My sister Elise came out as a trans girl and I'm trying to learn everything about transgender because I wanna support and help her with whatever she needs. Thank you so much for this video this helped me a lot 💕💕💕
My friend recently came out to me and I really want to help him with his transition, this really helps me understand more about what I can do to make him feel better and comfortable around me, thank you :)
I sent this to my mom because she’s been having trouble accepting and believing me since I came out when I was 16. I’m 24 now and she’s so stubborn. I have been so scared to transition because I don’t know what she’ll think. UPDATE: 12/11/2021 It's now several months later and my mom has accepted me and I have an appointment to get on HRT on the 23rd of December.
It can be very hard for parents to adjust. This is mostly because they worry. There are so many negative things said about trans people in the media, unfortunately this is why they then fear for you as thier child. But, when they see that being transgender does not have to be a bad thing, and that gender transition is something that will improve your life, they then do often come around. Perhaps send them some information, this video is a good start, maybe find some resources for them, so that they can learn more about trans people. Good luck!
I started watching you to understand my transgender friend I was confused and I didn't want to judge or make mistakes and you really helped me relax and totally accept him for who he truely is
im glad there is a transgender movement now, because now it will be more acceptable for men to hit women in self defense because we can claim we are women, being born a man, i can also go into the ladies room like ive always wanted!!
My hubby is a HS teacher and has had to pull a few students aside and ask them for their proper pronouns. Every time but once has it worked in his favor, however one student was offended by being asked and went to the principal saying that my husband “accused them of being a freak”. It was a huge mess. The teachers union backed my husband up once he explained how and why he questioned the person, but that one incident has made him uncomfortable to ask people about their pronouns now. This video was helpful for him, so thank you!
I am so sorry that happened to him. Im glad he was supported by the union. Unfortunately, there will always be the odd time where these things dont go well, but think how many other people have been helped by your husbands considerate nature to make sure he was respecting someones identity. Give him a hug from me and tell him he's awesome!
People who are trans put up with so much. I'm so glad you made this video, and thanks Christine and Moving to the moon for asking the question. This video really helps to counteract communication breakdown, help mend relationships, and helps bring people closer together. For example, when the media misrepresent what it means to be transgender. Transparent and honest videos like yours really help to stamp out ignorance when it comes to understanding people who are trans. Thank you for being an assertive voice in the trans community and for being so thorough in educating those who love and respect people who are trans, and who want the best for the people who are a part of the community. The educational guidance you express really helps to empower, nurture and equip others on how to support people in the trans community and offers a platform for trans people to be heard and seen for who they are. I first started watching your videos because I wanted to better understand a friend of mine who is transgender and who was in the initial stages of trying to understand who they were. You helped put words to the experience of what they were going through. I also told them about your youtube channel and in turn it helped them feel really supported for who they are and what they were going through. You helped open up a whole new world of validation for them as a person because they could see in you parts of who they were that they related to, and what they were going through trying to piece things together. I'm very grateful to know someone like you, who cares about people as much as you do. I love the design on your tshirt. It reminds me that snowflakes are as beautiful and unique in their design just like all of us on the planet ❄🌎❤ Ps looks like lamby and the Cat in the Hat are having a great conversation about something. Love seeing the balloons in the background there 🎈
Your balloons are amazing, you are amazing! Im so glad to have helped and am glad to be able to show the truth of what is is to be trans, the good and the bad. I look forward to the day, when we collectively look back in disbelief at how awfully trans people were once treated Glad you like the Tshirt and that you get the snowflake analogy. Snowflake is often a term used against us and I wanted to turn it on its head and use it to means the beautiful differences we have that make us unique but also the similarities we have that makes us all very much the same. Mwah! xxx
Have a friend who just came out as Trans. I've known her for years and we even dated (back when they were presenting as a boy, obviously, since they came out just recently) so to say this caught me off guard is a bit of an understatement. I spent a while unsure of what to call her because I heard both her new name and her deadname being used and she responded to both of them, but I didn't want to make a mistake. Today though after processing it fully I let her know she has my full support and that I'm happy to use her new name for her. Now I'm just surfing the web for as much information as I can get because I'd really like to help her out.
