Can't teach what you don't know. Momma suffered too because grandma got married at 14 and didn't learn either. Fortunately, she didn't marry again after widowhood. Oh, but my mother married 5 times, last guy, she married twice. I learned from them. A smart woman learns from other women's mistakes.
@@rv1377 You might try a higher manifestation of abundance and love. Let your mind imagine it, let your heart feel everything you imagine. Talk to yourself the whole list of how it will feel. then go into public and watch what your energy automatically does for you. Feel your happiness of love inside, and your energy will exude it all around you. Don't ask anything from them, just feel their conversation and move on, go experience as many conversations as you can with others. Don't look for love, exude it and love will come to you.
I’m agree with Lili; that worked for me. But was really difficult to love my self with truth.simetimes we are think, yes, I love my self, I’m a very nice person but we are just waiting something else. When I found myself and when sincerely starts to think in what I want (for real) not the average things, then, this guy came to.
"1. Be a challenge, make him earn it every step of the way. 2. have a lot of self-respect. Always be your self-respecting, challenge-representing self all the time, no exceptions".
Amen on the standards! My date and I are currently a bit very busy and we don't communicate as much because of our schedule (I am in class when he is free and he is working when I am free, it's a bit hard) Yesterday after 4 days of no calling, just a bit of texting, he asked if we can talk on the phone. I was busy trying to catch my train and I was not about to wait 1 hour for my next one so I told him "I am running to my train, catch you later". He said "see you later". When I got in my train I asked how long he would be awake in case we could talk but he said "I don't know". Obviously I was a bit displeased and just responded with "let me know as soon as you know". He immediately responded with "tomorrow, before noon?" And I responded with a simple "we will see". He called me today and we had a normal conversation, no passive aggressiveness, no shade, nothing. Just two people talking about their days, some plans for the future and how we missed eachother (and he initiated the "I miss you")
👌🏽👌🏽👌🏽Thanks! For the knowledge and support Brian. Some people are raised up, some are dragged up, and some are beaten down. It's good having access to videos with sound advice, and good common sense, that's not so common.😘😘😘
I get it... It's just like raising a child. As A Mother, I want my Son to have everything he could ever want or need. I don't like saying no, but if I'm going to teach him how to be a well-rounded, Man, with a healthy way of thinking and treating people. I know I must tell him no sometimes and allow him to work hard for certain things he may want. I try to enstill the idea of "Once you walk out that front door, no one will treat you like your Mother has. You'll have to earn and show respect and give and show appreciation to others before they trust or Love you..." That's my job as A Mother. To be a great Teacher to my Son or any child I may know. Like my Nephews. It's also my job as an Auntie. We adults have to build a great foundation and set our children up for success!
I strongly agree. Not making any effort no way go away from me! Hahahahaha it happened to me although his good looking dude but not make any effort who are you?!! Lol “ chatting with him” Him: you wanna meet? Me: let me see on Saturday after my hiking! Him: okay. “ the next day” Him: Saturday I can’t meet, Friday I can. Me: nope do your things Goodluck! Him:okay “ end of story” Lol 😂 Watching from Australia Love your vid B 🥰😘💖🙏
That’s a little rude, don’t you think? I don’t know what the whole context of your conversation with him was, or what relationship you have with him, but from what you posted I have to say your response to him seems rather rude, demanding and immature. Sometimes you have to give someone a chance or the benefit of the doubt. A family function/emergency could have come up for him on Saturday. Do you expect him to cancel that and wait around for you to let him know whether or not you are bothered to meet him after your hike?
Hahahahaha just shut up cos u don’t know okay so don’t comment! U are rude here comment without knowing and I don’t have time to tell you the whole story so just shut up! Hahahahaha
Excellent video! I see so many women indiscriminately accepting "friend request" on FB from men until they have thousands of male friends. To seek attention, to gain popularity, etc... Then the virtual hearts and kisses start coming in from the wolves with every post she makes on her timeline, and gradually she reciprocates with hearts of her own. Then it's a chat onf FB messenger, then it's a date, not aware she 's turning herself into a low-value woman. I wish more women would watch this video!
Recently met a construction worker while walking through a construction site! He said how are you I said great! He then got socially distant he took his mask off, gorgeous man but apparently he only wanted to see what I looked like! We watched each other for a few seconds apparently he didn’t care to talk with me so I turned excused myself through his crew and continued my walk home! Don’t know what he did but I wasn’t going to stay and be stared at! Thanks Brian!
