knowing muslim men, he probably went to pakistan, got married to a second wife and that’s why he can’t provide for the first and now he’s mad the first wife wants divorce 😅
@@Lala_monzzlooking at your comments, why do you always assume bad of your brothers? You have no evidence, yet you backbite and slander him. You did it before with the guy asking for jail time, and you jumped in saying what if man had intercourse with an infant. What you do is not normal, fear Allah
@@Lala_monzzmaybe your father is like that not us. We know what it takes to marry another woman including permission of the first wife and financial stability to give justice to both
I am confused as to how his wife is in Australia and he is in Pakistan. Is it just visa temrnation issues? If so, I'm still suspicious bc if she's married to him and lives there, shouldn't she be able to have him with her thru marriage visa?
If it continues like this men without jobs then i wonder what can possibly happen to the world.I completed my masters of engineering almost 12 years back and still struggling to get a stable job in canada no matter how hard i try , no matter how much additional training i get, no matter how much I pray. But still I believe in Allah and I hope HE will save me finally.Please pray for people like us so that we all have a stable job.Salam.
SubhanalLah just yesterday I watched a video about the current situation in Canada. A real catastrophy with those rent prices and immigration crisis and scapegoating. Keeping you in my duaas akhi don't give up ! May Allah grant every one of us ease after the hardships
Say lot of istighfar, salawat upon Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and say also la hawla wa la quwwat illa billah. Not just uttering. With complete Believe. May Allah azza wa jall grant you and all of us success in this world and in hereafter. Ameen Allahumma salli wa sallim wa barik ala sayyidina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa ashabihi ajmaeen
I'm in the same boat as you, may Allah SW make it easy for us. I'm an engineer with a few years of experience too, can't find a job. Make dua for us, the struggle is real especially in this economy.
try relocating to a financially stable or developing muslim country like Malaysia, UAE, Qatar, Saudi Arabia etc. It is a win win situation, bcuz 1 - you will be able to get a good job there provided you have a western education and experience (and they like that). 2 - you will move to a muslim country so no more racism and you can freely practice Islam. 3 - life in those countries is relatively cheaper comparing to Canada. Consider my advice. May Allah grant you success in both this life and the hereafter. Assalam waleikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh.
May Allah help this brother, grant him wealth physical, spiritual, and mental wellness and grant him an even better wife which will stick by his side through good and times.
Guys... She waited for years. Years. She was too patient... She needs a provider. It's quite simple. He could've changed career paths at this point... Nearly a decade... 2015 to 2024? Was that the time period? Subhan Allah. Allah ta'ala is Witness over everything.
Aameen thumma Aameen . Am mother of 5 almost in the same situation but I don't know why tears came into my eyes when I had felt the sadness in his voice . May Allah grant him stability in his financial issues and also grant him what's kheir for him. Aameen
@@PakuZeroshe isn't wrong if you think about it. Women especially dovorced have expectations that the man will take of her and her kids and it's the man's responsibility to provide
@@za-jo5yg yeah I'm saying she was wrong for waiting that long, and probably shouldnt have married him with uncertian visa status. After 6 years 100% there should be no discussion of her being wrong in seeking divorce
There's sky and earth difference between currency of Australia and Pakistan. How will this man will provide for Australian wife in Australia while working in Pakistan.
Guy married for the visa what does he expect? Close friend of mine married a immigrant man who got deported for illegally hiding She went to visit him got pregnant came back to her parents home she works provides her son is 10 years old. Her parents raise him she pay for there lives Her husband does nothing She’s not divorcin because she doesn’t want to be another divorcee She’s stuck married to a dead beat husband and father
I honestly can't have sympathy for him due to the fact that he married a woman with 4 children that aren't his, having 2 additional children with her and a limited visa is just swimming in the sea while filled with deep wounds, not just salt in the wound I was immediately dumbstruck as soon as I've heard that he married a woman who has 4 children from a previous relationship when he isn't even financially stable (expiring visa negates financial stability in his case) So in conclusion just off of what he has said: No he's not a poor guy, he dug his own grave when he married her on a temporary visa when she has 4 children that aren't his
May Allah don't put us in this situation, I can't even imagine what it'll be like to go through. May Allah bless us all and give this man and us much more in duniya and akhirat
It's one of the rights of a wife that she is provided for. If the husband cannot do so, she can leave. Feel bad for the poor guy but not much he can do.
@@alpha-bossA marriage is very sacred, it is not something you can just toss around. You can hear the sadness in this brother's voice. May Allah help him see success.
@Horizonistic I understand, but in a situation like his. What do you expect him to do? His only option is to let go and move on. And once he gets back on his feet, maybe he can marry her again, and if not, then get another wife. It's that simple..
This is really tough to see. How is a single mom supposed to manage working while raising 4 kids? Even with child support, juggling work and taking care of them all by herself is just overwhelming. My heart goes out to parents in this situation 💗
We can’t judge any of you two. But it’s a very saddening and unfortunate situation. All I can say is that maybe during this time keep working on making yourself closer to Allah Subhanahu wa Taala through Fard, Sunnah and Nafl. And He is the best Disposer of affairs. Wish you both all the best. Make dua that He finds you both and kids the best solution and grant contentment and shukr through it. It’s an awful state to be in a limbo marriage. There are too many of us neither here nor there.
I see people here saying how hard it is for a man to find a job and provide. Let’s be clear here- he needs MONEY, not a career. If it means waiting tables or cleaning bathrooms or bagging groceries for money, so be it. Otherwise, I’m sorry to say the sheikh is spot on.
Bro got married, had 2 kids, took on her kids, with no permanent work visa? Im happy the shaykh didn't even budge on him. Disaster. Allah make his affairs easy, ameen. The sister isn't isn't much better in my books either. Now she has 6 kids and wants to divorce?
But can you blame her? She wanted a provider slave and in return guy thought he could get a permanent Visa but in the end nobody got nothing but 2 more kids
@user-ue4fh5mv9s it's honestly a horrific case. From him and for her. Disaster, and poor planning. May Allah help us all and rectify our affairs. Ameen.
Seems like he just wanted the idea of a wife and not the reality of having a wife. Who seeks a wife when they have no stable income? It’s selfish and delusional.
Lol then why to get married in first place 😂 idk why broke man try so hard to get married when you will get hoor in Jannah just focus on salah because zakaat and haj out of equation live a broke life because after all this is not a final destination and marriage is not compulsory if you work hard and for a long duration you hardly have some urges . Only rich should marry in this economy
@@zultrax7496 what are you saying 😂 the prophet helped marry off poor brothers too. Money is not everything but I agree you need to be able to provide if you’re gonna marry.
@piqueny8872 I have other things on my mind, so i forgot after watching the video . I'm not gonna spend my time thinking about other people's problems. I have my own problems...
That's what I was thinking 🤔. Why didn't the sheikh say that. But we all know the sheikh would not advise that because Australia is 1 st world country and Pakistan is not. What ever happened to the concept of a wife being obedient to her husband. Since the money is done, time to dump the guy I guess.
My advice to the brother, build your wealth, take care of your two kids and then marry someone who doesn't have children. You deserve better even if you weren't able to provide. The prophet SAW married off men who were flat broke, sure it is our responsibility to provide but a man isn't just a wallet. I ask Allah SW to provide for you and guide you. Ameen.
@@sarahm4516there was clearly no true love here. If he is trying hard, surely she should back him. Why not go live in Pakistan? It looks like she is a selfish person. Allah knows best.
adjam4044 education is better in pakistan!? Don't blame the woman directly and don't think only of one side. Maybe she has a good reason too!? And Sheikh Assem didn't even blame her or say she was selfish. Calm man!? I hope he gets back to his family soon with a good salary!?
@@sarahm4516 I don't think she was offering him any "services" while he was working abroad thousands of miles away just to provide for her and her kids.
Men aren't just wallets, sure, but he has to bring some benefit into the woman's life. Otherwise, what's the incentive to leave your parents house to go to some man if he can't provide the meat for your dinner? Lol
Always painful to see Muslim families being ripped apart, and I know it's the right thing to do in this case, but it still hurts. وأعوذ بك من غلبة الدين وقهر الرجال.
