I had a beautiful, calm birth with my fifth baby. I never thought I could manage that due to my past experiences but prayed and meditated a lot leading up to birth. My husband was shocked when I started pushing and baby was born because I was so quiet and calm. Never even moaned or anything. So different from my past births. What helped me was saying different mantras to myself quietly. I usually said them mentally or whispered them under my breath. I would also visualize inspiring things. As a Christian my mantras were "Christ is my peace" and "Christ is my strength"... I also visualized or thought about Mary before her birth or about the heroes of our faith, early church martyrs, etc. Somehow remembering what they went through so heroicly helped me. I also focused on my hands, forehead, and mouth. I was sure to keep them relaxed. I kept my hands open, palms up. I made sure I wasn't furrowing my brow or clenching my jaw. I truly believe being calm and quashing fear is the biggest thing for a natural birth. Fear makes everything so much worse. I also wouldn't allow myself to think ahead or wonder how long labor would be... or how painful things would get ... or even to try to keep track of how long a contraction was or likely would be or when the next would come. I was totally in the moment I was in. Looking back I don't remember pain. I hope my experience helps someone! We are expecting number six any day and I am hoping for another peaceful birth ❤️
Congrats on your 6th baby!!! I’m 8 months on my very first (and possibly only🤷🏽♀️ only God knows that) and that’s my plan is to bring some Catholic images. St. Jude, a Our Lady of Guadalupe and Guardian Angel candles, some Holy Water from the Jordan River and if I can find an image of good quality in time, the Divine Mercy and also my own Rosary and the baby Rosary I was just gifted by my God Mother. All as focal points and will likely say to myself “Jesus, I trust in you”, “the Lord is my Shepherd, there is nothing I shall want” and “Give us your peace O’ God”. I don’t honestly fully intend on having a fully unmedicated birth, but if it happens and I can, that’d be great. I’m also being induced for medically necessary reasons. So anyway, I just came to say, I loved hearing about your birth story and it definitely helped reassure me that what I’m planning is on the right track. If you’ve had #6 how was your experience this time?
@@Sarahbetho Have you had your baby?? :-) Number six was much more difficult! I was in active labor at the birth center for 9 hours and when I came in I was already at a 6. The last five minutes I was groaning in agony and asking for the nitrous. But the peaceful mantras helped so much for the rest of labor. I found out after he was born that the umbilical cord was wrapped in such a way that it slowed his descent which is why I had just terrible back labor. I would do it all over again but it was a much rougher go there at the end! All of the things I learned and used last time helped me through the long ordeal, though. I would do it all again!
Just had my baby 2 weeks ago ang I was totally expecting to have an epidural at 6cm but guess what my amazing OB encouraged me that I can do it w/o having to rely on the epidural. So what I did was that I focused more on how I can manage my breathing so I can push when they count to 10. The next thing I know is that my baby was out & it took me 4 pushes to get her out 🤗. Just focus mommies and just tell yourself that whatever severe pain you feel it will only be 1 day and it will bring you closer to seeing your baby
ana rup Well this is a bit TMI but I would gladly share this with everyone who would opt for a normal delivery. She told me to push as hard as long as I can without stopping until we reach the count to 10 & she told me that if you poop that means that the way you push is working. She also talked to me the whole time in the labor room. So I got a bit distracted of all the pain I felt.
I had both my kids with out epidural I’m due in two weeks with my third again my focus is not to have the epidural because number one I can’t stand needles so I rather feel it then take the needle lol but it’s much better because ur labour is much quicker ur contractions doesn’t slow down it just keeps coming on and on if I wouldn’t be afraid of needles I’d maybe try it out but because of my fear I just can’t put my mind through it I just go with the flow😬😬😬😬😬😬
1. Breathing with Smell (Essential oils) 2. Focal Points & Visualization (Any point to focus, may be partner) 3. Music and Mantra (Push Playlist, positive slogan and statements) 4. Relaxing touch & Hot cold therapy (Gentle touch or relaxing touch, hot or cold bags) 5. Water (Nice warm Shower)
Pramita Saha You could buy just one, but those take a while to freeze, so it would be better to have one for hot and one for cold. Or you could buy one and have a heating pad for the warm therapy.
it should read as music and affirmations. The translation of mantra in this wonderful video was unfortunately inaccurate and is also cultural appropriation that is misused. Affirmations is a better term.
Some other tips I have gleaned: 1. Gate control theory-use a comb in the palm of your hand to trick your brain into feeling that sensation first before the contraction pain. 2. Ride the wave-every contraction rises and peaks and then declines. The peak is about 15 seconds. You can do anything for 15 seconds (mantra!) 3. Do not focus on the stats but on how you feel. If you are thinking about how you’re only 2 cm dilated that can be discouraging. But you might be 90% effaced and that is progress too. The change can happen fast so don’t focus on the numbers. 4. Move! By responding to the type of moves your body is craving, you are helping your baby get into the right position and descend, increasing pressure on your cervix to help with dilation and effacement.
Had my baby naturally a week ago! I watched your video and a couple others two days before I was able to stick to my birth plan of no epidural. It was 14 1/2 hours but only 10 minutes of pushing, over the last 2 1/2 hours of labor pains I did squats during all of my contractions and laps around my house which totaled about 4600 steps and honestly laying down or sitting during those contractions was so much worse. This experience was wonderful. I was walking 10 minutes later and probably healing better because of it! Thank you for the videos 🤗
So happy to hear your experience. I am almost due like any day now and I am so nervous and scared. Do labor pain feel like your abdomen is about to drop or explode? I have been having some of these pains every now and then and not sure if they are contractions or just round ligament pains.
@@headacheification They feel like very severe period cramps. You feel your muscles tightening so it makes you want to clench/tense up but its worse when you do so always try to relax and breathe through them.
Hi Bridget, Last weekend I had my third baby naturally without epidural. I have followed your breathing techniques for my last two births and had wonderful and quick deliveries. Thank you for posting your videos for free.
I’m currently pregnant and I have a 4 year old. You really can have a painless or moderately painless labor. I personally never needed one with my son but got talked into getting one to help me ‘dilate faster’. EVERY WOMAN AND LABOR IS DIFFERENT. These tips will help for sure BUT how you care for yourself during pregnancy makes a difference as well. The more active you are the better (walks, yoga, light exercise). Maintaining stress is important (meditation or whatever calms you down). Eating healthy, nutritious foods. You also have to visualize the labor and delivery you want. Yes life happens, stressors will happen whether you’re pregnant or not, but dealing with them, maintaining a positive (calm in the storm) peace of mind, being active, etc helps TREMENDOUSLY.
@@pinksmurf10 your mind is the most powerful tool! I had very good control over my thoughts in my first labor so it was much, much more peaceful. With my second I showed up to the hospital not wanting to deal with labor so it got out of control and chaotic very, very fast. I still had a medication free birth but if you can control your thoughts and keep yourself at peace and encouraged as much as possible that will be the #1 thing that will determine how it goes.
@@megandelli1 omg so I gave birth on the 25th February, I had no idea I was even in labour the contractions weren’t that strong. Got to hospital and they broke my waters, that’s when the pain started. I asked for an epidural but it didn’t work , so I gave birth naturally and honestly it was painful but once I pushed baby’s head it was fine. I tried to keep strong and motivated during labour and it really helped.
I focused on a mantra/acronym I created Relax Open Soften Expand Surrender (ROSES). At first, I focused on the words but eventually, I couldn't--so I focused on ROSES. Eventually I had to let go of all my thoughts and "let go and let God". 28 years later, I'm here watching Bridget's videos and sharing them with my baby who's going to have her first baby!
I am due in August with my first and reading a book called «positive birth». In the book, they suggest using the word «intense» rather than «pain», which is something I will focus on for the remaining time. Such a small thing is really helping me feel more mentally prepared. Also using positive angles such as “you are safe” rather than “it is not dangerous”.
If you haven't delivered yet, I highly suggest understanding what your body is doing. It truly helps to visualize what your body is doing as it's doing it. It takes this scary intense pain and turns out into "intense pressure". Andi when it comes time to push, you're going to feel like you need to poop only when you start to bear down the pressure moves from the back to the front and it's probably one of the scariest sensations when giving birth. When you reach that part, have someone remind you to breath and just remember that this is the final lap, and it will be over once you get your baby out. I'm due very soon with #5... I didn't understand what my body was really doing until my 3rd. It's advice I wish I had been given.
@@lettus143 I just gave birth to my first it was a very fast (precipitous) and intense labor and birth but you described exactly what I experienced. I was on the toilet at home having strong contractions and felt the intense urge to bear down (I couldn’t stop myself) and my water dramatically broke. We fortunately made it to the hospital 26 mins before our baby boy was born. I felt like he was going to be born in the car or the lobby of the hospital and them the triage room but we made it just in time. No time for any pain relief and my OB walked in right after I delivered (the on call OB delivered for us because it happened so fast). I honestly felt so proud of myself after. It’s a pretty amazing experience! Congratulations on number 5!!!
People that can't comprehend things aren't going to encourage you to do so. I've never heard of anyone laboring longer then 2 days, so the "pain" isn't long and it's relative. You're built for this you can do this.
another quick tip I heard on a podcast is to have a comb in your hand. Acupressure counter-pressure. Eases the discomfort and distracts the mind during tougher contractions.
I remember hearing, "...keep pushing, she's got a lot of hair, she's almost here, you can touch her head, she's coming on the next one," all these things made me keep pushing through. Every new mom should know not to put themselves down. We can plan this or that but it's truly in God's hands. I planned to breastfeed and not get an epidural and keep holding out until the baby came when it was ready but it didn't happen for me. I got so depressed. My blood pressure skyrocketed and I had to be induced which ruined one plan then the pain of being induced came so suddenly...it wasn't gradually increasing like one would probably prefer. I had to get the epidural, it wasn't offered unless I really needed it. But they recommended it to lower my bp too, so I took it. I was so proud choosing to breastfeed which I intended on doing for 2 years and even that couldn't be done. I produced no milk whatsoever. On her third day of life, my child was starving and I had enough. My mom told me to not feel bad about it, she brought me formula for my baby girl. She slept so calmly after that and was finally fed, after that nothing else mattered to me. My baby is my priority, not my ego or pleasing others. It was an expectation of me to breastfeed but it just didn't happen and I moved on. Just after a few feedings, my daughter was sleeping better, I was sleeping better and my mind was at ease. The wet and soiled diapers finally came, I cried, never been so happy to look at poo. She grew up so quickly and I love her with all my heart. Now I'm expecting another little princess and this time I don't plan but I won't be hard on myself like before. Be the best mom you can be. You and your baby come first. God bless all moms out there
This is my favorite comment in this whole comment section. You are amazing. Dealing with a change in plans with flexibility and grace is so beautiful and such a great life skill.
@@fighttheevilrobots3417 there were so many struggles but at the end of the day you have to think about your health and the health of your child. One learns with every baby too, I'm very grateful I had my mother to help me through my struggles, through my depression. Ladies Don't Be Afraid to Ask for Help!!!