Thats great to hear that you can be supportive for her. It can be hard to hear this news for the first time, but it is even hard as a trans person to tell someone and face the possibility of rejection. Its great that you are looking for information, do make sure to check in with the support she needs, we each differ on what we need, especially in early days so make sure to ask her how best you can help. Im always happy to help too, so feel free to message here or over on finlaygames.com
My sibling and my best friend have both recently come out as trans to me. My friend especially has had a really difficult time accepting herself. I’m a cis guy that’s been mostly surrounded by conservative communities (church, military, etc.), so this video really helped. Thank you for making this.
I am thrilled that this video helped, thank you for letting me know! I do have a website too, with more info, links etc, if it helps you can find me at finlaygames.com
I really love this video. I have been friends with trans people since the mid-1970s. I'm now in my 70s. How I usually handle things - especially with people I don't know well, is to be upfront about the fact that I sometimes step over people's boundaries because I don't have good boundaries myself. So if a person is uncomfortable with questions that I ask or things that I say I given permission, first of all, to put their hand right up in front of my face to tell me that I'm crossing a boundary. The most fundamental thing that I do when it comes to supporting anyone is to say how can I support you. What do you need me to do and most importantly, I tell them what somebody once told me; "I will like you until you can love yourself and I do not want anything from you."I let them know did if they need somebody to listen to them I'm there. it is so important that people know they are loved and they are valued. Please keep sharing what you're sharing, thanks.
Thanks finn, i never knew much about trans people but i thought as we all share the same acronym (am a lesbian) i would try to find out more about it. Your channel has been really helpful to learn things, people need to live and let live.
my older brother came out as trans today and im still very confused whether i should call them my sister or brother still i fully support them i just have so many questions ,this video has helped a lot and i will kindly ask them later on , im showing my support by making them a trans necklace !!
Bless you! Yes, supportive comments help so much, to drown out the narrow minded folk who have nothing better to do than leave hateful comments on peoples videos!
Hi Finn, I wanted to support my friend but I didn’t knew how to do that or what probably makes him feel better as he was the first person I met who came out to be a trans. Obviously I love my friend and wanted to do every possible think which makes him feel protected, to make him know that I do believe that he is one of us by not sounding sympathetic about it becouse that is not a problem at all, after all problem is in the head of homophobic people.But I was very confused that he'll like my efforts or not and then I started googling about it and studying about the do's and don'ts and got your video. Let me say a big thank you to you for creating this one. More than helping people who are trans, you have helped me to get a better view of this. This has made our bond very much better. All the love to you ❤️
My friend I am so very happy to find your comment! It can be so hard to know how to best help, when we love someone, but know little about what they are going through, it can really worry us to say something wrong! But, its all about being gentle, caring, and curious and letting your friend guide you, knowing that you have thier back . Im thrilled my video helped and really thankful that you posted such a lovely comment to let me know!
Finn great video! Side note I just had the time and access to watch your Ted x talk!!!!!!! You were so composed and your message was new and presented in an implementable way😊😊😊. I loved it and am so proud of you♥️♥️♥️. Side note it is US Thanksgiving so today’s video is perfect as American families come together 😊
Dear Finn, this is so true. Your video is very important because highlights a real and understimate (I suppose) problem. It can be an embarassing thing for both. So your video makes us think and learn more attention. Thank Finn! A big hug to you and Fur Fur!!!!🤗
When you were talking about the way that stepping up and stepping in could be done, you absolutely got the most important bit. I currently had an incident where I basically had to completely drop somebody because when I spoke up for a trans person (my own peer who needed reasonable backing), a self identified "ally" called me a transphobe, simply because I went with actual psychocological and scientific reasoning about the specific situation. It's the kind of ally I don't want or need. I need to be and stay able to speak for myself, my peers, and especially my peers who are not given a voice. So I don't need an SJW-"ally" who can't even listen to the community they supposedly support. (and that was my rant)
My sister just came out to me and her partner, but I'm so worried about my dad when he knows. He really has been a great father in many ways but one of his downsides is being a conservative. I don't know how he will take it, I am dead worried about my sister because this world can sometimes be too harsh on trans people, especially in my country. This video is useful, and still is hard to find vids on this subject (loved ones of trans people).
