Are you the friend that’s always reaching out??
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 9 ก.ย. 2024
- You have to communicate with your friends how you feel and let them know you don’t like being the only one that’s reaching out, if not they’ll never know. Feel free to share your key takeaways below 👇🏽👇👇🏻👇🏽👇🏾👇🏿
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If people don't reach out much I feel they don't care for you.
They don't!
I've always been in that situation
You're absolutely right!
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Asking “friends” how you feel why they never reach out can make you come off as needy in their pov. Its just gonna drive them away further.
Agree. So it feels like no win in a situation like that
I would not want to beg for anyone's attention or love. If they cared, they would reach out naturally. Lack of effort just evidences how light they care about you. If you stopped reaching out, would you even hear from them again?
I feel like shouldn’t have to tell a friend how to be a friend. If the energy is not reciprocated move on.
EXACTLY!!!! Any person with a brain knows when they don’t reciprocate.
*They can't say they're busy and yet a few days later are hanging out with others*
Lesson learned..............cut them off an see how they react. If they don't reach out, message sent
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Time will just keep passing .. if I stop reaching out they stop .. 1 sided friendship. Same with family. They simply don’t care for you. End of conversation.
Hey! You're not the only one. I feel glad to hear a girl saying this (for personal reasons), but know that plenty of people, and guys, too, go through this! I read your comment and the exact same words and sentence I thought to myself too, so wanted to let you know. Never stop meeting new people and being open to new and better friendships and connections!
I'm the busiest person ever!! And Between running my business, and raising my family, I always reach out to the people I care about!! Im the only one who calls and texts constantly. If u value your relationship and enjoy their company, you will make the time to text or call.
Wow- me TOO! I have 2 business's and running a home, oh AND go to church for bible study. Text EVERYONE. I decided to stop. I have a HUGE issue with telling folks (HOW they make me feel), it makes be feel as though I am forcing them to respond how I WANT them to respond. Therefore, it wouldn't be a genuine behavior on their part...🤔😔 ** Anyway, I will just seek out others, and wait for True friendships.😊
@lilCaribbean77 It's really exhausting!! The funny thing is that when I stop reaching out, everyone texts/calls and tells me, " Where have you been?" I say," busy just like u!!" Lol
If every time you talk to your so-called friend (because let's face it that's what they are), the subject comes up as to why they never call and things never change, then they're either very slow or they JUST DON'T CARE. So, if they don't give a damn, why should you?!? Time to let them go, period.
Communicating how you feel to others does NOT WORK!
Thank you for your comment. For me when I communicate how I feel without any expectations from the other person, it works for me. Just because people don't respond in a way that I think/feel is right, it's more so that I've communicated what was on my heart. This way I am able to keep growing and evolving.
Umm 🤔 I feel you shouldn’t have to bring that up if a real friend cares about you. If she has to always initiate contact then they’re not interested. That’s a pretty lazy friend.
Thank you for your comment. I think often times we make assumptions versus having healthy conversations with our friends.
@@freedomisthelifestyle Hmm that is another way to approach. Thank you for the advise.
@@reginagordon4246 I think if your in a friendship group of 5 or something and that particular friend always reaches out to your other friends but doesn't reach out to you than that is a red flag.
If your always the one initiating and you find out that they reach out to eachother than that is how you know they are fake friends!! Many times it's because you have leveled up or they are jealous of you!
It just feels that people who don't exercise communicating. They're not really a friend. Just cut them loose, and if they go all "wth?" Just dont respond to them. Let THEM feel the burn.
i've been letting them "feel the burn" for months now and i'm sick of it
@@Cupidador That's because you're their friend, but they aren't yours.
It hurts...I AM that friend and family member who takes the time to text a heart felt message of love to about 20 plus folks. Most respond but some don't bother. I too realize that if I didn't initiate contact they wouldn't bother. And this day I need some emotional support. Not one respond. It hurts.
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I know the feeling way too well.
@@freedomisthelifestylemy experience has been, Express how their inactions have made me feel and never hear back. I suppose it's best to not have (those) kinds around. 😉
They should get the hint after you told them that she is always the one reaching out. It’s not rocket science. Just the fact that she said she is always the one reaching out they should get it. Friendship works both ways. People sometimes just get busy.
I am that friend too! I love the color of your dress.
