"1. Be a challenge, make him earn it every step of the way. 2. have a lot of self-respect. Always be your self-respecting, challenge-representing self all the time, no exceptions".
My mother taught me well while I was a young woman. She told me this and more. She noticed that men were looking at me when I was too young to date, so she schooled me about men early on! RESPECT yourself! You make the choice of how it goes. You are the treasure! Thanks for sharing. My friends and I have a saying...You may be alone while waiting on the right one but, you are not lonely or desperate! Love yourself and the rest will fall in place! 😊❤️
"When a woman is a challenge has a lot of self respect and very direct about her boundaries", the second he said that I couldn't help but smile i swear he was describing me... It felt so good to be appreciated for having those qualities instead of been constantly told that you think too much of yourself or you obnoxious etc . Thank You Brian
Can't teach what you don't know. Momma suffered too because grandma got married at 14 and didn't learn either. Fortunately, she didn't marry again after widowhood. Oh, but my mother married 5 times, last guy, she married twice. I learned from them. A smart woman learns from other women's mistakes.
@@rv1377 You might try a higher manifestation of abundance and love. Let your mind imagine it, let your heart feel everything you imagine. Talk to yourself the whole list of how it will feel. then go into public and watch what your energy automatically does for you. Feel your happiness of love inside, and your energy will exude it all around you. Don't ask anything from them, just feel their conversation and move on, go experience as many conversations as you can with others. Don't look for love, exude it and love will come to you.
I’m agree with Lili; that worked for me. But was really difficult to love my self with truth.simetimes we are think, yes, I love my self, I’m a very nice person but we are just waiting something else. When I found myself and when sincerely starts to think in what I want (for real) not the average things, then, this guy came to.
Great points. If girls had strong support, growing up, they would become women who were strong like those you mentioned. Sadly, too many don't and arrive in adulthood; bitter, confused and weak.
Oh my gosh! Everything I’ve heard since discovering you on TH-cam, (and buying all your Audible books, so far), is already making massive changes inside of me. Not being taught to value and respect myself growing up, (in fact quite the opposite!), I never knew how to do that. I tried and tried to, but I couldn’t do it. I didn’t know how. I just felt like I was as worthless as a piece of garbage. What you are saying seems to be like the mirroring that a healthy father would do to his daughter to teach her to love herself and to truly believe, deep in the core of her being, that she is beautiful and a deeply valuable human being, who can believe that no matter what anyone else says. Wow. My insides just resonate so deeply and feel so nurtured by hearing this stuff. It’s like an old, hard, dried out sponge having water just poured out all over it, saturating it with nurturing life. Like a dead flower coming back to life and blooming. Thank you!
I got my husband tht way and must say it worked. I just let my self run on my own rules, definitely not rude but the self respect worked for me. It really works no matter how u look no matter how beautiful or not so beautiful u r but darling ur self respect definitely works.
Brian you're honestly so admirable. It's crazy how I sometimes sit back and already know everything you're explaining in these videos but still hearing it from another person is so powerful. When I watch your videos you really make me so confident in my choices. It's hard to explain and put into words. Sometimes in a hard positions you know your standards but I guess at times you can question them and watching your videos always remind me how important it is to never doubt your intuition.
I love this! Thank you for the reminder to not fall into the needy trap. I started doing everything with my guy as I started falling for him and he started pushing me away. I saw your videos and reversed it, and let’s just say we are very happy now!!
Are you guys still happy? I have been a little needy, and trying to impress him kinda by cooking for him, giving him massages, etc., but I’m trying to pull back and wait for him to give instead of trying to please him. Hoping I can switch this.
As an empath, why have them at all?🙄 They don't help put food on the table or pay bills, wtf?! I have come to understand what you said and had been rejected for the first time by a younger guy I fell in love with as a middle aged woman then realized he was trash. You can't turn it off once it is activated😔.
I love this message. All of this is so important. I have friends do the opposite of this and are miserable and depressed. Keep the self respect high ladies because we have to live with ourselves and self love is so necessary.
I don't usually leave comments on youtube but I just had to. Thank you so much for doing what you do. You have such a wise and beautiful insights regarding humans' minds and behaviours. Your words always speak so much truth and wisdom. Your voice is always calming and reassuring. You have no idea how powerful your words are, they make us so much stronger and wiser mentally, emotionally. They strengthen our faith in Ourselves again. I'm sure you have changed so many lifes for the better. Thank you very much for Empowering us all women. I truly appreciate all your effort and everything that you do.
I really wish I had seen this video in my younger years.(I’m not that old, 32.) I spent a lot of my 20s giving myself away to men very quickly, but it wasn’t because I was a “whore.” It was because I wanted them to like me. This video explains why every time I did that with a man, a relationship never flourished. I hope a lot of women see this video because women should know that they are valuable and worthy and shouldn’t give themselves away to just any man, especially if the only reason is because you want them to like you. Don’t do that. Love and respect yourself like this video says. Don’t give yourself away to anyone who doesn’t deserve you.
