Yeah... Letting a baby cry it out doesn't sit well with me. Sometimes my son can sleep through, other times he doesn't, when he does wake up and cry or moan he's communicating... Either too hot, or getting cold, may have peed through his diaper, a blocked nose, thirsty or just in need of some love and affection. He's 14months old now... I've never gotten the sense that he's testing us or being spoilt... It doesn't matter how tired my husband and I get sometimes, the needs of our little one needs to be met. We will have better sleep again somday if we are privileged to live.
My son was sleeping 10-11 hours a night at about 4.5 months. It's such a blessing after going so long without having nights free. Now I can actually clean up the house, make dinner, sit on my bed. It's so convenient.
I don’t have the heart to let my baby boy cry like that. New mothers are often told that once they’ve fed, burped and changed their baby, they should leave their baby alone to self soothe and cry because all their needs have been met. One day I hope all new mothers will smile confidently and say , “ I gave birth to a baby and not just a digestive system. My baby has a brain that needs to learn to trust and a heart that needs love. I will meet all my baby’s needs emotionally, mental and physical and I will respond to every cry because crying is communication not manipulation.”
Nicely said, im a new mom of a 4m old and my heart breaks if she cries, for whatever reason. I always tried to be patient and soothe her. Now she only cries when hungry or tired, i think she got used to me having her back. Ugh language barriers :d
Catalina Sima at this age they can’t get used to something yet. They just vocalize. I think around or over a year is when they get used to something. I’m a mom of a 19 month old too. She was born 2 months early, at 31 weeks and only 1kg. So it does really break my heart cause she has been through a lot but man, she is now using that to get her way in everything if I’m being honest😅 I of course try to make her understand right from wrong but at this age they still don’t understand much... I just can’t wait until she can speak and so she understands that all I’m doing is keeping her healthy, safe and guid her, that’s why certain things aren’t allowed.
@@tima2553 i understand what you mean :D its just that i feel like she doesnt bother crying anymore, i don t even need to hold her, if she sees me around it seems to be enough for her to be calm
Yes! Yes! Yes! I don't get how many parents can just act so much against the needs of their infants and their own instincts and do sleep training. A baby CAN not know that everything is allright and mommy is just next door. Sleep training is teaching your child to give up because nobody will listen to his calls for help. So cruel. Our son just sleeps next to us and we all get enough sleep although he doesn't sleep 11 hours straight.
Came across this TH-cam video after researching what the hell to do because my baby was waking up every hour!! I was so exhausted. I followed every step in this video and it completely changed my life. My 5month old is sleeping through the night after day 2. I definitely said to myself “every baby is different”. But i decided to give it a try and it worked. If you’re a new mom, don’t be discouraged.
I am very exhausted my 7 months old baby is not sleeping at all wake in up at night every hour and she is not having naps in day time🤦♀️ Is there any advice that you can give me to help her to sleep well please? What you done exactly to help your baby to sleep?
To all those saying proudly, no rocking, I want to say this: There is nothing wrong with rocking and cuddling to put a baby to sleep. Babies are not going to be babies forever. Don't let them cry themselves to sleep. They need to be held, cuddles, rocked and sung to! Also, don't try to make young babies sleep through the night. They need to eat in between.
This is wrong and you miss the point entirely. Sleeping through the night is learned behavior for babies. Rocking them or soothing them to sleep does not allow them to learn how to do it on their own. There’s plenty of time to rock and soothe when they are newborns. Once they are several months old, they need to start learning to self soothe. And no, they don’t need to eat in the night once they reach a certain age, usually around 6 months, but some babies are good with sleep and will not wake up to feed at a younger age. The last thing any parent wants is a toddler that is totally dependent on a parent to sleep and nap. Whether that be sleeping in general, or sleeping in their own bed and room.
