Lilly Singh's Book is Pretty Awful
ฝัง
- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 24 ส.ค. 2024
- I'll admit it, she's no Gabbie Hanna but it's not great...
If you want to torture yourself grab a copy here (affiliate links):
UK: amzn.to/2unHIlb
USA: amzn.to/2NQT5sz
Canada: amzn.to/2TY4bjk
Or check out some of these books I do recommend spending your time on instead:
UK: www.amazon.co....
USA: www.amazon.com...
Canada: www.amazon.ca/...
---------------------------
30 Day Audible Trial with one free audiobook (2 for Prime members!): www.amazon.co....
---------------------------
MERCH: teespring.com/...
Support my channel: www.paypal.me/...
Instagram: / rachel0ates
Twitter: / rachel0ates
Patreon: / racheloates
My Wishlist: www.amazon.co....
Kyra's Wishlist: www.amazon.co....
---------------------------
PO Box
Rachel Oates
Unit 16588
PO Box 6945
London
W1A 6US
---------------------------
A huge thank you to these guys for supporting me on Patreon this month ♥♥♥
Samuel Robert Brace
Sarah Katherine Mitchell
Andreea Pomirleanu
Chris Berchem
Arylin Rylee
Joni Miller
Julia Hoffman
Caroline Scarborough
Kurt Robicheaux
and...
Gambit and his chauffeur, Liv's Pantyhose Addiction, Data Jack, Mark Dauner, Tyler, Mary Civitano, Nathalie ML Romer, Robert Korte, Peter Kyrouac, Cody Holcomb, Sir Michael Moore, Bt., The Flaming Skeptic, Trae Sprowles, Sage Villarreal
and...
Hannes Illy, Andrew Jones, Lord of Therring, Steven Gernandt, Dave Lindop, Charles R.l. Power, Rachel B Royer, Dean A. Batha, Rampaging Marshmallow, Crystal Bryce, John R, Fred Lunjevich, hamanime, Jamie Dyson, Lydia, Stacey Peterson, Brillig S. Toves, Alex Hoing, Flatterfuchs, Maggie Wisk, James Russell, Max Aldrich, Bric Mahlum, Gopinath Sundaramurthy, Beth Martin, Tim C, Thomas Struss, Joseph Sharp, Emily Corbett, Ashley Lynn Waldron, Robert Aguero Padilla, Jimmy B., Rebecca Lashua, Marc Godderd, George Stathoulopoulos, Stuart Bower, Tennomusha, Ellavee, Cro-Magnon Gramps, Larissa Bucio, Kevin Conrad, Brittany Geren, David Groves, Andrew H, Matt, Hannah Ledsom, Chris Cox, Sysosmaster, Alan Stevens, Stan Zaytsev, Michael Butchin, Bob S, Emma Burzynski, Michael Wheatland, James Curtis, Katie Faust, Alyssa P, Anna Lynch, Gully Foyle, Mark Kessler, Dylan Blair, Emily McTear, Solvor Megard, Skeptik Kabinett, James Classen, Marcus Meitzler, Stefan van den Berg, Stephan Thamm, William Walen, Andrew Jennings, Gary Gehiere, Greg Ladd, Ryan Blewitt, Klaus-Peter Hammerschmidt, Daniel Brooks, Joseph Gast, Peter de Vries, Katie Klebba, paul, The Bearded Heathen, Mark Rice
You guys are incredible!! ♥
---------------------------
Patreon: / racheloates
Don't feel like you have to donate, but please know I'm super-grateful to anyone who does ♥
It really gives me the opportunity to re-invest back into my channel and continue to improve me content for you guys. Plus, I can finally be financially stable again and stop disappointing my parents ;)
Your dogs tiny jump dance is the cutest thing ever
We need that on the loop.
It made my day.
@@baky582 or gif set
My dog does that when she finds a spot to lay down. It’s one of those funny dog things that will never cease to amuse me.
Dogs do that to because in their mind they’re trying to make it more comfy 😂.
Your dog is the true protagonist of this story.
whoa! Thanks for the likes! :) I'm flattered!
Well, it’s official. I have more likes on this comment than I do subscribers. Always outdoing myself.
Abigail Chaiyasate oh my goodness thank you!!! What a cool thing to come out of a silly little comment! Thank you so much. 😄
"On a scale from Gabbie Hanna to Shakespeare" is my favorite thing you've ever said
Unrelated but your profile picture made my day
Omg this comment section made my day.
This is so wholesome :D
When you say "TH-camrs' books," I think of a trilogy of god-awful novels by a loud-mouth, greasy scumbag. For your own sanity, just don't!
This comment thread made my day :D
Omg "talking to someone at a party who's had a little too much to drink" is the perfect description of watching Lilly's content
●has applied *some sniffy dust* to oneself
How is that dog talking without moving its lips
She’s MAGIC.
Dogs don't communicate through their mouths, but by their minds
i love this format so much
I’ve seen homeward bound, I’m pretty sure animals just talk like that
Matthew hates Rachel ok incel, you’re on the wrong thread i think
Lilly made content for kids and thought she could move up to adult television and book content without changing how she made content, and she is slowly getting her bubble popped
this.
@@elysa9977 did he say something similar to that, I do watch him but I don't remember him talking about her????
mental breakdown the person he said that Lilly has attempted to transition to a mainstream audience while not changing her content from the content that she produced for TH-cam. What works for 5-15 minute videos does not work for an hour long tv show.
@@elisyasinea1727 ah, probably subconsciously remember it
This absolutely. Plus, her original audience mostly grew up, and her content didn’t grow with them.
She literally tried loud=funny in book format... Wow.
Have you watched the 4 Lele Pons videos?
Didn’t know that was possible. Im scared what power she holds from this.
You think screaming in a book is unusual, but you know what's really weird? I experienced a jumpscare in a graphic novel. No joke. The main character's looking at a vampire through a keyhole and the vampire's doing stuff like taking her skin on and off, then one page has the vampire putting her eye right up to the keyhole.
@@squidvink When I Arrived at the Castle by Emily Caroll.
the book version of the red wedding made me scream and throw the book away. i read it before the tv show.
Ooo I like. Is there anyway you read this online for free? Because I’m broke lol
@@Kirsten4260 There's always the library.
Yes but was it a good book?
LOUD NOISES but in book format
YOU BAWSE
ah wholesome, yeezy and oats
@@theintrepidarts9347 I ship it
We all out here being BOOUASes
When is the collab?
No offense but can you for now on just record your dog it's the most adorable pup.
Right... :d
my mood always ❤️ “no offense but could all you people be replaced by dogs i’d love it”
Matthew hates Rachel lol what
@veevyo I am guessing his comment was deleted. His username was "Matthew Hates Rachel". Wow he needs to get a life! Ew.
What about the adorable boi as my profile pic?!
I assume with that Game of Thrones example she used Daenerys because she's the most recognisable name in the franchise even if she wasn't the most fitting. The thing is she could've used Dany to fit her example if she just said something like "remember that one time Daenerys pretended she didn't understand Valyrian only to reveal it's her mother tongue while conquering a city". Instead of going for an actually thought out example she went with a half-assed surface level reference and I feel like that speaks volumes about the whole book.