@@user-ue4fh5mv9s say good or shut up. you can still make good choices and end up broke it happens in what we call life smartass it's rizq in the end. so say something good or shut up.
Sorry to say this but this very common nowadays. 20, 30, 40 etc years ago it was ok for a man just to provide for his family whilst the wife stays home looks after the children, household, etc. Nowadays, because rent, bills and food is skyrocketing, wife has to step in as man isn't able to provide for everything. We can tell by his emotions, he's trying his best and its not really his fault. BUT now she wants a divorce. Doesn't the woman understand that if she divorces him, it's going to be much more difficult as a single parent?
I am confused as to how his wife is in Australia and he is in Pakistan. Is it just visa termination issues? If so, I'm still suspicious bc if she's married to him and lives there, shouldn't she be able to have him with her thru marriage visa? (Unless there were another wife in question.) Regardless, this is a sad position to be in. Inshallah, Allah guides him. Men have to shoulder a lot of responsibility and should prioritize accordingly.
Here's what happened. He probably made it to the country on a temporary non-student/non-work visa. The wife was desperate to remarry, but was probably keeping him at arms length to ensure he can stay in the country without relying on her for spousal support. Not sure about Australia, but it's a common thing Pakistani girls in the states do to protect themselves from being financially abused. All-in-all, the marriage was built on 0 trust, and the only real victims here are the two children involved because of their parents' impulsive actions.
She already had 4 kids from another marriage and 2 kids from him. Is she going to marry the next man and expect him to provide for 6 kids that isn't his? She should move to Pakistan and accept her husbands situation, no one will be better off with a divorce.
...may Allah make it easy for them to find an amicable way & save their marriage & may Allah save all of the marriages😎 that are in trouble😩. Aameen.🤲🤲🤲
You think she would though? She is a single mom of 4! Must have married only for a loyal provider slave and he thought of scoring the permanent visa but both failed
Women are known to stay in worse situation than this, so there's more to this that he is not letting the sheykh know. Allah knows best, some men will tell aöl sorts of lies to get married and expect you to just go with the flow when you realise he lied (talking from experience). 😢
In arabic there is a wise saying: they say women are of 3 types . 1 is against you , 1 would die for you and 1 would neither die for you nor is against you. The first one is a woman with children, the 2nd is a woman who never married before and the last is a divorcee woman without children
So how does this go for brothers in less fortunate countries were there jobs have been stripped from them does that mean they all are going to get divorced what if a person gets sick is that another reason for a divorce what if the wine is a big spender what if there is family issues the brother has taken on 4 step kids clearly his been used for his money very sad
Can't see many men willing to take on a woman who has at least been married twice and has 6 kids. Its a difficult situation. Why can't you bring your wife to your country and provide for her there. That would be easiest solution.
My mom waited since 2001, became the main financial source of my family and dislike me and my sister when we suggested that she'd divorce my dad lol. If i send this clip to her I'm gonna be labeled as a bad child
Your mother must have genuine sincerity to her marriage. She loves her family and does not want it to fall apart for cash. She is supporting her spouse and that is a good thing to do, based solely off what you said here.
But then where is the love between husband and wife ? That means no money no love...this kind of things are now destroying society and marriage where Money is everything not love and patience and Fear of Allah...
There is a very strong hadith which i earlier thought just a common hadith then i see what women are doing they are just after money bro, the hadith said that the majority of hell residents were women and also not because of idol worshipping but being always ungrateful toward their husbands
@@Mikyla123 Allah make man providers bro but unfortunately some of us broke still foolishly want to get married nah man don't ruin women and your life . Just get married to hoor like abu qudama if allah send u in Jannah
@@4U_X just like if a women if she can't give sex to her husband or love him even if he provide for her than she is for the streets and also if u women can't provide sex don't get married amd destroy a mans life 😹😹😹
Are you a Muslim? I am a Muslim .As per shari'a marriage is a deal. It's all about rights and duties. Personal feelings has no place in the Law. Love is not relevant. As a long as a man can provide he has a lot of privileges over his wife; for example if he can provide he can take other wives and her feelings don't matter at all, if she gets trauma and gets ill because of this, this doesn't matter at all. BUt if a man can't provide, he loses all his rights and privileges. As per shari'a, he doesn't worth anymore as a husband. There are other things: if a spouse gets chronically ill or disabled (man or woman doesn't matter) can be abandoned. If he or she is infertile, he or she can be abandoned. Their sorrow don't matter in front of the Law. Omar RA had more than one wife and yet he divorced a woman because she couldn't have children anymore. If a man is infertile, he can be divorced, same. And as long as a man can provide, there is no real equity between husband and wife, he has more rights over her. But if he can't, he becomes kind of a nothing as a husband. Do you love each other? Great, you're lucky. Does you and your spouse validate and take care of each other's feelings and emotions? You're very lucky and blessed. But this has no relevance as per the Law. Even sex is a question of numbers. As a woman you must have intercourse everytime he asks for it, except if you are menstruated or ill. If you are a man you are recommended to have intercourse with her every 4 days but it's not mandatory. In front of the Law is a duty. If there''s love and real connection in it, your business. As a Muslim I've learnt that the only way I can achieve full dignity as a human being, no matter the gender, the best is to be able to provide for yourself and avoid marriage. But if you are a woman this is even more true. If you're not married, your dignity and value is not linked to having money, or being infertile or ill or disabled. You can build your dignity and value on what you really achieve in religion and you give to society.
This is the reason why relationship based on serving are seriously messed up, I am a Muslim and honestly I don't believe that women should slave for man and man aren't a money machine for woman, the all mighty basd marriage on compassion and cordiality (الود والرحمة) yet some people are so set on making life so hard for everyone just to momentarily satisfy their male ego, people need to reconnect with the real teachings of Quran.
Male ego? Its the females ego here. do you think some one will marry here with 6 children? BTW Islam does nto work lie "I dont think this and I dont think that". I am oretty sure she has lost the thrill other wise she could have easily applied for spuse visa and he could come back to AUstralia and could take care of the family.
The man and the woman are to complement one another. Too many people are entering into marriage from the perspective of what they can gain or benefit for themselves and not how they can build happiness for each other. This is one major reason why so many marriages are failing.
The big question is why he can't provide for her??? If it's not his fault than she is not the right woman for him and he can get a better wife inschaallah!
@@pinkclouddlol she wanted a provider and not a loving husband , in Australia every expense is taken by government of children and for the mother her allowance, so if she still wants more she’s basically looking for a sugar daddy
Subhan Allah. This guy is trying hard to support his kids and step kids. Crazy! He didn't give up even after being deported back to his country. He kept on educating himself to get more skills. And the sister could not bare it anymore. Remember the story of prophet Ayyub peace be upon him, he lost his wealth, his children, his reputation, his big house, his health,. Only his wife stood by him. He was so ill that he couldn't get out of bed. And even in the end his wife had enough and ask him to ask Allah. He said 'how long did Allah bless us with everything for?' She replied for 70-80 years. He said 'i feel shy to ask Allah when Allah has blessed us for many many years and we have been only afflicted for few years' His wife didn't even leave him His supported him till the end. He saw how his wife struggled and he asked Allah 'Oh Allah, despair, distress and evil have touched me and You are the Most Merciful of those who mercy'.
My husband works very very hard, I hardly ever see him, and I am pregnant. He earns very little but Al hamdulillah I can cook. I stay home, care for him when he is here, cook and clean and learn my Deen so I can teach him. I am extremely grateful for my husband, and I will never leave his side. Allah will provide, and my husband is doing the best he can. Yes, some women (many of them in Europe where I come from) are not willing to wait and have patience and live on very little. Having no new clothes, no wedding ceremony, no vacations etc. But some women are marrying for the sake of Allah, only want a safe place to live and pray, have someone to care for. Hes not facing « the reality of life », he is facing someone who maybe is out of patience and trust.
