Self-realization is a process that many people try to rush, especially when we are young. It's one of those things that takes a lifetime and even then we never Master it. First we learn to let go of society's expectations of us, then we become free. Then we realized that freedom also means being part of the society, so we have to once again change our mind. After a while we have changed our thoughts so much that we start to wonder if anything is real. Hanging onto that truth is what matters most, whatever it may be for us
@Aika Papa I can totally relate to your observations. In the past year I renounced all traditional Christian beliefs and have been on a mostly chaotic journey listening to various wise people on You Tube, including this channel. Jordan Peterson was the tipping point for me, but I have spent many hours listening to recordings of Alan Watts, among many others. Like you, I am trying to make personal sense of the approach of Eastern philosophies vs Pyschology.
@@kimkay9365 that has been my journey as well. I think the answer is different for all of us,but I am certain that you will find the answer just be patient with it. I am so glad that I am not the only one experiencing such a phase. It really feels like sometimes I am the only person but thanks to this channel I get to meet like minded people
carpo719 I disagree. Most people have no idea of this till they are in their late 30s and that is still a small percentage. It is impossible to rush. Impossible.
@@theworkethic I think its situational for everyone. I am in early twenties and self realization is something I have always been passionate about but never really followed through up until now and am loving the process each and everyday. Its amazing. That's why I say wisdom is knowledge through experience not age
Tervin Mwangi You are very fortunate to begin your journey at this age. When I was in my 20’s, I was just content with enjoying life. Then, 20+ years of raising children kept me focused on making sure they would turn into “good people”. Now in my 50s, I look back and feel like I missed the point of living and have somehow lost the ability to know myself. I believe the internet is part of our evolving consciousness. I would never have been able to learn all that I have in the past 10 years had it not been for the internet.
My question is.. If we do not accept that we made mistakes, does that mean that we should never apologize? I’m not trying to prove anything but very interested in philosophy. Should we not acknowledge our mistakes as “mistake” and realize that we can learn from our mistakes (negative connotation) thus, it can evolve into a lesson (positive connotation) . It’s just an evolution ?
@@miut7995 a true apology shows humility, lack thereof shows one is too prideful to accept the lesson. This brings shame. As a wise man once said; "Pride is not the opposite of shame, but its source. True humility is the only antidote to shame"
@@miut7995 you're right for questioning that. It's doesn't make any sense. Just one of the zentype sayings that people think is profound (in my opinion) Just think about what that unchanging I is. That thing that observers your mind and whatnot
Admit it, we’re all just people here feeling awkward and not knowing what to do next. The fact that you’re even here means you’re ahead of a lot of other people, so don’t fret about your life too much. Everything will be okay. :)
I hope your doing ok. I know u have been going thru alot, i completely understand, seeing a video from you made my soul happy and thankful for guidance like you in the world. Big love K
Often, we go through life and we compare ourselves to the other people... 🧐 When we see people that we think are more achieving than us, are more intelligent than us, wealthier than us, have better relationships than us, more physically attractive than us, and compare ourselves to them - we minimize ourselves and think they have something we don’t we automatically inject some of their values into our lives and confuse those with our own highest values... When we do that, we have a tendency to set a goal that is not ours ❌ And when we set a goal that is not ours, we decrease the probability of achievement... Then when we don’t achieve it, we start to beat ourselves up, and start doubting ourselves, and questioning ourselves and we start having this feeling that I can’t do what I set out to do. You don’t feel that you can walk the talk. So make sure you set goals that are really yours 💯 Because when you live according to your highest values you become inspired and awaken genius 🏆 When you live according to your lower values you require continuous outside motivation and you suppress your genius... Your present purpose or mission for life will reflect your present highest values 💎
Well said indeed. Also, remember that you can change your own values at any given time and that there is nothing wrong with that. You might say some values are better than others but it's all about perspective.
It's taken decades for me to finally realize that I actually learned many of these unhealthy coping skills early on in life. I've definitely found it easier to move away from problems and troubling situations, as well as people, rather than face them. But at least now I know that it's always the apprehension of what could happen that hinders our progress more than the actual event itself.
I can relate to this video, growing up in a dysfunctional family I understand how messy family relationships can be. I'm grateful that I've recovered from my childhood and left the past behind.
Some of us can never be freed from the cycle of life and death, only the decisions you can make when nobody, not even your parents can shackle you down. YOU are your own body, they didn’t put their souls into you, YOU did, you own that!
It took me a great deal of pain to finally accept the dualities of reality. I thought I needed to follow expectations, conform to fit in, and achieve academically to compensate for the fact I never did anything else in life. Then I realized now at 19, it’ll never be enough for many. Being a good kid and student never stopped my family members from lashing out or using me as a scapegoat. I followed what they thought was best for me because I spent my life trying to have the love of those who’ve hurt me or weren’t here for me anymore. No matter the sticks and stones tossed at me, I never stopped following the path they’ve cultivated for up until now. Now I’ve made the choice to let it all go. Let go of the fact I never grew up high-class with a family who loves me unconditionally, let go of the fact that I’ll never fit in or be liked by many, let go of reputation, religion, validation, childhood truama, loneliness, comfort, the people who’ve hurt me, anguish, anger, hate, sadness, grief- all too place my feet firm and stand tall if I want to function and pursue the life that’s rightfully mine.
