My practice is as follows: when fear, anxiety come into my mind, I welcome them with all my heart and hospitality. I seat them at my dining table and treat them with all the goodies that I have and when they are satiate ask them what more they want. And generally they apologize to me, thank me and leave me with a smile.
You are lucky to have that self sabotaging mechanism (addiction) in your life because it is a spiritual practice tailored and designed just for you as part of your awakening process (to transform the undesirable into awareness). What a reframe.. thank you Eckhart 🙏🏽
Self-sabotage is the ego's way of keeping us small, safe, and separate. It is the manifestation of the illusion of lack and limitation, a sign that we have not yet fully awakened to our true nature. But the truth of nonduality and oneness reminds us that we are not separate from the divine, and that we are worthy and capable of achieving our goals. When we tap into this truth and let go of the ego's doubts and limitations, we open ourselves up to infinite possibilities. We are the masters of our own destiny, the architects of our own paradise. We are the dreamers, stepping out of the nightmare and into the light. So next time you find yourself self-sabotaging, remember that you are not your ego, but rather a unique expression of the divine. You are worthy and capable of achieving your goals, and it is through embracing this truth that you can break free from self-sabotage and awaken to your full potential. The universe is waiting for you to shine brightly, to let your light ignite the world 👁️
I started reading New Earth and the Power of Now back in 2008. The wisdom in those 2 books resonated with my soul so..... much that I decided to read them both over and over again until my subconscious mind was altered and the dysfunctional environmental programming that I received, between birth and my 8th birthday, from unconscious adults was replaced. Like any new skill you want to learn, becoming a keen observer of myself, becoming the master of my thoughts or monkey mind and changing my beliefs with this wisdom took continuous practice. It's challenging but you can do it, don't give up and remember, you are not your mind or thoughts! If you are depressed you're thinking about and dwelling in the past. If you are anxious you're thinking about the future. If you practice every millisecond and consistently stay in the present moment you are in the NOW, this is ENLIGHTMENT! You no longer have to chase enlightenment because it only exists in your present now. You evolve your soul from the present moment NOW. Uplift others, love others and be the best version of yourself every day. Imagine what our planet would be like if this were the goal of every human being on a daily basis? It would be a "new earth" full of peace, joy and love. I'm excited for the TIPPING POINT, when this is a reality for every human being on Earth. You are loved beyond measure, I love you!
I used a version of this to quit smoking in 2001. I was a heavy smoker, too. But when I was finally ready to really quit, I decided to just start saying, “Thank you, craving, for giving me another opportunity to prove to myself that I am way more powerful than you are.” After the first day of being able to stand up to it for first minutes, and then hours, I was able to really know that there was zero value in blowing up my progress by letting my craving have its way with me, ever. And now it’s been almost 23 years since I smoked my last cigarette. It wasn’t nearly as easy as I’ve made it sound here, but it was definitely worth the diligence and perseverance that were necessary to my success. Staying awake to and aware of my thoughts was the most important part.
❤ I started to think again today about not smoking. Similarly, I am guided to realising that smoking for me is defeatist behaviour. I'm shedding old beliefs. Smoking belongs to old beliefs of being invisible, not belonging, imposter syndrome. Thank you for sharing what you did.
does anyone noticed that Eckhart video are free from ads ? Thank you, this is what spirituality, not profiting from the system when it does not match our values, whatever the amount of possible gain. I really appreciate
You know a spriitual teacher has overcome their ego when there aren't any ads on their youtube videos. Thank you Eckhart for being a teacher thats here to help us.
"" Every morning we are born again, its what we do today that matters " Buddha. A wonderful quote that points out our mistakes of yesterday really are behind us now and today is wonderful brand new opportunity to do things differently, if we wish to. This must be why they call it the present 👍🙏🙏🙏🙏
@@onelovemon1784 hi,, where do those mistakes of the past live today? In our minds forgiving ourselves and others is not excusing ourselves and others but accepting that we a little wiser today than we were when we made those mistakes 🙏🙏🙏🙏
When i was about 14 and in denial about something or other, my dad said to me; “Paul, the easiest person to lie to is yourself!” It was only many, many years later that I realised the gravitas of that statement!
Absolute brilliance! So much love for Eckhart. This is PRACTICAL advice. Anyone can use this for anything they're trying to overcome. Delay the "bad" thing you're struggling with for 3 minutes and watch your mind's reaction. You may be surprised by what you learn.
