The Pressure to "Glow Up" | How the "Baddie Aesthetic” is Aging the Youth
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 20 ก.ย. 2024
- Recently, Millennials have been going viral discussing how old Gen Z looks. Though there is some truth in this, there are a lot more things that play into the role of Gen Z "looking old". In this video, we will be discussing the rise in plastic surgery, the adultification of the youth, social media, the "baddie aesthetic", the pressure to glow up and so much more. Share your thoughts in the comments down below!
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Honestly, that one woman said it best. We have become so anti child in our society that we took away all the places for children and teens and left them with nothing but adult places, and now they're suffering the consequences.
*Women and girls who aren't sexual fantasies for men, is what you mean. Women are still pushed to have children.
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it’s definitely American culture too. other cultures like mexican, arabic, etc their lives and social events revolve around kids.
They were taken away bc people stopped shopping at them. Kids aren’t allowed at malls and theaters without adults bc they can’t behave.
@@bambiisbonkersehhhhh idk. I hear alot of other races say the same thing about this (big example is Mexicans most my friends are Mexican and they on the same boat also black btw) but it is a problem in America
The dude saying: 18 isn't grown tho. You can only vote or go to jail, had me 😂😂😂
Right I'm stealing that😂😂😂
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😂😂😂
And join the military.
And get married
These little kids singing SexxyRed is sooo sad. When I was little, I was a girly girl, watching winx club, Barbie movies, Disney channel, Nickelodeon, Alvin and the chipmunks, and stuff like that. I can't believe how much childhood changed over the years.
OMG I 💖 Winx Club ✨🧚🏾♀️
@Camrynns I love strawberry shortcake
SAME!!
Barbie movies, I still watch them!✨
I lovedddd Winx Club and totally spies! ❤️💛💚
Prom and baby showers are so massive now because weddings are dying out. They have to go big on these events because nobody is getting married and staying married.
!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! My friends get SO pissed when I say this but it’s TRUE! I say all the time, “damn I’m seeing a whole lot of babies and zero weddings” every single one of my friends in our group of 4 have kids now except for me. 2 of those friends have 2 children now. NONE OF US ARE MARRIED OR EVER HAVE BEEN. I’m the only one to have been engaged but broke it off because our futures weren’t aligning. But I will be dating with the intent to MARRY. the sanctity of the family unit these days is in the garbage and it is so apparent. So so sad. We need to demand more as women..
I am a high school teacher and my daughter is also a teenager. I have to say that what we see on the internet is not the majority. Most girls look and dress similar to the way that I did I was her age. There are a few girls who have the dramatic internet aesthetic but most of them are age appropriate.
I will say that because of the internet, they don’t have that awkward phase. They know how to take care of their skin, they know how to dress nicely, how to style their hair etc . They also feel like certain beauty treatments are basic, like lashes, nails and skin care/ body care. I have had to explain to my daughter that those treatments are nice for special occasions like birthdays or homecoming but being able to maintain that look is expensive and not appropriate for daily life.
Nope all my friends are married and they are black lol yall have to get offline. 😂
Never looked at it that way but I think you’re right!
Marriage isn't anything to strive for anymore. Marriage doesn't benefit women and most of the men are shit, so there's no reason for anyone to get married.
As a 14 year old girl who does feel this pressure to “glow up”. This really helped me realize that this was happening to me. Thank you for bringing this to light ❤
Girl take it easy. I’m Gen Z and I like how people still think I’m underage even though I’m 21 turning 22. Also after you are 20, your body naturally starts glowing up. Just try to keep your body healthy
You are enough, you matter, you have purpose, you are beautiful. The moment you wake up in the morning as you are. What matters is on the inside, for men and women
Baby girl, you are perfect the way you are. ♥️ You have a right to be here and happy as much as the next "bad bitch" 😂
I just turned 32 last week and I too feel the pressure. ♥️😥 Let's not let it get to us, I understand it's extremely lame. 😂🥰🙌♥️
Young Emma, do yourself the biggest favour you can and learn about who you are without these influences in modern life. Delete social media and read books, good books, Bell Hookes, Audrey Lourde, all the greats of their time, mystery, fantasy, slice of life. Learn history, learn music, play an instrument, figure out what you like as a person. Adulthood is not running away and it SUCKS in so many ways, pleass do all you can to learn about yourself, what you stand for, what you like because its harder to know yourself with the noise of others and the pressures of adulthood. I'm sorry this pressure to glow up is reaching you but you must unplug and find yourself now that you know.
Being an adult is ASS don’t rush it
Children should not have social media. I said what I said
Agreed!!
Agreed
Agree
True they shouldn’t but what are they supposed to do. The reason why they flock to social media is because they is no more spaces for kids. They don’t have places for them to hang out anymore. Society is becoming so anti kids
Should have to verify an ID 18+ or older, maybe even 21+. That goes for social media & adult sexual sites.
Kids should be able to be a kid and not rush to be a adult
Agree! But because of cultural pressure to grow up fast is unfortunately inevitable. If we could stop saying “You need to be more mature” and “Act your age” when they’re only 8 y/o, then kids won’t view themselves as a burden of society because they’re “useless” as a child. We’ve all felt that and been there during tough times
This is so sickening where are their parents???!!?🤯🤯this is so sick,this nation is done. And who would listen to 🗑️ like 🗑️ red even as an adult. This is all so sick
Children should remain children for the entire duration. Now we got grown ass adults reverting into children by not having children of their own and filling rooms with action figures and other collectable toys.
Truth!
Bingo
I don’t know why people want to grow up so bad. It’s not all it’s cracked up to be. 😭 I remember being so excited to get older. Now, I wish I could go back and enjoy my teen years.
Me and my Mama warned me and I still didn’t listen
Fr!! I'm turning 23 in a few weeks and this is the first year I actually feel nervous about getting older.
I embraced my childhood as long as I could. I thought my friends were weird or something. Even as a young adult I enjoyed kids stuff. It helps a lot that i look young for my age so I was able to pull it off. Kids should be able to enjoy childhood and kids stuff as long as they could. Some of us humans can live over 100 years old and in some cases 123 years... plenty of time to be all grown. But childhood is really brief like a fart in a hurricane winds.
It's because we wanted more freedom and more places to hang out, and we most likely didn't think about the responsibilities that come with adulthood. Early to mid 20s sounds like the desired age range for most people.
At all😂
As a soon-to-be 17-year-old, I feel so bad for the new generation of teen girls younger than me. I still got to experience that awkward duckling phase before TikTok blew up right during COVID-19. It definitely changed me to care more about how I'm perceived, my hair, my makeup, and the skincare. Covid really made kids skip over that tween stage and jump straight into insta baddies and even I see it in myself too. Covid stole so much youth.
Just like you, about to be 17 and feeling like I had a very small tween phase... And we couldn't even enjoy it cause of the pandemic
thankfully i was painfully aware of the problem with all of the glow up trend bs and am forcing myself to remain in the ‘awkward’ phase till i am in my 20s. i don’t care if anyone thinks i’m silly for not wanting to act grown cuz if my age ends in “-teen” i am a teenager and i will act like it!!
Literally
couldn't have said it better
That “hands on your knees clip” broke my heart 😔💔
Millenials WTF are we doing raising these babies like this? 😩😩😩
I'm glad to say my mum isn't like thkse parents
Some want to stay kids and they bring their kids on their journey. Some millennials treat their kids like a babysitter, as if someone else is about to come by and pick up their kids any time now🙄
Not this millennial
We???
@@spybubbbleyes yall tf
It’s the parents’ responsibility to protect their innocence. My parents monitored what I consumed and I’m so grateful for that
Me too, as a teen, some peers mentioned that I didn’t know certain things that I was apparently supposed to know, but at the same time Wasnt supposed to because it’s more for adults. Like curse words, actions, etc.
Same. I was watching Disney channel in college.
