There are many naw sayers who are in disbelief of the beautiful relationship the two of you have. I know otherwise. I too had a similar marriage. He passed three years ago and I cant imagine finding that love again. Thank you for sharing your lives. In a way watching the two of you keeps him alive.
I agree. I really enjoy watching them. They are hilarious and I love the way they look at each other. I wish my husband of 32 years looked at me like that. So sorry for your loss. I lost mine last October 9th. Of dementia.
Not the A Hole. As a parent, it would not bother me if another parent came back to my house to pick up a toy. I am super understanding that people are forgetful, and I understand that kids, especially forget things. If I did not answer the text, they sent before hand, I would not be upset with him coming over to get the toy. I never think it’s a big deal to take a moment out of your day to help a child feel better. I do not work from home, so I do not have the same do not disturb moments at my house. But I don’t think her text after the issue or the way she was acting in the moment was kind or appropriate.
Tbh, I had a feeling this might happen after your TSA experience. I get pings on my radar constantly while watching your videos that alert me to positive changes that could come about from your videos. It's like my ears perk up when I hear your struggles given from such compassionate and sensible commentary. I just know sometimes that your words are not falling on deaf ears and that change is likely. That's why your videos cause such an uproar from your followers. We want to live in a world where everyone has the same access to services and we know this channel is making a difference. I hope you know just by your being who you are and just by loving each other and being so intelligent and centered, that you are making a tsunami of difference in our world. Ty.
As a mother of a disabled adult son, I'm so happy your voices were heard and TSA is making the necessary changes, for a better tomorrow!! Congratulations to you both!! Happy tears are falling!! Much Love and Hugs to you both, to Chloe and your wonderful families!!
THAT’S AMAZING!! I hope the tsa situation reaches all over for accessibility. I have hyperhidrosis in my hands so I’ve had to get a background check 4 different times at 4 different places and they’ve never been able to get my prints and refuse to do the ink. It’s been a struggle and they always say they don’t know how to help me. You guys are truly making a difference ❤️🙏🏻
@@isabeldejesus1924 we’re in this together !! Haha it’s not talked about much and it’s crazy how it can effect your daily life from clothes you wear, social activities, future fears, etc
Wow! That whole TSA thing is a massive win! Amazing job guys, just think how many thousands of disabled people this will help! You should be SUPER proud, it's so incredibly rare for something like this to happen so quickly and for the company to really engage, like getting you to consult etc. I hope you do something (let's be real....food 😂) to celebrate!
I agree that the email was so rude and unnecessary. Good call Hannah. And I'm glad you felt there were other ways to soothe a crying child. I'm glad you guys could see that. I worry about this parent who thinks he should fast trak whatever his child is demanding no matter what's in the way of it. You guys are going to be great parents.
I don't have cute aggression for babies but I have MAJOR cute aggression for animals lol It's this feeling in my core that I just cannot describe that makes me want to squeal and squish 🤣
That's called a cop out. You want to express your emotions and your responsibility as a loving human, but you do that in terms of something that doesn't actually have any true consequences to your faults or lack of commitment. Everyone loves animals, it's easy, it looks good. Having an animal is the definition of having your cake and eating it too. I do give props to the people who choose to fill the void of a child by having an animal as a proxy.
I had asked in a Monday Grub Bag video whether Shane experiences this "cute aggression" and to get a whole podcast about the topic is way more than I could ever expect!! Great segment!
This is a HUGE WIN for you both!! As I believe awareness and acceptance, education and needed changes are at the core of your channel. I'd say this is just amazing, and going to make such a huge difference to the lives of so many people and families. How many people, including my family, who avoid travel for so many reasons related to my son's disabilities. I will say, our TSA experiences have been very respectful and kind, we do understand the challenges they face, but it is so great to hear how open TSA is to making changes, and doing a better job for folks with disabilities. For sure, it is a policy problem, and just no knowing what to do, not an employee problem. This is so nice to hear.
As the mother of a 4 year old boy who is very attached to his stuffed animals, I think both parties were probably in the wrong, but it’s hard to know for sure without more details. I think it would be okay to pop over to the person’s house if they lived close and knew them well, and depending on the time of day. But otherwise it’s definitely a little forceful to show up at their house during work hours, and then let yourself in after the person said no. However, I think most parents are understanding in this situation and wouldn’t have made such a big deal out of it as this working mom did. I think most parents would have thought that it was a little rude, but wouldn’t have been so aggressive about it.
I'm so excited about your experience with TSA! I always believe you influence change. Personally, I've learned so much from you both. But to catch the ear of the TSA *and* prompt such huge change? That's truly awesome!
This is so interesting! I always get a little depressed right before doing something I've been looking forward to and have been excited about, as of I don't believe it's going to live up to my expectations. Maybe I'm just compensating for my excitement.
I have been thinking about and spending multiple friend-dinners exasperatedly ranting about your horrible inaccessible TSA experience since I watched your video. I’m soo happy to hear your video raised awareness and got their attention to make actual change!!
You guys truly are making a difference. If at any point you are discouraged or disheartened by all the negative comments and looks you get... Things like the TSA changes should keep you motivated to continue doing what you do! You're spreading awareness, and no one should ever make you feel less than because of that!
You guys really make my day. I so love your interactions and both Dumpster Diving and Who's the Asshole. It's nice to hear the pros and cons and your final landing spot. I can't wait to hear many, many more of these stories.
How amazing that your video directly got the TSA to make improvements!! That is so cool!! When someone says "cute aggression" all I can see/hear in my head is Agnes from Despicable Me with her plush unicorn "IT'S SO FLUFFY I'M GONNA DIIEIEEEEE"
I know that the child was very young, but it is never too early to begin teaching (in ways relatable to a child) the principles of detachment, patience and empathy for others. Obviously, you don’t try to start teaching these principles at the moment the child is freaking out, but rather day today and by your own example.
