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Getting your emotions under control confuses the narcissist (aka The Enemy). When they are not able to trigger you, they get bolder and bolder and this helps to shine a light on the disorder.
When you have ended up so traumatized (with CPTSD) after living with narcs for decades and your emotions are no longer filtered, there is no control possible. The only way to appear cool is taking sedatives.
narcfree1106. This is so true!👌👍👍🤝🏼. It's also true of Religious Narcissistic Cults and Organizations. The more Secure you are Emotionally and Mentally and the more Personal Boundaries that you uphold against Their tactics, The harder and deeper their Payback and Smear Campaigns become, until They lose interest in you and move onto their next unsuspecting Victim. I've experienced it in my own life for decades and wish more people were aware of their "True Colours" and "Narcissistic Games and Agendas".
I am traumatized in seeking a divorce from a high powered deep pocketed narc that appears to others as a shining beacon of propriety. It took me several years to understand what was happening and how his insidious behavior was impacting me emotionally, psychologically and physically. This is a very complicated scenario. I am very pleased to have found your TH-cam channel and have registered for your workshop.
I feel your pain, and have and still experiencing this kind of abuse. It's a never ending cycle. They are revengeful humans, theyll reap the fruits they sow sooner or later. God's not dead..... He is alive!!!!!! ❤️
You are not alone ! Thankful for professionals that see truth and consider how this issue affects many lives . They are about looking good not being good
@@eagleeye2427 and let me guess you want only what is owed to you. Even though what you consider to be “owed” to you is the money you NEVER EVER WORKED FOR.
I don’t need a divorce lawyer, I need a hostage negotiator!!! Thank God because my narcissist secured a new woman and got married to her. Hallelujah!!! God provided a replacement hostage to free me , The captive, and now the ex!!
Dear Rebecca My wife discarded me,incriminated me to social affairs,groomed our children against their only family and of course me, currently I'm going through the court to release my second protection order,your knowledge is like a golden flowing river! Only a narcissist wife would steal the kids and not let them even call their fathers for months,I had a..., (my girl 5 and 12 year old stepson,😢 If I could speak like you or had a lawyer like you,I wish, thanks 🙏
Thank you, Rebecca Zung! I wish this information was available when I was going through a very painful divorce with my narsisstic ex 3 years ago. I got dragged through the court system and it was awful. He got away with lying in court and got what he wanted (money wise). The judge didn't care what the truth was. I wound up paying half of his debts that I had nothing to do with just by "virtue" of being married to him. Frankly, I lost my faith in American justice after my divorce. But I got the most important thing though - full custody of my child.
I'm so sorry you dealt with this. I am going through the same thing . Lying so much in court. I pray that the final hearing I do get full custody and that he is made responsible for half of this debt that he helped to accumulate, but I've been paying on it myself to protect my credit as well. It's exhausting!
Amen!! Going through divorce now with a cheating narcissist. What a nightmare. I have an incredible attorney. Careful too for the narcissists that guilt you by sending texts like “I’m going to unalive myself if you go any further”.
@@RebeccaZungEsq still in the divorce, I’m not surprised though it’s taking this long. The equity in the house is being decided, he ghosted his attorney and it’s been a month and a half since they heard from him.
WOW!! Is all I can say, this Channel caught my attention just by the words narcissistic, and gaslighting. This video is something I need NOW! At the end of a 37 year relationship nearly 35 of them married, i’ve recently filed for divorce, I am preparing myself for the fight of my life and by any means necessary my goal is to acquire peace, I have finally gotten sick and tired enough to fight back and I plan to do just that “FIGHT” Thanks for creating this channel I really need it🤞🏼
You have described this narc and my relative’s experience with him to a T. I wish we had known about you sooner. No one in our family was prepared for this level of sociopathic deception and behavior which only intensified when my relative filed for divorce. Thank you for your work!
In the midst of uncertainty and doubt, *Brian hacks online* timely intervention proved to be a game-changer. His swift actions brought clarity to the chaos and instilled a renewed sense of hope within me. Like a true knight, he fearlessly faced the challenges of my divorce case, ensuring that no stone was left unturned in pursuit of a just outcome.
my narcissistic ex wife tried to cut me off from the kids, our finances and my home through a surprisingly nasty and rushed divorce. i was caught flat-footed, but I got a great lawyer and brought her to heel. was incredible. if they are unstable or a liar like mine turned out to be....always always always get an attorney!
My soon to be ex husband is the biggest narcissist, he never takes responsibility for his actions and everything is always my fault. He uses everything against me. Controlling and manipulating. He even took my dog when I was sleeping to hurt me and I don’t know what he did with her 😭 Very helpful tips in this video.
Kayla my 6 year marriage has come to an end yesterday.... we are filing for divorce... problem is she has NPD - Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Unfortunately there is NO cure for NPD. This is a reason I didn’t wanna have kids. Since February 2020, one fine day, she just turned ice cold and was back to chatting on her Wats app. I got the signal clearly this time. I knew it was over. I wouldn’t want to be with someone who can’t love... that love in the beginning is like a walk through the clouds ( keep in mind, you’re walking with a demon) after that, the demon appears at full bloom. That night I saw her eyes change, it was the look of the devil himself. Someone with NPD cannot change! Never will! Please trust me on this one! Therapy cannot help at all! They will agree but after sometime they will hurt you again. I’ve been cheated upon more than 10 times... but I always loved her... she was in a shock when I called for divorce. I wouldn’t want my children growing up and seeing this. So it was best to end it. Keep in mind - I didn’t cheat on her even once, even though I knew she had cheated on me many times. If love can’t change them, nothing will. Since love is the most powerful tool on this planet! If I could just turn back time, and fix things... but it’s true you can’t fix anything with someone who has NPD. Shattered and broken, I just go for a walk with my dog to chill out. She already has her new narcissistic supply and I’m out! The female Narcissist is 100X times deadlier than the Male... the worst part is when she flirts right in front of me and then has that evil grin on her face. Just thinking of it shatters me even more! I would never do something like to anyone! Never! Such a cruel thing to do!
Sounds kind we are married to the same type of man.... I pray that you got out already. I'm going through a nasty divorce now. ...Can't wait to be free!! 😭🤬
Rebecca, I'm currently in a state of fight or flight. I'm stuck between the two. I appreciate your videos and your concern for others and trying to help us. It's truly a mad world we were born into. Until now, I have quilty fighting for myself. Thank you
Noooo!!! I'm a 67 yo woman, divorcing a narcissist after 32 long years. The decree of which the judge should be signing any day now. Oh if I'd only seen your video sooner!! He's taking almost everything, has stolen my guns, damaged my prized heirlooms and my attorney who may also be a narcissist also says there's nothing I can do. My soon to be ex has no attorney as we live in a small town with only 1. I was fortunate (?) enough to retain him first. How I wish I had only watched your video sooner! I have a 1 strike and you're out rule therefore he has an OOP against him. He did the same thing to me and I didn't touch him! He had me falsely arrested for DV which was dropped. Now, he's trying to ruin me financially. I'm telling you this that hopefully someone else will be forewarned. Great video!