I'm glad that my parents didn't monitor me, but I was always more or less responsible, and oversight would've been horrible for my development. So you should still keep in mind that teenagers are individuals too, so there's no one size fits all solution. I guess the most important thing is to create a climate of trust, so your child will willfully talk to you about stuff.
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that’s ur experience
I'm a Capricorn. I don't believe in zodiac, but I just want to say being a Capricorn has nothing to do with it. I would call the police if a grown man tried to date my daughter.
Im also a capricorn lol and i agree 😂
I’m a Capricorn n facts 👏🏾
I'm also a Capricorn but this shit retarded lmaoo
I am a Capricorn too, born on January 1stt
Said like a true Capricorn 😂...y'all literally be acting like the thing y'all don't believe in 😅😅. It's a very earth sign response....that if you don't see it with your two eyes, it doesn't exist..when there's literally things everywhere around us that you can't see that literally exist. Like, idk.... energy! lol..which is what astrology is about.
I played with dolls until i was 15. I naturally stopped when i wasnt into it anymore. Then i went to video games. Kids arent allowed to naturally phase out of certain behaviors. They feel the need to age themselves. Its weird.
Yup a lot of the pressure is self and peer imposed and parents don't do shit to stop them
Yea same I still had dolls at 15, I read comics and played video games. I’m a 24 year old woman now and I’m glad I never fell for the bad b!tch trap. Only now do I feel like I can act grown but I still read comics, play dolls (my younger sisters and Bother have dolls), I still play video games.
I also played with dolls until about that age. I'm grateful for that. I feel sorry for all the girls who felt pressured or were forced to act grown up when there were still so young.
fr I still loved dolls and kids shows in middle school and my friends thought that was weird and childish so I would try to hide it from them, I felt embarrassed even though I was literally a child
I went from dolls to sims. & I’m still simming to this day. 😂😂😂
I work at a toy store and it's upsetting to see parents asking for different gift cards because they look too "childish". Then I ask how old the kid is and they say 11 or 9.
All the young black girls especially shown on the first day a school outfits I feel bad for them. Body dysmorphia, baddie aesthetic, hyper sexuality. It’s really sad
And they will be sexualise by grown disgusting men
@CCLL-ok5onit’s going out of style but not mentally wise a lot of them still feel forced to dress a certain way to attract people to them
@CCLL-ok5onthere will be a new unattainable standard soon😵💫
the black community is so bereft of actual soul and reality. why don't we focus on school and changing the world?!
…and none of those bags were big enough to hold books 😭
This may be a bit off topic but I am a 17 year old in high school, I often find myself comparing myself to the other girls my age. Most of them have jobs, boyfriends, cars, and they are really pretty. I know I shouldn't compare myself to others but being around it really hits heavy. I know I'm not a loser but I feel so much like one, I feel like I'm missing out and I am behind. One time I wore a Hello Kitty shirt and rainbow socks to school one day. These girls were making fun of me because I was dressed that way at my age. I even beat myself up for it and told myself I looked so childish. But I am a child so I shouldn't say those things to myself. I just wish I could feel confident and pretty too at school.
I feel you. But be yourself. You’ll end up loving it!
The same thing happened to my little sister, she absolutely loved high school musical and it was appropriate for her age but people made fun of her where she resented the movies. It’s really hard to be authentic but the authentic you will always thrive!
@@jumokeonifade85 Girl I see what you are saying, I turned seventeen less than 2 weeks ago and sometimes I feel the same way as you.
Im 21 F and Ive been thru the same thing. In 2010I love anime, fanfiction and taylor swift. I was teased and bullied relentlessly until I eventually gave up practicing my hobbies in public. Now 14 years later watching all the people talk about the things I was ashamed of. It feels like I didnt stand up for myself. Like I betrayed myseld
Presently I do, dress, and watch tv how I want. Im doing it for the little girl in me who never had the chance to be herself.
Dont make the same mistakes I made. We might be cringe but we are free lol
@@alex.a2927 Girl I feel you, anyone can dress in any style that they want and do any hobby that they love. You are so young and have your whole life ahead of you. So enjoy it, It doesn't matter what people think of you. In four years i'll be 21 and I'm going to live my life without caring what people think.
I still haven’t picked my jaw off the floor at 15 rounds for 15th birthday
I’m 15 and that’s INSANE like I still shop at Claire’s lol😭😭😭
@@jojolikesstufffrllllll
Oh hell no. Anything like that happening at that age is not going to end well 💀
@@AllLogicIsDeadPastMidnightit’s not going to end well at any age 🥲
Outrageous!
Kylee Jenner is the best example of what having surgeries and fillers at a young age g age will do. She looks like she’s been through it so much that she looks 48yo now.
She does and I thought she was 40 or something but no she 25. And even my oldest sister who is 24 looks younger than her. Like way younger.
As a 17 year old I see freshman girls who look older than me. The makeup, the style, the hair styles. A lot of them hang around known drug dealers too. it’s so sad.
i grew up with BRATZ; the og teen baddies. plump lip, snatched waist, designer everything.
They barely had designer. They made their own clothes and if not they curated and shopped and had interesting styles. As four, they didnt dress the same. They were great girls to show different aesthetics and to show even though theyve different loves and likes, they were still friends.
YESSSS SAME!! Bratz was the ultimate baddies for girls, they are more baddie Aesthetic than what "baddies trends" is today
I live in India. And I always hated the fact that we had Uniforms in school, now I glad we did had that.
My school in the uk too, but I’m so so grateful
I (I’m in the US) also had uniforms for middle school and I’m grateful, even if it was to hide the massive wealth gap from the tech babies and the east side (didn’t work since you could tell if they walked/got picked up versus took the bus).
Fellow Indian here . I am also so goddamn glad my school has uniforms and no makeup rules , but unfortunalty there are a few "feminist" girls who sexualize their own school uniforms . Thankfully they don't influence anyone .
Yes now I am glad for them too. I had them in middle school and elementary. It is also less of a worry about what to wear to school :)
Me too, in the U.S., we would always have these essays to write where the prompt was “Should schools stop requiring uniforms to be worn?” and I always advocated for us to keep wearing them. Instead of children feeling insecure about their clothes, cause they have the same uniform every day, they can just focus on being kids and their academics. Yes having your own clothes is great to wear to school, but I hated it because I didn’t really have the latest trendy items. Even now, I’m glad my job requires us to wear uniform shirts and specific pants and shoes.
These little kids singing thise inappropriate songs word for word is so disturbing 😭😭. And that 15 rounds mess has to be a joke i hope cause that is really sad.
Girl that come with every generation kids was singing it wasn’t me, s&m, apple bottom jeans etc
@madie5041 be fr. Those songs obviously had sexual inuendos but they were not so upfront. As a kid we had no idea what they was talking about until we got older. Obviously there was rap from the 90s and 00s that was extremely explicit but they were censored on the radio stations. Most people now do not listen to the radio so they don't censor the curse or inappropriate words. 😒
@@madie5041the difference is that these kids know what they’re saying, these teens know what these lyrics mean because these songs are outward with the sex terms. Things like “Apple bottom jeans” wasn’t really outward with its sexual connotations. I sung it as a kid without even knowing that the lyrics were sexual. And the lyrics (from what I remember) had no cuss words so a kid technically could sing it lol.
When I was coming up, I owned and adored every Jodeci, R. Kelly, Dru Hill, Snoop Dogg, 2Pac, NWA, Eazy E, Three 6 Mafia, Foxy Brown, Biggie, and Lil Kim album. That was the 90s. It was just as filthy fun and colorful then, but the cadence, syntax, and overall delivery was actually so good. The shit today is filthy, but so fucking ignorant. I used to learn new words and lingo from the music. It tickled my ears and light up my mind. There’s nothing inherently wrong with explicit music. Now, to be fair, I was 13-14 when I was listening to this stuff, and I listened to it all throughout high school, and college. Hell, 25+ years later, I still only listen to music from before about 2006-2007.
