How a Married Couple of 52 Years Stayed In Love Through Dementia
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 21 เม.ย. 2021
- When his wife of 52 years was diagnosed with dementia last year, this Chinatown hawker made the difficult decision to stop work and look after the love of his life.
Truly #couplegoals 😢 ❤️
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We first covered Uncle Mun Cheong in 2018, when he was still operating his stall at Chinatown. Thought it was quite annoying to ask for likes and shares during the video, but do give us some support by liking, subscribing and sharing! You can check out the original video at: th-cam.com/video/F5IIcFdR1iI/w-d-xo.html
no wonder he look so familiar lah! Wow, means i have been a supporter of OGS for years =x
@@omega_3_998 thanks for supporting us all these years! 🙆🏻♀️
@@omega_3_998 yeah I thought the same thing, especially when he said he lived in Chinatown. I was looking forward to visiting his stall when I came to Singapore, but I guess it can't happen anymore :<
Wish all the best for him and his wife!
@@minhchau1719 Hey! You could always come by and visit Mun Cheong's older brother's dessert stall at Chinatown Complex! They sell similar desserts! th-cam.com/video/F5IIcFdR1iI/w-d-xo.html You might spot Mun Cheong and his wife there too!
@@OGS.Official I'll definitely pay a visit! 😊
Thank you for bringing such a wonderful story to us, OGS ❤
This uncle honoured the vows "in sickness and in health." He is a great husband.
True we all want that love
I fully agree.
❤❤❤ love 💯💪🦾🙏🙏🙏❤❤❤🥰🥰🥰
Grandma forgets her age but she rmmbrs the love grandpa gives. That is true love 💚💚☺️
You will be surprise that most seniors with dementia may not remember their children but it's always their partners ❤️ I work in a nursing home and have a fair share of stories like this.
Lol I can't tell if she's faking it with all those smiling.
@@matildalieu8139 Can you use trick like reversed psychology on them to do what you want?
@@condorX2 At your own risk. Some of them can even tell you that you're lying to them.
I personally wouldn't recommend playing mind games unless it's necessary. E.g. Not wanting to shower for days (Common behaviour among seniors living with dementia) and it's really important for them to maintain hygiene.
@@matildalieu8139 cheers for the fast reply.
I have a follow up question. What's the basic prevention for dementia?
This is the most beautiful thing I have seen since my dad took care of my mom up until her death. She had 2 strokes, and 3 bouts of cancer before she died. He absolutely refused to put her in a nursing home and she was blessed to be able to die in her own bed in her house with Dad by her side the entire time. He loves her still and can't wait to be with her again. They were married 48 years when she died. Another beautiful example of true love. We miss you Mom.
My condolences 💐 to you and your family I hope your dad is ok now without your mom might be so hard for him. God bless you all.
Lovely, 😍😘😇🙏
Yes we all want that love
Am sorry for your loss may she RIP.
My dad went through the exact same situation, he took care of my mum every moment, we all accompanied her through repeated hospital visits for chemo and endless treatments.. my mum fought hard under my dad's care until she passed in 2020. I've lost my grandma and grandpa too since then and the number of my family is just getting lesser and lesser something I never imagined I would have need to go through when I was a little kid..
5:35 it sounds as if uncle was choking abit on his tears. my heart broke when he said the cantonese saying, you could really feel how much he cherish her. Our society is really progressing at such a rapid pace and sometimes I wonder how scared and anxious our elderlies feel when facing the unknown... Truly, dementia is such a horrible thing - it takes away every memory you share with your loved one... Good health to uncle and auntie, and thank you for your wise words....
Yes .. he was choking on his tears before he offered his Cantonese saying & its at that point, im sure many tear up including me 🥺
年轻那么美
If they practice Taoism ☯️ they would be fine.
Watched till the end and it gets sad. I could tell you that not many would want to stay with their partner any longer when one of them got diagnosed badly. Some left because they couldn’t bear the burden, but here we got an uncle who keeps his promises and vows just like they did 50 years ago 😢
Most people marry for sex or money so obviously when you lost either one of it , it is just too miserable to go on. From the town I come fro., Sibu divorce is rare amongst retireees. Most would choose to drag on in grudge and sufferings. Domestic violence mostly in verbal abuse is common.
My father in law 85, he stills want to keep his wife 80 yrs with dementia with him coz he felt lost without her too. They been together since he 20s.
I am in tears just to hear how devote he is to her, and still love her and still treasure her....May they be together til the end without suffering too greatly🤦♂️🤦♀️🙏🙇♀️...