Incredible explanation! For those interested in relating this to western psychology / cognitive science, what he is describing is the process of raising **conscious awareness** of unconscious habits and how that ends up reprogramming unconscious behavior (ie “behavioral health”). Psychic imbalance occurs when those “gremlins” or “frogs” are actually CHILDHOOD PERSONAS (this is the formation of the “Shadow” in Jungian psychology) that have been stuffed down due to painful negative associations. Eventually they get stuffed so far down that they are ignored by the conscious “Ego”, but your brain is so interconnected neuronally that you cannot “delete” the full memory. So it remains embedded in the unconscious, manifesting as unexplained compulsions or emotional outbursts that frustrate you and can’t be controlled when your lizard brain “fight or flight” response becomes activated (anxiety, stress, fear, etc). This practice he describes is “mindfulness” and this eastern philosophy idea has been adopted by western behavioral therapists BECAUSE IT WORKS. Simply raising conscious awareness of the unconscious habit begins to “reprogram” your brain and make the negative “Persona” less scary, so you are less compelled to try and react in fear and try to shove it down. The long term “cure” is when you finally connect the deeply buried Persona to the actual painful childhood experiences which caused it to be buried in the first place. Once you find those, sit with them and process the pain, your psyche starts to heal and regain emotional balance (embrace the Yin and Yang!). But that’s a multi year process for most, so just starting with this simple mindfulness exercise he describes will be a huge head start! :)
As a psychology student myself I learned a lot by reading your comment. I did an Akashic Field meditation once and I asked my mentors why I kept relapsing in my addictions over and over, and how to get over them, and one of the main symbols I saw was the snake, one of my closest mentors told me: Embrace your snake, learn how to deal with her, love her. Reading your comment I can see how the snake can be a symbol for the Kundalini Awakening, as well as my addictions coming from coping mechanisms for stressful events I may have lived in childhood, seeking mood booster behaviour to balance the negative energy that got pushed down (shadow) The límbic emotional brain is the one who protects us from threats, responsible for the self-sabotaging process, when in reality is self-protection. We need to go see the monster ourselves, meet out shadow or whatever we are protecting ourselves from, and feel it, fully process it, and integrate it, so we can be whole and find ourselves once again :)
Thank you for taking the time out to write this, in the way that you have because it has resonates with me clearly. I *know* I have purposefully ignored some issues and "buried" them. And I suffer those consequences by feeling the fearful thoughts they have become. Anyway, long story short. I thank you for taking the time out and helping the community. Peace and Blessings to you ❤
Dear Eckhart, firstly I thank you really so much. The book of yours - The Power of Now - has really saved me at times. But today, when I was listening about self- sabotage - I just realized that it is not a gremlin or so what is trapped inside me. It is beautiful me, my real - self. Who is asking to be seen. To be care of. I called her - My Fair Lady. Because I used to be all of that. Beautiful, fair, loving ,kind. And then that beautiful self got scared, got disappointed, got distracted and got in totally wrong shoes. And I just really hope - it is not too late - to get back - what belongs to me - it is my beautiful self ❤❤❤.
I can’t like this enough. As someone who struggles with binge eating, this will help tremendously. I welcome any other insight as to what helped you overcome your addiction. Thank you. ❤
sacred dance, to music that ur body likes, (& this can change, depending on where ur at, at the moment) something not too jangly, something more conducive to trance, so as u move u forget about any distinction between what part is the music, what part is the dance, & what part is the dancers body, they all yield to each other the feel of rhythm, the pauses & breaks, the slight resting stops in between, & this dance can help us tune in to the dance/symphony of life that's going on within us, all of our bodies, all of the time . . .
These are the best insights I ever heard! I know because of my work many psychiatries but none of them so good to give guidelines about addiction. No offence in it simply observations. Follow them you will succede!
Sitting with the impulse without thought. I've just learned how to do this. It helps me decide whether I really need to consume cannabis or do something different for myself
Totally agree, the mind is an extremely loyal servant but an extremely cruel master, its not designed to make choices and decisions, it's job is to only to offer an opinion, which we are free to ignore or accept as WE see best. 🙏🙏🙏🙏
@@Misslotusification the mind is both the policeman and the thief, its impossible to outthink or outsmart the mind. Everything you know it knows. But the good news is we don't need to out think or out smart our minds. We just need to accept the mind for what it is, nothing more than a box of suggestions ideas and opinions we are all free to ignore without fear or consequence 🙏🙏🙏🙏
3 Minutes , that's how long I stay under my cold shower each morning, only my third week though. Then 11 minutes to follow Guided Wim Hof Method Breathing video on Wim Hof's channel . I Try to do the breathing exercises 3 times each day. It's really helping me so thought I'd share.
I don't know if this will help anyone else or not but I was really right on the edge of having a serious addiction problem and the way I got away from it was as soon as the pleasure thought entered my mind I would automatically switch my thoughts to all the negative aspects of using it. I would not allow myself to think of the pleasurable part of the experiences. It took a while but the pleasure thoughts quit popping into my mind which meant the thought off the substance stop popping into my mind.
I did something similar that worked for me. I wrote myself a sticky note when I felt the negative side and put it where I’d see it and read it when I felt the urge again. Very helpful. Stopped my addictive behavior and eventually the urges.
Self sabotage is anger. Anger at the world, people, and life. I totally get it. To not self sabotage you have to have something you care about. Someone you care about living for. A reason. Try losing all reason to care about people. Self sabotage makes sense.
And just to add, these urges will never go away, they will be with you always, when your practice and presence has slowed down, they will take over again.
