The funny thing about this is one of my local LGBT groups often has snacks like cookies, or chips or something and allies are welcome. So I can see someone just going in their "Hi I'm here for my ally cookie."
"It's a girl!" I almost spit out my iced tea all over my laptop. You're the best. Thank you for making this video. I've been dating someone who is trans and this has been helpful on my journey to being a better partner.
Hey Chase, I was just wondering if you could possibly make a video about dealing with height dysphoria? Because the thing that makes me feel the most dysphoric is that I'm 5'4 and done growing and most of the cis guys in my school are like 5'10 and still growing
+karly skiba I have no idea how old you are, but height dysphoria is something I dealt with for a long time (I'm also 5'4). Everyone I went to school with was so tall; I just assumed that's how the rest of the world would be to. But this year I started college, and all I can say is damn. The world is full of short cis guys. I've met PLENTY of guys who are shorter than me. It's helped quiet my dysphoria a lot. This may not be incredibly helpful, but all I can say is if you get out into the world, you may start to notice that there are a lot of short cis guys. You just gotta keep your eyes open, and keep exploring.
Im 5'0 and wearing boots with just an inch platform can make you feel better. i feel somehow a whole lot taller in them compared to when i wear my flats. but stand straight and act confident and you'll almost actually feel confident. ive seen tons of (i think) cis guys my height, so dont think short cis guys arent real. if it bothers you extremely bad ive kinda heard about Human Growth Hormones, maybe do research on that but i think its hard to convince an endo to give them to you.
I love the sass. :D Also, I'm so glad you explained not using "transgendered." I told my friend not to use that word the other day and for whatever reason couldn't find the exact words to explain why it's bad. You put it perfectly! ((Ever since this one video where you said your septum ring is always crooked and in different positions, I notice it WAY more. XD))
I am an old lady middle school teacher who wants to be the best ALLY I can be for my students and loved ones so that I can provide more resources for support at the school where I work. I always try to ask my questions or make my approach in the spirit of wanting to listen and learn, and then spread my awareness. I have plenty to learn, I am sure, but I care and I want to be there for them {heart}. Thank you for this~
If you start the trans ally boot-camp, Chase, let me know. My sister could run it... She's a feisty little supporter. I can't guarantee you that they'd all make it out alive though. BtB, I have to say as well, you are definitely toning up lately brother... looking good.
Well done Chase. I can see how your academic studies contributed to your presentation. You did a good job of following an outline which I believe helped.
@6:20 nb ppl are trans! trans is an umbrella term that covers anyone who doesnt exclusively id as the gender they were assigned. the word youre looking for is binary.
+emma poulsen No no, I meant what I said. I said not everyone transition, not everyone is trans, some people are nonbinary, genderqueer, gender fluid. I'm not implying that non binary people aren't trans, im simply saying that some people don't transition and they can happen to be trans, or non binary (I'm splitting them up on purpose right here because I know so many nb people who do not identity as trans, they identity as nb. I am not saying that I don't see nb people as trans at all, if you identify as nb and trans then thats all you boo boo and i respect that!)
this is actually awesome. i am one of those peeps stuck in the middle of the gender zone. for now i identify as female. mostly because I don't want to put up with the people around me being like "What so you're not a boy or a girl? what the heck are ya then? a pizza?" Yas imma pizza. idk where im going with this #yay
+Sammy Unpromising realities can be a discouraging shock after receiving better expectations from presented sources, but please don't get discouraged because of that! I would love to see someone make a video about that experience. Please, contact me on my channel, if you desire any support or assistance with doing anything like that.
ThatOneSam Why not go with your biological sex and then EXPRESS your gender in whatever way you wish?? You NEED a foundation. Biological sex can be that foundation. In the 21st century you're FREE to "gender express" in any manner you choose - while simultaneously having the firm foundation of biology for psychological stability. Cheers
I love that my workplace has a gender neutral bathroom as well as a mens bathroom & a ladies bathroom; I'm early in transition and it's such a relief having a neutral option.
the explanation of how your body gets at 11:07 !!!!!!! i understand how u feel omg!! i hate hearing that word like it makes me feel attacked when my mom says it. she thinks its okay to call trans people that and i just??
Aaahhh, doing research for a similar style video (but notably, a different video!) and this is honestly so good. You're hilarious, how have I not been actively watching your videos?
This video was so informative, I'm not trans and I really want to get informed just so I can be the best version of myself with people I meet wether they are trans or not especially where I live (Mexico) people in the lgbt community are so discriminated against so I feel like its almost a duty to be informed. also I'm a med student and I still have a long way to go to become a Doctor but I want to be educated when the time comes that I have to take care of a patient that happens to be trans I can be able to give everyone the respect, the acceptance and the care they deserve. Sorry if I dont make any sense! The point is: your videos are great, thank you!
Chase I love your bouncy thought-talk... I do this too! I also love that you do "re-writes" when you're talking, you get serious issues across in a funny way.
