Im married. Many years ago a man I knew, also married, was sweating me for an affair. He was a friend of my husband. I finally said" let me get this straight. I'm supposed to cheat on a good husband with my husbands traitor of a friend. When we are discovered, my husband dumps me, your wife forgives you. THEN you agree with HER that I'm a homewrecker, and you go tell all your boys how you played the stupid bitch and got what you wanted. Do I understand you properly? How is this a deal for me? What is MY benefit?". He got ANGRY, and called me a bitch for calling him out. Ladies, JUST BECAUSE A MAN WANTS TO USE YOU, IT IS NOT A COMPLIMENT. ITS ACTUALLY AN INSULT. LEARN IT FOR WHAT IT IS. When I was single, almost ALL men who approached me were married, engaged, or in COMMITTED relationships. I have ALEAYS found it insulting and disrespectful
The friend who said ''You ruined a marriage'' is actually shitty. The 'other woman' isn't the one who cheated. She was cheated/lied to just as much as the wife. The husband ruined the marriage, get it straight.
Exactly! I hate this narrative. The tale of the woman as „home wrecker“ is so misogynistic. I’d expect my husband who made a vow to not entertain another woman, even if she throws herself into him. She’d be despicable for doing it, but that would not mean 0 accountability for my partner.
SERIOUSLY! it's almost as if these XYs are putting literal spells on us to cause us to fight & blame one another as if THEY aren't 100% to blame. the other women hold blame but it's a whole different category of blame outside of that 100% that the male partner holds.
It's simple: married men are very bold about cheating because there is no accountability for their actions. They understand female socialization, which is to always blame the other woman for him cheating. Very rarely are men held accountable for cheating.
My rule for married men in my DMs was: “I’m going to play a game with you. Can you unmatch and block me before I look up your wife’s contact information and send her screenshots of this conversation? 😊”
I asked an older man upfront if he was married or had kids, and he told me ‘no’ to my face. He said he had “nieces” and one who “passed away” …. I found out a few weeks later that he was married, and his “nieces” were his daughters, that were in fact, both alive. And he lied about his age! These men are NASTY, just to get some from another woman, but if that woman is younger, they can be downright MENACING.
My friend was talking to a guy he said his wife dies and he’s still grieving her lost meanwhile she’s very much alive and other guy said he had no kids when she asked if he had adult children he said yea at a later time she was like I asked if you had children he was like they are over 20 their not kids lol these men are trash
They really are nasty. I'm glad you found out and didn't get entangled with that liar. Stay away from age gap relationships too. Those guys look for women who are younger than them to manipulate them. An older man being single is a red flag because usually they've been messing around all their life, and now that they're getting older, they want to find a younger woman to be their nurse and take care of them. If he's divorced, investigating the reason for the divorce is important. Hm...I don't really see a silver lining here. Men really need to do a complete 180 on their behavior, but they don't want to.
@@AniWho268 I definitely hear you! He was 40 (said he was 34) and had 11-year-old twin daughters. His wife was 33…. He definitely liked them younger, which is so eerie. I think he was having a mid-life crisis lmao, but that’s not for me to worry about! Thanks
It's a cautionary tale that hits close to home with me😒 I once was being heavily pursued by a miltary guy who spun a similar story. He claimed his wife had deceived him about their oldest son's paternity, leading to their separation and impending divorce. Married men often have the nerve to play the victim while hiding their own deceitful actions😡. Turns out, he had a whole family waiting in the wings, with four sons no less! He lied about his son not being his biologically. The lies just kept piling up. Lesson learned: never trust a smooth talker who can't keep his story straight! I found out about his lies through other multiple women he lied to . Sometimes he wouldn't even mention he'd ever been married or had kids to the various other women he lied to. Unreal.
Single dads use their single dad status to get women and they always have their over burdened mother doing everything a surrogate badly treated wife that they want you to be. I know no single dads that do what mums do.
This is why I don’t want to get married. Too many men see it as an open marriage for himself and monogamy only for the wife. Nah, I don’t want to be chosen, I’m chilling with the sisterhood.
Yeah I'm starting to re-think wanting to get married. Being single and celibate has kept me at peace. It's my last day of my mini vacation and the last thing I want is to get my heart broken by a dirt bag.
This literally just happened to me. This man was up in my face buying me drinks and followed me on IG. He has a wife and newborn. I felt so bad for her.
This is so true. I worked for a credit card company, and I answered the phone. The first thing I heard was a tearful man, crying and saying, "I love my wife, I love my wife." This fool had been charging up rooms, jewelry, lingerie, restaurants, hair salons, Sephora, nail shops, AND a cruise! The list goes on. He wanted me to delete the charges because his wife wanted to know why he had changed the online password for the bill. She wanted to see the charges and why THEIR payments to the card had gotten so much larger. Oh HE..WAS...CRRRRYYYYING. I told him I was not able to delete any charges or change the credit history. He was willing to pay the bill but just didn't want her to see what was charged. Nope. He hung up crying. If he really loved his wife, he wouldn't have done all that.
@Laoriginal718 I ACTUALLY said... Sir, even if I could hide the charges, the amounts wouldn't add up. I shook my head and said, "You're busted. Let me tell you. They can get images, too. This guy had a charge to a hotel room. His wife wanted to know why. He called up to the company (Providian), screaming and yelling, talking about its fraud. This is a fraudulent charge! I'm not paying for it! His wife is going off in the background. We offered to send him and his wife a picture of a brown haird man in slacks and a dress shirt accompanied by a blonde. He went SILENT. He said never mind all irritated and hung up. DO NOT CLAIM FRAUD IF YOU WERE THE ONE THAT DID IT. There WILL be an investigation. He took that fraud claim as far as he could until we offered him a color picture of them at the front desk.
@@DanaNoName at least someone who understands that there are crappy men and women. The way other women talk, you'll assume they were holy or something
I'm so glad I'm not the only one who thinks this way. I just cannot take them seriously! Cause obviously they do not respect women so idc what they have to say
*A little side note* : If you decide to talk to, date, or be in the presence of men just because you're bored, I will advise you to find some HOBBIES (plural). It usually doesn't end well, and you'll wish you never gave them a chance. Date when you're mentally ready and because you've chosen to, NOT because you're bored. We are NO LONGER using men as our entertainment placeholders
You both are correct. However, every woman isn't doing or going to be a part of the 4B movement. This was intended for women who still want to date men
@@IAMGROOT4EVA Honey idk why , but they should make these men sign legal papers or something definitely get life insurance with these husband's unaliving these wives / families like a sport
@goddessakina yea, it's scary dating men. You never truly know the real them. Life insurance and prenuptials are a must. I think we definitely need to separate from the opposite gender, if only temporarily
& married women will argue us DOWN that it’s better be married than not. Single women know more than anyone how many of these men disrespect their wives by trying to talk to us. Why would we want to sign up to be in their shoes? 😂
They fully expect their wife to wait on them hand and foot at home while they're free to live life as they please. Women are taught to center their life around a man. Men are taught to center their life around themselves.
same here, most men that flirt with me are married. Even at church, half the men are married, and they still grin and smile in my face while there wives are sitting in the pew.
@@leelee185 Modern day church is honestly turned into a place for bad people to feel good about the horrible things they've done and won't repent anytime soon. "I go to church, so I must be a good person, it excuses is all the abuse I inflict on other people." that's why I stopped going. Fake bitches.
Plz expose the cheater at all cost because in most cases the wife doesn’t know. No one is more single than a married narcissist who thinks his wife is “ never going anywhere”. Fools🤦🏾♀️
My soon to be Ex Husband is a Narcissist, this Man thinks he is Single every time he walks out of our front Door. Narcissistic Men are the biggest Cheaters ever, because they think they have a right to Cheat, and they don't feel any remorse or guilt for doing it.
