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- Do you struggle with self-confidence and self love? Self love is loving yourself. Are you someone who is wondering how to self love? Self love affects us from the way we view ourselves, to the decisions we make, to even relationships we have. Without self love, we get into toxic relationships, toxic habits, and even having depression. If you or a friend or someone you care about seems to lack self love, consider sharing this video with them. The first step towards change is self awareness.
Also, if you relate to this video, we've also done a video previously on some self care tips you can apply in your life when you feel broken: • 5 Self Care Tips When ...
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References:
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Arylo, C. (2017, February 26). 12 Signs You Lack Self Love. Retrieved from www.huffpost.com/entry/12-signs-you-lack-self-lo_b_9329236
Dornelly, A. G. (2014, July 04). Eight key signs that you are lacking in self-love. Retrieved from www.lifecoach-directory.org.uk/memberarticles/8-key-signs-that-you-are-lacking-in-self-love
Love, T. P. (2018, April 24). Do You Love Yourself? 5 Signs That You Lack Self
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Partridge, J. (2018, April 18). 5 Signs You Are Lacking Self Love. Retrieved from www.jenniferpartridge.com/5-signs-you-are-lacking-self-love/
Sewell, B. (2020, February 29). The 69 most common signs of low self-worth. Retrieved from www.increasingselfworth.com/69-signs-of-low-self-worth/
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me: [already knows that i lack self-love]
also me: mhm interesting, let’s watch this and see if i REALLY lack self-love
And end up getting sadder
And then do nothing about it 🥳
Danae. Stardoll yes ;w;
Mae Peterson yeah TwT
did you check off all of the signs like i did?
When you realise you’ve been in a dark place since elementary school
I have been here since I was like 14
I kinda born there
Gabriel Dos Santos Santa I feel that :(
Yea nobody really cares...... 😬😂😪🙆
@@gabrieldossantossanta5656 Yeh me too
When this is the only test you've ever scored 100% on...
lol..
Grades aren’t everything you know my brother is one of the most amazingly smart people. He struggles with school subjects but if anything needs to be put together or fixed he can just look at it and understand how it works and how to put it together or fix it
Infinite Dragon thanks for the example of your brother! I’m trying to get out of this toxic mindset right now and this really helped!
Ouch felt that
I can relate :/
Okay, I get it. “Be yourself”. But honestly, idk who the real me is. Without anyone else around to bias my actions, I wouldn’t know what I’d do.
Same I don't know the real me I'm just so confusing-
That's why you need Jesus; only He can give you your identity because He created you. He knows His plan for you, your strengths, your weaknesses and your personality. Jeremiah 29:11
@@rox3162 God created you. If you want to know who you are, ask God. Father God in the name of Jesus I pray that you show this person who you created this person to be. I pray Lord that you teach the person reading this how to love his or herself and to know you personally in Jesus name Amen. God loves you. He created you. Through knowing Him, you will know yourself more.
@@simplyxstqr6 If you want to know yourself more, ask God. He created you.
Pray this prayer:
Father God in the name of Jesus I pray that you reveal Yourself unto me. Show me who you created me to be. I know that you have a plan to prosper me plans of good and not of evil plans to give me a hope and a future. Lord I pray that you show me myself in your eyes so that my love for You and myself may grow in Jesus name Amen.
@@jadapoole3625 :o this is so sweettttt!!!! Thank youuuu ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Summary:
1. You hide your true self from others.
2. You over-analyze your own behavior.
3. You have a strong fear of being judged by others.
4. You struggle with physical and mental self-care.
5. You feel inferior to others.
6. You're too hard on yourself.
7. You lack confidence.
8. You need excessive affirmation and attention.
9. You have difficult and unstable relationships.
10. You settle for less.
Alyssa *crying emoji* IT ME ugghhh
goddamit
Most of this is a direct description of me oof
1,2,3,4,5,6,7,9,10 all those are true for me
I’m 1 2 3 4 6 7 9 10 and 8
“The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too.”
― Ernest Hemingway
I never found myself to begin with
This is me before breaking up with someone after 12 years
I see you everywhere
Goddamn that hits hard, thank you for sharing
@@ginalentil3557 12 years? Try 20 years of marriage and 2 children. That tends to tear the heart out of you. Especially when the ex cuts the children out of his life in favour of his girlfriend's family. He doesn't even know his own grandchildren. I loved my ex way too much.
I can’t even be my real self in my journal...
Hang in there!
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same... i just don't want anyone to read it so i dont write everything
@@shriyarane8745 me too. my parents or friends sometimes sneek on my journal. that's why i started to stop writing all of my thoughts and feelings and just memorized them lmao
@@yuri6642 twinsies
Oh my gosh. Even when im alone trying to be honest with myself, i still catch myself questioning if this is really the real me
“You feel inferior to others”... This hit me real hard. No matter how hard I try to stop comparing myself to others I still do it. It’s seems like it’s impossible for me to get rid of this horrible mindset of -“everybody’s better then you”, “your opinion worth nothing” and my favourite “no matter how hard you work it’s never enough”. I would never wish such a combination to anyone... it’s truly awful to live like that but I’m trying my best to fight it. If there’s anyone who went through this I would like to hear your suggestions on how to fight it more effectively. Best wishes to y’all
Ps: it’s been two years since I wrote it and I never could have guessed that so many people would respond to it. At the time I was at my lowest and my future seemed uncertain and dark. I thought that I’ll always feel this way about myself. But everything changed. To all of you people going through this - I believe in you! I know that each and every one of you are more than capable to reach this beautiful state of mind. This absolute peace. When you don’t judge nor blame yourself for mistakes, when you don’t compare yourself, when you are happy to be you and love yourself so much you don’t want to ever hurt yourself again like this. This is more than possible, there is a way out of this. It might take time, like it was for me, but it worth all the waiting. Send you lots of love and warm hugs💕
Damn, I sort of relate this to myself because everyone around me is constantly better than me. They’re always smarter than me, always funnier, always more enjoyable..and overall more happy than me. I always feel inferior and lesser than them, and I tried to do better yet I failed. It’s nice to see someone dealing with the same issue as me, and I wish you luck with it. I’m planning on seeing a therapist to see if they can help, so I suggest going to one as well yo see if they can often any help. Best of luck to ya stranger.