Brother- We don't know the full story though but your wife should have moved with you to Pakistan. If she don't then she is not worth it. Wo kehtay haina k agr wo jaana chahay to usay roko nai, qk wo jaa chuki hoti hai (If she wants to leave, don't stop her and let go, because she's already gone). Sad that you have your own 2 kids with her, but brother that's life, that's because it was a wrong decision to marry her in the first place. She could've been in Pakistan and still asked for you to divorce. Biwi ka pata ghurbat aur bimari main chalta hai (Wife's true loyalty is revealed in poverty or in ailment). Loyal wives with 9 kids wouldn't leave you if you don't have a penny, but there are some who'd leave even if you have a mansion. So don't worry. Offer her final time to come to Pak IF you can't goto Australia but if she doesn't then Khalaas. And Pakistan is not a war torn country, there are so talented people and students that then can migrate to Aus/Canada and rest of world and create great lives for themselves while maintaining their deen and social values. We often forget the 1000 blessings we have in Pakistan as compared to Australia or non muslim countries due to all the negative things we keep hearing 24/7
SHe lost the thrill in the marriage. the women here is Australia think she can get any male she wants. She could have easily applied for spouse visa nd he could be back in Australia.
hard to hear, and sad to see may Allah provide him with wealth and grant him a better wife in the future that will be with him in good times and hard times. not to fault his ex wife she has the right to ask for divorce if she can't go on but it's hard to see.
@@JosephTrump if the man won’t or can’t provide the wife has a right to leave him but if she supports him in hard times obviously Allah swt will reward her for this
Maybe she wants divorce so that as a single mother she can get more government benefits. She would need the benefits because he isn't providing for his family.
I am from uk and earn in £ but i will move to brazil to marry someone with 1 child. I have a few thousand saved. I will earn in that brazil currency. Will i be ok? Should i do it?
No way, man! She will use you for getting a visa or considering the fact that she is a single mother! Never marry third-world women they will use you and leave
I feel for my guy, most guys are struggling to make ends meet, it's how the world is, should it be OK for the woman to leave the man? If so expect ALOOOOOTTTTTT more divorces ( the thing shaitan loves the most)
@@Wasabi-g3t Hadith on Satan: Devil most pleased when families are broken By Abu Amina Elias / April 15, 2013 / Bad Deeds السيئات, Devil-Companion القرين, Discord التحريش, Divorce الطلاق, Family Ties صلة الرحم, Fitnah الفتنة, Hatred البغضة, Iblees إبليس, Jinn الجن, Manners الادب, Marriage النكاح, Satan الشيطان, Unseen الغيب, Water الماء Jabir reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Verily, Satan places his throne over the water and he sends out his troops. The closest to him in rank are the greatest at causing tribulations. One of them says: I have done this and this. Satan says: You have done nothing. Another one says: I did not leave this man alone until I separated him from his wife. Satan embraces him and he says: You have done well.” Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2813 Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Muslim عَنْ جَابِرٍ قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ إِنَّ إِبْلِيسَ يَضَعُ عَرْشَهُ عَلَى الْمَاءِ ثُمَّ يَبْعَثُ سَرَايَاهُ فَأَدْنَاهُمْ مِنْهُ مَنْزِلَةً أَعْظَمُهُمْ فِتْنَةً يَجِيءُ أَحَدُهُمْ فَيَقُولُ فَعَلْتُ كَذَا وَكَذَا فَيَقُولُ مَا صَنَعْتَ شَيْئًا قَالَ ثُمَّ يَجِيءُ أَحَدُهُمْ فَيَقُولُ مَا تَرَكْتُهُ حَتَّى فَرَّقْتُ بَيْنَهُ وَبَيْنَ امْرَأَتِهِ قَالَ فَيُدْنِيهِ مِنْهُ وَيَقُولُ نِعْمَ أَنْتَ 2813 صحيح مسلم كتاب صفة القيامة والجنة والنار باب تحريش الشيطان وبعثه سراياه لفتنة الناس وأن مع كل إنسان قرينا It's not his own ruling...
In Australia, a mother with children is well-supported by the government. School fees, living allowances, and even university costs for children are covered. The mother often receives housing and financial aid. If she still demands more, it suggests she entered the marriage expecting financial benefits rather than love. True love isn’t based on wealth-if a woman loves her husband, she’d support him even in hardship, knowing Rizq is from Allah. A man tries his best, but Rizq is ultimately beyond his control. If she was looking for a provider and not a partner, it’s clear she wanted a sugar daddy. May Allah protect us from such relationships. Divorce in this case seems justified.
Remember the biggest reason Muslim women are in hell is always being greedy and want more from her husbands and they never get satisfied what he have my my now i have seen a lot of this type of cases
both spouses have rights and when he doesn't fulfill it she has rights to divorce.. learn something ... is your head filled with air ... husband is supposed to provide also what good is a husband who has been away for years who is she supposed to ride when he is on another continent
So why is the wife not moving with her husband to Pakistan? I don't get it. I don't care if you are "Australian" or whatever, go where your husband goes. Simple. Moving to Pakistan is a million times better for the children as well. Let them be around Muslims, hear the Adhan, pray and play in the Masjids. Why is she staying back?
@wonderwalls3565 how did you assume I ain't a muslim? Wallahi this guy was dumb to marry a single mom of 4 and then have 2 more kids all on a temporary visa! He was delusional from the start
@@user-ue4fh5mv9s I assumed based on your comment. You dont know If a wife refuses to go with her husband no matter where he is going as long as its not a threat to her life and her children life she is beign sinful. I did not know that Islam says to have kids in Australia you need to have a visa of Australia. I thought you just need to have a Nikkah to have kids. Now I do agree that he was delusional thinking his wife loves him and married a woman who already had 4 kids and who knows how did she got them. I would like to know why she has not applied for spouse visa? Somethign tells me she reverted to marry him, her children are from non Muslim men and now she got experience of a brown guy and she does not want it anymore.
I think the so called wife is also to blame I presume hand on quote because I again assume she knew of his visa issues which is a risk then proceeds to have kids with him. He is also to blame as well, I'd be surprised if she finds someone willing to take 6 kids not of there own hopefully the system can help her out where ever they are.
It’s marriage. She should stay w him till she and her children starve to death. Very logical. Thats why you’re creating a religion as opposed to typing about others. Lmao PHAHGGOT
@@wZaidhan Not sure if ur a bro or a sis but know that marriage is give and take. Reverse the case over here "My husband wants to divorce me because I can't provide kids, what should I do?".
He should tell his wife to move to his home country. He will be more able to provide then. If she refuses to leave Australia then its her own fault as husband should decide where his family lives.
This make me question a wifes love as my friend who is a very wealthy muslim mam said if i want happiness stay with man if u want heart attack stay with ur wife, i said why iam not even married bro he in reply said one day u may get married be careful and care for ur parents and never waste ur love for ur wife because she can leave u so u can get another wife why worrying but don't invest in love than divorce wont heart
Rizq is from Allah. You could get sick and need hundreds of thousands for treatment at any point. Pray that those words you uttered don't come back to haunt you and that you'll face that kind of hardship.
To all the sisters there , men can be financially stable and unstable sometime, don't leave them in there bad situation if you didn't in there good time.
@s.c.7381 if men runs away from there responsibility than women have the right to leave him but if men is trying his hard and still due to some financial condition or any disaster or for any problem he is not able to provide much to his family than she must stand stood with him in his bad time instead of stabbing him .....
It seems that their situation is not that of a couple of weeks. It has nothing to do with a little sabr and sacrificing a luxurious life. There are SIX starving children, health costs, housing, school snd whatever. If you wait years for your husband who is not there for providing with money nor emotional than this is no marriage. Obviously you brothers live in a somehow very theoretically mindset far away from the reality of life. We see this everywhere. Mosques are full of pious brothers, but not able of providing for YEARS. Then came refugees finding jobs, helping their families here and abroad. How they find jobs but our brothers not? They need some REAL brotherky advice. Not that general "women are greedy, fitna...". They should learn not to whine where the wive is the one struggling to provide, care with hungry and sick children abd have no time and stage for tears.
@@s.c.7381 if someone says all women are greedy then he is not a man......, What do you mean by "pious men are not able to provide their family? But refugees are able to get a job " are you living an imaginary life? Do you know getting a job is not a joke now a time and the condition of Pakistan is the worst... Don't follow the path of feminist, they will destroy your iman.
@@s.c.7381 if he completely abandoned his wife then she has the right to him but if in this bad situation he is able to provide this much that she is able to survive then she shouldn't leave him.