So, treat you like a human being of the gender that you truly are? Treat you with kindness and compassion the way people should just treat each others across the board? This was such a beautiful video, i just can't wait for the day, however, when it isnt neccessary to instruct anyone on how to just be nice. I know it is a unique situation, but lots of situations are unique, it doesnt change the concept of just being kind to the people you encounter. I suppose im ranting now too lol. Im so glad you made a video on the love and support allies can provide the trans community, i just wish people would choose love always and this would all take care of itself and any differences that we have from each other would just be a non issue. It's a lofty wish lol, but oh how I wish it nonetheless. I am a cis woman and suddenyl and unexpectedly i have met and fallen for a transman, and i found your videos in my search to understand him emotionally to the best degree i am able. I am so glad i found you.
Bless your heart, yes yes yes! I wish there was no need for me to make this kind of content but sadly, so many people think it is OK to treat trans people incredibly poorly. I am lucky to have a ton of positive support on here but the negative comments I get show the type of things trans folk have to put up with daily, which isnt helped by an increasingly hostile media towards us. It breaks my heart and so when I find comments like yours, it restores my faith! Much love to you and your fella!
This helped alot i am a non biased person and respect others views and life choices, my best friend just came out as trans to me and is having trouble after coming out, ive been tell them that ill will support them through her journey throughout her life. She is going from male to female and is non binary, i wish to help her in anyway i can. Im looking to youtube for help so i can help more and understand what she is going through. Thank you.
Yeah I am going through the exact same. I'm trying to figure out the best way to support them throughout this cause I can't imagine what it's like to realize this stuff and I want to do whatever I can to help.
Im trans, but i only really knew how to support trans guys such as myself. My friend recently came out as a trans girl, so i was wondering what i could do to support her!
Bless you. It's really exactly the same in terms of support, validation, and as always, id suggest asking your friend specifically what she needs and perhaps reading some trans female memoirs/blogs etc to expand your understanding.
My sibling came out to me as trans recently and I've tried asking him what I can do to support him, how I can make him feel accepted, if he wants me to call out misgendering, etc. but he gets mad when I ask him anything about it. I'm not sure what I can do to support him if he won't tell me how to do so. I don't want to mess up and have him be even madder at me. I've tried giving him space so he can talk to me, but then he gets mad at me for not approaching him first. I'm not sure what to do. Any ideas?
You are a lovely sibling to care. Perhaps he just feels a bit scared at the moment and is taking it out on you, coming out is terrifying, we fear how it will change our life and relationships, it makes the future unclear, there is lots of frustration and worry, and at times we get sad, or grumpy! I would just keep rminding him, that is and when he wants your help, you are there.
I enjoyed this video, it was helpful and gives me a bit of insight. I was one of the people to ask those stupid questions, not directly, but to her friend. I basically just meant pre-op or post-op but i worded it in a rude way, i didn't mean it to be hurtful, and it was pointed out to me that it was insensitive. I'll know better infuture. I follow your channel because im on nebido too. I liked your geocaching video aswell.
Thank you for watching, and for your kind comment. I think we have all send silly things in the past, its a learning process, and it is OK to get things wrong, as long as we look to learn and do better. I am gateful for allies like you!
