What's the biggest challenge you're currently facing with your teen? Leave a comment and let me know. Also, make sure to get your FREE e-book "16 Keys to Motivating Your Teenager" here ➡ www.daniel-wong.com/ebook
My 'teen' is not a teen yet just 11, but I often feels like I'm dealing with a angsty teen! My biggest challenge is being interested in what they like (they love Roblox but to me, it's like my enemy) and also, getting them to like studying.... And also, another challenge is getting him to be kind and gracious to his younger siblings...
Most of this generation of teens are actually lonely and o overwhelmed with everything going on in the world! When we were teens we didn’t have social media… our world was friendlier …. I think part of their lack Of motivation is a ‘ why even try’ attitude.😢
I've found it helpful to do stuff like 1) be sure to spend quality time w/ them away from a screen. some hobby. 2) admitting my faults to them, whether currently, or past faults; ways I've struggled like they do; admitting that I am certainly not perfect. 3) stay calm when challenged, rebelled against .. stay steady. 4) teach them in gentle ways that the world is way, way larger than just them. Take them on a trip somewhere, like an orphanage in a difficult part of the world, or something. I have much growing to do as a parent of teen.
If I was your son I'd obey you to the max, You are the one that is in total control. Everyday, I'd come home from school and the 1 st thing I do, is give you my phone...don't want any distractions, then I do my homework, then all the chores for that day, which must be done to your satisfaction. Then do whatever you tell me to do with no back talk or arguing. On the weekends, I'd do what you want me to do, Before I have my "Free time"
I’m a teenager myself and what you said is true My parents have tried reward systems for me and they never seemed to worked It took me awhile to get motivated into doing things I would say convince the teen to set goals for themselves.
My 17-year-old is really nice when he is getting what he wants, and nobody expects anything from him. The moment you say no to him or ask for the bare minimum effort, he becomes abusive and aggressive. Our requests are very basic, be respectful to people and their belongings, clean up after yourself, and no aggressive behaviour or language. We occasionally have to withhold privileges like internet access, transportation, or other luxuries if he strays too far outside these lines. Unfortunately, that starts a heated power struggle.
@kirstineconnors1427 it is really hard. The only advice I have is not to let yourself get drawn into an argument. You are the parents, your job is to set boundaries and expectations, their job it to follow them. They don't have to agree or even like it, but they do need to find a way to do it.
Practice practice everything you wanna say to your kid and how you would take it and ask others and look at videos until you find a way to both be happy with the outcome… The shitty part is parents have to do all the work especially when you didn’t get that kind of love when you were a kid or attention… It’s worth it put all the effort you can until you and your kid are both happy… Authentically happy, never stop till you have no question what that looks like. 🫶
It's easy for this guy to say all of this I'm sure his kids get straight A's and B's in school. I'm sure they're going to become doctors or lawyers for both when they grow up!
Thank you for the video. These are some interesting suggestions that I will try. Biggest problem with our teenager is no interest in learning on any subject, only studies to get a grade and would prefer if he didn't have to learn anything.
Thank you! That’s very helpful. My biggest issue with my teen is he doesn’t see the importance of school/education although he is very smart. How do I get him to understand a good education is important for his future.
Answer this question to yourself: why is work important? You go to work to get the money which will buy you anything you want. And you know that you'll be earning more money if you have a profession. This logic works for you, not for your child: no matter how hard he works, he gets no money reward. He only gets tired, for nothing. Your task is to arrange some paid work for him. A few months into it, and he'll get the idea of money and necessity of education.
If I was your son I'd obey you to the max, You are the one that is in total control. Everyday, I'd come home from school and the 1 st thing I do, is give you my phone...don't want any distractions, then I do my homework, then all the chores for that day, which must be done to your satisfaction. Then do whatever you tell me to do with no back talk or arguing. On the weekends, I'd do what you want me to do, Before I have my "Free time"
My teen is now 18 and he thinks he knows everything he needs to know about being independent and responsible but I see from the choices he makes that he is still immature in some of his decisions. He becomes defensive when I try to talk to him about it. How do I open up a conversation about this without him feeling criticized.
Thank you Daniel for the sharing. It is alert me to be a more wise parent. The issue with teenage is how to make them understand with their own goal. Thanks
The biggest problem I found with my 11-year-old daughter is that she always does her homework at the end of deadline and it is very hard for me to figure out the reason cause we are not getting along with each other.