Not only am I divorcing my abusive NARC husband but I’m going pro se’ so I cannot thank you enough for your videos. They may make more of a difference than you ever thought possible😘
Just found this by design ! My ptsd therapist told me to step back. More people as well as my grown kids 28/20 respectively 1 who’s a Usmc Officer. I am In This marriage /separation now. On top of this is my retirement from my job due to ptsd. She is the got to win type of person ! Amen. I am a Christian. So let this be a sign. We had talked about being nice ! She’s with a friend Man at this point. !
A-freaking-men you have provided so much good information that is helping me get away from my ex who is a covert malignant narcissist. It's getting ugly and I need her out of my life
I am in the process of divorcing my narcissistic husband now, and have such a hard time keeping my emotions in check. I feel like I’m stuck in a never ending lifetime movie!! For the most part he was a decent husband and father for 27 years but always a narcissist, I didn’t know the term narcissist when we were 19 years old and newly married, I always knew there was something that was off with him and so I coined the term “Only Child Syndrome” because that was the only reason I could come up with for his selfishness, lack of empathy, and huge sense of entitlement. I always warned my family and friends to never marry an only child because they are different and a lot of work. I now at 50 years old know that he is a narcissist! I left him in June of last year after confronting him on a inappropriate text message he sent to someone I knew that showed me the text from him, I didn’t confront him thinking it would end our marriage after all I have experienced way, way worse over the last 27 years, but it escalated and ended up with him smashing my phone into pieces and putting me through the window on the back door, in front of 2 of our adult children!! Which in turn called their big sister to come immediately and when she got here I was packing a bag and he was kicking me out of “his house” I had 2 weeks earlier loaned my oldest a few thousand dollars to leave her abusive boyfriend and get an apartment so luckily I had some where to go because before I made it to her apartment all of our accounts were emptied and he started selling off everything I owned worth value even my Lexus which I paid for myself. Then he started playing victim, had our 27 year old son with addiction issues move in with him by threatening suicide, started using drugs with him and gambling at all these illegal gambling places, got fired on purpose from his job of 24 years and collecting unemployment with the pandemic extra $600 per week in addition to the $798 per week that he was supposed to receive, then while my son and him were out buying drugs one night that my son knew where to get but my husband was supplying the money for they got pulled over and he let my son take the entire blame for and put in jail, and with in a week he was sleeping with our son’s 25 year old girlfriend, now his ex girlfriend. I got a CPO on my husband and the next day he trashed the house put drano in his coffee pot and called the police on me and said that I did it, when I wasn’t even aware of it happening, so we went before magistrate and he was ordered to leave “his house” and that I could go home and the CPO was in effect for 1 year giving me time to file for divorce, but when the magistrate put it into effect he put mutual CPO in effect on both of us with the only difference in out protection order paperwork being that mine has a section in it stating that I get the house and he isn’t allowed around it, and while I was at work my son seen him sitting down the road and called me, so against the rules I texted him and let him know that I know he’s by my residence and he better leave or I will be calling the police for violation and he texted back go ahead you bleep bleep bleep I’m waiting on the police to get here now!! Thank God I have thought of everything that he could possibly do to manipulate anyone, so I called 911 and explained to the dispatcher that my husband is at my house and he may or may not be waiting on the police to get there and she looked it up and said yes he’s waiting on an officer to get there now, I explained that I’m at work and can not leave I care for hospice patient in her home and she needs to contact the officer as soon as he gets to my house and have him call me at work that I have an order from the courts protecting me and know my rights, and I am needing him to call me immediately, so an hour later I get a call thankfully from the officer and my husband was using his copy of CPO that states that I’m not allowed around him or his residence to gain access to the house. I explained to the officer that I also have same paperwork on him with the only difference being the typed in section saying that I get the house for the extent of order, I told the officer that I can see how he could be confused by the protection order that my husband is showing him but that he needs to call whoever he needs to so he can see what I’m saying is the truth, and thankfully it worked to get my husband away from my house that day, but unbelievably things have gotten even worse since then and I don’t know how to handle it, I’m hoping and praying that it works out in court that they will be able to see through his manipulation tactics of playing victim because several times this past year I’ve actually been made to feel sorry for this POS then I tell myself to snap out of it and remember that he has ended our marriage over his thinking that a 25 year old drug addict was a better catch and his addiction to drugs and gambling was what he wanted, I am so afraid that my emotions will make me look like a fool in court and lose what little I’m fighting for in divorce!! Any advice is so appreciated please!! Sincerely and Desperately Tracie 💔❤️🩹🖤
I am so glad you made this video I’m going to be filing for divorce my first ever and he’s a narcissist and I have no idea what to do or expect so thank you very much.
Yea I’m trying to avoid court but I don’t think it’s going to happen. I don’t wanna see him again idk if I can be emotionless he’s done so much to me. And ok thank you I definitely will thank you for all the help I really appreciate it.
We don’t have kids no property we were living with my parents because of my health I couldn’t work. He left some things saying he be back that was almost 2 years ago he got his father’s ashes he had left but we agreed he get that and photo album and I keep picture and shirt his dad used to wear other then that not sure what else there is.
Diamondgirl19 -- expect insanity. Mine is trying to come back into my home to uninstall a kitchen floor because "I don't deserve it" and telling me that he needs the bicycle that he got me as a gift back (why he needs a woman's bicycle, IDK, he has a bike and 2 cars so probably for his next victim). That and he won't return my tools which he took without permission. He is a carpenter - he definately has his own tools he doesn't need mine. And, he would text me saying he wanted something but then accuse me of stalking if I went to drop it off on his doorstep. I think he has a camera or something set up because I would try to leave his stuff on the porch when I thought he wasn't up, like 4 -5am and he would burst open the door like he was waiting. And the name calling and weird accusations. I didn't get my stuff back, he didn't answer the door when I took the police to get it, but I feel better no contact.
Thank you so much. My husband is s so good at being a covert narcissist Thai thought I was going crazy. Thank God I finally learned the truth. I can't wait to be done with this. Your videos are very helpful.
