Don't doctors and midwives know the anatomy of the pelvis since they went to school? If they do, then why do they still force people to be on their backs?? 😢
Baby is easier to catch. Many best practices in healthcare are not to prioritize the comfort or safety of the patient but to minimize the risk for providers.
They explained to me as a good way to control and delay the pushing stage since this will help you minimize tears. The technique is to push slowly with warm towels against your anus and vaginal opening. I’m not a doctor this is how it was explained to me.
Thank you sis 🙏am just 41 weeks pregnant now insha allah i will give birth very soon &i think this video is helpful for me for safe delivery pleas pray for a safest delivery for me 🙏
I am a Dr. but my OB and staff don’t know and even I am nervous about telling them what I am comfortable with on delivery day. So far I have respectfully declined some unnecessary procedures and not only did they lie to me so I would comply but they made me feel uncomfortable or that I am a problem. I can’t imagine what it’s like to be a patient who specializes in another field outside of healthcare.
Good job on declining what you are uncomfortable with. They shouldn't have to know your title or profession to respect your decisions. It's shameful that they would lie or fearmonger ANY woman. It happens WAYYY too often because they assume everyone is uneducated...but, not here in this camp. You becoming educated and knowing how to advocate for yourself will pay off at birth. Rooting for you, mama!
Hello! I’m a Dr. too and even though my OB knows I’mma doctor I’m scared to be completly honest with her and tell her I want a VBAC cause I know she will refuse, I’m thinking to trying to train myself
Thank you so much for this video! I wish I would’ve had this information 2 years ago. I was induced at 38 weeks and had a 4th degree tear. My provider said I have pelvic floor dysfunction.. I’m still experiencing discomfort some days are worse than other days .. I’m glad I came across your videos. You have such a beautiful family. ♥️
This is so wild to me. As soon as I hit 10 cm my nurse said let's start pushing immediately. My first OB appointment this go round I asked if I would have to push on my back because the trauma from my last birth was awful from being forced to do so. I was told it's up to the provider. This doesn't seem right
Hey! I would say try to advocate as much as possible. At the end of the day, your provider isn’t the one giving birth. Unless you have an epidural, you absolutely do not have to be forced on your back. A big reason why I’m going to try to avoid an epidural is bc I want to be able to get on my knees. Fight like hell if you need to, don’t let some doctor make you feel like you can’t give birth. You were born to do this mama!
this was a very eye opening video for me. I wish I had this knowledge before but trust I'm determined this go round to go for what's best for me. I truly thank you for these videos.
This is a very common experience in hospitals. It's really unfortunate but not required for you to do again. You should consider another provider that supports your overall goals and learn how to advocate for yourself this time around. You can do it and I can support you through it!
There’s patient led pushing and there’s provider led pushing. You have a choice despite the fact the system does not present it that way. Your body, your birth!
@@LourdesSavage Too bad they start threatening you with a c section if you don't push in our local hospitals. Especially if they're low on beds. But I agree we have to push back!
Thank you for providing these tips for the new and older moms. It's sad how out of touch these doctors can be and trying to rush a natural process. I just wish I had learned this 14 years ago, but hopefully, I will get the opportunity to attempt these tips.
This is very true!!!! I had so much trouble pushing my 4th baby out because of the position. And the longer it took the more the nurse with push my leg apart which now I know was making it harder for baby to come out and was getting him stuck. My baby was born unconscious and who knows how long he was like that. He is now 2 years old and healthy as can be. But I will never push in that position nor will I let them tell me how to labor. 😓
So grateful for your videos. I’m doing a rewatch at 38 weeks. When they asked to go over my hopes and dreams one thing I was adamant about was that my body makes the call on when it’s time to push, not the midwife. Thankfully I’m at a birth center and not a hospital. She advised that for someone women it’s hard to wait for that reflex because the ring of fire hurts so bad that they try to hurry up and push the the baby out resulting in tearing. She did say she’ll take my lead. They also don’t do unnecessary exams
I feel like this explains why I had such bad hemorrhaging hit 10cm and had to push for 4 hours I felt like it was just too much and I’m due with baby #2 in a few weeks I will be surely taking my time more st the hospital
Can you please make video difference of demonstration how to open pelvic inlet in early labor and open pelvic outlet on pushing stage for baby to engage down the pelvis?
Will squatting and pushing help move things faster if I'm dialated a lot but dont feel the urge to push yet? I feel like I learnt about squatting in one of your videos.