@@Magdood thanks. No chance to see therapist, but I’m working on this problem myself. And I’ve got to say it’s getting better. Wish you to get better too
You lack of self-confidience that way you have that feel that others are better than you. In reallty you are worthy like other people around you.
I always tell myself “I’m a background character in my own story”, I always compare myself to one of my few friends, she’s smarter, more experienced, prettier, nicer, more popular, happier, everything! She’s just the person I could’ve became if I didn’t just ruin everything by being a lazy rude ass. We were even born on the same day, which is kinda funny.
@@xem_ity I remember comparing myself to my bf. We were the two best students in our class and we used to compete all the time. We never spoke about this competition out loud but it always pressured me. But I used this competition as a motivation and it actually worked pretty great for me. I know that everyone is different but I hope that it would possibly be helpful. And I also wanted to say that it doesn’t matter if you’re the same age. It doesn’t change the fact that you’re different and wonderful in your own way. So love yourself and be the main character in your own story. Best wishes (p.s. I know that my motivational speech might sound ridiculous coming from someone who’s struggling from self esteem problems. But despite that fact my words were sincere.)
me: knows i will relate to all 10 signs
also me: watches the video anyway
I love your channel ❤️
And remember our boys
They taught us to love ourselves 💜
i had the username first GO AWAY JDNJSDKSDM
Ikr
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I like listening to my problems
I told this to myself all the time, it's time for me to say it to you:
"Don't be scared of losing people, be scared of losing yourself pleasing others."
This is a very true statement.
oof... too late
Too late..... How do i fix that?
It's not late to fix anything, You still have time to repair yourself, your still breathing.
@@kevmasengale6903 Pick yourself little by little, there's still the pieces of you inside. It's just waiting to be found
I thought I loved myself, but I actually feel familiar with most of these signs😬
how
Why is this posted two days ago this video isn’t even posted 2 days ago
Wait. Two days ago!? Wth!?
Ikrr😔
people with memberships most likely
“You hide your true self from others “
Gurl I don’t even *know* my true self
Same pal same.
I do but I hide it
Pretty sure my true self moved away once elementary school was over and forgot to take me with him...
25 years and STILL trying to find what I want/need/desire...and still no luck.
actually happy to see that Im not alone
True..till now i guess i was in illusion tht i love myself ..and practising self love but didn't knew so many things i was doing to get into the field i want and putting myself into unnecessary issues
"Confidence"? What's that? Some kind of food? What does it taste like? I've never had it before.
Yeah it's a type of food.
Funny
Same
yeah bro its some kind of food, i cant afford it tho - , -
Marcelo Saunders I had a confidence crisis (I made the phrase up I think), at that time I didn’t believe there was a single thing about me that I could be proud of
0. You very often escape to the past.
Oh, this is about me 😓
how
H O W
Unlisted
uploaded nine mins ago this was 16 hours ago-
Same here, its such a comfortable blanket of nostalgia and calm even tho its probably not helpful in the long run
Having self love is the biggest healer in the world. If people learn to self love majority of the world problems will solve themselves.
Yeah, that's probably true
Whoa
Yeah soo true
That's probably true...
How to love self? Kindly answer.
I don’t even know what my true self is anymore...
Me either
@@sridam8409 ❤️
@@amberleyah3047 ♥️
I'm actually confused as to how I live through these constantly, but still genuinely believe I love myself...
same, I thought I did, but I still relate to the majority of the signs so :)
Same >_> I've been working since therapy on myself and I genuinely feel like loving myself, I even find myself quite attractive by now what wasn't the case a year ago. And still I regret stuff I said in my bubbly conversations, overthink every action I've taken throughout the day... I relate to a majority of that and it's kinda really weird.
same
@@MachineSlayerX Um, how the hell is lacking self love funny?
Misty Kittykat People use humor as a coping mechanism for pain.
Everyone : jUst Be yoUrsElf
Me being myself
Everyone: oMg u nEEd tO cHaNge
Then people wonder why self hate and low self esteem at an all time high
People really suck 😒
I'm also struggling too but that's called being yourself right !
Sunshine
Me, someone with Asperger’s: *is myself*
Everyone: “Wait no stop”
Sunshine
Same to me
People dont tell you to change. They only tell you to fit in with society
It's not easy to accept love from someone else when you struggle with loving yourself....
yeah. I see so many comment from people trying to cheer other people up and although I get that they have good intentions it just doesn't work like that. as much as I want to believe it those thoughts are still there, it doesn't change anything.
@@theunofficialpistachio3652 cheerful comments are nice to read because of the good intentions. Behind friendly comments are sensitive souls struggling with life as much as others are. All we can do is hope the best for others and for ourselves. I came across this video about self help th-cam.com/video/dmLTLkCBSN8/w-d-xo.html it's different from other motivational videos. I like it, but for some reason, I still feel stuck. But little progress is better than no progress.
Yes. Also I dont trust anyone, not even the ones closest to me. In my view, one day everyone will betray me one day. I've been betrayed by friends many many times throughout my life. That's why making friends is so hard for me.
@@mabelidove6813 Try this one, if you don't know it yet: th-cam.com/video/gcH6tFugYfo/w-d-xo.html&ab_channel=CharismaonCommand
It's the only video/advice that really helped me out. I've tried a few things and also went to therapy, but for some reason this video was my turning point. Maybe it also helps you out. Wish you all the best!
