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Negative thinking is sooo hard to overcome when you've been at it for almost your whole life. Also we set the bar low for ourselves so that we won't get dissapointed once we didn't meet our expectations
@@sobiaperez4484 Well, if you keep viewing it like that, It won’t get better. Watch reason 2 in the video and you’ll see why. You become what you think.
True, sometimes I find that setting the bar low helps me loosen up a little. I tend to break easily under pressure. Especially when you're a performer, it's a really tense feeling when you're chasing perfection all the time, and the nerves end up melting you. You have no idea how liberating it can be sometimes to hit the stage with an "I dont care" attitude. Haha it brings out the best in you.
0:48 1, Care too much abt what people think 1:18 2, Negative thinking 2:03 3, Social media living 2:38 4 , Self-deprecating talks 3:09 5, 'Blame game" is ur fav sport 3:46 6, Set the bar low 4 urself 4:14 7, Think that u dont have anything to contribute to a discussion 4:54 8, Dismiss compliments 5:24 9, Ruminating
this video actually made me wanna cry, i used to be a confident person before but ever since the pandemic, my self esteem and confidence have taken a huge hit and i'm really struggling to gain it back
Same here, and it’s so hard for me now to communicate with people. Before the pandemic, I was so open and talkative and now it just feels like I’m kinda stuck and can’t get back to the person I once was
Habits that are destroying your confidence: 1. You care too much about what other people think (0:46) 2. Negative thinking (1:17) 3. Social media living (2:02) 4. Self-deprecating talk (2:37) 5. The blame game is your favorite sport (3:09) 6. You set the bar low for yourself (3:46) 7. Thinking that you don't have anything to add (4:14) 8. You dismiss compliments (4:53) 9. Ruminating (5:25) I have all of them, especially 1, 2, 7 and 8 :( But I also was worse in many of them, and I'm happy I could make a progress :)
Yes, I have all of these too I’m am basically completely invisible in my friend group. Update even though no one cares: I have a new friend group and they’re much better (and they’re on my TH-cam channel lmao)
Hey buddy it's ok, you are amazing, brilliant and you deserve the best, YOU are the best ❤ I relate to all these signs too, less 2 but i hope i can get out off too :)
its easy to be confident if you're not ugly, racially judged or having un-supportive people around you... since i go through this, i've decided to start to gain confidence slowly, not for anyone, but for me. so to anyone reading this, it doesnt matter if you're ugly or have bad people around you, just know to keep up ur confidence, and you will shine one day.
My mother have always demotivated me and have been a negative thinker . This thing effects me lot . seriously a lot . I am practising my ways of thinking positive and gaining the confidence back . She body shames me , never appreciates me. Haah it's so exhausting. All the very best to me and everyone out there. We all shine ⭐
Anxiety is a real thing. Ive been comparing myself to others too much recently and it's had a real tough impact on my mental health. If anything, I would advise people to start meditation because it's certainly helped me
I fully agree whenever I get to anxious about something I like to meditate and only be totally present while focusing on where I am and the sounds around me. It usually calms me down almost instantly. If anyone has never given it a try I highly recommend it
"Humility is not thinking less of yourself. But it's thinking of yourself less." I really needed a quote like this, since I confuse humility with self-deprecation...
@@gracegeronimo6727 "Thinking less of yourself" means that you have impostor syndrome. "Thinking of yourself less" means that you don't see yourself as a superior being who has the right to despise others.
I stuggle with ALL of these. But i really want to feel as awesome as I ACTUALLY am. so I'm gonna work hard towards building my confidence. Thanks, Psych2go
To be honest, your videos are the answers for my silent inquisitions. I can't get the confidence since I ruminate the bad things in the past, that I'll not be able to change even if I struggle hard. And this video helps me to just realize what I should be doing. You guys are just blessings in disguise to me! 🙂
Yes, ruminating can be hard to stop sometimes but one thing that helps me is that we all fail sometimes and we have to accept that and learn from it and move on. Everyone has weaknesses
✨ Summary ✨ 0:46 You care too much for what other people think 1:16 Negative thinking 2:02 Social Media living 2:38 Self deprecating talk 3:09 'Blame Game' is your favourite sport 4:13 Thinking you don't have anything to say 4:52 You dismiss compliments 5:25 Ruminating Hope this helps💙 Everyone hope you have a good day/night💖
TL;DW 1. You care too much about what other people think 2. Negative thinking: creates self-fulfilling prophecy 3. Social Media Living aka comparing yourself to others portrayed “realities” 4. Self-deprecating thoughts: 5. Blame Game: finding excuses for your situation instead of being proactive about it. Taking ownership 6. Setting the bar low for yourself: 7. Thinking you don’t have anything to say or contribute to the conversation 8. Dismissing compliments 9. Ruminating: focusing on poor decisions or the problem Edit: thank you for pointing out that I missed the last one! I hope everyone has a great day!
I’ve struggled with low self esteem for so long, but since I made the choice that I had to change that. My perspective about myself had been better. I love who I have become, and watching this video made me realize how much I changed. That’s a victory for me
I also have lack of confidence . But one week ago in school teacher gave speacking activity to all first tern is mine i feared so much . But i gave well . Teacher said you speak well and next time be loud . When this activity over my friends apperciate me because mostly student forgot their lines but i didnt . I was very happy . It boost my confirnce . My voice is still low . So i came to this video
I’ve always had confidence but I’ve also felt extremely tired my entire life. Confidence doesn’t get you anywhere if you don’t have the energy to act on anything.