@@Chillikilli Girl. Are you serious? The year was 1991. I was 14 when I heard the NWA song, “She Swallowed It.” It’s so fucking offensive, but that beat, samples, production, and overall sound was excellent. This song details gang raping a 14 year-old daughter of a pastor. It’s beyond misogynist. It’s violently disrespectful but almost to the point that, as a teen, I would laugh because it was that damn shocking. It couldn’t possibly be real?! But it was. Those men were absolutely treating girls and women like that.
I won’t even get started on all the South Florida rap bass music with Uncle Luke and ‘nem. That shit is filthy trash to twerk to. None of this shit is new. Not really. It’s very easy to romanticize shit from yesteryear, but I promise I could write a dissertation listing countless rap, hip-hop, and R&B artists from my childhood, teens, college years, and young adulthood.
But really, go back and listen to that particular NWA track, and tell me that shit wasn’t like this 30+ years ago. The primary difference is that, the quality of the sound was far superior. These producers like Dre, DJ Yella, and MC Ren, or even Daz from Tha Dogg Pound- they were so skilled on the production end. It still sounds incredible. If this particular song was just instrumental, I’d actually enjoy listening to it. The other difference is we were not on the internet and we could not hear this music outside of someone buying the tape or the CD. It was there, but it wasn’t permeating every nook and cranny of culture and such.
these types of children usually have the biggest glow down once they get older, they get mid life crisis at the age of 22 because they've seen and done it all and are more likely traumatised by dating grown men as children and don't know how to process it, when the other kids finally become adults they get to do all the things they wanted to do as kids and are happier
😂😂. Wow. This reminded me of some popular girl from my highschool. Met her years later and she was the human version of a liminal space aka aged
@@DivestedChristian”the human version of a liminal space” girl!!!!!! I never heard that one before omg that’s like the most polite diss ever 😫😂
Also usually baddies have children young. So go ahead and live a fast life to get slowed down even faster…
Lol me !!! Girl my mama did not play that mess when I just start wearing wigs and makeup at 22 years old I'm now 23 it's so fun living my best life 😂❤
tbh i’m 16 and i fall into this bracket of “baddie aesthetic” and i hate it. but saying someone is gonna get a mid life crisis solely based on how they dress is crazy.
This is why I love living in a small town. Nikes are considered the fanciest brand. The average 17 yr old girl here only wears simple foundation cheap mascara. Skater jeans and t shirts are pretty popular, and our prom dresses look like nun dresses compared to the dresses in this video. Little kids still wear Hello Kitty and horse t shirts. Say what you want about small towns, but at least our kids are acting like kids.
Girl, when I read this I was like you roasted most of the kids in this video. Like I need to clap for how you said this.👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Yep 🤷🏾♀️👏🏾‼️
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Parents faults 100%!!! My almost 5 year old daughter only song she can sing is the Bluey song 😅
Definitely on the parent when they’re that young, but once they’re in high school it’s hard to keep tabs on everything they do. It’s up to the parent to teach them the values that they will choose to uphold, but again it’s hard to guarantee that they won’t be influenced by their friends/peers
Agreed my daughter only sings baby shark.
@sixteen.candles.4644 Now Baby Shark is stuck in my head.🤦♀️
Yes! where are the parents in all this? Encouraging it. SUPPORTING IT. Cosigning it. Making money off of it 😐 it's fkn sad
Great job mom!!!❤❤❤️
I feel like they are tryna make this normal so they can mess with kids
Yup! It’s all an excuse to sexualize children 😰
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Yes, this is an agenda. It’s disgusting.
Forreals
Facts
The amount of men who are advocating for dating really young women is very concerning. The other day I saw someone say that once you're 30, then it's over and that men your age will pick 18 year olds to date instead of you. Absolutely disgusting mindset.
they're judging by themselves and think all men are as disgusting as them...
The irony being too is that they are lying! The older I get as a woman, the more I get older, younger, and same age men hitting on me! They scare women from realize that you can age like fine wine if you slow down and allow things to fall into place
@@Confettifun I also have younger men flirting with me 🤔 Maybe it's just the conservative creepoids who are so keen on younger women.
It is terrifying. It is almost like being underdeveloped in body and mind and inexperienced at life is more important to some men than in bloom feminine beauty and confidence.
I wish these boys would just come out and admit they don't want grown women they want girls. They need help.
Yeap I'll rather date a woman 18 then some 35 year old woman. Ok I want kids and can I have that with a old ass 35 year old? Let's stop playing you failed in life if u single and over 30
Those small kids broke my heart and the fact that someone behind the camera let them continue singing Sexy Redds song is what baffles me 💔😭
im a 15 yr old black girl in the UK and I am very grateful to hv a mum that doesn’t hv much but is able to give me soo much advice. She always tells ‘enjoy your childhood’ because the amount of regret you will endure due to not making the right choices is allat.
I get called out for sometimes acting like a millenial. I do things very different from even my friends. The pressure to ‘glow up’ is tooo muchhh. People from my old primary school say i haven’t changed even though its been 4 years now, but now I am happy that I havent. Everyone has percieved that needing to have a ‘man’ is normal. Female validation and male validation too has exceeded. Why should I take time out of my life to chase someone who will forget me after yr 11. Likeeee come on nowww. You cant even take care of yourself yet alone someone else. Wearing lashes, weave, wigs FULL on makeup to school. Who the hell are you trying to impress. Focus on studying plssss.
My glow up will happen at its own time no one will force me to. Why should I be 15 and look like 30 likee idek the whole world is messed up.
Over the last 6 months ive become more independent and focused on studying because at the end of the day there will only be God remaining. I love myself, I love my body and Im hopeful for what God has coming for me in the future. I wanna become a woman who can provide for herself without the need of a ‘man’. I wanna achieve everything b4 I think about committing my life to someone else. My generation is spoilt but I am happy I have a close relationship w my mum plus finding out the truth now than it beating me up in the future.
You’re going down the right path! Confidence comes from yourself and your own achievements, not validation from others. Good luck with your GCSE’s, and study hard.
Go girlll!❤
You are so inspirational. ❤
YAWPPP
I 100% believe the parents have a hand in this. Being a mom of a 5 year old i have heard moms say "im not buying my daughter princess clothes and character shoes because they are ugly" and go on to dress their kids like they would dress themselves.. kids are having to take on these adult images because at home they arent being allowed to be children. Makes me think of the sad beige moms that color down their kids..
I mean it’s clear as day it’s the parents lol
I agree with you. Now I don’t dress my toddler in princesses and characters much because I don’t support anything Disney. But when she gets older and she likes a certain character/princess and wants to wear some of that stuff it wouldn’t bother me. I work in childcare and I see young young children with nail polish, ankle bracelets, fake tattoos, temporary hair color, belly shirts etc. and those ones usually can’t read and are behind in school. Makes me sad.
@@JustMeandGod_they be the ones filming their kids acting grown 😐
Imma be honest and say that I do not trust parents who dress kids to look like adults because most of the times these parents are lowkey narcissistic. Also, can we talk about the overconsumption too?!! These people are buying clothes that the kids will destroy lmaoo 😭😭
No but those kids singing such Vulgar songs is really disturbing 😐
literally and half of them probably can’t even spell pound town
Like, what ever happened to Kids Bop, and singing the censored radio edits like when I was a kid? I know a lot of songs don't have kid friendly versions now, but it makes me wonder if it's the parents letting kids have free run of the internet without putting TH-cam into kids mode, or what it is. When I was a kid/teen, I was allowed to listen to Radio Disney, and anything too bad to get played there was too bad to listen to.
It’s so weird, it’s almost bordering pedophilia imo
Does this apply to rock and metal songs too
Oh my gosh, seeing those little girls sing the uncensored lyrics broke my heart. I very rarely cry, but that had me shedding real tears. What are they doing to these poor babies? 😢
Same here. I got very emotional 😢. They’re just babies 😭. It was the same gut reaction when I saw a video of young girls proud of their abortions too and broadcasting it via social media. I’m for women’s rights, but I sat and cried for a good 10 minutes. Society is broken. God help us 💔.
yea that sh was heartbreaking
Turning them into young thots
Same... when did calling yourself or each other a bi..h become a term of endearment? Growing up, those were fighting words. To me, it will always be a female dog in heat, and you know what a female dog does when in heat. Will go anywhere😢 Nothing about that is cute.
