my friend, just sound so sad about it. I hope your heart heals.
Same here. I just use them for money now
You hurt yourself by allowing to be hurt.. If you noticed someone was bad for your kid you'd do ever thing in your power to watch out for then do that for yourself to hun stop neglecting yourself
Same
I feel you 😔
so..never let the man "catch you" but also "don't play games!" -- one big long game
Your skin isn’t paper don’t cut it
Your life isn’t a movie don’t end it
Your heart isn’t glass don’t let others brake it
Love your self 💕💕💕
My heart is glass after all the gaslighting and BS I’ve been out through. Everyone is different
Brian, I'm quitting on men. I can't stand all this walking on eggshells over flaky men.
Sinhah true its not fun i think rather than helping women he is turning them off men I guess 😂😂
This comment section turns me off. (M)
Brian I’m 63 years of age and I can’t believe man my age still are playing these games this is to much work
I met this guy 3 months ago and lately he calls me and our conversation are 5 min always answers the other line and always has something with his friends I’m so done
Amen!! I'm so tired of doing that because I'm so worried about if he's going to disappear or lose interest. Smh o well
Stop finding the wrong men lmao there’s many good ones out there you just got to find them.
But this is really hard when you like him a LOT ☹️
Let him go... simple
@@kajalbhagat75 no not simple
I knowww 😭
At first man are very good he is showing to me his activities sending me pictures of what he is doing the day his hobbies. Its like he is impressing me. Saying good morning. But later on he become lazy he will not sending messages anymore. Why all man like that. Only in the beginning you are good. So if man like that dont be excited and depends on that action beacuse it will not last for long time. Dont used to be in that first day because it only on first day the other day he will stop doing it.
Xylene Vera just stop texting him.
What do you bring to his life? Maybe he figures out how little that is...
Tell me one thing...
Because some women don't reciprocate. That is why us men, easily get bored if the woman don't answer back.
Ugh going threw it! Whatever i sent my last text yesterday i fell for all his BS ... now to forget him.
Too complicated... I'd rather stay alone.
Epic 😎
Bushra Nizam 😂😂
LMAOOOOOO! OMG. i really feel like that tho. i deserve to just be myself and get the man i like. this is tew mush.
It’s what you’ve been doing the whole time it’s just that roles are now reversed and there is attraction in the relationship
Agreed
Just because we stop chasing you, doesn't mean we don't like you. Sometimes we feel like the more we push, the worst things get along with some patience on your part. True showing interest is good for both sexes but sometimes leaving things to work themselves could be good for everyone in the end.
I ended up watching baseball which I thought was such a boring sport. It's alot funner when I'm watching it with him. Plus he gets so into it. I don't know how you guys remember all these details and player names and records and stats. It's amazing. Anyway it's a nice binding activity for us. Watching the game Every game. Guess I'm a Mets fan now lol
Oh and I forgot to add, hes been giving my Korean films a chance also. Which usually people think foreign eww.but their great
Good msg bottom line, keep your friends and life! Don’t make him your everything! He can be a big part but not everything!
So, you're basically saying relationships are just sport for some men. Therefore, he will never be satisfied.
Shanta Webb No. He's talking about men by nature. Unlike their grandparents, women today are so easy and pose no challenge to men they fail to excite or activate men's hunter's mode. When it comes to sex men find it so effortless to get them to bed they are like cheap items at dollar store. Even commitment is something men don't feel pressure to do anymore because they believe they can always move to the next easy and available, effortless woman they can have relationship with.
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@@maretvilla1531 Having a man chase you doesn't really depend on when you start having sex. It's how you let him treat you. That's the whole point of the video.
It. Always. More. Fish. In. The. Sea. Forget. Him....move. On.
Unfortunately it is a sport/game to men. Even when you’re married to them they still go out to chase other women. The relationship is not the game women are the game. THey see us as game or toy instead of a prize.
So if a man stops chasing me, it's MY fault that I didn't know how to play correctly?!
Many of your tips are nice, specially for the dating stage, but after a while, other things (should) take place and we can't be the mother/therapist/player the whole time, we're humans!
Well said
Exactlyyyyyy
yes! Man is not only his brain that released dopamin while chasing someone like an animal. We should get above this animality. Many men know what they want, a stable commited relationship, and those I want. Not those dopamine junkies...
I stopped chasing when i knew that our goals and dreams are different. It just didnt feel worth it anymore. 🤷
In love for you to be successful, use your own tactics.. These are just personal opinions....if both of you are mature and interested in each other.. It will happen naturally.. No chasing no running.. Period.
