One of my favorite lessons from you is this: If they feel like they could get you back still, they will not reach out. Only once they think they don't have you anymore will they begin searching for you.
Yeah people always seem to want to come back into your life once you're doing good without them. We shouldn't rely on others for our own happiness. I was a very happy person when me and my ex first started dating and I think I became too attached to her and made a lot of mistakes that are clear to me now. We gotta stay strong.
I am 58 and not one of my (10 or so) exes has ever reached out except to send one of those 12 Step "amends" letters. That was 1993. Nothing from anyone ever since. Sad but true. Not a word.
4 weeks into NC, A friend of hers decided to break the news that my ex was dating someone. That's her prerogative. Meanwhile, I'm recording music, working extra hours, meeting new people, and finding my smile. Sure it's hard, but it gets easier every day. Coach Lee, these videos have helped me, everyday, to stay strong. Bless you
Aj, trust me, it gets easier. I stayed in NC for 6 months. Then reached out to try to fix things, she blocked me. However, for some reason, that helped, now I'm way better, stronger and honestly dont want her back anymore. Stay in NC. One day you'll wake up and it wont matter anymore.
My heart goes out to bro. I think my ex is seeing someone else too. I’m going to ride the wave tho. I think I’m a good catch despite my flaws. Be strong man.
@@theglobalistchannel1471 i did the same, stayed in NC 3 months, she was with someone else. I broke NC with a message where i told her everything i thought and didn't even get a response. Strangely i was still happy to have sent this message and her no response helped me to move on..
My ex reached out on the 28th day. I wasn’t even expecting it but no contact does work! He sent the biggest message about what he’s been up to and asking me if I’m okay. He even thanked me for giving him space to help him reflect and process things.. but guess what? He never even asked for space in the first place! He is now hoping for a chat soon. If anyone is reading this, it might be just a case of them needing a break or taking time to appreciate what they had before. Don’t lose hope :)
“If you want them to miss you, you have to go missing”. Best sentence 👍🏻 Hope it will turn out true in my situation but will likely take a while until he might not be in the relief stage anymore (in case that will actually happen)
@@kagamitaiga9167 in my case , she didnt say let's breakup , but she said shes not sure about me , and she ask for time , she hasn't reach out except wishing me merry Christmas and new year...should I text her
3 months no contact.. I refuse to reach out thanks to Coach Lee. When times get really hard I listen to these videos! Thank You so much Coach Lee!!! You are a lifesaver
Day 5 of no contact here. The sorrow and anxiety is so bad I couldn’t sleep or eat properly. Up for 56hours crying. Didn’t eat for the first 4 days. Dropped 12lbs, trying to focus on improving myself. She hasn’t reached out at all yet. 8 years of constant texts showing our love, then bam she’s leaving. Big event in her life causing her to cutoff all relations with her parents who had a good relationship all their lives. This sparked the “I need space” move out. I’ve been watching all your videos. Thanks so much. I feel like a stronger person for using no contact but it sure is difficult. The sorrow is really bad.
@Vincent Vv had to go on antidepressants. Made me feel a lot better but I never thought I’d need pills. Months later now and I’m starting to forget her. Still miss her and still sad but life goes on.
@@Satisfyingtoday I totally understand how you feel. Do you go gym? It really helped me to go gym and sometimes twice a day and I feel so much happier and relieved because I spend time doing things rather than thinking. I’m not allowing myself to think too much, better be active, listen to good music and see people (for instance in the gym or long walk).
one day the pain will ease and the tears will stop. every day it will get better. but the pain in the heart is real. Josh Stone sang a song bruise but not broken. all the best
@mr fantastic i don't even count the number of days hahah. sometimes i missed her and the memories together but i deserve someone that's willing to work thru things with me. my breakup in middle september last year btw, on january i already feel better 💯
Honestly it is a marathon and not a sprint unfortunately. I have been in NC for a year now and never hear from her again but I know she is in a new relationship which was hard at first but I managed to get over it. I have been working on myself and I must say I feel better about myself now and currently I have someone else who appreciates me more. Make yourself feel good about you and do not seek that validation from anyone else is what I learned from all these vids from coach Lee. Some day it will hit them when they least expect it when things go wrong and it goes not how they expected it to go.
I'm glad your doing fine. I was engaged for 5 yrs and I left him bcse he had no intentions of getting married. Never heard from him again. All I know is he got married 2 weeks after we broke up !He married a rebound.
Got my ex back using no contact, we stayed together for 2 weeks and she asked to break up again, this time by text. I said 'ok' as a response. Was just shocked. It was the night before valentines day. She then deleted and removed me on everything. Not sure why, haven't reached out , didn't chase etc. Trying to be classy and not clingy. Moving on but I watch these for strength.
1. No contact rule 2. Give your ex the breakup 3. Dont be dramatic or make things hard on them 4. Dont act fake like you moved on already and post like everything is alright already. No mutual friend help! 5. When they reach out to you, important to not give them you back all at once. Be reserved. Make them earn you back
When he reached out he breadcrumbed me on and off. Last month he did it out of the blue of his own accord. I mean, I only told him that if he wanted to meet up once he moved to his new flat he could let me know. He told me he will. Two weeks since we last messaged and no sign yet... I'm staying quiet tho. It's killing me but NC worked the first time. I hope I haven't messed anything up. Can NC work again? He'd moving to a flat much closer to the town I live... he's an avoidant, by the way...🙄
@@MrRightisgood i summarized the video but.. Yea u did everything right. U told him to let u know when he wants to meet and stick by that. Dont reach out. Let him hit the ball back over to ur court. If he wants to see u, he will make it happen. U thinking hes an avoidant tells me u like him more than he likes u so he has all the power. Give him space to let him miss u. Even if that means ull never hear from him again
How can they know we've moved on if they are not on social media and I'm not either? No friends in common etc... so how will they know it is "safe" for them to pursue us again?especially in the case of avoidant exes?
@@MrRightisgood no contact really. It may take a week, it may take months, even years. The point is to never contact him again and move on with ur life. I know that's probably not what u want to hear but thats the only way he can feel ur energetically not present. When he realizes he hasnt heard from u, or no text from u, nothing, thats when he knows u moved on. He may want to reach out or he may not. This may take however long it may take, this may never happen at all. U have to move on for YOU. And given time, u will start to move on. It will start to hurt less and less. Heal urself during this time. This does not mean go sleep with other ppl or go on dates to get over him. It means to sit with ur emotions and process through with them. Learn urself again, do the things u were doing before u met him. U had a life before him so get back to that. Read the book Letting Go. Its a yellow and white cover book i forgot the authors name. Once u healed and he happens to come back, u might not even want him anymore
@@nova12332 I have so many doubts especially as time goes by. Am I becoming more and more a distant memory? Am I becoming easily replaceable? What if he thinks I don't want him anymore and therefore he won't even bother for fear of rejection or because he sees no point since he assumes I don't care about him anymore(since I'm doing no contact)? All these questions and more keep plaguing my mind everyday. We were only together for two months but our connection was so incredibly deep that that's why he pulled away as he's an avoidant. He said that things were moving too fast, according to him, that's what he told me in a text a month and a half later after he started reaching out following a month of NC from me. He put feelings before physical intimacy, which I was fine with because I had never experienced that before as men always saw me for what I look on the outside first and mainly, whereas he did the opposite. He was attracted to me physically but mainly on an emotional level and he told me he had started falling for me very fast which shocked him. He wanted to take things slowly, which we did but a week after we got intimate he started to pull away, to the point that he wouldn't text me unless I did (he used to text me and call me everyday regularly before). So I had to walk away. Essentially nobody left nobody as no break up conversation ever took place. We just parted ways without anybody saying anything to each other. In my last voice message I told him the reason why I had to walk away... It's a very unusual way of breaking up with someone, I know. Am I the dumper? Or is he?therefore, who's meant to do NC or reach out?
This works. Got her back by not talking to her. She decided to do her own thinking and came back. I didn't stop there. I no longer am the one reaching out. I took control back and am the one making her come to me in this relationship. And for anyone hurt. It does I promise you get better. It took me months but I'm a much better person because of the loneliness and depression I experienced. Work on yourself and you'd be amazed of the things that will happen with or without this person in your life. Thanks coach!
Day 38 of no contact....am getting a whole lot stronger each day.....i don't think of him that often anymore, n I am starting to feel like I don't need him anymore
I'm on my 39th day of NC with the girl who I courted for 1 year and it's sad because Im only asking for clarity but she said, she wasn't ready for a relationship after that I went no contact.
