@@JamesMaddox-s1qof course you can but there are countless rounds better suited for the job. It’s sort of like the saying “a thousand dollars is a lot to owe but not a lot to have” as in.. I wouldn’t want to be hit with a 22lr but I also wouldn’t carry such a small round for self defense.
@clqudy4750 I've seen both, but never in the same person. Have learnt to be wary of exceedingly charismatic people, however fun they can be to be around.
@@djentile7773 Pfft. As if your god can do anything. That dude made his own choices and was the author of his own fate. Nothing to do with some invented entity.
@It-is-me...Melsie The kid made the choices he learned from his parents- whom were objectively bad and unethical. They reaped what they have sown amd it destroyed them. Plenty such stories in the Bible warning us of this, but they ignored it all. You are right though, God has nothing to do with trivial matters like these.
@@mongoose6685 Do you think your god should have sicced some hungry bears on to him while he was still a child? Good ole bible stories. Your theory too takes even more responsibility away from the individual. We're now also blaming his parents as well as your god for this individuals actions. Perhaps we should be sympathising with him then.
Not really. I graduated high school in 1990 and continued to university. One guy from my high school went to the same uni, and his parents bought him a condo before enrollment (no,we weren't friends, he was the childhood friend of one of my classmates but the dude was a Hitler obsessed incel and one of the most repulsive people I've ever met. I can only imagine that his parents bought him the condo to get him out of the house permanently because no one would want that nastyass creature living under same roof. The dude was also a self absorbed tw*t and insanely fugly. Quite the catch)
I wonder if divorce was a low tax ploy to extract money from the company, and close it. The wife in particular was well aware of opportunities for drawing money to herself.
Yeah, but there was more to it. His mother sounds tyrannical. Not justification for murder, but it must've been difficult having such a controlling mom. She wasn't necessarily controlling by wanting him to get a job and go to college, but her personality makes it seem like she probably rode him over everything in a way that was constantly negative, demanding, and hurtful. I've seen cases of entitlement and greed, but this one doesn't fit that bill in my opinion.
I really like this new thing you are doing, Dr. Grande. Talking to us about your thoughts on things after you are done with the original story, highlighting your thoughts and ideas about things and giving us more info. I am really enjoying these chats. Thank you
When I was a child my family was very poor. I remember having one pair of socks, and each sock had a hole where the big toe goes. I have about 100 pairs of socks now because I fear running out of socks. lol My wife thinks it's weird but I don't care. I won't go without socks any time soon.
You do that too huh ? Welcome to club Brother .- Trama Bonding Us Have Nots Now Have Plenty because we EARNED IT I buy Plenty Socks and Underwears and Shorts and Dress shoes I Really in to Signet Rings and Gentlemen Rings ( Pinky Rings) And Old World Novels Like John Milton Paradise Lost Guess I like Nice things even when I didn't have it I Always build towards it I Appreciate By not having Because it taught me Perseverance....and Never Give Up 💯
Andra might have bought the condominium for Ashton because she saw it as an investment, not because she was being frivolous. I'm willing to bet her name was on the deed.
We get a terrible name. We're scrappy, wiley lil predator/scavengers. I don't know how we get associated with the insulated, affluent predation of fully domesticated apes completely sheltered from the full scope of reality we exist and operate in.
This kid attended Seattle Central Community College, which is right across the street from the CHOP/CHAZ area that popped up during the protests of 2020. CHAZ was the Capitol Hill Autonomous Zone where homeless people and activists overran the East precinct of the Seattle Police Department and took over an eight square block area in Seattle's Capitol Hill neighborhood. It was an absolute embarrassment for all of us lifelong Seattelites.
Yeah and a bunch of people got shot and the commies that ran the place refused to give any info about the shooters to the cops each time and the cops couldn't get there until after the fact so the murderers were never found. Crazy how that insurrection was either treated as a good thing or no big deal by the media because the left did it. If right wingers had created CHAZ/CHOP, a bunch of SWAT officers would have stormed in and arrested every single person involved. I mean, they wouldn't have been able to set it up in the first place because right wing armed insurrectionists would be taken seriously from the start and everyone besieging the precinct would have been shot.
Give it a month and the children will be speaking Spanish. Children will learn quite quickly another language. It's nothing unusual to get a bilingual nanny - usually Spanish and English and ask them to only speak Spanish to your children. Your children will speak the language like a native. But you'd want BI-lengual.
that babysitter should have been arrested for manslaughter. what police officer would believe a wiggling baby drowned their sibling and the person holding that child wouldn’t pull her out immediately🤷♀️waiting so long that baby couldn’t be saved. i’ve personal brought a child back to life in a horrible swimming accident when i was a teen. i was babysitting their neighbours children when i heard screaming. the mother didn’t know CPR that little girl hadn’t taken a breath for over 8 mins and it only took me 45 seconds to get her to cough up water and start to breath/cry. . . i’ve heard of children being out for more time then that too. who made it. so her story doesn’t makes sense.
She was probably watching tv and found the dead child hours later, then tried to act like it was a freak accident and she was very attentive the whole time… and it’s the police fault for coming late and not speaking Spanish…
Careful with that mindset. It's not healthy. Remember, people that show no sympathy for others might have traits associated with a narcissistic or antisocial personality. You wouldn't want that to be you. _Narcissistic Personality, Lack of Empathy: Difficulty understanding or caring about others' feeling_ Just remember that nobody has to live a perfect ideal to still be a considered victims. It's fine to criticise a victims traits, but be more open to being sympathetic.
