John, you have really good content delivered in a nice setting. I'm a 67 year old man who's been at peace for close to 14 years. My sons still don't understand why I haven't found someone - instead, I've found myself, which is even better. Subscribed.
I think that you’re on the right path. Finding yourself and enjoying life from your perspective without having to contend with someone else’s unbalanced approach to life is pure heaven. Thanks for subscribing.
You are on the same boat as me! Sailing down the peace river. For me, at sixty-four, it's been four beautiful, happy, calm, relaxed years of being single. Now, when women are trying to be nice to me, talk to me, compliment me, I see them as the Trojan horse, trying to get into my fortress and destroy me. I so wish we could WARN young men, once the woman is in your fortress, there's a good chance that she will slowly destroy it. It's usually sex that gets a young guy hooked. It's a drug. Then the woman will try to ween you off that drug, because they never really wanted to give it in the first place. It was the trap.
@@MsGlamourcat That's sort of an unusual thing to say, since men generally do understand themselves and other men. Men are not hard to understand. We need respect, we need love, and we need peace.
A lot of guys don't understand that a woman can never be happy forever even if you give her the world. If she is not happy internally on her own, then she will continue to jump from one guy to another until her looks demished.
@@kissengerc9468 You can keep a woman forever, but it’s not easy. If you keep hypergamy satisfied, she will stay. Meaning that you must always be her best perceived option. But is the juice worth the squeeze??
Man must accept woman as they are. You can't change them. So just accept. Be prepared for sudden rupture make your scape plan and hide your goodies.. Bit coin. Offshore banking. And so. Little official income. So little alimony.
Avoid women with severe past trauma as in grape and abuse or if she comes from a highly toxic and dysfunctional family,never play her savior ,therapist or emotional tampon,I made the mistake of being good to a woman like this ,I ignored the red flag life was sending me and I payed for it
@@Mamboking71 same. & Not only did I pay for it, I've NEVER paid a higher price for anything else in my entire life. Most expensive lesson I've ever learned.
I learned this one a hard way, but not the hardest because we were not married. She was a good person with a good heart, but I came to learn she was just too entangled in past trauma and current family issues (her mom, brother and nephews). She could not break the orbit of the downward spiral. Thank god we did not marry and/or buy a house together. Good luck out there.
100% accurate and as someone who has had multiple opportunities to get married I still haven't made the commitment because there are even more red flags than the ones listed in this short video. If you weren't raised around a healthy parental relationship there is nothing wrong with waiting for the right person for YOU. Many women are on a timeline and want to tie down a man for a multitude of reasons many of which are financially motivated. If you're a successful man why would you rush into a relationship simply because she's pushing you and you're not entirely sure why? Marriage in the US is financially beneficial for women in the vast majority of relationships. Unless your wife is the primary breadwinner and she brings more assets to the relationship to which you are entitled to at a 50% split (which is common without a prenup) then why would a man want to get married with a roughly 50% divorce rate and over 70% of them are initiated by women, which goes to 90% if they're college graduates per the stats I've seen. Marriage is straight up structured to be financially beneficial to the woman in most cases should she decide to demand a divorce. So every red flag has to do with her financial commitment to the relationship and her willingness to have an equal partnership financially. That includes contributions that aren't monetary such as the decision whether or not to have kids, childcare etc.
Not easy to do when your fantastic father dies.. you're age 11 and are left with a narcissistic mother and two older sisters who are now in control. I became the male scapegoat.. the only way out was to run like hell and don't look back.
Top celebrities can't hold on to their wives. Men fighting on the frontlines of Ukraine can't stop their women from fleeing the country and finding a a better deal. You think you will manage? Good luck.
You're right.. relationships require constant attention. An old carpenter once told me about the great depression.. if you dropped your hammer, by the time you got back up on the roof another guy had your job! True with women too unfortunately. They require constant affirmation to keep them.
Do you want to hear unhinged? My ex got mad at me and practically lost her mind because I was looking at old photographs of her when we were younger and she was skinnier. She was upset because she is very overweight now. So she took it out on me. That’s unhinged.
I got blamed for talking about a particular food with a friend at a dinner party 3 weeks prior-now that particular food was in her head 3 weeks later and supposedly it was my fault that she was now craving it. Seriously. The conversation about women and their lack of accountability on basically everything is an important one.
I ignored a couple of these red flags for a long time, several years. I actually shifted my thinking and actions to what you suggested here - letting her provide more of the affection - i did it a couple months ago. She noticed this shift and brought it up in a conversation. I am now single, it was my choice. I do miss the bedroom fun but I am not missing the mismatch between that and the emotional intimacy that was not present.
From my personal experience I can confirm this is 100% true. There are many unhinged women out there. My advice is: at the first clear sign of unhinged behaviour just walk out and do NOT look back. Put any and all sunk costs down to the price of the lesson and celebrate avoiding an inevitable far worse outcome. I wish I had learned this from a video rather than life.
My mistake I ignored red flags. I thought being a good husband they will reciprocate but they disrespected you more. Still I stayed coz I know the consequences of legality of divorce. But women don’t care, they know what they can get from you. It’s unfair to men. Marriage is no value to men!
She wants to plan everything then gets mad you weren’t doing the planning leading to the obvious conclusion: she wants to be mad at you and will arrange all the hoops to do so
I'm in my 50's and dated a woman for the past six months and she just broke up with me. Sadly, everything you said in this video describes EXACTLY my now ex-girlfriend. But I also fell hard for her and that's on me and I've learned my lesson. This video was very validating for me, thanks!
I guess it's still raw and hurting, but if it's any consolation, she dumped you because she thought she could better? So her "love" was always and will always be conditional. Probably, well, a fair bet also, that she monkey branched before hitting the switch, too. They are fairly predictable creatures when you undisguise their basic drives.
Sounds like she love bombed you but you were just an option! Indeed any man is more than certain just an option! She might cycle round again as it’s probably unlikely that she will find what makes her happy unless she was some 22 year old hottie with men drooling at her feet with incredible options for male suitors.
Unhinged is just another word to describe Custer B personality disorder or narcissism - histrionic, Borderline, sociopathy, psychopathy. Just run. I know from personal experience. You cannot manage or make these people better.
@@wayneferguson4878 cluster bs are actually mentioned in 2 Timothy 3, 1-9. Also in 7 verses in proverb - see shadiness Medco TH-cam. The Bible says to walk away from them. They are damaging and dangerous . I can take many yrs to recover.
What he is talking about is called 'weaponized confusion'. By sending mixed signals or contradicting requests such as: 1.Wants to be in control but also wants her man to lead. 2. Wants to be desired but then rejects or humiliates your expressions. 3. Wants to be both alone but comforted Etc. etc. By keeping a target in a state of confusion the 'parasite' can then exercise control over the targets perception of reality and eventually get the target to doubt themselves to the point where the target now asks the parasite what to belive or interpret of reality. This weaponized confusion has been used by religious leaders for centuries.
"Weaponized Confusion" is the term that perfectly describes what I've been dealing with. 21 years in and I've been wondering WTH is going on with us for darned near the whole time.
You only see the true woman you married when in divorce court with her slimy attorney, no accountability, lying outright, in front of a judge that determines your financial bankrupted future with child support and outrageous alimony support that leaves you living like a person in slave quarters.
A simple rule of thumb that never fails: if all of her problems are being caused by herself, but she can't see this and blames external factors, then head for the door. YOU CANNOT SAVE HER FROM HERSELF. You can help her with the genuine external factors that are making her life hard, and that can even make your relationship stronger. But nothing you do will help her if she's her own worst enemy.
Boy, from my experience is this ever true! I know so many women who in fact are their own worst enemies who repeatedly make unforced errors that result in self inflicted wounds. And there’s no way any man can save them from themselves.
That’s why it’s monk mode for me. To keep myself from spending the rest of my life incarcerated due to hurting a Jezebel. I enjoy lifting weights, going on long 🚴 rides, drawing, painting, & skateboarding. Love my peace, quiet, & “boring” life.
@@Jules2468 & also 😂 don’t get it twisted; the ladies here in my hometown find me very attractive. I politely decline their “offer” and keep it moving.
There are days that I think I’m the only odd one out, then I watch these kinds of vids and CGA, and remember I’m ok. I believe my decision to have a woman as an accessory not a commitment is right for me. My 7 buds, bf’s are all married and we’re all 40, so most have or about to have children. They believe their wife is “the best thing that happened to them”. I disagree. I love them, so I keep my mouth shut.
Sometimes it’s the man who is crazy and lacks empathy, emotional intelligence and iq . Does he understand the woman, does he listen to her and wants to get to know her ?
