hello. This is an introduction of most things trans related for you to understand better what your loved one is going through. If you need to ask questions, please do.
Thank you to my son, for sending me here. Yes, a trans-male, but for us, well, we just love him no matter what. I am really happy to see someone like you Chase, who has adjusted so well in life, and it makes me less afraid for him. I won't lie, I do worry constantly now.(he is 16) I worry about society, and even violence against him. I worry too, that he will feel depressed..Ok, I DID..I noticed since he's slowly changing(binders, hair cut short) he seems a whole lot happier. I am still adjusting to the pronouns and the name change, but I sure am trying hard. Thank you Chase, for your video..I plan to watch your other ones, because I am a firm believer that knowledge is power!
This makes me very happy to read that you're accepting of your son, lots of people aren't. Usually the parents of trans children are not given enough credit for accepting their kids, and I want to tell you that parents like you who are accepting, are a HUGE part of the reason why the SAGA is becoming more and more accepting. (Saga is a much shorter and more inclusive way of saying LGBTQIAAP+ it stands for sexuality and gender acceptance)
Getting a playlist ready for my dad to watch which includes some of my own videos first. This is the last one on the list. Let's hope all goes well. Thanks Chase.
Our Daughter has recently came out to us, which was incredibly brave and also very humbling. We are confused, and ignorant to a degree, but she just sent me a PM with a link to this video, and it all now seems to fall into place. My position is that whatever the outcome of her journey, she is our child, and as such, will always be deeply loved and cherished by us. Your channel has now given me some of what we need to best support her by being less ignorant. Thanks.
You can do it! I just did a few weeks ago. It may get rough but trust me no matter what happens it's a decision you won't regret. No matter what your parents think or how they react I can't even explain to you the relief that comes with finally being truthful with yourself and those around you.
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Don't feel like you HAVE to do it, it's really your choice. Always come out when you're ready and when it's safe to
Hey Jada, Hormones do redistribute body fat, and decreased estrogen levels (once starting T) does have an effect on breast tissue. Sometimes your chest may get slightly smaller. However to get a flat chest you still have to bind / get top surgery.
11 months have passed and I finally had the courage to come out ..could've gone better, but I'm happy I did it ..I know everything is going to be alright, I'm just at the beginning :)
thanks so much man you did this at just the right time im ftm and just come out in my school and my parents are confused and you just helped so much thank you thank you thank you :)
I appreciate very much you making this video for a much deeper understanding for someone I love very much and will support and continue to love through it all...Education is our best teacher of understanding. I appreciate your decision to be positive as I realize this is a huge step in my loved one confiding in me...and, I will do all I can to make this as easy a transition as I can..We are all God's children each formed in a very special unique way..and,I embrace those ways in each of us..thank you so much and I will continue to educate myself because I care deeply ..thank you for being here with your love and support for your brothers and sisters out here.
If this was in spanish I would totally get my mom to watch it... but oh well, I'll just send it to my sister. Thank you a million times for making this video! I love you, you are awesome! =D
Chase, you are incredible. You have helped me understand who I am, and helped me gather up my courage to come out to my parents. So far only my mom knows (I came out to her through an email, because I found trying it in person caused far too much anxiety for me to even start a sentence), and she had a good reaction. I gave her the link to this video and I hope she will watch it or already has. Thank you again Chase.
Great insight ! Thank you for sharing. I am married to a f to m gender. I am a hetrosexual. I am using utube as a resource to help me understand cope live and learn.
I wasn't sent this video, but my best friend recently came out to me that she believes she is transgender. Since then I've been doing research about all of this so I can support her and I'm very happy to have found your channel! It's so informative and she is ftm too so your videos are very helpful to me understanding all of this. Thank you :)
I sent this video to my sisters and my brother. I am also planning on coming out to my aunt soon. I'm still working up the courage but the letter is written. so thank you.
Just sent this video to my dad to help keep him thinking about me being trans and what it really means for me and my family. This is just the beginning, came out to my parents a couple months ago. Hoping he watches this and shares and feels comfortable coming to me and willing to help me. Thank you for this video. Thanks Chase! I love your channel and it's just a wonderful resource to have for people! So thank you for taking time to do this kind of stuff for everyone!
thank you Chase! i am a conservative (which most people think we cannot understand differences! we really can!!). my great niece took the time to come out as a trans on facebook! I think we already knew! don't ever think that i wouldn't love her/him any less! thanks for educating us who have never had to deal with it! God Bless!!!!