Thank you!
How do I tell them in a way that doesn’t make me seem so desperate tho?😣😔
Same 😞
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Exactly!
No matter what, it will make you seem desperate in peoples pov
Yes that’s me!! W everyone I’m sooooooo done ! We’re all grown n if people don’t know how to act it’s my job to make them realize nope don’t agree...
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Oregan Girl I am like you.
I hope you still monitor, I have found that when I have started to set this boundary and asked "friends" to make more effort they have said "if that's how you feel, then you can go, but I value our friendship" (paraphrasing) or getting angry with me for expressing this dissatisfaction in the first place.
This is the sign you aren't valued aside from last resort distraction, no?
People are quick to argue and not understanding. Arguing is not going anywhere.
Did that.. didn't work
Thanks for watching and commenting.
This video was so helpful and met me exactly where I’m at.
Lol if I called these people out, they would just cut me off. Usually it’s family. It feels like they treat me like I’m dead, I don’t exist to them unless I reach out
That's something worth exploring.
this happened and i communicated to them yet nothing changed like i wanna drop them but i think that's so toxic, idk
Enough with the REACHING OUT bullshit!!
My name is Shavawne (sha-von) haha love the video
Hey Shavawne!
I don't agree with your analysis.
I think the reason I don’t bring it up…is because whenever I do that in romantic relationships it makes it worse 🤦♂️ I get it’s different but idk I feel annoying
@BeFreeProject: Thank you for making and sharing this video.
Are you a life coach or therapist?
Please make more videos on here revealing your gems on how to build genuine friendships. Also, if you wouldn't mind, please create a video where you discuss where you were emotionally and mentally before getting better all the way up to know.
I agree and disagree with some of things you mentioned in the video.
I do feel that if there is an issue in the friendship, it is important to discuss it.
But keeping in touch should just happen naturally. Everyone knows that communication, keeping in touch and doing their part in the friendship is important. Even if we are busy with life.
Then again, maybe they have changed emotionally and mentally and have stopped communicating with their other friends too.
So basically I am seeing two sides to this. Lol.
Alot of these so called friends don't reach out at all.... even when I have told them I have been poorly, I hear absolutely nothing, I find it disrespectful especially when I have been there for them.... I have always reached out to them in the past, just can't be doing it anymore....
I did but they all say the same things which I realize means I am never going to be allotted space
I feel like this a lot, I feel I am always reaching out to certain people but they do not reach out to me . I do not understand why I would have to bring that up, I mean if they care for you or value the friendship shouldn't they just take some initiative?
What happens if it just a duo of friends? Only me and another person. I’m 8 out of 10 times reaching out to my friend
I don't think you saying anything, depending on the person, is going to help. Probably will come off as nagging😁. If I see that it is occurring often, I simply just stop reaching out. I mourn the friendship and move on.
I'm the friend that does not reach out. Because I'm very happy in my own space. I don't constantly need to be in the presence of other people. I actually prefer to be alone.
I also don't like when ppl constantly reach out to me. Every now and again is okay. But I feel like many ppl are codependent on their friends. Making their friends become the source of their happiness. Which is not okay.
Learn to be okay with being comfortable in your own space, alone. Why would anyone want to be around you, If you don't want to be around yourself, alone.
Thank you for your comment.
I don't think people wanting to reach out and create a friendship means they're not happy with themselves or that they are codependent. Sometimes people just enjoy others company. If you don't that's fine, but you need to communicate that from the beginning.
@@Wierdgirl5834She definitely the "friend" who leaves you on read 🤣 🤣🤣🤣
Ngl this sounds like avoidant attachment style more than anything
LOL , what? 🤣 you have got to be joking.
You want to sit at home away from people , all the power to you. But don’t put a label of “needy” to those who actually keep in touch with friends. Those are the best kind ☺️ not into once a year contacts 🤣✌️
Yeah right
9/10 is so high. More like 1/10.
Some things don't and shouldn't need explained, I think this advice is being too forgiving...
Seriously, this is not the way a true friendship should work ! Yeah, this type of ''friends'' sometimes showcase this kinda sucky attitude towards your hard tryings to maintain the relationship. It's kinda disrespectful from their side (of course only if they are your friends). You don't really expect an aquaintance to treat you like his bestie (do you ?).
Thank you for your comment.