Day 38 here, too (of total silence; I actually started NC a few weeks before that, December 1st - but he still initiated contact, so I consider pure radio silence NC from NYE when he initiated the last text conversation!) Anyway, yes, it gets better and better! Keep strong! ;)
12 years together I thought he was the best person for me now we are separated because of trust issues I’m fighting to do NC it’s so hard I cry sometimes when I remember the memories we shared I miss him so much , it’s not easy but I’m pushing . I’m writing and listening with tears in my eyes . Thank you very much coach Lee
I am so scared now. It's day 9 of NC and I am reading the comments here and I can't find a single success story of this method. I miss her like crazy. We had our anniversary yesterday, and instead of her reaching out, I have seen a post of her being on vacation with some friends and having a great time. It's really unfair when people you gave everything to don't care about you from one day to another. I love her but I am not sure I want her back again. I really lost faith in our relationship, in her, in myself, and in God too. I really hope coach Lee is right about this and I will get her back before it's too late. Waiting for 1-2 months can be a large window for her to move on and for myself trying to improve and cross days on the calendar thinking how much I miss her and how it hurts not seeing her smile anymore.
“If you’re willing to slay a dragon and walk on broken glass” - Those are not equivalent comparisons to doing “no contact”. Physical pain is a lot easier than emotional pain
Coach Lee's; a real nice source of logic/sense. My wife had a bit of drama at the start of last year and went her own way... I watched CL's videos, along with working on myself (mind and body) and a few months later my wife was heading home. I followed Lee's perspective on life, became totally chilled, calm, and became the bigger person. It really worked.
i was so so close to reaching out today, ive completed 3 months at this point and I was staring at his number all day just typing. thank god I didnt send anything! this video really made me feel better about not saying anything. I dont think ill ever reach out. I want him to decide he wants me back and for him to put in the effort. I need to stop chasing a lost cause.
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All of us are different. 1 year ago I was cheated on and for some reason I wanted her back. Followed all of coach Lee’s advice, and eventually after a long 6-7 month wait of complete no contact with her…. BOOM still no text or call from her.. In the meantime I’ve been working out, I got a puppy, focusing on reading, podcasts, playing guitar, spending time with my family and furthering my career. I am so grateful to come where I have so far, true happiness comes from within, be somebody that is simple and easy to love as possible as you can. I ended up meeting somebody that is so good for me, doesn’t let me stray from my hobbies or going to the gym, and I return the same to her. Focus on yourself and good things will happen. Do not give up on yourself.
Great video Lee! My ex and I broke up years ago, but he was my first true love. He's married now (I think), but I was also his first love. We had no contact after the breakup at all, since he married a rebound in 2 weeks after being with me for 5 years. I believe he is a narcissist, but I understand the NO CONTACT since I started watching your videos years ago. God knows what will happen in the future, but I always believed in NO CONTACT thanks to you. You're GREAT!
Hey Jann, I have a very similar situation with you!!! So I feel you a lot!!! My ex and I are each other's first love. We broke up 6 years ago. He is married to another girl now. Yet, I am still doing no contact and watching these video hoping he would come back to me one day. Yes, only God knows His plans for us. Let's hang in there. :)
@@GoLiveJeez Ange, he met her in a bar 2 weeks after we broke up. They were married the 2nd week. We were engaged for 5 years, but he started abusing me. Future faking, gaslighting, everything, so I left him. I couldn't take it anymore.
Me and my girlfriend recently went on a break, which wasn’t really a break because I messaged her half way through a long “I’m sorry” message. This break was only 2 weeks and it was only 2 week because at the start I said I was off work 2 weeks from now and we arrange that’ll be the day to meet up. Things went well for the first few days and she actually decided she did want to work on things but it was short lived and it turns out she was still confused and just wanted to be on her own, she clearly didn’t get the true space she needed, so she thought the best thing to do was to break up and protect my feelings. It was sad as we both cried and told each other we loved each other and said thanks for the memories and I agreed to the break up but told her how I still can’t fully close the door on us and feel we could just need more time apart and although she partly agreed, she said we can’t just rely on hope but thought we could be friends, but I was strong and said I feel I need time first and so I’m going to work on myself and give her the “no contact” for at least a couple months. I really hope she reaches out
Day 7, this is beyond difficult. I'm trusting the process. We've had issues in the past, but I've never gone missing. My adhd got the best of me before. I know her well enough to know, she's wondering why i have not reached out. I honestly am crushed, but I don't know that i can ever take her back. Not without some major changes. I have my first coach call on Thursday, looking forward to it! Good luck to all of us!
I feel ya. Few weeks for me. I listen to coach Lee daily and it empowers me to know that I am sticking to something so incredibly difficult. My ex texted last night on Valentine’s Day about erroneous things and did not wish me happy Valentine’s Day- so that was weird… I guess he’s thinking about why I didn’t wish him one as he knows I’m sentimental like that. It’s crushing. Slowly tho- I know in time I will become stronger and drift away- because that’s what happens when someone breaks yr heart- you slowly learn to love yourself again. Your smiles feel more genuine, you realize you have not thought of them the last few hours and you start seeing and hearing beautiful things again about life in general. We grow through pain if we face it head on and do things that empower us like NC. 😊hang in there.. the last few weeks have been hell for me too and I’ve been a hair away from jumping off a bridge if I had not listened to these videos. Coach Lee has been a godsend
@Source Hauntings Glad you didn't take the jump! I was accused of not being available enough for her. So last night I went to her place and reminded her that I was the one who always came over to her house. We had a 2 hour talk about a lot of things. Ball is in her court. I felt better, we'll see.
@@tyetr9853 Doing great! Moved on completely. She wasn't my person, and the no contact showed me that. Got easier and easier. I have started dating a great person. My eyes and heart would have never been open to see her, had I not done no contact and moved on. No contact really works!
Big thanks to couch Lee, your videos help me a lot getting through hard times. Long story short of 4 months break up (3 months no contact), now he is living together with a new girl, they planning to get married soon. Besides, he got a higher new job which requires him to relocate to another place. I think I'm dying inside to know all of those things.
🤔So it's been 4 months since our sudden break after wonderful times. 1 month since total no contact. I'm ready for the new story new chapter new happiness between us. As soon as she reaches out..
Your last statement about not going fast once they come back is what we did last time but I allowed it because we were already together since 2020 had a 4month break without no contact. But this time no contact.
I’m pretty sure you’re the only person that I’ve watched thus far is that no contact means something different. The majority of the other people who post videos and articles online specifically state no contact at all that’s not even replying to messages that they send you. So prior to seeing any of your videos I felt like I was feeling at the no contact because I was very very distant but I did continue to reply when he would message me but it would be a very distant not myself type of reply. We had a mutual break up the last week in January and the changes that I made between now and then were enough to get him to go through all of the different stages that you talk about going through. He realize he was about to truly lose me when he found me on bumble again. Since then I feel like we have a renewed relationship that is certainly different from the last but fun again our conversations are back to enjoying each other and lighthearted. Thank you for your videos
2 weeks into no contact rule and I am really close to blocking my ex on all social media. 3 days after break-up, it was my birthday. He didn't even send a stupid Happy Birthday message. One week after the no-contact rule started, he was making inapproprate jokes on our group chat, and now he found out I have covid and I feel horrible, yet he haven't reached out to check how I am. I think there is no hope in my case. :(
Coach Lee can you do a video on when you know the breakup was your fault and how to live with the guilt enough to move on and become a better version of yourself? A lot of us know it was our fault and even though the encouragement helps it feels like sometimes these videos aren't even aimed at us.
I live with this every day knowing that it's all my fault for the breakup, I begged for month for a second chance but didn't work out I guess he's seeing someone now. I just have to forgive myself and move on. will make sure all the mistakes I made will never repeat itself in my next relationship I know better now.
I was passive aggressive (verbally) and get irritated easily when my ex acted the way I don’t want him to act. It was too much for him. I made him feel unloved but my intentions were for our best and help relationship move forward. I never knew I made him that stressful. I regret it. He said he felt forced and get shunned. I begged and pleaded I’ll change ofc. I still love him tho. He prolly thinks I’m talking to other people already cuz he kept thinking about me moving on and talk to other guys. I stopped texting and let him leave me on seen and blocked. I literally let him do what he wants. He deserves to be happy. But he’s welcome to come back if he thinks I’m his person. If not… I’ll accept it. I’m glad enough that I have done some good things to him too.
So I did this in my last break up he reached out after 10 months litterally after moving to a whole other country , obviously I didn't reply because I realized I deserved better
I've noticed a lot of coaches say WHEN they reach out to you, as much as I hope this is the case, I feel in my situation she won't, we broke up 6 months ago but stayed in an unofficial relationship. Stopped talking at Christmas and now she's in a new relationship, I don't think I'll be one of the lucky ones 😔😔
Sorry to Hear that. Im no coach lee but I’ve watched enough videos to believe that staying in an unofficial relationship with your ex was the mistake no contact is what makes your ex miss you they can’t miss you if your still around
Hello I'm so excited my broken relationship has been restored my ex husband is back after left me for another woman I was helped by someone He can also help you too....❤️❤️❤️💯💯💯
It’s could be a sign that they miss you after all they missed you enough to text just keep doing no contact and working on yourself if they come back around and want something serious you’ll be in control
@@Rayray-pe2wy that’s true. Thank you. I declined his offer for friendship and now I’m sort of second guessing myself but I know I would just be miserable.