I’m a 55 year old mom ( husband of 23 years/ son 19/ daughter 23) who is a recovering alcoholic/ drug addicted. Happy to say I am a healthy person today with a strong spiritual guidance. My husband works every day, but contributes very little to the raising of my adult teens? even though my daughter is 23 she is still very immature(this is due to bad parenting on our part) . I am trying to teach my kids by example to do better and they are thriving in many areas? But there are a lot of bad habits that still linger from old ways? I appreciate your video very much and I’m going to try and set healthy boundaries and discuss them with my husband to help support me? The hardest thing for me is because I am what you would call “a people pleaser😏 ?? I have definitely had to change a lot of my own behaviors to strengthen my kid confidence level? I do very much agree with everything you have said in this video and I want to thank you for the help!!❤🙏🏻😊
The biggest problem I face with my teen (who’s now 20!) is that he refuses to speak at the family table with his brother and sister, my husband and myself. It frustrates me, I feel like he feels like he’s at a hotel. By the way, thank you for your excellent videos.
It is always advisable to eat silently. In my house as well as during my hostel days, we were never allowed to talk while having food. the reason is that food might get into your lungs or even one can get chocked out of that. It is good that he stay silent at the family table. Moreover, when you engage in an conversation while having food, you are not paying attention to your food and thus, saliva secretion process does not initiate. This will again hamper the digestion. I don't know if there are some deep problems seeded within that act but if he is preferring to stay quite while eating, let him be.
My 15 year old gets great grades and thats amazing but otherwise, he just sits in one spot and uses his ipad for hours. During the weekend, he will use it all day into the night and only comes out his room to eat. He doesnt even have one friend and hates being social yet says he's depressed. He refuses to excercise, or socialize and gets upset if I say anything. I had him in therapy and the therapist got a new job after the first month. I tried to get him another therapist but it wasnt a good fit for him at all. Idk what to do anymore.
I just came across this video when i was watching videos about Motivational Interviewing, WOW! what a great video and practical tips that we (parents) can implement. Thank you Thank you Thank you! My greatest challenge is to help my teenager cope with his ADD and he is going off to college. We are worried.
Thank you for your kind words! And thank you for sharing. If you might be interested in having me work with your son to prepare him for college, feel free to let me know.
My son have a difficulty to make friends, he likes to stay home and by himself, under confident and not open up, very quiet not expressive any feelings. I always try to being his friend but he always very quiet
plz guide regarding teens who keep day dreaming a lot(fantasies,stories, games etc) and lack focus while studying because of which they are not able to complete their work on time, eventually leading to several backlogs.
15 I want to show my mom this so I can have a guide in life since she just stays in her room all day when I need help no activities either or help with things like well-being and schooling ext she’s just not ready to be a parent and it’s hard since I’m unable to get any motivation or pushing when I’m at my lowest points she just goes with you do you I have no actual parental figure and when I want to talk to her about what I need to grow up as a person she just goes into her room she uses her trauma as a excuse of not wanting to be a good parent or even talking about my needs and the pushing I need even if it makes me angry so it's very messy since I feel like my parent is just another teenager that also has no idea of what to do just like me
Biggest challenge i face with my 15 year old is that she says i am tired not able to sleep properly but refuse to floow our advice and communicate less and kind of shows she is suffering but doesn't let is help her.
A how to learn strategy, would help. A step by step in note-taking in class, how-to revise & daily benefits, also if a teen is behind in tertiary-knowledge how do the catch-up? I seem to see the deemand for learning is higher than ever, coupled with the amount of knowledge children need to retain, but we have yet to provide students with a strategic workshop which instills the correct frameworks/foundations to-learn, from which they can springboard.
The biggest challenge I have with my 15 year old is that her grades are going down drastically and she is not ready for a conversation. She gets frustrated whenever we try to discuss things with her or as how we can help. She will not utter a single word and keep quiet. We send her to private school but I don’t think it is helping her in anyways.
My teen son is not actively looking for a job, despite help from my husband and me. We have tried to show him how to go about it. He has gotten into a lazy rut.
My teen is 17 years old, and he is grade 12 almost finish school but he's not going to school. He goes only at eletrotechnology class, his school already warned him if he still not going to school he ll'be his enrolment cancel. It's very disappointed as he almost finished school.
The biggest challenge I am having with my 13 year old son , he is always no social media even if he has to do his school work , at school he gets projects and assignments to do a month period but he always does them a day before submission.