Thank You so much for the videos you have posted. I am dealing with so much after being married to a narcissistic abuser for 23 years. During this marriage he was verbally mentally emotionally and financially abusive. I was diagnosed as having bipolar many years ago and I have been in the depressed end where I become paralyzed
I’m at my wits end but after watching your videos my eyes are opening and gives me hope. I’m looking at eviction while he is making so much money as a CEO/CFO with 2 degrees he received with my support. He is living in our dream expensive family home we built just 5 years ago. Everyday is a challenge for me to just get bath run to the store. I greatly appreciate your advice hopefully now with knowledge to help me see I might be able to fight this monster. Thank You Leslie May jnlmay75@outlook.com
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I am amazed with your work. Pondering Law School now... Seeing this video and the tips I now see that I fell for it all and responded in all the ways I shouldn't have. Being a compassionate soul is the supply he needed and he got everything- I just wanted to get out and be out of his life- which I never got- I still have to split parenting with him and I hate every second of it, even my twins have said that they do not like discussing things with him because he "gets weird" and I knew exactly the tone he must have used, I had heard it a thousand times. He gives me the creeps now. I worry for my daughters... but the judge thinks he is perfect and I am a "Drama Mama." or whatever the slang is...
Tqvm Rebecc. I am 74 and in divorce proceeding. I watch yr videos n they r vy helpful. Married for 47 yrs. He is satan personised. D worst covert on d planet. Thank you again. From Malaysia.
File for divorce first! Normally if you think it's coming it is! I sat by and waited for a year in disbelief that he was preparing to dump me. All the signs were there but I couldn't believe it until I got served and had to talk to a lawyer and things ended and never went back to normal overnight. Love and light and positivity to you on your path to freedom 💛🙏
I’m too late ! I watched your utube video AFTER divorcing my covert passive aggressive narcissistic Ex husband. He took just about everything. Lesson learned never to believe anything they promise you or commit to. You’re absolutely right. he did everything that you said on your video. He had the income to keep obstructing and bullying.
Thank you Rebecca, I'm from a toxic narc squad family, didn't I go and marry one. He requested I leave my career, had me sign a pre-nup, semi-lured me in by prior stating he had bucks put away. We'd been together 7 yrs, then marriage then our first and then he demanded a second one right after against my wishes as she'd been a premey and so much work! I had absolutely no one to help me, I've not worked, told him the money's all his as are the bills! I certainly didn't get married for a crappier life nor wanting to play hard ball. My daughter's onto her master's in biology, my son is a nurse. My mom and sister are narcs, they destroyed their many exes and damaged their offsprings as much as possible. Thank you for your much needed advice, you're a natural!
Not only is it necessary that your attorney understands the behaviors but you can also be lucky enough to have a judge that gets it. My ex took me through the courts for one and a half years and even after the divorce continued to find reasons to take me back over and over. The best day for me was when the judge stopped my ex in the middle (she was pro bono) and said that he was deciding in favor of my lawyer and proceeded to tell my ex that he was sentencing her to 3 days in jail. Then qualified it to say if she is seen in his courtroom again. My attorney and I looked at each other in disbelief. Never heard from her again. A win
Wow, I am thrilled about a quality of your channel. Do you make videos about narcissistic persons in other problems? We are dealing with a neighbour, his construction company. We live in a peaceful village but he puts in a parking yard 7 big trucks and they make noise all day from 6 in the morning. We can not live in our house anymore, we have learned that he has no permission for putting his trucks here, but he won’t go elsewhere. He is not afraid of court, he lies about our family to other neighbours... we are going insane 😪😪😪
My husband said today he will absolutely destroy me and everything I have. He said he will burn the house down. I don't even know how to take first step I'm scared. I don't want to lose my daughter
Got your worksheet on preparing for divorce ...there was a part in there that just got to me and that was where you said every human wants to know that he or she matters in negotiations ...I was like really these people don't even act human!! But nonetheless I get the msg and the process that needs to be done to get it done and that's what I am aiming for we been in a toxic marriage for the 25yrs my lawyer did good for me in paperwork but I been letting her know it's not going to be that easy but she knows these people they don't want to give up anything and are sneaky
Thank you for the worksheet, keep coming cos I'm divorcing a narc....and she is using all the tricks you mention here...shout out from Helsinki finland
My Narcissistic Husband is 20 years my Senior. Several months into our marriage he threatened divorce when he wasn’t getting his way. I’m his 5th Wife…he’s a CHARMER! One night in a fit of anger he broke the bed down, took out every screw and told me to leave his house and not come back. Everyone thinks he’s the most charming man in the world! If they only know the real insecure little boy in a man’s body! He got angry at me on Valentine’s Day at the hospital where I was having surgery, spat on me and left me in the waiting room alone, 6 months later when I got served, I realized from the date of the divorce papers that he filed for divorce on VALENTINES DAY 💔🌹
It’s so great to have someone like you helping the world with these types of videos. We just started watching Dirty John on Netflix and I’m like-does this really happen? Omg!
I’m in process of divorcing an extremely narcissist. Everything you have said on this video is exactly what he is doing. The mental, emotional and financial destruction that he has done to his family makes Dirty John seem like an angel. Yes. They are extreme evil 👿
Thank you for this insight and advice. My husband has displayed narcissistic behaviors for years and it's only getting worse. Now he is refusing to pay bills as he should and trying to drain me financially. I have no choice but to divorce him at this point. I will definitely check out your other videos and devise a solid plan before hand.
Oh my gosh! Mine does that... he has his own 3 kids and he knew I wanted to be closer to them... if I don’t pay for their things ... or pay off his bills.. he is ok! He forced me to get a post nuptial agreement because I had a company during my first economic recession eight years ago actually 12yrs ago now…I was protecting himself but I haven’t written to protect me because I realized that no note I married a guy that doesn’t care. So now I need to protect myself and he won’t get anything. But having him sign off on not showing up to a divorce hearing isn’t everything he’s telling me he wants a brand new diesel truck at 3:50. What a mess I have one actual date with him in the beginning the rest of us being around his friends I would have to pay. It’s funny I didn’t see you coming!
Amen!!! Married 45years together 52 years 8 grandchildren and 4 children all healthy. Blaine me for her unhappiness She says she was never happy with me. Pathetically in love! Dave
@@RebeccaZungEsq Yes, I am feeling MUCH better. We are still wrapping things up with the sale of our home, but I found a perfect new landing space, my kids are much happier, and he has moved on to the new woman. We are hearing less from him although he is still poking here and there trying to get a ride from me, but people are starting to see through him, while the kids and I are getting stronger. I’m to the point where I see him as a poor little man who even has to makes our daughter HS graduation last night about him which she rolled her eyes about, and finding the humor in it. The kids are relieved and much happier and the majority of the stress is gone, and we are excited yo get yo move into our new lovely oasis in the mountains. I hear he plans to move in the opposite direction so even better. When he tries to play his games I stop him and say either “whatever”, or “ not my business” and the rest I just look at like squeaky background noise knowing the cause will be remedied soon. My Lupus has not been as severe and I have lost 24 pounds by eating better and taking better care of myself. My kids say they can see it all over me and that I look good in “Happy”. 🥰They are amazing and are THRIVING better than ever.💖Again…. Thank you so very very much. I recommend you and your videos to everyone I see dealing with a narcissist and boy can we do it them a mile off. My daughter feels much more confident heading off to college knowing she has these extra tools in her life’s tool belt that she learned through all of this.
