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  • @OGS.Official
    @OGS.Official  3 ปีที่แล้ว +527

    Note: Claire’s pronouns are they/them, but they’re comfortable with their family referring to them with she/her pronouns. Though Christopher may not always get them right, he’s trying his best and learning ❤️
    Thank you to the Pink Dot SG team for connecting us to Claire & Christopher. Head to th-cam.com/video/n3Ge4-Qstv4/w-d-xo.html to check out the Pink Dot 13 livestream if you missed it!

    • @HengOngHuatAh
      @HengOngHuatAh 3 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      grammatically incorrect lol

    • @SuccessforLifester
      @SuccessforLifester 3 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Still don't know how to use. Want me to fail my English exam?

    • @zexiniooo
      @zexiniooo 3 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      First time i’ve heard people wanting to be referred to as they/them, that sounds so awkward

    • @mairaalisha8443
      @mairaalisha8443 3 ปีที่แล้ว +86

      @@HengOngHuatAh no its correct. when you refer to people w/o knowing their gender/pronouns you would say eg. theres a poster about someone who lost *their* dog. *they* must be really worried. its pretty normal but when its conciously used to refer to people whose pronouns are specifically they/them, people tend to think its grammatically wrong and weird just as the other comments say.

    • @HengOngHuatAh
      @HengOngHuatAh 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@mairaalisha8443 I would say someone lost his dog. Male pronouns are used by default in the context you raised. They/them is used when referring to a family losing their dog.

  • @jjrmmrrja4535
    @jjrmmrrja4535 3 ปีที่แล้ว +460

    Dad looks strict and a little bit scary. But it turns out, he has a soft heart for his children.

    • @laiyinquan8355
      @laiyinquan8355 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      That's why we must know everyone has layers like an onion. He may have the scariest outermost shell, but as you peel that out, it may become soft.

  • @pinkribbon1007
    @pinkribbon1007 3 ปีที่แล้ว +402

    what a rare gem of a father

  • @horsepower8886
    @horsepower8886 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    I lost it when her dad said, " what can i say, I love you so much...that's the reason i accept you as who you are".

  • @eg1197
    @eg1197 3 ปีที่แล้ว +218

    Relationship between Claire and Christopher is beautiful. And Claire couldn't ask for a more loving and accepting father. I knew this guy many years ago, he was so tormented because his parents weren't embrace for who he is. He was so despondent, to this day, I hope he's doing ok and alive. Christopher thank you, Claire thank you, for sharing your story. Loving ❤ people as they are is being a decent person .

  • @hotline333
    @hotline333 3 ปีที่แล้ว +318

    Your father, christopher is a beautiful soul.

  • @8krach
    @8krach 3 ปีที่แล้ว +386

    Really glad to see a father sticking out for his daughter & accepting who she is/wants to be.

    • @yawnxxn
      @yawnxxn 3 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      the vid says they go by they/them 🏃‍♂️💨

    • @Remomba
      @Remomba 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Are they supporting a disorda??

    • @deborahpoh4729
      @deborahpoh4729 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      @@Remomba yo why wld u say that? Ive seen you comment before and hey just because you think that way doesnt mean others do too. If you don’t support it then why watch this video? If its not biblically right or wtv then so be it? Not everyone follows ur religion so dont use tgat as a reason to hate on other people

  • @sgmei
    @sgmei 3 ปีที่แล้ว +153

    Grateful for parents like Christopher uncle.
    My dad would never. He said in my face before "girls are useless" and he only has eyes for his son. No matter how hard I tried, no use.
    I'm lucky at least I have my mum. I hope in my next life I get to meet parents with hearts as big as Christopher uncle.

    • @LexicroftAlpha
      @LexicroftAlpha 3 ปีที่แล้ว +28

      "Girl are useless"
      Told by a clueless man who born from woman womb
      I hope you can find happiness in life, because there are many kind of happiness to get, out there

    • @LexicroftAlpha
      @LexicroftAlpha 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Also
      Boy CAN be useless too
      Clueless person thinks :
      What makes me happy?
      Why my life have to suffer?
      Was it victory, was it defeat?
      In the end, they still doesn't know what makes them happy, because their expectation doesn't match reality.