The major problem im facing is, that i feel my 12 yrs old kid cant get focused during studying, so a 1 hour study becomes 5 hours instead, so she's always behind schedule
I share my feelings I keep telling him please do share anything when you are ready I do encourage him always and as soon he dose anything even a small thing I make it as big celebration. Still he make sure to do as little as he can. He refuse to do anything around the house, he dose not obey or respect a rule at home. My son had the best results in his high school. Now he is struggling to even get a B . I took his games away as he only spent time on video games or his mobile. I am worried that I am going to take the phone too, he dose not care. Don’t know what to do ?? He would not share anything with us.
studying she manages well on her own hours and hrs.Tv addiction and not doing house chores is problem saying will do later which never comes ,shouting Back if i repeat .says she doesnt feel like doing if keepvreminding ,but things are not getting done at home ending up with me doing all housechores at end. .
My 14 yrs teen boy is very introvert.He talks very less in school or in public and at home sometimes so disrespectful towards us and abuse his brother.It becomes a great concern.how to deal
I'm sorry to hear that. It sounds like a really frustrating situation for you. Just to let you know that I offer this 1-to-1 coaching program for teens (www.daniel-wong.com/coaching/), which would be suitable for your son -- in case you're interested.
I understand the professional "approach" however the real world doesn't give a shit about their emotions or feelings & that's real & that's the way I look at it & the way I was raised! Parents need to quit coddling & spoiling them especially boys!
My daughters problem is getting to school on time or at all ahea 11 and about to go high school but because she's getting away with being late she dint care ,I've had few problems but am getting help now it's school
I’m a very motivated and active person, I love to have a clean home and environment. My daughter is the total complete opposite of me. I’m growing super exhausted with this situation. I’m 30 and she’s 13. It’s tough, I try and set rules I write chores down, I award her when she does it correctly. But she chooses to stay in bed until 6pm, doesn’t even brush her hair or even shower. I don’t understand, I did not raise her this way.
Good morning Daniel.The teen is my sister's daughter and she is only 11 but she thinks her mom gives attention to boyfriend more than her .She tells me and am caught in between on how to tell my sister,it's affecting teens school. Please help
My son is 14 & 8th grade student. Mine and his mother management is not good. He is connected more to his mother and the extended family of his mother. How do you support me to regain my son's love I lost.
@nigatu taye Hi. I just saw this and wanted to ask you if it got any better?? I was thinking maybe you could figure something he likes and find something you guys could do together or go look at together? Or will he talk to you about the situation?
Are you a doctor just wondering because you have good ideas. And do you have any videos on how teens can talk to other teens when some of them are mean.
Could work casual/odd jobs 30 -40 hours a week regularly for 6 months then recheck about further study? After the 6 months, if not studying ...... he/she could pay towards all expenses (rent food leisure)
Daniel, thank you for the presentation. My problem with my son: he doesn't communicate with me, block my access, talk to me nothing about his emotion. How to let them open to you?
My daughter has lots of F's. She sits down to do homework everyday, but I don't see any improvement on her grades. I don't know how to encourage her to do better at school.
Thank you for your video. My two teens do not seem to listen to me. I will tell them to do a specific task or chore and they do not do what I have asked.
@Lisa Rodriguez Hi. I wanted to see how it's going? I know it's hard sometimes, but if they don't do something simple you ask of them, what if you give them a warning, and tell them it is a warning, so they understand, and tell them if they don't do the things you ask, they have to have a consequence.. best one I've seen that works is taking away the phone for whatever determined amount of time.. and then if they do not do the chore or whatever.. they gotta lose that phone for a bit. It usually helps them learn... even if you have to do it again and again. I know it's hard to hear the whining and comments, but sometimes things are necessary. I feel you.
Thank you. What do you do when your teen wants games and apps but they are using it for sexual conversations with strangers and when we put limits on apps and usage such as screen time limits, they get upset. Now they have their other parent get them a phone, so now we cannot utilize the screen time limits anymore, so they stay up late on school nights, give out passwords to strangers, and have inappropriate conversations while sharing and receiving personal pictures and video calls. The other parent won’t talk with us. Do we have any legal rights? Thank you.
