Meet me on the bridge: Discovering the truth about my parents after 20 years (FULL FILM) BBC Stories
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 7 ธ.ค. 2017
- When Kati Pohler was three days old she was left at a market in China. She was later adopted by an American family.
When she was 20, Kati discovered her birth parents had left her a note, and that every year on the same day, they waited for her on a famous bridge in Hangzhou.
Filmed and directed by Changfu Chang.
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fact that her dad lived across the globe and thought of her every day and felt so much love and guilt, while some dads live in same city as their kids and dont give a shit, is just heartbreaking
true
or in the same household
Fact
:((((
Well some kids are just horrible.
For those wondering what the note says:
“Our daughter, Jingzhi, was born at 10am on the 24th day of the seventh month of the lunar calendar, 1995. We have been forced by poverty and affairs of the world to abandon her. Oh, pity the hearts of fathers and mothers far and near! Thank you for saving our little daughter and taking her into your care. If the heavens have feelings, if we are brought together by fate, then let us meet again on the Broken Bridge in Hangzhou on the morning of the Qixi Festival in 10 or 20 years from now.”
thank you for translation
😭
that's a beautiful note, if the heavens have feelings, then let us meet again on the broken bridge
This story is so beautiful yet so heartbreaking. 😭
😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
It's so strange to think that thousands of girls have similar stories. I'm also adopted from China and raised in the US. My parents told me from the beginning, "your biological parents loved you so much and sacrificed their lives to give you up and give you a chance for a better life". Although I was never interested in finding my biological parents, I believe they really did love me and had no option bc of the 1 child policy.
Do u have any information about your biological parents? Or there was never any communication
Yeah that broken system!🤨
@@minialex1354 umm her older sister is a girl so obviously the family did not care about whether their children were a boy or a girl, but rather this was forced upon them due to the one child policy
We Chinese people are CCP‘s slaves！We have nothing rights！We‘re terriblely hard to make our life better！The world don't know real China because CCP shows a fake China to the world！I ran away to US！But I'm still sad about our people！
CCP is Evil！
@@minialex1354 I was an unwanted daughter born to one child China. I can tell you with 100% certainty that the birth parents in this documentary absolutely wanted her, because they did the exact opposite to what my parents did to me. I wish my parents showed half their amount of love and compassion as these folks.
Kudos to the adoptive parents for doing a good job in raising Katie to be an emotionally matured adult.
Yeah,they did raise an intelligent and kind hearted little girl that's growing into a fine young woman for sure and absolutely beautiful. Heck, she didn't even so much as have a bad word even come out of her mouth like at all so you can very much tell she was raised right,yet so many people hate on America and us american families. It just all depends on who you're,who and how you're raised around and where you're raised because it's very different everywhere and what other countries don't know either is that here in America it's also like being in several different countries depending on where you're at and where you go. People on the east Coast are extremely different from those of the west Coast and then you've the mid west and then the south where I was born n raised and all are completely different in every way.
'You look so much like your mum .. but you don't understand what I'm saying', said her mum. That hit hard
Holo A I know right..? I’m honestly glad the story ended this way, that’s probably the best ending we can ever ask for.
So many choices can be made differently and things would not turn out as good as this, ever.
Her dad is cute af lol
She was LOVED. What a LUCKY GIRL. God bless her.
@@curiousgeorge6921 Her parents are beautiful. Bc Katie is very gorgeous. She does look like the mom. But have some of the dad in her too.
Rare Breed Gee you don’t say, who would have thought she would look like her birth parents
one minor translation error here. When they're at the video chat, after Kati's biological mother said "thank you", she didn't just say "for taking care of Kati" but "for raising her to become such a wonderful child."
Jenny Ng yeah the translation bothered me too lol especially not delivering the full message to the biological parents
Jenny Ng I noticed it too and I’m glad I’m not the only one bothered by it.. what Kati’s biological mother said had so much more meaning than what was translated and it’s so upsetting that the meaning got lost in translation :(
oh! I wish the translations were more accurate.
Thank you
I don't blame whoever was translating for that. It's hard to translate accurately on the spot in such an emotional moment with cameras pointing everywhere.
As an adoptee from China myself, this definitely hits home. It's so interesting to see how us adoptees ended up and also to see the similarities. I hope that one day, I will find my biological parents as well.
I hope you will too. I’m sorry for what you’ve had to go through and for how difficult it must be to be searching for your biological family. I wish you well on this difficult journey ❤
Biological parents gave their responsibility to foster parents. Without the foster parents, the child is already dead because the biological parents do not want the child
Wishing you all the best dear.. big hugs from Italy 💖
Hope for you too. Wishing you much luck.
My biological father wants nothing to do with me because he is a jerk. Thankfully, I have a Heavenly Father that loves me instead.
Kati was so open and forgiving - she never blamed her biological parents and wanted to meet them with open arms. Wow. And kudos to the adoptive parents for their unwavering love and support, they're amazing too! This is moving and impactful. Glad there was a happy ending.
@Hello there, how are you doing this blessed day?
Meanwhile, if it was me, I would want my child to know it was loved and where it came from.
Because I have met many adopted kids. They wonder where they are from. About their background.
Can we talk about what a legend her biological father is.
one chinses good guy
Amen sister. I adored him immediately
I fell in love with him. What a sweet, sweet, sweet man. They are both so loving and caring. ❤❤
They loved her. But they couldn't raise her
The note he left was written poetically, I can feel their pain & helpless back decades ago.
I lost it and cried when her parents gave her the red packet full of 20 years of money. Red packets is a custom, older married relatives will always give the younger generation red packets. This means every chinese new year, they put aside money and saved red packets for her. Every year they were thinking of her, probably prepared two red packets - one for her sister and one for her - and saved it for their younger daughter, hoping to give it to her one day. The level of thoughtfulness and love for their daughter completely blows my mind.
wang xian yeah I was like that can’t be true till I saw the old version of the RMB note in that pocket.
It hit me hard too, as a chinese this is the ultimate point where I truly believe that her parents suffered so much, they really want to raise her, but somehow this is the best decision. I can't imagine in that position ever.
wang xian sometimes this tradition happens in India it happened to me
Now I'm crying 😭😭
@@bananakids_1212 really? that is so fascinating! do you get it in red packets too or is it a different color? so interesting
Being an adoptive parent is so difficult. You walk a very thin line. I don't think they get enough credit. People will always have something to say. Make sure you keep the kid close to their culture, make sure they know the language, make sure they learn their history. All the while, people forget how difficult it is raising a child as is.
Did you see the biological mum break down in this video? How can you blab after that how hard it is for adoptive parents. What an insensitive soul you must be.
So true, however I think they could have at least told her the story and that they had been in defacto contact with them.
Yeah but imagine giving your biological child up for adoption. People act like adoptive parents are saints or wtf but really, they were banking on a woman giving up her child in order to become parents. ISNT THAT QUESTIONABLE?
I will never understand their ungrateful attitude. Better they stayed orphans.
Maybe, but in this case they knew the agony of the birth parents and were selfish enough to ignore it. Kati was a US citizen by that point, it’s not like she would’ve been forced to stay in China after a legal adoption. It’s a kind of white parents that really make my blood boil imo. They erased her connection to her culture and hid her birth parents from her.