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 Way to go on the TSA thing!! That’s awesome!! I’ll admit, before I started following you guys, (and Cole & Charisma), I really didn’t truly realize how inaccessible places are. This has been truly eye opening. Thank you for spreading awareness as well as making everyone laugh every week! ❤
I'm so glad (& super impressed) that the TSA watched your video and is going to make so many essential changes so quickly as a result of your sharing the horrible experiences you went through. Your willingness to put your private lives onto such public platforms (podcasts, books, you tube videos, instagram, public talks, fundraisers, etc.), & your ability to get your voices heard, will allow you to help change the world for countless others, going through similar situations, whose voices would probably never be heard. So, thank you both for all the good you are doing. A lot of problems, like the fingerprinting and photo fiascos at the TSA office are simply the result of people not being aware of all the different accessibility issues people have. So, educating people, by making them aware of accessibility issues they never even thought about before, can go a long way toward encouraging them to bring about the changes needed. As, for the "Am I the Asshole," segment, which is the most Junkyard Mayhem-y title ever, I think you should turn that title into a regular segment of your podcast. It would be a brief debate about issues, on which you each hold opposing opinions (lighthearted ones, we don't want to drive you to divorce, by getting into too serious disagreements). You could each state your case, then read the feedback from the comments the next week, to decide who (if anyone) was the asshole.🤣😂 As for this episode, I disagree with you both. The father was trying to prevent his wife from having to stress out over their kids meltdown about the stuffed animal. That meltdown could have escalated into days of screaming, crying, and tantrums. The child wasn't going to let it go, or forget about it, and just drift off to a peaceful sleep. Sure, you guys might have been easygoing calm kids that could lose your favorite teddy bear without losing your minds, at that age, but most kids are not that chill. So, the Dad had to try to see if they were home. He wasn't coming to visit. He was stripping by to pick up something his son accidentally left behind. That lady was being the asshole. Not the guy. I think she even knew the stuffed toy was left behind, because it was sitting on her son's bed. She's a parent. She should've realized they would come back for it. But she tells him that she doesn't have time to look for it? It was in plain view. She was just power tripping. Her rudeness and snotty attitude make it clear she is neither a real friend, nor the type of person they should leave their child with again. In my opinion she's the only asshole. That said, I don't answer my door to people who don't call first and I don't always answer my phone. So I do get her point. But she should've put on noise cancelling headphones and simply ignored the door. That's all she had to do. But once you open the door, especially in a situation like this one, there is no way to tell the man and his distraught child that you are holding the stuffed animal hostage until a time that better suits you. If you open the door to tell them to go away, good luck preventing them from coming in.
This was so eye opening to me! Its a real thing. When i was a young girl, i would laugh so hard that i would cry. My family all knew if i got real tickled, i would be crying before it was over. In my case, it wasnt a good feeling to switch emotions so fast.
Thank you for making it easier for those of us in need of wheelchairs to get around. In 2023, there are still so many areas that remain in need of accessibility for the disabled. You are both helping to make these areas in need of change more accessible. That’s commendable!
4:20 Shane, your videos are definitely a good example of advocacy and increasing awareness. This information will reach so many people who wouldn’t have even known to seek it.
Someone once told me they could NEVER be close to a baby because they wanted to pinch the baby's cheeks. And they had a compulsion they couldn't control. This must be something similar.
I’ve only just have to comment immediately… the tsa update is so exciting! It shows how important talking about our experiences is, you discussing a frustrating moment will now help SO many people! It’s really encouraging seeing a company see an issue and make positive change. Let’s just hope it is at least close to as effective as they’ve said! Edit literally 30 seconds later: I love the dumpster dives!
First-time watcher here! It's pretty hard to make me laugh out loud, but i was laughing throughout this video! Loved the variety of topics. Thank you for the laughs and for the bit of intellectual stimulation, too!
This actually makes me cry - so happy! I'm so glad TSA testing centers actually made institutional changes:) vs. a corporate mumbo jumbo response- well done Shane and Hannah for talking about the experience and TSA for *actually responding- more businesses should follow their lead and respond in a concrete way
Incredible that TSA actually listened! Love it when advocacy is successful! Thank you for speaking out. Would love for them to also work on the actual process of disabled people going through security, too.
Hannah when you mentioned laughing it had me remember my brother and I while waiting to make funeral arrangements for our father. My brother saw a casket and said to me, "I'm going to see if that's dad's casket." NOPE😳 The day of our father's funeral, I leaned in towards my brother and said, "do you think dad is in this casket?" And we both started to laugh😂🤣and the looks we got😳😡how dare they laugh at a time like this when other's are in tears😭 I'll never forget that day
I have totally had cute aggression with my own babies so many times. I did not know it was a thing. I would squeal and yell I love you so much, and squeeze their hands so hard because I could not help it. This is so hilarious. It is absolutely true.
This was an amazing episode with a bit of everything! Advocacy win with TSA! Learning about cute aggression ! The AITA segment! Your back-and-forth chatter! You are rocking junkyard mayhem.
OMG! Todays dumpster dive was amazing! I always get made fun of because I grit my teeth and make a mad face when I play with my dogs. Now I know I’m not crazy 😂 It makes sense though because I definitely cry watching shows and movies 😂🤣🤷♀️
There is such a thing as too much positive emotion- it’s called Mania and it’s extremely destructive. People with Bipolar and Schizophrenia experience this. It’s definitely healthier for us to be in a happy medium so things don’t get out of control 🙂.
#1- Congratulations on the Identity Center making changes to their procedures...100% proof that you inspire people to make positive changes. #2- Hannah's Dumpster Dive was quite interesting. I too have experienced cuteness aggression. Seems weird that this is a real thing, but totally makes sense. #3- I think the father was the asshole in this episode, although the mother went a little over the top with the nasty e-mail.
