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- Emotional manipulators are people who, whether they realize it or not, use emotions as weapons. They get what they want in their relationships no matter the cost. If it takes playing the victim or blaming the other person, they’ll do it without batting an eye. If they have to give the cold shoulder or tear down their partner’s confidence, they’ll do that too. It seems scary if you’ve never experienced it before, and it can get even scarier if you realize you’ve been friends with an emotional manipulator without knowing it. Here are some tips on how to deal with manipulative people.
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I had to break up with my best friend because I started to realize that I always valued her feelings and worried about her wellbeing, while she undermined and invalidated my feelings and issues. Screw that. Any relationship should be a two-way street, whether it's a platonic friendship or a romantic relationship.
That must have been incredibly difficult for you, but I'm proud of you for being that self-aware and strong to live your own life and not someone else's. Good on ya! It also means you've opened up a huge amount of availability for a fresh new healthy relationship, and I wish you and all who follow your example all the best!
Thanks for sharing this with us Gabrielle. As Alexia says, props to you! Alexia, do you mind sending in an email to us at tai@psych2go.net Would love to chat with you about psych2go's stuff. Regards.
Agreed!
Gabrielle Nickson omg me too.. Its took me 7 long years to realize that.. -_-
God same, she was mad at me after I tried to tell her about it. Kept twisting my words, playing victem, undervalued me, etc. It's not easy but it's for the best, wish you luck!
"Tell them", yeah, like it was that easy.
Stephanie Hutterr it is. if you do it right, their whole reaction to what you tell them is all the proof you need to see if they'll try to be a better friend or for you to cut them off right then and there.
Most manipulators have incredibly low self esteem. So anytime you tell them what they are doing wrong or how they hurt you and others around you. Trust me... it destroys them more than you can possibly know. They truly think that words hurt more than physical pain. Which is a lie. Words dont hurt you, words only hurt if you let them.
They won't accept any reasons you give.
Them doing me a whole FRIGHT
@@willskywalk Its NOT that easy for everyone.
I was friends with a manipulative person. It got so bad that my self-confidence was in the floor and I constantly was shutting myself down in order to not start shouting in the middle of the street. I tried to cope with them for years, but in the end, we ended up fighting. She blamed it all on me, and I decided to cut that person off from my life. I've never been better with myself.
I get that this video is teaching us on how to cope with them, but it is not worth it, believe me, and you are going to waste a lot of time and self worth trying to FIX the other person.
Hi, I had that kind of experience too even until today. My self-confidence was almost falling to 0% that time.He is my best friend and he was not this kind of person when I knew him. Since he is my best friend, i take every word from him very seriously and this really hurt my feelings when he did that to me.
Great advice :)
@@Jack510 you are not alone😔...
"The people who have a problem with you having boundaries, are the people who would benefit if you didn't have them" ~ Shallon Lester
Boom.
3:45 you'd be surprised how little "I feel" means to them
that's true
If that isn't the god damn truth then I don't know what is
Them: u r just being too sensitive. It’s not my fault tht u feel tht way. U are making me feel uncomfortable and stress.
Yeah true, but I think that's why this is a great method of communication to show us who cares to listen/care about us as ppl and who doesn't, without us being accusatory or making others feel they need to be defensive by saying "you this you that," but keeping the focus when we communicate on our own feelings isn't offensive.
@@K0r1ISH3R3 ohya
I think this might work if the manipulator is generally a good person with low self esteem so they put you down in order to feel better or they're intimidated by you. I don't think this could work if a person just wants you to feel bad because they like it and it makes them feel superior. In that case, I don't think there's much you can do other than leave. I'd say it's just who they are.
Marta Curic I agree with this on a spiritual level.
Yep. It's a part of their personality and it's not moving.
Marta Curic I agree. Years ago I habitually did this. Then I realized what I was doing and took steps to catch myself from doing it. Eventually the habit changed and even if someone's bad I can at the very least find one good thing about them.
That's the type of person you cut off completely. No second chances/ they'll change if i..... *No*
I was thinking about that on the Lighten The Load one. 'Put the emotional manipulator into a position of more power? Yeah, that'll work out for everyone.'
''Know who you are and don't let them drag you in their insecurity''
Happy Sunday everyone! Hope you are not all too caught up with school or work at the moment! This weekend, we're touching base on a very touchy subject: Emotional Manipulation. Hopefully, this video can help some of you out! Previous suggested video: th-cam.com/video/j5AOp93S1F4/w-d-xo.html. Feel free to request video topics under this comment and we will reply to you!