I didn't see this one mentioned in the video, so I will mention it. "Unhinged women" are usually "fun" and "crazy" in the beginning. The sex is usually "wild" and like nothing you've ever experienced. It will take a certain type of man to overcome his attraction to a beautiful, "unhinged" woman. You do this by harnessing your sexual energy. (i.e. - you control your sexual drive. Your sexual drive doesn't control you.) In doing this, you will see the truth. Men get roped in because they are overwhelmingly sexually attracted, they are initially getting everything they want, and they feel special and unique. A lot of men will become involved with an attractive, "crazy, unhinged woman" under 35 over a woman the same age who may not be as attractive but is normal and mentally stable. The chemistry is simply too much for them to overcome because they haven't learned to harness their sex drive.
I had a hot one tell me during the early phase that I should stay away from her as she was a train wreck and giggled. I giggled. Ignored it. Thought it was just her sarcastic self deprecating wit. Although it never turned into a full romantic relationship, I strayed too close to this rain wrapped tornado and got "slung around and thrown around" till I finally applied the brakes on myself and broke contact. That enabled me to see things properly and how easily I got pulled in to her orbit. Just like a real tornado, you can get close enough to get sucked into the vortex by the winds until it is done with you and spits you out. Her life since that time shows me I dodged a bullet. I was reminded that just as in the Intelligence world, nothing is not important. Take note of everything. Be safe gents. Thanks, John
A perfect marriage or relationship is an illusion; there's no universal playbook for making them work. What's effective for one couple may not apply to another. Nevertheless, I've come to understand that there's always a solution to be found. Half a decade ago, my wife and I faced such trials in our marriage that divorce seemed inevitable. Yet, through perseverance and determination, we navigated through the rough waters and emerged stronger, reunited, and more resilient
There is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things
Its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is shelly renee white..
HE IS SPOT ON, ... I STARTED CRACKING😂 UP WHEN HE SAID THAT SHE WILL MAKE YOU APOLOGIZE TO HER FOR SOMETHING THAT SHE STARTED ". HOW SO MANY TIMES I HAVE ENCOUNTERED THIS SITUATION.... SOMETIMES IT GETS SO BAD AND OBVIOUS THAT YOU JUST LEARN FROM IT. AND THEN YOU WISELY PUT A STOP 🛑 TO IT.
@@vullerseris5372 it is her narcissistic behaviour that you are being confronted with. It is NOT curable this is her permanent condition. The media etc etc is pumping this up every hour every day.
A divorce lawyer once told me: "Marriage and relationships are like the lottery. You're probably not going to win, but if you do, what you get is so good that you should buy a ticket." My reply: "The problem is that most guys are buying their lottery tickets with money they can't afford to lose." 😮
Yep. Most people will tend to an opinion which financially furnishes their life or validates their way of life in some way. I can't remember the exact aphorism or its author, which says as much, about trying to convince.a man of something when his livelihood depends on believing the opposite, being a hopeless task.
@@john-griffin It's most excellent that you looked in the mirror to see how you contributed, and noticed that the woman in question for the failed relationships was the common denominator. Any woman that claims any man in the past she had relationships with treated her like shit.... Remember, she chooses who she has sex with, and she chose them. Always look at the common denominator... her. And she'll say to the next guy too, that you treated her like shit, also, ruining your name in the process among her friends. Standard operating procedure is to have no accountability and immediately go into "Victim" mode. Run from those crazies.
John, Thanks for the great videos. I am 57 year old man and never been married. Boy, I feel blessed to have my health, sanity, and freedom. I love women but will not put myself in a position of financial and legal liability. I won't do it.
And nor should you. Paradoxically, your wealth makes you more attractive to women and more likely to get your physical needs met without a commitment liability. Lucky you 😂
I've been married for 37 years and throughout that time I have kept very fit, Bodybuilding/CrossFit and my wife hasn't. She is overweight and has become physically masculine. I love her unconditionally but physically I no longer find her attractive. It doesn't help seeing beautiful young women everywhere.
@@oldrandon Yes From Schizophrenia to Bipolar to Been there done that bored spoilt brats. Who need boyfriend as fashion statement. Endless shopping for things they don't need. I'm out and pleased to have seen through the pill poppers.
Really enjoy your content John. I experienced an unhinged woman this week. She "revealed" her emotional baggage in less than 24 hours of knowing each other. Less than 24 hours!!! I told her "I'll pass" and she had a meltdown. The dating scene is a shit-show.
And remember gents, it’s less what they say & more what they do that will reveal their true nature. That actions vs words cliche exists for good reason.
All great points, also screen out the ones claiming to be independent boss babes, ones with green hair, piercings & tatoos, with substance abuse issues, and with past trauma/ daddy issues. I'm a psychiatrist.
I’m 53 and I’m retired from dating and chasing women ,nowadays I care about peace of mind over piece of ass .I still desire women but if she’s not respectful and considerate of me and my time then I rather be alone
I married a woman ten years younger who came from a completely dysfunctional family with no father from an early age , I chose to ignore all this , to be fair I didn’t have the knowledge I have now I’m nearly 60 . I made a mistake in our relationship talking to someone else about our problems , she found out and I was never forgiven, no going back, nothing, no intimacy, finished. For a number of years I felt like I’d fixed her , she got a career and things seemed ok but as soon as I ‘ slipped up ‘ it was over . I’m not bitter, my dad said when I met her ‘ to walk away ‘ and I ignored him . We have wonderful kids so …… well I won’t be ignoring red flags again and doubt I’ll be in a serious relationship again, I’m good , have worked hard on myself and have a couple of close female friends .
I've been watching men's content since 2017. I'm familiar with all the big names. I'm a 52 year old guy who was divorced 19 years ago. I've been through some very interesting dating situations, since. Probably because of that, you have become my favorite men's content provider. Your videos resonate with me. Thank you.
as far as i know, every female i have dated in the last 20 years is either in therapy or has a script for mood or personality disorders. not a lot of them, not half of them, not most of them, but every single one. sometimes you hear the trope that "you are just dating the wrong women"
Good tips. The biggest untold truth to young men is that women look to settle around 30 and that you don't want these women. Most young men struggle with women. The bulk of women are going after some small percentage of men in their teens and 20s now that prolonged dating and sex before marriage is the norm.... Then around the age of 30 they realize that 1) they are not going to be young and highly in demand with the top 15-20% of men forever. 2) They want to have kids and that requires a provider. So they often then go "settle" (not really settling because it is the best they can do for a relationship) for some man who is stable with a steady income. They don't love these men. They are often not attracted to these men. Ask yourself - If you asked this girl out when you were 20, what would she say?
“The price you pay for that good feeling is way higher than what the feeling is worth.” Did you catch that class? Perhaps repeat that for those sitting in the back.
It's all about there mood swings you gotta pay attention to, that's how they coverup what theyr doing behind your back, a derversion, a distraction, they are all the same just some are more experts
Women will usually recognize their inner instability and tell you at some critical early stage of the relationship.Sometimes, this can seem almost quaint or endearing if they are only nominally unbalanced, but very often there are huge red flags that you shouldn't ignore.Impulsive behavior, - like an ongoing string of failed relationships, sometimes even with kids, - is unlikely to ever change . Early on, I constructively learned to look for women that preferred not dating at all instead of dating for fun ; find those with long gaps between dates and relationships, and I'll show you a woman that is capable of functioning in an LTR.There is one exception; there are those that are so deeply mentally disturbed and delusional that they also maintain these gaps.These women, NFN, are often under the care of psychiatrists, on powerful medications, or have other substance abuse issues.Needless to say, avoid the heavy tatoos and piercings, the wild spirtual beleifs, and for some reason ,the " dog women". Women that are unduly attached to dogs generally seem to have attachment disorders, especially true with younger women.This, of course, isn't always true, but I've found it to be a surprisingly consistent indicator of deep mental trauma. The other lesson learned is that truly beautiful women that grow up attracting attention often become completely unstable when they get in their 40's ; beauty is a double edged sword that tends to fall back directly on the wielder when the "opponents"( interested men) cease to engage.
As long as she gotta cell phone in her hand, you've got NO chance, is what I've learned from experience. It's that simple! There's a trend going around of boyfriends/husband's taking their significant others cell phone while they leave it behind in their cars and dudes are locking themselves up in the cars and going through their phones upon their return and their reactions are something else. It's actually scary what happens if you try to go for a woman's cell phone. You could die!
@@Kaniala-l7sThey are all on the phone all of the time. If I felt that I would need to keep checking up then the relationship would be a strain and just not worth the endless destabilising going on on your head. Phones equal relationship cannot work. Would not be surprised if she on phone during s*x activity. I give up I'm done with this You are welcome to it.
That's alot of helpful wisdom you just dropped. I wish I'd learned all this 20yrs ago. Question, u mentioned women unduly attached to their dog. Does that apply to women who do the same with their Cat too?
My last relationship was a truly beautiful woman that was 'hitting' 40. I'd known her since she was 27. She got diagnosed with a thyroid problem, starting taking hormones, and went mad. We split 2 years ago and she keeps on getting in touch with me. She was also a proper narc. Anyway, thanks for the post, like it.
