Why do Japanese men say "I love you" easily ? But NEVER in Japanese !?
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I've watched someone's vlog regarding Japanese having relationships with foreigners online to brag about them having a "foreigner" girlfriend/boyfriend. This is just sad especially if the foreigner is being serious about the relationship. So lesson here is, don't take it seriously unless you've already met each other in person. Maybe not in general, but mostly.
Kana san, thank you for your comment and I want to make a video about this. Give me two weeks! Cheers!
@@japaneseman thank you for your comment! I've actually known a Japanese guy for almost three years already. He send me messages like once a week but I don't to assume too. And when I've watched that vlog my perspective changed. I am now a bit hesitant answering his messages. 😔
Girl don’t tell me this , I’m gonna cry 😭
@@strawberryxoxo6841 why? ☹️
Saying I love you for Japanese people it’s too heavy for them.... they are not that too expressive to their feelings. In my case, my Japanese boyfriend has said sukidesu rarely. Can you imagine we have been in relationship as a gf/bf for almost three years. Luckily, I am grateful that he said “愛しています" during christmas and addition to it we're celerating our 3rd Anniversary too🥰
He’s busy at work but he tried to give me his short break time by having a video call. I really appreciate it even just for ten minutes of conversation.
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thanks catia san and sorry for late response!
I encountered a Japanese guy through online before in a language exchange app. We had great conversations all the while and my language exchange buddy. He said all the time that he was happy talking witg me as I was teaching him English. One time, he told me he liked me. I was surprised because we had chatted for only a month. Later on, he blurted out, I love you! I told him, he's kinda fast and surprising. I told him that saying I love you has a deeper meaning. He turned quiet for a bit. I heard him chuckled a little.
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Props to your honesty ☺️👍
this was funny
This made me laugh but it was informative 😆. I like how you can lighten the mood
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Santi thank you for your advice.
Santi can i ask something? How do you know if japanese is just flirting?
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@@japaneseman 問題ない！ あなたのチャンネルはとても役に立ちますので、今日本語を勉強しています！ :)
My heart is broken but thank you for the insight and for the reminder.
Waw.. thank you !
“Oh fuck, I can die for you“ definitely the most accurate description I’ve heard before
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My heart just shattered in to tiny little pieces......😞 thank you Santi for your honesty. By the way, I understand that it’s not normal to say I love you because it’s not your custom but, wouldn’t it be nice to tell your mother I love you so she can hear it and feel it, opposed to when she’s no longer here to hear it?
Sad reality. They don't usually say that to their parents.
In my country we don’t say “I love you” to our family members but it’s totally fine. For us it’s more important to show our love by actions and we don’t need to hear that actually. I know that my parents and siblings love me and they know that I love them and that’s enough. Maybe it sounds surprising but I would feel weird if my mum or dad came to me and said “I love you” directly. And they would feel the same)
@@tolganayaidarova8597 I see, I understand, it’s different with everyone. I’m from Mexico living in the US, to our family it’s also important that actions are louder than words. So the actions are natural/automatic, but we make it important to also say it. I guess it is personal or a custom.
@@tolganayaidarova8597 thank you for sharing 😊
Ruth, I'm sorry if I did that. but again, it depends. I don't know your bf/husband so it really depends on a person but in general, no.
About saying I love you to mom, hmmm, how about this? if your dad grab your butt whenever he hugs you, isnt it weird? You might say, it is no appropriate.
However if I say, "in my country and majority in the world, we grab each other's ass as greeting in a family. It feels so good, and normal. Why don't you ask your dad to do so?"
lol ok,, I know its very awkward example, but, whenever foreigners ask Japanese friend to say I love you to their mom or dad as they do, we would get similar feeing as you just got now. :)
I'm in the U.S. and I have been talking to a Japanese student for a few weeks and we went on our first date recently. He told me the college he is at now has a Japan campus and he dated an American girl before there so his English (in my opinion) is pretty good and we have pretty much no communication problems. On the phone the other night he goes "You're so cute, I love you!" and I was like "??????" because we have had one date and even my past bf's have never gotten to the point of "I love you". I was wondering if it was a cultural thing and he got excited or a huge red flag. After the shock wore off I made sure to asked him that is what he said and meant and I said "Well I love has deep meaning in the US." he nicely asked me what he can say and I said "I like you" is acceptable. he said "I like you sounds a little cold to me". Everything was settled but it still sits on my mind he doesn't seem to fit any other things you have mentioned about Japanese men on this channel so maybe he is just a funny guy. So far he has respected every boundary I set nicely. Hopefully, it was just a hiccup.
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I was looking at the hoodie too 😂
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Bruh anyone can say I love you on the internet...I say that all the time on Instagram, Discord, etc. Man your videos are great. Thanks
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Santi-san, your reaction it's kinda funny and cute,LMAO😂😂😂.At the sametime i like the way you talk or speak in japanese it's cool😉😉
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2:53 to 3:12 cracked me up LMFAO!!! 😂👏
you are ture.my japanese boyfriend rarely to say 'i love you' and i force him to say three or four times a day.then he start changing three months later and he used that words a lot now.