That should be added to the questions to ask yourself, am I doing this to get something or in other words make him like me. If you ask yourself that throughout it will help you keep the balance and healthy standards.
Honestly I think it depends a lot in the man. If a man hasn't had that many experiences at all, let's say less than three, and he likes you, he won't care if you give in the first week. But men who have been with plenty and you give it to him in that same week, they will treat you like every other woman before even if he likes you. It's weird. But it's the truth
It's sad that my parents keep telling me that I should obey and do whatever they want me to do. They always tell me that how bad I am and always see the good things in others, the result is I have low self esteem. Even though I'm good looking and have many boys chase me, I don't know how to value and love myself. I tend to sell my self short because in the bottom of my heart I don't believe I deserve better. I ended up being with people who didn't love and respect me, it's just the reflection of how I feel about myself. I've learned it the hard way. P/s: Dear me, I'm sorry that it took so long but baby I love you, you deserve the best and never let anyone make you think differently.
Women don't believe me when I tell them that men like challenges. I hope they will believe this video. Everything said in this video is true and I've seen it happening!
Amen on the standards! My date and I are currently a bit very busy and we don't communicate as much because of our schedule (I am in class when he is free and he is working when I am free, it's a bit hard) Yesterday after 4 days of no calling, just a bit of texting, he asked if we can talk on the phone. I was busy trying to catch my train and I was not about to wait 1 hour for my next one so I told him "I am running to my train, catch you later". He said "see you later". When I got in my train I asked how long he would be awake in case we could talk but he said "I don't know". Obviously I was a bit displeased and just responded with "let me know as soon as you know". He immediately responded with "tomorrow, before noon?" And I responded with a simple "we will see". He called me today and we had a normal conversation, no passive aggressiveness, no shade, nothing. Just two people talking about their days, some plans for the future and how we missed eachother (and he initiated the "I miss you")
This is the one male with advice for woman I really really like. Not at all condescending, doesn't try to tell us we need to contort our lives around the eccentricities or egos of men...quite the opposite, he guides us towards valuing ourselves. Thank you Brian Nox!
Geez, I am going to watch this a couple dozen times to thoroughly wash my brain..it so needs this rearrangement. I was imagining myself as the goddess you were describing and it definitely feels attainable even amidst the pangs of doubt. I have been her before, with this one guy I reeally liked. For about 2 weeks I was all sass, from that clear place of knowing-not trying for his sake, or at least I thought. And then, I reverted back out of some desire to "seize the moment" (fear of abandonment) because he was so strongly coming towards me. I fell for the bedazzlement. Oh brain 🤔😂
Brian: This is, bar none, THE best video on the World Wide Web. #1 primer for young girls entering the dating minefield, as well as women of all ages. It’s never too late, Ladies, for a mind-check. On a personal note, I said “Buh-Bye” to a former love interest 6 months ago. He first attempted to ‘Friend Zone’ me. Plan B was playing the “I need space” card. Both scenarios: I shut him down and showed him the door. This video should be MANDATORY VIEWING for every female on the planet. Thank you, Brian!
Now I know why my bf chose me over prettier women out there. I remember he said that I am respectable and I respect him. :) Thank you Brian for this video. Your tips are all true when it comes to relationship. Of all love and relationship coach I have watch online, you are the most straightforward and realistic one. :) continue to inspire women all over the world. ♥
Now I know what I've done wrong, oh... my entire life! And I've already sworn off men a few years ago because I got tired of being hurt. Thank you for sharing your knowledge, I'm sure you've helped so many people. God bless you.
His voice is so soothing, I want him to read me a book and or sing a song to me. His partner for sure is blessed with someone this relaxing. Sigh. I love the sound of his real name though, I wonder where it is from.
Brian, you give such valuable, reasonable, understandable information in all your videos. What you talk about should be put into middle school curriculum and taught to ALL girls BEFORE they start getting in relationships with boys. If I had know even a fraction of this 20 years ago I could have saved myself a lot of heartache. I’m so happy to have discovered you...better late than never. Thank you for enlightening me and so many women. Lots of love to you 🥰
Always be a challenge 👍 make him earn every step of the way. Know your worth. Communicate it. Know that there are many men out there that would fight for your time & attention. Show your standards always. Do not fear being called "high maintenance" by your crush 😁 let him feel like a man, fighting for the relationship. If I have a ton of self-respect, what would I do now? Ask yourself...let thinking override feelings (my paraphrasing 😄)
Brian, congratulations! This is by far the best video i've watched in years regarding to relationships. I thank you so much and appreciate the effort you constantly put in all the work you do. You give us the tools to build amazing relationships and to always show that we respect and love ourselves above anytbing else. I've improved so much my behavior in general and definitely my love life has changed for the better since i started watching this kind of videos. God bless you Brian... 👏👍
I'm in a relationship for about a year now it was very deep until I forgot myself to please his bossy attitude it didn't serve at all. At the moment when I understood I have to be the first priority I become a challenge again. Thank you Brian for making this video it helps me a lot about the confidence I have to acquire to save my relationship.