I had a gay roommate who loved married men. He would meet them in the Walmart parking lots and have shmugs. The way that they would contact my roommate was they would send a picture of their manly bits with their hand showing their wedding band. The married men were married to women even though they were hooking up with a gay man in Walmart parking lot.
That is so disturbing on every level. I feel so sorry for most married women now. I always wonder what are people's marriages REALLY like, behind closed doors. So scary to think about
He can't get divorced from his wife. She is part of the reason he is getting noticed. It is called per-selection. Add to the fact, he is getting more out of the relationship than she is via birthing his children, housework, childcare, dual income ext. Yeah, he ain't going anywhere till she files for divorce, so she can finally get a break, based on the statistics.
@@meli7315Oh of course, why would a man file for divorce? He’s getting dual income, dual sex, his underwear washed and free childcare. In my opinion the only men that file for divorce are abusive men that need a one up.
The guys that I was talking to in college all have girlfriends and one of them confronted me saying that I was a h word for trying to steal her man when I had no clue that the guy was already taken so I told her that she should get mad at her man not me that shut her up.😊
I lived with a guy for a YEAR before finding out he was married! And that ONLY because his FRIEND "spilled the beans"! His wife lived 5 hours away and he was apprenticing as a mechanic in my city during the week which was how he was able to deceive me for so long. Of course, I was in my early 20s and never dreamed a man could be so BRAZEN.
It’s like looking for a job while you have a full time job.. nothing to lose.. dont get the job? No worries… you still got your current job… same energy from married men
Yooooo!! This literally just happened to my homegirl just on Monday!! She called me and was like “omgeee friend, please call me, I’m having a breakdown”. So I called and she tells me the guy that’s she been in a relationship with for 2 1/2 whole years is married. Mind you they hang out almost every other day. He comes out to hang out with us when we go out. He comes to where ever she is. He comes over to her house all the time. I mean it’s wild. He’s been telling her this whole time that his mom has cancer and is going thru chemo and come to find out it’s his wife that he was talking about. And she wonders why I’m an a-hole to men. They just don’t care. I feel bad for her. She is absolutely crushed.
I have to wonder, where do the wives think they are? Their lies are award winning. I'm so sorry for your friend. Background checks are mandatory in 2024.
@@kekef3620 what’s crazy is, he’s a DJ so he’s always on the go. But the times he’s not in the go, he was telling my friend that he was at the doctors office with his mom or at home taking care of his mom. So he was telling my friend that and that’s when he would be with his wife. He even takes her out of town for weekend get a ways. But I’m thinking he was probably telling his wife he was going on a gig.
So true. Dealing with men makes no sense to me. So many women are to lead to believe that marriage and men will lead to happiness when all too often, it leads to disaster.
It's not a trap. Loyalty and honesty are not traps. It holds you to your word like a contract should. This is telling me how dishonest God's people truly are.
The girl at 4:00 is spot on. Reminds me of that guy from Buzufeed who was always like "my wife this, my wife that", and then it turned out that he's cheating.
And this is why men need to be working 23 hours a day. They never put their free time to anything productive, so they just need to be tired, all the time
This is exactly why they fight tooth and nail on keeping things the way they are. They want to spend that free time doing exactly as they please, which obviously can including cheating.
Exactly. I hate when people call women "females" (as a noun), but they call men "men", not "males". They're dehumanizing women, likening us to non-human animals, while using the human-specific term for male humans. Another part of the objectification of women.
FAAAAAAACTS and the most generous and persistent men are married men. Ive tried to ignore and shoo them off THEY DONT CARE. I finally said screw it and got my tires replaced went on about my business. Might as well make use of my time then disappear. Being chosen is not a badge of honor yall can have it😂😂😂😂
A lot of them are bragging about how they’ll get everything when he passes. That’s not always true. A lot of men leave everything to their mistresses or their who*es, just to spite the wife because they never liked her.
@@ariaryayy7314there are benefits to being married. That mistress cant get, like my mom did, veterans benefit, retirement benefits, etc. There are legal constructs.
I was very young when I began working at a brothel (they’re legal in my country), and was shocked that at least 70% of my clients were married. About 1/3 of them booked me weekly. For so long I couldn’t understand how so many men are so scared of being single, they’d rather stay in an unhappy marriage. Once I got older and wiser I realised that they weren’t staying with their wives because of fear of being alone. They stayed out of convenience, getting to have their cake and eat it too. Even if their marriages weren’t good, most of them had kids. The only reason I can think of why they’d rather pay $500 for an hour with me than spend an hour hanging out with their kids is just selfishness. I’ll never marry a man who travels for business. Those guys were my bread and butter.
I dated a guy that told men he didn't have kids, 2 weeks later he said he had to go to his baby mama house to see his sons. He said he didn't tell me upfront that he had kids because he didn't think I would want to be with him. I told him I didn't want a man with children. I had nothing to do with him after that.
These men are a bunch of thieves. They know you would never deal with them if you knew the truth, but they insist on taking what they want from you under false pretenses. Without your consent. These men can fake whole entire relationships with you, have sex with you, promise you the stars, all while lying to you. This is like rape.
The "You ruined my marriage" is code for "You ruined my delusion!" A lot of times, desperate women find ways to lock down men who aren't faithful because they fear being alone or starting over. They think that marriage will curb his feral philandering, and when someone comes along and exposes him, it exposes said desperate wife's delusion at the same time.
My ex always held over my head his parents are married. He always said he wanted to be like his dad and basically have a house slave like his mom. I recently found out his father follows only fans and cam girls on Instagram publicly. The irony was funny as fuck. He talked about his parents' union like a blueprint to life. They are just narcissistic Awipes with money and no values. Extremely happy I walked away I rather cry dolo and heal than in a Bentley with no loyalty in sight.
Poor men cheat MORE because they need a place to stay and go 50/50 and they have nothing to lose, they can jump to the next woman’s house in a flash. Income really doesn’t matter.
They get more perks married than single. And that's why they hate women because they feel they can't elevate without women, on their own, despite them needing women energetically more than women need men. Women need to accept this and move differently.
If it’s one thing a man will have is the audacity. Never reach for the other woman’s neck, majority of the time they probably don’t know he’s married or committed or he lies to her with a straight face. I know this from experience. They will also give you the wildest excuses for why they got married. First thing I’m asking for is an id with an address, no exceptions.
The money management of these men is what really should be studied. These men have a wife and 4 kids living in the suburbs of 1 state, they are setting up girls around the country in luxury condos, AND they pay to hide all of their misdeeds. Not to mention MISSING WORK to cheat OUT OF STATE!! And half the time they are just your regular neighborhood business manager. How, sir? How?
That’s not the majority. Most are dusty AF with a ton of excuses. Some use coupons or Groupons for these restaurants. Some use the money that is also their wives money . A lot of PickMe’s will pay for things when he has a good lie lol. The men as you stated are not the neighborhood dusty. When I was 19 I dated a man who CLAIMED he was 25 or so. His wife worked I think overnight, I can’t remember it was so long ago I’m 40 now. Anyway, he had me over to his HUGE house , took me on his out of town work trips , I mean completely worked everything around his wife and her schedule to carry out his con 🤨 Ohio and FYI I had no clue he was married, I was young and naive and believed any dam thing 😐
I can attest to this. That’s why I don’t ever envy married women. Their husbands stay in single women’s DMs. Sending me messages for what sir “Do you have a man?! “no but you have a wife” 😒 It’s so embarrassing and gross.