@@Embole-uk1tlThank you. Hopefully, you know she is dementia, sometime she couldn't not recognise him then she would asked you who this man. ,,😂 ...he looked after her but she a few time ran off. Then mum in law had to move to aged care facility, and dad in law go to see her everyday... sometime she came to see him.
I believe there are very loyal zodiac signs that will keep their promise till the end, like cancer , Capricorn etc. Also we create our own reality. If we are pure, we also attract pure soul mates in our lives (same can be said for superficiality). We can manifest our true love if we want
My dad had dementia and died in 2014 of a heart attack. This uncle is such a gem. His wife is lucky to have him.
Umm. There's two people in the relationship. Meaning it takes two to work on the fate they were bestowed in this lifetime. Love is the only thing real, everything else is an illusion. If they want to reincarnate they will find each other as their bond is strong in this lifetime
Yes
Dementia seems to the worse possible thing, you spend your entire life making treasured memories especially with your significant other or even family and one day your brain starts deteriorating. Progressively getting worse, I've got older relatives and I don't look forward to this stage in their life. 😓
So true 😔 Dementia is a horrible thing and it progresses too. I hope that we will find a cure for it one day
The sad thing in most cases nobody wants to care! Even own offsprings or spouse! Most would want a fee!!!!++
My father is suffering from dementia..about 6-years after his diagnosis,mom was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer. Mom is physically sick.dad is mentally sick.
@@ycl9234 not that simple. My late grandpa had Dementia. It gets to a point where he just eat, sleep, stare at TV shows with no reaction. Even when we all talk to him, there is nothing. It’s like his soul had already left his body.
Very easy to say this, but are you willing to clean your dad/Mum private parts after they soil themselves? That is a impt question.
Sometimes it’s not a matter whether we want or not, it’s whether can we do it? Will your employer let you take frequent annual leave or leaving work early?
Most of the time, we can’t. So we had to hire private nurse and a maid to take care of him.
@Matsotello Molefe My grandma told me similar, she does crossword puzzles and activities that stimulates her brain rather than not do that. She said she read an article that said it helps, never stopped since with her brain activities.
Dementia is really sad. You just have to be patient, talk to them and listen to them. The good thing I would say is that I saw the love that my grandparents have for each other.
True
So very true. My mother has it and it is totally heart breaking. Feels like you want to cry but no tears are coming out. She lost everything. She didn't even know me as her son. Devastating.
In india,most of the wives would take care of their husband even in their period of sickness ,to say it simple till their last breath,but very very rare to see that the husband would take care of his wife in the same way during wive's hardtime.After seeing this couple,the world become hopeful.
That's imbalanced, and not a good environment esp for children. It will create too much ancestral karma. Finding true love and harmonious relationship has to be balance, like the yin and yang ☯️
True
@@NetiNeti-gm5bz yes.
@@abinayaradhakrishnan6382 thank you for acknowledging.
Truly loving husband, no complaints and resentment , respect to him! Truly loving couple.
my mother has dementia for about seven years now and she totally forgot who my brother and I were to her but recently she called me by my name and cried like a baby....its devastating not only to the person but also the family.
Oh my dear 😢
God bless you
Ohnim sorry my friend
This Chinatown Hawker Centre desserts uncle always keeps his hair neat and tidy..wedding....at work previously and now at home....miss his Ice Jelly
You can patronise his elder brother's stall at Chinatown Food Complex. They sell similar desserts!
PS. You might spot Mun Cheong and Yong Jnn hanging out at his brother's stall ;)
th-cam.com/video/F5IIcFdR1iI/w-d-xo.html
Yes. I remembered his ice jelly top up with cocktails fruits. Best I had ever eaten.
Uncle still looks good at 80.
Yes aged well
This loving husband has demonstrated what true love means. In our highly materialistic society today, most couples marry for money and good times. However, when the money or good time is gone, and so is their love. How sad!
Honestly, if I am young and just want good times, I don't need to get married.
In my opinion, marriage means to find your better second half who really loves and appreciates you no matter if it is in good times or in bad situations.
A loving spouse will encourage you when you fail, wipe your tears when you are sad, life you up when you fall, and stay by your bedside when you are sick. When there is true love, it doesn't matter how much work you do in caring for your ailing spouse, you will still find joy from it.
Have you ever wonder why you have chosen your spouse out of more than 7 billion people in the world? I hope that all married couples would love and appreciate your second half just like the loving husband in the video.