The biological dad won my heart. How expressive he is of his love and regret. And the fact that like every Asian dad, he too likes to text his children Goodnight and Good morning. I loved this.
Shout out to the American mum who did not forget to give her piano and violin lessons haha
Only the necessities lol
That's chinese culture alright indeed.
True asian mom, white or no!😂
it’s a viola
@@giandagostinomusic same thing it's just barely a different size
Yo they signed it "from your heartless parents" I am in tears
Me too that hit
Me too that hit
Hard
Giselle Miranda 😔
Me too in tears. I can communicate with my family parents or brothers sisters
I have too easy life
Kati has been doubly blessed with two sets of parents who truly love her very much. Glad that she has finally met her birth parents.
The best !Well said ！
To have 1 parent that loves you more than anything is a beautiful thing!, but to have 4 parents who love you unconditionally is a beautiful blessing that no one should take for granted!! ❤
I like the Dad. He's an old romantic. "Meet me on the bridge in 20 years".
@Agnes Olsvik yeah, go for it. Tell me how it goes :)
When you find it, please let us meet here in this bridge comments and let us know the news ;)
Father is most likely close his heart for his daughter.
And I like your name. Lol reminds me of Japan
FOH!!
Can we talk about how considerate the biological parents were? That, despite the heartache they already had, they were willing to wait TEN to TWENTY YEARS so that the adoptive parents might get comfortable with the idea. And you can see on their faces that they were thinking about her every day of their lives. I don't think any of us can imagine that kind of pain.
This is a heart touching true story hope both sets of parents and kati can finally find peace. God bless them all
Definitely!! The adoptive mother on the other hand seemed to be more worried about what she wants than the child’s feelings 🙄 a bit disturbing how she was trivializing everything
@Kaththee1 the adopted parent are really very kind persons, God has sent angels to Kati !
How can you judge that. Media brought the families together.
@Christoph, 🥺😥💖
As an adopted child, I understand that they were afraid that they would lose her love. However if they trusted the upbringing they provided, they would see that they would never lose her love. My adopted mom is my mom. My birth mom is a friend.
I'm not adopted, but this was a comment I made after watching this. The adoptive parents needed to trust that they were raising her to be a responsible, wise, and thoughtful young lady. Someone they trusted to have good judgement. i also think that because they knew the biological parents were waiting all this time, and that adopted children most always want to meet the biological parents, and because it's the right thing to do, Kati should have been raised in a mix of cultures and traditions that included her Chinese Culture. And Mandarin lessons.
@@rebeccacaraska4112I agree!
S biological mom is A MOM in this case
Solid, measured take.
@@rebeccacaraska4112 Why should Kati have been raised learning Mandarin and Chinese culture? Kati and her adoptive parents don’t owe her biological parents that. As someone who comes from a blended family, my mom and dad aren’t my mom and dad because they are my biological parents. My mom and dad are my mom and dad because they took on motherly and fatherly roles. And they raised me with THEIR culture. They didn’t raise me with a culture based on nationality or birthplace or ethnicity, but rather their own personal family culture based on their values and likes. My mother tongue is English. I only grew up learning Spanish because I wanted Spanish lessons and was obsessed with Dora and started pretending to speak Spanish as a toddler, lol.
18:07 “Can you ask Kati if it hurts?”
her sister is so sweet 😭
IT BROKE MY HEART WHEN SHE COULDN’T UNDERSTAND HER MOTHER’S FIRST WORDS TO HER! Oh my God...
she 3 day already being adopted by her adaption family. She grew up following totally another culture. Happy they can reunion.
Just like a baby she couldn't understand her mother's first words!
WOW
Yessss girl I cried like a bby
I teared up when her biological father lit the firecrackers...
The biological parents always holding her hands, like trying to make up all those years they missed her
Jalan Rina 😭
I love themmmm!!! 💗💗💞💞💞💗💗
The mom and sister combing styling her hair in the car!! Oh my gawww 😭😭😭
Too Flippin Cute!!!!
Don’t want to let her go!
i have family on my dads side that i see like every 6 ish years, like i just hardly ever get to see them because they live in a different country and when i finally get to see them again, they do the exact same thing, even the crying with the tightest hugs when we first meet, my grandma hugs me so tight that it feels like i'll bruise. it kinda makes me wanna cry because it's like that big reassurance and reminder of how much they really do love you after so long of not seeing them
😔😔😔😭
I could understand the mother, the father speaks in a dialect that I’m not familiar with. But their anguish was obvious. And when they pulled out the lucky money, it had me crying. That’s what parents do every new year for their children.
what a surprise! i understand the father clearly but it’s harder for me to understand the mother. perhaps the dad has southern dialect and the mother is more northern?
@@eileengarfield hmm, could be. I could understand both, but maybe the father less. It feels unusual to be able understand what Kati, if things were different, could've understood directly from her biological parent's mouth...
Oh wow I'm bubbling like a baby. You can literally feel their pain on the bridge 😭 You notice how the Mum didn't smile once until she got her baby back? She looked like a whole new woman 😭❤️
man wtf this sad af, this quarantine got me watching all types of stuff
Bullet proof
Malik Sharkattack Riiiighttt!!! Lol!!! I am balling my eyes out! Lol..It is sad AF...
bruh, same lol
Same here...
Get my emotions running wild, cuz no one sees me behind closed doors.
Hahaha..same with me.
"her birth dad texts her "good morning" and "good night" every day" - i cry so hard
Adoptive parents: pfffft lets not tell her about her biological parents who are suffering in China and missing her pfft why would we do that??
DIONOND GIRL - It was very selfish on their part, but they were afraid that the daughter they had raised since a baby would be taken away by the government (either US or China) and given back. It’s happened before. After the fear subsided, it was clear that they just didn’t want to share her. So many chances lost for Katy to learn more about her culture (like why wasn’t she sent to Chinese language school throughout her childhood like other adoptees, so she kept line to her past), so many chances lost for her adoptive parents to prepare Katy to love both sets of parents. In the end I hope Katy fully forgives her adoptive parents. That will make this a truly happy ending.
@@darlenevm how are they to know what dialect to teach... chinese is not a singular language ..its more complex than people think
@@dionondgirl127 big women big
Big women
Big women
As an adoptee who was forbidden to know my birth parents, I can say the ache never goes away. Science now points to a “primal” wound which occurs when a newborn is separated from the mother, the only contact they have ever known & bonded to in utero. My adoptive mother informed me that if I were to find my birth mother, I was not allowed to call her mother as she hadn’t earned it. That edict somehow broke my affection for my adoptive family. I finally learned the identity of my birth parents in my mid-fifties. Sadly my mother had died of lupus in her 20’s. But my father was still alive and keen to have contact. That connection was so healing. I understand the utility of adoption & the struggles of adoptive parents. But it must be understood that damage is done in separating a child, no matter the reason. And the need to connect to one’s origins is psychologically essential. It seems adoptive parents often create a narrative for themselves that negates/ignores the birth parent agony. Assuming a child doesn’t need their history & some kind of connection to birth parents is selfish and delusional.
Your real parents didn’t want you and now you’ve made the only people who did, regret their decision.