Has anyone else noticed that the ways women interact with men and the behaviors they use and call 'flirting' would be considered narcissistic if acted out by a man? I feel like what women call 'flirting' is just bullying, manipulation, lying, instigating, gaslighting, etc.
@@prismbrandingrealestatebra6301 yes you are correct they like to build you up and then turn on you and make you out to be the bad guy especially if you’re single and now your hopes are anger and betrayal because of someone being two faced towards you, it was gaslighting all the time
I understand your channel is primarily for men, but what you just described to me is more of just how humans act. I'm a 57 year old female, and I have definitely dated men like this, and one of them was a full-blown narcissist. I had never been involved with a narcissist before the age of 51. It was definitely an eye-opener for me. I think there's plenty of unhinged people of BOTH sexes. Since my relationship with the narcissist I dated, I have learned to set boundaries, and I don't ignore red flags anymore. It was definitely a learning lesson for me. I do enjoy your videos and your perspective.
Recognising the red flags from the first date is the best gift you can give to yourself. The problem is that men and women are culturally pressured into believing that having a "significant other" partner is the goal and not a choice. Coming from a broken home I had no idea when I had my first long term relationship when I was 21. The red flags were there from the beginning but I ignored them because I thought rather naively that we could put those issues aside and be a normal happy couple. By the time we'd moved in together, had loads of tension, drama, fights, etc, I felt rather depressed. The only person you can be truly happy with is yourself.
You have to have opposite-sex platonic friends who will help in pointing these things out. Narcks can be sneaky and clever as HELL these days (maybe/especially the women? I only say this because of a seriously insane recent experience) but the best chance/shot you'll have staying ahead of it is asking a male friend for advice on a man you're dating or a female friend for advice on a woman you're dating. It's easier for someone of the same gender to see through and call out the bullshit.
Their emotions: "swing wildly and without warning". Oh brother, tell me about it. You hit the nail on the coffin with this statement. Channels like this remind me that the male experience with women isn't isolated to my own past losses. Thanks again for this video!
Beware...in middle age or close to it is common for woman to become bipolar. A nightmare to deal with and often suicidal. Deal with??? You cannot just keep your distance.
When it happens to you, as a man, you immediately take responsiblity for it. You think there must be something wrong with you. Only recently are we learinng that these experiecnes are universial.
If these are examples of an unhinged woman , I guess 100% of my relationships have been with unhinged women. I could never get past the fact that a woman struggles to say sorry regardless of how horrible they have been. I'm nearly 64 now, own my home, have a nice passive income , no stress , good health, and NEVER MARRIED. Yahooooo!
Woman here. I always apologise and take accountability for my actions if I realise I'm in the wrong. Love how the rest of us get tainted by the same brush thanks for a some bad eggs out there.
When my last girlfriend admitted that she overanalyzed things....I knew it was time to jet...and I did..she's married now....hopefully her husband survives...
John, thanks for your video. I'm 69 and the last official relationship was 15 years ago. The last one, took the prize. We went to a Beach Boys concert here in Australia, a band I've loved all my life. She decided to have an argument for NO reason on the way home. I ended up with an ectopic heart beat from the stress. I could go on but that was the ending of my relationships with women, especially post menopausal ones who want to tell me what I think, how I feel and what I'm going to do. Travel fast, travel alone. Cheers from Australia.
sorry you had to go through that, she was prolly upset youre attention was on the band while they were playing onstage and the topic of discussion on the way home was the recent experience
My wife (now ex wife), when she would "lose" an argument with me, would call my discussions with her "abuse." Me simply pointing out she was wrong about something was "abusing" her, (as if she could never be wrong.) These were always normal discussions, not real "arguments" where people yell and scream. I was just making my points with logic and she couldn't handle me doing that. She was, like you said, someone who changed her opinion on things based on what the Internet told her, or what her friends told her, or what her political party told her, or what MSNBC told her. Totally nutty and typically female (the narcissistic kind.) This behavior was one of the primary reasons for our divorce.
she cant reason, she follows herd imperatives and she cant bond, no Self in there, any negative remark is an assault to her fake identity, a crack in a very well crafted mask of sanity, tread carefully.
You just can't win is so true, never really knowing what they are thinking or ready to throw at you. Then you are gaslit into thinking you are the problem!
"Beware of unhinged women."? Really? There are hinged women? No, they will all become unhinged eventually. If you see a hinged one, just put a ring on her finger. Then run for your life!
An ex of mine demonstrated most of those behaviours. They constantly sought the attention of others (men) to validate themselves, yet would always turn it around and say I was insecure. Sad thing for me was that I bought into it, and believed that I was insecure. I now have intrinsic self worth and standards, and will never accept such behaviours again.
I know this very well, every conversation turns into arguments which will only escalate. No matter what you do, the more you say, the worst will it get. Only way is out, far away, bye bye, never again 😂😂
I was hearthbroken and sad (maybe even depressed) for 6 months because of this woman, but after watching your video I realized that she was a unhinged woman with all these red flags and ain't worth it. For the first time in the last few months I feel like I can finally move on without her.
A woman's needs are: 1. Safety 2. Protection 3. Food and Shelter 4. A man to do things for her that she cannot do. 5. A man who can do 1 thru 4 for her kids (even if they aren't his.) 6. A man who can give her all that plus a luxurious lifestyle. Love doesn't really enter into the equation. Once she has 1 thru 6, nothing else matters to her. What is love? She doesn't care.
I would also add that an unhinged woman will always milk any mistakes you've done to her in the past. If a conversation touches a topic that can remotely remind her of a thing she hated you did (may be a valid one too) 5 years ago, she'll go off on it and lose her shit over it and the whole mood will be ruined for everyone, including her own children. This will happen semi-regularily. (I personally give "permission" to any person to lose their shit over some bullshit about once a year, but not every week or so)
I've been single for the past 5 years, since divorce. Just trying to navigate keeping keeping my libido satisfied without starting a relationship. Had a horrible experience hooking up with a chick after divorce She went psychotic after I didn't want to pursue a relationship after sex. Stopped dating to prevent hurt feelings. There has got to be a way around that.
Much of what John describes here sounds like Borderline Personality Disorder: high emotionality, lack of accountability, impulsivity, inability to regulate emotions & huge mood swings, and power struggles.
I let my guard down and fell prey to several of these women. What I've come to realise is that I was dealing with them from a place of trauma, never truly present with my own feelings of insecurity and taking the consequence of that. Letting someone overstep ones own boundaries is a sign of trauma and we need to stop up and deeply examine our core wounds, in order to let love in, that would be the love we feel inside ourselves, and the love we maintain by staying true to ourselves and our boundaries, regardless of what she wants from you. Dissapointing women is a skill. Never feel guilty if you are aligning with your own needs and values. Treat yourself (and others) how you want others to treat you.
Gents, what happens to "late bloomers" is the they typically get "one-itis". Remember, there are 4 billion of "them" in the world and there are next-to-no unicorns; therefore, if one of them has TOO MUCH crazy (they all have some degree of crazy), be strong and move on quickly. In addition, indifference and conditional committment (no marriage or cohabitation) on your part is the best way to keep them in check. They are the gatekeepers of intimacy, we are the gatekeepers of commitment. Don't give away your commitment for free...
After divorce, I was complaining to a friend about the latest crazy thing my ex did. His answer straightened me out and set my mind right. He said, " the sooner you admit to yourself you married an unstable, selfish person , you will stop being surprised at the crazy things she does. You got tricked into married. Admit it, learn from it, and move on."
She either isn’t liked by your family and friends or she tries to separate you from your family and friends. In the first case, they can see what you can’t, probably because they’re not having sex with her. In the latter, she views people close to you as competition or a threat, she may feel they’re plotting against her.
For me, in the final analysis, I treat the xx chromosome combination as a red flag, and at the very least, a waving yellow flag. Stay strong and ever vigilant brothers! 💪
I had a friend who got married to a woman like that in their early 20s. She whittled him down into a tiny little mouse. By the time they got the inevitable divorce, he was a husk of a man and she was still blaming him for everything without acknowledging her part in it at all. 😒
WOW this video is so good. U just got out of a situationship with a TOXIC/NARCISSITIC/UNHINGED woman …..I’m so glad I’m single and don’t have to deal with that nonsense anymore.
I had 2 unhinged woman over a period of 9 years went to hell and back, everything you are saying is pretty much relevant to me,there were lots of red flags and I could have walked away sooner,great content thankyou 👍
You described my ex-wife, exactly (everything). She would come up with an idea (strategy), and then set me go through all the "logical" things to make it happen (tactical). She would even offer to help me with the tactical issue, selling it as a team effort and how this is a good thing for our relationship. Except the "strategy" would either make no sense or be self serving. Depression, anxiety and SSRIs may of amplified the issue, but she knew all along....this universe revolves around this blackhole....and you're part of the ride.
It was funny, as I had a woman in the comments mentioned that she has those exact same qualities and now she’s going to change her approach. Thought that was funny.
