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- Do you have a best friend? Real friendships are ones that make you feel happy, safe, and secure. True friends are so rare and special that when we do have them, we can’t help but wish it would last forever. Having good friends like this can be one of the greatest pleasures in life, so it can be devastating for us to lose our friends. Saying goodbye to best friends is heartbreaking, but trying to salvage a friendship that’s not meant to last does more harm than good. Do you suspect that you have toxic friends? Toxic friendships can be hard to spot, but hopefully this video can help you shed some light on how to end a friendship. Bad friends can be very toxic for your mental well being.
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Writer: Michelle Gaston & Chloe Avanasa
Script Editor: Denise Ding & Kelly Soong
VO: Amanda Silvera
Animator: Grace Cárdenas Cano
TH-cam Manager: Cindy Cheong
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References:
Johnson, A. J., Wittenberg, E., Haigh, M., Wigley, S., Becker, J., Brown, K., & Craig, E. (2004). The Process of Relationship Development and Deterioration: Turning Points in Friendships That Have Terminated. Communication Quarterly, 52 (1), 54-67.
Oswald, D. L., & Clark, E. M. (2003). Best Friends Forever?: High School Best Friendships and the Transition to College. Personal Relationships, 10 (20), 187-196.
Collins, A., & van Dulmen, M. (2006). Friendships and Romance in Emerging Adulthood: Assessing the Distinctiveness in Close Relationships. Journal of Social Psychology, 24 (12), 205-216.
Finchum, T., & Weber, J. A. (2000). Applying Continuity Theory to Older Adult Friendships. The Psychology of Aging and Identity, 5 (3), 159-168.
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Comment the name of your enemy below and we shall slay them for you. =)
me, kill me
TheEggMan
Well it's a boy but he hits me and his name is kody
also slay me in the process
Jamie
The worst feeling is seeing how your best friend slowly gets another best friend and stops caring about you.
Ikr.
Felt that
that happened to me before...
i lost my best friend in the 6th grade , and we had been friends since pre-k
I know how that feels, except that my friend's friend is actually his childhood friends.
I have two best friends but part of me knows that one likes the other more as they like the exact same things. They both like Ariana grande and I like Lady Gaga they have both gone to one of Arianas concerts together and I didn’t go.
The fact that this appeared in my recommendations is a sign on its own.
omg i love your profile pic XD
I think my phone listens to my conversations 0_0
After whats my current situation same it did come up on my recommended but im in denial im loosing her..
Same and I’ve been going through this
Same
"Sometimes you miss the memories; not the person..."
When i see a specific place, bench, wall. I remember the when we were (fill in blanc)😢
I gues i just miss my friend😢
So true , this comment is underrated
Grieve the loss 😢. My best to you
TRUE
Thats why i still stay in a toxic friendship..i miss old them. Guess it shouldn't be like that..😙
Sometimes people grow apart and it’s hard to let go but we have to to keep moving forward
Yeahhh
❤❤❤
@Alicefox657 ;;)) :) xDDD
Is it that easy??
The saddest part of life is when the person that gave you the best memories becomes a memory.
Yeah
True.
damn
Yeah :(
Mind if I ask could it be a good thing to try and connect with that memory? Cause I guess a friend of mine kinda cut me off and idk I still kinda see her as a friend
the biggest sign is that you're thinking of someone while watching this video,
and that's what really sucks.
Well not even a single point in the video implied to me but your comment......your comment killed me from inside
Well i was thinking of all of my friends and they all got 6/6 or 5/6 signs..
i have to agree with you
Im attacked
Well, I had a bit of a morbid curiosity, and am kinda paranoid, but none of the people who I consider my best friends have a 1/6 at most. And that's only cause college, but we all still make an effort to talk to eachother, at least once a day or more.
Very timely. I just acknowledged to a "best" friend of 35 years that I was carrying the burden of single-handedly trying to maintain the friendship, but no more. A short letter, only best wishes, inside a lovely card, and I felt very sad, but relieved, to finally articulate what needed to be said. 🙁
Im proud of u, thats very brave
35 years… wow❤
Well done ❤
I just ended a friendship with a person who turned out to be a toxic, narcissistic, guilt tripping, manipulative bigmouth. I feel a lot more free now.
❤
Not friends, not enemies, just strangers with memories.
that is true
This comment is underrated
I love this quote but I'm not sure who made it
Same
this Hits me so hard
When you feel like your bestfriend that you have had for seven years doesn't feel like a friend but just a stranger
😢
Mine feels like an opstacul in my life
7? Try 17.