My grandmother gave me some sage words of advice; a wedding is lovely but is nothing but fluff and ceremony. A marriage is the important thing and is how well you stick to your vows every day after. It means when times are hard, when you aren’t getting along, through the sleepless nights and when your partner is sick, you stand by them, support them, encourage them and advocate for them as best you can. It has helped me immensely and 23 years later we are still going strong..
He is a loving and devoted husband. I pray to find someone like him🥰
Yes true. God bless you
Hope your wish comes true.
Looks like a small run-down flat, but they are some of the most blessed people. True love is rare.
This is not run down, it's just a retro well-kempt house. Just a generic 3 room flat that a lot of people stay in.
Not very rundown in my opinion though, all it needs is some cleaning and packing (between the tiles especially)
@@MrBoliao98 definitely well-kempt especially considering Mun Cheong at 80yrs looks like the only one cleaning, cooking and caring for his wife. I’m sure a lot of the stuff in the house help ground Yong Jnn and reminds her of who & where she is.
@@weiwenwwe2066 you haven't watch renovaid before, their condition very dignified and kempt
It looks like a normal 3 room flat to me. I live in a 3 room flat and so do my grandparents. You must be a rich heir or smth
Edit: Their kitchen looks bigger than an old 3 room estate
😭😭😭😭 this reminds me of how much my grandfather takes care of my grandmother when she was still alive. She got stroke and the left side of her body got paralyzed for years. She couldn't speak much too. They'd usually guess what she's trying to say. My grandfather cleans my grandmother's fake teeth, he gives her her medicines, he always eats with her, breaks down her food into little pieces, etc. She eventually got lung cancer and died. My grandfather was very sad. I don't know how long they've been married they got 6 children, my dad is the 5th child.
So rare to find love like this in this modern times.
Truly a lasting commitment to marital vows for eternity.
Yes beautiful
He has alot of patience and i respect that
Yes amen
Reminds me so much of my late grandparents. Grandma use to have pretty severe dementia, but grandpa never got tired of taking care of her day in and out . Tho sometimes it gets frustrating he’s always been so loving and patient with her. I swear , the love our grandparents use to have is so pure and genuine. Back then people use to mean it when they say “till death do us part “.
I cried watching this episode. My granny has dementia & my grandfather used to be the one who take care of her daily life including making sure she eats & making sure she takes her medications on time. But Feb 2021, my grandfather passed away, everything seems so different now, home is so quiet (because no one is there to talk to granny & she don’t like to talk to us due to dementia). I miss seeing the both of them at home :(
Now THIS is called true love.
Yes true love
This reminds me of my grandpa suffering from dementia and has forgotten everyone else yet still remembers my granny and their love. Granny passed away last year but we had to tell him shez with a cousin in the US for medical treatment. He would cry and wear multiples clothes and tie a bundle of cloth with biscuits inside and pretend to sleep and once he thinks he has fooled us he would run out to go to my grandma😭. Luckily we live in a close knit society but still scary what if someday he manages to slip past everyone 😭
I cried reading this 😭😭
@@Kangkuuung 😢
Please closed eye on him, one of a cousin on my sister husband side. He was young and in a mild stage but got out and he went around talking none sense, people think he is crazy and younsters bullied him, beat the crab out of him....several times the end he passed away from brain damaged😢
@@Embole-uk1tl dear lord that's terrible 😭
Hearts never ever forget. True love never dies.
You are a noble man to stick with your wife in sickness and in health. God bless your loyalty and kind heart.
Yes
Going through this problem as well. I dote my mum more than anyone else in this world.
Whenever I came back from work,, she would stood there and asked me this question, "who are you? what are you doing in my house?"
I cried almost everyday. She always tell me how much she love her son & she misses him, that was when I know she is talking about me, because I'm her only son.
I went into depression and was badly affected, not just at work but at home too.
Please take care of your parents and spend more time with them.
Be strong..
my grandmother had dementia too. Do pray and look up some good resources on interacting with dementia patients. E.g. love them, laugh with them, hug them (if they're willing) or else just touch them in ways they can appreciate. Give them things they enjoy. Play hymns or soothing music. Use scents they like in the house eg lavender oil or lemongrass or lemon or orange. Talk to them in ways they can understand and never give up, always listen to them. But accept that her brain biochemical processes have caused her to be unable to access memories - accept it, don't contradict her but always smile, be kind, and always love... (I went through the "grieving" process of 'losing' my grandma's mind already; now I'm happy when she's happy, and be happy as they can mirror ur emotions.)
I used to work at nursing homes back in Australia and took care of people with dementia.
I LOVE THAT JOB.!!!
People with dementia are my favorites.