If it’s comfort for y‘all, when they turn 13-20, they will sleep like logs all the time. In the morning, afternoon, evening, be on tour through the night, go ahead sleeping, sleep in on Saturday and Sundays, not getting up before lunchtime. It will get better 🫣
Try a sleep blanket and a bath about 7pm they will cluster feed right after the bath no soap needed just keep the water super warm and have them play 15 min. I switched bathtime to night because my little one would be up all night and day. Now she sleeps 12 hours and I get 2 naps in the day.
My son was sleeping perfectly at 4 months! Then the 4 month sleep regression started and I started breastfeeding him to sleep... And it got worse! When I saw this video, I followed the advise and after 3 nights he slept through the night again!!! Thank you so much, it changed our lives and we enjoyed the wake times even more :)
The only way I could ever let the baby "cry it out", is in the case the mom feels like she has had enough. When I say had enough, I'm meaning that she puts the baby in the crib and shuts the door to walk away from her baby so she doesn't lose it or hurt the baby, or maybe she needs a break. That's the only way I could ever do that. I'm a mother of two (a six, and now 4.5 week year old), I've had to walk away before, but I've never let my babies cry themselves to sleep and never will.
Exactly! I left the room for my own sanity and baby's safety. But NEVER would I let him cry! 2-3 times a night looks pretty normal for that little one. They often just need love and reassurance! If you decide to get a child you have to care for it!
I think this is not true. But everyone can have their own opinion. I really wanted children, but that doesn’t mean i have to get them to sleep the whole day / night. My baby was 3 months old when i let her cry (ofcourse not super long). And i would go inside her room every time to calm her down, but she would fall a sleep in her own crib. It last for 1 month, and then she slept so good! Day.. and night. From 19.00-07.00. And over the day she slept really good as well. Because she knew how to sleep by her own and she knew her crib felt safe. I know parents that always get their babies to sleep, and now their older, and now they still have sleep problems with their child. I think that’s not good for the parents as well for the children. Because sleep is so important.
@@jaylo3678 you don't have to let your baby cry in order for it to learn how to fall asleep alone. My second son is 4 month now and he falls asleep in his own 90% of the time without me ever letting him cry,. It's much more work for the parents to do it cry free. I agree that sleep is so important for them. BUT developing basic trust is just as important. A baby that stops crying just gave up. It did not self soothe. But that's just my opinion.
I did the Cry it out last night . I couldn’t watch him😭 He is my Baby🥺🥺but yeah whenever i feel like its enough i’ll consider this method looks effective
My baby started sleeping 11-12 hours straight when she turned 3 months. I made sure that i started a routine when she was 1 month old. I did the same thing at the same time every night and it worked like a magic! I do: Bath time at 7 Made sure she’s well fed Turn on white noise Swaddle and dance her around for a bit until she fell asleep Then put her down in her bassinet I also make sure to give her a nap every 1 hour for an hour and that she’s well fed throughout the day. When she got a little older I started giving her naps every 2 hours for an hour to 1 1/2 hours. When she turned 6 months we moved her in her own room with the exact same routine except we stopped swaddling her at 4 months. Bath time Turn on white noise Milk time until full Dance her around Then put her down in her crib Let her fall asleep on her own Only time she wakes up is when she’s not feeling well but that’s once in a blue moon. She’s now 10 months and still sleeps 11-12 hours a night.
My babe is a preemie so I’m always a little unsure of when to start certain things. I’m going to try this. At 6 weeks, she doesn’t sleep poorly and only gets two night feedings but she’s a super noisy sleeper that makes it challenging for us. Her sleep sounds similar to her waking.
My husband sleep trained our 3 month old baby. For nights I wasn’t getting any sleep. This eventually led me to be depressed and sleep deprived. I couldn’t get things done or be a mommy during the day like I wanted to, because I was so sleepy! She would wake up every 15-30mins from 12am -8am. However, after he sleep trained her , I was getting so much sleep. Of course, she woke up once during the night for a breastfeeding snack. Moreover, it didn’t create any weird connection between me and my baby. She’s 4 1/2 years old now, and we’re inseparable ❤️
I started writing stories for my train obsessed toddler who never wanted to go to bed. Just started recording audios weekly and releasing them on youtube. The premise is that the bed turns into a magic train once they close their eyes and each time they get to travel to a different part of the world. @
My baby sleeps 10-12 hours since 4 months old. We started sleep training since 3 weeks old. Warm lavender bath, Lights out, soothing sounds, bottle. Same routine every night. No rocking chair, no props.