Sucks to be you
My heart goes out to you. You write beautifully.
Thank you for sharing. 🤗
That’s mess up what your adoptive parents did
If I were adopted, I wouldn’t want to meet my biological parents. My sisters have a shitty bio dad so my dad is their dad even though he’s not their bio dad. By the way, my sisters were adults when my dad married my mom so my sisters were adults when my dad became their dad. Yes, my sisters are two decades older than me.
I was also adopted from China, at only a year old by an American family in 2001. Ever since I was a little girl, I wondered who my real parents were and if they ever still think about me. As much as I love my adoptive parents and sister, I still would love to meet my original family one day and get to know more about them.
awww
Good idea to learn Chinese now.
Her father doesn’t need HER to forgive him. He needs to forgive himself.
I mean they were forced to give her away or else she’d be killed or yeah :( because of the one child policy.
It’s nice enough that they decided to keep her and not abort her
@@_xiaotin8490 well it’s true, having a child more than one is illegal act for China, they usually want the child is male focus in the army, while female focus on becoming a housewife, etc. I knew that because I have a China aunt who came from China and now she resisted as a local resident.
Ps. I’m an Asian
xt _ fake. They have to pay more taxes if they have more than one child. They had no money to pay.
@@edai5645 really? I’m chinese and a friend of my mom secretly had a girl but she fled because she either had to abort it or pay a huge sum(a fine)
Blackveil Vaal hazak Chinese women are the most likely to work in the world. Housewives are not popular at all. I think you are taking about Japanese?
The red envelope money is actually old bills not circulating anymore. So when they say they saved the money every year, they really did.
Wow! That means it is a rare item and more pricey!
@@FarhanPerdana I think it's worth far more to her than any monetary value don't you?
@@michaelafrancis1361 depends how you look at it
@@abaddonnoddaba9153 Try again.
She can exchange them at China National Bank
Kati is a good woman. She appreciates and can feel how much her parents love her and the feeling was instantly mutual. I like the way she handled it and how comfortable she made her parents feel.
I'm glad it's not just me, a soft-hearted 72 year old dad, who cried big tears.
showing emotions is a beautiful thing. specially love. have a great day.
I think her adoptive parents were just terrified of losing her and unfortunately this created an environment where she didn't feel comfortable asking about her adoption.
Yes, they purposely kept her in the dark even though at a young age they knew she was very curious, stacking up boxes to get to the letters and information about her adoption, come on, the fact her real parents appreciate that they took care of her is why she forgave them
The fact Katy is their only daughter created that feeling. Should her adopted family had another (biological) daughter, the feeling of "losing a daughter" would not be that strong and got in the way.
At what point did she say it made her feel uncomfortable? They didn’t talk about it so she didn’t think about it.
@@tingtingnoy3133 “real parents” you’re a bad person. Your whole comment is fantasy.
@@GG-kn2se Obviously they meant biological parents, chill. It's more about how her adoptive parents never mentioned it and sort of prevented her from knowing about it until she was 20 when she had always shown that she was curious about her adoption, including the story of when she was young and asked her mom about "who's tummy she came from" and how she would climb boxes trying to get to the one that had her adoption information that was hidden from her. Not that I'm saying her adoptive parents made a bad call, cause there's a lot of complicated feelings when someone is in that situation that I can't speak on, but both your comments are pretty rude for no reason lol
As for the lucky money the father gave to Kati, it's composed of different versions, the black and white cash was used in the 1990s, the red one is used since 2000s, so I believe the parents really saved money to their abandonned daughter on every Chinese New Year.
As a Chinese, I think her Chinese father is an intellectual, the sentences in letter he left to his daughter was kind of an old literature style of Chinese that only educated people can write, and he used a old style writing brush to write the letter, and his writing is pretty good, which also shows that he was well educated.
qqd dfsd I’m glad to know this backstory. I was 99.9999% sure the dad was sincere when he said it, but that 0.0001% part of me wondered if he had just put it together at the last minute. I’m glad to see more evidence in favor of the former, which about clinches it for me
@@Amblin80s Me too. When I saw those old cashes which are not used now, I'm pretty sure they must have always been missing their second kid.
Why you gotta make me cry even more 😭
@@isax3980 if you know the social background, you may want to cry even more and more
golden tidbits, thanks! very sweet how continued to think of in their hearts & mind & acts.
I'm a Chinese American and I've watched this before, and remembered the story so I found myself watching it again. Without fail, it reduces me to tears. Kati is incredibly loved by both sets of parents. Her father particularly struck me with his unyielding tenderness. Hopefully she continues maintaining a strong connection with her biological family, and get to spend some time with her sister as well since she grew up not having one. Kudos to the adoptive parents too for raising her to be a healthy adult.
24:05
Seeing the older sister crying got me, damn it. As heart wrenching as it was to see the parents and as much as I empathize as a biological parent myself, there’s also a lot of pain there for both her and her bio parents on that front, and a lot of pressure being put on her from her birth parents because of their own guilt and longing. But with her sister, none of that is weighing on them and neither of them have other siblings that will complicate the feelings via comparison, so they can have the chance to actually develop a normal sister relationship. For that reason, seeing her sister crying for me. Having gained a sister, and then lost a sister, and then gained a sister again, only to somewhat lose her again to the distance and language barrier (without a translator once she leaves), it just hit me deep in my gut. Maybe it’s because I always wanted a sister but I really hope they all stay in touch and Kati and her sister are able to form a real sister relationship and bond.
My god she is so beautiful. She has her mothers face and fathers complexion. Her birthparents can't keep their hands off her, it's so sweet. And how her mother calls her "baby". The love never left, but she looks overwhelmed by it.
Speaking about being a beauty, look at her sister. So amazingly pretty.
In China, calling their own child "baobei", which, in fact, means "precious" is equal to addressing kids "honey" in spite of age differences. I don't "baobei" should be translated as "baby" even though oftentimes younger parents do suppose the English word "baby" can be translated into "baobei".
I think (maybe I'm wrong, and they were just nervous because of the cameras) she is not used to much contact, I mean hugging and touching, because when I see her with her adoptive parents, their hug her but like in a soft way, I'm latina we are used to demonstrate care and love for friends and family with hugs, kiss touch, im not saying that her parents don't love her, but maybe, because of their culture, they aren't big huggers, if she were my daughter after such trip I would hug her more effusively, so I understand if she feels odd or overwhelmed with her birth parents demonstration of love, besides she didn't feel that longing for 20 years like her China parents did, she wanted to Know but she was raised with love, her birth parents waited and wondered for her for 20 years
It's her bio parents but at the end of the day they are strangers (not anymore)
I can only imagine how you could feel in this situation...
Her sister has father face and her mother bright skin, it's so beautiful to see them together.
Number one rule in parenting: Always be honest with your kids.
cosmo_rebeljdal97 they’re christians, honesty is not in their vocabulary.
@@mb61j2 bruh don't justify people by their religion
TheYellowFLash XD justify? Wtf do you speak English bro?
@HardcoreRomeo: Sad that you’re so prejudiced.
