the best advice came from our pediatrician. don't ask a yes/no question when no isn't a choice. don't ask "will you please get ready for the day?". instead ask, "would you like to wear the pink or purple pants today?" it gives them a choice they do have within the constraint of, yes, you do have to wear clothes to school every day.
LOL....I learned to ask my husband questions that same way. Do you want the red shirt or the blue shirt? Do you want to eat lunch at Arby's or the Waffle House? It works beautifully! He's 75 !
this is bringing up a funny memory for me. My little one, bout 2 at the time I think, was refusing to get ready. I gave him the option laying there to choose from and he was being obstinate (a strong will is a good thing when one learns to harness it.. until then it is hell on everyone else!) I made no choice. I went out of my way to pick something I knew he didn't like in one hand, scooped him up in the other arm, grabbed boots on the way out the door. In the car seat he went in just his diapers... off to daycare we went. I handed him his clothes and out the car we got. It was cold that day, uncomfortably so. He walked in on his own as I held the door open. "what's going on" the check-in at daycare asked. "He refused to pick something to wear. He sure showed me!" Never had the problem again.
Didn't even watch video yet,but if anyone questions his ability to parent, they are nuts. He started a foundation, he helps others, and he found an awesome partner to have a family with. That's so much more than others even bring to the table. He can teach kindness, patience, and compassion, and that's alot more than others that don't even hang around for their kids. Together, they'll do great !
I think people are asking this question because it is quite obvious, he cannot even care for himself, therefore, how will he care for a child? It has nothing to do with him as a person. He’s an awesome individual.
I totally agree with Hannah. I have seen in my life time so many people receive promotions not due to hard work but who the boss liked the most. I have been on the receiving end of right time right place scenario. Hard work does not always lead to success. I love watching you two. You make me smile.
Hannah, you’re already way ahead of many parents with your wisdom at 16:50 It’s so important to have realistic expectations for each child, and it helps them to feel heard and understood.
The last parenting example sounds a lot like gentle/responsive parenting. In responsive parenting, the goal is discussion, connection, regulation, and understanding. Pleasant Peasant Media (Gwenna) and Tori Phantom both practice this method with their kids, and they recently started a podcast, so that might be a fun partnership for you all! I'm not currently a parent, but I use elements of this method as a teacher. Namely, I always make a point to explain things like rules to kids. I can't even begin to tell you how many times I've tried to enforce a rule, and the has responded by questioning the rule. By explaining it, I can help them understand that the rules aren't in place just because adults like to be controlling, but because we're trying to keep everyone safe and make sure that everyone is being kind to one another. Usually once kids know the reason, they're more likely to follow the rules, even if they don't like them.
Hi Hannah and Shane! I just found your channel a few days ago and love it. I've been watching all your videos. I can easily see why you (Hannah) fell in love with Shane. He is very handsome, smart and funny. I'm so happy you found each other. I can't wait to see what the future holds for you as parents. You'll be wonderful parents.
What I discovered in parenting my 3 kids who were all 5 years apart, they all needed different parenting styles that changed as they got older. It goes so fast!! My best advice - flexibility, engagement (put the phone away and listen), and we made the best memories at our daily dinner table with no tv or phones allowed. Sometimes we would even play games while we ate like Apples to Apples.🥰 Also, you will make mistakes .... it's ok to admit this and apologize to your kids!!
@@char7945 We managed, who is paying their phone bill? It's called mutual respect, you have to demand it, and you also have to demonstrate how that looks with them. It's less than an hour a day, none of them suffered any loss of friends or social media followers over it. In fact, our kids love to come home as often as they can, even their friends stop by all the time when they aren't home just to hang out, ages 19-30. We all have learned how much healthier and happier we are because we don't have to be looking at their phones every time they buzz with a notification.
Probably Shane you won't see this comment but I wanted to tell you that I've been thinking about you for the last couple of days. I admire your resilience and your courage, but more than anything I admire your sense of humor and your ability to be happy against any adversity. And I'm not just saying because of you "disability", I can just imagine what it is to be in your head and find the good about all things in general. I struggle with finding happiness in the small things so I really admire your ability to do it and who you cope with adversity. Sending you hugs and wishing you to be forever happy and content.
I do believe that you two will be great parents. It’s the hardest job I have ever had. The most important thing to remember is that you two should be the most important to each other. Your husband/wife comes first. Never let your child think they can play you against each other.
This is the Truest , they Will try it waiting for the slip up so a l ways be a team in parenting or the child will in o w they Get their way anyway 👀💭💯❗
Sure, but recognize that not every conflict is a child trying to be some kind of master manipulator. One of the benefits of having two parents should be that sometimes when you're having a hard time getting along with one of them, the other can give still you a hug or something or remind you that they both still love you.
Growing up with a father who was absent most of the time and then became abusive it always makes me happy when men care so much they worry about their children and actually spend time and energy to be as good of a dad as possible. You'll be awesome parents. You're a team and that is key. Love from Sweden actually🇸🇪💕
I remember when we started family years ago and went through everything that had to do with parenting before having kids. Boy, we were wrong in so many assumptions, you basically learn as you go as each child is different, etc. it is a learning process as long as you have kids. 😉
Yes, this. There are extra factors that compound this, too, like having neurodivergent children, children in trauma, etc. Every kid is different, every kid responds to different methods.
Hi, I just want to say that both of you are so natural between each other. I love Shane’s since of humour. You always make me laughs out loud. Thank you for making my day. ❤❤
I’ve had seven children. I was also an early childhood teacher for decades. Children go through cycles of pushing boundaries. At two, they want more independence.; at four or five they push some more. These help you to learn to teach and guide them. Remember that you can never be the perfect parent, because every child needs different things. You will cause some issues, but when they are adults they come back and talk to you about it. Stick together. They’ll try to play you against each other if you don’t. I am actually loving watching my children raise their children, especially the ones who act exactly like they did. You guys will be amazing!!❤❤❤
I love this! Also agree but also treating them knowing that they don't have the same development as a full adult, but treating them as future adults that they are
I love how you allow Shane to have a more powerful stance when he talks by sitting below him. I think you two have a great love and Hannah you are the best wife for Shane. You are truly his other half/ advocate/ champion. I love seeing your content and how loving you are even if you don’t agree.