(This doesn't have much to do with this particular video) Hey I just want to say you and many other transgender (FTM) people on TH-cam have been helping me to find out different ways to slowly and confidently come out to my friends and my family as the man I am. One of my 3 brothers knows and my mum knows but neither of them really try to understand or try to help with my feelings of dysphoria and all of the things that make me feel terrible about myself. In other words my brother still calls me she and still calls me by my birth name and my mum, whenever I meet her friends, introduces me as her daughter and it makes me feel terrible just because she knows but she doesn't try and it really puts me in a deep, depressive hole that in the past I have spent years trying to escape, yet as I realised my gender identity I have, unfortunately, fallen back in to. Anyway, I was just wondering if you could help me and probably a whole of a lot of other young people my age that feel this way or similar about different/your 'favourite' ways to, if you will, 'train' any people that know into getting everything right with names and pronouns and that kind of stuff without starting world war 3 within their family. I understand you may not be able to help as most of the people you speak about on your videos have been understanding and have tried their hardest to get your pronouns and preferred name correct, but if you do have ANY ideas that could even help the tiniest bit please either do a short video or a post on social media about it. Thank you for taking your time to read this, I hope you have a wonderful week, Jamie 😌
Wow I just came across this video as of Sept.2017. I have been watching CHASE for at least a year or so now and thought I have seen most of his videos. I was wrong. Lol. I really loved this video. To me it doesn't matter that it was created a few years ago. This video will resonate with anyone that is looking for help explaining or coming out to family and friends. And for the family and friends as well. This is such a positive video. It really touched my heart. Great video Chase! Love ya!!!
Awesome idea doing the "go to guide" or survival kit. And look at you Chasey Poo.. all serious and profound! No seriously, it's a fabulous vlog. Thankyou
My kid just came out. I love and will support my child in any way shape and form. The same way I couldn’t live as a trans my child can’t live as a cis person.
Thank You Chase, I came out about 3 yrs ago, and have been suffering then as a forced biological female since I was brought into a Christian Religion. I was "Taught" being "different" was wrong and I would go to hell. I dated males up until the 3yrs ago. Each CIS male relationship I was in was abusive either sexually or mentally or both. I tried to "fix" myself because again, "It was wrong" I came out to my mom during a panic attack and just blurted it out, Thought I blurted out "IM GAY" now that I know the difference and how Idea Transpeople were a thing. (I thought it was either gay men or lesbians, no one taught me different in my house hold.) My father had a gay brother who died of Aids and they didn't tell me. I also have a gay cousin on my moms side who the family loves dearly. But when I came out to my sister in particular she was appalled. "NOT MY SISTER!" "You'll go to hell! You can't do this to me!" Yet, she loves our cousin with all her heart and wouldn't change him. I sent her this video so maybe she can understand.... Thank you! and You have a new subscriber
rewatching this playlist again and i love how it just boils down to "just Try™ and respect people." still super helpful, but it's unfortunate we can't just accept that not everyone will be cishet and SHOCKER, they're still humans that need support
Dear Chase, I just spent a lot of time going through several of your videos. Some of your videos from a few years ago made me feel sad, it looked like you were having trouble finding your place. In your more recent videos, you look very happy, confident, and pleased with who you are and how you are accepted in the world. That makes me feel very happy, and very happy for you. Rough journey, glad to see you doing well. Also, thank you for making this video. My fiance and I have been together ten years, and he just came out as FTM a little over a month ago. In addition to telling our friends (which as you know, is a whole huge issue on its own), I am really pleased to have the option of giving them an uninvolved person's perspective on the topic. Thank you, very much. All my love, Alison Blogging about being the forever partner of a recently open/out FTM: ftmpartner.blogspot.com/
TW: ABUSIVE PAST I have an important question. I came out to someone and he keeps saying because of what terrible things happened to me when I was a child has brainwashed me to be trans. Any advice on telling him that it really isn't that way?
I've come out to my parents about four times in the past year, and they still tell me that me being ftm trans is just a phase, and i need to get that "bullshit" out of my head. They have told me that I'm just "jealous" of boys so i "want" to be one. do you have any other tips on telling them that this isn't a phase?