Don’t have any words to say this ..I appreciate so much for your video Brian Nox it’s like you read my mind the exact time I want it ..just today I was thinking way to find solutions to my relationship problem..am so lucky I can say you just pop up there 😃..I have learned alot from your video and still looking forward to play more to remind my self and some of character am glad I am making good bcse am actually in long relationships but still It helped alot and my relationships is going good and I don’t feel drained anymore just after watching ur videos ...😇
Hi Brian. You are wise, and I get a lot of useful insight from your videos. Thank you. Can you please make a video about a case in which my partner is so needy, anxious and overthinking, so he breaks up with me? We have been going out for 2 months, and I have been patient with his behavior. Because I like him. But he thinks I dont like him enough, and I dont react that much to his needy and anxious behavior. So he breaks up with me. Most videos discuss the opposite case, in which the dumper is a stable one, and the dumpee is the anxious one.
I love his advice. I know some girl who broke up with her fiance because he farted in front of her after she clearly instated to never do it. She warned him 3 times. Obviously idiot as he is, he tested her. Did it for the 4th time. She kicked him out. People may say "that is shallow" but for her it is not the farting itself. It is the words spoken by her that he ignored. Because thru small deeds like that if he cannot comply. Imagine if the situation is bigger than he can handle. It is called respect. Learn to listen to others. We want respect the same way. If we can't give it, then do not expect it. Is that simple.
I didn't sleep this guy has gone mad, suddenly switched on me. He is pushing me away, and does not want to talk about our problems he wants to continue like all is well.
this makes me so angry. This is exactly how guys act. I am very selective, so I often say no but they try to change my mind. I hate it and that makes me feel terrible. Because that never changes my mind and it feels like my opinions do not matter. But with the right guys, I want to say yes, but if I do, than they act like jerks. I don’t know what to do. It’s a paradox. Even if they earn my attention on the way, they start to act like they jerk as soon as I start to feel attracted to them. I don’t know how to describe their behaviors, but there is no way to show them I like them without making them losing interest/getting ego boost (I don’t know how to describe as I said). Do you have any suggestions?
I like a man who dresses up when meeting me...no shorts, wife beaters, tee shirts, and baseball caps...so if I say something, isn't it the same as a man complaining about the dress he doesn't like on me? Or this is a double-standard kind of thing where men can't say that but women can? Confused.
As an empath, why have them at all?🙄 They don't help put food on the table or pay bills, wtf?! I have come to understand what you said and had been rejected for the first time by a younger guy I fell in love with as a middle aged woman then realized he was trash. You can't turn it off once it is activated😔.
My mother taught me well while I was a young woman. She told me this and more. She noticed that men were looking at me when I was too young to date, so she schooled me about men early on! RESPECT yourself! You make the choice of how it goes. You are the treasure! Thanks for sharing. My friends and I have a saying...You may be alone while waiting on the right one but, you are not lonely or desperate! Love yourself and the rest will fall in place! 😊❤️
Great points. If girls had strong support, growing up, they would become women who were strong like those you mentioned. Sadly, too many don't and arrive in adulthood; bitter, confused and weak.
"When a woman is a challenge has a lot of self respect and very direct about her boundaries", the second he said that I couldn't help but smile i swear he was describing me... It felt so good to be appreciated for having those qualities instead of been constantly told that you think too much of yourself or you obnoxious etc . Thank You Brian
I really wish I had seen this video in my younger years.(I’m not that old, 32.) I spent a lot of my 20s giving myself away to men very quickly, but it wasn’t because I was a “whore.” It was because I wanted them to like me. This video explains why every time I did that with a man, a relationship never flourished. I hope a lot of women see this video because women should know that they are valuable and worthy and shouldn’t give themselves away to just any man, especially if the only reason is because you want them to like you. Don’t do that. Love and respect yourself like this video says. Don’t give yourself away to anyone who doesn’t deserve you.
That should be added to the questions to ask yourself, am I doing this to get something or in other words make him like me. If you ask yourself that throughout it will help you keep the balance and healthy standards.
Honestly I think it depends a lot in the man. If a man hasn't had that many experiences at all, let's say less than three, and he likes you, he won't care if you give in the first week. But men who have been with plenty and you give it to him in that same week, they will treat you like every other woman before even if he likes you. It's weird. But it's the truth
Women don't believe me when I tell them that men like challenges. I hope they will believe this video. Everything said in this video is true and I've seen it happening!