I been struggling with depression and anxiety and I lost a really close love one and now I am like struggling even more so I told my mom I need help so now I getting help
Beauty. Thank you for speaking up for yourself and asking help when you need it! I hope everything will go well for you. It will require a lot of time and effort. We believe you can do it! - Cindy
The most important thing I got out of this video is that the phase I'm going through doesn't necessarily mean that I'm weak because even strong people can face a challenge when having these type of thoughts.
Videos of this channel do help me overcome my bad moods, negative thoughts and lack of energy to take control over my mind. I often struggle with lack of confidence, overthinking and anxiety, so when I hear this comforting voice which says me that everything is changeable and can be improved it really warms me up. Thank you a lot💛 You saved me💫💕
Good always set your goals low and bar low because that’s who you are a low self pitying self you have it correct low set your goals and bar low so you’ll akways be low
Thank you for this video, I have a volleyball tournament this Saturday and normally I play on my school’s B team but for the tournament I will be playing on A team. I wasn’t feeling very confident in my skills but this video helped me confront my negative thinking and self-doubt. Thank you, and to whoever is reading this, ily ❤
I used to suffer all these things. I’ve eliminated a few from my life, still working on some, and a few still control me. I won’t stop until I’ve conquered them all!
Hi everyone I'm Diana. I started writing about myself in comments and alot of people replied with similar stories and great advice🧡 Now I'm out of my abusive relationship.. I'm finally free. I don't feel attached and I'm not scared anymore. I'm slowly gaining back my confidence and fixing my health. I'm grateful for all the support I got even though it was through strangers. #feelingblessed😇
@@wholesomezack I’m not her but of course I’d love to help what’s up? Ik this comment is really late but if you have anything to say I’m here this is a safe space ❤️
This video described me so well These days, i really lose my confidence sooo much... i think too much about what others might say or think about me.. which actually things i couldn't control T^T I hope i could shine again with my own unique personality.. To those who is struggling like me, fighting, you're not alone & you're worthy.. ♡
i’ve always been told that i seem super confident, and this always surprises me because i always thought i came off as very insecure and unconfident (which is how i feel). so think about this: sometimes, even if you think that you’re not confident and no one looks up to you, remember that someone, or many people, probably think you come off as a confident person. even if this isn’t the case, you’re still perfect just like you are ❤️
Just finished watching the video and I can relate to quite a few points sadly 😅 I’m gonna try and take it on board but I have bad memory and have school so .,.
I literally relate to all of these points, not lying. This just shows me how and why my confidence is so low at this point. I'll try to better myself for sure.
1. Care too much about wt other people think 2. Negative thoughts 3. Social media living 4. Self deprecating talk 5. "Blame game" is your favorite thing 6. You set the bar low for urself 7. Thinking you have nothing meaningful to add to a discussion 8. You dismiss complements 9. Ruminating (Focussing on the problems/issues, rather than solutions)
I 've always had negative-thinking but every time I said to myself '' I can't do this'' ''what if I fail I'm not good enough for this'' I'II always try to make myself happy with watching cat videos and that helps so much
i personally find it helped a lot when I told myself that I was decent instead of not good enough I slowly had a more neutral mindset and then when I focused on positive aspects, being optimistic was easier and it felt natural instead of going from 0 to 100 lol
1. 0:48 You care too much what other people think 2. 1:17 Negative thinking 3. 2:03 Social media living 4. 2:37 Self-deprecating talk 5. 3:08 “Blame game” is your favorite sport 6. 3:44 You set the bar low for yourself 7. 4:13 Thinking you don’t have anything to say or contribute to a conversation 8. 4:51 You dismiss compliments 9. 5:24 Ruminating This took a while... but I hope it was worth it😊
i feel especially called out, this vid described me so perfectly. and honestly letting go of these traits is so hard I've been trying but it's really challenging. I hope i can overcome these challenges though, to become a better version of me
1) 0:43 You care too much about what other people think 2) 1:18 Negative thinking 3) 2:04 Social media living 4) 2:40 Self deprecating talk 5) 3: 10 Blame game is you fav sport 6) 3:46 You set the bar low for yourself 7) 4:15 Thinking that you don't have anything to say or to contribute to a discussion 8) 4:53 You dismiss complements 9) 5:26 Ruminating
I don't tend to blame other as much as I tend to blame myself - I think I have 20/20 hindsight. Also, I tend to be quiet in conversations because 1 - I don't have much to say, 2 - nobody is listening, and 3 - whenever I try to get a few words out, someone cuts me off. Accepting compliments is something I never learned to do, though criticism usually leaves me devastated.
I have all of those except for number 3. I don't do social media. I'm a very private person. I only go on TH-cam. To listen to music and watching these videos. It's better than being around toxic people.
Read this if you have ever felt alone, depressed, suicidal, lost, scared, worthless, abandoned, or anything of that nature, this is for you You Are Beautiful. You Are Wanted. You Are Wonderful. Don't quit on yourself. Don't hurt yourself. You are worth the world and nobody wants to see you suffering. This is not the end. The way you feel right now will pass. Peoples minds will change. Things WILL get better. We love you and are always here for you. Do NOT do something permanent over something temporary. You're better than that. All stars need to see darkness before the light. And always remember, Don't change so people will like you. Be yourself & the right people will find and love the real you. Your own unique Mindset always trys to engage in the right ways Now read the first letter of every word You Matter! no matter what other people may say. Always know this is true. It helps. You are worth my time to write this. I do care.
number 6 hit me hard. i am a perfectionist so i used to get really good grades at school but it was really tiring and stressful for me to the point i started to watch videos to get rid of perfectionism. then i get this idea that i shouldn’t be hard on myself, so i set my goals low and even non existent sometimes. “If you expect disappointment you’ll never get disappointed” philosophy. But then my success started to drop down and now i feel useless and stupid sometimes. I don’t know how to get rid of perfectionism and at the same time setting high goals and having strong confidence..
