One mistake I made was, when my teen was already having high emotions, I overreacted to it instead of keeping my calm. It really made things worse till I realized that when your teen is going through a storm, jumping into the storm with them is not the way to help, rather I should throw the safety net from a calm side of the ocean. As a parent it can seem hard to be calm especially when you see your teen about to or in a dangerous situation and we panic and out of fear come over overreaction to the situation.
One mistake I've made is: Trying to find out what is wrong with my teen when he is especially tight, seems angry, and is shut down. It never ends how I want it to end. I have started to say: I'm here for you if you want to talk. You are a good person and are very much loved...being a human is hard, sometimes. I used the tips from your videos! Totally open to hear more on this topic and on maybe naming emotions. I think I could help my teen better on that front. Thanks for your awesome content. T
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I said to my daughter not to talk if she could only say bad words or unnecessary.She became silent , introvert and not openly having conversations to me .She is 18 now,she act older than me, criticize me if I say wrongs in my sentence, ungrammatical sentence.she less interest to talk to me more
Maybe you could have a heart to heart conversation with your daughter, and tell her this. Tell her that it is hurting you, and maybe admit that it was a mistake to tell her that. And ask her if she was hurt too?
@@AskDanielWong It's ok . I may show this entertaining video to my parents so they will try to become better. Thank you for the entertaining and important information for the future of my or others people's life !
@AskDanielWong thank u, im planning to give them hints instead of showing the video bc i dont want my parents to think i dont like the way they parent or anything
It's hard to let natural consequences unfold, especially after you've invested so much effort, only to watch it seemingly go to waste. However, you're right. This approach was what finally helped my oldest grasp the importance of their actions and set them on a better path. It was incredibly painful to watch and doing nothing felt like the toughest choice, but I now realize it was worth it. My mother wasn't perfect in many ways, and with my brother, she never enforced real consequences or stuck to her punishments, which negatively affected him throughout his adult life. His life was a sad story of wasted potential, despite his kind heart and promise. I've come to understand that what's easy for a parent isn't always what's best for the child. Parenting is about accepting this tough reality, knowing full well they might not appreciate or understand your actions until they're older, perhaps not until they're living on their own or have children themselves. So, don't expect immediate gratitude. Do your best and the results are what they are we are human as are they.
I always being positive for my son , think I have a very good parenting. He’s 14 going 15 and the major struggle since Two weeks ago he doesn’t want to go to school , it’s hard
Same here. My 15 years old doesn’t want to go to school. It is the hardest thing I have ever dealt bringing up . I am writing to you to tell you that you aren’t alone in your struggle and your teen isn’t the only one who has this problem.
It was like this for me when I was 15 as well. I couldn’t understand “the point”. My thoughts at that time?? Even if I had straight A’s, still, not myself, not my parents could have made me a Dr or scientist. (I had no idea how to obtain scholarships). Thus zero hope for achieving any kind of life worth living. Oh, and it literally helped zero that high school was co-ed. It was definitely, not easy, being 15.
I've probably asked my son to stop being hyper-reactive. But, he goes through days and phases where he will only be cruel, snapping at me constantly when I say something like "Good morning." But, then if I ask him to stop literally chanting insults at me, he will go in his room and not talk at all. Maybe I already ruined things and I'm not sure how.
He seems to feel I am part of the school system that forces him to be there each day. He hates it. He wants a college style experience where he can choose his own classes, but for elementary school. He does not like history, biology, or math, or anything that isn't automatic and instantly gratifying.
Sometimes it’s better to have one parent dictating the rules vs a wrong parent’s interference and decision involved. There will be fights at home which will effect the child negatively
Without harsh criticism how are they supposed to learn I took harsh criticism when I was growing up and now I could take harsh criticism has a adult man...
I sended this video to my father hoping he'll understand that ge did all of these mistakes and that he'll never say any of these phrases cause they almost made me to end my life.
