9 Reasons Why People Dislike You (Psychology of Haters)

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  • Having been an easy target for others' judgement all my life, I've learned quite a bit about the psychology of haters along the way. I managed to come up with a list of nine main reasons why people dislike other people.
    0:00 - Why People Dislike You
    0:58 - 1. Messing Up on Your Performance
    2:36 - 2. Being Different
    3:44 - 3. Looking Like You're Part of a Disliked Group
    4:39 - 4. Appearing to be Winning
    5:11 - 5. Appearing to be Losing
    6:08 - 6. Appearing to be in the Way
    6:34 - 7. Putting Yourself Out There
    7:43 - 8. Openly Talking About Having a Hard Time
    9:55 - 9. Appearing to Have an Unfair Advantage
    11:16 - Conclusion
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ความคิดเห็น • 338

  • @sigmasiren777
    @sigmasiren777 ปีที่แล้ว +227

    The older I got, the more I started to realize that ppl will dislike you for just about ANYTHING. Good or bad. A lot of ppl are just plain hateful.

    • @joycebruhn1346
      @joycebruhn1346 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      hi as a person who is both loved and disliked ... me but as yers go on there are more people i see and are around that are haters .. and the haters grow but fyi the haters spend all time isolating you and they team together for the attack by convincing others to climb on board then its a attack .. the hate is really deep and the evil grows ..watch the scrooge movie he started out normal .. then went south .. i love people i love everyone i love everyone and serve God as number one i forgive those who transgress againt me lol oh man im hated

    • @aloksrivastava7938
      @aloksrivastava7938 25 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

      Haters will hate you even if you live like a hermit in absolute isolation. If you are contented despite having nothing, your contentment will cause them to hate you.

  • @mirandacruz5843
    @mirandacruz5843 2 ปีที่แล้ว +88

    I am very quiet and low key I prefer to be successful in the quiet & people hate that I try to stay to myself and it attracts bullies…I am minding my business why can’t they

    • @angelaatwood46
      @angelaatwood46 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I know!!

    • @elegant_starr
      @elegant_starr 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Then thats not your problem! They're just jealous of you, you didnt do anything wrong, keep doing well! :)

    • @lunaticluna4493
      @lunaticluna4493 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I am your opposite love to be out and about and I am loud and busy..and gets so much dislike these days..
      I am actually getting introvert because get dissapointed in people..

    • @jackilynpyzocha662
      @jackilynpyzocha662 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Their problem, their loss of supply and no-one but them to blame. Good for you for not giving them fuel to burn you with. I am quiet, too. It works, no contact with my narc dad, he deliberately annoys me, he's a jerkwad!

    • @lakerregina2783
      @lakerregina2783 13 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Same

  • @KorpsePaintKlown
    @KorpsePaintKlown 3 ปีที่แล้ว +154

    You can be disliked just as much for being an introvert. I fully support people who are extroverts, but I've always had people not respect my wishes to keep my business private, and just be a relatively secluded person naturally.

    • @chiron_uncoded5912
      @chiron_uncoded5912 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I’m an extrovert and got my business twisted and slandered. It’s better to be hated in your position than mine trust me.

    • @user-ry8ms5sq9p
      @user-ry8ms5sq9p 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I had many introvert friends I stopped talking to them
      Let's just say when I'm homeless they hated company rather see me sleep on the streets
      I don't hate introverts but I would never make friends with any introvert that is this messed up

    • @user-ry8ms5sq9p
      @user-ry8ms5sq9p 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@chiron_uncoded5912 extrovert are amazing only the one's that are anti social

    • @user-ry8ms5sq9p
      @user-ry8ms5sq9p 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@chiron_uncoded5912 I'm not a extravert or introvert I feel like both of them if they aren't in the middle they'll create drama

    • @Movieclips_101
      @Movieclips_101 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Facts 💯

  • @mjcjjcc7
    @mjcjjcc7 3 ปีที่แล้ว +228

    I think haters hate themselves and it has nothing to do anyone else.

    • @rik-keymusic160
      @rik-keymusic160 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      That’s so true!

    • @user-ry8ms5sq9p
      @user-ry8ms5sq9p 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      They hate men
      They hate themselves
      And they hate God
      Because God made men in His Image

    • @sionapink1560
      @sionapink1560 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      This is true ❤
      Stay beautiful darling

    • @FUNNYMANERICWHITE
      @FUNNYMANERICWHITE 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Great video

    • @yonico_
      @yonico_ 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      poeple can actually hate you just for the sake of hating. Because it feels good.