I have found that recognizing the things you are not good at and being OK with that makes a huge difference. Because that does 2 things: accepting yourself for what you are not good at (rather than beating yourself up for not being good at everything), and recognizing the things you ARE good at and feeling better about being good at those things.
I was having a terrible day and I was told by my family to work more on my self confidence and try to find videos on TH-cam. This is what came up and it spoke to me perfectly. I do almost all of these things and I chalked it up to just basic anxiety. Thank you for this video it was very helpful
Honestly, each and every point mentioned in the video is relatable. From now on I'll work on myself to build confidence. Thank you for making wonderful videos on such topics
Also, the not involving myself in conversations cuz I'm afraid of being judged is from experience, not what I tell myself. Every single time I try to involve myself in a conversation, I always get made fun of or ignored.
I am guilty of ruminating. Did it a whole lot more than i can count. It's even worse when i'm going to bed to the point where i can't sleep without my phone as a distraction or else i'll cry my eyes out to sleep. It's exhausting.
RUminating the whole shit was the most waste of time i have extreme shyness at school and i have introvert personality at college i hate it i want to end mylife either
I just now realised that receiving compliments do make me feel uncomfortable/embarrassed and how common that is. This takes my understanding of my social anxiety to the next level! Thanx a lot😊😊
I absolutely love how informative and calming these videos are. I'm not usually interested in learning stuff mostly, but these are interesting topics that I enjoy learning about. I also really like the animations.
I can relate to number 8. Sometimes I just feel like I don't deserve it and that they just say it to make me feel better. My biggest fear is getting something I don't deserve.
On number 9 about ruminating, I had a tough story where aI had a panic attack cause my dad told me that my opportunity on communicating with random female peers is right there! I dressed pretty well during my back-to school shopping, but it sucks that I missed the opportunity and replayed the negative things and saying "I've should've done this, she's not worth my time", "I'm a loser! Wahhh!" etc. It only took me anout a few minutes to understand that it's not a big deal and I should be proud of my missed opportunity because it's never too late to miss your opportunity! And this video helped me a lot on understanding that that the most confident people we know today xan be put down easily. And now I understand that I'm a human being and I'm still growing up and I got a long life ahead of me! So please ya'll if u feel the same way, don't end up to a trap that I set up.
Very much to the point. Good reflection. I would like to add, that constant stress and fatigue can take away confidence especially when your partner depriciates you in these moments. Good supporting friends do help☺️
This might not be seen, but I would love to see a video on the topic of confidence and ADHD. Not beingconfidence when you are neurodivergent (and have spent your childhood undiagnosed) can feel different than this list. For example, people with ADHD tend to talk a lot about what they like, and can't read social cues until someone tells them to stop, which often leads to rejection sensitivity. Also, when you are overthinking what you did or didn't do with ADHD, it can come with hyperfixating on it and when you know you are, you can't stop because this is what the brain is focused on.
Look at the bright side. You went to this video because you recognized something is up with your confidence. Sometimes the realization is what gets you up the first step. It might be hard, but if you work at each one and improve you might be pleasantly surprised.
The thing is. I used to be very happy and confident(at least I thought I was)until middle school. That's where everything went downhill. Ofc it's getting a little better in highschool but I still can't really find confidence. I don't make fun of anyone. I just automatically trigger people just by standing.
I struggle with confidence. I used to love being creative, but I've been finding it harder and harder to create to the point that I'm now not even creating anything good, just like the self-fulfilling prophecies you mentioned in this video. I'm so worried about perfectionism that I actually can't do things anymore. I really want to change this. I hope I can.
Never really have confidence myself. When ever I look in a mirror I say to myself " wow I'm beautiful" but then " oh wait no I'm not I'm so ugly". So my confidence are very very low
This is a tip that took lots of practice. Breathe in, and pretend that and is taking in all the negative vibes, negative thoughts, and anxiety. Breath out and focus on your breathe. Do it one more time to clear out all the other stuff, and remind yourself that 1. You are a human being 2. You deserve so much 3. You are worthy of so many things 4. We all have our good days and bad days 5. Feeling are always temporary, but they will always come back 6. I can't do EVERYTHING, but I can do so much ❤hope this helps❤
Thank you for talking about the subject and leaving little open solution to every part of the video. I relate a lot with the content of this video and it gives me courage to work on myself. So thank you for that 🌻
This video is just came in my recommendation just in SUCH PERFECT moment where my self-esteem is at my lowest point. Thank you so much for sharing this video! I've never realized I did all of them that ruined my confidence.
My confidence has been destroyed many times. The rug gets pulled out from underneath me a lot. And life is not fair the older you get the more this is a fact of life. And it troubles your confidence. And then you have a low opinion of yourself. When life is relentless it can destroy your confidence.
I was naturally confident since I am young but in past few months I have lost it...I want to regain it again but I was not sure that why am I losing it,so I searched and found this video and I see I find myself doing all of this so I get it why my friends who once used to praise me for my confidence have more than me. I think I am really gonna work on it because I can't lose it at all and this video was really helpful so thank you!!!