Psych2Go Thank you for all the videos you've done so far! They are very helpful and interesting.
Psych2Go thanks for making these videos very much! this is awesome
Thank you so much for these videos, they're very helpful ! I would also like to request a video on reading body language- there's one on body language in relation to attraction, but can you guys make one just in general? It's okay if you don't wish to though ~
Psych2Go Can you talk about how how to deal with betrayal (Friendship)? Thank you! P.S.: I like your videos!!!
This is very true about me & I didn't even know it...Thx
God..I never knew I was manipulating my boyfriend. I thought I was just stubborn. I don't fit all the checkmarks in this video but enough to know I got to change my ways
I always try and make him do the dishes as I'm pregnant and gag easily from smells and I am manipulating him in what party favours we are going to do. When I'm sick and feel like dying he understands me but when he catches a cold I feel like it's less horrible than he makes me believe even trough I know I exaggerate in my "I'm dying of stomach acid!" He hugs me and rubs my back...
God ..
I hate myself
Hey at least you acknowledge that you do infact have some of these traits. You can slowly and surely fix the error of your ways and become a better person for him and for yourself :) After all we are human.
Hey... i don't think you should put yourself down so much. Lik the video said, sometimes the manipulator doesn't even realize what they're doing is wrong. Since this video made you realize this behavior, I think that it's good that you're now striving to better yourself. Afterall, as they say, better late then never.
I wish you luck, though.
Dood you aren’t manipulative you are only pregnant!
Wow.... I need to change I finally met the love of my live... and just wow I know I need to change my ways. I know im a good person and I love her
And thus manipulated becomes the manipulator....
The victim becomes the perpetrator..
Jeetu Singh manipulating vs being honest, direct, and confrontational are two different things
Psych2Go best feeling ever
These are not manipulation tactics. All they’re saying is you’re not a manipulator for standing up for yourself and identifying toxic behaviors. It’s draining to be around people who do these things to you. Trying to better your situation is just you attempting to have a better, more fulfilled life without constantly second guessing yourself.
@ioana ilea I've been manipulated to never say "no"... Yur answer is huge. I love it!! 😂👍
I had a manipulative friend i call Queen Bee who i have since cut ties with. I did not know how bad it was considering we shared rooms until a mutual friend spilled on all the rumors and shit she was spreading about me (while living in the SAME ROOM) and me not having a clue since she never quite gave any clues as to why she would do that. That was the day i cut her off (and the entire group of friends in the process as they never bothered to check with me about these damaging humiliating stories) and sadly the one friend who told me about it as well because i could not summon the energy to try to “win” this friend over that maniacal person and her unrelenting storytelling ways and i did not want to burden her knowing Queen Bee would go all out to “recruit” everryyybody to her side. This was also during a very unsettled moment in my life in a foreign country without any of my family or close friends around. Needless to say, it left a deep dark impression on me and though i have since moved on, i cant quite picture ever being on friendly terms with this person. It had also broken me out of my naivety and forced me to mature at a very quick rate. Beware the manipulative people.
mimprincesa it's just our altruism that ruins us. Sometimes like your situation, it's our altruism toward others makes us vulnerable. While sometimes, we live life on autopilot mode and we think we're the good guys doing good things but in fact we're making mistakes hurting others. The best way to live life is to acknowledge and be conscious about the fact that we are imperfect we have flaws so try not to hurt others, while at the same time know that others are imperfect too so don't have high hopes and be prepared.
I feel you, I was in that process a year ago and can relate a bit to your story. Stay strong, for you seem like a good person.
This!! I can't believe the situation you've been thru are almost exactly like mine. Gotta agree on the mature part. I find it hard to trust anyone now.
Oh sorry date you most go fru date man
mimprincesa I hear a lot of stories like this. I think this person targeted you as a way to let out anger, knowing that you’re vulnerable in a new country.
I’m really proud of you though. You showed a lot of class and dignity.
That’s why I have trust issues on people :’)
Oh sh*t!
About two weeks ago I walked away from a toxic friendship thinking I was manipulated. No. BOTH of us were manipulating each other. Realising that actually kind of helped.