  • @nedargiordano7018
    @nedargiordano7018 2 ปีที่แล้ว +68

    Sometimes a man being too good or too noble might cause some people to dislike you

    • @chiron_uncoded5912
      @chiron_uncoded5912 2 ปีที่แล้ว +25

      Because you shine light on where they’re lacking.

    • @joycebruhn1346
      @joycebruhn1346 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      ive never disliked anyone i love everyone but since i was a child a person who pokes fun comstantly at people or who teases people has mad me sad .. so i always say hey stop bothering them and usually they do but todays society its parents who are from tik tok and other medias not as protective of kids tgey say oh thats no big deal or its just life get tough but reslly its wrong immature .. i find i like being around more mature people and just as jesus says the world hates people who dont focus on worldly desires

    • @shiner8375
      @shiner8375 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Wrong… it’s because that light your shining goes against their beliefs and you have the power to shine it.

    • @jackilynpyzocha662
      @jackilynpyzocha662 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I wish my dad would stop thinking the world revolves around him, his crony girlfriend and one of his narc brothers. I can't deal with Dad; he's a bully.

  • @lindaachieng8652
    @lindaachieng8652 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +26

    If you were seen as a loser or struggled with grades when you were younger, people (you grew up with especially) might not know how to view you/interact with you if you start doing better in life. If you were shy or clumsy, or didn't do well in school, some might not expect you to succeed later on. If you do improve, they might have trouble accepting it. You'll def be hated.

    • @akankshasuryavanshi1448
      @akankshasuryavanshi1448 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Finally someone said it. Thank you, this is what I unknowingly wanted to hear. ✨✨

    • @joycebruhn1346
      @joycebruhn1346 หลายเดือนก่อน

      i only struggled with n my home ... outside my home in a different family etc i soared successful my family depended on me for or as the responsible work horse .. the babysitter the maid i loved to help them so at the toime was quite joyous and dependable and quite happy when my sisters got prizes i was happy for them when theny got rewards i was proud ., secretly i got awards too first place second place tgrid place but i learned to never brng them home or talj about them ever everyone looked at them and said you must have cheated or clearly you were given it because tgey deppfelt sorry for you lol so i hid everything i did tgey ruined it fro m day one i won bible contests i got money for babysitting or whatever i hid it all lol ... just a day in my life lol god is my father my soul belongs to him i met people from movies from sports from everywhere but i hid it all so my life fro 10 to forty five awsome .. but forty five to now sixty is more of survival since loosing many friends many ... i am strong to love you all out there no matter if im hatted thats fine with me

  • @theseattlegreen1871
    @theseattlegreen1871 2 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    I can just walk into a room or a grocery store and people automatically do not like me

  • @Essencejournal
    @Essencejournal 2 ปีที่แล้ว +71

    I’m in tears right now. I’m just tired of going through this with other people and with myself. Today was a bad day for me, but I’m glad I found this video. Thank you!

    • @justathought-hj3lz
      @justathought-hj3lz ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Ik it's been a year , but how are things lately

    • @jackilynpyzocha662
      @jackilynpyzocha662 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      My dad is sadistic, he enjoying saying things to hurt me. I can't be bothered with him anyomore.

    • @cathyfulford593
      @cathyfulford593 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Omg...I am in tears too. A weekend trying to fit in with family that hate me. Trying to talk to people that obviously hate me. Work people obviously dislike me. I am tired of it.

  • @gatestimonymiracle1302
    @gatestimonymiracle1302 3 ปีที่แล้ว +64

    People will dislike you regardless 😜 no avoiding it

    • @Aventura_19
      @Aventura_19 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      welcome to he- i mean humanity!

    • @jackilynpyzocha662
      @jackilynpyzocha662 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Take it as a compliment! Dad treats me horribly and wants gratitude for that! He is delusional! I can't deal with his b.s. anymore.

  • @ralfshmartinfinitewaters4278
    @ralfshmartinfinitewaters4278 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    People who hate others hate something about themselves and project onto others. They harbour so much pain and hate to protect themselves. I choose to love as much as I can and be generous with my compassion but unfortunately people judge and hate too easily.

  • @rickcreighton9714
    @rickcreighton9714 2 ปีที่แล้ว +72

    Nothing is worse than a jealous little human. The most negative attribute of the human condition is jealousy.

    • @BeaterCollector
      @BeaterCollector 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Most definitely

    • @user-or2ub9vb3f
      @user-or2ub9vb3f 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Also they didnt think of it first .