IF WIFE IS PARALYZED FOREVER SAY WHEN MAN IS 30 YEARS AND WOMAN IS 25 YEARS, THE MAN WONT WAUT ANOTHER DAY TO MARRY ANOTHER WOMAN. IM SURE 80 % OF HUSBANDS WONT EVEN GIVE WIFE A GLASS OF WATER IF WIFE HAS A SIMPLE FEVER IS RESTING IN BED😂😂😂
So all men are just money banks? Don't generalize all the men. Did you go to every husband and see if they provided a glass of water for their wife or not? Don't spit garbage out of your mouth
@@Wifixsmasher448of course in islam man is the bank , 😂😂😂 ,, it is the sole responsibility of the man to financially provide for wife and kids. Just like wife is the baby making apparatus
Its a difficult situation but I find it strange that he considers her wife is going against Allah if she seeks divorce. She isnt. She is taking care of herself. Two are not the same thing.
The real problem today is that they put women in the job market, so men and women compete for jobs, it mean there are less jobs for men. Women have jobs but they aren't providers, providing is still the duty of men, so it's a paradox because women work for themselves and men have to work for their family. So It become very difficult to find a job, for All my brothers, young or not, you have to go in a field in demand, a manual field or technology fiels, or job in care (medecine, pharmacy, dental). Don't lose your time in field that get you nowhere. May Allah help every muslim, be couragous brothers !
The solution is simple which is that tell your wife to move to Pakistan and then you can provide basic nessesites for them and if she is resisting without islamic justifiable reason then she is Zalim. Another thing it is not your fault if you are putting effort for earning money without compromising the Deen because fit this into your mind that Allah increases the riqz for whom he wills and decrease for whom he wills so you should only do what you are suppose to (judging by what Allah has revealed) while accepting the worse case scenario of this worldly life and that's the only way to find satisfaction and easiness in your life.
The poor woman and the six children. I’m sure she doesn’t want to divorce her husband, but she has no choice. It wouldn’t even make sense for her to go out and get a job and help him because of the cost of childcare. She must divorced and go home to her parents where the children will be provided for . And she needs to divorce so she can marry another man who will be a stronger provider.
She should support her spouse during hard times. It is very unrealistic she'd get another guy to support her when she has a history of leaving people when they are facing difficult times.
A loving and understanding wife would follow with him to Pakistan, instead of sitting in another country and demanding khula for a situation out of his hands.
I can hear the heaviness in his voice. May Allah make it easy for him to increase his finances.
I am sorry but why Marry a single mom of 4!?
@@user-ue4fh5mv9sbecause its Halal.
Amin
@user-ue4fh5mv9s it is OK to marry a divorced woman with kids but only if you can fulfil her and the kids needs
@@user-ue4fh5mv9s to support her financially and in many other ways
I can feel the sadness in his voice. May Allah help my brothers, hope he can be with his families again
knowing muslim men, he probably went to pakistan, got married to a second wife and that’s why he can’t provide for the first and now he’s mad the first wife wants divorce 😅
@@Lala_monzzlooking at your comments, why do you always assume bad of your brothers? You have no evidence, yet you backbite and slander him. You did it before with the guy asking for jail time, and you jumped in saying what if man had intercourse with an infant. What you do is not normal, fear Allah
@@Lala_monzzmaybe your father is like that not us. We know what it takes to marry another woman including permission of the first wife and financial stability to give justice to both
@@za-jo5ygpermission is not needed of the first wife, state a source for that.
I am confused as to how his wife is in Australia and he is in Pakistan. Is it just visa temrnation issues? If so, I'm still suspicious bc if she's married to him and lives there, shouldn't she be able to have him with her thru marriage visa?
If it continues like this men without jobs then i wonder what can possibly happen to the world.I completed my masters of engineering almost 12 years back and still struggling to get a stable job in canada no matter how hard i try , no matter how much additional training i get, no matter how much I pray. But still I believe in Allah and I hope HE will save me finally.Please pray for people like us so that we all have a stable job.Salam.
SubhanalLah just yesterday I watched a video about the current situation in Canada. A real catastrophy with those rent prices and immigration crisis and scapegoating. Keeping you in my duaas akhi don't give up ! May Allah grant every one of us ease after the hardships
Say lot of istighfar, salawat upon Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and say also la hawla wa la quwwat illa billah. Not just uttering. With complete Believe. May Allah azza wa jall grant you and all of us success in this world and in hereafter. Ameen Allahumma salli wa sallim wa barik ala sayyidina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa ashabihi ajmaeen
I'm in the same boat as you, may Allah SW make it easy for us. I'm an engineer with a few years of experience too, can't find a job. Make dua for us, the struggle is real especially in this economy.
try relocating to a financially stable or developing muslim country like Malaysia, UAE, Qatar, Saudi Arabia etc. It is a win win situation, bcuz 1 - you will be able to get a good job there provided you have a western education and experience (and they like that). 2 - you will move to a muslim country so no more racism and you can freely practice Islam. 3 - life in those countries is relatively cheaper comparing to Canada. Consider my advice. May Allah grant you success in both this life and the hereafter. Assalam waleikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh.
May Allah grant you and everyone in this situation an amazing job that is best for you in this life and the next. 🤲🏼
Its soo heartbreaking really yaa Rabbi,may Allah unite you both and give you enough rizq to provide for your family your entire life,ameen
Ameen
May Allah help this brother, grant him wealth physical, spiritual, and mental wellness and grant him an even better wife which will stick by his side through good and times.
Guys... She waited for years. Years.
She was too patient...
She needs a provider.
It's quite simple.
He could've changed career paths at this point... Nearly a decade...
2015 to 2024? Was that the time period?
Subhan Allah.
Allah ta'ala is Witness over everything.
Amin
Fakin feminist@@sonny7159
Aameen thumma Aameen .
Am mother of 5 almost in the same situation but I don't know why tears came into my eyes when I had felt the sadness in his voice .
May Allah grant him stability in his financial issues and also grant him what's kheir for him. Aameen
@@sonny7159 She needed to go WITH him! The place of a wife is at the husband's side! His visa had been revoked! What was he supposed to do?
May Allah make it easy on him Ameen may Allah grant us all success in this world and hereafter Ameen
It's one pf those unfortunate situation where I understand both sides. I hope hes able to get back on his feet and recover his marriage. Ameen
I feel for the brother, I am surprised the sheikh did not soften his delivery.
Allah knows best
it's been 6 years that he hasn't been providing, idk why she waited so long, 2 would be too long
@@PakuZeroshe isn't wrong if you think about it. Women especially dovorced have expectations that the man will take of her and her kids and it's the man's responsibility to provide
@@za-jo5yg yeah I'm saying she was wrong for waiting that long, and probably shouldnt have married him with uncertian visa status. After 6 years 100% there should be no discussion of her being wrong in seeking divorce
@@PakuZerowhat will she get by divorcing him?
Some money magically?
There's sky and earth difference between currency of Australia and Pakistan.
How will this man will provide for Australian wife in Australia while working in Pakistan.
Im earning in pounds but when i go brazil with my wife who lives there and i will earn in their currency will i be ok?
@@omarfarooqi5545it’ll be fine if she’ll also be in brazil
@@omarfarooqi5545 if the value is similar enough when exchanged then it should be ok. It depends on the cost of life there.
@ as salam alaykum and thank you very much dear brother
Why isn't his wife sponsoring her visa
Poor guy 😢
Guy married for the visa what does he expect?
Close friend of mine married a immigrant man who got deported for illegally hiding
She went to visit him got pregnant came back to her parents home she works provides her son is 10 years old.
Her parents raise him she pay for there lives
Her husband does nothing
She’s not divorcin because she doesn’t want to be another divorcee
She’s stuck married to a dead beat husband and father
@@piqueny8872
Feminist detected 😂😂
I honestly can't have sympathy for him due to the fact that he married a woman with 4 children that aren't his, having 2 additional children with her and a limited visa is just swimming in the sea while filled with deep wounds, not just salt in the wound
I was immediately dumbstruck as soon as I've heard that he married a woman who has 4 children from a previous relationship when he isn't even financially stable (expiring visa negates financial stability in his case)
So in conclusion just off of what he has said: No he's not a poor guy, he dug his own grave when he married her on a temporary visa when she has 4 children that aren't his
@@piqueny8872awwww.... Anyways
@@piqueny8872fr I always say to first world citizens never to marry third world men or women
May Allah don't put us in this situation, I can't even imagine what it'll be like to go through. May Allah bless us all and give this man and us much more in duniya and akhirat
It's one of the rights of a wife that she is provided for. If the husband cannot do so, she can leave. Feel bad for the poor guy but not much he can do.