I’ve recently learned about four attachment styles that include-Secure, Avoidant, Ambivalent and Disorganized. You guys should look into those as well! I felt it taught me a lot about my own upbringing as well as parenting! There’s a really good book that goes over them called, “The Power of Showing Up.” 😊
It is hard work that leads to success. I had bad circumstnaces growing up - poverty - abusive father - neglect - but realized that an education would help me out of poverty so worked hard to get a good education and then worked to pay my way through college . I chose a bad undergrad major; however, did a masters and then did another masters in teaching and found a love for teaching. Married a missionary so stayed poor but we were financially smart and worked hard to never have debt, serve others, and be good parents. I think I failed in some parenting areas, but not in how much i loved and dedicated myself to my kids. My kids have turned out great despite my mistakes. It is great that you have such foresight about parenting and have great outlooks on life. You have both had good starting points with good families. But, I am evidence that hard work can overcome circumstances and lead to success. I don't make a lot of money at all, but I feel happy in the work I do teaching and am happy with my family and home. Overall, I feel successful. I do give thanks to God for His help in many things. At present, I am battling cancer. The hardest thing I have ever done and it has taught me so much. I hope I will be a better person when I am through this battle. I have many plans to start some communitye service programs for when I am better and physically able.
Shane, you’re right, communicating the reasons ‘why’ is so helpful to kids. They might not always agree or comply but it helps them to think critically and make their own decisions later. There are also days where you’re exhausted and just default to “please just do the thing, I can’t explain why again” 😅
They will hit you with your reasoning when you least expect it and show you they were listening and absorbing what you were saying all along. ❤ Often from the backseat, a lot of our best “aha moments” are while riding in the car together.
I love you guys so much and have been watching your channel for years. I have seen your relationship progress and regress over the years but Hannah please be aware of how often you correct Shane. I'm not talking when you debate. My husband and I loved to debate many things before he past away from cancer, Politics, people etc. I believe you have a loving and respectful relationship, but correct him a bit too much on such small things. This will eventually cause animosity on Shanes part. This is just an opinion, and yes its like an a**hole, everybody has one. I get great enjoyment from watching your channel and love the banter and humor. Although this is unsolicited advice, I hope you will take this as helpful criticism.
I really enjoyed this one, especially as y’all are talking about the different parenting styles. Sadly I was a helicopter mom and my child does now at 18 suffer from anxiety. But I wasn’t like over controlling, I was more just very involved in everything. I thought that’s what a good parent was knowing what’s going on in your child’s life. Oh well he knows he’s loved
As Mom's, we do the best we can with what we know ❤ We all make mistakes, but I feel better reminding myself that my parenting has always come from a place of love & care 😉
Hannah's back injury could have been a subluxation (partial dislocation). I have a disorder that makes them something I deal with regularly but it can happen to anyone. It hurts a lot but everything is fine once the joint corrects itself. Here's to hoping everything is back to normal soon and this is a one time thing for Hannah!
Oh wow, you may have solved a mystery for me! I sprained my back years ago stepping into a hole while sprinting. And then kept running for months because I’m super dumb. Even though it mostly healed, for years after sometimes I’d step wrong and feel this super weird, painful, pulling feeling. Thank you!
@@taylor3950 I did things like that MANY times before the cause was figured out. I hope you get to talk to a good doctor about it and see if that's what has caused your problems.
I’ll be 52 in a few weeks and I have to say that my parents were quite free range which is surprising considering I have mild cerebral palsy and epilepsy but, they were slightly protective to keep me safe. My fully able brother is 3 years younger than me and we were raised very similar. My husband and I raised our kids in a free range yet slightly strict. We learned from our upbringings as well as the way we raised our kids that the exact same styles can be used but, the children will almost always turn out completely different as they become adults. You can have a definite idea of how you want to parent but, don’t be shocked when you find yourselves changing as times and situations arise. Lastly, we found that our children had to deal with my disability throughout their lives when it came to interacting with other people who constantly asked questions or even made fun of me. So, please keep in mind that you’re going to have to figure out how handle the way they deal with that. Surprisingly, our kids were always protective of me but, they definitely had emotional reactions when they realized that our normality was not the same as families with 2 able parents. You’ll definitely figure it out as time goes by each day, month, and year that passes by.😊
There was a show on ABC called the parent test about a bunch of different parenting styles. It was such a great show to watch as a parent. I have young kids so a lot didn't apply to us yet but it definitely brought questions up for us to talk about.
Don’t forget to do your taxes, you and both of your families because trust me I love you guys TH-cam channel it’s really therapeutic for me mentally and I don’t want you guys going to jail
Wow... you aren't even parents yet but you have encapsulated what I've learned in last 50 years of being a patent and now grandparent and then some.❤ ❤😄
Yall are going to make great parents. .any child that is parented by you two will be blessed for their entire life. ❤️🙏🏻❤️.. You are both amazing humans filled with such love, compassion and a fun mix of humor . Any child parented by you two will grow in the best environment possible and they will have a better chance to become successful adults because of yall. Shane and Hannah yall have got this down and I cant wait to see the day you actually bring this child into the world.
It's very interesting and great for new parents to see these different roles and realize the most important thing in GOOD parenting is being consistent! Communication! And empathy!
@@Pler1978 My mum has not been able to carry anything from me and my sister being age 5 & 3. The first years will be harder on Hannah, but honestly, a huge part of parenting can be done seated and laying down. And they have the luxury of parents around and an ability to hire people to help with more physical things. I don't care that we carried the sunchair to the beach or had to learn to push ourselves on the swings. I care that she was an ever present parent, always willing to listen, help us learn how to make good choices, support and care for us. After the early years, a lot of the physical work of parenting can be either outsourced or creatively solved. Much easier to solve than parents who are absent or emotionally distant.
I was ready to fight Shane through the screen when he said "success" was 50% hard work. 😂 I'm with you, Hannah, about societal structures, privilege, and luck.
I was raised in a neglectful but authoritarian parenting house. I’m definitely a indulgent parent but I have key aspects of authoritative parenting where I have expectations, some routine (not super strict) and definitely follow through with rules I expect them to follow especially around manners and treating others well.
I've learned a lot as a mom of two and its a constant learning situation. I do "gentle parenting", but it's mostly just treating my child respectfully and helping her figure out the world. I started out more authoritarian, but it was miserable and I hated everyday- have fun with your babies. Of course they need structure, but its completely possible to do without yelling and anger. Of course, i have moments, but i apologize and try to learn more about myself and what sets me off. Good luck guys and enjoy it, do it your way ❤
Parenting styles are a great Junkyard Mayhem topic. I appreciate the hard work you both do to create entertaining content for us. Many of us use a combination of parenting styles. Hug your child(ren) every day, even when they are doing bad stuff. Get your child help and support if needed. Take a break and breathe when you feel anger rising within.