I had to keep rewinding, you're spot on which makes me wonder if it's even possible for men to meet a quality woman in such a toxic world. Men are raised by women. Girls are influenced by social MEdia moreso than their parents. I'm fortunate that my wife is always reaffirming her admiration for me whether I deserve it or not. She's pretty smart, she uses psychology to control me. Maybe that makes her dangerous.. whateverr. Being a hairstylist, she keeps the two of us looking great.. and our conversations are always interesting. 👍👍
Also watch out for covert/undercover narcissists, ..happy, friendly, agreeable, fun all the time, you get along great, no arguments...Her end game is to get married, then divorce and take your money, job benefits, dog, child support, alimony etc....and leave a shell of yourself...just like a female black widow in the spider world. after the "the act", the female black widow then kills the male....
Sooner or later the unhinged woman will show her true nature. Being someone who you are not takes up a lot of energy....When a guy finally sees who she really is is when he is faced with a decision...stay or move on. Is your mental heath worth risking?
Yes it’s too stressful for her to keep it going and she’ll often resent giving you things like Birthday or Christmas presents and this is a dead giveaway of her contempt for you which will only grow. My last one ended in under 10 months!
I feel like some women feel the same. It's sad. As men and women, we have lost each other and it's not good. We are supposed to support and compliment each other, not compete. I feel we need to go back to traditional values 🏴
Additionally, the author of the website international man, Doug Casey, living in south America said, he advises young men to go traveling the world 🌎 before getting married. Like him or not he is spot on........ Happy Sunday everyone
As a network media professional your content and production - shout out to director - are excellent. Love the visuals. I think my blood pressure went down!
@@mrfake675 At first, I thought you asked if I am "taking" any. But yes, I am saying that people are being prescribed meds by doctors that make their condition worse.
@theeclectic2919 interesting thought. Substances that exacerbate mental disorders....I definitely have seen drugs and alcohol awaken peoples sociopathy. I'd like a breakdown on how pharmaceutical drugs exacerbate or negate certain conditions.
You're right. I don't want people in my life who think general mood disorders are "mental illnesses" I've seen real mental illness and the devastating consequences it has on everyone in that person's life, let alone the person themselves. Hospitalizations, 911 calls, random visits in the middle of the night, scaring the kids, etc.. It's almost disgraceful to throw that term around freely like it applies to a lot of people. It doesn't
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John, you have really good content delivered in a nice setting. I'm a 67 year old man who's been at peace for close to 14 years. My sons still don't understand why I haven't found someone - instead, I've found myself, which is even better. Subscribed.
"Why haven't you found someone?"
"I did...I found myself!"
❤❤❤❤❤
I think that you’re on the right path. Finding yourself and enjoying life from your perspective without having to contend with someone else’s unbalanced approach to life is pure heaven. Thanks for subscribing.
You are on the same boat as me! Sailing down the peace river. For me, at sixty-four, it's been four beautiful, happy, calm, relaxed years of being single. Now, when women are trying to be nice to me, talk to me, compliment me, I see them as the Trojan horse, trying to get into my fortress and destroy me. I so wish we could WARN young men, once the woman is in your fortress, there's a good chance that she will slowly destroy it. It's usually sex that gets a young guy hooked. It's a drug. Then the woman will try to ween you off that drug, because they never really wanted to give it in the first place. It was the trap.
I’m learning 34 and now single after two kids with the one that left…
Amen 🙏
“Stop trying to understand women. Women understand women and they hate each other.” - Al Bundy
It's not really about understanding women but rather differentiating between the good ones and the rest
@@LunaSong-x5j You are sick
Lesbian have the highest divorce rate🎉.
Women don't even understand each other. They just know that they are unpredictable and inconsistent.
@@MsGlamourcat That's sort of an unusual thing to say, since men generally do understand themselves and other men. Men are not hard to understand. We need respect, we need love, and we need peace.
A lot of guys don't understand that a woman can never be happy forever even if you give her the world. If she is not happy internally on her own, then she will continue to jump from one guy to another until her looks demished.
@@kissengerc9468 You can keep a woman forever, but it’s not easy. If you keep hypergamy satisfied, she will stay. Meaning that you must always be her best perceived option. But is the juice worth the squeeze??
It is quite easy if you lock her down around 15-17 years old, especially if she has never been with another man yet-speaking from personal experience.
@@Florida_Joe75 It all depends on whether your energy is being drawn away from your mission as a man. It’s that simple
Man must accept woman as they are. You can't change them. So just accept. Be prepared for sudden rupture make your scape plan and hide your goodies..
Bit coin. Offshore banking. And so. Little official income. So little alimony.
'demished'.. 🤨
I have to share the planet with them, but not my house, money, or time.
You sir, have got it figured out....
Applies to men, too,
But thats they want the most
@@Onnitfan1 Damn 😔
@FarewellAphrodite sad that it is that way. I always keep my options open, but will walk away quick.
If you live long enough, it becomes apparent you're one lucky guy if you are quite successful.. and single. Likely due to no anchor holding you down.
@@davidglad This is the TRUTH!
59 and a Forever Bachelor......happily!! Lol
@@TimmyCramer I am 32 and still happily bachelor. Nice to have an example of a true bachelor 😄. Most guys in TH-cam are divorced guys haha
57 and agree
36 and agree!!
Avoid women with severe past trauma as in grape and abuse or if she comes from a highly toxic and dysfunctional family,never play her savior ,therapist or emotional tampon,I made the mistake of being good to a woman like this ,I ignored the red flag life was sending me and I payed for it
@@Mamboking71 same. & Not only did I pay for it, I've NEVER paid a higher price for anything else in my entire life. Most expensive lesson I've ever learned.
I learned this one a hard way, but not the hardest because we were not married. She was a good person with a good heart, but I came to learn she was just too entangled in past trauma and current family issues (her mom, brother and nephews). She could not break the orbit of the downward spiral.
Thank god we did not marry and/or buy a house together.
Good luck out there.
Same here, it cost me being a good guy to her
You mean find a woman thru is normal? Where? In Wich planet? You must deal with what you have at hand.
So unhinged is the new normal.
Adapt man
100% accurate and as someone who has had multiple opportunities to get married I still haven't made the commitment because there are even more red flags than the ones listed in this short video. If you weren't raised around a healthy parental relationship there is nothing wrong with waiting for the right person for YOU. Many women are on a timeline and want to tie down a man for a multitude of reasons many of which are financially motivated. If you're a successful man why would you rush into a relationship simply because she's pushing you and you're not entirely sure why? Marriage in the US is financially beneficial for women in the vast majority of relationships. Unless your wife is the primary breadwinner and she brings more assets to the relationship to which you are entitled to at a 50% split (which is common without a prenup) then why would a man want to get married with a roughly 50% divorce rate and over 70% of them are initiated by women, which goes to 90% if they're college graduates per the stats I've seen. Marriage is straight up structured to be financially beneficial to the woman in most cases should she decide to demand a divorce. So every red flag has to do with her financial commitment to the relationship and her willingness to have an equal partnership financially. That includes contributions that aren't monetary such as the decision whether or not to have kids, childcare etc.
Most are unhinged these days. Stay safe or even better stay away.
All broken toys.
Teenagers for life … 😵
@@ma3stro681 Yes they all want to be teenagers again. Equals Deep Narcissism. This IS BIG problem.
60 % are 'ormonally insane
Not easy to do when your fantastic father dies.. you're age 11 and are left with a narcissistic mother and two older sisters who are now in control. I became the male scapegoat.. the only way out was to run like hell and don't look back.
“Women have preferences not values”. I felt that.
That's really deep
That’s really stupid. A woman has values a girl has preferences. Find yourself a woman.
@@thebachelorsupreme can't you flip that on its head. Are we really any different as men?
@@JP-pq9xi I think you can… actually. But I’m openly biased: (like) I don’t believe a man can cheat, he just exercises his options. 😇😎🤓
Because the change of mood between unhinged and fine is tipicall
Top celebrities can't hold on to their wives. Men fighting on the frontlines of Ukraine can't stop their women from fleeing the country and finding a a better deal. You think you will manage? Good luck.
You're right.. relationships require constant attention. An old carpenter once told me about the great depression.. if you dropped your hammer, by the time you got back up on the roof another guy had your job! True with women too unfortunately. They require constant affirmation to keep them.
Why should e "hold onto" a wife. If ey have got to "hold onto" , .....then it's trouble that they'd don't need anyway
Exactly. A gold digger is always looking for more gold.
I have yet to meet the “hinged” woman. 😂
So be gay then, if women are so terrible, seek out one of your own kind to love.
Indeed!
Leave them where you find tthem ...walk away
Glory
You can always find them around the streets
or throw away
HOW TRUE! 👍
Do you want to hear unhinged? My ex got mad at me and practically lost her mind because I was looking at old photographs of her when we were younger and she was skinnier. She was upset because she is very overweight now. So she took it out on me. That’s unhinged.