@@skycloud4802 Are you calling the guy narcissist because he finds it hard to find sympathy for the victim? You dont have to feel sympathy for them to know murder is wrong. But holy fuck they were all horrible people
Why in the world would Brad blame his wife for the child's death, when the babysitter was supposed to be looking after her? Why would she not grab the baby out of the water immediately? That sounds really crazy!
If one baby is in a high chair, and one is drowning, why not just go to the drowning baby? I guess it was just an upsetting situation. Also, the baby sitter did not behave like she could swim herself which is not criminal, yet not safe when there is so much Access to water. You can hire these skills if you're not cheap.
The hot tub story is absolute bullshit. The nanny lost track of the daughter and didn't notice until she was already floating face down and dead... CLEARLY. Otherwise she would just pulled her out of the hot tub immediately
Rich kids not always messed up but mostly all Marijuana smokers are headed for demonic influence just the facts mind alteration always dangerous excessively self centered.
Because when your bubble has never been burst in a truly meaningful way, you never learn how harsh and permanent the world can actually be. When you coast off your parent’s success you never need to learn, develop skills or mature.
The last time I was this early, Dr. Grande was still in high school! Thank you so much for speculating and providing insightful analysis, as always, Dr. Grande!
The fact that so many cold-blooded criminals love the Menendez brothers, and the Menendez brothers have repeatedly expressed their admiration for other cold-blooded criminals, is a major reason why I'm not upset that they are behind bars. Somehow I suspect Dr. Grande would agree, though I don't remember watching any of his videos on the topic.
I've watched a lot of true crime shows about spoiled children bumping off the parentals. It seems like these rich parents would benefit from hiring therapists instead of nannies to keep the kids from straying too far off the center line. Or at least consider wearing armor plated under garments! 😅
Yeah cheap grifters ain't hirin' no $100/hr per kid vs a nanny they could exploit over immigration status if she could, some of these rich creeps keep those nannies like slaves, take away passports, etc
@@txtan2000 Highly depends on where you live. Here in the Bible Belt, there's an extremely high percentage of Christian therapists, which as a non-Christian I would not want psychological input from someone with that worldview.
And clips don’t come that large! He’d have to reload. My handgun clip only holds about 7 bullets. You might get something SLIGHTLY larger with a rifle. But not 22 bullets.
I think you took what Dr Grande said too literally. She adopted the children several years after the accident with the hottub. I think it was a decision to bring a sister into their home for Alexis since the other children were older. There is no greater pain than loosing a child, so I believe it would be hard to estimate how someone would or should respond.
@ I understand that, but I just don’t like the concept of replacing a living being that I love as if they were a toaster. That’s all I’m saying, it was a poor choice of words.
I've always believed my late grandmother had OCPD. Rigidity, control, perfectionism, anger. She got mad at me when I had insomnia because I unfolded a blanket to curl up with a book in the living room. She didn't believe that I would properly fold the blanket back up. Not an isolated incident. Her mouth was constantly clenched shut. She cleaned to perfection and couldn't handle anything out of place.
Negligence on the babysitters part. The sitter likely became focused on the younger child. Likely feeding him since he was in a highchair, and failed to monitor Sabrina. Unfortunately, uncovered pools and toddlers are recipes for tragedy.
I will never understand spoiled rich kids who actually blame their parents who gave them everything. My brother and I grew up with upper middle class parents who later grew beyond that. While they helped my brother and I out financially, we were always very grateful for anything, and never assumed we have a right to the money especially my father who worked very hard for his money and came from a poor background. Also, my love for my parents was not borne out of the money they provided for us. My brother and I were always there when they needed us, no matter how tough my father could be on us. I'll admit we were and are spoiled compared to so many others, but we were never indulged with things like Ashton was, and we were expected to get good grades, work hard at our jobs, etc. I don't know what the difference is between spoiled kids who end up being so resentful and the rest of us? I guess ultimately it is how we interacted with parents and whether we felt love from them?
@@melissaharris3389 My mom thought that if only I had been a son then her alcoholic husband would have stopped drinking. That was it. Irrational thinking 🧐
@@ViewerNumber9 Bruh she hired an incompetent nanny who didn't speak enough English to properly get medical attention for the children idk about u but if my kid was in the care of someone else I would have made sure they had an emergency plan on place maybe with a nice binder with the address local emergency service numbers and since she isn't fluent in English maybe some dialogue in both langues going through how she would get 911 to the house most efficiently but maybe im just a victim blaimer
Why did he blame his wife for the child's death? That wasn't clear? What do her mental health problems have to do with the nanny's incompetence when supervising the child?
People tend to come together or blame each other with the death of a child. It's likely Susan hired the babysitter, so he blamed her for Sabrina's death. During an acrimonious divorce, spouses often accuse each other of all sorts of things.
It's a women's job to raise a watch children in the usa, especially Jewish * minority* families. Her focus was on her 1 duty of taking care of her own family. Generally older couples too. Men: Provide and protect. women: nurture and love.
@@melissaharris3389exactly, but these parents should have had common sense; hire a sitter or au pair with active CPR certification, and their pool(s) should have been gated and locked properly.
I’ve worked as a nanny for rich people- the parents don’t want to spend much time with their kids. Supervising the help- that’s about all the attention they spare.
Dr Grande always manages to find obscure interesting details. The ugly qualities mentioned that people that liked the mom described always knock me out. He delves very deep.
I would like Dr Grande to analyse the case of the subscriber who was irrationally pleased to press the like button and watch it change from 199 to 200. And who imagines that 999 to 1000 would possibly be even better.
One week of food hardship traumatized her. And she turned this weakness into a strength in the business world, but a weakness is a weakness irregardless.
