1. reframe your state of mind 2. work on your self worth 3. find a strong support network 4. break down your goals and celebrate small victories 5. talk it out also, remember: you’re human, you’re going to make mistakes. that screw up feeling? that’s called youth, and youth is eternal so we’ll always have our downs, but you got this ❤️
*..that skrew up feeling, like you betrayed yourself... Embarrassed everyone.. including you *It fills you with confidence to do better.... But you did worse...
I have heard that self-sabotage is your body trying to protect you even if you aren’t in any danger. For example I am making a big move in the next month and I have gone through waves of my brain literally trying to convince me it’s a horrible idea and try to come up with excuses not to do it. The way I get through it is being aware that that is just my body wanting to stay in my comfort zone. As I’m experiencing this I don’t think it’s a self worth thing it’s a natural instinct from the body to try and protect you. I am not a scientist or anything but I’m in the middle of wanting to sabotage an awesome opportunity for myself and that is the only conclusion that makes any sense to me and what I’m feeling. I’m sure there are other reasons too but I think the main one is your body wanting to stay where it’s comfortable even if that comfort zone is terrible for you.
*“You’ll watch an entire Netflix series even when the first episodes are slow just because someone told you that ‘it gets better’, but what if you looked at your goals like that and watched your life get better instead?”* Love from a small TH-camr💙
Having the mindset of "Ah i don't deserve it" is the worst thing you can ever do to yourself.. Because in the end anything you achieve will be the result of unimaginable amounts of hard work and patience.. Your own hard work and your very own patience.. So stop having this mindset
@@jxx9x look, you might even be a big ahole, and be right for stating it, maybe you'll fix that, maybe you don't, but in order to tackle it in the future you have to take care of your over all mental state, physical state and your environment; consider it part of an incremental problem isolation strategy. in order to fix X maybe it's ok to pretend Z is not happening. don't be your own prosecution if there's no defence counterpart to counter it. and if you're struggling for your health, that's a good excuse to be selfish / egotistical against ideologic concepts, like "guilt" and others. -- i gave this advice to my brother about a relationship he broke out of his own fault, but he had to move over it, that's why the "woke" movement is looked down upon for holding people accountable for far in the past sins they have moved away from already...
Me: OH? Are you approaching me? Instead of running away you are approaching me? Also me, approaching myself: I can't beat the shit out of you without getting closer. Also also me: HO Ho! Then come closer was you like! my sister: Mom! Dad! He is talking alone to his reflex again!
Self-sabotage often stems from self-hate , this is a problem nobody seems to mention . Many of us have turned our minds into dark and scary places so we seek peace outside but true peace comes from inside and momentary reliefs soon turn into destructive habits.
Reminder 💗the fact that you noticed you are sabotaging yourself and trying to fix it is a huge step in healing 💗✨wishing a good happy life for u all 💗💗💗💋
3 Quotes to Live By: 1) "Don't compare yourself to someone else, compare yourself to your yesterday's self." 2) “You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending” 3) "Once you decide your lifes purpose, you will only have to pack one thing: "Your Heart." Love from a small channel💙
THANKYOU UNIVERSE for reminding me that I’m not useless and that blessings and celebrations will come when the time is right. In the meantime, I need to stop beating myself up and just let go of all of this pressure I’m putting on myself! 🙏🏽🌍✨☺️💖
Same, we need to cut ourselves some slack once in a while, cause none of us are perfect, and mistakes will be made no matter how hard we try to avoid them. We should remind ourselves that's just part of life.
YES, I always give myself 3 months at least to adjust to living in a new place. I've learned that these times can be some of the funnest and freest in my life!! Instead of doing too much . . . I give myself time to adjust and get acclimated
IKR, i really needed this too! ive been procrastinating a lot lately and desperately wanted to get out of it. couldve not asked for a better time for this vid to be uploaded!
I used to self sabotage, but not anymore. I agree it’s definitely easier to take the blame for everything going wrong, but also everything right. That way no one can say you don’t hold yourself accountable for your actions even when something wasn’t your fault and you blamed someone else.
I feel like I’m in a toxic relationship with myself. Like there’s two ppl fighting and one person keeps hurting them while the other keeps forgiving and seeing the good. The person that keeps hurting them is genuine, and does try here and there to be better for the other bc they do love them but then also doesn’t care and will go and sabotage or hurt the other person then feel bad about themselves for doing it. That’s how I feel. And I want to be better to myself. I say sorry to myself knowing I’ll probably still hurt myself later on. I feel torn.