Chase this video made me so happy because as an ally ive fought against kids being offensive at school and now i feel like a good ally and this looks like im asking for a cookie but i just want to say thank you, this was empowering
I'm crying everytime you say a video is gonna be short like.... no Chase... who are you trying to kid :'D. But I don't mind, I love hearing you talk! The longer the merrier lol
+WorstRescueEver This was actually suppose to be short though but then I started giving too many examples and I ended up with 20 minutes of footage HELP
+uppercaseCHASE1 on your next video just open it by stating it's going to be 30 minutes, 22 without commercials, and then when you hit the 14 minute mark you'll feel great!!! ;) Love you no matter how long your videos are!
My younger brother always uses the derogatory T word in conversation. For awhile I couldn't say anything, because I was afraid to. Our relationship is already really shitty, and I don't want to give him one more reason to hate me. I don't know when it started, but I finally started speaking up. I was out to him as pansexual at the time, so I thought that I would use that as a kind of example or something. I would say that transgender people are people too, and saying that word is very inappropriate and has so much negativity and violence behind it. And one day, I may bring home a partner who is transgender - who might even one day become his brother-in-law or sister-in-law. And I would say to him, "If I were transgender, would you openly use that term so casually?". He didn't ever really have anything to say, but he didn't argue either. I like to think that I maybe got through to him, even a little bit. I just hate that derogatory term so much...
+Dottys Corner - Why would you go out of your way to say that to anyone? Respect, learn some and if you can't learn that, then perhaps just learn some personal censorship. I don't understand your hateful comment, there is simply no need for it.
As an "ally in training" (lol) after watching this video I'm now really glad I never got to have an in-depth conversation with a trans person yet. I would have hurt their feelings in so many ways and would have said and asked inappropriate things unknowingly, simply out of curiosity. Chase, thank you for educating people like me on the topic! You got a new subscriber.
I completely understood what you meant with the bathroom thing, I just think people are correcting you because I can also understand how people outside the community might not make the distinction between your thoughts.
honestly, Chase - your videos give me SO much life and yr like the most hilarious, amazing, intelligent person and I am so damn grateful for what you give to our community ♡♡ it helps so much and also I can share yr vids in order to educate others and I'm just super thankful 4 that ♡
I'm a cis teenage girl and a super trans ally, I started watching your videos so I could know more about being trans and if one day I encounter someone who uses any of the things you review, I'll know what they are and not turn the situation even more awkward for this person xx
A friend of mine sometimes wears more masculine clothing and a teacher called on her using male pronouns so after my friend answer her question she raised her had again and told the teacher that for future reference she preferred female pronouns! The teacher got low key angry for being called out but another teacher in the room thanked my friend for correcting her so respectfully! Don't be afraid to tell someone when they mess up!
Number one is so real. I was outed by some random at my workplace before I even started, which I only found out six months into working there. It made me feel really uneasy. Outing someone is an act of violence.
I think there is a big difference between offensive and ignorant. Ignorance can be hurtful and damaging, but it's different from malice. Often it sounds similar since it's often got a lot of fear and defensiveness attached, but bearing it in mind the difference between intentional offence and accidental offence is important both in terms of flavouring your response and also in terms of how much personal damage you allow it to make.
Very educational video Chase, specially the part of "calling out", I can now understand trans people are not being rude when they call out an ally. I hope to be a good ally for the trans community, however in the country I live things are really bad for trans people and you could suffer discrimination and verbal violence for defending trans people. I tried once to defend Caitlyn Jenner because a female friend of mine was saying: "the Jenner was born male" and I was so angry and told her she is a woman and has always felt like a woman but my friend would simply not understand and yell at me. Living in a conservative country full of machista culture is terrible, I mean, I'm pansexual and only 10 people know it (all are friends my family doesn't know yet) :( P.S. I love your videos :) keep doing your amazing job
Andie Hernández "Calling out" someone is rude. Correcting them like a friend and treating them with the respect YOU WOULD WANT TO BE TREATED WITH is what's right.
Andie Hernández Jenner WAS born a (biological) male. The word biological was IMPLIED when your friend said...."Jenner was born male" Your friend was right and you should have understood that the word biological was IMPLIED. You were more interested in virtue signalling then you were in logic. You're chasing a FALSE VIRTUE that's predicated on the shallow, leftist ideology of our time. Look at the logic. Jenner WAS born the male biological sex. WHY is that idea threatening to you?? WHY do you feel the need to oppose that scientific FACT??
Oh my God, I love this. I've watched a ton of your videos and somehow never found this one. I'm internally screaming in frustration and representation bevause this is so painfully accurate.
Very entertaining and as always educational. Always going to have my L plates on.. but I'll keep trying. Thanks for the help and tips along the way. I feel like you're helping me to be a better me even if it's just in being more tolerant of differences in people. Any people as the messages about acceptance and compassion cross so many different groups. Oh and I love the over dramatisation it's what makes you who you are and I enjoy watching your clips.