Yea 😔
I had a best friend since kindergarten and she hasn’t even called me since December
I once had a really close best friend, but like this video, I had to let her go. We had become distant and when we did talk, it was fights. It was still hard though.
To whoever needs to hear it, it’s all right to let go of that friend. It may hurt at first, but it’s better than constant pain from trying to keep it together
First reason and the reason of getting new friends and getting diverted are most reasons for letting go
I left my best friend after reevaluating the last few years. Constant put downs repeatedly breaking confidences trying to control me and re writing history to their benefit I don't regret moving on it's them that forced the split but they play the victim and blame me even though they know they caused it
My best friend, who I only met 4 years ago when we were both 9, and I hit off really well instantly. We were never more than friends, but we were really close, and we both really enjoyed each other's company. But recently, she just randomly became distant, and it's gotten to the point of coldness. This video made me overwhelmingly sad, but also allowed me to consider the situation deeper. I also write songs, and I have A LOT, but I've been feeling held back, but after watching this video, I am able to write about it in song form. It feels good, but also really really sad.
The worst feeling is when you think you two are close, and then you find out you aren't even that close to them
frrr its genuinely so hurtful to me😫
Ouch
frik all of it i just lost mine
Like when you think their your bff but they have a diff bff that’s not you
Yeah they easily replaced me when we stopped being friends -and broke up- with my other best friend too and that best friend acted like nothing happened :/
broken friendship hurts more than relationships break up.
What do you feel is the main difference?
@@Psych2go I think it has something to do with how we view and value friendship and romantic relationships and also Friendships invest more time because before one can become lovers, they have to be friends first, right?
@@Psych2go i always felt like my escape from bad things in relationships is talking with my best friends, when i lost my best friend i felt like im alone and too exposed to my boyfriend.
@@Psych2go i mean... People have many gf's and bf's but best friends are like more special and rare.. It's just different... It's just different and friends are more important to me than lovers
Yea i know
And that one bestie who not only leave You but leaves the world 🥲🙌hurts like damn
Yes. The best friends I ever had have passed away. It hurts so much that the shitty people just carry on and on.
I had both experience, the one is passed away and the other telling you they're not feel comfortable with you and starting avoiding you
And i preferred losing friend by death
I stopped talking to my best friend of 10 years 1 year ago and this is kind of helping me let go. Ty for helping me feel a bit better!
Summary:
1. You’re second guessing your friendship
2. You don’t communicate anymore
3. You want different things
4. You’ve found other friends
5. They’ve broken your trust
6. You’re the only one holding on
Thanks.
Hatice Aydın You did what was right for you and that’s what matters.
2nd one is a bit misleading.
I left for another state 3 years ago and hence was unable to meet my friend.
We rarely talk like once every 2 months. But when we do, we talk for hours. We share everything, even the most embarrassing thing like old times. We trust each other a lot. We both are busy with our lives but if anyone of us decides to initiate a chat, the other doesn't hold back.
Both of us have found new best friends but we can't ever forget each other. It's complicated I know but we're far from letting each other go.
@@sinister2423 agreed. My bff for over 6 years is a grade above me. So when she gets time (which is once a week usually a weekend.) We talk our hearts out and it feels like there was never a time gap. Even my ldbff. We've been bff's for 2 years. And we have a rule (due to circumstances) that we only get to talk on sundays. And boi do we utilize it. Every goodbye feels heartbreaking but the hello the next sunday makes it all worth it.
@@sinister2423 i think communicate means in general interacting with each other. And even when they do you don't get the same joy of meeting them as before....
I love the objective advice. Sometimes people grow apart and it’s hard to let go but we have to to keep moving forward
I just lost my best friend today. This video truly confirms that I need to move on with my life, as I broke his trust.
Me today..
Me: crying because of my bestfriend.
TH-cam: HEEEYYYYYYYYY. I HAVE SOMETHIN FOR UUU
I hope you find new real friends, I understand what you're going true :)
Me too
Thank you guys, I wish y’all the best
@@bvbyface9876 sorry but i like your pfp cuz im a bnha fan too!
Fanni Lukács I feel you 💙
6 Signs that its Time to Let Go of a Best Friend:
1. You're a Toy and your Best Friend is about to go to College
Duchi this one hits different
For me it’s:
1. You’re a toy and they keep insulting and treating you like crap because they’re a spoiled brat who grew up in a rich family and is narcissistic.
Toy Story 3.......
That's a good one
BRO NO
what's worse is finding out how much of a narcist that person is. When you're ignorant about narcissism it will take years until you realize their true character and what they really think and feel about you. my advice to everyone out there is to really understand what makes a narcissist and think carefully about that person.