Hope you are well Einzelgänger, we love your content. Thank you for helping me achieve inner peace and happiness at the darkest time of my life. Love you man
I used to beat myself up a lot in my early 20's because of having such high expectation of what I could be but everyday my realistic self was so so far from the idealistic self. Everyday was a failure, I became depressed and one day everything just collapsed. Eventually I had to take time off and started seeing a therapist to repair myself. Since then I've been on a journey of self discovery. I realised how little I knew about my self. It was a dark place that I tried to hide from for most of my life, but that is where the real treasure is, beyond our own darkness. Be kind to yourself everybody. Be your own best friend.
My nuerosis is relentless procrastination. I simply cannot work on improving my circumstances i.e, learning a skill and applying a proper job. Day in and day out, I squander my time with watching pointless videos or practically any activity that doesn't involve what I need to do that day. It's been the cause for a lot of distress and pain all the way through school and adult life. I genuinely believe in the concept of self-actualization. Just the way this video points out, it will be your greatest struggle and has been mine for my whole life. I'm still working my way out.
I took Richard Grannon's 30 day challenge class, which helped with that exact problem. He has this channel Fortress Mental Health where he teaches some of the skills for free.
Holy cow. The affection/approval part hit me square in the face. It explains a lot of my less healthy behaviors over my life so much. I am so glad I watched this video for my journey to know and understand myself better and move away from actions and thoughts that don't serve me.
I love how taoism can be well defined simply with the two words "middle road". They say to live a life of true moderation and enjoying what you have, but that you shouldn't worry about what you might not in the future
@Keevan Garraway Wtf are you talking about, that has literally no meaning, see, this is why you need clearer conscience of what you’re showing, otherwise you will become apathetic in your own words.
Damn the research you've put into this is amazing. I can attest to all the traits mentioned here. Always the anxious kid in school never knew it'd come back to bite me in the ass. My dad never gave me the schooling I needed of him, always absent. Emotional ruts are hard to break out of.
I am in my late 20's. I'm the "people pleaser " type and find it hard to voice out or socialize due to my negative experiences during childhood. It is really hard to face my fears even though I'm an academic scholar. I need every help and advice I can get. Thanks
You can start by grabbing yourself a nice coffee. Begin to backtrack through your memories, but from the perspective of another. By doing this, your mind is existing outside of the emotions that shackle you to the past. Once you begin to analyze things and accept them for what they are, your mind will begin to adapt to better suit the present day. Only by acknowledging the imperfections of yourself and others - will you ever be able to let go of what is holding you back.
I think what you would benefit most from is to find freedom in separating your self from society for parts at a time so you can come to terms with your true emotions through meditation and or journaling, grab a tent, some canned food and go into the wild when you have a chance, if you can’t go into the wild find your own version of this type of positive isolation. Get away from the people who drive your existence and figure out your own drive for existence.
When the realization occurs that my desires cannot be achieved due to personal limitation. That is when it necessary to accept the bell curve. And just be grateful for the comfort I do have. In this world of competition I am reminded of a quote from Nietzsche "Everywhere I go I am followed by a dog named Ego." Finding proper perspective is an ongoing process.
I just wanted to thank you for creating this channel. It brings me great peace every time I listen.
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Perfect timing. New to this channel. Subscribed. The loml is the second one. My girl best friend is the first. I’m also the first, though not to her level. Both of them had childhood traumas whereas mine were later in my preteen and later years (loml is 19, I’m 20, and my bsf is 21). This self destructive behavior has taken a massive toll on all of us. Rn it is 3:30 am and I am awake with class tomorrow morning at 10. Why? Because I am neurotic. I have OCD. Anxiety. Depression. My therapist booted me for missing 3 appointments total. Even then, she was $100 a visit, and I could only see her every blue moon due to the wait time. This video helped me a ton. I’ll def be rewatching this a few times so the lessons really get ingrained into me. To watch this only once would be doing me a great disservice. Thank you so much for this. I’ve been slowly turning to alcohol, but I think this just saved me from going too far. Because now I know the goal: self-realization.
Good to have you back my friend. My condolences to you and your family. I hope everything is becoming smoother, as well as you and your loved ones finding peace in the loss that you all experienced. Good on you for recognizing your need for a break. I can't wait to see what else you put out, as your content is helping me build myself into the man I want to become. Thank you Einzelganger 💪
I love this channel! Spending some time here is always great. Please, never abandon us, this work is so necessary! P.S.: Last week I bought your book. I'm finishing the reading and... I'm loving it! Feeling like you're already a close friend, even for a brazilian fan. Thanks for all your videos!