Yeah, she probably hasn't watched the whole TV show and has only read some spoilers, this misuse of a character in a reference cannot be explained otherwise
This book was written at least 4 yrs ago as well. I'm not sure where in the story they were at the time of her writing this.
@@ScorpionFlower95 she's watched the whole series but she hasn't read the book, and I don't think the series is as good
Hasn’t Daenerys adamantly stated in the series that she’s a Khaleesi, not a queen?
Her reference is also from season one, so no one is shutting the book going "EeEwWWww SpOiLeRs"
it’s just so weird how she makes her content for children yet she makes so many sexual jokes and references to things like game of thrones, which her audience probably has no connection to
I always thought her stuff was meant for teens and college kids. A lot of her videos have always been about dating etc, not sure why so many people are labeling her as kids only.
@@Gaywatch Right! I always got the vibe that her stuff was aimed at teenagers or college kids like you said. Or people in their early 20s
this is a really good take. as i know as a girl, sexism is a serious issue but boiling it down to “i’m a woman and get paid less because of it” kinda trivializes it in a way because that’s not true in all circumstances.
Exactly. That type of reductionist view is what makes people not want to take wage and gender issues seriously.
I agree and this is an example of a reason that people assume feminism isn't needed cause of how she puts it and what she focusses on
@@neulinu Racial discrimination is also against the law, yet somehow racism manages to exist. Price fixing is illegal, so I assume ISPs happen to get matching prices by accident every year, etc.
But who actually does that? The only time I see the argument presented like this is when bad-faith anti-SJW types frame the argument. I've never seen a feminist claim that the pay gap solely or primarily exists because bad people want to pay women less.
@Matthew hates Rachel most feminists are *for* legalizing sex work, so they wouldn't go on strike to make prostitution illegal. And your child custody argument is...dumb... because feminists would fight that whichever parent is more fit should get sole custody. Stop bunching feminists and radicalized crazy people together.
Refreshing to finally hear another girl acknowledge that the pay gap is a far more complex situation than so many people think, really good to hear
It's also refreshing..
www150.statcan.gc.ca/n1/pub/75-004-m/75-004-m2019004-eng.htm
^^ Explains the complexity...
level 1: woman is pay less than man because man hate woman
level 2: it's not true because women go have kids and suchlike
level 3: it actually is true across certain age groups but this is accounted for by a lot of women's choices in the work world
level 4: these women's choices are actually rooted in a sexist system and societal context should be analysed in relation to all studies on the wage gap and interfering factors
@Toxic Neon Gas To answer the question: Well if women get paid less why not hire only women??? Huh!
Women are paid less by using loopholes. Yes, it is 100% illegal to pay a woman less just because she’s a woman. However, it is not illegal to pay her less if you consider her to be under qualified for the position or for needing to work fewer hours due to having a child. It is not illegal to pay your part time workers less than full time workers (hourly). Basically if Susan has a baby and needs to cut her hours, of course she’d make less by default, but it’s not illegal for them to also cut her hourly pay. To make this simple. She was making 10 an hour working 40 hours a week. That’s $400 a week. But now she needs to cut back hours due to having a baby. So she cuts back to 25 hours a week. You’d think she’s make $250 a week. But then her job cuts her hourly pay to $8. Now she’s making even less money. Of course they can do this to a man too but men are statistically less likely to cut back on work when having a child.
Another example is claiming she’s under qualified or not as experienced. It’s usually because women are commonly seen as incapable of doing certain jobs as well as men. Thus, despite being completely qualified and sometimes even over qualified they are still paid less because they aren’t viewed to be as valuable as their male counterparts.
You couldn’t just hire women because that would be discriminatory towards men. You could get away, theoretically with hiring mostly women but then you’d have to pay the few men their the same wage of the women unless you want to claim you’ve hired all incompetent women to do a job. It’s much easier to get away with hiring few women and paying them less under the false notion that they aren’t as qualified.
It also doesn’t help that jobs scare people into thinking they can’t discuss their wages with their coworkers. Then no one knows if they’re being paid less or more than another for the same job. And it’s also important to remember that your experience is not everyone else’s and using your experience as a way to dismiss these issues doesn’t work.
Personally I’ve usually always been paid MORE than my male counterparts but that’s mostly because they were fucking idiots lol. I’m talking basic hourly CS type jobs. I do remember going to an interview at Walmart (I needed some extra money) and my boyfriend worked their part time as well. I applied for the same exact job he was working (he’d only been there a month or so at this point) but they were gonna stare me off $1.75 less an hour than he started off with. I asked why and they said “that’s just our starting pay for everyone” and I told them that I know a guy who works here (my boyfriend) and he started off with more. They said they changed their starting pay. 2 weeks later my boyfriend was “let go” and they called me back saying they weren’t gonna go with me. Best thing to ever happen to us honestly LOL.
Toxic Neon Gas I can tell you didn’t even read my response or you didn’t comprehend what I was saying. I broke it down to the basic as much as I could. I do not have the time or energy to entertain you or educate you on this issue. If you’d like to learn more about it I suggest you do some research about wage gap, and go beyond just the surface level of the issue. There’s so many complex factors of how the wage gap works and I couldn’t even begin to try and tell you in a YT comment thread.
Toxic Neon Gas Yes
I hate how* she spelled “boss”. Like it immediately takes her professionalism down 5 notches.
It's the exact same vibe of those socially awkward/naive people who have trouble expressing their personality so they unironically use phrases like awesome sauce and amazeballs
I think she’s trying to say boss like in that Lonely Island song. I think it’s just cliched and dated at best.
@@smjaiteh Absolutely the vibe I get as well. It's like a "how do you do fellow kids? from ten years ago"
If I had to guess. It's a copyright thing? I'm not mad at it, I mean hell Jeffree star does things like that with his shade names
it gives off the same vibes as her calling herself a unicorn or actually writing "I'm LOLing" in the book
"Unlike Lily, not everyone can have their parents supporting them for a year while they go out and chase their dreams." Yes!!!! A thousand times, yes. This is what Lily Singh doesn't understand. She refuses to acknowledge that she is extremely privileged and that her privilege has given her an enormous head start in life. I've noticed that its always people who come from old money that say things like "it's all about your mindset, there are no limits." and "you're just not confident enough, just make it happen." They have no concept that some of us come from poor backgrounds and didn't always have a leg up or the opportunity to just go and do exactly what we wanted. Some of us had no choice but to work a menial day job to pay bills and eat because no one else was there to hand us rescue money when our "Plan A.2" or whatever fell through. Of course, we all have the opportunity to become successful through hard work, but privileged people like Lily who have never really lived in the world the rest of us live in making it sound so simple and easy. That's dangerous, as it can seriously harm someone's self-confidence if they are struggling and not able to achieve their goals and dreams right away. They will believe that something must be wrong with them, and maybe they just don't deserve happiness if they are stills struggling when its meant to be so easy. She totally brushes over struggles and hard work and makes it seem like everyone can wake up in the morning and just decide to be rich and successful. It ain't always like that. Otherwise, poverty would not exist.
A lot of Indian migrants to Canada are economically privileged because of Canada's immigration system that brings in a lot of Indian professionals like doctors and such. The sad part is it divides the immigrant community in our country into the privileged elite immigrants and the poorer immigrants. Lily grew up in Scarborough so I'm sure she saw poverty, but a lot of people of privilege seem to lack empathy because their parents never instilled it in them.