Good job, mom!!! I have many goals but I'm trying to keep an open mind and let God work His will. I'm sure everything won't go according to my plans so I want to stay firm in my birth plan, but if nature takes its course I want to go with it. :)
My mantra was yoinked straight from Bob Ross Relax, let it flow, think like water (Water takes the path of least resistance and Bob Ross is the most calming presence I could think of)
Thanks. Your advices really helped me have a natural unmedicated delivery. All my life I thought I had low pain tolerance, but I handled labor like a pro :*
Having had 2 births, this is very true!! It’s very simple trick, but it takes practice! Even simple things as breathing becomes difficult when you are in labor... Be ready and PRACTICE!!!
I really believe I can do a natural birth no matter how hard it gets, I’ll just keep encouraging myself that other women did it so can I. This video was very helpful too thank you!!
Thank you for your videos, they are so empowering ! I just told my neighbor I wanted a home birth, and she said it would be funny because she'll know when I'm giving birth by hearing me screaming in pain... I reminded her I could be silent and in control. I just wish people were as supportive as you are.
Something I strongly want to impress on women (I'm sure there will be nurses who disagree or are not this way, I'm glad you exist if that's the case but please recognize you are the exception, not the norm unfortunately) is this: When laboring in a hospital, do NOT expect the staff to honor your birth plan or frankly give a crap about what makes you comfortable. I've had 4 children, one unmedicated, and all four times, four different hospitals in different states, nursing staff were unsupportive assholes. The fourth cut the cake for me. I arrived at 8cm. I wanted the tub-nit allowed because I didn't get a Covid test two days prior. I wanted to move around, not allowed because they needed to "monitor" (there was absolutely no sign of fetal distress). They made an issue out of my blood pressure (I have significant White Coat Syndrome) even though I had no protein in my urine (no preeclampsia-and I knew what to look for because I had it before) and even though I basically begged them to stop checking everything for 10 minutes and let me labor as I had at home, that the continuous monitoring was what was driving my BP up, I was flatly denied and made to lay on my side. I eventually said quite loudly "fuck this" and got on all fours. OB tried to "push my cervical lip back" without warning me and got kicked in the nose for it (accidental). This was the running theme for all 4 labors. If you intend to labor unmedicated in a hospital, be prepared and be fierce about what you want. BE a bitch about it if they get pushy. You are not required to stay in the bed. You are not required to have an IV hooked up (you do have to have the port though just in case). You are not required to push on your back. Hospitals are trying to get you done and get on to the next patient. That's the chief motivation. Advocate for yourself, because otherwise you'll find yourself manipulated into interventions and entirely uncomfortable situations.
I’m almost 34 weeks and reading this has helped immensely. Thank you so much for taking the time and writing this! This was more helpful than the video itself, sometimes the videos may seem to give unnecessary advice but the comment sections are good!
I work at the hospital I had my second son at and the MD kept trying to get me on pitocin even though my water has just broke and contractions hadn't started. No medical need whatsoever but told me my baby was in danger the longer I wait. I adamantly said NO THANKS! and had him 6 hours later naturally. He came in after and said "sorry, I just really like pitocin, ha ha" I was pissed. Anyone else with less knowledge would have gone for an unnecessary induction.
Studies have shown that labor nurses spend about 15 minutes per shift actually assisting mothers. The rest is charting and other bureaucratic nonsense!
Yup! I went into birth trusting that doctors would help me and take care of me but dealing with the hospitals was such a pain in the ass. I just said f*ck it and had number 4 at home. I'm due soon with number 5 who will also be born at home. I could go on and on about everything they tried to put me through, but with number 3 I wanted to do a home birth but my husband wasn't confident about it yet. On the way to the hospital I told him that were going to try and fear monger like they always do to bully us into something we don't want because it's what they did every time. When we checked in I was 7cm dilated, it was about noon. One of the nurses made a comment about how everyone in my city is giving birth right now because they were suddenly swamped and I just had this feeling that they were going to try and pull something on me. Sure enough the wards Dr comes into the room very visibly upset, talking about how there aren't enough hands on deck and how almost all the rooms were taken. One nurse makes a comment that they could have me deliver in the area of the hospital where they perform C-sections and after a bit of back and forth the doctor leaves and comes back 5 minutes later telling me that "my babies heart rate is low" and that she wanted me to reconsider my plan for a natural birth and start mentally preparing for the C-section I was going to need. The look I have my husband must have been terrifying, I was so seething mad I was smiling and speechless. I just turned back to the doctor and looked at her and she quickly fumbled back "er well if things don't improve soon then we'll have to...". They wheeled me to a room and my son was born by 2pm. After that my husband was like "never again" and the birth of #4 at home was so awesome he's sad we didn't do it sooner lol.
First time mom in just a few days! My mantra has always been (when things are becoming too intense mentally or physically): You're okay, you're okay. I just say it over and over and it typically calms me. Like that voice of command and control. Hope it still works on baby's birthday 🥰
My second birth was unmediated and hardly painful at all. I did what you are saying, stimulating the senses. One thing that helped a lot was tapping my finger as I counted through my breathing during a contraction. I was standing in the shower, leaning forward with hot water on my back and I’d tap to the count of 4 as I did my breathing. It takes focus to tap and attention to feel the wall, I think it helped distract me a lot!
With my first I truly do feel like the epidural delayed the process because I was so numb I couldn’t feel anything. I am due with #2 in October and I know I can handle this on my own. ❤️ “Pain is inevitable, suffering is a choice”
Had my baby a month ago without an epidural thanks to your videos (even though it was mostly back labor)! Wasn't sure I could do it but you gave me the confidence and tools to make it possible. Thank you!
I had three natural births, they were all fairly easy, I didn’t learn any breathing or pain management techniques but one thing I learned fairly quickly was that laying in bed and getting into a fetal position made my contractions way more painful, what I did instead was slowly walk through the contractions with a very straight back, kind of stretching it as I walked.
I did all of these except the music, i wanted total silence. I stared at the wall and old tv for 10 hours while focusing on my breathing and counting down from 10 when i had pain to control it. Worked great, i was in total denial about getting an epidural and i did this and it went great, baby came out fast and easy, pain wasn’t that bad, I’m pregnant with my 2nd and I’m still more scared of the epidural😂
Ok just so you know I have had 4 epidurals. Really not bad. I do not look at their instruments. That is how to ger scared. I just focus on the nurse or my husband who is holding me and be very still. A little pinch. Truly contractiins are so much more painful. I'm just saying this bc if you opt to get one you need not be terrified of it.
I’m currently in labor and I’m going natural without an epidural, I’m 5cm dilated and these contractions Hurtttt! But I’m going to hold off the epidural as far as I can, I can do this! Pray for me!!!
Did you do it,? Usually if u don't request is early they won't give it when you're in pain I'm having contractions now too but I'll see how bad the pain gets before I can see if I'll need it.
I really hate it when people tell me natural birth is a bad idea. Get the tap. You'll change your mind. How about let me decide. Support me the best you can and we will see how i deal with it.
Forreal. If women since the beginning of time gave birth without epidural than we can today. God gave us what we need but I don’t shame women for using epidural either
It's funny... no one shames each other when they discuss an epidural, but you mention you want to go naturally and somehow that opens the door for criticism and eye rolling. What happened to supporting one another?
My first pregnancy was induced because of Cholestasis, this time i did not have it and my baby came on her own. Too fast maybe, i was so sure i wanted the epidural, i even signed the papers the day before but my labor stalled. Next day in less than 2 hours i had my baby and by the time i got to the hospital she was born in 10 minutes. When i heard “it’s too late for an epidural” i remembered this video and it went so quickly in two pushes it was all done and i healed amazingly. Thank you! Your videos changed my whole perception of my birth.
I just gave birth 2 days back without epidural (induced) to a beautiful baby gurl.. I saw your videos about breathing and positive affirmations during labor.. you have helped a lot! Way to go!
I am surprised at how simple these solutions are. And you can save yourself of so much trouble of getting an epidural. I wish this knowledge can be given to all expecting mothers. Here in India most of the doctors prescribe c-section for their convenience and mothers do not know any better. I am due in August.. Wish me luck!
Honestly my focal point was watching the monitor from the constant fetal monitoring.. I liked starting at the lights/numbers going up as the contractions came and just focusing on breathing and waiting for those lights to start going back down again. It seems counterproductive since I’m focusing on a number to represent intensity but it actually really helped!
I personally want to do as natural as I can.. and I'm tired of hearing the phrase "you dont get a medal for NOT getting an epidural" like stfu it's not a competition it's a choice 😂😂
I'm TERRIFIED of needles. I'm choosing natural to avoid as many needles as possible. Thars how bad my phobia is. Lol some people are clueless. Aren't they? Your right. Its about personal choice.
Lol this made me laugh.. Yes!! What's wrong with keeping our options open. I'm going to aim for natural as well but just really be in-tune with my body and see what I really want in that moment. And right, it's not a competition lmao!!
@@teeny700 I’m gonna give you a warning now - As someone who also has a phobia ... They’re gonna blood test you and insert an IV as soon as you get admitted (if you’re going to a hospital) so I asked for nitrous gas so I could be out of it and look the other way (they give the gas through a mask) so do that! LOL
I just gave birth 2 weeks ago - I ended up getting the epidural LMAO 😂 but with the gas throughout and all that I was able to be out of it and in so much pain that I just ignored the idea of it and it was administered so quickly
Love your perspective! I had epidurals with all 4 of mine and had a wonderful, peaceful experience. If you've brought a baby into the world, you've succeeded 👊
I had a photo of my son to focus on while in labor with my 2nd. It was a last-minute decision and right before I was about to push, I remembered I had a photo of him in my wallet and I had my husband grab it for me. It helped so much!! I'd never heard of anyone doing this before....it was just what I wanted/needed in the moment. I plan on bringing a photo of my 2 kids while in labor with my third.
I was thinking of having newborn photos of my kids while in labor for my 4th. I have had 3 unmedicated births but it's still intimidating. Maybe even more so than my first and second because I can remember exactly what it feels like now. Lol
Just had my 4th bsby a week ago. This one went very nice for me. I thank the lord for his protection through it all and you for the useful and practical advises. God bless!
Love love and love your channel. Especially how you were speaking of pain as discomfort ! Your voice is so calming to me and you come straight to the point, telling us exactly what we need to hear ! Plus the short duration videos keep our attention span on ! Do make a video on prenatal exercises and spinning babies as well !
For all of you wanting to give birth without an epidural, but living in a country of culture where you are ridiculed for it.. it may help to know that there are countries where the expectations are the opposite. In the Netherlands, where I live, there is a long tradition of giving birth at home and without medication. Today, a lot more women chose to go to the hospital (15% give birth at home) but still, epidurals are only chosen by 20% of women. Older generations frown upon you wanting an epidural. Within that context, somehow 80% of women are able to give birth without it. Hope this gives you some confidence! Still, every birth is different, so don't beat yourself up if you end up needing one. ❤
I think it is absolutely horrendous to be frowned upon for getting epidurals. They're pain relief mechanism and no one has any right to have opinions on whether another human being should stay in pain or not.