    • @pawpetadventurewalks2941
      @pawpetadventurewalks2941 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Gorgeous

    • @user-or2ub9vb3f
      @user-or2ub9vb3f 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      What about hate. Think thats worse than jealousy by a ling shot....patricia. from south africa😈

  • @mysti537
    @mysti537 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    People dislike me everywhere I go especially at the workplace that’s why I don’t work hard, never married no kids never had a career - refuse to conform to the norm

    • @lakerregina2783
      @lakerregina2783 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Relatable, I’m struggling at work because people just dislike me n it’s stressing some times

    • @mysti537
      @mysti537 13 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@lakerregina2783 I feel you

  • @arildthordal810
    @arildthordal810 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    They hate you if you are healthy and successful while themselves are misserable

    • @jackilynpyzocha662
      @jackilynpyzocha662 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Dad thinks he's perfect and nitpicks at me. I can't be bothered with his bullshit anymore.

  • @TwinTails100
    @TwinTails100 3 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    I don't see _any_ reason to hate someone. Even for point #1. If you're of poor moral character, I won't _hate_ you because of it, but I won't _condone_ your bad choices either. Hating someone hurts _you_ more than it hurts them and it doesn't help anyone either.

  • @rashikatasnim2335
    @rashikatasnim2335 3 ปีที่แล้ว +50

    I always talk about my struggle in life openly and people sometimes think I'm weak or I'm negative and boring. but I can't change myself. I'm not trying to impress anyone but it's really hard to get people like you so that you can talk and share your thoughts. as a human sometimes you feel to do some socializing that is the problem. Humans are really strange so do their emotions. if you're more emotional it is really hard for you to deal with this world, if you don't care anything much and can go with the flow then everyone will love you

    • @mahletadamu2602
      @mahletadamu2602 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I totally feel u!!

    • @jeomemo
      @jeomemo 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      some people dont like to hear about others struggles because it reminds them of theirs. it makes THEM feel weak. They try to avoid any conversation about harsh times or problems.

  • @jaronoliver5687
    @jaronoliver5687 3 ปีที่แล้ว +67

    Solid video. You have a healthy and appropriate view on life. I love how you find the simplest way to explain the concepts.

    • @WeTheKims
      @WeTheKims  3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Thanks for your kind comment!

  • @mellamopepe619
    @mellamopepe619 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    It’s amazing how completely utterly wrong the haters can be in their judgements.
    Like you could just tie your shoes and somehow they’ll take it personally.

    • @4coolclips
      @4coolclips 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      True that!!! 👍👍

    • @joycebruhn1346
      @joycebruhn1346 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      the best people are people who are kind but most people think they are kind lol but no they are nice or cordual look up the definitions a kind person is rare .. as a child i really though most people were capable of kindness knowing the truth disappoining many people are sonetime s nice or kind to choice people and situations but as a person who cant see the situations or choices any different im learning about people its .... surprising how i was in a different world that them ...

    • @samritchie8640
      @samritchie8640 26 วันที่ผ่านมา

      This actually happened to me! I'd learned a different way of tying my shoes, and one of my many bullies saw me doing that and made sure everyone present knew about it in less than a minute. I've found over the years that these walking abortions will deserve nothing.

  • @mmommo-hx4dx
    @mmommo-hx4dx 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    had to quit my christian bunko group (card game). I don't dye my hair, im newly single, im not very overweight, I had back luck with bad guy roommates, I work out, im happy, I survived, I have a good part time job. so a few don't speak to me....so guess what....I'm done...I don't stay in TOXIC situations anymore...

    • @sunnyday7843
      @sunnyday7843 26 วันที่ผ่านมา

      They expect you to dye your hair ? Like Grey to black or some colorful look ?

    • @aloksrivastava7938
      @aloksrivastava7938 25 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Be authentic to yourself. This is the mantra of happiness.
      Dying your hair means you are killing you hair with chemical poisons. Anything you apply on you hair directly reaches in each every organ of your body and poisons them--first and foremost of those organs being the brain.

  • @jmum189
    @jmum189 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    People hate you for falling outside of performance norms (good or bad) and for having qualities that fall outside of societal norms (good or bad). The middle ground is where people are most liked, and counter-intuitively are the people that get somewhere when its dependent on others, because they`re not hated.
    To get some where on your own you need to be good and good, let it shine. You`ll be hated, but you`ll go far.

  • @maxmorimoto6481
    @maxmorimoto6481 3 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Okay this sure explains a lot!! I am #2 as I am different in the sense that I'm very socially awkward which makes people annoyed and uncomfortable around me. Thanks for sharing this!!