Yes, that is unhinged. And it’s only gonna get worse. I’m afraid.
Getting jealous of yourself is probably the pinnacle of unhinged. Wow. Even my crazy exes weren't that bad!
@@theeclectic2919 She got unbearable by the end. No wonder why I’m MGTOW now.
I got blamed for talking about a particular food with a friend at a dinner party 3 weeks prior-now that particular food was in her head 3 weeks later and supposedly it was my fault that she was now craving it. Seriously. The conversation about women and their lack of accountability on basically everything is an important one.
I'm SURE your own body is perfect, right?
I ignored a couple of these red flags for a long time, several years. I actually shifted my thinking and actions to what you suggested here - letting her provide more of the affection - i did it a couple months ago. She noticed this shift and brought it up in a conversation. I am now single, it was my choice. I do miss the bedroom fun but I am not missing the mismatch between that and the emotional intimacy that was not present.
From my personal experience I can confirm this is 100% true. There are many unhinged women out there. My advice is: at the first clear sign of unhinged behaviour just walk out and do NOT look back. Put any and all sunk costs down to the price of the lesson and celebrate avoiding an inevitable far worse outcome. I wish I had learned this from a video rather than life.
Live without drama is best life
“A man will give up his happiness for his family.
A woman will give up her family for her happiness.”
@@woodrowcall3269 Yes Yes
@@woodrowcall3269 yerrrr!..
This is absolutely true. My aunt did this to my uncle 20 years ago.
@@jamesy11111 Sounds like you've demonized women and idealized men.
All women are bi......either bipolar or bisexual.
They have dark archetypes
1. The femme fetal
2. The devouring mother
3. The mean girl
4. The eternal daughter
Know them and know peace.
@@emmaabumere2870 Like this...
A narcissistic woman will alternate between all four.
My mistake I ignored red flags. I thought being a good husband they will reciprocate but they disrespected you more. Still I stayed coz I know the consequences of legality of divorce. But women don’t care, they know what they can get from you. It’s unfair to men. Marriage is no value to men!
Did she divorce you yet?
An expensive Porsche is less hassle then a beautiful wife. Aaaaand a lot cheaper. Believe me
She wants to plan everything then gets mad you weren’t doing the planning leading to the obvious conclusion: she wants to be mad at you and will arrange all the hoops to do so
This is my soon to be ex
@@DavidVincent-g8i hopefully it’s a smooth landing and not much baggage to sort out
I'm in my 50's and dated a woman for the past six months and she just broke up with me. Sadly, everything you said in this video describes EXACTLY my now ex-girlfriend. But I also fell hard for her and that's on me and I've learned my lesson. This video was very validating for me, thanks!
You're lucky it could have been worse !
@@kahvac Amen, I totally dodged a bullet!
It could have been worse!!!!! It could have been your wallet and your house. Lucky escape sleep well. Because you can.....
I guess it's still raw and hurting, but if it's any consolation, she dumped you because she thought she could better? So her "love" was always and will always be conditional. Probably, well, a fair bet also, that she monkey branched before hitting the switch, too. They are fairly predictable creatures when you undisguise their basic drives.
Sounds like she love bombed you but you were just an option! Indeed any man is more than certain just an option! She might cycle round again as it’s probably unlikely that she will find what makes her happy unless she was some 22 year old hottie with men drooling at her feet with incredible options for male suitors.
leaving my ex was the best decision of my life
Unhinged is just another word to describe Custer B personality disorder or narcissism - histrionic, Borderline, sociopathy, psychopathy. Just run. I know from personal experience. You cannot manage or make these people better.
As an old friend told me, 'Women are all fcked in the head.' Came out of the blue from a very religious family man. Words of gold indeed!
@@wayneferguson4878 cluster bs are actually mentioned in 2 Timothy 3, 1-9. Also in 7 verses in proverb - see shadiness Medco TH-cam. The Bible says to walk away from them. They are damaging and dangerous . I can take many yrs to recover.
Excellent post
What he is talking about is called 'weaponized confusion'. By sending mixed signals or contradicting requests such as:
1.Wants to be in control but also wants her man to lead.
2. Wants to be desired but then rejects or humiliates your expressions.
3. Wants to be both alone but comforted
Etc. etc.
By keeping a target in a state of confusion the 'parasite' can then exercise control over the targets perception of reality and eventually get the target to doubt themselves to the point where the target now asks the parasite what to belive or interpret of reality.
This weaponized confusion has been used by religious leaders for centuries.
I can really relate to your comment.
I see you met my ex....?
Masculine frame defeats this. You take charge and she comes along for the ride, or not.
"1.Wants to be in control but also wants her man to lead."
And when you do lead, they try their best to usurp your leadership.
"Weaponized Confusion" is the term that perfectly describes what I've been dealing with. 21 years in and I've been wondering WTH is going on with us for darned near the whole time.
The woman you marry, isn’t the devil you divorce.
Haaaahaaa 😂
So true
You only see the true woman you married when in divorce court with her slimy attorney, no accountability, lying outright, in front of a judge that determines your financial bankrupted future with child support and outrageous alimony support that leaves you living like a person in slave quarters.
@Florida_Joe75 HaHa she just fooled you the first time
It was, you just fell for the ruse
A simple rule of thumb that never fails: if all of her problems are being caused by herself, but she can't see this and blames external factors, then head for the door. YOU CANNOT SAVE HER FROM HERSELF. You can help her with the genuine external factors that are making her life hard, and that can even make your relationship stronger. But nothing you do will help her if she's her own worst enemy.
Boy, from my experience is this ever true!
I know so many women who in fact are their own worst enemies who repeatedly make unforced errors that result in self inflicted wounds. And there’s no way any man can save them from themselves.
@@marcusmoonstein242 💯
That’s why it’s monk mode for me. To keep myself from spending the rest of my life incarcerated due to hurting a Jezebel. I enjoy lifting weights, going on long 🚴 rides, drawing, painting, & skateboarding. Love my peace, quiet, & “boring” life.
@@countzacula0121 on behalf of all women, thank you for staying single.
On behalf of all women, thank you for staying single.
@@Jules2468 On behalf of all men; go 🤬 yourself 😂.
@@Jules2468 Thank you 😊 👏. On behalf of all men. 😂
@@Jules2468 & also 😂 don’t get it twisted; the ladies here in my hometown find me very attractive. I politely decline their “offer” and keep it moving.
There are days that I think I’m the only odd one out, then I watch these kinds of vids and CGA, and remember I’m ok. I believe my decision to have a woman as an accessory not a commitment is right for me. My 7 buds, bf’s are all married and we’re all 40, so most have or about to have children. They believe their wife is “the best thing that happened to them”. I disagree. I love them, so I keep my mouth shut.
silence is golden
Give them some time...
The Blue Pill is very hard to spit out for many men. Doing so would destroy their delusional world view …
reminder - on the 'hot/crazy' matrix the crazy scale starts at 4 ... for us older men this advice comes 50 years too late .. heed it now !!
Yes, how I would have loved for my father to tell me all this. 60 years ago!
They all have a crazy state that starts at 4, and only goes up from there.
If she’s crazy and most of them are you will not be able to fix crazy. The only thing you can do is walk away and stay away.
WISE WORDS! 🦉
Yes. Listen to Guns n Roses " you're crazy"
Sometimes it’s the man who is crazy and lacks empathy, emotional intelligence and iq . Does he understand the woman, does he listen to her and wants to get to know her ?
A side benefit is avoiding STDs.
I didn't see this one mentioned in the video, so I will mention it. "Unhinged women" are usually "fun" and "crazy" in the beginning. The sex is usually "wild" and like nothing you've ever experienced. It will take a certain type of man to overcome his attraction to a beautiful, "unhinged" woman. You do this by harnessing your sexual energy. (i.e. - you control your sexual drive. Your sexual drive doesn't control you.) In doing this, you will see the truth. Men get roped in because they are overwhelmingly sexually attracted, they are initially getting everything they want, and they feel special and unique. A lot of men will become involved with an attractive, "crazy, unhinged woman" under 35 over a woman the same age who may not be as attractive but is normal and mentally stable. The chemistry is simply too much for them to overcome because they haven't learned to harness their sex drive.
You described me to a “T” Good analysis right there
@@frederickmuhlbauer9477 Thank you.
She was my downfall
Took me 7 yrs to get over that
I learnt a whole lot about myself ,life and women in that period
I had a hot one tell me during the early phase that I should stay away from her as she was a train wreck and giggled. I giggled. Ignored it. Thought it was just her sarcastic self deprecating wit. Although it never turned into a full romantic relationship, I strayed too close to this rain wrapped tornado and got "slung around and thrown around" till I finally applied the brakes on myself and broke contact. That enabled me to see things properly and how easily I got pulled in to her orbit. Just like a real tornado, you can get close enough to get sucked into the vortex by the winds until it is done with you and spits you out.