What I don't understand is, if someone's male or female inside, shouldn't the people who are worth it - those close to them, and real friends - be able to perceive that about them anyway? Aren't most emotionally wise people drawn towards or/and on a search for, the intuitive types, and, the caringly interested types, who don't judge them on superficial appearances, or, make prejudiced assumptions about them - who instead, "get them", and are open to them sharing stuff about themselves which are beyond the social norms? Why should people have to take hormones, which have negative health affects, and surgeries, which are a risk to health, and even potentially life, and destroy their healthy organs, in order to be read as who they are by insensitive and uncaring, judgemental people, (even if these people are in the majority)? Plus, how can young trans people who transition be sure that their feelings about their gender and/or body won't change in time, after they've lost their reproductive potential, etc - as people often do change dramatically throughout life, in sexuality, in religion, in yes gender I think - everything. I'm not trying to be rude here, these are just honest questions as you say Chase it's okay to ask questions.
+Sweetness Ofthemists I realize this is four months old, but here goes anyway. This is my experience: I have a wealth of incredible friends whom are not only supportive, but seem to know with as much conviction that I am male as I do myself. Indeed, some of the people I have known longest weren't even surprised when I came out. It was more like "Oh yeah, that makes a lot more sense." But it isn't enough. I have body dysphoria. I hate what I see when I look in the mirror, but I also hate what I know other people see. In every aspect of my life in which I encounter other people, they see a woman. They treat me as a woman and make certain assumptions based on that and they just don't see me as I am. And I can't stand it. And I actually long for the feeling of pulling on a T-shirt and it hanging limply rather than being stretched over my breasts. My breasts feel like birth defects that need to be removed. I feel like nothing fits. The risk of surgery is nothing when compared to the relief I know I'll get from having it. To put it in perspective: I had major back surgery to correct severe scoliosis when I was 16. Then, too, the end result immensely outweighed the risk of surgery. After transitioning I will love my body more and be more comfortable in my every day interactions. The health risks are well worth it. And as for how we know our feelings won't change with time, that's a little more complicated. But trans people have been transitioning for many, many years now and we follow their example. It is true though that a very minuscule minority of us end up detransitioning. It's just a journey we each have to make for ourselves. Oh and one more thing. No, not everyone can perceive a person's gender naturally. My own mother refuses to accept me as male and she's known me my entire life. You'd think she'd know better than anyone, and yet her perception of my gender is at odds with mine, and that of my friends. But after all, we cannot pick our family. Anyway, does all that help any?
Does anyone know of a video that simply outlines the risks and benefits of FTM HRT? My family has questions (I'm 4 months on T) but struggle with written information sheets, and I am on the autism spectrum and struggle with verbal explanations.
What this proves is that *gender is something*. But what is it? I guess that trans people will usually only have experienced being one gender, so they are only as likely to know as I am, having seen only once side. Maybe. But maybe also some people who have made a transition can compare the two genders, and say, from the inside, what is the difference. I could look at a video of any guy and make the same, following observations, but knowing that this guy has transititioned somehow makes me more sensitive to his masculinity. There feels to me to be something going related to intra psychic others and one relates to them. One of the most masculine things that chase does is the upside down banana mouth expression (such as at 0:581:051:101:202:08 and lost more and 8:20), at which point it seems, he is assessing the truth of what he has just said from the point of view of an intra-psychic other (i.e. someone to whom he is addressing himself in his head). When he looks down and sniffs at times such as 047 again, this time I don't think he is addressing an "other" but more like (at these looking down and sniffing times) he is getting in touch with himself, his inner man. I did think I saw a glimpse of female gender, when Chase is unsure of, no, pleased with something, or anyway, at 1:15 for instance, I see just a flash of girl. I watched again till the end, and that was the only flash of girl that I sensed, except perhaps the Asian "peace" pose at the end 11:01 but that is more a gestural thing. My wife and I agree that Chase is more of a guy than me, and I bet my videos are riddled with girly bits, maybe. Great video.
I've seen of people get confused about this. Try and think of it this way. The basic meaning of the prefix "trans" is "to cross over". So that means that a transman "crossed over" to become a man, and a transwoman "crossed over" to become a woman.