To be, or not to be, that is the question: Whether 'tis nobler in the mind to suffer The slings and arrows of outrageous fortune, Or to take arms against a sea of troubles And by opposing end them. To die-to sleep, no more; And by a sleep to say we end the heart-ache and the thousand natural shocks that flesh is heir to: 'tis a consummation devoutly to be wish'd. To die, to sleep; To sleep, perchance to dream-ay, there's the rub: For in that sleep of death what dreams may come?
I have to tell you how helpful and uplifting your videos are to me. It has taken so long carrying the burdens to finally allow myself to just drop the whole load. I feel so aware of my world that most every day is full of new things. Thanks to you for providing this channel!!!
This video is perhaps one of your best ones and it’s should be the prerequisite to the rest of the videos! “Know thyself” Is truly the beginning to self actualization!
As always, amazing video. I started my journey to self actualization 3 years ago and I feel like I have only just begun. I've made great progress but the work is never done. Though its a good to have reaffirmation. This is a difficult topic to discuss or make videos on because it's difficult to point out shortcomings without inadvertently offending the ones you're trying to help. You, sir, did it extremely elegantly.
I am a perfectionist who moves both towards and away from people as well... People pleaser and keeping distance... Let's be honest. And courageous. Thank you and welcome back Einzelgänger!
@Einzelganger You have no idea how much you have changed my life. Many dark times have your videos helped me to put things into perspective. Please keep it up for all of those who need help right now, and for those who will need help in the future. I hope that you are well, thank you.
Try this, it helped me 1.Overcome the Need to be licked. 2. Its impossible for self realisation without self acceptance. 3. Overcome the idea of your ideal self.
Great video, really liked the quotes. I think the below one is really important, and hopefully inspiring. Once you've gone through a good deal of discovering unpleasant truths about oneself, a mental state of confidence, fearlessness and calm awaits. You trust yourself that you can reinvent yourself. Nothing can destroy you. Except death, but after that you don't care... "If a person has sufficient courage to discover an unpleasant truth about himself, one may safely trust his courage to be strong enough to carry him through."
As i am currently "krangled", your video is helping me put another step toward getting better and realizing that i'm not so much an oddity, but part of a lot of people that have more or less the same problems that i have. Thank you 😁👍
I did not expect the content of this video to resonate so much with what has been in my past. There has been a great deal of neuroticism that is now breaking off me over and over since I started to meditate less than a month ago. I relate so much to all these neurotic trends.. People pleaser has been a big part, and the fear of being disliked or rejected. I've gotten to heal a lot of this, but I reckon there is still more to go.
Instead of success, think ground level : are physical, mental, social and financial conditions are OK to LIVE? If Yes, do everything honestly, including job, to gain stature and step by step success. Make quality choices and take care of self, not pampering self. Don't do injustice and don't accept injustice. This adds more to stature. Eventually, find your skills and linking and peruse it. Tackle negativity by detachment and ask above first question. Retaliate in proper ways. Conditions are OK to Live when you are in a condition to fight and have self-esteem, which comes from honesty. Self realisation is just that you are true man or true woman.
jezzz this was so real to me and spoke deep to me...unreal. i move away from people and never realised why... Suddenly it made sense ...Self -preservation ,independence truly believing I just wanted to find myself and cultivate my knowledge through solitude.(denial) i have been neurotic while thought was just a mild social anxiety... i am an INFP according to the Briggs and as such an introverted... in numerology I'm an 11 personality and 11 inner self... an Aquarius sun and ascendant in scorpio ... I've being trying all methods FREUD, C J Young read about Buddhism, Hinduism raised as a Christian.... Than Spiritism 'law of attraction divination ,philosophy .. all for self knowledge trying to overcome my inhibitions and childhood... and i still cannot free myself from my demons ..... don't know what else to do really ... but this video has somehow touched something that was missing ... Thank you ever soo much.
I needed this many years ago. Thank you. This is superb and useful beyond any video I’ve seen. It is also strangely poignant helping me see clearly something I didnt realize was happening. Again, thank you
The quote by Karen Horney at 8:29 reminds me of Erich Fromm's description of "productive love"; a betweenness that is an expression of generosity and growth.
Wow! I've had stages in my life where I went through all the different types you mentioned.. Only when I decided to work on myself did my life begin to change. Thanks for this~
Things come up from the childhood. It’s important to be able to master self reflection and patience. Not going to solve things overnight but have that willingness to want to be better. Once you master yourself it helps with being able to figure out others
9:30 It's not Karl Jung who came up with the concept of Big Five personality traits but Costa and McCrae by making number of empirical studies in that regard.
Enlightening! Thank you for the suggestions, as well. I can’t believe how much this has helped reinforce my self-work. This is your best video so far. Thank you!
