The Power of 'No'
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 1 ต.ค. 2024
- It’s a short simple word: ‘no’.
But for some people, it’s extremely difficult to use nonetheless. Especially so-called ‘people pleasers’ have difficulties saying ‘no’ to the people they intend to please. Which is a shame, because the ability to say ‘no’ not only helps us to not do things that we don’t want to do; it’s also a deciding factor whether or not we’re able to commit to a task and to achieve certain goals. Moreover, the word ‘no’ helps us to stick with our values and principles.
In the word ‘no’ lies great power. And in order to wield this power, it’s essential to see the workings of ‘no’ and how applying ‘no’ more frequently and in the right ways can make our lives better.
This video explores the power of ‘no’.
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"Just because someone gets angry when you say 'no' doesn't mean you should've said 'yes'"
very powerful.
@Myballsitchsomethingfierce lol
How do you react when people get angry?
@@JC-ce8uw ideally you disengage but your action is going to depend completely on the circumstances. How you will handle a non violent person getting angry will obviously differ heavily from how you handle a violent person who is now angry. And how you handle a stranger getting angry will differ from how you handle a roommate or family member you live with getting angry, etc. It will also depend on if the person is able to calm down and have a logical conversation later and is able to handle any form of constructive criticism. So yeah i think, your response, has to take into account the specifics about the individual you're dealing with.
@@mafe4840 So true.
Thank you all for the 500k! I'm going on a short vacation, and will be back shortly with (hopefully) more inspiring content. Thanks you for all the likes, shares, donations, comments, and kind emails! Very much appreciated.
Einzelgänger I just noticed the 500k. Congrats you deserve it, your content is inspiring, thought-provoking and motivating. This video title is a great word play on the book title by Eckhart Tolle! Nonetheless, the word no has incredible power that is so often underestimated and misunderstood. Have a great vacation. Looking forward to the 1 million subscribers next 🙏🏼👍🏼
Are you going to Indonesia? Is that why it's on the video?
Have a good break. I adore your voice !!
Bon voyage! I am looking forward to future videos. They give me very much emotional support while I am learning for my exams. Every time I start a learning session I try to tell myself that I can only focus on the task, the result is not up to me. I say YES to your videos:) Keep it up!
Congratulations! Supported you when you were only 200k and I’m happy for your success! Keep up the good work. You always make me smile and your explanations has gave me a better meaning in my life. You keep safe and have fun on your vacation. Xoxo 😘
Finally, someone who understands that one's own freedom is just as sacred as other things considered so.
most sacred.
And I am no subjugated by your socialists ideology
“Most people are other people. Their thoughts are someone else's opinions, their lives a mimicry, their passions a quotation.”
― Oscar Wilde
Yes.
and No
yeah...
nah
"that's Sounds gay " __Ricky Gervais
This happens a lot.
“I can't give you a sure-fire formula for success, but I can give you a formula for failure: try to please everybody all the time.”
― Herbert Bayard Swope
No.
Ironically, people will respect you more if you tell them no as opposed to being a people pleaser. They won't trust you if they know you're that averse to confrontation.
That is correct.
Not everywhere. In Italy, especially at work, if you say no you're basically a troublemaker that the company can't exploit. And since it's hard to get hired full time, you will be less likely chosen even for a second call.
No.
Interesting. I'd never thought of it that way...makes sense!
They just wont accept "no" as an answer. They will continue friendship mobbing no matter what you say. You can tell "no" 100 times and they'll still keep asking. Shameless brats.
The more you say it, the easier it gets. Practice is key. Good stuff.
Do you want to commit tax fraud with me?
No.
Can I say no to BLM?
@@Loafy01 Yes
Practice makes mans perfect
"If I don't sacrifice for the things I want -- the things I want will be my sacrifice."
Just writing this for myself so I can view it on top.
This line stuck with me the most
Resonates a lot.
" Discipline is choosing between what you want now and what you want most "
yea, this one is huge. I'll add it to my desktop.
Awesome reminder
It’s funny, I’ve always been raised saying things like “sorry I can’t do that.” Etc. Until a few years ago I always added an apology when saying no but people always saw this as an opening to argue with me. When I started saying “no” matter of factly with no apology the arguments stopped. At work instead of “sorry I can’t do cash jobs” I say “no, you have to have an account with our head office to have work done.” It works like a charm. Don’t be sorry for saying no, don’t be a dick about it either.
No.
Well said. I need to start doing that more too. I also have the problem where I feel like I owe it to people to say yes so I have to apologize if I don't. But that is really not serving me and is disrespecting myself so I need to start doing what you're doing and not apologize for saying no.