Yes agree , and usually these kind of people hide their atrocious behavior under the mask of their so called innocent mood swings and then when you try to cut them out to preserve your sanity, they switch on their , *you are my best friend,you must tolerate me* mode
Yes. Exactly this.
how to stop being a manipulator..
That can be our next video Ren :0
Yes please, I sometimes feel like I'm manipulating my friends and I feel honestly awful, doesn't help that they sometimes don't trust me and think I'm still playing victim, how can I know when I'm truly being honest and how can I convey that to other people?
Yes!
Bluespheal same here and I feel awful about it too.
RenNightcore *
Yes please...
Sounds like a narcissist.
You mean a sociopath?
It's not a psychopath?
Ikr
Psych2Go I agree with Cali S . This video describes Narcissistic personality disorder to a t.
"I never trust a narcissist but they love me." Sorry just had too.
my dad does this...I know he is stressed and constantly yelling, no matter what I say he always says he is right. Never once have I been able to get him to admit. I feel belittled...I feel guilty...and hate my myself when I am at home because...they criticize me...at school I can be myself well at least now I can because I am at a new school and know for a fact no one at my old school missed me. At least that burden has lifted...now...to figure out my home life...but it is getting better...
RainbowOcean oh damn good luck ;-;...one thing I personally dislike though is when parents sometimes compare you to others or make you feel useless 😌
Martin Baez thank you...that really filled me with determination...now I know why people feel happy even if someone said the smallest thing it makes a huge difference. I encourage others but not myself. Thinking that it wouldn't do good. I love that there are so many people who care about others. People like you...thank you so much. Keep spreading the joy in life^-^
RainbowOcean No Problem :D...wish you success though 🤗👌
I'm the one manipulating people. Thank you for helping me realize I need to change my ways
“Imagine you have a friend”
*those thoughts are too good to be true*
You can’t reason with a manipulative person. If they were capable of understanding and empathy, they wouldn’t behave the way that they do. Moreover, they’re completely uninterested in others and their feelings- they truly only care about themselves. The best way to deal with a manipulative person is don’t play into their tactics, limit contact, or remove yourself from their presence entirely.
People who are manipulative are worse than people who are mean.
They'll tell you they want to help. But the dont.
They'll make you apologize for their mistakes.
They'll make you feel like the right choice is wrong.
Cut them out of your life.
My roommate is extremely manipulative. And unfortunately, she’s so far gone that I can’t help her. I tried to bring it up to her and she REFUSES to acknowledge that she has some toxic traits.
Exactly the same as my roommate... And she blamed me for letting her help with everything, but it was actually her who always tries to interfere. I pointed out and she just went crazy, refused to acknowledge that
What can you do when the manipulative person is one of your parents ?
You can show them this video.
Stella Guiet dude, I moved my ass out of there first chance I could and so did my friends. Most parents won’t listen. I think you should try to communicate to give yourself peace that you tried but otherwise, you should distance yourself as much as possible and plan to cut ties.
Stella Guiet This!
Stella Guiet Kill them.
I feel ya...
I had a "best friend". I knew her for about 10 years, and she was the worst, most manipulative person I knew. She lied to me, she stole my stuff, she lied about others to keep me from having strong relationships, everything was about her all the time, she blackmailed me, she beat me up for seemingly no reason, etc. When I told her I'm done with her, she played the victim. MY FRIENDS sided with her. She once cut herself, posted it to Snapchat, and threatened to kill herself when no one bought in to her fake bullshit.
tch..
i had a freind like that too
im sure you will get through with it mate
manipulators dont always win
I have one friend like that to its terrible because thay act most of the time like real friends but some time thay like to be a disgusting person and to make you fill mad and lougth about it i stop that friendship when i stop to smoke weed and realized it more when i was a stoner i just don't give a f**k about this behaviour but than i realized than i should stop it
Nobody deserves to be manipulated or treated cruel. I am so happy that I final cut ties with this person. Standing up for myself was the best thing ever, I am so done. Enough is enough.
Another great video! The ability to confront in a manner that is supportive and constructive is a massive thing to help stop being manipulated. It’s a vital step and one that can be pretty hard at times too. Loved these points, thanks.
GetPsyched glad you enjoyed! This is definitely important - hopefully there are people out there who can find these points just as helpful. Thanks for watching!
Why do I always get manipulative friends?