Uff Sir!! I hv a 15 years old daughter, she is reading in class 10,she is very very lazy... But she is so friendly with me.. Still I don't know where I'm lacking, I failed to help her to overcome her laziness
Hi, first off thank you for the video. I will start with taking your advice. My problem with my teen is exactly that, she is currently homeschooled and I’m sure she feels like I might be micromanaging her. I don’t know what else to do? When I do enter the room she is watching her phone and just has laptop open and not working on her daily assignments
Thank you for sharing. I'll keep your feedback in mind as I make videos in the future. Also, if you haven't already downloaded the free ebook, you should find helpful tips to address the situation with your daughter: www.daniel-wong.com/ebook
Daniel can I have your personal contact I need a one on one coach for my son my 14 year old school is having falling grades and prefers football to good grade wants to be a pilot but wants to switch from science to arts thinking his grade will improve in arts but he wants to be a pilot I do not know exactly how to handle this
Thank you for sharing more with me about your son's situation. I'm sorry to hear about the challenging situation. Please feel free to submit this online form and I'll get back to you: daniel-wong.typeform.com/to/a20ZzZ
*****VERY IMPORTANT PLEASE RESPOND***** Our ‘teen’ is 19 going on 20 in 6 months. We were all so proud when he graduated HS. He really wanted to go into the military. He was ROTC throughout middle and HS. But his weight is what stopped him. He scored well enough on the ASVAB. We started going to the gym together, to find out he was sneaking junk food in his room. Now that he’s working at a grocery store, we find evidence of extreme overeating. He spends 8 hours/day on social media and playing video games when he’s not working and in between chores. We have tried everything we could think of to get him motivated enough to lose the weight and/or go to college (for something HE would like (within reason- he wanted to go to school to be a ‘gamer’ and changed his mind with some serious conversations) we knew someone in the ‘gaming’ industry, and it is not realistic. Please help.
Thank you for sharing. I'm sorry to hear about the challenging situation. Maybe you would consider this coaching program that I offer for teens? -> www.daniel-wong.com/coaching/
He won’t talk to me at all . Won’t read my messages . Won’t answer my calls . He is overseas with my ex . There may be an element of parental alienation .nevertheless , he stayed with me till age 16
I’m not perfect myself either I’ve said things to my parents that I wish I could take back and I’ve punched holes in their walls even if you do discipline your teen they are still going to make dumb decisions that’s part of being a teen
Do you have experience working with kids with some neurological issues such as lack of executive function? Also our son has an addictive behavior that we are trying to break him of. So he treats us like his enemies because we are always catching him doing something he loves doing but is bad for him. How can we motivate him to stop the addictive behavior and help him know that we're doing it for his own good? We explain it to him but he is stubborn and won't listen to us.
Thank you for your comment. I'm sorry to hear about the challenging situation you're facing with your son. Yes, I've successfully worked with many teenagers who were facing similar issues as your son. If you're interested in having me work with him, please submit this online form: daniel-wong.typeform.com/to/a20ZzZ
What's the biggest challenge you're currently facing with your teen? Leave a comment and let me know.
Also, make sure to get your FREE e-book "16 Keys to Motivating Your Teenager" here ➡ www.daniel-wong.com/ebook
My 'teen' is not a teen yet just 11, but I often feels like I'm dealing with a angsty teen! My biggest challenge is being interested in what they like (they love Roblox but to me, it's like my enemy) and also, getting them to like studying.... And also, another challenge is getting him to be kind and gracious to his younger siblings...
I can not get my 16 year old 11th grade son to go to school. He doesn't have many friends and doesn't seem to care about anyone or anything.
Apply Emotional Damage.
How do you get help when funds and time is limited? I've considered outpatient therapy but I work and can't drive her if I'm at work.
Am a single mother ,l need to be focus in studies
Phone addiction and chatting with friends all the time.
Most of this generation of teens are actually lonely and o overwhelmed with everything going on in the world! When we were teens we didn’t have social media… our world was friendlier ….
I think part of their lack
Of motivation is a ‘ why even try’ attitude.😢
Correct!!❤
So much negativity! Climate change, war, crime, family breakdowns, death poor beautiful babes!❤😮😢
Phone addiction has replaced many drugs. They are addicted and violent when one tries to take it away or limit time on it.
I've found it helpful to do stuff like 1) be sure to spend quality time w/ them away from a screen. some hobby. 2) admitting my faults to them, whether currently, or past faults; ways I've struggled like they do; admitting that I am certainly not perfect. 3) stay calm when challenged, rebelled against .. stay steady. 4) teach them in gentle ways that the world is way, way larger than just them. Take them on a trip somewhere, like an orphanage in a difficult part of the world, or something. I have much growing to do as a parent of teen.
5:41 cause hard work isn't fun...it's hard...but it's always worth it
My son struggles getting off video games don't do homework always going to bed on time plus his responsibilies help
If I was your son I'd obey you to the max, You are the one that is in total control.
Everyday, I'd come home from school and the 1 st thing I do, is give you my phone...don't want any distractions, then I do my homework, then all the chores for that day, which must be done to your satisfaction. Then do whatever you tell me to do with no back talk or arguing.
On the weekends, I'd do what you want me to do, Before I have my "Free time"
Right now I'm playing this video out loud while I wash dishes and my teen lays on the couch!!
I’m a teenager myself and what you said is true
My parents have tried reward systems for me and they never seemed to worked It took me awhile to get motivated into doing things I would say convince the teen to set goals for themselves.