Oh my goodness! I can't believe it! Exactly the same thing happened to me last week Hannah. I thought I was going crazy...how is it possible to hurt your back on the exam table at the gynecologist to the point that you can barely get up let alone walk straight??? 😮 You telling this story put my mind at ease so much. I guess it's a thing... Goes to show ya, those tables with stirrups are dangerous 😅 I'm glad you are feeling better! 🤗
I listened to this episode on my drive in to work. I’m not usually a fan of LA traffic, but today you made this drive so enjoyable, I laughed so much 😂🎉😂. I really enjoy all your videos.
You two are going to be amazing parents! You’ll figure it out along the way, we all do.:)) I have two daughters, and I purposely only had two, so that I could really focus on them and give them the attention that they needed. They were great kids, great teens, and now they’re both your age, and very productive members of society. Raising them was the highlight of my life, and the thing that I’m most proud of, hands down! No other accomplishments compare to my dedication of their upbringing, and how proud I am of how they turned out. You will soon see how absolutely rewarding that parenthood really is! God Bless!!🙏🏼👍🌷
Wow Hannah, I feel so validated 😅 I've been working my butt off for decades since I was a kid, and I am nowhere near the definition of "successful" or satisfied with myself. I am actively working to dismantle my unconscious beliefs about my self worth and ability to attract and manage money.... But I have to agree that hard work does not guarantee success in this society.
I feel like H and S will be good parents. Y’all have great communication skill and are very loving. I hope you’re able to achieve your goal of becoming parents.
Hope you are able to follow up with an ortho DR - since you’ve had multiple back injuries of mysterious origin. I hadn’t thought before, about how difficult things could become for both of you if Hannah has physical issues - or is out of commission for a stretch of time. It’s hard enough to be suffering when your spouse doesn’t need your help … but to be knocked out and also still needed for many things throughout the day - wow. That’s a whole lot of extra stress and responsibility. All the more reason it’ll be great to hire someone great to help out the whole family once there is a baby on top of everything else. Be well, both of you. Sending you all good thoughts and lots of care. You’ll figure out the parenting along with your kiddo - each one is so different and requires a little something special. You two are so caring and responsible - so smart and open minded. Things will turn out well!! ☮️❤️🌷
I fell upon you last week and am hooked since. You two are too cute. Btw parenting is so so so hard! There is no perfect parenting. We do our best and forgive ourselves when we aren't proud of our parenting choices. But the most important thing is love! You two will be good, loving parents. ❤
Glad you're feeling better. Sounds like Sciatica maybe, it can do some pretty weird things to you. Worth doing strengthening exercises now for pregnancy and mobility.
@@Pler1978 He can take a larger role when his kids get older and it's more about conversations, emotional support, etc. For sure at the very beginning when there is so much physical work to do he's clearly not going to be able to do so much.
@@Pler1978 just speak for you bub. tell us you contribute nothing beyond physical ability and your money 😂 tell us you’re replaceable, without telling us you’re replaceable
No matter what you intend, I think every parent veers off path. I look back at the ideas we had for our almost 10 year old daughter in the beginning vs now. It's vastly different. When you have a child, you'll decide which style works for you. Regardless, after what you're going to in order to try to conceive a child, that child is obviously going to be well loved. Blessed be.
popping in to say that sounds like a back injury situation i’ve had before! i get weird muscle spasms sometimes that cause pinched nerves that keep me from standing up straight! so gnarly. i hope you feel better quickly!!!
I'm not a parent but my mom was more of a helicopter and overprotective parent, to the point where I relied on her for EVERYTHING! I fortunately grew out of it before she died. You guys are going to be awesome parents!
Some parenting advice along with everyone else's parenting advice: * Children respond to the parents/environment's energy 'vibe.' If the parents are anxious, the kids will be anxious. If the parents are relaxed, then the kids will be chill. * Always talk through the issues rather than screaming/violence. (Talking through a situation is going to serve them a lot better than hitting, which they'll turn around and do to other people in the future; a learned habit.) * Skip the 'baby talk.' Use correct grammar - you'll get a smarter kid. 0 to 7 is when they are absorbing everything. The last thing you want to do is teach them how to talk 'wrong.' * The 3 rules I had for my kids (and they build off each other): 1. Get good grades. (If they're getting good grades, they aren't out doing illegal things.) 2. Don't do anything illegal. (If they do something illegal, there's no bail money so they'll be sitting in jail for a while.) 3. Don't burn down the house. (Self-explanatory.) * Be the person they know they can talk to about *ANYTHING* and they know they'll get truthful answers from you about *ANYTHING.* Don't hide the truth from kids - they're smart and they'll figure it out. The last thing you need is to have your kid dismiss you because they believe you won't tell them the truth and be straight with them. * Lastly, let them figure out their preferences on their own. Don't deprive them of experiences by pushing your views and opinions on them. Clearly, the advice of 'Don't play in the street' should be given along with the valid reason of why*, but don't snuff out their curiosity flame, either. (*Always have a valid reason for your 'rules' and be prepared to explain why those rules are in place. By explaining your practicality, you're sharing your world-experience with the child and teaching them how to strategize logically for their own survival.)
There are people in the world without limbs at all that parent, anyone can parent if they really want to succeed. The biggest elements are trust and respect all round ….kids will try you whatever your abilities.
I was a permissive parent where me and my son were best friends but because of his chill good nature he was born with, this style actually worked extremely well for him. And for us. This style matched our personalities. And I grew up free range and had the most amazing childhood imaginable😊
It's important to say that you can't be be friends with your child though because you are ultimately in control of the decisions, as you should be. It can't be a friendship because it's not an equal relationship and they shouldn't be required to support you emotionally as a friend would, you should turn to your own adult friends for that.
@@powderandpaint14 well he's 22 now. But yeah I the main caregiver and we did hang out all the time as friends and yet I was also clearly a parent he respected and listened to me, his dad. I believe both can totally go hand in hand.
when i was pregnant the first time, I read a book called - something like, how to talk so kids will listen and listen so kids will talk. it had a huge impact on me but really, my first reaction was - omg we should talk to EVERYONE this way!
One thing about helicopter parenting - at least how I think about it and it would be the difference to the anxious type - is also the perfectionismn about it, so you plan the full day for the child, it attends several courses (which in itself is not a bad thing, it's just the amount) and then overly concerned with grades and those things and yeah as you said sometimes "helping" the child a bit too much
Yesterday I was so disappointed, because I thought that for some reason you didn’t do your podcast! It wasn’t until later that I realized it was onlyTuesday. Duh, this is what happens when you’re an old lady and and no longer has a schedule. So happy to see you today!