    • @sweetcandysugaarmy8480
      @sweetcandysugaarmy8480 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Girls are useless? Your Dad ought to be ashamed of himself. Even Mao Zedong, a dictator and tyrant in the eyes of many, once famously said :"Women hold up half the sky.", which means: male or female, all genders are equal. I hope that you are living a happy life now. 💖

    • @sgmei
      @sgmei 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@LexicroftAlpha You're right, I always question myself "does he not know that he was born out of a woman?" oh, wait, then I remembered that his mum aka my grandmother is also the type that only feel that boys matter and girls don't, the fact that she managed to give birth to 5 sons.
      I just try and learn it the tough way, and don't wanna become people like them. I'm glad that the younger generation doesn't follow their footsteps in the same thoughts.

    • @sgmei
      @sgmei 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @touchdownbattle Yes, I'm kind of tired when I share my story to people and they'll be like "you can try educating them" because you would understand it won't work. They are stubborn and have been stuck with the mindset, so it's fine. I will not force them to believe in what they won't, they should believe it on their own will. As long as the younger generation doesn't walk in the same path, I'm very glad. I've learn to just not engage :D it gives me peace honestly.

  • @mvtildvz
    @mvtildvz 3 ปีที่แล้ว +460

    “what can I say? I love you so much” WHO’S CUTTING ONIONS?!?!!?

    • @victorvictor4235
      @victorvictor4235 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Love overcomes everything

    • @KamiKaze43v3r
      @KamiKaze43v3r 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      when he said that i just started bawling... he showed his love through both words and actions, they are both blessed.

    • @Violet-nh9xi
      @Violet-nh9xi 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Watching this is public was a bad idea😭😭😭

  • @crablrone
    @crablrone 3 ปีที่แล้ว +357

    i would think most parents who are unacceptable over children being lgbt is because they think this is a disgrace to their family.
    The way the father defend her when the uncle comment about her boyish hair, is really a good example to tell those close-minded relatives to mind their own business. Just like asking people why don't get married or have kids.

    • @Remomba
      @Remomba 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      No, it’s because it’s not biblically right

    • @orangeworm
      @orangeworm 3 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      @@Remomba cry about it

    • @Remomba
      @Remomba 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@orangeworm you’re crying already ouch

    • @LexicroftAlpha
      @LexicroftAlpha 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      I don't understand why people preach
      They just need to mind their own bussiness because who enjoy heaven if their "teachings" was right?
      Themselves
      Because nobody can prove which teachings was right because nobody came back from heaven and tell this religion or teachings is the right one.

    • @brokewizone6535
      @brokewizone6535 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@Remomba being rude isnt biblically right either though? also not everyone is a christian

  • @Its_a_me_WSA
    @Its_a_me_WSA 3 ปีที่แล้ว +309

    no one chose their disposition, gender or sexual preferences. What is more important is that they live decent, honest lives as best they can and be contributing members to society

    • @kittycake1294
      @kittycake1294 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Yes! What’s matter they’re a good person.

  • @gp5675
    @gp5675 3 ปีที่แล้ว +149

    "I love my children very much." Not just lip service. We need more parents like him.

  • @novicetim6138
    @novicetim6138 3 ปีที่แล้ว +111

    Damn I didn't expect to shed a tear or two watching this. It's so nice to see a progressive and accepting father at that kind of age. The world would be a better place if more parents were like him.
    Happy pride month everyone, be proud!

  • @robinr3666
    @robinr3666 3 ปีที่แล้ว +119

    The only thing that stopped me from ugly crying was a stupid Milo ad.

  • @gilian89
    @gilian89 3 ปีที่แล้ว +53

    The assurance that he gave to his daughters are so reassuring 😊

  • @lynwarhol
    @lynwarhol 3 ปีที่แล้ว +71

    when he said "leave it to me. i will know how to bring this up." omg T_T

  • @beckham48
    @beckham48 3 ปีที่แล้ว +89

    She could have choose the easier route out by having long hair but despite of all others criticism she choose to be true to herself that act itself is a courage act

    • @benchua7100
      @benchua7100 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      yeah very courageous to purposely be ugly

    • @alecrosewell6959
      @alecrosewell6959 3 ปีที่แล้ว +31

      @@benchua7100 what? So if men have long hair they purposely be ugly?