Divorce is not the end world. He can get married again once he gets back on his feet
@@alpha-bossA marriage is very sacred, it is not something you can just toss around. You can hear the sadness in this brother's voice. May Allah help him see success.
@Horizonistic I understand, but in a situation like his. What do you expect him to do? His only option is to let go and move on. And once he gets back on his feet, maybe he can marry her again, and if not, then get another wife. It's that simple..
@@alpha-boss No, but it's not a pleasant experience either. Especially for men in this position.
@spinmaster0 True, but it is what it is. 🤷 It can't be helped. May ALLAH help him...Ameen We all have circumstances in our lives..
This is really tough to see. How is a single mom supposed to manage working while raising 4 kids? Even with child support, juggling work and taking care of them all by herself is just overwhelming. My heart goes out to parents in this situation 💗
We can’t judge any of you two. But it’s a very saddening and unfortunate situation. All I can say is that maybe during this time keep working on making yourself closer to Allah Subhanahu wa Taala through Fard, Sunnah and Nafl. And He is the best Disposer of affairs. Wish you both all the best. Make dua that He finds you both and kids the best solution and grant contentment and shukr through it.
It’s an awful state to be in a limbo marriage. There are too many of us neither here nor there.
Play dumb games win dumb prizes! Enjoy raising 4 kids that's not yours
@@user-ue4fh5mv9sexactly idk what was bro thinking while marrying a woman with 4 kids 💀
@@VENoM-fb7rm And he's also poor. He sure got guts...
May Allah eases his pain and brings him blessings regarding his finances and other issues . Ameen .
I see people here saying how hard it is for a man to find a job and provide. Let’s be clear here- he needs MONEY, not a career. If it means waiting tables or cleaning bathrooms or bagging groceries for money, so be it. Otherwise, I’m sorry to say the sheikh is spot on.
Money is the glue to stick for relationships
sadly
Bro got married, had 2 kids, took on her kids, with no permanent work visa? Im happy the shaykh didn't even budge on him. Disaster. Allah make his affairs easy, ameen. The sister isn't isn't much better in my books either. Now she has 6 kids and wants to divorce?
But can you blame her? She wanted a provider slave and in return guy thought he could get a permanent Visa but in the end nobody got nothing but 2 more kids
@user-ue4fh5mv9s it's honestly a horrific case. From him and for her. Disaster, and poor planning. May Allah help us all and rectify our affairs. Ameen.
Seems like he just wanted the idea of a wife and not the reality of having a wife. Who seeks a wife when they have no stable income? It’s selfish and delusional.
@@AdamSabir1agreed I know how that feels believe me 😞
I feel for brother here, it is not easy to get a stable job + income in this type of economy today. It much easier said than done.
Lol then why to get married in first place 😂 idk why broke man try so hard to get married when you will get hoor in Jannah just focus on salah because zakaat and haj out of equation live a broke life because after all this is not a final destination and marriage is not compulsory if you work hard and for a long duration you hardly have some urges .
Only rich should marry in this economy
Yea then as a BROKIE why did he get married. Now since u feel for him u should provide for him I think
@Elizabeth-jk4yj yes It should be illegal for a broke man to marry.
@@zultrax7496 what are you saying 😂 the prophet helped marry off poor brothers too. Money is not everything but I agree you need to be able to provide if you’re gonna marry.
@ I mean you’re right but doesn’t mean you can’t feel for your brothers and sisters in their difficult situations.
I pray to Allah that He makes it easy for you and that you get a job with a halal earning, O Allah, you are Ar-Razzaq Amin.
I am your brother from Bangladesh please ignore my sister from Yemen
She is not a "sister" it's a dude scamming people lol
🤣
this gave me a good laugh, may Allah bless you
@@jinxsesame9660 may Allah bless you too
She's a bit crazy huh?
May allah help him ameen
Wallahi, Islam is beautiful. The Sheikh answered with no emotions
I feel bad for him, but it's not so bad if he gets divorced. He can get married again once he get back on his feet. Life goes on as they say
He’s lucky he hasn’t got any biological children with her
So he can marry any women in his village and start fresh build his life in his country
@piqueny8872 I have to rewatch again. I don't remember if he has children or not. I remember his wife has children from another man...
@@piqueny8872 he has two children with this woman and took on her children from her previous marriage as well
@@alpha-boss 4 step kids- he’s a step father keywords he mentioned
@piqueny8872 I have other things on my mind, so i forgot after watching the video . I'm not gonna spend my time thinking about other people's problems. I have my own problems...
May Almighty Allah make it easy for everyone. Ameen 🙏
can someone please explain why the wife doesnt move with her husband and live where he can provide for her?
That's what I was thinking 🤔. Why didn't the sheikh say that. But we all know the sheikh would not advise that because Australia is 1 st world country and Pakistan is not. What ever happened to the concept of a wife being obedient to her husband. Since the money is done, time to dump the guy I guess.
May Allah make earning easy for all of us and give us halal which would be more than sufficient for us to provide for our families.
Although this is sad to hear. But be careful who you marry.
My advice to the brother, build your wealth, take care of your two kids and then marry someone who doesn't have children. You deserve better even if you weren't able to provide. The prophet SAW married off men who were flat broke, sure it is our responsibility to provide but a man isn't just a wallet. I ask Allah SW to provide for you and guide you. Ameen.
and a woman doesn't need to offer free services either
@@sarahm4516there was clearly no true love here. If he is trying hard, surely she should back him. Why not go live in Pakistan? It looks like she is a selfish person. Allah knows best.
adjam4044 education is better in pakistan!? Don't blame the woman directly and don't think only of one side. Maybe she has a good reason too!? And Sheikh Assem didn't even blame her or say she was selfish. Calm man!? I hope he gets back to his family soon with a good salary!?
@@sarahm4516 I don't think she was offering him any "services" while he was working abroad thousands of miles away just to provide for her and her kids.
Men aren't just wallets, sure, but he has to bring some benefit into the woman's life. Otherwise, what's the incentive to leave your parents house to go to some man if he can't provide the meat for your dinner? Lol
Always painful to see Muslim families being ripped apart, and I know it's the right thing to do in this case, but it still hurts.
وأعوذ بك من غلبة الدين وقهر الرجال.
Really? Don't you think he made dumb choices
@@user-ue4fh5mv9s say good or shut up. you can still make good choices and end up broke it happens in what we call life smartass it's rizq in the end. so say something good or shut up.
@@user-ue4fh5mv9sno he didn't, what he should do is tell her to move to Pakistan where he can provide for his two children.
Poor guy may Allah help this brother and his needs
Sorry to say this but this very common nowadays. 20, 30, 40 etc years ago it was ok for a man just to provide for his family whilst the wife stays home looks after the children, household, etc. Nowadays, because rent, bills and food is skyrocketing, wife has to step in as man isn't able to provide for everything. We can tell by his emotions, he's trying his best and its not really his fault. BUT now she wants a divorce. Doesn't the woman understand that if she divorces him, it's going to be much more difficult as a single parent?
Comeon buddy life is easy for a women she can marry again a rich man it is easy women to live
Modern women don't care about reality, they only care about their feelings
I am confused as to how his wife is in Australia and he is in Pakistan. Is it just visa termination issues? If so, I'm still suspicious bc if she's married to him and lives there, shouldn't she be able to have him with her thru marriage visa? (Unless there were another wife in question.) Regardless, this is a sad position to be in. Inshallah, Allah guides him. Men have to shoulder a lot of responsibility and should prioritize accordingly.
Man should focus on kids and allah and not wife mist problem solved because u can het another wife don't invest in her at all
@@comedyalbums7202wtf? I feel sorry for any woman married to you! Disgusting thought process! 🤢🤢🤬🤬
@@comedyalbums7202you can also get more children through your new wife too so forget your children too. Scumbag 🤡🤡🤢🤢
@@comedyalbums7202 i hope you get mature mentally before having a wife.