It is going to be harder for him, but nothing is ever as hard as trying to live as someone we are not. Give him your love and support, ask him how you can help, that will be the biggest gift you can ever give
My spouse, of 25 years, is trans mtof. We were married 20 years when she came out. I am her biggest defender and ally. People in my life at work etc think im a saint and Ive been told Im so brave for staying with her. I keep having to say "no Im not, she is the one who suppressed her true self to protect me and our kids for 20 years, until it nearly killed her" and now she has to put up with people ignoring her, misgendering her, deadnaming (her parents specifically), excluding her from things she previously loved. She is still the same person, its just that now her hormones match her brain. Shes still waiting for the body.
I have a dear friend online that is trans and he has been having a bad time lately, i am trying to find videos to help him in any way possible, if anyone has any suggestions, they are very welcome
My Son is working with a special needs child who is showing signs of the possibility of being trans such as asking for a different name and not wanting to put on clothes designated to their gender, their parents are trying to discourage this behaviour both my Son and I want to help this poor child it breaks my heart.
Well said! You are so right about people gender correcting and invariably outing their friends. Here in the USA, it could be disastrous, given the current political climate.
I don’t know I’ve never known a trans person before and it came out of the blue so when she came out about her new gender I was taken by suprise, I’m glad she told me though
Hey Finn - I could not have put it better myself , I use to HATE when people went over my head when i was right there I thought It was pretty rude to be honest.
This was so helpful I totally want to be the best ally I can be so videos like this are so helpful awesome video. If you look up the basement yard joe santagato talk about trans from 2 straight guys point of view I’d love to hear your thoughts on it on how they talk about it and stuff xx
@@FinnTheInfinncible Not really.People usually gender people according to how they present,so they assume they have the genitals that they expect,so wouldn't think to ask.What I should've said really is the trans person should say they're trans,which is not exactly what I said at first.
Its the same with anyone, trans or cis. If there is something which makes sexual intimacy different or difficult, then of course it should be discussed.
My sister Elise came out as a trans girl and I'm trying to learn everything about transgender because I wanna support and help her with whatever she needs. Thank you so much for this video this helped me a lot 💕💕💕
She is blessed to have you! Glad my video could help 🥰
you're an amazing sibling
My friend recently came out to me and I really want to help him with his transition, this really helps me understand more about what I can do to make him feel better and comfortable around me, thank you :)
I am very glad this video helped, and your friend is lucky to have you!
I sent this to my mom because she’s been having trouble accepting and believing me since I came out when I was 16. I’m 24 now and she’s so stubborn. I have been so scared to transition because I don’t know what she’ll think.
UPDATE: 12/11/2021
It's now several months later and my mom has accepted me and I have an appointment to get on HRT on the 23rd of December.
It can be very hard for parents to adjust. This is mostly because they worry. There are so many negative things said about trans people in the media, unfortunately this is why they then fear for you as thier child. But, when they see that being transgender does not have to be a bad thing, and that gender transition is something that will improve your life, they then do often come around. Perhaps send them some information, this video is a good start, maybe find some resources for them, so that they can learn more about trans people. Good luck!
@@FinnTheInfinncible
Thank you! 😊
So happy for you!
I started watching you to understand my transgender friend I was confused and I didn't want to judge or make mistakes and you really helped me relax and totally accept him for who he truely is
Well that just makes my absolute day
im glad there is a transgender movement now, because now it will be more acceptable for men to hit women in self defense because we can claim we are women, being born a man, i can also go into the ladies room like ive always wanted!!
My hubby is a HS teacher and has had to pull a few students aside and ask them for their proper pronouns. Every time but once has it worked in his favor, however one student was offended by being asked and went to the principal saying that my husband “accused them of being a freak”. It was a huge mess. The teachers union backed my husband up once he explained how and why he questioned the person, but that one incident has made him uncomfortable to ask people about their pronouns now. This video was helpful for him, so thank you!
