4 Things You Should NEVER Say to Your Teen

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  • @AskDanielWong
    @AskDanielWong  2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Download your FREE quick action guide "10 Proven Ways to Get Your Teenager to Listen to You" here ➡ www.daniel-wong.com/guide

    • @koaung9237
      @koaung9237 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Hello Daniel, I am Ko Ko. I hope you are fine and busy everyday. Thanks for your great lessons. I am learning and taking action. I am sure and hope to get great result.
      By the way, I already tried to download your some free guide files from web page but didn't get reply message to my mail. Maybe something wrong. What should I do? Pls help. Thank you.

    • @AskDanielWong
      @AskDanielWong  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@koaung9237 You're welcome. I'm sorry, I don't think I fully understand your comment. Could you please let me know which free guides you were trying to download? Are you saying that you entered your email address to download the free guides, but the guides were not sent to your email address?

  • @nuzhathasnain6513
    @nuzhathasnain6513 19 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Thousands thanks and prayers to you Daniel 😊

  • @Illuminati_214
    @Illuminati_214 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    As a teen, I can say that "good job" or "well done" can actually be really encouraging, especially when your parents don't always say that. I think it's important to have a balance here, cuz if I am unmotivated or burnt out, a "good job" after an achievable is something that helps me get back on my feet

    • @AskDanielWong
      @AskDanielWong  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Thanks for sharing! Yes, I think if it's done in moderation, saying "good job" can definitely be encouraging.

    • @mememememememememe
      @mememememememememe 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Im 21 and in school i was always a straight a student. However my mom never said things like: good job and things like that cuz she was "used" to my good grades. But sometimes it wouldve really helped :") im now in university and whenever i get a praise from a professor or tutor it makes my day

    • @boranagjylbegaj142
      @boranagjylbegaj142 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ⁠ I understand very well your parents. I am grown also in a family ( all their generation) that never said „well done“ or so..and I see that I make the same mistake also with my children. It is the problem that nobody has taught us. These videos are very helpful😊. And I wish you good luck in the university! And Great job!😉

  • @leetos.4915
    @leetos.4915 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Thank You Sir Dan. I much value your channel and find myself as a step Dad on a need of progress for my 3 step daughters. Being educated first is the 1st step for strong family values and I’m in 100% agreement to you, sensei 😊.

  • @calin073
    @calin073 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Most of the time teenagers come tired of getting up early every morning to go to school and many of them like to go to bed late. When you ask them more openly to avoid a “good, fine or normal” they will answer you “I don’t know” = I am tired or I don’t want to talk.

  • @SBKinectics
    @SBKinectics 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I thoroughly enjoyed this! Wow! I'm going to run this back a few times.

    • @AskDanielWong
      @AskDanielWong  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Glad you found it helpful!

  • @521SFarla
    @521SFarla ปีที่แล้ว +12

    im having a challenging time getting my 13yr old grandson just to do basic chores like putting items in the trash or cleaning up behind himself. it so bad that we wind up fighing about simple things like washing a dish or cup my patience is wearing thin i am trying to find ways for him to open up to express why he feels like he does not have to help out around the house especially when its his mess.

    • @AR-pb2zh
      @AR-pb2zh 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I have the same issue with my kids. My 16 year old son is coming around, but my 13 year old son won't do anything. Part of the problem is I'm not consistent with asking them to do things at a particular time everyday. However my eldest is mowing the lawn which is great! I give him "currency" which means a monetary "worth" for completing the job and when he builds up enough currency, I'll buy him what he wants for the net worth if the work. So if he wants and item worth $200, he has to mow the lawn 10 times. Still working on the younger one.

    • @abundantlythreesixfive1263
      @abundantlythreesixfive1263 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      He gets pocket money does he? Well surely it has conditions attached to it. These rewards resemble employer pay, it has work conditions attached. Prepare this young man for becoming a good spouse.

    • @a1cwillette
      @a1cwillette หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@AR-pb2zhyour son is mowing the lawn because you pay him, not because he wants to contribute.

    • @AR-pb2zh
      @AR-pb2zh หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@a1cwillette I'm not giving him any money, actually. It's just the worth of the job. I have to tie some monetary value to a job so I don't have him asking for an item that cost $150 and he does nothing in the house to earn it in some way. I didn't get paid for mowing the lawn at home but I also did not have an issue with my parents buying something I really wanted.

  • @algerianpodcast
    @algerianpodcast 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    “ you can do better “ destroyed my personality 🙂‍↕️i hated myself because i could never know what my better is.
    I will never say this to my kids .

  • @eyekon_media
    @eyekon_media 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    My son is a good kid but he’s not motivated to do anything if I don’t tell him to. How to approach? He’s 15 doesn’t make friends offline of his games doesn’t speak to anybody first, he’s an introvert. How can you teach them to be outspoken if they don’t catch on? 😊

    • @andreas-ke6vf
      @andreas-ke6vf 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Same here. He tells me that his best friend is a kid that used to be in the same swim team. They are close friends through the ps5. And that’s ok but whenever I ask him if he’d like to hang out with him he says he doesn’t want people over. I’m not buying it.