    • @No_Show94
      @No_Show94 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Don’t know why this annoys ppl but ur right it does 😩

  • @Mary-tj5qx
    @Mary-tj5qx หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    In my experience, this is what it looks like:
    1. Jealousy
    2. If you have an internal locus of control, and controlling people cannot control you, they’ll hate you for it.
    3. You have a strong sense of self, you know who you are. Most people don’t have that and when dealing with you they will feel this fact is very exposed, and they’ll hate you for it.
    4. People who have not dealt with a lot of their own issues will project all of their insecurities onto everyone else. They’ll feel badly a lot of the time and instead of recognizing that this is coming from within, they’ll project the cause onto everyone else.

  • @jennlin2529
    @jennlin2529 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    This video made me feel better about myself. I've been looking up ways online since I've been told by my husband that his friends either dislike me or just tolerate me. I have autism, so I understand I don't communicate with people per social norms. I've also been more stressed out since I had my second child so I've been more obviously high strung. I don't hurt people, I am not abusive, but I'm disliked because I'm not acting like how they think I should act. This is the first thing I've encountered on my search that says don't let people change you, just try to be a good person, and it's not entirely my fault. It's ok to be different. I'll just continue to be as nice as I can to others and promote good things in the world the best way I can. If people don't like me, I don't need to keep trying to please them. With autism, we do things outside the norm, or others don't understand why we're overwhelmed or upset. We say the wrong things in situations without realizing it. Then they judge us or say cruel things. Thank you for this video, it helps me understand situations more clearly.

  • @shakiellaachee7829
    @shakiellaachee7829 3 ปีที่แล้ว +37

    It don’t matter where I am... there’s always someone or a group of people... usually women that have an attitude and is mean to me for no reason and they are always strangers. If I get to know them they become so invested digging in my life and being fake that I don’t tolerate it at all. It’s just always annoying to deal with whatever they are projecting and going through. I mind my damn business heavy and idk why people feel comfortable showing me that their bothered by me. I continue pretending like I don’t see them. But I’m getting tired of that. And always staring omg

    • @raashidathomas4803
      @raashidathomas4803 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      WE ARE EXPERIENCING THE EXACT THING I JUST DNT UNDERSTAND IT.

    • @jeomemo
      @jeomemo 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      a lot of people are mentally ill and they dont know it, some are not self aware and express their negative side without abandon, some are just evil in nature, they are born that way and it gets worse as they age. if they are intimidated by someone one in any way it triggers them to show their true colors.

    • @BangNoShock
      @BangNoShock 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Believe me you're not alone, I'm on the same boat. It's exhausting having to tolerate these poor excuses of ppl just to put bread on the table. However, I keep reminding myself that their little clique are not the whole world even if they deluded themselves into thinking that. Stay true to yourself.

    • @jasminealexia
      @jasminealexia 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@jeomemowow! You really explained their nature to the letter! Really helps clear up the confusion for me so I can better cope. It can be hard to grasp if you don’t move that way yourself

    • @jeomemo
      @jeomemo 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@jasminealexia Glad I could help, and yes it can take sometime to notice it in people, especially if you're distracted with life and perhaps stress. also the more mature you become the more you start picking up on the red flags quicker. take care and stay aware.

  • @Nate-nh4dr
    @Nate-nh4dr 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Omgosha…Thank you so much for sharing your experience and insight. Your explanation is so easy to understand. I can wholeheartedly understand and relate.

  • @angelaatwood46
    @angelaatwood46 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    My god! Thanks so much I'm a lot of these things. I worked hard on myself to be authentic, and I have haters. Here is one BIG THING: WHY is it ALL OVER the internet to learn to love yourself, but when you do, others can't stand it! I have had a very hard life, but I've never given up. I am counterculture, people may judge me because I have piercings and not follow the rules for my age, but whatever. I really have to protect myself right now from some toxic people, and I have to not care what others think of me anymore.

  • @ErikaMariTakahashi
    @ErikaMariTakahashi 3 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    well, as Thanos said "
    We're all bad in someone's story"

    • @jackilynpyzocha662
      @jackilynpyzocha662 หลายเดือนก่อน

      They need to change their narrative!

    • @sunnyday7843
      @sunnyday7843 26 วันที่ผ่านมา

      That’s funny in a way !

  • @AnnieB097
    @AnnieB097 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Just wanted to say thank you very much. The video has helped me understand why some people don't like me and you were informative but kind.

  • @JuliaHyche-wz6et
    @JuliaHyche-wz6et 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I’m so thankful for someone like you to put the 9 reasons because of myself being bullied for 9 years and not getting the understanding this real helped a lot. Thank you so much 😭❤

  • @brighttete664
    @brighttete664 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I'm glad I happened to come across your page. God speaks through you. Keep going friend!