How old are you
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Good point. Thank you for sharing!
I used to feel this way as a teen but when I got older I realized I lacked structure growing up and this has affected my entire life.
My 17-year-old is really nice when he is getting what he wants, and nobody expects anything from him.
The moment you say no to him or ask for the bare minimum effort, he becomes abusive and aggressive.
Our requests are very basic, be respectful to people and their belongings, clean up after yourself, and no aggressive behaviour or language.
We occasionally have to withhold privileges like internet access, transportation, or other luxuries if he strays too far outside these lines.
Unfortunately, that starts a heated power struggle.
We have the same exact issue
@kirstineconnors1427 it is really hard. The only advice I have is not to let yourself get drawn into an argument. You are the parents, your job is to set boundaries and expectations, their job it to follow them. They don't have to agree or even like it, but they do need to find a way to do it.
Practice practice everything you wanna say to your kid and how you would take it and ask others and look at videos until you find a way to both be happy with the outcome… The shitty part is parents have to do all the work especially when you didn’t get that kind of love when you were a kid or attention… It’s worth it put all the effort you can until you and your kid are both happy… Authentically happy, never stop till you have no question what that looks like. 🫶
It's easy for this guy to say all of this I'm sure his kids get straight A's and B's in school. I'm sure they're going to become doctors or lawyers for both when they grow up!
Thank you for the video. These are some interesting suggestions that I will try. Biggest problem with our teenager is no interest in learning on any subject, only studies to get a grade and would prefer if he didn't have to learn anything.
Thank you! That’s very helpful. My biggest issue with my teen is he doesn’t see the importance of school/education although he is very smart. How do I get him to understand a good education is important for his future.
Answer this question to yourself: why is work important? You go to work to get the money which will buy you anything you want. And you know that you'll be earning more money if you have a profession. This logic works for you, not for your child: no matter how hard he works, he gets no money reward. He only gets tired, for nothing. Your task is to arrange some paid work for him. A few months into it, and he'll get the idea of money and necessity of education.
My teen won’t step out of her room during the day - there’s no communication with her at all
Is there a buzzing sound coming from the room
@@portagepete1 Your mom's struggle of carrying you for 9 months in her womb has been proved to go in vain by your comment.
If I was your son I'd obey you to the max, You are the one that is in total control.
Everyday, I'd come home from school and the 1 st thing I do, is give you my phone...don't want any distractions, then I do my homework, then all the chores for that day, which must be done to your satisfaction. Then do whatever you tell me to do with no back talk or arguing.
On the weekends, I'd do what you want me to do, Before I have my "Free time"
The best influencer of teaching parenting for teens💕🥰 Thank you so much Sir 💗
That's very kind of you!
Thank you, this is good stuff. Love your respectful attitude towards teens. Makes perfect sense. ❤
Thank you for your kind comment!
This video is very useful!
My teen is so addicted to video game.
My teen is now 18 and he thinks he knows everything he needs to know about being independent and responsible but I see from the choices he makes that he is still immature in some of his decisions. He becomes defensive when I try to talk to him about it. How do I open up a conversation about this without him feeling criticized.
At 18 you need to let him make his own mistakes.
That's the way we learn.
Don't ever give advice unless they ask us something I learned too.
Thank you Daniel for the sharing. It is alert me to be a more wise parent.
The issue with teenage is how to make them understand with their own goal. Thanks
I agree. Thanks!
These issue are exactly what I am facing with my teens. And your advice is spot on!!
I hope the situation with your teens improves!
1:37 @@AskDanielWong
The biggest problem I found with my 11-year-old daughter is that she always does her homework at the end of deadline and it is very hard for me to figure out the reason cause we are not getting along with each other.
I’m a 55 year old mom ( husband of 23 years/ son 19/ daughter 23) who is a recovering alcoholic/ drug addicted. Happy to say I am a healthy person today with a strong spiritual guidance. My husband works every day, but contributes very little to the raising of my adult teens? even though my daughter is 23 she is still very immature(this is due to bad parenting on our part) . I am trying to teach my kids by example to do better and they are thriving in many areas? But there are a lot of bad habits that still linger from old ways? I appreciate your video very much and I’m going to try and set healthy boundaries and discuss them with my husband to help support me? The hardest thing for me is because I am what you would call “a people pleaser😏 ?? I have definitely had to change a lot of my own behaviors to strengthen my kid confidence level? I do very much agree with everything you have said in this video and I want to thank you for the help!!❤🙏🏻😊
My daughter is 14 yrs old studying in a hostel. She doesn't love studying. She doesn't like to have an ambition in life. She likes to have fun only.