I'm from India. Your channel actually impressed me. Today is 5th September and our country celebrating Teachers day. And I'm thankful to what you are teaching. And nice voice and Happy teacher's day. 💛
This video is literally me, I’m always off track of what's important and telling myself I have time for it later when I actually don't. I really wanna get good at art but I can’t if I keep stalling, Thank you Psych2Go for another wonderful video 😊!!!
My issue is that I'm too hard on myself when I get or do something wrong; recently, I've started trying to learn German so I can study abroad, and whenever I forget how to spell or pronounce something, I'll berate myself and say stuff like "I should have known that!" or "of course I got that wrong..." Thankfully I'm working on not being so harsh on myself, and instead will say something like "oh that's how you spelled it!" or " I'll remind myself to practice more on that pronunciation later." I guess just expect better of myself, but need to remember that learning anything let alone a new language is tough , and I won't be fluent overnight. "Rome wasn't built in a day" as the old saying goes.
I'm currently sabotaging myself by not working on my studies and not showing up for class, they gonna kick me out if i don't but im too scared to show up. I just hate myself so goddamn much.
I can only relate to this when relationships are concerned. Sometimes I'd meet someone truly amazing & when things get a little intimate, I'd start pushing them away by being unnecessarily mean and rude bcoz I believe they're wasting time with a nobody.
You dislike yourself therefore you start hating on someone for liking you because why on earth would they like the whole disgusting you...? Try falling in love with yourself again. May i suggest listening to alan watts because he helped me." Love yourself deeply- alan watts"
I call myself mistress of procrastinating. I know where my mistakes are and how to avoid them, I tried to make small goals. And finally turned to a friend for support. She wants to be my push to get me to do it, my pillar for frustration, my help for when I need it. And here I am. I'd never lie to my friends. Yet I lied to her, saying I'd work on it while I was again procrastinating. And I'm so mad at myself about it. She didn't deserve me lying to her. All I can do now is to make up for it by catching up with the load of work I should have finished by now.... (but alas, I didn't do anything again today and the vicious circle keeps turning)
I really need this since I got 13 worksheets I haven't answered yet because once I see it I always thought it'd be kind of exhausting to finish it (I hate myself), but thanks to you I can at least answer 5 or more worksheets rn... Kinda want to answer it till morning tho, Thanks!
Timestamps for people in a rush Watch the full video for more tips 5 ways to stop sabotaging yourself 0:21 DISCLAIMER 0:37 - 1. Re frame your state of mind 1:23 - 2. Work on your *self worth* 2:10 - 3. Find a strong support system 2:43 - 4. Breakdown your goals and celebrate small victories ^^ 3:41 - 5. Talk it out
I started self sabotaging when my mother died. I thought as she was the center of my life and now that she's gone who'll I show my success. Dear me, there's still part of her in you. Show your success to those small parts that you are successful.
I am more than aware that I self sabotage and am working towards fixing those behaviors 😓 procrastination and “what-ifs” always slow me down or keep me from doing what I want/need to do
I want to address the making mistakes. It's one thing to forgive yourself. But it's another thing to try and drown out and not internalise the negative messages from others who chastise you (boss, parent etc) for not being perfect or getting it right. Self acceptance is very important. But you also might have to cut ties with the person doing the shaming or even minimizing time spent with them
I feel like I really deserve things whenever I work hard for them. So, even if someone wants to offer me something I just can't help myself by saying: "no thanks, I got money"
4. Break down goals: Write things down. Use a tracker to measure, and to schedule. Use a journal for creative things. Turn a goal into a lifestyle. Art of Improvement has several videos on breaking down goals into manageable tasks.
I'm relatable to this just a minute ago. I'm so speechless that you uploaded this, it's wow I don't know what to say. You uploaded this video in a correct timing.
I was just doing this a few days ago for spending $200 on myself beating myself up calling myself an idiot for blowing money, but i realized it's okay to spend on yourself and your not a bad person for it.
"Do you deserve success?" Re whatever is valuable to you. This can be part of self-worth. Do you deserve to be happy? I have ideas for novels but I never write. I always put it off. I might exit this life without writing anything. This is self-sabotage.
Success is such a difficult word to express. What even is "success"? How do people value it? Why is it called "success" and not "living"? Also, who cares if you're being "successful" at the end of the day? Does it even matter if everyone knows you? I tell you what: no, no it isn't. Success is personal, meaning that you defy what "success" is, not others. It has standards, yes, but the society decided it. But who cares? Not me for sure. You're the one defying success. The closest to being "successful" is following your dreams, but even if you don't, what tells you that you're not being "successful"? If you want to be an astronaut, but end up being a mechanic, but you're feeling great with yourself, why shouldn't this be a "success"? I mean, you're happy with your life, aren't you?