  • @barbararay1389
    @barbararay1389 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I relate to all of this! Makes perfect sense! Please keep putting yourself out there! So refreshing and insigjtful, especially for us, hs persons!!😊🌺

  • @tiffanysar-lecluze5679
    @tiffanysar-lecluze5679 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Omg thank you so much for this video you have no idea how it is important for I'm sure a lot of people out there myself included !

  • @prasannabuddhikaherath8431
    @prasannabuddhikaherath8431 3 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    Great video bro. In my opinion, this whole process of liking or disliking is one selves expression on others purely based on cognitive framework he has been building during his or her life. If some one fits that frame is liking and if not disliking.

    • @WeTheKims
      @WeTheKims  3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      yes true. From their belief system.

  • @WeTheKims
    @WeTheKims  3 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    What’s something about you that’s not wrong but many people have disliked, rejected, or hated you for it?

    • @silentgrove7670
      @silentgrove7670 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I can have a lot of energy and discuss many ideas.

    • @WeTheKims
      @WeTheKims  3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Many have negatively judged my surplus of energy too

    • @mistylee2107
      @mistylee2107 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Primarily telling the truth!

    • @619WWEFAN
      @619WWEFAN 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      It’s not a specific answer but, this idea of “be your real self” makes some people against you. Cause sometimes others will try to adjust themselves to make the norm / majority happy, but I’m not that type.
      A couple examples could me: others may drink alcohol but I don’t, others may spend a lot of money but I don’t, others may have so much anger / hatred to something but I don’t.
      Prob being an introvert helps me deal with these things better than some others might. Some care for quantity of people they interact with, I care for quality however. And even if I’m alone? I don’t mind as long as I’m being my real self, plus it can reduce haters in a way cause I’m off their radar :)

    • @sigmasiren777
      @sigmasiren777 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Being an attractive introvert. Ppl assume I’m a snob but I’m really just shy at first. Also some ppl dislike me because I dress well everyday.

  • @jonn_mace_80_95_
    @jonn_mace_80_95_ 3 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    Next, try to do _9 Reasons Why People Like You (Psychology of Lovers)_ .

    • @WeTheKims
      @WeTheKims  3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Thanks for the idea :)

    • @jackilynpyzocha662
      @jackilynpyzocha662 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@WeTheKims Same here!

  • @apo11ocat
    @apo11ocat 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Thanks! Very straight to the point unlike most psychology channels!

  • @Wellwishe3679
    @Wellwishe3679 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Brilliant summary ! Thank you :)

  • @thenebraskan6977
    @thenebraskan6977 ปีที่แล้ว

    I just discovered you today. Your video makes a lot of good sense. Keep up the great work!

  • @aleenamary24
    @aleenamary24 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Now idk if I have to be happy or sad because I finally know why people hate me lol. But thank you so much for this, such a great explanation 🙂

  • @louiseislam7424
    @louiseislam7424 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I feel i have been disliked by very many people just for living.

    • @cathyfulford593
      @cathyfulford593 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Lol same.. my son wants me dead... Guess it is not my time... But it would make him happy

  • @Steph_Said
    @Steph_Said 3 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    💜Insightful & truthful. Thank You!

    • @WeTheKims
      @WeTheKims  3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thanks for watching!

  • @purple_chainz5565
    @purple_chainz5565 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Good video I like the content , I though something was wrong with me till I watched this video and made so much sense

  • @amyhoover9
    @amyhoover9 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Here's my main takeaway from this video... some people in life just aren't worth your time or energy, and not everybody in this world has to like you. This world would be leaning towards chaos if everybody in it were to see and do things the same way like clones.

  • @Ikigai747
    @Ikigai747 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Woahh...great video!! Eye opener for me in lots of ways, there is really so much to learn..❤

  • @JoshyAngelOutreach
    @JoshyAngelOutreach 13 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Yes I learned the hard way sharing troubles. A lot of heartless people use it against you to say you must be happy 24/7 while these same people when they have trouble expect you to bow to them. Not everyone can perfect their circumstances but we try hard to do the best we can.

  • @AngiesTastyFoodies
    @AngiesTastyFoodies ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thanks so much for this truly enlightening wisdom and understanding about haters. It helps me to remember that I don't need to give them the attention they crave and can instead focus my energy on more positive pursuits. Thank you so much!