Thank you so much for this. Some of the circumstances in your life that led you to such self reflection and a quest to try and understand yourself, I think would be very illuminating to many of us
Yes it is me. Few years back i was a kind of person who just wanted to learn more nd more nd is best in every subject but now i m moving towards people nd all time i just find myself helpless. Lot of anxiety. I used to be anxious in the past for learning but now the anxiety has become so much more as it leads to nothing nd i feel so bad at the end. I feel alone more than i used to be. I start looking for approval nd i do hv social anxiety that made it worse. Literally i am a kind of person who cant handle rejection. I want to be on top of anything. I was doing better before as i felt something is done that is productive but now i am very different. In the past i always promised i wont waste my time nd learning and to be best was at top for me to have but now see i m helpless. I seek unnecessary approval which i know will never get. In past i can make myself away from my parents just to do my work but now they dont accept my behaviour. Never do this to yourself. Never thing you will be perfect. Life will hit you hard if you try to be something like a superhuman😂 i laugh at my situation sometimes despite having lot of anxiety nd not liking to talk , i cling myself to that behaviour nd hope for someone to accept me. Its degrading me to my worst. But thanks, i am trying my best as the past events created lot of trauma❤
After i join BTS journey about map of the soul, there's so many things i learned about my self. And this video is one of them. Help understand what we don't understand
I know we are all work in progress and nobody is complete until last breath. There is no finish line, we are constantly growing physically and mentally, and we need to control both the physical and mental aspects.
Beautifully researched, crafted and narrated! This is just what I wanted right now. Appreciate the hard work and the dedication which is clearly evident in the video. Thank you so much! Warmth!
It's hard being a teenager and knowing yourself so early. It's like you can read people's minds and you stand out too much to the point where your friends get frustrated with their fake personality and become insecure around you. Luckily I found new friends with open minds...
There is another level of self realization, the realization of what you REALLY are. Only attainable by complete dissolution of ego and incredible humility. Then it will all be clear, and you will awaken from the dream.
Angel E .. Ur back . . U recover fast .. wonderful visually powerful info filled production .. Appreciate U .. our culture is beyond neurotic .. it’s .. Neurosis #2 moving towards people w narcissistic sociopathic manipulation of them..
Self realization... Knowing the truth of ur nature, the deep of depends understand of the who u are. A love expression of the universe himself. This is my experience
Self-realization is a process that many people try to rush, especially when we are young. It's one of those things that takes a lifetime and even then we never Master it.
First we learn to let go of society's expectations of us, then we become free. Then we realized that freedom also means being part of the society, so we have to once again change our mind. After a while we have changed our thoughts so much that we start to wonder if anything is real. Hanging onto that truth is what matters most, whatever it may be for us
@Aika Papa I can totally relate to your observations. In the past year I renounced all traditional Christian beliefs and have been on a mostly chaotic journey listening to various wise people on You Tube, including this channel. Jordan Peterson was the tipping point for me, but I have spent many hours listening to recordings of Alan Watts, among many others. Like you, I am trying to make personal sense of the approach of Eastern philosophies vs Pyschology.
@@kimkay9365 that has been my journey as well. I think the answer is different for all of us,but I am certain that you will find the answer just be patient with it. I am so glad that I am not the only one experiencing such a phase. It really feels like sometimes I am the only person but thanks to this channel I get to meet like minded people
carpo719 I disagree. Most people have no idea of this till they are in their late 30s and that is still a small percentage. It is impossible to rush. Impossible.
@@theworkethic I think its situational for everyone. I am in early twenties and self realization is something I have always been passionate about but never really followed through up until now and am loving the process each and everyday. Its amazing. That's why I say wisdom is knowledge through experience not age
Tervin Mwangi You are very fortunate to begin your journey at this age. When I was in my 20’s, I was just content with enjoying life. Then, 20+ years of raising children kept me focused on making sure they would turn into “good people”. Now in my 50s, I look back and feel like I missed the point of living and have somehow lost the ability to know myself. I believe the internet is part of our evolving consciousness. I would never have been able to learn all that I have in the past 10 years had it not been for the internet.
When you are self realised you know there are no mistakes only lessons
My question is.. If we do not accept that we made mistakes, does that mean that we should never apologize? I’m not trying to prove anything but very interested in philosophy.
Should we not acknowledge our mistakes as “mistake” and realize that we can learn from our mistakes (negative connotation) thus, it can evolve into a lesson (positive connotation) . It’s just an evolution ?
@@miut7995 a true apology shows humility, lack thereof shows one is too prideful to accept the lesson. This brings shame. As a wise man once said; "Pride is not the opposite of shame, but its source. True humility is the only antidote to shame"
Learned that a long time ago, effortless work is something to be praised of.
this is profound💎
@@miut7995 you're right for questioning that. It's doesn't make any sense. Just one of the zentype sayings that people think is profound (in my opinion)
Just think about what that unchanging I is. That thing that observers your mind and whatnot
Admit it, we’re all just people here feeling awkward and not knowing what to do next. The fact that you’re even here means you’re ahead of a lot of other people, so don’t fret about your life too much. Everything will be okay. :)
Don't call me out like that 😣
Thank you
We’re all okay, some just don’t ask how we usually are though. If we weren’t okay, some of us wouldn’t be here today.
forging your own path is important, its not important where other people are ;)
Thank you
I hope your doing ok. I know u have been going thru alot, i completely understand, seeing a video from you made my soul happy and thankful for guidance like you in the world.