I LOVE this video. I don't want to wave around my ally-ness but I just want to assure you that dream allies DO exist and I've been changing minds all over the U.S. I don't have a public forum where anyone will listen to me but I work marketing events all over the U.S. and I will correct anyone who says anything inappropriate. I have noticed the most offensive to the trans community that I've come across are gays, and it is very disappointing. People don't realize how much talking about this issue truly helps. I was talking to this guy about trans issues because Caitlyn Jenner came up and I really got him seeing it in a different light. He actually recently messaged me on Facebook letting me know he hooked up with a girl who he found out later was trans. He said he immediately thought of me and instead of being angry at her his reaction came more from a place of compassion. That made me so happy.
When I was an Ally in Training, I had a bad ally experience. There was a Trans guy in my class, and my professor constantly misgendered him. I don't think he ever gendered him properly. I made sure to gender him as he requested, but I was too cowardly to correct my professor until the end of the semester, at which point he did make a point to try to change the pronouns. The guy in my class tried to get the professor to gender him properly, but was very soft spoken and my professor didn't seem to care. I've always felt bad that I didn't get my guts together and call out my professor earlier. I have gotten much better since. I wouldn't do it the same way again. I'd talk to my professor way earlier.
Your response to the 'birth name' question is the same as mine!! I get asked all the time and I just tell people I changed it because I don't want to hear it anymore.
Great video Chase. I wish there were more people in the world willing to learn these things and really try to understand why some things shouldn't be said and that we deserve to have equal rights.
I always want people to call me out when I say something offensive. I'm trying to be an ally so if I say something wrong PLEASE tell me. I don't want to offend people I want to learn. It's not like I'm trying to do it on purpose it's probably an accident. Thank you!
Oh man I totally agree that we need gender neutral bathrooms. I can't even explain why, it would just make everyone so much more comfortable with each other and would normalize bathroom duties, which seem so damn taboo. It would also help people see and understand things that other genders deal with. I know a man who when he was in his early 20's had no idea that girls use toilet paper after they pee.
It's pretty awesome we actually have many places that have three bathrooms Male female and an all or everyone private bathroom (the other ones are usually big and the all one is just one toilet) I've seen some big bathrooms that have the symbol for all on them too it's not all places but it's great to see progress! I'm in western Canada btw
Im a trans man too, and I dont mind answer and educate other people, the only question i hate the most is "How your genitals looks like" ... im like.. How YOUR genitals looks like 👀
I have also a typ for you, because you need it: don't generalise trans people. 'we are not comfortable talking about sex' 'we are not comfortable telling you our birth name'. I have a trans friend and he is perfectly comfortable with all these issues, from the very start I got to know him. It is of course good to be a little carefull with topics like this in the beginning, but really: don't act like all trans people think the same, because they don't.
+Krijn van Alten I really don't think he generalized like that. These are *general* tips on how to be an ally to trans people, and obviously some people will feel comfortable with some things and not comfortable with others. But those are general tips on what to do or not do. They apply for many trans people, never all. And Chase never says it applies to all trans people, he even mentions there are exceptions.
My friend’s mum said the t word one time and I tried to explain to her why it wasn’t okay and she was like ‘I have tons of friends who call themselves *t word*’ and I was sooooooo uncomfortable. I know she doesn’t mean to be like really rude to trans people, she literally order me my binder cause I couldn’t do it with my parents but it made me so uncomfortable to hear it t w i c e
Also I'm sorry if this comes across as offensive or anything but I just can't get behind gender neutral bathrooms that are multi-stalled. I am COMPLETELY okay with gender neutral restrooms that are one toilet, and am 100% okay with trans women using the women's restroom. My issue with safety has absolutely not one bit to do with trans women or trans people in general. I totally understand and respect what chase is saying but I personally would not feel comfortable or safe with a man who identifies as a man (and I'm speaking more so of straight cis men) being able to follow me in the restroom. I live near not so safe areas & for that reason it terrifies me. Like I said though, I'm not saying I feel unsafe or uncomfortable when trans women use the restroom. Even if it's a trans woman who hasn't transitioned yet or who doesn't "pass", that I'm still okay with. I just mean bad men who would take advantage of that. I dunno if I'm the only one who feels this way or not
I 100% agree, it might seem a bit paranoid, but women (Both trans and cis) have a right to feel a bit paranoid and have a right to go somewhere where men can not follow, as do men
It doesn't make much sense. Predators don't need laws that allow them certain things. They know they can't defend their "trans" nsidentity if hadn't been to a therapist or anything similar. If they wanted to follow you, they would do it no matter what..
Thank you so much for this, this will hopefully help my (frankly very uneducated) friends. Maybe I can get my school to show this at a meeting... *thoughtful face*
One of my friend's friend has a trans family member (not trying to out anyone, won't say any names or even pronouns) and the friend kept saying " and (incorrect pronoun she/he) is trans and my family doesn't like (him/her) because of it, but I love (him/her)" and I had informed the person that if they wanted to support their family member with who they are that they could start by using the proper pronouns for said family member and the friend got so offended that I was trying to help them help their family member. I was so surprised buy it but I do live in a very anti-LGBT area, which makes me quite sad as an LGBT person and supporter myself.