I went on a tinder date and I suddenly had a very strong feeling that the guy was married. I asked him and he said “no but I’ve a partner and 2 small kids”. He said his wife (no marriage contract but married in my book) was ok with it. My children are adults but believe me couple who work and have small kids have almost no time. His wife was looking after the kids while he was having a date with me. The date lasted 20 minutes and I was out of there.
When I found my ex man's texts and messages with another woman in Australia... His excuse was that it's not really cheating because they never met in real life 😮 .... Wtf? Yes tf that absolute is cheating! And the ridiculous amount of lies he told this woman!!! Like he just made up a whole different personality, job, hobbies and basically living in a fantasy of his own imagination! He blew up our very REAL relationship, family and life together. For someone he never met, and didn't actually know the real him! What pissed me off the most, was the lies he told about our children and the type of father he is! He pretty much ignored me and the children. Never came with us to the park, played ball, coloring played games etc.... But he told her that HE was the one who did all that stuff and I was the one who ignored him and the children!!!!!😡😡😡😡
They are extremely good at stringing us along. Once I figured out things weren't adding up, I confronted him. He had the audacity to say he was afraid to tell me he is married. Rofl. This was 2 years ago. To this day, he calls periodically only to find out that he is FOREVER blocked.
Aaaaaand THIS is one huge reason why women network together to see if the guy they are thinking about dating is already with someone else. There could be a whole series on the stories of women exposing these cheaters. Also, they are big mad that we are doing it too. 😂
I've experienced this once. I met a man that was great from the jump. He was texting day and night, calling, and meeting me for multiple dates. I wasn't ready to go to his place or have him to mine while dating him. Luckily we never went down a sexual route. It slipped out of his mouth by accident "his wife" blah blah blah. I was like, your wife?? What??? "Oh yea, it's not really working out though, while I'm with you right now." I said hmmm. Left the restaurant and never looked back. Yuck.
Marriage is scary these days. I’ve heard it all from “ I’m only married on paper”, “I’m separated and she does her own thing”, “I live with my cousin and her son (she was his wife and they have 3 kids)”, “I’m separated and we have our own homes”. Men will say anything to get what they want and even have the nerve to get upset when you say you want a single man. BTW the only home wrecker is the person who’s married and saying “it takes 2 to tangle” to shift blame to the side piece only applies if you know the other person personally.
True but i know plenty faithful relationships they just quiet about it. Cheating or bad marriages are always loud and good ones are usually quiet. It is what it is
Say it LOUDER for the fools in the back. A lot of us married folks living quite happy over here. Plus, no one believes you anyway when you say you’re loving your life as a married person so, you just keep it quiet and enjoy your life you are blessed with. 😊💯
@@sg5720nothing wrong with that 🫶🏽🙏🏽☺️ But there are ppl who claim their “happy and in a healthy marriage” that steady stay on line and in single ppls business. There is no way to be with someone, engaged in activities, or helping out a spouse - if one is on social media and in DMs. This is why we share our stories. Married men are the biggest demographic in our DMs, messages, and are on dating apps. That’s just a real lived reality. Not sure why 🤷🏽♀️. But again we know it’s not all, so we share what to look out for.
Most men like to act single when it's convenient for them. I dated a guy like this, he would brag about our relationship with certain people and not so much with others and I realized what he was doing. If you want to be single, then for crying out loud be single so you can portray yourself the way you want to. Don't waste people's time and play with their emotions.
Regarding dating men with kids if you dont have kids...NEVER DO IT. 1. There's a very good reason his child's mother doesn't want him. Rejecting him goes against every womans instinct to keep the family together. 2. Your needs will NEVER come first. Plan a nice date with your man...nope! kids sick , upset? deal with it. 3. Get used to having a sister wife...the childs mother will make a lot of decisions in your relationship... and if she is jealous she will try to use her child to compete with you. Expect calls in the middle of the night to handle questionable situations... flat tire or plumbing issue....does it involve the childs safety...debatable. 4. The man will always have access to the childs mother and 9/10 times they are still having sex. They may even be laughing at you with each other. 5. He likely doesnt have as much money, child support. Its never nice hearing what he can't afford for you but his childs mother is always paid by law. Oh and if you make a little money she will likely try to get more money in child support. 6. Expect to be a free babysitter. Also contrary to the stereotype, not every stepmother is evil....some kids are seriously menaces. 7. If you dont have kids you look desperate dating a man who does. Why volunteer to clean up another womans trash?
Been here. I used to think that men with kids were my only options, they were the only ones who ever approached me, so I always gave them a chance. Haven't dated in 7 years and abstinent for 10. It grosses me out to think of the number of women a man's likely been with now.
Oddly specific, who hurt you? Kids are not trash, first off. My coworker is a 21 year old woman who just married a man with 3 young sons. She is an incredible mom to those boys. Their mother is a deadbeat who can stay clean or keep the boys away from creepy males. My coworker and her husband are fighting for full custody of the boys. My friend has PCOS and is unable to have children and this union had given her the babies she's always wanted. Not every situation is the same. My dad was a single dad with 3 kids. My mother left to go be a prostitute. My dad remarried and they've been together for almost 40 years now 🤷♀️
@@dy9300 Your friend needs to find someone who at least has more money than that guy. Or get someone also childless and adopt. I'll be damned if I'm raising kids that ain't mine. Barrenness in included.
Who is married the one that didn't have to change his last name or the one that did have to change her last name? Marriage is just to make sure that he has a spare woman at home.
I've been saying this for years! Married men are some of the most eligible Bachelors you'll ever meet. My ex-husband being one of them🙃 Marriage has been made a mockery. I've had more honest relationships just as a girlfriend.
Married men date the most …. Very rarely truly single guys approach I am not interested been out the dating game since 2018 ..fyi I have worked in a std clinic it’s crazy out here read the CDC reports it’s crazy
yes, please ladies...as a nurse I encourage you to read that...and it NEVER ENDS. Even in assisted living facilities, one in three has an STD. These old men, lose their wives and then go to their local working girl unprotected and then spread it within the facility. These are apartments, I'm talking, not a long term care unit. I've seen them come in to the doctor's office at 80 with cly-mid or gone-noe and then turn around and request a referral for a peens prosthetic at the age of 85, it is ridiculous, until the day they are no longer on this earth, they are led around by it.
I am a nurse as well the people that are catching stds the most are actually in relationships since after months or years they stop using condoms because their in a relationship not to say single people don’t catch diseases but the amount of people in relationships makes me think wtf…these men don’t care about their health at all the only std they care about HIV and they rarely want to give consent to get tested for it since that’s a separate consent …coming to the std clinic and not wanting to get tested for HIV is insane 🥴🥴
If married men don’t even care about their union, our boyfriends aren’t any better. They have even less commitment so they’re defined out there ladies.
Those unhealthy husbands are some of the most deceitful devils, and they seek to ruin other women's lives. Need more women like the one Steve McNair had...
My friend was dating a guy for a few months. She was going on a weekend roadtrip with him and they stopped at a gas station. He went inside and she waited in the car. She needed a napkin and opened his glovebox. There was a piece of mail with a different male name on it. She googled the name. Facebook profile came up with a picture of him with his wife and 2 little kids. He gave her a fake name and had a family.
I’ve dated three married men (didn’t know till the end). Side chicks get paid a lot and I felt cheated so the last guy, I found the wife’s social media and linked in, sent it to him and told him to send me $2k or I’m sending screenshots to his wife. Needless to say I got paid! We have to start holding these men accountable
It's true, I saw it all of the time when I worked at a hospital as a front desk receptionist. I use to get free dinner & stuff all the time when the married guy want to flirt while their s/o in the back being seen by the dr. 1 time I saw a guy trying to get a nurse number while his girlfriend was in the mother/baby unit after giving birth smh.