I thanked my friend of almost 50 years then bid adieu some weeks ago. I have undergone some major life changes in the past few years, this necessitating some recent changes, which they disapproved of. That was a moment of disappointment. I thought I could always trust this person to be supportive and then suddenly I couldn't feel that any more, despite having been there for them through so many crisis over the years.
The loss is still quite painful, and beyond that, I feel that I might never have another friendship like that again, because I no longer feel that we truly know any one.
"Sometimes you miss the memories; not the person..."
-Anonymous
Lol
Yep
I really miss all of those happy and fun memories we shared
the_ fucking_weeb same😔
Me too but I don't miss the person just the memories
*It hurts when you realise you aren’t as important to someone as you thought you were*
Oh my... 1.7K likes; thanks so much!
Scary Mclairy it hurts even more when you know you’re not important to anyone...
Scary Mclairy
*it hurts when someone takes all of your friends and they all turn against you.*
XxRidgedWarsxX yea lol
...
it does hurt
I related to this a lot. Since graduation I have lost my closest friends and since I was the only one trying I gave up a while ago but never truly left them behind. Now I know I did the right thing to try to move on, now I can fully. This channel has helped me through a lot and now this. Thanks P2G.
I recently let go of my best friend and it all started when he moved to a different country. He found a new best friend in his newfound country with his parents and he started playing with him the same amount of time as we used to play when he was still in my country. Then he stopped texting me as often and calling me. My usual schedule was wake up, eat breakfast and play with my friend all day long, but when he got his new friend he started playing with him on the daily. I understood that the timezones with a little bit different like an hour difference, but that wasn't the answer. He started playing a new game with his NEW friend and left me behind. I struggled to keep this friendship on and i just gave up. It wasn't worth keeping this friendship alive because i was the only one keeping it still, like building blocks. The moment i gave up on my best friend made the boulder get off of me. But there came another problem which is still relevant to this day. I am very shy and can't make new friend all of the sudden. I want friends like my old best friend, i am doubting that if i even can make a new friend like him. And now I'm lonely, without a sibling to play with because I'm was a single child and no one to play with. I don't want virtual friends, i want real friends but i can't make new friends because im shy. being on the computer just feels like wasting time on playing games and torturing my mind.
Who else is crying over the fact that you need to let go of your bestfriend who doesn’t really care.
Allie Serignet me
Me
😭😭😭😭
They say online friends are worse than real, but we’re not even sure that our “real friends” are real.
@Loco
I’m crying because I’m confused
The worst insecurity in a friendship is when you don't know if they're genuinely as busy as they say or just try to avoid you
AWARD WINNING COMMENT RIGHT HERE💀💔💯
I have a friend but I'm trying to avoid her. I have told her in the past that I didn't want to be her friend anymore and that I wouldn't talk to her for now. She would keep coming back with her problems. She still keeps coming back with her problems which is why I don't want her as a friend.
@@user-oz2ur5gd8x at that point just cut her off bro.
@@stargamer8878 you're right. I have to.
im litterally crying right now thinking if my first best friend. i was friend with her for my whole life until she moved when we were 5 and i havent seen her since. our parents stillknow each other and im debating if i should reach out and talk to her i dont know what to do but i miss her so much and i feel like if we met up it wouldbe very awkward because we would be like strangers. i dont know what to do but cry. help me decide plss
Thank you. You really helped me with all your videos, I had a very toxic relationship, I never had the guts to end it but now it’s over for my own good I appreciate you ❤
I just lost my best friend a few days ago. They started bullying me. This video really showed me how a good friend should act. 🙂
I was in the same situation.
Imagine if your friends also watched this thinking about you
Ikr that kind of scares me
@@dominik8225 Well i can imagine fiction so
Probably
@Peachy Jikook i see, one step ahead😉
@Peachy Jikook same here 😐
The worst feeling in the world is when you're practically begging for their company and they constantly have excuses why they can't but then willingly and effortlessly do the same things you wanted but with someone else.
Same is happening 😢😕
same thing is happening to me right now. My best friend got a boyfriend two months ago and i’m happy for her. But when I went to see her a few weeks ago I begged her not to go to to a practice that she didn’t have to go to. She just wanted to spend more time with her boyfriend and told me straight to my face that she had nothing better to do even though they were seeing each other again the same night and I live 30 minutes away so I only see her a few times a year. Then she invited me somewhere, never gave me the details and went with her boyfriend instead.
It’s truly the worst feeling
Yes this is me!! Especially on holidays. Birthdays etc. but when they see me living my life & moving on, they want to know why I didn’t include them… we deserve so much more so
I’m cutting those people loose, grieving/healing & find people that want me just as much as I want them..