    • @animeargonaut3127
      @animeargonaut3127 3 ปีที่แล้ว +36

      @@benchua7100 Very courageous of you to use your anonymity to degrade others for no reason

    • @phoebelimm
      @phoebelimm 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      @@benchua7100 They didn't cut their hair to look good for you in the first place, why so triggered

    • @benchua7100
      @benchua7100 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@animeargonaut3127 very courageous of you to be a keyboard white knight

  • @daisybb8148
    @daisybb8148 3 ปีที่แล้ว +75

    I salute this father. He truly honestly loves his daughter his children. Yes, be true to ones gender. More Sporean fathers and parents should be like this man. We should learn from him. God bless him 💕

    • @user-pq8lm4fh9g
      @user-pq8lm4fh9g 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      the child goes by THEY THEM PRONOUNS

  • @dubbie89ify
    @dubbie89ify 3 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    Kudos to Christopher. He may look strict but he is actually a very very good man and a super dad. He not only tells his children that he loves them, he truly accepts them and protects them. 🤧🤧🤧

  • @padmeboudreau3004
    @padmeboudreau3004 3 ปีที่แล้ว +58

    these honest conversations are so importent, their relationship is so precious

  • @LT-qt5xj
    @LT-qt5xj 3 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    shout out to my fellow singaporean closeted queers - the fear is real and it's also okay not to tell your parents if you don't feel safe/ready. but if it helps, you're not alone. we're in this together xx

  • @iamroyroyful
    @iamroyroyful 3 ปีที่แล้ว +36

    The papa got an alpha vibe. However, protective over her daughter. 💪💪💪 Father's love.

  • @0001Mxrcel
    @0001Mxrcel 3 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    this was heartwarming to see, especially in a country where lgbtq is not accepted by many, where some get bullied to leave the school.
    this warms my heart to know we still have a chance

  • @steffitan8926
    @steffitan8926 3 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    I'm really really blessed to also have a father like Christopher, told me exactly the same thing and now I'm missing him so much :'(

  • @tomryann86
    @tomryann86 3 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    As a singaporean gay muslim i wish that my parents could accept me of who i am. Unfortunately i still am couldn’t come out, still in the closet cause i’m still living in her house afraid to get chased out if i ever come out. I hope someday i could get a affordable rental room and leave that horrible place soon

    • @MsEverAfterings
      @MsEverAfterings 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Take care man, stay strong!

    • @Oreo-vh7rk
      @Oreo-vh7rk 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      As someone who's not straight and from a muslim family as well, I know how much that really sucks. Keep moving forward man ✊

    • @englishmuffin2893
      @englishmuffin2893 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Your not alone too same but I'm from a Christian family I love my parents but I know they won't accept me for being gay so I keep a low profile and study school hope to do well and moved aboard

  • @pp33448
    @pp33448 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    It takes a lot of courage to tell your parents but it takes even more to take a video of it! Good job!

  • @Jae-lg6nv
    @Jae-lg6nv 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    He said, "Daddy's here to protect you." ♥ I replayed it and acted like it was said to me.

  • @outerspace7
    @outerspace7 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I teared alot at the last question segment. Dad has such a beautiful soul and the love for his children is so pure and unconditional. I am so touched.

  • @two2hills
    @two2hills 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Accepting parents…..really love and care for their children.
    Those that reject……..only care about themselves and what others(society) thinks.

  • @viet862
    @viet862 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    It is normal that all parents want to look out for their children happiness and protect them at all cost. Definition of happiness depend on the understanding of each parent.

  • @nadhirahhan7676
    @nadhirahhan7676 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Wow...Such a beautiful, strong and unconditional relationship between a father and his daughter. Love this so much!

  • @krizdeep
    @krizdeep 3 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    I wish all dad can learn something from this man ....

  • @lovedblissed
    @lovedblissed 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Love is accepting, unconditional. Thank you for this video, we DO have families that loves truly.