26:27 Not too much “be careful” is wise, haha. It’s a bit abstract for kids, and can be an unsafe distraction sometimes. Hannah, you’re definitely on the right track. Another alternative could be “These tiles feel very slippery, don’t they? It would really hurt to fall on them. Let’s practice walking slowly.“ Check out the Montessori method or respectful parenting groups. They can help to find a comfortable balance between helicopter and free range 😊
Hannah, I had the exact symptoms in my back many years ago. Mine turned out to be a tiny piece of vertebrae had broken off. Surgery was the only solution. So glad yours fixed itself!! I can hardly wait to see how your parenting styles meet your expectations in, say, 5 years. Did you nail it? How did it (or not) change over time. I know you are going to be great parents.
🌟 🌟 🌟 🌟 🌟 heres your "5" star review Hannah 😊 I enjoy watching and listening to you two so much, you're very endearing. You guys are gonna do great. That's one lucky kid that will get you for parents 😊
You've become required viewing. I can't do without my daily fix of basking in your palpable Love, a vicarious joy to behold in cyberspace on all points of the compass, for it warms the cockles of my heart. I think you should know that I avoid idiomatic English like the plague. I don't always succeed. And as for your engaging sense of repartee, I can't stop chortling here at my end of the lines of communication. My chuckle muscle has never been so exercised...
Sorry your back is bothering you, Hannah. Have you tried physical therapy? I used to work for a physiotherapy company and was always amazed at how much PT helped our clients. One thing that would start you on the right track to a healthy spine is to not sit with your legs crossed. That’s a hard habit to break because we (females) were raised to “sit like a lady”, but I did it and know you can too. People, please don’t come at me in the comments, I love Hannah and Shane, have followed them for years, and wish nothing but the best for them.
You'll make my day. I need a good laugh to get me going. Shane has a good sense of humor. Parenting does not come with a book. I wish I could go back and do a lot of things over, although my children turned out very well. It comes with experience as you go. Blessings to you both.
Ya know in this day and age sometimes some people don't have what's called normal,,,so nice to see you guys hold conversations and hope more people have the dynamic of normalcy,,,,we'll whatever that is I guess, but it's nice to see and hear you guys being you guys,,,I don't really know what I'm saying but it's nice to experience intellectual people, thank you guys for having your channels 🙂
I’m glad Hannahs feeling better and that IVF is going well so far. I have no place to be giving you advice or a diagnosis but Hannah has mentioned things in the past (stomach stuff) that sound EDS/Hypermobility Spectrum Disorder related. It used to be thought of as rare but really it’s just under-diagnosed. The back thing might be related. It affects connective tissue, which is in all the body systems, so weird, seemingly unrelated stuff can happen throughout the body.
I have a compliment for you two. Myself and you guys, I think are total opposites when it comes to politics. That being said, you manage to create an awesome show that I love. I think about this every time I watch, and the reason is because I used to love watching the late night shows like Kimmel and Fallon, but then in 2016 they became unwatchable for me, because they hated my favorite president so much so, that they pretty much lost half the countries viewers with the way they acted and talked. So I wanted to tell you thankyou for putting out really great content that is very enjoyable.❤
Look into Rie parenting method. It sounds like you both would like this one the most. it’s exactly what you both say you want to parent in your beliefs and give kids the ability to learn from their mistakes with support from parents.
In my days of parenting we were lucky. We could just say 'well kids don't come with instructions" so if we weren't perfect it was accepted. These days kids do come with instructions but working out which instructions are the ones to follow is now the problem.
You all will be the best parents & will you make mistakes like all of us, but I can see now that you both will be on the same page and that’s the main thing is being on the same page. I think hard work pays off my son is now 37 married with two children. He has been a business owner for 10 years and if he had not worked very hard, he would not have what he has nothing is ever been handed to him. With God’s help! Hannah I hope you continue feeling better, and I hope whatever that was doesn’t happen when you were pregnant .❤️🙏🏼
the best advice came from our pediatrician. don't ask a yes/no question when no isn't a choice. don't ask "will you please get ready for the day?". instead ask, "would you like to wear the pink or purple pants today?" it gives them a choice they do have within the constraint of, yes, you do have to wear clothes to school every day.
LOL....I learned to ask my husband questions that same way.
Do you want the red shirt or the blue shirt? Do you want to eat lunch at Arby's or the Waffle House? It works beautifully! He's 75 !
@Sunny Scott why hasn't this dawned on me yet! I'm in.
@@lisal990 OK 👍 👌
I was given this same advice. I don't know how many hours this advice saved me, however I do know it was MANY.
this is bringing up a funny memory for me. My little one, bout 2 at the time I think, was refusing to get ready. I gave him the option laying there to choose from and he was being obstinate (a strong will is a good thing when one learns to harness it.. until then it is hell on everyone else!) I made no choice. I went out of my way to pick something I knew he didn't like in one hand, scooped him up in the other arm, grabbed boots on the way out the door. In the car seat he went in just his diapers... off to daycare we went. I handed him his clothes and out the car we got. It was cold that day, uncomfortably so. He walked in on his own as I held the door open. "what's going on" the check-in at daycare asked. "He refused to pick something to wear. He sure showed me!" Never had the problem again.
Didn't even watch video yet,but if anyone questions his ability to parent, they are nuts. He started a foundation, he helps others, and he found an awesome partner to have a family with. That's so much more than others even bring to the table. He can teach kindness, patience, and compassion, and that's alot more than others that don't even hang around for their kids. Together, they'll do great !
Hmm doesn't strike me as a pro-parent type. He'd be mediocre at best.
I think people are asking this question because it is quite obvious, he cannot even care for himself, therefore, how will he care for a child? It has nothing to do with him as a person. He’s an awesome individual.
I totally agree with Hannah. I have seen in my life time so many people receive promotions not due to hard work but who the boss liked the most. I have been on the receiving end of right time right place scenario. Hard work does not always lead to success. I love watching you two. You make me smile.
Hannah, you’re already way ahead of many parents with your wisdom at 16:50
It’s so important to have realistic expectations for each child, and it helps them to feel heard and understood.
The last parenting example sounds a lot like gentle/responsive parenting. In responsive parenting, the goal is discussion, connection, regulation, and understanding. Pleasant Peasant Media (Gwenna) and Tori Phantom both practice this method with their kids, and they recently started a podcast, so that might be a fun partnership for you all!
I'm not currently a parent, but I use elements of this method as a teacher. Namely, I always make a point to explain things like rules to kids. I can't even begin to tell you how many times I've tried to enforce a rule, and the has responded by questioning the rule. By explaining it, I can help them understand that the rules aren't in place just because adults like to be controlling, but because we're trying to keep everyone safe and make sure that everyone is being kind to one another. Usually once kids know the reason, they're more likely to follow the rules, even if they don't like them.