I think you are amazing! Do you have any videos on flipping baby from Breech or transverse to head down. I would love to get to pushing, but if this baby doesn’t flip I won’t. 2 previous C-section going for a tolac! 34 weeks🤞🏾🙏🏾 Thank you in advance❤
I’m worried about myself. I am 30 weeks. I had 2 c sections. I want normal delivery this time. My question is, back pushing is bad. Why do doctors do that to all mamas???? Mamas end up in pain, tearing and all. Why doctors don’t do the right way? We are going for help. Not putting ourselves in more pain and suffering. 💔💔
Hey, I'm a few weeks shy of birthing my 8th baby. Yes you can be on back or laying down for placenta. It's squishy and easy to get out. Not like a baby's head that has to get through bony pelvis
I love this but if you're 10 cm do the doctors push for you to push at that point? Going for a vbac after a scheduled c-section due to placenta previa.
Many times they will encourage you to start pushing. That doesn’t mean your body is ready to push yet though. You’ll know when it’s time - if you’re unmedicated. Yayyy for a VBAC! I’m a VBAC mama too!
Don't push like your having a BM. Worst advice ever. You'll get hemorrhoids and that's not where baby comes out of. Push on all 4s if you can. Push when your body tells you to. Pushing on your back the way the nurses tell you is not the way to push
If you need to NOT PUSH... Chin up as much as you can and blow like you're blowing out birthday candles. Wish I knew this prior to my natural birth. Baby was malpositioned to where the head put pressure on my bowel area and caused involuntary pushing at 6cm dilated. Went far too long before my midwife finally instructed me to do the above. In the meantime I had only caused myself more pain by tensing up in order to "not push" as I didnt know what to do otherwise. Not only did tensing not work, it caused me more pain and exhaustion. By the time I was told to chin up and blow, I was so exhausted my midwife had to hold up my head for me. I wonder if I could have known this trick beforehand, I could have stayed relaxed, in control, and effective throughout my labor.
I have the urge to push/my body pushes long before I’m even fully dilated? I get this horrible urge like I need to poop and with each contraction my body is pushing/ I feel like I need to push. I’m pregnant with my 6th and I’ve had two naturally and about to have this one naturally too. I’m trying for a home birth this time around. I don’t have a good hospital to go to.
Fortunately everything went forward (at least in Poland) and many hospitals have cozy environment without asking you to lie on the bed through the whole process, unfortunate still there are many doctors that think biology is written on the stone and they continue practices learned over 20 years ago
Most women get epidural and are not able to get into more than one position. Doctors in fact know the anatomy. Women knoe how to push properly. We just dont care for the pain. The biblical curse. I do believe each contraction means the baby is coming out itself.
I wish i knew this 4 years ago. ( Eye opener) I gave birth at a hospital, got an epidural, i never got to 10 cm, i was at 9 , never felt the urge to push, but i was told to push. There was so much pressure and pain, i never felt my daughter's head was already out. Her head was out for some time and i felt like i was just dieing, i was so weak was not able to push anymore until a dr rushed in and i had to have an episiotomy. Few days after my daughter's head was literally shaped like a huge apple, due to all the trauma during delivery.
My first is due Nov. 1st and I do not want a hospital setting with a provider getting me in and out to make more money for the next patients. I know they will push me have an epidural, or rush for episiotomy to speed it along.. or whatever they can like u mentioned. My mom doesn't understand why I want to have a tub available and to have other ways besides my back only. She claims I'll be too tired to want to squat or any thing..I know my instincts want to find the more natural ways my body should be doing things.. not seen as a pay check among many more dollar signs they want to rush along to fatten their wallets quickly with little true care of doing it right and less harmful on body and baby.. I think i want to drop my OB bc she dismissed my birthing plan saying that births dont follow plans made so dont bother
Don't doctors and midwives know the anatomy of the pelvis since they went to school? If they do, then why do they still force people to be on their backs?? 😢
Baby is easier to catch. Many best practices in healthcare are not to prioritize the comfort or safety of the patient but to minimize the risk for providers.
Opps sis said the quiet part LOUD @@LourdesSavage
Because back lying is the most common practice due to epidurals and how they can paralyze from waist down
They explained to me as a good way to control and delay the pushing stage since this will help you minimize tears. The technique is to push slowly with warm towels against your anus and vaginal opening. I’m not a doctor this is how it was explained to me.
It’s for the convenience and liability for most providers and not everyone is educated on this.
Thank you sis 🙏am just 41 weeks pregnant now insha allah i will give birth very soon &i think this video is helpful for me for safe delivery pleas pray for a safest delivery for me 🙏
I am a Dr. but my OB and staff don’t know and even I am nervous about telling them what I am comfortable with on delivery day. So far I have respectfully declined some unnecessary procedures and not only did they lie to me so I would comply but they made me feel uncomfortable or that I am a problem. I can’t imagine what it’s like to be a patient who specializes in another field outside of healthcare.
Good job on declining what you are uncomfortable with. They shouldn't have to know your title or profession to respect your decisions. It's shameful that they would lie or fearmonger ANY woman. It happens WAYYY too often because they assume everyone is uneducated...but, not here in this camp. You becoming educated and knowing how to advocate for yourself will pay off at birth. Rooting for you, mama!