Big love
K
Same man
I pray you're getting through! ❤
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same to you 💕
Often, we go through life and we compare ourselves to the other people... 🧐
When we see people that we think are more achieving than us, are more intelligent than us, wealthier than us, have better relationships than us, more physically attractive than us, and compare ourselves to them - we minimize ourselves and think they have something we don’t we automatically inject some of their values into our lives and confuse those with our own highest values...
When we do that, we have a tendency to set a goal that is not ours ❌
And when we set a goal that is not ours, we decrease the probability of achievement...
Then when we don’t achieve it, we start to beat ourselves up, and start doubting ourselves, and questioning ourselves and we start having this feeling that I can’t do what I set out to do.
You don’t feel that you can walk the talk.
So make sure you set goals that are really yours 💯
Because when you live according to your highest values you become inspired and awaken genius 🏆
When you live according to your lower values you require continuous outside motivation and you suppress your genius...
Your present purpose or mission for life will reflect your present highest values 💎
Very well said💯
Well said indeed. Also, remember that you can change your own values at any given time and that there is nothing wrong with that. You might say some values are better than others but it's all about perspective.
Thank you for writing this down, I might store your comment if I may :-)
Beautifully stated. Thank you🙏
Amen .... Absolute truth sir..👍
This vid has come at such a perfect time it's almost scary. The universe, I guess.
Law of attraction is the term we use in the mlm industry
@@manusjiedowen-ck12a18 mlm?
Commonly known as networking
Google algorithm is God
@@WanderlustNomad77 I am a firm believe that Google was the catalyst for the Big Bang.
That's right, Google created the universe out of thin air.
It's taken decades for me to finally realize that I actually learned many of these unhealthy coping skills early on in life. I've definitely found it easier to move away from problems and troubling situations, as well as people, rather than face them. But at least now I know that it's always the apprehension of what could happen that hinders our progress more than the actual event itself.
I hope you are ok, because i have heard that you have family problems. I just want to say that i appreciate your work.
Hope you’re ok. God bless.
same to you 💕
Yes🎉
I can relate to this video, growing up in a dysfunctional family I understand how messy family relationships can be. I'm grateful that I've recovered from my childhood and left the past behind.
Free at last, free at last.
Thank God almighty, we are free at last.
Same
The truth hurts but it can also set you free if you acknowledge it fully and freely!
Some of us can never be freed from the cycle of life and death, only the decisions you can make when nobody, not even your parents can shackle you down. YOU are your own body, they didn’t put their souls into you, YOU did, you own that!
It took me a great deal of pain to finally accept the dualities of reality. I thought I needed to follow expectations, conform to fit in, and achieve academically to compensate for the fact I never did anything else in life. Then I realized now at 19, it’ll never be enough for many.
Being a good kid and student never stopped my family members from lashing out or using me as a scapegoat. I followed what they thought was best for me because I spent my life trying to have the love of those who’ve hurt me or weren’t here for me anymore. No matter the sticks and stones tossed at me, I never stopped following the path they’ve cultivated for up until now.
Now I’ve made the choice to let it all go. Let go of the fact I never grew up high-class with a family who loves me unconditionally, let go of the fact that I’ll never fit in or be liked by many, let go of reputation, religion, validation, childhood truama, loneliness, comfort, the people who’ve hurt me, anguish, anger, hate, sadness, grief- all too place my feet firm and stand tall if I want to function and pursue the life that’s rightfully mine.
Hope you are well Einzelgänger, we love your content. Thank you for helping me achieve inner peace and happiness at the darkest time of my life. Love you man
I used to beat myself up a lot in my early 20's because of having such high expectation of what I could be but everyday my realistic self was so so far from the idealistic self. Everyday was a failure, I became depressed and one day everything just collapsed. Eventually I had to take time off and started seeing a therapist to repair myself. Since then I've been on a journey of self discovery.
I realised how little I knew about my self. It was a dark place that I tried to hide from for most of my life, but that is where the real treasure is, beyond our own darkness.
Be kind to yourself everybody. Be your own best friend.
My nuerosis is relentless procrastination. I simply cannot work on improving my circumstances i.e, learning a skill and applying a proper job. Day in and day out, I squander my time with watching pointless videos or practically any activity that doesn't involve what I need to do that day. It's been the cause for a lot of distress and pain all the way through school and adult life.
I genuinely believe in the concept of self-actualization. Just the way this video points out, it will be your greatest struggle and has been mine for my whole life. I'm still working my way out.
I took Richard Grannon's 30 day challenge class, which helped with that exact problem. He has this channel Fortress Mental Health where he teaches some of the skills for free.
Holy cow. The affection/approval part hit me square in the face. It explains a lot of my less healthy behaviors over my life so much. I am so glad I watched this video for my journey to know and understand myself better and move away from actions and thoughts that don't serve me.