  • @yipeyaya
    @yipeyaya 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    There was a year that I had my hair cut as short as Claire and people would ask why I cut so short and mom would defend me saying “fashion la”. Love my mom

  • @wenwuipu5831
    @wenwuipu5831 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I agree with your father, be happy, be you. The worst thing in life is always to live according what is expected of you as being "correct".. have a good life claire.🥳

  • @rachelkohwoonsim7445
    @rachelkohwoonsim7445 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    they are my classmate in poly and i think it's really cool that they and their father are so brave to share this with us. i wish them well

  • @shahvei
    @shahvei 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Freaking good Father 👍🏻 so lucky to have him as your Dad.

  • @Garfield_cat393
    @Garfield_cat393 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I can understand how this father feels. Such a nice dad.

  • @liztan3457
    @liztan3457 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    What a wonderful Dad! The love he has for his child is so much greater than anything else....

  • @sher2942
    @sher2942 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Claire is very blessed to have a father who protects her; mine has never done so.

  • @richardneo
    @richardneo 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    A Father who truly love his child. Kudos !!

  • @turtlegeneral
    @turtlegeneral 3 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Amazing - every lgbt child needs a father like this!!!!

  • @tamalim7886
    @tamalim7886 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    So so blessed to have such a daddy

  • @cr899
    @cr899 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you Claire and dad for sharing your story. Its full of love :)

  • @kindsouls5326
    @kindsouls5326 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    may we all embrace each other and understand our differences, being lgbtq is not something you can change, please respect that!

  • @raymondwoo2648
    @raymondwoo2648 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Bravo for this very wonderful, very loving Dad! God loves everyone! God bless Claire & Christopher & all their family! 🙏🙏

  • @이천태-e5i
    @이천태-e5i 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Every father should be like this.

  • @bchpls24
    @bchpls24 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    my dad will flip table if he knows. you're lucky to have uncle as your dad. rather than living in constant fear of being ousted

  • @zgang761
    @zgang761 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    That's a great father right there

  • @tngchinghwa
    @tngchinghwa 3 ปีที่แล้ว +46

    quick, someone take a leveling meter and put on top of uncle's hair

  • @sharontham11116
    @sharontham11116 ปีที่แล้ว

    Be happy with who you want to be,you are very blessed to have a very understanding father!!

  • @RenLuvSuju
    @RenLuvSuju 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    He can be accepting because he's exposed to the community and accept it. The second part is really important.

  • @leigh7816
    @leigh7816 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    as someone who isn't out to my my fam yet this makes me so happy for them and hopeful that maybe one day my fam will accept me too 💓

  • @erinmok6334
    @erinmok6334 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I wish to give a message to Claire. It’s awesome to feel secure and have the best daddy in the world. But be prepare. Daddy don’t be forever with us in the world. When we lost the security we will go upside down in every way. That’s happen to me. So I need to learn how to treasure the moment and accept things once my security is lost.

  • @nadiabrook7871
    @nadiabrook7871 3 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    Well done, Christopher, for being a BRILLIANT dad!! XXXX

  • @spanishjo4282
    @spanishjo4282 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    The most importantly is your family are happy!

  • @AOTLTng
    @AOTLTng 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Love is More important then everything else.

  • @Konushku
    @Konushku 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Christopher is a role model for unconditional love ❤️

  • @lavenderandwoods7804
    @lavenderandwoods7804 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Really proud and wise what claire father's do, "although they are my children, they have their responsibility"👍

  • @TheLetyougo
    @TheLetyougo 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    You been bless to have a lovely , more understanding father. He's so supportive. Take care fam

  • @jmeigh
    @jmeigh 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    What an incredible Dad. A model parent.

  • @calamari39
    @calamari39 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    It must be nice to have parents who are like Christopher. I don't think I can ever come out to my Viet parents/family since I know they will never accept me.

  • @redditstuff5535
    @redditstuff5535 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    "I'm always a very protective father" 😭

  • @nancylie9431
    @nancylie9431 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Protect your family to the max, they really precious🥰🥰🥰

  • @cmxo-w3b
    @cmxo-w3b 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Saw this on PinkDot yesterday and JEEZ THE WATERWORKS WAS INTENSE
    They have such a beautiful relationship ❤️

  • @marcashleyde9800
    @marcashleyde9800 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Awesome dad and family. 🙏

  • @JL-jm7
    @JL-jm7 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    My respect for the father.

  • @spanishjo4282
    @spanishjo4282 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    i award you the best charismatic stylish father 2021!