I ❤️ your videos. You have such a unique, communicable, deep way of getting your message across. They make me GET IT. And such important content. You're helping the world to value and experience true love. Very admirable.
You are so good at descriptive euphemisms.... very humorous and enlightening. You make me chuckle and have a great manner of delivering the point to your discussion. Many thanks.
I have watched 3 of your videos today. They were very effective in helping me to understand where I have been going wrong. Thank you for your gentle delivery of the facts along with clear examples. Many talk about this subject but they are just not believable. Thank you again Brian Knox.
Thank you for this and reminding us even when we catch a feeling we still need to remind ourselves not to make it too easy for him. Bit hard but it's worth it.
Hey! I have been married for 27 years but I love watching your videos. Having always been in an all girls school, I didn't understand much about guys. Mine is a more or less arranged marriage. I sometimes use your advice in my marriage too.
@@a.marvellehoneyman4560 Oh its good! I'd be lying if I said it was smooth sailing. I think it's the mental preparedness. We go in with very low expectations from our partners. The guy works to earn a living and the girls takes care of the house and kids. If the girl works, then tasks get divided.
Thank you! I'm in love and normally put a man first. I'm remembering to put my life, my job, my happiness first. It's paying off because I see more effort to show me I'm valued. Respecting myself helps show that I'm not co-dependent or a door mat. I'm worth respect and effort.
Now I watch all your videos Brian. 😁 I feel like were talking in person and you're giving me lessons. Your voice is so comforting esp what im feeling right now. You gain a subscriber 😊
I get it... It's just like raising a child. As A Mother, I want my Son to have everything he could ever want or need. I don't like saying no, but if I'm going to teach him how to be a well-rounded, Man, with a healthy way of thinking and treating people. I know I must tell him no sometimes and allow him to work hard for certain things he may want. I try to enstill the idea of "Once you walk out that front door, no one will treat you like your Mother has. You'll have to earn and show respect and give and show appreciation to others before they trust or Love you..." That's my job as A Mother. To be a great Teacher to my Son or any child I may know. Like my Nephews. It's also my job as an Auntie. We adults have to build a great foundation and set our children up for success!
You don't need to thank us for watching... We Thank you!! for all of this important and crucial knowledge that you share so simply with us!! Really helpful.!!
Hi Brian, standards and self-respect are important, but can you get more into detail on how to be a challenge and still show availability so the guy does not loose interest thinking the Girl is not interested?
Thank you so much Brian .. You always speaks the truth .. I heard this kind of advice from my grandma its classic but never gets old.. Now , I am happily married with my husband.
If you’re trying to constantly play games with him and test him, if that’s what you mean by “challenge”, I doubt any man in his right mind will want to stick around.
Strange! I texted a guy yesterday saying hi ans hope all is well he never replied till a few hours ago. He replied but I felt zero investment. Thank goodness I had the presence of mind to tell myself you know what he isnt interested or playing games and in general his text does not deserve you to write hik back.
Thank you, Brian. I've seen most of your videos I can say and this is my favorite for sure, I have never thought about this strategies before, love you❤
This is SUCH a good video and advice.. I always put my needs before theirs (considering this is a man I barely know no matter how hard he makes my heart beat), and I always leave with my self-respect intact, and I garner respect from men. They only seem to try harder to make me like them..
I have a long distance boyfriend, and I know I have shown him how I like him so much. I always make time for him, telling him that I aways missed him, and everything. But just last night, I was hurt. This is not the first, but I always believe his explanation and accept his apology. He asked not to talk to me because he got some problem and he wants to be alone but he promised to make it up for me. I understand he has problem and wants some space, but the thought hurts me that he asked me some space. I feel bad about myself. Am I not a good companion for him? Am I rather a disturbance for him ? Can I not make him forget his problem? He keeps on saying he loves me and I Iove him so much. But, I just blocked him. This video is just right for me, if he don't need me, why would I stay for him. Now that he ask for space, I gave him all that - forever. It's painful, and I will miss him alot, but I have to let him go. He doesn't worth my time, so much for my love. I deserve better. ... but still this is he'll so painful. Part of me wants him back, but the other have had enough. I had already cried for him, and will never cry again... hopefully
@@Музейка Right. I hate myself. I fail. Hhh he tested me back and ask for apology. I don't know but I can't let him go. I don't want to regret it. For now I'll keep him with me, I'll just accept whatever happens later. I just love him. It's true you're out of control if it's about love. We're now back together. Thanks for the reply. Appreciated it.
@@songlyrics3101 I'm happy for you, and what not a little jealous because I wish I can see the guy that i just fell in love with around xmas. He just broke up with me and I'm pregnant by him he dont want the baby and I'm not ready to be a mum I'm so scared and sick.. he said if I abort the baby he will see me again.. he is a liar!