Second to u! I also sleep trained both my girls when they were a month old. Not about making them cry to sleep but keeping consistent routine and no rocking, no feed to sleep really helps establish a great sleeping habit later in so I disagree with ppl saying babies under three months old should be spoiled and not be sleep trained
Babies wake up because they are either hungry, wet, sick or uncomfortable temperature wise. Dont ignore your child unless all these are sorted. Sometimes they just want to be held close. They are babies after all.
Unfortunately that creates a codependent relationship, very unhealthy. We would love to hold our children whenever they ask but sometimes we need to stop doing for them what they can do for themselves.
2-3 times a night? GTFOH! Talk to me when your baby wakes up every 30 minutes! Complaining about waking up 2-3 times is laughable. And this sleep method seems to be extremely similar to the Ferber method.
Facts I have a 2 year old and we tried everything now since he crawls out of crib, we lowered it long ago obviously. He won’t stop demanding breastfeeding and falls out of his new big boy bed, lays in my bed (bad habit) we used to not share a room, might have to try that, we only have one room downstairs the other is a guest room I want have
Step 1 (or 2) that Dana Obleman suggests says to make sure that a baby is well fed (not hungry) during a day. What If the baby is not a good eater? My son stopped being interested in food. When he wakes at night wanting me to breastfeed him, I can tell he's hungry because his stomach growls. Any advice?
My baby is 11 months still waking up at and if he feels like he isn’t being send it to you as quickly as possible he screams at the top of his Longs I have tried a lot of things and it’s really hard being a single mother and having a deal with this at nightl there are times where I literally have to just walk away and let him cry for two or three minutes.
You need to stop feeding him at night. Try to do a "go to bed ritual" thet includes food, bath and a song . After thet when he wakes up at night, if he crys hold him in your arms. when he relaxes immediately put him in bed so he knows it's bed time. After thet when in bed if he still struggles, put your hand on him till he calms down.. it's important to hold him whenever he crys to get him to feel secure. When he calms down immediately lay him back in bed. We need to help our babies learn that they can get themselfes go back to sleep without a parent's help. If we help a baby too much, he can develop bad sleeping habits that he will be dependent on and will only get worse with time. It's important to note thst every change that you do, weather it's feeding at night or teaching him to sleep on it's own, it's must be done gradually. This advise is only good for 5 month old babies or older. Before that, a baby is too young to be able to go all night without food or learn how to sleep on it's own.
My baby sleeps 8-9 hours. I'm ok with that as long as she naps well during the day, but there are some days where the naps are too short. Just a lottery for me
Both my brother and I slept through the night straight away from birth. My mother was even had the nurse correct her for not feeding my brother during the night for the first 5 months because she was told to feed on demand but because he never woke up he didn’t demand.
My 10 month old sleeps 5 hours straight, gets up for 2 hours then sleeps 4 more hours. I've got to get him out of my bed so I can sleep better. To the crib he goes. Starting tonight!
Our baby is 13 months old now and it’s been a journey. So naps at this point are still very much a week-to-week thing, some weeks there consistent 1hr plus long naps and others its 30-40 mins. Nights got a whole lot better once we did sleep training AND got baby out of our room into crib around 8 months. Baby sleeps through the night pretty consistently now. It does get better/manageable it just takes time which I know may be hard to hear. My only suggestion would be to start sleep training as soon as it’s recommended.
@@hightimeskg Thank you for responding! I am happy to hear that it worked out for you! I don't wish for my baby to sleep through the night yet, it's just that he wakes up every 40-60 minutes at night also. Sometimes he has a 2h, other nights has a 4h stretch but rarely. So eventually you let him cry? How long did it take?