JurzGarz prejudice is a preconceived opinion that is not based on reason or actual experience. I can assure you my statements do not meet that definition as they are absolutely based on actual experience. Sad you’re not intelligent enough to understand the distinction.
I am so glad that you went home and met your biological family for the first time. I understood every word that your parents spoke and it warms my heart to see that you all met again. The meal that she made you in her home was so elaborate and labor-intensive. It's the way Chinese moms show their deep love for you. I also loved the fact that your parents saved your Chinese New Year money for you knowing/hoping that they would be able to give it to you in person one day. I am thrilled to see that you are learning Chinese. It's the best way to connect to your roots. Congrats on a job well done.
As an Adoptive Mother of a Korean young woman now this broke my heart. All I wanted was to share the amazing gift with the people who made her possible.
I see adoptive parents who not want to think that child ever belonged to anyone but them but it did. You lose nothing by sharing and they can give that child parts of themselves they need. How lucky and complete will that child be to know and love four parents. It takes nothing away from the birth parents or the one’s that raised them. It gives balance and a full identity.
I have wished this for my daughter always. No one ever came but each Country is different and I know the shame Korean women were made to feel and still are. I don’t believe for a minute she didn’t want contact.
The fact that her biological mother gave birth to her on a boat and by themselves are so heartbroken. It must have been very painful.
@Channie Kun, Yes but they had no other choice. They were already in such a troublesome situation with their family and money.
Maybe it was a beautiful, not too painful moment either, like not every birth is hard. Humans have given birth in random places for thousands of years so it's pretty natural. I don't know i just prefer to think that it was not so bad.
@Channie Kun, and if they had given birth in a hospital they would have to sign the papers and get everything sorted. Which would be more struggling for both of them and their families. They have their reasons.
@@Osiwan960 Child birth is painful. End of story lol
@@cowmcmoose94 not always. You need to open your mind and see more ways of doing things than just what you know....
Her mother was so quiet and reserved during the interviews, but when she saw her daughter she broke. She was so strong.
silkyeoja That made me really emotional. She had been longing for her beloved child.
This is such an amazing and beautiful story … "meet on the broken bridge," … it is a privilege to hear the roots of this reunion and to watch the unfolding of the overwhelmingly intense emotions. On the bridge it felt like there were too many cameras and mom's blubbering mess was understandable and a bit comical... daughter was a bit like "what the heck?" :-) THIS one is a happy account, but it gnaws at the global anguish of parent/child love.
That hit me hard
Not to kill the mood but the daughter's face was hilarious... just like :^) ???
The girl is very lucky to be adopted, most of Chinese girls were just being killed or sold
Truely a touching story, I just wish the adoptive parents made more effort in educating their daughter on her heritage, culture and language, especially knowing her biological parents were longing to meet her. I hope the families continue to connect with eachother and get to know one another.
her bio parents are the kindest souls, honestly I know this was a very complicated situation, but I fell mixed feelings on how her adoptive parents handled the situation. My parents never hid anything from me, like I felt second hand betrayal from them being so hush hush and hiding it for soooooo many years.
Exactly
I feel for everyone here. Adoptive parents were afraid to lose their daughter, biological parents were heartbroken, and Katie is stuck in the middle. At least she knows that she was loved. That is all we hope for.
Her adoptive "parents" where selfish
@@justvibing2171 they should have told her the first time, when she was 10. She actually had loving parents, she wasn't just discarded like trash. Imagine she had a depressive personality and had killed herself during adolescence because she imagined her biological parents just dumped her. "We were afraid she wasn't ready" is a bullshit excuse, hiding the truth could also have played out horribly. They weren't afraid she wasn't ready, they were afraid because _they_ weren't ready. While I can totally understand the fear the adoptive parents must have felt of possibly losing their child after bonding for 10 years I wouldn't be shocked if she had rejected them once she found out they had _actively_ hidden the truth from her. They took a huge bet that she would forgive them when she eventually found out.
@@justvibing2171 they knew she had loveing bio parents out there and the fact the adoptive parent said we were afarid tonlose her. Selfish parents not thinking about how she would feel
@@MelkorPT Telling a teen about that is disruptive to their education and life. It's best to wait till they are an adult and can think rationally.
@@b34k8 being dumped by your parents like a bag of trash is also "disruptive".
For those of you saying she looks awkward and uncomfortable, she probably is! She has never met these people and spent any days with them even though they are supposed to be her close parents. This isn’t some cheesy movie, it isn’t all butterflies and rainbows when you first meet your biological parents. You don’t immediately establish some kind of long lost bond as if you knew them your entire life just because they are related. Sure you might feel emotion and a connection but they are still basically strangers. It is really hard to try to be fully comfortable with people she’s just met, but I’m sure she is trying. Also keep in mind she doesn’t speak chinese so...it can get awkward with the language barrier when she can’t really express herself or understand them. But I’m sure she is trying very hard to spend good time with them, it’s just not easy!
howtopasstime this is totally what I got from their first meeting. It's an emotionally charged situation for everyone and the language barrier just makes it more difficult. It can't be easy on either side to have to wait for the translator to relay everything - no one really wants to talk about such personal matters through another person.
Also, the whole time was filmed too, with that much emotion and confusion. it wouldn't be too surprising that she detached herself from emotion.
Yes exactly! And it makes it really difficult when someone is showing such affection for you when you can't understand what they're saying as well. Even with an interpreter, they won't necessarily interpret everything.
howtopasstime very sweetly and well stated!
I totally agree!
She is not a parent and until she becomes one she can only relate as a child. I can not imagine the pain and guilt that her biological parents have lived with. You can clearly see that it has been immensely torturous on them!
My heart goes out to them and her sister.
My heart equally goes out for her adoptive parents who clearly love her greatly!!!
I completely understand their fear and protectiveness! All good parents would share the same emotions!
No one has the right to judge either sets of parents because clearly both sides love her dearly and only have done their best to protect her!
May God continue to bless both families as they continue to bond and create beautiful lasting memories together!
This is truly a beautiful example of no matter what culture we are from we ALL share the COMMON BOND OF LOVE FOR OUR FAMILIES❤️🙏❤️
You're absolutely right. I am an adopted child as well. It is hard for me not to feel akward with my biological father....
I saw a documentary once about a chinese girl, who was the second child of a family and essentially lived in hiding. She did not go to school, had no friends, was basically like in a prison. A terrible life. So I think, Kaiti's biological parents took the right decision. I am very sorry for them that they lived through such a difficult situation. I really hope they all come to terms with that history and can create something of a relationship.
What a beautiful reunion. I can see how deeply sorry the parents are. They still love her from the bottom of the heart after 20 long years.
Her birth dad texts her good morning and goodnight everyday
😢😢😭😭
ismipurisa i liked because first cause it’s sad and second you had 666 likes :/
@@drhrheehhshshhehe9814 its not sad. its nice! its love.
Hope he's using watsapp or something similar otherwise it cost a bit.
exactly the same words touched me
My heart just breaks for her birth family. I hope that soon they'll all be able to meet her American mom and dad and get to know each other.
Can we just talk about how cute she was a kid??? Like that face and the bangs and glasses AWH
I actually thought she was an ugly duckling but turned out to be a beautiful swan.
still cute
@@sltga1254 cute and pretty aren't the same thing
Omg adorablee
She was one of the cutest kids ever. And I think arguably in general (not always) but in general, Asian kids are the cutest.