Hi Hannah and Shane! I just found your channel a few days ago and love it. I've been watching all your videos. I can easily see why you (Hannah) fell in love with Shane. He is very handsome, smart and funny. I'm so happy you found each other. I can't wait to see what the future holds for you as parents. You'll be wonderful parents.
What I discovered in parenting my 3 kids who were all 5 years apart, they all needed different parenting styles that changed as they got older. It goes so fast!! My best advice - flexibility, engagement (put the phone away and listen), and we made the best memories at our daily dinner table with no tv or phones allowed. Sometimes we would even play games while we ate like Apples to Apples.🥰 Also, you will make mistakes .... it's ok to admit this and apologize to your kids!!
You sound like a great parent. If only all parents had your attitude.
good luck with those rules when they’re teenagers
@@char7945 We managed, who is paying their phone bill? It's called mutual respect, you have to demand it, and you also have to demonstrate how that looks with them. It's less than an hour a day, none of them suffered any loss of friends or social media followers over it. In fact, our kids love to come home as often as they can, even their friends stop by all the time when they aren't home just to hang out, ages 19-30. We all have learned how much healthier and happier we are because we don't have to be looking at their phones every time they buzz with a notification.
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One of my best days parenting is when my child apologized to me. I had happy tears in my eyes. Emulate behaviors you want to see echoed.
Probably Shane you won't see this comment but I wanted to tell you that I've been thinking about you for the last couple of days. I admire your resilience and your courage, but more than anything I admire your sense of humor and your ability to be happy against any adversity. And I'm not just saying because of you "disability", I can just imagine what it is to be in your head and find the good about all things in general. I struggle with finding happiness in the small things so I really admire your ability to do it and who you cope with adversity. Sending you hugs and wishing you to be forever happy and content.
This episode was _astonishing_ to say the least!
Astonishingly hilarious!!
I swear the day you announce y’all are pregnant you’ll be able to hear me scream from FL you guys are going to be great parents
you’ll be hearing me from the UK haha
Still waiting, but you'll hear me screaming from florida too lol
I do believe that you two will be great parents. It’s the hardest job I have ever had. The most important thing to remember is that you two should be the most important to each other. Your husband/wife comes first. Never let your child think they can play you against each other.
This is the Truest , they Will try it waiting for the slip up so a l ways be a team in parenting or the child will in o w they Get their way anyway 👀💭💯❗
Sure, but recognize that not every conflict is a child trying to be some kind of master manipulator. One of the benefits of having two parents should be that sometimes when you're having a hard time getting along with one of them, the other can give still you a hug or something or remind you that they both still love you.
Growing up with a father who was absent most of the time and then became abusive it always makes me happy when men care so much they worry about their children and actually spend time and energy to be as good of a dad as possible.
You'll be awesome parents. You're a team and that is key.
Love from Sweden actually🇸🇪💕
I remember when we started family years ago and went through everything that had to do with parenting before having kids. Boy, we were wrong in so many assumptions, you basically learn as you go as each child is different, etc. it is a learning process as long as you have kids. 😉
Yes, this. There are extra factors that compound this, too, like having neurodivergent children, children in trauma, etc. Every kid is different, every kid responds to different methods.
It is entirely valid to gain education in child & infant development!
@@grammichal6759 no one is saying it isn't?
@@ddier177 Some are saying you just figure it out if you were the parents of more than one child.
I think you and Hannah will be great parents no doubt about it.
Hello Sonja 😊 how are you doing today?
I agree! I work with parents and children closely in their homes and these two truly have a great foundation of knowledge and heart to build off of.
Having great parents makes a big impact on how you will parents your children. You'll be great parents😊❤
This baby will be loved beyond words.
Just wanted to tell you how much I love you guys. You're a such a wonderful example of what a healthy relationship should be! ❤
The best part of the week is when this comes out
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Literally! Lol 😂😂 I always know I’m going to laugh my ass off.
When Hannah said, “like cattle…” about her internal ultrasound, I died! 😂😂😂
@@kristinaarp9144 so you like things that are not authentic?? Because this relationship is fake ok?
@@kristinaarp9144 I know right and when Shane said that image will stay in your head 😂😂😂
Hi, I just want to say that both of you are so natural between each other. I love Shane’s since of humour. You always make me laughs out loud. Thank you for making my day. ❤❤
Yeah sure
I’ve had seven children. I was also an early childhood teacher for decades. Children go through cycles of pushing boundaries. At two, they want more independence.; at four or five they push some more. These help you to learn to teach and guide them. Remember that you can never be the perfect parent, because every child needs different things. You will cause some issues, but when they are adults they come back and talk to you about it. Stick together. They’ll try to play you against each other if you don’t. I am actually loving watching my children raise their children, especially the ones who act exactly like they did. You guys will be amazing!!❤❤❤
I love this! Also agree but also treating them knowing that they don't have the same development as a full adult, but treating them as future adults that they are
I love how you allow Shane to have a more powerful stance when he talks by sitting below him. I think you two have a great love and Hannah you are the best wife for Shane. You are truly his other half/ advocate/ champion. I love seeing your content and how loving you are even if you don’t agree.
I’ve recently learned about four attachment styles that include-Secure, Avoidant, Ambivalent and Disorganized. You guys should look into those as well! I felt it taught me a lot about my own upbringing as well as parenting! There’s a really good book that goes over them called, “The Power of Showing Up.” 😊
These are attachment styles, which result in part from parenting styles.
@@endobyotic I appreciate the correction! 😊
It is hard work that leads to success. I had bad circumstnaces growing up - poverty - abusive father - neglect - but realized that an education would help me out of poverty so worked hard to get a good education and then worked to pay my way through college . I chose a bad undergrad major; however, did a masters and then did another masters in teaching and found a love for teaching. Married a missionary so stayed poor but we were financially smart and worked hard to never have debt, serve others, and be good parents. I think I failed in some parenting areas, but not in how much i loved and dedicated myself to my kids. My kids have turned out great despite my mistakes. It is great that you have such foresight about parenting and have great outlooks on life. You have both had good starting points with good families. But, I am evidence that hard work can overcome circumstances and lead to success. I don't make a lot of money at all, but I feel happy in the work I do teaching and am happy with my family and home. Overall, I feel successful. I do give thanks to God for His help in many things. At present, I am battling cancer. The hardest thing I have ever done and it has taught me so much. I hope I will be a better person when I am through this battle. I have many plans to start some communitye service programs for when I am better and physically able.
Shane, you’re right, communicating the reasons ‘why’ is so helpful to kids. They might not always agree or comply but it helps them to think critically and make their own decisions later.