Hi Rebecca! I actually heard about you from a friend of mine and i got very curious so i decided to check out your videos, your website, your work. I found all the tricks you mentioned in the video's first part in my ex husband's behaviour. He is absolutely horrible :( So yes, Amen...
Wow thank you so much for your video and information it was very informative. I just am starting a divorce process with my narcissistic wife and I will take your tips to Heart...
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You are the best, unbelievable pictured what i am going thru and I had to let my attorney go after pending 25,000 and go negotiate possibly give up on some of my rights just to get out of this hell, 21 years marriage, 18 years working professionally and being abused in all kind and now have no money two kids turned to be my enemy by brain washing them and depress, had to go on leave from work because I really could not function, being accused of any possible thing you can think of just to get money because he is absolutely sick about it. I am left with no lawwyer and not even got to pre trial, judge wont believe me being physically abused, he just lies lies lies and being cool and relax thinking how to get more from me and fooled the government since he has small business this sick person even showed less money than me while i know he wont show his real income and i worked in front line for covid 7 days a week and got times and half so my income shows more. I am broken and every single person from police to doctor and family friend know him, EXCEPT THE ONE WHO MAKE DECISION FOR MY FUTURE AND IT WOULD BE AN UNFAIR ONE . I will watch the video before going negotiate. Also can someone represent herself and no attorney?
AMEN! I wish I hired you long before I left and ask him for a divorce. I didn't know he was a narcissist until long after I started the divorce. I tried to stay calm but eventually his triggers worked and I did let my emotions did get the best of me...he used it against me as you said he would. Now I'm dealing with that and getting ready for mediation and I'm already drained of all my energy and strength.
Just like you said divorcing a narcissist is scary because he s such s good liar and he holds the money strings. I m afraid he will.lie his way through.and get everything. I need a lawyer that understands narcissism!!
I caught my narcissistic husband cheating (again), and told him I would be going to see a lawyer the following morning. I then went and sat outside to get away from him. Next thing I knew, the police show up. He had taken a pair of TWEEZERS and scratched himself with them until he bled, then called the police and claimed I attacked him with the tweezers! Thankfully, the judge saw through the ruse and dropped the charges! Now, we are going for mediation, which I am good with, because I know how incapable he is of maintaining his decorum when asked to compromise...
Amen to all of that Rebecca! You need to come to the U.K. and train our solicitors, barristers and Judges on the matter. The majority are ineffectual when dealing with a Narcissist. I didn’t know what I was experiencing during my divorce… it can only be described as a living hell. My husband instructed a female narcissist lawyer too. It’s was “Folie a Deux”! He manipulated EVERYONE. Every friend, family member employee, that I had. My children’s headmistress and teachers at a private school. He manipulated everyone he knew against me. His lawyer told him to sell his company shares for an under value asked him to put the money in her bank account. She even had his Porsche in her garage and told the judge he’d sold it to pay legal fees… there were no legal fees he was having sex with her. Then boom, he impregnated her she was 47. He dumped her and got with my children’s teacher .. impregnated her. ( these women were just useful to him). I lost my home, my business and had to fight like a dog to keep my children. I’ve been left homeless and penniless in the whole process. He managed to hide all his money which obviously reappeared later. I would recommend anyone divorcing a narcissist. The very first thing you need to do is apply for freezing orders to as many of their assets as you can. Wishing you all the best of luck. 🙏
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Amen All true 30k later 18 and 21 year old being dragged through mud and used as pawns Almost 4 years into divorce , financially ruined , traumatized It sux
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Amen. Thank you for doing these videos they are excellent. I'm an old man now and a retired attorney and what you say is so true unfortunately much of this information was not so clearly understood many years ago as narcissists ran amok in our communities.
Amen sister! However, where do I go from here ? I feel so helpless. No matter how much I try to connect and try and get help for my husband so he won’t be this awful person to me, I always seem to fail.
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Getting your emotions under control confuses the narcissist (aka The Enemy). When they are not able to trigger you, they get bolder and bolder and this helps to shine a light on the disorder.
Good info thank you.
Truth! They raise the abuse bar, to try and get a reaction from you.
@@erikkasepiphany Yes, but in the process they end up exposes themselves. It ends up working out to our benefit…💗
When you have ended up so traumatized (with CPTSD) after living with narcs for decades and your emotions are no longer filtered, there is no control possible. The only way to appear cool is taking sedatives.
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This is so true!👌👍👍🤝🏼.
It's also true of Religious Narcissistic Cults and Organizations.
The more Secure you are Emotionally and Mentally and the more Personal Boundaries that you uphold against Their tactics, The harder and deeper their Payback and Smear Campaigns become, until They lose interest in you and move onto their next unsuspecting Victim.
I've experienced it in my own life for decades and wish more people were aware of their "True Colours" and "Narcissistic Games and Agendas".
I am traumatized in seeking a divorce from a high powered deep pocketed narc that appears to others as a shining beacon of propriety. It took me several years to understand what was happening and how his insidious behavior was impacting me emotionally, psychologically and physically. This is a very complicated scenario. I am very pleased to have found your TH-cam channel and have registered for your workshop.
I feel your pain, and have and still experiencing this kind of abuse. It's a never ending cycle. They are revengeful humans, theyll reap the fruits they sow sooner or later. God's not dead..... He is alive!!!!!! ❤️
You are not alone ! Thankful for professionals that see truth and consider how this issue affects many lives . They are about looking good not being good
@@eagleeye2427 and let me guess you want only what is owed to you. Even though what you consider to be “owed” to you is the money you NEVER EVER WORKED FOR.
@@OffWithReligion Thank you for assuming something you don’t know. And let me guess, you assumed that, because of your experience??
Blessings to you.
Experienced divorce lawyer here (Pennsylvania & New Jersey). I agree with Attorney Zung’s video. Stay strong!
I don’t need a divorce lawyer, I need a hostage negotiator!!! Thank God because my narcissist secured a new woman and got married to her. Hallelujah!!! God provided a replacement hostage to free me , The captive, and now the ex!!
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Dear Rebecca
My wife discarded me,incriminated me to social affairs,groomed our children against their only family and of course me, currently I'm going through the court to release my second protection order,your knowledge is like a golden flowing river!
Only a narcissist wife would steal the kids and not let them even call their fathers for months,I had a...,
(my girl 5 and 12 year old stepson,😢
If I could speak like you or had a lawyer like you,I wish, thanks 🙏
Amen. Struggling to divorce a narcissist for the past 2 years.
Thank you, Rebecca Zung!