As someone who was adopted in China, this hits home. I'm proud of her for representing us adoptees, e.g., the maturity and the gratitude she has towards her adoptive parents. I am glad she was able to finally meet with her birth parents, and not showing any resentment.
Keep being awesome, Kati!
Bawling my eyes out!!! As soon as her mum hugged her lord have mercy all that love over flowing is just priceless!!! I hope everything has been amazing for all of them ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🇬🇧
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HER BIOLOGICAL DAD IS AMAZING
👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
So is her Mom and Sister !
He is sweet!
Rawest Channel i agree
I feel they are so pure 😭
When the mom said: "You look just like me, but you can't understand what I'm saying."
I cried hard af
She looked identical to her bio dad.
Ikr
I was just watching a short documentary on the scale of the tragedy of the one child policy. Millions of people who have no siblings, no aunts or uncles, no extended family. The pressure that an only child feels knowing they have to care for their grandparents and parents. There aren’t a lot of girls and women because men were the ones to carry on the family name or work the fields. But that also means there are a lot of single men who will never marry. Millions of girls who were adopted by parents in other countries and the emotional toll it took on their parents to have to give them up. It was heartbreaking and really put into perspective the terrible impact it had on people.
Why What's the Big deal?
Same
I'm an adoptive father of two wonderful daughters, now in their 30's. We adopted them at three months old in the U.S. (Caucasian daughters). We always celebrated Adoption Day for each of them as well as birthdays. I have also traveled in China several times for business, and I love the people there, so it was great to hear Kati's story. -- The only caveat I'd register here is that some people talk of their adopted children meeting their birth parents as their "real" parents, and the adoptive parents fade into the background. The stories of their meeting biological parents become "The Story," and the adoptive parents sometimes even get characterized as some sorts of "villains." -- Please, folks, remember that we, the adoptive parents, are the "real" parents in significant ways, as we're the ones who've raised and loved our children. -- Our daughters have met their birth mothers, and we have good relationships with them, for which we're thankful...but, to our daughters, *we're* their "parents." -- I'm so happy for Kati's birth family, though. What a story of love!!
Agree, and I think it's mainly to make the show more "interesting" (like the hunt to find the bio parents), but honestly everyone (ESPECIALLY PARENTS) know for sure that the real parents are the ones that put in so many years, effort, patience, love, and understanding... YOU and your wife!
I was gasping for air in tears when the mother cried in her arms and telling her daughter sorry for all these years that she couldn’t find her.
If you are blaming families then you are not understanding the story. If you are blaming the adoptive parents then you do not understand love. If you are blaming the real parents then you do not understand history. This story is beautiful and I’m sure that Kati will continue to cultivate both sides of the family because of the overwhelming love they have for her.
jfeather503 i agree, don't blame either family in a situation like this. Like there's no ONE right way to handle something in a serious of a situation as this
jfeather503 They're both "real" parents. The corrective term is "biological"
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jfeather503 very well said
and Kati has grown up to be a smart, understanding and wonderful person who has brought both the families togather so that nobody will loose anything or her
The mom crying and the girl not knowing what to do or how to act. It's so hard to watch. As a mother, I can only imagine the pain that poor woman must be feeling. But to her daughter - she is a stranger. But to the mother, the daughter is a piece of her heart. A piece that was missing for so many years.
language barrier
She wasn't a stranger to her daughter. Her daughter loved her before they met. She said so.
it was so hard to watch because I understood both the languages
Adopted parents are more attachable when a child is brought up in a western culture where English language has become her mother tongue. As a 20 year old adopted daughter from an American family meeting her biological parents for the first time, she is more confused when she could not understand what her parents were talking.
@@clore.clorp. I mean it is in captions. So...
You did an incredible job raising this child!! You two should be very proud!! Humanity thanks you!!
The best ！😊
I cried through this entire documentary. Really touched my heart.
They made sure to keep the exact amount of lucky money each year that her sister received, because they truly loved their children equally even if they were only able to raise one.
I agree. Such a wonderful parents. 😭❤️❤️❤️ Maybe miles apart but always her in their hearts
Kai M 😭 sucks they didn’t meet earlier but so glad they are reunited!
pkap617 they had too or else the kid could be high risk of death and the parent would pay such a high pay fine. 🗿
@pkap617 Did you not watch the video?
It's so sad to see how there was a language barrier between Kati and her biological parents.
@Tina Zhou exactly!
It should be mandatory for those who adopt.
Christina Tan I can’t control my tears
Actually, the language barrier works as a defense mechanism in the beginning. It’s already an overwhelming meeting. Having to speak 24-7 would make it more difficult. Looks like she had a translator with her though.
@Tina Zhou why when she never needed it
I’m not Chinese but I am adopted. One thing I can say is the fact she gets to meet her birth parents makes me so happy. I will never meet my dad for he died but my mother, I hope to meet her on day. She is not a good woman but it still mean the world to me. My father was a good man but died of drug overdose. I wish I could meet my father again but I never will and beaks my heart. Rip dad.
I was born in one child China but was lucky(?) to have been the first born (only because the previous baby died in the womb after my father pushed my mother down the stairs during a fight). Watching this documentary absolutely broke my heart, to see how a genuinely lovely couple who so wanted their second child but was forced to give her up, not only felt that huge sense of guilt and loss, but had kept the hope of meeting her one day by the letter they so thoughtfully left her adoptive parents (to be as considerate as to suggest a meeting in 10-20 years time rather than straight away even though they would have died inside and probably cried every single day), and put aside red packet money for her. I grew up believing that my childhood was normal and how my parents behaved was normal, but this couple is how parents should be - selfless and making tough choices for the good of their family and most importantly, their child. I was abused physically and psychologically and was told that I was a mistake. My father didn’t want me so much that he threw me onto the tile floor as a baby in a fit of rage and attempted to sell me to his coworkers. He treated me with the same contempt as someone would treat a piece of eyesore furniture in their house - tolerated when it served them, but thrown around when they needed a scapegoat.
Kati is incredibly lucky to have two sets of parents that love her so dearly, but she’s not lucky to have gone through the trauma of being separated from her birth parents and then to go through such a confronting reunion process. I do hope that she has been able to learn Mandarin and grow the connection she has with her birth family.
Watching her birth mother’s reaction to seeing her for the first time broke me. I am the mother of two young children now and I cannot bear to even imagine the pain of having to give one of them up. It’s a level of hell that I would rather die than go through. Kati’s birth and adoptive parents are all incredibly strong and amazing people. I wish them all well.
Iam asian. That pocket money reminds me when my parents gave me a big chunk of gold worth $80,000 when i married the one i love. I never knew they have that much money because we are just an average family (almost poor). It was a 30 years saving. I was crying a river, and i realized they always thinking about me and my sister. i accepted it to respect them even tho i didn’t want to. But i use the money to help them a lot on their old days. Iam a blessed daughter.
Asian cultures such as the Chinese, Korean, and Japanese have the greatest respect for their elderely and familial bonds. Wish it's something the West would practice more...