Her life since that time shows me I dodged a bullet.
I was reminded that just as in the Intelligence world, nothing is not important. Take note of everything. Be safe gents.
Thanks, John
WISE ADVICE! 🦉
It sounds like she was Borderline. Ask me how I recognize it in a woman. 😎
Every word, pure wisdom. Why do we play this role, facade, fully knowing we are deceiving ourselves? Women have the innate ability to gaslight you.
It's part of their survival toolkit.
To be fair, it works both ways.
A perfect marriage or relationship is an illusion; there's no universal playbook for making them work. What's effective for one couple may not apply to another. Nevertheless, I've come to understand that there's always a solution to be found. Half a decade ago, my wife and I faced such trials in our marriage that divorce seemed inevitable. Yet, through perseverance and determination, we navigated through the rough waters and emerged stronger, reunited, and more resilient
There is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things
Its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is shelly renee white..
This is helpful, I will look her up online right now...Thanks.
The universal playbook for making marriage work is called the Bible. Read it.
So, you gave in!!!
HE IS SPOT ON, ... I STARTED CRACKING😂 UP WHEN HE SAID THAT SHE WILL MAKE YOU APOLOGIZE TO HER FOR SOMETHING THAT SHE STARTED ". HOW SO MANY TIMES I HAVE ENCOUNTERED THIS SITUATION.... SOMETIMES IT GETS SO BAD AND OBVIOUS THAT YOU JUST LEARN FROM IT. AND THEN YOU WISELY PUT A STOP 🛑 TO IT.
@@vullerseris5372 it is her narcissistic behaviour that you are being confronted with.
It is NOT curable this is her permanent condition. The media etc etc is pumping this up every hour every day.
@@vullerseris5372 That's a narcissistic trait. Untreatable..
"Typically an unhinged woman can be identified by their self centeredness." True.
A divorce lawyer once told me: "Marriage and relationships are like the lottery. You're probably not going to win, but if you do, what you get is so good that you should buy a ticket." My reply: "The problem is that most guys are buying their lottery tickets with money they can't afford to lose." 😮
and what are the odds of winning ? more unlikely than winning the lottery ...
That’s an excellent metaphor!
Sure, a lawyer would say that. That's like a Grizzly Bear telling a man to coat himself with honey. Lawyers are the one who always win in a divorce!
That's that divorce lawyer on TH-cam in the podcasts. He didn't tell you anything.
Yep. Most people will tend to an opinion which financially furnishes their life or validates their way of life in some way. I can't remember the exact aphorism or its author, which says as much, about trying to convince.a man of something when his livelihood depends on believing the opposite, being a hopeless task.
you are saving lives with your work
Agree
Thanks. When it happened to me, I thought I was the only guy that experienced this lunacy. I thought, "It must be me". It wasn't.
@@john-griffin It's most excellent that you looked in the mirror to see how you contributed, and noticed that the woman in question for the failed relationships was the common denominator. Any woman that claims any man in the past she had relationships with treated her like shit.... Remember, she chooses who she has sex with, and she chose them. Always look at the common denominator... her. And she'll say to the next guy too, that you treated her like shit, also, ruining your name in the process among her friends. Standard operating procedure is to have no accountability and immediately go into "Victim" mode. Run from those crazies.
I AGREE! 👍
John, Thanks for the great videos. I am 57 year old man and never been married. Boy, I feel blessed to have my health, sanity, and freedom. I love women but will not put myself in a position of financial and legal liability. I won't do it.
And nor should you. Paradoxically, your wealth makes you more attractive to women and more likely to get your physical needs met without a commitment liability. Lucky you 😂
I did not heed when she told me early on “ It’s all about me.”
I've been married for 37 years and throughout that time I have kept very fit, Bodybuilding/CrossFit and my wife hasn't. She is overweight and has become physically masculine. I love her unconditionally but physically I no longer find her attractive. It doesn't help seeing beautiful young women everywhere.
women are solipsistic and selfish, and lazy above all else.
@@garethjudd5840 is this Arnold?
@@garethjudd5840 Divorce her and find someone new
When I was a young man, all the women I dated were unhinged. And all of the women I wanted to date who wouldn't date me were also unhinged.
@@oldrandon Yes From Schizophrenia to Bipolar to Been there done that bored spoilt brats. Who need boyfriend as fashion statement. Endless shopping for things they don't need.
I'm out and pleased to have seen through the pill poppers.
So, basically all women are unhinged (wacked out of their minds)! I get it and agree!!!
WISE WORDS! 🦉
"Modern" women have satan as their daddy and HELL inside of their hearts... 🔥
Ýour dogs look so happy on their walk
Are they having a great time
dogs are the ONLY honest love.
@@Jimbo-v3m Women would try to steal your dogs and make you pay support for them lol.
@@timmcm9538 hahahah
@@timmcm9538 hahahaha
Really enjoy your content John. I experienced an unhinged woman this week. She "revealed" her emotional baggage in less than 24 hours of knowing each other. Less than 24 hours!!! I told her "I'll pass" and she had a meltdown. The dating scene is a shit-show.
Well, thanks for doing the reconnaissance for the rest of us man. Thank you.
Just block. No explanation.
You’re spot-on regarding your opinion of the dating scene.
That’s why I no longer date…and am VERY happy! 😁
You were given a gift, she showed you quickly who she was. Yes, the dating scene is a mine field. Do not enter.
And remember gents, it’s less what they say & more what they do that will reveal their true nature. That actions vs words cliche exists for good reason.
All great points, also screen out the ones claiming to be independent boss babes, ones with green hair, piercings & tatoos, with substance abuse issues, and with past trauma/ daddy issues. I'm a psychiatrist.
So your a soft science guy. All theory no proof.
And tattoos on a woman are sexy.
I’m 53 and I’m retired from dating and chasing women ,nowadays I care about peace of mind over piece of ass .I still desire women but if she’s not respectful and considerate of me and my time then I rather be alone
"Peace of mind over piece of ass"- LOVE it!
Yeah I can understand that perspective. I am 51.
passport bro.
Hire - travel
The TH-camr likes the comment that suggests that women are merely "pieces of ass"! 😂😂😂😂😂
I married a woman ten years younger who came from a completely dysfunctional family with no father from an early age , I chose to ignore all this , to be fair I didn’t have the knowledge I have now I’m nearly 60 . I made a mistake in our relationship talking to someone else about our problems , she found out and I was never forgiven, no going back, nothing, no intimacy, finished. For a number of years I felt like I’d fixed her , she got a career and things seemed ok but as soon as I ‘ slipped up ‘ it was over . I’m not bitter, my dad said when I met her ‘ to walk away ‘ and I ignored him . We have wonderful kids so …… well I won’t be ignoring red flags again and doubt I’ll be in a serious relationship again, I’m good , have worked hard on myself and have a couple of close female friends .
If you have to talk to someone else about your dysfunctional relationship then that is a huge red flag in itself.
I've been watching men's content since 2017. I'm familiar with all the big names.
I'm a 52 year old guy who was divorced 19 years ago. I've been through some very interesting dating situations, since.
Probably because of that, you have become my favorite men's content provider.
Your videos resonate with me.
Thank you.
as far as i know, every female i have dated in the last 20 years is either in therapy or has a script for mood or personality disorders. not a lot of them, not half of them, not most of them, but every single one. sometimes you hear the trope that "you are just dating the wrong women"
Good tips. The biggest untold truth to young men is that women look to settle around 30 and that you don't want these women. Most young men struggle with women. The bulk of women are going after some small percentage of men in their teens and 20s now that prolonged dating and sex before marriage is the norm.... Then around the age of 30 they realize that 1) they are not going to be young and highly in demand with the top 15-20% of men forever. 2) They want to have kids and that requires a provider. So they often then go "settle" (not really settling because it is the best they can do for a relationship) for some man who is stable with a steady income. They don't love these men. They are often not attracted to these men. Ask yourself - If you asked this girl out when you were 20, what would she say?
“The price you pay for that good feeling is way higher than what the feeling is worth.” Did you catch that class? Perhaps repeat that for those sitting in the back.
Check their medicine cabinet in the bathroom, drawers in the bedroom, like they check your cell, wallet for contacts, photos, money, etc.
I don't need to check her medicine cabinet. I know is full of antidepressants and crazy Ness pills. I'm not 15 years old
They can't check your cell if you lock your phone silly
@@jameskelly9243 How many people actually do that!
@@wanderingwarrior5626 that's Gold! 🔥
It's all about there mood swings you gotta pay attention to, that's how they coverup what theyr doing behind your back, a derversion, a distraction, they are all the same just some are more experts
Women will usually recognize their inner instability and tell you at some critical early stage of the relationship.Sometimes, this can seem almost quaint or endearing if they are only nominally unbalanced, but very often there are huge red flags that you shouldn't ignore.Impulsive behavior, - like an ongoing string of failed relationships, sometimes even with kids, - is unlikely to ever change .