I think it's more accurate to say that trans girls were always girls but everyone THOUGHT they were boys because of their genitals and that trans boys were always boys but everyone THOUGHT they were girls because of their genitals. That's why we say they were "assigned" male or female at birth. When a trans girl is born, the doctor sees she has a penis and exclaims "it's a boy!" When a trans boy is born, the doctor exclaims "it's a girl!" because they see a vulva.
A little late but here it goes anyway :) I'm sorry that it sucked for you but it's going to get better. Children and many normal people who never had to deal with this sort of thing can be very cruel, especially kids. I know this doesn't comfort much but hold on to being who you are!!! You will get through this difficult time and get the life you deserve. And be patient you may come through to some people after a while :)
Thank you to my son, for sending me here. Yes, a trans-male, but for us, well, we just love him no matter what. I am really happy to see someone like you Chase, who has adjusted so well in life, and it makes me less afraid for him. I won't lie, I do worry constantly now.(he is 16) I worry about society, and even violence against him. I worry too, that he will feel depressed..Ok, I DID..I noticed since he's slowly changing(binders, hair cut short) he seems a whole lot happier. I am still adjusting to the pronouns and the name change, but I sure am trying hard. Thank you Chase, for your video..I plan to watch your other ones, because I am a firm believer that knowledge is power!
This makes me very happy to read that you're accepting of your son, lots of people aren't. Usually the parents of trans children are not given enough credit for accepting their kids, and I want to tell you that parents like you who are accepting, are a HUGE part of the reason why the SAGA is becoming more and more accepting. (Saga is a much shorter and more inclusive way of saying LGBTQIAAP+ it stands for sexuality and gender acceptance)
Hope you and your son are doing well!
Getting a playlist ready for my dad to watch which includes some of my own videos first. This is the last one on the list. Let's hope all goes well. Thanks Chase.
Goodluck!
How'd it go?
PsychTheOnlyOne me too!!
Same : )
Our Daughter has recently came out to us, which was incredibly brave and also very humbling. We are confused, and ignorant to a degree, but she just sent me a PM with a link to this video, and it all now seems to fall into place. My position is that whatever the outcome of her journey, she is our child, and as such, will always be deeply loved and cherished by us. Your channel has now given me some of what we need to best support her by being less ignorant. Thanks.
I'm literally dieing inside just thinking about coming out to my parents..
You can do it! I just did a few weeks ago. It may get rough but trust me no matter what happens it's a decision you won't regret. No matter what your parents think or how they react I can't even explain to you the relief that comes with finally being truthful with yourself and those around you.
Don't feel like you HAVE to do it, it's really your choice. Always come out when you're ready and when it's safe to
Does hormones make you men chest like basically a man body or do you have to have surgery?
Hey Jada,
Hormones do redistribute body fat, and decreased estrogen levels (once starting T) does have an effect on breast tissue. Sometimes your chest may get slightly smaller. However to get a flat chest you still have to bind / get top surgery.
11 months have passed and I finally had the courage to come out ..could've gone better, but I'm happy I did it ..I know everything is going to be alright, I'm just at the beginning :)
thanks so much man you did this at just the right time
im ftm and just come out in my school and my parents are confused and you just helped so much
thank you thank you thank you :)
I'm trans but I never fully understood the difference between Gender Dysphoria and Body Dysphoria. Thank for explaining
I appreciate very much you making this video for a much deeper understanding for someone I love very much and will support and continue to love through it all...Education is our best teacher of understanding. I appreciate your decision to be positive as I realize this is a huge step in my loved one confiding in me...and, I will do all I can to make this as easy a transition as I can..We are all God's children each formed in a very special unique way..and,I embrace those ways in each of us..thank you so much and I will continue to educate myself because I care deeply ..thank you for being here with your love and support for your brothers and sisters out here.
If this was in spanish I would totally get my mom to watch it... but oh well, I'll just send it to my sister.
Thank you a million times for making this video! I love you, you are awesome! =D
im 4 yrs late lol but there are spanish subtitles available if thats helpful.
Chase, you are incredible. You have helped me understand who I am, and helped me gather up my courage to come out to my parents. So far only my mom knows (I came out to her through an email, because I found trying it in person caused far too much anxiety for me to even start a sentence), and she had a good reaction. I gave her the link to this video and I hope she will watch it or already has. Thank you again Chase.