Hey, you that is reading the comment, yes you Have you drink water? Have you eat? Have you take care of yourself and taking some breaks after work? If you don't go do it new, remember...self care isnt selfish, its needed
This is not a right way to live. This is not even a wrong way to live. Nobody knows the perfect way to live, you just do it. Who cares if you don't want to live the house? Is someone even forcing you? Just keep your head right and keep on living pal, there's nothing you can do.
I'm in this black....space. This place might be endless, I've been walking here for hours? Days? Maybe months, I don't know. But the thing is it's not dark, yet it's a black space. There will be places that are, like, uhm...holes? They are so bright that you'll think it's completely white. In those holes, there's my people. 1 hole per person. The space I have to travel from one hole to another varies. Maybe the closest person one to me is a little closer, while others are far. They can't enter my space, black space. Or more likely I don't let them. But I can enter their bright sides; when I need them, when they need me, when they want me. But I still get back to my place. I've traveled this space, left some holes behind. Traveled to new ones while taking some with me. I don't recall this place as a not-black space. It has always been black. There are times where in this place is a little brighter and now it's gloomier (is that a word?) than ever. I'm scared. I'm scared of this place because it feels like I am not in control, not with the uncontrollable matters but with everything. Everything. I can't control the noise here, nor how far the spaces of holes, I, I just can't control them. I can't control anything. It's like the ones that control me are the ones outside this black space. Those holes. My facade is falling apart. People might see that this place is not a "bright-cozy-warmth place" this is just pure blackness. I don't need saving or maybe I do, I am not a damsel in distress, but I've been navigating this place alone. All I need is people to be with me in this space. Those person(s) who's not bound with my walls, but can enter this space with ease. I needed someone to be with me. If you ever hear my plea, cry and howl, please, come to me, be with me, save me. The solid space I'm walking is turning to liquid, I might get drown while being lost. Yes, this is what I feel for the past months since I finished high school, everyone is expecting me to go to college, I expect me to go to college, but based on the situation I'm in, give up studying now for next year or continue what I started but never wanted, are the options I have. I'm not ready for this (no one of us does), for college nor adulting. I have great plans ahead of me, but they are all shattered to pieces, now I'm stuck in a breaking situation. This seems shallow for other people, but for me it's not. This will decide how my life will turn out. Thank you for reading if you do and reach this point. I share this here because I don't want to be a nuisance to my friends again, these are my problem not theirs. You don't have to think about this. It's just, thank you for reading.
I developed a bad habit of raising my middle finger or saying curse words whenever I feel sabotaging myself, idk if thats good LOL but it helps me to f*** it off my problems and just do what I feel.
i keep sabotaging my weight loss goals. i tell myself “okay i’ll stay under this amount of calories and i’ll lose weight !” and then when the time to eat comes, i eat over, and have a hard time feeling full :/
I have a really hard time with the growth mindset. I consistantly run away from my responsibilities and it's so bad that I have spent 3 years failing high school, I don't see any hope of passing or having a decent future. I probably can change my mindset to become better, but after so long of dreaming and not acting I just don't want to go through the pain of finding hope and then losing it again. I want to stop doing this to myself but I don't think I ever can.
I'm gunna learn how to not 💜✨💯💓 sabotage myself anymore and learn to love myself cause I'm tired of always hurting and never making a good change in myself 😔😔 but 🙏🤔😎😎no more I'm not going down that dark path anymore and I'm gunna spread and speak nothing but positive vibes and kindness 🙏🌻🤠🤗💯💜💓💛❤️💚💙
I swear to god from the very very ver bottom of my SOUL…… thank you Recommened vids today were exactly what I was looking for my whole 17 years of life
You’re a fighter, and you know it, THEN you realise wtf fight for anymore. So you give up, funny thing is giving up was hard because YOU’RE a fighter. A year goes by and now you know what its colors. Not nice isn’t it. Thats where I am. Drinking helped me give up.
These legitimately hurt to watch because I know I need to fix myself but I have no idea where to even start, I fake being alright so much that people assume I’m fine but then when I break randomly it directly damages my relationships
I literally don’t work I feel more than unmotivated I feel unwilling to do anything productive I just want to sit here and drift until death… I do the bare minimum to survive despite my ability to be very creative and intelligent. I feel lost. Ik much about the power of the mind and the practice of self mastery yet I cannot budge outside of my small weak mindset no matter how hard I try or the practice of breaking bad habits. Nothing every last. I always fall back into temptations that only zap my will while I’m already down trying to get up only making the depression worse. It’s like I’m in a whirlpool… hope I could get some advice… preferably from someone who is not religious.