@@OrangeDragon04 I think I also develop extreme trust issues when I was confiding with my mom about being bullied in elementary school and the first thing she said "Maybe you did something to upset them". Idk maybe she's right but It's an arrow to the knee for sure.
Does anyone else watch these while crying because you relate to it but to scared to ask for help because your to scared to ask for help because you don't want people to change the way they look at you
Me🥺
It's about taking the step. It's a lot easier for me to tell other ppl advice than myself. It helped me when i started listening to my own advice. And actually trying like it feels bad and wrong coz I've been like this for so long. But push through it.
24/7
thank you for the encouragement and the support and I hope you have a good day and one thing that helped me with self love even though I'm still struggling with it is the cursed princess club on webtoon
@@shelbydickerson302 oo i’ll check it out
“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection”
― Sharon Salzberg
I'm hella sure i dont deserve anything
Nobody deserves love, we all just want it
Love is pointless it just annoying
No
@@toss_the_blade_subliminals4923 Yep
I started crying 4 minutes into the video because I was hitting every point and realised that I really don't love myself. I always jokingly said I hated myself and I've never felt comfortable with myself, but this made it scarily clear to me
Edit: Jesus christ 800+ likes? Thank you all for the replies, reading them has really made my day and I'm taking on all advice given. The internet is such a special place ❤️ x
same
I've only been starting to realize that I've been a bitch to people and to myself my whole life...and I hate myself for not doing better
Yes, I started tearing up because of how true it is
Same here
Same here my friend. Same here.
Me: **has all 10 signs**
Also me: Thats- that's fine.
its spelled signs
@@yuvi6123 Everyone makes mistakes, you know.
Aisha Tariq Yes, yes i do know. She spelled it wrong so i pointed it out and now its fixed, i dont see the problem here
i have all 10 signs as well TwT
orzo bruh this isn’t a spelling bee 😹
Self love feels like something only narcissists do. Every time I try it just feels so forced and fake...
True, I hate that feeling
Take it slow. It helps me to take 1 little step at a time and be honest and open about my insecurities about it qith somw good friends. They offer me honest feedback so I know if I can go a bit further. You also could do rhis qith a coach or therapist.
I feel like I'd become a narcissist if I ever loved myself...
Yeah I have that feeling too. When I was 16, there were ppl on social media ( school friends whom I hated) saying love yourself and stuff, I felt like stop doing this bullshit. When people fantasize looking in mirror, feeling pretty, I felt that all a bullshit.
For me, it feels forced, fake and most importantly cringey too.
it just kept getting sadder as they kept describing me.
So true it’s sad but the whole vid describes me
Imma just chill in the corner here, licking my wounds.
Lemme know if you wanna know the secret to the universe.. it helped me get over my suicidal thoughts 🤷♂️
Addam Riley please tell me
Lulu Garcia well basically behind the scenes, quantum physicists have proven that the energy responsible for our consciousness, is a singularity... that means that our brains do not produce their own consciousness but connect to it like wifi... that means we’ve all literally been the same person this entire time. There is no death. Aliens are real, and they’re literally all “you” aswell. The difference is that they know it and humanity(majority) doesn’t. They are waiting for us to figure this out so that we can flip the script on this matrix society and usher in the space age and abundance for all... that’s apparently how type 1 civilisations are created... what we call “humanoid” is actually known as star configuration ⭐️ and is a form that most life in the universe takes on its evolutionary path... a lot of aliens literally look human and others don’t 👽✌️... they know all your thoughts(because they are you)... and if we can hang on a little longer, we can make it. I hope th his helps you like it helped me. 🐣
It's okay to shed a tear, but don't you tear yourself.
-KimNamjoon, moonchild
Are you an army?
💜💜💜💜
namjoon never fails to impress
That is beautiful-
The secret fans will like your comment, but they are too cowardly to reply to your comment. >:)
“Nobody is ugly, we were just born in a judgmental society.” -Kim Namjoon (RM) of BTS)
Sad but true 😔
That’s the deepest comment comment from a kpop stan
🥺🥺
@@LuisFlores-tx4ee well... just bc we are kpop stans it doesnt mean we are dumb. We can be crackheads at times... but we are actually very deep and thoughtful 😊
@@LuisFlores-tx4ee yes we probably do seem like weird crackheads but if you got to know is we're are actually pretty introspective at times and we know the importance of self love because bts talks about it all the time
This is a very serious problem that the entire world is suffering.
The ten signs are:
1. You don't show anybody your true self
2. You overanalyze your own behaviour
3. You have a strong fear of being judged by others
4. You struggle with your physical and mental self care
5. You feel inferior to others
6. You are too hard on yourself
7. You lack confidence
8. You need excessive affirmation and attention
9. You have difficult and unstable relationships
10. You settle for less
i have all of those ;-;
I have 8 of them
Have all of them
I have most...
Ah yes atleast i got a 10/10
*Next video:* 10 ways to improve self-love
_... because seriously I do need it._
We all
Sadly the next post was 10 signs you lack self awareness but I hope they do “10 ways to improve self love” I really need it 😞
They won’t. The purpose of this channel is to raise awareness to symptoms of poor mental health. Not to provide solutions. They are not legally or professionally qualified to be providing any advice and the channel could be terminated if they did.
Sorry guys we’re on our own
Yes please 😱
GoldenOracle64 goddamn.
Me, clicking on this video just for fun: Okay-
Me, realizing I can relate to EVERY. SINGLE. THING. ON. THIS. LIST.: OH-
OKAY
I GUESS
MHM
OKAY-
Same
Yeah me too
Same
I always wondered why I couldn't love myself, and then I realized that my definition of love was given to me by my birth family. Their love was conditional. It was toxic love. The only me that could exist was what was allowed to exist. They didn't love me, they loved some version of me that isn't really there. I didn't love my family, i feared them. I feared defying their expectations of who I am because that's how they conditioned me. Fear was living in my heart masquerading as love and destroying anything and everything I could possibly care about for almost 2 decades into my adulthood.