Great insight ! Thank you for sharing. I am married to a f to m gender. I am a hetrosexual. I am using utube as a resource to help me understand cope live
and learn.
who else cried?
I wasn't sent this video, but my best friend recently came out to me that she believes she is transgender. Since then I've been doing research about all of this so I can support her and I'm very happy to have found your channel! It's so informative and she is ftm too so your videos are very helpful to me understanding all of this. Thank you :)
If your friend is FtM then it's he NOT she.
I sent this video to my sisters and my brother. I am also planning on coming out to my aunt soon. I'm still working up the courage but the letter is written. so thank you.
Just sent this video to my dad to help keep him thinking about me being trans and what it really means for me and my family. This is just the beginning, came out to my parents a couple months ago. Hoping he watches this and shares and feels comfortable coming to me and willing to help me. Thank you for this video.
Thanks Chase! I love your channel and it's just a wonderful resource to have for people! So thank you for taking time to do this kind of stuff for everyone!
thank you Chase! i am a conservative (which most people think we cannot understand differences! we really can!!). my great niece took the time to come out as a trans on facebook! I think we already knew! don't ever think that i wouldn't love her/him any less! thanks for educating us who have never had to deal with it! God Bless!!!!
Oh my god thank you so much Chase! I showed this to my mom and I believe it helped a lot. You're amazing!
To say this was/is very helpful is an understatement. Thank you chase
I'm so happy that I found this video!
I have some critiques of this video but I think it gets the message overall for parents and family which is very helpful. I'm glad this exists.
(This doesn't have much to do with this particular video) Hey I just want to say you and many other transgender (FTM) people on TH-cam have been helping me to find out different ways to slowly and confidently come out to my friends and my family as the man I am. One of my 3 brothers knows and my mum knows but neither of them really try to understand or try to help with my feelings of dysphoria and all of the things that make me feel terrible about myself. In other words my brother still calls me she and still calls me by my birth name and my mum, whenever I meet her friends, introduces me as her daughter and it makes me feel terrible just because she knows but she doesn't try and it really puts me in a deep, depressive hole that in the past I have spent years trying to escape, yet as I realised my gender identity I have, unfortunately, fallen back in to. Anyway, I was just wondering if you could help me and probably a whole of a lot of other young people my age that feel this way or similar about different/your 'favourite' ways to, if you will, 'train' any people that know into getting everything right with names and pronouns and that kind of stuff without starting world war 3 within their family. I understand you may not be able to help as most of the people you speak about on your videos have been understanding and have tried their hardest to get your pronouns and preferred name correct, but if you do have ANY ideas that could even help the tiniest bit please either do a short video or a post on social media about it.
Thank you for taking your time to read this, I hope you have a wonderful week,
Jamie 😌
Wow I just came across this video as of Sept.2017. I have been watching CHASE for at least a year or so now and thought I have seen most of his videos. I was wrong. Lol. I really loved this video. To me it doesn't matter that it was created a few years ago. This video will resonate with anyone that is looking for help explaining or coming out to family and friends. And for the family and friends as well. This is such a positive video. It really touched my heart. Great video Chase! Love ya!!!
Awesome idea doing the "go to guide" or survival kit.
And look at you Chasey Poo.. all serious and profound! No seriously, it's a fabulous vlog. Thankyou
You're a god thanks for legendating it to PT-BR
You're awesome
this is seriously the coolest video you've ever made.
My kid just came out. I love and will support my child in any way shape and form. The same way I couldn’t live as a trans my child can’t live as a cis person.
I use this video all the time after I come out to someone :)
Thank You Chase, I came out about 3 yrs ago, and have been suffering then as a forced biological female since I was brought into a Christian Religion. I was "Taught" being "different" was wrong and I would go to hell. I dated males up until the 3yrs ago. Each CIS male relationship I was in was abusive either sexually or mentally or both. I tried to "fix" myself because again, "It was wrong" I came out to my mom during a panic attack and just blurted it out, Thought I blurted out "IM GAY" now that I know the difference and how Idea Transpeople were a thing. (I thought it was either gay men or lesbians, no one taught me different in my house hold.) My father had a gay brother who died of Aids and they didn't tell me. I also have a gay cousin on my moms side who the family loves dearly. But when I came out to my sister in particular she was appalled. "NOT MY SISTER!" "You'll go to hell! You can't do this to me!" Yet, she loves our cousin with all her heart and wouldn't change him. I sent her this video so maybe she can understand....