I wish this information was available when I was going through a very painful divorce with my narsisstic ex 3 years ago. I got dragged through the court system and it was awful. He got away with lying in court and got what he wanted (money wise). The judge didn't care what the truth was.
I wound up paying half of his debts that I had nothing to do with just by "virtue" of being married to him. Frankly, I lost my faith in American justice after my divorce.
But I got the most important thing though - full custody of my child.
I'm so sorry you dealt with this. I am going through the same thing . Lying so much in court. I pray that the final hearing I do get full custody and that he is made responsible for half of this debt that he helped to accumulate, but I've been paying on it myself to protect my credit as well. It's exhausting!
@@Mea_DS Best of luck to you!
Your reward is your child & that’s the best! Congratulations 🎈
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Thank you Rebecca. I believe this is one of the tough situations to get out of in our life.
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@@RebeccaZungEsq am feeling well, hope you are to
I have Lyme and my narcissistic husband up and left me without any food and water. I filed for a divorce and needed this. Thank you.
I hope my friend watches this. Her narcissist is destroying her emotionally. Breaks my heart. Thanks for this.
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Amen!! Going through divorce now with a cheating narcissist. What a nightmare. I have an incredible attorney. Careful too for the narcissists that guilt you by sending texts like “I’m going to unalive myself if you go any further”.
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@@RebeccaZungEsq still in the divorce, I’m not surprised though it’s taking this long. The equity in the house is being decided, he ghosted his attorney and it’s been a month and a half since they heard from him.
WOW!! Is all I can say, this Channel caught my attention just by the words narcissistic, and gaslighting. This video is something I need NOW! At the end of a 37 year relationship nearly 35 of them married, i’ve recently filed for divorce, I am preparing myself for the fight of my life and by any means necessary my goal is to acquire peace, I have finally gotten sick and tired enough to fight back and I plan to do just that “FIGHT”
Thanks for creating this channel I really need it🤞🏼
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You have described this narc and my relative’s experience with him to a T. I wish we had known about you sooner. No one in our family was prepared for this level of sociopathic deception and behavior which only intensified when my relative filed for divorce. Thank you for your work!
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In the midst of uncertainty and doubt, *Brian hacks online* timely intervention proved to be a game-changer. His swift actions brought clarity to the chaos and instilled a renewed sense of hope within me. Like a true knight, he fearlessly faced the challenges of my divorce case, ensuring that no stone was left unturned in pursuit of a just outcome.
Who is Brian Hack? I need help too. How can he help me?
Going through a divorce with my narcissist…. Thank you for this very valuable information!
my narcissistic ex wife tried to cut me off from the kids, our finances and my home through a surprisingly nasty and rushed divorce. i was caught flat-footed, but I got a great lawyer and brought her to heel. was incredible. if they are unstable or a liar like mine turned out to be....always always always get an attorney!
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My soon to be ex husband is the biggest narcissist, he never takes responsibility for his actions and everything is always my fault. He uses everything against me. Controlling and manipulating. He even took my dog when I was sleeping to hurt me and I don’t know what he did with her 😭 Very helpful tips in this video.
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Reminds me of my current wife 😂
Kayla my 6 year marriage has come to an end yesterday.... we are filing for divorce... problem is she has NPD - Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
Unfortunately there is NO cure for NPD. This is a reason I didn’t wanna have kids. Since February 2020, one fine day, she just turned ice cold and was back to chatting on her Wats app. I got the signal clearly this time. I knew it was over. I wouldn’t want to be with someone who can’t love... that love in the beginning is like a walk through the clouds ( keep in mind, you’re walking with a demon) after that, the demon appears at full bloom. That night I saw her eyes change, it was the look of the devil himself. Someone with NPD cannot change! Never will! Please trust me on this one! Therapy cannot help at all! They will agree but after sometime they will hurt you again. I’ve been cheated upon more than 10 times... but I always loved her... she was in a shock when I called for divorce. I wouldn’t want my children growing up and seeing this. So it was best to end it.
Keep in mind - I didn’t cheat on her even once, even though I knew she had cheated on me many times. If love can’t change them, nothing will.
Since love is the most powerful tool on this planet!
If I could just turn back time, and fix things... but it’s true you can’t fix anything with someone who has NPD.
Shattered and broken, I just go for a walk with my dog to chill out. She already has her new narcissistic supply and I’m out! The female Narcissist is 100X times deadlier than the Male... the worst part is when she flirts right in front of me and then has that evil grin on her face. Just thinking of it shatters me even more! I would never do something like to anyone! Never! Such a cruel thing to do!
My X had "Zoo" as shortnumber to me. Got to know by a friend same time as he dated one of my married friends in her house.
(2 horses, 2 dogs, 2 kids).
Sounds kind we are married to the same type of man.... I pray that you got out already. I'm going through a nasty divorce now. ...Can't wait to be free!! 😭🤬
Rebecca, I'm currently in a state of fight or flight. I'm stuck between the two. I appreciate your videos and your concern for others and trying to help us. It's truly a mad world we were born into. Until now, I have quilty fighting for myself. Thank you
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I WON !!! Thank you to Rebecca Zung !!!! 👏🏼 👏🏼
Noooo!!! I'm a 67 yo woman, divorcing a narcissist after 32 long years. The decree of which the judge should be signing any day now. Oh if I'd only seen your video sooner!! He's taking almost everything, has stolen my guns, damaged my prized heirlooms and my attorney who may also be a narcissist also says there's nothing I can do. My soon to be ex has no attorney as we live in a small town with only 1. I was fortunate (?) enough to retain him first. How I wish I had only watched your video sooner! I have a 1 strike and you're out rule therefore he has an OOP against him. He did the same thing to me and I didn't touch him! He had me falsely arrested for DV which was dropped. Now, he's trying to ruin me financially. I'm telling you this that hopefully someone else will be forewarned. Great video!
Not only am I divorcing my abusive NARC husband but I’m going pro se’ so I cannot thank you enough for your videos. They may make more of a difference than you ever thought possible😘
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Just found this by design ! My ptsd therapist told me to step back. More people as well as my grown kids 28/20 respectively 1 who’s a Usmc Officer. I am In This marriage /separation now. On top of this is my retirement from my job due to ptsd. She is the got to win type of person ! Amen. I am a Christian. So let this be a sign. We had talked about being nice ! She’s with a friend Man at this point. !
Amen Amen Amen- you described my divorce! I'm looking for help and guidance for someone else now.
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A-freaking-men you have provided so much good information that is helping me get away from my ex who is a covert malignant narcissist. It's getting ugly and I need her out of my life
Girl... you’re spot on with my situation!!!