Qtt
Discovering who you are today is the first step to being who you will be tomorrow
Agree
No addiction no medications is the way to go. Feel your feelings, process them and move forward. Great video.
When they ask me medicin I oppose and to go on and I am ok
Self-realization is something so many struggle with and that I fell as time goes on, fewer and fewer will achieve.
This video took me on so many emotional journeys I had to pause like 7 times.
I still pausing
I missed your calming voice and wisdom that u were sharing. Nice to have you back and sorry for your losses.
what did he lose though?
I love how taoism can be well defined simply with the two words "middle road". They say to live a life of true moderation and enjoying what you have, but that you shouldn't worry about what you might not in the future
Would agreed most of us feel empty, and looking for that thing that makes us feel good, but all we have to do is look within.
@Keevan Garraway Wtf are you talking about, that has literally no meaning, see, this is why you need clearer conscience of what you’re showing, otherwise you will become apathetic in your own words.
Damn the research you've put into this is amazing. I can attest to all the traits mentioned here. Always the anxious kid in school never knew it'd come back to bite me in the ass. My dad never gave me the schooling I needed of him, always absent. Emotional ruts are hard to break out of.
Hey, how's your life going now ?
Most of our problems come from thinking we should be what we are not.
Perhaps psychological rut is who you are …?
I am in my late 20's. I'm the "people pleaser " type and find it hard to voice out or socialize due to my negative experiences during childhood. It is really hard to face my fears even though I'm an academic scholar. I need every help and advice I can get. Thanks
I know how you feel.I used to be just like you.
Take cold showers, get into meditating, lift weights and find passions. Do things that scare you, brother.
You can start by grabbing yourself a nice coffee. Begin to backtrack through your memories, but from the perspective of another. By doing this, your mind is existing outside of the emotions that shackle you to the past.
Once you begin to analyze things and accept them for what they are, your mind will begin to adapt to better suit the present day. Only by acknowledging the imperfections of yourself and others - will you ever be able to let go of what is holding you back.
I think what you would benefit most from is to find freedom in separating your self from society for parts at a time so you can come to terms with your true emotions through meditation and or journaling, grab a tent, some canned food and go into the wild when you have a chance, if you can’t go into the wild find your own version of this type of positive isolation. Get away from the people who drive your existence and figure out your own drive for existence.
Let Mother Nature help you find truth within your own existence
When the realization occurs that my desires cannot be achieved due to personal limitation. That is when it necessary to accept the bell curve. And just be grateful for the comfort I do have. In this world of competition I am reminded of a quote from Nietzsche "Everywhere I go I am followed by a dog named Ego." Finding proper perspective is an ongoing process.
I just wanted to thank you for creating this channel. It brings me great peace every time I listen.
Perfect timing. New to this channel. Subscribed.
The loml is the second one. My girl best friend is the first. I’m also the first, though not to her level. Both of them had childhood traumas whereas mine were later in my preteen and later years (loml is 19, I’m 20, and my bsf is 21). This self destructive behavior has taken a massive toll on all of us. Rn it is 3:30 am and I am awake with class tomorrow morning at 10. Why? Because I am neurotic. I have OCD. Anxiety. Depression. My therapist booted me for missing 3 appointments total. Even then, she was $100 a visit, and I could only see her every blue moon due to the wait time.
This video helped me a ton. I’ll def be rewatching this a few times so the lessons really get ingrained into me. To watch this only once would be doing me a great disservice.
Thank you so much for this. I’ve been slowly turning to alcohol, but I think this just saved me from going too far. Because now I know the goal: self-realization.
I have been doing Internal Family Systems therapy with my therapist and on my own. That was my path to finding Self. 😊
I listen to this vid every couple of weeks as part of my meditation, self-therapy. I gain more each time. Thank you, love your channel 🙏🏻
Good to have you back my friend. My condolences to you and your family. I hope everything is becoming smoother, as well as you and your loved ones finding peace in the loss that you all experienced. Good on you for recognizing your need for a break. I can't wait to see what else you put out, as your content is helping me build myself into the man I want to become. Thank you Einzelganger 💪
My goodness, this is the best TH-cam video I ever watched .
I love this channel! Spending some time here is always great. Please, never abandon us, this work is so necessary!
P.S.: Last week I bought your book. I'm finishing the reading and... I'm loving it! Feeling like you're already a close friend, even for a brazilian fan. Thanks for all your videos!
Once you start not caring about what others think of you, life becomes a lot better ❤️
Hey, but, How to stop caring what others think of you ??
Hope the best for you, your videos have been helping me through a very difficult time in the last years of my life.
Hey you. Yes, you! You made it. You're here, and we are all so proud of you. Keep going- we love you
This channel is amazing. Thank you, Einzelgänger 💚
To be, or not to be, that is the question:
Whether 'tis nobler in the mind to suffer
The slings and arrows of outrageous fortune,
Or to take arms against a sea of troubles
And by opposing end them.