Thank you! and You have a new subscriber
Castiel are you a an Angel of the lord (I'm sorry I'm heavily into supernatural)
rewatching this playlist again and i love how it just boils down to "just Try™ and respect people." still super helpful, but it's unfortunate we can't just accept that not everyone will be cishet and SHOCKER, they're still humans that need support
Thank you so much for making this video! I will be attaching this to my coming out facebook post. :)
Hey chase, thanks for the video just told my mum then sent her the link for this straight away :)
I'm going to save this for later when I'm ready to come out to my friends
Dear Chase,
I just spent a lot of time going through several of your videos. Some of your videos from a few years ago made me feel sad, it looked like you were having trouble finding your place. In your more recent videos, you look very happy, confident, and pleased with who you are and how you are accepted in the world. That makes me feel very happy, and very happy for you. Rough journey, glad to see you doing well.
Also, thank you for making this video. My fiance and I have been together ten years, and he just came out as FTM a little over a month ago. In addition to telling our friends (which as you know, is a whole huge issue on its own), I am really pleased to have the option of giving them an uninvolved person's perspective on the topic. Thank you, very much.
All my love,
Alison
Blogging about being the forever partner of a recently open/out FTM:
ftmpartner.blogspot.com/
Good job Bro. I talk to parents and kids about the importance of early transitioning.
TW: ABUSIVE PAST
I have an important question. I came out to someone and he keeps saying because of what terrible things happened to me when I was a child has brainwashed me to be trans. Any advice on telling him that it really isn't that way?
I was searching for this just yesterday - big thanks Chase!
Hey;)
I'm going to send this video to my mom and I hope it will help her understand a bit more.
who else thinks he looks like Billy Joe Armstrong from green day
My brother just came out to me and I don’t know what to do or how to react, how do I help and support him?
Thanks so much for making this Chase.
I've come out to my parents about four times in the past year, and they still tell me that me being ftm trans is just a phase, and i need to get that "bullshit" out of my head. They have told me that I'm just "jealous" of boys so i "want" to be one. do you have any other tips on telling them that this isn't a phase?
+My_Insane_Universe Also to prove that gc2b binders are safe?
2006? That's eight years, man! Dang
my aunt really enjoyed this video
Great video, thank you Chase
I have to admit this is a lot to learn :) but i do want to
great video!
Thanks so much chase
What I don't understand is, if someone's male or female inside, shouldn't the people who are worth it - those close to them, and real friends - be able to perceive that about them anyway? Aren't most emotionally wise people drawn towards or/and on a search for, the intuitive types, and, the caringly interested types, who don't judge them on superficial appearances, or, make prejudiced assumptions about them - who instead, "get them", and are open to them sharing stuff about themselves which are beyond the social norms? Why should people have to take hormones, which have negative health affects, and surgeries, which are a risk to health, and even potentially life, and destroy their healthy organs, in order to be read as who they are by insensitive and uncaring, judgemental people, (even if these people are in the majority)? Plus, how can young trans people who transition be sure that their feelings about their gender and/or body won't change in time, after they've lost their reproductive potential, etc - as people often do change dramatically throughout life, in sexuality, in religion, in yes gender I think - everything. I'm not trying to be rude here, these are just honest questions as you say Chase it's okay to ask questions.
+Sweetness Ofthemists I realize this is four months old, but here goes anyway. This is my experience:
I have a wealth of incredible friends whom are not only supportive, but seem to know with as much conviction that I am male as I do myself. Indeed, some of the people I have known longest weren't even surprised when I came out. It was more like "Oh yeah, that makes a lot more sense."
But it isn't enough. I have body dysphoria. I hate what I see when I look in the mirror, but I also hate what I know other people see. In every aspect of my life in which I encounter other people, they see a woman. They treat me as a woman and make certain assumptions based on that and they just don't see me as I am. And I can't stand it. And I actually long for the feeling of pulling on a T-shirt and it hanging limply rather than being stretched over my breasts. My breasts feel like birth defects that need to be removed. I feel like nothing fits. The risk of surgery is nothing when compared to the relief I know I'll get from having it. To put it in perspective: I had major back surgery to correct severe scoliosis when I was 16. Then, too, the end result immensely outweighed the risk of surgery. After transitioning I will love my body more and be more comfortable in my every day interactions. The health risks are well worth it.