I can relate to this with my work. I have a hard time saying no to others so I accept every work request. Only after later realizing that I hate doing to thing or I didn't have the time to commit (which I knew I would) , I get mad at myself for taking it and I feel like I'm stuck. So I self sabotage my work and my relationship. I'm trying to work on saying no and closing work I didn't want to do. It's not easy though. 😕
I self-sabotage myself for a very long time. I don't think of myself as worthy of presents or achievements. Well, too bad my parents don't care about me and I don't have gf or friends who could support me as well. I've tried seeking professional help but doctors don't help (instead they are mocking me for having low energy and unemployment) plus I don't have money to pay them so I kinda just procrastinate. It's important to talk it out to people but sadly I don't have such people who could listen to me, who could understand me or help me with a piece of advice.
Please put this on your spanish channel so I can share it with my friends!! Porfavor pongan este vídeo en su canal en español y gracias por todo su arduo trabajo ☺️❤️
"Self-sabotage is when we say we want something, then go about making sure it doesn't happen" - DeeDee
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💯 😅
So accurate
so true. But why do we do we so?
Who is deedee
1. reframe your state of mind
2. work on your self worth
3. find a strong support network
4. break down your goals and celebrate small victories
5. talk it out
also, remember: you’re human, you’re going to make mistakes. that screw up feeling? that’s called youth, and youth is eternal so we’ll always have our downs, but you got this ❤️
thx :D
Thank you! ❤️
I'm ready to celebrate my new environment
*..that skrew up feeling, like you betrayed yourself... Embarrassed everyone.. including you
*It fills you with confidence to do better.... But you did worse...
Thank you!
I have heard that self-sabotage is your body trying to protect you even if you aren’t in any danger. For example I am making a big move in the next month and I have gone through waves of my brain literally trying to convince me it’s a horrible idea and try to come up with excuses not to do it. The way I get through it is being aware that that is just my body wanting to stay in my comfort zone. As I’m experiencing this I don’t think it’s a self worth thing it’s a natural instinct from the body to try and protect you. I am not a scientist or anything but I’m in the middle of wanting to sabotage an awesome opportunity for myself and that is the only conclusion that makes any sense to me and what I’m feeling. I’m sure there are other reasons too but I think the main one is your body wanting to stay where it’s comfortable even if that comfort zone is terrible for you.
*“You’ll watch an entire Netflix series even when the first episodes are slow just because someone told you that ‘it gets better’, but what if you looked at your goals like that and watched your life get better instead?”*
Love from a small TH-camr💙
thanks man, i needed to hear this
Thank you, this gave me a different perspective ❤️
Wow. That's a really good thought!
Never thought of it that way....
Thanks 😊👍
So true
Having the mindset of
"Ah i don't deserve it" is the worst thing you can ever do to yourself..
Because in the end anything you achieve will be the result of unimaginable amounts of hard work and patience..
Your own hard work and your very own patience..
So stop having this mindset
But I didn’t do any hard work
I’m also really impatient
it's the worst thing you can ever do to yourself, and potentially to the one(s) around you.
But what if we really don’t deserve it
Do i just have to lie to myself n say i deserve it ?
@@jxx9x look, you might even be a big ahole, and be right for stating it, maybe you'll fix that, maybe you don't, but in order to tackle it in the future you have to take care of your over all mental state, physical state and your environment; consider it part of an incremental problem isolation strategy. in order to fix X maybe it's ok to pretend Z is not happening. don't be your own prosecution if there's no defence counterpart to counter it. and if you're struggling for your health, that's a good excuse to be selfish / egotistical against ideologic concepts, like "guilt" and others. -- i gave this advice to my brother about a relationship he broke out of his own fault, but he had to move over it, that's why the "woke" movement is looked down upon for holding people accountable for far in the past sins they have moved away from already...
Me: looks in mirror
Also me: Finally a worthy opponent our battle shall be legendary
if this doesn't get over 1000 likes i will cry
@@wsg1330 Just like Wilbur
Oh btw same
@@wsg1330 thanks but the most I’ve gotten recently is is 1.7k
Me: OH? Are you approaching me? Instead of running away you are approaching me?
Also me, approaching myself: I can't beat the shit out of you without getting closer.
Also also me: HO Ho! Then come closer was you like!
my sister: Mom! Dad! He is talking alone to his reflex again!
Haha this comment was funny thanks
Self-sabotage often stems from self-hate , this is a problem nobody seems to mention . Many of us have turned our minds into dark and scary places so we seek peace outside but true peace comes from inside and
momentary reliefs soon turn into destructive habits.