To die-to sleep, no more;
And by a sleep to say we end the heart-ache and the thousand natural shocks that flesh is heir to:
'tis a consummation devoutly to be wish'd.
To die, to sleep;
To sleep, perchance to dream-ay, there's the rub:
For in that sleep of death what dreams may come?
What a wonderful day! Your content makes me feel more comfortable with myself. Thank you kind sir
Thank you for posting and welcome back.
May you be well x
I have to tell you how helpful and uplifting your videos are to me. It has taken so long carrying the burdens to finally allow myself to just drop the whole load. I feel so aware of my world that most every day is full of new things. Thanks to you for providing this channel!!!
The youtube algorithm is on my side with this one. I'm so glad I found your channel!
This video is perhaps one of your best ones and it’s should be the prerequisite to the rest of the videos!
“Know thyself”
Is truly the beginning to self actualization!
As always, amazing video. I started my journey to self actualization 3 years ago and I feel like I have only just begun. I've made great progress but the work is never done. Though its a good to have reaffirmation. This is a difficult topic to discuss or make videos on because it's difficult to point out shortcomings without inadvertently offending the ones you're trying to help. You, sir, did it extremely elegantly.
Your voice has a lot of kindness in it, delivering wise messages.
I am a perfectionist who moves both towards and away from people as well... People pleaser and keeping distance...
Let's be honest. And courageous.
Thank you and welcome back Einzelgänger!
@Einzelganger
You have no idea how much you have changed my life. Many dark times have your videos helped me to put things into perspective. Please keep it up for all of those who need help right now, and for those who will need help in the future. I hope that you are well, thank you.
Just one thing....
really, really well done!!!
Congrats
You came back when I need it the most. Hope everything is going well. Thank you! ❤️
Great content as always. Welcome back lone wolf.
As a teen I'm noticing a huge wave of other teens growing and I'm glad us teenagers are we truly might change the world.
If you can keep the insanity of wokeness down, you may have a chance
So far, I’ve listened to this sermon three times. Invaluable to all, beautifully explained. Thank you.
This video is exactly what I needed right now.
Try this, it helped me
1.Overcome the Need to be licked.
2. Its impossible for self realisation without self acceptance.
3. Overcome the idea of your ideal self.
Great video, really liked the quotes. I think the below one is really important, and hopefully inspiring. Once you've gone through a good deal of discovering unpleasant truths about oneself, a mental state of confidence, fearlessness and calm awaits. You trust yourself that you can reinvent yourself. Nothing can destroy you. Except death, but after that you don't care...
"If a person has sufficient courage to discover an unpleasant truth about himself, one may safely trust his courage to be strong enough to carry him through."
As i am currently "krangled", your video is helping me put another step toward getting better and realizing that i'm not so much an oddity, but part of a lot of people that have more or less the same problems that i have. Thank you 😁👍
I did not expect the content of this video to resonate so much with what has been in my past. There has been a great deal of neuroticism that is now breaking off me over and over since I started to meditate less than a month ago. I relate so much to all these neurotic trends.. People pleaser has been a big part, and the fear of being disliked or rejected. I've gotten to heal a lot of this, but I reckon there is still more to go.
Whatever you share there is always something so calming about your voice. So glad you are ready to share again.
Hope you are centered again🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗
Reminds me of this quote from Shakespeare : "To be or not to be. That is the question"
the enneagram is an incredible system, glad you mentioned it!!
I did a test on Facebook understanding my levels of it.
Instead of success, think ground level : are physical, mental, social and financial conditions are OK to LIVE? If Yes, do everything honestly, including job, to gain stature and step by step success. Make quality choices and take care of self, not pampering self. Don't do injustice and don't accept injustice. This adds more to stature. Eventually, find your skills and linking and peruse it.
Tackle negativity by detachment and ask above first question. Retaliate in proper ways. Conditions are OK to Live when you are in a condition to fight and have self-esteem, which comes from honesty.
Self realisation is just that you are true man or true woman.
Good to see you back! I've missed you happy hermit. Hope you're ok. All my best wishes to you! 🌤
jezzz this was so real to me and spoke deep to me...unreal.
i move away from people and never realised why...
Suddenly it made sense ...Self -preservation ,independence truly believing I just wanted to find myself and cultivate my knowledge through solitude.(denial)
i have been neurotic while thought was just a mild social anxiety...
i am an INFP according to the Briggs and as such an introverted...
in numerology I'm an 11 personality and 11 inner self...
an Aquarius sun and ascendant in scorpio ...
I've being trying all methods FREUD, C J Young read about Buddhism, Hinduism raised as a Christian....
Than Spiritism 'law of attraction divination ,philosophy ..
all for self knowledge trying to overcome my inhibitions and childhood...
and i still cannot free myself from my demons .....
don't know what else to do really ...
but this video has somehow touched something that was missing ...
Thank you ever soo much.
Your videos are a great relief for me in these painful depressing days 😔
I needed this many years ago. Thank you.
This is superb and useful beyond any video I’ve seen. It is also strangely poignant helping me see clearly something I didnt realize was happening. Again, thank you
I have been the 1st and 3rd neurotic all my life. This as an amazing video! Thank you!