Taruna Satija maybe they see you as a beta person. Dunno
Kristoff I agree cz I do am
You have to set boundaries!! (what you allow is what will continue....) This is the most important lesson I learned after 50 years being manipulated by Narcs etc. If you really know yourself (selfesteem) manupilative people will not have a change to abuse you and will look for other victims...
Yes LaKenya, they like to manipulate empathic people (people pleasers) and will do anything to get a reaction/ emotions ( neg or pos) from you because they are empty souls.
Because you have a parent who is.
I am glad i came across this video. In all honesty after seeing this, i notice i have some of the traits of a manipulator that i was not aware of. But the majority of me is the one being manipulated. Thank you for this, i will be more conscious with my actions and also stand up to the manipulator. i almost never stood up to them especially the people close to me. Even though i do not wanna lose those relationships, its time to start cutting them off for my sanity and to be a better person. Wish everyone hear good luck and better relationships in this mysterious thing called life. 🖤
I've been seriously badly manipulated by my cousin(s) (specifically by one of them) for as long as I can remember now.
And I just realized that about a week ago.
Haven't end ties yet.
Idk how im suppose to end ties yet since my parents expect me to be friends with her(them.) [Specifically her.]
They expect me to forgive her[them]everytime she[they] does/do something bad to me.
She once drowned me and left me to die and then laughed it off as if it was a joke.
She will never be happy for me when I achieved something or have something new but rather seem upset or try to compete.
She'd try to insult and make fun of me every chance she has.
She'd try to make me jealous.
She'd humiliate me in front of everyone.
When I tell her about my serious health problems she wouldn't listen and try to convince me that she has bigger problems and make my problems feel little.
She'd guilt trip me a lot.
She calls me names like "stupid" "ugly" "loser" "useless" "sensitive" "problematic" etc.
"Your too skinny Noone will like you"
[I have ARFID]
"You can't do anything"
She'd make me guilty for owning things I have that she doesn't
Spreading rumors about me
Like would literally grab my things and make me feel guilty when I try to get it back.
She'd make it feel like being toxic is normal to the point I almost turned toxic.
And a lot more..
I was friends with someone for about a year before I found out they were manipulative. I kept trying to tell him to cut it out, but would always blame me. I lost most of my self confidence. During that time I kept trying to cut them out of my life, but they would always be like “Dude I promise we won’t fight again” and makes me feel guilty.
A great video! I like how you didn't just say "cut them out of your life". Sometimes people don't know they're being manipulative, and if they're your friend you may want to salvage the friendship instead of cutting ties.
Birdmugs very true. There may be people who have no intention of manipulation, and would rather help you than be cut off. Thanks for watching :)
Fantastic! I have a sister who ticks ALL these boxes. It’s as if you’ve just described her. I’ve just learned after so so many years that I wasn’t the crazy bad guy. Now I’m equipped to deal with her attacks as and when they come.
Nice animation. Thank you. A manipulating person may try to use various methods in order to get what they want from you, from guilting you to preying on your kindness.
Thank you a thousand times! I watched another video of yours and then this one, I realize now that I have a vary bad person in my life. I think I need to cut them out, thank you so much for giving me the opportunity to realize this
Good stuff. Very helpful perspectives. I like the ways to change how to say what needs to be said to a manipulator, that keeps you from getting sucked into their drama.
Jesus. Am I manipulative?
yes, you are.:)
Only you can truly answer this. If you recognize your behaviors in this video, it should not be a source of guilt so much as a wakeup call. This is a chance to become a better person. And to fix the interpersonal effectiveness problems in your life, and maybe even repair broken relationships. :)
Even if u r, the good thing is that u recognize it & can make changes to become a better person. All we can do is just learn from our mistakes & fix em, we all r not perfect, make mistakes & grow from things like this making us better ☺️ I treat ppl w/ respect, how I wud wanna b treated or can read ppl & know what to avoid around them & know how to interact w/ them.
Hahahaha i know right?
Fuck I was thinking the same thing 🤧🤧
I was being manipulative to my best friend. When I realized it I suddenly cut off all of my connections from her because I thought it was the best for us. I could've done it better, or used better solution to fix our relationship, but I didn't. The guilt of it still lingering on me till this day.
I'm sure many others don't realize they're being manipulative too. If you decide to cut off your relationship with a manipulative person, that's your right. But if you really care about that person too, try different approaches mentioned in this video before you cut off.