@@AnArchyRulzz I think this came from a culture, India is very divided as well and the richest Indians( most of them) don't even care what's happening with the poor people in their country, they born rich and the poor just born poor that's all and saddest thing some rich people use those poor people, like slaves, not pay enough for them etc. because they make them feel is privilege to work with such rich person. Because of that lots of Indian has lack of empathy or don't have at all is not in the culture or the education generally.
@@AnArchyRulzz also, some people like unprivileged background or live minorities, in my country have more privilege like I am. They have free houses, not paying rent, electricity water, the government pays them everything, including full housing, health care, plus no trial no punishment any kind of stealing, or illegal activity. and i have nothing free, because I am a ''normal'' citizen in my country. No one gives me free house, fully covered expenses and I just dream about free health care, without a job, and if I don't have my parents I live in the streets by now, and my government not support me at all, because I don't come from the minorities. Please, if you come my country you won't see the problem, you see those people are poor, because dress like that, bargaining on the streets and you will call us bad persons. So please if you come here see don't judge us without seeing the whole picture and don't judge what you see on the surface, its not the real issue.
I am lucky my family support me as well, my dreams and everything, but its not that easy how some people with better background say.
I think that's also why she flaunts her BI WOMAN OF COLOR HEY GUYS DID YOU KNOW THAT I AM BISEXUAL NOW MEN AM I RIGHT?? status so much because she does come from a lot of economic privilege, so she tries to play the victim card in that regard to appear "humble" or "relatable."
@@bloggerblogg5878 I am so sorry to hear that! My country is in a similar situation (eastern europe). May I ask if you’re from the same region?
I’m a privileged girl with well-off parents who support me with housing and university. I’m capable of appreciating and understanding that, even though I know there are many things people go through that I don’t even think of. It just seems ridiculous to me that Lilly won’t acknowledge that! And I think that’s the most offensive thing she does.
Rachel has ascended to a new disembodied form.
A being of pure light energy
"Just remember to smile, stand tall, and look as adorable as possible." THAT'S her advice for negotiating?! Big yikes. Her audience is primarily young women/teen girls, and that's basically telling them their worth is based on their looks. It's gross. Remember girls, just look cute, because men aren't listening to you anyway lololol.
And Lilly is supposed to be a feminist lol
@@enriquesanchez9016 she is the epitome of liberal feminism, for her it is all about the brand and all she cares about is seeing more female CEOs.
This is why feminism gets a bad rap.
Oh she didn't did she?
my asian grandma would be so mad HAHAH shes the best at negotiating
In high school I had a girl come up to me and said "We should be friends. I dont have any disabled or gay friends,". I was so pissed off because I'm more then just a lesbian or legally blind person. It really did make me feel like I was uust a mean to the end that was completing her pokedex. I felt so gross.
Oh my gods, that’s terrible. Why are people like this?
I dont think she was trying to be super rude. Then again I'm used to being treated poorly for being gay. Since my mom used to introduce me to new people as her son because I am a lesbian and a tom boy. So... I have a high tresh hold for what it is for someone to be rude to me sense i am so desensitized.
@@BlindZubat oh my god, that’s terrible! You don’t deserve to have gone through something like that. Are you doing okay now? Do you want to talk about it?
I am doing ok. My mom did way freaking worse stuff than that to me. I have been working through it all with my therapist. To be honest I have been doing better lately then I ever have in my life! Thank you for showing concern though. Its really nice to see others caring about the well being of strangers on the internet.
@@BlindZubat I’m glad you’re doing okay. No one is supposed to go through that and your mom is terrible for doing all that to you. I hope you can keep doing better and better. Sending lots of love and hugs. Have a lovely day and stay safe ❤️
When she says “bawse” it sounds like “bás” which means “death” in my language. Never had more fun watching a video/reading a book.
iSAiAH MoReL when i say it in my scottish accent it sounds like i’m saying balls lmao
ayy another gaeilgeoir I see
what language is it? i love learning new words
@@miea34 irish :)
Is that Gaelic? I think I saw someone using it on Reddit.
I will automatically hate anyone who spell "Boss" like that
That spelling make me cringe / puke
Ngl when I first saw that book title (like 3 years ago?? Don't remember when that book published lol) I don't even know how to read that and wonder wtf that supposed to mean? Lmao
I expect five year olds to spell it like that, not a grown woman. 🤢
Right? Like 2011 called they want there meme back
@@khfan4life365 tbh her content is (or was, I guess) mostly geared towards young kids and teens (probably not five lol but maybe 11-15?) so I guess she got used to certain vocabulary. god knows I sometimes talk to my friends and family as I talk to my first grade sts 😂
One little note on the adding diversity to your life thing: I don’t think it’s
a bad thing to make a conscious effort to read books by people of color. That’s not collecting people, that’s being aware that there are people with different perspectives than you, and actually trying to learn about them.
👍
I prefer the advice of Billy Joel; "dream on but don't imagine they'll all come true."
Or Gene Simmons on Dr. Phil; "follow your dreams but get a job!"
Wow, the first advice is sad.
@@gracedaphne1213 The first line is about overwhelming yourself with this belief that everything you spend your youth working for will definitely come true, because life is uncertain but eventually you'll get to be at a point where you need to be, even if you anticipated on something different and might have to wait longer to get there. It's actually a really hopeful song called Vienna (my favorite song by him).
@@xtonibx5770 that's a really beautiful explanation. Its my favourite song too. And I've always found it quite hopeful! You won't get things before your time, don't stress so much lmao. It's such accurate narrative for youth and dreams with beautiful advice
@@xtonibx5770I love Vienna, it’s a wonderful message of not overextending yourself and sapping yourself of hope and passion during the period of your life when you have the most energy, and the most freedom.
It’s okay to take things slowly and roll with the punches as they come. Don’t set a hard line for yourself of “This is what I WILL do,” but instead say, “This is the goal I’m working towards, but if something changes along the way, that’s okay.” This is the philosophy I’ve lived by my whole life, and it’s a great way of staying motivated while also not setting yourself up for devastation.
Being a naive 15 year old, I bought her book because everyone was talking about how inspiring she is. I was absolutely dissapointed at the content as it's all surface level "inspiration" without actually giving you any substantial tips and information about how to get over obstacles. This is the case with a lot of popular self-help books like "the subtle art of not giving a fuck". I could go on about that too
Edit: I'm so sorry I completely forgot to mention how much I love your dog
@Abigail Chaiyasate since I'm Indian everyone (cousins and classmates) was all over her. I'm usually cynical but since she had all this "success" I thought I would give it a try as I was terribly depressed and wanted to find a way out. What I've learned from that is self help books are trash
@Abigail Chaiyasate awww thanks. Also I'm alright now. I'm in the process of getting better. You take care as well
Okay I completely agree with this. What self help books have you liked so far? Because I feel like every book of this genre is a load of BS.
@@hareemshaikh There are definitely good books. Check out books like "The Power of Habit" and "The Happiness Equation". See books that are highly reviewed and popular, not ones by 'celebrities'. See TH-cam channels like Thomas Frank.
