About the lack of sleep arena: A tip from me is to watch a good show every time you have to wake up. I personally had Gilmore girls constantly playing because it just gave me good vibes and it made being up so much less shitty. Also, COSLEEPING. if you can do it safely, do it. You get 100x more sleep and baby loves it. Cuddles galore. I had my 2nd baby in September and I swear I’ve only felt really sleep deprived 5 days max.
This video kept cracking me up because omg it’s all so true. I remember being so bombarded by my husbands family every day after getting home for the hospital for the first few days and it was like I wasn’t even there. If I ever have another something I’m going to keep in mind is telling people I don’t want visitors for a little while. Adjusting is so hard.
I remember being so scared about the first bowel movement. It happened while I was still in the hospital, and I was so excited that it didnt hurt. I told my nurse with so much excitement, and she was just like '...great'.
I'm mum to be for a first baby girl, and this was the most honest video about everything, not to have only pink clouds around you. Thank you for such an open talk about true, about women, not only about beautiful newborn.💛🙏
This is the best video I've ever seen on TH-cam. The raw honesty is what we all need to see. Whether you're the one giving birth or someone who knows someone giving birth, we all need to see this. I laughed at parts and I teared up in others. Motherhood is such a beautiful mess. The good outweighs the bad but we need to be aware of the scary, hard things that can happen so we can be better prepared to handle them. In those chaotic moments, I remind myself to take a deep breath and just triage the situation. What needs done first? Do that thing and move on fast. Rinse and repeat. It's hard. It's so damn hard. But those little gremlins are the best things in my life.
I don’t understand how you don’t have more subscribers. You are authentic and honest and so funny! I am so glad I found your channel. I am going to send this video to all of my expecting friends!
This is my third baby, but it’s been 4 years since my last and I’m a planner. This has been the most honest, thorough, and helpful video I’ve seen. Thank you!
Great video, Victoria. I have been through post partum 5 times and parts definitely get easier each time (birth is much easier each time and physical recovery is easier) but other things are just as tough or worse. You look gorgeous, by the way. Pregnancy definitely agrees with you! You are glowing.
As a mum and relating so much to everything you just said I think this video is excellent and thank you for being so honest and normalising so many aspects that people keep quiet. I didn’t enjoy the first few months and felt like a bad person for it but you’re right it’s totally normal
Just get through the next hour, don’t think further than the next day. That’s what my advice is for the early days of motherhood. Really good video, I appreciate the real talk. Not many mums talk about the ‘ugly’ feelings that come with motherhood. I had a colleague who used to tell me she just didn’t want to go back home to the baby after work.. not sure if it was anything more, but I remember thinking ‘wow, you are actually saying this, no one says this, respect!!’ In the meantime I had a baby and I am so jealous of the mums who’s babies actually sleep :))) I didn’t have the missing my old life moment (didn’t have time to, lol) but I do miss having time to myself, spending some time alone, sleeping for ages, etc.
UGH GIRL. This video is SO REAL and I love it. I cried multiple times watching this because I remember feeling ALL those feelings when I had my first baby. Being a new mom is f*cking HARD and no one tells you that. Thank you for making this video. I’m also pregnant with my second and am excited but still nervous to be post partum again. Good luck to you!! Love you!
This is so wonderful. Your honesty and tips from your experience is great because that’s what’s the most helpful. I think every pregnant woman knows there will be great, beautiful, and loving moments so that doesn’t need to be talked to death. It’s this kind of stuff that people steer away from speaking openly about that feels the most life saving when those hard moments come. Thank you for sharing and please keep it coming!
I laughed way too hard at certain parts because YES...but also this was one of the best postpartum videos I have ever seen and was everything I have been saying to the couple of people I know having their first. But also shared this video with them...
Due with my first child in the next week or so. I'm going to stay w my best friend who has already been through this process and I hope to get through postpartum without a nervous breakdown.
If it makes you feel better, I tore like a mother frakker with my first 👶. However, i didn't tear with my second baby at all. There was nearly no soreness in my bits the second time. Mind you, my children are 8 yrs apart, but your body might be more prepared to not rip because your babes are almost back to back.
I definitely needed a sitz bath and I waited too long to do it because I didn't know how. If you can, look that up ahead of time! Have your partner and whoever is helping care for you do that ahead of time too. The worse your tear is the more you should try to do it. If you are all set up you can pump or eat while you do it. If you have milk issues, you might want to pump earlier. I think acknowledging that breastfeeding is hard and you probably will find it hard (and having resources researched ahead of time) is a better way to approach it mentally.
Thanks for the video -- expecting our first child in July and trying to soak up any prep advice possible! Question: At what point did you feel like the "survival" phase ended and you started to feel physically and mentally better as a new mom with Theo?