It's sad that my parents keep telling me that I should obey and do whatever they want me to do. They always tell me that how bad I am and always see the good things in others, the result is I have low self esteem. Even though I'm good looking and have many boys chase me, I don't know how to value and love myself. I tend to sell my self short because in the bottom of my heart I don't believe I deserve better. I ended up being with people who didn't love and respect me, it's just the reflection of how I feel about myself. I've learned it the hard way. P/s: Dear me, I'm sorry that it took so long but baby I love you, you deserve the best and never let anyone make you think differently.
Oh my gosh! Everything I’ve heard since discovering you on TH-cam, (and buying all your Audible books, so far), is already making massive changes inside of me. Not being taught to value and respect myself growing up, (in fact quite the opposite!), I never knew how to do that. I tried and tried to, but I couldn’t do it. I didn’t know how. I just felt like I was as worthless as a piece of garbage. What you are saying seems to be like the mirroring that a healthy father would do to his daughter to teach her to love herself and to truly believe, deep in the core of her being, that she is beautiful and a deeply valuable human being, who can believe that no matter what anyone else says. Wow. My insides just resonate so deeply and feel so nurtured by hearing this stuff. It’s like an old, hard, dried out sponge having water just poured out all over it, saturating it with nurturing life. Like a dead flower coming back to life and blooming. Thank you!
I got my husband tht way and must say it worked. I just let my self run on my own rules, definitely not rude but the self respect worked for me. It really works no matter how u look no matter how beautiful or not so beautiful u r but darling ur self respect definitely works.
I don't usually leave comments on youtube but I just had to. Thank you so much for doing what you do. You have such a wise and beautiful insights regarding humans' minds and behaviours. Your words always speak so much truth and wisdom. Your voice is always calming and reassuring. You have no idea how powerful your words are, they make us so much stronger and wiser mentally, emotionally. They strengthen our faith in Ourselves again. I'm sure you have changed so many lifes for the better. Thank you very much for Empowering us all women. I truly appreciate all your effort and everything that you do.
I love this! Thank you for the reminder to not fall into the needy trap. I started doing everything with my guy as I started falling for him and he started pushing me away. I saw your videos and reversed it, and let’s just say we are very happy now!!
Are you guys still happy? I have been a little needy, and trying to impress him kinda by cooking for him, giving him massages, etc., but I’m trying to pull back and wait for him to give instead of trying to please him. Hoping I can switch this.
Brian you're honestly so admirable. It's crazy how I sometimes sit back and already know everything you're explaining in these videos but still hearing it from another person is so powerful. When I watch your videos you really make me so confident in my choices. It's hard to explain and put into words. Sometimes in a hard positions you know your standards but I guess at times you can question them and watching your videos always remind me how important it is to never doubt your intuition.
Now I know why my bf chose me over prettier women out there. I remember he said that I am respectable and I respect him. :) Thank you Brian for this video. Your tips are all true when it comes to relationship. Of all love and relationship coach I have watch online, you are the most straightforward and realistic one. :) continue to inspire women all over the world. ♥
Always be a challenge 👍 make him earn every step of the way. Know your worth. Communicate it. Know that there are many men out there that would fight for your time & attention. Show your standards always. Do not fear being called "high maintenance" by your crush 😁 let him feel like a man, fighting for the relationship. If I have a ton of self-respect, what would I do now? Ask yourself...let thinking override feelings (my paraphrasing 😄)
If you’re trying to constantly play games with him and test him, if that’s what you mean by “challenge”, I doubt any man in his right mind will want to stick around.
Hi Brian, standards and self-respect are important, but can you get more into detail on how to be a challenge and still show availability so the guy does not loose interest thinking the Girl is not interested?
Geez, I am going to watch this a couple dozen times to thoroughly wash my brain..it so needs this rearrangement. I was imagining myself as the goddess you were describing and it definitely feels attainable even amidst the pangs of doubt. I have been her before, with this one guy I reeally liked. For about 2 weeks I was all sass, from that clear place of knowing-not trying for his sake, or at least I thought. And then, I reverted back out of some desire to "seize the moment" (fear of abandonment) because he was so strongly coming towards me. I fell for the bedazzlement. Oh brain 🤔😂
Brian, congratulations! This is by far the best video i've watched in years regarding to relationships. I thank you so much and appreciate the effort you constantly put in all the work you do. You give us the tools to build amazing relationships and to always show that we respect and love ourselves above anytbing else. I've improved so much my behavior in general and definitely my love life has changed for the better since i started watching this kind of videos. God bless you Brian... 👏👍
I love this message. All of this is so important. I have friends do the opposite of this and are miserable and depressed. Keep the self respect high ladies because we have to live with ourselves and self love is so necessary.