Reminder 💗the fact that you noticed you are sabotaging yourself and trying to fix it is a huge step in healing 💗✨wishing a good happy life for u all 💗💗💗💋
Thank you 🥺💕
3 Quotes to Live By:
1) "Don't compare yourself to someone else, compare yourself to your yesterday's self."
2) “You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending”
3) "Once you decide your lifes purpose, you will only have to pack one thing: "Your Heart."
Love from a small channel💙
I love this🥺 thank you
3 golden advices. Thanks a lot Taabish Khan! ♥️♥️♥️
Number 3 is new to me. Thank you
Lemme add one more “don’t pity yourself, once you go down that road life becomes and endless nightmare”
THANKYOU UNIVERSE for reminding me that I’m not useless and that blessings and celebrations will come when the time is right. In the meantime, I need to stop beating myself up and just let go of all of this pressure I’m putting on myself! 🙏🏽🌍✨☺️💖
Your never useless your amazing
Your channel s awesome I subscribed
Same, we need to cut ourselves some slack once in a while, cause none of us are perfect, and mistakes will be made no matter how hard we try to avoid them. We should remind ourselves that's just part of life.
Giving ourselves grace for our imperfect, mortal state and being willing to move forward the best we can is all we can do :). 💖
YES, I always give myself 3 months at least to adjust to living in a new place. I've learned that these times can be some of the funnest and freest in my life!! Instead of doing too much . . . I give myself time to adjust and get acclimated
Wait I actually need this tyyy!! Such a lovely channel you have here ♥️
YES, I need this too!!
IKR, i really needed this too! ive been procrastinating a lot lately and desperately wanted to get out of it. couldve not asked for a better time for this vid to be uploaded!
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Definitely something I need to stop doing, but it's easier to blame myself for everything going wrong.
I used to self sabotage, but not anymore. I agree it’s definitely easier to take the blame for everything going wrong, but also everything right. That way no one can say you don’t hold yourself accountable for your actions even when something wasn’t your fault and you blamed someone else.
3:07
CAN WE PRETEND THAT AIRPLANES IN THE NIGHT SKY ARE LIKE SHOOTING STARS-
And I could wish right now wish right now wish right now
I feel like I’m in a toxic relationship with myself. Like there’s two ppl fighting and one person keeps hurting them while the other keeps forgiving and seeing the good. The person that keeps hurting them is genuine, and does try here and there to be better for the other bc they do love them but then also doesn’t care and will go and sabotage or hurt the other person then feel bad about themselves for doing it. That’s how I feel. And I want to be better to myself. I say sorry to myself knowing I’ll probably still hurt myself later on. I feel torn.
Thank you so much I needed this I have become my worst enemy and it took me one second to stop myself from getting worse and hurting others
I was literally thinking about how to stop sabotaging myself at the same moment I got the notification 😭❤️
I'm from India. Your channel actually impressed me. Today is 5th September and our country celebrating Teachers day. And I'm thankful to what you are teaching. And nice voice and Happy teacher's day. 💛
I am going through a really rough and confusing time right now so this is really helpful, thank you
i hope things get much better for you soon, and i'll listen if you would like to talk about it :)
W.would you loike a virtual hug :3?
Y'all are so supportive thank you !
Hey Snowy Wolf (nice name btw), we hope you'll be okay. You're not alone
Thank you
Once I started a martial arts class I started to feel more calm.
Same It makes you feel fearless as well
Try killing people really calms your nerves ✌️
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This video is literally me, I’m always off track of what's important and telling myself I have time for it later when I actually don't. I really wanna get good at art but I can’t if I keep stalling, Thank you Psych2Go for another wonderful video 😊!!!
Relatable 😔
My issue is that I'm too hard on myself when I get or do something wrong; recently, I've started trying to learn German so I can study abroad, and whenever I forget how to spell or pronounce something, I'll berate myself and say stuff like "I should have known that!" or "of course I got that wrong..." Thankfully I'm working on not being so harsh on myself, and instead will say something like "oh that's how you spelled it!" or " I'll remind myself to practice more on that pronunciation later." I guess just expect better of myself, but need to remember that learning anything let alone a new language is tough , and I won't be fluent overnight. "Rome wasn't built in a day" as the old saying goes.
😔we are all the same here
You can do it! Don't give up!
Psy - How To Stop Sabotaging Yourself
My Brain - Jokes on you, I'm into that sh*t
I'm currently sabotaging myself by not working on my studies and not showing up for class, they gonna kick me out if i don't but im too scared to show up. I just hate myself so goddamn much.
I really needed to hear this today.