Yeah, her books are in every bookstores in India and in audible as 'best selling books'. Luckily, I got a chance to brush through the book at the store and realised it's not worth the prize. I also noticed nobody is buying it either. 😂
Hey Rachel, sorry to hear you're in an 'ice cream and duvet' mood.
Much love and stuffs from Bonnie Scotland ... please take care of yourself, eh?
I'm always in that mood 😂
I don't even know why she used Daenaerys as an example for keeping things to yourself - Tyrion may be cliche, but he fits an example like that so well. He knew when to show his hand and when not to. He let people think he was useless until it benefitted him for them not to.
The way he talked to Jon in season one is not the way he spoke to Cersei or Joffrey or even Jaime, who he was arguably closest with. The lesson being - Know who it is safe to show certain parts of yourself to. Because it will never be everything with everyone.
Sarah A tbf she probably read the got wiki page to get a Dany reference, because you’re right Tyrion, Jon and even Sansa would have been much better examples
Bc I guess Daenerys is a Bawse??
@@queenoffabulous2156 I mean - not after season 8.
Youre right, Daenerys *was* a Bawse
veryfancydoily She actually is a big GOT fan (i used to watch her vlogs, and she made multiple skits/videos about it and also raps and the lyrics show how much she knows lmao). But yes I agree with her using the worst reference for that point. Like I have no idea why she did that and even approve it on the revision and then let it be published...
While there is equal opportunity on TH-cam, could there be a discrepancy in women getting popular vs men getting popular due to potential audiences having a subconscious bias? As we all are raised in a misogynistic society, we all internalize these feelings. Women-run channels may appeal only to women whereas man-run channels may appeal to both men and women, as men are seen as the default human being and "neutral" whereas women arent.
It's the same reason so many book and movie protagonists aimed at audiences of both sexes are male and female protagonists are seen mostly in books aimed at women and girls.
Not saying Lilly is right but that it is more complicated than either "I get paid less" or "TH-cam is completely equal."
Lily should be the poster child of r/fellowkids
What is r/fellowkids?
@@gracedaphne1213 I think it probably just means she's a grown woman trying to be cool and relatable to younger people and failing.
Not gonna lie, Rachel, I really enjoyed all the KyraCam moments! Of course, I love seeing you too, but Kyra is so precious. Plus I'm glad you're taking it easy when you feel you need to.
I recenty bought Gabbie's book to analyze it and try and make some of her poetry better, rewrite it and make it kind of good as I write my own poetry myself. I know that this video is about Lily but I just wanted to say this. I took a break from poetry for a while because my last English class just kind of ruined it for me as it was really surface level and the teacher only accepted the answer that she believed the poem was about. I loved her as a person, but I would always find other ways that the poem could be analyzed and I always found other things that it could mean. I would feel extremely stupid when my answer "wasn't right". A little into the year I just stopped writing my poetry completely as I felt that it wasn't good. That it wasn't worthwhile and that I wasn't making the right connections with my own poetry. I feared that people would get the wrong message from it. After watching your first Gabbie book review and seeing your love for poetry and just the way you view the poems that you displayed. I starting writing again that night. I took inspiration from the poems that you showed in your video that were not Gabbie's. So, thank you so much for inspiring me to write again. I love it and I'm happy that I have started again.
I would have made a whole debate to prove to the teacher why that kind of thinking is wrong in both poetry reading and a school environment. Saying that her opinion was the only right one just because she's the teacher leaves no room for learning other perspectives or views. If her teaching style lead to you not writing poetry, then she kind of failed you as a teacher. But I'm glad that you're writing again!
@@erca396 thank you so much! I really liked her as a person and she was super sweet. I don't know if she was just following the the curriculum or if she taught like that because she personally felt that way. Either way I'm still writing again and it's making me happier :)
@@npitzer I won't forget that, and thank you :)
I suggest that instead of reading crappy poetry and trying to make it better you read good poetry and take inspiration from it. Never give up on a dream that in the worst-case scenario is going to make you grow in a way... even if you don't necessarily succeed, writing poetry could be very beneficial.
@@blancaah6 I do read good poetry in addition to Gabbie. I wanted go try and "challenge" myself to make Gabbie's poetry better for fun.
I disagree that everyone starts out with equal opportunity on youtube. Ofcourse people with money to access editing software, higher quality cameras, mics, lighting etc, people with a background in film production or another related industry, people who use a language spoken by a large population, people who know much larger youtubers personally to do collabs, and people who will talk about popular subjects or are very good at understanding trends on youtube- these people undoubtedly start with advantages. If you happen to have a really great on camera presence and catch a lucky wave on the algorithm, sure you might have a chance, and definitely some youtubers did just get a lucky start, but the odds are much slimmer, not equal.
That's a very good point. It's also a matter of available time. Not everybody has the same amount of leisure time available, which would allow them to invest into creating a youtube channel and make good, regular content for it. It's pretty easy to see how there could, in theory, be ways in which existing systemic gender differences could lead to a youtube pay gap.
There are no situation in which we truly all have the same advantages. Even at birth, we get advantages and disavantadges depending on our family, country, nationality, etc.
@@trekadouble757 Ofcourse. I am responding specifically to what was claimed in this video, though.
@Elisa Castro Again, what I am refuting is the claim made in the video. I am not saying people are wrong for their preferences in youtube video, but that said, the TH-cam algorithm plays a significant part in what and who gets boosted around here, and most of us do have unconscious bias as well.
Hey Sophie,
Thanks for saying what I was thinking. I couldn't have wrote more eloquently. What Rachel says is true from a technical/TOS stand point. Everyone agrees to the same terms and everyone is given an equal chance. This is not an untrue statement.
But it doesn't mean anything in-practice if you start youtube as a way to earn money, all the way from the beginning. It's probably even down to which advertisers are available and how advertiser appealing your videos are.
"id rather cook my eggs slowly then put them in the microwave and watch them explode"
b r u h
that was a better analogy then anything lilly wrote
Not a very high bar to surpass
Daenerys told everyone she had dragon blood at every chance she got.
Orri Greaves Daenerys? Daenerys?!?You know who you fuckin look like? You look like Akshay Kumar.
It's been a while since I've watched or read it, but wasn't it her brother who kept saying he had the blood of the dragon, not her? At least during the first season/book.
"I'm a bisexual woman of color"
"I got to thinking, maybe I'm the Dragonborn, and just don't know it."
“Hi I’m Daenerys and just si you know I have dragons blood and my brother sold me off to a man to be married. I mean yeah I lived my husband a lot but that isn’t the point. Also I have blood of the dragon. Also shut the hell up Sansa nobody cares that you were raped and your family was murdered. But everyone cares about how I was raped and my family was murdered”
Honestly I think Dany might be a great comparison to Lily
If she had any depth
One thing many people seem to miss about the wage gap is that it's about what kind of work we value as well as just whether and how women are paid differently.
We have this expectation that if you work harder, your salary will reflect how hard you work, but that's not how it is. Take my parents as an example: my dad is an engineer and my mom a kindergarten teacher. He's paid far more than her, but does he work harder? In my opinion, no. Her work is far more physically strenuous and takes far more emotional and social intelligence. And it is far more socially valuable than his work.
Sure, his work requires more technical knowledge, but why should a short term investment mean you get a far better pay throughout the entire rest of your life - especially in a country which highly subsidizes students? After all, we need kindergarten teachers and primary/middle school teachers and nurses like we do few other professions, but these professions aren't valued as they should be.