  • @tdeese5670
    @tdeese5670 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    These are great recommendations Will use.

    • @AskDanielWong
      @AskDanielWong  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Hope they work well for you.

  • @moresloppyjango6567
    @moresloppyjango6567 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    These are great idea and easy. I will just have to work on remembering them.

  • @heartworksmagic9725
    @heartworksmagic9725 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Really helpful thankyou

  • @traceyreynolds8978
    @traceyreynolds8978 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Well said and easy to follow. Thank you

  • @melsmartie123
    @melsmartie123 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    My first time here and it seems as if you are speaking directly to me...the superpowers you have...haha. Thank you so much for the wealth of information which helps me with parenting. This is greatly appreciated.

    • @aquabunny143
      @aquabunny143 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Same here! It's so good to have this kind of support with being a parent. I'm a single mom of a 16-year-old son and I often feel like I don't know wtf I'm doing 😢.

    • @melsmartie123
      @melsmartie123 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @ We are in this together 💪💪. Sending you some encouragement and letting my you know that “you will get through this and look back and be thankful”.

  • @agnesodonnell4945
    @agnesodonnell4945 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Great video and advice Daniel. A life saver. Thank you. 🙏

  • @guyharper5604
    @guyharper5604 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Surprisingly few subs, your channel is so helpful! Thank you

    • @AskDanielWong
      @AskDanielWong  ปีที่แล้ว

      You're welcome! Yes, I haven't published that many videos yet, but I hope to produce more content going forward. Thanks for your support!

  • @itz._lovise._0104
    @itz._lovise._0104 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Thanks. Very useful.

    • @AskDanielWong
      @AskDanielWong  6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      You're welcome.

  • @joshmetz9192
    @joshmetz9192 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    I noticed you have worked hard making this video. I didn’t click like because I want you to remain focus oriented

  • @katthefantastic
    @katthefantastic 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    How do you get teens to stop saying inappropriate things for shock value?

  • @mywaymyself7873
    @mywaymyself7873 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Very informative, just wish I saw this years ago, very interesting, I appreciate this tip.

    • @AskDanielWong
      @AskDanielWong  8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Glad it was helpful.

  • @lindiwekubu8846
    @lindiwekubu8846 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Daniel,l just want to say Thank You so much!
    With Love from South Africa 🇿🇦 ❤️

  • @deepan8783
    @deepan8783 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Very much helpful tips and I feel we dint know so much on this earth to raise a teenager. Appreciate your effort to give us the apt points. Thanks a ton Sir Daniel

    • @AskDanielWong
      @AskDanielWong  11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You're welcome!

  • @jemimahnchinga4005
    @jemimahnchinga4005 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I love your videos, I am keeping my teen siblings since the passing of my parents and OMG do i get frustrated sometimes......thanks for these helpful tips!

    • @AskDanielWong
      @AskDanielWong  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      You're welcome, and wishing you all the best.

  • @kimmygintx
    @kimmygintx หลายเดือนก่อน

    As a kiddo of a nagging parent who constantly used #4 I can vouch for this. This lasted my entire college career, and needless to say I never went to graduate school. 😅

  • @Cydney2David
    @Cydney2David 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I completely understand what you saying so far with this video. I see that my son has become outcome-oriented recently and I hope to changed this because he become anxious and depressed and missed a lot school. We are currently in counseling because of this individual and family. Your video has open my eyes to some my mistakes that I have made without meaning to. My son calls my nagging - yapping because he's a little jerk - I asking to do chores around the house he treats more like a suggests and complains that he "too busy or too tired" this including the days the he does not even go to school. I will be watching your video on Lazy Teenager and Getting Your Teenager out of Bed soon.

  • @lisac.custalow6689
    @lisac.custalow6689 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thanks for the presentation! :)

  • @BereniceThring
    @BereniceThring ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Great video, really learned alot.

  • @LisamarieYoung-mv7cs
    @LisamarieYoung-mv7cs 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I NEED HELP IM SO DISGUSTED WITH MYSELF I KNOW IM NOT PERFECT BUT I KNOW I LOVE AND CARE SO MUCH FOR MY BABY GIRLS I DO NOT WANT TO LOSE OUT OR THE GIRLS TO LOSE OUT ON OUR FAMILY !! I HAVE FAITH IN OUR LORD AND SAVIOR! PLEASE PRAY FOR US!!

  • @ElizondoTribe
    @ElizondoTribe 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I always end up nagging about chores. Trying to come alongside them instead and provide company in doing them together.

  • @incometaxes1803
    @incometaxes1803 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Im 39 and #4 is so true!

  • @ayeayehan307
    @ayeayehan307 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thanks for sharing

  • @oar-N-oasis
    @oar-N-oasis ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you..