I am so sorry that happened to him. Im glad he was supported by the union. Unfortunately, there will always be the odd time where these things dont go well, but think how many other people have been helped by your husbands considerate nature to make sure he was respecting someones identity. Give him a hug from me and tell him he's awesome!
People who are trans put up with so much. I'm so glad you made this video, and thanks Christine and Moving to the moon for asking the question. This video really helps to counteract communication breakdown, help mend relationships, and helps bring people closer together. For example, when the media misrepresent what it means to be transgender. Transparent and honest videos like yours really help to stamp out ignorance when it comes to understanding people who are trans.
Thank you for being an assertive voice in the trans community and for being so thorough in educating those who love and respect people who are trans, and who want the best for the people who are a part of the community. The educational guidance you express really helps to empower, nurture and equip others on how to support people in the trans community and offers a platform for trans people to be heard and seen for who they are.
I first started watching your videos because I wanted to better understand a friend of mine who is transgender and who was in the initial stages of trying to understand who they were. You helped put words to the experience of what they were going through. I also told them about your youtube channel and in turn it helped them feel really supported for who they are and what they were going through. You helped open up a whole new world of validation for them as a person because they could see in you parts of who they were that they related to, and what they were going through trying to piece things together. I'm very grateful to know someone like you, who cares about people as much as you do.
I love the design on your tshirt. It reminds me that snowflakes are as beautiful and unique in their design just like all of us on the planet ❄🌎❤
Ps looks like lamby and the Cat in the Hat are having a great conversation about something. Love seeing the balloons in the background there 🎈
Your balloons are amazing, you are amazing! Im so glad to have helped and am glad to be able to show the truth of what is is to be trans, the good and the bad. I look forward to the day, when we collectively look back in disbelief at how awfully trans people were once treated
Glad you like the Tshirt and that you get the snowflake analogy. Snowflake is often a term used against us and I wanted to turn it on its head and use it to means the beautiful differences we have that make us unique but also the similarities we have that makes us all very much the same.
Mwah! xxx
@@FinnTheInfinncible😘💖 xxx
Have a friend who just came out as Trans. I've known her for years and we even dated (back when they were presenting as a boy, obviously, since they came out just recently) so to say this caught me off guard is a bit of an understatement. I spent a while unsure of what to call her because I heard both her new name and her deadname being used and she responded to both of them, but I didn't want to make a mistake. Today though after processing it fully I let her know she has my full support and that I'm happy to use her new name for her. Now I'm just surfing the web for as much information as I can get because I'd really like to help her out.
Thats great to hear that you can be supportive for her. It can be hard to hear this news for the first time, but it is even hard as a trans person to tell someone and face the possibility of rejection. Its great that you are looking for information, do make sure to check in with the support she needs, we each differ on what we need, especially in early days so make sure to ask her how best you can help. Im always happy to help too, so feel free to message here or over on finlaygames.com
Like many other commenters, I am here because a good friend came out to me and I want to support them. Thank you for making this video!
I'm thrilled this is useful and I'm so grateful for your allyship! Your friend is lucky to have you!
My sibling and my best friend have both recently come out as trans to me. My friend especially has had a really difficult time accepting herself. I’m a cis guy that’s been mostly surrounded by conservative communities (church, military, etc.), so this video really helped. Thank you for making this.
I am thrilled that this video helped, thank you for letting me know! I do have a website too, with more info, links etc, if it helps you can find me at finlaygames.com
I really love this video. I have been friends with trans people since the mid-1970s. I'm now in my 70s. How I usually handle things - especially with people I don't know well, is to be upfront about the fact that I sometimes step over people's boundaries because I don't have good boundaries myself. So if a person is uncomfortable with questions that I ask or things that I say I given permission, first of all, to put their hand right up in front of my face to tell me that I'm crossing a boundary. The most fundamental thing that I do when it comes to supporting anyone is to say how can I support you. What do you need me to do and most importantly, I tell them what somebody once told me; "I will like you until you can love yourself and I do not want anything from you."I let them know did if they need somebody to listen to them I'm there. it is so important that people know they are loved and they are valued. Please keep sharing what you're sharing, thanks.