This is the second time I go through it. His book “the power of now”, along with proper medication has helped me tone down the depressive voice that keeps me in the past and future; tormenting me. I just do the opposite of the depressive voice.
Losing my beautiful mother, going through the experience from her decline to end of days and death has now come back to haunt me, during the process I was present and almost felt like it wasn't me but spirit that was doing it all, or should I say, wasn't ego but the presence of my true self. Now weeks after her ferwel ceremony (burial) I have been lost in my egoic self, suffering immensely! I have listen to you Ekart for Years, many many many years and while I thought I was spiritual and felt grounded in presence, it was so quick and easily lost!!! Your videos have brought me back to the kingdom of heaven and I will never be able to thank you enough my sweet soul, thank you Ekahart, the words I love you have no real meaning as to how much you mean to me. Thank you thank you thank you.
This is an amazing explanation of how addiction works and advice on how to deal with it, wonderful. We can get rid of addiction and at the same time grow in the sphere of awareness. Thank you very much! [🚭] ☺️🧡
I awakened 8 years ago, in big part, thx to Eckhart,. I meditate, have become a Reiki instructor, l live in presence, for the most part, l am human, l am at peace , l serve others , but l haven't been able to quit smoking!! It's the one thing l have not been able to overcome. Thank you for all you've given us Eckhart. Love and light to all. ❤😊❤
Thank you, mr Tolle! This is exactly what i need right now. When i go to bed i take phone and spend several hours watching videos)) But now i know what i should do instead.
I think it’s less a gremlin and more a part of me that wants to comfort me. It helps me to say”thanks but let’s work out a way to comfort me that is less or hopefully not at all harmful”. I work as a team with myself within the flow of what is (ie calories) and negotiate a sweet spot between comfort and consequences. When I make an enemy of my truth(ie my desire for comforting food) I will more likely rebell against myself.
I couldn't agree more. Making everything a problem, or something bad to get rid of reminds me Eckhart saying what you fight strengthens, what you resist, persists. Some of my addictions have vanished on their own timing, without me doing anything about it.
All of your worries will go away..in time ..but u have to trust yourself...there are parts of you who you have not met yet.. Look inwards give yourself a chance !
Transforming the thought into presence... so beautiful. The presence is also relationship... I learned this from Marshall Vian Summers' work. I recommend checking him out, there's much wisdom in his teachings as well...
You are a blessing to so many. Thankyou. I'm concerned about your posture, guess it comes from a lot of reading and writing . Please be aware, it is reversible if you catch it and work daily to strengthen the shoulder/back muscles and stretch the pecs back to their former state. much love and peace.
I'm sober from alcoholism for a long time. There is nothing like the compulsive urge to pick up a drink. It's like a 100 ton truck driving through the brain! Comes fast and furious, even in aware and semi-conscious people. That's why daily presence meditation has to be practised by alcoholics.
I like the concept of using each circumstance as an opportunity for my (your) personal spiritual practice. The rewarding experience could be unending, always available and arising. And the energy of self sabotage thoughts weaken and dissolves over time. Yes! Replace that disappearing energy with positive energy 😊
Eckart I don’t know how to thank you enough. Suffering from anorexia for many years now it has transformed in an addiction to food and screens. Today as many days I indulge in overeating and binge watching and it ruined my day, my mood and confidence. I feel so much culpability because I have big dreams and I am just laying there with an unconscious body and mind, torn between awakening and self sabotage. And every time you are there andI feel better, and I know all this will lead me somewhere, and there is a meaning behind, I am even “lucky”! Tomorrow is an other day Blessing to you all
self observation of your thoughts AND feelings is key. The impulse is often a 'feeling' (or at least a thought accompanied by a feeling) and to help yourself observe that feeling it can be a good idea to describe it to yourself. Ask yourself where in the body is it located. What are its characteristics? Does it feel hot, cold, sharp, nagging etc? Does it have a colour? These are all things that helped me.
This is what I did today when I observed the feeling of resentment and non-forgiveness I have about the broken relationship. I closed my eyes and I observed it. It turned out to be red burning around my ears but always beyond reach of my inner eyesight. Then I tried to turn my inner gaze to the left and to the right. It was difficult but as I did it the burning dissolved... I know it will come back again but it was an interesting experience indeed
What's needed is a shift in mindset, I'm not saying I can do it, I am saying for me at least its the only thing that worked, when you realise you're out of any other options but to do That!
I’m having issues with self sabotaging in regards to binge eating. I’m in relatively good shape, but I have a perfectionist mentality that is being driven from my egoic mind. I am able to keep it at bay for the most part, but when I feel stressed or let down by myself, I feel this primal urge to splurge on food and discontinue my workouts, sabotaging my progress and efforts and getting caught up in the proverbial hamster wheel. It has been a great struggle for me. The last couple of times that it has occurred, I have attempted to sit with it more and delay the urge. But the urges come back in full force. It feels so primal that logic can’t seem to stop it. I’m hoping by cultivating more presence I can overcome this obstacle. Any additional wisdom or knowledge would be welcome. Bless you all.