What do you do if a little kid outs you in a public place? Does that happen to people often? I saw it happen at a fair once and it almost got nasty. I was in the middle of a huge crowd and a trans woman, I guess, was walking behind me. I thought I saw her earlier, doing some kind of performance, so I wasn't sure if she was actually just a female impersonator. A little toddler asked her directly if she's a boy or a girl. She was obviously pissed off and said something to her friend, to the affect of " I could say something, but I better not, or some shit's 'gonna go down," or something like that.
plasticwrapcharlie That's NOT the way to talk to a tiny child. You'd tell the little one in a NON threatening voice that it's not polite to ask that question but you will tell them the answer anyways. Then you'd say I'm a ...
When I'm not sure of how someone identifies I just stick to being as neutral as possible until they feel comfortable telling me their pronouns a simple hi there how are you? Makes life so much easier lol
Hey Chase, great video thank you! Do you have any videos that touch on the topic of cis people denying transphobia and/or harrassment or trans people's right to say that they don't feel safe in a particular space?
Samiya Lioness I'm trans myself and I honestly do not get it. I know it's some type of reclaiming it and empowering yourself with it. But it's still very offensive to me and I never want to hear it.
+uppercaseCHASE1 people may ask what the "real" name is just out of curiosity. This wording is totally wrong and the word "real" comes with other implications that are just off, but I like to give people the benefit of the doubt. I know that I like to ask people what their full names are all the time, or even what their grandmother's name is or what their maiden name is, etc. and all of this is only out of curiosity. I just really like hearing new names and learning about names and the history behind names. That's just me, though. I'm sure plenty of people who ask trans people "what's your real name" are not asking just because they like to learn about names. I'm not justifying what they're doing, and I agree that the question is disrespectful and undermines the purpose of having your name changed in the first place. It's unfortunate that not enough people realize that their questions can be undermining or belittling, or are loaded with other implications, but being part of a minority group pretty much ensures that we'll be asked questions in general all the time. Those of us in the minority group should take that opportunity to educate. It can get exhausting and frustrating, though, to have to repeat yourself, I totally get that. So, I agree with your overall advice about questions, just think before you ask them.
when you were talking about gender neutral bathrooms you mentioned people wanting to be alone. is the ideal scenario to have individual stall-type washrooms instead of the shared rooms?
I am so sad, this video sounds like you have been offended a lot of time and I feel it is so sad... I am a cis woman and I am watching your videos because I think you are super funny and I would like to know about the trans community in order to help them. I just think everybody should be respected and I feel so sorry for each time you have been offended. A will try to do my best, thinking that I will never understand how much you suffer. I think you are a very inspiring person
The choreography in this video should be awarded.
I'm an ally in training thanks for the help this video taught me a lot
"I am an ally~~"
"I respect trans people~~"
"give me my cookie~~"
I'm dying😂😂
Liam Johnson lol same
The funny thing about this is one of my local LGBT groups often has snacks like cookies, or chips or something and allies are welcome. So I can see someone just going in their "Hi I'm here for my ally cookie."
"It's a girl!" I almost spit out my iced tea all over my laptop. You're the best. Thank you for making this video. I've been dating someone who is trans and this has been helpful on my journey to being a better partner.
let's open an ally bootcamp!
+Finn Hafnmr yes!!
Finn Hafnmr let's open up a sanity school
I agree
Hey Chase, I was just wondering if you could possibly make a video about dealing with height dysphoria? Because the thing that makes me feel the most dysphoric is that I'm 5'4 and done growing and most of the cis guys in my school are like 5'10 and still growing
I second this.
+karly skiba I have no idea how old you are, but height dysphoria is something I dealt with for a long time (I'm also 5'4). Everyone I went to school with was so tall; I just assumed that's how the rest of the world would be to. But this year I started college, and all I can say is damn. The world is full of short cis guys. I've met PLENTY of guys who are shorter than me. It's helped quiet my dysphoria a lot.
This may not be incredibly helpful, but all I can say is if you get out into the world, you may start to notice that there are a lot of short cis guys. You just gotta keep your eyes open, and keep exploring.
+karly skiba probably doesnt help but at least youre taller than me. Im less than 5'1
Im 5'0 and wearing boots with just an inch platform can make you feel better. i feel somehow a whole lot taller in them compared to when i wear my flats. but stand straight and act confident and you'll almost actually feel confident. ive seen tons of (i think) cis guys my height, so dont think short cis guys arent real. if it bothers you extremely bad ive kinda heard about Human Growth Hormones, maybe do research on that but i think its hard to convince an endo to give them to you.
karly skiba Did you know that people can actually grow until they are 25?? You may well NOT be done growing. Good Luck.
Chase is becoming a personal hero of mine. I have so much respect for this man. Thank you for being the awesomeness, Chase!
I love the sass. :D
Also, I'm so glad you explained not using "transgendered." I told my friend not to use that word the other day and for whatever reason couldn't find the exact words to explain why it's bad. You put it perfectly!