Jeeeee....you really have no idea what this is about. Go on about life ignorantly. Epidurals didn't exist for thousands of years and many countries are not so medicine, pills and drugs obsessed like maybe wherever you come from. Nothing wrong with trying to work with nature. But hey we are not part of nature, right? 😅
@lchavinga my grandma died after giving birth at home and her family left her cuz ‘ culturally ‘ it was ok for her to stay home , until it was too late , she was bleeding all this time and they thought it was normal, she was getting weaker and weaker until a relative decided to take her to hospital, and it was too late , I am so thankful my mom had me at the hospital cuz she didn’t want to go through what her mom went through, I ll never understand why you want women to suffer ? If there’s a way to help them out and take care of their health why not ?? Why take risks ??
I have had two natural births (one homebirth and one hospital), going for a third natural birth in just a couple of weeks! I believed in my ability to birth my babies, and still do! If that’s what a mama wants- I believe she can do it! Preparations are so important. Learn breathing techniques and learn abouy the different phases of birth so you know what’s actually happening ❤️ All the best to all of you!
I give birth 2 weeks ago, (my first child) I watched all of these types of videos, nothing they suggested took away my pain! I repeat nothing, breathing techniques, remaining relaxed etc. I had a natural birth and got there in the end but I ended up getting an epidural because I couldn’t cope with the agony I was in, I laboured for nearly 24 hours and had quite a harrowing birth. On the other hand I have friends who’ve barely felt their labour pains and have had a natural birth, with little to no pain but haven’t practiced any of these techniques. Once my little boy arrived I forgot the pain but gosh kudos to anyone who can get through birth with no pain relief.
I have a strong suspicion that having a lot of pain or not so much boils down to ones health, or ones bodie’s state. For instance, if you lack magnesium, you might have strong painful periods (my case and as soon as I supplemented with magnesium I had not more period pains.) So, these factors may explain why for some is the worst pain ever and for some it is totallly doable.
It seems a common misconception that the point of these techniques is to remove pain. That's not going to happen. It's about coping with and managing the pain without panic - because fear and panic cause more pain. So it's really about relaxation, calming your mind and body, being in the moment and letting it go once it's past.
I’m so glad you showed up on my feed ! I am due in March with my first and have been trying to wrap my mind around being in labor. I feel so much more prepared for natural birth and am currently binge watching your videos 😂
Hoping things goes well for you ladies! I'm also due in March on the 22nd with my first and boy am I nervous. I'm aiming for no epidural as well I just don't know what to expect!
I had a natural birth 3 weeks ago. There's no formula to it just go in knowing the pain won't last forever and push the baby out. I never too Lamaze classes didn't fit anything special. Just believed in my body and did it
Same. I had a background knowledge of hypnobirth, and we took a Bradley class with our first (my unmedicated birth was our fourth kiddo). With the the fourth I just winged it. Breathed, changed positions till I found one that worked.
I'm so glad you mentioned that light touches, particularly as labor starts ramping up, can be deeply agitating. W/ my 1st son, I was young, went into labor 6wks early & had no birth plan. My father happened to be the only person in the hospital room w/ me, when I was reaching transition; he is well meaning, but tends to make things about him. I asked him as nicely as possible to please stop petting my hair or squeezing my arm every time I had a contraction, but instead of listening he got all hurt & offended, & so at that point I was just like, "screw this- if he needs something to do he can go ask for me to get an epidural bc I'm not continuing on with this!". So i ended up with an epidural- but it's now 17yrs later & I'm pregnant with my 2nd child. I'm much better at standing up for myself & I have no doubt that I can make it through w/o pain meds- & I can make sure that my birth plan WILL be respected! 💪
When I gave birth to my daughter they had to do the epidural twice because they didn’t test the first one and when they were putting it in they realized it was faulty. So when they took it out and inserted the second epidural they hit the dura sac in my spine and I had migraines and couldn’t walk for two weeks after birth. So now I’m TERRIFIED of getting an epidural and was going to ask others how they coped with the pain and what options they got to manage it and when they asked their birth team about it. I’m so glad I found this video ❤️
Wow the same thing happened to me with baby #2. The needle went too far and my husband was watching when it was administered and he said "that doesn't look right" (of course they ignored him)... A few days later I had SEVER MIGRAINES that got worse each day. Light sound and everything in between was intolerable, and I found myself with a pillow over my head not wanting to move a muscle all day long just to keep the sensory down. Almost 2 years later and at any given time my right leg will go completely numb. I think pain for a short time is better than the long term effects that can come with the epidural.
Well, I just gave birth June 1st. I went in there thinking I could do it. Went 6 hours without the epidural. I regret it. The pain is extraordinary. I threw up. I was already dialated at 4am, but the doctor wasn’t going to arrive until 8am. Breathing, all of that, not of that worked. The epidural saved my life. I got to sleep, before it was time to push. Praise God for that thing. But if you’re able to tolerate the pain, good for you momma.
Awe, your hospital was definitely not in the right making you wait 4 hours to push. That sounds really neglectful :/ but im glad it worked out in the end
I had my daughter 100% natural no medication. It wasn’t as bad as people make it sound. Labor sucked but the actual delivery wasn’t bad. I was sent home from hospital told come back tomorrow and get induced like scheduled and like 2/3 hours later my water had broke and baby was crowing and I pushed for a few mins and she was out.
Hi everyone! I'm pregnant 20 weeks with my #7 baby and with my first 3 I had natural labor and births and with the other 3 I had an apidural because my 4th baby was stillborn so I decided to have an epidural because I couldn't bear to go through those labor pains again knowing that at the end of all that pain I still couldn't be happy and hold my new baby and here him crying it was the most traumatic experience of my life 😭 after I had one apidural I was always afraid of labor even though the next two baby's babies were healthy. But I heard it's not good to have to many epidurals for your back, so I'm trying to get over my fear of labor and birth so I can maybe have this baby naturally again so I'm watching everything on coping with pain too see if i can get past the fears and maybe get some of my confidence back and not be so scared anymore 😢 please wish me luck everyone!!!
I had an amazing successful VBAC home birth a month ago. I literally watched your videos till that very day. Your videos were so helpful. Kept all your tips on the back of my mind. Thank you for all the great tips. 🙏
My biggest fear with an epidural, or any major pain relief during a major medical event, is that I won't be able to feel when something is severely wrong. I am 9 weeks pregnant now and looking towards a natural birth to be more aware of any complications. Thank you for this video:)
I had this with my first. 38 hour labor, 4 hours of pushing. I couldn't push because I was so numbed up I couldn't feel anything below my chest. It was bad. I tore, badly.
My first two pregnancies I had an epidural during labor. It wasn’t terrible, but because I was induced I was determined to make sure my body knew what to do on its own with my 3rd. Fast forward to my 3rd, I was in early labor for 3 weeks before my water broke and I was finally in labor! The biggest thing getting me through the pain was knowing I was 1 contraction closer to my baby, I breathed through it all and from water breaking to baby coming out was less than 3 hours! You can do it mama!
Claude Santolini I think women are not told the level of pain to expect when birthing experts talk about contractions. Probably why it took me 3 pregnancies before I tried going all natural lol
Essential oil (lavender) worked like magic! Also- gripping hair brushes helps take the edge off the 'bossy contractions'. 😂 But I also birthed in the pool with my husband, who was doing all the work with me- so I guess I had everything I needed. Most, but not least, it was a dream birth at home, with Bridget in my headphones. It was beautiful, nice and slow, and powerful! Thank you, Bridget. ❤ Doing it all over again, 7th time around))
@@danielleramos9686 Honestly when I look back at it, it's not as bad as women made it out to be. It's totally tolerable although I might have a high pain tolerance I don't know. This was my first baby I delivered at 39 weeks exact. My water broke at midnight, by the time we got to the hospital I was 3-4cm dialated. Contractions started at this point. They told me to walk around the hospital for an hour or two. After one hour of walking I was 6cm dialated and my contractions were stronger at that point. I got an epidural and honestly I'm glad I did. I'm not sure if I could have done it all naturally. I was in labour for almost 12 hours and delivered a beautiful angel at 11:40 a.m. She was 7.2 pounds and healthy 😊 The only hard thing for me was pushing. I was pushing her for 2 hours. Other than that, I can't complain. Would I do it all over again? Sure if I was in my 20's lol Im turning 38 this year so I highly doubt I'll have another one. Never say never but at this point I don't think so. Good luck to you 👍😊 Let us know how it went ❤
@@purplecowmovement7677 "its not as bad as people make it out to be... totally tolerable.... i have a high pain threshold..... still got an epidural" ummm ok
I'm not pregnant but the very idea has always given me an enormous panic attack. Seriously, even thinking about giving birth has always made me cry and feel horrible fear. I've Googled how do people survive labour pain' and frankly all the videos were awful - they just made my anxiety so much worse. EXCEPT FOR THIS ONE. This video somehow made me feel calmer, I'm so grateful to you, thanks A LOT. It's both your manner of speech and the ideas you present that manage to comfort my spiraling brain. Hope when/if the time comes your advice will help me get through this experience
I gave birth 6 days ago and delivered 26 mins after arriving at the hospital, about 40 mins after my water broke. I labored at home for about 3 hours and had contractions and bloody mucus (mucus plug) discharge all day. I did breathing exercises, got on all fours on our bed to stretch which seemed to help, and squeezed my wide tooth comb to distract from the pain of contractions. Walking around, pacing, and sitting on the toilet also helped me. The pain/contractions started in my uterus and eventually as they got stronger and closer they were in my back. I didn’t want an epidural but I would’ve considered alternatives we didn’t have time for that because baby was born shortly after she checked my cervix - baby was ready to be born. Looking back I’m really proud I did it without meds and I felt amazing after despite a 1st degree tear and extremely fast delivery. It was a complete whirlwind and honestly I can’t wait to give birth again it was the most profound experience I’ve had in my life and I am so grateful and amazed that I have the privilege to be a mother. The excitement was only multiplied by the fact that we didn’t know our baby’s sex and we were (and still are) elated to hear we have a beautiful and healthy baby boy! I had 3 mins total of pushing and pushed slowly with contractions until baby’s shoulder got stuck for a very intense but brief 8 seconds. I pushed as hard as I could and he was born, crying as loud as he could! I was honestly in shock in for a minute.
My sister is younger than me and she gave birth to 5 kids NO epidural and she is pregnant again. She told me DON'T use Epidural. My sister in-law gave birth to 3 children NO epidural. I don't like needles and I don't want the epidural. If women who can so it without epidural we can do it. Me, I'm relaying on God Grace and Strength to help me get through without it.