🙌Thank you, Coach Lee, for not asking me to slay a dragon, 'cause I accidentally like them! 🐉I'd rather continue with this NC which slowly has become the best gift for myself! 💖
In fact he was happy to meet me after along time so he was sharing his happiness with the women, but women were saying to me we are beautiful ,so I left him alone and I gave the time to judge the women herself..
Trust no contact. I broke no contact after about a month and I currently feel like $hit for breaking it. DO NOT BREAK NO CONTACT!!!. In the words of a famous coach😉: “If their name is not in the obituary, they are alright”. -Coach Lee
this is SUCH good advice! I wish I learned this stuff years ago. I ruined any chances with a guy who was really right for me last spring because I kept contacting him to "see if he was ok".. I was legit concerned about him because he was going thru a lot but... I wish I had someone there to give me good advice. I really regret listening to the wrong person to "fight for it" ... If I had given him space I feel like it would have been WAY more respectful to him. anyway.. now I know.. hopefully there's hope for me with someone
If after 3 months your ex hasn't either reached out or tried to get back together then you really need to let go and move on. If your ex left you and got with another person then you REALLY REALLY need to let go. Have some self respect and rebuild your life. If you stay desperate and pathetic then you'll not only never get your ex back but you'll repel anybody new who might come into your life. You really need to just heal and start over with someone new....
I have a situation I need advice on: my ex broke up with me a week ago after a 3 year relationship saying she was confused and didn’t know what to do but I begged for 3 days to stay together which didn’t work so I waited around 4 days an send “Hey, sorry I was acting the way I did a few days ago. That wasn’t me. I honestly feel just as stressed about other things in my life too and it won’t happen again. Wish you well.” She responded “It’s okay, I’ve been bitchy and angry lately too, I think it’s just stress and trying to deal with emotions. “ I then said “I’m open again to try again in the future but my mind has changed a lot sense we talked last and I need to work on myself for me and if I move on I move on” which she than said “That’s exactly where I’m at, focus on myself and ensure that I’m happy, let time heal a little bit and then if we find each other we find each other” Did I blow my chances of getting back together and will no contact work?
Hey man that’s a good sign. I kind of had that exact same talk with my ex gf who broke up with me 10 days ago. We were 6 years in. The “if we are meant to be we will be together again” & “right person, wrong time” deal. I think it’s a good sign & it depends on how much you love her.. i may be giving advice that’s “weak” in others eyes but no one knows your relationship like you honestly. I say we work on ourselves right now, emotionally & physically, stay in no contact & don’t put pressure on them when they eventually reach out. Don’t even talk about a relationship just be cordial & cool. Chances are good! My ex is also stressed with life being in college, depression, etc. I say we keep hope alive & truly truly level ourselves up & become more handsome, more collected & calm, ambitious, & positive. Gotta dive deep into the insecurities & realize what went wrong because it’s hardly ever 1 sided.
@@NRG9111 thanks so much man, I think ima try no contact for 60 days a see if she text me first or not. I just hope it seems like I WONT now take her back after sending that message
@@kadenpackard1345 I’m sure she probably thinks that she can have you back at the snap of her fingers right now unless you ended up bowing out gracefully. Idk man 3 year relationship it might take longer than 60 days no contact she may need more time than that. But if you feel like you should reach out by then than all means my brotha.
I wouldn't mind an update from both of you. My ex broke up with me close to 4 months ago. 4 year relationship. Said she needed time to heal and grow and if it was meant to be it will be. Did your exes came back?
Atleast about 5 months NC. BUT SHE POST SAYING THINGS THAT SHE DID WRONG BUT MAKES IT LOOK LIKE SHE INNOCENT AND IM AT FAULT I THINK SHE WANTS ME TO SAY SOMETHING BUT I WONT SAY ANYTHING TO HER
Thanks coach Lee that works with no contact one more thing is beilive in your self this will work also prayers more powerful also but no contact really help
Hes right, park a truck in lane 2 see if that does anything, sometimes doing 0 is a lot. Had a wife that won't work doing nothing is a lot and try get that outa your head!!! He is right.
I’ve been watching these videos, and I know that I could fix just about everything, but I realize she’s got to figure things out on her own, but her friends are nothing but a bad influence who agree with her on everything and aren’t good role models for healthy relationships
Please a video on how to deal with long distance relationship break up and what to do .. esp during this difficult times of pandemic . So many people are going through this. Thank you 🧡
Valentines day will be 30 days mark of no contact for me. Was going to send her an essential oil diffuser and essential oils to go with that on Valentines day, but affer watching your videos and other coaches I decided to not do that. If someone was gonna do something like that, don't do it on birthdays Christmas Valentines etc, bad look, any other day a week or more outside those days would be better, but as you said better not to do it at all because it's keeping you from getting her back someday and from finding somebody better who doesn't have a drug addiction etc. Many cases guys chase women who could be druggies or on anti depressants that only used them for money as it is, but they just want them anyways when they should want somebody better. Thanks for all your videos. They really help us.
John, you can login to it INSTANTLY after purchasing it. Just go to MyExBackCoach.com and you'll see a link that says "Emergency Breakup Kit." Under that is a link that says "Login To Kit."
I made all these mistakes and now I'm blocked, I was strong at first with no contact and my ex is in the curious/concern stage, and after a month I called her on her birthday and begged and pleaded, we had a daughter and she is in the rebound and talking with different guys, we had a big fight prior to the break and our relationship is overall good, we live together for 2 years and we have 4 years together, even though I'm hurting right now, some part of me wants her because of my daughter but the disrespect and rejection made my heart froze.
My Ex called me at 3am after 2 months of no contact. I didn’t answer. She left no message, and I was BLOCKED. I called her (I know this was bad) and confronted her and said, “you called me at 3am, what was going on?” She said she’s in NY so it was 6am and wondering did I want the cat because she’s too busy to take care of him… then told me her schedule and unblocked me , why didn’t she just text me at 3am about the cat?
EvanWatkins, Evan, 2 things come to mind. Either she was drinking, or she really misses you and used the cat as an excuse. I don't know the entire story, but I do know that Coach Lee has a workshop which is fantastic. I'm sure he would want you to join. It's very informative and prepares you for future relationships, etc.Been there-I know how tough it can be. Just wanted to give you the heads up about Coach Lee’s live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." Seriously, it's a game-changer! This workshop is all about rescuing your relationship and then keeping your relationship strong after the breakup or separation. Oh, and get this: you'll also have a coaching call every month for 6 whole months! So you won’t be going at it alone or anything. To find out more, hit up Coach Lee's team. You can schedule an appointment to discuss all the details at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. If you do, it will blow your mind and give you the support you need! /rant
ive given her the breakup for 4 years.... and nothing all she does is text me to exchange the child support and my rent money cause she lives in my condo, why doesnt she leave..... i dont kick her out cause she has my kids there..
Sorry to hear that man as far as why she doesn’t leave it could simply be that she like living there and knows that she will likely be paying a lot more in rent anyway else unless you’ve been raising the rents on her
been 2 months already and when i see her in school. i just know she’s trying to get my attention but i don’t give it to her. i also blocked her on everything
Just a heads up I heard that blocking them might not always be a good idea because it shows them how much they affect you and how easy they can get in your head when going no contact it’s usually best to demonstrate indifference to the situation it’s an unexpected response in comparison to blocking them Also how are they supposed to reach out to you if they ever do decide they want to come back if they are blocked. Unless you don’t want them back
@@Rayray-pe2wy NOT necessarily! It's actually for 2 other reasons. It gives YOU TIME TO WORK ON YOU. Take a break from them. #2 It shows them THAT YOU DO NOT WANT TO BE BOTHERED, at least for a while, and it does make them miss you. Your point is good, VERY GOOD, but "weigh" all sides of it. You can unblock them on TIME..YOUR TIME...
I worked with my ex after break up I was 9 months with her at the same workplace,I tryed to move on but unfortunately I could not,finally I resign my job just to move on
@RealCoachLee Hi coach Lee, one thing I think your videos could emphasize more is the importance of being detached. I think a failure to be detached can lead to buyers' remorse being more likely when your ex is ready to interact. I learned this the hard way this February just days after agreeing to meet me. She dumped me in October of 2022.
Coach lee. This time it's me who did the break up. I AM the dumper this time. As he disrespected me for no being on time, I was really hurt. He is usually a very mature person and we got along very well until that time. I was so hurt that I decide to call it quits, he first refused and was shocked and then ended up accepting the break up like You said I felt a relief..for 3 weeks it's been almost two months....I contacted him once and he said " he was really hurt because I broke up with him ...and that he is still is...and that we didnt make it and it's done with him now"hen we we're gonna go out on vacation.....after that I never reached out again...now what??? It was an 8 month relationship.... How to get him back as a dumper
Paola Nam, since you dumped him, you must initiate contact. Let me recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit which will help you. myexbackcoach.com/ebk
“I have moved on and I think you should too. I wish you the absolute best in life! YOU and your kids.” She said that an hour ago. All of these videos seem to play on the assumption of the mental weakness of the dumper. My ex isn’t a second guesser. She makes a decision and does not deviate. There is no hope of reconciling and overall, we had a great relationship, too. It’s over and after almost a month of no contact I continue to lose sleep and feel absolutely hopeless, exhausted, pain and tired of the constant beat down I face in my life. I keep hearing I’m a catch and I have a great career, personality, good looking, yet I end up with the same result: dumped.