Great video! I needed to hear this as I now know I’m part of the problem. I’ve done way too much protective parenting. The consequences seem to be harder for me to give than they are for my teen to receive. Uggh
I was an absent mom during their teenage years and now am Struggling to have a relationship with my son of 24 ,its been 3years we not talking .Am troubled but my hope is in God
I beg to differ but if my kid is on the phone all the time, or plays on the ps5 all the time, won’t maw the lawn at least once a month, and I can go on and on then give me a break. I acknowledge feelings, thoughts, apologize if I’m wrong , my father used less words and I suddenly had no problems with respectful behavior. If I didn’t do well in a certain school subject he didn’t yell rather asked me if I needed help. Less words, but better communication.
Your words make sense but the flip on all this advice is kids who keep making excuses instead of grit and learn how to play their parents into submission.
How do you talk to teen when all positive talk and give many chances to do tasks but teen doesn’t take it seriously and not do what you asked. So many times i did and I lose my patient to talk and end up of yelling or cursing . Again I end up clean or do laundry for my teen
You work for 40yrs to have $1M in your retirement, meanwhile some people are putting just $10K in crypto from just few months ago and now they are multimillionaires..
What do you suggest for a still at home 19 1/2 yr old daughter who sometimes screams at you?. No name calling or curse words, but can scream at the top of her lungs She scared my adult GS yesterday!! . Ready to show her the door..
Mind if I ask how the situation has evolved? I was thinking, there needs to be a game plan for them to move out and time to prepare, say, 6 months. Support and Tough love can be the best in the long term.
@@cobblecatttbro if ur watching parenting videos you’d know that “tough love” isn’t good if used regularly it won’t help at all u need too be straightforward but open and kind
When we were teens, I really can’t recall all dissection of emotions and behavior then we still did good degrees and studies, So is it only people having issues with their teens watching these videos ? I believe so It’s not up to a kid also to direct the lives of their parents not slaves
Kids are too soft these days. I do t think this is that tricky. Teach them right and wrong, call them out for the good and bad, don’t let them get away with BS, talk to them about their day, and if they want to whine and b1tch about it, let them and don’t change. They will grow up to be responsible good people, but you might not be as close.
Or give your teen the porn talk, sit them down and educate them - but then tell them they still can’t watch it So you actually DO shame sexuality and you think their too dumb for anything you JUST told them 😂
I said to my daughter not to talk if she could only say bad words or unnecessary when she was 5.She became silent , introvert and not openly having conversations to me .She is 18 now,she act older than me, criticize me if I say wrongs in my sentence, ungrammatical sentence.she less interest to talk to me more
Well I mean self explanatory if u tell ur kid not too talk when they have bad words then any bad feeling ect is never going too be spoken about you should create an environment where ur kid wants too talk too u no matter what
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One mistake I made was, when my teen was already having high emotions, I overreacted to it instead of keeping my calm. It really made things worse till I realized that when your teen is going through a storm, jumping into the storm with them is not the way to help, rather I should throw the safety net from a calm side of the ocean.
As a parent it can seem hard to be calm especially when you see your teen about to or in a dangerous situation and we panic and out of fear come over overreaction to the situation.
Thanks for sharing. Those are very meaningful reflections.
One mistake I've made is: Trying to find out what is wrong with my teen when he is especially tight, seems angry, and is shut down. It never ends how I want it to end. I have started to say: I'm here for you if you want to talk. You are a good person and are very much loved...being a human is hard, sometimes. I used the tips from your videos! Totally open to hear more on this topic and on maybe naming emotions. I think I could help my teen better on that front. Thanks for your awesome content. T
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Bro i just saw your comment in a video a minute ago what-
Wait nvm, you copy pasted this comment from 5 Parenting Styles and Their Effects on Life
Mine too
@@SorryNotSorry-x2xCould he be trying to market the book?
I said to my daughter not to talk if she could only say bad words or unnecessary.She became silent , introvert and not openly having conversations to me .She is 18 now,she act older than me, criticize me if I say wrongs in my sentence, ungrammatical sentence.she less interest to talk to me more
Maybe you could have a heart to heart conversation with your daughter, and tell her this. Tell her that it is hurting you, and maybe admit that it was a mistake to tell her that. And ask her if she was hurt too?
Mine does the same to me…😢
Now I realize how important are these lessons in raising kids in these changing times.
When the phrase : "You're too sensitive" appeared i sadly understood the pain a teen feels when they hear that phrase.