@@lydiajkessi3128 And that's why women divorce lol. 80% of divorces are initiated by women. I live in Denmark where there are more divorces than marriages and marriages don't last over 4 years on average. Many of these tips is only to play the mouse and the cat game and the fact that you can't be yourself and have to pretend to be a "challenge" just tells you everything you need to know about the dating scene. Reason why more and more women are only caring lately if the guy is 6 feet tall at least and has a house, a car and a stable job. Otherwise is a waste of time.
Heres the thing, men want a lady outside of the bedroom, if your easy peasy you aint a lady. Sames goes for men, if your a gentleman outside of the bedroom a woman who appreciates that is worth keeping.
Yes, I agree. I know don't care about pleasing a guy just because he thinks he is a catch. I want actions, work. And it works for me. I have beautiful relationship with my boyfriend now. He surely proved himself. 😊
his voice just so calming
Honestly I listen to this channel for ASMR
it really is haha
Whisper to me dzaddzy😂😋
Brian teaches women things that every mother should have taught her daughter from a young age.
Can't teach what you don't know. Momma suffered too because grandma got married at 14 and didn't learn either. Fortunately, she didn't marry again after widowhood. Oh, but my mother married 5 times, last guy, she married twice.
I learned from them. A smart woman learns from other women's mistakes.
exactly !!!!
@@rv1377 I learned one thing that brought a lot of success in my life is to be in love with myself. I do recommend you try that
@@rv1377 You might try a higher manifestation of abundance and love. Let your mind imagine it, let your heart feel everything you imagine. Talk to yourself the whole list of how it will feel. then go into public and watch what your energy automatically does for you. Feel your happiness of love inside, and your energy will exude it all around you. Don't ask anything from them, just feel their conversation and move on, go experience as many conversations as you can with others. Don't look for love, exude it and love will come to you.
I’m agree with Lili; that worked for me. But was really difficult to love my self with truth.simetimes we are think, yes, I love my self, I’m a very nice person but we are just waiting something else. When I found myself and when sincerely starts to think in what I want (for real) not the average things, then, this guy came to.
"1. Be a challenge, make him earn it every step of the way. 2. have a lot of self-respect. Always be your self-respecting, challenge-representing self all the time, no exceptions".
"He thinks getting her companionship requires a thumb and writing one simple sentence". Wow. Just, wow.
Amen on the standards! My date and I are currently a bit very busy and we don't communicate as much because of our schedule (I am in class when he is free and he is working when I am free, it's a bit hard)
Yesterday after 4 days of no calling, just a bit of texting, he asked if we can talk on the phone. I was busy trying to catch my train and I was not about to wait 1 hour for my next one so I told him "I am running to my train, catch you later". He said "see you later". When I got in my train I asked how long he would be awake in case we could talk but he said "I don't know". Obviously I was a bit displeased and just responded with "let me know as soon as you know". He immediately responded with "tomorrow, before noon?" And I responded with a simple "we will see". He called me today and we had a normal conversation, no passive aggressiveness, no shade, nothing. Just two people talking about their days, some plans for the future and how we missed eachother (and he initiated the "I miss you")
I hope everything worked out between you two
He is so real and humbling. Great Guy.
Brian, being a man you are teaching these very important things to women..... I really adore you and respect a lot !! God bless you!
Been watching videos like this and you gave the most mature advice so far. Thanks! I needed to hear this.
The way you lay it out clear as day is the best way to convey these crucial guidelines to our life
You probably have heard this before but love so much when you pronounce your name, such a beautiful name 😊
Thank you Brian. Just in time. Très apprécié.
👌🏽👌🏽👌🏽Thanks! For the knowledge and support Brian. Some people are raised up, some are dragged up, and some are beaten down. It's good having access to videos with sound advice, and good common sense, that's not so common.😘😘😘
I get it... It's just like raising a child. As A Mother, I want my Son to have everything he could ever want or need. I don't like saying no, but if I'm going to teach him how to be a well-rounded, Man, with a healthy way of thinking and treating people. I know I must tell him no sometimes and allow him to work hard for certain things he may want.
I try to enstill the idea of "Once you walk out that front door, no one will treat you like your Mother has. You'll have to earn and show respect and give and show appreciation to others before they trust or Love you..."
That's my job as A Mother. To be a great Teacher to my Son or any child I may know. Like my Nephews. It's also my job as an Auntie. We adults have to build a great foundation and set our children up for success!