There are also days where you’re exhausted and just default to “please just do the thing, I can’t explain why again” 😅
They will hit you with your reasoning when you least expect it and show you they were listening and absorbing what you were saying all along. ❤ Often from the backseat, a lot of our best “aha moments” are while riding in the car together.
I love you guys so much and have been watching your channel for years. I have seen your relationship progress and regress over the years but Hannah please be aware of how often you correct Shane. I'm not talking when you debate. My husband and I loved to debate many things before he past away from cancer, Politics, people etc. I believe you have a loving and respectful relationship, but correct him a bit too much on such small things. This will eventually cause animosity on Shanes part. This is just an opinion, and yes its like an a**hole, everybody has one. I get great enjoyment from watching your channel and love the banter and humor. Although this is unsolicited advice, I hope you will take this as helpful criticism.
I really enjoyed this one, especially as y’all are talking about the different parenting styles. Sadly I was a helicopter mom and my child does now at 18 suffer from anxiety. But I wasn’t like over controlling, I was more just very involved in everything. I thought that’s what a good parent was knowing what’s going on in your child’s life. Oh well he knows he’s loved
As Mom's, we do the best we can with what we know ❤ We all make mistakes, but I feel better reminding myself that my parenting has always come from a place of love & care 😉
Good morning! You guys will be amazing parents. I can’t wait to meet your children when they are born! Love you guys!
I can’t wait for the video where you revisit this after you have a 5 year old. 😂
Same. I think it's obvious they haven't been around children. It's going to be an awakening for sure. Lol
@@s.c.2424 one of them has nieces and nephews so pretty sure they have been around kids.
I came here to say this too. A 5 year old is a whole other ball game 😂
This^^
Haha unfortunately, I hard agree here. 😂
I love you guys researching and talking about parenting stuff. Great discussions to have. Hope to see more!
Hannah's back injury could have been a subluxation (partial dislocation). I have a disorder that makes them something I deal with regularly but it can happen to anyone. It hurts a lot but everything is fine once the joint corrects itself.
Here's to hoping everything is back to normal soon and this is a one time thing for Hannah!
Oh wow, you may have solved a mystery for me!
I sprained my back years ago stepping into a hole while sprinting. And then kept running for months because I’m super dumb. Even though it mostly healed, for years after sometimes I’d step wrong and feel this super weird, painful, pulling feeling.
Thank you!
@@taylor3950 I did things like that MANY times before the cause was figured out. I hope you get to talk to a good doctor about it and see if that's what has caused your problems.
Lindsay do you have EDS, myself and my 3 kids have cEDS
I’ll be 52 in a few weeks and I have to say that my parents were quite free range which is surprising considering I have mild cerebral palsy and epilepsy but, they were slightly protective to keep me safe. My fully able brother is 3 years younger than me and we were raised very similar.
My husband and I raised our kids in a free range yet slightly strict. We learned from our upbringings as well as the way we raised our kids that the exact same styles can be used but, the children will almost always turn out completely different as they become adults.
You can have a definite idea of how you want to parent but, don’t be shocked when you find yourselves changing as times and situations arise.
Lastly, we found that our children had to deal with my disability throughout their lives when it came to interacting with other people who constantly asked questions or even made fun of me. So, please keep in mind that you’re going to have to figure out how handle the way they deal with that. Surprisingly, our kids were always protective of me but, they definitely had emotional reactions when they realized that our normality was not the same as families with 2 able parents.
You’ll definitely figure it out as time goes by each day, month, and year that passes by.😊
There was a show on ABC called the parent test about a bunch of different parenting styles. It was such a great show to watch as a parent. I have young kids so a lot didn't apply to us yet but it definitely brought questions up for us to talk about.
Don’t forget to do your taxes, you and both of your families because trust me I love you guys TH-cam channel it’s really therapeutic for me mentally and I don’t want you guys going to jail
You will be amazing parents and it will happen for you. I will be celebrating in SC when you tell us you are expecting. Excited for you.
I’m convinced that you will smash this! Humour is everything x
Wow... you aren't even parents yet but you have encapsulated what I've learned in last 50 years of being a patent and now grandparent and then some.❤
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Fun to talk though and dream. Reality will hit hard in the face haaaaaaaaaaaaaaa. Each child is different and you handle it as it comes up
Yall are going to make great parents. .any child that is parented by you two will be blessed for their entire life. ❤️🙏🏻❤️.. You are both amazing humans filled with such love, compassion and a fun mix of humor . Any child parented by you two will grow in the best environment possible and they will have a better chance to become successful adults because of yall. Shane and Hannah yall have got this down and I cant wait to see the day you actually bring this child into the world.
You are both Going to be Amazing parents ! Love watching the both of you .. Makes me Smile
Hello Tara 😊 how are you doing today?
@@JohnFoley-cw9vt doing great thank you for asking
@@tarazippy6617 you're welcome my friend I'm glad you're doing great, where are you from?
It's very interesting and great for new parents to see these different roles and realize the most important thing in GOOD parenting is being consistent! Communication! And empathy!
Books are fine but your parent instinct will grow with your child, you will know what to do, and I think you will be great parents ❤
@@Pler1978 nobody cares what you think. Go away.
@@Pler1978 My mum has not been able to carry anything from me and my sister being age 5 & 3. The first years will be harder on Hannah, but honestly, a huge part of parenting can be done seated and laying down. And they have the luxury of parents around and an ability to hire people to help with more physical things. I don't care that we carried the sunchair to the beach or had to learn to push ourselves on the swings. I care that she was an ever present parent, always willing to listen, help us learn how to make good choices, support and care for us. After the early years, a lot of the physical work of parenting can be either outsourced or creatively solved. Much easier to solve than parents who are absent or emotionally distant.
@@Pler1978 GO AWAY!!!!
I was ready to fight Shane through the screen when he said "success" was 50% hard work. 😂 I'm with you, Hannah, about societal structures, privilege, and luck.
Hello Katie 😊 how are you doing today?
I was raised in a neglectful but authoritarian parenting house. I’m definitely a indulgent parent but I have key aspects of authoritative parenting where I have expectations, some routine (not super strict) and definitely follow through with rules I expect them to follow especially around manners and treating others well.
I've learned a lot as a mom of two and its a constant learning situation. I do "gentle parenting", but it's mostly just treating my child respectfully and helping her figure out the world. I started out more authoritarian, but it was miserable and I hated everyday- have fun with your babies. Of course they need structure, but its completely possible to do without yelling and anger. Of course, i have moments, but i apologize and try to learn more about myself and what sets me off. Good luck guys and enjoy it, do it your way ❤
You two are so much fun! Keep up the good work!