Absolutely my friend, thats the perfect question, how can I support you! Thank you for your kind and wise words
Thanks finn, i never knew much about trans people but i thought as we all share the same acronym (am a lesbian) i would try to find out more about it. Your channel has been really helpful to learn things, people need to live and let live.
That's wonderful! I'm so pleased to be able to help. I wish more people would take this approach and try to educate themselves about people!
My sister was doing some research for me and started with this video. Great advice, really appreciate it!~
Very glad to help, thanks for watching!
Not a rant at all. Very measured and very good advice. Thank you so much xx
A lovely compliment! Thanks so much and thanks for watching!
my older brother came out as trans today and im still very confused whether i should call them my sister or brother still i fully support them i just have so many questions ,this video has helped a lot and i will kindly ask them later on , im showing my support by making them a trans necklace !!
Im very glas that this video helped! Yiur dibling is very lucky to have you and your support will help them so very much!
Thanks Finn, great video.
First thing allies need to do is leave supportive comments and not just talk over you!
Bless you! Yes, supportive comments help so much, to drown out the narrow minded folk who have nothing better to do than leave hateful comments on peoples videos!
Hi Finn, I wanted to support my friend but I didn’t knew how to do that or what probably makes him feel better as he was the first person I met who came out to be a trans. Obviously I love my friend and wanted to do every possible think which makes him feel protected, to make him know that I do believe that he is one of us by not sounding sympathetic about it becouse that is not a problem at all, after all problem is in the head of homophobic people.But I was very confused that he'll like my efforts or not and then I started googling about it and studying about the do's and don'ts and got your video. Let me say a big thank you to you for creating this one. More than helping people who are trans, you have helped me to get a better view of this. This has made our bond very much better. All the love to you ❤️
My friend I am so very happy to find your comment! It can be so hard to know how to best help, when we love someone, but know little about what they are going through, it can really worry us to say something wrong! But, its all about being gentle, caring, and curious and letting your friend guide you, knowing that you have thier back . Im thrilled my video helped and really thankful that you posted such a lovely comment to let me know!
@@FinnTheInfinncible More power and love to you.
Finn great video! Side note I just had the time and access to watch your Ted x talk!!!!!!! You were so composed and your message was new and presented in an implementable way😊😊😊. I loved it and am so proud of you♥️♥️♥️. Side note it is US Thanksgiving so today’s video is perfect as American families come together 😊
Oh my goodness thank you so much! It couldnt have gone better really, l was very pleased! Very very glad it came across so well 🤩🥰
Thank you for this video! I know it’s 5 years old but it is very helpful for me today specifically. 🙏
Dear Finn, this is so true. Your video is very important because highlights a real and understimate (I suppose) problem. It can be an embarassing thing for both.
So your video makes us think and learn more attention. Thank Finn!
A big hug to you and Fur Fur!!!!🤗
Bless your heart, thank you!
Thank you for posting this video. Much love❤️
Thanks so much for watching , and for your lovely comment!
@@FinnTheInfinncible of course!
:D that was a great list of things that happen way too often! I feel you :) I've just found your channel
Welcome! Lovely to have you here!
Lovely vid eloquent and tastefully explains many of the dilemmas surrounding and facing trans folk Ta matey
Lovely compliments, thanks my friend!