I came to watch this, as I didn't have a lot of confidence in myself, but it reminded me of a video that I'm gonna watch, and I know it will help. A lot of this, is me to a T. I'm not happy with myself. And I'm trying my best to work on it. If anyone reads this, and you're not confident in your abilities. Read this, and take it to your heart, if u want to. Give yourself some credit for once. Believe me, I have trouble with this, too. I was playing a game earlier, and a person who helps you out on your journey asks "Are you certain I'm the man for the job, sir?" And I always think, "Yes, you're uniquely qualified," and so are you! Positivity IS THE KEY to the lock that is called Mental illness. REMEMBER THAT, above all else! Being in a positive mindset really helps out, sometimes.
This was really helpful❤️ I would appreciate it if you guys could make a video on how we can be more respectful to ourselves in front of people, through our words. Thanks for all you do☺️
Blimey, this video sums up 90% of my life. I have put myself down for many years and find it hard to stop. I'm poor at social conversation and lack confidence in party-type situations; I always feel I have nothing to say. Unsurprisingly, I'm single and likely to remain so.
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hi! i would just like to thank you so much for helping me with these type of videos!! never stop💖
Hii!!
This topic is so out of topic 😅
Hello! 🤍
H e l l o okay- you have been teaching me that I am gonna have a mental breakdown and- that I do in fact have depression:) but I’m a big fan :)
You will face many defeats in life, but never let yourself be defeated
bro i see u everywhere
Never seen you before 🤭
This guy is the embodiment of positiveness
@@johnbrock4974 if you say so
I didn’t expect to ser you here
I literally just voted for this in the community tab...Psych2Go really said "your wish is my command"
Same lol
LOL exactly. It magically released today - Cindy
Psych2Go hello 💛👋
They probably have like 20 videos ready to post
Me too! Gotta love this channel
Negative thinking is sooo hard to overcome when you've been at it for almost your whole life. Also we set the bar low for ourselves so that we won't get dissapointed once we didn't meet our expectations
God, rumination I tend to do this from time to time nowadays 😓😑😞
I know no other way 😞
I hate being this way
@@sobiaperez4484 Well, if you keep viewing it like that, It won’t get better. Watch reason 2 in the video and you’ll see why. You become what you think.
how do you get rid of it??? it's destroying me
True, sometimes I find that setting the bar low helps me loosen up a little. I tend to break easily under pressure. Especially when you're a performer, it's a really tense feeling when you're chasing perfection all the time, and the nerves end up melting you. You have no idea how liberating it can be sometimes to hit the stage with an "I dont care" attitude. Haha it brings out the best in you.
0:48 1, Care too much abt what people think
1:18 2, Negative thinking
2:03 3, Social media living
2:38 4 , Self-deprecating talks
3:09 5, 'Blame game" is ur fav sport
3:46 6, Set the bar low 4 urself
4:14 7, Think that u dont have anything to contribute to a discussion
4:54 8, Dismiss compliments
5:24 9, Ruminating
well, shit
Well, SAID❣️
All of these are literally me :(
@@Idkkkmisskitty its never too late to change but always require sufferings
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this video actually made me wanna cry, i used to be a confident person before but ever since the pandemic, my self esteem and confidence have taken a huge hit and i'm really struggling to gain it back
I feel you
stay strong 💕
Same here, and it’s so hard for me now to communicate with people. Before the pandemic, I was so open and talkative and now it just feels like I’m kinda stuck and can’t get back to the person I once was
Same here I used to be confident person, when pandemic came I lost my confidence 😢
Same here
"Humility is not thinking less of yourself, but it's thinking of yourself less."
To the 1% that are reading this
have a nice day or night 💖💖
You too
@@nakshatramusic21
thank you
Thanks
@@nayaland9115 💖
Who here believes that pride is sometimes defined too strictly?
Habits that are destroying your confidence:
1. You care too much about what other people think (0:46)
2. Negative thinking (1:17)
3. Social media living (2:02)
4. Self-deprecating talk (2:37)
5. The blame game is your favorite sport (3:09)
6. You set the bar low for yourself (3:46)
7. Thinking that you don't have anything to add (4:14)
8. You dismiss compliments (4:53)
9. Ruminating (5:25)
I have all of them, especially 1, 2, 7 and 8 :(
But I also was worse in many of them, and I'm happy I could make a progress :)
Thank you buddy❤❤😊😊
Yes, I have all of these too I’m am basically completely invisible in my friend group.
Update even though no one cares: I have a new friend group and they’re much better (and they’re on my TH-cam channel lmao)
Me too
Hey buddy it's ok, you are amazing, brilliant and you deserve the best, YOU are the best ❤ I relate to all these signs too, less 2 but i hope i can get out off too :)
@@CompleX_Music same lmao I don't even know If I have a friend group
If you’re reading this, you are so so worthy 💗
U2😊
U2😊
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Nah!! I am not, I deserve death a terrible death
Thank you ❤
its easy to be confident if you're not ugly, racially judged or having un-supportive people around you... since i go through this, i've decided to start to gain confidence slowly, not for anyone, but for me. so to anyone reading this, it doesnt matter if you're ugly or have bad people around you, just know to keep up ur confidence, and you will shine one day.
I'm sorry you have to go through this. By un-suportive you mean your "friends" or family? How are you doing now?
My mother have always demotivated me and have been a negative thinker . This thing effects me lot . seriously a lot . I am practising my ways of thinking positive and gaining the confidence back . She body shames me , never appreciates me. Haah it's so exhausting. All the very best to me and everyone out there. We all shine ⭐
Anxiety is a real thing. Ive been comparing myself to others too much recently and it's had a real tough impact on my mental health. If anything, I would advise people to start meditation because it's certainly helped me
Heeey same heree
I fully agree whenever I get to anxious about something I like to meditate and only be totally present while focusing on where I am and the sounds around me. It usually calms me down almost instantly. If anyone has never given it a try I highly recommend it
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"Humility is not thinking less of yourself. But it's thinking of yourself less."