@@Clos93 sweetie, indonesian, vietnamese, thai, and moreare also respectful asians that you shouldn't forget to mentions :)
@@melanieramdhiniprasetya4133 they said 'SUCH AS' not 'JUST'
Carlos Fierro Yeah and also Filipino, at weddings we give them the “shower of coins” it’s basically we throw gold coins at their feet to bloom love, youth and sincerity.
A strong family is worth more than gold!
I would have forgiven the parents because that one child policy was brutal. Especially since Katie was a female. If they would have kept her she most likely would not be alive nor her family. Sad really.
+Spike Spiegel-I think it is pretty clear that they very much always wanted to be a parent for a next child. They never wanted to give her up if they had the choice, and the dad even said when she started crying where he surrendered her, it took his brother to hold him back from going back to her and taking her back with him. They were destroyed giving up Katie, surrendering her is arguably the most heartbreaking trauma they ever had to go through, and they probably still don't forgive themselves for having to surrender her in the first place.
I don't think there's anything really to forgive. They were caught in a bad situation they couldn't escape. If they had kept Katie, the "kindest" punishment they would've been given would have been such a high fine that their families probably could not afford and would've bankrupted them entirely. If they would have been able to hide Katie away, she never would've been allowed to go to school, no anyone outside the family, have a normal life, and be locked away for her entire childhood. And if she was found out that she was a second girl in the family, there was a very good possibility she would've been killed. Taken away in the middle of the night where they never see her again.
I think they realized as the second child during that horrendous, wrenching era, Katie would never have been afforded a quality life. She never would've been happy, and she may have been taken away and murdered by the system just for being alive. They gave her up not just to protect their family, but to save her. By giving her up, she had a chance at a good life that they couldn't give her.
And the fact they couldn't give her that, it destroyed her mother. She kept on sobbing that she failed Katie as a mother. She felt that if she was a "good mother", she never would've agreed to give her daughter away. But there was very little else she could've done in that situation. Especially if no one close to her was willing to adopt Katie so Katie would at least grow up knowing who her biological family was. She had to make the most difficult decision of her life, and she never wanted to.
These are truly very wonderful, extraordinary people. And it hurts that they will probably never forgive themselves for what they were forced to do. I think they should, Katie has forgiven them and has no ill will for what they were forced to do, and I think they should be less hard on themselves. Understand it was a decision made they never wanted to, but a decision they had to to save their family and give Katie a chance at a good life. The "one child policy" era is littered with so many tragedy that is still sending out ripples today but what they were forced to do was not their fault. So forgive yourself and don't let that regret weigh you down. All you can do is just spend the rest of your life getting to know her.
She said her father wants her forgiveness but she feels no need because there is nothing to forgive. I don't see any resentment for her birth parents as she understands the position they were in.
I came from China, grew up that time, it's all lie from biological parents. They would not be killed if they kept her, they gave birth in hoping the second child is a boy, otherwise they would've done abortion in earlier stage of pregnancy, that's how my sister accidentally pregnant but aborted because of one child policy. But in so many places couples were still hoping getting pregnant again if their first child is a girl. That's why they gave birth, in China you can't know unborn child's sex, because people didn't want girls that time, government wanted to prevent abortion of girls. If it was a son they would keep, but they wouldn't have government support for their second child. That's all. It is quite cruel for her biological parents to use all means to get her heart, considering she has parents and family where she grew up with. The biological parents are not good people, the story they were telling definitely not true. But the adoptive parents are being white people, which currently is the target of world wide condemnation and bullying, so no one truly feel what they are feeling. I guess the emotion always clouded our eyes, prevented our fair judgement.
@@Gigi-ki8xiplus they didn't even have lots of money, so they couldn't raise her even if there was no one-child policy, they could either let the child suffer with them or possibly find them a better home where they could be fed, the father even waited for someone to pick up the child and could only hope that the person had a better situation than them. plus they were definitely thinking about her because the money in the red envelope is old currency. Raising a child is a big deal, my parents have probably spent over a million dollars on me and as the last child, they also gave/give me more attention than my siblings because they were still young when they gave birth to my sister and my brother and didn't have a lot of money and worked a lot, they were only able to raise them because of my grandma who helped take care of them. they are in a much better place now they own a firm and are great lawyers. almost every parent has a reason to give up their child.
@@Gigi-ki8xi Wow. I didn't consider this perspective. Thank you for posting it.
This story was so wholesome. I definitely teared up when I saw her birth mother cry. It must’ve been such a heart wrenching choice having to give their younger daughter up. But thank God they were able to reunite. May God bless both her birth parents and adoptive parents. They both obviously love her very much.
You can't imagine the amount of sorrow and guilt inside those parents.
And the father is texting everyday "Good morning" and "Good night" .. such a sincere parent !!
i love how the biological dad just lit the fireworks in broad daylight "im in charge!"
That dad is awesome
It sounds just as badass in Chinese too, as if this is an area full of mafia and he's the leader or something
Lol!! That was so Adorable and Beautiful!!! I love them!!! 💗💞💕
Yeah, I wouldn’t recommend watching this in a library either.
made the same mistake lol
@@92heoHEo96 oh noo😭
HAISHAHHAHAHAHAHA
Dude my math teacher asked me why I was crying...
I watched it for the first time a few years ago in my school’s study area, and I was trying so hard not to cry so much. I was adopted from China in 2000 and every time I watch this I cry. Even though I have absolutely no recollection of China, it makes me so sad to know I’ll probably never know my biological family
Girl I'm so proud how you held up yours, neutral. I'm a 53 year adoptive woman and I belong to both of my families. Bless you Katie and your entire crew.
@Hello there, how are you doing this blessed day?
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The reunion with her biological family had me wailing. 😩😭 You could hear and see the pain. So happy Kati got her reunion and them.
"You look so much like me, your mother, but you don't understand a word I'm saying" oh my gosh 😭😭😭
I didn't realize this the first time I watched it, but the biological dad calls her American parents her "parents" not "adoptive parents". It's so subtle, but it just shows how sweet and grateful they really are.
No he did say adoptive parents. I know Chinese the subtitles are incorrect.
It’s just a bad translation
Maybe in parts they did say adoptive, but I also understand chinese and there were definitely parts when they just said parents
Doesn't matter what anyone says. People who raise the kid are ALWAYS the real parents. 😀
@@rjkbuny
You are right, he did just say parents at a couple points.
Canada. Crying, all the way. Its must of been very hard for all parents to be force to give away there children. So so sorry. It give me faith to know that there is still love around this worl. Good luck
Bro these people had this baby girl on they own! Against chinas law and behind they family back! They gave this beautiful young lady the gift of life! I been crying forever now ! So emotional
When her birth mother cried uncontrollably it made me cry and my dog came to me to see why I was crying and make me stop crying.
This is a very emotional story.
I know... many stories like that in China. I lived there for quite a few years and I heard several similar stories. I think CCP is sin to make that stupid policy.