That's an interesting way to explain it. Thank you.
Currently learning to set boundaries so this video was really helpful right now
love you Mr .NOx....thank you so much...love your videos...
You are amazing!Unlike many others, you do not teach playing games but you give very powerful advice by which noone loses his or her decency.
I like the way your voice sounds. Makes it appealing to listen to.
Never forget this!
You deserve more subscriber.. You earn my respect. Thank you!
Brian Knox, you are amazing!
Excellent Video Brian.
Thank you!!!! 🙏🏻😃👌🏻
Couldn’t stand the fact that there were 799 comments, so: Thank you, great videos!💫
I strongly agree. Not making any effort no way go away from me! Hahahahaha it happened to me although his good looking dude but not make any effort who are you?!! Lol
“ chatting with him”
Him: you wanna meet?
Me: let me see on Saturday after my hiking!
Him: okay.
“ the next day”
Him: Saturday I can’t meet, Friday I can.
Me: nope do your things Goodluck!
Him:okay
“ end of story”
Lol 😂
Watching from Australia
Love your vid B 🥰😘💖🙏
Elizabeth Flores 😂😂😂
Lol. How about next time you let the man go the extra mile to choose the day and then you say yes or no. Just saying
That’s a little rude, don’t you think? I don’t know what the whole context of your conversation with him was, or what relationship you have with him, but from what you posted I have to say your response to him seems rather rude, demanding and immature.
Sometimes you have to give someone a chance or the benefit of the doubt. A family function/emergency could have come up for him on Saturday. Do you expect him to cancel that and wait around for you to let him know whether or not you are bothered to meet him after your hike?
Hahahahaha just shut up cos u don’t know okay so don’t comment! U are rude here comment without knowing and I don’t have time to tell you the whole story so just shut up! Hahahahaha
Elle Kay If he was interested, he would’ve showed up. Interested men show up, we never need to make excuses for them
Thank you very much for so much good advice.I really appreciate it.Thank you 😁
I love your videos! You are a great coach!! Especially this video
Excellent video! I see so many women indiscriminately accepting "friend request" on FB from men until they have thousands of male friends. To seek attention, to gain popularity, etc... Then the virtual hearts and kisses start coming in from the wolves with every post she makes on her timeline, and gradually she reciprocates with hearts of her own. Then it's a chat onf FB messenger, then it's a date, not aware she 's turning herself into a low-value woman. I wish more women would watch this video!
Recently met a construction worker while walking through a construction site! He said how are you I said great! He then got socially distant he took his mask off, gorgeous man but apparently he only wanted to see what I looked like! We watched each other for a few seconds apparently he didn’t care to talk with me so I turned excused myself through his crew and continued my walk home! Don’t know what he did but I wasn’t going to stay and be stared at! Thanks Brian!
Don’t have any words to say this ..I appreciate so much for your video Brian Nox it’s like you read my mind the exact time I want it ..just today I was thinking way to find solutions to my relationship problem..am so lucky I can say you just pop up there 😃..I have learned alot from your video and still looking forward to play more to remind my self and some of character am glad I am making good bcse am actually in long relationships but still It helped alot and my relationships is going good and I don’t feel drained anymore just after watching ur videos ...😇
This was really good advice that I need right now lol.
Thanks
Great advice. Love your videos ❤
Thanks for your video!
Valuable. Very valuable!
You're amazing.
Wow how come i never saw ur videos before?! U're.soooooo good!!
Thank you so much. I needed these tips.
Wisdom. A rare commodity
I have found my man!...u!....u..u..exceptionally good...u are...
Really good advice
I think I need to heighten my standards... 😝 Love these suggestions! Thank you! 🌟🙌
Thank you
Thx u brian
Best advice ever
love this video.
Thank u so much
I'm your new subscriber Brian and happy valentines day to you. 🌹
So wait what you’re trying to tell me is that... IM ALREADY A FREAKING CHALLENGE?? I’m difficult?? 😂😂 I’m so dead
Gracie B lol 🤣
Is that applicable for a husband and wife relationship?
Hi Brian. You are wise, and I get a lot of useful insight from your videos. Thank you. Can you please make a video about a case in which my partner is so needy, anxious and overthinking, so he breaks up with me? We have been going out for 2 months, and I have been patient with his behavior. Because I like him. But he thinks I dont like him enough, and I dont react that much to his needy and anxious behavior. So he breaks up with me. Most videos discuss the opposite case, in which the dumper is a stable one, and the dumpee is the anxious one.
so TRUE .....SO TRUE
You are the best!