The guidelines might be different where you live? But here in the Netherlands they advice you to not take baths until you stop bleeding. Because it can cause infections.
Next time, I’m 100% getting like 3 of those Frida Baby Perry bottles and putting them everywhere 😆 cause during that first week, if you don’t have your warm water ready before you pee... it’s hell.
Be careful with the dermoplast... I peed myself 2x after getting home without knowing it till i found my puddle/wet butt because I was so numb 🤣 Funny now, but I was devastated in the moment thinking that I just had no control down their from giving birth and I was gonna need diapers.
Meghan, don’t be scared! Postpartum can be overwhelming, but not scary. Like Victoria said, ASK FOR HELP! and let others around you help. Having a baby is such a drastic life shift in literally a moment, but it’s SO worth it! The first couple of weeks will be a big adjustment period (for you and baby!) just keep reminding yourself of that. When you feel tired or overwhelmed or questioning if you’re doing something wrong, take a big, deep breath (a couple of them actually 😉), and say “ok. We’re both adjusting. We can do this.” And I promise you every week will get better and better!❤️
@@kimberlylois4855 Such a lovely reply, thank you so much. That's such great advice, and I really appreciate that encouragement and I guess when you look at it, how you broke it down, baby is adjusting too so we're going to learn together. I just hope I can handle the vaginal pain😣X
About the lack of sleep arena:
A tip from me is to watch a good show every time you have to wake up. I personally had Gilmore girls constantly playing because it just gave me good vibes and it made being up so much less shitty. Also, COSLEEPING. if you can do it safely, do it. You get 100x more sleep and baby loves it. Cuddles galore. I had my 2nd baby in September and I swear I’ve only felt really sleep deprived 5 days max.
This video kept cracking me up because omg it’s all so true. I remember being so bombarded by my husbands family every day after getting home for the hospital for the first few days and it was like I wasn’t even there. If I ever have another something I’m going to keep in mind is telling people I don’t want visitors for a little while. Adjusting is so hard.
I remember being so scared about the first bowel movement. It happened while I was still in the hospital, and I was so excited that it didnt hurt. I told my nurse with so much excitement, and she was just like '...great'.
Thank you for discussing mental postpartum. This was exactly my experience!! So truthful and real! Thank for sharing your truth 👏👏❤️
I'm mum to be for a first baby girl, and this was the most honest video about everything, not to have only pink clouds around you. Thank you for such an open talk about true, about women, not only about beautiful newborn.💛🙏
This is the best video I've ever seen on TH-cam. The raw honesty is what we all need to see. Whether you're the one giving birth or someone who knows someone giving birth, we all need to see this. I laughed at parts and I teared up in others. Motherhood is such a beautiful mess. The good outweighs the bad but we need to be aware of the scary, hard things that can happen so we can be better prepared to handle them. In those chaotic moments, I remind myself to take a deep breath and just triage the situation. What needs done first? Do that thing and move on fast. Rinse and repeat. It's hard. It's so damn hard. But those little gremlins are the best things in my life.
I don’t understand how you don’t have more subscribers. You are authentic and honest and so funny! I am so glad I found your channel. I am going to send this video to all of my expecting friends!
People want to help! I will literally help any of my new mom friends with anything they need. I love them and want to support them.
This is my third baby, but it’s been 4 years since my last and I’m a planner. This has been the most honest, thorough, and helpful video I’ve seen. Thank you!
My daughter is almost 2 and I forgot how hard PP was until this video. I can't wait to see your life updates when #2 comes!
I'm not a mom but you are amazing. Thank you for this real, vulnerableness. It is amazing!
Great video, Victoria. I have been through post partum 5 times and parts definitely get easier each time (birth is much easier each time and physical recovery is easier) but other things are just as tough or worse.
You look gorgeous, by the way. Pregnancy definitely agrees with you! You are glowing.
As a mum and relating so much to everything you just said I think this video is excellent and thank you for being so honest and normalising so many aspects that people keep quiet. I didn’t enjoy the first few months and felt like a bad person for it but you’re right it’s totally normal
This is the most honest and realistic PP video I’ve seen. I’m 3 months PP and YES to everything you said!
Thank you so much for this video! I'm 8 months PP and still experiencing many of these emotions. It's a lot.
Soon to be first time Mom here. Thank you so much for your candor and sharing your tips, Victoria! 💚🙏
Just get through the next hour, don’t think further than the next day. That’s what my advice is for the early days of motherhood.