Same
same
@Jeff the Killer ikr I thought the same thing
Yt starts to show bugs..lol
Once again professional help would help and then you could love but your choice
I can only relate to this when relationships are concerned. Sometimes I'd meet someone truly amazing & when things get a little intimate, I'd start pushing them away by being unnecessarily mean and rude bcoz I believe they're wasting time with a nobody.
Now that's toxic af, it looks like you're only using them for shits and giggles.
What’s the link?
You dislike yourself therefore you start hating on someone for liking you because why on earth would they like the whole disgusting you...? Try falling in love with yourself again. May i suggest listening to alan watts because he helped me." Love yourself deeply- alan watts"
Seems to me you pushed them away Bc you were scared they’d do it if you didn’t
I call myself mistress of procrastinating. I know where my mistakes are and how to avoid them, I tried to make small goals. And finally turned to a friend for support. She wants to be my push to get me to do it, my pillar for frustration, my help for when I need it.
And here I am. I'd never lie to my friends. Yet I lied to her, saying I'd work on it while I was again procrastinating. And I'm so mad at myself about it. She didn't deserve me lying to her. All I can do now is to make up for it by catching up with the load of work I should have finished by now.... (but alas, I didn't do anything again today and the vicious circle keeps turning)
Valeu!
I really need this since I got 13 worksheets I haven't answered yet because once I see it I always thought it'd be kind of exhausting to finish it (I hate myself), but thanks to you I can at least answer 5 or more worksheets rn... Kinda want to answer it till morning tho, Thanks!
U got this :)
Timestamps for people in a rush
Watch the full video for more tips
5 ways to stop sabotaging yourself
0:21 DISCLAIMER
0:37 - 1. Re frame your state of mind
1:23 - 2. Work on your *self worth*
2:10 - 3. Find a strong support system
2:43 - 4. Breakdown your goals and celebrate small victories ^^
3:41 - 5. Talk it out
I needed this thanks 💜 celebrating small victories does help a lot!!!
Happy birthday Amanda 🎂 I wish you receive even more love and peace than what you give to us 💖😚
Your voice is like honey to my waffles 😍💖
3:07 "can we pretend that airplaines in the night skies are like shooting stars"
HA I WAS LOOKING FOR THIS COMMENT
Psych2go has no idea how much they're really helping us right now.
I started self sabotaging when my mother died. I thought as she was the center of my life and now that she's gone who'll I show my success.
Dear me, there's still part of her in you. Show your success to those small parts that you are successful.
100/100!! Thank you Psych2Go I will apply these Steps to my everyday life.
yoo I’m crying right now and just hearing your voice makes me feel safer 🤧
I was like this be'fore I know who can he:lp you out text he now. He can solve your problems:: don't waste your time ..
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I am more than aware that I self sabotage and am working towards fixing those behaviors 😓 procrastination and “what-ifs” always slow me down or keep me from doing what I want/need to do
I want to address the making mistakes. It's one thing to forgive yourself. But it's another thing to try and drown out and not internalise the negative messages from others who chastise you (boss, parent etc) for not being perfect or getting it right. Self acceptance is very important. But you also might have to cut ties with the person doing the shaming or even minimizing time spent with them
Bro i swear everybody needs to see this💖
I feel like I really deserve things whenever I work hard for them. So, even if someone wants to offer me something I just can't help myself by saying: "no thanks, I got money"
I really struggle with this. I hate failure and have experienced it this year. Hoping to work on a growth mindset
After one year did your mindset change? :)
I'm really struggling to change my negative mindset
4. Break down goals: Write things down. Use a tracker to measure, and to schedule. Use a journal for creative things. Turn a goal into a lifestyle. Art of Improvement has several videos on breaking down goals into manageable tasks.
i swear they always come up with the exact video u need. literally before this i was having a complex about my self sabotaging
I'm relatable to this just a minute ago. I'm so speechless that you uploaded this, it's wow I don't know what to say. You uploaded this video in a correct timing.
same tbh
I was just doing this a few days ago for spending $200 on myself beating myself up calling myself an idiot for blowing money, but i realized it's okay to spend on yourself and your not a bad person for it.
Danke!
Thanks for this beautiful channel! ❤️❤️❤️
"Do you deserve success?" Re whatever is valuable to you. This can be part of self-worth. Do you deserve to be happy? I have ideas for novels but I never write. I always put it off. I might exit this life without writing anything. This is self-sabotage.