Part of the reason why is historical sexism - the inheritance of the fact that women dominated professions started out with low pay because it at the time was legal to pay women less - Leading to the solidification of the idea that these professions are unprestigious and less worth than other professions.
We have to question why we value the professions we do, and ask whether it has to be that way.
Another problem is, as you mentioned briefly, that women are passed over for promotions and raises where a man would likely advance faster. Whether that is because of sexism; gendered perceptions about leadership and about work ethic, unconsciously seeing women more uncharitably than men, male bosses creating social ties to men easier than to women and so giving men the benefit of cronyism over women, perceptions about how women are going to leave the job soon anyway because they're going to want kids, that mothers' work will suffer because of their children or that men need the raise or promotion more because they (unlike women) are going to be a "provider for their family". Or whether is is up to "personal choice" or women underselling themselves I guess is in the eye of the beholder, but neither personal choices or how we value ourselves and our work exists disconnected from our society and the stories we tell ourselves about women and men and what is deserving of being valued.
A third problem is that women still do most of the unpaid work in the home which facilitates men's work - cleaning, cooking, caring for the children. This has changed some for the better, and hopefully will continue to change, but it still happens women are expected to go straight from a full time job to take on the majority of the burden of work in the home
You're absolutely right. I'm annoyed when people justify women being paid less because they become mothers. Why don't men help them more? It's the society that tells them to be mothers and wives and do the full-time job at the same time for lesser pay. This is atrocious.
Excellent comment, thank you.
This is a truly excellent comment. Thank you for taking the time to type it all out and share it with us.
Very well explained comment, thank you
Thanks for this, Rach's comments in the video oversimplified the sexist influence on wages etc.
Cristine from SimplyNailogical is a _much_ better influence on young people than Lilly Singh will ever be. The thing I appreciate most about her advice is that it's all incredibly practical and realistic. Meanwhile, to hear Lilly speak, you'd assume she was a preteen from 2011. Some people can become wildly successful but still stay grounded. Lilly Singh is not one.
The most disappointing thing in all of this is that her fanbase is mostly under 13 (because very few people above that age would find a single thing in her entire backlog of content to laugh at). The fact that she's giving life advice like "put all your eggs in one basket" to children is far, far more disturbing than any sexually suggestive or obscene content she could have included.
Lilly Singh reminds me of Tahani Al Jamil. Tahani is a character in a comedy. and for the most part, her personality is a joke. So why are Lilly and Tahani basically the same person?
Every other sentence contains a name drop. Everything they say and do is a gift to you (you're welcome). If you don't like them, you must be a bad person, because they're perfect. It's ridiculous.
Its funny and somewhat endearing for Tahani because she is just a character, but we also know about her past and motivations. But Lilly, the _real actual person_ is not endearing at all. She's rude and defensive and unfunny, and we never hear anything about her past or motivations beyond, "I have asian parents and Im brown so life is hard for me" and some bullshit about wanting to be "a light in the world".
Anywho, I just couldnt help comparing the two because of the crazy namedropping.
i was just thinking that omfg. imagine if the producer produced the show w lily in mind hahhahahha
They’re legit like the same person lmao 😂
But at least Tahani evolves as a person
Lol hope that Lilly will change after she gets into the good place 😉😉
don’t disrespect my girl tahani, goddaughter of Big Ben, relative of princess Diana, good friend of Taylor swift and best friend of Beyoncé like this
I do want to point out that although the algorithm might be "random"- implicit biases exist and it should have been noted that while Lily's videos may be recommended just as much as everyone else, the likelihood of people clicking on it decrease by a certain amount because she is a woman and a person of color. To insinuate that the algorithm is without flaw is problematic because it was created by humans and humans are flawed.
Loving the clips of Kyra :D May I suggest Anna Akana's book "so much I want to tell you - letters to my little sister", I honestly enjoyed it and thought it might be something for you to have a look at.
Salora Sornea That sounds very interesting. What’s it about?
Fronk Your Death for context, her sister committed suicide years ago, and i’m like 99% sure it’s written from that perspective but i’m saying this without googling so it may be more complex
I think what’s more inspiring is that you can do more than one thing in your life. I just started college and I had a professor who took like 10 years to get his bachelors/masters, worked in marketing for like 30 years, retired and then decided to get a PhD and be a professor. Do the money making stuff first then become an old rich white man for a hobby (but seriously this guy made me realize that I can pick up a new skill/career if I want)
Paulie Doodle thank you!
Except u might not have as much time on earth as ur teacher sadly. We never know when we will breath our last breath. Good message at the end never less
"The Drake reference aged like milk." Hahahahaha! Now THAT is worth using in a comedy show. Great video, Rachel! Kyra is cute and cuddly as always! ^_^
That game of thrones reference... Danerys doesn't hide her powers, she doesn't know she has them. She doesn't even believe in the daughter of dragons thing, she thought her Brother was the dragon. It sounds like she just googled Danerys... Also, considering what they did to her in the last season, the reference also didn't age well :'D
Precisely!
Yeah totally
If she was gonna do it go for the time she pretended to not be able to speak Valyrian
Or pretty much every Sansa plot line which involved some sort of plotting and secrecy while dealing with insufferable torment
Anna Being Lazy i just pretend that that last season doesn’t exist
Was Tahani from "The Good Place" biased on this name dropper?
Omg.
Omg 😂 she legit sounds like Tahani
Hans Hanzo True! Lol
This is exactly what I was thinking!!
that's literally what I thought😂
“I can’t pronounce that I’m too English”
Instant Like
I agree with most of what you’re saying but I don’t think you should totally dismiss the possibility of discrimination in TH-cam revenue. The issue is obviously more complicated than someone looking at a creator and deciding to pay them less because of their race or gender. However, “deep” algorithms like TH-cam’s monetization often reproduce the prejudices of the society that they are trained to learn from. A good example of a pattern of discrimination is LGBT related content consistently being demonetized even when it conforms to advertiser friendly guidelines. An excellent channel I follow from an OB/GYN doctor that makes informative videos about women’s health also struggles with demonetization. Even more subtly, if people’s unconscious (or conscious) biases make them less likely to click on videos from a black creator, that person’s videos will be less promoted and seen by fewer people. I don’t know whether any of these factors relate to Lilly’s complaint but you do seem to imply that TH-cam income has nothing to do with race, gender, etc and I don’t think that’s the case.
Thank you for putting into words what I nothing more than felt during that segment. The slight discomfort at how dismissive she was at the idea that discrimination on TH-cam could exist at all during an otherwise entirely valid and great reflection on the complexity of the issue.
Please say its Mama Doctor Jones your talking about? I effing love her
I understand (LGTB thing i actually research to understand better, i think there is a problem there with youtube bot, because of certain words). But for exemple, that list has someone from LGTB community (i dont remember his name, but is from beauty community). KSI i think was also there, and he is black. Theres also a kid in the middle or Markpillier who is asian. Like she is only talking about women. Before she was in the list, but she start making different videos and lost her audience. The same for Miranda Sings (who start making a show) Liza Koshy (i think thats her name) start doing other things too; etc. The women who were always in top10 creators on youtube all of them modify their content or start doing TV things, while the man stay with the same content. Its actually quite interesting to analyze that. But in Lily case, its different. She was literally the only youtube to have a contract with them to make videos with celebs. She was promote like nobody else by the platform itself. How can she talk about descrimination, when she was not even the person who pulled more views or subscribers, but still youtube decide to helper anyway?