JOLIE Bee Im sorry to hear that. If someone leave us dont come back, that means they dont deserve our love. Dont worry, you will find someone better. Who knows the reason is you prayed for the best person, and he is not. Gog knows always the best for us. Just believe, everything will be fine.
Yes, I agree. I know don't care about pleasing a guy just because he thinks he is a catch. I want actions, work. And it works for me. I have beautiful relationship with my boyfriend now. He surely proved himself. 😊
I love his advice that I press the 👍 button, watch his videos to the end and watch all his ads plus bought his book on amazon. That’s how I appreciate his wisdom🥰🙏
you are my saviors for being a doormate to a toxic man. thank you so much for making this subject...i have learned what your message is to us ! very very accurate ! 🖒🖒🖒🖒
You know what all these techniques also do to you ? Make you feel like you're failing every time some of these things do not work. As if you were not enough, and always had to work to get into a relationship or be respected and valued for who you are... Don't misunderstand me, I understand the value of these techniques and coaches, and I really appreciate it because it's accurate... I have respect for their implication. But be careful to not start feeling like you're always failing a test, as if it was your fault because you didn't know how to apply this best. Thank you, I hope you all here have a beautiful day.
Maybe I’m just listening to this at the perfect time but I this is the best relationship advice I’ve ever heard. I watched all my videos and you helped me get my self esteem back
"1. Be a challenge, make him earn it every step of the way. 2. have a lot of self-respect. Always be your self-respecting, challenge-representing self all the time, no exceptions".
Having good boundaries and self-respect are so important for a healthy relationship.
Sad something so fundamental has to be taught to adults nowadays.
My mother taught me well while I was a young woman. She told me this and more. She noticed that men were looking at me when I was too young to date, so she schooled me about men early on! RESPECT yourself! You make the choice of how it goes. You are the treasure! Thanks for sharing. My friends and I have a saying...You may be alone while waiting on the right one but, you are not lonely or desperate! Love yourself and the rest will fall in place! 😊❤️
"When a woman is a challenge has a lot of self respect and very direct about her boundaries", the second he said that I couldn't help but smile i swear he was describing me... It felt so good to be appreciated for having those qualities instead of been constantly told that you think too much of yourself or you obnoxious etc . Thank You Brian
Congrats on sending the punks packing 🎉
Brian teaches women things that every mother should have taught her daughter from a young age.
Can't teach what you don't know. Momma suffered too because grandma got married at 14 and didn't learn either. Fortunately, she didn't marry again after widowhood. Oh, but my mother married 5 times, last guy, she married twice.
I learned from them. A smart woman learns from other women's mistakes.
exactly !!!!
@@rv1377 I learned one thing that brought a lot of success in my life is to be in love with myself. I do recommend you try that
@@rv1377 You might try a higher manifestation of abundance and love. Let your mind imagine it, let your heart feel everything you imagine. Talk to yourself the whole list of how it will feel. then go into public and watch what your energy automatically does for you. Feel your happiness of love inside, and your energy will exude it all around you. Don't ask anything from them, just feel their conversation and move on, go experience as many conversations as you can with others. Don't look for love, exude it and love will come to you.
I’m agree with Lili; that worked for me. But was really difficult to love my self with truth.simetimes we are think, yes, I love my self, I’m a very nice person but we are just waiting something else. When I found myself and when sincerely starts to think in what I want (for real) not the average things, then, this guy came to.
his voice just so calming
Honestly I listen to this channel for ASMR
it really is haha
Whisper to me dzaddzy😂😋
Great points. If girls had strong support, growing up, they would become women who were strong like those you mentioned. Sadly, too many don't and arrive in adulthood; bitter, confused and weak.
💯TRUTH
My mother taught me that a woman is worthless without a man. Thanks, mom.
@@karenwalkersginglass Yikes!
@@karenwalkersginglass so did mine...she said I NEEDED one🤣!
@@karenwalkersginglass OH...you are most definitely NOT worthless😎!
Oh my gosh! Everything I’ve heard since discovering you on TH-cam, (and buying all your Audible books, so far), is already making massive changes inside of me.
Not being taught to value and respect myself growing up, (in fact quite the opposite!), I never knew how to do that. I tried and tried to, but I couldn’t do it. I didn’t know how. I just felt like I was as worthless as a piece of garbage.
What you are saying seems to be like the mirroring that a healthy father would do to his daughter to teach her to love herself and to truly believe, deep in the core of her being, that she is beautiful and a deeply valuable human being, who can believe that no matter what anyone else says.
Wow. My insides just resonate so deeply and feel so nurtured by hearing this stuff. It’s like an old, hard, dried out sponge having water just poured out all over it, saturating it with nurturing life. Like a dead flower coming back to life and blooming. Thank you!
@ Elise English such a valid and beautiful comment.. I hear you completely 🤩😍
“Don't let anyone treat you like free salsa. You are guac, baby girl. Guac.”