((Ever since this one video where you said your septum ring is always crooked and in different positions, I notice it WAY more. XD))
I am an old lady middle school teacher who wants to be the best ALLY I can be for my students and loved ones so that I can provide more resources for support at the school where I work. I always try to ask my questions or make my approach in the spirit of wanting to listen and learn, and then spread my awareness. I have plenty to learn, I am sure, but I care and I want to be there for them {heart}. Thank you for this~
If you start the trans ally boot-camp, Chase, let me know. My sister could run it... She's a feisty little supporter. I can't guarantee you that they'd all make it out alive though.
BtB, I have to say as well, you are definitely toning up lately brother... looking good.
Well done Chase. I can see how your academic studies contributed to your presentation. You did a good job of following an outline which I believe helped.
@6:20 nb ppl are trans! trans is an umbrella term that covers anyone who doesnt exclusively id as the gender they were assigned. the word youre looking for is binary.
+emma poulsen No no, I meant what I said. I said not everyone transition, not everyone is trans, some people are nonbinary, genderqueer, gender fluid. I'm not implying that non binary people aren't trans, im simply saying that some people don't transition and they can happen to be trans, or non binary (I'm splitting them up on purpose right here because I know so many nb people who do not identity as trans, they identity as nb. I am not saying that I don't see nb people as trans at all, if you identify as nb and trans then thats all you boo boo and i respect that!)
Isn't this the same terminology/labeling argument like bi vs poly vs pansexual? Explain this to a cisdiot pls
this is actually awesome.
i am one of those peeps stuck in the middle of the gender zone. for now i identify as female. mostly because I don't want to put up with the people around me being like "What so you're not a boy or a girl? what the heck
are ya then? a pizza?"
Yas imma pizza.
idk where im going with this
#yay
I want to be a pizza now
+Becky L of course you do, dear. and i fully accept you for it
+Sammy Unpromising realities can be a discouraging shock after receiving better expectations from presented sources, but please don't get discouraged because of that!
I would love to see someone make a video about that experience. Please, contact me on my channel, if you desire any support or assistance with doing anything like that.
ThatOneSam Why not go with your biological sex and then EXPRESS your gender in whatever way you wish?? You NEED a foundation. Biological sex can be that foundation. In the 21st century you're FREE to "gender express" in any manner you choose - while simultaneously having the firm foundation of biology for psychological stability. Cheers
I love that my workplace has a gender neutral bathroom as well as a mens bathroom & a ladies bathroom; I'm early in transition and it's such a relief having a neutral option.
the explanation of how your body gets at 11:07 !!!!!!! i understand how u feel omg!! i hate hearing that word like it makes me feel attacked when my mom says it. she thinks its okay to call trans people that and i just??
Aaahhh, doing research for a similar style video (but notably, a different video!) and this is honestly so good. You're hilarious, how have I not been actively watching your videos?
Jake Edwards I love you Jake ❤️, your album is so awesome
This video was so informative, I'm not trans and I really want to get informed just so I can be the best version of myself with people I meet wether they are trans or not especially where I live (Mexico) people in the lgbt community are so discriminated against so I feel like its almost a duty to be informed. also I'm a med student and I still have a long way to go to become a Doctor but I want to be educated when the time comes that I have to take care of a patient that happens to be trans I can be able to give everyone the respect, the acceptance and the care they deserve. Sorry if I dont make any sense! The point is: your videos are great, thank you!
My school was rebuilt with unisex toilets, it's very comforting
Chase I love your bouncy thought-talk... I do this too! I also love that you do "re-writes" when you're talking, you get serious issues across in a funny way.
Oh, you! You are a breath of fresh air! Unlike Milo Stewart, you're not extreme or stereotyping.
Chase this video made me so happy because as an ally ive fought against kids being offensive at school and now i feel like a good ally and this looks like im asking for a cookie but i just want to say thank you, this was empowering
I've been waiting for this 😍 and btw you look so good wooooo.
"An ally in training" XD
This video is absolutely great.
I'm crying everytime you say a video is gonna be short like.... no Chase... who are you trying to kid :'D. But I don't mind, I love hearing you talk! The longer the merrier lol
+WorstRescueEver This was actually suppose to be short though but then I started giving too many examples and I ended up with 20 minutes of footage HELP
+uppercaseCHASE1 on your next video just open it by stating it's going to be 30 minutes, 22 without commercials, and then when you hit the 14 minute mark you'll feel great!!! ;) Love you no matter how long your videos are!
I seriously adore you. I love when you put out new videos.They're always so on point.
My younger brother always uses the derogatory T word in conversation. For awhile I couldn't say anything, because I was afraid to. Our relationship is already really shitty, and I don't want to give him one more reason to hate me. I don't know when it started, but I finally started speaking up. I was out to him as pansexual at the time, so I thought that I would use that as a kind of example or something. I would say that transgender people are people too, and saying that word is very inappropriate and has so much negativity and violence behind it. And one day, I may bring home a partner who is transgender - who might even one day become his brother-in-law or sister-in-law. And I would say to him, "If I were transgender, would you openly use that term so casually?". He didn't ever really have anything to say, but he didn't argue either. I like to think that I maybe got through to him, even a little bit. I just hate that derogatory term so much...