Really good video, I appreciate the real talk. Not many mums talk about the ‘ugly’ feelings that come with motherhood. I had a colleague who used to tell me she just didn’t want to go back home to the baby after work.. not sure if it was anything more, but I remember thinking ‘wow, you are actually saying this, no one says this, respect!!’ In the meantime I had a baby and I am so jealous of the mums who’s babies actually sleep :))) I didn’t have the missing my old life moment (didn’t have time to, lol) but I do miss having time to myself, spending some time alone, sleeping for ages, etc.
UGH GIRL. This video is SO REAL and I love it. I cried multiple times watching this because I remember feeling ALL those feelings when I had my first baby. Being a new mom is f*cking HARD and no one tells you that. Thank you for making this video. I’m also pregnant with my second and am excited but still nervous to be post partum again. Good luck to you!! Love you!
This is so wonderful. Your honesty and tips from your experience is great because that’s what’s the most helpful. I think every pregnant woman knows there will be great, beautiful, and loving moments so that doesn’t need to be talked to death. It’s this kind of stuff that people steer away from speaking openly about that feels the most life saving when those hard moments come. Thank you for sharing and please keep it coming!
I’m not even pregnant, but this was so interesting to watch.
As a mom of five, this is so accurate! Very good video I wish I had seen 12 years ago!
SAME about the padsicles I went ham and made a shit ton of them while pregnant and used ONE!
Best PP video I have ever seen! Thank you for this. 🙂
I laughed way too hard at certain parts because YES...but also this was one of the best postpartum videos I have ever seen and was everything I have been saying to the couple of people I know having their first. But also shared this video with them...
Due with my first child in the next week or so. I'm going to stay w my best friend who has already been through this process and I hope to get through postpartum without a nervous breakdown.
If it makes you feel better, I tore like a mother frakker with my first 👶. However, i didn't tear with my second baby at all. There was nearly no soreness in my bits the second time. Mind you, my children are 8 yrs apart, but your body might be more prepared to not rip because your babes are almost back to back.
I definitely needed a sitz bath and I waited too long to do it because I didn't know how. If you can, look that up ahead of time! Have your partner and whoever is helping care for you do that ahead of time too. The worse your tear is the more you should try to do it. If you are all set up you can pump or eat while you do it. If you have milk issues, you might want to pump earlier. I think acknowledging that breastfeeding is hard and you probably will find it hard (and having resources researched ahead of time) is a better way to approach it mentally.
I can not wait to be a mum! Next year probs :D
Wishing you a smooth 4th trimester Victoria!!!
Love from Austria
Hahaha thank you so much for this. The honesty is greatly appreciated! So funny and really informative!
Wow I love this, thank you for being honest about your experience and what happens
My son is 3 weeks old and this was so affirming to watch. It has been hard!
This is the best. 100% my experience too.
This was awesome!! Thank you ❤️
Thanks for the video -- expecting our first child in July and trying to soak up any prep advice possible!
Question: At what point did you feel like the "survival" phase ended and you started to feel physically and mentally better as a new mom with Theo?
The guidelines might be different where you live? But here in the Netherlands they advice you to not take baths until you stop bleeding. Because it can cause infections.
Next time, I’m 100% getting like 3 of those Frida Baby Perry bottles and putting them everywhere 😆 cause during that first week, if you don’t have your warm water ready before you pee... it’s hell.
Right?!? This was so much worse than pooping for me pp!!! Peeing without the peri bottles is torture!!!!
Be careful with the dermoplast... I peed myself 2x after getting home without knowing it till i found my puddle/wet butt because I was so numb 🤣 Funny now, but I was devastated in the moment thinking that I just had no control down their from giving birth and I was gonna need diapers.
Wow you never needed ibuprofen until you had a baby? Lady you've lived a charmed life so far lol
Lol I wish I didn’t watch this. This is too honest for me 😩
I'm very scared😣I'm not gonna lie, I did cry watching this in parts because I'm just so scared of postpartum. Al ml ost more than giving birth
Meghan, don’t be scared! Postpartum can be overwhelming, but not scary. Like Victoria said, ASK FOR HELP! and let others around you help. Having a baby is such a drastic life shift in literally a moment, but it’s SO worth it! The first couple of weeks will be a big adjustment period (for you and baby!) just keep reminding yourself of that. When you feel tired or overwhelmed or questioning if you’re doing something wrong, take a big, deep breath (a couple of them actually 😉), and say “ok. We’re both adjusting. We can do this.” And I promise you every week will get better and better!❤️
@@kimberlylois4855 Such a lovely reply, thank you so much. That's such great advice, and I really appreciate that encouragement and I guess when you look at it, how you broke it down, baby is adjusting too so we're going to learn together.
I just hope I can handle the vaginal pain😣X
I hope it’s a girl!!!