Rebecca Williams i love this. I also love guac
@@margaritam.9118 Guac is green honey
Ha, I despise both salsa and guacamole !
Rebecca Williams Lol!!
LMAO, that's a good one!
I got my husband tht way and must say it worked. I just let my self run on my own rules, definitely not rude but the self respect worked for me. It really works no matter how u look no matter how beautiful or not so beautiful u r but darling ur self respect definitely works.
kritika jeffrine
How do you run on your own rules without appearing rude?
@@Sue6420 good question. I would like to know too …. Cuz then you would come across as a bitch no?
@@Sue6420 by being assertive instead of negative and aggressive.
@@adrianavilchez2706 by being assertive instead of negative and aggressive.
Brian you're honestly so admirable. It's crazy how I sometimes sit back and already know everything you're explaining in these videos but still hearing it from another person is so powerful. When I watch your videos you really make me so confident in my choices. It's hard to explain and put into words. Sometimes in a hard positions you know your standards but I guess at times you can question them and watching your videos always remind me how important it is to never doubt your intuition.
I love this! Thank you for the reminder to not fall into the needy trap. I started doing everything with my guy as I started falling for him and he started pushing me away. I saw your videos and reversed it, and let’s just say we are very happy now!!
Are you guys still happy? I have been a little needy, and trying to impress him kinda by cooking for him, giving him massages, etc., but I’m trying to pull back and wait for him to give instead of trying to please him. Hoping I can switch this.
If he ask for time ...give him a watch!!! 😂😂😂😂😂⭐❤
Be sure it is a Rolex :p
I was going to say Fossil.
@@faraheluasghiri5738 nah sis...a mickey mouse one. Don't go buying or giving them expensive ones, we keep that kind the Rolexes!😁
Don't ask from a man to say that he loves you, let him show you .
Our emotions completely blinds us from thinking wisely .
As an empath, why have them at all?🙄 They don't help put food on the table or pay bills, wtf?! I have come to understand what you said and had been rejected for the first time by a younger guy I fell in love with as a middle aged woman then realized he was trash. You can't turn it off once it is activated😔.
@@Freespiritedqueen hhhh-hhh
Thank you, following you I left my narcissist boyfriend and I have a date on Sunday with someone new! Thank you 💖💖💕
my daughter in law was narcissist marry for 4 months that is the end of his marriage.
@@espo1848 I hope you son finds the freedom he deserves 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
I once dated a narc too, leaving was the best thing ever. I am so happy for you and hope everything goes well with the new man.
Woohoo thank you xxx
How did your date go hun 💕💕
I love this message. All of this is so important. I have friends do the opposite of this and are miserable and depressed. Keep the self respect high ladies because we have to live with ourselves and self love is so necessary.
I don't usually leave comments on youtube but I just had to. Thank you so much for doing what you do. You have such a wise and beautiful insights regarding humans' minds and behaviours. Your words always speak so much truth and wisdom. Your voice is always calming and reassuring. You have no idea how powerful your words are, they make us so much stronger and wiser mentally, emotionally. They strengthen our faith in Ourselves again. I'm sure you have changed so many lifes for the better. Thank you very much for Empowering us all women. I truly appreciate all your effort and everything that you do.
I ditto this to Brian. I couldn't have said it better.
Well said. Thank you.
I really wish I had seen this video in my younger years.(I’m not that old, 32.) I spent a lot of my 20s giving myself away to men very quickly, but it wasn’t because I was a “whore.” It was because I wanted them to like me. This video explains why every time I did that with a man, a relationship never flourished. I hope a lot of women see this video because women should know that they are valuable and worthy and shouldn’t give themselves away to just any man, especially if the only reason is because you want them to like you. Don’t do that. Love and respect yourself like this video says. Don’t give yourself away to anyone who doesn’t deserve you.
your right,dear!
I ditto this, Amy. I didn't do "young" very well. It took a long time to learn. These videos by Brian are really putting things in perspective.
That should be added to the questions to ask yourself, am I doing this to get something or in other words make him like me. If you ask yourself that throughout it will help you keep the balance and healthy standards.
Haha, sure ,sure .
Honestly I think it depends a lot in the man. If a man hasn't had that many experiences at all, let's say less than three, and he likes you, he won't care if you give in the first week. But men who have been with plenty and you give it to him in that same week, they will treat you like every other woman before even if he likes you.
It's weird. But it's the truth
Let him invest on you ( Value ).
Self love , self respect ( integrity ).
Men are so complicated all this makes me so exhausted.
Seriously!
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Right?! And men cry that women are complicated ughh.
@@astridkate5328 .
He is just telling you to have some standards...its an important principle in life in general.
It's sad that my parents keep telling me that I should obey and do whatever they want me to do. They always tell me that how bad I am and always see the good things in others, the result is I have low self esteem. Even though I'm good looking and have many boys chase me, I don't know how to value and love myself. I tend to sell my self short because in the bottom of my heart I don't believe I deserve better. I ended up being with people who didn't love and respect me, it's just the reflection of how I feel about myself. I've learned it the hard way.