I didn't love myself, I feared myself. Because I feared myself, I hated myself. I was never going to feel good about myself because I was always going to have aspects of myself that I hated and / or feared. True love is unconditional. There is no bar you have to pass, or behaviors you need to achieve in order to gain true love. To love yourself unconditionally, is to accept everything about yourself without hesitation or reservation. If you can't do that, you will just keep focusing on that one thing you hate.
You have to commit to fully respecting yourself as a person, and loving everything about yourself and everything you do no matter what you do. That doesn't mean anyone else has to love it, and it won't matter. It also doesn't mean you can't improve yourself. You can still have goals and work towards them. It's just if you are always waiting to cross some boundary or achievement to finally start liking yourself, that day will never come. You have to love and accept yourself fully as you are right now, including everything you hate and fear about yourself. You have to realize there is nothing wrong with you, even when you make mistakes.
If you are like me, and your definition of love is toxic, then every nice thing anyone ever does will never come across as anything but antagonistic or threatening. You will never be able to accept or receive kindness as kindness from others. It will always feel hollow or manipulative. Every compliment will feel unearned. Every achievement will feel hollow. Pretty much everything in this video will be true for you.
Anyway, as someone who has been on this journey, I hope this helps someone. It's nuts when I think about it. Why would I be born to hate myself? What the fuck is that? That doesn't make any sense. I didn't do that! I didn't decide that! I was pretty helpless about it too, until much therapy and work. We have to love ourselves. If there is just one person in your life that you can love, make sure it's you. If you can't love yourself, It's going to be hard to love others, and recieve their love as love.
At least somebody made it out of the hellhole that is depression, anxiety and self-hatred, at least it shows me that it is possible even though therapy does nothing. This made me happy, even though it was for a minute, be happy yourself knowing that you made a 13 year old who has started self harm at the age of 6 happy for a bit.
Thank you !!! You don't know how much you have helped mee
i’ve been masking my own personality for so long i dont even know what my actual personality even is,, i’ve become to overwhelmed by my anxiety that i let it control who I am. I often act like characters that I admire because I like them more than i like myself,, and that basically leaves me with,,
i’m too lazy, I’m a massive procrastinator, i hate myself so much to the point i don’t even know my actual personality anymore, and I’m a wimp who lets my anxiety get the better of me all the time,,, to the point i mask my true personality for something else,,,,
Yeah sis, I know someone like this...
Might as well continue masking what’s the point in stopping what you already started you lost your personality so why not just continue until you find what personality your satisfied with
I’m so sorry you feel like this but I relate. I’m here if you need someone to talk to
I feel the same. I often overthinking about people that hate me, when someone hate me i blame my self. I lack of confidence. I got bully when i was in elementary, junior, and high school. I've been suffering from anxiety and depression. I took medication, it works, but i stoped and it get worst now. Now i dont have trust to overyone. I know its wrong but i cant help, but i wanna change . I just wanna stop please everyone and love my self and show my true self, but its hard to get rid my anxiety. Im so done with my own self.
Sorry for my bad english
I also don't know what kind of my own personality i scarred to be judge, being hated, being left alone in the end i just feel like a puppet for society... I don't know what i want to be, i don't have a dream, i don't have any interes in anything i just do what others want me to do and i think that the only reason i'm leaving in this world.... when people leave me i don't feel anything
I'm sorry for my broken english
From someone who has struggled with self love and esteem for several years. Another sign you lack self love is you think all that negativity and bullying toward yourself is justified. And you don't see it as a big deal, like it's something obvious. So when someone genuinely claims you are too hard on yourself, you get a bit confused.
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@Reddit tea me too
So true :(
I think this is very important
:(... yeah
summary:
1. You hide your true self from others 1:02
2. You over analyze your own behavior 1:27
3. You have a strong fear of being judged by others 1:52
4. You struggle with your physical and mental self care 2:18
5. You feel inferior to others 2:45
6. You’re too hard on yourself 3:05
7. You lack confidence 3:27
8. You need excessive affirmation and attention 3:48
9. You have difficult and unstable relationships 4:08
10. You settle for less 4:34
Recommend watching to learn more 🖤
Thaaank youu !
Glad to say that I'm the 300th like
You are the only one I have seen to both put time stamps and recommend further watching. You are a beautiful example of what a good comment of this kind should look like. God speed, you magnificent bastard!
great
What should I do If I am 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8 and 9 but have a deep fear of interacting with any physiologist and/or doctor and also feel like even if I told my family and friends they wouldn't get it so I don't bother
Soooo, apparently I hate myself, and I bottle up my emotions, I have social anxiety, think my friends would have a better time without me, and I mask my personality 😅 I thought that was just a part of being an introvert
Same !!
We should be friends cuz thats exactly how i act :>
So we living the same life 🤨
Same!!!
Bro! Same!!!
When you knew you had self love issues but you didn't know it was that deep. That's how I feel right now. Thank you for this video.
I know you posted this comment 2 years ago, but I hope that whatever you’re dealt with is better. and if it’s not, I hope that you get the support you need to get better
I know I’m a stranger online, but I’d love to hear your story and how you’re doing if talking about it helps
Remember you’re not alone. There’s a bunch of people who don’t love themselves that don’t even realize there are others exactly like them. We all just feel alone together
Anyways, I hope one day you will find a group of people who will truly love and accept you, and I hope you find success in life, whatever that may be to you :)
@@beatmonster9586 thank you so much 🤍 It’s a battle everyday but I get stronger everyday. I hope you have the support that you need as well. Stay safe out there ✌🏾🫰🏾
The one who say I love myself don’t love himself.
The one that do not talk about loving himself love himself.
Me: okay let's write a comment
Also me: what if people won't like it? does this sound too serious? should I change that part? maybe i shouldn't post one afterall
Story of my life
I literally just deleted, like, 2 essays while I was here. At least I'm not alone.