This is why the phrase ‘single women keep other women single’ annoy me.. it’s actually those who are in relationships/married who keep me single by destroying my trust 😅
Married men like to cheat with single women. They don't cheat with other married women for fear of the husband. So, when my husband and I were separated and on the edge of divorce, multiple married men approached me. At that time, i stopped wearing my ring. It was bad, but counseling (that he found and paid for) helps us through. When I told them I'm separated and pending divorce, they would say well call me when the divorce is final 🥴
The time factor. Thats the one I want to know about. How do they have the time. I have a 40 hour work week, sometimes I work more then 40. But the standard is 40. But after work I sit in traffic for 1.5 hours, get home,take care of my dog, go to the gym and then come home and cook dinner. Then I watch some tv and go to bed. My weekends are for cleaning, grocery shopping, home projects. Sometimes I go out with friends and even hitting a 6 630 dinner is alot to schedule into my simple routine. How do these men have rime to go on dates and "hang out". Sounds like they dont work hard enough in life
Married men who do this are usually aware that their wives arent going anywhere. Also the wives are checked out of the marriages but remain for the sake of the family. They may love each other but they arent in love anymore and she looks for fulfillment elsewhere and he does too. The married men are emboldened because they know the woman isnt going anywhere and the married women are secure because they know he will always provide and be there for the children
The friend who blamed you for ruining the marriage is madd suspect. She's either messing with the husband too or wants to. Either way, not a wise friend.
Story time of how I found out another woman was pregnant for my long distance bf....yes, for real. Sad that almost every woman has one or more of these stories.
Honestly if a man has children that aren’t even in elementary school yet, this is a he!! no. Because either he is so unprincipled that he can’t even try for four years to provide a two parent household. Or he is still dealing with the mother.
@@cynthiakila1161 actually children need their parents most in their teenage years and a large number of men also abandon their teenage children. So I'm just saying, it doesn't matter what age, if his children are not living with him or in his live fully AND he does not have a good relationship with the mother where she is able to talk with you freely, there are likely some skeletons with him. Trust your instinct.
This is soooo true.. I worked with several men that are married and some of them didn’t even wear rings or talked about it. They moved and acted as if they were single 😂 dating, infidelity at its finest, taking females shopping etc. and once I found out that they were married they hated me because I’m the “how’s your wife and kids” person 😂 but to be honest.. a lot of females don’t care if a dude is married because it makes them feel happy to sleep with someone else’s man. It’s like a “one up” on the wife, but they’re out her dating while married, complaining about their wives but not getting a divorce and they secretly hate/dislike their wives as well
"She's my wife but we are just friends" that's not even a clown, that's a whole goddamn circus 😭😭😭
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For real 🤡 🎪
Yet I've heard it before!
Lol
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Im married. Many years ago a man I knew, also married, was sweating me for an affair. He was a friend of my husband. I finally said" let me get this straight. I'm supposed to cheat on a good husband with my husbands traitor of a friend. When we are discovered, my husband dumps me, your wife forgives you. THEN you agree with HER that I'm a homewrecker, and you go tell all your boys how you played the stupid bitch and got what you wanted. Do I understand you properly? How is this a deal for me? What is MY benefit?". He got ANGRY, and called me a bitch for calling him out. Ladies, JUST BECAUSE A MAN WANTS TO USE YOU, IT IS NOT A COMPLIMENT. ITS ACTUALLY AN INSULT. LEARN IT FOR WHAT IT IS. When I was single, almost ALL men who approached me were married, engaged, or in COMMITTED relationships. I have ALEAYS found it insulting and
disrespectful
That's exactly what it is, insulting and disrespectful
Yes it is very disrespectful
It IS insulting…
I hope you told your husband 😆 I would like to know what his reaction was
CHILEEEE IM GLAD YOU DECIDED NOT TO BE USED LIKE A DOORKNOB BECAUSEEEE WHEWWW...THAT WOULDVE BEEN EMBARRASSING
The friend who said ''You ruined a marriage'' is actually shitty. The 'other woman' isn't the one who cheated. She was cheated/lied to just as much as the wife. The husband ruined the marriage, get it straight.
She did right to tell the wife. I do this whenever a married man aproaches me. I would want to be told myself. Do unto others etc
Exactly! I hate this narrative. The tale of the woman as „home wrecker“ is so misogynistic. I’d expect my husband who made a vow to not entertain another woman, even if she throws herself into him. She’d be despicable for doing it, but that would not mean 0 accountability for my partner.
SERIOUSLY! it's almost as if these XYs are putting literal spells on us to cause us to fight & blame one another as if THEY aren't 100% to blame.
the other women hold blame but it's a whole different category of blame outside of that 100% that the male partner holds.
One day, we will all get it right
That young chick is a goddamn American hero!
It's simple: married men are very bold about cheating because there is no accountability for their actions. They understand female socialization, which is to always blame the other woman for him cheating. Very rarely are men held accountable for cheating.
yep👏👏👏👏👏
Yep the nunber of women who called me when they caught their husband's cheating
Yes and the women stay until they catch a disease or he files for divorce
It’s disgusting 🤮 and women fall for it every time.
Bingo.
My rule for married men in my DMs was: “I’m going to play a game with you. Can you unmatch and block me before I look up your wife’s contact information and send her screenshots of this conversation? 😊”
Lol, I love it. 😂❤
You should contact the wives anyways, I feel like a lot of them don’t care and enable the cheating husband but it’s still good to know what he’s doing
Haha 😂
@@missede96Exactly
That's my strategy...it works like a charm😂
This is 💯. I'm in my 50s now, but when I was younger, married men hit on me frequently. They are the original 304s.
Yep truth
They have been hitting on me since I was 13
Whenever men say negative things about women and call women names, they're talking about themselves.
FACTS
In my 20s they were ALL OVER ME. Disgusting pigs. 40 and up
I asked an older man upfront if he was married or had kids, and he told me ‘no’ to my face. He said he had “nieces” and one who “passed away” …. I found out a few weeks later that he was married, and his “nieces” were his daughters, that were in fact, both alive. And he lied about his age! These men are NASTY, just to get some from another woman, but if that woman is younger, they can be downright MENACING.
My friend was talking to a guy he said his wife dies and he’s still grieving her lost meanwhile she’s very much alive and other guy said he had no kids when she asked if he had adult children he said yea at a later time she was like I asked if you had children he was like they are over 20 their not kids lol these men are trash
They really are nasty. I'm glad you found out and didn't get entangled with that liar. Stay away from age gap relationships too. Those guys look for women who are younger than them to manipulate them. An older man being single is a red flag because usually they've been messing around all their life, and now that they're getting older, they want to find a younger woman to be their nurse and take care of them. If he's divorced, investigating the reason for the divorce is important. Hm...I don't really see a silver lining here. Men really need to do a complete 180 on their behavior, but they don't want to.
@@AniWho268 I definitely hear you! He was 40 (said he was 34) and had 11-year-old twin daughters. His wife was 33…. He definitely liked them younger, which is so eerie. I think he was having a mid-life crisis lmao, but that’s not for me to worry about! Thanks
It's a cautionary tale that hits close to home with me😒 I once was being heavily pursued by a miltary guy who spun a similar story. He claimed his wife had deceived him about their oldest son's paternity, leading to their separation and impending divorce. Married men often have the nerve to play the victim while hiding their own deceitful actions😡. Turns out, he had a whole family waiting in the wings, with four sons no less! He lied about his son not being his biologically. The lies just kept piling up. Lesson learned: never trust a smooth talker who can't keep his story straight! I found out about his lies through other multiple women he lied to . Sometimes he wouldn't even mention he'd ever been married or had kids to the various other women he lied to. Unreal.