  • @SoonGii
    @SoonGii 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    What a lovely relationship between the two!

  • @entertainment1443
    @entertainment1443 3 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    What a wonderful and logical parent 😍😍😍😍😍.

  • @ayulene
    @ayulene 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    My favourite OGS video for sure.

  • @michaelseet9320
    @michaelseet9320 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    right there is the father of the year..

  • @jacquelinebary4168
    @jacquelinebary4168 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Claire, u hv a great father and as long as what u do dnt hurt ppl, then be youself n be proud.

  • @user-hq5hg6mz2n
    @user-hq5hg6mz2n ปีที่แล้ว +1

    my daddy issues triggered immenselyyyyy

  • @66695
    @66695 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Dad's gold game on point.

  • @tommyliangwei3724
    @tommyliangwei3724 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Christopher 62 (1959) and Claire 24 (1997)

  • @doomsdaydragonsproductions2801
    @doomsdaydragonsproductions2801 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    _cries in non supportive parents_

  • @yvonnescully5037
    @yvonnescully5037 ปีที่แล้ว

    Blessings to your Father or both your Parents. Blessings to you to proceed on to a beautiful life ahead🙏🙏🌹🌹

  • @kayalsubramaniam4579
    @kayalsubramaniam4579 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Sibei touching wish my parents like him also

  • @LaBerry02
    @LaBerry02 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    he’s so supportive

  • @nakoF1030
    @nakoF1030 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    who's cutting onions 😭

  • @mariafanny6238
    @mariafanny6238 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    A wonderful and sweet Dad 🥰

  • @Cmi1267
    @Cmi1267 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    omg this video is so beautiful!

  • @pyschannel30
    @pyschannel30 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    BROOO, im a far-right conservative person but some of these comments need to stop for real. yes, we may not necessarily agree with the stance they are taking but learn how to be a civilized human and respect their decision and choices. As long as they arent putting a knife down and asking you to change there is not much reason to fight back with hostility. yes, we can have a healthy debate/discussion about alternating views but I really don't see a need to hurl insulting words over. Whatever they do, let's just respect them.

  • @cindychiew832
    @cindychiew832 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    What an amazing father…well Done 👍you and your Wife have both rsised wonderful kids

  • @Violet-nh9xi
    @Violet-nh9xi 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    What are these things tryna coming out frm my eyes😢 too wholesome

  • @Cyberoll
    @Cyberoll 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    That's amazing father & son relationship. I wish I have father like him.

  • @galaticallysane9773
    @galaticallysane9773 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I didn't not expect to cry

  • @toixcchicken4019
    @toixcchicken4019 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I feel like women's body check up is like quite important. But you know, coming from a traditional mindset family, it's hard to like ask about these question. What if I feel wrong but just dk who to ask, how to find out. This has make me feel less confident. so, really hope that yk there's a sharing of where to contact or what can we do

  • @yuucreations8569
    @yuucreations8569 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    so touched

  • @justiceboy4799
    @justiceboy4799 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    sometimes boys are born to love girls,girls are born to love boys,boys are born to love boys ,girls are born to love girls .is the heart have feeling like that, not bcoz they want to

  • @eggyolkdeli2618
    @eggyolkdeli2618 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I wish i can be this cool parents in the future

  • @MrZomfgwtfbbq
    @MrZomfgwtfbbq 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Christopher is a baller. Look at that flex ready to throw down for his children.

  • @holidayyeoh
    @holidayyeoh 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Live your life the way you feel it's right Claire and so proud of you for staying true to yourself as well as the courage to do so! Christopher is an awesome papa and parents should be like him, serve as a protector, respect his children, and attempt to understand them. Love~

  • @jag4064
    @jag4064 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    What a great dad 🙏🏻

  • @melodytan5603
    @melodytan5603 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    they are so sweet

  • @farihamohamedhilmy4700
    @farihamohamedhilmy4700 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I wish I have a father like Claire

  • @park_suhong
    @park_suhong 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I know this is weird but u probably won’t believe me I started realising I’m bi and that like guys too after seeing jimin from bts 😊💜

  • @erth2877
    @erth2877 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    The dad looks fierce, if I were to encounter u in the public, I would be in a pressure situations

  • @karlmnz
    @karlmnz 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    a good father.