I had the same question as well. There likely is much more to the story especially seeing that he also had stepkids.
Real life 😔
Allah's blessings may be in granting the divorce
We need to become fincanciallu independent and strong and able to not depend just on a job where everything can change in litteraly 1 day.
may allah help him amin
Here's what happened. He probably made it to the country on a temporary non-student/non-work visa. The wife was desperate to remarry, but was probably keeping him at arms length to ensure he can stay in the country without relying on her for spousal support. Not sure about Australia, but it's a common thing Pakistani girls in the states do to protect themselves from being financially abused.
All-in-all, the marriage was built on 0 trust, and the only real victims here are the two children involved because of their parents' impulsive actions.
Why marry and have kids if you cant afford it. and did he marry her for a visa?
She already had 4 kids from another marriage and 2 kids from him. Is she going to marry the next man and expect him to provide for 6 kids that isn't his? She should move to Pakistan and accept her husbands situation, no one will be better off with a divorce.
@HassanEO she should move if she wants to move. In my opinion I don't think she should have married a guy who couldn't provide in the first place
@@0Reelok0 he couldd provide when they married but it's AFTER the change in his situation that he couldn't provide
@@abdelrahmanmekky7011 well we don't have context so we really don't know
may Allah make it easy on the brother ameen
Is he trying to study while having kids and no money?
Make dua for the brother, may Allah reward you
...may Allah make it easy for them to find an amicable way & save their marriage & may Allah save all of the marriages😎 that are in trouble😩. Aameen.🤲🤲🤲
He could try to renegotiate a misyaar type nikaah contract.🤷🏿♂️
You think she would though? She is a single mom of 4! Must have married only for a loyal provider slave and he thought of scoring the permanent visa but both failed
Women are known to stay in worse situation than this, so there's more to this that he is not letting the sheykh know.
Allah knows best, some men will tell aöl sorts of lies to get married and expect you to just go with the flow when you realise he lied (talking from experience). 😢
You sound like a man hater. May Allah help you get rid of this disease
Money is important
Why doesn’t she move to him? Not that their is any need to stay in Australia, or did I miss something?
In arabic there is a wise saying: they say women are of 3 types . 1 is against you , 1 would die for you and 1 would neither die for you nor is against you.
The first one is a woman with children, the 2nd is a woman who never married before and the last is a divorcee woman without children
Fr never marry single mom's or third world women regardless of thier pioussness cuz both will use you
So the woman who would “die for you” can become 3rd type?
Divorced woman were once women who weren’t married 😂
Dumb saying
This saying goes against Islam and sunnah.
Oh, she shouldn't have any problem finding another guy to take care of her and her 6 kids. 🥴
Pray to Allah for riches
Brother leave her asap because she needs get married again quickly
So how does this go for brothers in less fortunate countries were there jobs have been stripped from them does that mean they all are going to get divorced what if a person gets sick is that another reason for a divorce what if the wine is a big spender what if there is family issues the brother has taken on 4 step kids clearly his been used for his money very sad
😢 What about the year to provide it for her children... Where was their father's... Is can anyone say one grateful in urdu
Can't see many men willing to take on a woman who has at least been married twice and has 6 kids. Its a difficult situation. Why can't you bring your wife to your country and provide for her there. That would be easiest solution.
Exactly 💯. My guess is that she doesn't want to move to Pakistan, first world life in Australia is what they want
My mom waited since 2001, became the main financial source of my family and dislike me and my sister when we suggested that she'd divorce my dad lol. If i send this clip to her I'm gonna be labeled as a bad child
Waited for what?
Cash
Your mother must have genuine sincerity to her marriage. She loves her family and does not want it to fall apart for cash. She is supporting her spouse and that is a good thing to do, based solely off what you said here.
But then where is the love between husband and wife ? That means no money no love...this kind of things are now destroying society and marriage where Money is everything not love and patience and Fear of Allah...
There is a very strong hadith which i earlier thought just a common hadith then i see what women are doing they are just after money bro, the hadith said that the majority of hell residents were women and also not because of idol worshipping but being always ungrateful toward their husbands
@@Mikyla123 Allah make man providers bro but unfortunately some of us broke still foolishly want to get married nah man don't ruin women and your life . Just get married to hoor like abu qudama if allah send u in Jannah
@@comedyalbums7202 womp womp if you can't be a provider stop getting married and destroying women's life.
@@4U_X just like if a women if she can't give sex to her husband or love him even if he provide for her than she is for the streets and also if u women can't provide sex don't get married amd destroy a mans life 😹😹😹
Are you a Muslim? I am a Muslim .As per shari'a marriage is a deal. It's all about rights and duties. Personal feelings has no place in the Law. Love is not relevant. As a long as a man can provide he has a lot of privileges over his wife; for example if he can provide he can take other wives and her feelings don't matter at all, if she gets trauma and gets ill because of this, this doesn't matter at all. BUt if a man can't provide, he loses all his rights and privileges. As per shari'a, he doesn't worth anymore as a husband. There are other things: if a spouse gets chronically ill or disabled (man or woman doesn't matter) can be abandoned. If he or she is infertile, he or she can be abandoned. Their sorrow don't matter in front of the Law. Omar RA had more than one wife and yet he divorced a woman because she couldn't have children anymore. If a man is infertile, he can be divorced, same. And as long as a man can provide, there is no real equity between husband and wife, he has more rights over her. But if he can't, he becomes kind of a nothing as a husband. Do you love each other? Great, you're lucky. Does you and your spouse validate and take care of each other's feelings and emotions? You're very lucky and blessed. But this has no relevance as per the Law. Even sex is a question of numbers. As a woman you must have intercourse everytime he asks for it, except if you are menstruated or ill. If you are a man you are recommended to have intercourse with her every 4 days but it's not mandatory. In front of the Law is a duty. If there''s love and real connection in it, your business. As a Muslim I've learnt that the only way I can achieve full dignity as a human being, no matter the gender, the best is to be able to provide for yourself and avoid marriage. But if you are a woman this is even more true. If you're not married, your dignity and value is not linked to having money, or being infertile or ill or disabled. You can build your dignity and value on what you really achieve in religion and you give to society.
This is the reason why relationship based on serving are seriously messed up, I am a Muslim and honestly I don't believe that women should slave for man and man aren't a money machine for woman, the all mighty basd marriage on compassion and cordiality (الود والرحمة) yet some people are so set on making life so hard for everyone just to momentarily satisfy their male ego, people need to reconnect with the real teachings of Quran.
Male ego? Its the females ego here. do you think some one will marry here with 6 children?
BTW Islam does nto work lie "I dont think this and I dont think that".
I am oretty sure she has lost the thrill other wise she could have easily applied for spuse visa and he could come back to AUstralia and could take care of the family.
The man and the woman are to complement one another. Too many people are entering into marriage from the perspective of what they can gain or benefit for themselves and not how they can build happiness for each other. This is one major reason why so many marriages are failing.
@@ssjlkrillin Companionship, like a best friend.. but closer...
@ssjlkrillin you're right
What is the term annulment?
Khula
The big question is why he can't provide for her??? If it's not his fault than she is not the right woman for him and he can get a better wife inschaallah!
What do you mean? It's his responsibility to provide for his wife and kids, so putting the blame on her is atrocious.
His visa expired therefor, he had to move back to Pakistan. The problem is that in Pakistan, he doesn't earn enough to provide for his wife.
@@SoleilMagicaProbably the conversion rate of his money earned from work in Pakistan currency to wherever his wife lives is very bad.
@@pinkclouddlol she wanted a provider and not a loving husband , in Australia every expense is taken by government of children and for the mother her allowance, so if she still wants more she’s basically looking for a sugar daddy
@@essakhan4360every wife wants her husband to provide for her...
And if he can't then why marry a wife from a rich country
why he did not get spouse visa?
Subhan Allah.
This guy is trying hard to support his kids and step kids. Crazy!
He didn't give up even after being deported back to his country. He kept on educating himself to get more skills. And the sister could not bare it anymore.
Remember the story of prophet Ayyub peace be upon him, he lost his wealth, his children, his reputation, his big house, his health,. Only his wife stood by him. He was so ill that he couldn't get out of bed.