Exactly, it truly breaks my heart and I sincerely pray for the next generation to come and pray God will raise Godly woman who will make bold and massive differences and quench these demonic movements because it’s sincerely sad😢.
When I was 15. I was watching monster high doll videos. This is so crazy. 😱😱
Marsai Martin is a good example of a kid who’s growing with her age. And she’s very classy too
Honestly, even (most) NYC clubs are creepy where ladies are allowed at age 21, but men have to be 25 years old….the age gap is being forced upon young women throughout society….as a teen, I constantly had grown men tell me how grown I looked for my age & I had to constantly remind them that I was a child! Just because I have boobs, doesn’t mean I’m grown! I used to just find it uncomfortable, but as an adult (later) realized that it was predatory….it f*caked with my mind so much that I still hide my body(I’m 41) so that I don’t attract unwanted attention!
girl, you and me the same… i’m 28 and i still cover myself up because of having creepy older men sexualising me since 12 years old due to having big boobs
Sorry to hear that. I am not sure about the NYC club age limits as I avoid them. I am more of a bar guy and it’s a rare occurrence🤔
I’m also 40 and I had the same issue growing up, it used to make me feel so sick when older men would talk to me, ‘like uncle where is your wife’ I used to hide my bum all the time by wearing clothes, 2 sizes too big. These type of men are so disgusting
Why 25 for men? Is the alcohol age different for the men there?
@@mastersnet18Men are predominantly the ones buying drinks and a 25 year old has more to spend than a 21 year old. Policies like this victimize both young men and women, though.
I thought I'd come here from the perspective of a teenage girl:
It is damn near impossible to not want to grow up fast nowadays. We can't be slightly obnoxious or look awkward because social media has us being compared to grown adults, both by others and by ourselves.
Every girl I have met my age has at least one nerdy and/or childlike interest that they don't talk about because they get met with plain disgust when they do.
The lack of third spaces sucks as well. My best friend doesn't go to my school and it is a huge struggle to find somewhere to meet up. The park? We're told we're loitering and not welcome. The mall? Everything is crazy expensive and you get dirty looks or even kicked out if you're browsing for too long. The library? Closed because funding is being revoked. There are pretty much no places where teens can be teens which leads to us either spending too much time online or ending up in dangerous situations.
At the end of the day, kids are always going to try to fit in. It just sucks that nowadays, 'fitting in' means spending a bunch of money and looking/acting 30+ at 14.
TLDR: The line between teen and adult is forever being blurred, kids are cruel, there are no third spaces for us anymore and everything about us needs to be perfect or we're 'cringe'.
Great points!!
Couldn’t have said it better !! Honestly as a teen girl myself, I always have to hide childlike aspects of my personality because if I show them, my peers will go away from me, avoiding me or giving me odd looks. “Fitting in” was and is such a big concept I. My tween and teen life revolves around it.
It’s easier said then done but for any teenager reading this, you don’t want the validation of people who truly don’t care about who you are inside anyways. Beauty will fade, clothes can be stolen or destroyed. Focusing on your character will have long lasting results and that’s when you’ll find real connections that aren’t surface level. Lastly, high school may feel permanent but those four years will be over before you know it and you won’t see majority of those people again. Live life for you and don’t spend most of it scrolling.
@@kaliha.jI whole heartedly agree. I am almost 23 and I graduated in 2019 so I had social media and I swear high school is so secondary. I was heavily bullied and never fit in in high school. I tried so hard to fit in and it made my life hell, to the point where I didn’t care that I had like 1 friend and didn’t talk to anyone. At the time it feels like the end of the world, but now as an adult it really is such a small piece of your life puzzle. I am not friends with a single soul from high school, I’ve met new adult people that genuinely care about me and treat me like a real friend, shared the same interests and someone I can be entire self around. As hard as it is to take it because trust me I’d hear it, love your childhood. The second that last day of high school is over, your life genuinely changes. There’s no norms and no such thing as fitting in when your an adult. There’s people out there that enjoy what you do, treat you great and accept you. It takes time, but my biggest advice is be your true genuine self, even as hard as it may be. Once you do become an adult, people like real people, not someone trying to be like someone else. You’ll have what you want one day, you just have to fight through.
Every hang out spot is money! I feel so broke just by going outside…
I thought “nasty 19” was bad. That girl said “freaky 15” 🤦🏾♀️
Freaky 15 is crazyyyyyy
Some girl at my school posted “sexy sixteen” like what…
19 is grown 😂. pls
@@erikamadisonn eh
At least 19 is legal!!! atp your parents can’t tell you what to do (but I’d definitely advise listening to them cuz it’s hard out here)
Yes girl! This just made me so happy that you shared the word of God at the beginning.
Yeesss me too ✝️❤️
Absolutely 🩷
gotta say this is the one time i’m thankful for being poor😭😭 i wanted to “glow up” and do all this SO BAD but now that i’m a little older im like 😬 glad i didn’t
Girl we're the same the pressure of glowing up was so suffocating in my school hopefully I was too poor for afford it 😅
Nowadays songs are just s3x, money, booty, and all lusty things. This generation is exposed to so much unrestricted internet access from younger age that they want to be grownup so bad and are not living there childhood and teen life.
Its so sad to see this younger girls being so insecure and pressured to look like adult.
If you don't like today's music, you could always try a different genre. Or older music. There's plenty of music put there that's about other things too. It doesn't have to just be rap.
@@causal_internetuser yes i do that. I am just simply stating that young generation is consumed by these songs and think yeah this is what we gonna do.
@@causal_internetuserokay get your point but what popular? Classical music or rap? It’s rap, kids listen to vulgar rap as young as 3 years old so ofc they’ll act like vulgar people as they get older. I’m aware of different genres as a I am pianist myself so I watch what my sisters and brothers listen to.
@@fairygodmother139 Parents should carefully watch what their children are doing but they instead of stopping them support them just because they want to gentle parent.
@causal_internetuser yeah cause all new rap is b
I swear when I was 16 to 19, I thought I was mature, I thought I was the shit. I felt like I was so ready for life and to be an adult. looking back at it just makes me cringe. I am 22 now, and it was around 20 when I realized that I am still developing and still growing up - and that that is a good thing! the older, the wiser. I am still learning, and I am grateful for that.
25 is when adulthood biologically starts.
@@DivestedChristian That makes sense. I noticed my feet even grew in the time between I was 23 and 25, and I thought I was safe to invest in good clothes and shoes at 17. Mentally I'm still processing childhood trauma, and often feel like I'm still a kid, but I sure hope that the next generation doesn't have as bad of a quarter life crisis as most my age (~23-27) are experiencing now.
For real
okay did we love the same life ?? bc literally i feel the exact same way & it’s the same time frame as well im now 22 and man was i foolish at times. i wasn’t a bad kid or nothing didn’t give my folks problems but i was definitely sneaky every now and again looking back i hate i even acted that way.
28 here. You'll still feel like that until your late 20s/30s! I felt the same way especially since I went to college at 17 and was living on my own. Realized at 23 I was still so young & immature then, and now at 28 I look back at my early 20s the same way. We're always growing and evolving, but as teenagers we just think we know everything and that we're ready to take on the world.
I live in Brazil and here we have an influencer that on her 18yr birthday opened an privacy to create adult content. On that same day she became top 2 influencer on that plataform. I'm more scared of the adult dudes consuming her content like, literally 24 hours before she was a minor.
Obs: Sorry for the english, im still learning.
sei muito bem de quem vc tá falando kkkkkk
@@1jaskier alguém a falar português por aqui haha
Yeah, real issue are all the pedo dudes and the normalization of pedohillia in patriarchy
i couldn't tell that you are taking classes but that is pretty sad.