This streamer boy I just met online today said “I love you” to me before he ended stream & I was so surprised but I’m just taking it as him mistaking “like” with “love” 😂 His personality is so attractive but I’m learning Japanese for now on to talk to him & understand him 100% >:) As a girl who loves Japanese men I really had my anime girl moment but I’m back to reality 😂🥺
Should I correct him next time and translate it to Japanese to let him know how heavy it is ? Or just let him keep saying it ? 😬
@@strawberryxoxo6841 do it 😐
Yeah this too. My ex would always say it and it was true because I taught him how to say it properly with emotion. But, this newer guy I talked about hasn’t even confessed on the 3rd date at all. He texts me every other day sometimes it takes hours to respond but he still texts. Also, he says my name in Japanese not in katakana like most people do. I thought it was unusual. Does that hold a special meaning to put my name in hiragana? And in the beginning, he texted me a lot but now, not so much anymore and he just says he’s busy most of the time… You are the only channel I can trust for native Japanese social cultural advice which is really hard to find on the internet now a days. So, it would be appreciated if you could help me out with this situation because I’m tired of worrying about this guy. If you want, I can send a photo of his texts too. Also, he never initiated touch. But, he would always allow me when I asked. I always ask people before touching them first. But he just felt stiff or didn’t inch closer to me. Maybe while I held his arm but, when I held his hand, it wasn’t a strong grip.
sure, tonight
Reminds me of my ex. One thing I learnt is Japanese men can be very very persistent. And even if you reject them once, they will still try, or at least that’s my ex. When we were together he even said ‘I love you’ in Japanese! Thought it was real but guess it’s not a heavy word for him.
Anyway, after watching your video about divorced men and women, and the studies showed the second marriage ends up in divorce is about 60%... guess I dodged a bullet there lol! Lucky me.
Hola, Santi! Hablas español? Qué bien! Por cierto, me gusta tu sudadera 😃👍🏻
No puedo Susana senorita😎
I agree.
is it hard to meet and be friends with japanese people
l totally agree with you about Japanese English education!! In Japan they don't teach practical English. l personally think that if you learn English as a communication tool until the end of chugaku, its enough for everyone to speak it.Puedo hablar español también y claro japonés, que para mi esto es muy natural.Happy holidays to you Santi!!😚😚😘😘😊😊💚❤️💚❤️
merry christmas😁
@@japaneseman Thank you so much dear Santi!! Have a great New Year 2021🤗😘
Hi Santi you're really funny but I like your honesty. This is a cultural thing sometimes people misinterpret- things and they say things they don't mean anything but you're right when people say I love you to a girl does not necessarily mean it is LOVE to the opposite sex. There are different kind of LOVE first Love to GOD then LOVE to the opposite sex, to family and friends and love for people in general. So, I what I will say to the girl because your have deferent culture it is for you to make sure and clarify what he meant when he said those words she might just misinterpret it because he likes the guy but it is a different story when you are in a serious relationship.
Hahaha very cute face reaction santi 👍😂
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Lol you're so funny, santi san
Learning English - I got your point because in reverse I am learning Japanese without feelings, I just want to learn the language
So I guess the word "I love you" from Japanese is only an expression I guess
I wanted my boyfriend to say ''I LOVE YOU'' in Japanese last night but he didn't do it. His reason was these words are so heavy for them to say. I guess this is a culture thing. For him, it's kinda flirty words. hahaha
What if he confessed to me in English that he likes me then after that, I said “大好き” he also replied with "おれも大好きだよ” but he never asked me if we can be a couple? Hahaha Btw, I live in another country and we can't visit each other. And also, we do Video calls every week.
Girl: 私のこと愛してる?
Santi: rushes out
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I need advice to Santiiiii ☹️
I had a Japanese man say I love you to me early on into relationship, which left me confused, asked him to say wha the means in Japanese and he said -あなたを愛してる
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I met a boy in online * since 4days* He became my friend. We chatted. After that he said, " I want to talk with you " then we exchange our line ID. We talked in voice call. It's going good but suddenly he said I love you and I changed this topic in very smart way. But he again said I love you * 4times*. He's from Japane( 18 year's old ) I'm from another country (16 year's old ) * maybe it's weird *. My question is, " Should I trust on him? Ah Like I heard Japanese men are very shy and this word so much mean to them. So it's okay to say it easily?
sure, i'll talk about it tonight.
@@japaneseman I'm really sorry for seeing this so late. Thank you for responding ♡
This is not 'a harsh truth' imo , no one can trust anyone who says 'i love you' quickly. Period.
Actually, it's not easy for Japanese people to say I love you. It has a deeper meaning. Saying aisheteru, it would take probably a long time to say it.
I agree.
Santi san! What is your ideal type of girl? 😀
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Hi bro namaste
Santi-sensei😆 you can be a great teacher😆 Anyway, you nailed it there.😉
The thing that "I don't need to study English" is true. My boyfriend thinks the same. So when He says "I love you" to me I don't feel any butterflies in my stomach anymore.😁😄
Maria san, I will be a Japanese teacher from next year! lol haha anyway, I think your bf is good man. cheers to him!
Yes, please looking forward to your Japanese lessons. Been watching lots of Japanese lessons here on TH-cam.
Yes, he is (hopefully up until we see each other again or even forever.) Especially when he's sleeping, he behaves well. hahaha@@japaneseman
Santi, watashi no wa aishiteru desu ka 😅
That is the problem with translations. It can be really tricky!
Ya. I didn't fall for it. I just wondered if this is how they play games and found your video. Bingo haha. Literally just met. "I love you" Unexpected, but told me right away. He one of those collectors hahahaha. Hey, Japanese F boys xD We, foreign girls(mostly US), are NOT that easy. ಠ_ಠ
hello Santi..my japanese boyfried always telling me " ITSUMO AISHITERUYO" or "IPPAI IPPAI AISHITERUYO"..So does it mean he really love me?🤩🤩🤩🤩
thats not so Japanese but great !😆 congratulations🤓
It's killing me about English not practical, 😂😂
hahaha
You can't say I love you huhu. You're not charai 😄