Oooooof, not to mention the 'real life comments' we make.
Me: *just finishes a conversation* "oh no what if they interpret that wrong? They're gonna think Im rude or something. Should I go back and correct myself later when I see them again or dont bring it up again hoping they werent paying attention. What would be the right thing to say?"
PS: I edited this comment like 5 times over before posting...
I do this everytime I comment, and at times I even end up deleting it...
It's ok u can say u have no signs
Me: *being myself
My mom: act your age
Everyone: you’re so annoying
Me: *being fake
Everyone: why are you so quiet? You should talk more.
relatable
To me it's
Me *being fake
Everyone: **ignoring me**
Me: *being real
Everyone: Why are you so quiet lately? Are you depressed or something
I just never stopped talking and people get annoyed.
Btw don't mind them you're already awesome
I never be real
Everyone will know my weaknesses and use it against me
yeah that wasnt a problem till last year
I got a 10/10. Lots of work needs to be done and it WILL be done. Same goes for anyone reading this. You got this ❤️
thank you
Ik
I know you posted this a year ago, but I hope whatever you were dealing with is better now!
This is Spirit!❣️
Me who already suspected I did: Can't be that bad-
*Has all ten signs*
Me: *Oh that's not good-*
Same haha
Lol
Same. This hit hard for me....
Legit me I had no idea I was that bad
Same here
*Ah, yes. I appreciate the reminder.*
Me too lmaoo
sometimes I even think that my true self is the mask I wear in public, now I don't even know how is my true self anymore
Me too I dunno my personality anymore
You don’t have to do that, you can take that mask off and be who you are even if you don’t know who are at first, keep trying and be patient time comes. (Sorry if its cheesy, i’m really trying to motivate ppl haha😅)
I'm gonna be honest, me neither.
I- I don't even know who I am, I only remember my old personality of when I never faked who I am
Wait- No, I don't remember that clearly- :')
Soo yeah, I've lost myself XD
Same
@@youreabtch3408 its not that easy tho :(
I remember years of hating myself *for* not loving myself because I saw self-love as the normal state of being and being unable to cultivate it as a failure. Then I realised the only true road from self-hate to self-love is the long one - through forcing yourself to merely tolerate yourself at first, then to accept, respect,like and finally love yourself. I'm somewhere near the self-acceptance stage now.
How did u do it? I'm barely learning that I'm lacking self love so I guess you could say I'm at step zero.
@@sidraMPatty first step to it is self awareness
To everyone who had a bad day, month or year. This is for you:
I know you are falling apart and now it is starting to terrify you .This might be the year that made you feel more human ,more flawed and more broken than ever.
I hope the coming days fill all the cracks of your heart and you are reminded that you are not alone ,because you are loved ,all of us are.
I hope this little gesture remind you that everything will be okay, not now but eventually💖
Thnxx 🙂
I mean I deserve the stuff going on with me rn but damn still hurts
tysm love 💗💗
I really needed to hear that. Thank you.
Here comes teary eyes... Thanks so much, I really needed this. I wish the same to you.
when you realize you haven’t had any self love since 5th grade
Same
Same..
samee
Same
@Side 999 same.. makes my heart ache from how little I've come
Psycho2Go: 'you hide your true self from others.
Me: Jokes on you, I don't even know who I truly am.
Edit: OMG this is the most amount of likes and comments I've ever gotten, thank you so much!
This is my type of humor
Damn it i feel the same here🤙🏻
I lost
I lost
I lost control again
Everything’s the same and I’m to blame
I lost control again
I don’t
I don’t
I don’t know who I am
-A popular song that I can relate to
@@anidiot6770 Yeah I do that too
same lmfao
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Self love is too difficult especially when you try to improve but life just slaps you with rejection, disappointment, stress, and depression all at the same time.
so true, hope you're doing well
*You.* Yes, you! You reading this comment! I am all of these signs and I'm currently working on ways to improve myself. Shutting out toxic thoughts helps. There's no guarantee that you won't feel scared or anxious but know that one day, you will get tired of being tired. If you want things to change *just do it instead. Stop thinking about it!* *Do* something nice for yourself! Join a class just to listen to a topic you're interested in! Look at positive videos to help your self esteem and educate you! Go get a spa treatment! Write in a journal the things you want to change and exhale them from your life! Go at your own pace! You're worth investing in and I'm here to tell you that *"YOU CAN DO IT!"* Yes, I'm telling you what to do! I believe in you! You are amazing and that is the truth that you need to learn to live with! Much love to you all!
"10 signs you lack self love"
1. You clicked on this video
Mom im famous
Definitely 😂
Alex c yeah..
It's true and sad at the same time 😨🤧🤧
😂🤣
Okay but why you gotta be so loud 💀
me: has 8/10 signs
also me: we're just gonna ignore that
This is so me...
I got all of them dawg I ned help 😔
I’m just gonna pretend I didn’t see that-
Lol, cheers to skipping the good decisions we're too frail to make! Haha
Same! 😭
Everybody: watches video for self love.
Me: watches video to hear her soothing, calm voice.
I watch it for both
Exactly.. that's one of my reason watches to watches the video XD
I was exactly like that and due to the absence of this wonderful emotion (self-love), I suffered terribly. Depression, anxiety and codependency were some gruesome outcomes of not being able to love myself. I would put myself so down for people that even a doormat would not be so hateful to itself. Throughout the day, I was making sure that everyone is happy with me and my own happiness didn't exist for me. I unapologetically fell into the trap of people-pleasing. Never said 'no' to anyone. My passive aggression was silently killing me because being assertive was like creating a loop of disappointments.
It has been nearly 3 years, I am trying to improve myself.
The first step I took was that I started gaining knowledge, starting reading helpful books.
Step 2: I started accepting myself every single day. Every morning I would look into myself and compliment myself.