Single dads use their single dad status to get women and they always have their over burdened mother doing everything a surrogate badly treated wife that they want you to be. I know no single dads that do what mums do.
This is why I don’t want to get married. Too many men see it as an open marriage for himself and monogamy only for the wife. Nah, I don’t want to be chosen, I’m chilling with the sisterhood.
4B all the way
Yeah I'm starting to re-think wanting to get married. Being single and celibate has kept me at peace.
It's my last day of my mini vacation and the last thing I want is to get my heart broken by a dirt bag.
@@ghettogreenbeann yep or catch a std why I went 4B
4B Forever girlies! ❤@@77kc_77
EXACTLY. 4B 🙌🏾
This literally just happened to me. This man was up in my face buying me drinks and followed me on IG. He has a wife and newborn. I felt so bad for her.
Wow. These men sink so low.
Now… that’s depressing
Yep they have no shame or care
That's low af
They want side chicks and mistresses
This is so true. I worked for a credit card company, and I answered the phone. The first thing I heard was a tearful man, crying and saying, "I love my wife, I love my wife." This fool had been charging up rooms, jewelry, lingerie, restaurants, hair salons, Sephora, nail shops, AND a cruise! The list goes on. He wanted me to delete the charges because his wife wanted to know why he had changed the online password for the bill. She wanted to see the charges and why THEIR payments to the card had gotten so much larger. Oh HE..WAS...CRRRRYYYYING. I told him I was not able to delete any charges or change the credit history. He was willing to pay the bill but just didn't want her to see what was charged. Nope. He hung up crying. If he really loved his wife, he wouldn't have done all that.
Right! POS
That is why women need to stop going 50/50 with men. They will spend their money and yours on bullshit. Men don't need help, they need hardship
sheeeesh
Facts. The only good man is a faithful man and THAT is why good men are rare.
@Laoriginal718 I ACTUALLY said... Sir, even if I could hide the charges, the amounts wouldn't add up. I shook my head and said, "You're busted. Let me tell you. They can get images, too. This guy had a charge to a hotel room. His wife wanted to know why. He called up to the company (Providian), screaming and yelling, talking about its fraud. This is a fraudulent charge! I'm not paying for it! His wife is going off in the background. We offered to send him and his wife a picture of a brown haird man in slacks and a dress shirt accompanied by a blonde. He went SILENT. He said never mind all irritated and hung up. DO NOT CLAIM FRAUD IF YOU WERE THE ONE THAT DID IT. There WILL be an investigation. He took that fraud claim as far as he could until we offered him a color picture of them at the front desk.
Keep exposing them. I can't wait for women to give up entirely
Same
@@DanaNoName at least someone who understands that there are crappy men and women. The way other women talk, you'll assume they were holy or something
@@nedumnwanze4120 They are holy compared to men
I don't care what message a man may have, once they call a woman "female" and a man is called a man, I stop listening. 🙄
Yes! It's automatic cut off at that point.
I'm so glad I'm not the only one who thinks this way. I just cannot take them seriously! Cause obviously they do not respect women so idc what they have to say
💯
Married men are the true dating predators. They approach single women with entitlement
*A little side note* : If you decide to talk to, date, or be in the presence of men just because you're bored, I will advise you to find some HOBBIES (plural). It usually doesn't end well, and you'll wish you never gave them a chance. Date when you're mentally ready and because you've chosen to, NOT because you're bored. We are NO LONGER using men as our entertainment placeholders
4B women aren't dating xys 😂 I think it's best to leave them alone esp if you go 4B
You both are correct. However, every woman isn't doing or going to be a part of the 4B movement. This was intended for women who still want to date men
@@IAMGROOT4EVA Honey idk why , but they should make these men sign legal papers or something definitely get life insurance with these husband's unaliving these wives / families like a sport
@goddessakina yea, it's scary dating men. You never truly know the real them. Life insurance and prenuptials are a must. I think we definitely need to separate from the opposite gender, if only temporarily
That's fair. Men will take whatever they can get and still make you regret it
& married women will argue us DOWN that it’s better be married than not. Single women know more than anyone how many of these men disrespect their wives by trying to talk to us. Why would we want to sign up to be in their shoes? 😂
Exactly and look like a dayum fool
@ibuymyownroses Great point!!
Not true... Many married women speak up openly trying to warn young(er) women but guess what?! They're not even taken seriously...🙈🙈
Amen!!!! So true!
Imagine having to be paranoid about your husband having an affair with a woman OR man… that’s the dilemma these days… DL married men.
“She’s my wife but we’re just friends” is *WILD* 😂
Some men who are married only veiw it as a convince, safety net, and social pressure.😊
Some? 😂
They fully expect their wife to wait on them hand and foot at home while they're free to live life as they please. Women are taught to center their life around a man. Men are taught to center their life around themselves.
@missede96 girl this I laughed when she said some 😂😂😂😂😂
When she says some, I think she means 99.9%😂
Yep. It's NEVER about love for them, EVER.
i hate when they blame the person confronting the cheater, saying they ruined the couple's relationship. like dude, the cheater ruined it.
Most often the WIFE gets blamed for her husband's betrayal... 🙈🙈🙈 Make it make sense! 😮
It’s shame, they don’t want to feel like the pos they are so they blame others
Narcissistic men: it’s okay for me to cheat on my woman
But she can’t CHEAT ON ME OR ELSE
Better to assume they are all married than all single.
Or assume they ALL have at least someone that they are having se(x) with.
I don’t believe men when they say they are single single . 🤨
@@PettyIsMyMiddleNameMen are never single single
Men won’t even wait until the beds cold to replace you when you die 😅
@@77kc_77what about the endless incels and chronic blue balls most of the guys are know are chronic virgins 😂
@@77kc_77never ever, single.
I’ve been single for 10 years and I’ve only been approached by married men. It’s horrible!
same here, most men that flirt with me are married. Even at church, half the men are married, and they still grin and smile in my face while there wives are sitting in the pew.
@@leelee185 Modern day church is honestly turned into a place for bad people to feel good about the horrible things they've done and won't repent anytime soon. "I go to church, so I must be a good person, it excuses is all the abuse I inflict on other people." that's why I stopped going. Fake bitches.
I wish there was married man repellent!!
Married men seem to always be everywhere but present and active in their marriage. 🙂↔️
It is being studied. They say some 60% of people on dating apps are married.
No one is more single than a married man.
Plz expose the cheater at all cost because in most cases the wife doesn’t know. No one is more single than a married narcissist who thinks his wife is “ never going anywhere”. Fools🤦🏾♀️
Yes. I like the fact that other women are looking out for other women are exposing the cheating men.
My soon to be Ex Husband is a Narcissist, this Man thinks he is Single every time he walks out of our front Door.
Narcissistic Men are the biggest Cheaters ever, because they think they have a right to Cheat, and they don't feel any remorse or guilt for doing it.
The woman telling the wife didn’t ruin a marriage, the person stepping out is the problem
I bet the wife's best friend was projecting and has slept with him but angry she did not tell her friend.
I had a gay roommate who loved married men. He would meet them in the Walmart parking lots and have shmugs. The way that they would contact my roommate was they would send a picture of their manly bits with their hand showing their wedding band. The married men were married to women even though they were hooking up with a gay man in Walmart parking lot.
My gay friends too ger chased. Once a guy offered my friend £10k.
That is so disturbing on every level. I feel so sorry for most married women now. I always wonder what are people's marriages REALLY like, behind closed doors. So scary to think about
Woahhhh
Omfg
Gays are also still men, ig
He can't get divorced from his wife. She is part of the reason he is getting noticed. It is called per-selection. Add to the fact, he is getting more out of the relationship than she is via birthing his children, housework, childcare, dual income ext. Yeah, he ain't going anywhere till she files for divorce, so she can finally get a break, based on the statistics.