When my family moved house when I was 8, my mum threw a big party, shortly after which we ate dried beans for a week. Although I too have run out of money a few times since, I've never forgotten it
I like the new background and enjoy seeing you a bit more expressive with your body language and facial expressions. I prefer it over how deadpan you were in older videos
Living in the area this was big local news. Dr Grande you have provided insigh about the mom I had not heard. It puzzles me that all focus was on the son yet no reporting on what may have motivated his crime. Thank you for always helping me to understand why some do what they do.
Self discipline and ability to cope with problems were never taught to mom or son. My guess is Narcissistic personality disorder with sociopathic tendencies. They always play the victim.
Highly intelligent parents would research and send a child like this to *apprentice* in something he can focus on and enjoy rather than flounder alone without direction and removed from family in another state. Alas, most people do not bother to observe their children's innate skills early on, let alone encourage them within their interests and talents. Have YOU ever thought of this option rather than following the status quo?
I wonder if after spending time in prison with people who possibly grew up on welfare without a father figure or may have been physically and mentally abused who may have gone hungry, and who certainly didn’t have their own condo. I wonder if he realize how privileged he was seeing how so many people grew up with next to nothing.
OCPD also has overeating as a lifelong problem. This is a striking characteristic of that disorder which largely remains unresolved. There's quite a bit of psychopathology in this family generally. The root rot of the family tree.
Very interesting case analysis Dr Grande. I'm really intrigued by your comment at the end of the video where you said that 'OCPD can cause the behavior of what the person is most afraid of'. Could this also be the case in someone who is afraid of getting divorced? I ask because my wife divorced me (I was husband number five, she was my first, and to date, only spouse) without really giving me a good reason. She says she doesn't trust me, but I never did anything to break her trust. My son-in-law says he has seen people self-sabotage before. It's a mystery that I'm still trying to decipher, even though it's been nearly a year.
I can’t believe you wanted to be number 5. Be more careful in future. Maybe some counseling or a life coach. Hike the Pacific crest Trail or the Camino in Spain. You seem like a thoughtful caring person.
Great additional commentary which deviates from your usual pro forma style. Especially around the speculative diagnosis and medical rationale backing your thoughts. Keep it up 👍
Never understand how someone can be awarded an amount of money in divorce, that is so significant it bankrupts a company. If the settlement bankrupts the company, the judge assigned an unrealistically high value to the company.
I don’t care what characteristics she had! The fact that she bought her son a 250$ condominium plus a car put him into school she was a good Mother! What kinda monster you have to be to do this to your family! It is amazing
A condominium is nothing compared to a childhood with no love in it, I assume this mother is cruel, sadistic, unfair, biased towards other children, and did not want to have Ashton. She probably wished she never had him, and told him that as as a child.
Not defending the creep, but I would be shocked if there were no strings attached to the condo and car where she could take them away for reasons. Just a means of maintaining control while trying to look generous to outsiders. Even if there were no strings it gives her the opportunity to tell others "I bought him a condo and car and he treats me this way...etc"
This case seems like another case of a sociopathic spoiled brat who lied and avoided responsibility by playing video games. This case predated the Chandler Halderson case of pretending to be enrolled in college, lying to his parents, playing video games all day, and once caught, he murdered his parents. I think you focused a lot on the victim and not so much on the perpetrator. The woman may have been unpleasant, but she didn’t deserve to be killed. I’ve seen documentaries on this case, and I believe he was close to being caught at not being in college, which led him to the pathological decision to murder his parents and potentially his siblings. His brother is permanently paralyzed. The brother that the perpetrator was most angry at, who was successful, ended up taking care of his younger siblings and ensuring that they had a proper family home with him. Chandler Halderson was also jealous of his older brother, who was successful and had graduated college. Actually a number cases of grown children, pretending to attend college, getting caught, and then murdering their parent(s). The lack of responsibility, avolition, and apathy among these cases needs to be further considered, as similar cases seem to be occurring more frequently (in 2020, a young woman, Sydney, killed her mother by striking her in the head with an iron skillet and stabbing her repeatedly in the neck and body after her mother discovered that she had been pretending to attend college after failing out)
I just look at that woman with her history of immersion in moneymaking and business .........I see something not quite right with her I take her husband's word for it .
a moment of patience in a moment of anger saves a thousand moments of regret.
*lifetime of regret
@@genericamerican7574same shit
And very likely lives as well 🙈….
Except that there are years in the making that leads to that one moment of insanity.
Words of wisdom!
“One thing was for sure: they were never going to reconcile. In March 2000, the couple reconciled.”
His humor is so deadpan it’s hard to get sometimes!
You gotta love that delivery, Should have seen that twist coming, 😂.
Every time😂😂😂😂
Ahh, sarcasm. It's an artform when he does it. 😂
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He could’ve comfortably played video games his whole life… But chose this instead. Ridiculous.
Well no, he had to get a part time job. Oh the horror.
I’m sure he was worried he wouldn’t be able to continue his lifestyle once his parents found out that he dropped out. But yeah, crazy
You think he'll come to regret it? lmao
Can't say a 22 LR can't be used in Self defense Now ..
@@JamesMaddox-s1qof course you can but there are countless rounds better suited for the job. It’s sort of like the saying “a thousand dollars is a lot to owe but not a lot to have” as in.. I wouldn’t want to be hit with a 22lr but I also wouldn’t carry such a small round for self defense.
My favorite recurring Dr Grande clinical term is “exceedingly creepy”
Yes exceedingly creepy "
To be fair a lot of these people are indeed exceedingly creepy. 😮
Dr Grande knows best, as a moderately creepy man himself.