I guess ‘the happy ending’ is that both families LOVED her very much. 💕
本来很感人，但是你的评论真是让我破涕而笑。狗子一脸懵逼
@@urashimahanako9965 This is from someone else's comment: Most chinese people would probably disagree that the one-child policy failed. Was it cruel? Yes. Did it have a ton of terrible side effects? Yes. But the objective was to lower the population number because the country couldn't support & educate so many people with their amount of resources back then. They successfully lifted 800 million people out of poverty in a single generation, and the one-child policy's contribution to that cannot be denied. i think you should stop blindly believing western propaganda. there are of course, things to criticise about such blunt methods, but to call the policy a flop is flat out western nonsense.
i hate dogs
“Her birth dad texts her ‘Good morning’ and ‘Goodnight’ every day”
IM CRYING, THAT IS SO PURE AND SWEET AND WHOLESOME AFGH 😭❤️
Ugh, I would be annoyed, haha.
You have no evidence that they are her parents.
HKim0072 that is the rudest thing to ever say. Are you adopted?
Such a caring father ❤ It was so sad to hear him talk about their first interaction so excitedly, like him planning to say "Baby, I love you." I'm so touched and amazed. They must have been in so much pain for so long. I can't even imagine enduring all that. Such brave and compassionate parents❤❤
I am not usually moved to tears when I watch TH-cam, but this story made me cry. It’s so important to acknowledge and understand the great sense of loss and sorrow that the birth parents of adopted children suffer. It never goes away. I am so happy they were able to reunite with their daughter. Katie said she felt she reunited with her parents for them more than for herself. Gracious adoptive parents. So much love for Katie and I fully get why mom was so terrified of losing Katie when she was younger. It would have been much different had the birth parents not been in China. Katie found more than she expected and a sister! This is a truly wonderful story. Maybe more birth parents should leave a note if they have to give up their baby.
Wow... 22 years of red envelopes... They really had her in their hearts all that time
Yup right after ditching their infant daughter in a market..... Asian love for sure.
434x18 hey buddy, you finish the video? Or even heard of the one child policy?
20 years, youre watching this two years later
Steven Jung Still the only reason she turned out the way she did or even alive and well at all is because of the kindness of strangers.
434x18 ok...? Thanks for sharing how simply your mind works. Good luck in your life man, you’re going to need it.
"Her birth father text her goodmorning and goodnight everyday" aww
Laura Sierra man, I shed even more tears when I read that! 😩
He seems like an absolute angel.
That made me CRY!
The sadness in the eyes of the biological mother as her daughter said goodbye is so painful to see.
“you weren’t from my tummy, but you came from my heart, you were born in my heart” so cute.
"You look so much like your mum... But you dont understand what Im saying" My heart breaks for the pain that mother feels. I gave birth to my first child december of last year, and I couldnt imagine a life without him. I hope she went on to learn their language so they can communicate without an interpreter
Edit: it makes me so happy she's learning Mandarin 😭❤
Same! When she said that, it hit me like a truck.
Yeah……I actually had to pause the video for a moment when she said that!
I’m just like 😣 Ugh…and like idk why but holy shit that tiny little statement just hit me soo hard!
As a mother myself It is hard for me to even begin to imagine the pain that that mother(and father) had to be feeling every moment, of every day, for 20 years!?
FFS that’s rough 🥺
Me too. I hope she can stay close to them especially her sister. They bonded beautifully and interesting that Katie thought she had been left somewhere. Adoptees have memories because it's trauma.
I have two children who speaks only English... If I could turn back I would send them to language classes as todliers... Maybe Chinese Mondays and Spanish Tuesdays.... Languages is so important.... I can speak four
@@evamagone8613 it’s certainly easier to do as a toddler, but you can learn at any age. If they move to another country when they’re older (assuming by children you mean child age - how fun is English that you have to classify ‘grown/adult children’.
My uncle didn’t begin to learn a second language until he was 20. He learnt Spanish with no pre-existing entry structure of the language or similar beforehand, (60’s-70’s New Zealand education rarely included second language) . He’s a polyglot now, just through immersion with his advertising job, immersion is the best method after early introduction (speaking as a person who was involved in a long term toddler to adulthood piano teaching study/programme).
He speaks English, Spanish, Mandarin, Nihongo, French and Cantonese. As well as a handful of semi fluent languages,
I was introduced to second language at 12 and speak and write English, Spanish, Japanese and Welsh. I’ve got some Māori, Italian and French, latter two just having an easy connection to the Latin languages, and can do verrrrry basic German.
But I’d say a lot was self taught without immersion and my parents aren’t even bilingual. I don’t think I’ve got my uncles gift, although I have studied English linguistics, I just kept up the practice.
It’s never too late, you can begin to encourage them with your own immersion programme I’d they’re at home. They’ll speak their usual language at school and with friends, but you can create an immersion environment at home gradually. Start with colours, label objects like the fridge, begin to refer to them by the label name etc.
"I will be happy if she accepts me as her sister" :(((
I knowwww!!! Oh my gawww!!! Loved them so much!!! 💗💞💕💝💖❣
When sister and mom was doting on her in the car combing her hair. How flippin adorable!!
I have no words. This is an incredible story, and I’m glad she was able to see and speak with her biological family. The fact that they had waited so long for their once lost child and hoped to see her again after a number of years is…
Again, I got no words. I can only imagine that kind of pain, and the kind of relief that comes with finally seeing your child after that long.
My mom was torn about my adopted sister. She didn’t want her to feel different from us and have always treated us all exactly the same. She never told any of us that my sister was adopted when we were growing up.
My sister looked more mixed than the rest of us, so when she became a rebellious teenager and more aware, she would say that our mother probably was a slut that slept around, and had her. Mom still kept it to herself and one day when my sister was 17, they fought and it came out that she was adopted. Her mother was a friend and she slept around and had my sister when she was too young to take care of her, so our mother took her in. Then my sister was mad at my mom for not telling her the truth from the beginning. They are good with each other now, but my sister was resentful for a long time.
I felt bad for my sister, but worse for my mom. She wanted to do good, but in the end everything was a bad choice. Telling her while she was young will make her know that she’s different and when mom reprimands her, she may think mom doesn’t love her because she’s adopted. Mom also didn’t want her to know her birth mother actually wanted to abort her. She didn’t want my sister to feel “less than” us. Waiting to tell her when she’s older, made my sister felt like she was lied to all her life, and she hated my mom for that.
I always wonder what is the right thing to do. If it were me, I wouldn’t know either. I am glad my sister and I are so close. I wonder if knowing she was adopted while growing up would make a difference, but I think as a kid our bond is more about the experiences we went through together. Even though now I know she is adopted, I almost never think of her as an “adopted” sister. She is just my sister.
Loved your story. Thanks for writing
@@Baasnhuish thanks for taking the time to read it and reply :).
When her biological mom fell into her arms on the bridge, I lost it. I could feel that deeply. So happy and so sad at the same time.
Tess W omg!!! Me too!! I was not ready
That was so sweet and I totallyyyy understand the moms reaction but I wouldn't advise bio parents to do that to a child upon first meeting. That's their personal space and they don't know you at all. You can see the uncomfortable and awkward face Kati has. But as a mother, I can totally understand the feeling of just collapsing when reuniting with your baby
@@amaebarnes I understand where you are coming from as well but I have to say I disagree. They may not know her but she was created in the womb of that woman. Kati's blood and life comes from them. Kati may be uncomfortable but her mom needed to do this to be healed. She looked like to held on to so much pain and unforgiveness towards herself.