70% Women claim a divorce that’s all we need to know
@@meli7315Exactly
@@meli7315Oh of course, why would a man file for divorce? He’s getting dual income, dual sex, his underwear washed and free childcare. In my opinion the only men that file for divorce are abusive men that need a one up.
The guys that I was talking to in college all have girlfriends and one of them confronted me saying that I was a h word for trying to steal her man when I had no clue that the guy was already taken so I told her that she should get mad at her man not me that shut her up.😊
At this point, men and lies are synonymous.
Women cheat to and lie just as much it's not gender specific 😅
They just can't be taken seriously or trusted.
I lived with a guy for a YEAR before finding out he was married! And that ONLY because his FRIEND "spilled the beans"! His wife lived 5 hours away and he was apprenticing as a mechanic in my city during the week which was how he was able to deceive me for so long. Of course, I was in my early 20s and never dreamed a man could be so BRAZEN.
Wow! Low Down 👎🏻👎🏻
This is why women need to do 4B. There is nothing good for a man that women can get from them.
It’s like looking for a job while you have a full time job.. nothing to lose.. dont get the job? No worries… you still got your current job… same energy from married men
Exactly!
Yooooo!! This literally just happened to my homegirl just on Monday!! She called me and was like “omgeee friend, please call me, I’m having a breakdown”. So I called and she tells me the guy that’s she been in a relationship with for 2 1/2 whole years is married. Mind you they hang out almost every other day. He comes out to hang out with us when we go out. He comes to where ever she is. He comes over to her house all the time. I mean it’s wild. He’s been telling her this whole time that his mom has cancer and is going thru chemo and come to find out it’s his wife that he was talking about.
And she wonders why I’m an a-hole to men. They just don’t care. I feel bad for her. She is absolutely crushed.
I have to wonder, where do the wives think they are? Their lies are award winning. I'm so sorry for your friend. Background checks are mandatory in 2024.
@@kekef3620 what’s crazy is, he’s a DJ so he’s always on the go. But the times he’s not in the go, he was telling my friend that he was at the doctors office with his mom or at home taking care of his mom.
So he was telling my friend that and that’s when he would be with his wife. He even takes her out of town for weekend get a ways. But I’m thinking he was probably telling his wife he was going on a gig.
How horrible!
This is sick….
Marriage is a joke. 😂 Why sign away your independence like that? It's a trap!!!
So true. Dealing with men makes no sense to me. So many women are to lead to believe that marriage and men will lead to happiness when all too often, it leads to disaster.
It's not a trap. Loyalty and honesty are not traps. It holds you to your word like a contract should. This is telling me how dishonest God's people truly are.
Exactly 💯
Definitely a trap
A trap and scam !
The girl at 4:00 is spot on. Reminds me of that guy from Buzufeed who was always like "my wife this, my wife that", and then it turned out that he's cheating.
The “my wife” husbands are the ones who cheat the most 🎯🎯
Ugh, yes Ned😡
I knew he was overcompensating from the get go. It wasn’t surprising to me when the news came out. Always the best sign.
I remember when thar came out 😅 I was like "wait...Ned? As in TRY GUY WIFE GUY NED!"
The men haven time is because they're not doing any of the House work or childcare.
And this is why men need to be working 23 hours a day. They never put their free time to anything productive, so they just need to be tired, all the time
This is exactly why they fight tooth and nail on keeping things the way they are. They want to spend that free time doing exactly as they please, which obviously can including cheating.
r/MenAndFemales 🙄
The word 'women' is the same number of syllables. It's not freaking hard to not use dehumanizing language
Anytime I hear a man say female or females all I hear him saying is b!shes and I will automatically tune him out lol
🎉 Exactly 💯
Exactly. I hate when people call women "females" (as a noun), but they call men "men", not "males". They're dehumanizing women, likening us to non-human animals, while using the human-specific term for male humans. Another part of the objectification of women.
And girls are children
I was thinking the same thing
FAAAAAAACTS and the most generous and persistent men are married men. Ive tried to ignore and shoo them off THEY DONT CARE. I finally said screw it and got my tires replaced went on about my business. Might as well make use of my time then disappear. Being chosen is not a badge of honor yall can have it😂😂😂😂
So you slept with him or did you finesse him into thinking that it was going down eventually?
A lot of them are bragging about how they’ll get everything when he passes. That’s not always true. A lot of men leave everything to their mistresses or their who*es, just to spite the wife because they never liked her.
@@ariaryayy7314Exactly 💯 I've been pamperd by married MEN
Have a text app internet number. Easier to disappear.
@@ariaryayy7314there are benefits to being married. That mistress cant get, like my mom did, veterans benefit, retirement benefits, etc. There are legal constructs.
I know I’m married, but we are just friends.
-every other married man.
The most persistent, the nastiest, the most aggressive and the most diabolical.
I was very young when I began working at a brothel (they’re legal in my country), and was shocked that at least 70% of my clients were married. About 1/3 of them booked me weekly. For so long I couldn’t understand how so many men are so scared of being single, they’d rather stay in an unhappy marriage.
Once I got older and wiser I realised that they weren’t staying with their wives because of fear of being alone. They stayed out of convenience, getting to have their cake and eat it too.
Even if their marriages weren’t good, most of them had kids. The only reason I can think of why they’d rather pay $500 for an hour with me than spend an hour hanging out with their kids is just selfishness.
I’ll never marry a man who travels for business. Those guys were my bread and butter.
But they will gaslight women and say WE SHOULD have chose better. WTF
I was just talking to my friends about this. Married men are the most single men I've ever met smh.
I dated a guy that told men he didn't have kids, 2 weeks later he said he had to go to his baby mama house to see his sons. He said he didn't tell me upfront that he had kids because he didn't think I would want to be with him. I told him I didn't want a man with children. I had nothing to do with him after that.
These men are a bunch of thieves. They know you would never deal with them if you knew the truth, but they insist on taking what they want from you under false pretenses. Without your consent. These men can fake whole entire relationships with you, have sex with you, promise you the stars, all while lying to you. This is like rape.
15:37 blaming the woman instead of the man 🙄 we need to do better
A lot of wives do this then the husband start cheating MORE
The "You ruined my marriage" is code for "You ruined my delusion!" A lot of times, desperate women find ways to lock down men who aren't faithful because they fear being alone or starting over. They think that marriage will curb his feral philandering, and when someone comes along and exposes him, it exposes said desperate wife's delusion at the same time.
@@missede96YESSSS. THISSS. Like, my sister in christ, what is you doing?! You are validating him!
Always tell the wife but discreetly. You could save a life.
My ex always held over my head his parents are married. He always said he wanted to be like his dad and basically have a house slave like his mom. I recently found out his father follows only fans and cam girls on Instagram publicly. The irony was funny as fuck. He talked about his parents' union like a blueprint to life. They are just narcissistic Awipes with money and no values. Extremely happy I walked away I rather cry dolo and heal than in a Bentley with no loyalty in sight.
Poor men cheat MORE because they need a place to stay and go 50/50 and they have nothing to lose, they can jump to the next woman’s house in a flash. Income really doesn’t matter.
I don’t understand why they even bother getting married
They get more perks married than single. And that's why they hate women because they feel they can't elevate without women, on their own, despite them needing women energetically more than women need men. Women need to accept this and move differently.
If it’s one thing a man will have is the audacity.
Never reach for the other woman’s neck, majority of the time they probably don’t know he’s married or committed or he lies to her with a straight face. I know this from experience. They will also give you the wildest excuses for why they got married.
First thing I’m asking for is an id with an address, no exceptions.