You are both going to be wonderful parents❤❤
Parenting styles are a great Junkyard Mayhem topic. I appreciate the hard work you both do to create entertaining content for us. Many of us use a combination of parenting styles. Hug your child(ren) every day, even when they are doing bad stuff. Get your child help and support if needed. Take a break and breathe when you feel anger rising within.
I absolutely love you guys, you are the cutest couple I have ever seen. I really hope you guys conceive. You totally deserve MORE joy in your life!
I began an injectable meditation a few months ago. The first one was the worst. You are basically a pro now.
Oh my goodness! I can't believe it! Exactly the same thing happened to me last week Hannah. I thought I was going crazy...how is it possible to hurt your back on the exam table at the gynecologist to the point that you can barely get up let alone walk straight??? 😮 You telling this story put my mind at ease so much. I guess it's a thing...
Goes to show ya, those tables with stirrups are dangerous 😅
I'm glad you are feeling better! 🤗
I listened to this episode on my drive in to work. I’m not usually a fan of LA traffic, but today you made this drive so enjoyable, I laughed so much 😂🎉😂. I really enjoy all your videos.
You two are going to be amazing parents! You’ll figure it out along the way, we all do.:)) I have two daughters, and I purposely only had two, so that I could really focus on them and give them the attention that they needed. They were great kids, great teens, and now they’re both your age, and very productive members of society. Raising them was the highlight of my life, and the thing that I’m most proud of, hands down! No other accomplishments compare to my dedication of their upbringing, and how proud I am of how they turned out. You will soon see how absolutely rewarding that parenthood really is! God Bless!!🙏🏼👍🌷
For some reason when you were trying to come up with another name for "agree or disagree" my brain went "yas or trash" 😂
Wow Hannah, I feel so validated 😅 I've been working my butt off for decades since I was a kid, and I am nowhere near the definition of "successful" or satisfied with myself. I am actively working to dismantle my unconscious beliefs about my self worth and ability to attract and manage money.... But I have to agree that hard work does not guarantee success in this society.
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Thanks for letting us into your world!
I feel like H and S will be good parents. Y’all have great communication skill and are very loving. I hope you’re able to achieve your goal of becoming parents.
Hope you are able to follow up with an ortho DR - since you’ve had multiple back injuries of mysterious origin. I hadn’t thought before, about how difficult things could become for both of you if Hannah has physical issues - or is out of commission for a stretch of time. It’s hard enough to be suffering when your spouse doesn’t need your help … but to be knocked out and also still needed for many things throughout the day - wow. That’s a whole lot of extra stress and responsibility. All the more reason it’ll be great to hire someone great to help out the whole family once there is a baby on top of everything else. Be well, both of you. Sending you all good thoughts and lots of care. You’ll figure out the parenting along with your kiddo - each one is so different and requires a little something special. You two are so caring and responsible - so smart and open minded. Things will turn out well!! ☮️❤️🌷
I fell upon you last week and am hooked since. You two are too cute. Btw parenting is so so so hard! There is no perfect parenting. We do our best and forgive ourselves when we aren't proud of our parenting choices. But the most important thing is love! You two will be good, loving parents. ❤
Omg “ but I don’t burn things” 😂😂😂 I laughed so hard at that lol
Is there a reason Liz is the default back up to help you, rather than Hannah's dad, strength wise?
I’m a parent of 6 and YOUVE GOT THIS! It really is as simple as that! Will you always do it right? Nope! And that’s whats hard.
Glad you're feeling better. Sounds like Sciatica maybe, it can do some pretty weird things to you. Worth doing strengthening exercises now for pregnancy and mobility.
I thought the same thing...possibly a pinched sciatica nerve
Good job talking about what styles of parenting you would be like.
Sorry you got hurt. Happy you are better.
I have raised one he’s almost 21 and out of the house. I’m still trying to figure out my daughter each kid is different. You guys will be good parents
I'm glad Hannah is feeling better, just hoping it won't be a problem during pregnancy 😮
@@Pler1978 He can take a larger role when his kids get older and it's more about conversations, emotional support, etc. For sure at the very beginning when there is so much physical work to do he's clearly not going to be able to do so much.
@@Pler1978 he can do more than you!!!
There will be no kids
@@Pler1978 just speak for you bub. tell us you contribute nothing beyond physical ability and your money 😂 tell us you’re replaceable, without telling us you’re replaceable
@@junbh2 When his kids get older, they will be taking care of him!
No matter what you intend, I think every parent veers off path. I look back at the ideas we had for our almost 10 year old daughter in the beginning vs now. It's vastly different.
When you have a child, you'll decide which style works for you. Regardless, after what you're going to in order to try to conceive a child, that child is obviously going to be well loved. Blessed be.
popping in to say that sounds like a back injury situation i’ve had before! i get weird muscle spasms sometimes that cause pinched nerves that keep me from standing up straight! so gnarly. i hope you feel better quickly!!!
I'm not a parent but my mom was more of a helicopter and overprotective parent, to the point where I relied on her for EVERYTHING! I fortunately grew out of it before she died. You guys are going to be awesome parents!
Some parenting advice along with everyone else's parenting advice:
* Children respond to the parents/environment's energy 'vibe.' If the parents are anxious, the kids will be anxious. If the parents are relaxed, then the kids will be chill.
* Always talk through the issues rather than screaming/violence. (Talking through a situation is going to serve them a lot better than hitting, which they'll turn around and do to other people in the future; a learned habit.)
* Skip the 'baby talk.' Use correct grammar - you'll get a smarter kid. 0 to 7 is when they are absorbing everything. The last thing you want to do is teach them how to talk 'wrong.'
* The 3 rules I had for my kids (and they build off each other):
1. Get good grades. (If they're getting good grades, they aren't out doing illegal things.)
2. Don't do anything illegal. (If they do something illegal, there's no bail money so they'll be sitting in jail for a while.)
3. Don't burn down the house. (Self-explanatory.)
* Be the person they know they can talk to about *ANYTHING* and they know they'll get truthful answers from you about *ANYTHING.* Don't hide the truth from kids - they're smart and they'll figure it out. The last thing you need is to have your kid dismiss you because they believe you won't tell them the truth and be straight with them.
* Lastly, let them figure out their preferences on their own. Don't deprive them of experiences by pushing your views and opinions on them. Clearly, the advice of 'Don't play in the street' should be given along with the valid reason of why*, but don't snuff out their curiosity flame, either. (*Always have a valid reason for your 'rules' and be prepared to explain why those rules are in place. By explaining your practicality, you're sharing your world-experience with the child and teaching them how to strategize logically for their own survival.)
Love your podcasts! Great content and they always make me giggle!