If you only have a hammer...
R.
THANK YOU
"2017... THREE YEARS AGO!!!" Rachel, stop saying such scary things.
Meanwhile, my brain is still wired to think 3 years ago was 2007
@@misssteak1290 lol
@@misssteak1290 You can't convince me 1980 is anything more than 20 years ago.
@@generaldreagonlps6889 dude 2000s songs to kids nowadays are basically 1980s songs to us
I cant decide whether this comment aged like milk or wine
These you tubers need to understand they aren’t in high school anymore
Edit: ahhh you saw my comment 🥺💖
apparently, editing your comments removes any hearts from the youtuber. happened to me too
Love ur username ^.^
You like MSI?
Dragonkid1801 yeah i'm assuming it's to protect the creators from looking like they liked something against their views/could hurt them ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
remi the accident xd yes
Pauline Ong maybe xD
I already think Lilly's content is too high energy and immature for my liking, but to witness it in written form just takes it to a whole new level 💀
Rachel i understand where you're coming from, and I definitely agree that Lilly is playing the victim here, but it is ignorant to say that youtube treats all of its creators equally. Historically non-white creators are more likely to loose their platform over things that white creators could easily recover from. The rest of this i agree with, I just found that claim a bit problematic
👍
yeah thats a good point
I used to watch some of Lilly's videos occasionally until she soured on me with the increasing amount of namedropping and her mistaking a happy demeanor and hyperactivity for humour. One sketch in particular stepped blatantly into cringe territory when she basically made every mental health patient's fear (diagnosis: you are just an arsehole) the punchline of the joke. It certainly looks like she stays true to herself in that book, for better or worse. Mainly worse.
@Elisa Castro Ouch! That sounds even more tone-deaf than what I have seen.
How is she so delusional? Also, I was not ready for the amount of name dropping in this book. It was nauseating.
It was not difficult to figure out in advance what the book would go for. Lilly is self-absorbed, intolerant and racist.
Delusional? She's a successful person
Who are you?.
Top Ranked Not a blind admirer. Yourself?
She comes across as very narcissistic. I think a lot of what she puts out there is actually very toxic to her audience, not to mention totally unrealistic. And the fact that she moans about not earning enough when she earns millions is so dam entitled and spoiled!!! Some people are starving to death and living on the streets and this woman thinks she's a victim because she only earns a few million. She needs a wake-up call and a trip back down to earth.
@@stephanieluvisi2418 I'm not even an admirer of her content, but she must be doing something right to be successful
She obviously works hard to be where she is
I've only listened to one interview of hers and really liked what she had to say
She's a psychology major and is very smart actually
Her scream style of writing is like me before I even start the actual draft of my essay just trying to hype myself up in my word doc to actually do the assignment, which then of course looks absolutely nothing like this
Dude I'm an Asian girl and often I'm a groups "token Asian" so they can say "look at us being inclusive." Like the Pokémon is pretty spot on how some people view it.
Sorry that you’re not feeling particularly chipper, Rachel.
I should say that I think this video was one of your most humorous nonetheless. Regardless of your mood this was a very uplifting video to both listen to and I hope make!
Your dog is good
This is a great video. I would never feel comfortable being on camera, and I like how you still managed to make this feel personal but not have to appear on camera. Kyra is so charismatic.
She has the sense of humor of a 40 year old going through a midlife crisis.
Insanity Everafter Bot even. She has the humor of a 5 year old.
This book reads like something I would have written when I was 15, just a stream of consciousnesses. Not the worst thing in the world but feels..immature?
I for one am LIVING for Rachel's disembodied voice playing over cute footage of her dog.
Obviously I like seeing Rachel normally in videos but this is great as well, a nice change of scenery to shake things up 🙂
(Also @ Rachel duvet days are perfectly normal I hope you're okay and taking care of yourself!)
Wit, solid advice throughout, a likeable female narrator and (nerdy) jokes that made me laugh a couple of times.
Things all found in this video and absent in Lilly's book.
I couldn't have said it better myself :)
@Corvus Morve you mean it's all you saw in Lilly's book but found it to be absent in the video?
is it just me or is that nintendo controller photoshopped into Lilly's hands??? lmao
They didn’t even photoshop in the memory card or controller cable.
Say *bow,* as in, "take a bow".
Now say *se,* as in the last sound in "sauce"
Now put them together.
*_bawse_*
Gulgathydra this actually helped 10/10 would recommend
rhymes with house.
sounds like i have a thick new york accent
As a New Yorker, I have yet to meet a person who pronounces it like that, nor do I want to. Ever.
Bawse = boss
Rachel your confusion is valid
For future reference, "Bawse" rhymes with "house".
- a former fan of Lilly Singh
I"m a former fan too. it's kinda sad. i miss the old Lilly.
im confused who this book is for?? how is it 'family friendly' but then also talking about 'sleeping with a very sexy man' and alcohol and such??
its for Lilly Sing fans
I could watch Kyra fluff couch cushions literally all day
“boing! boing! boing!”
Why does that N64 controller look like it was photoshopped into Lilly’s hands though 👀
her forearms too!!
Lucy _ right!! Smh
@@fox_6174 cheeks shadow too
She's holding it wrong too
the amount of name dropping lowkey reminds me of a self insert fanfiction that an 11 year old would write
Singh completely misinterprets Daenerys in the first book. Even in the first season. She doesn't have powers or a secret agenda to take over from her incompetent brother; she is a tool. It was thanks to her marriage to Khal Drogo she grew to become a strong individual. She wrote Daenerys is a completely different light by making her look like a super woman playing a weak girl hiding a behemot ready to attack at the perfect time. The same goes for the show. She shows growth and character evolution unlike Singh... This clearly shows that Singh has no comprehension and truly is working in an industry best suited for her low understanding of something so simple...
What kind of dog is your pup? She looks like a staffordshire terrier!
She is :)
She is the absolute best angel I have ever seen in my life
@@RachelOates please keep her on a leash when she leaves the apt, she is too precious and theres been a lot of horror stories about doggos being off leash from all over, you are doing a great job with her! (If you want to keep her off leash I suggest looking up the secret word technique incase she tries to chase something, it works great!)
@@legendofzeldarules44 I'm sure she know how to look after her dog. Not all city's etc have dog on leash bi- laws. If you do not want other to tell you what you need/ should do with the things in your life, do not do it to others. Peace put.
@@legendofzeldarules44 come on, it's abusive to never let your dog off the leash. Accidents can happen, but not everyone that let their dog off the leash have accidents.
That whole beginning about the pay gap rubs me the wrong way. In the post you put on screen, Lilly says (paraphrasing), "Two years ago there were two women on this list, then there was just me, now there are none." She's pointing out the fact that, of the top earners on TH-cam, *all* of them were men. Judging by that tweet alone, she's speaking to something more than just herself and what she earns, but rather to a growing pay gap between male and female/non-binary TH-camrs that seems to be mirroring other industries.