I'm sorry to hear that
@@AskDanielWong It's ok . I may show this entertaining video to my parents so they will try to become better. Thank you for the entertaining and important information for the future of my or others people's life !
Always dropping gems
Mistake #1 💯 correct
Great all this is very true
Only 1 thing left to do
Trying to show my parents this video without being judged
Hope that goes well!
@AskDanielWong thank u, im planning to give them hints instead of showing the video bc i dont want my parents to think i dont like the way they parent or anything
Thank you and I'm watching from Papua new guinea
It's hard to let natural consequences unfold, especially after you've invested so much effort, only to watch it seemingly go to waste. However, you're right. This approach was what finally helped my oldest grasp the importance of their actions and set them on a better path. It was incredibly painful to watch and doing nothing felt like the toughest choice, but I now realize it was worth it. My mother wasn't perfect in many ways, and with my brother, she never enforced real consequences or stuck to her punishments, which negatively affected him throughout his adult life. His life was a sad story of wasted potential, despite his kind heart and promise. I've come to understand that what's easy for a parent isn't always what's best for the child. Parenting is about accepting this tough reality, knowing full well they might not appreciate or understand your actions until they're older, perhaps not until they're living on their own or have children themselves. So, don't expect immediate gratitude. Do your best and the results are what they are we are human as are they.
I always being positive for my son , think I have a very good parenting. He’s 14 going 15 and the major struggle since Two weeks ago he doesn’t want to go to school , it’s hard
Same here. My 15 years old doesn’t want to go to school. It is the hardest thing I have ever dealt bringing up . I am writing to you to tell you that you aren’t alone in your struggle and your teen isn’t the only one who has this problem.
Yes me too 🙏🏻🙏🏻
Same here with my son the struggle is real.
Same here
It was like this for me when I was 15 as well. I couldn’t understand “the point”. My thoughts at that time?? Even if I had straight A’s, still, not myself, not my parents could have made me a Dr or scientist. (I had no idea how to obtain scholarships). Thus zero hope for achieving any kind of life worth living. Oh, and it literally helped zero that high school was co-ed. It was definitely, not easy, being 15.
I've probably asked my son to stop being hyper-reactive. But, he goes through days and phases where he will only be cruel, snapping at me constantly when I say something like "Good morning." But, then if I ask him to stop literally chanting insults at me, he will go in his room and not talk at all. Maybe I already ruined things and I'm not sure how.
He seems to feel I am part of the school system that forces him to be there each day. He hates it. He wants a college style experience where he can choose his own classes, but for elementary school. He does not like history, biology, or math, or anything that isn't automatic and instantly gratifying.
You talk a lot of sense. Thanks for the tips
My pleasure!
If they are silent about their problem and not agree to study then what can I do
?
best way rebuke when needed and pray for them always
You can do everything right and they’ll still go wrong. Especially if you’re a single parent. Some voids can’t be filled by one parent.
That's true. In such cases, mentors and coaches become even more important in the teen's development.
Sometimes it’s better to have one parent dictating the rules vs a wrong parent’s interference and decision involved. There will be fights at home which will effect the child negatively
Have not validated his feelings as often. That's been my biggest mistake.
This was an excellent video! Thank you! This is one of the best I've seen.
Wow, thank you!
Without harsh criticism how are they supposed to learn I took harsh criticism when I was growing up and now I could take harsh criticism has a adult man...
I sended this video to my father hoping he'll understand that ge did all of these mistakes and that he'll never say any of these phrases cause they almost made me to end my life.
Did this help you? I hope so. That was effort on your part. ❤
I hope your father really received your message.❤
Thank for this video 🎉
You're welcome!
What about when they start smoking what shouldn’t parents do or should than
Excellent video. Thank you!
You're welcome!
Great video! I needed to hear this as I now know I’m part of the problem. I’ve done way too much protective parenting. The consequences seem to be harder for me to give than they are for my teen to receive. Uggh
Very informative thank you very much
Glad it was helpful.
Excellent
Thank you
Thanks for this.