  • @levylux8958
    @levylux8958 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    They hate me cuz I’m winning lmaoo 💀

  • @jasonperez4954
    @jasonperez4954 3 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    I miss pop danthologies.. i remember listening to them all day every day a few years back... do you think you'll make more? i love your work 🙏 stay great man

    • @WeTheKims
      @WeTheKims  3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Because of all the reasons I explain in this video th-cam.com/video/I34W_p1FNjU/w-d-xo.html, I won't be making annual mashups anymore. Decade ones I might though.

  • @bangibabs
    @bangibabs 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    This video is totally true! So great💯💯💯💯🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

  • @nevinebailey4283
    @nevinebailey4283 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This is so true thank you for this message

  • @Christ_Is_Life10-10
    @Christ_Is_Life10-10 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    This is spot on.! I appreciate your knowledge and wisdom.😊

  • @georgelouis6515
    @georgelouis6515 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Thanks for telling the truth. People need to hear these things. We need to understand ourselves as humans to understand each other. But also people will also hate you if they aren’t attracted to you, feel your denying them sex or if you seem to be weird or crossing there boundaries. People are wolves.

  • @petrinaberry9287
    @petrinaberry9287 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    You made a very good point about racers. I never quite saw it that way but now it helps me understand things a bit better.
    I do feel competitive thinking creates a perfect place for people to hate rather than connect. I see it with my mother-in-law. Rather than connecting, she often likes to compare and compete but she does crave connection but she's oblivious to the fact that seeing her relationship with her daughter-in-law like a race to be won is pushing her loved ones away.

  • @BrolyKing801
    @BrolyKing801 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Love this Video I relate to everything you said

  • @gabrielagrassi8237
    @gabrielagrassi8237 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Omg you expressed a lot of things I agree with 💖

  • @RealRoknRollr3108
    @RealRoknRollr3108 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Great video. At lot of these sorts of videos often don't resonate but I felt you nailed it with every point. Nice one

  • @cathykeener6634
    @cathykeener6634 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    When I volunteer to do stuff or take the initiative to create content, I think people get annoyed if it’s good or not their idea. I ask for feedback and input and get none. I try to be collaborative but I get crickets. I’m excited and I so want someone to be excited but I don’t get. Also I’m a PM that does and teaches engineering. So… “not accredited” shade. Yet, people keep letting me do my thing, so I’ll just keep going. Love your stuff!!!

  • @Bumpkin249
    @Bumpkin249 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thankyou so much for your video I'm still watching but already it's lifted what was becoming a sad or negative train of thought. But your video so far has been enlightening and I'm always looking to improve myself.. and be liked which is typical for my brain as a woman with ADHD who constantly struggles to fit in.

  • @llsss777
    @llsss777 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Wow this is the most brilliant video and the best articulate speaking I've ever heard. Wow the wzy you present information is crazy!!❤❤

  • @jyj.lee85
    @jyj.lee85 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I totally agree with 7th reason. My sisters worked since age of 16-17 but I was more of studying and helping my parents out. My father bought me a car when they did not. They have complained to me for the unfair advantage as the first born.

  • @user-qi5xb2yd3o
    @user-qi5xb2yd3o 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Like seriously I'm currently going through this

  • @beasaroseco5840
    @beasaroseco5840 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Hi Daniel! Great Video.😊

  • @np6259
    @np6259 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I thing you covered those aspects of the haters that no one wants to talk about. What would be great is to make a video with solutions and how to respond tot them, because they can get really evil somethimes.

  • @mrghostmanghost5595
    @mrghostmanghost5595 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    i dont give much trouble to my teachers... but teachers tend to love those trouble makers... i guess i am just a dust in the history of life... the ideology of being a good student i have carried all my life, is always not get implied logically... being good, is never good enough even among teachers... i guess that's how life goes... but then, being good, is not for everyone but for yourself... right now, i just being good, because i want to be... i felt good... there's nothing wrong doing the things that make you feel good... i walk all my life from when i was small to now an adult being disliked ... not many friends... a lone wolf... i make friends with good people because they are genuinely good or someone with a hidden agenda... i but hadn't a friend who genuinely wants to meet me... i still never figure this situation out in my life... but still, im pretty happy with being a lone wolf... so, life is still good for me...

  • @omniscientbarebones
    @omniscientbarebones 3 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    All of the reasons I'm constantly bullied? Cause I'm smarter than everyone in my class therefor I'm hated by every student who is in my class.

    • @W1llKh0r
      @W1llKh0r 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I'm sorry mate. But the smartest person in my class is also the most popular one. I ended up in the receiving end of the "bullied" stick because that smart person is also my nemesis. She literally have half the school behind her, I never stood a chance.