P/s: Dear me, I'm sorry that it took so long but baby I love you, you deserve the best and never let anyone make you think differently.
Women don't believe me when I tell them that men like challenges. I hope they will believe this video. Everything said in this video is true and I've seen it happening!
Can you give examples of these challenges??
He is so real and humbling. Great Guy.
Amen on the standards! My date and I are currently a bit very busy and we don't communicate as much because of our schedule (I am in class when he is free and he is working when I am free, it's a bit hard)
Yesterday after 4 days of no calling, just a bit of texting, he asked if we can talk on the phone. I was busy trying to catch my train and I was not about to wait 1 hour for my next one so I told him "I am running to my train, catch you later". He said "see you later". When I got in my train I asked how long he would be awake in case we could talk but he said "I don't know". Obviously I was a bit displeased and just responded with "let me know as soon as you know". He immediately responded with "tomorrow, before noon?" And I responded with a simple "we will see". He called me today and we had a normal conversation, no passive aggressiveness, no shade, nothing. Just two people talking about their days, some plans for the future and how we missed eachother (and he initiated the "I miss you")
I hope everything worked out between you two
This is the one male with advice for woman I really really like. Not at all condescending, doesn't try to tell us we need to contort our lives around the eccentricities or egos of men...quite the opposite, he guides us towards valuing ourselves. Thank you Brian Nox!
Stay classy and never accept mediocre behaviour from men. Self-respect makes no room for bs
👍🏽💯💯👏🏽
Brian what you’re saying is so hard when you are so into the guy but it is still so true what you are saying. You have opened my eyes. Thank you
Geez, I am going to watch this a couple dozen times to thoroughly wash my brain..it so needs this rearrangement. I was imagining myself as the goddess you were describing and it definitely feels attainable even amidst the pangs of doubt. I have been her before, with this one guy I reeally liked. For about 2 weeks I was all sass, from that clear place of knowing-not trying for his sake, or at least I thought. And then, I reverted back out of some desire to "seize the moment" (fear of abandonment) because he was so strongly coming towards me. I fell for the bedazzlement. Oh brain 🤔😂
Brian: This is, bar none, THE best video on the World Wide Web. #1 primer for young girls entering the dating minefield, as well as women of all ages. It’s never too late, Ladies, for a mind-check. On a personal note, I said “Buh-Bye” to a former love interest 6 months ago. He first attempted to ‘Friend Zone’ me. Plan B was playing the “I need space” card. Both scenarios: I shut him down and showed him the door. This video should be MANDATORY VIEWING for every female on the planet. Thank you, Brian!
Now I know why my bf chose me over prettier women out there. I remember he said that I am respectable and I respect him. :) Thank you Brian for this video. Your tips are all true when it comes to relationship. Of all love and relationship coach I have watch online, you are the most straightforward and realistic one. :) continue to inspire women all over the world. ♥
Now I know what I've done wrong, oh... my entire life! And I've already sworn off men a few years ago because I got tired of being hurt. Thank you for sharing your knowledge, I'm sure you've helped so many people. God bless you.
My father would always give me great advice similar to this and after he passed away a few years ago, I didn’t have anyone to remind me. Thanks!
His voice is so soothing, I want him to read me a book and or sing a song to me.
His partner for sure is blessed with someone this relaxing. Sigh.
I love the sound of his real name though, I wonder where it is from.
YES! So true Brian. Women have more power than they think over men. I LOVE this. ♥️♥️♥️
Brian, you give such valuable, reasonable, understandable information in all your videos. What you talk about should be put into middle school curriculum and taught to ALL girls BEFORE they start getting in relationships with boys. If I had know even a fraction of this 20 years ago I could have saved myself a lot of heartache. I’m so happy to have discovered you...better late than never.
Thank you for enlightening me and so many women. Lots of love to you 🥰
Brian, being a man you are teaching these very important things to women..... I really adore you and respect a lot !! God bless you!
"He thinks getting her companionship requires a thumb and writing one simple sentence". Wow. Just, wow.
Always be a challenge 👍 make him earn every step of the way.
Know your worth. Communicate it. Know that there are many men out there that would fight for your time & attention.
Show your standards always. Do not fear being called "high maintenance" by your crush 😁 let him feel like a man, fighting for the relationship.
If I have a ton of self-respect, what would I do now? Ask yourself...let thinking override feelings (my paraphrasing 😄)
Never respond to low invest
Thanks, this video just boosted my confidence back as I was about to loose it! Back to normal now. Cheers!
I seriously want to see a video with you and Matthew Hussey. You guys taught me so much. Thank you!
In short, if he is doing level 1, don't give him level 10! 1 deserves 1
👏🏽👏🏽made that mistake, never again!