Success is such a difficult word to express. What even is "success"? How do people value it? Why is it called "success" and not "living"? Also, who cares if you're being "successful" at the end of the day? Does it even matter if everyone knows you? I tell you what: no, no it isn't. Success is personal, meaning that you defy what "success" is, not others. It has standards, yes, but the society decided it. But who cares? Not me for sure. You're the one defying success. The closest to being "successful" is following your dreams, but even if you don't, what tells you that you're not being "successful"? If you want to be an astronaut, but end up being a mechanic, but you're feeling great with yourself, why shouldn't this be a "success"? I mean, you're happy with your life, aren't you?
@@_imdope Yes, thank you!
i dont know why but this voice made me watch everything in psy2go... calm and easy to hear and understand... whoever this is ... thankyou🎉❤
Thanks I really need this, I have been feeling like a major failure lately. I keep self criticizing negatively and putting myself down.
Hey, you that is reading the comment, yes you
Have you drink water?
Have you eat?
Have you take care of yourself and taking some breaks after work?
If you don't go do it new, remember...self care isnt selfish, its needed
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What if you're a complete recluse who only leaves the house once a week? I find every therapist I've ever talked with is pretty clueless
This is not a right way to live. This is not even a wrong way to live. Nobody knows the perfect way to live, you just do it. Who cares if you don't want to live the house? Is someone even forcing you? Just keep your head right and keep on living pal, there's nothing you can do.
I'm saving this, because I need to watch this multiple times.
Thank you 💚
I accidentally read the title as "How to stop stabbing yourself"
Same
yuri????
I might continue doing it anyway
@@keiron.4612 stop.. get some help.
@@sillycatsayshi there is no help I was joking but I have cut before
psych2go is my comfort channel 💗
I needed this
I got an ad about how to stop sabotaging yourself when I clicked this video
Interesting
hope your well stay well and strong xx
@@saigotheanimator1098 lol it is hope your well xx
This channel helps me more than anyone
Your voice is really calming thank you for making these
I'm in this black....space.
This place might be endless, I've been walking here for hours? Days? Maybe months, I don't know. But the thing is it's not dark, yet it's a black space. There will be places that are, like, uhm...holes? They are so bright that you'll think it's completely white.
In those holes, there's my people. 1 hole per person. The space I have to travel from one hole to another varies. Maybe the closest person one to me is a little closer, while others are far. They can't enter my space, black space. Or more likely I don't let them. But I can enter their bright sides; when I need them, when they need me, when they want me. But I still get back to my place.
I've traveled this space, left some holes behind. Traveled to new ones while taking some with me.
I don't recall this place as a not-black space. It has always been black. There are times where in this place is a little brighter and now it's gloomier (is that a word?) than ever.
I'm scared. I'm scared of this place because it feels like I am not in control, not with the uncontrollable matters but with everything. Everything.
I can't control the noise here, nor how far the spaces of holes, I, I just can't control them. I can't control anything. It's like the ones that control me are the ones outside this black space. Those holes.
My facade is falling apart. People might see that this place is not a "bright-cozy-warmth place" this is just pure blackness.
I don't need saving or maybe I do, I am not a damsel in distress, but I've been navigating this place alone. All I need is people to be with me in this space. Those person(s) who's not bound with my walls, but can enter this space with ease. I needed someone to be with me.
If you ever hear my plea, cry and howl, please, come to me, be with me, save me.
The solid space I'm walking is turning to liquid, I might get drown while being lost.
Yes, this is what I feel for the past months since I finished high school, everyone is expecting me to go to college, I expect me to go to college, but based on the situation I'm in, give up studying now for next year or continue what I started but never wanted, are the options I have. I'm not ready for this (no one of us does), for college nor adulting. I have great plans ahead of me, but they are all shattered to pieces, now I'm stuck in a breaking situation. This seems shallow for other people, but for me it's not. This will decide how my life will turn out.
Thank you for reading if you do and reach this point. I share this here because I don't want to be a nuisance to my friends again, these are my problem not theirs. You don't have to think about this. It's just, thank you for reading.
I was like this be'fore I know who can he:lp you out text he now. He can solve your problems:: don't waste your time ..
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@@zeemaria3544 that'll be avery expensive text and call, knowing it's international.
I developed a bad habit of raising my middle finger or saying curse words whenever I feel sabotaging myself, idk if thats good LOL but it helps me to f*** it off my problems and just do what I feel.
I think science has proven health benefits of cursing. I prefer to curse in secret or with anyone I feel extremely comfortable with.
i keep sabotaging my weight loss goals. i tell myself “okay i’ll stay under this amount of calories and i’ll lose weight !” and then when the time to eat comes, i eat over, and have a hard time feeling full :/
biggest problem is the condition that you will improve, but if you dont see yourself improving you can easliy loose hope.