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Amen just starting dealing with this pray for me plz
I am in the process of divorcing my narcissistic husband now, and have such a hard time keeping my emotions in check. I feel like I’m stuck in a never ending lifetime movie!! For the most part he was a decent husband and father for 27 years but always a narcissist, I didn’t know the term narcissist when we were 19 years old and newly married, I always knew there was something that was off with him and so I coined the term “Only Child Syndrome” because that was the only reason I could come up with for his selfishness, lack of empathy, and huge sense of entitlement. I always warned my family and friends to never marry an only child because they are different and a lot of work. I now at 50 years old know that he is a narcissist! I left him in June of last year after confronting him on a inappropriate text message he sent to someone I knew that showed me the text from him, I didn’t confront him thinking it would end our marriage after all I have experienced way, way worse over the last 27 years, but it escalated and ended up with him smashing my phone into pieces and putting me through the window on the back door, in front of 2 of our adult children!! Which in turn called their big sister to come immediately and when she got here I was packing a bag and he was kicking me out of “his house” I had 2 weeks earlier loaned my oldest a few thousand dollars to leave her abusive boyfriend and get an apartment so luckily I had some where to go because before I made it to her apartment all of our accounts were emptied and he started selling off everything I owned worth value even my Lexus which I paid for myself. Then he started playing victim, had our 27 year old son with addiction issues move in with him by threatening suicide, started using drugs with him and gambling at all these illegal gambling places, got fired on purpose from his job of 24 years and collecting unemployment with the pandemic extra $600 per week in addition to the $798 per week that he was supposed to receive, then while my son and him were out buying drugs one night that my son knew where to get but my husband was supplying the money for they got pulled over and he let my son take the entire blame for and put in jail, and with in a week he was sleeping with our son’s 25 year old girlfriend, now his ex girlfriend. I got a CPO on my husband and the next day he trashed the house put drano in his coffee pot and called the police on me and said that I did it, when I wasn’t even aware of it happening, so we went before magistrate and he was ordered to leave “his house” and that I could go home and the CPO was in effect for 1 year giving me time to file for divorce, but when the magistrate put it into effect he put mutual CPO in effect on both of us with the only difference in out protection order paperwork being that mine has a section in it stating that I get the house and he isn’t allowed around it, and while I was at work my son seen him sitting down the road and called me, so against the rules I texted him and let him know that I know he’s by my residence and he better leave or I will be calling the police for violation and he texted back go ahead you bleep bleep bleep I’m waiting on the police to get here now!! Thank God I have thought of everything that he could possibly do to manipulate anyone, so I called 911 and explained to the dispatcher that my husband is at my house and he may or may not be waiting on the police to get there and she looked it up and said yes he’s waiting on an officer to get there now, I explained that I’m at work and can not leave I care for hospice patient in her home and she needs to contact the officer as soon as he gets to my house and have him call me at work that I have an order from the courts protecting me and know my rights, and I am needing him to call me immediately, so an hour later I get a call thankfully from the officer and my husband was using his copy of CPO that states that I’m not allowed around him or his residence to gain access to the house. I explained to the officer that I also have same paperwork on him with the only difference being the typed in section saying that I get the house for the extent of order, I told the officer that I can see how he could be confused by the protection order that my husband is showing him but that he needs to call whoever he needs to so he can see what I’m saying is the truth, and thankfully it worked to get my husband away from my house that day, but unbelievably things have gotten even worse since then and I don’t know how to handle it, I’m hoping and praying that it works out in court that they will be able to see through his manipulation tactics of playing victim because several times this past year I’ve actually been made to feel sorry for this POS then I tell myself to snap out of it and remember that he has ended our marriage over his thinking that a 25 year old drug addict was a better catch and his addiction to drugs and gambling was what he wanted, I am so afraid that my emotions will make me look like a fool in court and lose what little I’m fighting for in divorce!! Any advice is so appreciated please!!
Sincerely and Desperately
Tracie 💔❤️🩹🖤
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I wish I had the money to hire you. I’d do anything to have my peace back.
I can relate
I was thinking exact the same thing while watching this...
I can relate
I let it go through without a reaction
I am so glad you made this video I’m going to be filing for divorce my first ever and he’s a narcissist and I have no idea what to do or expect so thank you very much.
Yea I’m trying to avoid court but I don’t think it’s going to happen. I don’t wanna see him again idk if I can be emotionless he’s done so much to me. And ok thank you I definitely will thank you for all the help I really appreciate it.
We don’t have kids no property we were living with my parents because of my health I couldn’t work. He left some things saying he be back that was almost 2 years ago he got his father’s ashes he had left but we agreed he get that and photo album and I keep picture and shirt his dad used to wear other then that not sure what else there is.
TheDiamondgirl19 everything she says to expect .... expect !!!
Diamondgirl19 -- expect insanity. Mine is trying to come back into my home to uninstall a kitchen floor because "I don't deserve it" and telling me that he needs the bicycle that he got me as a gift back (why he needs a woman's bicycle, IDK, he has a bike and 2 cars so probably for his next victim). That and he won't return my tools which he took without permission. He is a carpenter - he definately has his own tools he doesn't need mine. And, he would text me saying he wanted something but then accuse me of stalking if I went to drop it off on his doorstep. I think he has a camera or something set up because I would try to leave his stuff on the porch when I thought he wasn't up, like 4 -5am and he would burst open the door like he was waiting. And the name calling and weird accusations. I didn't get my stuff back, he didn't answer the door when I took the police to get it, but I feel better no contact.
@@yeahokaycoolcool that's what they're hoping for are you down to nothing to you give up and into them
Thank you so much. My husband is s so good at being a covert narcissist Thai thought I was going crazy. Thank God I finally learned the truth. I can't wait to be done with this. Your videos are very helpful.
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Thank You so much for the videos you have posted. I am dealing with so much after being married to a narcissistic abuser for 23 years. During this marriage he was verbally mentally emotionally and financially abusive. I was diagnosed as having bipolar many years ago and I have been in the depressed end where I become paralyzed
I’m at my wits end but after watching your videos my eyes are opening and gives me hope. I’m looking at eviction while he is making so much money as a CEO/CFO with 2 degrees he received with my support. He is living in our dream expensive family home we built just 5 years ago. Everyday is a challenge for me to just get bath run to the store. I greatly appreciate your advice hopefully now with knowledge to help me see I might be able to fight this monster.
Thank You
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My X was depressing to live with! When I finally broke free, it was as if the clouds 🌧 parted & I started to heal. You got this! ♥️
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Thank you I am looking forward to more of your videos this is my current life situation.. it's exhausting
I am amazed with your work. Pondering Law School now... Seeing this video and the tips I now see that I fell for it all and responded in all the ways I shouldn't have. Being a compassionate soul is the supply he needed and he got everything- I just wanted to get out and be out of his life- which I never got- I still have to split parenting with him and I hate every second of it, even my twins have said that they do not like discussing things with him because he "gets weird" and I knew exactly the tone he must have used, I had heard it a thousand times. He gives me the creeps now. I worry for my daughters... but the judge thinks he is perfect and I am a "Drama Mama." or whatever the slang is...