What I’ve found is that it takes time. As you’re no doubt aware it’s like a muscle that needs to be strengthened. When you experience the urges and uncomfortable feeling I have found that if I go for a walk or work out, eat a healthy piece of food or have a drink of sparkling water that the urge dissipates. I think the trick is to seek a low state of healthy dopamine.
But the more I think about it, the more I see what this really means. Observing the situation and sitting with and extending a threshold for (safe) discomfort.
Thank you. You are real blessing . I hope kids can lean. For me my housband that i miss very much, but need to go out of my mind. I will practice. Thanks again
Brilliant talk, just an FYI- to facilitate the release of stuck energy, turn attention in, breath deep abdominal breaths of LIGHT into the space being observed.
I just got into a video of this channel, that leads me to another video to another and finally got here, just a few minutes ago and this was uploaded like 2h but it really hits my spot in this rough time that i'm, theres so much to learn, ty
My addiction started at 4. From neglect and being alone I replaced affection, touch, love and hope with dopamine spikes. That young, my mind was wired to do that instead of living. So 38 years now I am still alone. I dont believe it controls me now but the guilt and shame does. And thats too much for people to handle, so they leave. Always. Just recently lost a friend by not considering their feelings, instead desperately reaching for a hand to pull me out of the black. So close..but now I am stuck beyond reach.
@@shanharlmall one day at a time is good .:) Yeah that's the thing with medication isn't it, it tends to sedate. I mean, I definitely don't wanna tell you what to do, I"m just a stranger from the internet haha but I hope you can feel better, in both ways,
- I just want to let anyone who’s reading this, and going through a tough time know that it’s going to be okay. You’ll get through it! ✨
Thank you for your kind words. 🙏
Thank you and you 🙏 God bless
Good times never last bad times never last. Everything has a natural cycle
That's not true. It sounds nice, but it's not true.
While that sounds great compassion, it's only true IF the person is taking action to change it.
My practice is as follows: when fear, anxiety come into my mind, I welcome them with all my heart and hospitality. I seat them at my dining table and treat them with all the goodies that I have and when they are satiate ask them what more they want. And generally they apologize to me, thank me and leave me with a smile.
This has killed Me one time😹😹😹😹😹but a fact tho
None of that happens to me. The feelings just leave if I ignore them and that's it.
Cool
Beautiful practice!
@@apolloniusbeitsman5444 ok mr. stoic good for you
You are lucky to have that self sabotaging mechanism (addiction) in your life because it is a spiritual practice tailored and designed just for you as part of your awakening process (to transform the undesirable into awareness). What a reframe.. thank you Eckhart 🙏🏽
That's the first time I have ever thought of it that way. It's a tool to raise our awareness! Amazing. X
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@OmidAzadi good to hear your thoughts
People who avoid self sabotage already have the awareness which is a blessing.
Blew me away too 😂
Self-sabotage is the ego's way of keeping us small, safe, and separate. It is the manifestation of the illusion of lack and limitation, a sign that we have not yet fully awakened to our true nature. But the truth of nonduality and oneness reminds us that we are not separate from the divine, and that we are worthy and capable of achieving our goals. When we tap into this truth and let go of the ego's doubts and limitations, we open ourselves up to infinite possibilities. We are the masters of our own destiny, the architects of our own paradise. We are the dreamers, stepping out of the nightmare and into the light. So next time you find yourself self-sabotaging, remember that you are not your ego, but rather a unique expression of the divine. You are worthy and capable of achieving your goals, and it is through embracing this truth that you can break free from self-sabotage and awaken to your full potential. The universe is waiting for you to shine brightly, to let your light ignite the world 👁️
This is beautiful and true. Thank you
Thank you for this. I was looking for the answer if I'm not my mind then what I am. I believe I'm gradually getting there. Thanks :)
I loved this, so true. ❤
In my next life, I want Eckhart Tolle to be my Dad.
I started reading New Earth and the Power of Now back in 2008. The wisdom in those 2 books resonated with my soul so..... much that I decided to read them both over and over again until my subconscious mind was altered and the dysfunctional environmental programming that I received, between birth and my 8th birthday, from unconscious adults was replaced. Like any new skill you want to learn, becoming a keen observer of myself, becoming the master of my thoughts or monkey mind and changing my beliefs with this wisdom took continuous practice. It's challenging but you can do it, don't give up and remember, you are not your mind or thoughts! If you are depressed you're thinking about and dwelling in the past. If you are anxious you're thinking about the future. If you practice every millisecond and consistently stay in the present moment you are in the NOW, this is ENLIGHTMENT! You no longer have to chase enlightenment because it only exists in your present now. You evolve your soul from the present moment NOW. Uplift others, love others and be the best version of yourself every day. Imagine what our planet would be like if this were the goal of every human being on a daily basis? It would be a "new earth" full of peace, joy and love. I'm excited for the TIPPING POINT, when this is a reality for every human being on Earth. You are loved beyond measure, I love you!
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This is a beautiful comment, thank you for writing it. X
Thank you for that wisdom. Blessings to you.....
