How I Raised 4 Kids After My Ex-Wife Left Me | Can Ask Meh?
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 7 มิ.ย. 2024
- When Wayne’s ex-wife walked out on his family 14 years ago, he was left to raise four children on his own. Devastated and overwhelmed, he struggled to hold his family together.
In this episode of Can Ask Meh?, this single dad shares how he navigated his relationship with his children and found the strength to move forward as a family of five.
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0:00 Intro
0:42 Do you think your family is broken?
4:24 Are dads less capable than mums at parenting?
9:22 Do kids of single parents have it harder?
12:51 Did you ever feel less loved because you only had one parent?
15:11 What are you most grateful to each other for?
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It's already challenging to raise 1 kid with both parents, what more with 4? He showed us that tough times don't last, only tough people do.
Everything was cheap last time
Cheap is relative and subjective, every era has its own form of inflation.
"You've done many things right"
Most dad's would be over the moon to hear that. ❤
i cried like a baby watching this one, you can feel the love and dedication he has for his family, and it honestly blows my mind away with the amount of selflessness and care he is able to pour into his family, i would love to tell him how proud we all are of him, of how he has done such great job as a father and i am so so grateful he chose to continue to move forward, and never give up, truly a dad for life, sending all the love to you and your family
Seriously crying like a baby here!!!
to be raised by only a dad and to be so outspoken and comfortable expressing his emotions and love towards his father, he was definitely raised right!!!
Sometimes we are better when we were not raised correctly. We learned what not to do and how not to be from our parents.
Im a mom who also raised 4 kids alone, it was tough but rewarding because they are all professionals now and living lives better than what I’ve experienced.
He used to teach in my primary sch! Even though most of my memories are already foggy, I remembered that he was always super supportive of his oldest son (was in the same level as him) and stood up for him against bullies
I can’t imagine the level of maturity that 17 year old has.
There’s absolutely no bitterness in this family for when the mother walked out of their lives.
Infact, you can sense the calm, happiness, peace and serenity of this family that even two dysfunctional parents together can hardly even achieve.
Age doesn’t define maturity
This dad truly deserves an award for being so selfless and holding his family together despite all the hardships.
I burst out crying when I saw how similar my family is with Wayne's.
My dad raised me the eldest daughter (24) and my two sisters, youngest is 20 as a single father since I was in primary 2.
I used to wish I can follow my mother instead. As a little girl, a mother was everything to me. I have always felt that my family is broken and when I was younger I blame my father a lot for a lot of things mainly his lack of understanding. His pressure in my studies to not have people looked down on us for not having a mother and the many screaming arguments. The financial issues make us realise how important money is but we never went on any trips after my parents divorced.
But as I grow up, I realise my dad isn't perfect he is only human and a man who have no idea how to raises 3 girls all by himself but he is constantly trying his best and giving his best to us.. Looking back I can agree I wouldn't turn out this well if my dad hadn't raised me. Now all I want is to earn enough money to take him places he always wanted to go but can't because he put us first.
Thank you for sharing. You let me see a part of my dad that I didn't know existed.
You are such a good girl. Your dad raised you right. 👍👍👍
Hi! Thank you for sharing your story. I am a 2nd year Sociology master's student at Nanyang Technological University. I hope it’s okay that I am reaching out to you here.
As part of my thesis, I am conducting interviews with single fathers in Singapore to better understand the experiences and challenges of being the main caregiver of their children in Singapore. Till date, no study has been done locally to focus specifically on the experiences of single fathers. Would you be willing to connect so I can share more?
what a dad. You've been through peaks and valleys together and that matters. You guys are a beautiful family.
Wayne is a dad that all dads would be proud of. I hope his children do well in life so that that his sacrifices are worth it.
My first time leaving a comment on any youtube videos.
I am also a single dad. My spouse passed away 5 years ago, leaving me with a 8yo girl. Now that 5 years has passed, we got used to this new family structure and adapt to the new habits. Life has to go on.