Step 3: I became less judgemental towards myself. If I did something wrong, instead of beating myself up, I comfort myself like I would comfort a loved one.
Step 4: I started doing the things that I feared the most for being judged. I started to talk to people whom I feared the most. It worked as a magic.
Step 5: I started being in present more. Concentrating on my breath, listening to chirping of birds, rain and wind. Being more and more with nature helps you to stimulate your emotions. It did wonders
Step 6: I didn't not shut my thoughts instead I confronted them bravely and automatically they disappeared.
Hope this will prove helpful to those who are struggling with this bone-and-heart-breaking problem.
Sorry I just I keep trying everything but it doesn't work, I keep trying to get out of this hole but I have been feeling like this for so long that sometimes I don't even know if the compliments I get are real all I see is just bad
Thank you I’ve actually done some of these and they’ve helped a lot. Of course it’s not a overnight thing to be able to accomplish, especially when you’ve felt like this for so long but long as you keep trying eventually you’ll get to where you need to be. Don’t stop, keep moving forward!
@@ketchumuu Jesus will help you conquer ugly feelings of uourself thru his agape love
The Voice makes me calm every time
It's strange how I tell everyone to love themselves, be themselves
And now I realized that what about me?
😪
Yup, I give others great advice, but I don’t do them owo
@@SoraJaxOrBasil yeah , I am still the same 🙁😓
@Oui oui je suis une baguette it's not easy ....but we will try 🙂
Same I tell people that they are beautiful and perfect how they are but I never thought about myself while saying that
Same ,no one cares about me
I’ve been a chameleon all my life so I don’t even know if my actual personality is real or not. Or if I even have a personality to begin with. I don’t know who I really am sometimes.
I feel called out
I can't be myself in front of people everytime when someone comes to my house even if it was my uncle I just shut up and have nothing to say and stay so calm and quite
That seems to be usually me cuz I may never really have much to say to just about anybody and everybody and does that make me evil or stupid or something maybe I'm just always somebody who has always been and still am not necessarily a very talkative person
well in person that is
That's what I did. Then my uncle died, and I regret it so much.
Over the last few years i forced myself really hard to do this to and if i wouldn't i thought i was too selfish and hated myself
Its exhausting i understand you
Same. I don't talk much around people I'm not comfortable with, I feel guilty sometimes. But then I think about it, "If they want me to talk to them why not just try getting to know me? I don't bite??", like I shouldn't be the one trying if *you're* trying to get my attention.
"Promise now to me, even if you feel like you're alone, several times of the day, don't throw yourself away."
-Park Jimin, Promise
I wish this would be pinned at the top of the comments
Atleast this world has Park Jimin and BTS :)
💜💜💜
Lovely.
Army power
I never knew what is self-love. I thought it was when someone is arrogant and full of themselves. I never knew what is parents “being proud of you” means, or being proud of my achievements means, similar to above, I thought being “proud” also equals being arrogant. Imagine my confusion when my first friend in college, who’s very humble and down-to-earth, mentioned about self-love. Soon after that, I fall into my first severe depression, slowly I came across the term “self-love”, only then what my friend said back then starting to make sense. But no, I’m far from practising it
My depression just said ”do you even need to watch.”
I like watching these and seeing how easy it is for me to relate to them
Right?
My anxiety was like “gurl! There’s need to click on this”
@@whocares665 yeah same...
I have all ten signs. All ten have ruined my life.
Anyways, I'm really hoping to go to uni this coming fall. I want to do stuff like meditate to improve my self love, but having people I know around me always makes me so self conscious, borderline scared and definitely stressed. But since my uni is UCLA and coronavirus is getting even worse over there, I imagine they will cancel my housing agreement soon. Sigh. I can't help but think that the longer I put off dealing with my depression, the longer it will take to rehabilitate. At this rate I will need more than a lifetime to recover. Meaning I would die depressed. I'm scared, I'm so scared, I'm so utterly scared, I refuse to go any further than that because I
All of us do have psychological issues...but it’s on different level for different people...but if it’s a clinical depression, it’s better to seek professional help or talk to ur family...our issues won’t seem big if we just take a minute to realise we r alive n breathing ryt now in this pandemic...also the fact that we have a roof above us and food to eat...don’t lose hope 🙏🏻🙏🏻
No, your subconscious will let you know when it is able to process any self hatred. You don't want to tackle it now because you simply can't. It will happen I'm good time
A 'poetic' way of describing how I feel.
'When looking in the mirror I hate what I see, but I can't turn away as it truly is me. The fat, lonely, hair always too straight, blunt faced teen. When talking to others I'm shoved into the back of my mind, changing my personality to the point I don't even recognize myself. Food? No...but it'll help me forget right? Sure, but only unhealthy food. People looking at me...why...why do they hate me. Wait no it's me who hates myself the autistic, less slim than others, less healthy, shy, empty and blank teen. Why even have a mirror, you know what...I'll just take it away. Now- wait my phone has a reflection...I can see the monster looking back at me and turn the phone away. I could of joined the drama club...let my hobby for singing be known. But- no I sound terrible. I reached the door but left. So when the mirror's gone...isolated from people, phone is turned. I can't see myself...which is good. I can finally sleep at night, knowing I only have to show my disgusting face to my family. Who won't let me go on a diet because I'm 'healthy'. Well time to sleep at 4am.'
Wow...😭♥️
Same dude, hope you get better :)
I don’t exactly relate to everything, but man, I hope you find what can motivate you. I don’t exactly like what I see in the mirror either.
"you are too concern with what was, and, what will be"
"the panda cannot fulfill his destiny, nor you, yours, until you let go of the illusion of control"
"I can't make it blossom when it suits me, nor make it bear fruit, before it's time"
Goodluck to you, i hope you find happiness within you, there are something we always be able to appreciate within ourself and surrounding conditions, if it is not, then, please, ask for help.