I really needed a quote like this, since I confuse humility with self-deprecation...
Well said
I still don't actually get what the quote means. 😅 Can anybody elaborate on this even more? Whoever you'll be , thank you very much in advance. 😁🥰
@@gracegeronimo6727 "Thinking less of yourself" means that you have impostor syndrome.
"Thinking of yourself less" means that you don't see yourself as a superior being who has the right to despise others.
@@Qwerzxcv954 Oh thank you 😊😊
@@gracegeronimo6727 You're welcome ;)
the little cartoon voice saying “mhmm...” and “uh-oh” is honestly such a cute and sweet add on 😊
Aww thank you so much
@@Psych2go ofc :>
found the voice annoying tbh
If you thininkg what's other people say you don't see what's They really think... 🥴😕 'Cuz maybe It's even more positive than you think😊
"why dont you tend to get involved in conversations at work or social events?"
*BECAUSE THEY ALWAYS IGNORES ME-*
Yeah people find me boring😑 😂😂
Jajajaj hasta que me di cuenta que hablaba bajito y no me escuchaban cuando hablaba :(
I think it’s cause you’re not speaking to them first or maybe you seem too awkward and the atmosphere would get awkward if you talk to them
@@whizz_0711 well you're not wrong there :')
Coworker: Why don't you ever talk?
Me: (starts to say something)
Coworker: (interrupts every time)
I stuggle with ALL of these. But i really want to feel as awesome as I ACTUALLY am. so I'm gonna work hard towards building my confidence. Thanks, Psych2go
To be honest, your videos are the answers for my silent inquisitions. I can't get the confidence since I ruminate the bad things in the past, that I'll not be able to change even if I struggle hard.
And this video helps me to just realize what I should be doing. You guys are just blessings in disguise to me! 🙂
Yes, ruminating can be hard to stop sometimes but one thing that helps me is that we all fail sometimes and we have to accept that and learn from it and move on. Everyone has weaknesses
🙏🙏🙏❤
✨ Summary ✨
0:46 You care too much for what other people think
1:16 Negative thinking
2:02 Social Media living
2:38 Self deprecating talk
3:09 'Blame Game' is your favourite sport
4:13 Thinking you don't have anything to say
4:52 You dismiss compliments
5:25 Ruminating
Hope this helps💙
Everyone hope you have a good day/night💖
Thanks👍
@@echeffe4168 welcome ❤️
@Dilhida Jahan welcome ❤️
Thank you for the timestamps!
Yuki Takami how to write as you
TL;DW
1. You care too much about what other people think
2. Negative thinking: creates self-fulfilling prophecy
3. Social Media Living aka comparing yourself to others portrayed “realities”
4. Self-deprecating thoughts:
5. Blame Game: finding excuses for your situation instead of being proactive about it. Taking ownership
6. Setting the bar low for yourself:
7. Thinking you don’t have anything to say or contribute to the conversation
8. Dismissing compliments
9. Ruminating: focusing on poor decisions or the problem
Edit: thank you for pointing out that I missed the last one! I hope everyone has a great day!
You forgot number 9
@@Rainbowstunting thank you for noticing ❤️
Solution
You can’t lose what you never had...
i think you need a hug.
👍
Tmw I started singing the song lemonade
Me: yOu cAnT mIsS wHaT yOu nEvEr hAd. HeY, hEy, oFf tHe jUiCe, cOdEiNe GoT mE tRiPpInG
👀 chile
But you CAN gain what you never had.
I’ve struggled with low self esteem for so long, but since I made the choice that I had to change that. My perspective about myself had been better. I love who I have become, and watching this video made me realize how much I changed. That’s a victory for me
It's exactly what I've been trying to work on very recently but it's been a challenge for me... not gonna lie.
Good job self confidence isn't easy but never stop working on it 💪 you might regress but don't stop.
Did the advice from video help or anything else?
I also have lack of confidence . But one week ago in school teacher gave speacking activity to all first tern is mine i feared so much . But i gave well . Teacher said you speak well and next time be loud . When this activity over my friends apperciate me because mostly student forgot their lines but i didnt . I was very happy . It boost my confirnce . My voice is still low . So i came to this video
I’ve always had confidence but I’ve also felt extremely tired my entire life. Confidence doesn’t get you anywhere if you don’t have the energy to act on anything.
Same
truth
Never thought of this
yeah I've also always been wondering where to get the energy from!
EXACTLY
Natalia’s voice is so soft 🥰
Amanda? xD
It's amanda's voice. Lmao😆
her name is Amanda
I been struggling with depression and anxiety and I lost a really close love one and now I am like struggling even more so I told my mom I need help so now I getting help
Best of luck Always remember you are much stronger than your problems and God bless you
Best of luck bro 💪
Beauty. Thank you for speaking up for yourself and asking help when you need it! I hope everything will go well for you. It will require a lot of time and effort. We believe you can do it! - Cindy
@@rohan5431 thank you so much
@@nakshatramusic21 thank u
The most important thing I got out of this video is that the phase I'm going through doesn't necessarily mean that I'm weak because even strong people can face a challenge when having these type of thoughts.
Videos of this channel do help me overcome my bad moods, negative thoughts and lack of energy to take control over my mind. I often struggle with lack of confidence, overthinking and anxiety, so when I hear this comforting voice which says me that everything is changeable and can be improved it really warms me up. Thank you a lot💛 You saved me💫💕
For me, my low confidence is kind of a coping mechanism. By setting the bar low for myself, I don’t disappoint myself too much.