Several of your comments about the issue seem willfully ignorant and smack of straw manning. "No one is saying 'look at these two people, we're going to pay the one with a vagina less money.' That's not how it works." That's not how the gender pay gap is explained. The problems are systemic. The facts that women don't take as much initiative for raises, that hiring managers tend to see men as being more capable for certain jobs, that sexism and sexual harassment are still all too common in the workplace, that there is little to zero family leave and support that could allow moms to remain competitive in the workplace (in the US), etc, are all part of the system and the history of working women. Saying that "when we get down to the specifics, the gap is much less job by job or based on age," very often feels/is unhelpful. At least for me, if there's a significant gap at all, it's definitely a problem that should be called out and fixed. The reasons for it are varied and many precisely *because* it is systemic.
Besides all that, you spend several minutes on ad hominem attacks before going into any criticism of the book, tainting your audience's view of the author and her work from the get-go. For someone who loves reading, I feels as though you haven't taken the time to 1) consider how your words will affect what you are presenting, and 2) really think about where Lilly was coming from (unless there's more comments of hers that you didn't show us).
I don't want to be mean. It's just that you're obviously very intelligent and insightful when it comes to literature. Unfortunately it feels like outside of reading, in this one instance at least (especially with that weird SJW comment), you allow your various privileges (being white, young, attractive, British, and well-educated) to get in the way of being insightful in life in general. I actually would very much like to see that paper you wrote.
👍
whilst everyone does have the same rules for getting paid on youtube, it is interesting to note that female comedians on youtube are much less popular than male comedians. this is primarily due to issues in society wherein men = comedians and less so with an enforced pay gap
so i understand why it can be annoying for lilly despite her wages to feel that she isn’t treated on par with other male comedians on youtube
And not just men = comedians, which is a true issue. In society we're used to men = represent everybody and women = represent just women, so women watch male youtubers waaaaay more than men watch female youtubers and that also increases the disparity. Even in female dominated categories, the most youtubers with more subscribers are still men, like James Charles and the beauty community. So, when it comes to male dominated communities, like gaming, atheism or comedy, women will have it way harder, if not impossible, to be at the top (plus being more harshly criticized and judged than some of their peers) and to see the few ones up there disappear must be incredibly frustrating.
Arikel absolutely! it’s much more difficult for women to get noticed in any field on youtube. in beauty communities, they’re considered surplus, and in other communities, they’re considered inexperienced.
Honestly I believe it’s because the female comedians on TH-cam simply are not funny. There’s only a few that can genuinely make me laugh out loud. Not being sexist- just my opinion.
Feel free to send me some funny women comedians TH-cam channels in response to my comment. I’d love to be proved wrong.
Thanks SaffySaffyRocks for saying what I was thinking. We can talk all day about how youtube gives everyone the same pay rules, but that's not really what the point is.
And personally, this is just my opinion: It doesn't really matter if a woman is getting paid $800 per month or $14,000 dollars per month. You should be allowed to complain about not getting paid fairly * just * because you're a woman, no matter what. It never came across to me as ungrateful that it was an issue for Lilly.
Finally a youtuber who sounds and speaks like a real person, strange experience
“That’s not a joke,
That’s nothing!” Sounds about right
I think the game analogies were actually pretty good. The looking at the wrong character thing really resonated to me as super smash bros games. I think that's what she meant.
Also, she provided two different perspectives on life with the mario and mario kart analogies: the former about how you can only control yourself, not other people and not the rest of the world, and the latter about how you may face unexpected obstacles when trying to pursue goals
The wage gap is less “women make less than men” and more “traditionally female-dominated fields pay less that traditionally male-dominated fields”. Whether or not that started out due to sexism, these days it is less sexism and more a matter of societal value in general. For example, why does an auto mechanic make more money than an elderly care nurse? Both jobs can be physically exhausting, both jobs require specific knowledge, auto parts are not inherently more expensive to make than medical equipment, and elderly care also comes with a heavy emotional toll that an auto mechanic doesn’t have to worry about. So do we just value the care given to our cars more than the care given to our grandparents? If people were viewing it as a sexist thing, then all male elderly care workers would make more than female ones. People aren’t thinking about it in a sexist way, we just aren’t thinking about it at all. We should reevaluate which aspects of a job deserve how much value and what different jobs are ultimately worth, not sit around shouting “wage gap!” and “sexism!”. The ultimate goal should be making pay match the job, not making sure that “female” jobs get paid equally to “male” jobs. That’s extremely shallow and completely misses the point. It’s a feminist issue because it is a problem that affects women more than men, but the current reason that the problem exists is not related to sexism, so calling it out as sexist is not the solution - we need to look deeper than that.
Also, it seems like Lilly is trying to excite her readers the same way she would excite youtube viewers. But different forms of media require different styles of presentation. This just ends up feeling very clashy.
jshowa o I read that we were finally past that point and on equal footing at least within the same position, most of the time. But I’ll double check that. After I’ve gotten some sleep - I’m on 23 hours awake right now, so my brain is not at its optimum. I’ll try to remember to reply here with what I find.
Hey Tunes System, thanks for writing all of that. I 100% agree. I never stopped to think about that before. It makes way more sense to readjust the pay for the job. I would imagine that would be difficult though, because of supply and demand, how much schooling for each field costs, all that jazz. It seems like a lot of job/payment problems go back to how school and university/college is structured.
There is a completely fantastic book that is kind of similar to what you're saying called Cassandra Speaks. 100% the best book on feminism I've ever read and it completely changes how you see the world.
I think Lily may have had some ground to stand on in regards to her “youtube has a pay gap” claim if it had been specifically in regards to view inequality? Meaning there are probably levels of success in specific youtube communities that could be correlated to gender, like how the youtube atheist community is more visibly male dominated. However, there’s still a lot of nuance to the reasons behind viewership gaps in specific communities. Even if that was Lily’s point, that’s not a case of youtube being sexist so much as like... instances of unconscious gender (or racial) bias when searching for assumed reliable speakers on certain topics. That’s a general life issue, I’d say.
But her complaints are so, so much worse when this book is the backdrop. That utter entitlement of telling people to put all their eggs in one basket when she had a safety net for her failure which was constructed by her parents... wow. And then all that bragging. Not a good look.
I look forward to your Lele Pons video. That book is just the peak of dissonance so I’m eager to hear your thoughts
Matthew hates Rachel
We found him, ladies and gentleman! The internet’s saddest old man! Give him a round of applause 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
The taking things slow resonated with me a lot... I failed school a lot and will try it again soon but first I'll take it slow and take care of my mental health because otherwise ill fail again..
Lea 752 yes take care of your mental health!! if the act of going to school is too stressful, maybe homeschooling will make schoolwork seem more manageable? obvs im just some random person on the internet but i rly hope u feel okay soon. honestly, ur mindset sounds like something i need rn. i like to quite after i fail, and since im rly adhd i can’t get motivated abt things im not good at lol. sorry i wrote a paragraph, genuinely hope u get back to school!
Yes. Mental health should be your top priority. Remember, when someone dies of exhaustion from school, their family's the one who suffers the the loss. School can easily replace you with new students.
Me to a T
@@r.j.penfold we've got this!!