And even in the end his wife had enough and ask him to ask Allah. He said 'how long did Allah bless us with everything for?'
She replied for 70-80 years.
He said 'i feel shy to ask Allah when Allah has blessed us for many many years and we have been only afflicted for few years'
His wife didn't even leave him
His supported him till the end.
He saw how his wife struggled and he asked Allah 'Oh Allah, despair, distress and evil have touched me and You are the Most Merciful of those who mercy'.
Someone should find this brother and get some money so he can kickstart some business. Help him please
Was this guy looking for a wife or an Australian visa?
Let's be real hear lol...she wanted a provider slave and he wanted that sweet sweet Visa
He's facing the reality of life. Women want what you can provide them not you.
FACTS. It's called CONDITIONAL LOVE towards men. That's why I'm rich and single 😎
My husband works very very hard, I hardly ever see him, and I am pregnant. He earns very little but Al hamdulillah I can cook. I stay home, care for him when he is here, cook and clean and learn my Deen so I can teach him. I am extremely grateful for my husband, and I will never leave his side. Allah will provide, and my husband is doing the best he can. Yes, some women (many of them in Europe where I come from) are not willing to wait and have patience and live on very little. Having no new clothes, no wedding ceremony, no vacations etc. But some women are marrying for the sake of Allah, only want a safe place to live and pray, have someone to care for. Hes not facing « the reality of life », he is facing someone who maybe is out of patience and trust.
Doesn’t matter, it’s well within their right in Islam.
Red pill movement
@@SAAD92ification facts bro. I rather donate my money to the mosque than fake women
Bro I can't stay silent. He got married in 3015...
Are u from the future. Whom did he get married to in 3015? And how is he alive for that long. That's like 1000 years. Are u sure about this?
Brother- We don't know the full story though but your wife should have moved with you to Pakistan. If she don't then she is not worth it. Wo kehtay haina k agr wo jaana chahay to usay roko nai, qk wo jaa chuki hoti hai (If she wants to leave, don't stop her and let go, because she's already gone). Sad that you have your own 2 kids with her, but brother that's life, that's because it was a wrong decision to marry her in the first place. She could've been in Pakistan and still asked for you to divorce. Biwi ka pata ghurbat aur bimari main chalta hai (Wife's true loyalty is revealed in poverty or in ailment). Loyal wives with 9 kids wouldn't leave you if you don't have a penny, but there are some who'd leave even if you have a mansion. So don't worry. Offer her final time to come to Pak IF you can't goto Australia but if she doesn't then Khalaas. And Pakistan is not a war torn country, there are so talented people and students that then can migrate to Aus/Canada and rest of world and create great lives for themselves while maintaining their deen and social values. We often forget the 1000 blessings we have in Pakistan as compared to Australia or non muslim countries due to all the negative things we keep hearing 24/7
SHe lost the thrill in the marriage. the women here is Australia think she can get any male she wants. She could have easily applied for spouse visa nd he could be back in Australia.
Why would anyone leave the beautiful country of Australia for Pakistan
Life is hard for men maaaan 😩
hard to hear, and sad to see may Allah provide him with wealth and grant him a better wife in the future that will be with him in good times and hard times. not to fault his ex wife she has the right to ask for divorce if she can't go on but it's hard to see.
He takes care of her step children and yet she wants divorce? This world is mad 😢
Without any money? 🤣🤣
Ok 👍
@Ash-zp9sy i hope you go through much worse condition and may allah help this brother ameen
@@soldierboy2352you do know when you curse another muslim for invalid reasons that curse goes back to you?
May Allah give you hidayah.
@@grimreaper999 I didn’t even say anything to him?
@@Ash-zp9sy Not you. The one cursing you.
the sheikh couldve gave him a job..
So it means that if wife has some fault, we can divorce her as well
Depends on the fault? If she is ageing and you want a younger woman then that is immoral.
Providing for your family is Allah’s law let that sink in
@@Ash-zp9sy but not illegal..... above case is also immoral
@@Ash-zp9sy but no where Allah says that wife should leave husband if he doesnt earn
@@JosephTrump if the man won’t or can’t provide the wife has a right to leave him but if she supports him in hard times obviously Allah swt will reward her for this
Does this channel just repost from the assim al hakeem channel?
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Maybe she wants divorce so that as a single mother she can get more government benefits. She would need the benefits because he isn't providing for his family.
If he signes any form of divorce paper just to trick the authorities that IS a talaq
This world sucks
Not really, but if you marry a single mother of 4 for a green card and she leaves your ass for not providing, then yes
I am from uk and earn in £ but i will move to brazil to marry someone with 1 child. I have a few thousand saved. I will earn in that brazil currency. Will i be ok? Should i do it?
No way, man! She will use you for getting a visa or considering the fact that she is a single mother! Never marry third-world women they will use you and leave
Just marry a vergin why waste life for a women
I feel for my guy, most guys are struggling to make ends meet, it's how the world is, should it be OK for the woman to leave the man? If so expect ALOOOOOTTTTTT more divorces ( the thing shaitan loves the most)
Divorce is halal why are you saying shaitan loves it the most? If it's done for valid reason, it's halal. Don't make up your own rulings.
@@Wasabi-g3t Hadith on Satan: Devil most pleased when families are broken
By Abu Amina Elias / April 15, 2013 / Bad Deeds السيئات, Devil-Companion القرين, Discord التحريش, Divorce الطلاق, Family Ties صلة الرحم, Fitnah الفتنة, Hatred البغضة, Iblees إبليس, Jinn الجن, Manners الادب, Marriage النكاح, Satan الشيطان, Unseen الغيب, Water الماء
Jabir reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Verily, Satan places his throne over the water and he sends out his troops. The closest to him in rank are the greatest at causing tribulations. One of them says: I have done this and this. Satan says: You have done nothing. Another one says: I did not leave this man alone until I separated him from his wife. Satan embraces him and he says: You have done well.”
Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2813
Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Muslim
عَنْ جَابِرٍ قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ إِنَّ إِبْلِيسَ يَضَعُ عَرْشَهُ عَلَى الْمَاءِ ثُمَّ يَبْعَثُ سَرَايَاهُ فَأَدْنَاهُمْ مِنْهُ مَنْزِلَةً أَعْظَمُهُمْ فِتْنَةً يَجِيءُ أَحَدُهُمْ فَيَقُولُ فَعَلْتُ كَذَا وَكَذَا فَيَقُولُ مَا صَنَعْتَ شَيْئًا قَالَ ثُمَّ يَجِيءُ أَحَدُهُمْ فَيَقُولُ مَا تَرَكْتُهُ حَتَّى فَرَّقْتُ بَيْنَهُ وَبَيْنَ امْرَأَتِهِ قَالَ فَيُدْنِيهِ مِنْهُ وَيَقُولُ نِعْمَ أَنْتَ
2813 صحيح مسلم كتاب صفة القيامة والجنة والنار باب تحريش الشيطان وبعثه سراياه لفتنة الناس وأن مع كل إنسان قرينا
It's not his own ruling...
Sheikh you should not blame this man. We do not know his situation, and only Allah is the provider of risk.
Why does she not move to Pakistan and live with her husband ? Everything is about money and dunya, nowadays
So basically a wife is like your employee
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Yes even close to slave (not western standard). But this is best to keep family healthy
Basically a soulmate
@@DidiJunaidi-z4p definitely NOT a slave if she can leave if she's not getting paid
@@DidiJunaidi-z4p
Screw that. That delusion ya’ll have going on.
In Australia, a mother with children is well-supported by the government. School fees, living allowances, and even university costs for children are covered. The mother often receives housing and financial aid. If she still demands more, it suggests she entered the marriage expecting financial benefits rather than love.
True love isn’t based on wealth-if a woman loves her husband, she’d support him even in hardship, knowing Rizq is from Allah. A man tries his best, but Rizq is ultimately beyond his control. If she was looking for a provider and not a partner, it’s clear she wanted a sugar daddy. May Allah protect us from such relationships. Divorce in this case seems justified.