@@decorumlopez9147he is not
@@r12e5p like it's a medical term lol
Kid got 2 life sentences, an extra 100 years for the gun, and the "Exceptionally Creepy" badge from Dr Grande. Trifecta!
I'm still struggling to figure out how someone can be both 'charismatic' and 'exceedingly creepy'.
@magnusseolh7053 And exceedingly charismatic would also be bad!
@clqudy4750 I've seen both, but never in the same person. Have learnt to be wary of exceedingly charismatic people, however fun they can be to be around.
@@magnusseolh7053Ted bundy
@@magnusseolh7053psychopaths can turn on one and off the other.
Life served on a silver platter, and yet you choose to throw it all away like this.
the paradox of hedonism
Some people put all their trust and faith in riches, but God won't allow it their whole life.
@@djentile7773 Pfft. As if your god can do anything. That dude made his own choices and was the author of his own fate. Nothing to do with some invented entity.
@It-is-me...Melsie The kid made the choices he learned from his parents- whom were objectively bad and unethical. They reaped what they have sown amd it destroyed them. Plenty such stories in the Bible warning us of this, but they ignored it all. You are right though, God has nothing to do with trivial matters like these.
@@mongoose6685 Do you think your god should have sicced some hungry bears on to him while he was still a child? Good ole bible stories.
Your theory too takes even more responsibility away from the individual. We're now also blaming his parents as well as your god for this individuals actions. Perhaps we should be sympathising with him then.
Having a parent buy you a condominium and a car so you can attend the local community college has to be a first.
uhhh why not spend a little money on the kid's education instead?
@@adotintheshark4848 Because they already did?!?!?!
Not really. I graduated high school in 1990 and continued to university. One guy from my high school went to the same uni, and his parents bought him a condo before enrollment (no,we weren't friends, he was the childhood friend of one of my classmates but the dude was a Hitler obsessed incel and one of the most repulsive people I've ever met. I can only imagine that his parents bought him the condo to get him out of the house permanently because no one would want that nastyass creature living under same roof. The dude was also a self absorbed tw*t and insanely fugly. Quite the catch)
@@adotintheshark4848I Guess he was not a good student and wouldn't even get accepted in a better university
you to get out more
When you're googling how to get away with murder, you've already lost that battle.
So true
I wonder if divorce was a low tax ploy to extract money from the company, and close it.
The wife in particular was well aware of opportunities for drawing money to herself.
youre smart bud
That's definitely what happened. I never would've thought of that wow
that's what I immediately thought. rich people are the best grifters.
Brilliant!! Yet DIABOLICAL.. What a world huh???
Horrible story about another rich, spoiled brat... sad 😔
Yeah, but there was more to it. His mother sounds tyrannical. Not justification for murder, but it must've been difficult having such a controlling mom. She wasn't necessarily controlling by wanting him to get a job and go to college, but her personality makes it seem like she probably rode him over everything in a way that was constantly negative, demanding, and hurtful. I've seen cases of entitlement and greed, but this one doesn't fit that bill in my opinion.
@I_Love_Rainbows510 How do you know ALL THAT?
I feel bad for his siblings, especially the one that was left paralyzed.
@mildredpierce4506 I agree with you 💯
@cosmicgirl1116 I watched the video! You can't seriously watch it and say she was a loving mother!!
“Some of these descriptions came from people….who liked her” 😭😭😭😭
I have a mom with this, these people are selfless but completely narcissistic and closed minded. It’s ironic.
@@Air_Serpent
*cough* me too *cough* It's absolute lunacy!
when a man behaves like that - he becomes a president. but , a woman....horrors.
I really like this new thing you are doing, Dr. Grande. Talking to us about your thoughts on things after you are done with the original story, highlighting your thoughts and ideas about things and giving us more info. I am really enjoying these chats. Thank you
I remember my first dr grande video
Lmao right. Dudes talking about a "new thing" dr grande is doing when its all hes been doing on his channel for years😂@@agnsprinting
It's kinda cool, isn't it?😄👍🏾 I was like, "Wait he's thinking 'out loud', to his viewers!"
Dr G's sense of humour is to die for!!!😂😂😂
When I was a child my family was very poor. I remember having one pair of socks, and each sock had a hole where the big toe goes. I have about 100 pairs of socks now because I fear running out of socks. lol My wife thinks it's weird but I don't care. I won't go without socks any time soon.
Same lol
Same! 😂
Should have kept your toe nails trimmed, toe nails can shred socks.
@@WilliamEschenfelder - LIke yeah...! I mean, if not for long toenails, one pair of socks should last a lifetime!
You do that too huh ? Welcome to club Brother .- Trama Bonding Us Have Nots Now Have Plenty because we EARNED IT I buy Plenty Socks and Underwears and Shorts and Dress shoes I Really in to Signet Rings and Gentlemen Rings ( Pinky Rings) And Old World Novels Like John Milton Paradise Lost Guess I like Nice things even when I didn't have it I Always build towards it I Appreciate By not having Because it taught me Perseverance....and Never Give Up 💯
"Minority Electronics" I had to play it back to make sure I heard that right. Well, I mean any tool you have in the toolbox to get ahead, I guess. Lol
Affirmative action benefits white women only.
Total joke. Not surprised though.
Andra might have bought the condominium for Ashton because she saw it as an investment, not because she was being frivolous. I'm willing to bet her name was on the deed.
"Soulless Jackal" is pretty intense, coming from anyone😬
And I thought "drunk jackal" was rough.
