Episode 5 Finding The Balance: Can you be both Submissive and Dignified

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[@themuslimmum]

Alhumdulillah sister, I respect how you always refer to the Quran to explain things!

[@keddah_ismail]

I love this topic : it's a spiritual struggle for those who have been through a lot in their lives , it's difficult to maintain on one path , the falling to submission for wordly things get us down in our worse moment

[@aisham1057]

SubhanAllah! السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته sisters. Some women feel like they're slaves to their husbands because of this society, women's lib and being a feminists has taken over their lives, where they don't know how to be a normal woman like the wives of our beloved prophet muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم. Some women don't know their roles as a wife/wives and mothers. Everyone needs to do their job according to Quran and Sunnah for the sake of الله. Put your feelings aside and worship Allah! You're see the difference moving forward! May الله help the women of the Ummah! اللهم امين 🧕🧕🧕

[@wesplanbdg]

mashaa Allah ...percakapan yang berilmu dan mencerahkan....

[@aminah761]

Submission is For Allah only . Not Allah creation . Wives are to be obeitetant to thier husbands as long as he does not go Against what is permissible

[@emaadkhalid]

Sister Aminah how can you be reached?

[@Nouraalsheryani]

Thank you for creating this video !

[@faryaarshad9846]

Salaam sister Naima,
I have a question for married ladies out there,
How does one prioritize relationship with Allah swt after marriage?
I always fear that there will be lots of distractions & responsibilities after marriage, which might end up in weakening of my relationship with Allah swt, any tips to overcome this feeling? JazakAllah

[@aal-e-ahmadhussain3123]

The same applies to men. This is why Nabi ﷺ consoled those get married, who would undoubtedly have to adjust and change some habits and routines to accommodate marriage:
1) Hazrat Raqashi (may Allah have mercy on him) narrated that Nabi ﷺ said, “When a person gets married they have completed half of their deen, so let them fear Allah with regard to the other half.” (Al-Bayhaqi, in Shu’abul-Iman, sahih)
2) Hazrat Anas ibn Malik reported that the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Whoever Allah provides with a righteous wife, Allah has assisted him in half of his religion. Let him fear Allah regarding the second half.” (Tabarani in Al-Awsat and Hakim in Al-Mustadrak, sahih)

[@yassmeenmohamed6633]

Jazakumm Allah khairan dear sisters
The series was like strengthening pills to my muslim identity so far❤
But where's Aisha (RA) part

[@aal-e-ahmadhussain3123]

Would be good to give womenfolk an insight to the submissiveness and subordination men have to, and are obliged to, experience. All men operate within hierarchies, and very few of them are at the top of the heap. If the ego is strong, it can’t tolerate such things.
In the West there’s an idea of women’s suffrage, but many who recall this don’t think much on “men’s suffrage”. It results in skewed ideas, ideals and goals.
But the points you make emphasise that neither women nor men need “liberation” or suffrage. We need to know where Allah ﷻ wants us to be, and we have to stand on our duty.

[@TheEpicChikidii]

I’m probably in the minority here but I don’t see why we have to constantly bash wives over the head with “submit to husband” and “unconditional obedience” Maybe we should change the narrative that we “Submit and Obey” to ALLAH and Allahs teaching via the Prophet PBUH, which tell us to LISTEN (not submit) to the husband. Because realistically we do not submit to the husband; if he tells us to do haram, don’t pray, cut your family ties and never see your parents again, etc. we have to ignore him. However, we obey and submit to Allah alone by listening to *reasonable* requests of the husband, after filtering for ourselves, if the request is halal and fair (not overruling or neglecting our rights as a wife). Also, rather than feminists, for me the far worse connotations of these words is actually from so-called Muslim men, following these red pill boys clubs, who basically almost develop a god-complex astagfirillah They want unconditional obedience, submission and servitude to the degree that it’s clear the man is actually viewing the woman as his slave and as an inferior creation to men, and that the women should practically worship the husband. There is so much abuse of the leadership position of husband, because most are obsessed with power and control but totally ignore the characteristics and mannerisms of the Prophet PBUH, that the woman is naturally vulnerable to an abusive controlling husband and will have a reaction to these words, submit and obey to another creation (a man; or husband). Anyways, Muslim women should be accurately aware that submission and obedience is only for Allah and if the man is being hyper-controlling, to the degree that he says I don’t give you permission to go outside, to do optional fasting, to even have a say in any family decision and because I alone will decide and then only inform you after I have already finalized my decision, then it’s better to divorce, because you will only have hatred and resentment and you can’t continue to show respect to someone that constantly put you down and demeans you as inferior. If more women were willing to teach their sons the balance, and to give men consequences for actually bad behaviour (not he didn’t buy you a name brand purse, or nicer car) then maybe we can see positive change. But this world isn’t junnah so may Allah just make all our struggles easier, forgive our sins, and allow us to be junnah with our true love, even if we never find love from our spouse in the dunyah

[@SalimatuBJalloh-ki3ok]

Ameen

[@ummaire8643]

Assalamualaikum any sister here looking for nikkah

[@aminah761]

😢 I am

[@ummaire8643]

@@aminah761 sister aminah how are you and where are you from and how old are you dear sister Aminah

[@coolerthetyrant7923]

@@aminah761 don't get married otherwise u will have to be submissive to the husband who is a creation so don't get married and since you're not marriage material ull become a burdon on the guy whoever married u