I often cry at TV singing competitions, especially when someone wins, or those videos of someone giving to someone in need, or when I'm very happy or touched by someone's kindness, but just like Shane, I don't think I've ever experienced cute aggression. My husband, however, wishes he could bite my dog's nose because he thinks it's so cute. 😆
I'm sorry, I don't mean to scream, maybe put on noise cancelling headphones for reading this comment, but... YES, YES YES!!!! This update about TSA improving accessibility, having you guys as consultants because... yeah, yeah, it helps to have an expert, you know??? OMG - this is the BEST news I've heard in a while - SO GLAD.... phew... rant over... You guys are the BEST!! (sorry, it was only almost over...)
yay yay yay on the TSA issue.... win win win! praying they follow through on their apparent commitment. You guys are so loving and hilarious together. thanks for sharing your lives with us
I like your previous set for the show. It looked more intimate and relaxed…as you both were able to really look at each other and hold your hilarious convos. Love watching ❤
Awesome Junkyard Mayhem today! Loved the humor & content. I’m so thankful you helped me understand why my cat dislikes me when I’m overcome with cuteness aggression towards her. As for the A-hole dad, he completely overstepped boundaries & should’ve taken the opportunity to teach his kid about disappointment & being flexible- unfortunately he only taught his kid to overstep boundaries to get what you want/think you need. …However the other parent overstepped by not responding in a gracious manner & being accusatory & likely now the friendship is destroyed.
After we adopted our two dogs (a Cavachon and Ratchi, look em up of you don't know), I noticed the inside of my lips were sore. I would wrap my lips around my teeth whenever I saw them and kind of bite (all day). I had cute aggression! I had to notice and break the habit and started kissing them instead of wrapping my lips every time I saw them to get the tooth line in my lips to go away. The tooth indent was there for months! Now I understand myself better! 😅
The TSA situation is fantastic!! So awed by you two and your service! That was a really fun dumpster dive Hannah! I really enjoyed it! What a fun study of a fascinating experience!
I’ve always assumed that I want to squeeze cute things because I want it so badly. It feels like I just have to have the baby or animal. Lol either way, thanks for confirming that it’s a real thing and I’m not just crazy!
I hope this relationship with TSA consulting you can ALSO give y'all the opportunity to discuss how they treat wheelchairs, medical equipment, and honestly carseats and strollers. I of course know that the last two are not at all the same as and life necessity equipment. But it is safety equipment and carseats that are damaged by TSA is so dangerous. Thank you for constantly advocating ❤️❤️
#2 yes the Father was THA. If you're a parent and your child has this obsession.... You NEED more than one lovey. You then took a screaming child into the house where the person was working. Especially if they were in a huge meeting. So many ppl work from home now. Also toddlers gonna toddler but you need to figure out how to calm down and work on communicating with your child.
I Love you two!! The relationship you have 💯❤️❤️ so happy to hear your video helped them get on the ball to get TSA testing more accessible 👍👏👏 Keep up the great work!! Hannah N Shane 🙏🙏 God Bless. Catching up on older videos as I have missed some due to adulting 🤣 My rainy Saturday makes it possible for an excuse to not leave my housecoat and dive into Junkyard Mayhem 🥰🥰
You two are so engaging and humorous. Your personalities meld so well with each other - easy to see how you fell in love with each other. I love your vlogs!
What!? I am literally only listening to two podcast. Junkyard Mayhem and a Swedish podcast were two comedians try to answer random questions. Their last episode they talked about “cuteness overload” and mentioned the same study as Hannah did (the one with the bubble wrap). The only two, very different, podcast talk randomly about the same wierd topic the same week! What are the odds!?! (And I am probably one of the only ones listening to both.) Anyway. Love you guys and everything you are doing. Thanks! /M
Shane, I mean this in a kind way so I hope it comes out that way. I am so glad that you put yourself out there. People who have bodies that aren't the "norm" are often thought to be less then intelligently just because of the way they look or the fact that your voice is different. You are incredibly intelligent and the fact that you can laugh at yourself is huge! Love you both! Keeping rocking the world! People need to be educated!
As a mother of 3 and a grandma of 1, your "am I the asshole" reddit convo reminds me of the difficulty of parenthood. No one is an asshole, but he lost the opportunity to teach his child how to deal with disappointment.
I haven't experienced cuteness aggression that i can recall but if i get very excited they i will feel my eyes fill with tears. For example i am deep into bingeing a tv show and a first kiss just happened or something, if i am giving someone a present and i am watching them open it, if a favorite social media person interacts with me in so way, if i see something that is just absolutely beautiful like getting to a waterfall after a long hike....i just get so unbelievably excited that my who body tenses up and quivers and then i start to cry. It happens to me more often than not 😅
It was so interesting listening to this Podcast. My cat was resting on my shoulder. I just felt like hugging her and squeezing her cause I like her so much and realized that I just did what you guys talked about!
Thank you ask advocating change. I recently went to our Buffalo NY TSA office for my TSA appointment and asked how I could get my son’s fingerprints who has an SCI and was told it wouldn’t be a problem. However getting the fingerprint box to reach to him and extend his hand looked very difficult if not impossible. I hope when I eventually take him the iPads will be in the office. Thank you so much!
1. You guys are RAD for getting the TSA's attention in a non-combative, informative way. I personally learn a lot from hearing your perspectives on accessibility. 2. Again I LOVE THE DUMPSTER DIVE - I get cute aggression every day when I see my cats. 3. Re: Am I the A**hole - this was a tricky one, but I believe the father in this situation was in the wrong. Assuming this all took place in the afternoon because it was 'naptime' - if you're not getting a response - don't just show up... learn how to "read the room". No response = not a good time. Having an uninvited visitor would be aggravating to me - especially if I were working at home. What if the neighbor/friend was on a zoom call? ALSO - this would be a prime time to teach a valuable emotional lesson to your child on how to self-soothe, or find an alternative way to calm down for a nap... Then later, at the appropriate time - show the child that they can calmly acquire a missing and beloved item without feeding into a tantrum frenzy. In my opinion, fueling a tantrum or childhood anxiety, by reacting in an anxious way yourself, only shows them that their behavior is acceptable...which it is not. The neighbor/friend didn't need to lash out, but I'm still on her side. 4. Hannah - your wavy hair looks great, your skin is flawless and I love the lip color. 5. Shane - your humor is flawless and I'm impressed with your podcast hosting skills.