Love you more dude ❤
This is very helpful xx
I used a version of this to quit smoking in 2001. I was a heavy smoker, too. But when I was finally ready to really quit, I decided to just start saying, “Thank you, craving, for giving me another opportunity to prove to myself that I am way more powerful than you are.” After the first day of being able to stand up to it for first minutes, and then hours, I was able to really know that there was zero value in blowing up my progress by letting my craving have its way with me, ever. And now it’s been almost 23 years since I smoked my last cigarette. It wasn’t nearly as easy as I’ve made it sound here, but it was definitely worth the diligence and perseverance that were necessary to my success. Staying awake to and aware of my thoughts was the most important part.
❤ I started to think again today about not smoking. Similarly, I am guided to realising that smoking for me is defeatist behaviour. I'm shedding old beliefs. Smoking belongs to old beliefs of being invisible, not belonging, imposter syndrome. Thank you for sharing what you did.
This is so powerful, thank you
does anyone noticed that Eckhart video are free from ads ? Thank you, this is what spirituality, not profiting from the system when it does not match our values, whatever the amount of possible gain. I really appreciate
Only now that you mention it. 😂
You know a spriitual teacher has overcome their ego when there aren't any ads on their youtube videos. Thank you Eckhart for being a teacher thats here to help us.
My self sabotaging mechanism is watching Eckhart videos.
“Observe do not absorb” 💚
"" Every morning we are born again, its what we do today that matters " Buddha.
A wonderful quote that points out our mistakes of yesterday really are behind us now and today is wonderful brand new opportunity to do things differently, if we wish to. This must be why they call it the present 👍🙏🙏🙏🙏
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Love this quote x
Hi. But what about the mistakes that last and effect future days? Peace
@@onelovemon1784 hi,, where do those mistakes of the past live today? In our minds forgiving ourselves and others is not excusing ourselves and others but accepting that we a little wiser today than we were when we made those mistakes 🙏🙏🙏🙏
I just realized how different this spiritual teaching is, compared to being hard on yourself or “repenting and trying to earn forgiveness from god”.
When i was about 14 and in denial about something or other, my dad said to me; “Paul, the easiest person to lie to is yourself!” It was only many, many years later that I realised the gravitas of that statement!
Absolute brilliance! So much love for Eckhart. This is PRACTICAL advice. Anyone can use this for anything they're trying to overcome. Delay the "bad" thing you're struggling with for 3 minutes and watch your mind's reaction. You may be surprised by what you learn.
Thank you x
Incredible explanation!
For those interested in relating this to western psychology / cognitive science, what he is describing is the process of raising **conscious awareness** of unconscious habits and how that ends up reprogramming unconscious behavior (ie “behavioral health”). Psychic imbalance occurs when those “gremlins” or “frogs” are actually CHILDHOOD PERSONAS (this is the formation of the “Shadow” in Jungian psychology) that have been stuffed down due to painful negative associations. Eventually they get stuffed so far down that they are ignored by the conscious “Ego”, but your brain is so interconnected neuronally that you cannot “delete” the full memory. So it remains embedded in the unconscious, manifesting as unexplained compulsions or emotional outbursts that frustrate you and can’t be controlled when your lizard brain “fight or flight” response becomes activated (anxiety, stress, fear, etc).
This practice he describes is “mindfulness” and this eastern philosophy idea has been adopted by western behavioral therapists BECAUSE IT WORKS. Simply raising conscious awareness of the unconscious habit begins to “reprogram” your brain and make the negative “Persona” less scary, so you are less compelled to try and react in fear and try to shove it down.
The long term “cure” is when you finally connect the deeply buried Persona to the actual painful childhood experiences which caused it to be buried in the first place. Once you find those, sit with them and process the pain, your psyche starts to heal and regain emotional balance (embrace the Yin and Yang!). But that’s a multi year process for most, so just starting with this simple mindfulness exercise he describes will be a huge head start! :)
As a psychology student myself I learned a lot by reading your comment. I did an Akashic Field meditation once and I asked my mentors why I kept relapsing in my addictions over and over, and how to get over them, and one of the main symbols I saw was the snake, one of my closest mentors told me: Embrace your snake, learn how to deal with her, love her.
Reading your comment I can see how the snake can be a symbol for the Kundalini Awakening, as well as my addictions coming from coping mechanisms for stressful events I may have lived in childhood, seeking mood booster behaviour to balance the negative energy that got pushed down (shadow) The límbic emotional brain is the one who protects us from threats, responsible for the self-sabotaging process, when in reality is self-protection. We need to go see the monster ourselves, meet out shadow or whatever we are protecting ourselves from, and feel it, fully process it, and integrate it, so we can be whole and find ourselves once again :)
Thank you, Eitan, for taking the time to post this. I'm screenshoting it to review often. Blessings 💜
Thank you for taking the time out to write this, in the way that you have because it has resonates with me clearly.
I *know* I have purposefully ignored some issues and "buried" them. And I suffer those consequences by feeling the fearful thoughts they have become.
Anyway, long story short. I thank you for taking the time out and helping the community.