We get a terrible name. We're scrappy, wiley lil predator/scavengers. I don't know how we get associated with the insulated, affluent predation of fully domesticated apes completely sheltered from the full scope of reality we exist and operate in.
@@VladtheDragon-v4cyou are not a jackal, you’re human. Get a grip on reality
@@greyghosts9419 It's a metaphor dummy, and an apropos one.
@@greyghosts9419 If I thought it was real I'd be Vlad the Jackal now wouldn't I? :D durr.
"Minority Electronics": She was definitely capable of rational thought when she designed that grift.
"Minority Electronics" is a bit offensive to me. I don't think she was underprivileged, because she was Jewish... strange.
Dei-laundering is a huge grift here in Canada such a scam
@@cosmicgirl1116 Same thing with the whole "women owned" grift.
Grift?! When I think of disadvantaged minorities, highly educated jewish immediately comes to mind.
@@OtisFlint I agree with you, because I am both and I don't exactly consider it to be an inferior aspect, especially in America... a melting pot.
This kid attended Seattle Central Community College, which is right across the street from the CHOP/CHAZ area that popped up during the protests of 2020. CHAZ was the Capitol Hill Autonomous Zone where homeless people and activists overran the East precinct of the Seattle Police Department and took over an eight square block area in Seattle's Capitol Hill neighborhood. It was an absolute embarrassment for all of us lifelong Seattelites.
CHAZ is an embarrassment, but what does it have to do with any of this?
I'm a Tennessean, and I was embarrassed for you
Yeah and a bunch of people got shot and the commies that ran the place refused to give any info about the shooters to the cops each time and the cops couldn't get there until after the fact so the murderers were never found. Crazy how that insurrection was either treated as a good thing or no big deal by the media because the left did it. If right wingers had created CHAZ/CHOP, a bunch of SWAT officers would have stormed in and arrested every single person involved. I mean, they wouldn't have been able to set it up in the first place because right wing armed insurrectionists would be taken seriously from the start and everyone besieging the precinct would have been shot.
Why would anyone hire a babysitter who only speaks a language that their young children can't understand?
Cause those young children are now bilingual 😂
Give it a month and the children will be speaking Spanish. Children will learn quite quickly another language. It's nothing unusual to get a bilingual nanny - usually Spanish and English and ask them to only speak Spanish to your children. Your children will speak the language like a native. But you'd want BI-lengual.
Why would anyone hire a babysitter who is incapable of keeping your baby alive?
Or even inside the house?? @@ViewerNumber9
because it's cheaper.
It also sounds like he didn't have the best parents. Bringing in two extra kids while one sounds misunderstood makes me wonder.
Thats life ..Noone to blame but himself
One thing was for sure, they were never going to reconcile. In March 2000, the couple reconciled.
This one got me.
Me too!! Dr. G slays me!😂
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Sarcasm dipstick 😂😂😂
LMFAOO
"Unfortunately, the 911 operator didn't speak Spanish". OR,.Unfortunately the nanny didn't speak English..
Or have common sense to pull the child from shallow water. I'm still trying to figure out how stupid you have to be to let that happen
Unfortunately, *for her* but yeah point taken
Or unfortunately we don’t have a universal language. Weird it’s like you can always write it another way
@@frogslat4579Not at the time but nowadays English seems to be the universal language
In California today, everything on the phone is bilingual. I did not live there in 1992, but it has been that way since 1999.
That babysitter story doesn't sound right at all.
that babysitter should have been arrested for manslaughter. what police officer would believe a wiggling baby drowned their sibling and the person holding that child wouldn’t pull her out immediately🤷♀️waiting so long that baby couldn’t be saved. i’ve personal brought a child back to life in a horrible swimming accident when i was a teen. i was babysitting their neighbours children when i heard screaming. the mother didn’t know CPR that little girl hadn’t taken a breath for over 8 mins and it only took me 45 seconds to get her to cough up water and start to breath/cry. . . i’ve heard of children being out for more time then that too. who made it. so her story doesn’t makes sense.
8 mins?? yeah ok.
She was probably watching tv and found the dead child hours later, then tried to act like it was a freak accident and she was very attentive the whole time… and it’s the police fault for coming late and not speaking Spanish…
Listening to this I'm finding it hard to find sympathy for anybody
@@JohnBaker-vm1wf The one I have sympathy for is the poor sibling, that the psycho put in a wheelchair.
Me too.
Careful with that mindset. It's not healthy. Remember, people that show no sympathy for others might have traits associated with a narcissistic or antisocial personality. You wouldn't want that to be you.
_Narcissistic Personality, Lack of Empathy: Difficulty understanding or caring about others' feeling_
Just remember that nobody has to live a perfect ideal to still be a considered victims. It's fine to criticise a victims traits, but be more open to being sympathetic.
@@skycloud4802 I'm not sympathetic either. Maybe I should check myself into a psychiatrist's hospital... wait, do we even have those here in Africa?
@@skycloud4802 Are you calling the guy narcissist because he finds it hard to find sympathy for the victim?
You dont have to feel sympathy for them to know murder is wrong. But holy fuck they were all horrible people
Why in the world would Brad blame his wife for the child's death, when the babysitter was supposed to be looking after her? Why would she not grab the baby out of the water immediately? That sounds really crazy!
That's how it is in Southern California.
If one baby is in a high chair, and one is drowning, why not just go to the drowning baby? I guess it was just an upsetting situation. Also, the baby sitter did not behave like she could swim herself which is not criminal, yet not safe when there is so much Access to water. You can hire these skills if you're not cheap.
By the time i got half way through this video i felt like i watched 6 hours with all the different drama
@@hopeausbyn1734 Didn’t it happenin the hot tub not in the ocean so then it would matter if the babysitter could swim or not ??