Sir u r the best please make long distance part 2 , few More videos on long distance relationship ex back topic if possible , I wait from many week for that video do many comments , waiting for long distance part 2 , ur r best coach in ex back I fully trust u 100 percent
Day 41 of no contact :/ It’s was soo good for the both of us but I don’t think she will come back . She won’t have the courage to reach out .. Im not chasing cause she up and left me through a text .
Love these tools and tips but I’m only one week into true No Contact and it’s just brutal. I would rather crawl through glass or walk 10 miles in the desert heat. I’m so p*ssy-whipped or codependent. Trying to be strong and active. I wasn’t totally sure I wanted to stay in the relationship with her just 60 days ago and then she preempted me. Just gotta stay busy, improve myself, grow personally, workout, see friends/old friends and work hard. Gotta let her feel the pain and loss of me being gone from her life, cause I know she really loves me a lot. Pretty sure of it. And if she doesn’t, No Contact helps me all the same to transition away from the trauma p*ssy bond. Be strong and believe in yourself.
Scott, BLOCK HER and move on. If she's with your friend now, let her go. I wouldn't take her back either bcse she can leave you again. Goid luck to you..⚘️
I have a story about friends/family trying to help! I am friendly with my girlfriends/ex girlfriends kids and her son texted my ex girlfriend and told her that I’m crying because she hasn’t texted me back yet and she should reach out to me
themanman165 ,OUCH! Kids will be kids. What can you do?? Sorry that happened. If you're in NO Contact, STAY the course, but if you're broken up for good, that's another situation. Coach Lee has a live workshop that he would want you to join. It's awesome and it will help you with future and past experiences. know it's really difficult and I've certainly been there. I don't know if you are aware, but Coach Lee has a live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." It's an incredible learning experience that I just can't say enough about. It focuses on saving a relationship from a breakup/separation and then keeping it after. It includes a coaching call each month for 6 months. You can talk to Coach Lee's team about it. I think the person for this is named Johnny and you can make an appointment with him to talk about it at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. I think you'll agree that it's an incredibly eye-opening and immensely helpful experience for you.
My ex cheated on me 2 years ago. We were married for 21 years. He said I didn't make him feel like a man. That he hates my face, my voice, my attitude that I am toxic. But still after 2 years he is living with me in the sane house and having his affair twice a week. The date line for him to leave is March 1st. And still he is asking for more time. WHO UNDERSTANDS THEM????????
We were together for 6 years. But 2 months back My girlfriend broke up with me (though we were nice and close to each other)and have a new girl friend now. I am shattered and in deep pain with this breakup. She said that I will always remain as her family, but she was mentally detached from me from almost one year. I had no clue about anything so this all came as a big shock to me. I couldn't believe all this. And the most painful thing is that she doesn't feel any guilty, or anything wrong in it. She says she has every right to move on. Will no contact work here?
I am the one who messed up by lying and being disloyal and being a narcissistic and emotionally cheating on her, but the whole time we was broken up we was together and I was not letting up I was all in my emotions all in my feelings what I want never seeing her or what she wanted or even respecting what she wanted I was very selfish. I have pushed her away so bad to the point she hates me and I have caused difficulties in her life with my begging and pleading and stressing and emotional. So now I am finally away and we are finally having real space and it is killing me but I am working on myself and healing and praying I do not think she will ever come back or contact me it had been day three. Idk I don’t know what to do I messed up so bad with the women I actually love and want to marry and now her being around me irritate her I think she went back to her ex.
Can you do a video on rebounds. My ex and I broke up nearly 3 months ago. We were together for over 3.5 years, the break up was amicable. When we were breaking up I didn’t take it so seriously because he said that we’re using it to see if we’ll miss each other and that might finally push us to make effort and make it work and if not, he’d like to stay friends. He also said we should not talk for a while unless I need something. So the first month I only reached out when I needed something but he would ask me how I’m doing etc. then after a month I found out that he’s removed me from all social media but Text. Shortly after, We arranged to meet up and he said that he removed me because I didn’t reach out to him to try and reconcile and he also thought I didn’t want to be friends. He also said that he felt like he was being weird going on my socials because during that time he noticed that I deleted all our pictures and asked me why, also saw my story and was wondering who I was with. He said he assumed I had someone new. I told him that I don’t and he said he doesn’t either. We agreed to talk more often and be friends however to this day I remain removed. We’ve talked and met up several times, he was overly nice and sweet to me, giving small gift and then a Christmas present. He then said that he doesn’t see us working romantically at least not right now. 2 months after the break up, we had another talk because I made the mistake of telling him that I miss him. He told me that I misunderstood him and that he was clear from the start that it’s too late to fix anything and he doesn’t see us working right now. I told him I disagreed but we agreed not to make things awkward and still be friends. I haven’t heard from him since, it’s been a month. Today I found out that 2 weeks after we broke up he got a new girlfriend, it looks serious. I now know that that’s the reason why he blocked me on social media and he’s been lying to me all after the break up, when he would say that he was with family or friends he was actually with her. I have suspicion that he’s been talking to this girl while we were still together, considering they were together 2 weeks after the break up. I don’t understand why he would hide her from me, I’ve never acted ‘crazy’ during or after our relationship and I don’t understand why he would meet up and talk to me. They celebrated Christmas and NYE together but he was texting me throughout both of those days
One of my favorite lessons from you is this:
If they feel like they could get you back still, they will not reach out. Only once they think they don't have you anymore will they begin searching for you.
Yeah people always seem to want to come back into your life once you're doing good without them. We shouldn't rely on others for our own happiness. I was a very happy person when me and my ex first started dating and I think I became too attached to her and made a lot of mistakes that are clear to me now. We gotta stay strong.
Yeah it's a game. They want their ego boosted
Haven’t experienced that with my last ex. He only reached out to be polite (but not because he missed me or so)…
@@jessteubner9928 that's a very good point. How do you know when they reach out just out of politeness or because they miss you?
I am 58 and not one of my (10 or so) exes has ever reached out except to send one of those 12 Step "amends" letters. That was 1993. Nothing from anyone ever since. Sad but true. Not a word.
4 weeks into NC, A friend of hers decided to break the news that my ex was dating someone. That's her prerogative. Meanwhile, I'm recording music, working extra hours, meeting new people, and finding my smile. Sure it's hard, but it gets easier every day. Coach Lee, these videos have helped me, everyday, to stay strong. Bless you
Aj, trust me, it gets easier. I stayed in NC for 6 months. Then reached out to try to fix things, she blocked me. However, for some reason, that helped, now I'm way better, stronger and honestly dont want her back anymore. Stay in NC. One day you'll wake up and it wont matter anymore.
Im sorry abt that. I know how u feel. I feel hurt along with u mate. We will get through this together!
My heart goes out to bro. I think my ex is seeing someone else too. I’m going to ride the wave tho. I think I’m a good catch despite my flaws. Be strong man.
@@theglobalistchannel1471 i did the same, stayed in NC 3 months, she was with someone else. I broke NC with a message where i told her everything i thought and didn't even get a response. Strangely i was still happy to have sent this message and her no response helped me to move on..
@@theglobalistchannel1471 .. 5 weeks later she reached me out After being dumped by her New boyfriend...
Six weeks with no contact. She called me the 7th week. No contact does work!
My ex reached out on the 28th day. I wasn’t even expecting it but no contact does work! He sent the biggest message about what he’s been up to and asking me if I’m okay. He even thanked me for giving him space to help him reflect and process things.. but guess what? He never even asked for space in the first place! He is now hoping for a chat soon. If anyone is reading this, it might be just a case of them needing a break or taking time to appreciate what they had before. Don’t lose hope :)
I hope this will happen to me soon
As badly as it hurts disappearing is probably one of the most effective but most painful strategies in life
“If you want them to miss you, you have to go missing”. Best sentence 👍🏻 Hope it will turn out true in my situation but will likely take a while until he might not be in the relief stage anymore (in case that will actually happen)
But what if the distance actually makes the feelings and memories fade even more? What if we're both doing NC? who's gonna do what?
@@MrRightisgoodthats difficult bro, but it should be the onw who broke up first
@@kagamitaiga9167 in my case , she didnt say let's breakup , but she said shes not sure about me , and she ask for time , she hasn't reach out except wishing me merry Christmas and new year...should I text her
i did no contact but attracted the wrong ex 😂😂 i think their was a glitch in the universe
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Lol
Hahaha
Lol😂
This is the funniest post I’ve ever seen on a no contact video 😂The hamster story on one of Coach Kenneth Craig’s videos comes next lol
3 months no contact.. I refuse to reach out thanks to Coach Lee. When times get really hard I listen to these videos! Thank You so much Coach Lee!!! You are a lifesaver
im also 3 months! we can do this!