Hello! I’m a Dr. too and even though my OB knows I’mma doctor I’m scared to be completly honest with her and tell her I want a VBAC cause I know she will refuse, I’m thinking to trying to train myself
Thank you so much for this video! I wish I would’ve had this information 2 years ago. I was induced at 38 weeks and had a 4th degree tear. My provider said I have pelvic floor dysfunction.. I’m still experiencing discomfort some days are worse than other days .. I’m glad I came across your videos. You have such a beautiful family. ♥️
Thank you so much! I’m sorry this happened. You deserved better guidance. Pelvic floor therapy is a great tool for healing.
This is so wild to me. As soon as I hit 10 cm my nurse said let's start pushing immediately. My first OB appointment this go round I asked if I would have to push on my back because the trauma from my last birth was awful from being forced to do so. I was told it's up to the provider. This doesn't seem right
Hey! I would say try to advocate as much as possible. At the end of the day, your provider isn’t the one giving birth. Unless you have an epidural, you absolutely do not have to be forced on your back. A big reason why I’m going to try to avoid an epidural is bc I want to be able to get on my knees. Fight like hell if you need to, don’t let some doctor make you feel like you can’t give birth. You were born to do this mama!
this was a very eye opening video for me. I wish I had this knowledge before but trust I'm determined this go round to go for what's best for me. I truly thank you for these videos.
This is a very common experience in hospitals. It's really unfortunate but not required for you to do again. You should consider another provider that supports your overall goals and learn how to advocate for yourself this time around. You can do it and I can support you through it!
There’s patient led pushing and there’s provider led pushing. You have a choice despite the fact the system does not present it that way. Your body, your birth!
@@LourdesSavage Too bad they start threatening you with a c section if you don't push in our local hospitals. Especially if they're low on beds. But I agree we have to push back!
i'm 34w with a breech baby, still hoping for the natural birth instead of C-section! Your videos helps me a lot!!! ❤ Tysm!!
Thank you for providing these tips for the new and older moms. It's sad how out of touch these doctors can be and trying to rush a natural process. I just wish I had learned this 14 years ago, but hopefully, I will get the opportunity to attempt these tips.
You’re hair is so beautiful 😍😍😍
Thank you so much 😀
This is very true!!!! I had so much trouble pushing my 4th baby out because of the position. And the longer it took the more the nurse with push my leg apart which now I know was making it harder for baby to come out and was getting him stuck. My baby was born unconscious and who knows how long he was like that. He is now 2 years old and healthy as can be. But I will never push in that position nor will I let them tell me how to labor. 😓
So grateful for your videos. I’m doing a rewatch at 38 weeks. When they asked to go over my hopes and dreams one thing I was adamant about was that my body makes the call on when it’s time to push, not the midwife. Thankfully I’m at a birth center and not a hospital. She advised that for someone women it’s hard to wait for that reflex because the ring of fire hurts so bad that they try to hurry up and push the the baby out resulting in tearing. She did say she’ll take my lead. They also don’t do unnecessary exams
So glad you have that support. Sending you so much love and prayers for your big day!
Great info,thank you for sharing. Due in June and will be hiving my feedback then. .
Me too!
Me too
Me too, it’s my first 😢
Thank you for these videos! I get so much value from your channel! Thank you❤❤❤❤
This video needs to reach millions
I feel like this explains why I had such bad hemorrhaging hit 10cm and had to push for 4 hours I felt like it was just too much and I’m due with baby #2 in a few weeks I will be surely taking my time more st the hospital
same i just gave birth last month they rush you so much and go against letting you naturally progress.
You got this mama!!
In The Bahamas we push on our back,I wish it was on our knees cause it sounds easier & safe. Any tips for on my back?
Can you please make video difference of demonstration how to open pelvic inlet in early labor and open pelvic outlet on pushing stage for baby to engage down the pelvis?
Thanks for this
Thank you for this amazing video !
Glad you liked it 🙏🏽
Will squatting and pushing help move things faster if I'm dialated a lot but dont feel the urge to push yet? I feel like I learnt about squatting in one of your videos.
Squatting and movement will help, but definitely don't push until you feel the urge to do so!
Wait until you feel the urge to push. Watch my stations videos to know more about positioning.
I think you are amazing! Do you have any videos on flipping baby from Breech or transverse to head down. I would love to get to pushing, but if this baby doesn’t flip I won’t. 2 previous C-section going for a tolac! 34 weeks🤞🏾🙏🏾 Thank you in advance❤
And hire a doula!
That I do have!
I have reels on this on instagram but not a full length video yet. Will record one soon!