The hot tub story is absolute bullshit.
The nanny lost track of the daughter and didn't notice until she was already floating face down and dead... CLEARLY.
Otherwise she would just pulled her out of the hot tub immediately
It's surprising how much I learn about firearms from Dr grande. He knows his stuff.
Proof positive that money does not make one happy. Therefore, I shall be happy with my mediocre life😅
money is truly the root of all evil
@@citizenoftheearth6 money itself isn't, the *love* of money is the root of all evil (forgive me, my grandpa used to always correct me on this lol)
Rich kids rarely kno how good their lives are until it crumbles around them. it astounds me how many get involved in situations like this.
Grant amato definitely comes to mind.
Rich kids not always messed up but mostly all Marijuana smokers are headed for demonic influence just the facts mind alteration always dangerous excessively self centered.
This is true
Because when your bubble has never been burst in a truly meaningful way, you never learn how harsh and permanent the world can actually be. When you coast off your parent’s success you never need to learn, develop skills or mature.
something missing in this story. parents sounded like extreme malignant narcissists.
Kid does too, don't try and make sense of this
I've yet to meet rich people who aren't 😮
@@FunUrth4AllRight?
It's Cali
@jalsr.2375 it's people and people are everywhere 🫤
Dr. Grande has the market cornered on the deadpan comedic delivery of true crime stories.
@@tarotfortheheathens9556 watch Martin deCoder languages analyst you will like it
The last time I was this early, Dr. Grande was still in high school!
Thank you so much for speculating and providing insightful analysis, as always, Dr. Grande!
The fact that so many cold-blooded criminals love the Menendez brothers, and the Menendez brothers have repeatedly expressed their admiration for other cold-blooded criminals, is a major reason why I'm not upset that they are behind bars.
Somehow I suspect Dr. Grande would agree, though I don't remember watching any of his videos on the topic.
I've watched a lot of true crime shows about spoiled children bumping off the parentals. It seems like these rich parents would benefit from hiring therapists instead of nannies to keep the kids from straying too far off the center line. Or at least consider wearing armor plated under garments! 😅
I can't say that I ttust therapists all that much nowadays. Most seem like new-aged, hippie-trippie airheads.
Yeah cheap grifters ain't hirin' no $100/hr per kid vs a nanny they could exploit over immigration status if she could, some of these rich creeps keep those nannies like slaves, take away passports, etc
@@txtan2000 Agreed.
@@txtan2000 Highly depends on where you live. Here in the Bible Belt, there's an extremely high percentage of Christian therapists, which as a non-Christian I would not want psychological input from someone with that worldview.
If I ever go off the deep end and make it to one of the Doc's videos, I hope I am not described as 'exceedingly creepy'.
If you are aware of at least that one consequence, you sound like you are at a safe distance from that edge. 😉
I wonder where "exceptionally creepy" appears in the DSM.
In the DSMX(10)
The field is working on including it in the 6th edition 🫡
@@Floydian4everr That's a good one. I was going to say Appendix G Section 5: Incels.
Just a reminder, I'm not diagnosing anybody in this video; only speculating about how a gun can fired accidentally 22 times in a row like this.
iPad kids are growing up so fast 😢
I’d normally say it’s impossible, but then the Sig P320 came out.
Things got a mind of its own
@@bulldaggerwatkins190lmfao
And clips don’t come that large! He’d have to reload. My handgun clip only holds about 7 bullets. You might get something SLIGHTLY larger with a rifle. But not 22 bullets.
Not sure I’ve ever met a mother that self evaluated as “wonderful”
good point, any decent mom doubts she’s a decent mom
"Andra went from potato chips to computer chips to a chip on her shoulder."🤣🤣🤣
Andra and Brad are the ones who brought Ashton into the world and trained him up to be the adult he was. Sad story all around.
Hoping Dr G will do a final analysis on the Delphi murders after Richard Allen was found guilty on all counts today
So she was murdered even though she did not "light up the room".
💥😲💥
Important lesson...
Stop 🛑 ….. 😂😂😂😂😂😂
There goes my strategy to avoid being murdered
First case I've seen lol
How does one replace a lost child? When my dog passed, I never thought about replacing him, even though I eventually got another dog.
Same way.
Same here, with my dog and that was 1 1/2 years ago
I think you took what Dr Grande said too literally. She adopted the children several years after the accident with the hottub. I think it was a decision to bring a sister into their home for Alexis since the other children were older. There is no greater pain than loosing a child, so I believe it would be hard to estimate how someone would or should respond.
So…you…did…replace it.
@ I understand that, but I just don’t like the concept of replacing a living being that I love as if they were a toaster. That’s all I’m saying, it was a poor choice of words.
Not a likable family by any stretch of the imagination.
In all fairness we don't know if the other kids were spoiled brats like their disassociated brother.
$1 million house was downsizing lol
In California…. Thats not even upper class
In CA a million bucks is nothing that’s like a apartment in a half decent are in LA.
the most surfing champion name: brad 🏄♂️
rip
Kelly Slater.
Kelly slater and laird Hamilton
So many more fun surfers than Brad
It's not a good name.
Laird ruined Teapoo, and Smelly Krater sold out
Those words came from plp who 'liked her' I wonder what the ones who did NOT like her said scheeezzz....🤨
Dude looks like an undead warlock for sure
Creepy looking
Yes.😮
I've always believed my late grandmother had OCPD. Rigidity, control, perfectionism, anger. She got mad at me when I had insomnia because I unfolded a blanket to curl up with a book in the living room. She didn't believe that I would properly fold the blanket back up. Not an isolated incident. Her mouth was constantly clenched shut. She cleaned to perfection and couldn't handle anything out of place.