I’m sorry, but I’m not sure I agree with this. You absolutely don’t owe a manipulator any more chances than you most likely have given them throughout the course of your emotional battering. Giving them this chance opens the door for them to crawl back in, because a manipulator is going to use this opportunity to use any of your insecurities to paint themselves in a better light. Face it: the reason you want to talk to them is because you want it to work out deep down. They will use that energy. Much love friend, hope all is well for you in life :)
I had a friend. I could tell she was a good person deep down, but she would only ever really talk to me when she wanted a favor or help with something. Now I just don't talk to her anymore because I realised I only existed when she wanted help with school work while I was drooling all over her.
i had a freind like that too
there other good freinds out there man,dont worry
I never ever thought i was being manipulated and will be seeing this. But thank you loads for this precious information. This showed everything and comforted me to another level. Love and peace to you
I know this is late but I watched this video last year while having problems with my former best friend and it helped me a lot. He was guilty of all of the things covered in this video as well as other stuff and was overall a disgusting person. I was in so deep though and didn't even realise the extent of the problem most of the time, but with the help and this video as well as my friends I was able to gain the confidence to stand up for myself and cut him out completely and I've had no contact with him since. I don't think people realise sometimes that toxic friendships can be just as damaging to a person as toxic relationships and I'm glad I got out of mine.
Simply stay away from them. Simple.
if you can't i'd recommend you get on the violent spectrum ;)
This really helped. :) Thank you so much. ❤
I don't want this to sound like a "pity me" story, nor do I EVER want to undermine what others have gone through, because even though it may not seem like much to some people, that experience may have deeply affected that person. I just want to share this experience because facing it for what it is is the biggest step to truly moving on and letting go, and so that others can read it and not feel alone, like I have over the past couple of years watching videos and reading articles on these kinds of people. It has helped me heal and feel connected with those who have had similar experiences and I hope it can do the same for others as well.
I had a "friend" like that once. Long story short, she told me how she hated that "I was pretty" and "wanted to stick a dagger in my back", moved to a different school, and made up a lie about me physically threatening her in school in order to try and get me expelled. Thankfully the lie was discovered despite my principal hating me and wanting me expelled as well. She couldn't legally carry through with it, but the other girl got no punishment whatsoever, not even her mother for creating a Facebook petition with the other parents from the school system.
That was six years ago. It took me a LONG time, but I finally forgave her and moved on. None of those horrible people will ever be in my life again, and it doesn't do well to dwell in the past. Now, ONWARD TO A BETTER FUTURE!!!! >:D Seriously though, nobody's life is perfect, but don't forget that it isn't impossible to still live a great life in spite of it. Embrace these situations and allow them to inspire you to grow into the person you want to be. Be silly, or be serious, but, most importantly, be the best and truest "you" that you can possibly be! :)
Stay strong, everyone!
Eve
Great advice! I will be referring to this video next week when the manipulator is back in the office. I’ll be prepared to have my reflective shield and stand my ground.
I wish i had know these tips awhile ago, i lived with it my whole life, constant abuse of it everyday. it really screwed me up in many ways. To anyone who is dealing with it, i can definitely say keep em outta your life.
Can you guys talk about emotionally abusive relationships in teaching and professional situations?
Like. Say for example someone has anxiety and depression. They feel like they fail in everything they do. They constantly look for validation in other people, seeking approval and "good jobs" from peers but more importantly from superiors, like coaches and teachers.
And when they open themselves up to critisim, they look for gentler criticism. Gentle "you're doing a good job at this, but if you try this it will help with this problem you're having,"
Instead of "you're awful," "you're the worst person ever at this why are you here," "you're bringing down the team!"
Sometimes the anxious person tries to stand up for themself and say that the phrases being used are hurtful. But they are only received by being removed from the team or fired from their job.
Basically - can you talk about how to teach /coach someone with Self esteem issues and/or depression and Anxiety?
Or just; can you analyze the situation I gave you?
Wow..! thanks for your valuable information and making this video to save millions of people out there from getting manipulated... keep posting more videos like this
Tack för hjälpen bror!
Hi can you a video about false rumors and side effects of it to a person
These manipulative sociopaths can do more damage to you than is often talked about, when discussing such matters. Anyone who ever said not to care what other people think has never experienced one of those obsessively, lifeless, merciless jerks being all hellbent on destroying every faculty of your life.
You mean the damaging effects of rumors? And how to deal with them in a school environment?