Peace and Blessings to you ❤
My teacher E. Tolle has changed my life. His audiobooks are not only full of excellent knowledge they are meanwhile very entertaining!
Dear Eckhart, firstly I thank you really so much. The book of yours - The Power of Now - has really saved me at times.
But today, when I was listening about self- sabotage - I just realized that it is not a gremlin or so what is trapped inside me. It is beautiful me, my real - self. Who is asking to be seen. To be care of. I called her - My Fair Lady. Because I used to be all of that. Beautiful, fair, loving ,kind.
And then that beautiful self got scared, got disappointed, got distracted and got in totally wrong shoes. And I just really hope - it is not too late - to get back - what belongs to me - it is my beautiful self ❤❤❤.
I can’t like this enough. As someone who struggles with binge eating, this will help tremendously. I welcome any other insight as to what helped you overcome your addiction. Thank you. ❤
sacred dance,
to music that ur body likes, (& this can change, depending on where ur at, at the moment)
something not too jangly,
something
more conducive
to trance,
so as u move u
forget about
any distinction between what part is the music,
what part is the dance,
& what part is the dancers body,
they all yield to each other
the feel
of rhythm, the pauses & breaks, the slight resting stops
in between,
& this dance can help us tune in to the dance/symphony of life that's going on within us,
all of our bodies,
all of the time . . .
@@mindsigh4 I love the concept of tuning into the dance/symphony of life. Thank you. 💕
These are the best insights I ever heard! I know because of my work many psychiatries but none of them so good to give guidelines about addiction. No offence in it simply observations. Follow them you will succede!
my thoughts exactly!
Sitting with the impulse without thought. I've just learned how to do this. It helps me decide whether I really need to consume cannabis or do something different for myself
The same voice that tells you to do it, is the same voice that says " I told you not to do it "
Its about being present and catching it first
Lol
Totally agree, the mind is an extremely loyal servant but an extremely cruel master, its not designed to make choices and decisions, it's job is to only to offer an opinion, which we are free to ignore or accept as WE see best. 🙏🙏🙏🙏
Yup
The ego is shapeshifting, becoming the policeman chasing the thief.
@@Misslotusification the mind is both the policeman and the thief, its impossible to outthink or outsmart the mind. Everything you know it knows. But the good news is we don't need to out think or out smart our minds. We just need to accept the mind for what it is, nothing more than a box of suggestions ideas and opinions we are all free to ignore without fear or consequence 🙏🙏🙏🙏
I love this man so much, he also provides pure comedy ! 😂
3 Minutes , that's how long I stay under my cold shower each morning, only my third week though.
Then 11 minutes to follow Guided Wim Hof Method Breathing video on Wim Hof's channel .
I Try to do the breathing exercises 3 times each day.
It's really helping me so thought I'd share.
I don't know if this will help anyone else or not but I was really right on the edge of having a serious addiction problem and the way I got away from it was as soon as the pleasure thought entered my mind I would automatically switch my thoughts to all the negative aspects of using it.
I would not allow myself to think of the pleasurable part of the experiences.
It took a while but the pleasure thoughts quit popping into my mind which meant the thought off the substance stop popping into my mind.
Great advice! I find this works fir me too
@@katietaylorvlogs thank you.
I did something similar that worked for me. I wrote myself a sticky note when I felt the negative side and put it where I’d see it and read it when I felt the urge again. Very helpful. Stopped my addictive behavior and eventually the urges.
Self sabotage is anger. Anger at the world, people, and life. I totally get it. To not self sabotage you have to have something you care about. Someone you care about living for. A reason. Try losing all reason to care about people. Self sabotage makes sense.
And just to add, these urges will never go away, they will be with you always, when your practice and presence has slowed down, they will take over again.
Depression and anxiety has been a big struggle
This is the second time I go through it. His book “the power of now”, along with proper medication has helped me tone down the depressive voice that keeps me in the past and future; tormenting me. I just do the opposite of the depressive voice.
7:20 "Every time an impulse of that kind comes, this is your special spiritual practice... This is a spiritual practice specially designed for you." 🙏
Losing my beautiful mother, going through the experience from her decline to end of days and death has now come back to haunt me, during the process I was present and almost felt like it wasn't me but spirit that was doing it all, or should I say, wasn't ego but the presence of my true self. Now weeks after her ferwel ceremony (burial) I have been lost in my egoic self, suffering immensely! I have listen to you Ekart for Years, many many many years and while I thought I was spiritual and felt grounded in presence, it was so quick and easily lost!!! Your videos have brought me back to the kingdom of heaven and I will never be able to thank you enough my sweet soul, thank you Ekahart, the words I love you have no real meaning as to how much you mean to me. Thank you thank you thank you.