What’s her name? 😟
That clip of the 5yr olds singing that SexxyRed song had my stomach in KNOTS! When I was 5, I was singing the theme song to Dora the Explorer and watchin Barbie movies!
i see so many minors on instagram posting the most sexualized photos and as a 20 year old girl it makes me so depressed and disgusted that our society has made it okay for this to happen and THRIVE
Boston Richey is nasty for messing around with a young woman. I am happy to hear from men, especially Black men calling this shit out. We as a collective need to point out whenever something is wrong. Both online and real life. Thank you for this video, Toni👏🏾!
yes, i hope that in the very near future we can come closer as a community and come to more of an agreement on most things. some black people cant even agree that we still have an abundance of work that needs to be done before we are truly treated equally, some think that since slavery ended we’ve been good. we haven’t, and all of the issues in our community is the proof. if we can come together as a community and support one another a lot more, it will bolster us and we will get a lot more respect within and outside of the community.
I just wrote something similar. I really appreciate men publicly speaking up and calling him out. Because men like him will only (maybe) listen to other men
@@lavender9071 i agree 💯👍🏾
Who?
Watching those little tiny girls say those vulgar things hurt my heart so much. They don't even understand what's been robbed from them.... their childhood innocence and carefreeness.
Girl, this pressure to grow fast has always been prevalent in some cultures. I'm a Brazilian favela woman in my 20s. Here, from moment a girl enters puberty people start pressuring her to develop a fully grown curvaceous body as soon as possible. If by age 13/14 you still have what they call a "flat" body (a figure that isn't a dramatic hourglass), they will openly mock you and invalidate your femininity.
This has only gone worse with time. Now, it isn't uncommon for local underage girls to get b00bjobs and take steroids to grow big, muscular butts and thighs.
a situação tá ruim pra todo mundo viu.. Eu com 18 anos as vezes me sinto até mal (no sentido de me sentir inferior) olhando para as garotas da minha idade..
Me in my 30’s looking like I didn’t finish puberty. Almost completely flat chested and not a defined waist. I would never survive in that environment
predatory culture 🤢🤢🤮🤮
@@1jaskier it's normal to feel that way especially when it seems like everyone around you is doing those things. People say this all the time but being yourself is very rewarding in the long run. Do you babygirl, you'll be glad you did
Damn didn't know Nigeria and Brazil had sm in common... There are so many bbl clinics here now it's ridiculous
I went to pick up my niece from school. The amount of crop tops I saw were crazy. Those weren’t really a thing when I graduated in 2012 but you would have been sent home if you had on leggings or tank top. And on top of that I live in Massachusetts and the girls still really don’t cover up much in the snow. Just outside in crop tops no coat. 😢
I think the frumpy stage is important to build character. I blossomed at 28 and have been thriving more and more each year
I’m not going to act like we weren’t singing inappropriate songs in middle or high school but these are small kids!!! It’s scary. Let your baby be a baby! I’m scared that these girls will look back and wish they would have slowed down the growing up process.
Yes, we were older and we knew not to sing certain songs in front of adults 😂😂
When these girls are older they will regret it, but don’t be scared because it means they will realize how wrong it was.
@@rebel1612 And that's the problem. When you know better. You do better. We knew better 😂😂😂.
@@VeronicaMendoza-i2h for sure!
They are toddlers
I don’t care if it’s offensive, I despise all plastic surgery. I love all peoples faces not because it’s “beautiful” or “ugly” I like their faces because it’s theirs and they should too. God loves you the way you are.
Yes!!! Honestly it’s a slap in Gods face like he didn’t make you good enough for your standards
I think if you’re an adult you should be able to do whatever you please, but people romanticize plastic surgery so much and it’s not what everyone thinks it is. If you’re gonna get anything done- you should definitely give yourself years before a final decision. It’s just pushed out so much and normalized, so I see what you’re saying.
Tbh there are some surgeries that are considered plastic but also good for ppl. I got a breast reduction and it changed my life, + reconstructive surgeries after accidents for example. I know you’re probably not referring to those surgeries specifically but I just wanted to point that out.
Yap yap yap
@@kroxxroad814 Yes, that's what you're doing...
I'd love to see a video from her on looksmaxing, I've never heard boys my age talk so much about looking sexy and masculine. It's concerning
That's just sad.
Yeah I'd like to see her do a video on that as well
And that's on patriarchy
i hate it
this video should be shared everywhere because it is something that everyone should absolutely be aware of. some are too ignorant to accept that
I’m 13, due to being on the internet at a very young age I am much more “mature” about things. I swear a lot (not in front of parents or teachers obvi), I’m rlly into politics, I read classic literature and I know wayyy too much about nasty stuff. And it is exhausting being in class, nobody rlly is like me anymore, it’s hard to relate to anyone. Everybody’s super rude to the teachers when they’re just tryna do their job, their either still addicted to the iPad or their scrolling on their phones the entirety of class. And everybody’s rude, no matter if your ‘weird’ or popular. The only difference is that when you’re popular you’re “iconic” When your ‘weird’ (which is mostly just the severely disabled and alt people, which is absolutely disgusting) you’re rude and self absorbed. Which don’t get me wrong a lot of the “weird” kids are super rude to the teachers because they’re iPad addicts, but the popular people are phone addicts. Everyone’s fake, a bully and they’re all having sex. We’re THIRTEEN, why are most of us doing it in the bathroom and cheating on people?
Edit: by “nobody like me” I mean that nobody cares about grades anymore. They hate reading and speaking in proper sentences is “cringe” like are we serious? 💀
Coming from a teen that had hit puberty at 11, most of us had an awkward phase. The phase just didn’t last as long due to us not having anything to cater to it. A lot of us had an awkward phase towards the end of 5th grade and the beginning of middle school. I’m an ‘06 baby, around the time I hit puberty I was shopping at Claire’s and Justice. When I had developed more, I didn’t have any places to buy clothes that fit my body in the kids or junior clothing departments. That led to me having to shop in the women’s section. My parents still made sure I was age appropriate, but there was an absence of clothing for me in that stage. We also get tons of pressure from the media and our hormones. We are already self conscious about our bodies that are constantly changing everyday, and we have to uphold these standards being pushed to us. We don’t have any role models for our demographic or any spaces dedicated for us. The way that most of us dress is due to social media influences because there’s no place for us. Another point that hasn’t been mentioned is how we are all growing up where we can learn how to do makeup and hair through tutorials and we don’t have to struggle as much as older Gen Z or millennials in the past . TH-cam University is a lifesaver. I don’t wear makeup or wear anything that’s revealing because of unwanted attention from creepy men, but sometimes I feel the need to in order to fit in . I believe that the problem is our lack of spaces and the wanting to fit in.
This is super well written… you should look into becoming a writer (An author) . I thoroughly enjoyed reading this . ❤ As a millennial this gave me an understanding of how Gen Z (and Gen Alpha) may feel . 🙏🏽
@@theconfidenthoe Crazy how you said this, I want to be one when I’m older. I want to do a lot of things, but mainly a counselor for children and an author. I really enjoy writing.
I'm an '04 baby and I haven't left my awkward phase.
ommgggg me too i’m an 06 and hit puberty around 5th grade, went thru an awkward phase, glowed up *slowly* and still got a lot of growing up to do. so i really don’t think it’s necessary to be such an adult rn
parents and schools have to step in and take action. I'm in my twenties, high school was not *that* long ago and my group and me did not have any "pressure from the media". Some of us weren't even on social medias and it was fine ! Apart from that one mean girl and that one bully boy, no one said anything. Social medias should not be allowing teens anyway : you can't expect teenagers to go on places where everyone is way older and be mature : they're not ! and they should be allowed to grow and make mistakes in the safety of their homes, not in front of the whole Internet.
And i'm sooo glad we still have lots of third spaces here in Europe (outside of parents and school) : cafés, gardens, libraries, etc where we could meet.