You always put a smile on my face! What a nice way to start my day. I love how both of you have great communication skills. You should be the norm but you are the exception!!!!!!!!
I have an autistic son who absolutely could not sleep without his musical seahorse when he was a toddler. I'm definitely on the side of the father who took his son to get the stuffed animal. When we moved everything was put in the garage. That first night in our house we had to search through lots of boxes and thankfully found the seahorse because he would not have gone to sleep without it.
Please keep the dumpster dives naturally occurring! Like, only do one if Hannah just happens to have done one that week, don't go out of your way and make it more work than you want to :). I love them btw! Just keep being awesome and having fun
Because I have a child who is very attached to a stuffy, I can see the blind desperation of the parent. Everything else seems trivial when your child wont stop crying. I can also see the side of the "work at home" professional who is just trying to get their work done and is interrupted several times, ending in your neighbor coming into your home and ruining your concentration for the third time. Tough one!
I agree with you. A child who needs their stuffy or blanket in order to relax is a big deal. I think they are both wrong. When taking a favorite toy out of the house, you need to be certain that you have it when you return. (Or another option is to have a duplicate). It also seems that the person who was working from home could have taken a short break, located the toy and given it to the owner, or arranged a time to meet.
Way to go!! That has to feel fantastic just knowing that your horrible experience ACTUALLY has made a difference! I hope you don't have to go through more horrible experiences to get more changes happening though, but congratulations that this one has worked out so well.
I think a new segment is among us: Shane’s trash hypotheses. Also Hannah lowering our dumpster dive expectations and then beautifully delivering a scientific and relatable topic. 👏
WAY TO GO!! HUGE WIN!! The more you guys get this info out, the more changes will be made. So glad that you get to see the fruits of your labor! Congrats!
Shane you make me happy!! I love your smile and humor!! Could watch you guys all day! Lol You are teaching so many by allowing idiots and all into your lives. Keep doing what you're doin'.
Just wait until you have a kid, Shane. My husband never had cute aggression either, but when we had our first son all he said all the time was "I just wanna bite him!" he would playfully bite him lol but he of course never hurt him. But seriously when it's your own kid you may want to bite them :P
Congratulations on your success with TSA that is fantastic. Now I understand the laugh until you cry saying very interesting. Loved your podcast as usual Also that man should have stayed home after no one answered distracted his child and gotten sleepy Dumbo later. Pushy pushy if you ask me
A HUGE congrats for the difference you make in the world!! Please don't stop spreading awareness! And keep making your podcast. I've been enjoying all of your episodes! 🥰
I had never heard of cute aggression before, but I definitely experienced it when my son was a baby. I would grit my teeth so hard that my jaw would hurt when I was immersed in his cuteness! Lol! Thanks for the dumpster dive…I learned so much! 😊
When I was very little I had a book of Beatrix Potter stories and I would scratch at the drawing of the baby mouse being cradled by its mum in 'The Tale of Two Bad Mice'. It was just too cute, I couldn't handle it and I needed it gone.
It is absolutely awesome that your video was able to reach TSA and is now resulting in positive changes. Keep up the great work advocating for better accessibility!!! Know that you both are truly making a difference!!! 👍🥰
Speaking of dumpster dives, I can't see a flock of geese without thinking about you guys 😂 and i'm curious where the locals sleep, given the season where i live they're clearly non-migrating... these are the things i ponder, thanks to you. 😂 thank you for your content, i look forward to it weekly!
I wonder if the narrator could have also helped his son by, w/ compassion on him while he’s crying, explain that he forgot his favorite sleepy dumbo and that it is such a bummer but also a good way to learn to keep track of him next time. If he is 4, he is able to learn that a lot more than a 2 or 3 year old and I agree with you both that waiting a couple hours to respect the other family’s boundaries would be a good move!!
There are many naw sayers who are in disbelief of the beautiful relationship the two of you have. I know otherwise. I too had a similar marriage. He passed three years ago and I cant imagine finding that love again. Thank you for sharing your lives. In a way watching the two of you keeps him alive.
I agree. I really enjoy watching them. They are hilarious and I love the way they look at each other. I wish my husband of 32 years looked at me like that. So sorry for your loss. I lost mine last October 9th. Of dementia.
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As a parent, it would not bother me if another parent came back to my house to pick up a toy. I am super understanding that people are forgetful, and I understand that kids, especially forget things. If I did not answer the text, they sent before hand, I would not be upset with him coming over to get the toy.
I never think it’s a big deal to take a moment out of your day to help a child feel better.
I do not work from home, so I do not have the same do not disturb moments at my house. But I don’t think her text after the issue or the way she was acting in the moment was kind or appropriate.
Your TSA update made me happy cry!! Thank you so much for your advocacy and follow up!
Tbh, I had a feeling this might happen after your TSA experience. I get pings on my radar constantly while watching your videos that alert me to positive changes that could come about from your videos. It's like my ears perk up when I hear your struggles given from such compassionate and sensible commentary. I just know sometimes that your words are not falling on deaf ears and that change is likely. That's why your videos cause such an uproar from your followers. We want to live in a world where everyone has the same access to services and we know this channel is making a difference. I hope you know just by your being who you are and just by loving each other and being so intelligent and centered, that you are making a tsunami of difference in our world. Ty.
Wish I could have expressed this as goodly!
@@shelleynobleart sweet! Ty
Beautifully stated
As a mother of a disabled adult son, I'm so happy your voices were heard and TSA is making the necessary changes, for a better tomorrow!! Congratulations to you both!! Happy tears are falling!! Much Love and Hugs to you both, to Chloe and your wonderful families!!
It is SO COOL at how their platform is being noticed and actually initiating institutional changes!!
