This feels really idealistic... I appreciate the positivity within it but not all conflicts can be solved by taking a pause and reflecting. Sometimes action is what's needed.
The idea of transforming conflict instead of just resolving it is new to me. I’m not sure how to do it, but it sounds better than always having to compromise.
The world would be a safer place if more of us would go to the balcony more often. Wise words. A unique life experience and wisdom that we can all learn from.
I never thought about conflict this way before. His story about the fireworks felt really relatable to me. Makes me wonder about my own ingrained reactions to things.
I do wish he'd shared more specific examples of how to use the "balcony" approach in everyday situations. Even so, it's a helpful concept for stepping back from arguments.
The balcony idea is pretty interesting. I have a hard time stepping back when I’m mad, but I can see how it might help. Hoping I can remember to do this in the moment.
Ahh man I knew right from the beginning when he was saying he was scared of those fireworks that it would be because of some kind of war related trauma, that stuff is so sad but it was great to hear about his journey through all of that 💙💙
The idea of conflict as a muscle you need to exercise is intriguing... I've always just avoided conflict and yeah my capacity for dealing with it is pretty low
I wish I'd heard of the balcony thing years ago, took me a long time to learn how to take a step back and not assume the worst of other peoples actions
I kept thinking about work conflicts during this talk. I’m wondering if my team could use some of these ideas to handle our project disagreements better
The potato mashing story had me laughing. It reminds me of when I studied abroad and kept messing up the simplest things. Cultural differences can be so wild.
This feels really idealistic... I appreciate the positivity within it but not all conflicts can be solved by taking a pause and reflecting. Sometimes action is what's needed.
I like the idea of transforming a conflict when it can't be resolved. That's a really helpful way of thinking
His background in conflict zones gives him so much credibility. It's not just theory-he's been right in the thick of it.
Sometimes I find myself stuck in an "us vs them" mindset. Hearing him talk about breaking that down was tough but also really inspiring.
I never really thought about how war stories might keep conflicts alive. That part made me rethink the movies and books I usually enjoy.
Thanks for sharing! I'm glad it made you rethink those stories. It’s amazing how media can shape our views on conflict.
The idea of transforming conflict instead of just resolving it is new to me. I’m not sure how to do it, but it sounds better than always having to compromise.
Oh I love what he says about conflicts being transformed into new ways of being. That's such a cool perspective shift!
Thanks and I'm glad you connected with that idea.
I’ve never made a connection between dignity and conflict before but it does add a whole new layer to things
The world would be a safer place if more of us would go to the balcony more often. Wise words. A unique life experience and wisdom that we can all learn from.
Thank you!
I never realized how much our past experiences influence how we handle conflict. It's got me thinking about my own reactions more.
Self-awareness of past experiences is a key to healthier conflict handling.
I love the fact that he didn’t pretend stepping up to the balcony is easy. It's refreshing when speakers acknowledge that things aren't always simple.
I've always seen conflict as something to avoid, but his perspective on it leading to transformation is surprising!
I never thought about conflict this way before. His story about the fireworks felt really relatable to me. Makes me wonder about my own ingrained reactions to things.
Wonderful that it resonated!
I like how he connected his childhood experiences to what he does now. It’s really cool to see someone turn tough memories into something positive.
I kept thinking about my family dynamics during the talk. We've got some old conflicts that could really benefit from this balcony approach.
I do wish he'd shared more specific examples of how to use the "balcony" approach in everyday situations. Even so, it's a helpful concept for stepping back from arguments.
The balcony idea is pretty interesting. I have a hard time stepping back when I’m mad, but I can see how it might help. Hoping I can remember to do this in the moment.
The balcony is a great term for that place where we find perspective.
The idea of finding "rightness in your wrongness" is tough to grasp, but I can see how it could be useful. I'm going to try to keep that in mind.
Yes it’s tough to grasp at first, but finding value in a counter narrative is a game changer. Glad it resonated!
Ahh man I knew right from the beginning when he was saying he was scared of those fireworks that it would be because of some kind of war related trauma, that stuff is so sad but it was great to hear about his journey through all of that 💙💙
The idea of conflict as a muscle you need to exercise is intriguing... I've always just avoided conflict and yeah my capacity for dealing with it is pretty low
I wish I'd heard of the balcony thing years ago, took me a long time to learn how to take a step back and not assume the worst of other peoples actions
Thanks for sharing! This mindset really does make a difference as a starting point. It’s never too late to start using that perspective!
The thought of conflict being potentially good is new to me. I’ve always seen it as something to avoid, but maybe there’s a different way to view it.
I kept thinking about work conflicts during this talk. I’m wondering if my team could use some of these ideas to handle our project disagreements better
I'm glad the talk resonated with you. It sounds like applying the main idea to your team's project disagreements could be really beneficial.
Gonna try that balcony thing next time my roommate leaves dishes in the sink for a week 😂
The potato mashing story had me laughing. It reminds me of when I studied abroad and kept messing up the simplest things. Cultural differences can be so wild.