  • @jod5834
    @jod5834 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    thanks

  • @Lima3578user
    @Lima3578user ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Please provide tips on how to motivate a teen under treatment for depression

    • @courtneyskyla
      @courtneyskyla 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Big thing for me when I was depressed teen was if you wanted me to do a chore or help, give me a time frame to get it done. Say "I would like help emptying the dishwasher today...could you do that sometime in the next 2 hours please?" That would make me feel way less resistant as I have more control.

  • @sanbrunofriend5968
    @sanbrunofriend5968 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Great advices! is practically what we do as parents our children, will learn , we are the role model , I need to change if I want changes in my teen! 😊

  • @CathyStephan-i5n
    @CathyStephan-i5n 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Very impressive super correct

    • @AskDanielWong
      @AskDanielWong  11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Glad you think so!

  • @stephaniewoodside6777
    @stephaniewoodside6777 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I currently nag my son about being tidy and cleaning up after himself

  • @PillowMethod
    @PillowMethod 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Being on the phone too much.
    Cleaning up her dogs poop.
    Doing things that supposed to do, without having to nag.. to her.

  • @10anplischakjou33
    @10anplischakjou33 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Keep doing what is good brother

  • @DeborahVahanian-nx9ir
    @DeborahVahanian-nx9ir 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Getting their chores done.

  • @harinikulkarni9859
    @harinikulkarni9859 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Addiction to mobile

  • @kazimafzal4634
    @kazimafzal4634 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Informative

  • @stephanieurick8820
    @stephanieurick8820 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    🤦🏻‍♀️ 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

  • @neelamwaheed3377
    @neelamwaheed3377 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Ur videos, pdf 📚 really help me alot in my routine functioning. ..

  • @jesserodriguezhammond1763
    @jesserodriguezhammond1763 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I work with teens daily. This is ridiculous! Lol I would be curious which studies you have to prove anything. Also, I can guarantee this will not work with any teen with behavioral issues.

  • @stanmoney8470
    @stanmoney8470 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Good video! But I disagree with not telling your kid good job!

    • @bongilevellem9003
      @bongilevellem9003 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      But he gave an alternative of what to say.

  • @annmarieanderson4695
    @annmarieanderson4695 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I’m nagging about their tones and phones

  • @nayeemahassan3977
    @nayeemahassan3977 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    So they don’t study and exams are coming up then what let them fail

  • @virginiawatkins2321
    @virginiawatkins2321 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Clean your room don’t leave like a rat

  • @muyarmyawin3372
    @muyarmyawin3372 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    💗💗💗💖

  • @C-G183
    @C-G183 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    once again great vieo daniel

  • @charlee11127
    @charlee11127 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hello, first time watching this video or any of your videos, question, do you have children?.

    • @charlee11127
      @charlee11127 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      My apologies, just starting watching an heard you say you do have children.

    • @AskDanielWong
      @AskDanielWong  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@charlee11127 No worries. Yes, I have 3 children and I feel like they make my life feel rather full!

  • @fatimmagas4148
    @fatimmagas4148 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    How can you be my teenager counselor?

    • @AskDanielWong
      @AskDanielWong  10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you for your comment. Please feel free to submit this online form:
      daniel-wong.typeform.com/to/a20ZzZ

  • @Mr._Johns_Productions
    @Mr._Johns_Productions หลายเดือนก่อน

    These are hard pills

  • @amrutavadanagekar1737
    @amrutavadanagekar1737 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I all the time nag him for studies

  • @MD.orion1
    @MD.orion1 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You've been coaching teens for 10 years.....well they di not behave and abuse you like they think the can do at home to their mother

    • @Airfriedfroglegg
      @Airfriedfroglegg 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      If your teen is abusing you you should get therapy for yourself for how to handle it

  • @michelleensley7846
    @michelleensley7846 ปีที่แล้ว

    yes ❤

  • @ronnyhotive5256
    @ronnyhotive5256 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    My friend i dont know which planet you come from but what you are asking people to do is make the 17 year old be the parent and we the parent be the father.. that wont work

    • @Lukdaman
      @Lukdaman 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      you are hilarious 🤣🤣🤣

  • @LB-hi6zc
    @LB-hi6zc 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Getting them to hurry yp

  • @Kathleen-d8j
    @Kathleen-d8j 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I have a 46 year old teen

  • @aniteamina1012
    @aniteamina1012 ปีที่แล้ว

    Like that

  • @shirazpervez2405
    @shirazpervez2405 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Dude, I just watched this video with my 12 year old son and we both agreed this is horrible advice. I have no clue what kind of new age garbage advice this is. And my 12 year old agrees with me.... For once

  • @louisepasquill3837
    @louisepasquill3837 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Brush your teeth

  • @alexander_popovic
    @alexander_popovic 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Your speaking is very slow, I think you talk to stubborn grown ups 😁

    • @Dgsjxx
      @Dgsjxx หลายเดือนก่อน

      You can speed the video so it talks faster

  • @rebeccablossom9823
    @rebeccablossom9823 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you