Mine, too. Am so worried 😟
First identify the main reason behind of her problem then give some time to her deal her emotionally
The biggest problem I face with my teen (who’s now 20!) is that he refuses to speak at the family table with his brother and sister, my husband and myself. It frustrates me, I feel like he feels like he’s at a hotel.
By the way, thank you for your excellent videos.
It is always advisable to eat silently. In my house as well as during my hostel days, we were never allowed to talk while having food. the reason is that food might get into your lungs or even one can get chocked out of that. It is good that he stay silent at the family table. Moreover, when you engage in an conversation while having food, you are not paying attention to your food and thus, saliva secretion process does not initiate. This will again hamper the digestion. I don't know if there are some deep problems seeded within that act but if he is preferring to stay quite while eating, let him be.
My 15 year old gets great grades and thats amazing but otherwise, he just sits in one spot and uses his ipad for hours. During the weekend, he will use it all day into the night and only comes out his room to eat. He doesnt even have one friend and hates being social yet says he's depressed. He refuses to excercise, or socialize and gets upset if I say anything. I had him in therapy and the therapist got a new job after the first month. I tried to get him another therapist but it wasnt a good fit for him at all. Idk what to do anymore.
I just came across this video when i was watching videos about Motivational Interviewing, WOW! what a great video and practical tips that we (parents) can implement. Thank you Thank you Thank you!
My greatest challenge is to help my teenager cope with his ADD and he is going off to college. We are worried.
Thank you for your kind words! And thank you for sharing. If you might be interested in having me work with your son to prepare him for college, feel free to let me know.
❤thank you for sharing this. I appreciate your help
You are welcome!
Awesome! Idk how this video doesn't have more views.
Thanks!
My teen seems to have no engagement or desire to be present with school work. A lot of mental wondering and daydreaming.
Daniel, your tips are very useful. Thank you. Hope to see your next video.
You're welcome!
My son have a difficulty to make friends, he likes to stay home and by himself, under confident and not open up, very quiet not expressive any feelings. I always try to being his friend but he always very quiet
plz guide regarding teens who keep day dreaming a lot(fantasies,stories, games etc) and lack focus while studying because of which they are not able to complete their work on time, eventually leading to several backlogs.
How do we find out the underlying problem? It is hard to understand
15 I want to show my mom this so I can have a guide in life since she just stays in her room all day when I need help no activities either or help with things like well-being and schooling ext she’s just not ready to be a parent and it’s hard since I’m unable to get any motivation or pushing when I’m at my lowest points she just goes with you do you I have no actual parental figure and when I want to talk to her about what I need to grow up as a person she just goes into her room she uses her trauma as a excuse of not wanting to be a good parent or even talking about my needs and the pushing I need even if it makes me angry so it's very messy since I feel like my parent is just another teenager that also has no idea of what to do just like me
She's probably depressed and also needs some help.
Thank you for your video, its very helpful. My 17year old son is performing poorly, failing some subjects
Thanks God i watched your video sir before it gets too late..it helps lot now i know how to deal with my teen
Glad to hear that.
My son is a high school baseball player. I am having trouble with him performing chores and engaging colleges.
Biggest challenge i face with my 15 year old is that she says i am tired not able to sleep properly but refuse to floow our advice and communicate less and kind of shows she is suffering but doesn't let is help her.
A how to learn strategy, would help. A step by step in note-taking in class, how-to revise & daily benefits, also if a teen is behind in tertiary-knowledge how do the catch-up? I seem to see the deemand for learning is higher than ever, coupled with the amount of knowledge children need to retain, but we have yet to provide students with a strategic workshop which instills the correct frameworks/foundations to-learn, from which they can springboard.
The biggest challenge I have with my 15 year old is that her grades are going down drastically and she is not ready for a conversation. She gets frustrated whenever we try to discuss things with her or as how we can help. She will not utter a single word and keep quiet. We send her to private school but I don’t think it is helping her in anyways.
My teen son is not actively looking for a job, despite help from my husband and me. We have tried to show him how to go about it. He has gotten into a lazy rut.
My teen is 17 years old, and he is grade 12 almost finish school but he's not going to school. He goes only at eletrotechnology class, his school already warned him if he still not going to school he ll'be his enrolment cancel. It's very disappointed as he almost finished school.
The biggest challenge I am having with my 13 year old son , he is always no social media even if he has to do his school work , at school he gets projects and assignments to do a month period but he always does them a day before submission.
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Thank you so much your videos have motivated and changed how to raise my teen
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No motivation in doing homework, finishing school or doing the boring chores at home.
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What about when my girl says, "It's my life and live once. I want to do whatever I want." How can I deal with it?