@• K a z u k i • i’m sorry you’re going through it too
it’s been 6 days with no communication and this morning she tried texting me to crack a joke like everything’s fine.
I tried talking to her about it last week but she kept dodging my calls and never texted me back. I haven’t even been referring to her as my best friend anymore lately.
I hope things are reconciled for you eventually love
I’ve made peace with the fact that she probably won’t be a part of my life anymore :(
how can they do that so easily?? why do people can easily forget the person that shared their lives for a long time? just because they have busy schedules? a lot of work to do? have a family? have kids? no!!!! thats not a valid excuses! have seen these kind of people with busy lifestyle but still can manage to meet their friends even in short time! the reason is its either you found another friend, you replace so easily! or you're in a relationship and you just set aside your dearest friend for a new person of your life or worst you don't value your friendship anymore!!! those kind of people disgust me! because they don't know how it hurst so much!!!
I let go of my bestie of 42 years in February. We had been through so much together and were always there for each other. My dad died last December and she couldn’t be bothered to come and see me, and my son reminded me that it had been over 4 years since she had visited me. It was always me going to her, I’m slightly disabled and it’s a bit of a drive. She had surgery to remove large benign cysts from her ovaries and I took my own shower chair for her to use at home and went to stay for a week to help look after her through the day. This was last June 2022, and I have a carer myself. I sent her a message telling her that I didn’t want her to contact me anymore. And it hurt to do that. We had been besties for 2/3 of my life, her kids are family to us. But she just didn’t want to bother and to be there for me as I was for her last year. So that’s it. Never had the decency to return my shower chair either, I had to get another. Said all I needed to know about her. Her oldest and dearest friend she called me, what a joke. Bye Jan.
Same had a kindergarten friend been few years had to cut few "friends" out my life. Learned that at 35 not everyone is a "friend" best decision I could have done. It has been hell but being on your own means less issues. We become dependent unfortunately.
So many good points, I had to let go a person who I had such a strong understanding it was so painful I still feel it 24 years later.
I always envy people with bestfriends... I just want someone to talk to without overthinking if I bother them.
Hey
If you want to talk with a stranger with out overthinking ,I'm here
Me to ill never judge you ur thoughts are valid
Me too! Way to go awesome people! ✊🥳
Today I shattered my heart for the 1000th time by making friends my friend started ignoring me and told me to shut up so I unfriend him
Same... I have a bestfriend but I still overthink a lot. I even check my messages properly to see if I appeared rude and try to message them and hope that I didn't bother them...
It's funny how someone you know so well turns into a complete stranger ...
yeah
it sucks
It’s not funny at all actually.... but I get what your saying.
@@Dirt4Worms it’s sarcasm
@@debbienoble-pepple3828 Ye I know 😂
I just lost my friend and found out she was fake now she left me for other friends and she is wishing me not to make new friends and get out if her life
The worst thing is the sacrifice, time, money, and it all got invested into nothing in the end. Best friend for 12 years and it's just so over.
Wow! This has opened my eyes. l have a best friend l love wholeheartedly but l have discovered that she has lots of friends in her life to the extent that she forgets about me sometimes. l am the one who does everything: the caring, the effort, the calling, the texting , the support, etc and l never get that same energy ... it hurts because l always value true friendship, but it's okay l know EVERYTHING IS GONNA BE ALRIGHT. Love and Light to all genuine people reading this...we shall overcome.
It sucks when you have the best friend title but don’t feel treated like one
Edit: thanks so much for all the replies! I thought I felt so alone before this but I hope everything gets better for you all!
Yeah. Thats whats up with me. I just dont know...
It does hurt alot, but eventually you get over it. Happened to me once
Also nice pfp :P
Eiman B yeah Ik it’ll get better soon :/ and wow matching :)))
@@Hi-sj4xg I hope so too! Yep haha
Eiman B tyyyy :)
Guys remember, “Friendship is like a piece of paper, it can be crumbled and smoothed out again, but it will never be the same.”
Soo truee
But not Necessarily worse
Eli Lundberg It can be for the worst, some friendships aren’t meant to last. Ik it hurts to say that but it’s happened 2+ times to me,
@@angela-sh8zy sorry to hear that, it is probably most common to be for the worse, it have happened to me too once, but I also know some people who became close friends after being not so close friends and falling apart
AngoTheBanjo man wise words but honestly just fuck off
After her pulling away for months I just asked her do you not want to be friends anymore she said "yeah, your just not someone I want to be friends with" probably the worst pain I've felt in a long time
1. You’re second guessing the friendship
2. You don’t communicate anymore
3. You want different things
4. You’ve found other friends
5. They’ve broken your trust
6. You are the only one holding on
Thanks! Saved my time :D
My bff has been mad at her stepsister and I did something "wrong" after she pranked me then she stopped talking to me the 24th
Thanks! This saved me 5 minutes and 55 seconds! :) I'll subscribe
I just-, Idk, I still am holding on because...