"If you don't sacrifice for what you want, what you want will be your sacrifice." -HOLY SHT. I am already waking up to life but this line served as my coffee today. THANK YOU, EINZELGANGER!!
No.
🙌🏽 blew my mind
People stay in abusive relationships because they believe and think the abuser loves them.. Which is so far from the truth. abusers only love one thing. Themselves
*You have to take care of yourself first*
Kk brother
Im not afraid to say "No." I was taught to specifically say no to those I was taught to trust. My parents were drug addicts and fools, they wanted their children to take care of them. I chose "No."
Gooooooooooood!!!!!
The person who told you that is very wise!
“No" is a complete sentence.”
― Annie Lamott
Books In Review no
@@mjolninja9358 no u
Love it. That's my second favourite quote.
I declined an offer of friendship yesterday, she didn't like it so she blocked me. I'm okay with that.
If she behaved like that then you dodged a bullet!! 😁👍🏾
Well you are saved from this blocking unblocking game in future.
@@Henilegasp She was hurt.
“Knowing others is intelligence;
knowing yourself is true wisdom.
Mastering others is strength;
mastering yourself is true power.”
- Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching
No.
@@jeskodrews5796 lol, your profile pic
How many of us found accounts like this one because we messed up our lives by not saying no?
Yes
Oh hi lol
This will help you correct it.
Go to School of Life, Persuit of Wonder, Charisma on Command
No.
Pretty cool seeing some vintage videos of my country. Hello from Indonesia :D Thank you for the great video as always, Einzelganger!
Glad to hear! I always love visiting Indonesia and seeing the progress your country is making. Greetings back 👍
This reminds me of this book: 'The Courage to Be Disliked: How to Free Yourself, Change your Life and Achieve Real Happiness, by Ichiro Kishimi', have you read it?
Yes! Such a great book.
No
Yes. It's a great book.
I love how the book was written as a conversation. Totally recommend the book.
NO.
When you heal yourself and learn to love yourself, saying no becomes an act of love for yourself and for others.
Much love to everyone reading ❤️🙂
"If I don't sacrifice for the things I want -- the things I want will be my sacrifice."
No can’t exist without yes and yes can’t exist without no. They give each other power. Great video as always
@mateas786 - Yin & Yang isn't a theory, is a concept in Chinese philosophy, a concept of dualism but dualism has been portrayed in almost any philosophy or religion.
I agree. In fact this video felt empty to me because it produced an illusion that no can bring resolution or an absolute control. In reality no such thing exists.
*"If you don't sacrifice for what you want, what you want will be your sacrifice"* - A wise unknown.
We all have to learn to say no! Don’t be a people pleaser 💪🏼
I'm just fascinated by this footage.
"The power to say no eludes the crackhead. The power to say yes, eludes the nun.. What never eludes the wise man, is realising that a yes is also a no, but to a different opposing reality. Whichever decision you make.. The KEY, is to enjoy the f**king journey."
Gordon Ramsay, circa 2001
this video just came to me in the right moment... maybe i have to tattoo myself a "NO" in my middle finger so i can remember it every f***ing day... Thank you for your work
Jeff why not, go head do it ❣️👍🏻
The power to say no is a primary driver that caused me to start my consulting business. Being the ultimate authority in my own work life and being able to say no to anyone without risking my livelihood is powerful. Yes I have clients that could fire me from a job if I chose not to cooperate, but I have multiple clients and if one doesn't respect my schedule, or advice or ethical stance, there are others that do and I am free to focus on them. I think part of the draw of hiring an "outsider" like me is that I have no compunction to swallow objections and go with the herd. My opinions are generally better respected after I am able to deliver my first (well reasoned and respectful) "no" to a client.
No.
What do you do consult? You mean you tell the truth. Honesty has hurt me.
"Why should we put others in charge of the one and only thing that’s in our power?"
Very interesting idea! I love it!
“The difference between successful people and very successful people is that very successful people say “no” to almost everything.”
Counterargument:
> Silicon Valley Disruptors
> Elon Musk
They said no to a lot of things before focusing on chosen few they persuaded
Excellent brother
Beautiful video. You've put words to emotions that I've experienced and struggle to express. Thank you 🙂
People: you need to find your passion, something you love doing and will always love doing
Me: *plays video games*
People: nope, not happening, do someting else lazy sack of shit
“No”
Yes.
Chad
even i am as indonesian does not seeing this documentary of my own nation lol. great content as always tho!
I couldn't say no when i wanted to say no. So it ate me up inside n I'm insane now and in pain...coz my soul can't take it anymore... I don't know if i can say no now... I'm just isolating myself for now.
Stay strong, clean your room and watch every Jordan Peterson video you can find. You will make it.