There are people in the world without limbs at all that parent, anyone can parent if they really want to succeed. The biggest elements are trust and respect all round ….kids will try you whatever your abilities.
How do they change diapers, hold them, feed the baby, clean them, and dress them? with their robotic arms?
I was a permissive parent where me and my son were best friends but because of his chill good nature he was born with, this style actually worked extremely well for him. And for us. This style matched our personalities. And I grew up free range and had the most amazing childhood imaginable😊
It's important to say that you can't be be friends with your child though because you are ultimately in control of the decisions, as you should be. It can't be a friendship because it's not an equal relationship and they shouldn't be required to support you emotionally as a friend would, you should turn to your own adult friends for that.
@@powderandpaint14 well he's 22 now. But yeah I the main caregiver and we did hang out all the time as friends and yet I was also clearly a parent he respected and listened to me, his dad. I believe both can totally go hand in hand.
You two got it! Good parents skills.
Another great podcast…very entertaining! ❤️🙏
This was so interesting. You are going to be great parents. I think you compliment each other so much that it will make you a good parenting pair.
when i was pregnant the first time, I read a book called - something like, how to talk so kids will listen and listen so kids will talk. it had a huge impact on me but really, my first reaction was - omg we should talk to EVERYONE this way!
That’s a great book!
also my kids had sensory issues and the mint toothpaste burned their mouths. One got over it, one uses toms cinnamon.
One thing about helicopter parenting - at least how I think about it and it would be the difference to the anxious type - is also the perfectionismn about it, so you plan the full day for the child, it attends several courses (which in itself is not a bad thing, it's just the amount) and then overly concerned with grades and those things and yeah as you said sometimes "helping" the child a bit too much
Yesterday I was so disappointed, because I thought that for some reason you didn’t do your podcast! It wasn’t until later that I realized it was onlyTuesday. Duh, this is what happens when you’re an old lady and and no longer has a schedule. So happy to see you today!
26:27 Not too much “be careful” is wise, haha. It’s a bit abstract for kids, and can be an unsafe distraction sometimes.
Hannah, you’re definitely on the right track. Another alternative could be “These tiles feel very slippery, don’t they? It would really hurt to fall on them. Let’s practice walking slowly.“
Check out the Montessori method or respectful parenting groups. They can help to find a comfortable balance between helicopter and free range 😊
Hannah, I had the exact symptoms in my back many years ago. Mine turned out to be a tiny piece of vertebrae had broken off. Surgery was the only solution. So glad yours fixed itself!! I can hardly wait to see how your parenting styles meet your expectations in, say, 5 years. Did you nail it? How did it (or not) change over time. I know you are going to be great parents.
There are millions of able bodied parents who are not parenting their vhildren nowadays...I think you two are just fine😊
Love and Logic is a great way to parent. There are books and videos about it. Also sometimes classes are available at schools.
Honestly, I feel like a good parent will pull something from most of these. 😂
Can't wait til you have your first child, and see how your doing! ☺️
🌟 🌟 🌟 🌟 🌟 heres your "5" star review Hannah 😊
I enjoy watching and listening to you two so much, you're very endearing. You guys are gonna do great.
That's one lucky kid that will get you for parents 😊
You've become required viewing. I can't do without my daily fix of basking in your palpable Love, a vicarious joy to behold in cyberspace on all points of the compass, for it warms the cockles of my heart. I think you should know that I avoid idiomatic English like the plague. I don't always succeed. And as for your engaging sense of repartee, I can't stop chortling here at my end of the lines of communication. My chuckle muscle has never been so exercised...
Good Morning!!! Love your channel!!
God Bless you both ☦️
Sorry your back is bothering you, Hannah. Have you tried physical therapy? I used to work for a physiotherapy company and was always amazed at how much PT helped our clients. One thing that would start you on the right track to a healthy spine is to not sit with your legs crossed. That’s a hard habit to break because we (females) were raised to “sit like a lady”, but I did it and know you can too. People, please don’t come at me in the comments, I love Hannah and Shane, have followed them for years, and wish nothing but the best for them.
You'll make my day. I need a good laugh to get me going. Shane has a good sense of humor. Parenting does not come with a book. I wish I could go back and do a lot of things over, although my children turned out very well. It comes with experience as you go. Blessings to you both.
Ya know in this day and age sometimes some people don't have what's called normal,,,so nice to see you guys hold conversations and hope more people have the dynamic of normalcy,,,,we'll whatever that is I guess, but it's nice to see and hear you guys being you guys,,,I don't really know what I'm saying but it's nice to experience intellectual people, thank you guys for having your channels 🙂
Shane's hair is so short ! I like the new style, looks really good on you Shane!
I’m glad Hannahs feeling better and that IVF is going well so far. I have no place to be giving you advice or a diagnosis but Hannah has mentioned things in the past (stomach stuff) that sound EDS/Hypermobility Spectrum Disorder related. It used to be thought of as rare but really it’s just under-diagnosed. The back thing might be related. It affects connective tissue, which is in all the body systems, so weird, seemingly unrelated stuff can happen throughout the body.
Hello dear 😊 how are you doing today?
I have a compliment for you two. Myself and you guys, I think are total opposites when it comes to politics. That being said, you manage to create an awesome show that I love. I think about this every time I watch, and the reason is because I used to love watching the late night shows like Kimmel and Fallon, but then in 2016 they became unwatchable for me, because they hated my favorite president so much so, that they pretty much lost half the countries viewers with the way they acted and talked. So I wanted to tell you thankyou for putting out really great content that is very enjoyable.❤
Look into Rie parenting method. It sounds like you both would like this one the most. it’s exactly what you both say you want to parent in your beliefs and give kids the ability to learn from their mistakes with support from parents.
In my days of parenting we were lucky. We could just say 'well kids don't come with instructions" so if we weren't perfect it was accepted.
These days kids do come with instructions but working out which instructions are the ones to follow is now the problem.
We got our son by clomid and we had 5 follicles in there. We also have twins on each side of the family. Your videos are awesome
29:40 you guys talking about this is exactly how I have felt about my future for how I parent.
Hannah, please go get an MRI of your hip and back 💕 love you guys!
You all will be the best parents & will you make mistakes like all of us, but I can see now that you both will be on the same page and that’s the main thing is being on the same page.
I think hard work pays off my son is now 37 married with two children. He has been a business owner for 10 years and if he had not worked very hard, he would not have what he has nothing is ever been handed to him.
With God’s help!
Hannah I hope you continue feeling better, and I hope whatever that was doesn’t happen when you were pregnant .❤️🙏🏼
You will handle parenting like champs. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
You guys will be great parents!