I hope you are better now ❤❤❤❤especially your daughters ❤❤❤❤
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Virginia’s year long forced separation without legal separation makes this so much harder.
How so?
Amén! I am dealing with a narcissist who is an attorney as well 😬 every single word from this video describes him perfectly!!! Blessings Rebeca!
Tqvm Rebecc. I am 74 and in divorce proceeding. I watch yr videos n they r vy helpful. Married for 47 yrs. He is satan personised. D worst covert on d planet. Thank you again. From Malaysia.
Wow Amen. I don’t even know if I’m divorced . He hasn’t served me with any documents and I’ve asked him and never gives me a straight forward answer.
File for divorce first! Normally if you think it's coming it is! I sat by and waited for a year in disbelief that he was preparing to dump me. All the signs were there but I couldn't believe it until I got served and had to talk to a lawyer and things ended and never went back to normal overnight. Love and light and positivity to you on your path to freedom 💛🙏
I’m too late ! I watched your utube video AFTER divorcing my covert passive aggressive narcissistic Ex husband. He took just about everything.
Lesson learned never to believe anything they promise you or commit to. You’re absolutely right. he did everything that you said on your video. He had the income to keep obstructing and bullying.
Ugh. So sorry to hear this. I hope you are healing your life every way you can now.
Thank you so much .You where God sent .
Thank you Rebecca, I'm from a toxic narc squad family, didn't I go and marry one. He requested I leave my career, had me sign a pre-nup, semi-lured me in by prior stating he had bucks put away. We'd been together 7 yrs, then marriage then our first and then he demanded a second one right after against my wishes as she'd been a premey and so much work! I had absolutely no one to help me, I've not worked, told him the money's all his as are the bills! I certainly didn't get married for a crappier life nor wanting to play hard ball. My daughter's onto her master's in biology, my son is a nurse. My mom and sister are narcs, they destroyed their many exes and damaged their offsprings as much as possible. Thank you for your much needed advice, you're a natural!
Thx for the great info!
Good info!! I, unfortunately, have to represent myself. Its going to trial next month. I took notes from your video. Wish me luck!
Not to mention that I just can't bring myself to believe that it's over
Not only is it necessary that your attorney understands the behaviors but you can also be lucky enough to have a judge that gets it. My ex took me through the courts for one and a half years and even after the divorce continued to find reasons to take me back over and over. The best day for me was when the judge stopped my ex in the middle (she was pro bono) and said that he was deciding in favor of my lawyer and proceeded to tell my ex that he was sentencing her to 3 days in jail. Then qualified it to say if she is seen in his courtroom again. My attorney and I looked at each other in disbelief. Never heard from her again. A win
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@@RebeccaZungEsq Moved on and life couldn’t be better. Thanks for asking Rebecca.
Wow, I am thrilled about a quality of your channel. Do you make videos about narcissistic persons in other problems? We are dealing with a neighbour, his construction company. We live in a peaceful village but he puts in a parking yard 7 big trucks and they make noise all day from 6 in the morning. We can not live in our house anymore, we have learned that he has no permission for putting his trucks here, but he won’t go elsewhere. He is not afraid of court, he lies about our family to other neighbours... we are going insane 😪😪😪
Thank you so much for your vedio
My husband said today he will absolutely destroy me and everything I have. He said he will burn the house down. I don't even know how to take first step I'm scared. I don't want to lose my daughter
amen sister!
Thanks!
Got your worksheet on preparing for divorce ...there was a part in there that just got to me and that was where you said every human wants to know that he or she matters in negotiations ...I was like really these people don't even act human!! But nonetheless I get the msg and the process that needs to be done to get it done and that's what I am aiming for we been in a toxic marriage for the 25yrs my lawyer did good for me in paperwork but I been letting her know it's not going to be that easy but she knows these people they don't want to give up anything and are sneaky
Ty for all that u do 😊❤
Thank you for the worksheet, keep coming cos I'm divorcing a narc....and she is using all the tricks you mention here...shout out from Helsinki finland
Amen! I didnt have money for Lawyer! Lost everything.
My Narcissistic Husband is 20 years my Senior. Several months into our marriage he threatened divorce when he wasn’t getting his way. I’m his 5th Wife…he’s a CHARMER! One night in a fit of anger he broke the bed down, took out every screw and told me to leave his house and not come back. Everyone thinks he’s the most charming man in the world! If they only know the real insecure little boy in a man’s body! He got angry at me on Valentine’s Day at the hospital where I was having surgery, spat on me and left me in the waiting room alone, 6 months later when I got served, I realized from the date of the divorce papers that he filed for divorce on VALENTINES DAY 💔🌹
This video was extremely helpful, I feel like you are talking about my wife in every video I have watched so far.
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It’s so great to have someone like you helping the world with these types of videos. We just started watching Dirty John on Netflix and I’m like-does this really happen? Omg!
It absolutely does happen. The similarities with my husband are striking and terrifying.
I’m in process of divorcing an extremely narcissist.
Everything you have said on this video is exactly what he is doing.
The mental, emotional and financial destruction that he has done to his family makes Dirty John seem like an angel.
Yes. They are extreme evil 👿
Rebecca Zung Yes! I’ve been calling it an epidemic since my eyes we’re opened to NPD. They are fucking ubiquitous.
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Thank you for this insight and advice. My husband has displayed narcissistic behaviors for years and it's only getting worse. Now he is refusing to pay bills as he should and trying to drain me financially. I have no choice but to divorce him at this point. I will definitely check out your other videos and devise a solid plan before hand.
@@RebeccaZungEsq Will do, thank you! 💙
Tiya B I just want to let you know I am in the same situation and this is ugly and frightening. I am sending you light and positivity.
I am in the same boat as you.
Oh my gosh! Mine does that... he has his own 3 kids and he knew I wanted to be closer to them... if I don’t pay for their things ... or pay off his bills.. he is ok! He forced me to get a post nuptial agreement because I had a company during my first economic recession eight years ago actually 12yrs ago now…I was protecting himself but I haven’t written to protect me because I realized that no note I married a guy that doesn’t care. So now I need to protect myself and he won’t get anything. But having him sign off on not showing up to a divorce hearing isn’t everything he’s telling me he wants a brand new diesel truck at 3:50. What a mess I have one actual date with him in the beginning the rest of us being around his friends I would have to pay. It’s funny I didn’t see you coming!
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Thank you. I thought I was going crazy.
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Amen!!!
Married 45years together 52 years
8 grandchildren and 4 children all healthy.
Blaine me for her unhappiness
She says she was never happy with me.
Pathetically in love!