No it's like saying farewell. Just like Madonna said that there's no greater power than the power of goodbye.
I actually cried listening to this remembering past control over my life but they were tears of joy at how I overcame controlling people by studying the teachings of Buddha. Thanks for this eizenganger . Your voice is the best 😍
Bachelors can have romantic relationships, they just do not fall into the trap of wedlock ;-)
Hi from Indonesia! Terimakasih sudah menampilkan cuplikan video dari Indonesia 👋🏻
Thank you for this. A universally relevant topic. You’re changing people’s lives here. Imagine a world where we all focused on bettering ourselves by saying no to other paths in life. We’d say yes to people when we really mean it and want to help others rather than out of hollow obligation. We’d perhaps form fewer relationships with people but stronger ones with more trust.
I was asked if I'd give up on a goal. Well...no. I've had 18 years of misery but I'm not facing unacceptable risk either. I'm not anti vax but I have illness without known cause. I will not take anything without clear cause.
My willingness to be honest with myself. Finding my courage.
In order to wield the Sword of Yes, one has to take up the Shield of No. Great video, mate. Cheers
What does this video about Indonesia have to do with saying NO?
"Mastering ourselves means mastering the power of no.." hmm.. ok, mantap 👍
As an indonesian its feel strange in a good way to see those clips, good vid tho as always :)
Ziddan Alif no
@@mjolninja9358 lol
“get off your ass and do someting with your life”
“No”
No is powerful, but not feeling you have to even say anything is even more powerful. No answer IS and answer
Profound.
Thank you... - sent from Indonesia
Great reminder. I am going to tag this video so I can watch it everytime that I don't say no when I want to 🙏
The ability to say no is liberation from just one of the self made traps we have found ourselves stuck in.
Always speak the truth. Because it may be bitter for a moment but it will be better for the entire life.
Hit like if you love this quote written by me.
Yes
Okay
Devil human: obey and fallow me, fear me, I control you, you have no rights, be like me
Me: NO
Thankyou for using Indonesia's historical documentaries. The Power of No to colonialism and imperialism proclaimed by the Indonesian people, led to Indonesia's Independance to this day.
you use Indonesian language & footages... Interesting.
He's Dutch. They colonised Indonesia.
I really loved this, Absolutely stupendous, Thank you. 🥰😍😁😃💞 Peace, love, joy and happiness to you and everyone, Thank you universe 👽🌌🛸👁🧿♾️🐉✊️🤲🌹🦄🌓💫🌈🥰😍😁😃💞
I'm a Gnostic we have a slightly different angle on the creation story. The snake set Adam and Eve free though the knowledge of their own divine nature, which is something God couldn't stand. The garden was a trap of ignorance, like the Matrix.
That's an interesting interpretation of the Book of Genesis! I've also heard another gnostic interpretation where Sin is the egoic mind, and Adam and Eve gained conceptual knowledge from the tree, and all the fear and desire that comes with it (like their self conciousness). This led to the separation of God (oness, presence, enlightenment or whatever you want to call it) and humans
I think that's more of a modern take on it though but if I understand it correctly it feels very much in alignment with many other traditions like Bhuddism or Sufism
Have you read Autobiography Of a Yogi? I will quote a few paragraphs from the book concerning the Adam and Eve story:
"Genesis is deeply symbolic, and cannot be grasped by a literal interpretation. It's tree of life is the human body. The spinal cord is like an upturned tree, with man's hair as its roots, and afferent and efferent nerves as branches. The tree of the nervous system bears many enjoyable fruits, or sensations of sight, sound, smell, taste, and touch. In these, man may rightfully indulge; but he was forbidden the experience of sex, the 'apple' at the center of the body (in the midst of the garden').
"The 'serpent' represents the coiled-up spinal energy that stimulates the sex nerves. 'Adam' is reason, and 'Eve' is feeling. When the emotion or Eve-consciousness in any human being is overpowered by the sex impulse, his reason or Adam also succumbs".
Sri Yukteswar says this in the book Autobiography Of a Yogi, written by Paramahansa Yogananda. A superb read!
@@DannyWohl that's a very interesting, thank you! I will definitely have a look into that book
I need to start saying 'no' more often, and have less remorse about it.
Thank you! I have worked hard on this! So rewarding to learn to give myself permission to say "no", sometimes in a kind way, and other times firmly when necessary. "If you don't sacrifice for what you want, what you want will be your sacrifice." So very true!! Thank you!
I love your channel and it has helped me a lot.I have a really bad fear of rejection im wondering if you have thought of doing a video on it?
Tell a man "yes" a lot and he'll think you're a pushover and an enabler.
Tell a man "no" and he'll think you're powerful and assertive/aggressive.