What's ocpd
@@BruceLee-fd7uw look it up. obsessive-compulsive personality disorder
My mom 100%
@@BruceLee-fd7uwObsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder
@Floydian4everr I hear ya!!
Thanks to Dr Grande, I used his term “clothing challenged” in a real life conversation the other day 😂
Ashton is probably allowed to play his video games in prison, as long as the games don't contain violent content. So he's fine.
Brick breaker
Sabrina’s death sounds suspicious
Negligence on the babysitters part. The sitter likely became focused on the younger child. Likely feeding him since he was in a highchair, and failed to monitor Sabrina. Unfortunately, uncovered pools and toddlers are recipes for tragedy.
@@melissaharris3389 And then blamed the toddler for knocking her into the spa. Kind of disgusting.
These people are obviously broken on every level. Everything they touch becomes broken
I will never understand spoiled rich kids who actually blame their parents who gave them everything. My brother and I grew up with upper middle class parents who later grew beyond that. While they helped my brother and I out financially, we were always very grateful for anything, and never assumed we have a right to the money especially my father who worked very hard for his money and came from a poor background. Also, my love for my parents was not borne out of the money they provided for us. My brother and I were always there when they needed us, no matter how tough my father could be on us. I'll admit we were and are spoiled compared to so many others, but we were never indulged with things like Ashton was, and we were expected to get good grades, work hard at our jobs, etc. I don't know what the difference is between spoiled kids who end up being so resentful and the rest of us? I guess ultimately it is how we interacted with parents and whether we felt love from them?
Is it just me, or does it seem like this video ended abruptly?
I wonder why he was the least liked child
Narcissists often chose a family member as a scapegoat and project their own short comings on to them. There's little reason behind the it.
The way that your mom was described, it wouldn’t surprise me if she did have favorites among her children
@@melissaharris3389 My mom thought that if only I had been a son then her alcoholic husband would have stopped drinking. That was it. Irrational thinking 🧐
@@mademsoisellerhapsodystop projecting your own failures onto your loving mother.
He left the rifle in the car rather than dumping it in a convenient river?
A river isn’t a magical portal that gets rid of stuff
Good parents money does not make.
Victim blaming a hobby of yours?
@@ViewerNumber9 Bruh she hired an incompetent nanny who didn't speak enough English to properly get medical attention for the children idk about u but if my kid was in the care of someone else I would have made sure they had an emergency plan on place maybe with a nice binder with the address local emergency service numbers and since she isn't fluent in English maybe some dialogue in both langues going through how she would get 911 to the house most efficiently but maybe im just a victim blaimer
@@Gracie-gf7lo Thank you. Case rested.
Thank you for your analysis, Dr. Grande!
Why did he blame his wife for the child's death? That wasn't clear?
What do her mental health problems have to do with the nanny's incompetence when supervising the child?
People tend to come together or blame each other with the death of a child. It's likely Susan hired the babysitter, so he blamed her for Sabrina's death.
During an acrimonious divorce, spouses often accuse each other of all sorts of things.
It's a women's job to raise a watch children in the usa, especially Jewish * minority* families. Her focus was on her 1 duty of taking care of her own family.
Generally older couples too.
Men: Provide and protect.
women: nurture and love.
@@melissaharris3389exactly, but these parents should have had common sense; hire a sitter or au pair with active CPR certification, and their pool(s) should have been gated and locked properly.
I’ve worked as a nanny for rich people- the parents don’t want to spend much time with their kids. Supervising the help- that’s about all the attention they spare.
@@loulabelle5082 I love my comments, getting removed.
Great analysis Dr G and love your quiet humour.
Poor little Landon. This is so tragic and unfair.
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Never heard of a double murder where, somehow, the victims were spared so much pending damage. Dad from his disease. Mom from.... Herself.
Prius as a getaway car, thats hilarious , if not such a sad story
Dr Grande always manages to find obscure interesting details. The ugly qualities mentioned that people that liked the mom described always knock me out. He delves very deep.
I would like Dr Grande to analyse the case of the subscriber who was irrationally pleased to press the like button and watch it change from 199 to 200. And who imagines that 999 to 1000 would possibly be even better.
hey I got to watch it change from 19 to 20 on your comment...it's the little things in life 😂
@JustinFarrell69 🙂
Absolutely crazy how you can be given such a blessing of a family. With all the wealth and opportunity and chose evil instead.
Sounds like they're awful people tbh
@@crackthefoundation_sounds like the apple didn’t fall far from the tree.
@crackthefoundation_ so what? Take their money and run away to some EU village. Poor people have to deal with their family rich people dont.
@@greenpinapple820 what?
How someone could watch this video think of this family as a blessing is mind-boggling.
One week of food hardship traumatized her. And she turned this weakness into a strength in the business world, but a weakness is a weakness irregardless.
When my family moved house when I was 8, my mum threw a big party, shortly after which we ate dried beans for a week. Although I too have run out of money a few times since, I've never forgotten it
Irregardless is not a word. Regardless.
I like the new background and enjoy seeing you a bit more expressive with your body language and facial expressions. I prefer it over how deadpan you were in older videos
😂
I really like the new format and hearing your thoughts after the analysis. Thanks Doc! 👍🏼 🌵
Living in the area this was big local news. Dr Grande you have provided insigh about the mom I had not heard. It puzzles me that all focus was on the son yet no reporting on what may have motivated his crime. Thank you for always helping me to understand why some do what they do.