I had my baby 4 weeks ago, and thank you so much for your insightful videos, the breathing exercise is such a simple thing yet such a game changer. I managed to push out my 4.1kg baby without pain medication. With every contraction I kept taking those deep breaths in and out, even while screaming hahaha, but it really worked.
Nerves are good! It shows that something big and important is about to happen! Just turn that nervous energy into productive happy energy and not into scared energy. The more you can relax, the easier labor will be! You got this!!
I agree don’t be afraid and it’s so funny to say this because even tho I’m having my third baby sometimes I do think about what I’m going to go through which is obviously the pain I did both my kids unmedicated so of course this will be with out any medication or epidural but I’m watching these videos as well because I learn so much and I want to be relaxed and calm as much as I can and these things help dilate your cervix more hope you enjoy your little bundle mama women body is so strong and amazing don’t worry about anything 💗💗💗💗💗
Thank you for your video! I had my baby today and my labor was quick! At home I focused on my breathing through the contractions at home and when I got to the hospital I was 8 cm already! I was in labor for an hour no time for epidural or any medication
My last baby was born April 2020 and my epidural was misplaced and did not work. The pain was absolutely horrendous and I was just asking them to knock me out because all I wanted to do was DIE. Epidurals don't always work, especially when you get an incompetant anesthesiologist! Right now, I am 40 weeks pregnant and 4 days...I am NERVOUS even though this is my 5th child because of my last terrible birth experience. I believe you are correct when you say anxiety keeps the baby from exiting.
Thanks for this video 😍... I will apply it on my delivery this year (due date april 2022) ......btw, Im a proud mama with 4x labor (vaginal delivery) without epidural 💞 and planning to deliver my precious 5th ,without epidural too 😄... We do bcame crazy at some point but stay focus can make us stronger while facing the pain thou 😃.... Bless all mama in the world.
Props!! I'm due with baby 5 in 2 months and have only given birth naturally once but don't want that pain ever again!! I have to be ready for another natural labor since everything happens so fast though-- still hoping for an epidural because those were very memorable ones--- the better the epidural worked, the more it felt like a peaceful movie scene!
Love your channel!!! So happy to have found you! You have such a calming voice and your tips are so great! Thank you so much for sharing! Have an amazing and happy January!
I would add a TENS unit to this list! It’s very popular in Europe, but not really in the U.S (not sure about rest of the world). I plan to use it during my labour. Thank you for this video!
I’m not a fan of the phrase “trick your brain.” It’s not fake pain relief, it’s using techniques to manage pain or discomfort. This phrasing seems to focus the brain on the fact that there IS pain, vs focusing on the reality that relief is possible. Thank you for the tips and techniques!
When she said that the brain could process only pain or pleasure, I was like : "Fine then! Masturbation for all labour. Gotcha!" I'm just kidding. My husband, mother and nurse used pressure points to help alleviate the pain during my first delivery. I was also very much in my own world and focused. I can say I was barely aware of my surroundings, didn't realize if people came and went, etc. I'm trying to see what other options there are now that I could give birth to my second any day.
I’m on my 6th baby. I 5 weeks left (give or take) and I’ve been binge watching you. I want this last birth to be all natural. I’ve made it to an 8.5 with nothing but I couldn’t let my mind calm down and was like “epidural NOW!” Lol
Baby number 6! Wow! You're amazing. I'm pregnant with my first and definitely worried about calming my mind. Sending good vibes for an easy and safe labor for you!!
@@s.a.w5493 you got this! I let my anxiety take over but I’m praying this time (unlike the others) that with me preparing through videos and learning that I’ll be able to get through. I realize now it’s all a mental game and I need to focus and let it happen. I’m wishing you the best on your journey and believe you’ll have a safe and healthy delivery whichever way it plays out.❤️
@@karaniqueskorner I'm having my 5th in a few weeks and I've done natural every time (first hospital, the rest at home) I agree it's totally mental. It's actually gotten harder because now I have more experiences crowding in my head, memories of the sensations vs the first time when I had no clue what was coming. I'm praying I can relax and embrace this. It's a mental battle. Physically, things feel ready but my mind hasn't agreed yet!
I had a natural birth due to seeing the epidural needle. That traumatized me for life so when i went into deep contractions, i kept having to remind myself of that time so I wouldn’t get the epidural lol thankfully I gave birth within couple hours so I was able to pull it through
This is baby #5 for me and my anxiety has been at an all time high. I shouodnt be this worried but I have been. Thank you so much for this video. I will definitely try mysic because I loooove music. My plan is to labour at home for as long as I can.
30 weeks ftm. Planning on using an epidural myself, but things don't always go according to plan so studying up for contingency plans. Wish me luck! Update: it worked beautifully until the pushing stage. Every labor is different, so it's best to brace yourself anyway.
@@claudiap.6838 I slept with the epidural and progressed from 4 to 9 cm overnight. For some reason, the doctor still wanted to kick things up with some picotin in the morning. Once that started up the pushing, I could feel EVERYTHING. I swelled up terribly during pushing and my baby was stuck behind my pelvis. 3 hours into pushing and I was begging for the forceps =( To his credit, my doctor is very skilled with the forceps...it did a number on my seat area but there were no marks on my son - - he got more damage from his own fingernails.
Something that help me so much on early labor were seat on the car with the heater seat on. So was a comfortable warmer that I believe help me dilated more faster and also to feel less pain on the contractions. I turned one the Bible app and seat on the car … I know sounds crazy but was great
I tried with my 3rd baby and I couldn't do it! The pain was unbearable! 5 years later, we are now pregnant with #4 and as crazy as it sounds... I want to try a natural birth again!
Jojo Delacruz I ended up getting the epidural at 8cm. I also had preeclampsia so I wasn’t allowed out of bed for three days so it was very hard to get comfortable. I didn’t feel my contractions till 6cn but they were in my lower back which made me give in for the epidural.
Music and mantras were so helpful for my homebirth! "Open" as a mantra fit well with a deep downward vocal focus of energy. Definitely amazing and worth it to try all sorts of methods and techniques. Like she says, things can change and what you anticipate may not be what you prefer!
Something that I keep coming to that I would like to control in the hospital labor room is the lighting. I am pretty sensitive to light, and would prefer lower lighting when giving birth, so I don't just have bright florescent lights beating down on me. But I doubt that's something I can control.
When I had my first, the epidural made me pass out repeatedly, and I got a spinal headache which was an absolutely awful experience. I'm looking forward to taking matters into my own hands and going through labor naturally this time.
My first birth was TRAUMATIC. I have an 32k platelet count and I’m overdue. Won’t be getting an epidural again. I hope these tips help me but labor pain has been worse than breaking my arm
-Good scents (oil diffuser), focal points and staring at it like my partner’s eyes, visualization = internal image I make up, music/scriptures/affirmations - music tied to good memories, relaxing touch, hot n cold therapy - hot packs, cold towels, etc. - using water My notes 😭🥰
Your videos are so helpful I will be using a lot of tips for my birthing in May. This is my second child 9 years apart and I was not prepared at all for my first so this is extremely helpful for my second :)
I heard somewhere that it can be helpful to put on your favorite comedy show or skit on tv during labor to help loosen up the environment and stimulate those happy hormones. I’ve not tried it yet but intend to. 😊
Yes I watched funny animal and kitty videos until the contractions were so intense that I knew it was go time! It really helped me keep my mind off the pain.
I had a beautiful, calm birth with my fifth baby. I never thought I could manage that due to my past experiences but prayed and meditated a lot leading up to birth. My husband was shocked when I started pushing and baby was born because I was so quiet and calm. Never even moaned or anything. So different from my past births. What helped me was saying different mantras to myself quietly. I usually said them mentally or whispered them under my breath. I would also visualize inspiring things. As a Christian my mantras were "Christ is my peace" and "Christ is my strength"... I also visualized or thought about Mary before her birth or about the heroes of our faith, early church martyrs, etc. Somehow remembering what they went through so heroicly helped me. I also focused on my hands, forehead, and mouth. I was sure to keep them relaxed. I kept my hands open, palms up. I made sure I wasn't furrowing my brow or clenching my jaw. I truly believe being calm and quashing fear is the biggest thing for a natural birth. Fear makes everything so much worse. I also wouldn't allow myself to think ahead or wonder how long labor would be... or how painful things would get
... or even to try to keep track of how long a contraction was or likely would be or when the next would come. I was totally in the moment I was in. Looking back I don't remember pain. I hope my experience helps someone! We are expecting number six any day and I am hoping for another peaceful birth ❤️
Congrats on your 6th baby!!! I’m 8 months on my very first (and possibly only🤷🏽♀️ only God knows that) and that’s my plan is to bring some Catholic images. St. Jude, a Our Lady of Guadalupe and Guardian Angel candles, some Holy Water from the Jordan River and if I can find an image of good quality in time, the Divine Mercy and also my own Rosary and the baby Rosary I was just gifted by my God Mother. All as focal points and will likely say to myself “Jesus, I trust in you”, “the Lord is my Shepherd, there is nothing I shall want” and “Give us your peace O’ God”. I don’t honestly fully intend on having a fully unmedicated birth, but if it happens and I can, that’d be great. I’m also being induced for medically necessary reasons. So anyway, I just came to say, I loved hearing about your birth story and it definitely helped reassure me that what I’m planning is on the right track. If you’ve had #6 how was your experience this time?
Thank you for sharing I love that you included your faith filled mantras I will also be using your mantras! 4 more weeks to go 😁💙Thanks again!
Im soon entering the labour N Jesus Christ is whom I look up to.
@@Sarahbetho Have you had your baby?? :-) Number six was much more difficult! I was in active labor at the birth center for 9 hours and when I came in I was already at a 6. The last five minutes I was groaning in agony and asking for the nitrous. But the peaceful mantras helped so much for the rest of labor. I found out after he was born that the umbilical cord was wrapped in such a way that it slowed his descent which is why I had just terrible back labor. I would do it all over again but it was a much rougher go there at the end! All of the things I learned and used last time helped me through the long ordeal, though. I would do it all again!
That’s so beautiful!! ❤️. This is my goal for my future babies!! Thank you for sharing!!❤️❤️❤️
Just had my baby 2 weeks ago ang I was totally expecting to have an epidural at 6cm but guess what my amazing OB encouraged me that I can do it w/o having to rely on the epidural. So what I did was that I focused more on how I can manage my breathing so I can push when they count to 10. The next thing I know is that my baby was out & it took me 4 pushes to get her out 🤗. Just focus mommies and just tell yourself that whatever severe pain you feel it will only be 1 day and it will bring you closer to seeing your baby
YES MAMA YES! Congratulations! Thank you for sharing your beautiful positive birth story! We need to be hearing more of them!
Wow what did she do to help you get through it?
ana rup Well this is a bit TMI but I would gladly share this with everyone who would opt for a normal delivery. She told me to push as hard as long as I can without stopping until we reach the count to 10 & she told me that if you poop that means that the way you push is working. She also talked to me the whole time in the labor room. So I got a bit distracted of all the pain I felt.