    • @omniscientbarebones
      @omniscientbarebones 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@W1llKh0r different school, different life

    • @goldendiamon
      @goldendiamon 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Stop trying to please everyone.People will always have something to say and they don't care whether you're smart or not

    • @omniscientbarebones
      @omniscientbarebones 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@goldendiamon i don’t even remember making this comment, god i was so arrogant.
      it’s not really any bullies anymore, it’s me beating myself up over everything, i don’t want to wake up anymore.

    • @goldendiamon
      @goldendiamon 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@omniscientbarebones Don't be your worst enemy plss

  • @Olga-kv1oi
    @Olga-kv1oi 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Great video 👏

  • @centuryromance
    @centuryromance 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Well understood.. 👌

  • @shiner8375
    @shiner8375 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Great video….agree with everything you said. Exactly my experience.

  • @informationcenter513
    @informationcenter513 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Think...you said is what I m going through I m not crazy other people go through this

  • @sharonconstan8234
    @sharonconstan8234 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    What a beautiful, brilliant site!

  • @myumbrellav.4488
    @myumbrellav.4488 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    As if you're speaking to me. This got to be the most accurate translation about Haters.

  • @thewongmindset451
    @thewongmindset451 3 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    Man great message. I can relate to doing things differently and appearing to be winning in the race....its hard but we need to build up the confidence to not care what people say. But still take criticism a constantly improve/grow 👍

    • @WeTheKims
      @WeTheKims  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thanks for watching and appreciating the message 😀

  • @hosurosh4846
    @hosurosh4846 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you!!

  • @chapstickaddict435
    @chapstickaddict435 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    A co-worker dislikes me for some reason and I have no clue what I did. We were friends and then one day we weren't. I don't know why.

    • @SerpentGirl21
      @SerpentGirl21 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Same thing happened to me. We chatted about video games every day and cracked jokes. Then he moved his desk away from mine and gets nasty whenever I ask him for help. I don't know what causes it.

    • @robert9525
      @robert9525 ปีที่แล้ว

      Ask yourself where you really a friend in the beginning. A hater is that person that you always wind up meeting at the car wash. That might not be no coincidence. They just want to get in your business so they approached you. Remember they can't breathe. 👰💰👄🥀🐁🍼🏍️🚗🥇🏆🏈🏀👑

  • @Margret-ux4hc
    @Margret-ux4hc 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I really needed to hear this!🙏

  • @ishanray
    @ishanray หลายเดือนก่อน

    I relate to #8. I’m going through a custody battle and I can relate. I’ve lost so many people and find it odd that men are even uncomfortable talking about custody.

  • @lazarethneptune6969
    @lazarethneptune6969 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This is awesome!!!

  • @kiwi_xh1741
    @kiwi_xh1741 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    It’s very impressive. I’ve seen the problems from the people in my country. BTW, can I remake your video that I want to add Chinese in order to make them face squarely to this problem?

  • @andrebreville493
    @andrebreville493 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I have been despised by one guy I thought was my friend just because I was part of a Christian group. He was so verbally abusive that it made me question my own beliefs and distance myself from religion.

    • @jessiehu9963
      @jessiehu9963 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I'm sorry for your hardships with your friend because you are a Christian. If it helps, I see it as a sign that you really are a Christian, disciple of Jesus now. You are bearing His Cross. This is when you prove how deep a Christian can love. I pray God strengthen you to go through it.

    • @andrebreville493
      @andrebreville493 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@jessiehu9963 As I said before, he was not my friend. Just a fraud.

    • @l.2620
      @l.2620 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@andrebreville493
      That sucks. I've had similar experience but in the opposite way. Strongly religious Christians telling me I'll go to hell and that my life is less worth than theirs because I'm Trans and bi. Even though I've got terrible experience thanks to such things and losing my own faith in god- I would never stoop so low as to blatenly insult a Christian to their face just because of their beliefs.
      Life would be so much easier if people just let go of their own prejudice and learn to not think of themselves as having more worth than others based on superficial things.

    • @jackilynpyzocha662
      @jackilynpyzocha662 หลายเดือนก่อน

      My dad thinks he's perfect and nitpicks at me, and tells me he goes to church. Fine, he has a vehicle, I don't. He's unreaonable. I gave up on him. He thinks he looks like Jesus because he has a mustache and beard. The similarities end there. I can't be around dad and his bullshit. It's none of his business if I go to church or not. He acts superior, I'm fed up with his act! He acts like the opposite of Jesus. No blashphemy intended here.