How old was her son when she did thins right now I’m trying to break that bottle sleep association but lessening the amount eat night till he get no more but naps are so hard for him to stay asleep when I try to put him down
What if your baby will only nap for 30 min a few times a day? My guy is almost 4mo and he doesn't like to nap... and every morning around 4 he gets into a weird noisy uncomfortable sleep...
Lmao is everything ok? Seriously asking btw. I know this kind of frustration. I’m here to talk if you need it. Also a mom with a baby who refuses to sleep
@@damarimoland1613 i know how hard it can be. You can get seriously crazy without sleep. With my son it helped to keep a strict routine at nighttime. And the same routine when he wakes at night. But my 2 year old still wakes once a night most nights. My pediatrician said that is completely normal. They still learn soooo much. They still need so much reassurance. We are happier since we allowed him to come to our bed when he wakes in the night. We all sleep more and since he woke less often knowing we are here and accessable. But if you don't want that's completely understandable. Every mom and dad have to be ok with the methods to. Not only the children
@@schneeevchen that’s true I’m iffy on the bed just because I am told I am a wild sleeper so I might have to put three pillows as a barrier between me and my daughter
Just wandering if those parents that apply sleep training does atleast have thinking/wondering if that might impact childs mental health in a long term...
@@iambeezee He's still not a great sleeper, and may wake once or twice a night as a usual. But it improves for a while, then regresses. A couple good weeks, a couple bad weeks. Teething is a challenge, developmental spurts are a challenge, and little colds are a challenge. We'll get there eventually.
@@ctcollinthib if it helps I read a book called "the gentle sleep book" and it's VERY normal for babies under 2 to wake frequently so don't feel defeated or that you are doing anything wrong. It's only the western countries that expect this from babies! Even things like sleeping in a crib in their own room. Once you let go of that expectation it's quite a comfort to know that it's just biological ok for your baby to need you at night x
@@iambeezee i agree. I was furious just 2 months ago with my now 5 mo expecting her to sleep for long stretches. Since I gave in after informing myself, what baby’s sleep really is about, especially before they even hit 3 yo, I stopped being so worried about every night. Sure, my baby still wakes up 3-5x a night, but hey, she is breastfed, she needs to be comforted but that’s my role in her life, isn’t it? She first must be dependent to become independent in the end. Enjoy these “sleepless” nights, they grow up so fast and then we will be remembering those nights with tears in our eyes. If everything would be easy breeze, nothing would be special ♥️
Why is it that The couple who got this help happen to be well off news journalist in the New York area? Couldn’t have them going to a regular families home? Only the entitled rich get help while the regular work and class stuff gets to watch a news article about it. What a joke.Look at that house, do you honestly feel bad for them?
My 9 month old baby sleeps at 9pm and wakes up 2 or 3am and gave him a bottle of milk. Then he will go back to sleep. Maybe that baby is hungry and wants to drink milk
Babies need that bottle too to grow so sounds like you are doing exactly what baby needs. I just can’t do this to my baby. I’m talking about this method. It’s all out of convenience and not what’s good for the baby. I used to think the opposite but after reading up on some studies, I’m gona feed my baby. She goes back to sleep anyway
Disgusting and unacceptable your baby should not be getting any milk day or night far too old that’s why your baby is waking up because you are rewarding him with milk stop giving him milk and he won’t wake up
I share a room with my babe too. I feel like so much baby sleep advice is geared towards parents who don’t room share and it makes a lot of the advice hard to follow
The video didn’t advise to let baby cry non stop, she says to go in to soothe every 10 minutes. Maybe once your baby has their own room, then you might be able to use this technique, if you wanted to.
@@MultiNblue the rush is cuz lack of sleep causes learning problems later on. We all need good night sleep for healthy development and happiness. When mine was sleep trained ,the tantrums were gone,and before she was cranky like almost all day
My baby sleep a majority of the time when he was a newborn to about 3 or 4 months then he started waking up every couple of hours or less. I had a whole routine with sleep sounds, purple light, bottle but yet he still gets up to eat 😭 frequently..I’m suffering almost going crazy from a lack of sleep. I can’t let my baby cry he will wake everybody up. He sleeps with me he doesn’t have his own room so that’s another thing.