It’s really tough to be a single parent and he has a daughter. I’m glad Wayne has survived it all. Happy for him now that the kids are grown up.
Nothing is more broken than a family with both parents are present and yet they continue to hurt each other and their kids daily.
That's so true! People don't acknowledge how badly that messes up the kids' psychologically. They always want to act as if having 2 messed up parents is better than having 1 parent who tries to be better.
@@emmehouston well said 👏👍💪
Not OGS making me cry on a Friday morning 😅 Thoroughly enjoyed this interview. Thank you Wayne & son for sharing so deeply & authentically about their experiences. Kudos to Wayne for being alive, staying strong for your children. You are good enough. And we certainly need more parents like you in our society. Wishing you and your family good health and happiness!
To the other commenters who were wondering what happened to the ex-wife, why she left, if he remarried - you guys completely missed the point of this interview. Marriages break down for many reasons. As outsiders, we will not know what went on. But this is a video about a father’s love for his children.
I’m curious if Wayne’s family had offered assistance in some way?? You’re right ! We should focus on what’s shared…..give credits and acknowledgment to the many right things he did…..I’m touched to the core of my heart ❤️ well done 👏
Your family isn't broken as long as you love and care for each other. Same cannot be said for some "complete" families who abuse each other.
Very true. Research has shown it is more damaging for kids if their parents fight or abuse each other on a daily basis. Better to split.
I cried while watching this.. it remind my dad single parent look after me and my sibling of 4 while we are only below 12yrs old .. now 30yrs later i start to realise it how hard it is after watching this men in the video elaborate his story how strong my dad is to raise 4 sibling of us.. love my dad forever
The father is very honest. No sugar coated answers or political answer, which is a norm whenever there is a camera.
Thank you for sharing his experiences. Salute a father who dedicated his life to make sure he provides for his children.
Oh my Good lord. I bet no one can finish the video without some tears. Huge respect❤
Hello Mr Toh! Studied at cckps when u were teaching. Time flies i’m alr 29 haha. Amazed at your journey and how your kids have grown up to be such good people. You’re always an inspiration. Take care and God bless u
The amount of love that dad has for his family❤❤ And his son is filled with so much compassion, beautiful parenting!
ANYBODY CAN BE A DAD, BUT IT MAKES A GREAT MAN LIKE YOU, TO BE A VERY GREAT AND SPECIAL DAD.
"HAPPY FATHER'S DAY AND HAVE A BLESSED LIFE FOREVER MORE".
Wayne having to raise all four children including a daughter on his own is very commendable! He is a strong father and I can see how he persevered. The best part is that he is not selfish.
I wish I had a dad like him who cares about my emotional needs too since I also come from a broken family.
wah piang. cry like mad. this is an example of what a real man is. and wayne is blessed beyond measure. well done sir
Mr Wayne taught me photography in i think p5/p6 in NYPS in 2012/2013. He was such an engaging and fun teacher. He is so funny when teaching, oh i miss those fun times.... im so glad he is doing well !!!
Our mom left our family, my dad, and 4 of us siblings when I was 9. my dad was not good husband, but my mom left her own 4 kids. My dad wasn’t like this gentleman and got emotional/depressed/not stable. It was a long road of traumas for us all 4 siblings. Although we reunited with our mom eventually, chaos continued through out our childhood. Mom repeatedly left us a few more time, though our my childhood. And dad was never the same with his business partner stole all his business, and he never be a father figure like he used to us anymore. Our childhood continued with repeated abandonments, chaos, and traumas… all of us siblings never really recover as we became adults.
I was the lucky one to have a stable career, while my siblings have suffer more, even thought they are so smart or smarter then me. As expected, All of us have extreme challenges in relationships, as we never have a stable role models and understanding of self love , and we brought unresolved childhood traumas into our relationships. All these are formulas for disastrous relationships and life.
Took me and us years to figure out and untangle lives, instead of living, striving , growing our lives.