Sometimes, it is good to "look down below" to appreciate and grateful for what we have, especially when we look above abit too much.
"My heart is at ease knowing that, what was meant for me will never miss me, & that what misses me was never meant for me."
I’m just so scared of……everything.
My parents, my friends, my teachers, and everyone in the world. I just want someone to tell me it’s gonna be okay. Someone I know I can trust that i can be sure I wont have to say goodbye too….
its gonna be okay!
I saw this and thought :
Well i already know i hate myself😂
I know right? I literally hit the mark for all the points brought up by this video. :/
Same :|
Same...
Ya even before watching we know it's gonna be relatable •_•
same plus I relate to most of the points in the video...
*Her voice is so soft and cute and sweet, it's like eating sweets, I love it.*
I would totally marry her just from her voice alone
Me realising that I hate myself: I’ll just start hating myself for hating myself too✌️😗
this is your inner critic. it's like a voice in your head that doesn't like you. it wants to convince you that you're worthless, bad, wrong, not good enough, and not worth living for. it comes out especially when you want to take action for yourself. it prevents your "true" self from growing. your true self needs to grow until it can match the strength of the inner critic th-cam.com/video/fkXJUFWdJEg/w-d-xo.html
accept that you are hating yourself and try to change that. It takes time, but it'll happen if you work hard enough. How old are you?
I hate myself
This only make sense to those who''ve ever been there😤
@@snoopcatt3234 Im not a psychologist, but Im 23 year old woman. Ill try to help you with my experiences. 14 is an age where your trying to find yourself and who you are truly. There's no need for you to compare yourself to others. Be proud of who you are and what you've accomplished even if its little. Btw dya have discord? We can chat there if ya wanna
"you have a strong fear of being judged by others"
"you feel inferior to others"
"you have difficult and unstable relationship"
yea.. that me ;w;
It’s just so hard to love yourself.
For the majority of my life I didn’t know it was even acceptable to love yourself.
yep...society ugh
Wait it ain't egotistical?
This video literally described my whole life
ye-
Same here :/
same
I'm a mess up
@@ilostmyak7265 nooo don't ever say that about yourself :(
My eyes were full of tears after watching this video. And then I realized that I don't love myself and even I started hating myself and people around me......
it is not your fault dear.. 💔
Everyone: I agree with these signs!
Video: Posted 30 seconds ago
LMAOO
@@KianneLilac xD
I posted it 2 days ago actually, I watched the whole video before commenting
@@amilkshake3843 I was never blaming you it's okay I just wanted to make people laugh xD
I hope you have a good day :D
Ahaha ikr!
no one:
me: *feels personally attacked*
Dude same
Same 💀 I didn’t even need the video to know
Same
I'm in this video and I don't like it 💀
It's not nobody, I exist
Well, unless I am nobody
"You hide your true self in the others"
I dont even know myself xD
Dude same. Self identity be going BBBRRRRRRRRR
Felt that
@@alienthatdraws The only way to know Yourself is to know God. God created you in His image. You are fearfully and wonderfully made.
Pray this prayer:
Father God in the name of Jesus ruler of everything. Reveal Yourself unto me and show me the woman you created me to be. Mold me and shape me after your will. You are the potter and I am the clay. Lord show me your heart and your great love for me. Reveal to me the plan you have for me in Jesus name Amen.
@@jadapoole3625 thank you for this I needed this a lot
I hide it from myself 😭😅
This is truly sad. I wish I could go back to when I was a child and tell myself that I was enough and fine the way I was ...
Well I have hated myself for some years but Its getting better now :)
go you!! i'm proud
That's very good to hear :) Keep it up!
It made me start crying when I realized how much these things apply to me. I wish I had the confidence to tell my mother my feelings so I could get some professional help but the last time I had a therapist which was when I was 11, my mom pulled me out of the program because all I did was draw rather than talk to the therapist.
I hope you’re doing ok🥺 try to work up the courage to tell her, I just finally told mine I was struggling the other day and it was such a relief. Don’t force yourself tho, do it when you feel ready💕💕💕 stay strong, you are loved, you are beautiful, even when you feel like you’re not! You’ve got this
Same
So similar to my case
Well time to cry again after 20 minutes of crying
All my therapists did was nod and write notes. I might as well been talking to a wall.
I WAS WATCHING TOKYO GHOUL,and I saw the notification so I had to stop what I was doing
OSHIETTO
I came across this video and it made me realize just how hard I am with myself. Would it be possible for you to make a “how to love yourself more or how to start loving yourself,” series? I think it’ll be really helpful not only for me but for other as well. Thank you so much!
How to accept the concept of liking oneself.
Does anyone feel a clench in their heart? Like ur heart is chained an u can’t free it?
Yea
it's getting harder to breathe
yup
I’ve had struggles with self-love because I’ve had always been the only person who has cerebral palsy in every school that I’ve had attended and social events that I’ve had gone to. It doesn’t help that I also have ADHD, anxiety, and persistent depressive disorder on top of that.
It’s honestly hard to love yourself when people around you struggle to understand your differences in behaviors and actions and don’t accept you for being who you are.
Hey, don't worry please, the people who want you to be like everyone else and "normal" are afraid of showing their own true selves to people, they are the ones that are afraid to show their differences, never be afraid to show what makes you different from the crowd......, tht's the only way by virtue of which you can follow your heart in the decisions you make in the future...All The Best. It's your Life...you can't live in denial or wear masks....
You should read Out of My Mind by Sharon M. Draper(or look it up, maybe), its something i read a few years ago in 7th grade and was honestly a very touching book
Also know that youre special, and i know its hard to love yourself, but try giving yourself one positive affirmation everyday, and dont ever let entitled people(who are mean for no reason) get to you. Youre way better than they ever will be, and theyll see that when you rule the world in their place ❤
You are NOT ALONE. I also have cerebral palsy, mental disorder and several other conditions. I've been in therapy for almost 4 years and I'm learning how to accept myself and comunicate with others. I believe that there is hope for me, you and everyone who wants to fight for themselves and the quality of their live. You are important, you deserve for the best, don't lose hope!