I don’t get it. Every time I put my baby to sleep he won’t fall into a deep enough sleep in the first place to even get to go to sleep for a little while. Nothing is working. If I don’t nurse him or hold him he won’t sleep in his bassinet. He naps fine during the day. But I don’t know if I need to shorten his naps or not or don’t nap at all. When I try to put him in the bassinet, the second his butt hits the bassinet he wakes up and cries and won’t stop until I pick him up and he won’t stop crying even if I stand over him rubbing his chest, he just won’t stop. My only option is to not sleep and nurse him. I tried to nurse and then read a book but he wasn’t awake enough to really care about it. And then I put him in the bassinet and the same thing happens- he won’t stop crying until I nurse or Rick him to sleep. Help I don’t get it. He’s almost 6 months old. And I keep waking up at 3, 4, 5, pm to start my day!!! That’s ridiculous. I hate waking up when it’s about to get dark!!!
My grandson is a year old and still breast feeds. We are trying to ween him off . He screams at the top of his lungs. My baby was never a crier. I was lucky he slept through the night without crying and fussing. Myself have never experienced this type of thing. What tips for a 1 year old little boy.
My baby has been sleeping through the night since 3 months.. now shes 7 months and adjusting to sleep training with ease, after 10 mins she was down i guess I'm just lucky!
Omg MINE TOO. She is 2 months only now, but have been sleeping for 8 hours straight.. Although it is from like 12 at night until 8 in the morning. I hope that doesn’t change when she’s older😭
My baby has always been a good night sleeper but she falls asleep on the breast. I feel like she relies on me to fall asleep and for that reason only takes 10 minute naps during the day when I attempt to put her down she instantly wakes up. She's now almost 5 months old, should I wait longer to sleep train her? Last night I tried to for night 2 and didn't get much sleep and she threw up all over the place. She was legit waking up screaming every hour 😩 Am I trying to fix something that's not really broken?
Currently watching at 4 AM while dad takes a turn with our 15 month old, who's been up for an hour now. Every night he's up from like 2-2:30 til 6 or 6:30 and I'm so done. Wasn't always this bad but boy this sucks 💀 gonna try this
Does anyone know if you start with the 10 minutes from the beginning or if they wake up? Can you hold them until they get drowsy and then put down? My baby is 8 months old.
Epic_R Shutterbug I didn’t have professional help but I have 4 kids and it’s been trial and error. I write down every time they eat and how much if breast feeding I write what breast and how long and if it’s formula I write how many oz. I also write down every diaper change, this helps figure out why they’re crying because at times it’s not hunger. Before bed I make sure I’ve given them their usual amount of formula and their diaper is changed and then slowly they’re full at night so they don’t wake up, it’s hard but usually by 1 month they’re sleeping from through the night, I let them pick their time though, my daughter was asleep by 7pm and my son who is 2 months now is midnight, slowly I’ll wake him during the day and change the hour but for now I just let him pick the time with his feedings. I wish you the best of luck, it’s not easy at first but it does get easier
@@stephy8183 awww thank you for getting back to me. I have a 2 week old and he sleep from 3pm to 8pm in a deep sleep, and winges moans all night long, constantly gets up every 1 n half to 2 hours for a feed, its exhausting.
Epic_R Shutterbug my mother in law suggested that you open the windows and let the light in and try to get him to stay awake by talking to him or maybe not snuggling him so warmly, when he goes to sleep at night you keep the room dark so they can tell the difference between night and day. This has always worked for me to get them to sleep more at night. It’s hard but it does get better! You got this and congratulations! Enjoy him because time flies 🥺😭
I will say that my first child I didn’t sleep train because it was so hard and sad and she is 3 and STILL wakes up at least once through the night and I regretted not sleep training because I honestly felt like a zombie most of the time and felt like I couldn’t be the best mom because of my moodiness from not sleeping. So I sleep trained my second one and she sleeps like a dream, she sleeps better than my 3 year old lol and it only took like 3 days! No regrets here!