I had both my kids with out epidural I’m due in two weeks with my third again my focus is not to have the epidural because number one I can’t stand needles so I rather feel it then take the needle lol but it’s much better because ur labour is much quicker ur contractions doesn’t slow down it just keeps coming on and on if I wouldn’t be afraid of needles I’d maybe try it out but because of my fear I just can’t put my mind through it I just go with the flow😬😬😬😬😬😬
Thank u for sharing your experience. Im also looking forward to normal delivery. Bless you..
1. Breathing with Smell (Essential oils)
2. Focal Points & Visualization (Any point to focus, may be partner)
3. Music and Mantra (Push Playlist, positive slogan and statements)
4. Relaxing touch & Hot cold therapy (Gentle touch or relaxing touch, hot or cold bags)
5. Water (Nice warm Shower)
what items should i be packing in my hospital bag for the hot/cold therapy?
Pramita Saha You could buy just one, but those take a while to freeze, so it would be better to have one for hot and one for cold. Or you could buy one and have a heating pad for the warm therapy.
Thank you!
it should read as music and affirmations. The translation of mantra in this wonderful video was unfortunately inaccurate and is also cultural appropriation that is misused. Affirmations is a better term.
What essential oils do you recommend
Some other tips I have gleaned:
1. Gate control theory-use a comb in the palm of your hand to trick your brain into feeling that sensation first before the contraction pain.
2. Ride the wave-every contraction rises and peaks and then declines. The peak is about 15 seconds. You can do anything for 15 seconds (mantra!)
3. Do not focus on the stats but on how you feel. If you are thinking about how you’re only 2 cm dilated that can be discouraging. But you might be 90% effaced and that is progress too. The change can happen fast so don’t focus on the numbers.
4. Move! By responding to the type of moves your body is craving, you are helping your baby get into the right position and descend, increasing pressure on your cervix to help with dilation and effacement.
Had my baby naturally a week ago! I watched your video and a couple others two days before I was able to stick to my birth plan of no epidural. It was 14 1/2 hours but only 10 minutes of pushing, over the last 2 1/2 hours of labor pains I did squats during all of my contractions and laps around my house which totaled about 4600 steps and honestly laying down or sitting during those contractions was so much worse. This experience was wonderful. I was walking 10 minutes later and probably healing better because of it! Thank you for the videos 🤗
Thanku for sharing! Im giving birth in "5 days" & im so anxious😭❤️
So happy to hear your experience. I am almost due like any day now and I am so nervous and scared. Do labor pain feel like your abdomen is about to drop or explode? I have been having some of these pains every now and then and not sure if they are contractions or just round ligament pains.
@@headacheification They feel like very severe period cramps. You feel your muscles tightening so it makes you want to clench/tense up but its worse when you do so always try to relax and breathe through them.
Delilah's Diary how did it go?
Kelsey Welsey . Not well, ive never experienced such pain in my life. I took the epi
Hi Bridget, Last weekend I had my third baby naturally without epidural. I have followed your breathing techniques for my last two births and had wonderful and quick deliveries. Thank you for posting your videos for free.
I’m currently pregnant and I have a 4 year old. You really can have a painless or moderately painless labor. I personally never needed one with my son but got talked into getting one to help me ‘dilate faster’. EVERY WOMAN AND LABOR IS DIFFERENT. These tips will help for sure BUT how you care for yourself during pregnancy makes a difference as well. The more active you are the better (walks, yoga, light exercise). Maintaining stress is important (meditation or whatever calms you down). Eating healthy, nutritious foods. You also have to visualize the labor and delivery you want. Yes life happens, stressors will happen whether you’re pregnant or not, but dealing with them, maintaining a positive (calm in the storm) peace of mind, being active, etc helps TREMENDOUSLY.
I don't understand how the epidural would make you dilate faster?
@@rosechoix They say it helps you relax. Since it helps with the pain, you in turn relax more which helps you dilate faster.
I’m soooo scared! I’m due soon :(
@@pinksmurf10 your mind is the most powerful tool! I had very good control over my thoughts in my first labor so it was much, much more peaceful. With my second I showed up to the hospital not wanting to deal with labor so it got out of control and chaotic very, very fast. I still had a medication free birth but if you can control your thoughts and keep yourself at peace and encouraged as much as possible that will be the #1 thing that will determine how it goes.
@@megandelli1 omg so I gave birth on the 25th February, I had no idea I was even in labour the contractions weren’t that strong. Got to hospital and they broke my waters, that’s when the pain started. I asked for an epidural but it didn’t work , so I gave birth naturally and honestly it was painful but once I pushed baby’s head it was fine. I tried to keep strong and motivated during labour and it really helped.
I focused on a mantra/acronym I created Relax Open Soften Expand Surrender (ROSES).
At first, I focused on the words but eventually, I couldn't--so I focused on ROSES.
Eventually I had to let go of all my thoughts and "let go and let God".
28 years later, I'm here watching Bridget's videos and sharing them with my baby who's going to have her first baby!
I love this. ROSES and let go and let God. Something I will be trying :)
@@vlove562 Thanks! Please let me know if and how it works for you. Are you pregnant and due soon or just preparing to have a baby?
I love the acronym you created ❤️❤️💜🫶🏽thank you for sharing it!
I love how you address us as mamas and not “mom to be’s” 🤗❤️
Yes 🙌🏼 pro life all the way!
@@abigailfitzgerald714 that's not the message she is conveying
@@abigailfitzgerald714yeha definitely not the message
@@abigailfitzgerald714 Me too ! ❤
I am due in August with my first and reading a book called «positive birth». In the book, they suggest using the word «intense» rather than «pain», which is something I will focus on for the remaining time. Such a small thing is really helping me feel more mentally prepared. Also using positive angles such as “you are safe” rather than “it is not dangerous”.
If you haven't delivered yet, I highly suggest understanding what your body is doing. It truly helps to visualize what your body is doing as it's doing it. It takes this scary intense pain and turns out into "intense pressure". Andi when it comes time to push, you're going to feel like you need to poop only when you start to bear down the pressure moves from the back to the front and it's probably one of the scariest sensations when giving birth. When you reach that part, have someone remind you to breath and just remember that this is the final lap, and it will be over once you get your baby out. I'm due very soon with #5... I didn't understand what my body was really doing until my 3rd. It's advice I wish I had been given.
Had 6 without epidural, one pair of twins. Each labour is different, each pain differently, one more one less. We can do this, good luck❤
@@lettus143 I just gave birth to my first it was a very fast (precipitous) and intense labor and birth but you described exactly what I experienced. I was on the toilet at home having strong contractions and felt
the intense urge to bear down (I couldn’t stop myself) and my water dramatically broke. We fortunately made it to the hospital 26 mins before our baby boy was born. I felt
like he was going to be born in the car or the lobby of the hospital and them the triage room but we made it just in time. No time for any pain relief and my OB walked in right after I delivered (the on call OB delivered for us because it happened so fast). I honestly felt so proud of myself after. It’s a pretty amazing experience! Congratulations on number 5!!!
Yes! Language is everything! I also love the idea of using the word "surge" instead of "contraction" :)
I really want to do a natural birth but everyone I talk to says I will change my mind or that I'm crazy... I really want to do this!
You can do this! 💪
I got similar feednack from others and I found it so unsupportive and undermining. Your body and birth 💕
Saaaaaame 😭😭😭😭😟 I believe I can do. My sister did it even though she says it was painful but worth it
If only we can get some encouragement. I am mentally preparing myself through these videos but people think i m crazy
People that can't comprehend things aren't going to encourage you to do so. I've never heard of anyone laboring longer then 2 days, so the "pain" isn't long and it's relative. You're built for this you can do this.
Of course you can do it! I had natural births with my two children. No epidural and it is doable. Trust your body 💪
another quick tip I heard on a podcast is to have a comb in your hand. Acupressure counter-pressure. Eases the discomfort and distracts the mind during tougher contractions.
I remember hearing, "...keep pushing, she's got a lot of hair, she's almost here, you can touch her head, she's coming on the next one," all these things made me keep pushing through. Every new mom should know not to put themselves down. We can plan this or that but it's truly in God's hands. I planned to breastfeed and not get an epidural and keep holding out until the baby came when it was ready but it didn't happen for me. I got so depressed. My blood pressure skyrocketed and I had to be induced which ruined one plan then the pain of being induced came so suddenly...it wasn't gradually increasing like one would probably prefer. I had to get the epidural, it wasn't offered unless I really needed it. But they recommended it to lower my bp too, so I took it. I was so proud choosing to breastfeed which I intended on doing for 2 years and even that couldn't be done. I produced no milk whatsoever. On her third day of life, my child was starving and I had enough. My mom told me to not feel bad about it, she brought me formula for my baby girl. She slept so calmly after that and was finally fed, after that nothing else mattered to me. My baby is my priority, not my ego or pleasing others. It was an expectation of me to breastfeed but it just didn't happen and I moved on. Just after a few feedings, my daughter was sleeping better, I was sleeping better and my mind was at ease. The wet and soiled diapers finally came, I cried, never been so happy to look at poo. She grew up so quickly and I love her with all my heart. Now I'm expecting another little princess and this time I don't plan but I won't be hard on myself like before. Be the best mom you can be. You and your baby come first. God bless all moms out there
This is my favorite comment in this whole comment section. You are amazing. Dealing with a change in plans with flexibility and grace is so beautiful and such a great life skill.
@@fighttheevilrobots3417 there were so many struggles but at the end of the day you have to think about your health and the health of your child. One learns with every baby too, I'm very grateful I had my mother to help me through my struggles, through my depression. Ladies Don't Be Afraid to Ask for Help!!!
Good job, mom!!! I have many goals but I'm trying to keep an open mind and let God work His will. I'm sure everything won't go according to my plans so I want to stay firm in my birth plan, but if nature takes its course I want to go with it. :)
My mantra was yoinked straight from Bob Ross
Relax, let it flow, think like water
(Water takes the path of least resistance and Bob Ross is the most calming presence I could think of)
He sure was the voice could put any to sleep
Thanks. Your advices really helped me have a natural unmedicated delivery. All my life I thought I had low pain tolerance, but I handled labor like a pro :*
Congratulations!!!
Congratulations giiiiirl 💪🏽
Having had 2 births, this is very true!!
It’s very simple trick, but it takes practice!
Even simple things as breathing becomes difficult when you are in labor...
Be ready and PRACTICE!!!
I really believe I can do a natural birth no matter how hard it gets, I’ll just keep encouraging myself that other women did it so can I. This video was very helpful too thank you!!
Thank you for your videos, they are so empowering ! I just told my neighbor I wanted a home birth, and she said it would be funny because she'll know when I'm giving birth by hearing me screaming in pain... I reminded her I could be silent and in control. I just wish people were as supportive as you are.