❤️❤️
The person's voice in the video is so soothing and calming
I hate myself so deeply it's scary. When I'm in contact with others, I know I'm not being myself but the problem is I don't know who I really am anymore
I can relate to what you wrote here, as I lay here wide awake with insomnia
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@@michaelsmusic3532 inappropriate dude. please don't self promote on a comment like this
who you are when you're alone.
in secret. that's the real you.
me: **sees video and title**
also me: *oh i dont need signs i myself know i lack it but im still going to watch it cuz its Psych2Go*
🙄y’all really be ATTACKING my whole life lmaoooo 💀 ummmm ima need 10 TIPS on how to improve this ish NEXT PLS & TY 👏🏼
Yep, tips to improve would be welcome for sure.
You know! Pshyc2go should really add solutions to their videos
True. I know Psych2Go has good intentions and are working hard but it is having the opposite effect. If you go on seeing their videos you might end up thinking that you have every other syndrome. That's why I am often reluctant to see their videos but then I do sometimes. They should give solutions too.
@@arpitkumar4525 I mean it's up to you whether you wanna take it to heart and believe you have the "signs" to a syndrome
@@littleamig0 Not easy to not take it to heart when you doubt yourself and lack self-love. Isn't it?
1. You hide your true self from others 1:02
2. You overanalyze your own behavior 1:28
3. You have a strong fear of being judged by others 1:52
4. You struggle with your physical and mental self-care 2:18
5. You feel inferior to others 2:45
6. You're too hard on yourself 3:04
7. You lack confidence 3:27
8. You need excessive affirmation and attention 3:47
9. You have difficult and unstable relationships 4:08
10. You settle for less 4:34
I'll try to make timestamps for every psych2go video so expect to see me there
If you lack self love like me, then feel free to talk to me in the comments
Thank you
me waiting for the list to be updated like 👁👄👁
@@oakerton same
7: 3:51 = You need excessive affirmation & attention
8: 4:10 = You have difficult and unstable relationship
(Comment was made before they fully edited the timestamp comment)
@@oakerton lmao it's a live update 👁👄👁
I’m in such a happier mindset. If you’re lacking self love, it will be over soon, stay strong and positive ❤️❤️❤️
I don’t know about that one😅 For me it’s been going on for a very long time and I don’t see it changing anytime soon.
I'm guilty for always needing validation. I never beg my friends for validation or anything, but I screenshot conversations where they DID give me validation, and I reread it whenever I need it. Makes me feel kinda pathetic.
relatable, I always seek for validation and when I get some I ignore it bc I feel guilty for liking it 🤡
Don't feel pathetic. You'll grow strong so you won't be dependant on others to approve of you. I struggle with the same thing. Up until now the only thing I've learned is to see what's wrong, what's out of place or bad. I'm sick of it and I wonder how my brain even survived so far.
I had all these signs, but in this pandemic I utilized my time to love myself and I'm very happy to do this. I still have to do more to achieve self-love. 🤗😊
"Self-love is truly important" -This hit me hard:(
i care way to much about others feelings and emotions. It gets so bad that i have totally lost myself. I feel like everyone matters more than me, which is why i have a hard time being myself and doing, and saying without evaluating what people might think. I tell myself it’s a lie but it’s like it never goes away
Okay so while listening to this I was on the verge of tears, I was hugging myself and I was agreeing on everything she said. (I am too young to drink but I skip meals regularly.) But I felt like I was being comforted by her voice, Like talking to someone and they name everything you're feeling.
Sigh, same. If you need a hug
*Here's a virtual one* I'm alone in my family, but I know I'm not alone in life. I try thinking of things like that when I enter dark places..
Take that comfort as a message to care for yourself, and that you are loved and not alone. I don’t know why you’re skipping meals, but whatever the reason may be, I hope you’ll be able to get your appetite back. Hang in there. We all love you. ❤️
I know I hate myself, so I didn't really need the signs to tell me I lack self love. The thing is, I don't understand why I would deserve love.
I legit said, “oh I don’t need psych2go to tell me I don’t love myself, i already know.” when i got the notif ;-;
Same...*_*
Cheers bro ill drink to that!
Same
Trying to improve self love be like:
Everyone - "I see a mountain to climb"
Me - "All I see is absolute void. No direction, no path to go forward"
Number 3 is strongly me. Being judged is one of my biggest fears and I had just realized that a month ago.
you might be struggling with a negative inner critic. it's like a voice in your head that doesn't like you. it wants to convince you that you're worthless, bad, wrong, not good enough, and not worth living for. it sounds like you project this onto other people (you think that they will think negative things about you). the inner critic comes out especially when you want to do or think something genuine for yourself. it prevents your "true" self from growing. your true self needs to grow until it can match the strength of the inner critic th-cam.com/video/fkXJUFWdJEg/w-d-xo.html
SUMMARY:
1. You hide your true self from others
2. You overanalyze your own behavior
3. you have a strong fear of being judged by others
4. you struggle with physical and mental self care
5. you feel inferior to others
6. you lack confidence
7. you need excessive affirmation and attention
8. you have difficult and unstabel relationships
9. you settle for less
10. you're too hard on yourself
I identify with several of these. Probably has a link with my years of suicidal thoughts. I am doing better, but some things are harder to overcome than others.
When you often feel in a relationship that you are not worthy of their live, chances are you lack self love
The thing I appreciate about this video is that it took me a LOT to go through, especially now during this pandemic, that I went from being a total wreck of a human being (you don’t want to know) to actually trying to get to know myself better, and face myself watching this video coming to terms with my reality but also learning to evolve from it without cowering away.
this probably wont help you but, i hope youre doing better than before