THAT’S AMAZING!! I hope the tsa situation reaches all over for accessibility. I have hyperhidrosis in my hands so I’ve had to get a background check 4 different times at 4 different places and they’ve never been able to get my prints and refuse to do the ink. It’s been a struggle and they always say they don’t know how to help me. You guys are truly making a difference ❤️🙏🏻
hey! i also have hyperhidrosis. i just wanted to say hi in solidarity hahaha
@@isabeldejesus1924 we’re in this together !! Haha it’s not talked about much and it’s crazy how it can effect your daily life from clothes you wear, social activities, future fears, etc
@@connectwithcait2227 yes, SO true
Wow! That whole TSA thing is a massive win! Amazing job guys, just think how many thousands of disabled people this will help! You should be SUPER proud, it's so incredibly rare for something like this to happen so quickly and for the company to really engage, like getting you to consult etc.
I hope you do something (let's be real....food 😂) to celebrate!
Great response from TSA! Kudos to you both for raising awareness!
I agree that the email was so rude and unnecessary. Good call Hannah. And I'm glad you felt there were other ways to soothe a crying child. I'm glad you guys could see that. I worry about this parent who thinks he should fast trak whatever his child is demanding no matter what's in the way of it. You guys are going to be great parents.
I don't have cute aggression for babies but I have MAJOR cute aggression for animals lol It's this feeling in my core that I just cannot describe that makes me want to squeal and squish 🤣
Me too Rachel
Yessss, I want to snuggle it, kiss it, squeeze it, eat it! 🥺 I instantly love it so much that it physically hurts me. 😐😂
@@celia_may exactly!!! Lol
@@celia_may oh my gosh, do you know the abominable snowman from Loony Tunes? "I want to hold it and squeeze it and call it George." 🤯🤣
That's called a cop out. You want to express your emotions and your responsibility as a loving human, but you do that in terms of something that doesn't actually have any true consequences to your faults or lack of commitment. Everyone loves animals, it's easy, it looks good. Having an animal is the definition of having your cake and eating it too. I do give props to the people who choose to fill the void of a child by having an animal as a proxy.
How incredible to be able to bring such accessibility to this process!! Congratulations and thank you for continuing to be voices of change 💜
“Laughing at my nightmare” is the best example of emotional dimorphism / dimorphous expression 😏
Also, the TSA changing how they do things is amazing!
The first exciting announcement was the most encouraging thing I've heard in years. Way to go, Shane and Hannah!!
I had asked in a Monday Grub Bag video whether Shane experiences this "cute aggression" and to get a whole podcast about the topic is way more than I could ever expect!! Great segment!
Glad you asked it! That was a fun dumpster dive!
I am so very proud you two! Look at all the good you are doing! It’s a BIG deal. We appreciate you .
Wow! Congratulations on helping a multitude of people avoid the rotten experience you had! How wonderful!
This is a HUGE WIN for you both!! As I believe awareness and acceptance, education and needed changes are at the core of your channel. I'd say this is just amazing, and going to make such a huge difference to the lives of so many people and families. How many people, including my family, who avoid travel for so many reasons related to my son's disabilities. I will say, our TSA experiences have been very respectful and kind, we do understand the challenges they face, but it is so great to hear how open TSA is to making changes, and doing a better job for folks with disabilities. For sure, it is a policy problem, and just no knowing what to do, not an employee problem. This is so nice to hear.
As the mother of a 4 year old boy who is very attached to his stuffed animals, I think both parties were probably in the wrong, but it’s hard to know for sure without more details.
I think it would be okay to pop over to the person’s house if they lived close and knew them well, and depending on the time of day. But otherwise it’s definitely a little forceful to show up at their house during work hours, and then let yourself in after the person said no.
However, I think most parents are understanding in this situation and wouldn’t have made such a big deal out of it as this working mom did. I think most parents would have thought that it was a little rude, but wouldn’t have been so aggressive about it.
Way to go guys! Now every time I go through TSA, I’ll remember you and smile!
I'm so excited about your experience with TSA! I always believe you influence change. Personally, I've learned so much from you both. But to catch the ear of the TSA *and* prompt such huge change? That's truly awesome!
This is so interesting! I always get a little depressed right before doing something I've been looking forward to and have been excited about, as of I don't believe it's going to live up to my expectations. Maybe I'm just compensating for my excitement.
I have been thinking about and spending multiple friend-dinners exasperatedly ranting about your horrible inaccessible TSA experience since I watched your video. I’m soo happy to hear your video raised awareness and got their attention to make actual change!!
You guys truly are making a difference. If at any point you are discouraged or disheartened by all the negative comments and looks you get... Things like the TSA changes should keep you motivated to continue doing what you do! You're spreading awareness, and no one should ever make you feel less than because of that!
You guys really make my day. I so love your interactions and both Dumpster Diving and Who's the Asshole. It's nice to hear the pros and cons and your final landing spot. I can't wait to hear many, many more of these stories.
How amazing that your video directly got the TSA to make improvements!! That is so cool!!
When someone says "cute aggression" all I can see/hear in my head is Agnes from Despicable Me with her plush unicorn "IT'S SO FLUFFY I'M GONNA DIIEIEEEEE"
I know that the child was very young, but it is never too early to begin teaching (in ways relatable to a child) the principles of detachment, patience and empathy for others. Obviously, you don’t try to start teaching these principles at the moment the child is freaking out, but rather day today and by your own example.
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 Way to go on the TSA thing!! That’s awesome!! I’ll admit, before I started following you guys, (and Cole & Charisma), I really didn’t truly realize how inaccessible places are. This has been truly eye opening. Thank you for spreading awareness as well as making everyone laugh every week! ❤
I'm so glad (& super impressed) that the TSA watched your video and is going to make so many essential changes so quickly as a result of your sharing the horrible experiences you went through. Your willingness to put your private lives onto such public platforms (podcasts, books, you tube videos, instagram, public talks, fundraisers, etc.), & your ability to get your voices heard, will allow you to help change the world for countless others, going through similar situations, whose voices would probably never be heard. So, thank you both for all the good you are doing. A lot of problems, like the fingerprinting and photo fiascos at the TSA office are simply the result of people not being aware of all the different accessibility issues people have. So, educating people, by making them aware of accessibility issues they never even thought about before, can go a long way toward encouraging them to bring about the changes needed.