Psych2Go actually not in school but in community subdivision
I would suggest looking up "how to deal with smear campaign" but otherwise if you can, withdraw from that situation and find something better.. if you have no choice but to stay around these people then you'll have to keep telling yourself that only you know what's really happened or who you really are as a person or at least, what you're NOT which is somebody like them.. Try to be as open minded, empathic and level headed as you can despite any stupidity, hypocrisy or pain.. The more you react to the bullies words and actions, the more they win..People are actually very simple creatures sometimes.
Thanks for making this video! It really helped!
Excellent video!
What if that manipulator is a family member?..
@@julianzamarchi7828 That's rough buddy
Sorry for that comment. Very distasteful, on my part.
Psych2Go has such adorable animations!!! 😄
Glad you love her animations!
I had "friends" that manipulated me. I eventually dropped them once I realized what they were up to. I kept my eyes on them and made sure to keep my distance. I began resenting my peer groups. I walked on eggshells every time I hung out with them.
These are great tips. Thank you.
Extremely helpful and informative
Glad it helped!
Psych2Go :)
WHY AM I ALIVE I love your username btw I can relate to it XD
Oh no....I didnt knew that I was an emotional manipulator! *informs my freind and says sorry*. Thank you Psych2Go! You made my aware!
This art style is amazing!
I also wanna mention a very manipulative behaviour that is usually made unconsciously. I used to have a lovely friend and everybody used to love her. She was a very confident and a careful person but she also was a very self-centered person, additionally having anger issues. That's why she was so stubborn and she used to force her own opinions on other people even though she was not sure about it. She used to think she knew the best of everything. She used to break everybody's heart when she was wronged by people, even though if you were her best friend, like me, she used to smash you with rage so hard. But whenever she did something wrong to you, and you were angry at her, she used to get smaller, try to be so cute and innocent, so as you had never seen her this naive and apologetic, you would grow sympathy for her and forgive. I had a huge fight with her in the end of the school year and she still did not accept she ruined my mental health. Only in a year. In the second month of the school, she had believed a gossip about me, and I was an introvert, so she had not understood my real personality and just spread that gossip. Treated me so cruelly, personally, because she was my roommate and I had to see her all the time, I tried to be my best of a friend and became so small, still she did not like me. In Christmas, she apologised from me confirming everything she did behind my back. She swore she saw my real character and never would do that to me again. But after a month, she started applying her rage on me again and again, because I was the weakest one to stand out for myself. Whenever I called her out, she used to refuse my accusations and just mute me. I had a lot of insecurities and confidence issues because of her behaviours towards me. However, by the end of the year, we had organised an event that was big and we had started working on it months before it takes place. I was one of the three people who did their best and saved the event even in the crisis moments, socialised and communicated with the participants to make sure if they were having a good time etc. She was not seen in the first two days of the event. In the end of the second day, I was so exhausted that made a single, little, insignificant mistake and she showed up out of nowhere, starting yelling at me, in front of everyone, and nobody was with me. Everybody was trying to calm her down because she was crying while taking me down. After that, I was so lonely, and had a mental breakdown for three hours. Later on, she did not even apologise me but came to me to say "i yelled at you bcz i was yelling at everyone that day as i was mentally bad". And the reason she knew i had a mental breakdown was because one of her besties had seen me cry. I did not talked to her for a week. As we were roommates, I pretended to be cool with her after a week. When the school year ended, I told her I did not want to be friends with her anymore. And that is why we fought. Even though I have always been a people pleaser who is so scared to argue with anyone, that break up made me feel so refreshed and I cannot express how that decision of ending our relationship gained me back my confidence and self respect. I had never felt more peaceful.
I am wondering if my friend was a manipulator or he was just trying to help me out in a "different way'. I found that every time I share my story with him with the intention of looking for advice and someone who can talk to. Instead, he got me in "high blood pressure" situation for almost three days. He likes saying something such as "oh ya, you are weak, you should not fight back when people did something bad to you as you can't". Urghhhhhhh...