Early on, I constructively learned to look for women that preferred not dating at all instead of dating for fun ; find those with long gaps between dates and relationships, and I'll show you a woman that is capable of functioning in an LTR.There is one exception; there are those that are so deeply mentally disturbed and delusional that they also maintain these gaps.These women, NFN, are often under the care of psychiatrists, on powerful medications, or have other substance abuse issues.Needless to say, avoid the heavy tatoos and piercings, the wild spirtual beleifs, and for some reason ,the " dog women". Women that are unduly attached to dogs generally seem to have attachment disorders, especially true with younger women.This, of course, isn't always true, but I've found it to be a surprisingly consistent indicator of deep mental trauma.
The other lesson learned is that truly beautiful women that grow up attracting attention often become completely unstable when they get in their 40's ; beauty is a double edged sword that tends to fall back directly on the wielder when the "opponents"( interested men) cease to engage.
Avoid a woman with ANY TATTOOS OR PIERCINGS BESIDES THE EARS
As long as she gotta cell phone in her hand, you've got NO chance, is what I've learned from experience. It's that simple! There's a trend going around of boyfriends/husband's taking their significant others cell phone while they leave it behind in their cars and dudes are locking themselves up in the cars and going through their phones upon their return and their reactions are something else. It's actually scary what happens if you try to go for a woman's cell phone. You could die!
@@Kaniala-l7sThey are all on the phone all of the time. If I felt that I would need to keep checking up then the relationship would be a strain and just not worth the endless destabilising going on on your head.
Phones equal relationship cannot work. Would not be surprised if she on phone during s*x activity. I give up I'm done with this You are welcome to it.
That's alot of helpful wisdom you just dropped. I wish I'd learned all this 20yrs ago.
Question, u mentioned women unduly attached to their dog. Does that apply to women who do the same with their Cat too?
My last relationship was a truly beautiful woman that was 'hitting' 40. I'd known her since she was 27. She got diagnosed with a thyroid problem, starting taking hormones, and went mad. We split 2 years ago and she keeps on getting in touch with me. She was also a proper narc. Anyway, thanks for the post, like it.
Has anyone else noticed that the ways women interact with men and the behaviors they use and call 'flirting' would be considered narcissistic if acted out by a man? I feel like what women call 'flirting' is just bullying, manipulation, lying, instigating, gaslighting, etc.
Because it is, but hey, we men tend to do the same in a way
@@prismbrandingrealestatebra6301 yes you are correct they like to build you up and then turn on you and make you out to be the bad guy especially if you’re single and now your hopes are anger and betrayal because of someone being two faced towards you, it was gaslighting all the time
Always be suspicious of a man or woman who has no friends.
@@James-gf9jl /\ Facts, and there's a very good reason they have no friends.
@@James-gf9jl
Very underrated comment
I understand your channel is primarily for men, but what you just described to me is more of just how humans act. I'm a 57 year old female, and I have definitely dated men like this, and one of them was a full-blown narcissist. I had never been involved with a narcissist before the age of 51. It was definitely an eye-opener for me. I think there's plenty of unhinged people of BOTH sexes. Since my relationship with the narcissist I dated, I have learned to set boundaries, and I don't ignore red flags anymore. It was definitely a learning lesson for me. I do enjoy your videos and your perspective.
Recognising the red flags from the first date is the best gift you can give to yourself. The problem is that men and women are culturally pressured into believing that having a "significant other" partner is the goal and not a choice. Coming from a broken home I had no idea when I had my first long term relationship when I was 21. The red flags were there from the beginning but I ignored them because I thought rather naively that we could put those issues aside and be a normal happy couple. By the time we'd moved in together, had loads of tension, drama, fights, etc, I felt rather depressed. The only person you can be truly happy with is yourself.
Because most men and woman are conformists and being unhinged like he says is the Norm today .
Some men act like women indeed.
You have to have opposite-sex platonic friends who will help in pointing these things out. Narcks can be sneaky and clever as HELL these days (maybe/especially the women? I only say this because of a seriously insane recent experience) but the best chance/shot you'll have staying ahead of it is asking a male friend for advice on a man you're dating or a female friend for advice on a woman you're dating. It's easier for someone of the same gender to see through and call out the bullshit.
Their emotions: "swing wildly and without warning". Oh brother, tell me about it. You hit the nail on the coffin with this statement. Channels like this remind me that the male experience with women isn't isolated to my own past losses. Thanks again for this video!
Beware...in middle age or close to it is common for woman to become bipolar. A nightmare to deal with and often suicidal. Deal with??? You cannot just keep your distance.
When it happens to you, as a man, you immediately take responsiblity for it. You think there must be something wrong with you. Only recently are we learinng that these experiecnes are universial.
That's my ex wife....I took it very seriously, but ex always ran out and avoided accountability.
The timing on this is insane. Just went through most of your points with a woman last night. Thank you for the video.
Be strong. Last one gave me an ectopic heartbeat from the stress.
OMG that stat @ 1.15 !
Do you realise what this means gentlemen? This means over 70% of em are walking around right now completely unmedicated!! 😱😱😱
Gotta pick your battles. Would you prefer fighting the medicated or unmediated?
If these are examples of an unhinged woman , I guess 100% of my relationships have been with unhinged women. I could never get past the fact that a woman struggles to say sorry regardless of how horrible they have been. I'm nearly 64 now, own my home, have a nice passive income , no stress , good health, and NEVER MARRIED. Yahooooo!
Woman's out of control?
@@donaldtrunt2030 Stay that way. Because it does not get any Better as women get older. As following says. Women are out of control.
You win!
Woman here. I always apologise and take accountability for my actions if I realise I'm in the wrong. Love how the rest of us get tainted by the same brush thanks for a some bad eggs out there.
When my last girlfriend admitted that she overanalyzed things....I knew it was time to jet...and I did..she's married now....hopefully her husband survives...
Don't worry about her, worry about family court that she has backing her.
yessssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss
The Family Court that is occupied by women, man hating women.
John, thanks for your video. I'm 69 and the last official relationship was 15 years ago. The last one, took the prize. We went to a Beach Boys concert here in Australia, a band I've loved all my life. She decided to have an argument for NO reason on the way home. I ended up with an ectopic heart beat from the stress. I could go on but that was the ending of my relationships with women, especially post menopausal ones who want to tell me what I think, how I feel and what I'm going to do. Travel fast, travel alone. Cheers from Australia.
Wow. She nearly killed you with her personality!
sorry you had to go through that, she was prolly upset youre attention was on the band while they were playing onstage and the topic of discussion on the way home was the recent experience
@@rileydd08 Cheers.
My wife (now ex wife), when she would "lose" an argument with me, would call my discussions with her "abuse." Me simply pointing out she was wrong about something was "abusing" her, (as if she could never be wrong.) These were always normal discussions, not real "arguments" where people yell and scream. I was just making my points with logic and she couldn't handle me doing that. She was, like you said, someone who changed her opinion on things based on what the Internet told her, or what her friends told her, or what her political party told her, or what MSNBC told her. Totally nutty and typically female (the narcissistic kind.) This behavior was one of the primary reasons for our divorce.
Look at them as perennial children and they make more sense … 😂
she cant reason, she follows herd imperatives and she cant bond, no Self in there, any negative remark is an assault to her fake identity, a crack in a very well crafted mask of sanity, tread carefully.
@@ma3stro681James Bond (Sean Connery) once said "all women are just children and should always be treated as such"
My wife does the same. She will call me abusive the minute she realizes my points are valid.
You just can't win is so true, never really knowing what they are thinking or ready to throw at you.
Then you are gaslit into thinking you are the problem!
"Beware of unhinged women."? Really? There are hinged women? No, they will all become unhinged eventually. If you see a hinged one, just put a ring on her finger. Then run for your life!
Underrated comment
Why would you put a ring on her finger? If you have any sense, you simply walk away, whether they are hinged or unhinged.
An ex of mine demonstrated most of those behaviours. They constantly sought the attention of others (men) to validate themselves, yet would always turn it around and say I was insecure. Sad thing for me was that I bought into it, and believed that I was insecure.
I now have intrinsic self worth and standards, and will never accept such behaviours again.
I know this very well, every conversation turns into arguments which will only escalate. No matter what you do, the more you say, the worst will it get. Only way is out, far away, bye bye, never again 😂😂
So true
I was hearthbroken and sad (maybe even depressed) for 6 months because of this woman, but after watching your video I realized that she was a unhinged woman with all these red flags and ain't worth it. For the first time in the last few months I feel like I can finally move on without her.
And the prince lives happily ever after
Men are in love, and Women are in business.
A woman's needs are:
1. Safety
2. Protection
3. Food and Shelter
4. A man to do things for her that she cannot do.
5. A man who can do 1 thru 4 for her kids (even if they aren't his.)
6. A man who can give her all that plus a luxurious lifestyle.
Love doesn't really enter into the equation. Once she has 1 thru 6, nothing else matters to her.