Dave
Amen Rebecca! I am just starting this process. Thank you!!!
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@@RebeccaZungEsq Yes, I am feeling MUCH better. We are still wrapping things up with the sale of our home, but I found a perfect new landing space, my kids are much happier, and he has moved on to the new woman. We are hearing less from him although he is still poking here and there trying to get a ride from me, but people are starting to see through him, while the kids and I are getting stronger. I’m to the point where I see him as a poor little man who even has to makes our daughter HS graduation last night about him which she rolled her eyes about, and finding the humor in it. The kids are relieved and much happier and the majority of the stress is gone, and we are excited yo get yo move into our new lovely oasis in the mountains. I hear he plans to move in the opposite direction so even better. When he tries to play his games I stop him and say either “whatever”, or “ not my business” and the rest I just look at like squeaky background noise knowing the cause will be remedied soon. My Lupus has not been as severe and I have lost 24 pounds by eating better and taking better care of myself. My kids say they can see it all over me and that I look good in “Happy”. 🥰They are amazing and are THRIVING better than ever.💖Again…. Thank you so very very much. I recommend you and your videos to everyone I see dealing with a narcissist and boy can we do it them a mile off. My daughter feels much more confident heading off to college knowing she has these extra tools in her life’s tool belt that she learned through all of this.
Amen. Thank you for all the info
Thanks I have light of hope.
Amen!!! Best advice yet!! Thanks!
Hi Rebecca! I actually heard about you from a friend of mine and i got very curious so i decided to check out your videos, your website, your work. I found all the tricks you mentioned in the video's first part in my ex husband's behaviour. He is absolutely horrible :( So yes, Amen...
Wow thank you so much for your video and information it was very informative. I just am starting a divorce process with my narcissistic wife and I will take your tips to Heart...
Great tips. Thanks Rebecca!
Amen! #3, 4!
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Really resonating with trick #2
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You are the best, unbelievable pictured what i am going thru and I had to let my attorney go after pending 25,000 and go negotiate possibly give up on some of my rights just to get out of this hell, 21 years marriage, 18 years working professionally and being abused in all kind and now have no money two kids turned to be my enemy by brain washing them and depress, had to go on leave from work because I really could not function, being accused of any possible thing you can think of just to get money because he is absolutely sick about it. I am left with no lawwyer and not even got to pre trial, judge wont believe me being physically abused, he just lies lies lies and being cool and relax thinking how to get more from me and fooled the government since he has small business this sick person even showed less money than me while i know he wont show his real income and i worked in front line for covid 7 days a week and got times and half so my income shows more.
I am broken and every single person from police to doctor and family friend know him, EXCEPT THE ONE WHO MAKE DECISION FOR MY FUTURE AND IT WOULD BE AN UNFAIR ONE . I will watch the video before going negotiate. Also can someone represent herself and no attorney?
AMEN! I wish I hired you long before I left and ask him for a divorce. I didn't know he was a narcissist until long after I started the divorce.
I tried to stay calm but eventually his triggers worked and I did let my emotions did get the best of me...he used it against me as you said he would. Now I'm dealing with that and getting ready for mediation and I'm already drained of all my energy and strength.
How are you doing now? Hope feeling well and getting your power back! 💪
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Amen!!! I'm just now stepping away after 16 years and two kids! I feel so Blessed to find your videos!
How are you doing now? Hope feeling well and getting your power back! 💪
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Thank you for this great info. Excited to watch all of you content!
Just like you said divorcing a narcissist is scary because he s such s good liar and he holds the money strings. I m afraid he will.lie his way through.and get everything. I need a lawyer that understands narcissism!!
Thanks for this video!
I caught my narcissistic husband cheating (again), and told him I would be going to see a lawyer the following morning. I then went and sat outside to get away from him.
Next thing I knew, the police show up. He had taken a pair of TWEEZERS and scratched himself with them until he bled, then called the police and claimed I attacked him with the tweezers!
Thankfully, the judge saw through the ruse and dropped the charges!
Now, we are going for mediation, which I am good with, because I know how incapable he is of maintaining his decorum when asked to compromise...
AMEN! Going through this right now
Amen! To make matters worse my narc husband is pro se.
Amen to all of that Rebecca!
You need to come to the U.K. and train our solicitors, barristers and Judges on the matter. The majority are ineffectual when dealing with a Narcissist.
I didn’t know what I was experiencing during my divorce… it can only be described as a living hell.
My husband instructed a female narcissist lawyer too. It’s was “Folie a Deux”!
He manipulated EVERYONE. Every friend, family member employee, that I had. My children’s headmistress and teachers at a private school. He manipulated everyone he knew against me. His lawyer told him to sell his company shares for an under value asked him to put the money in her bank account. She even had his Porsche in her garage and told the judge he’d sold it to pay legal fees… there were no legal fees he was having sex with her. Then boom, he impregnated her she was 47. He dumped her and got with my children’s teacher .. impregnated her. ( these women were just useful to him). I lost my home, my business and had to fight like a dog to keep my children. I’ve been left homeless and penniless in the whole process. He managed to hide all his money which obviously reappeared later.
I would recommend anyone divorcing a narcissist. The very first thing you need to do is apply for freezing orders to as many of their assets as you can. Wishing you all the best of luck. 🙏
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I am trying to get a divorce and you have hit the nail on the head. Oh my gosh I wish you were in my town.
Thanks for sharing. Never fun to deal with someone who is out to get you. Thanks for the tips on how to handle it.
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AMEN ! You are spot on !!!
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Amen
All true
30k later
18 and 21 year old being dragged through mud and used as pawns
Almost 4 years into divorce , financially ruined , traumatized
It sux
Thank you Rebecca, your videos along with Dr. Ramani has changed my thinking and whole outlook. Big, big help. Thank you again
Sapna Shiv Das,hope you are not with a narc 🙄!
@@oscarwilliamson1264 not anymore
@@oscarwilliamson1264 Sapna here from India
@@oscarwilliamson1264 yes I am but not interested.
Thank you
I wish I’d seen this 4 months ago. Love to hear more
Amen
Thanks
Amen i have been through all of them with my ex husband.
I want your strategy work sheet.
Thank you this gives me hope
Do you do court through zoom!?? Your awesome
Please send the worksheet
AMEN!!! Totally
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Amen. Thank you for doing these videos they are excellent. I'm an old man now and a retired attorney and what you say is so true unfortunately much of this information was not so clearly understood many years ago as narcissists ran amok in our communities.
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Amen, I am trying to divorce from a narcissist & it's a night mare...we have 2 kids.
How are you doing now? Hope feeling well and getting your power back! 💪
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Amen sister! However, where do I go from here ? I feel so helpless. No matter how much I try to connect and try and get help for my husband so he won’t be this awful person to me, I always seem to fail.
Hi Rebecca
Very interesting video...