Something I strongly want to impress on women (I'm sure there will be nurses who disagree or are not this way, I'm glad you exist if that's the case but please recognize you are the exception, not the norm unfortunately) is this:
When laboring in a hospital, do NOT expect the staff to honor your birth plan or frankly give a crap about what makes you comfortable. I've had 4 children, one unmedicated, and all four times, four different hospitals in different states, nursing staff were unsupportive assholes. The fourth cut the cake for me. I arrived at 8cm. I wanted the tub-nit allowed because I didn't get a Covid test two days prior. I wanted to move around, not allowed because they needed to "monitor" (there was absolutely no sign of fetal distress). They made an issue out of my blood pressure (I have significant White Coat Syndrome) even though I had no protein in my urine (no preeclampsia-and I knew what to look for because I had it before) and even though I basically begged them to stop checking everything for 10 minutes and let me labor as I had at home, that the continuous monitoring was what was driving my BP up, I was flatly denied and made to lay on my side. I eventually said quite loudly "fuck this" and got on all fours. OB tried to "push my cervical lip back" without warning me and got kicked in the nose for it (accidental).
This was the running theme for all 4 labors. If you intend to labor unmedicated in a hospital, be prepared and be fierce about what you want. BE a bitch about it if they get pushy. You are not required to stay in the bed. You are not required to have an IV hooked up (you do have to have the port though just in case). You are not required to push on your back. Hospitals are trying to get you done and get on to the next patient. That's the chief motivation.
Advocate for yourself, because otherwise you'll find yourself manipulated into interventions and entirely uncomfortable situations.
I’m almost 34 weeks and reading this has helped immensely. Thank you so much for taking the time and writing this! This was more helpful than the video itself, sometimes the videos may seem to give unnecessary advice but the comment sections are good!
I work at the hospital I had my second son at and the MD kept trying to get me on pitocin even though my water has just broke and contractions hadn't started. No medical need whatsoever but told me my baby was in danger the longer I wait. I adamantly said NO THANKS! and had him 6 hours later naturally. He came in after and said "sorry, I just really like pitocin, ha ha" I was pissed. Anyone else with less knowledge would have gone for an unnecessary induction.
Studies have shown that labor nurses spend about 15 minutes per shift actually assisting mothers. The rest is charting and other bureaucratic nonsense!
Moral of the story: hire a doula, take a Bradley class to train your husband to assist you, or give birth at home with a supportive midwife.
Yup! I went into birth trusting that doctors would help me and take care of me but dealing with the hospitals was such a pain in the ass. I just said f*ck it and had number 4 at home. I'm due soon with number 5 who will also be born at home. I could go on and on about everything they tried to put me through, but with number 3 I wanted to do a home birth but my husband wasn't confident about it yet. On the way to the hospital I told him that were going to try and fear monger like they always do to bully us into something we don't want because it's what they did every time. When we checked in I was 7cm dilated, it was about noon. One of the nurses made a comment about how everyone in my city is giving birth right now because they were suddenly swamped and I just had this feeling that they were going to try and pull something on me. Sure enough the wards Dr comes into the room very visibly upset, talking about how there aren't enough hands on deck and how almost all the rooms were taken. One nurse makes a comment that they could have me deliver in the area of the hospital where they perform C-sections and after a bit of back and forth the doctor leaves and comes back 5 minutes later telling me that "my babies heart rate is low" and that she wanted me to reconsider my plan for a natural birth and start mentally preparing for the C-section I was going to need. The look I have my husband must have been terrifying, I was so seething mad I was smiling and speechless. I just turned back to the doctor and looked at her and she quickly fumbled back "er well if things don't improve soon then we'll have to...". They wheeled me to a room and my son was born by 2pm. After that my husband was like "never again" and the birth of #4 at home was so awesome he's sad we didn't do it sooner lol.
First time mom in just a few days! My mantra has always been (when things are becoming too intense mentally or physically): You're okay, you're okay. I just say it over and over and it typically calms me. Like that voice of command and control. Hope it still works on baby's birthday 🥰
How did your birth go btw? 🙂
My second birth was unmediated and hardly painful at all. I did what you are saying, stimulating the senses. One thing that helped a lot was tapping my finger as I counted through my breathing during a contraction. I was standing in the shower, leaning forward with hot water on my back and I’d tap to the count of 4 as I did my breathing. It takes focus to tap and attention to feel the wall, I think it helped distract me a lot!
With my first I truly do feel like the epidural delayed the process because I was so numb I couldn’t feel anything.
I am due with #2 in October and I know I can handle this on my own. ❤️
“Pain is inevitable, suffering is a choice”
So hor did it go ??? We knew you could do it 💪🏽
please let us know how it went!
Had my baby a month ago without an epidural thanks to your videos (even though it was mostly back labor)! Wasn't sure I could do it but you gave me the confidence and tools to make it possible. Thank you!
Back labor is still ok!! Whatever you, your baby, and your body needs is best!
I had three natural births, they were all fairly easy, I didn’t learn any breathing or pain management techniques but one thing I learned fairly quickly was that laying in bed and getting into a fetal position made my contractions way more painful, what I did instead was slowly walk through the contractions with a very straight back, kind of stretching it as I walked.
I did all of these except the music, i wanted total silence. I stared at the wall and old tv for 10 hours while focusing on my breathing and counting down from 10 when i had pain to control it. Worked great, i was in total denial about getting an epidural and i did this and it went great, baby came out fast and easy, pain wasn’t that bad, I’m pregnant with my 2nd and I’m still more scared of the epidural😂
Same I'm more scared of needles than the pain of labor but idk how painful the labor is gonna be 😵
What about the ring of fire? Wasn't that part really bad?? :0
Me too!!! Im terrified of it. Id rather go natural. 😆
@@scarlett5781 it's like 2 minutes tops. An uncomfortable stretch but then relief of the baby being out.
Ok just so you know I have had 4 epidurals. Really not bad. I do not look at their instruments. That is how to ger scared. I just focus on the nurse or my husband who is holding me and be very still. A little pinch. Truly contractiins are so much more painful. I'm just saying this bc if you opt to get one you need not be terrified of it.
I’m currently in labor and I’m going natural without an epidural, I’m 5cm dilated and these contractions Hurtttt! But I’m going to hold off the epidural as far as I can, I can do this! Pray for me!!!
How did it go??
How did it go
Oh!! 🙏🏽how did it go???? 🤍
were you able to do it without the injection?
Did you do it,? Usually if u don't request is early they won't give it when you're in pain
I'm having contractions now too but I'll see how bad the pain gets before I can see if I'll need it.
I really hate it when people tell me natural birth is a bad idea. Get the tap. You'll change your mind. How about let me decide. Support me the best you can and we will see how i deal with it.
I agree, just get the painkillers for gods sake
Forreal. If women since the beginning of time gave birth without epidural than we can today. God gave us what we need but I don’t shame women for using epidural either
Seriously it’s so annoying
It's funny... no one shames each other when they discuss an epidural, but you mention you want to go naturally and somehow that opens the door for criticism and eye rolling. What happened to supporting one another?
I give birth in about three weeks and I’m hoping to do it naturally wish me luck guys 😭❤️. I can’t wait to meet my son🥰
TVSQUARED thank you ❤️
How did it go? ❤️
Yes you can do it
how did you go?!
Update!
My first pregnancy was induced because of Cholestasis, this time i did not have it and my baby came on her own.
Too fast maybe, i was so sure i wanted the epidural, i even signed the papers the day before but my labor stalled. Next day in less than 2 hours i had my baby and by the time i got to the hospital she was born in 10 minutes. When i heard “it’s too late for an epidural” i remembered this video and it went so quickly in two pushes it was all done and i healed amazingly.
Thank you! Your videos changed my whole perception of my birth.
I just gave birth 2 days back without epidural (induced) to a beautiful baby gurl.. I saw your videos about breathing and positive affirmations during labor.. you have helped a lot! Way to go!
I am surprised at how simple these solutions are. And you can save yourself of so much trouble of getting an epidural. I wish this knowledge can be given to all expecting mothers. Here in India most of the doctors prescribe c-section for their convenience and mothers do not know any better. I am due in August.. Wish me luck!
good luck mama!
I wanted to save myself having the choice of not going through this
Honestly my focal point was watching the monitor from the constant fetal monitoring.. I liked starting at the lights/numbers going up as the contractions came and just focusing on breathing and waiting for those lights to start going back down again. It seems counterproductive since I’m focusing on a number to represent intensity but it actually really helped!
I personally want to do as natural as I can.. and I'm tired of hearing the phrase "you dont get a medal for NOT getting an epidural" like stfu it's not a competition it's a choice 😂😂
Yeah my doctor said “You don’t need to be a hero” Uhm I’m scared of a gigantic needle in my spine LMAO not the pain
I'm TERRIFIED of needles.
I'm choosing natural to avoid as many needles as possible. Thars how bad my phobia is. Lol some people are clueless. Aren't they? Your right. Its about personal choice.
Lol this made me laugh.. Yes!! What's wrong with keeping our options open. I'm going to aim for natural as well but just really be in-tune with my body and see what I really want in that moment.
And right, it's not a competition lmao!!
@@teeny700 I’m gonna give you a warning now - As someone who also has a phobia ... They’re gonna blood test you and insert an IV as soon as you get admitted (if you’re going to a hospital) so I asked for nitrous gas so I could be out of it and look the other way (they give the gas through a mask) so do that! LOL
I just gave birth 2 weeks ago - I ended up getting the epidural LMAO 😂 but with the gas throughout and all that I was able to be out of it and in so much pain that I just ignored the idea of it and it was administered so quickly
I just went into labor today. I couldn’t do it and that’s ok!!!! Every birth is a perfect birth, just saying 🖤
Love your perspective! I had epidurals with all 4 of mine and had a wonderful, peaceful experience. If you've brought a baby into the world, you've succeeded 👊
This is soo helpful!! I’m a labour doula and love to learn as much as possible to help my clients!! 😊
I had a photo of my son to focus on while in labor with my 2nd. It was a last-minute decision and right before I was about to push, I remembered I had a photo of him in my wallet and I had my husband grab it for me. It helped so much!! I'd never heard of anyone doing this before....it was just what I wanted/needed in the moment. I plan on bringing a photo of my 2 kids while in labor with my third.
I was thinking of having newborn photos of my kids while in labor for my 4th. I have had 3 unmedicated births but it's still intimidating. Maybe even more so than my first and second because I can remember exactly what it feels like now. Lol
Im going into labor tomorrow so I will deff bring a picture of it and my little one to help keep me motivated!! Love this idea
Just had my 4th bsby a week ago. This one went very nice for me. I thank the lord for his protection through it all and you for the useful and practical advises. God bless!
Love love and love your channel. Especially how you were speaking of pain as discomfort ! Your voice is so calming to me and you come straight to the point, telling us exactly what we need to hear ! Plus the short duration videos keep our attention span on ! Do make a video on prenatal exercises and spinning babies as well !