Memories..
Yep,it’s time to let go…
I stopped having a "best friend" when I realized that they'll just leave you in the end anyways, people don't stick around forever.
All the more reason to cherish those in your life. People might not stick around forever but that doesn’t mean having relationships is pointless, the times you had together still meant something. “ ‘tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all” -Alfred Lord Tennyson
Actually some people do stick around. My current bsf is my bsf since the day I was born, she's my cousin, and we hung out like almost everyday.
@@kimjisoo7844 my best friend love me so much and I also love her so much but she is moving to Dubai forever 😭😭😭😭😢
@@Armyblink-sq2cd Move with her
@@Armyblink-sq2cd Oh no! That's not good! But don't worry, I'm sure you guys will reunite again, everything happened for a reason, so you'll be good for now.🤗❤️
thanks. I’m struggling letting go. I needed this.
Losing a romantic partner is too painful. But losing a partner and a bestfriend altogether is on another level of pain. You don't just feel twice as broken, you feel like your heart is shattered into a million pieces and there's just no way of putting it back together. What's worse is the post-breakup period. You feel so lost and it seems that the more you exerted an effort to forget, the more it seems that the world is brushing it to your face.💔🖤
6 signs let Go of good Friends
1. You're Seconds guessing the friendship
2. You don't communicate anymore
3. You want different things
4. You found other friends
5. They've broken your trust
6. You are the one Holding on
This is me and my friend
Alivia :3 we stopped being friend a week ago. I feel so bad.
ohgod
ohno
Thank you!
@@SealsLoveAseel Me too actually and the person that doesn't communicate anymore
Losing your bestfriend is like losing apart of your heart, it sucks. Bad
Me yesterday 🥺
Najmaa Ali I'm sorry to hear about that
@@naj8324 same me and me best friend broke up yesterday
It does, im crying as i watch the video, it just makes me so sad
@@TheVeryObliviousOne same
2 minutes in and i'm crying. Matched my current "best friend" perfectly.
This video was all I needed to hear, thank you❤
Friend: "Alright, I gotta log off. See you tomorrow."
_Last seen online: 3 years ago_
that hits diff :(
Deadmeme
Bruh this happened right now it’s already been a month
Fake friends is your stalker social media
..my friend and i mutually "saying im not gonna disturb u then"...she has anxiety ..but it okay may she's. happy then...
i’m so sorry you had to watch this but nothing lasts forever i love you
😔🤧 ily too
ily too
My best friend said they couldn't trust me because I said I wouldn't post song lyrics anymore and I did. That how stupid things got.
im showing this video to my best friend, who has another best friend that became more toxic
@@TamWam_ life is so toxic
I've had both lost friendships and rejections and trust me the former hurts more because they know you yet they don't feel it's worth it to be in your life.
Trying to forget someone u love is like
Trying to remember someone u never met
it hurts when you feel like your close/best friend is replacing you with someone else but you know you cant do anything about it.
Update if anyone cares: the person i made this comment about still talks to me and still friends
Same my best friend and me have the same friend group and one weekend she any everyone else was invited to this girls house and I wasn’t their excuse was I was and you didn’t answer
Their text to invite me was “hey girl” like come on like am I not supposed to be mad
And when I confront them about it they brush it off or make it seem like I’m overreacting
Please comment some advice should I just drop them
@@clownoftheyear8425 if they're treating you like that maybe it best to find more friends who are more considerate of your feelings and will invite you when making plans to hang out instead of staying with the people in your current friend group.
@@aleezaa13 I ended it with them today 🤠👌
@@clownoftheyear8425 i hope you find more caring friends! :D
The worse case scenario is that, your BESTFRIEND was your childhood friend. Whenever you think of your past especially your childhood and that BESTFRIEND was always there in your memories. That BESTFRIEND is always present in ur memorable moments. I'd say, it FVCK!NG HURTS SO MUCH! Much hurt than losing your bf/gf. Imagine after decades of friendship, it just suddenly snapped and "IT'S OVER."
Remember, aside from ur family, Friendship is the second relationship we have after our families or relatives. So yes, losing your Bestie hurts more than losing your BF/GF.
Me: doubting my (kinda toxic) friendship.