As a 16-year-old, I get told that I look younger - like I'm some sort of anomaly - probably because we live in a society where children look like adults. The mention that young girls feel pressured to look older reminds me of how I used to feel insecure about how 'youthful' I look.
And it's true that teens and tweens who are still attached to their childhood get bullied. If I hadn't been homeschooled, life would have been BRUTAL because at 13 I still played the way all kids do.
Bro literally. I hate when adults tell me I look younger than my peers & I don’t even think they see it as an insult when they say it ..
Wow, I’m so sorry that teenagers are going through this kind of insanity right now. WOW. I’m 36 and I have definitely been under a rock because I can’t believe what ‘m hearing in this vlog. 🫢
I used to hate being told I looked younger as well. But now that I’m aging I’m scared of looking old. Honestly, try holding on to your young self as much as possible. I’m only 23 nd I’m getting so stressed with life that I feel like it’s making me look older. It’s sad. Though ppl still think I look Atleast 19 but just thinking and stressing abt your looks or life in general will age you like crazy 😅
I wish! I've looked like I was 20 since I was like 16 and SO MANY MEN hit on me because of it. Gosh 🤦🏽♀️
The prom dresses kids wear now are WILD. I’m always like, “your school’s gonna let you wear this? really?!”😭
Also, I remember being SO uncomfortable when I got attention from grown men as a teenager…I literally wanted the floor to swallow me up. My mom thought it was funny when it happened, and would (playfully) tease me, like, “oh he likes you!” THIS would embarrass me even more. She’d grown up getting constant male attention from about 12/13yrs old, with the figure of a grown woman, so I think it was just normalized to her. I kinda wonder if these girls’ moms are the same, so now they don’t see how massively f**ked up it is for their daughters to be getting the same attention. They’ve been desensitized & think acting like this is a perfectly normal part of your teenage years.
As someone who never gets any attention from the opposite gender..well its kinda complicated here but i truly understand you. Its kinda scary how lack of or.. excessive attention can really impact someone.
When you dont get attention, you start to get desperate for it. Desperate for attention from ANYONE. But when you have it, you sort of start to get uncomfortable.
Anyways i wish you luck. Getting attention from the people of your age group is very nice but older than you..? Oof man thats f'ud up.
I remember when Kylie first started using Botox and fillers. My mom said that isn’t meant for young girls the purpose of it is for older women because there skin is losing elasticity in the skin. She said I guarantee it’s going to age her in the future. Now I keep seeing all these videos.
I say this everytimeeee! It's such a sad reality. Teens and Kids no longer experience childhood or adolescence as they should, like I did. Thank you for putting this out. You just got a follower.
Honestly this is terrible
And I blame the majority of this for modern rap, beauty standards, and men encouraging young girls to grow up and manipulate them into thinking it’s “Empowering”
‼️‼️ Over-sexualization (especially for teen girls) under the disguise of “empowerment” or “sexual liberation” is gross
This has nothing to do with men. More specifically the average men
Not just men, also women w internalized misogyny leading by example.
@@matthewtaylor00 yeah, adolescents don't need sexual liberation.
Yeah… that is why I don’t listen to it as much anymore. Drugs sex guns… and it repeats
In 2023 I worked as an Elementary School teacher, nowadays I'm 26 years old, it has been 9 years since I graduated from school. And make no mistake, when I was at school there was talk about sex and drinking, but I only became aware of what was sexual relationship when I was 14 or 15. When I was 11 years old I was ashamed of swearing, afraid of even showing the middle finger (because my mother said my finger would fall off if I did that).
In my work I saw children aged 11, 12 watching pornography in class, children aged 13 and 14 being sexually active... This is insane... Practically frightening, it's as if the children don't even have the freedom of their innocence. And with each passing year I want to have children less and less. There was social media when I was a teenager and pre-teen, but nowadays it has become unhealthy.
This is a huge reason why I homeschool, but I know that’s not an option for a lot of families. It’s horrible.
@@MyBoysAndJoys Yes, apart from the fact that in some countries this is illegal. Here in Brazil for example, if parents do not enroll their children in school by the age of 4, they can be arrested for child abuse.
@@gabriellipereiradiniz5504 That’s scary overreach of government power 😞
I agree, we used to watch Vines at home when we were teens. It's pretty wild out there now
@@MyBoysAndJoys Not really. Here in Germany homeschooling is illegal too because it's considered child abuse for various reasons. You can argue about those specific reasons, but preventing that is not an "overreach of government power". Maybe US Americans would consider it that way because children don't have any rights in the US, considering that the US refused to sign the declaration/treaty of children's rights (idk what it's called in English), but also because your school systems are f-ed, so it sounds understandable to take your child out of schools.
This commentary is on point. Young girls nowadays don’t have the privilege of “growing into their looks.” There’s no awkward phase, no ugly duckling phase, no grace period. It’s crazy when I see pictures of young girls at high school dances who look like they’re at least 21 years old. The dresses are sexy, the hair and makeup are all professionally done. Girls are wearing wigs in high school. There’s a lot going on now and too much pressure for young girls and women to fit a certain aesthetic.
What a brilliant video, you explained everything so well. Unfortunately, it’s all true and we have a lot of work to do as a society to make it a more child-friendly place. 💗
As a 15 yr old, it’s so frustrating. Especially not being one of these girls. I often find myself comparing myself to the other girls, especially if I get a crush. I wear baggy clothes, I like things from the 2000s, I’m really not all that girly other than wearing makeup. Everytime I get a crush, i usually think things like “oh, it make sense they like her”, “let’s be real you don’t have a chance”, or “they probably don’t like me”, mostly because girls like this. And I can’t blame them it’s the world around them, but it’s also affecting the other girls that happen to not be like that or even the boys. A lot of the guys at my school think that girls should always have a full face of makeup and that’s what’s attractive and the hold girls up to such a double standard.
Lord. 15 rounds for 15 I thought she meant FIGHTING and that's bad enough! What the actual fuck.
What does she mean ????
@@KA-ky9nb ....the other F word. It took me a minute to figure it out, even with the emojis because like WHAT.
It's just terrible and sad that a young girl would want that for herself...and where are her parents?!?
I thought she meant taking shots🥃😭
@@TheDucktowel I thought the same thing 💀
I was 18 and got pregnant by a man who was 33. I thought I knew EVERYTHING. Now I’m 30 and I wholeheartedly couldn’t imagine dating someone 18. We have nothing to talk about😂
I’m so happy I minimize how much my kids see online. The only thing they know is what other kids talk about in school and I’m okay with that
Now I’m at the end, the statement about you having a daughter eventually is soo real. I went to the hair salon for the first time in years. My daughter seeing my hair straight really bothered her because of her hair texture. She’s my twin but her hair is very different than mine. It ended up with me telling her she can try something different to see what she likes on herself. Self esteem and confidence starts in the home ❤
You still not married? 30 and still single goes to show you no accountability.
@@yessir880530 isn’t even old and not everyone wants to be married.
@@yessir8805agreed
These young girls want that kardashian image lifestyle. You can create a luxurious image without looking like a grown women.
Right? Like the clean girl aesthetic is so cute. I feel like that’s appropriate for a 16 year old..to an extent.
@@TT.3123 ‘clean girl aesthetic’ is already seen as something for rich girls/unattainable/boring so idk if it’s ever gonna be as big as being a boss bitch.
That takes too long though and requires inner work😂. They'll be 30 by that time.