For all of you wanting to give birth without an epidural, but living in a country of culture where you are ridiculed for it.. it may help to know that there are countries where the expectations are the opposite. In the Netherlands, where I live, there is a long tradition of giving birth at home and without medication. Today, a lot more women chose to go to the hospital (15% give birth at home) but still, epidurals are only chosen by 20% of women. Older generations frown upon you wanting an epidural. Within that context, somehow 80% of women are able to give birth without it. Hope this gives you some confidence! Still, every birth is different, so don't beat yourself up if you end up needing one. ❤
I think it is absolutely horrendous to be frowned upon for getting epidurals. They're pain relief mechanism and no one has any right to have opinions on whether another human being should stay in pain or not.
@@Siriuslyyyno one asked
Jeeeee....you really have no idea what this is about. Go on about life ignorantly. Epidurals didn't exist for thousands of years and many countries are not so medicine, pills and drugs obsessed like maybe wherever you come from. Nothing wrong with trying to work with nature. But hey we are not part of nature, right? 😅
@lchavinga my grandma died after giving birth at home and her family left her cuz ‘ culturally ‘ it was ok for her to stay home , until it was too late , she was bleeding all this time and they thought it was normal, she was getting weaker and weaker until a relative decided to take her to hospital, and it was too late , I am so thankful my mom had me at the hospital cuz she didn’t want to go through what her mom went through, I ll never understand why you want women to suffer ? If there’s a way to help them out and take care of their health why not ?? Why take risks ??
I have had two natural births (one homebirth and one hospital), going for a third natural birth in just a couple of weeks! I believed in my ability to birth my babies, and still do! If that’s what a mama wants- I believe she can do it! Preparations are so important. Learn breathing techniques and learn abouy the different phases of birth so you know what’s actually happening ❤️
All the best to all of you!
I give birth 2 weeks ago, (my first child) I watched all of these types of videos, nothing they suggested took away my pain! I repeat nothing, breathing techniques, remaining relaxed etc. I had a natural birth and got there in the end but I ended up getting an epidural because I couldn’t cope with the agony I was in, I laboured for nearly 24 hours and had quite a harrowing birth. On the other hand I have friends who’ve barely felt their labour pains and have had a natural birth, with little to no pain but haven’t practiced any of these techniques. Once my little boy arrived I forgot the pain but gosh kudos to anyone who can get through birth with no pain relief.
I have a strong suspicion that having a lot of pain or not so much boils down to ones health, or ones bodie’s state. For instance, if you lack magnesium, you might have strong painful periods (my case and as soon as I supplemented with magnesium I had not more period pains.) So, these factors may explain why for some is the worst pain ever and for some it is totallly doable.
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Did they give you pitocin?
It seems a common misconception that the point of these techniques is to remove pain. That's not going to happen. It's about coping with and managing the pain without panic - because fear and panic cause more pain. So it's really about relaxation, calming your mind and body, being in the moment and letting it go once it's past.
Finally someone tells it like it is.
I’m so glad you showed up on my feed ! I am due in March with my first and have been trying to wrap my mind around being in labor. I feel so much more prepared for natural birth and am currently binge watching your videos 😂
Im due March 21st ☺
Hoping things goes well for you ladies! I'm also due in March on the 22nd with my first and boy am I nervous. I'm aiming for no epidural as well I just don't know what to expect!
I’m due March 21st! 🙌🏾
No way, im also due march 21!🙌
Annemarieke Kroon so exciting!!!
I had a natural birth 3 weeks ago. There's no formula to it just go in knowing the pain won't last forever and push the baby out. I never too Lamaze classes didn't fit anything special. Just believed in my body and did it
Same. I had a background knowledge of hypnobirth, and we took a Bradley class with our first (my unmedicated birth was our fourth kiddo).
With the the fourth I just winged it. Breathed, changed positions till I found one that worked.
I'm so glad you mentioned that light touches, particularly as labor starts ramping up, can be deeply agitating. W/ my 1st son, I was young, went into labor 6wks early & had no birth plan. My father happened to be the only person in the hospital room w/ me, when I was reaching transition; he is well meaning, but tends to make things about him. I asked him as nicely as possible to please stop petting my hair or squeezing my arm every time I had a contraction, but instead of listening he got all hurt & offended, & so at that point I was just like, "screw this- if he needs something to do he can go ask for me to get an epidural bc I'm not continuing on with this!". So i ended up with an epidural- but it's now 17yrs later & I'm pregnant with my 2nd child. I'm much better at standing up for myself & I have no doubt that I can make it through w/o pain meds- & I can make sure that my birth plan WILL be respected! 💪
When I gave birth to my daughter they had to do the epidural twice because they didn’t test the first one and when they were putting it in they realized it was faulty. So when they took it out and inserted the second epidural they hit the dura sac in my spine and I had migraines and couldn’t walk for two weeks after birth. So now I’m TERRIFIED of getting an epidural and was going to ask others how they coped with the pain and what options they got to manage it and when they asked their birth team about it. I’m so glad I found this video ❤️
Wow the same thing happened to me with baby #2. The needle went too far and my husband was watching when it was administered and he said "that doesn't look right" (of course they ignored him)... A few days later I had SEVER MIGRAINES that got worse each day. Light sound and everything in between was intolerable, and I found myself with a pillow over my head not wanting to move a muscle all day long just to keep the sensory down. Almost 2 years later and at any given time my right leg will go completely numb. I think pain for a short time is better than the long term effects that can come with the epidural.
Well, I just gave birth June 1st. I went in there thinking I could do it. Went 6 hours without the epidural. I regret it. The pain is extraordinary. I threw up. I was already dialated at 4am, but the doctor wasn’t going to arrive until 8am. Breathing, all of that, not of that worked. The epidural saved my life. I got to sleep, before it was time to push. Praise God for that thing. But if you’re able to tolerate the pain, good for you momma.
Awe, your hospital was definitely not in the right making you wait 4 hours to push. That sounds really neglectful :/ but im glad it worked out in the end
@@Dekayish yeah cause wtf
I had my daughter 100% natural no medication. It wasn’t as bad as people make it sound. Labor sucked but the actual delivery wasn’t bad. I was sent home from hospital told come back tomorrow and get induced like scheduled and like 2/3 hours later my water had broke and baby was crowing and I pushed for a few mins and she was out.
@@muchadoaboutkovu oh for sure! I wasn’t putting anyone down. Never my intention. Sorry it came off that way..
Hi everyone! I'm pregnant 20 weeks with my #7 baby and with my first 3 I had natural labor and births and with the other 3 I had an apidural because my 4th baby was stillborn so I decided to have an epidural because I couldn't bear to go through those labor pains again knowing that at the end of all that pain I still couldn't be happy and hold my new baby and here him crying it was the most traumatic experience of my life 😭 after I had one apidural I was always afraid of labor even though the next two baby's babies were healthy. But I heard it's not good to have to many epidurals for your back, so I'm trying to get over my fear of labor and birth so I can maybe have this baby naturally again so I'm watching everything on coping with pain too see if i can get past the fears and maybe get some of my confidence back and not be so scared anymore 😢 please wish me luck everyone!!!
I had an amazing successful VBAC home birth a month ago. I literally watched your videos till that very day. Your videos were so helpful. Kept all your tips on the back of my mind. Thank you for all the great tips. 🙏
Can you tell me more? I didn’t realize VBAC would be an option to have at home.
as a new L&D RN this was really helpful, thank you!
I watched your videos for months to amp up for my 3rd birth. All just to end up with a c-section! Birth is so unpredictable.
My biggest fear with an epidural, or any major pain relief during a major medical event, is that I won't be able to feel when something is severely wrong. I am 9 weeks pregnant now and looking towards a natural birth to be more aware of any complications. Thank you for this video:)
I had this with my first. 38 hour labor, 4 hours of pushing. I couldn't push because I was so numbed up I couldn't feel anything below my chest. It was bad. I tore, badly.
MANTRA: "IM WELCOMING A HEALTHY SPIRIT ON EARTH , THAT WILL CHANGE THE WORLD FOR THE BETTER,WITHOUT BEING SELF SACRIFICING "💕
I love this and will be using it
@@vettabug9770 💕best wishes 💕
This sounds demonic...
@@RileyOxendine-jx3yuhow
Hi, would like to thank u as your breathing exercise actually helped me managing the pain during my labour. God bless you dear.
My first two pregnancies I had an epidural during labor. It wasn’t terrible, but because I was induced I was determined to make sure my body knew what to do on its own with my 3rd.
Fast forward to my 3rd, I was in early labor for 3 weeks before my water broke and I was finally in labor! The biggest thing getting me through the pain was knowing I was 1 contraction closer to my baby, I breathed through it all and from water breaking to baby coming out was less than 3 hours! You can do it mama!
I just can't stand these women who want to be in pain. Do you think men would have wanted to suffer (there's really no point in being a martyr).
Claude Santolini I think women are not told the level of pain to expect when birthing experts talk about contractions. Probably why it took me 3 pregnancies before I tried going all natural lol
Thank you so much I tried breathing techniques during my labour I'm blessed with baby girl yesterday.thank you so much again
Essential oil (lavender) worked like magic!
Also- gripping hair brushes helps take the edge off the 'bossy contractions'. 😂
But I also birthed in the pool with my husband, who was doing all the work with me- so I guess I had everything I needed. Most, but not least, it was a dream birth at home, with Bridget in my headphones. It was beautiful, nice and slow, and powerful!
Thank you, Bridget.
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Doing it all over again, 7th time around))
35 weeks and I love you and watch your content to learn and be inspired for our natural birth with baby number 2!
I'm 38 weeks and will be doing all of your suggestions, wish me luck 😊👍
how did it go?? I'm 37 weeks and prepping for my at home natural birth :)
@@danielleramos9686 Honestly when I look back at it, it's not as bad as women made it out to be. It's totally tolerable although I might have a high pain tolerance I don't know. This was my first baby I delivered at 39 weeks exact. My water broke at midnight, by the time we got to the hospital I was 3-4cm dialated. Contractions started at this point. They told me to walk around the hospital for an hour or two. After one hour of walking I was 6cm dialated and my contractions were stronger at that point. I got an epidural and honestly I'm glad I did. I'm not sure if I could have done it all naturally. I was in labour for almost 12 hours and delivered a beautiful angel at 11:40 a.m. She was 7.2 pounds and healthy 😊 The only hard thing for me was pushing. I was pushing her for 2 hours. Other than that, I can't complain. Would I do it all over again? Sure if I was in my 20's lol Im turning 38 this year so I highly doubt I'll have another one. Never say never but at this point I don't think so. Good luck to you 👍😊 Let us know how it went ❤
I am now 39 weeks and 5 days, due in any moment..wish me luck..