Yes. Mental health should be the priority. I’m proud of u for recognizing that
the aw in bawse is like the ow in 'wow', oh or 'ow' so it'd probably make more sense phonetically like bowse
She is 7.5yrs younger than me but nothing has ever made me want to compulsively say "Ok, Boomer" as badly as her awkward "How do you do, fellow kids?" gaming metaphor crap.
A swing and a miss. And that picture? Oh the cringe.
The thing about being a boss is that some people will be employees. And it's so entitled for people who have succeeded to think that if only everyone tried as hard as them then they would do just as well, to think that they didn't succeed off the backs of others who helped them along the way.
Rachel,
May I suggest you to review "Useless Magic" by Florence Welch? It seems to be the drafts of many songs and poems she wrote.
But if you want to do it, a good companion to this are her songs.❤️
P.s:
I'm loving the Kira's clips so much.👆
Wow. I'm first? Anyways, decently new to your channel. It's been interesting going back to your old videos and seeing how much you've grown and changed! I love watching your videos, you are so passionate. Keep being awesome!
Thank you so much!
Thank you so much!
Excellent! Another convert to TH-cam’s win mum! Long live the Kyra!
My friends and I loved watching Lilly's videos when I was in sixth grade (about 11-12 years old, I'm 18 now) and we found her hilarious, but as I got older I quickly grew out of her jokes and content by the time I was like 14ish. Which I think honestly says a lot about her content and the age range of people that find her funny. I have many fond memories of laughing at Lilly's videos with my friends that I still cherish and yet I just cringe so hard at pretty much all of her content now which is sad, especially with the late night stuff.
(Also Kyra is the cutest pup ever oh my gosh I could watch her forever)
Do you know Tahani's character from the Good Place? Some of these excerpts are shockingly similar.
elliefc92 except for the character growth Tahani goes through
Other than the name-dropping and being of south Asian descent I don’t think so. Tahani has a need to impress people that stems from a deep insecurity and Lily.... well we don’t know enough about her inner life to psychoanalyze that but she just seems like a poser , a constructed personality, carefully marketed
Kyra's little dance at the beginning!
Soooo.....she used Daenerys as an example for "hiding your true power until you can capitalize on it" and DIDN'T mention the sacking of Astapor?!?
In game of thrones didn’t the chick she was talking about get forced with her husband? Like.... not the best example either
I used to watch Lily many years ago back when she didn’t know any celebs and didn’t have such an ego. She was famous on YT but not outside of it and some of her videos were funny to me. Especially the ones about Crushes or her parents back when she mostly made fun of herself to combat her depression.
But then she started to get more and more famous and got more recognition which I celebrated and was very happy about but I slowly stopped relating to her content and I stopped watching her.
The next thing I know she’s making weird tweets about sexism and so on and I can’t even recognize her from before... 😞
Exactly what happened to me when I used to watch her😕
Yep and as soon are she got a huge team to start producing her videos her content went down and now it all sounds fake instead of actual relatable situations.
I found Lilly when I was around 11 or 12, and I idolized her. Like, at least 90 minutes a day were probably spent watching her videos. I was a really lonely kid and I was bullied a lot, and though I didn't know it at the time, I was in a really serious depression with several other mental health problems that I was unaware of. I was psyched when I heard that she was coming out with a book, and I got it as soon as I could. I recently found it again and skimmed it.
I finally realized that that book fucked me up for years. I heavily internalized a lot of the advice, because I wasn't getting that sort of life advice from anyone else. I took everything in there as gospel. The overall message of the book that I got was that mental health issues are your fault. If you're sad, it's your responsibility to work hard until you're happy. Therapy isn't helpful, and you shouldn't rely on friends or family because they could leave or you'll get clingy and they'll hate you. If you aren't successful, it's because you didn't work hard enough. If you feel that there's a challenge you can't overcome, then you're just too weak.
Another thing- the book was targeted at kids, but the advice was targeted at adults. So all that stuff about becoming successful, child me was like "yo, I don't have a media empire, I suck." It knocked my self-confidence to the ground. And for all she says about talking about mental health, implying that the best way to fix your mental health problems is to decide to not be sad anymore wasn't great advice for me. It caused me to hide my emotions and pretend to be fine until I broke down. Even once my family put me in therapy, it caused me to avoid talking to the therapist about my actual problems and just stay surface-level. I never got too close to friends because I was convinced that it was weak to lean on people. I also got really hyper-independent and detached from my family, because I was convinced I'd never be happy if I "needed" them (Again, I was 11). I wonder what awful shit still lurks in my psyche from that book.
I've seen some of her more recent stuff- her opinions have changed. She's changed her views of mental health, she talks about privilege and acknowledges her own, she's a lot less not-like-other-girlsy, etc. But she's never apologized for or acknowledged the harm her book caused, and she's still making money off of the sales.
Parents, if you see your kids with that book, throw it into a fire. Sincerely, a fucked up kid.
I was obsessed with her at 11/12 too! I also was dealing with stuff mentally, but luckily didn't read her book. Hope you'll heal and I'm sorry to hear that you're going through this ❤ Lilly shouldn't profit out of giving people harmful life advice
The Tahani-ness of Lilly's namedropping really comes through when you read it in your accent
You’re whole tangent about dreams taking longer and that’s okay is exactly what I needed to hear right now. I’m 35 and I’ve been having an existential crisis about still working in the food service industry. But you’re right. Bills gotta get paid and no one else is going to do it. But that doesn’t mean you can’t still pursue your passions.
23:54 the asterisks bothered me so much, I'm so glad you mentioned them.
Like, what is this? 2007 fanfiction.net?
I still find her TH-cam channel content to be quite entertaining. But her late night program is, shall we say, at best a work in progress. Fame in the TH-cam space does not automatically translate well on to network television. And a Lily Singh's late night program is very indicative of this. still, as a fellow Torontonian, it's hard not to want all the best for her despite the unpalatable nature of her identity politics related flag-waving.
Sujoy Gupta yeah I still enjoy some of her over the top jokes, and when she dresses up as her family members......but other then that, her humor hasn’t aged well.....
“on a scale of gabbie hanna to Shakespeare” HAHAHA
Bawse: pronounced like the verb "bows" as in
"Everyone bows before the Queen."
Or "baw-s" as in the beginning of Bawdy, then just pluralize it.
It's a linguistic mess and despite being a Millenial, it gives me the heebie-jeebies.
She made a real bawbag of that one.
I would rhyme it with “house”
I feel like this format is a fantastic compromise for when you don’t feel like appearing on camera. It’s so enjoyable and happy and structured and I love it. Do it as often as you feel, please! ❤️
when I read bawse I just can't help but think of 'Base' as in an outdated german word for cousin
Had to stop the video to comment this, sorry:
Your dog is sooo adorable!!
She seems so happy all the time as well! 💕💕 You must be a really proud mom!
Yikes... gender and race have nothing to do with success on YT? Equal opportunity? Ok this is pure ignorance.
It doesn’t. So you’re saying only men can be successful and are successful? That sounds way more sexist. And it’s untrue. Just search up top paid youtubers and many women are there
This whole book reminds me of when my youth pastor would attempt to hype us up by comparing going to heaven as a "high better than coke" even though they were a suburban white woman named Kelly who has never been within a mile of weed. Just an adult trying to make the kids think they they act just how they think they think we behave.
This comment is too funny
😂😂