I'm not in contact with her for about 6months
Im 9months in. I feel so depressed and lost :(
Also 3months now. Don’t give up :) we can do this !!
@@SayOlee how are you? it's been 9 months NC and you still hurting abt the breakup?
Day 5 of no contact here. The sorrow and anxiety is so bad I couldn’t sleep or eat properly. Up for 56hours crying. Didn’t eat for the first 4 days. Dropped 12lbs, trying to focus on improving myself. She hasn’t reached out at all yet. 8 years of constant texts showing our love, then bam she’s leaving. Big event in her life causing her to cutoff all relations with her parents who had a good relationship all their lives. This sparked the “I need space” move out. I’ve been watching all your videos. Thanks so much. I feel like a stronger person for using no contact but it sure is difficult. The sorrow is really bad.
How's it going? Did she ever reach out to you?
No
@Vincent Vv had to go on antidepressants. Made me feel a lot better but I never thought I’d need pills. Months later now and I’m starting to forget her. Still miss her and still sad but life goes on.
@@Satisfyingtoday I totally understand how you feel. Do you go gym? It really helped me to go gym and sometimes twice a day and I feel so much happier and relieved because I spend time doing things rather than thinking. I’m not allowing myself to think too much, better be active, listen to good music and see people (for instance in the gym or long walk).
one day the pain will ease and the tears will stop. every day it will get better. but the pain in the heart is real. Josh Stone sang a song bruise but not broken. all the best
Day 24 in no contact and radio silence. Thank you coach for keeping me accountable with these videos.
@mr fantastic i don't even count the number of days hahah. sometimes i missed her and the memories together but i deserve someone that's willing to work thru things with me. my breakup in middle september last year btw, on january i already feel better 💯
She already misses me by just watching this video.
Honestly it is a marathon and not a sprint unfortunately. I have been in NC for a year now and never hear from her again but I know she is in a new relationship which was hard at first but I managed to get over it. I have been working on myself and I must say I feel better about myself now and currently I have someone else who appreciates me more. Make yourself feel good about you and do not seek that validation from anyone else is what I learned from all these vids from coach Lee. Some day it will hit them when they least expect it when things go wrong and it goes not how they expected it to go.
I'm glad your doing fine. I was engaged for 5 yrs and I left him bcse he had no intentions of getting married. Never heard from him again. All I know is he got married 2 weeks after we broke up !He married a rebound.
@@jannlewandowski5540 oh my gosh! I’m so sorry, the nerve of some people 😠
Got my ex back using no contact, we stayed together for 2 weeks and she asked to break up again, this time by text. I said 'ok' as a response. Was just shocked. It was the night before valentines day. She then deleted and removed me on everything. Not sure why, haven't reached out , didn't chase etc. Trying to be classy and not clingy. Moving on but I watch these for strength.
1. No contact rule
2. Give your ex the breakup
3. Dont be dramatic or make things hard on them
4. Dont act fake like you moved on already and post like everything is alright already. No mutual friend help!
5. When they reach out to you, important to not give them you back all at once. Be reserved. Make them earn you back
When he reached out he breadcrumbed me on and off. Last month he did it out of the blue of his own accord. I mean, I only told him that if he wanted to meet up once he moved to his new flat he could let me know. He told me he will. Two weeks since we last messaged and no sign yet... I'm staying quiet tho. It's killing me but NC worked the first time. I hope I haven't messed anything up. Can NC work again? He'd moving to a flat much closer to the town I live... he's an avoidant, by the way...🙄
@@MrRightisgood i summarized the video but..
Yea u did everything right. U told him to let u know when he wants to meet and stick by that. Dont reach out. Let him hit the ball back over to ur court. If he wants to see u, he will make it happen. U thinking hes an avoidant tells me u like him more than he likes u so he has all the power. Give him space to let him miss u. Even if that means ull never hear from him again
How can they know we've moved on if they are not on social media and I'm not either? No friends in common etc... so how will they know it is "safe" for them to pursue us again?especially in the case of avoidant exes?
@@MrRightisgood no contact really. It may take a week, it may take months, even years. The point is to never contact him again and move on with ur life. I know that's probably not what u want to hear but thats the only way he can feel ur energetically not present. When he realizes he hasnt heard from u, or no text from u, nothing, thats when he knows u moved on. He may want to reach out or he may not. This may take however long it may take, this may never happen at all. U have to move on for YOU. And given time, u will start to move on. It will start to hurt less and less. Heal urself during this time. This does not mean go sleep with other ppl or go on dates to get over him. It means to sit with ur emotions and process through with them. Learn urself again, do the things u were doing before u met him. U had a life before him so get back to that. Read the book Letting Go. Its a yellow and white cover book i forgot the authors name. Once u healed and he happens to come back, u might not even want him anymore
@@nova12332 I have so many doubts especially as time goes by. Am I becoming more and more a distant memory? Am I becoming easily replaceable? What if he thinks I don't want him anymore and therefore he won't even bother for fear of rejection or because he sees no point since he assumes I don't care about him anymore(since I'm doing no contact)?
All these questions and more keep plaguing my mind everyday. We were only together for two months but our connection was so incredibly deep that that's why he pulled away as he's an avoidant. He said that things were moving too fast, according to him, that's what he told me in a text a month and a half later after he started reaching out following a month of NC from me. He put feelings before physical intimacy, which I was fine with because I had never experienced that before as men always saw me for what I look on the outside first and mainly, whereas he did the opposite. He was attracted to me physically but mainly on an emotional level and he told me he had started falling for me very fast which shocked him. He wanted to take things slowly, which we did but a week after we got intimate he started to pull away, to the point that he wouldn't text me unless I did (he used to text me and call me everyday regularly before). So I had to walk away. Essentially nobody left nobody as no break up conversation ever took place. We just parted ways without anybody saying anything to each other. In my last voice message I told him the reason why I had to walk away...
It's a very unusual way of breaking up with someone, I know. Am I the dumper? Or is he?therefore, who's meant to do NC or reach out?
Be missed by missing.
This works. Got her back by not talking to her. She decided to do her own thinking and came back. I didn't stop there. I no longer am the one reaching out. I took control back and am the one making her come to me in this relationship. And for anyone hurt. It does I promise you get better. It took me months but I'm a much better person because of the loneliness and depression I experienced. Work on yourself and you'd be amazed of the things that will happen with or without this person in your life. Thanks coach!
Adam this is amazing. Did you guys remain together evenutally? Were you able to get over the past?
Day 38 of no contact....am getting a whole lot stronger each day.....i don't think of him that often anymore, n I am starting to feel like I don't need him anymore
I'm on my 39th day of NC with the girl who I courted for 1 year and it's sad because Im only asking for clarity but she said, she wasn't ready for a relationship after that I went no contact.
Day 38 here, too (of total silence; I actually started NC a few weeks before that, December 1st - but he still initiated contact, so I consider pure radio silence NC from NYE when he initiated the last text conversation!) Anyway, yes, it gets better and better! Keep strong! ;)
@@livbeyond babes I actually miscounted am on day 44 of NC....each I can't believe I have come this far😅😅😅
@@elimars7941 how are you feeling now compared to when you had broken up??
Im on day 21 and its really hard sometimes, some times i miss her terribly
12 years together I thought he was the best person for me now we are separated because of trust issues I’m fighting to do NC it’s so hard I cry sometimes when I remember the memories we shared I miss him so much , it’s not easy but I’m pushing . I’m writing and listening with tears in my eyes . Thank you very much coach Lee
One day it will get better
Update us
What's the update?? Did you guys get back together?
Yay a new vid. Was in the middle of rewatching an old vid when this popped up. Please post more frequently 😀
There's not much more for him to say haha
Corey Bart - True, but I’m sure he could come up with something 😆
Coach you're literally giving me strength and make me think rational :") 😭
I am so scared now. It's day 9 of NC and I am reading the comments here and I can't find a single success story of this method. I miss her like crazy. We had our anniversary yesterday, and instead of her reaching out, I have seen a post of her being on vacation with some friends and having a great time. It's really unfair when people you gave everything to don't care about you from one day to another. I love her but I am not sure I want her back again. I really lost faith in our relationship, in her, in myself, and in God too. I really hope coach Lee is right about this and I will get her back before it's too late. Waiting for 1-2 months can be a large window for her to move on and for myself trying to improve and cross days on the calendar thinking how much I miss her and how it hurts not seeing her smile anymore.
For crying out loud, block her off all social media.
Mi TX. I recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for you. I'm sure you will find it very helpful.
myexbackcoach.com/ebk
“If you’re willing to slay a dragon and walk on broken glass” - Those are not equivalent comparisons to doing “no contact”. Physical pain is a lot easier than emotional pain
Totally! Ive broken 3 bones, split my head open and all sorts of accidents, way easier than heartbreak
Coach Lee may be the most relaxed dude on planet earth
Coach Lee's; a real nice source of logic/sense. My wife had a bit of drama at the start of last year and went her own way... I watched CL's videos, along with working on myself (mind and body) and a few months later my wife was heading home. I followed Lee's perspective on life, became totally chilled, calm, and became the bigger person. It really worked.
i was so so close to reaching out today, ive completed 3 months at this point and I was staring at his number all day just typing. thank god I didnt send anything! this video really made me feel better about not saying anything. I dont think ill ever reach out. I want him to decide he wants me back and for him to put in the effort. I need to stop chasing a lost cause.