What is love? She doesn't care.
Love? You kidding?
You think you are Romeo and Giulietta? 😂😂😂
@@Florida_Joe75 Bullshit. All about emotional connection for me, since women can now support themselves. But broken men do not have this to offer.
Coach Greg Adams.
I like that one 😂
I would also add that an unhinged woman will always milk any mistakes you've done to her in the past. If a conversation touches a topic that can remotely remind her of a thing she hated you did (may be a valid one too) 5 years ago, she'll go off on it and lose her shit over it and the whole mood will be ruined for everyone, including her own children. This will happen semi-regularily. (I personally give "permission" to any person to lose their shit over some bullshit about once a year, but not every week or so)
"It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman." *Proverbs 21-19*
That's 3,000 year old advice...
I've been single for the past 5 years, since divorce. Just trying to navigate keeping keeping my libido satisfied without starting a relationship. Had a horrible experience hooking up with a chick after divorce She went psychotic after I didn't want to pursue a relationship after sex. Stopped dating to prevent hurt feelings. There has got to be a way around that.
@@mr.wildcat405 Gwt a prostitute.
Yes robotic women. It is inevitable.
@mr.wildcat405 twice a year trips to Thailand. See the dentist there at the same time!
No one wants to be used for sex. It's dehumanizing. If you don't want a relationship, you don't deserve sex.
@@MMAStriking not necessarily. Only if both parties just want to have fun. But, agree with your general point.
Much of what John describes here sounds like Borderline Personality Disorder: high emotionality, lack of accountability, impulsivity, inability to regulate emotions & huge mood swings, and power struggles.
That’s like 99% of them.
I let my guard down and fell prey to several of these women.
What I've come to realise is that I was dealing with them from a place of trauma, never truly present with my own feelings of insecurity and taking the consequence of that. Letting someone overstep ones own boundaries is a sign of trauma and we need to stop up and deeply examine our core wounds, in order to let love in, that would be the love we feel inside ourselves, and the love we maintain by staying true to ourselves and our boundaries, regardless of what she wants from you.
Dissapointing women is a skill. Never feel guilty if you are aligning with your own needs and values.
Treat yourself (and others) how you want others to treat you.
Gents, what happens to "late bloomers" is the they typically get "one-itis". Remember, there are 4 billion of "them" in the world and there are next-to-no unicorns; therefore, if one of them has TOO MUCH crazy (they all have some degree of crazy), be strong and move on quickly. In addition, indifference and conditional committment (no marriage or cohabitation) on your part is the best way to keep them in check. They are the gatekeepers of intimacy, we are the gatekeepers of commitment. Don't give away your commitment for free...
A very good point, oneitis. Fell into that trap as very young man. But, the bitxh enticed/lured me in. Have avoided that trap ever since. 🤔🙂
After divorce, I was complaining to a friend about the latest crazy thing my ex did. His answer straightened me out and set my mind right. He said, " the sooner you admit to yourself you married an unstable, selfish person , you will stop being surprised at the crazy things she does. You got tricked into married. Admit it, learn from it, and move on."
She either isn’t liked by your family and friends or she tries to separate you from your family and friends. In the first case, they can see what you can’t, probably because they’re not having sex with her. In the latter, she views people close to you as competition or a threat, she may feel they’re plotting against her.
John, first off, thank you. I really appreciate your efforts in putting these videos together. You nailed it on this one!
🙏🏼🌴🐈🐈🐈🐈🌴🏴☠️
Agree
For me, in the final analysis, I treat the xx chromosome combination as a red flag, and at the very least, a waving yellow flag. Stay strong and ever vigilant brothers! 💪
I had a friend who got married to a woman like that in their early 20s. She whittled him down into a tiny little mouse. By the time they got the inevitable divorce, he was a husk of a man and she was still blaming him for everything without acknowledging her part in it at all. 😒
Women don't love in the same way as men, they love you conditionally, in other words, they love you for what you can do for them / give them
WOW this video is so good. U just got out of a situationship with a TOXIC/NARCISSITIC/UNHINGED woman …..I’m so glad I’m single and don’t have to deal with that nonsense anymore.
I had 2 unhinged woman over a period of 9 years went to hell and back, everything you are saying is pretty much relevant to me,there were lots of red flags and I could have walked away sooner,great content thankyou 👍
after many losses my therapist told me i was 'the master at ignoring red flags' ... curse of the eternal optimist ...
@@direwolf6234Wow! That sounds like me! I have recently learned that last year at age 35
@@direwolf6234 yes that's exactly what I did egnore the red flags and put my self through punishment
@@direwolf6234you're not alone.
You described my ex-wife, exactly (everything). She would come up with an idea (strategy), and then set me go through all the "logical" things to make it happen (tactical). She would even offer to help me with the tactical issue, selling it as a team effort and how this is a good thing for our relationship. Except the "strategy" would either make no sense or be self serving. Depression, anxiety and SSRIs may of amplified the issue, but she knew all along....this universe revolves around this blackhole....and you're part of the ride.
It was funny, as I had a woman in the comments mentioned that she has those exact same qualities and now she’s going to change her approach. Thought that was funny.
My problem is giving myself permission to walk away, especially early on
It's not easy. Men honor commitments.
I had to keep rewinding, you're spot on which makes me wonder if it's even possible for men to meet a quality woman in such a toxic world. Men are raised by women. Girls are influenced by social MEdia moreso than their parents. I'm fortunate that my wife is always reaffirming her admiration for me whether I deserve it or not. She's pretty smart, she uses psychology to control me. Maybe that makes her dangerous.. whateverr. Being a hairstylist, she keeps the two of us looking great.. and our conversations are always interesting. 👍👍
Also watch out for covert/undercover narcissists, ..happy, friendly, agreeable, fun all the time, you get along great, no arguments...Her end game is to get married, then divorce and take your money, job benefits, dog, child support, alimony etc....and leave a shell of yourself...just like a female black widow in the spider world. after the "the act", the female black widow then kills the male....
Hold on a minute, not all of this is true, my ex wife/covert narcissist didn't take the dog.
@@robmcguckin7605ofc not, no responsibility
@@tonyp.bahama9368 Dog? wait a minute...thats off limits..the rest can be expected , but not my dog!
Sooner or later the unhinged woman will show her true nature. Being someone who you are not takes up a lot of energy....When a guy finally sees who she really is is when he is faced with a decision...stay or move on. Is your mental heath worth risking?
Yes it’s too stressful for her to keep it going and she’ll often resent giving you things like Birthday or Christmas presents and this is a dead giveaway of her contempt for you which will only grow. My last one ended in under 10 months!
You just described 90% of my previous dates/relationships🤣 We live and learn. Great content today
Yes I would venture to say 99% of mine.
66 year old man here. Like your videos , clear and to the point. It sounds to me that overall women are "too much trouble for what their worth".
I feel like some women feel the same. It's sad. As men and women, we have lost each other and it's not good. We are supposed to support and compliment each other, not compete. I feel we need to go back to traditional values 🏴
@@emmas3716 Won’t happen. We are at the end of times.
The real danger lies within the women and men that are NOT being treated. I've had a few ringside seats!
If she breaths...AWALT.
For those optimistic ppl - they are ALL capable of doing it etc...bait&switch will hit..always!
Additionally, the author of the website international man, Doug Casey, living in south America said, he advises young men to go traveling the world 🌎 before getting married. Like him or not he is spot on........ Happy Sunday everyone
Narcissists, especially covert or malignant types are definitely the ones to steer well clear of. Trust me.
Hello from India🇮🇳
I am from India 🇮🇳
Hello from Kenya
Just look at how Apu Nahasapeemapetilon from the Simpsons changed after he got a wife.
Waves from London 👋👋👋
As a network media professional your content and production - shout out to director - are excellent. Love the visuals. I think my blood pressure went down!
Thanks! I’m a team of one! Plus 2 dogs!!
I know there are a lot of sociopaths and narcissists out there, male and female. I doubt most of them are being treated though.
They are only being treated with drugs. And that only makes the situation worse.
@theeclectic2919 you talking self medication or pharmaceuticals?
@@mrfake675 At first, I thought you asked if I am "taking" any. But yes, I am saying that people are being prescribed meds by doctors that make their condition worse.
@theeclectic2919 interesting thought. Substances that exacerbate mental disorders....I definitely have seen drugs and alcohol awaken peoples sociopathy. I'd like a breakdown on how pharmaceutical drugs exacerbate or negate certain conditions.
You're right. I don't want people in my life who think general mood disorders are "mental illnesses"
I've seen real mental illness and the devastating consequences it has on everyone in that person's life, let alone the person themselves.
Hospitalizations, 911 calls, random visits in the middle of the night, scaring the kids, etc..
It's almost disgraceful to throw that term around freely like it applies to a lot of people. It doesn't
These days it’s quite easy to spot a dangerous woman. She breaths