Your confusion,pain and anger all the subsequent negative emotions are well understood. You’ve done one more right thing to share this to the world 🌎 right now…. GOD BE WITH YOU AND CONTINUE TO GUIDE YOU ALONG YOUR JOURNEY….🙏😇 in JESUS name
May God continue to bless you and your siblings with Joy each day
I actually cried watching this because it reminded me of my dad bringing up 2 girls (my sis & I) when we were still in diapers and in kindergarten. It certainly wasn't easy for him at all, but I'm forever grateful for him ❤ This is why we should always be kind to others and the people we meet, for everyone has their own struggles.
Can understand how tough it was being a single parent as l was in the same shoe & l can strongly feel his emotional moments when it became hard to handle, my respect for doing a good job 👏
ninja cutting onionsss - every family is special! He's an amazing Dad.
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It must have been so challenging with 4 kids but u have done well. Your son is a fine young gentlemen, I m sure the rest of the kids are too. Enjoy them.....
omg I took a psychology class for uni recently and he was in my class! I love his passion for lifelong learning and knowing that he's a single dad makes me respect him so much more 🥹
I was raised by my dad with the help of my aunties since i was 4. My dad would always pick me up at night and a few years ago I found out he has been in school part time so that he can earn higher to raise me alone. I start being independent at 6, coming home from school and buying food by myself so my dad didn’t have to worry much about me. My dad would always instruct me to always come back home straight from school and wait for him to come home. He told me he has always felt guilty I don’t really have anyone else to play with so he got me pets so I don’t feel lonely.
And yet through all the hardships he had of raising me alone, he is still so supportive of all the things I want to accomplish. I know I wasn’t the easiest daughter to raise.
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May God bless your relationship with dad with joy.
Baby of the family is not shy to tell his Pa he loves him, wants and needs him around❤ Pa has indeed done many things right. ❤
Omg its really you elliot!! I'm liang you. Its sad to know that you were raised by a single parent but i am too, my dad left my mom before i was born and so i was raised by my mom from birth. I can relate to your pain of not being able to experience the love of the other parent but it's always comforting to know that we still grew up to be good gentlemen despite this setback we faced. I wish you best of luck for your O levels and to be able to enrol in the institution of your choice! ❤
Thank you Wayne, for honouring your pain & sharing your struggles authentically. May this be a beautiful reminder to us all about the deep impact and importance of a father’s role in a child’s life 🎉
I enjoyed this interview a lot. It made me cry to witness the honest and heartfelt sharing. You can feel the love and mutual pride radiating from both father and son. Thank you OGS for this amazing interview. ❤
What an inspiring video to watch on Father’s Day. I was tearing at the end.
Wayne, I have so admiration for u as a single parent of 4 kids. I can imagine how tough it has been for u the day u had to single handedly bring up 4 young children. Thank GOD u didn’t end it all those few times. U have done such an amazing and wonderful job of looking after them. Elliot is such a fine example of how well u have brought him up. There are not many young teenagers like him who will make their dad proud. I can see how much he knows that you love him and his siblings. All the sacrifices and hard work you put in made them all worthwhile. Keep up the good work that u have been doing! Your children will never forget how much u have done for them and they will always be proud of u. GOD bless you and your family. 😊
Great video. Thanks for the honest and heartfelt sharing of your struggles, tears and coming through victorious!
Thank you for sharing...your story is so touching....it has been so tough for everyone!!
What an amazing dad! ❤ Thank you for sharing your story with us.
tough single dads/ moms have the greatest gift, Perseverance. they may not have much, but they still march on. awesome folks!!
Wishing you all the best! Very glad you didn't end it ❤ what a great dad
Wow!! So touching!! He is an amazing & wonderful dad!! Really respect!!
I teared so much while watching it as I was very touched by the father-son’s loving relationship although the journey hadn’t been the easiest. ❤️ Good content once again, OGS! 👍🏼
The father and son is so sweet! 😭❤️
Amazing love of a dad that pulls through the valley of life. God bless.