Eric Jonas Sounds lowkey like he's a narcissist
Or psychopath
After watching this video I realized that my friend was pretty manipulative she always made me give her homework answers and test answers and when I told her no she stopped talking to me until she needed my homework and I always tried to make her happy instead of worrying about my happiness which has damaged me a bit mentally she never seemed to care about my issues and got mad at me for not talking to her during Christmas Eve or Christmas Day because I was spending time with my family I always feel that the only reason why we stayed friends was because she wanted answers for my work and because I was great at listening to others problems
She left my school a few weeks ago and hasn’t texted me so I’m pretty sure she doesn’t want to talk to me and I feel like soooo much weighty has been lifted off my back and I’ve cried significantly less since we’ve stopped talking (sorry about no punctuation I really don’t wanna do it lmao 😂)
Thanks for the tips I need try really. Hope you have a good day to you guys ! 🤗🤗
some people in my family are so insecure it is hard to believe until other people actually witness it... watching them say two opposing things back to back is shocking and disgusting!
If I say "I feel" they will say "BUT YOU HURT ME YOU MEDSED UP SKREW YOU" I can't get out of the situation 😖
The one about talking about your situation makes me feel like a manipulator, but I only say that to show I can relate to their situation and I care about how they feel, not to belittle it.
I'm going to be serious about this, I have been always watching your videos for few months now, and today, I was being pushed down by a Manipulative person. And to calm myself, I looked at you guys' new vids, and I saw this, it's like it was really for me. (Not really) and this made me so happy and confident now. Thank you!
Undertale Frisk Thank you for watching and sharing this with us :) we're really glad we could console you and help bring your spirits up! We hope our other videos can help too!
I watched this video because I need to know how to deal with myself. I have hurt myself emotionally and destroyed everything around me and didn’t even realise I was doing so today because my friends had enough and told me the truth and unfortunately I lost them but it’s made me realise I need to change.
I try the 'I feel" sometimes to I just want to just find one good person mostly everyone am around is like this it's so draining esp as an empath.
I think, we can all be manipulative. Or rather, every one has at least a manipulative moment.
Thanks for this really helpful advice I’ll make sure to memorize this
Thank you so much for the vid that was exactly what i needed! Kinda sourounded by manipulative people lately :(
My grandma is so manipulative towards everyone that gets on MY NERVES
she's really manipulative and has filled with insecuritys my mom, aunts and uncle
How can you act when you can't really cut them off?
that awkward moment when you kind of are the manipulator... whoops.
We all are at one point or another.
Damn I didn't think you'd reply
Amelia Madder good for you to admit it. It happens to all of us but don’t lose good friends from it. Try to change and stay honest or you will have a lonely and resentful life
Yes, i agree with Max Caulfield! ^w^
We all are
This video is really helpful, thank you guys so much! Amazingly helpful tips with dealing with those kind of poeple! Love this!
Keep up the awesome job! UwQ
Thank you so much! I needed this.
Alicia Cooper thanks so much for watching! We hope we could help :)
Ummm can't manipulative people see this and work around this?
Nah they are delusional and can’t see that they are manipulative. Trust me, I knew a lot of them.
This video is describing my narcissistic ex-boyfriend to a T. Thank you for making this informative video.
love the sound effects
Thank you so much! Much appreciated.
sometimes you just been in the manipulative situation too long, and yourself become manipulative person. lol
Can you do a video on paranoia personality disorder? (PPD)
Yeah! We have one on delusions coming up as well! :)
Psych2Go Alright. Thanks.
Thank you
I needed this
I made a best friend in college. He was the complete opposite of me. I'm studious and he was a so called cool guy. But before I know he was meddling into my life. He wanted to change me completely and had no respect for my passions for ex learning languages. He had too much influence over me and if I didn't text rt after his message was reached I would be scolded. He used to blackmail me emotionally by saying things like I'll leave you, never disturb you etc. I loved him too much to get rid of him but fortunately we've ended things now. Don't let anyone be it your bff make you feel inferior. You're alright just the way you are(beware of the cool guys who befriend nerds and exploit them.) Remember there's nothing wrong in studying passionately. Be yourself and love yourself ❤️💖
The sad thing is that I actually recognize myself in the manipulator, especially in the first points.. i used to do this a lot.
I think that I'm not doing it anymore, but I'm scared I may be still doing those things, even if unconciously..
kjlm45 this is a very valid fear. But the important thing is, you can consciously recognize it. If you're afraid you may be manipulating someone without realizing, it might be beneficial to ask them if they feel that you are showing signs of manipulation. Explain to them that you are definitely not doing these things on purpose, and show them that you are willing to change :)
"How to deal with yourself?"
oh, I had not one but two manipulative friends, they were both siblings and shared the same attitude towards me, I spend five years waiting and helping them to change for the better, I remember I tried to give them the chance to feel supported every time they told me about their problems, even when I shut myself down and swallow my own, their mom tried to help with me, but at the end it didn't work, they hurt me so much, they took a lot of my energy, patience and confidence.