I absolutely loved this video👍👍👍 I came to this realization some time ago. This is a fact. I have a horrible tendency to fall quick but now when I see the man stop chasing I pull back, then the chase resumes😊 It's sad though that you can't just be yourself & go with the flow, you have to play tag to find love😖
Anyone, male or female, will be kind and pay attention to you if they care about being with you. Period.
It's about reciprocity. If the give and take isn't from both, one is codependent and the other is playing them.
If a man (or woman) doesn't come around equally, they've lost interest and you can discuss it to find out if this is just being preoccupied with life in general or if it's real disinterest.
I've learned you reep what you sow. People may need space once in a while and that can be expressed and respected. Respect yourself and the other. Be authentic. The chemistry will happen on its own if both parties are honest and respectful.
This cat and mouse game is for teenagers. I'm way past that.
How can you say don't play games when all of this is a damn game. It's ridiculous. You're absolutely right about the predatory nature to chase after the runner but damn women run for good reason. We give our time and love to the ones we value and run from the losers. So all I'm hearing is I'll be chased by the Narcissistic entitled losers, and I'm supposed to play hard to get with the one I value the most. This is emotional manipulation at it's finest and is so damaging. Dating this day in age is beyond stressful and a major turn off. That's why so many ppl are in uncommitted situations! The Fuckery!
This is the comment I have agreed the most in my life until now.
do true
Audrey Beckwith
Well said 👏
I agree 100%
Audrey Beckwith No I think the video is trying to say that you should give your time to just the guys you like and love and of course those are not losers but that doesn't mean you should give all your time to any man. In other words you should spend more time in you so when you devote time to loving your partner both people have the energy to give their best. You can't expect men to act like women because you will get bored with him in a minute as you want to date a male with masculine energy not another woman.
Audrey Beckwith exactly
I've always had ANY man I wanted - no issues. Always had to turn many away. Now it's totally different. Guys you FINALLY decide to like them back and make them very happy seem to run away and hide out. It's totally ridiculous. IF a man really likes you, making him "happy" shouldn't make him hide. Totally freaking ridiculous. You say it's not playing hard to get, but clearly it is.
Sounds like you're looking in the same places for men NOW as you were back THEN. That's not what you want, because the men from those "back then" places are players. You have to try and look in better places for better quality men, and give up those old places.
Men say they want one thing but it's not true. You can't give men everything they want, then they lose interest or leave. I've been with mine for 9 years cus I dont give him shit lol jk. I even said no to marriage and he's still here. Plain and simple, men will take you for granted when you, the dream girl, becomes a reality.
Wow that is so true. Very recently had a guy chasing me he has been for years. In May low and behold I fell in love with I am still in shock that happened. We decided to have a relationship now he is not treating me good at all. Missing for hours no communication for hours. Taking long to return my calls. I have shed enough tears over him i am really fed up. Indeed the dream girl has become a reality.
This is exactly true for me too. I'd go on a date and we'd like each other and then it was a relationship. Now? It's exactly like you described. It's disgusting.
Golden1 + He might actually be a Malignant Narcissist. They start off 'Lovebombing' you and then reject you and when you are about to disappear they Lovebomb you again. It's called the 'Sweet/Mean Cycle'. Your brain gets addicted to the chemical ups and downs and that's how they keep you hanging on. Narcissists are toxic, they are incapable of change, they cannot develop a conscience, which makes them extremely dangerous to your self-esteem, heart, health, bank-balance and soul.
Research Narcissism on TH-cam, then Run For The Hills and keep on running!
I don't like playing all of these games. Its so ridiculous! But I have seen that this seems to be the reality of relationships. Sad.
Value yourself instead of games. Well I must say that if a man ignores me for two weeks then I have already other plans. Two weeks is long time and everything can happen. I can already be on the road over two weeks traveling on the other country....(well actually happened)
This guy is the king of analogies. Well done :)
I wish someone had told me this when i was in my teen years!!
Me too!! Where was TH-cam university in 1997!! Think of all the losers I could have saved myself from dating!!?!!
Playing hard to get has NOTHING to do with REAL love. These advices are good for the beginning stages of "in love" games. But when and IF the REAL feeling happens, there is always a movement towards each other, in loving acts, in taking care, in desire to grow together, to put their partner as a priority.. It is never too much but always not enough time for each other. It is a movement from the surface to the depths of both. Because in REAL LOVE people realise how actually short their life is in order to express and experience the grandeur of that amazing feeling. These are signs that distinguish LOVE from simple gender games.