🙏🏻 I experienced exactly the same, namaste 🙏🏻
Do not push it down , observe. I like
here is my family people listening to this is my real family
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just by playing tolle's voice it helps a lot
It's been My experience, to realize, out of ever Adversity, there Comes a Seed of a greater Value🎉😅🙏🏾,, 🎇🎆🦋🦋🦋🌌
This is an amazing explanation of how addiction works and advice on how to deal with it, wonderful. We can get rid of addiction and at the same time grow in the sphere of awareness. Thank you very much! [🚭] ☺️🧡
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I awakened 8 years ago, in big part, thx to Eckhart,. I meditate, have become a Reiki instructor, l live in presence, for the most part, l am human, l am at peace , l serve others , but l haven't been able to quit smoking!! It's the one thing l have not been able to overcome. Thank you for all you've given us Eckhart. Love and light to all. ❤😊❤
that will peel off too, soon! Perhaps like in this video, wait 3 minutes before lighting a cigarette every time you feel like smoking?
Well done that’s great x
Allen Carr's Easy way To Quit Smoking is brilliant
Ibogaine, it doesn't take the addiction part of you away but it resets your mind to help with the craving. Quit drinking and helped my seizures
Hi have you dropped the smoking yet? Everything else you did / doing sounds delightful and wonderful 👍
Thank you, mr Tolle! This is exactly what i need right now. When i go to bed i take phone and spend several hours watching videos)) But now i know what i should do instead.
Sometimes there’s is no gap to be present. Behavior follows in a fraction of a second.
Watched this again a couple weeks later. It hits totally different. Excellent.
Very appropriate video to start the year, muchas gracias 👍
I think it’s less a gremlin and more a part of me that wants to comfort me. It helps me to say”thanks but let’s work out a way to comfort me that is less or hopefully not at all harmful”. I work as a team with myself within the flow of what is (ie calories) and negotiate a sweet spot between comfort and consequences. When I make an enemy of my truth(ie my desire for comforting food) I will more likely rebell against myself.
I couldn't agree more. Making everything a problem, or something bad to get rid of reminds me Eckhart saying what you fight strengthens, what you resist, persists. Some of my addictions have vanished on their own timing, without me doing anything about it.
Truth
This is excellent🙏the best
Practice! Thank you.
Just such a great opportunity and exercise to work on self awareness. Thank you!
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I just love the closing comment: Self-Sabotage, it's actually custom-designed spiritual practice, just for you!
And actually it is.
I am so grateful that Eckart is among us, my last resort is Eckart when my world falls apart.
I love the frog/prince story. Beautiful.
All of your worries will go away..in time ..but u have to trust yourself...there are parts of you who you have not met yet..
Look inwards give yourself a chance !
Transforming the thought into presence... so beautiful. The presence is also relationship... I learned this from Marshall Vian Summers' work. I recommend checking him out, there's much wisdom in his teachings as well...
Thank you!
The Presence!
I am 70 years old I have dealt with addictions my whole life.I'm still here fighting.
Yes you can!!🍀🙏
You are strong
And great I get inspiration from people like you
keep going
Love and trust God .
You are a blessing to so many. Thankyou. I'm concerned about your posture, guess it comes from a lot of reading and writing . Please be aware, it is reversible if you catch it and work daily to strengthen the shoulder/back muscles and stretch the pecs back to their former state. much love and peace.
Love Eckhart. He actually makes me laugh without even trying . Legend. Awesome advice too ❤
에카르트톨레 선생님 감사합니다 덕분입니다 _(())_
Thank you very much, for this wonderful teaching.🌸🙏
I'm 73. I've tried everything. Help. Make the impulse go away forever now thank you
I find it very helpful to listen to eckhart toll for help
I'm sober from alcoholism for a long time. There is nothing like the compulsive urge to pick up a drink. It's like a 100 ton truck driving through the brain! Comes fast and furious, even in aware and semi-conscious people. That's why daily presence meditation has to be practised by alcoholics.
Brilliant explanation. I could cry, that I got it at last. Thank you Eckhart !
We can’t stop our thoughts but we can stop them to stay there for long.
I like the concept of using each circumstance as an opportunity for my (your) personal spiritual practice. The rewarding experience could be unending, always available and arising. And the energy of self sabotage thoughts weaken and dissolves over time. Yes! Replace that disappearing energy with positive energy 😊
Eckart I don’t know how to thank you enough.
Suffering from anorexia for many years now it has transformed in an addiction to food and screens. Today as many days I indulge in overeating and binge watching and it ruined my day, my mood and confidence.
I feel so much culpability because I have big dreams and I am just laying there with an unconscious body and mind, torn between awakening and self sabotage.
And every time you are there andI feel better, and I know all this will lead me somewhere, and there is a meaning behind, I am even “lucky”!
Tomorrow is an other day
Blessing to you all
Does anyone else feel as if you have outgrown this world, and all you want is to go home?
yes me
@@joeymitchell5467 yes
Wow this one is so deep
Always Thankful and Grateful for Eckhart sir 🙏🏼
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I feel like this might be one of the most impactful video's I'm gonna watch this year
No Mud, No Lotus
Thank you for this practice.
Thank you for explaining the difference between will power and awareness 💜💜💜
🎉Sir ECKHART EXPLAINS IT FOR US
SO UNDERSTANDABLE
FOR THE LIZARD BRAIN.