I love them differently from others.!!!
I never get tired in dealing with them!!!It was hard work looking after them but very SATISFYING!!!
I have so much memories of them! Talking about it makes me teary and miss them.
I had so much fun with them, we used to laugh together, cry together at times I would sit and eat with them. I have many funny stories from the residents. Lol. They are hilarious. Lol.
Cherish your family and those that care and love you while they still alive and remember you. Never know what life brings next.
Bless you're so my friend
You are a true angel. 👍💐
My grandfather and grandmother are both the same age as them, with my grandmother having dementia as well. This just made me cry and regret how much time I didn't spend with them when they were here.
i started bursting into tears.....
Oooooh of all places
We often forget how fragile life is and take everything for granted. Cherish every moment we have with our loved ones and always treat them as if its the last time you're seeing them.
After you are dead, only love survives the grave. All good people will be met by Love on the other side.
Yes true my friend
As someone who looks after dementia sufferers, my heart aches for them, repeating the same conversation, and often they know they are losing their memories, at times they burst into tears and breakdown over it, and their spouse, feels lost from it... I pray me and my fiance never face this heartache
I knew of a family who were so loving & caring towards their 87year old mother who was suffering from dementia.The son would let her stay in her reverie since the mother's memory had taken her back to the time she was a young girl staying at her parents house & would think that her son was her elder brother & ask him to take her back to her parents house.The son would then take her out for a ride & let her sing & enjoy the outdoors before coaxing her to get her back home.He would listen to her & keep her engaged.She lived a very happy & peaceful life till she reached 92 years of age & left this world in her sleep.
Brings tears to my eyes, not only from how Dementia robs memories away but also how he has resigned to coping with his wife suffering from it 🥺
His love for her is not only admirable but incredibly beautiful ❤❤❤
I know it so very well when my dad had Dementia before finally succumbed to a heart attack & passed on 😔
I wish you both a long, happy life together
Listening to uncle talks of his wife's appetites, I think she has Lewy Body dementia. My mom had Lewy Body dementia, beside memory loss, the loss of appetite as well as body weights.
True love is so rare. I pray to be one of the lucky ones. When BOTH are in love. Not just one.
I wish you all the best my friend
the best thing you can ask for in life :). so precious
It is precious like you
So love to hear how sweet he talks about their marriage..
Yes it is amazing
I once helped out with a charity org. It seems some with dementia can totally forget about everything and some have short term memory lost but remember clearly what happened 70 to 80 years back.
my father is loosing touch with reality - and its hard to accept. But like this guy said it.... you can forget everything but love will never change. We can't blame them thus we have to work around it. T_T Touching.
The greatest acts of love are done in the smallest ways 💖 I wish many would be so lucky to know a devoted love 😘 where as the world we live today , I would not expect a younger man to give up his business for his wife ... They would rather give up the wife 🙈💖🥰 This man is Wonderful ... He puts the Term in " sickness & health ” she will never truly know how lucky she is to be loved so deeply 💖
Hope this sweet elderly couple is still living well and happy now. Hope the wife dementia condition can get better or at least don't get worse. May them be healthy and happy till their last moments
If this gentleman is not a real man then I don’t know who is and thank you for not abandoned your wife and to care for her and it’s hard but in the end you will be embraced by heaven for being a kind man and a wonderful heart and I wish you two the best of the best in every journey you two may cross
I agree with you I agree with you
Wedding photo of them is so beautiful 😍, What a Handsome pair
What a beautiful person this grandpa is 🥲
I shed a tear at the last part. He is so sweet and dedicated to his wife.
Wow, 52 years!!
They're so nice and amazing.. hehe
very lovable couple. true love does exists.
He hold on firmly on that Chinese philosophy in marriage. Man like him is real rare to find nowadays.
A lovely couple. He shows so much of sincerity both are inseparable. God bless.
This is never easy. Especially when a couple is together for more than half their life time. I know it first hand, my mum is currently experiencing dementia and my dad is taking care of her.
I got tears in my eyes. It is not easy to find a partner who would love and stay with you during your darkest times.
She's blessed to have such a faithful husband! Nowadays we seldom have this type of husband!
Now that's TRUE LOVE. You say it best, when you say Nothing at All..May God Bless them both with Good Health, Uncle for Strength
I send you grandpa and grandma all my best wishes and hugs. I wish you both good health and continue to be strong.