I wish my boyfriend was just happy and appreciate that he´s got me instead of becoming lazy. It makes me feel like I´m a lot less important to him. When he stopped the "chase", I panicked bc I thought there was something wrong or he didn´t like me as much anymore and then I was the one chasing him bc I was trying to hold on but I realised that he needs to come to me on his own free will. I realise that I should focus more on myself, selfgrowth and doing things that fulfil me and only give him as much attention as he gives me. My boyfriend is an amzing but I think he really is the hunter described in the video. I really hope whatever is going on with him/us is not bc his feelings have changed but if it is then there is nothing I can do but focus on myself as a person bc that is my best shot at getting him interested again and if it doesn´t work then it will hurt but it´s ok too bc I have already learnt a lot out of our relationship and have had great moments with him and the knowledge and the memories have enrichend me forever.
I discovered your channel today and am binge watching your videos since. Your kind of dry and intelligent humor and analogies crack me up 🤣
Can't wait for your new book by the end of this year, my life going so much better now.
Wow!! Such brilliant, powerful and valuable advice. I wish I had of found your channel earlier, as it would've saved me a lot of heartache with players and narcissists!!
I stopped texting him, not easy cuz I love him unconditionally. But, I won't force him to love me back..not possible. This woman is moving on hunny.
You got it!! NEVER PLAY HARD TO GET & LET HIM CHASE YOU!!👏👏
He's not your true soulmate...
Stella Ercolani there you said the truth hun
You explain it very well Brian. Even though I have heard this before, it will stick with me after listening how you explain. Thank you 😇
You are simply amazing, Brian Nox. Your understanding of man's psychology and your amazing way of explaining is incredible. Your videos enlighten me. Thank you.
Finally found a video that deals with something that happens before dating, at a FLIRTING stage, like for example at work places.
Well put. I learned this lesson and changed my behavior. My husband started to pay more attention to me. I was so available before attention wise, he told me I needed to go out more. So I did and our relationship is much sexier.
Sense of Peace nice 👍
I agree. My husband told Me too. I believe we both need space
Screw the cat and mouse games...I don't want to spend my life lonely manipulating men to chase me. At some point doesn't the chase need to end...I prefer openness and directness and if a guy is too much of a hunter then he's not my type. I like emotional intimacy and connection. All these chase and hunting analogies sound way to rapey for me. It makes me feel like a guy only wants to hook up with women who aren't really into it and don't fully like them. I would prefer a man who appreciates my love and kindness instead of taking it as the hunt is over and on to the next pursuit. If this is how guys think I need to just become a lesbian.
The game is exactly what many men's groups are promoting... endless chase and conquest to feel like 'the alpha male'. Committed and genuine men are mocked as 'betas'. and then single men cry that women only fall for 'bad boys'... Nope.
Feather
Lol 😂
I agree 100%
@Kris 999 That may be for some, however, there are men who complain that women are so happy and independent that they don't need men anymore... The best thing is to be authentic, admit your own needs, even at the risk of looking too needy. The right person is going to appreciate that, and that is all that matters.
Feather : Hey Feather, I am just like you. I am caring, spiritual, giving, sharing, compromise, 'adult' when it comes to relationships, to allow something to work. After out of choice being single for 8 years, 2 years back I decided to trial dating again. Never met anyone I wanted to see more than a second time. Last summer all that changed when I met unbeknown to me a 'Player' who I shared an incredible, unexpected spiritual bond connection with - even to his surprise he felt and experienced it! (Met on-line, over an hour apart.) I don't play games with people's emotions, I continued to be me: the giver/sharer. He pulled away and returned to his 'Player' ways. All I did was connect and be 'me' because I felt that was right. He was communicating seeing others, and stopped communicating with me. He'd respond to my texts once per week: claiming he was too busy with his 24/7 working hours, and then seeing his children at the weekend! Only met in person 3 times in total re his 'excuses' of too busy, had only a handful of telephone conversations, the rest of communication via text: mostly me. Every time I said I was walking, he'd hook me with a promised date, only to drop me 2 hours before. In total this went on for 6 months until I pulled the plug for good last week. I don't 'get' why people won't accept good things that come their way, and only want hard work. Life is stressful and difficult enough as it is. Love allows us to feel ease and happiness. Men should open up to the fact women aren't possessions to run after and acquire. Love isn't a business-deal to be closed. Women have more value - we are not business. Playing hard to get isn't the way: teaching if something is of value you have to work hard for it and chase it. If it flows to you easily, it's worthless. Societal/cultural conditioning: it's all still so out of kilter. Much Love, Anita xxxx
@@anitarogers2877 players always play, and will give you an STD. The connection you felt was clearly one sided or he would have stopped seeing other woman. Don't fool yourself into believing that he has feelings for you, don't waste your time move on
You said don’t play game, but your advice is advice of game.😜
Good observation...