Stay strong in NC! You got this!
Focus on yourself and your health goals, you're right it's funny how it works 😊
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All of us are different. 1 year ago I was cheated on and for some reason I wanted her back. Followed all of coach Lee’s advice, and eventually after a long 6-7 month wait of complete no contact with her…. BOOM still no text or call from her.. In the meantime I’ve been working out, I got a puppy, focusing on reading, podcasts, playing guitar, spending time with my family and furthering my career. I am so grateful to come where I have so far, true happiness comes from within, be somebody that is simple and easy to love as possible as you can. I ended up meeting somebody that is so good for me, doesn’t let me stray from my hobbies or going to the gym, and I return the same to her. Focus on yourself and good things will happen. Do not give up on yourself.
I really don’t care about my ex miss me or not. I’m moving on. He hurt me he kick me out. No point waiting for him, just stop thinking about them.
Great video Lee! My ex and I broke up years ago, but he was my first true love. He's married now (I think), but I was also his first love. We had no contact after the breakup at all, since he married a rebound in 2 weeks after being with me for 5 years. I believe he is a narcissist, but I understand the NO CONTACT since I started watching your videos years ago. God knows what will happen in the future, but I always believed in NO CONTACT thanks to you. You're GREAT!
He has the rebound meanwhile he was with you. That is.
Hey Jann, I have a very similar situation with you!!! So I feel you a lot!!!
My ex and I are each other's first love. We broke up 6 years ago. He is married to another girl now. Yet, I am still doing no contact and watching these video hoping he would come back to me one day. Yes, only God knows His plans for us. Let's hang in there. :)
If he's a true narcissist you truly dodged a bullet. Hope you're doing well.
@@yolenda_loves_to_sing it's painful at first.
@@GoLiveJeez Ange, he met her in a bar 2 weeks after we broke up. They were married the 2nd week. We were engaged for 5 years, but he started abusing me. Future faking, gaslighting, everything, so I left him. I couldn't take it anymore.
Me and my girlfriend recently went on a break, which wasn’t really a break because I messaged her half way through a long “I’m sorry” message. This break was only 2 weeks and it was only 2 week because at the start I said I was off work 2 weeks from now and we arrange that’ll be the day to meet up. Things went well for the first few days and she actually decided she did want to work on things but it was short lived and it turns out she was still confused and just wanted to be on her own, she clearly didn’t get the true space she needed, so she thought the best thing to do was to break up and protect my feelings. It was sad as we both cried and told each other we loved each other and said thanks for the memories and I agreed to the break up but told her how I still can’t fully close the door on us and feel we could just need more time apart and although she partly agreed, she said we can’t just rely on hope but thought we could be friends, but I was strong and said I feel I need time first and so I’m going to work on myself and give her the “no contact” for at least a couple months. I really hope she reaches out
Day 7, this is beyond difficult. I'm trusting the process. We've had issues in the past, but I've never gone missing. My adhd got the best of me before. I know her well enough to know, she's wondering why i have not reached out. I honestly am crushed, but I don't know that i can ever take her back. Not without some major changes. I have my first coach call on Thursday, looking forward to it! Good luck to all of us!
I feel ya. Few weeks for me. I listen to coach Lee daily and it empowers me to know that I am sticking to something so incredibly difficult. My ex texted last night on Valentine’s Day about erroneous things and did not wish me happy Valentine’s Day- so that was weird… I guess he’s thinking about why I didn’t wish him one as he knows I’m sentimental like that. It’s crushing. Slowly tho- I know in time I will become stronger and drift away- because that’s what happens when someone breaks yr heart- you slowly learn to love yourself again. Your smiles feel more genuine, you realize you have not thought of them the last few hours and you start seeing and hearing beautiful things again about life in general. We grow through pain if we face it head on and do things that empower us like NC. 😊hang in there.. the last few weeks have been hell for me too and I’ve been a hair away from jumping off a bridge if I had not listened to these videos. Coach Lee has been a godsend
@Source Hauntings Glad you didn't take the jump! I was accused of not being available enough for her. So last night I went to her place and reminded her that I was the one who always came over to her house. We had a 2 hour talk about a lot of things. Ball is in her court. I felt better, we'll see.
@@tyetr9853 Doing great! Moved on completely. She wasn't my person, and the no contact showed me that. Got easier and easier. I have started dating a great person. My eyes and heart would have never been open to see her, had I not done no contact and moved on. No contact really works!
“They were never yours. It is just your turn.”
Exactly how I feel.
That last piece of advice is phenomenal
Big thanks to couch Lee, your videos help me a lot getting through hard times. Long story short of 4 months break up (3 months no contact), now he is living together with a new girl, they planning to get married soon. Besides, he got a higher new job which requires him to relocate to another place. I think I'm dying inside to know all of those things.
What causes the break up
This video is so good. No contact🙏...go missing to be missed. 🙏
🤔So it's been 4 months since our sudden break after wonderful times. 1 month since total no contact. I'm ready for the new story new chapter new happiness between us. As soon as she reaches out..
Your last statement about not going fast once they come back is what we did last time but I allowed it because we were already together since 2020 had a 4month break without no contact. But this time no contact.
i begged at first. came to an understanding.
I’m pretty sure you’re the only person that I’ve watched thus far is that no contact means something different. The majority of the other people who post videos and articles online specifically state no contact at all that’s not even replying to messages that they send you. So prior to seeing any of your videos I felt like I was feeling at the no contact because I was very very distant but I did continue to reply when he would message me but it would be a very distant not myself type of reply. We had a mutual break up the last week in January and the changes that I made between now and then were enough to get him to go through all of the different stages that you talk about going through. He realize he was about to truly lose me when he found me on bumble again. Since then I feel like we have a renewed relationship that is certainly different from the last but fun again our conversations are back to enjoying each other and lighthearted. Thank you for your videos
2 weeks into no contact rule and I am really close to blocking my ex on all social media. 3 days after break-up, it was my birthday. He didn't even send a stupid Happy Birthday message. One week after the no-contact rule started, he was making inapproprate jokes on our group chat, and now he found out I have covid and I feel horrible, yet he haven't reached out to check how I am. I think there is no hope in my case. :(
I don't need my ex back ....
But I'm still watching 👀 😌 😅
Coach Lee can you do a video on when you know the breakup was your fault and how to live with the guilt enough to move on and become a better version of yourself? A lot of us know it was our fault and even though the encouragement helps it feels like sometimes these videos aren't even aimed at us.
Just forgive yourself and move on. They must have made mistakes to. Just leave it and close the cycle.
@@tbjoshua3427 😂😂😂😂😂😂
@Abdulhamid Umar 😂😂😂😂😂
I live with this every day knowing that it's all my fault for the breakup, I begged for month for a second chance but didn't work out I guess he's seeing someone now. I just have to forgive myself and move on. will make sure all the mistakes I made will never repeat itself in my next relationship I know better now.
I was passive aggressive (verbally) and get irritated easily when my ex acted the way I don’t want him to act. It was too much for him. I made him feel unloved but my intentions were for our best and help relationship move forward. I never knew I made him that stressful. I regret it. He said he felt forced and get shunned. I begged and pleaded I’ll change ofc. I still love him tho. He prolly thinks I’m talking to other people already cuz he kept thinking about me moving on and talk to other guys. I stopped texting and let him leave me on seen and blocked. I literally let him do what he wants. He deserves to be happy. But he’s welcome to come back if he thinks I’m his person. If not… I’ll accept it. I’m glad enough that I have done some good things to him too.
The best coach ever. You hold my hand when needeed the most, thank you Coach Lee ❤
So I did this in my last break up he reached out after 10 months litterally after moving to a whole other country , obviously I didn't reply because I realized I deserved better
I've noticed a lot of coaches say WHEN they reach out to you, as much as I hope this is the case, I feel in my situation she won't, we broke up 6 months ago but stayed in an unofficial relationship. Stopped talking at Christmas and now she's in a new relationship, I don't think I'll be one of the lucky ones 😔😔
Sorry to Hear that. Im no coach lee but I’ve watched enough videos to believe that staying in an unofficial relationship with your ex was the mistake no contact is what makes your ex miss you they can’t miss you if your still around
Coach lee Thankyou so much, 4 weeks of no contact and she just messaged me, love you
He finally reached out after a month. Only to request for friendship again. 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
Hello I'm so excited my broken relationship has been restored my ex husband is back after left me for another woman I was helped by someone He can also help you too....❤️❤️❤️💯💯💯
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It’s could be a sign that they miss you after all they missed you enough to text just keep doing no contact and working on yourself if they come back around and want something serious you’ll be in control
@@Rayray-pe2wy that’s true. Thank you. I declined his offer for friendship and now I’m sort of second guessing myself but I know I would just be miserable.