I love him!💗💗💗💗💗
I love his advice.
I know some girl who broke up with her fiance because he farted in front of her after she clearly instated to never do it.
She warned him 3 times.
Obviously idiot as he is, he tested her. Did it for the 4th time.
She kicked him out.
People may say "that is shallow" but for her it is not the farting itself. It is the words spoken by her that he ignored.
Because thru small deeds like that if he cannot comply.
Imagine if the situation is bigger than he can handle.
It is called respect.
Learn to listen to others. We want respect the same way.
If we can't give it, then do not expect it.
Is that simple.
I didn't sleep this guy has gone mad, suddenly switched on me. He is pushing me away, and does not want to talk about our problems he wants to continue like all is well.
OMG you are so amazing
I have so many girlfriends who are going through this turmoil... and need help.... me too LOL... you are a gift.
I agree 100%
Love yourself first.
I love you
this makes me so angry. This is exactly how guys act. I am very selective, so I often say no but they try to change my mind. I hate it and that makes me feel terrible. Because that never changes my mind and it feels like my opinions do not matter. But with the right guys, I want to say yes, but if I do, than they act like jerks. I don’t know what to do. It’s a paradox. Even if they earn my attention on the way, they start to act like they jerk as soon as I start to feel attracted to them. I don’t know how to describe their behaviors, but there is no way to show them I like them without making them losing interest/getting ego boost (I don’t know how to describe as I said). Do you have any suggestions?
I WISH i knew all of this years ago.
In a one year you´ll may wish, that you´ll never knew those "advices". Who knows. :)
I like a man who dresses up when meeting me...no shorts, wife beaters, tee shirts, and baseball caps...so if I say something, isn't it the same as a man complaining about the dress he doesn't like on me? Or this is a double-standard kind of thing where men can't say that but women can? Confused.
“Don't let anyone treat you like free salsa. You are guac, baby girl. Guac.”
Rebecca Williams i love this. I also love guac
@@margaritam.9118 Guac is green honey
Ha, I despise both salsa and guacamole !
Rebecca Williams Lol!!
LMAO, that's a good one!
Having good boundaries and self-respect are so important for a healthy relationship.
Sad something so fundamental has to be taught to adults nowadays.
Men are so complicated all this makes me so exhausted.
Seriously!
👍
Right?! And men cry that women are complicated ughh.
@@astridkate5328 .
He is just telling you to have some standards...its an important principle in life in general.
Our emotions completely blinds us from thinking wisely .
As an empath, why have them at all?🙄 They don't help put food on the table or pay bills, wtf?! I have come to understand what you said and had been rejected for the first time by a younger guy I fell in love with as a middle aged woman then realized he was trash. You can't turn it off once it is activated😔.
@@Freespiritedqueen hhhh-hhh
Don't ask from a man to say that he loves you, let him show you .
My mother taught me well while I was a young woman. She told me this and more. She noticed that men were looking at me when I was too young to date, so she schooled me about men early on! RESPECT yourself! You make the choice of how it goes. You are the treasure! Thanks for sharing. My friends and I have a saying...You may be alone while waiting on the right one but, you are not lonely or desperate! Love yourself and the rest will fall in place! 😊❤️
Wait, wait... HE WASN'T INVITING ME OVER TO PLAY MONOPOLY?!!!
I love this!
Courtney Shatley 😂😂😂😂😂
But he IS going to teach me how to play backgammon!
😂😂😂
Laughing
Stay classy and never accept mediocre behaviour from men. Self-respect makes no room for bs
👍🏽💯💯👏🏽
Great points. If girls had strong support, growing up, they would become women who were strong like those you mentioned. Sadly, too many don't and arrive in adulthood; bitter, confused and weak.
💯TRUTH
My mother taught me that a woman is worthless without a man. Thanks, mom.
@@karenwalkersginglass Yikes!
@@karenwalkersginglass so did mine...she said I NEEDED one🤣!
@@karenwalkersginglass OH...you are most definitely NOT worthless😎!
In short, if he is doing level 1, don't give him level 10! 1 deserves 1
👏🏽👏🏽made that mistake, never again!
If he ask for time ...give him a watch!!! 😂😂😂😂😂⭐❤
Be sure it is a Rolex :p
I was going to say Fossil.
@@faraheluasghiri5738 nah sis...a mickey mouse one. Don't go buying or giving them expensive ones, we keep that kind the Rolexes!😁
Never respond to low invest
Thank you, following you I left my narcissist boyfriend and I have a date on Sunday with someone new! Thank you 💖💖💕
my daughter in law was narcissist marry for 4 months that is the end of his marriage.