THANKS!
That was fantastic! Thank you!! I love the frog bit, and everything in this video.
self observation of your thoughts AND feelings is key. The impulse is often a 'feeling' (or at least a thought accompanied by a feeling) and to help yourself observe that feeling it can be a good idea to describe it to yourself. Ask yourself where in the body is it located. What are its characteristics? Does it feel hot, cold, sharp, nagging etc? Does it have a colour? These are all things that helped me.
This is what I did today when I observed the feeling of resentment and non-forgiveness I have about the broken relationship. I closed my eyes and I observed it. It turned out to be red burning around my ears but always beyond reach of my inner eyesight. Then I tried to turn my inner gaze to the left and to the right. It was difficult but as I did it the burning dissolved... I know it will come back again but it was an interesting experience indeed
I feel like this was a tailor designed spiritual video for me ! Needed this right now thank you ❤
What's needed is a shift in mindset, I'm not saying I can do it, I am saying for me at least its the only thing that worked, when you realise you're out of any other options but to do That!
when you get a craving from your adiction, it is an oportunity to grow
Interesting true meaning of alchemy the transformation of human consciousness
This is my favorite talk so far..thank you🙏❤🎉
I’m having issues with self sabotaging in regards to binge eating. I’m in relatively good shape, but I have a perfectionist mentality that is being driven from my egoic mind. I am able to keep it at bay for the most part, but when I feel stressed or let down by myself, I feel this primal urge to splurge on food and discontinue my workouts, sabotaging my progress and efforts and getting caught up in the proverbial hamster wheel. It has been a great struggle for me. The last couple of times that it has occurred, I have attempted to sit with it more and delay the urge. But the urges come back in full force. It feels so primal that logic can’t seem to stop it. I’m hoping by cultivating more presence I can overcome this obstacle. Any additional wisdom or knowledge would be welcome. Bless you all.
What I’ve found is that it takes time. As you’re no doubt aware it’s like a muscle that needs to be strengthened. When you experience the urges and uncomfortable feeling I have found that if I go for a walk or work out, eat a healthy piece of food or have a drink of sparkling water that the urge dissipates. I think the trick is to seek a low state of healthy dopamine.
A wonderful practice! Thank you, Eckhart! ☺
But the more I think about it, the more I see what this really means. Observing the situation and sitting with and extending a threshold for (safe) discomfort.
This theme goes well with the season
This man is a national treasure
Just what I needed
Thank you. You are real blessing . I hope kids can lean. For me my housband that i miss very much, but need to go out of my mind. I will practice. Thanks again
Thanks! I appreciate all of your wisdom you helped me get over drug addiction (the power of the now)
Brilliant talk, just an FYI- to facilitate the release of stuck energy, turn attention in, breath deep abdominal breaths of LIGHT into the space being observed.
thank You Eckhart❤❤❤🙏
Thank you😌 for healing with humor
This is exactly what I needed right now!! Amazing! Thank you!
SITTING WITH EYES CLOSED AND THE MIND IS STILL GOING ON AND ON ANYWAY
I just got into a video of this channel, that leads me to another video to another and finally got here, just a few minutes ago and this was uploaded like 2h but it really hits my spot in this rough time that i'm, theres so much to learn, ty
That gremlin moment will remain with me as my reminder. Thank you
My sabotage is that I tend to reject ppl before they can reject me.
That part about the mind giving a reason to indulge in our addiction is so accurate. Exact same stuff I deceive myself with...
I just realized, after many years of watching Tolle's videos, it's like he's telling us a bedtime story, a very soothing, comforting bedtime story.
Except that bedtime stories are for making you go to sleep :p
Thank you so much for your video it's helping me so much I look forward to seeing other videos of you
12:35 The story of kiss the frog.... Love acceptance and transformation🌷
Obrigada.
I can do all things though Yahusha who strengthens me!
This is the most practical sensible spiritual talk that I have heard in decades. Hark ye to it!
Gratitude
Love this, thank you. 🙏❤️🦋🇮🇪
My addiction started at 4. From neglect and being alone I replaced affection, touch, love and hope with dopamine spikes. That young, my mind was wired to do that instead of living. So 38 years now I am still alone. I dont believe it controls me now but the guilt and shame does. And thats too much for people to handle, so they leave. Always. Just recently lost a friend by not considering their feelings, instead desperately reaching for a hand to pull me out of the black. So close..but now I am stuck beyond reach.
Hey ! How are you now ?
@@wouttengrootenhuysen5137 Thanks for asking! New meds are helping me not feel as bad. But also not feeling at all it would seem. One day at a time.
@@shanharlmall one day at a time is good .:) Yeah that's the thing with medication isn't it, it tends to sedate. I mean, I definitely don't wanna tell you what to do, I"m just a stranger from the internet haha but I hope you can feel better, in both ways,
I understand
Beautiful! 💝
Thank you for the guidance !
This man is awesome!!!!!
Just wat I needed to hear but knew love to you all ❤ The ego occulted into a few bad habits- time to be me again 🎉