A true love unconditionally..caring for each other in heath and sickness ..all the very best to u 2 .👍
Thank you for sharing this beautiful yet heart breaking story. This is the definition of love ❤️. I wish them all the best
Another point from the story: uncle still ran his business long after the average retirement age. Really an inspiration! Thanks for sharing this beautiful content OGS 😍
很尊敬 Uncle 对妻子不离不弃的爱情❤和照顾。 👍👏💐
An incredibly moving story! Love how Uncle says” It takes thousand years being cultivated to be married to each other”
True love story my friend
There's nothing in this world that could ever destruct the willful power of love that pushes through boundaries and difficult circumstances with strength and loyalty.
God bless him and her.
wedding photo of a Beautiful couple...yesterday,today and tomorrow😍
What a love story of 2 pwople is inlove even do grandma ia suffering from dimentia god bless u both
❤️. Words fail me coz I understand completely. I wish there was a cure for this. I wish.. I wish..
Wow look at the thumbnail 😍 what a beautfiul picture 🥰
Such genuine feelings... Admirable...
True love ❤️ is unconditional ❤️
To grow old and be in love is an unparalleled blessing ❤
I think this is the most beautiful love story on the whole of the internet. ❤
God Bless this beautiful couple. Hope they will be healthy for years to come.
Been together for 52 years...you are very responsible & caring husband ...Thank you for your story uncle Mun Cheong
This is so heartwarming to see bless them
I'M NOT CRYING YOU ARE
What a beautiful couple so devoted to each other after so many years together. Caring for her in such ducficult times shows how deep the love is. ❤❤
please God don't take my memory from me. this is so heart wrenching. I'm crying because I know how much this affect our loved ones...
Thank you brother for you respecting the woman of your rib. You are a fine example of a human being. Many more days and blessings for the both of you. Bro yo and her look great!😇💞😎🥰
This was so sentimental and sweet.
This is LOVE IN ACTION>
God bless both of them for a long and happy life together.
This is the true meaning of joyful and hapiness♡
I feel the pain 😞 I have been gone through this when my father has Alzheimer's .he pass away 2019
You are a remarkable man. I have so much respect for men who loves & takes care of their wives in times like these
Im crying.. of this beautiful story between man and woman
It's hard nowadays to have such a loyal partner till old . Only love you purely . It's one of my dream to have a true love in this live
We all do
Heart warming love. To be cherished. God bless them.
Soulmates💞🙏 God Bless
we miss u uncle and auntie...you both takecare! love ur story 😥❤
Even since he closed his dessert hawker store, I rarely have any Asian ice desserts anymore. Uncle was generous with the amount with cheap price and always happy when I speak Cantonese with him. Really happy to still see them around the hawker for lunch. Stay happy and healthy always.
This couple is truly forever lasting love 💕💕💕💕🌹🌹🌹
She’s so pretty omg
The greatest lesson we can learn from this story...it's all about love...
Beautiful people with beautifully soul
This is what true love looks n feels like... Amazingly beautiful
His last words were very meaningful to me
To show you love someone comes from action. He was such a good man to give up his business to take care of the wife. I said the wife had to be the luckiest person to have such a wonderful husband. That's called Love.👍👍👍💖💖😎😎
Indeed. True love is hard and is long suffering. Its not about fluttering passion, but a lifetime commitment.
I agree my friend
He said the hardest thing in life to find is marriage and it takes a thousand years to build up the fate to be able to marry each other. Yeah many find that fate and end up in divorces, abuses, cheating and even distantness in old years.
I think he also means marrying someone you love..someone you will love until your life ends
@@malu8710 Agreed
@@GuacamoleyNacho this isnt what you were talking about in your og comment which is why I commented that way. Also, you just completely diverted from what I said lmao. Since you just clearly went on to talk about divorce, abuse and stuff, I just naturally talked about him talking about the love he has for his wife.
While I do agree with what you said in this latest comment, you dont have to act like the wisdom master yourself. I mean, no disrespect but you took a completely negative side of things. Being someone who understands Mandarin, I got what he said was something like what I explained. I cleared it up. The truth is, while its true, it seems like 2 people wrote the og comment and this one because I replied meaning it in a very different way
May God give her ease and more happy times with her wonderful husband. Ameen
Thank you so much for posting this and editing the video so magnificently. Debussy’s music at the end was such a beautiful, beautiful accompaniment to your grandfather’s saying, our love is otherworldly, not worried or concerned by the troubles of this world.
Thank you.
My parents are just like that. Mom has dementia and dad is like uncle. 😭😭😭
Oh I'm sorry for that my friend
@@friedrichvlogs2477 🙆🏻♂️
Beautiful & it's not a Drama but real life!!