When. A. Man. Stop...chasing. You? That. Means. He. Not. Interested. In. You .
Angela Meadows, 👍
Please make videos every week .... we really love it .... and you are totally right in this video that's what happened to me .... thanks for this video and please make more one time in week
Love is not about chasing anyone. When you are in love then things flow in their own way. You don't need to do much efforts or ask other one to do for you. Cuz you naturally do things to make your lover happy n if in any case you are doing less than also it doesn't seems less to your partner cuz they know efforts n love n honesty matters more n vice versa. No judgement, chasing or confusion.
The boar and hunter example was amazing! Thank you Brian!
A man chased me. He got me. We were seeing each other. Whenever I wanted to take the next step he didn't want to. We would stop talking. I'd move on. He would resurface. I'd get hooked again. He'd get bored. I'd move on again. He would resurface. Now I'm moving on with a man who wants me everyday. Who wants to show me off to his family. I don't have time for men who don't know what they want
I'm so sick of these immature games.... What about just being relaxed around each other?
His voice n energy is so calming. Ahhh I love it. ❤
I love the way u speek.. so positively.. speeking each and every word clearly.. confident.. u r literally a gud speaker and teacher.. love and blessings..
I thank you, Geertz, for your work. Your videos helps me not only in my dating life, but in the other parts of my life as well (not a surprising, but very delightful fact). I find that your words at the end of this video present a wholesome admonition for everybody of us. So, I'm profoundly grateful to you ). Natalya from Russia
This advice works! I did this years ago without any expert knowledge and I have been happily married for several years now. I look after my hubby and he looks after me. I also stay a little detached from him and I don’t go crazy with the lovey dovey stuff. He is always a bit worried that I might trade him for a better version. 😉 It’s good to keep them on their toes.
Helen Choudhury rule # 1 for men, never trust a woman who is really to cheat with you or leave another man for you. You will lose her the same way you got her. Also, you do have a expiration date on your look, you cannot trade up for over. There is always a younger better option around. A man can trade down to a younger and more attractive fertile woman as well. Just don’t play that game but man can play it too.
TBMamba24 TBMamba24 What you say applies to both men and women. As both are capable of cheating and both can attract younger and more energetic partners.
We need to move away from the sexist notions that women have a sell by date. If we believe that women are past it at a certain age than so are men.
Not all men can attract younger women and a lot of men do not look great after a certain age. Women, nowadays are more financially independent and have more freedom of choice.
I never mentioned cheating, playing games or trading in my hubby. It’s his fear that I might trade him for a better version. You may have misunderstood me.
We have been happily married for many years now and if what I do works for our marriage, can help other couples, and is not hurting anyone than there should be no problems. 🙂
Did Brian pay you for this?
Women, we grow up with the idea of having to put al lot of effort in what we do. For instance, we are natural givers and we also have multi-tasking, and throughout life we become much more aware and emotionally mature. I don't see what there is wrong in giving a lot to the man we love and to the relationship. And that doesn't mean necessarily giving up all of of our life or being needy. I really don't see the problem of a relationship in which two people both give a lot and value each other. If someone is afraid both to receive and give love, then they probably have some attachment or emotional issue. Instead of blaming the person that knows how to give and love without fear, they should face their own limitations. These videos are all about men picturing themselves like super secure and strong, while blaming women that if things don't work it's because they are insecure and needy. I am sorry to say this, but it is deviating and often disturbing. I think we are really missing the point of who has issues. Enough with all these strategy games. Instead, maybe start focusing on finding ways to coach and educate both women and men to emotional intelligence and affection, which is a human need, beyond these very limiting gender stereotypes. I think the world has changed by now
We’re at 2 yrs now. And my man still chases me and I chase him back😜so far all good👍🏻
Thank you. I am old fashioned and I think this is still good today. So many confusing videos today. I will love myself and stay a high value woman, concentrate on my life and not lose it in him. Confront any bad behavior from the start and stick to my values.
Good info! We are all so complicated! I like love to be straight forward not this chasing and running. Having self esteem and valuing oneself is very important for all. Not all men selfishly try to get away with taking advantage of a woman but if they do, I feel they are not worth having. Rather be alone. ;*)
I also agree we need to have good boundries. We train others how to treat us by having healthy boundries.