Brian, congratulations! This is by far the best video i've watched in years regarding to relationships. I thank you so much and appreciate the effort you constantly put in all the work you do. You give us the tools to build amazing relationships and to always show that we respect and love ourselves above anytbing else. I've improved so much my behavior in general and definitely my love life has changed for the better since i started watching this kind of videos. God bless you Brian... 👏👍
I'm in a relationship for about a year now it was very deep until I forgot myself to please his bossy attitude it didn't serve at all. At the moment when I understood I have to be the first priority I become a challenge again. Thank you Brian for making this video it helps me a lot about the confidence I have to acquire to save my relationship.
Ya'll give this gentelman a medal
Nohaila Eyas'sb 🥇
You are the best sir! I owe you... God bless you.
Thank you for being such a great influence .
I ❤️ your videos. You have such a unique, communicable, deep way of getting your message across. They make me GET IT. And such important content. You're helping the world to value and experience true love. Very admirable.
Wait, wait... HE WASN'T INVITING ME OVER TO PLAY MONOPOLY?!!!
I love this!
Courtney Shatley 😂😂😂😂😂
But he IS going to teach me how to play backgammon!
😂😂😂
Laughing
You are so good at descriptive euphemisms.... very humorous and enlightening. You make me chuckle and have a great manner of delivering the point to your discussion. Many thanks.
Thanks for sharing this valuable information. I messed up. I’ll start over with another, but first, focus on myself & my goals.
I have watched 3 of your videos today. They were very effective in helping me to understand where I have been going wrong. Thank you for your gentle delivery of the facts along with clear examples. Many talk about this subject but they are just not believable. Thank you again Brian Knox.
Thank you for this and reminding us even when we catch a feeling we still need to remind ourselves not to make it too easy for him. Bit hard but it's worth it.
Thank you so much, this is exactly what I need to hear right now.
Been watching videos like this and you gave the most mature advice so far. Thanks! I needed to hear this.
You probably have heard this before but love so much when you pronounce your name, such a beautiful name 😊
Excellent! I've been telling my kids this for years!
Thank you Brian for your education to teach us women to be better ourself and prevent a lot of heart ache in the future God bless you Brian.
Hey!
I have been married for 27 years but I love watching your videos. Having always been in an all girls school, I didn't understand much about guys. Mine is a more or less arranged marriage. I sometimes use your advice in my marriage too.
How’s your arranged marriage going? I’m so intrigued by that. ❤️
@@a.marvellehoneyman4560 Oh its good! I'd be lying if I said it was smooth sailing.
I think it's the mental preparedness. We go in with very low expectations from our partners. The guy works to earn a living and the girls takes care of the house and kids. If the girl works, then tasks get divided.
Thank you so much for these brilliant videos.
Thank you! I'm in love and normally put a man first. I'm remembering to put my life, my job, my happiness first. It's paying off because I see more effort to show me I'm valued.
Respecting myself helps show that I'm not co-dependent or a door mat. I'm worth respect and effort.
And One After Midnight yes!
Now I watch all your videos Brian. 😁 I feel like were talking in person and you're giving me lessons. Your voice is so comforting esp what im feeling right now. You gain a subscriber 😊
I get it... It's just like raising a child. As A Mother, I want my Son to have everything he could ever want or need. I don't like saying no, but if I'm going to teach him how to be a well-rounded, Man, with a healthy way of thinking and treating people. I know I must tell him no sometimes and allow him to work hard for certain things he may want.
I try to enstill the idea of "Once you walk out that front door, no one will treat you like your Mother has. You'll have to earn and show respect and give and show appreciation to others before they trust or Love you..."
That's my job as A Mother. To be a great Teacher to my Son or any child I may know. Like my Nephews. It's also my job as an Auntie. We adults have to build a great foundation and set our children up for success!
That's an interesting way to explain it. Thank you.
Thanks Brian, always very helpful! Stay blessed!
You don't need to thank us for watching... We Thank you!! for all of this important and crucial knowledge that you share so simply with us!! Really helpful.!!
Hi Brian, standards and self-respect are important, but can you get more into detail on how to be a challenge and still show availability so the guy does not loose interest thinking the Girl is not interested?
Yeah we need that please
Read the book called "The Rules".
@@cubbylax3696,
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@@Drayton627 who's the author?
Your voice is so soothing.
Thank you so much Brian .. You always speaks the truth .. I heard this kind of advice from my grandma its classic but never gets old.. Now , I am happily married with my husband.
Can we be a challenge even in our marriage? Sometimes our spouses forget our value
yes and start going out dressing sexy (clsssy) without him
If you’re trying to constantly play games with him and test him, if that’s what you mean by “challenge”, I doubt any man in his right mind will want to stick around.
@@lovebeyondthemoon5232 why? To try and make him jealous?
I would say that the short answer here is, yes. Marriage actually requires the same or MORE respect over the long haul. It’s not a stopping point.
I always love your videos. Thank you so much!!! These are really valuable lessons...