Chase, I really wish we were friends
+Marley Francois :)
+uppercaseCHASE1 I don't like you. Yes I went out of my way to say this. Your videos are very informative though.
+Dottys Corner what does this have to do with the comment?
Mak Thorsell Nothing
+Dottys Corner - Why would you go out of your way to say that to anyone? Respect, learn some and if you can't learn that, then perhaps just learn some personal censorship. I don't understand your hateful comment, there is simply no need for it.
As an "ally in training" (lol) after watching this video I'm now really glad I never got to have an in-depth conversation with a trans person yet. I would have hurt their feelings in so many ways and would have said and asked inappropriate things unknowingly, simply out of curiosity.
Chase, thank you for educating people like me on the topic! You got a new subscriber.
Sass level: OVER 9000!
Off to link my friends here :3
I completely understood what you meant with the bathroom thing, I just think people are correcting you because I can also understand how people outside the community might not make the distinction between your thoughts.
honestly, Chase - your videos give me SO much life and yr like the most hilarious, amazing, intelligent person and I am so damn grateful for what you give to our community ♡♡ it helps so much and also I can share yr vids in order to educate others and I'm just super thankful 4 that ♡
THANK YOU FOR THIS! So many people have good intentions but are just horrible and I don't have the heard to tell them. Seriously, thank you.
You have no idea how good you make me feel
"They understand that they don't understand"~ surprisingly also a quote from South Park
I really love all the points you make and how sassy you are, I literally couldn't stop laughing when you said "Give me my cookie!" lol XD
about my ideal ally. My ideal ally is someone who amplifies our voices!
I'm a cis teenage girl and a super trans ally, I started watching your videos so I could know more about being trans and if one day I encounter someone who uses any of the things you review, I'll know what they are and not turn the situation even more awkward for this person xx
This guy is so handsome ❤️
A friend of mine sometimes wears more masculine clothing and a teacher called on her using male pronouns so after my friend answer her question she raised her had again and told the teacher that for future reference she preferred female pronouns! The teacher got low key angry for being called out but another teacher in the room thanked my friend for correcting her so respectfully! Don't be afraid to tell someone when they mess up!
Ooh chase I would be sad if ur videos were only 5 minutes ! Loved this video, I wish I can send this to some of my friends in the future.
Number one is so real. I was outed by some random at my workplace before I even started, which I only found out six months into working there. It made me feel really uneasy. Outing someone is an act of violence.
I think there is a big difference between offensive and ignorant. Ignorance can be hurtful and damaging, but it's different from malice. Often it sounds similar since it's often got a lot of fear and defensiveness attached, but bearing it in mind the difference between intentional offence and accidental offence is important both in terms of flavouring your response and also in terms of how much personal damage you allow it to make.
This is going to be sent to all of my friends.
Very educational video Chase, specially the part of "calling out", I can now understand trans people are not being rude when they call out an ally. I hope to be a good ally for the trans community, however in the country I live things are really bad for trans people and you could suffer discrimination and verbal violence for defending trans people. I tried once to defend Caitlyn Jenner because a female friend of mine was saying: "the Jenner was born male" and I was so angry and told her she is a woman and has always felt like a woman but my friend would simply not understand and yell at me. Living in a conservative country full of machista culture is terrible, I mean, I'm pansexual and only 10 people know it (all are friends my family doesn't know yet) :(
P.S. I love your videos :) keep doing your amazing job
Andie Hernández "Calling out" someone is rude. Correcting them like a friend and treating them with the respect YOU WOULD WANT TO BE TREATED WITH is what's right.
Andie Hernández Jenner WAS born a (biological) male.
The word biological was IMPLIED when your friend said...."Jenner was born male" Your friend was right and you should have understood that the word biological was IMPLIED. You were more interested in virtue signalling then you were in logic. You're chasing a FALSE VIRTUE that's predicated on the shallow, leftist ideology of our time. Look at the logic. Jenner WAS born the male biological sex. WHY is that idea threatening to you?? WHY do you feel the need to oppose that scientific FACT??
things I love:
1.-Sleep
2.-This channel :3
3.-Your cat background
4.-Being able to talk about trans-things without fear
5.-Internet
I just followed you on Tumblr and I've been subscribed for about a month. You're amazing Chase!
Thank you for this!! I found your channel because if your collaboration with Stef. I find your videos incredibly informative.
Oh my God, I love this. I've watched a ton of your videos and somehow never found this one. I'm internally screaming in frustration and representation bevause this is so painfully accurate.
Very entertaining and as always educational. Always going to have my L plates on.. but I'll keep trying. Thanks for the help and tips along the way. I feel like you're helping me to be a better me even if it's just in being more tolerant of differences in people. Any people as the messages about acceptance and compassion cross so many different groups. Oh and I love the over dramatisation it's what makes you who you are and I enjoy watching your clips.