  • @glenpudney
    @glenpudney หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I think for the most part there’s one very simple reason why we might dislike someone. It’s just a fact of life that we dont always like everyone we meet, and someone doesn’t like us. Most people I don’t particularly like aren’t bad people at all, it’s just because they have certain qualities about them I don’t like, simple as that, and some people don’t like me for their own reasons, and that’s ok.

  • @jazminevangelista8402
    @jazminevangelista8402 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    subscribed~
    (ps. this vid deserves more views, hope your channel grows :D)

  • @lindabyrne5692
    @lindabyrne5692 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

    This is truth. Definitely my experience. Thank you for articulating it for me.

  • @WonderfulTrouble.
    @WonderfulTrouble. 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Keep conversations limited, dont get into politics, dont be a complainer or a venter, be yourself, to heck what others think, not everyone is going to like you anyway, stay away from toxic people and stay away from alcohol & drug abusers. This should root out alot of bs that might come ur way. Its also 100% better to have a small group of friends. Rather then a large group of friends. The more people you have in ur life. The higher the possibiliy of drama coming ur way.

  • @hasioseel4807
    @hasioseel4807 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Conclusion: no matter what you do , you will be disliked or not. So …do what you do anyway!

  • @libelulal6258
    @libelulal6258 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Very logical explanations

  • @maani9353
    @maani9353 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Wow this so clear i love your videos
    I totally understand

  • @thousandfurs
    @thousandfurs 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Your content in this video is gold. But I like even more the way you transort it. Listening to it I felt lighter for the first time after a few really exhausting weeks. Thanks for that!

    • @WeTheKims
      @WeTheKims  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thanks for liking it!

  • @BeaterCollector
    @BeaterCollector 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    He's right. I'm the nicest guy ever and so many people tell me that but my neighbor hates me because I don't work and he does, he hates it so much he stands by his window and constantly criticizes me, I can hear things he says to his wife about me and it gets to me. When we first met he went on and on about his wife and it didn't take long for him to start going on and on about me cause he suddenly stopped talking about his wife. I did a total restoration on a vehicle and he never said 1 good comment about it. His name is Jeff so I nicked named him JJ as Jealous Jeff. At least I got that on him.

  • @michaelbrantley.8628
    @michaelbrantley.8628 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Great 👌👍 excellent commentary the haters i don't pay them no mind at all i stayed clear of them they're walking in darkness i don't have anything to due with them.

  • @deraralk3916
    @deraralk3916 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you.

  • @Aventura_19
    @Aventura_19 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    not sure if anxious or paranoia or just i general people that legitametely dislike me

  • @kristinmeyer489
    @kristinmeyer489 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Yup. Just to sum it up, I agree, and it's because you're alive.

  • @gooseburger6969
    @gooseburger6969 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Woah you and psych2go are my favorite youtubers you voice is so soul soothing never listen to haters your an awesome youtuber

    • @WeTheKims
      @WeTheKims  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thanks! Glad you appreciate us as TH-camrs!

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  • @ruthbircham7340
    @ruthbircham7340 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    So true!!!😍

  • @hulCAWmanianUniverse
    @hulCAWmanianUniverse 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    fuck fitting in like a tetris block, only to disappear.
    ALL HAIL INDIVIDUALITY!!!

  • @CharanjitSingh0777
    @CharanjitSingh0777 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Why most people dislike u?😏😏personal experiences
    1.oversharing
    Tips: Don't talk personally more,
    2.oversacrificing
    Tips: Don't offer unnecessary helps to someone .
    3.Thinking Low urself
    Tips: Don't think low of ur weakness
    Just know urself I am thinking unnecessary stuffs now
    4.SHY
    Tips:kill ur weakness by motivating yourself

    • @sunnyday7843
      @sunnyday7843 26 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Basically people don’t like it if you don’t act like their fan .

  • @zbear404
    @zbear404 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Hope you guys get more subscribers. You guys make subscribable content without the need to hype, making each video a surprise of valuable substance.

  • @elhadjdiallo633
    @elhadjdiallo633 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I really need help at this moment I live in the shelter I shouldn't be in the shelter at all I deserve better than that because I know my worth and value ! It's along story I have been through a lot due to the trauma and cptsd that I have been experiencing I ended up in the shelter I still have no clue how ..I'm well educated and intelligent why God !!! I just need help sir !!!

  • @denineful
    @denineful หลายเดือนก่อน

    I always think ego is essentially thinking every should look and act just like us.

  • @TheVanig
    @TheVanig 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Life law number six...There is no reality; only perception. Do not forget it!

  • @lazarethneptune6969
    @lazarethneptune6969 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I luv this guy!!!