Absolutely brilliant. Priceless advice. Thank you
You are truly wonderful thank you i will remember not to feel guilty
My pride is my worth,
to not
loose my self .
I will listen to this over and over until i get it right🌺
I completely understand. dating is just getting to know a person, not dating as being in a relationship. You have to have a life too. Thank you.
Excellent advice. Ladies may not like to hear it but it’s true
I want to cry! He was chasing me for a long time and when I fall for him he just left! I really hate that!
Uyanga Battulga same here
I feel youu, me too:((
This has happened to me too. It's heartbreaking
Weĺl hes a fool. Not meaning to offend. And its good that he left. Cause you will meet a nice man who will treat so well.
Story of my Life :-)
Thank you for talking about the amazing high value women having blind spots to their mistakes in dating, I relate to this, this video really helps, I just wish I had watched this some time ago. I really love this and your channel, need to get the books!!
Brian your videos are really very helpful and Iike to listen to all of them. I get a lot of inspirations. Thank you and God bless you. Keep uploading more such videos 😊❤️
This new relationship, sometimes I wont answer his call. Or if I miss a call from him, I wont return his call EVER. He's so crazy in 💘 with me that the poor guy cant stand it!
wrong....in the wild, everything runs, nothing wants to be eaten, no one is doing it for fun.....
Susan Ralph
Great point 👏
Lol
Never heard such a nice explaining of this topic! Very nice explained!!!!
Brilliant! Thankyou for this. This makes so much sense. I have subscribed.
If he loses interest. I back off and move on. Simple as that.
It's simple when I get that "oh" moment.
Guys compartmentalize, they don't realize right away that women are a great addition to their lives, not just another responsibilty to compartmentalize. I back off (just wait for them to figure it out) while I Live My Life! They always come back! And even if they don't...who cares?! Lol
@kathryn T How do you back off ? My boyfriend of one year is acting cold and stopped replying to my messages
Kathryn T best advice right here!
Virginija R hi Virginia, can you give me a little bit more context? What led up to his going cold??
I actually don't know , we haven't seen each other for almost three weeks, maybe I nagged him to much how I want to see him, when he was busy during that time? Though I apologized for that... but on our date he said he didn't slept well, was annoyed and later on when he got very cold said he is tired. Though we had a lovely goodbye, we kissed and he held me in his arms before he left. At evening he cancelled our plans for the weekend says he has to work repairing the house. Then yesterday he complete ignored my messages. Don't know what to do...
Virginija R stop sending him messages and move on. Really move on.. get busy with something else. If he matters, he'll come back to you.. but you'll be busy. Don't reward his shitty behaviour with "I love you's" and "I miss you's". Tell him you have plans. Really have plans though... don't just say that. Go focus on you while he's focusing on whatever he's busy with.
Thank you so much. I appreciate all of your honesty and valuable information. Some people are misunderstanding you so thank you for your bravery!!
He has some very valuable and valid relationship thoughts to share. I use them. Some of us are listening to too many different relationship coaches and are now overwhelmed. Find one who ruffles your feathers or disturbs you a little with wisdom to offer and stick to them. Too many "cooks" (so to speak) spoil the soup. May God Bless us all in our ❤ healthy quest!!
Currently going through this and I never realized how much of myself I give up so quick... emotions and time being the biggest things I give up. Love really is blind :’(
I need to get it together!
Thanks for this video! 😊
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Real love still exist.
LINDA V Yes it still does and with real love comes from God first
@@8v71buses Both love and god are myths.
carultch Oh no 😱😨😰
Thank you so much Brian Nox! i needed to hear this today.
act as if you donot care about the outcome of the relationship even if you are nervous because you think you love him and if it does not work hes not the right guy for you just go on with your life and never surrender to your feelings
Never accept bad behavior, don’t initiate contact and allow him to hunt me … play hard to get because a good woman is hard to get… I was called a Tease (when I never teased him) or Stuck-Up for not giving them attention because I was focused on my career. The good men I did work with eventually ran when things got serious due to inner child wounds and insecurities. Insecurities due to not feeling enough. I was patient and supportive, the relationship was mature yet they ran… which I didn’t hesitate in waiting around as my time is too value to be tolerating bs. My mental health is a priority and a relationship shouldn’t be this difficult.. life is simple people make it difficult.
Thank you very much that is great advice neve forget how valuable we are if we don't value ourselves then who will. I love your videos
That makes so much sense....Moving forward I will remember this...
This was very helpful. Reminded me why I used to enjoy guys chasing me at school while I used to run away from them.