As, for the "Am I the Asshole," segment, which is the most Junkyard Mayhem-y title ever, I think you should turn that title into a regular segment of your podcast. It would be a brief debate about issues, on which you each hold opposing opinions (lighthearted ones, we don't want to drive you to divorce, by getting into too serious disagreements). You could each state your case, then read the feedback from the comments the next week, to decide who (if anyone) was the asshole.🤣😂
As for this episode, I disagree with you both. The father was trying to prevent his wife from having to stress out over their kids meltdown about the stuffed animal. That meltdown could have escalated into days of screaming, crying, and tantrums. The child wasn't going to let it go, or forget about it, and just drift off to a peaceful sleep. Sure, you guys might have been easygoing calm kids that could lose your favorite teddy bear without losing your minds, at that age, but most kids are not that chill. So, the Dad had to try to see if they were home. He wasn't coming to visit. He was stripping by to pick up something his son accidentally left behind. That lady was being the asshole. Not the guy. I think she even knew the stuffed toy was left behind, because it was sitting on her son's bed. She's a parent. She should've realized they would come back for it. But she tells him that she doesn't have time to look for it? It was in plain view. She was just power tripping. Her rudeness and snotty attitude make it clear she is neither a real friend, nor the type of person they should leave their child with again. In my opinion she's the only asshole.
That said, I don't answer my door to people who don't call first and I don't always answer my phone. So I do get her point. But she should've put on noise cancelling headphones and simply ignored the door. That's all she had to do. But once you open the door, especially in a situation like this one, there is no way to tell the man and his distraught child that you are holding the stuffed animal hostage until a time that better suits you. If you open the door to tell them to go away, good luck preventing them from coming in.
This was so eye opening to me! Its a real thing. When i was a young girl, i would laugh so hard that i would cry. My family all knew if i got real tickled, i would be crying before it was over. In my case, it wasnt a good feeling to switch emotions so fast.
Thank you for making it easier for those of us in need of wheelchairs to get around. In 2023, there are still so many areas that remain in need of accessibility for the disabled. You are both helping to make these areas in need of change more accessible. That’s commendable!
4:20 Shane, your videos are definitely a good example of advocacy and increasing awareness.
This information will reach so many people who wouldn’t have even known to seek it.
Someone once told me they could NEVER be close to a baby because they wanted to pinch the baby's cheeks. And they had a compulsion they couldn't control. This must be something similar.
I’ve only just have to comment immediately… the tsa update is so exciting! It shows how important talking about our experiences is, you discussing a frustrating moment will now help SO many people! It’s really encouraging seeing a company see an issue and make positive change. Let’s just hope it is at least close to as effective as they’ve said!
Edit literally 30 seconds later: I love the dumpster dives!
That is so awesome that YOUR video made the TSA change their processes for the disabled !! You are making a difference ❤
The TSA news is fantastic! I’m thrilled to hear it.
First-time watcher here! It's pretty hard to make me laugh out loud, but i was laughing throughout this video! Loved the variety of topics. Thank you for the laughs and for the bit of intellectual stimulation, too!
This actually makes me cry - so happy! I'm so glad TSA testing centers actually made institutional changes:) vs. a corporate mumbo jumbo response- well done Shane and Hannah for talking about the experience and TSA for *actually responding- more businesses should follow their lead and respond in a concrete way
Incredible that TSA actually listened! Love it when advocacy is successful! Thank you for speaking out. Would love for them to also work on the actual process of disabled people going through security, too.
All airlines es should follow suit
Hannah when you mentioned laughing it had me remember my brother and I while waiting to make funeral arrangements for our father. My brother saw a casket and said to me, "I'm going to see if that's dad's casket." NOPE😳
The day of our father's funeral, I leaned in towards my brother and said, "do you think dad is in this casket?" And we both started to laugh😂🤣and the looks we got😳😡how dare they laugh at a time like this when other's are in tears😭
I'll never forget that day
I have totally had cute aggression with my own babies so many times. I did not know it was a thing. I would squeal and yell I love you so much, and squeeze their hands so hard because I could not help it. This is so hilarious. It is absolutely true.
This was an amazing episode with a bit of everything! Advocacy win with TSA! Learning about cute aggression ! The AITA segment! Your back-and-forth chatter! You are rocking junkyard mayhem.
Your popularity got their attention and it will help so many others because of the experience. How really awesome 👏
Bless you both 😊
This is advocacy (for disability or any cause) is so important.
Good job, you two!
OMG! Todays dumpster dive was amazing! I always get made fun of because I grit my teeth and make a mad face when I play with my dogs. Now I know I’m not crazy 😂 It makes sense though because I definitely cry watching shows and movies 😂🤣🤷♀️
There is such a thing as too much positive emotion- it’s called Mania and it’s extremely destructive. People with Bipolar and Schizophrenia experience this. It’s definitely healthier for us to be in a happy medium so things don’t get out of control 🙂.
This is such a good point! Thank you
#1- Congratulations on the Identity Center making changes to their procedures...100% proof that you inspire people to make positive changes.
#2- Hannah's Dumpster Dive was quite interesting. I too have experienced cuteness aggression.
Seems weird that this is a real thing, but totally makes sense.
#3- I think the father was the asshole in this episode, although the mother went a little over the top with the nasty e-mail.
I often cry at TV singing competitions, especially when someone wins, or those videos of someone giving to someone in need, or when I'm very happy or touched by someone's kindness, but just like Shane, I don't think I've ever experienced cute aggression. My husband, however, wishes he could bite my dog's nose because he thinks it's so cute. 😆
That’s so amazing that TSA is making changes because of YOUR video and consulting YOU guys about that!!! 🎉 really awesome!