I always get hit on by married men or men with a long term girlfriend and then they get mad as hell that I'm not interested.
The money management of these men is what really should be studied. These men have a wife and 4 kids living in the suburbs of 1 state, they are setting up girls around the country in luxury condos, AND they pay to hide all of their misdeeds. Not to mention MISSING WORK to cheat OUT OF STATE!! And half the time they are just your regular neighborhood business manager. How, sir? How?
That’s not the majority.
Most are dusty AF with a ton of excuses. Some use coupons or Groupons for these restaurants.
Some use the money that is also their wives money .
A lot of PickMe’s will pay for things when he has a good lie lol.
The men as you stated are not the neighborhood dusty.
When I was 19 I dated a man who CLAIMED he was 25 or so. His wife worked I think overnight, I can’t remember it was so long ago I’m 40 now.
Anyway, he had me over to his HUGE house , took me on his out of town work trips , I mean completely worked everything around his wife and her schedule to carry out his con 🤨
Ohio and FYI I had no clue he was married, I was young and naive and believed any dam thing 😐
They get paid far too much but of course they did a good woman out of a job.
The last two men I was in the talking stages with in 2022 were both married. I haven’t dated since.
I’m sorry that happened to you back to back, that’s traumatic. I love your Black Sailor Moon! 💫💛
@@BellaVidaMercy thank you 💗💋
I can attest to this. That’s why I don’t ever envy married women. Their husbands stay in single women’s DMs. Sending me messages for what sir “Do you have a man?! “no but you have a wife” 😒
It’s so embarrassing and gross.
If he leaves the wife he can’t have his cake and eat it too. They don’t wanna leave. Trashhhhh.
I went on a tinder date and I suddenly had a very strong feeling that the guy was married. I asked him and he said “no but I’ve a partner and 2 small kids”. He said his wife (no marriage contract but married in my book) was ok with it. My children are adults but believe me couple who work and have small kids have almost no time. His wife was looking after the kids while he was having a date with me. The date lasted 20 minutes and I was out of there.
When I found my ex man's texts and messages with another woman in Australia...
His excuse was that it's not really cheating because they never met in real life 😮 ....
Wtf?
Yes tf that absolute is cheating!
And the ridiculous amount of lies he told this woman!!!
Like he just made up a whole different personality, job, hobbies and basically living in a fantasy of his own imagination!
He blew up our very REAL relationship, family and life together.
For someone he never met, and didn't actually know the real him!
What pissed me off the most, was the lies he told about our children and the type of father he is!
He pretty much ignored me and the children.
Never came with us to the park, played ball, coloring played games etc....
But he told her that HE was the one who did all that stuff and I was the one who ignored him and the children!!!!!😡😡😡😡
I hope you meant "ex man."
@@CoachLove Yes I meant ex!
Whoops 😬
I'ma edit that
That's because a lot of newly married men think that tying the knot doesn't mean they have to give up their single lifestyle.
Dude talking about how single these married men act is spot on.
They are extremely good at stringing us along. Once I figured out things weren't adding up, I confronted him. He had the audacity to say he was afraid to tell me he is married. Rofl. This was 2 years ago. To this day, he calls periodically only to find out that he is FOREVER blocked.
They will call, email and harass you, knowing damn well you don't want to talk to them. They are pathethic.
How do you know that hes calling you if he’s blocked? Omg is he making fake social media accounts!? Men like this are so gross
I’m surprised men are surprised by this. I feel like most of the men that hit on women are married. And this has been a thing for a long time.
Aaaaaand THIS is one huge reason why women network together to see if the guy they are thinking about dating is already with someone else. There could be a whole series on the stories of women exposing these cheaters. Also, they are big mad that we are doing it too. 😂
I've experienced this once. I met a man that was great from the jump. He was texting day and night, calling, and meeting me for multiple dates. I wasn't ready to go to his place or have him to mine while dating him. Luckily we never went down a sexual route. It slipped out of his mouth by accident "his wife" blah blah blah. I was like, your wife?? What??? "Oh yea, it's not really working out though, while I'm with you right now." I said hmmm. Left the restaurant and never looked back. Yuck.
Not having social media is a red flag now? At this point in my life, all I need is money, while I'm on planet Earth.
Marriage is scary these days. I’ve heard it all from “ I’m only married on paper”, “I’m separated and she does her own thing”, “I live with my cousin and her son (she was his wife and they have 3 kids)”, “I’m separated and we have our own homes”. Men will say anything to get what they want and even have the nerve to get upset when you say you want a single man. BTW the only home wrecker is the person who’s married and saying “it takes 2 to tangle” to shift blame to the side piece only applies if you know the other person personally.
True but i know plenty faithful relationships they just quiet about it. Cheating or bad marriages are always loud and good ones are usually quiet. It is what it is
True
Say it LOUDER for the fools in the back. A lot of us married folks living quite happy over here. Plus, no one believes you anyway when you say you’re loving your life as a married person so, you just keep it quiet and enjoy your life you are blessed with. 😊💯
@@sg5720nothing wrong with that 🫶🏽🙏🏽☺️
But there are ppl who claim their “happy and in a healthy marriage” that steady stay on line and in single ppls business.
There is no way to be with someone, engaged in activities, or helping out a spouse - if one is on social media and in DMs.
This is why we share our stories.
Married men are the biggest demographic in our DMs, messages, and are on dating apps.
That’s just a real lived reality.
Not sure why 🤷🏽♀️.
But again we know it’s not all, so we share what to look out for.
You don’t know anything about a marriage you’re not in.
@@missede96Exactly!!
Most men like to act single when it's convenient for them. I dated a guy like this, he would brag about our relationship with certain people and not so much with others and I realized what he was doing. If you want to be single, then for crying out loud be single so you can portray yourself the way you want to. Don't waste people's time and play with their emotions.
They see relationships as a means to an end. Once the social insurance policy wears out, they show their ass.
This is why i don't tell the wives about their husbands. They will blame YOU and not their w.hore of a husband! Even if you 100% did not know.
Regarding dating men with kids if you dont have kids...NEVER DO IT. 1. There's a very good reason his child's mother doesn't want him. Rejecting him goes against every womans instinct to keep the family together. 2. Your needs will NEVER come first. Plan a nice date with your man...nope! kids sick , upset? deal with it. 3. Get used to having a sister wife...the childs mother will make a lot of decisions in your relationship... and if she is jealous she will try to use her child to compete with you. Expect calls in the middle of the night to handle questionable situations... flat tire or plumbing issue....does it involve the childs safety...debatable. 4. The man will always have access to the childs mother and 9/10 times they are still having sex. They may even be laughing at you with each other. 5. He likely doesnt have as much money, child support. Its never nice hearing what he can't afford for you but his childs mother is always paid by law. Oh and if you make a little money she will likely try to get more money in child support. 6. Expect to be a free babysitter. Also contrary to the stereotype, not every stepmother is evil....some kids are seriously menaces. 7. If you dont have kids you look desperate dating a man who does. Why volunteer to clean up another womans trash?
Been here. I used to think that men with kids were my only options, they were the only ones who ever approached me, so I always gave them a chance. Haven't dated in 7 years and abstinent for 10. It grosses me out to think of the number of women a man's likely been with now.
Yep. I feed single dads the same energy they give single moms. I dont have kids, btw.
Thank you! This comments needs to be pinned. Men with kids are a bigger liability than the man himself. Men with baggage are always unbearable
Oddly specific, who hurt you? Kids are not trash, first off. My coworker is a 21 year old woman who just married a man with 3 young sons. She is an incredible mom to those boys. Their mother is a deadbeat who can stay clean or keep the boys away from creepy males. My coworker and her husband are fighting for full custody of the boys. My friend has PCOS and is unable to have children and this union had given her the babies she's always wanted. Not every situation is the same. My dad was a single dad with 3 kids. My mother left to go be a prostitute. My dad remarried and they've been together for almost 40 years now 🤷♀️
@@dy9300 Your friend needs to find someone who at least has more money than that guy. Or get someone also childless and adopt. I'll be damned if I'm raising kids that ain't mine. Barrenness in included.