How do I know this, *look at the people around you and you'll see.*
WIFE: Honey, could you please take out the garbage?
HUSBAND: No.
No is a complete sentence. It needs no clarification.
if you dont want to see things that dont agree with you, you say no. if you dont like what you watch you say no, if you dont like a commentator say no and dont follow. take nothing personally, no is your power. say no to quick pleasures and it makes boundaries against the toxic. no to our cravings and addictions.
Mom:GO AND FINISH YOUR HOMEWORK!!!!
Me: no
Wow
"No" Is a complete sentence you are not obligated to explain your No.
2:48 "If you don't sacrifice for what you want, what you want will be your sacrifice." BRILLIANT!!!
ur easily impressed
Say NO to whoever thinks they will coerce you into taking the injection.
The best youtube channel out there 😁. Thank you for these videos
why archive footages from Indonesia?
I am curious, why you always make a video that has a background of Indonesia?
Those who truly care about us will respect us🔥🔥as a recovering people pleaser, this is so accurate, thank you for this video🙏🏾.
Our refusal to say NO when we want to is what makes us feel emotionally drained, by prioritizing someone else we forget ourselves in the process.
you use plenty of Indonesian footage and now an Indonesian word, where are you from?
Interesting to have film of post-war Indonesia in the background for this one.
Don't allow the mouth to say YES, when the mind n spirit says NO! Fear not, n strive to embrace the power of NO!
To other people saying no means being selfish esp they see something they badly want from you...... they will try to manipulate and even ostracize you.... learn to say no from those kind of people
Nice that you're using clips from Indo, combined with your voice: super soothing
Thanks! I gathered up enough courage to tell my mom no. I'm being released from the hospital today
SO to Jakarta, Indonesia 👋 where the video was taken
I really enjoy these all footages. Is it all from Indonesia?
today trouble is that there is a lot people trying to decide for us, and we become to forget being responsible for our choices
Wow! I love you this video! Thank you sir!
Ex: I want you back.
Me: HELL NO.
Very, very helpful! Thanks a lot
Our Criminology Professor gave us a lecture on, "Situational Awareness and the Ego". It was largely about establishing personal space, especially in confrontational situation. The susceptible nature of humans was one of the key highlights, the common human condition of not wanting to offend; hence the willingness to go along against all senses of intuition. He used a simple test, "Next time somebody touches you, tell them 'Please don't touch me'", so as to asses their reaction when establishing personal boundaries. What I observed was, it would instantly elevate the ego and could be used as a method of asserting power within a constructive structure.
This reminds me of the time back when I was a junior clerk in an accounts office and the head guy of that office was an aloof nasty man who controlled the money spending protocols. He relished saying NO to people who sought his approval to purchase things that weren’t budgeted for, he would just look at the requisition form and then say NO and he really liked it when the other person asked what do you mean by NO, his reply was simply NO means NO and he then waited for the other person to leave the room bewildered and then he smiled and chuckled to himself.
This was an awesome video, love from Idaho
Say no to drugs, say yes to reading.
You use a lot of indonesian footage :) hi from indonesia
How do you have all these Indonesian stock videos I have been very curious hehe :) I'm from Indonesia!
If I say no ☠I'm dead 💀😑but I'll try
A yes doesn’t always mean a fully commitment to something, just like a no doesn’t mean a complete rejection of something. There are various layers when it comes to make decisions. Yes, I would like to learn more about Greek philosophy, but I don’t want to listen to any teacher or read any book. And even when I say yes to a teacher or a book I am
Not fully embracing them, I am taking them as references. I can say yes to a woman, I want to live with her. But this yes doesn’t mean I am dedicating my entire life to her, or that she now owns my life. It is a yes to some shared experiences, but not even to all of them. I can say no if you invite me to dance, but maybe it is a no for now because I am tired, because I don’t like this song, because I am talking to a friend. Maybe I will dance with you in a couple of minutes. How many times couples play in bed when one says no but both know it is not necessarily no, but a way of playing with each other in a healthy way. Firm and absolute nos or yeses will come in ultimate situations, maybe in life or death decisions. Out of that, we will have thousands of shades in between.
No
This is a very important topic, very important conversation. Mucho danke! 💝🌟🌟🌟🎀
I Like your style dude✌️😎
Great work my friend. That essay was very powerful. Thank You!
The power of 'No'... 🍂great 🙏
ahh my parents don't take no they make me do it :(
Love your videos man! Thank you
Indonesia again hahahahahaha
Saying no is a power, many people will hate you but stay on your path and you shall see greatness
I say no to Facebook and CNN😊👍
I once heard, in response to the idea of "free will", that perhaps we instead have "limited will and free won't".
Keep up the good work!