Reaching your peak at 18 is crazy
im 15 and im told “im trying to be different “ because i dont wanna do what most kids my age do nowadays, but im proud of myself for leaving myself alone, being gentle with myself. i DO want to be different. this generation is lost. im not trying to be like that. i pray for everyone, even myself.
i didn’t even realize that there isn’t tween/teen spaces anymore but u r so right! justice and club penguin was EVERYTHING! like what do they have now?? ice spice and sexy red smh🤦♀️
The fact that Kylie is 26 and looks 40 is baffling 😮
It's not baffling
You know I can send you pic of girl who's 34 but looks 23
47 looks 30
At the same time a 28 looking like a 35
You need to get on the real world
Genes, how you dress and a lot of factors affect the way you look regardless of age
@@anayaa664except Kylie's is because she got so much surgery and fillers done
Damn then there's me who just turned 18 last month, never dated, can't even apply make-up never worn a weave/wig and still have and fit into some of the clothing I had when I was a tween😂😭
Congratulations last month and keep doing you 😊 as long as you’re nice to people around you and do your best at school/work good things will happen ❤
Im turning 20 and I just started getting into makeup, still haven’t dated or done drugs. What’s interesting is that because I haven’t done these things, my parents kinda see it as naive and weird. Like let me live, there’s definitely a pressure to get older not just from the teens, the adults too
Don’t even worry about it. I’m 25, never dated or lost my “virginity” (not bc I’m a prude, I just never felt the need to after coming to self awareness at 13)
Other than the dating part, that was me. Although I married the guy I was dating when were both 18, so that worked out. Unfortunately I was bullied for looking so much younger, but I don't care. Now in my 20s, I realize the things I was bullied for, are things I like. I've learned to accept myself, sew my own stuff, and be confident not fitting into trends. But it took a while. And even now there's still pressure. Just keep doing what works best for you, and don't let them bother you.
Don’t trip boo I’m married at 25 don’t wear makeup or wigs everyday nothing wrong for me since I’m older but I look young regardless and it’s a good thing people will respect that ❤
Children having kids this is the result. 😢They are not ready to parent appropriately but continue living their best life and getting their bag.
I remembered one of my sisters friend was surprised because my daughter ( who was 1 years old at the time) was wearing a Minnie Mouse outfit. She’s 1 for crying out loud, I hope there are other parents who would dressed their child accordingly to age. 🤦🏾♀️.
I also have seen where they have “Mommy& Me” outfits for girls and it’s too grown. There’s things I don’t even feel comfortable wearing now and I’m 35 years old!
as a 17 year old girl i have felt more ugly or different compared to other girls around my age resulting in me not feeling special and wondering if i even was in the first place. i'm trying to work on that and find myself out of things like beauty and wanting to keep up with the trends. part of me feels lucky that i can't relate to these girls. it's honestly pretty sad that girls feel like they have to do all this just to be pretty or popular and think that's they're whole purpose basically, they can't see themselves outside of that. humans are never just one thing, we're to complex for that, our brains are to complex for that. nobody is just ever one thing. i'm trying to find myself as a individual and trying not to worry to much about looks (even though it's easier said than done) and i want to be nobody but myself. that's one of the most important lessons i've learned is to be nobody but yourself, that's what makes someone special i think.
I’m in the same boat. I feel you, it’s like I feel beautiful but then I get to school and it wavers. I don’t have social media and compare myself to models, but I go to school with girls who do and I compare myself to them.
@@bugsbunni4200 i definitely understand that feeling, i basically know it like the back of my hand. comparing myself to others has been a really bad habit that i've struggled with these past few years but i'm trying to slowly but surely break it. it's not easy in the slightest and i find myself still doing it more times than i'd like to admit but i'm still trying to overcome it and i believe i will. i believe you will too, everyone is special and beautiful in their own way. there's not just ONE way of looking beautiful or being special because we all are in our own ways. being you and being yourself is what makes you special and beautiful i believe. once you find yourself than you'll unstoppable and you'll forget about everyone you felt inferior to, that's at least what i hope is true, i'll tell you if i ever find out 😭 but nonetheless you are still beautiful and as great as everyone else in the world, that i do know. good luck on the journey 🩷
Same…I always see girls with their makeup, hair, and clothing slayed (just like influencers). It just makes me more insecure about my looks even though I don’t have to be like everyone else, but if that’s the way to be pretty, then I say to myself I am ugly. Honestly, it doesn’t help being alone with no friends in school (social anxiety thing) pushing the feeling of “I’m ugly” even more.
33 year old women here, even the pretiest, women, feel insecure sometimes.
Dress, (do make up if you please) for your self, do not compare your self to any body but yourself.
I'm 2 years older than you and for the longest time felt the same. We likely grew up the same way (with minor differences since you're an 06), and I had the same mindset. Truth is, you are special. It just might feel like you're not because you don't look like everyone else online, I get that. But the truth is, you're probably beautiful, and will continue to blossom
Grew up in the Caribbean and honestly: “baddie” culture has been around for too long.But back then it was shunned by the west for being “ratchet” and “ghetto”. I remember girls in my school, being SIX and EIGHT throwing ass to fete music. When the dancing seasons came, they were out with their crop tops, shorts and weaves mimicking adults.
The most popular were the ones who parents let them have phones, braids and revealing clothes early. Extra points if you had a boyfriend or could bring boys round and could put on make up. Even my own mother, started talking to me about getting braids/weave and doing my edges at 12/13 because she was worried I’d get bullied. It was common as were boys doing drugs after schools and girls dropping out because they were pregnant at 15-17
The “baddie” aesthetic is a lifestyle wether or not you wish to admit it but it has a price, especially for the younger ones. So many throw their lives away to chase a dream. Every year, our form teachers would give us a speech about “Dont be a statistic”. Aunties and mommas were pulling out their hair.
However, now that it’s become so popular in the West they’re now realizing how bad the consequences are.
There’s nothing wrong with wearing braids. It just needs to be age appropriate
The kids singing the songs! Nooo no no no! Its awful. Its down to the parents but i feel for these children. They have to grow up in an awful world.
I'm about to turn 18 and I look nothing like that Chanel girl lol. I'm a bit thick, but a have a baby face and unless I dress up, people don't think I look very mature. I used to feel bad about that, but than I realized many people with full cheeks like mine look youthful when they're older
I'm surprised kylie Jenner hasn't been mentioned once in the video. I believe she is a major reason getting work done at a younger age is normalized. Not to mention her dating tyga. (I blame tyga and her parents for that tho)
Okay spoke too soon! 😂
Girl you know I do not be on TikTok 😭 but I understand the concerns of young women getting plastic surgery.
As a 23 year old woman myself. Seeing hoards of teen girls shopping at forever 21, windsor, etc is so uncomfortable for me because i’m sitting there like am I in the wrong store? I thought I was grown😭
Loll omg yes. Like I think to myself “why are we both here? Am I not dressing right for my age? “ just confusing. I’m also being mistaken for being so much younger than I am because they look so grown.
I get uncomfortable seeing very young girls in Victoria’s Secret.
Umm??? Forever 21 is a store for teens…
@@ZariahRiasTV Forever 1 is targeted to adults
@@meme-ih1wbreally because I go their and I see jeans and stuff like that and big t-shirts I even get sweaters to.
"When you are a woman and you center men, you are naturally aging yourself because you you're stressed" oooh🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
i am a teenager and i can say that seeing this is so sad. parents need to take control of their kids
The concept of dressing up in high school has been around. I graduated 2015, the black girls wore long weaves and the white girls wore tape ins. A lot of girls wore a face full of makeup as well. The dress codes were more stricter though, I think that’s the only difference. There is no force dress code in a lot of these schools now. I think the only difference is that social media is way more popular. We were hiding the acting grown, these new teens don’t give af nor do their parents.
I am currently 16 and the fact that girls my age are doing and posting this kind of stuff disgusts me
Fr! I have seen too much on social media from peers I see in school…
Me tooo I’m 16 too and this is truly sad to me
I hope you have a space to be comfortably 16. I feel so newly exposed to the realities of your generation of teens and it’s shocking me. I hope you teens are ok. ❤
As a 24 year old woman, I’d say stay your age and don’t fall for the trap. Your future self will love you for it. Be a child because that’s what you are, paint, draw, go outside, play video games, I even played with dolls till 15 - 16. Just be you ❤
I’m 15 and a girl a couple months older than me posted a selfie of her naked in a bathtub with bubbles barely covering her chest and I can’t believe I was jealous of her confidence
The 17 year old shocked me, but a close up of her face, with less make up on, you can tell how young she is.