Regardless of what had happened, your kids are blessed to have you! ❤this made me miss my dad sm who passed away when I was in p6. 😢
The fact that both father and son took this interview so boldy showed that they have overcome all obstacles on what others think of them. their love for each other is beyond more than what a typical Singaporean is afraid of. Even a complete 2parent home will not have courage like yours to be interviewed. Thank you for sharing, inspiring us, to all single parent not to give up but look forward. Times will be tough, days will be long, when you think you overcome , something else comes along. Thats life. Don't give up on yourself. Its like how he tell his son who did not do well in his studies, its just a small thing in life. Such a simple statement but his son appreciates it. God bless.
Thank you for being a good daddy for your children, it's very good example for all single parent. ❤
What an amazing dad, happy father's day Wayne!
A very sacrificial love from the dad...salute you, Sir!!
WOW, such a heart warming story, I wish the other three kids also came and tell their story. Dad is amazing and he can be proud!!!👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻
This is so touching, made me cry.
Well done dad. You will be richly blessed by your 4 wonderful and well taught children.
May God bless yo
Wayne, you are such an amazing dad! I hope you will continue to keep your spirits up and enjoy the company of your children before they start having their own lives and priorities.
May you be blessed with good health and happiness as you continue to be a pillar of support to your children.
it is very very touching life story 🥲🥲 Thank you very much for sharing the inspiration to viewers 🙏🏽🙇🏻♀️❤️❤️❤️
You are amazing to be a dad on your own. Looks like you have done a great job solely on your own. Hope your kids appreciate it and return the love and care which you rightly deserved. Well done and am sure your kids are proud of you as their dad as you did not give up on them so they must cherish you whole heartedly. God bless you and kids 🙏
what a wonderful interview...Wayne speaks from his heart, so down to earth, so humble. i hope other single men will draw inspiration from Wayne.
So moved. Strong man who raised strong and loving children
i cried 😭 he is such a great father he deserves the world 🥹
Deep respect to this gentleman, thoughts of giving up is indeed a slippery slope. 天无觉人之路, soldier on ! ❤
Wow..just wow. I was tearing up throughout the video. I can’t even imagine what it’s like raising 4 children all alone, especially when they’re young. A lot of children of single parents have a difficult time due to the lack of emotional and physical support from the other parent, but seeing his son being so expressive and confident made me really happy. I’m very glad Wayne was able to fight his urges to end his life and that he was able to raise his children well. I wish him and his family nothing but the best in life! Lots of love to them ❤️
what a great parent. i couldnt get through without crying lol. Its great to see that theyre able to express their gratitude and thanks to each other. I realise when you're younger you take your parwnts for granted. its only around young adult ages where you start to realise how much they sacrifice for you and i regret so much for not realising it sooner before my mom left us. she was the only one that really cared and mattered. i wish i couldve told her that.
Dear Wayne & family, thank you for blessing us with your marvellous sharing. You have shown what real familial love is. May God bless you all abundantly. Thank you.
To me u are a super amazing dad. To raise 4 kids all by yourself. Seeing your son declared his appreciation n love for u just awesome 👏👏👏👏
The way he can say I love u a lot to the dad shows that they have a v close relationship n the child is not shy to say that . Well done dad🎉
Very touching to watch. The best gift to your kids was to be present, and you were, and still are. Such a loving and beautiful father. They are surely blessed.
Sometimes, all you need is love, and never giving up on each other. So touching and what a great Dad
Commendable dad for going through what you went through. Bravo for a man who has made such great sacrifices for the family. Thanks for your example.
👏🏼👏🏼you did amazing!!Watching this made me miss my late father. He is irreplaceable. Such wonderful amazing fathers do deserve the best in life ❤ There’s no broken family, just broken relationship
I hope the father featured here and all dad's like him had a wonderful Father's Day!
I feel for you ! 加油加油 !! ❤❤
This program shows that Society must help and provide more support to single parent family which face many challenges which we the outsiders may never know ...
Touching story. Keep it up beautiful family. Well done Daddy. God bless you and your family. ❤
Great job holding family together. Your son really cares for you.