When you were talking about the way that stepping up and stepping in could be done, you absolutely got the most important bit. I currently had an incident where I basically had to completely drop somebody because when I spoke up for a trans person (my own peer who needed reasonable backing), a self identified "ally" called me a transphobe, simply because I went with actual psychocological and scientific reasoning about the specific situation. It's the kind of ally I don't want or need. I need to be and stay able to speak for myself, my peers, and especially my peers who are not given a voice. So I don't need an SJW-"ally" who can't even listen to the community they supposedly support. (and that was my rant)
Rant away! It's good to stand up for others especially those who need help to have their voice heard
My sister just came out to me and her partner, but I'm so worried about my dad when he knows. He really has been a great father in many ways but one of his downsides is being a conservative. I don't know how he will take it, I am dead worried about my sister because this world can sometimes be too harsh on trans people, especially in my country. This video is useful, and still is hard to find vids on this subject (loved ones of trans people).
I like your T-shirt.
Thank you so much, I made it! You can find it in my store :) www.zazzle.co.uk/z/pe2bf?rf=238499895688881966
I like ya T-Shirt g 😳
So, treat you like a human being of the gender that you truly are? Treat you with kindness and compassion the way people should just treat each others across the board? This was such a beautiful video, i just can't wait for the day, however, when it isnt neccessary to instruct anyone on how to just be nice. I know it is a unique situation, but lots of situations are unique, it doesnt change the concept of just being kind to the people you encounter. I suppose im ranting now too lol. Im so glad you made a video on the love and support allies can provide the trans community, i just wish people would choose love always and this would all take care of itself and any differences that we have from each other would just be a non issue. It's a lofty wish lol, but oh how I wish it nonetheless.
I am a cis woman and suddenyl and unexpectedly i have met and fallen for a transman, and i found your videos in my search to understand him emotionally to the best degree i am able. I am so glad i found you.
Bless your heart, yes yes yes! I wish there was no need for me to make this kind of content but sadly, so many people think it is OK to treat trans people incredibly poorly. I am lucky to have a ton of positive support on here but the negative comments I get show the type of things trans folk have to put up with daily, which isnt helped by an increasingly hostile media towards us. It breaks my heart and so when I find comments like yours, it restores my faith! Much love to you and your fella!
Thanks for this segment Finn. Great insight and discussion!
Thanks so much and thanks for the great question!
My sister came out as trans and this helped me a lot
This helped alot i am a non biased person and respect others views and life choices, my best friend just came out as trans to me and is having trouble after coming out, ive been tell them that ill will support them through her journey throughout her life. She is going from male to female and is non binary, i wish to help her in anyway i can. Im looking to youtube for help so i can help more and understand what she is going through. Thank you.
I am glad this video helped. You are a good friend!
Yeah I am going through the exact same. I'm trying to figure out the best way to support them throughout this cause I can't imagine what it's like to realize this stuff and I want to do whatever I can to help.
Im trans, but i only really knew how to support trans guys such as myself. My friend recently came out as a trans girl, so i was wondering what i could do to support her!
Bless you. It's really exactly the same in terms of support, validation, and as always, id suggest asking your friend specifically what she needs and perhaps reading some trans female memoirs/blogs etc to expand your understanding.
My sibling came out to me as trans recently and I've tried asking him what I can do to support him, how I can make him feel accepted, if he wants me to call out misgendering, etc. but he gets mad when I ask him anything about it. I'm not sure what I can do to support him if he won't tell me how to do so. I don't want to mess up and have him be even madder at me. I've tried giving him space so he can talk to me, but then he gets mad at me for not approaching him first. I'm not sure what to do. Any ideas?
You are a lovely sibling to care. Perhaps he just feels a bit scared at the moment and is taking it out on you, coming out is terrifying, we fear how it will change our life and relationships, it makes the future unclear, there is lots of frustration and worry, and at times we get sad, or grumpy! I would just keep rminding him, that is and when he wants your help, you are there.
Thankyou for the video you really helped me not saying something harmful after my brother came out
Thank you for your lovely comment, I am very glad my video helped!
I enjoyed this video, it was helpful and gives me a bit of insight. I was one of the people to ask those stupid questions, not directly, but to her friend. I basically just meant pre-op or post-op but i worded it in a rude way, i didn't mean it to be hurtful, and it was pointed out to me that it was insensitive. I'll know better infuture. I follow your channel because im on nebido too. I liked your geocaching video aswell.