The major problem im facing is, that i feel my 12 yrs old kid cant get focused during studying, so a 1 hour study becomes 5 hours instead, so she's always behind schedule
I share my feelings I keep telling him please do share anything when you are ready I do encourage him always and as soon he dose anything even a small thing I make it as big celebration. Still he make sure to do as little as he can. He refuse to do anything around the house, he dose not obey or respect a rule at home. My son had the best results in his high school. Now he is struggling to even get a B . I took his games away as he only spent time on video games or his mobile. I am worried that I am going to take the phone too, he dose not care. Don’t know what to do ?? He would not share anything with us.
My 15 year old hates doing school work.
studying she manages well on her own hours and hrs.Tv addiction and not doing house chores is problem saying will do later which never comes ,shouting Back if i repeat .says she doesnt feel like doing if keepvreminding ,but things are not getting done at home ending up with me doing all housechores at end. .
My 14 yrs teen boy is very introvert.He talks very less in school or in public and at home sometimes so disrespectful towards us and abuse his brother.It becomes a great concern.how to deal
My teen does not study or do homework, and lie about having done his homework. I co Stanley get emails from teachers complaining homework not submit.
I'm sorry to hear that. It sounds like a really frustrating situation for you. Just to let you know that I offer this 1-to-1 coaching program for teens (www.daniel-wong.com/coaching/), which would be suitable for your son -- in case you're interested.
I understand the professional "approach" however the real world doesn't give a shit about their emotions or feelings & that's real & that's the way I look at it & the way I was raised! Parents need to quit coddling & spoiling them especially boys!
Problem iam facing is not responsible with her work and lying in time of facing consequences.
My daughters problem is getting to school on time or at all ahea 11 and about to go high school but because she's getting away with being late she dint care ,I've had few problems but am getting help now it's school
I’m a very motivated and active person, I love to have a clean home and environment. My daughter is the total complete opposite of me. I’m growing super exhausted with this situation. I’m 30 and she’s 13. It’s tough, I try and set rules I write chores down, I award her when she does it correctly. But she chooses to stay in bed until 6pm, doesn’t even brush her hair or even shower. I don’t understand, I did not raise her this way.
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My daughter she is not confident and reads but struggles to write and failed in 12 th exam in 2 subjects 2 times what to do
My teen boys are facing the lazyness n they do not have motivation to do anything
Good morning Daniel.The teen is my sister's daughter and she is only 11 but she thinks her mom gives attention to boyfriend more than her .She tells me and am caught in between on how to tell my sister,it's affecting teens school. Please help
Shutting down conversation or avoiding talking to me.
My teen is in year 10 but she has no interest on her study and she is very interested in using phone alot so please help in this case thank u
My son is 14 & 8th grade student. Mine and his mother management is not good. He is connected more to his mother and the extended family of his mother. How do you support me to regain my son's love I lost.
@nigatu taye Hi. I just saw this and wanted to ask you if it got any better?? I was thinking maybe you could figure something he likes and find something you guys could do together or go look at together? Or will he talk to you about the situation?
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It's very informative my friend.
I'm glad you think so!
Which country are you based in? In the Uk, schools can be very hectic, depending on the school that you go to.
Do give more awareness
Are you a doctor just wondering because you have good ideas. And do you have any videos on how teens can talk to other teens when some of them are mean.
My teen (17) doesn't want to finish high school and has no plans for the future.
Could work casual/odd jobs 30 -40 hours a week regularly for 6 months then recheck about further study?
After the 6 months, if not studying ......
he/she could pay towards all expenses (rent food leisure)
My teenage is too much into sports he is nt consistent in study
Omg Dr. Money from king of the hill!
I don't know if I should take that as a compliment or not haha...
Thanks, forma the good and práctical advices
How to motivate kids to follow policies at home positively
Daniel, thank you for the presentation. My problem with my son: he doesn't communicate with me, block my access, talk to me nothing about his emotion. How to let them open to you?
Thank you for sharing. I'll keep your feedback in mind as I work on future videos.
My daughter has lots of F's. She sits down to do homework everyday, but I don't see any improvement on her grades. I don't know how to encourage her to do better at school.
is she sits on computer /lap and or with all these devices including phone nearby 😮
My teenage not doing exercises, whenever I try to convince her she do it only for a day or two, that’s al
Teen not social, not making friends.
Thank you for your video.
My two teens do not seem to listen to me. I will tell them to do a specific task or chore and they do not do what I have asked.