Kids and teens do need spaces, but they’ also need to be more disciplined so that they aren’t acting a fool in public. The amount of times that I have seen fights or things getting ruined in public by teenagers is sad. I understand why they need adult supervision if they are under 16 for that reason
I’m glad that young women like you TONI are bringing all of this into our awareness. I’m a boomer and I would never know this existed until I stumbled on ur channel. I’m very interested in culture and our young people bc I come from childhood trauma and recovery work for years of my life. I think of myself as a child advocate especially victims of abuse and SA. Love and respect to you TONI for doing what ur doing.
I was told as a child that makeup ages you. I couldn’t wear it until 17 and I’m soooooo glad. Millennial here 😌
As a parent of a preteen girl, I believe we have to do our part to protect and guide our children. My 9 year old was getting teased in (sad to say) black schools because she was wearing non-designer sandals, had a child-like body, and wearing age-appropriate dresses in elementary! Her classmates wanted her to wear the latest Jordans, have a bigger booty/breasts, and have the typical aesthetic of a teen. She is pretty self-aware and did not let peer pressure get to her. Fortunately, she could talk to me about it and she survived their antics. We recently moved to another state for my job and it was the best decision ever to move from such an ignorant place. She is free to be herself now and happy. I know everyone doesn’t have the ability to just leave their hometown so they may just conform to avoid being bullied. With that being said, it is a collective ignorance that is being passed down from previous generations that is affecting our community. Unfortunately, I believe a lot of mothers/fathers are living vicariously through their kids. Our toxic belief as a parent is that we should give our kids everything we didn’t have access to. It’s actually unhealthy and shows how unhealed a lot of adults are. Children wouldn’t have access to designer items without their toxic parents trying to give them the life they didn’t have. It’s really sad. Social media has everyone pretending to be celebrities. Sad part is, a lot of influencers are sponsored and you only see them glamorizing their lifestyles for content (their job basically). Meanwhile, some of these teens parents’ are spending their last to make their children look like they have money.
I didn't need a bra until sophomore year and didn't get a period until I was 15 the same year. I got bullied so bad in the early 2000s. I also was an athlete which saved my literal soul and life. In the end looking back I'm glad I wasn't grown and popular.
You women soft is fuck
And here i thought i hated my adolescence. Im starting to appreciate what i had more, a normal childhood. Where all the kids dressed like kids & i didn't have to worry about instagram/tiktock. I had fun with my scene hair and emo phase & OG youtube & vine. The videos of those little girls singing those lyrics broke my heart. My generation have really failed their children. Im so glad i waited till my thrirties to start having kids. The best part of waiting is that I've gotten to observe the mistakes my generation (the ones who had kids in their early twenties) made. My kids won't be ipad babies, and the media they consume/social media will be limited/supervised.
It starts with the parents not setting boundaries and allowing the world to teach them
idk abt yall but im a minor and to me, glowing up is doing your hair, getting your nails done, ETC. It's not gonna make you "prettier", but youll feel prettier and refreshed. a glow up is more mental, like working on your self esteem, or taking time for yourself. Idk, thats how i "glow up" and I always feel better after i do.
I’m 17 right now, seeing a girl my age acting this grown is…freaky, it just doesn’t seem real. I’ve seen a lot of girls my age at school that look so much older than me…
What happened to enjoying the youth 😕
I don't agree with the argument that there are no spaces or places to shop for kids. There are so many shops that have kids/teen sections, toy stores, amusement parks, gaming arcades, etc. But kids aren't interested in going to those places, playing with toys or outside, wearing clothes with cartoons, etc, and it's not due to the lack of spaces for them, but due to the unlimited unsupervised access to the Internet. This allows them to see music that's not suitable for them, social media content about fashion and cosmetics that's aimed at adults, and all kids wanna do is imitate older people, because they think that is what makes them more popular... It all comes down to the parents, why are they allowing their kids to consume that content? Why are they giving their child a double bed? Why are they allowing their tweens long fake nails? Allowing underage cosmetic procedures? Allowing their teens to date people 10 years older? It's the parents lack of setting boundaries and keeping their kids in age appropriate behavior and atire that's the biggest issue.....
Besides that, there has always been a fixation of parents to brag about their child acting older, or being more ahead of what is normal for their age. From the moment they are born, parents report on and show off their kids skills, from telling everyone that they are "already" talking or walking or reading etc, cuz of a deep rooted societal belief that that makes our kids special and better than other kids. So it's no wonder, if parents praise kids for acting older, and the Internet urges kids to act older, no wonder this is the outcome....
Yeah you’re right a lot of parents are letting their kids do certain things that they can wait to do. Because it’s not the kids money, they can’t even work so who’s providing it? The parents. I see a lot of kids with older siblings act more like kids than the ones without them. I think it has to do with older siblings telling them something if their parents don’t
One concern I have is that every affordable place is usually something like Walmart where people shop for their kids. They just send trendy stuff for children. So there are going to be kids in tight stretchy clothes, crop tops, and mini skirts since they're back in fashion. All towns don't have affordable boutiques unfortunately. I really wish they did.
Everyone can't wear second hand clothes from thrift stores. Especially since there are vultures that get all the good stuff from thrift stores to resell at normal or higher than retail prices.
I'm not sure what needs to be done to solve this problem. It might be that community folks have to actually go back to helping people sew their own clothes. But that's more time consuming that what most modern people can bargain into their day or weeks. :/
@@Cupcakeslol23 A lot of these parents are failures for all of this bs.
Exactly. There are many kid stores still like Build a bear, Justice etc. I blame it on the parents. These parents are allowing their children to wear whatever they want and do whatever they want. These kids aren’t buying their own clothes. I taught elementary and kids are wearing crop tops and waist chains and the parents are normalizing it. These kids don’t have money to buy these things. They even have Fashion Nova for kids?! Like what?
@@katythebeauty330 idk, I had money as a kid to buy what I wanted. If the kids are going to the mall alone in groups that could be the reason they're dressing like adults if their parents aren't checking their bags. Walmart and target sells stuff like thst to kids too now.
Build a bear isn't really a clothing store. But I'm definitely glad to hear Justice still exists. Children's Place still exists, at least online thst I've seen. I wonder if kids are just scared to dress like kids bc they're going to get severely bullied for it if they do.
I don’t get why these creeps try to get with teens including 18 and 19. Teens (over 16) may look like adults, but mentally they aren’t. That includes 18-19 year olds.
Ever heard of sexual attraction? Ppl not always looking to date and marry🫡
Right ! Like I don’t understand and then ppl wanna argue with me about the same thing u said
Well not every 18-19 is mentally incapacitated and cant choose what theu want
So they can manipulate them. Older women will see through their lies, young girls won't.
@@TILIS214that doesn’t make having sex with 18-19 year olds okay. They aren’t mentally developed enough to decide if sex is really what they want at that point in their life.
The parents have a lot to answer for
The greatest lesson I learned from my grandmother was “what’s good for the goose is good for the gander”. She told me drinking is bad not because I was a child but because of what it does to a body. I never had the urge nor do I now as an adult surrounded by people addicted to various vices. I never had the urge for makeup because she never wore more than lipgloss and had the clearest skin I’ve ever seen. She told me I was beautiful so why would I hide behind a man made product that tells me I’m not. I’ve never worn makeup and have better skin than most girls that wear makeup. It was never an exclusive club thing for adults it was the truth. Children tend to pay attention to the vices we indulge so why be upset when it’s good for us.
Good on your Grandma! I'm 18 and I've never had a drink in my life, neither have my parents, siblings, and most of my friends. It's mainly because we grew up in a chruch that discouraged drinking and drugs. And let me tell you, I have never once felt Iike I was missing out. Don't do what everyone else us doing, do what you know is right and what you love.
I will say, pressure to grow up does not only come from social media. Today, there are many absent fathers and mothers, and that results in older siblings, specifically sisters, feeling the need to be adults.