The man is back
🙌Thank you, Coach Lee, for not asking me to slay a dragon, 'cause I accidentally like them! 🐉I'd rather continue with this NC which slowly has become the best gift for myself! 💖
In fact he was happy to meet me after along time so he was sharing his happiness with the women, but women were saying to me we are beautiful ,so I left him alone and I gave the time to judge the women herself..
Trust no contact. I broke no contact after about a month and I currently feel like $hit for breaking it. DO NOT BREAK NO CONTACT!!!. In the words of a famous coach😉: “If their name is not in the obituary, they are alright”. -Coach Lee
this is SUCH good advice! I wish I learned this stuff years ago. I ruined any chances with a guy who was really right for me last spring because I kept contacting him to "see if he was ok".. I was legit concerned about him because he was going thru a lot but... I wish I had someone there to give me good advice. I really regret listening to the wrong person to "fight for it" ... If I had given him space I feel like it would have been WAY more respectful to him. anyway.. now I know.. hopefully there's hope for me with someone
I really love your advices and the power you are using to relay your message!!! ❤️
If after 3 months your ex hasn't either reached out or tried to get back together then you really need to let go and move on. If your ex left you and got with another person then you REALLY REALLY need to let go. Have some self respect and rebuild your life. If you stay desperate and pathetic then you'll not only never get your ex back but you'll repel anybody new who might come into your life. You really need to just heal and start over with someone new....
I have a situation I need advice on: my ex broke up with me a week ago after a 3 year relationship saying she was confused and didn’t know what to do but I begged for 3 days to stay together which didn’t work so I waited around 4 days an send “Hey, sorry I was acting the way I did a few days ago. That wasn’t me. I honestly feel just as stressed about other things in my life too and it won’t happen again. Wish you well.” She responded “It’s okay, I’ve been bitchy and angry lately too, I think it’s just stress and trying to deal with emotions. “ I then said “I’m open again to try again in the future but my mind has changed a lot sense we talked last and I need to work on myself for me and if I move on I move on” which she than said “That’s exactly where I’m at, focus on myself and ensure that I’m happy, let time heal a little bit and then if we find each other we find each other” Did I blow my chances of getting back together and will no contact work?
Please help me out
Hey man that’s a good sign. I kind of had that exact same talk with my ex gf who broke up with me 10 days ago. We were 6 years in. The “if we are meant to be we will be together again” & “right person, wrong time” deal. I think it’s a good sign & it depends on how much you love her.. i may be giving advice that’s “weak” in others eyes but no one knows your relationship like you honestly. I say we work on ourselves right now, emotionally & physically, stay in no contact & don’t put pressure on them when they eventually reach out. Don’t even talk about a relationship just be cordial & cool. Chances are good! My ex is also stressed with life being in college, depression, etc. I say we keep hope alive & truly truly level ourselves up & become more handsome, more collected & calm, ambitious, & positive. Gotta dive deep into the insecurities & realize what went wrong because it’s hardly ever 1 sided.
@@NRG9111 thanks so much man, I think ima try no contact for 60 days a see if she text me first or not. I just hope it seems like I WONT now take her back after sending that message
@@kadenpackard1345 I’m sure she probably thinks that she can have you back at the snap of her fingers right now unless you ended up bowing out gracefully. Idk man 3 year relationship it might take longer than 60 days no contact she may need more time than that. But if you feel like you should reach out by then than all means my brotha.
I wouldn't mind an update from both of you. My ex broke up with me close to 4 months ago. 4 year relationship. Said she needed time to heal and grow and if it was meant to be it will be. Did your exes came back?
Atleast about 5 months NC. BUT SHE POST SAYING THINGS THAT SHE DID WRONG BUT MAKES IT LOOK LIKE SHE INNOCENT AND IM AT FAULT I THINK SHE WANTS ME TO SAY SOMETHING BUT I WONT SAY ANYTHING TO HER
Don, good for you! Do NOT respond! Stay strong! 💪
I don't want the ex back... Just want to watch this for the future 😅... Your wisdom is rare
She cheated on her new bf with me during no contact then blocked me. After watching this videos im feeling better
Thanks coach Lee that works with no contact one more thing is beilive in your self this will work also prayers more powerful also but no contact really help
Please post more frequently I really like your videos thanks for all the support you’ve provided me in this difficult time
Hes right, park a truck in lane 2 see if that does anything, sometimes doing 0 is a lot. Had a wife that won't work doing nothing is a lot and try get that outa your head!!! He is right.
I’ve been watching these videos, and I know that I could fix just about everything, but I realize she’s got to figure things out on her own, but her friends are nothing but a bad influence who agree with her on everything and aren’t good role models for healthy relationships
Can you do a video on the stages that lead to a breakup and how these could be prevented
Oh that would be really good to learn
9 months since we broke up. And i move on completely. Although we casually talk.. I finally realize if its not meant to be. Its not meant to be.
Please a video on how to deal with long distance relationship break up and what to do .. esp during this difficult times of pandemic . So many people are going through this. Thank you 🧡
It’s just a sad situation going through a breakup
Valentines day will be 30 days mark of no contact for me. Was going to send her an essential oil diffuser and essential oils to go with that on Valentines day, but affer watching your videos and other coaches I decided to not do that. If someone was gonna do something like that, don't do it on birthdays Christmas Valentines etc, bad look, any other day a week or more outside those days would be better, but as you said better not to do it at all because it's keeping you from getting her back someday and from finding somebody better who doesn't have a drug addiction etc. Many cases guys chase women who could be druggies or on anti depressants that only used them for money as it is, but they just want them anyways when they should want somebody better. Thanks for all your videos. They really help us.
i purchased the break up kit easily a month ago and still haven't gotten it, so frustrated but i appreciate these videos sir
John, you can login to it INSTANTLY after purchasing it. Just go to MyExBackCoach.com and you'll see a link that says "Emergency Breakup Kit." Under that is a link that says "Login To Kit."
@@RealCoachLee oh my goodness i was waiting for an actually delivery this entire time! ugh thank you sir for replying i appreciate you and your videos
I made all these mistakes and now I'm blocked, I was strong at first with no contact and my ex is in the curious/concern stage, and after a month I called her on her birthday and begged and pleaded, we had a daughter and she is in the rebound and talking with different guys, we had a big fight prior to the break and our relationship is overall good, we live together for 2 years and we have 4 years together, even though I'm hurting right now, some part of me wants her because of my daughter but the disrespect and rejection made my heart froze.
My Ex called me at 3am after 2 months of no contact. I didn’t answer. She left no message, and I was BLOCKED. I called her (I know this was bad) and confronted her and said, “you called me at 3am, what was going on?” She said she’s in NY so it was 6am and wondering did I want the cat because she’s too busy to take care of him… then told me her schedule and unblocked me , why didn’t she just text me at 3am about the cat?
EvanWatkins, Evan, 2 things come to mind. Either she was drinking, or she really misses you and used the cat as an excuse. I don't know the entire story, but I do know that Coach Lee has a workshop which is fantastic. I'm sure he would want you to join.
It's very informative and prepares you for future relationships, etc.Been there-I know how tough it can be. Just wanted to give you the heads up about Coach Lee’s live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." Seriously, it's a game-changer! This workshop is all about rescuing your relationship and then keeping your relationship strong after the breakup or separation. Oh, and get this: you'll also have a coaching call every month for 6 whole months! So you won’t be going at it alone or anything. To find out more, hit up Coach Lee's team. You can schedule an appointment to discuss all the details at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. If you do, it will blow your mind and give you the support you need! /rant
ive given her the breakup for 4 years.... and nothing all she does is text me to exchange the child support and my rent money cause she lives in my condo, why doesnt she leave..... i dont kick her out cause she has my kids there..
Sorry to hear that man
as far as why she doesn’t leave it could simply be that she like living there and knows that she will likely be paying a lot more in rent anyway else unless you’ve been raising the rents on her
been 2 months already and when i see her in school. i just know she’s trying to get my attention but i don’t give it to her. i also blocked her on everything
Just a heads up I heard that blocking them might not always be a good idea because it shows them how much they affect you and how easy they can get in your head when going no contact it’s usually best to demonstrate indifference to the situation it’s an unexpected response in comparison to blocking them
Also how are they supposed to reach out to you if they ever do decide they want to come back if they are blocked. Unless you don’t want them back
@@Rayray-pe2wy NOT necessarily! It's actually for 2 other reasons. It gives YOU TIME TO WORK ON YOU. Take a break from them. #2 It shows them THAT YOU DO NOT WANT TO BE BOTHERED, at least for a while, and it does make them miss you. Your point is good, VERY GOOD, but "weigh" all sides of it. You can unblock them on TIME..YOUR TIME...
I worked with my ex after break up I was 9 months with her at the same workplace,I tryed to move on but unfortunately I could not,finally I resign my job just to move on
Yes it is true u have to go missing
7 years and a child...