The "it's a girl!" Part cracked me up with the way he said it and the way he did a little pose
The world needs more of these videos!
I LOVE this video. I don't want to wave around my ally-ness but I just want to assure you that dream allies DO exist and I've been changing minds all over the U.S. I don't have a public forum where anyone will listen to me but I work marketing events all over the U.S. and I will correct anyone who says anything inappropriate. I have noticed the most offensive to the trans community that I've come across are gays, and it is very disappointing.
People don't realize how much talking about this issue truly helps. I was talking to this guy about trans issues because Caitlyn Jenner came up and I really got him seeing it in a different light. He actually recently messaged me on Facebook letting me know he hooked up with a girl who he found out later was trans. He said he immediately thought of me and instead of being angry at her his reaction came more from a place of compassion. That made me so happy.
It's good advice.
When I was an Ally in Training, I had a bad ally experience. There was a Trans guy in my class, and my professor constantly misgendered him. I don't think he ever gendered him properly. I made sure to gender him as he requested, but I was too cowardly to correct my professor until the end of the semester, at which point he did make a point to try to change the pronouns. The guy in my class tried to get the professor to gender him properly, but was very soft spoken and my professor didn't seem to care. I've always felt bad that I didn't get my guts together and call out my professor earlier. I have gotten much better since. I wouldn't do it the same way again. I'd talk to my professor way earlier.
Your response to the 'birth name' question is the same as mine!! I get asked all the time and I just tell people I changed it because I don't want to hear it anymore.
Great video Chase. I wish there were more people in the world willing to learn these things and really try to understand why some things shouldn't be said and that we deserve to have equal rights.
12:20-12:30 is the greatest part of this video
Thank you so much for a simple, clear and informative video. Great resource for a brand new ally in training.
The last one is called empathy
I always want people to call me out when I say something offensive. I'm trying to be an ally so if I say something wrong PLEASE tell me. I don't want to offend people I want to learn. It's not like I'm trying to do it on purpose it's probably an accident. Thank you!
Oh man I totally agree that we need gender neutral bathrooms. I can't even explain why, it would just make everyone so much more comfortable with each other and would normalize bathroom duties, which seem so damn taboo. It would also help people see and understand things that other genders deal with. I know a man who when he was in his early 20's had no idea that girls use toilet paper after they pee.
And obviously your reasons too :)
"give me my cookie" Chase you're so great oh my god be my best friend
This helps so much. I just want to be there for my sibling. ❤️
and your up close camera shots are great
the head bobbing in this video is sass/10
Thank you for this video. 💕 It definitely helped me so that I can support someone I care about.
Hu I LOVE LOVE LOVE HOW SASSY AND SPUNKY YOU ARE IN THIS VIDEO, CHASE!!! :)
I LOVE YA SO MMUUUCCCHHH!!!!
Thank you for making this video. I've recently stumbled across your channel and adore you to pieces. Your channel and your content mean a lot to me.
"Give me my cookie" 😂😂😂 I fuckin love you. Amazing video as always ❤
Posted to Facebook. Hoping my family watches it before the holidays...
Same haha :)
It's pretty awesome we actually have many places that have three bathrooms Male female and an all or everyone private bathroom (the other ones are usually big and the all one is just one toilet) I've seen some big bathrooms that have the symbol for all on them too it's not all places but it's great to see progress! I'm in western Canada btw
very informative, never thought that no.6 could offend
Im a trans man too, and I dont mind answer and educate other people, the only question i hate the most is "How your genitals looks like" ... im like.. How YOUR genitals looks like 👀
I have also a typ for you, because you need it: don't generalise trans people. 'we are not comfortable talking about sex' 'we are not comfortable telling you our birth name'. I have a trans friend and he is perfectly comfortable with all these issues, from the very start I got to know him. It is of course good to be a little carefull with topics like this in the beginning, but really: don't act like all trans people think the same, because they don't.
+Krijn van Alten I really don't think he generalized like that. These are *general* tips on how to be an ally to trans people, and obviously some people will feel comfortable with some things and not comfortable with others. But those are general tips on what to do or not do. They apply for many trans people, never all. And Chase never says it applies to all trans people, he even mentions there are exceptions.
Your videos are great, and super informative!!! I love you, and am learning a lot
My friend’s mum said the t word one time and I tried to explain to her why it wasn’t okay and she was like ‘I have tons of friends who call themselves *t word*’ and I was sooooooo uncomfortable. I know she doesn’t mean to be like really rude to trans people, she literally order me my binder cause I couldn’t do it with my parents but it made me so uncomfortable to hear it t w i c e
I am a proud practing witch and an LGTB ally blessed be love and light
Chase can you just be in my life ❤️ you’re beautiful and amazing and I’m happy there are people like you in this world.