THANK YOU SOO MUCH FOR THIS!!! I REALLYY NEEDED THIS! TuT
I have a really hard time with the growth mindset. I consistantly run away from my responsibilities and it's so bad that I have spent 3 years failing high school, I don't see any hope of passing or having a decent future. I probably can change my mindset to become better, but after so long of dreaming and not acting I just don't want to go through the pain of finding hope and then losing it again. I want to stop doing this to myself but I don't think I ever can.
Number 3 and 4 are the most important for me. I know what I want, but I keep getting stuck in a bad habit of not doing it.
I really like the leaf on the head, it reminds me of the Final Fantasy game as a newbie, ready to learn the ropes of the game.
I have to study daily so that I can reach my goals, thank you for this it helped me feel better
It's kind of hard to believe in yourself when everything seems to be going bad.
stay well and strong xx
The video I’ve been waiting for. Ty for the vid.
I'm gunna learn how to not 💜✨💯💓 sabotage myself anymore and learn to love myself cause I'm tired of always hurting and never making a good change in myself 😔😔 but 🙏🤔😎😎no more I'm not going down that dark path anymore and I'm gunna spread and speak nothing but positive vibes and kindness 🙏🌻🤠🤗💯💜💓💛❤️💚💙
I swear to god from the very very ver bottom of my SOUL…… thank you Recommened vids today were exactly what I was looking for my whole 17 years of life
You guys really are the best , thank you for all the things you've done for us by creating these videos
Totally loved It! Thank you for time invested, will share It!!
You’re a fighter, and you know it, THEN you realise wtf fight for anymore. So you give up, funny thing is giving up was hard because YOU’RE a fighter. A year goes by and now you know what its colors. Not nice isn’t it. Thats where I am. Drinking helped me give up.
These legitimately hurt to watch because I know I need to fix myself but I have no idea where to even start, I fake being alright so much that people assume I’m fine but then when I break randomly it directly damages my relationships
Thx 💗 and again praising the new art style :D
almost made me cry.... man i needed to see that today.
Finally gonna learn how to stop hiding things from myself
1:44 needed to hear this
This was so helpful!
For all the other people doing exams this year, I wish you good luck and hopefully you achieve your best. 🥰💯
Definitely needed this thank you so much❤
Your videos are always so helpful
Thank you for this 😊💖🌸
Definitely needed this, thanks
I literally don’t work I feel more than unmotivated I feel unwilling to do anything productive I just want to sit here and drift until death… I do the bare minimum to survive despite my ability to be very creative and intelligent. I feel lost. Ik much about the power of the mind and the practice of self mastery yet I cannot budge outside of my small weak mindset no matter how hard I try or the practice of breaking bad habits. Nothing every last. I always fall back into temptations that only zap my will while
I’m already down trying to get up only making the depression worse. It’s like I’m in a whirlpool… hope I could get some advice… preferably from someone who is not religious.
You can do this, I can do this, we can do this.
Psych2go: *This doesn't replace a medical diognosis*
Me: *YES, YES IT DOES*
Been sabotaging myself alot, i feel i am worthless, undeserving of friends, i have no family and live alone, which aggravates my health.
Your aware you don't want to! But do! When your too confident to make a check list.
This video is great! I really needed this!
hey! you should do a video on how to be more confident, i think i really need it, and i really need help on it too
I can relate to this with my work. I have a hard time saying no to others so I accept every work request. Only after later realizing that I hate doing to thing or I didn't have the time to commit (which I knew I would) , I get mad at myself for taking it and I feel like I'm stuck. So I self sabotage my work and my relationship. I'm trying to work on saying no and closing work I didn't want to do. It's not easy though. 😕
Had no idea this would be so informative; thanks for the amazing content!
Wow, if I ever end up caring about that kinda stuff I'll make sure to remember those, except the other people ones
Yes this video is very useful since I have been self sabotaging myself since day 1.
I self-sabotage myself for a very long time.
I don't think of myself as worthy of presents or achievements. Well, too bad my parents don't care about me and I don't have gf or friends who could support me as well. I've tried seeking professional help but doctors don't help (instead they are mocking me for having low energy and unemployment) plus I don't have money to pay them so I kinda just procrastinate.
It's important to talk it out to people but sadly I don't have such people who could listen to me, who could understand me or help me with a piece of advice.
You Really help so much people, Never stop!
The powers that run YT must be psychic to place this in my recommendations. Thank you. This video was well recieved.
Please put this on your spanish channel so I can share it with my friends!! Porfavor pongan este vídeo en su canal en español y gracias por todo su arduo trabajo ☺️❤️