Remember the biggest reason Muslim women are in hell is always being greedy and want more from her husbands and they never get satisfied what he have my my now i have seen a lot of this type of cases
Only reasonable take in his terrible situation.
both spouses have rights and when he doesn't fulfill it she has rights to divorce.. learn something ... is your head filled with air ... husband is supposed to provide also what good is a husband who has been away for years who is she supposed to ride when he is on another continent
We dont know much, shouls avoid blind blaming and guessing about peoples intentions in sha Allah
So why is the wife not moving with her husband to Pakistan? I don't get it. I don't care if you are "Australian" or whatever, go where your husband goes. Simple. Moving to Pakistan is a million times better for the children as well. Let them be around Muslims, hear the Adhan, pray and play in the Masjids. Why is she staying back?
Thats not the quesiton. The main question is why she is not applying for spouse visa?
Why would anyone in their right mind leave Australia for Pakistan
@@user-ue4fh5mv9s wife is suppose to live iwth her husband no matter where he goes. this channel is for Muslims not sure what you are doing ehre.
@wonderwalls3565 how did you assume I ain't a muslim? Wallahi this guy was dumb to marry a single mom of 4 and then have 2 more kids all on a temporary visa! He was delusional from the start
@@user-ue4fh5mv9s I assumed based on your comment. You dont know If a wife refuses to go with her husband no matter where he is going as long as its not a threat to her life and her children life she is beign sinful.
I did not know that Islam says to have kids in Australia you need to have a visa of Australia. I thought you just need to have a Nikkah to have kids.
Now I do agree that he was delusional thinking his wife loves him and married a woman who already had 4 kids and who knows how did she got them. I would like to know why she has not applied for spouse visa?
Somethign tells me she reverted to marry him, her children are from non Muslim men and now she got experience of a brown guy and she does not want it anymore.
If she married u for your money ,this will happen
I think the so called wife is also to blame I presume hand on quote because I again assume she knew of his visa issues which is a risk then proceeds to have kids with him.
He is also to blame as well, I'd be surprised if she finds someone willing to take 6 kids not of there own hopefully the system can help her out where ever they are.
It's a God given right that sisters are to be provided financially by their husbands, the most basic right. No blame on the wife.
Is this a business or marriage
she has the right to take a divorce because he's not fulfilling her rights in the marriage. this is not business this is what a marriage is.
It’s marriage. She should stay w him till she and her children starve to death. Very logical. Thats why you’re creating a religion as opposed to typing about others. Lmao PHAHGGOT
Marriage is business. If you treat it like some fnal fantasy game, you're going to be played.
@@wZaidhan Not sure if ur a bro or a sis but know that marriage is give and take. Reverse the case over here "My husband wants to divorce me because I can't provide kids, what should I do?".
@@Thatssswhatithought he probably meant to say cannot care/handle/teach them good manners the kids
I dont feel bad for him cuz why in the world would he get with a single mother of 4 kids! He was screwed from the start
He should tell his wife to move to his home country. He will be more able to provide then. If she refuses to leave Australia then its her own fault as husband should decide where his family lives.
This make me question a wifes love as my friend who is a very wealthy muslim mam said if i want happiness stay with man if u want heart attack stay with ur wife, i said why iam not even married bro he in reply said one day u may get married be careful and care for ur parents and never waste ur love for ur wife because she can leave u so u can get another wife why worrying but don't invest in love than divorce wont heart
Men need to be financially and mentally stable before seeking a wife.
he was, but life happened.
@zainjalad6773 guy in his right mind would marry a single mother much less of 4 kids! He wanted the visa but failed in getting so
@@zainjalad6773he wast. he was not sure his visa would hold up. that negates his financial stability. plus why did he marry and take 4 children lol.
@@zainjalad6773wife happened 😂
Rizq is from Allah. You could get sick and need hundreds of thousands for treatment at any point. Pray that those words you uttered don't come back to haunt you and that you'll face that kind of hardship.
To all the sisters there , men can be financially stable and unstable sometime, don't leave them in there bad situation if you didn't in there good time.
Thats romantic blabla. The wife has 6 kids and is the one suffering. Everyone can cry. Please THINK before you marry and leave a broken family behind!
@s.c.7381 if men runs away from there responsibility than women have the right to leave him but if men is trying his hard and still due to some financial condition or any disaster or for any problem he is not able to provide much to his family than she must stand stood with him in his bad time instead of stabbing him .....
It seems that their situation is not that of a couple of weeks. It has nothing to do with a little sabr and sacrificing a luxurious life. There are SIX starving children, health costs, housing, school snd whatever. If you wait years for your husband who is not there for providing with money nor emotional than this is no marriage.
Obviously you brothers live in a somehow very theoretically mindset far away from the reality of life. We see this everywhere. Mosques are full of pious brothers, but not able of providing for YEARS. Then came refugees finding jobs, helping their families here and abroad. How they find jobs but our brothers not?
They need some REAL brotherky advice. Not that general "women are greedy, fitna...". They should learn not to whine where the wive is the one struggling to provide, care with hungry and sick children abd have no time and stage for tears.
@@s.c.7381 if someone says all women are greedy then he is not a man......, What do you mean by "pious men are not able to provide their family? But refugees are able to get a job " are you living an imaginary life? Do you know getting a job is not a joke now a time and the condition of Pakistan is the worst... Don't follow the path of feminist, they will destroy your iman.
@@s.c.7381 if he completely abandoned his wife then she has the right to him but if in this bad situation he is able to provide this much that she is able to survive then she shouldn't leave him.
IF WIFE IS PARALYZED FOREVER SAY WHEN MAN IS 30 YEARS AND WOMAN IS 25 YEARS, THE MAN WONT WAUT ANOTHER DAY TO MARRY ANOTHER WOMAN. IM SURE 80 % OF HUSBANDS WONT EVEN GIVE WIFE A GLASS OF WATER IF WIFE HAS A SIMPLE FEVER IS RESTING IN BED😂😂😂
So all men are just money banks? Don't generalize all the men. Did you go to every husband and see if they provided a glass of water for their wife or not? Don't spit garbage out of your mouth
@@Wifixsmasher448of course in islam man is the bank , 😂😂😂 ,, it is the sole responsibility of the man to financially provide for wife and kids. Just like wife is the baby making apparatus
Its a difficult situation but I find it strange that he considers her wife is going against Allah if she seeks divorce. She isnt. She is taking care of herself. Two are not the same thing.
The real problem today is that they put women in the job market, so men and women compete for jobs, it mean there are less jobs for men. Women have jobs but they aren't providers, providing is still the duty of men, so it's a paradox because women work for themselves and men have to work for their family. So It become very difficult to find a job, for All my brothers, young or not, you have to go in a field in demand, a manual field or technology fiels, or job in care (medecine, pharmacy, dental). Don't lose your time in field that get you nowhere. May Allah help every muslim, be couragous brothers !
The solution is simple which is that tell your wife to move to Pakistan and then you can provide basic nessesites for them and if she is resisting without islamic justifiable reason then she is Zalim. Another thing it is not your fault if you are putting effort for earning money without compromising the Deen because fit this into your mind that Allah increases the riqz for whom he wills and decrease for whom he wills so you should only do what you are suppose to (judging by what Allah has revealed) while accepting the worse case scenario of this worldly life and that's the only way to find satisfaction and easiness in your life.
The poor woman and the six children. I’m sure she doesn’t want to divorce her husband, but she has no choice. It wouldn’t even make sense for her to go out and get a job and help him because of the cost of childcare. She must divorced and go home to her parents where the children will be provided for . And she needs to divorce so she can marry another man who will be a stronger provider.
Cost of childcare? Why have children if ur not sure about finances lol
She ain't getting a third husband while being twice divorced with 6 kids, let's be realistic
@@الحمدلله101bruh no sane man will even marry a women with more than two kids as there surely be something so called cash
She should support her spouse during hard times. It is very unrealistic she'd get another guy to support her when she has a history of leaving people when they are facing difficult times.
Miskeen
They want us to help them with chores, but they run away when we need help.
What kind of man doesn't help with chores
Don't agree with Sheikh's answer
What is a man good for if not money?
A loving and understanding wife would follow with him to Pakistan, instead of sitting in another country and demanding khula for a situation out of his hands.
Seriously would you want to live in Pakistan
@@KS-cl8brdamn right we would. That country gives a BETTER lifestyle than the west provided you have enough money
@@razamughal9095 okay please never leave there