It’s so sad but so true.. as a single woman you really need to check them!!!
Who is married the one that didn't have to change his last name or the one that did have to change her last name? Marriage is just to make sure that he has a spare woman at home.
I've been saying this for years! Married men are some of the most eligible Bachelors you'll ever meet. My ex-husband being one of them🙃 Marriage has been made a mockery. I've had more honest relationships just as a girlfriend.
Married men date the most …. Very rarely truly single guys approach I am not interested been out the dating game since 2018 ..fyi I have worked in a std clinic it’s crazy out here read the CDC reports it’s crazy
yes, please ladies...as a nurse I encourage you to read that...and it NEVER ENDS. Even in assisted living facilities, one in three has an STD. These old men, lose their wives and then go to their local working girl unprotected and then spread it within the facility. These are apartments, I'm talking, not a long term care unit. I've seen them come in to the doctor's office at 80 with cly-mid or gone-noe and then turn around and request a referral for a peens prosthetic at the age of 85, it is ridiculous, until the day they are no longer on this earth, they are led around by it.
I stopped dating in 2015 because of how disgusting married men are
That's disgusting. That's another reason why I am single and celibate. I dont wanna get burnt. These ppl wanna pretend that stds don't exist.
I am a nurse as well the people that are catching stds the most are actually in relationships since after months or years they stop using condoms because their in a relationship not to say single people don’t catch diseases but the amount of people in relationships makes me think wtf…these men don’t care about their health at all the only std they care about HIV and they rarely want to give consent to get tested for it since that’s a separate consent …coming to the std clinic and not wanting to get tested for HIV is insane 🥴🥴
If married men don’t even care about their union, our boyfriends aren’t any better. They have even less commitment so they’re defined out there ladies.
Those unhealthy husbands are some of the most deceitful devils, and they seek to ruin other women's lives. Need more women like the one Steve McNair had...
Damn!😳😮💨
It should be illegal to lie to someone about your marriage status for the purpose of manipulating someone into a relationship.
My friend was dating a guy for a few months. She was going on a weekend roadtrip with him and they stopped at a gas station. He went inside and she waited in the car. She needed a napkin and opened his glovebox. There was a piece of mail with a different male name on it. She googled the name. Facebook profile came up with a picture of him with his wife and 2 little kids. He gave her a fake name and had a family.
What a psychopath. These men have no conscience.
She was real bold to get in the car with him - no background check ?
I’ve dated three married men (didn’t know till the end). Side chicks get paid a lot and I felt cheated so the last guy, I found the wife’s social media and linked in, sent it to him and told him to send me $2k or I’m sending screenshots to his wife. Needless to say I got paid! We have to start holding these men accountable
So when these men ask or complain about 4b or single by choice women..........
It's true, I saw it all of the time when I worked at a hospital as a front desk receptionist. I use to get free dinner & stuff all the time when the married guy want to flirt while their s/o in the back being seen by the dr. 1 time I saw a guy trying to get a nurse number while his girlfriend was in the mother/baby unit after giving birth smh.
Can't even say that I'm shocked. The shocker is if the majority of married men were loyal.
Not just any married men but married men that are 45+; they are the thirstiest ever. They do the most especially in the office!!
We must work at the same office. I just want to work go home and mind my own business and they can't seem to keep bothering me.
The crazy thing is, the wives don’t even want to know. It’s like the “other woman” is the issue
And will fight tooth and nail or try to unalive somebody for want to leave or divorce
4B and child free is the only way forward from here. These cesspools will always be the same.
A guy told me 5 seconds after climaxing “you know I’m in a relationship right?” “Eh! No!”
I'm so sorry...
What???😮
Wow I'm sorry .. they just lie and lie ..risk women and everything
This is why the phrase ‘single women keep other women single’ annoy me.. it’s actually those who are in relationships/married who keep me single by destroying my trust 😅
Married men like to cheat with single women. They don't cheat with other married women for fear of the husband. So, when my husband and I were separated and on the edge of divorce, multiple married men approached me. At that time, i stopped wearing my ring. It was bad, but counseling (that he found and paid for) helps us through. When I told them I'm separated and pending divorce, they would say well call me when the divorce is final 🥴
They like to cheat with married women too, all the fun and no fear. She’s not going to insist on marriage or cohabitation.
When I was growing up in the 1970’s three men in my village had mistresses with whole other families.
Marriage is like a boat anchor. Most of those boats have holes in the bottom. That’s it. That’s all.
Yup, the last one I dated turned out to have a full family. I've been single for 3 years after that. Not willing to risk it ever again!
The time factor. Thats the one I want to know about. How do they have the time. I have a 40 hour work week, sometimes I work more then 40. But the standard is 40.
But after work I sit in traffic for 1.5 hours, get home,take care of my dog, go to the gym and then come home and cook dinner. Then I watch some tv and go to bed.
My weekends are for cleaning, grocery shopping, home projects. Sometimes I go out with friends and even hitting a 6 630 dinner is alot to schedule into my simple routine.
How do these men have rime to go on dates and "hang out".
Sounds like they dont work hard enough in life
Because their wives do all the work
If a ring is an “accessory” then that’s one hell of a statement piece😂 no thank you
“She’s my sister in Christ!” 😂😂😂
Married men who do this are usually aware that their wives arent going anywhere. Also the wives are checked out of the marriages but remain for the sake of the family. They may love each other but they arent in love anymore and she looks for fulfillment elsewhere and he does too. The married men are emboldened because they know the woman isnt going anywhere and the married women are secure because they know he will always provide and be there for the children
I would LOVE if they posted screenshots of these married DMs 🙌🏽
Same I'm so petty 😅💀 🤣
Honestly, this is nothing new it’s just that the internet has allowed us to really investigate.
A guy i used to date found out he had a whole set of brothers and sisters at his Dad's funeral. His Mom and Dad were married 40yrs!!😅
😮😮😮
Been saying this for years!
The friend who blamed you for ruining the marriage is madd suspect. She's either messing with the husband too or wants to. Either way, not a wise friend.
Story time of how I found out another woman was pregnant for my long distance bf....yes, for real. Sad that almost every woman has one or more of these stories.
🥺 sorry that happened to you, that’s devastating.
Honestly if a man has children that aren’t even in elementary school yet, this is a he!! no. Because either he is so unprincipled that he can’t even try for four years to provide a two parent household. Or he is still dealing with the mother.
And what if they are older? Just curious?
I agree , I don’t have any children but only will give a person a chance if the kids are grown or teenagers .
@@cynthiakila1161 actually children need their parents most in their teenage years and a large number of men also abandon their teenage children. So I'm just saying, it doesn't matter what age, if his children are not living with him or in his live fully AND he does not have a good relationship with the mother where she is able to talk with you freely, there are likely some skeletons with him. Trust your instinct.
This is soooo true.. I worked with several men that are married and some of them didn’t even wear rings or talked about it. They moved and acted as if they were single 😂 dating, infidelity at its finest, taking females shopping etc. and once I found out that they were married they hated me because I’m the “how’s your wife and kids” person 😂 but to be honest.. a lot of females don’t care if a dude is married because it makes them feel happy to sleep with someone else’s man. It’s like a “one up” on the wife, but they’re out her dating while married, complaining about their wives but not getting a divorce and they secretly hate/dislike their wives as well
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