You are a wonderful dad, hope you find a good partner to share your life with.
I feel so touched watching this😢
I am Only crying, what an amazing dad. God bless
God bless and watch over you! You did well raising the kids! 👍🏾
Good job and well done Daddy!!! brb crying
❤ what a lovely episode. You’re a great dad!!!
So relatable! I’m the child of a single father this really hit me. I do agree that it’s hard to talk to my dad about my emotions. But I’m still really grateful that he chose to stay and trying his best to shower us with love
Hi! Thank you for sharing your story. I am a 2nd year Sociology master's student at Nanyang Technological University. I hope it’s okay that I am reaching out to you here.
As part of my thesis, I am conducting interviews with single fathers in Singapore to better understand the experiences and challenges of being the main caregiver of their children in Singapore. Till date, no study has been done locally to focus specifically on the experiences of single fathers. Would you be willing to connect so I can share more?
Remember he was in Nanyang primary a decade ago. Don't know him personally though. Hope his kids realise the sacrifices he has made and take good care of him when they grow up.
What a wonderful dad. You can see how much love he has for his kids and they clearly love him too. He crushed it; so glad he did not give up.
Thanks for being a good dad. God bless you.. ❤
He is so strong. He made me realize that my dad may not be perfect but he is in his own way and to us he provide us..he made me very grateful to my dad and i'm very grateful i have a dad.
Wayne you did an excellent job raising 4 children by yourself, honestly is a tough tedious job to be a single parent.The fact that the children are all grown up now and they're closely knitted , and the children find time for each other together with you meaning you done well !!!!
To the world your family is NOT broken at all !!! You're indeed a strong secure anchor in this family !!!
I must say what an amazing father you are wayne , give yourself a good pat on your shoulder.
Elliot you're so sweet to express your love for your dad .
(Just cannot believe that their mother chose to leave all her beautiful children behind, they're yr treasures. )
Hope the other 3 children truly appreciate their dad's labour of love all these years .
God sees your heartache and tears and he preserves your life wayne.
And there're should be no condemnation in you and keep up the good job being a great dad. Yes A Dad For Life !!
Thank you for making his video and sharing it. I applaud this gentleman for not giving up in raising his 4 kids and having to go through that painful trying phase on his own. Speaking from the perspectives of the eldest whose mom has left to be with the Creator, this video gave me more realisation that my dad who is a widow clearly would have felt the emotional disconnection. My late mom was the glue to the family and her absence definitely impacted everyone - and no it did not break - I try my very best to keep it together for everyone. My dad is from a generation that emotional talk is such a weakly thing to but I try encouraging it. It's ok to do so. As like everything in life, it's a different dynamics what each family have but a lot of understanding is required to allow everyone to practise selfcare to build a peaceful family bond. Let's give it to all dads out there that they are trying their level best. 🙌
This was so powerful and inspiring. Thank you for amazing content. ❤️💯
What a beautiful relationship this father has with his son and I’m sure his other children too. So many wise words spoken by them both. ❤
You are great father. Be proud of yourself . ❤🎉🎉🎉 Big pat on your shoulders
Im sure all of us dad are proud of wayne n give him a big hug! May God bless him richly to continue to lead his family! 😊😊
I know it's not the point, but I often hear of people on the verge of "ending it", but at that very moment a sign magically appears to get them to stop.
Also, another great production, and wonderful interviewees too! Lovely comments as well - I rarely look at comments these days because sometimes they aren't very kind, but I was pleasantly surprised this time.
You are one amazing dad. Bless you and your children.
You are the best father any child can wish for.
The man is a champion dad. Salute to the brave single dads that do not want to give up !
This is so touching! ❤
Few things can completely altering a person's destiny - marrying poorly is one of them.
lovely bond
Thank you so much for being honest and sharing. I feel this way as a parent of three kids and felt alone. That I was the Only one having these thoughts, but I’m not. I feel a weight off my shoulders from watching this video. Thank you