Sleep during the day make sure you open blinds and let the light in. At night, make sure there are no lights on or noise. Try not to carry her at night. It should change within a week. I had the same problem and put the sound of white noise.
Has anyone experienced regression when the bed was changed to toddler bed? My daughter is 3 almost 4 yrs old and has become completely co-sleep dependent on us. It seems like all that sleep training went out the window the moment she started turning door knobs lol. Please share your experience.
Amazing that little Miles slept 11 hours on night 3! Great work! Although it may have been a tough couple of days, you're giving your little guy the gift of sleep. Amazing! xx
Yes research shows that its absolutely normal for babies to waking up at night as they don't have the same sleep cycle as adults. It's actually child abuse to allow a child crying for a prolonged period of time due to raised cortisol levels that are produced in the brain. This can cause irreversible brain damage. It's incredibly selfish for parents to make a child endure this stress just for their own comfort. It's incredible that Western country like the US and UK have made mothers think that night waking are abnormal and should be rectified. They want women not to be mothers but be contributing to the workforce and economy as soon as possible. Hence why all the gimmicks of breast pumping, baby led weaning, nursery and sleep training is to get the child independent as soon possible so the mother go back to work. Mother's are forced to put their children through what they don't deserve. Mother's are not being allowed to be actually mothers instead been left to feel guilty and torn between their careers and actually being a mother.
Well not everyone can be a stay at home mom. To say it is selfish of the parent is ridiculous because you can’t be a good mom while sleep deprived. And crying won’t cause brain damage
I agree with much of what you said except the "irreversible brain damage" and "baby-led weaning" bits. But parenting has become SO much about prioritizing the comfort of the parents. I am a huge proponent of self-care, of the concept of putting your oxygen mask on first, but this is NOT that. Many parents just don't want to be inconvenienced or for their life to shift.
I heard that there was something called sleep training. It is supposed to help your baby to get on the right schedule when it comes to sleeping. I want to know if anyone has heard about this.
I’ve never sleep trained any of my kids and they all slept a full night on their own by 18 months. SAHM, bed, and room sharing allowed me to get my sleep needed.
@@brendasalinas8696 rubbish no baby is a newborn past four weeks old and they not only can sleep through the night they should be sleeping through with no feeds at least 12 hours
@@tawnyb1560 no two month olds neither need or have the right to have anything to eat at night they should be sleeping 12 hours with nothing to eat at that age
This is just sleep training. People do it or not. I do not believe in sleep training. I joined a group called "Beyond Sleep Training" with other mothers who do not let babies "cry it out."
I am seeing this comment now and I am so glad you posted this comment. The Beyond Sleep Training group has been a blessing for us. I cannot assert how traumatic cry it out is for babies :(
How do I completely make my baby stop the pacifier during slp time coz sh really screams and shouts wen crying if it falls off while asleep. Am becoming a nyt zombie🤪😵😫 8months old.
With breastfeeding its the same don't let the baby fall asleep on the breast. When they wake go in every 10 minutes . You can extend the time to adding 5 minutes. For example 10. 15. 20. 25 minutes till they fall asleep. and try to avoid picking them up and rocking them back to sleep, they can become reliant on that. Being consistent is key
You co sleep. This is biologically normal for all humans. Babies know that they’re meant to be and sleep close to their mother, they’re following their correct instincts. Look up SAFE 7 on La Leche League International website. Cosleeping has nothing to do with SIDS, Japan has the highest cosleeping rates in the world and lowest SIDS rates. It’s unrelated.
@@jessicavergara1932 Cleary I think I asked this when I was sleep deprived looking for anything to help my girl sleep, but I’m happy to report back she just turned 2 in November and cosleeping is exactly what we did/still do!! 😊 I actually didn’t know that information regarding Japan that’s very interesting!!