@@amaebarnes
I think Katie understood. I think her uncomfortabilty came from not being able to comprehend what her mother was saying. But you can see her comfort her biological mother as she cries on the bench.
Same!! I really lost it.
The culprit was the one-child policy. Imagine there are millions of such sad stories.
I hope how the people are coping with the new three child policy
The one child policy made the life style of the birth parents so exceptional. Imagine if the 1.44 billion people had 3 children prior to the economic growth of China. They would not have been able to set aside money for the daughter they thought about daily. I was amazed by how close both sets of parents were. Unfortunately, China wants the increased population to take over the world.
@@damama630 the problem with the one child policy isn’t with over population, it’s that people didn’t have freedom to do what they pleased.
There were many more freeing, better ways to improve the over population, like encouraging imigration, giving better sex ed, giving more rights to women, having more available birth control.
@@damama630 The one child policy was an evil policy.
@@atree9284 I see welfare people in the US having 8-10 children to increase their welfare payments, not giving a rat's ass about the children. Somali immigrants have 10-12 children. There is no quality of life for these children. The parents are breeding machines. From someone who sees the downside of "allowing people to do what they please" in comparison to the restrictive policies China imposed, the restrictive policy seems to produce a better quality of life. The US has successfully allowed people to do as they please and produced a generation of self serving weirdos who have no real place in society with no personal responsibility. Leadership has to make tough decisions. Perhaps neither has chosen wisely.
As an adopted person I waited 60 years before meeting members of my birth family. Sadly, my mother was forced by social convention to give me up, but never forgot me. As she was dying, she made my sister promise to find me. I had to start the process. I feel so strongly for all parties here. But the adoptive mother was wrong to be too possessive about her daughter. At 10 would have been better. I was in tears most of the way through this.
The difference in the bio mom before and after meeting Katie again is truly incredible
Today 60 years ago my mother left me in a garden in Hong Kong. I think about her a lot and I hope that even though distance and time separate us, she still think about me. I’ve got nearly no chance if ever meeting her, she might be dead for all I know, but this documentary does it for all of us who will never meet their parents. If my own parents cared as much as these parents did for Katie, then I am consoled.
Some parents just feel guilty and think they are not in a position to try to reclaim the love from their abandoned children. I knew a mother with such a mentality. When she moved to a new address, she didn't leave a message to her abandoned daughter who came to visit her sometimes. As a kid then, I could not understand her behavior, so my dad gave me that explanation.
谁都没有完美的人生，一切还是顺其自然好了。
I am very sure they did or do care as much and I am sure you were or are very loved and missed.
My mother abandoned me when I was 4 years old and I was not as fortunate as some of you. it was a horrible life I’ve been through.. I was abandon because I was a girl! But I still miss my mom...I pray everyday to God for hope to see her before I die😥🙏🏻
@@annhoskinson5318 keep your faith & hope. She is probably looking for you too 💘. I am a birth mom. I understand.
@@annhoskinson5318 When I finally met my birth mother she told me she regretted not aborting me and that my birth has been the greatest shame of her life, And when I asked about my father she told me he was an ex who raped her and refused to ever give me his name.
So fuck em both :) Thank god I got to grow up with the people I consider my real parents.
Imagine how much guilt and frustration the big sister feels too, your parents had to leave your baby sister on the street cos they already had you 😭
They didn't have to leave their baby on the street, they chose to.
@@PraiseTheFSMonster they chose to because the baby could've died. For the baby it was either death or the opportunity of being saved. They chose to give her a chance, even if they weren't sure that she'd be saved.
@@Aeyaoo_11 If the government found out that they had a baby, they would have put it in an orphanage. You know when she could have died? When she was left on the street.
@@PraiseTheFSMonster no, there were consequences for having a 2nd child, including forced sterilizations, large fines imposed, and even in some circumstances, women were tied up for induced abortions. So yeah, the family was poor and they couldn't afford paying. They didn't want the government to kill the child, and to leave her in a child care place they would have to pay too.
@@Aeyaoo_11 People had second children ALL THE TIME. It was a huge problem. The government put those children in orphanages, which weren't great but the kids stayed alive and they got food, water, clothing and shelter. These people left their baby on the street, where it could have starved, been killed, been kidnapped, or been put into human trafficking. If they wanted to leave it somewhere, they could have dropped it off at an orphanage, at a church, or at a police station. But they chose to leave it under a table at an outdoor market where anything could have happened. Those parents are monsters.
I could say that Katie is still lucky to still be able to meet her biological parents, there are still many adopted children out there who don't even know their true identities, where they come from, who their biological parents are, and that's very sad.
What a touching story of family and reunion. The amount of love that her biological family had for her was wonderful to see and I am glad that they finally had some peace of mind to know what a wonderful young woman their daughter had become. What a mature viewpoint Kati had with this life experience. I am happy that she will be able to have a relationship with both of her families. Thank you for sharing this story with me.
She's experiencing culture shock. American Suburbia is very different than a proper Chinese street market. I hope she learns Chinese and gets to experience all the interesting things there.
For sure. She was a very awkward and looked uncomfortable when her parents were talking to her from a close distance.
See one thing is how would the adopted parents cover up the fact that she was Chinese... like I’m not saying adopted parents should not tell but how could they have covered it up either ? But both parent sets are really nice 😊👏
@@varshakaul9587 The adoptive parents didn't cover up the fact that she was Chinese. They were open from the start, telling her she came from a woman's tummy in China. What they didn't do was reveal to her all the details about her adoption.
Yeah..... She's American.
She’s moved to China and is talking with her birth family!
The poor biological mother. I watched her sit by the bio father as he talked about having to give her up and she didn't say a word but the second she saw her daughter for the first time she couldn't stop talking and crying. It's just heartbreaking and the daughter looked so out of place like she didn't know what to do. She was actually kind of stoic.
I don’t think she liked it that much even in the final speech she seems to have find not what she wanted
I can understand Katie feeling stoic seeing total strangers, even though their her biological parents, pour out so much emotion over her. I am sure she understood but emotionally how can she feel much for people she just met for the first time? I really felt bad for the biological mother the pain, guilt sorrow, etc over giving up her daughter the last 20 years and then seeing her the first time is overwhelming is an understatement.
@@bobmorane2082 she was followed by a filming crew with no privacy. And then there’s language and cultural barriers on top of that. No wonder she felt that way.
It's 20 years of guilt and sorrow of the birth mother. For Katie, I think she is very contended with her adoptive family, so meeting her biological parents is just to have some closure to her birth.
@@bobmorane2082 she said it was fulfilling
The oddest thing I found is that the adoptive parents weren't accompanying their daughter to meet her birth parents. Even though she's 20, it seems like they should be part of the journey/meeting as well.
An extraordinary story with emotions most of us will never know or even understand. I do not envy any of them this broken set of circumstances and achingly long wait to reunite...but as a viewer, my heart was overwhelmed with the raw emotion displayed by the birth parents and the devotion they fostered for so long, the love that only grew in those many years. My wish is for all of them is continued contact and the joys of getting to know one another...and to finally share their lives as families.