TH-cam:
Feels like it's an old marriage? Cause sure mine's do and some people have told me about it
Same she was so nice to me before and never fought irl but now we fight so often and mostly irl but there is no one else I can be with :/ everyone likes her more than me
Before this school year we were sooo close now.. they have a new best friend (who hates me) and I feel like they say stuff behind my back...
Jill Msp same here
Omg literally today my friend did something I didn’t like and this gotten recommend
yeah! this has happened but i didnt even think bout it even a day thanks for the support
🤗
i always thought that my bestie and i would be best friends forever, but ever since the start of year 7, we just grew apart, not to mention that she's really flighty, and we only hang out when SHE wants to, or when SHE'S free, and i've been wondering if maybe its time to let go, and this video confirms it. Thank you.
i bet your thinking of your “best friend” while watching this.
I am. Not sure what to do about him😒
Yea i am and in tears :(
Oof my bestie I mean my bestest bestest friend we where so so so close but she got new friends and she so umm once I was standing with them and with her they where also my friends and she said to them that they where her best friends and not me I was so so so sad I got replaced so I dint see them for like three days then returned now I call her bestie and she doesent answer me it changed it changed a lot.
bri xx she’s my ex best friend
She left me
i was
*me crying while trying to convince myself that this isn't true*
Edit: woah i didnt realize how much attention this comment has gotten... dw guys i got over that person and now i cant get over somebody else B)
I know what that’s like
Bro Fam *AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA*
Yea..me too
I cried too but i had to let go :(
Stay strong💪
Yesterday, me and my friend had a massive fight, and watching your videos always calms me down
My former best friend abruptly told me that we had nothing in common anymore, but wasn't specific until years later. Turns out it was over having children and I guess she thought that I was anti children.. What she didn't know was that I am infertile, When she recently attempted to return to my life it was only then that she told me about the children issue, not when she broke off our friendship. I then told her about my lack of ability to have kids, and she regretted her decision from the past and wanted to come back into my life. My guard is up around her now and I'm the one walking away. Probably for the best, I don't want to hurt again. I made my peace with our initial break up and you know the old phrase "you can't go home again"
The fact that this wasn't in your recommend and some people had to search it up,that in itself is sad dude :/
I searched up “how to deal with best friends leaving you out” because I’m in a group of 3 friends and it’s so difficult, and I’m always the one that’s left out and the other 2 have so many inside jokes and it’s so heartbreaking because I’ve known her for 6 years and she’s only known the person we’re in a group of 3 with for less than a year and it sucks.
@Airyana De Leon oh I’m so sorry
@@aiyanaharleyroberts7533 if it's making you unhappy, leave it asap
@@sidharthsharma2637 thanks, my real best friend gave me some advice and it made me realise “what’s so great about them anyway? all they do is leave me out”
@Airyana De Leon thank you
The worst part is when you lose a best friend because they can’t see why they’re so toxic.
omg yes
Or maybe im toxic. I have trust issues 😓
YES I HAVE 2 BEST FRIENDS AND THEY BOTH KICKED ME OUT OF THE GROUP.
Yes so true
@@zoeeeeeeeeee3644 it's okay. You can always work on yourself. Take some space for yourself and sit with yourself. Being toxic has everything to do with what's within us. Let your loved ones know you are trying to improve. It will be okay. Don't beat yourself up. Take it slow. Everything will be alright
Actually and unfortunately 😢EVERYTHING that you said made sense! You REALLY know how to put it! You sound like you are a therapist. Thankyou
A year and a half after a huge huge break of trust with my friend I’ve tried and tried to keep us friends but it’s been so hard in the past months to keep being best friends we’ve has 7 disagreements in the past 3 months all have just ended with me feeling empty and there’s no sorry my friend just kinda acts like it didn’t happen I feel so wrong with her and this video helps me a lot also with being scared that she’ll be mad I’m so glad I found this channel
The worst part is when that best friend was the only friend
I'm in this situation right now... :/
Same and he just left me
It's true.. she.. we grew apart..
I hope u can make new friends buddy👍
@@harithegreatest agreed..
Who else is crying over the fact they have lost a best friend
One of my best friends moved far away at the End of 4th grade can’t believe it’s almost 5 years since then
I have lost a best friend in elementary its a sad story i NEVER want to talk about but one of them is that she started talking s*** about me
Mack Werner I’m almost........... but I rlly hate my old bff. I mean how am I almost crying over a really bad relationship............?
me :(
😞
I agree. Im choosing to end a long term friendship. I haven't seen this friend in almost 8yrs and we live in the same general area. The person feels like texting is a way to keep our friendship going but all I ever get are depressing and sad things in their life. I chose to end the friendship bcus as much as I have put in, I get a bunch of lies and false perceptions of what they want me to feel their going thru. I feel like now at my age I am mature enough to let go of Fake pple that dnt really care about the contact or effort to keep a real friendship alive.