@@espo1848 I hope you son finds the freedom he deserves 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
I once dated a narc too, leaving was the best thing ever. I am so happy for you and hope everything goes well with the new man.
Woohoo thank you xxx
How did your date go hun 💕💕
"When a woman is a challenge has a lot of self respect and very direct about her boundaries", the second he said that I couldn't help but smile i swear he was describing me... It felt so good to be appreciated for having those qualities instead of been constantly told that you think too much of yourself or you obnoxious etc . Thank You Brian
I really wish I had seen this video in my younger years.(I’m not that old, 32.) I spent a lot of my 20s giving myself away to men very quickly, but it wasn’t because I was a “whore.” It was because I wanted them to like me. This video explains why every time I did that with a man, a relationship never flourished. I hope a lot of women see this video because women should know that they are valuable and worthy and shouldn’t give themselves away to just any man, especially if the only reason is because you want them to like you. Don’t do that. Love and respect yourself like this video says. Don’t give yourself away to anyone who doesn’t deserve you.
your right,dear!
I ditto this, Amy. I didn't do "young" very well. It took a long time to learn. These videos by Brian are really putting things in perspective.
That should be added to the questions to ask yourself, am I doing this to get something or in other words make him like me. If you ask yourself that throughout it will help you keep the balance and healthy standards.
Haha, sure ,sure .
Honestly I think it depends a lot in the man. If a man hasn't had that many experiences at all, let's say less than three, and he likes you, he won't care if you give in the first week. But men who have been with plenty and you give it to him in that same week, they will treat you like every other woman before even if he likes you.
It's weird. But it's the truth
Women don't believe me when I tell them that men like challenges. I hope they will believe this video. Everything said in this video is true and I've seen it happening!
Can you give examples of these challenges??
Let him invest on you ( Value ).
Self love , self respect ( integrity ).
It's sad that my parents keep telling me that I should obey and do whatever they want me to do. They always tell me that how bad I am and always see the good things in others, the result is I have low self esteem. Even though I'm good looking and have many boys chase me, I don't know how to value and love myself. I tend to sell my self short because in the bottom of my heart I don't believe I deserve better. I ended up being with people who didn't love and respect me, it's just the reflection of how I feel about myself. I've learned it the hard way.
P/s: Dear me, I'm sorry that it took so long but baby I love you, you deserve the best and never let anyone make you think differently.
Do men like Brian still exist?
Omg you are really the best. I fell for a “low investment, inconsiderate punk” 😶 never again
JUST ONE???
Oh my gosh! Everything I’ve heard since discovering you on TH-cam, (and buying all your Audible books, so far), is already making massive changes inside of me.
Not being taught to value and respect myself growing up, (in fact quite the opposite!), I never knew how to do that. I tried and tried to, but I couldn’t do it. I didn’t know how. I just felt like I was as worthless as a piece of garbage.
What you are saying seems to be like the mirroring that a healthy father would do to his daughter to teach her to love herself and to truly believe, deep in the core of her being, that she is beautiful and a deeply valuable human being, who can believe that no matter what anyone else says.
Wow. My insides just resonate so deeply and feel so nurtured by hearing this stuff. It’s like an old, hard, dried out sponge having water just poured out all over it, saturating it with nurturing life. Like a dead flower coming back to life and blooming. Thank you!
@ Elise English such a valid and beautiful comment.. I hear you completely 🤩😍
I got my husband tht way and must say it worked. I just let my self run on my own rules, definitely not rude but the self respect worked for me. It really works no matter how u look no matter how beautiful or not so beautiful u r but darling ur self respect definitely works.
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How do you run on your own rules without appearing rude?
@@Sue6420 good question. I would like to know too …. Cuz then you would come across as a bitch no?
@@Sue6420 by being assertive instead of negative and aggressive.
@@adrianavilchez2706 by being assertive instead of negative and aggressive.
I don't usually leave comments on youtube but I just had to. Thank you so much for doing what you do. You have such a wise and beautiful insights regarding humans' minds and behaviours. Your words always speak so much truth and wisdom. Your voice is always calming and reassuring. You have no idea how powerful your words are, they make us so much stronger and wiser mentally, emotionally. They strengthen our faith in Ourselves again. I'm sure you have changed so many lifes for the better. Thank you very much for Empowering us all women. I truly appreciate all your effort and everything that you do.
I ditto this to Brian. I couldn't have said it better.