Thank you for watching, and for your kind comment. I think we have all send silly things in the past, its a learning process, and it is OK to get things wrong, as long as we look to learn and do better. I am gateful for allies like you!
I cried when my brother came out because i knew there are things that are going to be harder for him and because he was so nervous
It is going to be harder for him, but nothing is ever as hard as trying to live as someone we are not. Give him your love and support, ask him how you can help, that will be the biggest gift you can ever give
Awesome video, definitely sharing!
Wonderful, thank you!
My spouse, of 25 years, is trans mtof. We were married 20 years when she came out. I am her biggest defender and ally. People in my life at work etc think im a saint and Ive been told Im so brave for staying with her.
I keep having to say "no Im not, she is the one who suppressed her true self to protect me and our kids for 20 years, until it nearly killed her" and now she has to put up with people ignoring her, misgendering her, deadnaming (her parents specifically), excluding her from things she previously loved. She is still the same person, its just that now her hormones match her brain. Shes still waiting for the body.
I met a friend online, idk why but I want to keep him happy, I don't want him to be felt alone.
Nobody should feel alone. If we can support each other it's a wonderful thing
Great video!! Keep up the great work.
Thank you so much!
I'm transgender and transitioning from male to female
I hope things are going well!
I have a dear friend online that is trans and he has been having a bad time lately, i am trying to find videos to help him in any way possible, if anyone has any suggestions, they are very welcome
Thank you very much 😊❤️😘
Thanks so much for watching!
Thank you so much
Thanks for watching!
My boyfriend was born a girl but he wants to be a male and I want to fully support him ❤❤
He is lucky to have your support!
Video starts at 2:00
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My Son is working with a special needs child who is showing signs of the possibility of being trans such as asking for a different name and not wanting to put on clothes designated to their gender, their parents are trying to discourage this behaviour both my Son and I want to help this poor child it breaks my heart.
Thank you Finn
Thanks for watching!
Well said! You are so right about people gender correcting and invariably outing their friends. Here in the USA, it could be disastrous, given the current political climate.
Very true my friend!
My friend just told me and I’m still in shock
About what?!
I don’t know I’ve never known a trans person before and it came out of the blue so when she came out about her new gender I was taken by suprise, I’m glad she told me though
Ah, thanks for the clarification. Well it's a big thing for your friend to trust you with that info.
Hey Finn - I could not have put it better myself , I use to HATE when people went over my head when i was right there I thought It was pretty rude to be honest.
Yup! And people think they are being helpful....!
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This was so helpful I totally want to be the best ally I can be so videos like this are so helpful awesome video. If you look up the basement yard joe santagato talk about trans from 2 straight guys point of view I’d love to hear your thoughts on it on how they talk about it and stuff xx
Oh I shall check that out, thank you! And thank you for the kind feedback!
@@FinnTheInfinncible I think its around half way they start talking about it
Your Tattoo looks great.
Thank you so much! Not completely finished yet....second sitting in Jan!
Love to watch your video
I love that you do, thank you!
FinnTheInfinncible ❤️🌹
How can we support people during the upcoming Trump administration? there’s so much stress/ fear regarding this, how can we support our loved ones?
You are very cute
Why thank you so much!
It's probably appropriate to ask what's in the pants if sex is on the table,oui????
Be in no doubt they'll broach that subject with you.
Approaching this topic with a trans person is the same as approaching this topic with anyone you are about to be intimate with
@@FinnTheInfinncible Not really.People usually gender people according to how they present,so they assume they have the genitals that they expect,so wouldn't think to ask.What I should've said really is the trans person should say they're trans,which is not exactly what I said at first.
Its the same with anyone, trans or cis. If there is something which makes sexual intimacy different or difficult, then of course it should be discussed.
@@FinnTheInfinncible yes,I see what you mean