Me too. Whenever something isn't going my way I'm like "What did I expect? Of course it would turned out like this"
Same although I can’t imagine this is very healthy either 😅
And the few times I DO manage to do something right, that's a pleasant surprise.
I know what this feels like... 😶🙄🙃
Good always set your goals low and bar low because that’s who you are a low self pitying self you have it correct low set your goals and bar low so you’ll akways be low
That cartoon and his voice which was coming again and again has better confidence than me lol
Ya it carry wayyy to much confidence than Me also lol
You mean Psi? :-)
I used to be so loud and confident in school but lockdown caused me social anxiety this sucks.
I know how you feel same 😥
Same
I over came my anxiety omg I don’t have it anymore.😛
@@6xmaaaa love that for you i still have it but it got better too
@@apollo6519 hope ur doing ok at the moment.
Thank you for this video, I have a volleyball tournament this Saturday and normally I play on my school’s B team but for the tournament I will be playing on A team. I wasn’t feeling very confident in my skills but this video helped me confront my negative thinking and self-doubt. Thank you, and to whoever is reading this, ily ❤
the comment section is so wholesome, I'm gonna cry 🥹🤧
1 habit that is very addictive is staying on the phone because you can't let go.
Hi
Something I do
I do
True, I use it as an escape sometimes.
You are everywhere 😂
My depression and anxiety: Write that down, WRITE THAT DOWN
*WRITE IT DOWN*
I used to suffer all these things. I’ve eliminated a few from my life, still working on some, and a few still control me. I won’t stop until I’ve conquered them all!
1:26 AAAAWNN THE 2ND VOICE IS SO CUUUUUTE!!!!!!
Hi everyone I'm Diana.
I started writing about myself in comments and alot of people replied with similar stories and great advice🧡
Now I'm out of my abusive relationship.. I'm finally free. I don't feel attached and I'm not scared anymore. I'm slowly gaining back my confidence and fixing my health. I'm grateful for all the support I got even though it was through strangers. #feelingblessed😇
Can we talk pls ? I need some help
@@wholesomezack I’m not her but of course I’d love to help what’s up?
Ik this comment is really late but if you have anything to say I’m here this is a safe space ❤️
@@cookiecrumble7801 I'm kinda doin better but i would like to give me ur ig or smthn
Everything said in this video is what I exactly do. No matter how hard I try to be positive I end up being stressed even more! 😣
SAMEEE, Now im such an introvert...
It's been 2 years, I hope you are now, stay positive and happy in your life dear❤❤
@@Naturepaintings that’s such nice thing to say ik it wasn’t directed at me but I hope for same to you🌸💫
But this is the admiring thing that you even tried to improve yourself😇
Psychtogo, you've been comforting me when I feel down and helped me alot in life. Thank you so much !!! ♥️♥️♥️
Me too! Psych2Go has always helped everyone.
You're very welcome! - Cindy
Luv the Tamaki pfp🙂
So true.. My life is so better now after psych2go ❤
none of my friends ever cared about me as much as i feel psychgo does...
Unfortunately I do them all.. and all the time. and my confidence is zero . Thank u for lighting up my mind and path. YOU ARE MY FAVORITE CHANNEL!
This video described me so well
These days, i really lose my confidence sooo much... i think too much about what others might say or think about me.. which actually things i couldn't control T^T
I hope i could shine again with my own unique personality..
To those who is struggling like me, fighting, you're not alone & you're worthy.. ♡
i’ve always been told that i seem super confident, and this always surprises me because i always thought i came off as very insecure and unconfident (which is how i feel). so think about this: sometimes, even if you think that you’re not confident and no one looks up to you, remember that someone, or many people, probably think you come off as a confident person. even if this isn’t the case, you’re still perfect just like you are ❤️
Thank you thats help😘❤
same case with me
🤗👍
I came for my daily therapy because I’ve been feeling down alot lately, thank you :)
Just finished watching the video and I can relate to quite a few points sadly 😅 I’m gonna try and take it on board but I have bad memory and have school so .,.
@@Piesix6 So write down the most important stuff. ;) :)
*Starts to struggle in something*
Psych2Go: _That's our cue._
True
Same😂
The pfp!! 😂😂🤚🏼
I would like to bet on that
mRs. KwAN?!!
I literally relate to all of these points, not lying. This just shows me how and why my confidence is so low at this point. I'll try to better myself for sure.
1. Care too much about wt other people think
2. Negative thoughts
3. Social media living
4. Self deprecating talk
5. "Blame game" is your favorite thing
6. You set the bar low for urself
7. Thinking you have nothing meaningful to add to a discussion
8. You dismiss complements
9. Ruminating (Focussing on the problems/issues, rather than solutions)
The voice is so cute. Instantly felt , ' Aww. don't worry, you are great'
If you forget about what other people think you’ll find so much freedom in life:)
I relate to the 9 habits, i feel it..my self confidence has dropped drastically and now i see why
I 've always had negative-thinking but every time I said to myself '' I can't do this'' ''what if I fail I'm not good enough for this'' I'II always try to make myself happy with watching cat videos and that helps so much
i personally find it helped a lot when I told myself that I was decent instead of not good enough
I slowly had a more neutral mindset and then when I focused on positive aspects, being optimistic was easier and it felt natural instead of going from 0 to 100 lol
Nice 👏
1. 0:48 You care too much what other people think
2. 1:17 Negative thinking
3. 2:03 Social media living
4. 2:37 Self-deprecating talk
5. 3:08 “Blame game” is your favorite sport
6. 3:44 You set the bar low for yourself
7. 4:13 Thinking you don’t have anything to say or contribute to a conversation
8. 4:51 You dismiss compliments
9. 5:24 Ruminating
This took a while... but I hope it was worth it😊
Beautiful
Yep, it was quite helpful to me 👍🏻ty!