“Are you lucky enough to have a best friend?” I felt that.
Same
I gave up already and have myself as my best friend.
Same Im a loner
I have
I'm happy I have. Don't give up. Ur best friend ist waiting for u anywhere :)
For those who don't have time ::
1:22 You are second guessing your friendship
2:01 You don't communicate anymore
2:35 You want different things
3:00 You have found other friends
3:35 They have broken your trust
4:15 You are the one holding on
Thank you
Thank you
Finally I just realized that I don't have friends. It was my imagination that I thought I had them, but they've already left me. Ahahhaha well this video is so helpful!!!
I just need let them go!!!
@@animaaliv1615 Aww just remember there are many people for you! 🤗
i dont communicate with a best friend and found another one...
I’ve had a best friend since 10 years now…
Lately tho she stared hanging out with a girl who is an absolute bad influence on her and since then I feel distanced to her…
Even tho she sometimes wants to talk with me and do stuff with me, she still chooses the fake friend over me for most things…
I have experienced every point stared out in this video…
Tysm for making this video it helped me so much
- *When you feel like a lot of these apply to your friend but you’re too scared and you feel like they’re still good for you but you still don’t know if you’re overthinking it or not* -
(Wait what the heck I’m at 1k?!?! Oh my gosh what the heck thank you all so much this is the biggest amount of likes I’ve ever got!)
fuck. i feel like i'm looking at mirror rn :')
Or when they are bad for you, but you don't wanna hurt them though recognize their attachment to you is co dependent.
dude fuck it.
Trueee
!!!
Who else doesn’t want to let go of their friend but knows they should
Me but ive tried and he dint let go so......who is the one really hurt here
Alycia Cardamone me
Me
Alycia Cardamone bro meeeee. she has been my best friend for the longest time, but she is a bitch lately. but I don't want to loose her cause she knows everything about me. I'm afraid she will expose me is i make her mad. also we have way too many fights. so I just want to stop being her friend, but I can't for some reason.
me
Thank you for this
What hurts is when you think of them as your best friend but realize they don't feel the same
I can relate. It’s hard for me to allow myself to ever start to think of someone as a “best friend,” even after reaching many years of being friends. Anyone I’ve ever felt especially close to has gone out of their way to let me know that I’m not *their* best friend. It’s a perception that feels so unlikely to ever be reciprocated, it sucks :/
This one I can relate so bad
I had a best friend but then I moved almost 3 years ago it was really hard at first but know I’m just used to it. When I first moved we called a lot and now we don’t as much anymore. We are still friends but our bff relationship started falling apart since I moved it’s time to forget the fact will never be bffs again.
Yea
@Abbi-sr7il I’m so sorry I know what it feels like
Friends come and go. Nothing lasts forever, sad but true.
FriEND BestfriEND
when you accept its happy
Agreed
Thank you for that
I don’t agree with you, yes, a large part of Your friendships end, but some stays. For exemple, my dad has been best friends with 2 guys since 35 years, they still laugh, eat, and travel together and our family are really close.
My best friend broke my trust :/ she's kinda my enemy now and she's the majority of what I talk about in therapy. I need help learning how to get over her because she really rude to me and so is her cousin 😭. This video really helped me understand, thank you so much for making it!! ❤❤❤ You've earned a subscriber 😁
thank you needed this!!!
That's so terrible when our special people start evolving to be strangers....
Mine is never letting go
@@tabbywaslostflyhightweek4992 The rope is kinda breaking every day, you sure bro?
Katelyn UwU it’s not gonna break cause it’s made out of true friendship not a fake one
not evolve to stranfers, but devolve to strangers
I still never have a fight with my bestie and we are not even at the same class but we still best friend ^^
Me: *reads thumbnail*
Me thinking: Wait, i don't need to leave my best friend! She's amazing!
Also me: *clicks on video anyways*
What the- Hey you 50 people who liked my comment, thanks... I'm not sure why but alright...
its 65 people now
What the- I see 71 peeps and then 72
My god
This is the most likes I've gotten bruh
LOVE UR SPOTIFY!!!!
The worst feeling is passing your best friend like strangers..
i need someone.
me too, you can talk to me if you want :)
We are here for u :>.
@@mlzxs_ thank you 🥺
I’m here for you❤️❤️🥰
I use to have lots of friends but I ended my relationship with my friends because it’s really hard 🥺😭💔and I will never make friends again
My mom was so right when she said you won’t have the same friends from school all your life. Sadly it’s so difficult to find friends once out of school and entering the big world
why??