The Dumpster Dive was so interesting! I'm going to read further into it after finishing this episode.
I'm sorry, I don't mean to scream, maybe put on noise cancelling headphones for reading this comment, but... YES, YES YES!!!! This update about TSA improving accessibility, having you guys as consultants because... yeah, yeah, it helps to have an expert, you know??? OMG - this is the BEST news I've heard in a while - SO GLAD.... phew... rant over... You guys are the BEST!! (sorry, it was only almost over...)
yay yay yay on the TSA issue.... win win win! praying they follow through on their apparent commitment. You guys are so loving and hilarious together. thanks for sharing your lives with us
I like your previous set for the show. It looked more intimate and relaxed…as you both were able to really look at each other and hold your hilarious convos. Love watching ❤
Congratulations on making real change!!! Now we just need to get one of your airplane videos in front of the right person ❤️
Awesome Junkyard Mayhem today! Loved the humor & content. I’m so thankful you helped me understand why my cat dislikes me when I’m overcome with cuteness aggression towards her. As for the A-hole dad, he completely overstepped boundaries & should’ve taken the opportunity to teach his kid about disappointment & being flexible- unfortunately he only taught his kid to overstep boundaries to get what you want/think you need. …However the other parent overstepped by not responding in a gracious manner & being accusatory & likely now the friendship is destroyed.
After we adopted our two dogs (a Cavachon and Ratchi, look em up of you don't know), I noticed the inside of my lips were sore. I would wrap my lips around my teeth whenever I saw them and kind of bite (all day). I had cute aggression! I had to notice and break the habit and started kissing them instead of wrapping my lips every time I saw them to get the tooth line in my lips to go away. The tooth indent was there for months! Now I understand myself better! 😅
The TSA situation is fantastic!! So awed by you two and your service! That was a really fun dumpster dive Hannah! I really enjoyed it! What a fun study of a fascinating experience!
I’ve always assumed that I want to squeeze cute things because I want it so badly. It feels like I just have to have the baby or animal. Lol either way, thanks for confirming that it’s a real thing and I’m not just crazy!
IM SO EXCITED THAT TSA IS IMPROVING AND THE FACT THAT YOU TWO WILL BE OVERSEEING SOME OF THESE CHANGES IS AMAZING!!!
I hope this relationship with TSA consulting you can ALSO give y'all the opportunity to discuss how they treat wheelchairs, medical equipment, and honestly carseats and strollers. I of course know that the last two are not at all the same as and life necessity equipment. But it is safety equipment and carseats that are damaged by TSA is so dangerous. Thank you for constantly advocating ❤️❤️
#2 yes the Father was THA. If you're a parent and your child has this obsession.... You NEED more than one lovey. You then took a screaming child into the house where the person was working. Especially if they were in a huge meeting. So many ppl work from home now. Also toddlers gonna toddler but you need to figure out how to calm down and work on communicating with your child.
Congratulations on initiating change with the TSA.that is fabulous and I am sure you both will do a wonderful job as consultants
I Love you two!! The relationship you have 💯❤️❤️ so happy to hear your video helped them get on the ball to get TSA testing more accessible 👍👏👏 Keep up the great work!! Hannah N Shane 🙏🙏 God Bless. Catching up on older videos as I have missed some due to adulting 🤣 My rainy Saturday makes it possible for an excuse to not leave my housecoat and dive into Junkyard Mayhem 🥰🥰
Great job on the changes to TSA. Keep up the awesome work on you social media videos, podcasts, and in-person engagements. I enjoy them all.
You two are so engaging and humorous. Your personalities meld so well with each other - easy to see how you fell in love with each other. I love your vlogs!
What!? I am literally only listening to two podcast. Junkyard Mayhem and a Swedish podcast were two comedians try to answer random questions. Their last episode they talked about “cuteness overload” and mentioned the same study as Hannah did (the one with the bubble wrap). The only two, very different, podcast talk randomly about the same wierd topic the same week! What are the odds!?! (And I am probably one of the only ones listening to both.)
Anyway. Love you guys and everything you are doing. Thanks!
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My cat in loaf position is a sure fire way to spark my cute aggression. Also I’m so glad TSA listened!!
Shane, I mean this in a kind way so I hope it comes out that way. I am so glad that you put yourself out there. People who have bodies that aren't the "norm" are often thought to be less then intelligently just because of the way they look or the fact that your voice is different. You are incredibly intelligent and the fact that you can laugh at yourself is huge! Love you both! Keeping rocking the world! People need to be educated!
Your channel is changing the world! 🙌🏽 Every bit matters and I am also changed by your channel. ❤
As a mother of 3 and a grandma of 1, your "am I the asshole" reddit convo reminds me of the difficulty of parenthood. No one is an asshole, but he lost the opportunity to teach his child how to deal with disappointment.
I haven't experienced cuteness aggression that i can recall but if i get very excited they i will feel my eyes fill with tears. For example i am deep into bingeing a tv show and a first kiss just happened or something, if i am giving someone a present and i am watching them open it, if a favorite social media person interacts with me in so way, if i see something that is just absolutely beautiful like getting to a waterfall after a long hike....i just get so unbelievably excited that my who body tenses up and quivers and then i start to cry. It happens to me more often than not 😅
It was so interesting listening to this Podcast. My cat was resting on my shoulder. I just felt like hugging her and squeezing her cause I like her so much and realized that I just did what you guys talked about!
Thank you ask advocating change. I recently went to our Buffalo NY TSA office for my TSA appointment and asked how I could get my son’s fingerprints who has an SCI and was told it wouldn’t be a problem. However getting the fingerprint box to reach to him and extend his hand looked very difficult if not impossible. I hope when I eventually take him the iPads will be in the office. Thank you so much!
1. You guys are RAD for getting the TSA's attention in a non-combative, informative way. I personally learn a lot from hearing your perspectives on accessibility.