It's so satisfying to know that everyone else is going through the same stuff , when everyone around is pretending to be ok.
This video really helped me in realizing how social media was destroying my confident.
i feel especially called out, this vid described me so perfectly. and honestly letting go of these traits is so hard I've been trying but it's really challenging. I hope i can overcome these challenges though, to become a better version of me
tell the person who drew this there talent is amazing! also its a lil confidence boost for them
edit: OMG this is my most likes i have ever got!!
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1) 0:43 You care too much about what other people think
2) 1:18 Negative thinking
3) 2:04 Social media living
4) 2:40 Self deprecating talk
5) 3: 10 Blame game is you fav sport
6) 3:46 You set the bar low for yourself
7) 4:15 Thinking that you don't have anything to say or to contribute to a discussion
8) 4:53 You dismiss complements
9) 5:26 Ruminating
I don't tend to blame other as much as I tend to blame myself - I think I have 20/20 hindsight. Also, I tend to be quiet in conversations because 1 - I don't have much to say, 2 - nobody is listening, and 3 - whenever I try to get a few words out, someone cuts me off.
Accepting compliments is something I never learned to do, though criticism usually leaves me devastated.
I have all of those except for number 3. I don't do social media. I'm a very private person. I only go on TH-cam. To listen to music and watching these videos. It's better than being around toxic people.
Out of the points that you have mentioned... I have done at least 8 of them😭 that's why I'm indecisive
Read this if you have ever felt alone, depressed, suicidal, lost, scared, worthless, abandoned, or anything of that nature, this is for you
You Are Beautiful.
You Are Wanted.
You Are Wonderful.
Don't quit on yourself. Don't hurt yourself. You are worth the world and nobody wants to see you suffering. This is not the end. The way you feel right now will pass. Peoples minds will change. Things WILL get better.
We love you and are always here for you. Do NOT do something permanent over something temporary.
You're better than that.
All stars need to see darkness before the light.
And always remember, Don't change so people will like you. Be yourself & the right people will find and love the real you.
Your
own
unique
Mindset
always
trys
to
engage in the
right ways
Now read the first letter of every word
You Matter! no matter what other people may say. Always know this is true. It helps. You are worth my time to write this. I do care.
What a beautiful message! Thanks for sharing! - Cindy
@@Psych2go omg thank you very much!!! trying to make people happy :D
@@0toNaN ❤️
My Confidence has been broken and just given up trying
But thx to my subscribers in my video, They rebuilt it!
I guess I gotta try again
omg the cute things with plants have a voice now!!! CuT3!!!!!!!!!!!
Im so happy, i got my first compliment by a stranger, he said that i had nice hair! Im bubbling just thinking about it! YAY!
number 6 hit me hard. i am a perfectionist so i used to get really good grades at school but it was really tiring and stressful for me to the point i started to watch videos to get rid of perfectionism. then i get this idea that i shouldn’t be hard on myself, so i set my goals low and even non existent sometimes. “If you expect disappointment you’ll never get disappointed” philosophy. But then my success started to drop down and now i feel useless and stupid sometimes.
I don’t know how to get rid of perfectionism and at the same time setting high goals and having strong confidence..
“Humility is not thinking less about yourself, but thinking about yourself less.”
I’ll take it..
I have found that recognizing the things you are not good at and being OK with that makes a huge difference. Because that does 2 things: accepting yourself for what you are not good at (rather than beating yourself up for not being good at everything), and recognizing the things you ARE good at and feeling better about being good at those things.
This made me confident thank you so much for this
You're very welcome! - Cindy
❤
@@Psych2go thanks cindy and everyone
I was having a terrible day and I was told by my family to work more on my self confidence and try to find videos on TH-cam. This is what came up and it spoke to me perfectly. I do almost all of these things and I chalked it up to just basic anxiety. Thank you for this video it was very helpful
Honestly, each and every point mentioned in the video is relatable. From now on I'll work on myself to build confidence. Thank you for making wonderful videos on such topics
Also, the not involving myself in conversations cuz I'm afraid of being judged is from experience, not what I tell myself. Every single time I try to involve myself in a conversation, I always get made fun of or ignored.
I used to be so confident but through lockdown i developed social anxiety
Me too, can’t even speak to my good friends normally anymore
I am guilty of ruminating. Did it a whole lot more than i can count. It's even worse when i'm going to bed to the point where i can't sleep without my phone as a distraction or else i'll cry my eyes out to sleep. It's exhausting.
Sending you a virtual hug ❤. So sorry you're going thru.
RUminating the whole shit was the most waste of time i have extreme shyness at school and i have introvert personality at college i hate it i want to end mylife either
you are a blessing to so many people around the world
I just now realised that receiving compliments do make me feel uncomfortable/embarrassed and how common that is. This takes my understanding of my social anxiety to the next level! Thanx a lot😊😊
I absolutely love how informative and calming these videos are. I'm not usually interested in learning stuff mostly, but these are interesting topics that I enjoy learning about. I also really like the animations.
As an introvert with social anxiety this is all so hard 😭
I can relate to number 8. Sometimes I just feel like I don't deserve it and that they just say it to make me feel better. My biggest fear is getting something I don't deserve.