We're currently living in the age in which many will achieve Self-Realization... time's running out. Awesome video, and well-timed.
What exactly is time?
Curious Fiend
the time is now.always has been,always will be.
Our judgment of time can only depend on the current circumstance of our world
@@thefuturesname Touche mon Frere !!! Tres Tres, philosophique !!! Bravo !!!
ChairMan Meow merci beaucoup 😄
The quote by Karen Horney at 8:29 reminds me of Erich Fromm's description of "productive love"; a betweenness that is an expression of generosity and growth.
You saving lives with these videos brother! Keep it going, you have made a loyal fan! 👍🏻
No kidding. This channel is one of the best in TH-cam.
Excellent articulation of words❤ I am grateful to have come across your channel 🙏✨
I found Gold by discovering this channel
I learn more about myself and the people I know/love every time I watch this channel. Thank you.
Welcome back, hope you're doing well. Needed this today. Thank you.
Eudaimonia: Gratefullness of all meaningful experience in our life and do the play to settle our life mission with honour.
This was simply beautifully put ! Gets to the core of one's heart
Wow! I've had stages in my life where I went through all the different types you mentioned.. Only when I decided to work on myself did my life begin to change. Thanks for this~
Things come up from the childhood. It’s important to be able to master self reflection and patience. Not going to solve things overnight but have that willingness to want to be better. Once you master yourself it helps with being able to figure out others
So happy you back. Hope all is well x
I smoke cannabis and go to nature and listen to your videos. Damn it's working!
Good to have you back einzelganger . Lot's of love.
This channel is getting better and better
9:30 It's not Karl Jung who came up with the concept of Big Five personality traits but Costa and McCrae by making number of empirical studies in that regard.
Enlightening! Thank you for the suggestions, as well. I can’t believe how much this has helped reinforce my self-work. This is your best video so far. Thank you!
Welcome back my friend.
Thank you so much for this. Some of the circumstances in your life that led you to such self reflection and a quest to try and understand yourself, I think would be very illuminating to many of us
Yes it is me. Few years back i was a kind of person who just wanted to learn more nd more nd is best in every subject but now i m moving towards people nd all time i just find myself helpless. Lot of anxiety. I used to be anxious in the past for learning but now the anxiety has become so much more as it leads to nothing nd i feel so bad at the end. I feel alone more than i used to be. I start looking for approval nd i do hv social anxiety that made it worse. Literally i am a kind of person who cant handle rejection. I want to be on top of anything. I was doing better before as i felt something is done that is productive but now i am very different. In the past i always promised i wont waste my time nd learning and to be best was at top for me to have but now see i m helpless. I seek unnecessary approval which i know will never get. In past i can make myself away from my parents just to do my work but now they dont accept my behaviour. Never do this to yourself. Never thing you will be perfect. Life will hit you hard if you try to be something like a superhuman😂 i laugh at my situation sometimes despite having lot of anxiety nd not liking to talk , i cling myself to that behaviour nd hope for someone to accept me. Its degrading me to my worst. But thanks, i am trying my best as the past events created lot of trauma❤
Missed these heavy juicy informative videos!
Enjoyed it
Thank you very much
After i join BTS journey about map of the soul, there's so many things i learned about my self. And this video is one of them. Help understand what we don't understand
More people should watch this video.
I know we are all work in progress and nobody is complete until last breath. There is no finish line, we are constantly growing physically and mentally, and we need to control both the physical and mental aspects.
thank you for articulating this.
I really needed to hear this...
Beautifully researched, crafted and narrated! This is just what I wanted right now. Appreciate the hard work and the dedication which is clearly evident in the video. Thank you so much! Warmth!
The foundation of a societies lies in strong individuals.
You can't help others as good as when you experience fulfilment yourself.
When you realize
Spiderman is just another dude who gets his hands sticky after using the Web
Big brain comment
what does that mean?
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Der Coomer approves.
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It's hard being a teenager and knowing yourself so early. It's like you can read people's minds and you stand out too much to the point where your friends get frustrated with their fake personality and become insecure around you. Luckily I found new friends with open minds...
How did they get frustrated? What did you do to expose thier fake personalities?
Classic from 2020.❤
So much to unpack in this video. This einzelgängerin thanks you for the quality content.
There is another level of self realization, the realization of what you REALLY are. Only attainable by complete dissolution of ego and incredible humility. Then it will all be clear, and you will awaken from the dream.
Once we awaken from the dream, what will happen next? What's the purpose of all this?
Thank you for your intellectual prowess! 🙏💙💚💜
Angel E .. Ur back . . U recover fast .. wonderful visually powerful info filled production .. Appreciate U .. our culture is beyond neurotic .. it’s .. Neurosis #2 moving towards people w narcissistic sociopathic manipulation of them..
Self realization...
Knowing the truth of ur nature, the deep of depends understand of the who u are.
A love expression of the universe himself. This is my experience