2. Again I LOVE THE DUMPSTER DIVE - I get cute aggression every day when I see my cats.
3. Re: Am I the A**hole - this was a tricky one, but I believe the father in this situation was in the wrong. Assuming this all took place in the afternoon because it was 'naptime' - if you're not getting a response - don't just show up... learn how to "read the room". No response = not a good time. Having an uninvited visitor would be aggravating to me - especially if I were working at home. What if the neighbor/friend was on a zoom call? ALSO - this would be a prime time to teach a valuable emotional lesson to your child on how to self-soothe, or find an alternative way to calm down for a nap... Then later, at the appropriate time - show the child that they can calmly acquire a missing and beloved item without feeding into a tantrum frenzy. In my opinion, fueling a tantrum or childhood anxiety, by reacting in an anxious way yourself, only shows them that their behavior is acceptable...which it is not. The neighbor/friend didn't need to lash out, but I'm still on her side.
4. Hannah - your wavy hair looks great, your skin is flawless and I love the lip color.
5. Shane - your humor is flawless and I'm impressed with your podcast hosting skills.
I LOVE the dumpster dives. Great job Hannah and thank you Shane for reading the comments! Bring it back every episode it's my favorite.
That is so cool about the TSA! I don't think of it as a small thing. It really is a big deal! Congratulations!
You guys are so cute that I'm feeling very aggressive! So, don't 'YALE' at me! Sorry, couldn't resist! LOL
OMG that is awesome news about the TSA! Always so proud of you eliciting change.
So excited about the change you are making! Also, so happy to know about the cuteness aggression.
You always put a smile on my face! What a nice way to start my day. I love how both of you have great communication skills. You should be the norm but you are the exception!!!!!!!!
I have an autistic son who absolutely could not sleep without his musical seahorse when he was a toddler. I'm definitely on the side of the father who took his son to get the stuffed animal. When we moved everything was put in the garage. That first night in our house we had to search through lots of boxes and thankfully found the seahorse because he would not have gone to sleep without it.
Please keep the dumpster dives naturally occurring! Like, only do one if Hannah just happens to have done one that week, don't go out of your way and make it more work than you want to :). I love them btw! Just keep being awesome and having fun
Because I have a child who is very attached to a stuffy, I can see the blind desperation of the parent. Everything else seems trivial when your child wont stop crying. I can also see the side of the "work at home" professional who is just trying to get their work done and is interrupted several times, ending in your neighbor coming into your home and ruining your concentration for the third time. Tough one!
I agree with you. A child who needs their stuffy or blanket in order to relax is a big deal.
I think they are both wrong. When taking a favorite toy out of the house, you need to be certain that you have it when you return. (Or another option is to have a duplicate). It also seems that the person who was working from home could have taken a short break, located the toy and given it to the owner, or arranged a time to meet.
Their opinion might change after they have kids lol
That's amazing that TSA is actually making changes for accessibility reasons. I'm so excited!
Way to go!! That has to feel fantastic just knowing that your horrible experience ACTUALLY has made a difference! I hope you don't have to go through more horrible experiences to get more changes happening though, but congratulations that this one has worked out so well.
I think a new segment is among us: Shane’s trash hypotheses.
Also Hannah lowering our dumpster dive expectations and then beautifully delivering a scientific and relatable topic. 👏
Shout out to TSA for not only apologizing and sweeping everything under the rug, but actually taking actions to make major changes. That's wholesome!
WAY TO GO!! HUGE WIN!! The more you guys get this info out, the more changes will be made. So glad that you get to see the fruits of your labor! Congrats!
3:40 It’s so great to hear that they’ll be consulting you. All companies would benefit from input by people with actual lived experience.
Shane you make me happy!! I love your smile and humor!! Could watch you guys all day! Lol You are teaching so many by allowing idiots and all into your lives. Keep doing what you're doin'.
Congratulations ! No one could do it better !!! Big win !!! ❤❤
Congrats on getting the TSA looking into compliance!!! Changing the world one A- hole at a time!!!
Just wait until you have a kid, Shane. My husband never had cute aggression either, but when we had our first son all he said all the time was "I just wanna bite him!" he would playfully bite him lol but he of course never hurt him. But seriously when it's your own kid you may want to bite them :P
Congratulations on your success with TSA that is fantastic. Now I understand the laugh until you cry saying very interesting. Loved your podcast as usual
Also that man should have stayed home after no one answered distracted his child and gotten sleepy Dumbo later. Pushy pushy if you ask me
A HUGE congrats for the difference you make in the world!! Please don't stop spreading awareness! And keep making your podcast. I've been enjoying all of your episodes! 🥰
I had never heard of cute aggression before, but I definitely experienced it when my son was a baby. I would grit my teeth so hard that my jaw would hurt when I was immersed in his cuteness! Lol! Thanks for the dumpster dive…I learned so much! 😊
When I was very little I had a book of Beatrix Potter stories and I would scratch at the drawing of the baby mouse being cradled by its mum in 'The Tale of Two Bad Mice'. It was just too cute, I couldn't handle it and I needed it gone.
It is absolutely awesome that your video was able to reach TSA and is now resulting in positive changes. Keep up the great work advocating for better accessibility!!! Know that you both are truly making a difference!!! 👍🥰
Speaking of dumpster dives, I can't see a flock of geese without thinking about you guys 😂 and i'm curious where the locals sleep, given the season where i live they're clearly non-migrating... these are the things i ponder, thanks to you. 😂 thank you for your content, i look forward to it weekly!
Same! Will forever connect geese with my beloved Hannah and Shane. 🤣😍
I wonder if the narrator could have also helped his son by, w/ compassion on him while he’s crying, explain that he forgot his favorite sleepy dumbo and that it is such a bummer but also a good way to learn to keep track of him next time. If he is 4, he is able to learn that a lot more than a 2 or 3 year old and I agree with you both that waiting a couple hours to respect the other family’s boundaries would be a good move!!