I’m worried about myself. I am 30 weeks. I had 2 c sections. I want normal delivery this time. My question is, back pushing is bad. Why do doctors do that to all mamas???? Mamas end up in pain, tearing and all.
Why doctors don’t do the right way? We are going for help. Not putting ourselves in more pain and suffering. 💔💔
Most women will be in agony and unable to sit let alone stand
What about when pushing the placenta out is that okay to push on your back after you had the baby?
Hey, I'm a few weeks shy of birthing my 8th baby. Yes you can be on back or laying down for placenta. It's squishy and easy to get out. Not like a baby's head that has to get through bony pelvis
Yes you can push your placenta out on your back. You’ll be holding your baby by then.
It's best to stay up even for the placenta.
Interesting tips of what not to do, but what about what to do?
I have lots of pushing videos on the channel 🥰
I love this but if you're 10 cm do the doctors push for you to push at that point? Going for a vbac after a scheduled c-section due to placenta previa.
Many times they will encourage you to start pushing. That doesn’t mean your body is ready to push yet though. You’ll know when it’s time - if you’re unmedicated. Yayyy for a VBAC! I’m a VBAC mama too!
Don't push like your having a BM. Worst advice ever. You'll get hemorrhoids and that's not where baby comes out of. Push on all 4s if you can. Push when your body tells you to. Pushing on your back the way the nurses tell you is not the way to push
Yes yes yes!
If you need to NOT PUSH... Chin up as much as you can and blow like you're blowing out birthday candles.
Wish I knew this prior to my natural birth. Baby was malpositioned to where the head put pressure on my bowel area and caused involuntary pushing at 6cm dilated. Went far too long before my midwife finally instructed me to do the above. In the meantime I had only caused myself more pain by tensing up in order to "not push" as I didnt know what to do otherwise. Not only did tensing not work, it caused me more pain and exhaustion. By the time I was told to chin up and blow, I was so exhausted my midwife had to hold up my head for me. I wonder if I could have known this trick beforehand, I could have stayed relaxed, in control, and effective throughout my labor.
At this point I’m gonna just give birth at home.
Not a bad idea 🤷🏽♀️
Same here ❤after two Csections idc ima study and do this 🎉prayers to us all
What if we do have an epidural and don’t feel the pressure. How would we know
But is it having your knee widely open, ankles in on the early labor would help for baby to engage in pelvic inlet? Please enlighten me 🎉
It’s knees together and ankles out to open your pelvis
I have the urge to push/my body pushes long before I’m even fully dilated? I get this horrible urge like I need to poop and with each contraction my body is pushing/ I feel like I need to push. I’m pregnant with my 6th and I’ve had two naturally and about to have this one naturally too. I’m trying for a home birth this time around. I don’t have a good hospital to go to.
Always listen to your body and labor down as long as you can. Home births seem to make the process a lot smoother. Cheering for you!
Fortunately everything went forward (at least in Poland) and many hospitals have cozy environment without asking you to lie on the bed through the whole process, unfortunate still there are many doctors that think biology is written on the stone and they continue practices learned over 20 years ago
There definitely are those doctors out there. I wish they trusted the process of birth and biology more 😭
Most women get epidural and are not able to get into more than one position. Doctors in fact know the anatomy.
Women knoe how to push properly. We just dont care for the pain. The biblical curse.
I do believe each contraction means the baby is coming out itself.
I wish i knew this 4 years ago. ( Eye opener)
I gave birth at a hospital, got an epidural, i never got to 10 cm, i was at 9 , never felt the urge to push, but i was told to push. There was so much pressure and pain, i never felt my daughter's head was already out. Her head was out for some time and i felt like i was just dieing, i was so weak was not able to push anymore until a dr rushed in and i had to have an episiotomy. Few days after my daughter's head was literally shaped like a huge apple, due to all the trauma during delivery.
Aw, is your daughter ok now? 🙏🏽
@@JuMiMi86 thankfully she is, the blood shots came out in about 2 weeks and the swelling in the head went down in a month
Will laying on my side be good?
If you are tired or using an epidural, this is a great pushing position!
Try using a Peanut ball in this position. But change it up as much as you can. Every 20min is a good rule of thumb.
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My first is due Nov. 1st and I do not want a hospital setting with a provider getting me in and out to make more money for the next patients. I know they will push me have an epidural, or rush for episiotomy to speed it along.. or whatever they can like u mentioned. My mom doesn't understand why I want to have a tub available and to have other ways besides my back only. She claims I'll be too tired to want to squat or any thing..I know my instincts want to find the more natural ways my body should be doing things.. not seen as a pay check among many more dollar signs they want to rush along to fatten their wallets quickly with little true care of doing it right and less harmful on body and baby.. I think i want to drop my OB bc she dismissed my birthing plan saying that births dont follow plans made so dont bother
Hope it goes well. Im due the day after you are