You make so much sense. Thank you
Strange! I texted a guy yesterday saying hi ans hope all is well he never replied till a few hours ago. He replied but I felt zero investment. Thank goodness I had the presence of mind to tell myself you know what he isnt interested or playing games and in general his text does not deserve you to write hik back.
Oh yeah, you know everything now
than what happened did he texted u again
Thank you Brian. Just in time. Très apprécié.
Do men like Brian still exist?
So helpful as I am working on improving my boundaries. Thanks ☺️
I love you Brian knox . you are such a genius. thank you for your wise and informative videos
Awesome I just what I think too, learned it the hard way lol we most love and value ourselves enough to take anything for love
You talk my mind.. appreciate your efforts in helping high quality women 👍
The BEST advice ever, thank you Brian.
Thank you, Brian. I've seen most of your videos I can say and this is my favorite for sure, I have never thought about this strategies before, love you❤
The way you lay it out clear as day is the best way to convey these crucial guidelines to our life
This is SUCH a good video and advice.. I always put my needs before theirs (considering this is a man I barely know no matter how hard he makes my heart beat), and I always leave with my self-respect intact, and I garner respect from men. They only seem to try harder to make me like them..
Omg you are really the best. I fell for a “low investment, inconsiderate punk” 😶 never again
JUST ONE???
I have a long distance boyfriend, and I know I have shown him how I like him so much. I always make time for him, telling him that I aways missed him, and everything. But just last night, I was hurt. This is not the first, but I always believe his explanation and accept his apology. He asked not to talk to me because he got some problem and he wants to be alone but he promised to make it up for me. I understand he has problem and wants some space, but the thought hurts me that he asked me some space. I feel bad about myself. Am I not a good companion for him? Am I rather a disturbance for him ? Can I not make him forget his problem? He keeps on saying he loves me and I Iove him so much. But, I just blocked him. This video is just right for me, if he don't need me, why would I stay for him. Now that he ask for space, I gave him all that - forever. It's painful, and I will miss him alot, but I have to let him go. He doesn't worth my time, so much for my love. I deserve better.
... but still this is he'll so painful. Part of me wants him back, but the other have had enough.
I had already cried for him, and will never cry again... hopefully
Be strong x
I understand your pain . I have been in same situation as you . It hurts you very bad . But it will go away be strong
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Right. I hate myself. I fail. Hhh he tested me back and ask for apology. I don't know but I can't let him go. I don't want to regret it.
For now I'll keep him with me, I'll just accept whatever happens later. I just love him. It's true you're out of control if it's about love. We're now back together. Thanks for the reply. Appreciated it.
@@songlyrics3101 I'm happy for you, and what not a little jealous because I wish I can see the guy that i just fell in love with around xmas. He just broke up with me and I'm pregnant by him he dont want the baby and I'm not ready to be a mum I'm so scared and sick.. he said if I abort the baby he will see me again.. he is a liar!
JOLIE Bee Im sorry to hear that. If someone leave us dont come back, that means they dont deserve our love. Dont worry, you will find someone better. Who knows the reason is you prayed for the best person, and he is not. Gog knows always the best for us. Just believe, everything will be fine.
Yes, I agree. I know don't care about pleasing a guy just because he thinks he is a catch. I want actions, work. And it works for me. I have beautiful relationship with my boyfriend now. He surely proved himself. 😊
You r the best I have ever heard... thank you so much.... this is really how it is !!
I love his advice that I press the 👍 button, watch his videos to the end and watch all his ads plus bought his book on amazon. That’s how I appreciate his wisdom🥰🙏
Geert, it’s hilarious how you incorporate turtles and tigers into relationships 💪🏻. LOVE IT😃
You are helping me soo much ! Thank you for sharing your gift !😘
you are my saviors for being a doormate to a toxic man.
thank you so much for making this subject...i have learned what your message is to us !
very very accurate ! 🖒🖒🖒🖒
You know what all these techniques also do to you ? Make you feel like you're failing every time some of these things do not work. As if you were not enough, and always had to work to get into a relationship or be respected and valued for who you are... Don't misunderstand me, I understand the value of these techniques and coaches, and I really appreciate it because it's accurate... I have respect for their implication. But be careful to not start feeling like you're always failing a test, as if it was your fault because you didn't know how to apply this best. Thank you, I hope you all here have a beautiful day.
I'm binge watching all of your amazing videos!!! Love this thanks ❤
Great one! Stick to your boundaries!
Wow, thank you so much for the positive read. I am starting my own business in April and I am manifesting a new love life. Namaste. LOVE
You are amazing!Unlike many others, you do not teach playing games but you give very powerful advice by which noone loses his or her decency.
Totally makes sense! Thank you!
Maybe I’m just listening to this at the perfect time but I this is the best relationship advice I’ve ever heard. I watched all my videos and you helped me get my self esteem back
This is very true ! I like your video because I am very confident and I don’t tolerate any bs from any men
Im on this stage already and loving it