You're welcome. Thank you for sharing. I think you'll find the tips in this free e-book useful: www.daniel-wong.com/get-teenager-to-listen-guide/
@Lisa Rodriguez Hi. I wanted to see how it's going? I know it's hard sometimes, but if they don't do something simple you ask of them, what if you give them a warning, and tell them it is a warning, so they understand, and tell them if they don't do the things you ask, they have to have a consequence.. best one I've seen that works is taking away the phone for whatever determined amount of time.. and then if they do not do the chore or whatever.. they gotta lose that phone for a bit. It usually helps them learn... even if you have to do it again and again. I know it's hard to hear the whining and comments, but sometimes things are necessary. I feel you.
Addiction to video games
Thank you. What do you do when your teen wants games and apps but they are using it for sexual conversations with strangers and when we put limits on apps and usage such as screen time limits, they get upset. Now they have their other parent get them a phone, so now we cannot utilize the screen time limits anymore, so they stay up late on school nights, give out passwords to strangers, and have inappropriate conversations while sharing and receiving personal pictures and video calls. The other parent won’t talk with us. Do we have any legal rights? Thank you.
That was wonderful. Would you guide tweens/pre-teens too?.. would you guide tweens from INDIA?
Sure, feel free to submit this online form if you're interested:
daniel-wong.typeform.com/to/a20ZzZ
My son has high aspiration but he doesn't to work hard so much so he loses to his friends easily and the get depressed
Uff Sir!!
I hv a 15 years old daughter, she is reading in class 10,she is very very lazy... But she is so friendly with me.. Still I don't know where I'm lacking, I failed to help her to overcome her laziness
Hi, first off thank you for the video. I will start with taking your advice. My problem with my teen is exactly that, she is currently homeschooled and I’m sure she feels like I might be micromanaging her. I don’t know what else to do? When I do enter the room she is watching her phone and just has laptop open and not working on her daily assignments
Thank you for sharing. I'll keep your feedback in mind as I make videos in the future. Also, if you haven't already downloaded the free ebook, you should find helpful tips to address the situation with your daughter: www.daniel-wong.com/ebook
Yes, thank you I already have my downloaded ebook
@@angelicagarcia2900 Great, I hope you find it useful.
How to deal with ODD among teenagers?
How long do these methods take to work? I tried them yesterday and my son still would just rudely shut me down.
Daniel can I have your personal contact I need a one on one coach for my son my 14 year old school is having falling grades and prefers football to good grade wants to be a pilot but wants to switch from science to arts thinking his grade will improve in arts but he wants to be a pilot I do not know exactly how to handle this
Thank you for sharing more with me about your son's situation. I'm sorry to hear about the challenging situation. Please feel free to submit this online form and I'll get back to you:
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*****VERY IMPORTANT PLEASE RESPOND***** Our ‘teen’ is 19 going on 20 in 6 months. We were all so proud when he graduated HS. He really wanted to go into the military. He was ROTC throughout middle and HS. But his weight is what stopped him. He scored well enough on the ASVAB. We started going to the gym together, to find out he was sneaking junk food in his room. Now that he’s working at a grocery store, we find evidence of extreme overeating. He spends 8 hours/day on social media and playing video games when he’s not working and in between chores. We have tried everything we could think of to get him motivated enough to lose the weight and/or go to college (for something HE would like (within reason- he wanted to go to school to be a ‘gamer’ and changed his mind with some serious conversations) we knew someone in the ‘gaming’ industry, and it is not realistic.
Please help.
Thank you for sharing. I'm sorry to hear about the challenging situation. Maybe you would consider this coaching program that I offer for teens? -> www.daniel-wong.com/coaching/
He won’t talk to me at all . Won’t read my messages . Won’t answer my calls . He is overseas with my ex . There may be an element of parental alienation .nevertheless , he stayed with me till age 16
Hallo my teen always say No and Lazy and find hard school
I’m not perfect myself either I’ve said things to my parents that I wish I could take back and I’ve punched holes in their walls even if you do discipline your teen they are still going to make dumb decisions that’s part of being a teen
Do you have experience working with kids with some neurological issues such as lack of executive function? Also our son has an addictive behavior that we are trying to break him of. So he treats us like his enemies because we are always catching him doing something he loves doing but is bad for him. How can we motivate him to stop the addictive behavior and help him know that we're doing it for his own good? We explain it to him but he is stubborn and won't listen to us.
Thank you for your comment. I'm sorry to hear about the challenging situation you're facing with your son. Yes, I've successfully worked with many teenagers who were facing similar issues as your son. If you're interested in having me work with him, please submit this online form:
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Losing interest quickly, and noticing the motivation falls out before completion of activities. Incomplete halfway through.
My son is not academically motivated
I cant manage him. He doesnt understand me.