She's not coming back...
7.5 years 2 kids I know u feel.
@RealCoachLee Hi coach Lee, one thing I think your videos could emphasize more is the importance of being detached. I think a failure to be detached can lead to buyers' remorse being more likely when your ex is ready to interact. I learned this the hard way this February just days after agreeing to meet me. She dumped me in October of 2022.
Maurice, I recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for you. It's excellent! It will help you immensely.
myexbackcoach.com/ebk
Coach lee. This time it's me who did the break up. I AM the dumper this time. As he disrespected me for no being on time, I was really hurt. He is usually a very mature person and we got along very well until that time. I was so hurt that I decide to call it quits, he first refused and was shocked and then ended up accepting the break up like You said I felt a relief..for 3 weeks it's been almost two months....I contacted him once and he said " he was really hurt because I broke up with him ...and that he is still is...and that we didnt make it and it's done with him now"hen we we're gonna go out on vacation.....after that I never reached out again...now what??? It was an 8 month relationship....
How to get him back as a dumper
Paola Nam, since you dumped him, you must initiate contact. Let me recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit which will help you.
myexbackcoach.com/ebk
These all have to be fake testimonials. I did 30 days of no contact and she rejected me again tonight and told me to move on.
“I have moved on and I think you should too. I wish you the absolute best in life! YOU and your kids.”
She said that an hour ago. All of these videos seem to play on the assumption of the mental weakness of the dumper. My ex isn’t a second guesser. She makes a decision and does not deviate. There is no hope of reconciling and overall, we had a great relationship, too.
It’s over and after almost a month of no contact I continue to lose sleep and feel absolutely hopeless, exhausted, pain and tired of the constant beat down I face in my life. I keep hearing I’m a catch and I have a great career, personality, good looking, yet I end up with the same result: dumped.
Sir u r the best please make long distance part 2 , few More videos on long distance relationship ex back topic if possible , I wait from many week for that video do many comments , waiting for long distance part 2 , ur r best coach in ex back I fully trust u 100 percent
Day 41 of no contact :/ It’s was soo good for the both of us but I don’t think she will come back . She won’t have the courage to reach out .. Im not chasing cause she up and left me through a text .
You are strong! Keep up with the NC! 🌟
Love these tools and tips but I’m only one week into true No Contact and it’s just brutal. I would rather crawl through glass or walk 10 miles in the desert heat. I’m so p*ssy-whipped or codependent. Trying to be strong and active. I wasn’t totally sure I wanted to stay in the relationship with her just 60 days ago and then she preempted me. Just gotta stay busy, improve myself, grow personally, workout, see friends/old friends and work hard.
Gotta let her feel the pain and loss of me being gone from her life, cause I know she really loves me a lot. Pretty sure of it. And if she doesn’t, No Contact helps me all the same to transition away from the trauma p*ssy bond. Be strong and believe in yourself.
Same boat brother. Long road ahead
Wisdom keys 🔑 🔑 🔑 Thanks Coach Lee!
Informative. Thank you for the great advice coach. Greetings from South Africa 🇿🇦
Thank you couch you are my best friend😀😀👏👏🙌🙌❤💋💋
The eighth day after she refuses to reply my message，going through NC. It is so hard，almost had sent her message today……
Kevin Bain, I recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit. It's terrific!
myexbackcoach.com/ebk
Do the same rules apply if your ex is the one that cheated on you with your best friend and is now seeing them and it was a quick turnaround
Wow Scotty sorry to hear you’re dealing with that. People really suck sometimes.
Scott, BLOCK HER and move on. If she's with your friend now, let her go. I wouldn't take her back either bcse she can leave you again. Goid luck to you..⚘️
The best coach 👍
I’m hurting right now
I have a story about friends/family trying to help! I am friendly with my girlfriends/ex girlfriends kids and her son texted my ex girlfriend and told her that I’m crying because she hasn’t texted me back yet and she should reach out to me
themanman165 ,OUCH! Kids will be kids. What can you do?? Sorry that happened. If you're in NO Contact, STAY the course, but if you're broken up for good, that's another situation. Coach Lee has a live workshop that he would want you to join. It's awesome and it will help you with future and past experiences.
know it's really difficult and I've certainly been there. I don't know if you are aware, but Coach Lee has a live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." It's an incredible learning experience that I just can't say enough about. It focuses on saving a relationship from a breakup/separation and then keeping it after. It includes a coaching call each month for 6 months. You can talk to Coach Lee's team about it. I think the person for this is named Johnny and you can make an appointment with him to talk about it at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. I think you'll agree that it's an incredibly eye-opening and immensely helpful experience for you.
This is what i really need after a long tiring stressful day. A stress reliever from coach lee.
ATTENDANCE CHECK: from PH 🇵🇭 🙋🏻♀️
Ako din kailangan neto, 39 days na ako since no contact sa niligawan ko ng 1 year.
My ex cheated on me 2 years ago. We were married for 21 years. He said I didn't make him feel like a man. That he hates my face, my voice, my attitude that I am toxic. But still after 2 years he is living with me in the sane house and having his affair twice a week. The date line for him to leave is March 1st. And still he is asking for more time. WHO UNDERSTANDS THEM????????
He clearly doesnt deserve you. He dont Know your value. Please Know your worth and dont let this „man“ make you feel Bad
Kick him out
Coach lee is spot on
We were together for 6 years. But 2 months back My girlfriend broke up with me (though we were nice and close to each other)and have a new girl friend now.
I am shattered and in deep pain with this breakup.
She said that I will always remain as her family, but she was mentally detached from me from almost one year.
I had no clue about anything so this all came as a big shock to me. I couldn't believe all this. And the most painful thing is that she doesn't feel any guilty, or anything wrong in it. She says she has every right to move on.
Will no contact work here?
Should I block my ex on everything besides iMessage?
Watch this video all the way through: th-cam.com/video/O-DEx6mAKaM/w-d-xo.html
I am the one who messed up by lying and being disloyal and being a narcissistic and emotionally cheating on her, but the whole time we was broken up we was together and I was not letting up I was all in my emotions all in my feelings what I want never seeing her or what she wanted or even respecting what she wanted I was very selfish. I have pushed her away so bad to the point she hates me and I have caused difficulties in her life with my begging and pleading and stressing and emotional. So now I am finally away and we are finally having real space and it is killing me but I am working on myself and healing and praying I do not think she will ever come back or contact me it had been day three. Idk I don’t know what to do I messed up so bad with the women I actually love and want to marry and now her being around me irritate her I think she went back to her ex.
So what happens if you did everything your not supposed to? 🤷♀️🤦♀️ I really wish you would do a video on this.
In my Emergency Breakup Kit at myexbackcoach.com
Hey coach Lee, thank you for all the help. Can I please ask you to make a video about what we do when an ex dumped us for a second time?
I believe Coach Lee said same principles of NC apply to second break ups.
Can you do a video on rebounds. My ex and I broke up nearly 3 months ago. We were together for over 3.5 years, the break up was amicable. When we were breaking up I didn’t take it so seriously because he said that we’re using it to see if we’ll miss each other and that might finally push us to make effort and make it work and if not, he’d like to stay friends. He also said we should not talk for a while unless I need something. So the first month I only reached out when I needed something but he would ask me how I’m doing etc. then after a month I found out that he’s removed me from all social media but Text. Shortly after, We arranged to meet up and he said that he removed me because I didn’t reach out to him to try and reconcile and he also thought I didn’t want to be friends. He also said that he felt like he was being weird going on my socials because during that time he noticed that I deleted all our pictures and asked me why, also saw my story and was wondering who I was with. He said he assumed I had someone new. I told him that I don’t and he said he doesn’t either. We agreed to talk more often and be friends however to this day I remain removed. We’ve talked and met up several times, he was overly nice and sweet to me, giving small gift and then a Christmas present. He then said that he doesn’t see us working romantically at least not right now. 2 months after the break up, we had another talk because I made the mistake of telling him that I miss him. He told me that I misunderstood him and that he was clear from the start that it’s too late to fix anything and he doesn’t see us working right now. I told him I disagreed but we agreed not to make things awkward and still be friends. I haven’t heard from him since, it’s been a month. Today I found out that 2 weeks after we broke up he got a new girlfriend, it looks serious. I now know that that’s the reason why he blocked me on social media and he’s been lying to me all after the break up, when he would say that he was with family or friends he was actually with her. I have suspicion that he’s been talking to this girl while we were still together, considering they were together 2 weeks after the break up. I don’t understand why he would hide her from me, I’ve never acted ‘crazy’ during or after our relationship and I don’t understand why he would meet up and talk to me. They celebrated Christmas and NYE together but he was texting me throughout both of those days
Sorry to say that, but he was keeping You as backup plan. Hope You are ok now.
Ya. Never. Lied. About. This. Encounter
My ex and I still share each other’s location. We agreed to keep sharing. Should I stop doing it?
Orkos17, just be casual and civil to each other.
So excited for the next one: Jedi mind tricks to make your ex beg! 🤣