You're welcome
My son I do everything but he doesn't take a bath I told so many times he doesn't listen
I was an absent mom during their teenage years and now am Struggling to have a relationship with my son of 24 ,its been 3years we not talking .Am troubled but my hope is in God
I beg to differ but if my kid is on the phone all the time, or plays on the ps5 all the time, won’t maw the lawn at least once a month, and I can go on and on then give me a break. I acknowledge feelings, thoughts, apologize if I’m wrong , my father used less words and I suddenly had no problems with respectful behavior. If I didn’t do well in a certain school subject he didn’t yell rather asked me if I needed help. Less words, but better communication.
Thank you. Like this video very much.
I'm glad you like the video.
Your words make sense but the flip on all this advice is kids who keep making excuses instead of grit and learn how to play their parents into submission.
Made all the mistakes you've mentioned;)
No worries, it's never too late to make some positive changes!
Best video ever.❤️👍
Glad you think so :)
Seems ive done all odds this
I have done all four mistakes 😢
How do you talk to teen when all positive talk and give many chances to do tasks but teen doesn’t take it seriously and not do what you asked. So many times i did and I lose my patient to talk and end up of yelling or cursing . Again I end up clean or do laundry for my teen
Thank you
You're welcome
My kid is lying too much. What can I do?
The same here. We had an open conversation till this year. He is now 11 grade and all the sudden he’s changing 😢
Well he obviously fears something. Why else would he lie, other than trying to avoid some consequence.
So what we suppose to talk to our teenagers??
I am a teenager and i am been struggling 😭😔😮💨😐
Hold on🫂
U got this
You work for 40yrs to have $1M in your retirement, meanwhile some people are putting just $10K in crypto from just few months ago and now they are multimillionaires..
That's great! I'm motivated too! How can we achieve this challenge?
I agree, I invested in shiba coin and BTC last year and now I am bullish
Since 2018 I reached out to Mrs Sonia ,I’ve been debt free! Bought myself a car,house and an Amazon parrot☺️I love parrots
Bullshit
Let's all chip in 10,000 & split the difference
Awesome 👌
Thanks!
What do you suggest for a still at home 19 1/2 yr old daughter who sometimes screams at you?. No name calling or curse words, but can scream at the top of her lungs She scared my adult GS yesterday!! . Ready to show her the door..
Mind if I ask how the situation has evolved? I was thinking, there needs to be a game plan for them to move out and time to prepare, say, 6 months. Support and Tough love can be the best in the long term.
@@cobblecatttbro if ur watching parenting videos you’d know that “tough love” isn’t good if used regularly it won’t help at all u need too be straightforward but open and kind
When we were teens, I really can’t recall all dissection of emotions and behavior then we still did good degrees and studies,
So is it only people having issues with their teens watching these videos ? I believe so
It’s not up to a kid also to direct the lives of their parents not slaves
I've made most of these mistakes 😥
No worries, it's never too late to make some positive changes.
n4 for me totally :(((
Kids are too soft these days. I do t think this is that tricky. Teach them right and wrong, call them out for the good and bad, don’t let them get away with BS, talk to them about their day, and if they want to whine and b1tch about it, let them and don’t change. They will grow up to be responsible good people, but you might not be as close.
Never scold children
Wish i had seen this video earlier ive been doing all the wring stuffs 😢
No worries, it's never too late!
Im guilty of All 🙏
No worries, it's never too late to change
Parents aren’t perfect. But it’s important not have an ego about it and just admit to ur child u made a mistake. Makes you admirable
You don't kids.
I'm sorry, what do you mean by that?
Great info thanks. My need to to move out of the nest
Bull poopy be a parent first then do the best you can I raised 4 kids they all are functional adults.
This kind of liberal parenting is the cause of the out of control teenager epidemic we face today.
Nagging
Or give your teen the porn talk, sit them down and educate them - but then tell them they still can’t watch it
So you actually DO shame sexuality and you think their too dumb for anything you JUST told them 😂
I said to my daughter not to talk if she could only say bad words or unnecessary when she was 5.She became silent , introvert and not openly having conversations to me .She is 18 now,she act older than me, criticize me if I say wrongs in my sentence, ungrammatical sentence.she less interest to talk to me more
Well I mean self explanatory if u tell ur kid not too talk when they have bad words then any bad feeling ect is never going too be spoken about you should create an environment where ur kid wants too talk too u no matter what
Snek.thank you