Wow. This kinda look like a magic. Might wanna try this tho. I know its hard, frustrating taking care of babies. I have a 15 yr old kid and suddenly got pregnant again. I couldnt even remember his milestones. Its like im back to zero again on taking care of a baby. Its really really frustrating. But, these babies, they grow up so fast. All i can say is enjoy each moment you are with them coz SOMEDAY, its just gonna be YOU and YOUR partner. Your children will have their own lives. Just enjoy taking care of them, just have fun. P.s. My baby is now almost 3 months old and she takes a nap 4-5times a day. Wakes up 2-3 times at night. Frustrating but it gets easier. Remember, it shall pass. Just enjoy them while u can. ❤
I was breastfeeding for my little one. she sleep alone when she was born but couldn't sleep through night. For the first three months she woke up every three or four hours. When she was five months old, she woke up one or two times for milk but it was not every night to sleep through the night. After feeding the milk then she could straight to bed. It was really tired. She doesn't like bottle milk. I heard bottle milk can sleep longer than breastfeeding but she didn't like power milk. I try the power milk when she was eight or night months old I should have watched this in that time then I can try. My girl is 21months old now. Tonight it is the first time I tried to train her to sleep alone complete without milk and co-sleeping. I tried to get her straight to bed when she started eight months old few times. She crying until 1:00am still not go to sleep. I couldn't leave her like that. So I put her to her own bed after she felt in sleep with me. I thought I should wait for her a bit older then do it again. So tonight I tried. She was crying in the beginning. It was quick she felt in sleep after half an hour and went inside the covering. I hope she could sleep without crying and through the night. In the day her nap is between 12pm-14pm, or 15pm-17pm. She couldn't sleep the same time that is the problem. Hope I change the routine can help a lot.
Every baby is different, obviously don’t expect a newborn to sleep through the night. My daughter didn’t sleep through the night until she was like 7 months. I didn’t sleep train her, she did that all by herself. If you have an older baby and they wake up multiple times a night they probably feel alone in their crib they get scared. My daughter hates her crib but she’s about to be 1 so I’m getting her used to it by putting it next to my bed.
Disgusting you are a bad mother your daughter didn’t sleep through because you rewarded her with milk every time she woke up also at one year old she far too old for a crib no baby over 5/6 months fits in a crib she shouldn’t even be in a cot at a year old she should be in a full size single bed
My baby is 5 months and she sleeps from 8 pm -6 am sometimes 7 am .. shower the baby before bed clean pjs and full feed and stay around them all my 3 babies are the same
Babies don't learn to stop crying and to sleep by themselves, they learn to stop waiting for the parent, they still need it they just know that they are not coming anymore. it's sad
Just have bathtime everynight around 6pm then if your breastfeeding. Hot water (not burning then) keep it very warm and have them play 15 min No soap. Just water. Do this everynight. They should cluster feed once dried off in warm pjs.
Cosleep. Do some research, this crap is cruel, is isn’t biologically or anthropological normal. Baby wants mum, it’s primitive, it’s instinctual, the baby knows what he’s doing. Cosleeping and SIDS is unrelated so don’t worry about that, Japan has the highest cosleeping rates in the world with the lowest SIDS rates in the world. They’re unrelated! Cosleeping, soothe and rock them, breastmilk has chemicals specifically to make your baby sleep, they’re meant to fall asleep at the breast.
@@HackerActivistthat makes no sense. It doesn’t work that way I breastfeed and I know, he’s two and needs to quit. It’s hell. That won’t work, what you said or whatever even if it made sense.