Don't show these signs to look confident
th-cam.com/video/8-bOrxZfqYY/w-d-xo.html
On number 9 about ruminating, I had a tough story where aI had a panic attack cause my dad told me that my opportunity on communicating with random female peers is right there! I dressed pretty well during my back-to school shopping, but it sucks that I missed the opportunity and replayed the negative things and saying "I've should've done this, she's not worth my time", "I'm a loser! Wahhh!" etc. It only took me anout a few minutes to understand that it's not a big deal and I should be proud of my missed opportunity because it's never too late to miss your opportunity! And this video helped me a lot on understanding that that the most confident people we know today xan be put down easily. And now I understand that I'm a human being and I'm still growing up and I got a long life ahead of me! So please ya'll if u feel the same way, don't end up to a trap that I set up.
Very much to the point. Good reflection. I would like to add, that constant stress and fatigue can take away confidence especially when your partner depriciates you in these moments. Good supporting friends do help☺️
This might not be seen, but I would love to see a video on the topic of confidence and ADHD. Not beingconfidence when you are neurodivergent (and have spent your childhood undiagnosed) can feel different than this list. For example, people with ADHD tend to talk a lot about what they like, and can't read social cues until someone tells them to stop, which often leads to rejection sensitivity. Also, when you are overthinking what you did or didn't do with ADHD, it can come with hyperfixating on it and when you know you are, you can't stop because this is what the brain is focused on.
Yeah. I experience that a lot.
Can we just talk abt tat cartoon who's talking in between.....is toooo cute😭....I cant-....gsjabskajak
well the habits are still so difficult to stop
Yeah..they are😓
Look at the bright side. You went to this video because you recognized something is up with your confidence. Sometimes the realization is what gets you up the first step. It might be hard, but if you work at each one and improve you might be pleasantly surprised.
The thing is. I used to be very happy and confident(at least I thought I was)until middle school. That's where everything went downhill. Ofc it's getting a little better in highschool but I still can't really find confidence. I don't make fun of anyone. I just automatically trigger people just by standing.
I struggle with confidence. I used to love being creative, but I've been finding it harder and harder to create to the point that I'm now not even creating anything good, just like the self-fulfilling prophecies you mentioned in this video. I'm so worried about perfectionism that I actually can't do things anymore. I really want to change this. I hope I can.
Never really have confidence myself. When ever I look in a mirror I say to myself " wow I'm beautiful" but then " oh wait no I'm not I'm so ugly". So my confidence are very very low
I've never looked in the mirror and felt beautiful
This is a tip that took lots of practice. Breathe in, and pretend that and is taking in all the negative vibes, negative thoughts, and anxiety. Breath out and focus on your breathe. Do it one more time to clear out all the other stuff, and remind yourself that
1. You are a human being
2. You deserve so much
3. You are worthy of so many things
4. We all have our good days and bad days
5. Feeling are always temporary, but they will always come back
6. I can't do EVERYTHING, but I can do so much
❤hope this helps❤
Thank you for talking about the subject and leaving little open solution to every part of the video. I relate a lot with the content of this video and it gives me courage to work on myself. So thank you for that 🌻
This video is just came in my recommendation just in SUCH PERFECT moment where my self-esteem is at my lowest point. Thank you so much for sharing this video! I've never realized I did all of them that ruined my confidence.
My confidence has been destroyed many times. The rug gets pulled out from underneath me a lot. And life is not fair the older you get the more this is a fact of life. And it troubles your confidence. And then you have a low opinion of yourself. When life is relentless it can destroy your confidence.
Fight back! Perseverance is key!
When you realize there's no time travellers: *visible confusion*
haha right?
@@Psych2go How do you do that?
@SpaceCadet StarWoman join their youtube subscribtion thing and u get those
@@virginiagamez6299 join their youtube subscription thing and u get access to it
@SpaceCadet StarWoman no problem
I’ve been needing this! 🙏thank you
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*RainbowX on Psych2Go? What a coincidence.*
Wow you also view psy's vids I have subscribed to you also
Uh oh-
Omg is rainbow!
I was naturally confident since I am young but in past few months I have lost it...I want to regain it again but I was not sure that why am I losing it,so I searched and found this video and I see I find myself doing all of this so I get it why my friends who once used to praise me for my confidence have more than me. I think I am really gonna work on it because I can't lose it at all and this video was really helpful so thank you!!!
I came to watch this, as I didn't have a lot of confidence in myself, but it reminded me of a video that I'm gonna watch, and I know it will help. A lot of this, is me to a T. I'm not happy with myself. And I'm trying my best to work on it. If anyone reads this, and you're not confident in your abilities. Read this, and take it to your heart, if u want to. Give yourself some credit for once. Believe me, I have trouble with this, too. I was playing a game earlier, and a person who helps you out on your journey asks "Are you certain I'm the man for the job, sir?" And I always think, "Yes, you're uniquely qualified," and so are you! Positivity IS THE KEY to the lock that is called Mental illness. REMEMBER THAT, above all else! Being in a positive mindset really helps out, sometimes.
This was really helpful❤️ I would appreciate it if you guys could make a video on how we can be more respectful to ourselves in front of people, through our words. Thanks for all you do☺️
As if the presenter's voice is not sweet enough, that cartoon character's voice is...
I don’t think of Fail As F.A.I.L I think of it as…First Attempt In Learning😎🦋
Blimey, this video sums up 90% of my life. I have put myself down for many years and find it hard to stop. I'm poor at social conversation and lack confidence in party-type situations; I always feel I have nothing to say. Unsurprisingly, I'm single and likely to remain so.
I finally know the name of the VO artist. She has such a sweet, comforting, and encouraging voice. I hope she takes this compliment graciously.
3:09 - I actually blame myself for everything