Sorry about ur dad , my parents are still alive, but i want to share the first death story of my life and how it affected along with another one. i was young, very young, maybe 7 or 8, my great grandma died , i woke up to my mom crying her eyes out and asked what is wrong, she said ''settak meitit'' and i was shocked, dead shocked, i turned white and froze.....my parents freaked out and panicked more, then they started laughing and saying it was a joke.....later in the day they started saying that she is ill and had to send her quickly to USA to my uncles in Texas for an operation, i knew they were lying but didn't want to upset them since they forced themselves so hard so i played along, and despite the wake i still played along, they knew that i knew but we said nothing.....i think it was their fault for dropping the bomb on me about her death. later on in life , i was a teen, grandma died, i handled it, but grandpa followed her, and i was mature enough to carry his body to the grave....we don't use coffins, part of the religion, body is wrapped in white sheets and put in the ground, as they lowered grandpa's body , the sheet came out of his head and i saw his face, this was in 1996, until this day, that image haunts me on a daily basis, the pale white skin, the open eyes, his pupils.....i really didn't need that. grief was not an issue, the initial shock of losing a loved one is what pains me , and i know sooner or later, we all are heading down that path, and between us, we have a running bet at home that i will be the first to kick the bucket and dad will outlive us all , lol , just a family joke since dad is one hard ass son of a gun and i had enough of everyone's shit to a point that i suffered a massive stroke in 2018 that left me half blind and let us say.....not as smart as i used to be, so yeah, wish they give me a handicapped card for that at least since i am almost blind and mentally challenged.... anw, God bless u and may ur papa rest in peace, i am sure he was a swell guy to have such a nice, sweet, gentle and pure daughter as u. ps: sorry about the rant, i just love ur videos and people do say i talk a lot.
Sorry to hear about this experience that you had. Dealing with death is always hard no matter the age. But I can't imagine someone at your age at that time dealing with that. I actually really wanted to go to my dad's burial but people discouraged me since it is very graphic and usually women don't go. I disagree ofc with the gender classification of if you can go or not. Grown ass men can also have such a hard time seeing such things. I still for some reason though regret not going and not saying goodbye for the last time at his burial.
@@SugaDoodles I understand you have regrets, but I'm going to get to the core of things: Your father loves you dearly, and as a man, he would want you as a daughter to be enjoying your life as much as you can. I can tell your parents are excellent ones from the way you speak of them.
I hope you're doing okay, i know it's hard been there. Make sure to take care of yourself, you got this! ♡
Thank u so much! I am doing fine. And take care of yourself as well! 😊
Sorry about ur dad , my parents are still alive, but i want to share the first death story of my life and how it affected along with another one.
i was young, very young, maybe 7 or 8, my great grandma died , i woke up to my mom crying her eyes out and asked what is wrong, she said ''settak meitit'' and i was shocked, dead shocked, i turned white and froze.....my parents freaked out and panicked more, then they started laughing and saying it was a joke.....later in the day they started saying that she is ill and had to send her quickly to USA to my uncles in Texas for an operation, i knew they were lying but didn't want to upset them since they forced themselves so hard so i played along, and despite the wake i still played along, they knew that i knew but we said nothing.....i think it was their fault for dropping the bomb on me about her death.
later on in life , i was a teen, grandma died, i handled it, but grandpa followed her, and i was mature enough to carry his body to the grave....we don't use coffins, part of the religion, body is wrapped in white sheets and put in the ground, as they lowered grandpa's body , the sheet came out of his head and i saw his face, this was in 1996, until this day, that image haunts me on a daily basis, the pale white skin, the open eyes, his pupils.....i really didn't need that.
grief was not an issue, the initial shock of losing a loved one is what pains me , and i know sooner or later, we all are heading down that path, and between us, we have a running bet at home that i will be the first to kick the bucket and dad will outlive us all , lol , just a family joke since dad is one hard ass son of a gun and i had enough of everyone's shit to a point that i suffered a massive stroke in 2018 that left me half blind and let us say.....not as smart as i used to be, so yeah, wish they give me a handicapped card for that at least since i am almost blind and mentally challenged....
anw, God bless u and may ur papa rest in peace, i am sure he was a swell guy to have such a nice, sweet, gentle and pure daughter as u.
ps: sorry about the rant, i just love ur videos and people do say i talk a lot.
Sorry to hear about this experience that you had. Dealing with death is always hard no matter the age. But I can't imagine someone at your age at that time dealing with that. I actually really wanted to go to my dad's burial but people discouraged me since it is very graphic and usually women don't go. I disagree ofc with the gender classification of if you can go or not. Grown ass men can also have such a hard time seeing such things. I still for some reason though regret not going and not saying goodbye for the last time at his burial.
@@SugaDoodles I understand you have regrets, but I'm going to get to the core of things:
Your father loves you dearly, and as a man, he would want you as a daughter to be enjoying your life as much as you can. I can tell your parents are excellent ones from the way you speak of them.
@@EndlessChris That actually made me a bit emotional and more at peace. thank u really for this beautiful comment.
@@SugaDoodles I'm glad I could help. It's hard to lose a parent, but I think your father is with you in spirit.
((hugs))
Noora i love you