@@fmatozo what do you mean ‘why’
@@Ad0814 explain this big world and if your comfatbale your situtaion
@@jaydabot2661 The friends I had in school weren’t close enough I guess so when we graduated we just stopped talking, the friends I have I still talk to sort of are busy with college and don’t really reach out to me at all like I do to them. So I’ve honeslty given up, I’m also busy with 2 jobs and I take time to ask how they’re doing lol
My bully is steel he is a boy
Good video good points logical and I think that it gives advice that is only going to help you.
I've known this friend for over 14 years. All of a sudden, anything I say to her becomes an argument. Even when I ask about the ingredients in her purchased ingredients. She starts to swear in public and acts like a kid. She stops calling me all of a sudden which was a huge favor for me because I did not know to end the friendship. So, thank you fir not talking to me any more
Me: *best friend and I had been having troubles in our friendship for a long while now*
Psych2Go: *recommends this vid*
Me: *..... oh...*
Yeah same....
Relatable
same.....
same
Same
1 You are second guessing your friendship
2 You don't communicate anymore
3 You want different things
4 You found another friend
5 They've broken your trust
6 You're the only one holding
I can relate to 2, 3, 4
I relate to 4
i can mainly relate to 2,3,4 and 5
I have 2 friends in college who are out of town while I have 2 jobs instead of schooling.
In the 2 years since they started college, I’ve messaged first asking how they’ve been and what’s been going on with them, neither one really gives a genuine reply, just saying ‘yeah it’s been busy with finals and stuff’ etc and doesn’t even ask in return how I’ve been.
It’s almost not worth it anymore since they haven’t put the effort in to want to catch up with me first🥲 I’ve known both since middle school and outside of school it’s so hard to just make new friends
@@Ad0814 I feel you :( you are not alone
The worst is that I’m always the person that has to try and save the friendship. After this video I want to give up
My "best friend" and I just did everything together and we laughed and joked around a lot. It feels normal and easy talking to her. She used to have this enemy and hated her a lot, but nowadays, I just watch them get closer to each other and she just left me out. Everything applied to me in this video and I just want to say that losing a best friend hurts a lot so value the friendship you have now.
House is on fire: *this is fine*
That was a Nice touch!
Coco and her coconuts MOOOOOODDD
Me lol
Moon shine down, hello kh fan
The fire's spreading on around my room, my world's so bright...it's hard to breathe but that's alright 😁😆
Summary
1. You are second guessing the friendship
2. You don’t communicate anymore
3. You want different things
4. You’ve found other friends
5. They’ve broken your trust
6. You are the one holding on
Hope this helps!
Thankss
Hmmmm
I'm second guessing the friendship I have with my best friend....
I text him but, he never rlly respondes.....
He's rlly into anime, and I know nothing about it.....
He found a friend group, and I found a different one.....
He likes to tell my secrets :/.......
I just can't let him go....
💔
@@user-xy3rz9hc7b I don't know who you are, but I think if a so called "friend" shares your secrets then that person is toxic and you should let go, I personally haven't let go of a friend yet but the moment you realize that you deserve something or someone better is the moment you can finally let someone go. I think the best way to let go is to just let it happen naturally, like stop texting or ignore that person the same way that person ignores you.
@@bluejuly2633 Thank u for the advice. And ur right, I should just let the friendship end naturally.
Do you know what the background music is?
thanks, this helped me a lot.
Thank you you have helped me a lot❤️❤️❤️
When you realize your best friend has become someone you don’t recognize anymore, it’s time to let go.
I had a friend like that from high school. She used to have my back and vice versa and I had to let her go coz her boyfriend is a controlling prick and eventually she sided with him and thus I left.
true 😭
if you dont recognize your friend anymore means you never knew them at all in the entire friendship and you have failed them
@@rondonnis6588 sorry I'm going to disagree with you on that one just because my "friend" was one that I could easily recognize however when someone tries to control that person and "friend" sides with the boyfriend-they weren't my friend to begin with. They actually failed me if you really think about it.
@@rondonnis6588 no it’s where they’ve got to the point where they’ve changed into a different person and judging by this comment you’re probably one of them
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:( sadly true
Used to go to his place when i was younger. Have always had a rocky relationship with my mother and everytime i felt scared or hurt I'd go to his place and his family welcomed me over ALWAYS. I could sleep over at their place and my mother would come the next day to come get me. This cycle went on for over 10 years. This friend has been an integral part of my upbringing. He and his family will forever hold a special place in my heart no matter what.
They made a hellish childhood infinitely brighter. I owe them everything
thx for the solution and help