Product of his parents and his environment.
I really like the " codas"! They always ( or consistently!) add an interesting psychological definition or understanding.
It's so weird to me how people can be so successful with money, but otherwise so unbalanced
I hope Dr. Grande voices a doctor in a videogame some day
Well, if you believe in simulation theory, he already does! 😅😂
"Mario was narcissistic, violent, had delusions of grandeur, and had an addiction to mushrooms."
@@edwardicus4 I just died 😂
you can actually train AI to use his voice in 10 mins.
he would make until dawn a kinda funny game
Woah, Dr. Grande! Bringing it all together here, the earlier educational videos about personality disorders and the true crime. Love it!
Securing a gov contract by using a Minority status lol
Yes. 😂
DEI
"All you had to do was not unalive your parents and not look at kids on the Internet, CJ!"
The family seems to have been in a time under a very dark star. Such a tragedy.
what the fuck is that supposed to mean
@@hardtakeofffamily was surrounded by demons
Self discipline and ability to cope with problems were never taught to mom or son.
My guess is Narcissistic personality disorder with sociopathic tendencies.
They always play the victim.
More like Aston Sucks.
Someone was bound to say it.
Got eem
Surfing champion and real estate investor. What pair lol
Amazing how Dr. Grande presents
Amazing original content, every day.
His presentation skills have taught everyone better communication skills 😂
Highly intelligent parents would research and send a child like this to *apprentice* in something he can focus on and enjoy rather than flounder alone without direction and removed from family in another state. Alas, most people do not bother to observe their children's innate skills early on, let alone encourage them within their interests and talents.
Have YOU ever thought of this option rather than following the status quo?
After hearing that they were TELEMARKETERS... I had conflicting emotions 🤪
I wonder if after spending time in prison with people who possibly grew up on welfare without a father figure or may have been physically and mentally abused who may have gone hungry, and who certainly didn’t have their own condo. I wonder if he realize how privileged he was seeing how so many people grew up with next to nothing.
OCPD also has overeating as a lifelong problem. This is a striking characteristic of that disorder which largely remains unresolved. There's quite a bit of psychopathology in this family generally. The root rot of the family tree.
Very interesting case analysis Dr Grande. I'm really intrigued by your comment at the end of the video where you said that 'OCPD can cause the behavior of what the person is most afraid of'. Could this also be the case in someone who is afraid of getting divorced? I ask because my wife divorced me (I was husband number five, she was my first, and to date, only spouse) without really giving me a good reason. She says she doesn't trust me, but I never did anything to break her trust. My son-in-law says he has seen people self-sabotage before. It's a mystery that I'm still trying to decipher, even though it's been nearly a year.
I can’t believe you wanted to be number 5.
Be more careful in future. Maybe some counseling or a life coach. Hike the Pacific crest Trail or the Camino in Spain. You seem like a thoughtful caring person.
Great additional commentary which deviates from your usual pro forma style. Especially around the speculative diagnosis and medical rationale backing your thoughts. Keep it up 👍
“A soulless *jackal* “
😅😅
I loved the analysis. Very thorough
10/10
Never understand how someone can be awarded an amount of money in divorce, that is so significant it bankrupts a company. If the settlement bankrupts the company, the judge assigned an unrealistically high value to the company.
You know what…unless he’s pathological…..the parents’ “raising” him failed
2:36 i call bs
Yea obviously it’s a cover story
Me too that doesn't even make sense!
Dr. Todd is right on as always, I could watch his videos all day long. They are very educational to say the least.
I don’t care what characteristics she had! The fact that she bought her son a 250$ condominium plus a car put him into school she was a good Mother! What kinda monster you have to be to do this to your family! It is amazing
A condominium is nothing compared to a childhood with no love in it, I assume this mother is cruel, sadistic, unfair, biased towards other children, and did not want to have Ashton. She probably wished she never had him, and told him that as as a child.
Perhaps she did not protect him from sex abuse, perhaps she abused him herself, perhaps she blamed him for his own abuse. I would not be surprised.
Not defending the creep, but I would be shocked if there were no strings attached to the condo and car where she could take them away for reasons. Just a means of maintaining control while trying to look generous to outsiders.
Even if there were no strings it gives her the opportunity to tell others "I bought him a condo and car and he treats me this way...etc"
What a terrible case. Great points & analysis again. Thanks Dr G😊🤍🤍
This case seems like another case of a sociopathic spoiled brat who lied and avoided responsibility by playing video games. This case predated the Chandler Halderson case of pretending to be enrolled in college, lying to his parents, playing video games all day, and once caught, he murdered his parents. I think you focused a lot on the victim and not so much on the perpetrator. The woman may have been unpleasant, but she didn’t deserve to be killed. I’ve seen documentaries on this case, and I believe he was close to being caught at not being in college, which led him to the pathological decision to murder his parents and potentially his siblings. His brother is permanently paralyzed. The brother that the perpetrator was most angry at, who was successful, ended up taking care of his younger siblings and ensuring that they had a proper family home with him. Chandler Halderson was also jealous of his older brother, who was successful and had graduated college. Actually a number cases of grown children, pretending to attend college, getting caught, and then murdering their parent(s). The lack of responsibility, avolition, and apathy among these cases needs to be further considered, as similar cases seem to be occurring more frequently (in 2020, a young woman, Sydney, killed her mother by striking her in the head with an iron skillet and stabbing her repeatedly in the neck and body after her mother discovered that she had been pretending to attend college after failing out)
I just look at that woman with her history of immersion in moneymaking and business .........I see something not quite right with her I take her husband's word for it .
Dr. G, the prolific GOAT!