Good luck 👍
@@purplecowmovement7677 "its not as bad as people make it out to be... totally tolerable.... i have a high pain threshold..... still got an epidural" ummm ok
I'm not pregnant but the very idea has always given me an enormous panic attack. Seriously, even thinking about giving birth has always made me cry and feel horrible fear. I've Googled how do people survive labour pain' and frankly all the videos were awful - they just made my anxiety so much worse. EXCEPT FOR THIS ONE. This video somehow made me feel calmer, I'm so grateful to you, thanks A LOT. It's both your manner of speech and the ideas you present that manage to comfort my spiraling brain. Hope when/if the time comes your advice will help me get through this experience
Great ideas !! 🙏👌I would also add the following:
1. Comb to hold in your hand for acupressure points
2. Using Yoga Ball
3. Dim the lights
I gave a natural birth .. without the epidural and it was beautiful ❤️
I gave birth 6 days ago and delivered 26 mins after arriving at the hospital, about 40
mins after my water broke. I labored at home for about 3 hours and had contractions and bloody mucus (mucus plug) discharge all
day. I did breathing exercises, got on all fours on our bed to stretch which seemed to help, and squeezed my wide tooth comb to distract from the pain of contractions. Walking around, pacing, and sitting on the toilet also helped me. The pain/contractions started in my uterus and eventually as they got stronger and closer they were in my back. I didn’t want an epidural but I would’ve considered alternatives we didn’t have time for that because baby was born shortly after she checked my cervix - baby was ready to be born. Looking back I’m really proud I did it without meds and I felt amazing after despite a 1st degree tear and extremely fast delivery. It was a complete whirlwind and honestly I can’t wait to give birth again it was the most profound experience I’ve had in my life and I am so grateful and amazed that I have the privilege to be a mother. The excitement was only multiplied by the fact that we didn’t know our baby’s sex and we were (and still are) elated to hear we have a beautiful and healthy baby boy!
I had 3 mins total of pushing and pushed slowly with contractions until baby’s shoulder got stuck for a very intense but brief 8 seconds. I pushed as hard as I could and he was born, crying as loud as he could! I was honestly in shock in for a minute.
Omg I wish you lived in Michigan so you could help me in a week and 4 days😩😩 This was still very helpful🙌💯
I'm saving your videos, im almost 21 weeks pregnant and need a good reminder.
My sister is younger than me and she gave birth to 5 kids NO epidural and she is pregnant again. She told me DON'T use Epidural. My sister in-law gave birth to 3 children NO epidural.
I don't like needles and I don't want the epidural. If women who can so it without epidural we can do it. Me, I'm relaying on God Grace and Strength to help me get through without it.
Very refreshing the way that you explain things. Keep up the great work I’m loving all your videos 😍
I had my baby 4 weeks ago, and thank you so much for your insightful videos, the breathing exercise is such a simple thing yet such a game changer. I managed to push out my 4.1kg baby without pain medication. With every contraction I kept taking those deep breaths in and out, even while screaming hahaha, but it really worked.
I’m at 37 weeks of my pregnancy, very nervous! Thank you for the informative and positive suggestions!
Nerves are good! It shows that something big and important is about to happen! Just turn that nervous energy into productive happy energy and not into scared energy. The more you can relax, the easier labor will be! You got this!!
I agree don’t be afraid and it’s so funny to say this because even tho I’m having my third baby sometimes I do think about what I’m going to go through which is obviously the pain I did both my kids unmedicated so of course this will be with out any medication or epidural but I’m watching these videos as well because I learn so much and I want to be relaxed and calm as much as I can and these things help dilate your cervix more hope you enjoy your little bundle mama women body is so strong and amazing don’t worry about anything 💗💗💗💗💗
Szilvia Lakatos thank you💖
How did it go?
Thank you for your video! I had my baby today and my labor was quick! At home I focused on my breathing through the contractions at home and when I got to the hospital I was 8 cm already! I was in labor for an hour no time for epidural or any medication
My last baby was born April 2020 and my epidural was misplaced and did not work. The pain was absolutely horrendous and I was just asking them to knock me out because all I wanted to do was DIE. Epidurals don't always work, especially when you get an incompetant anesthesiologist! Right now, I am 40 weeks pregnant and 4 days...I am NERVOUS even though this is my 5th child because of my last terrible birth experience. I believe you are correct when you say anxiety keeps the baby from exiting.
Thanks for this video 😍... I will apply it on my delivery this year (due date april 2022) ......btw, Im a proud mama with 4x labor (vaginal delivery) without epidural 💞 and planning to deliver my precious 5th ,without epidural too 😄... We do bcame crazy at some point but stay focus can make us stronger while facing the pain thou 😃.... Bless all mama in the world.
Props!! I'm due with baby 5 in 2 months and have only given birth naturally once but don't want that pain ever again!! I have to be ready for another natural labor since everything happens so fast though-- still hoping for an epidural because those were very memorable ones--- the better the epidural worked, the more it felt like a peaceful movie scene!
So much gratitude to you Bridgette!!!
Love your channel!!! So happy to have found you! You have such a calming voice and your tips are so great! Thank you so much for sharing! Have an amazing and happy January!
Thank you for the essential oil suggestions!
You're welcome! I love using essential oils!
I would add a TENS unit to this list! It’s very popular in Europe, but not really in the U.S (not sure about rest of the world). I plan to use it during my labour. Thank you for this video!
I’m not a fan of the phrase “trick your brain.” It’s not fake pain relief, it’s using techniques to manage pain or discomfort. This phrasing seems to focus the brain on the fact that there IS pain, vs focusing on the reality that relief is possible. Thank you for the tips and techniques!
This was super helpful and good to know it’s either pleasure OR pain!
Great video! I love that you use the word “discomfort” to address labor sensations 💛 go Doula!!!
When she said that the brain could process only pain or pleasure, I was like : "Fine then! Masturbation for all labour. Gotcha!"
I'm just kidding. My husband, mother and nurse used pressure points to help alleviate the pain during my first delivery. I was also very much in my own world and focused. I can say I was barely aware of my surroundings, didn't realize if people came and went, etc. I'm trying to see what other options there are now that I could give birth to my second any day.
I mean, masturbation is totally valid too!
@@katieanderson4364 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😷😷💜
I LITERALLY thought the same thing when she said that 😂😂😂
I’m on my 6th baby. I 5 weeks left (give or take) and I’ve been binge watching you. I want this last birth to be all natural. I’ve made it to an 8.5 with nothing but I couldn’t let my mind calm down and was like “epidural NOW!” Lol
Baby number 6! Wow! You're amazing. I'm pregnant with my first and definitely worried about calming my mind. Sending good vibes for an easy and safe labor for you!!
@@s.a.w5493 you got this! I let my anxiety take over but I’m praying this time (unlike the others) that with me preparing through videos and learning that I’ll be able to get through. I realize now it’s all a mental game and I need to focus and let it happen. I’m wishing you the best on your journey and believe you’ll have a safe and healthy delivery whichever way it plays out.❤️
@@karaniqueskorner I'm having my 5th in a few weeks and I've done natural every time (first hospital, the rest at home) I agree it's totally mental. It's actually gotten harder because now I have more experiences crowding in my head, memories of the sensations vs the first time when I had no clue what was coming. I'm praying I can relax and embrace this. It's a mental battle. Physically, things feel ready but my mind hasn't agreed yet!
I'm not so good at calming my mind.lol
Currently in labor and this is very helpful!
I had a natural birth due to seeing the epidural needle. That traumatized me for life so when i went into deep contractions, i kept having to remind myself of that time so I wouldn’t get the epidural lol thankfully I gave birth within couple hours so I was able to pull it through
This is baby #5 for me and my anxiety has been at an all time high. I shouodnt be this worried but I have been. Thank you so much for this video. I will definitely try mysic because I loooove music. My plan is to labour at home for as long as I can.
30 weeks ftm. Planning on using an epidural myself, but things don't always go according to plan so studying up for contingency plans. Wish me luck!
Update: it worked beautifully until the pushing stage. Every labor is different, so it's best to brace yourself anyway.
Congratulations! But What happened at the pushing stage?
@@claudiap.6838 I slept with the epidural and progressed from 4 to 9 cm overnight. For some reason, the doctor still wanted to kick things up with some picotin in the morning. Once that started up the pushing, I could feel EVERYTHING. I swelled up terribly during pushing and my baby was stuck behind my pelvis. 3 hours into pushing and I was begging for the forceps =( To his credit, my doctor is very skilled with the forceps...it did a number on my seat area but there were no marks on my son - - he got more damage from his own fingernails.
Something that help me so much on early labor were seat on the car with the heater seat on. So was a comfortable warmer that I believe help me dilated more faster and also to feel less pain on the contractions. I turned one the Bible app and seat on the car … I know sounds crazy but was great
Actually sounds soothing.
I tried with my 3rd baby and I couldn't do it! The pain was unbearable! 5 years later, we are now pregnant with #4 and as crazy as it sounds... I want to try a natural birth again!
I’m due in 9 days and I want to have labor without the epidural. Wish me luck and thank you for all the helpful tips😊
How did it go ?
Jojo Delacruz I ended up getting the epidural at 8cm. I also had preeclampsia so I wasn’t allowed out of bed for three days so it was very hard to get comfortable. I didn’t feel my contractions till 6cn but they were in my lower back which made me give in for the epidural.
Luz Landaverde omg 😳 If it’s this isn’t weird to ask but how long where u in labor ?
Jojo Delacruz 24 hrs
Music and mantras were so helpful for my homebirth! "Open" as a mantra fit well with a deep downward vocal focus of energy. Definitely amazing and worth it to try all sorts of methods and techniques. Like she says, things can change and what you anticipate may not be what you prefer!
Something that I keep coming to that I would like to control in the hospital labor room is the lighting. I am pretty sensitive to light, and would prefer lower lighting when giving birth, so I don't just have bright florescent lights beating down on me. But I doubt that's something I can control.
When I had my first, the epidural made me pass out repeatedly, and I got a spinal headache which was an absolutely awful experience. I'm looking forward to taking matters into my own hands and going through labor naturally this time.
My first birth was TRAUMATIC. I have an 32k platelet count and I’m overdue. Won’t be getting an epidural again. I hope these tips help me but labor pain has been worse than breaking my arm
You are amazing, thank you for sharing this information. I will soon go into labour and because of you I feel empowered 🙏🏻💞
Thank you for this tips! I'm gonna have my baby in 2 days! Wish me luck! 😊🙏
-Good scents (oil diffuser), focal points and staring at it like my partner’s eyes, visualization = internal image I make up, music/scriptures/affirmations - music tied to good memories, relaxing touch, hot n cold therapy - hot packs, cold towels, etc. - using water
My notes 😭🥰
Your videos are so helpful I will be using a lot of tips for my birthing in May. This is my second child 9 years apart and I was not prepared at all for my first so this is extremely helpful for my second :)
What worked for me was the mantra “I can do anything for one minute.”
Give birth next weekend. Watching and soaking in all the information on your videos!
I heard somewhere that it can be helpful to put on your favorite comedy show or skit on tv during labor to help loosen up the environment and stimulate those happy hormones. I’ve not tried it yet but intend to. 😊
Yes I watched funny animal and kitty videos until the contractions were so intense that I knew it was go time! It really helped me keep my mind off the pain.
Thank you for this video I’m preparing for this now and that video definitely helped Me😘😘