Also I'm sorry if this comes across as offensive or anything but I just can't get behind gender neutral bathrooms that are multi-stalled. I am COMPLETELY okay with gender neutral restrooms that are one toilet, and am 100% okay with trans women using the women's restroom. My issue with safety has absolutely not one bit to do with trans women or trans people in general. I totally understand and respect what chase is saying but I personally would not feel comfortable or safe with a man who identifies as a man (and I'm speaking more so of straight cis men) being able to follow me in the restroom. I live near not so safe areas & for that reason it terrifies me. Like I said though, I'm not saying I feel unsafe or uncomfortable when trans women use the restroom. Even if it's a trans woman who hasn't transitioned yet or who doesn't "pass", that I'm still okay with. I just mean bad men who would take advantage of that. I dunno if I'm the only one who feels this way or not
I 100% agree, it might seem a bit paranoid, but women (Both trans and cis) have a right to feel a bit paranoid and have a right to go somewhere where men can not follow, as do men
It doesn't make much sense. Predators don't need laws that allow them certain things. They know they can't defend their "trans" nsidentity if hadn't been to a therapist or anything similar. If they wanted to follow you, they would do it no matter what..
Thank you so much for this, this will hopefully help my (frankly very uneducated) friends. Maybe I can get my school to show this at a meeting... *thoughtful face*
One of my friend's friend has a trans family member (not trying to out anyone, won't say any names or even pronouns) and the friend kept saying " and (incorrect pronoun she/he) is trans and my family doesn't like (him/her) because of it, but I love (him/her)" and I had informed the person that if they wanted to support their family member with who they are that they could start by using the proper pronouns for said family member and the friend got so offended that I was trying to help them help their family member. I was so surprised buy it but I do live in a very anti-LGBT area, which makes me quite sad as an LGBT person and supporter myself.
ohh, chase is sassy today
Wow I’m so pleasantly surprised by how little transphobic comments there are this makes me genuinely happy
nice job on the video, funny and informative. I like your sassy self :) also? you're looking mighty fine
great video chase! i hope people take your advice
I love that this has almost 2000 likes and only 37 dislikes. It'd be great if there were none, but hey, that's still great! :D
Thank you so much for this video! It hits the head on the nail.
Thank you so much! I know I saw this really late, but is soo helpful.
You being sassy is life.
you are an amazing person chase and I will always have respect for the transgender community because I'm kind and I care.
What do you do if a little kid outs you in a public place? Does that happen to people often? I saw it happen at a fair once and it almost got nasty. I was in the middle of a huge crowd and a trans woman, I guess, was walking behind me. I thought I saw her earlier, doing some kind of performance, so I wasn't sure if she was actually just a female impersonator. A little toddler asked her directly if she's a boy or a girl. She was obviously pissed off and said something to her friend, to the affect of " I could say something, but I better not, or some shit's 'gonna go down," or something like that.
Mei Ki you should honestly say "that's a very rude question. Where are your manners?"
plasticwrapcharlie That's NOT the way to talk to a tiny child. You'd tell the little one in a NON threatening voice that it's not polite to ask that question but you will tell them the answer anyways. Then you'd say I'm a ...
This video is great! Full of really good stuff to think about and also you are so funny!!!!
When I'm not sure of how someone identifies I just stick to being as neutral as possible until they feel comfortable telling me their pronouns a simple hi there how are you? Makes life so much easier lol
Hey Chase, great video thank you!
Do you have any videos that touch on the topic of cis people denying transphobia and/or harrassment or trans people's right to say that they don't feel safe in a particular space?
That's why I was super confused when a transgender woman used the T-word. She used it for herself but still I was a bit like "Ummm, wait... what?!"
Samiya Lioness I'm trans myself and I honestly do not get it. I know it's some type of reclaiming it and empowering yourself with it. But it's still very offensive to me and I never want to hear it.
+uppercaseCHASE1 people may ask what the "real" name is just out of curiosity. This wording is totally wrong and the word "real" comes with other implications that are just off, but I like to give people the benefit of the doubt. I know that I like to ask people what their full names are all the time, or even what their grandmother's name is or what their maiden name is, etc. and all of this is only out of curiosity. I just really like hearing new names and learning about names and the history behind names. That's just me, though. I'm sure plenty of people who ask trans people "what's your real name" are not asking just because they like to learn about names. I'm not justifying what they're doing, and I agree that the question is disrespectful and undermines the purpose of having your name changed in the first place. It's unfortunate that not enough people realize that their questions can be undermining or belittling, or are loaded with other implications, but being part of a minority group pretty much ensures that we'll be asked questions in general all the time. Those of us in the minority group should take that opportunity to educate. It can get exhausting and frustrating, though, to have to repeat yourself, I totally get that. So, I agree with your overall advice about questions, just think before you ask them.
when you were talking about gender neutral bathrooms you mentioned people wanting to be alone. is the ideal scenario to have individual stall-type washrooms instead of the shared rooms?
Omg I love you and your videos! Thank you so much for being amazing!
I am so sad, this video sounds like you have been offended a lot of time and I feel it is so sad... I am a cis woman and I am watching your videos because I think you are super funny and I would like to know about the trans community in order to help them. I just think everybody should be respected and I feel so sorry for each time you have been offended. A will try to do my best, thinking that I will never understand how much you suffer. I think you are a very inspiring person
Be supportive.