It took me time to heal, but I did, and I'm glad I did, after we cut ties, I heard one of them had a kid, I wished them well, I know a child doesn't change your psychological problems but, taking a new responsability could have given a new perspective, purpose and empathy.
Thinking back I could have tried harder, but I was a kid and inmature, I could barely take care of myself, I didn't understand their dilemma, even now I cuestion myself if I was to blame, not totally, but take part of the blame of this problem.
Oof I needed this four months ago. But still nice to see.
Can you explain about Imaginary friend ?
Sleepy Wolf I think it’s loneliness
Describe?
Psych2Go yes, like how to know if your friend has one n how to deal with them
smu1377 Oh... I... don't know how to feel about that.
Sleepy Wolf love them beyond a reasonable doubt. Psych, get real help immediately!
Well... I cut off a manipulative friend and I've never been happier 😂 I didn't have the energy to talk it over , I just wanted the friendship done
Yes
Thanks a lot for this video. Because, I have a manipulative grandma. And, she always do that for herself. But, now I understand after I watched this video. Thanks a lot.
I'll be honest, I started watching these pages after I left my husband for Abuse. I thought it was because of it being situational.. but it turned out it was not, it took several attempts because I was worried about what others would think, especially when he was handicapped. He was really good at manipulating and gaslighting us especially on facebook. It was really hurtful, I never realized it more until Covid hit and the signs started getting clearer and clearer.
A girl in my class bullied my best friend so I hate her yet no matter what I say to her she keeps trying to be fake nice to me. What do I do?
Kizana Sunobu Be cordial, but keep your distance. Often times if you're mean to someone who's "nice" it makes you look bad even if you have a good reason for it. You know who she really is so dont let her trick you.
Chelle B I don't care how people view me I just want to protect my friend from her ever harming her again
Kizana Sunobu Of course still protect your friend. But I mean to say dont argue until she actually does something. And if you can, I would tell other people what's going on
Say polite words with no warmth whatsoever. Just things like, 'that's nice.' But you say, 'no matter what I say to her,' so I've assumed you've tried to tell her off. As an adult on the internet, I cannot in good conscience tell you to fight her, (but it is tempting because I'm in the same situation but I have to be a grownup about it and worry about going to jail and everything) but I would suggest a verbal beatdown, if you haven't tried one.
If you've been *really* cutting to her and like, told other people (and hopefully a teacher) about what she has done and she's still pulling this, I would just have a script, where when she comes on all friendly, you reply with, "I'm not your friend. We were never friends, because of [list her heinous crimes for the whole room to hear.]" Like, maybe people will think you're mean, or whatever, but if you're giving them chapter and verse on why, a lot of them will probably side with you anyway. (I'm pleased to hear you don't care about people thinking you're mean for defending yourself or your friends, that is a very, very important trait for a girl to have.)
Ugh, this comment is old, I really hope you don't even need advice anymore, but hey, it might come in handy later, because people do not actually grow up, for the most part. It's terrible, I'm sorry.
Yo, I forgot to sleep, and I'm watching this when I'm supposed to have been asleep six hours ago O-O
The_dark _chinchilla
Same 😂
idk, I was reading, I looked up, "huh, it's dark outside"
(A little bit later, I thought)
"Huh, it's light outside."
It changes colors outside?! Color me surprised.
If it were a school week, I would be getting ready for it.
Edit: although it normally isn't light outside when I start school, it's usually pitch black
We live at night. That's normal :)
Thanks for the help
I fear I might act in manipulative ways when I'm too afraid to admit out loud what I really want, especially with my mom. But knowing I can at least catch myself in the act and stop, and that there are people willing to stand up for themselves if I exaggerate, gives me hope. I don't want to be like this.
Just ditch em
Not first
Sal De'Friez *DUN DUN DUH*
hi psych2go, i am the sort of person who constantly feels shame, guilt and like i'm not good enough. It would really help me if you did a video on shame and/or guilt. I love your videos, thanks :)
Vriska Serket hey! We'll consider it! Thanks! :)
thanks! thismade me realizd that my 2 other friends were manipulative, instead of me, like they wanted to make me believe, thanks you!
I manipulation with people and thx now i know how to be unobtrusive😈