And as for how we know our feelings won't change with time, that's a little more complicated. But trans people have been transitioning for many, many years now and we follow their example. It is true though that a very minuscule minority of us end up detransitioning. It's just a journey we each have to make for ourselves.
Oh and one more thing. No, not everyone can perceive a person's gender naturally. My own mother refuses to accept me as male and she's known me my entire life. You'd think she'd know better than anyone, and yet her perception of my gender is at odds with mine, and that of my friends. But after all, we cannot pick our family.
Anyway, does all that help any?
this is great!
You are a beautiful woman an you should embrace it.
Does anyone know of a video that simply outlines the risks and benefits of FTM HRT? My family has questions (I'm 4 months on T) but struggle with written information sheets, and I am on the autism spectrum and struggle with verbal explanations.
Chase actually has a video on the effects of testosterone.
What this proves is that *gender is something*. But what is it? I guess that trans people will usually only have experienced being one gender, so they are only as likely to know as I am, having seen only once side. Maybe. But maybe also some people who have made a transition can compare the two genders, and say, from the inside, what is the difference.
I could look at a video of any guy and make the same, following observations, but knowing that this guy has transititioned somehow makes me more sensitive to his masculinity.
There feels to me to be something going related to intra psychic others and one relates to them.
One of the most masculine things that chase does is the upside down banana mouth expression (such as at 0:58 1:05 1:10 1:20 2:08 and lost more and 8:20), at which point it seems, he is assessing the truth of what he has just said from the point of view of an intra-psychic other (i.e. someone to whom he is addressing himself in his head).
When he looks down and sniffs at times such as 047 again, this time I don't think he is addressing an "other" but more like (at these looking down and sniffing times) he is getting in touch with himself, his inner man.
I did think I saw a glimpse of female gender, when Chase is unsure of, no, pleased with something, or anyway, at 1:15 for instance, I see just a flash of girl. I watched again till the end, and that was the only flash of girl that I sensed, except perhaps the Asian "peace" pose at the end 11:01 but that is more a gestural thing.
My wife and I agree that Chase is more of a guy than me, and I bet my videos are riddled with girly bits, maybe.
Great video.
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Chase plz help my mom and grandmotyer think im to young to decide to be trans 😢😢😢
Chase! Do you know of any trans women youtubers who have a video similar to this one directed at friends/family?
Stef Sanjati has videos w/ her mother :) and stuff for family and friends too.
THANK YOU!
You're welcome
So if ur a trans girl are u originally a boy and if u r a trans boy r u originally a girl ????
in the most bacis terms, yes
transgirl- was assigned male at birth and now identifies as female. Trans boy- was assigned female at birth but now identifies as male.
I've seen of people get confused about this. Try and think of it this way. The basic meaning of the prefix "trans" is "to cross over". So that means that a transman "crossed over" to become a man, and a transwoman "crossed over" to become a woman.
I think it's more accurate to say that trans girls were always girls but everyone THOUGHT they were boys because of their genitals and that trans boys were always boys but everyone THOUGHT they were girls because of their genitals. That's why we say they were "assigned" male or female at birth. When a trans girl is born, the doctor sees she has a penis and exclaims "it's a boy!" When a trans boy is born, the doctor exclaims "it's a girl!" because they see a vulva.
Correction: A transman "crossed over" from living as a woman to living as a man. Same, but opposite, with a transwoman.
ill probably regret this, but, what is the T word?
Why is it considered bad? It is derogatory? Im sorry, probably a stupid question.
It is very derogatory and offensive to a lot of trans people (especially transwomen)
+CommonConnor extremely derogatory
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I came out at school :/ it ducked :(
A little late but here it goes anyway :) I'm sorry that it sucked for you but it's going to get better. Children and many normal people who never had to deal with this sort of thing can be very cruel, especially kids. I know this doesn't comfort much but hold on to being who you are!!! You will get through this difficult time and get the life you deserve. And be patient you may come through to some people after a while :)