Well said. Thank you.
I love this! Thank you for the reminder to not fall into the needy trap. I started doing everything with my guy as I started falling for him and he started pushing me away. I saw your videos and reversed it, and let’s just say we are very happy now!!
Are you guys still happy? I have been a little needy, and trying to impress him kinda by cooking for him, giving him massages, etc., but I’m trying to pull back and wait for him to give instead of trying to please him. Hoping I can switch this.
Brian you're honestly so admirable. It's crazy how I sometimes sit back and already know everything you're explaining in these videos but still hearing it from another person is so powerful. When I watch your videos you really make me so confident in my choices. It's hard to explain and put into words. Sometimes in a hard positions you know your standards but I guess at times you can question them and watching your videos always remind me how important it is to never doubt your intuition.
Now I know why my bf chose me over prettier women out there. I remember he said that I am respectable and I respect him. :) Thank you Brian for this video. Your tips are all true when it comes to relationship. Of all love and relationship coach I have watch online, you are the most straightforward and realistic one. :) continue to inspire women all over the world. ♥
Always be a challenge 👍 make him earn every step of the way.
Know your worth. Communicate it. Know that there are many men out there that would fight for your time & attention.
Show your standards always. Do not fear being called "high maintenance" by your crush 😁 let him feel like a man, fighting for the relationship.
If I have a ton of self-respect, what would I do now? Ask yourself...let thinking override feelings (my paraphrasing 😄)
Can we be a challenge even in our marriage? Sometimes our spouses forget our value
yes and start going out dressing sexy (clsssy) without him
If you’re trying to constantly play games with him and test him, if that’s what you mean by “challenge”, I doubt any man in his right mind will want to stick around.
@@lovebeyondthemoon5232 why? To try and make him jealous?
I would say that the short answer here is, yes. Marriage actually requires the same or MORE respect over the long haul. It’s not a stopping point.
Hi Brian, standards and self-respect are important, but can you get more into detail on how to be a challenge and still show availability so the guy does not loose interest thinking the Girl is not interested?
Yeah we need that please
Read the book called "The Rules".
@@cubbylax3696,
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@@Drayton627 who's the author?
Where are these guys who wrestle tigers and spend an entire paycheck to fly to see me? Haha 😂
They don’t exist 😂😂😂
Geez, I am going to watch this a couple dozen times to thoroughly wash my brain..it so needs this rearrangement. I was imagining myself as the goddess you were describing and it definitely feels attainable even amidst the pangs of doubt. I have been her before, with this one guy I reeally liked. For about 2 weeks I was all sass, from that clear place of knowing-not trying for his sake, or at least I thought. And then, I reverted back out of some desire to "seize the moment" (fear of abandonment) because he was so strongly coming towards me. I fell for the bedazzlement. Oh brain 🤔😂
Ya'll give this gentelman a medal
Nohaila Eyas'sb 🥇
YES! So true Brian. Women have more power than they think over men. I LOVE this. ♥️♥️♥️
Brian, congratulations! This is by far the best video i've watched in years regarding to relationships. I thank you so much and appreciate the effort you constantly put in all the work you do. You give us the tools to build amazing relationships and to always show that we respect and love ourselves above anytbing else. I've improved so much my behavior in general and definitely my love life has changed for the better since i started watching this kind of videos. God bless you Brian... 👏👍
I love this message. All of this is so important. I have friends do the opposite of this and are miserable and depressed. Keep the self respect high ladies because we have to live with ourselves and self love is so necessary.
So ladies....let's remember to always be a challenge! That's what keeps them interested.
I dnt believe in this stuff what abt After marriage it is impossible to stay a challenge for ever u need to choose a good guy
@@lydiajkessi3128 And that's why women divorce lol. 80% of divorces are initiated by women. I live in Denmark where there are more divorces than marriages and marriages don't last over 4 years on average.
Many of these tips is only to play the mouse and the cat game and the fact that you can't be yourself and have to pretend to be a "challenge" just tells you everything you need to know about the dating scene.
Reason why more and more women are only caring lately if the guy is 6 feet tall at least and has a house, a car and a stable job. Otherwise is a waste of time.
Heres the thing, men want a lady outside of the bedroom, if your easy peasy you aint a lady. Sames goes for men, if your a gentleman outside of the bedroom a woman who appreciates that is worth keeping.
Yes, I agree. I know don't care about pleasing a guy just because he thinks he is a catch. I want actions, work. And it works for me. I have beautiful relationship with my boyfriend now. He surely proved himself. 😊