I was already doing this. My 14 month old won't even sleep at nap time any more I'm so frustrated I don't know what to do I've done everything TH-cam has told me too lol everything Google has told me to everything people online suggested.. he was fine until over a week ago I'm just so exhausted I can't remember things or even function
My baby is 18 months old but he doesn't sleep whole if he sleep 10pm then he wake up 3am then he sleep again 7am I wake him up 9:30 or 10am again he sleep 2pm until 4pm them again 10pm this is his schedule I don't know how I let him to sleep whole night at least from 10pm until 6am please help 😭
My baby is exactly the same, last week I started a schedule. Btwn 8am-10.30 he wakes up , showers and breakfast. Plays a bit. By 11-12 he naps "surprisingly" (sometimes not fr long). Btw 12.30 n 1400 he has lunch, pudding and a drink, plays. Then naps around 3-5, then btwn 5 and 7 is dinner time and a bath. I give him milk when he wants to sleep. Try that n see
@@tanishakizito2605 Great. That's what I have started with my baby girl. But napping at 5pm is not a good idea. The baby wont sleep at 8pm. It's better to nap at 1pm to 2pm. Anyway my baby is energetic so this works well for us.
I don't see the problem. My baby sleeps next to me and when he wakes up I just breastfeed. I fall back asleep while doing it, and so does he. I don't even remember how many times he breastfeeds, because it doesn't bother me at all. And he's happy and relaxed. We both get enough sleep and he never had to get throught the traumatising experience of having to cry alone in the night. Btw, co-sleeping is perfectly safe for healthy infants if you keep your bed free of heavy pillows and thick blankets (just wear a warmer pyjama), the parents don't smoke and are not under the influence of alcohol or drugs. On the other hand, having a very young baby sleeping in a separate room is associated with higher SIDS rates.
My baby is 2.6 yrs old , he gets up every 2-3 hrs for bottle feed in night ...can I try this method for him , I haven't slept properly in night since 2.6 yrs....
Mines turning two he is two, he doesn’t sleep w out breast. It’s annoying me and no sleep. He insists and wants sleep in my bed I am diligent not letting him nurse and it’s for better idk what to do tried so much
My 1st kid was amazing at sleeping thru the night but my 2nd omg we r struggling my husband sleeps on the floor cuz she only falls asleep while feeding her
Searching this video because my 2 year old's Asthma is flared so breathing treatments every 4 hours then 5 month old has been up for 3 hours just playing. Dad doesn't help with nights and I'm ready to throw water on him right now 😡. I just want a couple hours before 2 year old gets up in an hour and a half ready to play but baby will be fast asleep!
Omg thank you! I was wondering if anyone would notice that the crib looked like it was at the highest setting! That baby would fall out of the bed so easily!
Well another solution is sleeping between the parents. the babies feel safe sleeping with parents as they can feel secure and warm around familiar people. Sometimes putting them in a crib in another room might when it's dark out can scare them. Sleep them next to you after a while if you want to sleep next to them they won't be willing anyway.
they should only sleep next to mother (preferably breastfeeding) as a baby - fathers don't have the same awareness and could roll on them. But yes, room-sharing at a minimum is very important. A side sleeper is a good option for those who don't want to bed share. No other mammal leaves their newborns on their own to sleep, and it's a very recent western idea for humans. Bed or room sharing makes it so much easier when you need to feed them as well if you are also breastfeeding because you barely even need to wake up.
@@vixen7774 this only happens when person has taken alcohol or other drugs, or are so incredibly tired that they end up co-sleeping in an unplanned manner. If you plan to co-sleep, you will have correct set up, and will not be that tired.
So sleeping training is basically let your baby crying and screaming for hours until he is so tired of crying that he sleeps. Then next day he gives up amd now he knows you will not be there when he cries. I dont know, I have a little baby and he is struggling with the sleep, I want to do everything that it is possible to help him and also the mother. But to just let the baby crying does not seems right to me. And for those who say it does not affected the relation with the kid, that is not a good parameter. Even parents that abuse the kids are still loved sometimes by the kids, the child is dependent and cannot fully express himself. I don't want to judge anyone, only who is suffering and struggling knows the pain and I wish best of luck to everyone.
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I haven't slept in almost 18 months and I'm pregnant. Pray for me.
me too my daughter is 1 and im currently pregnant and sleepless
Hang in there! It gets better. There are a lot of different methods you can try. Something will stick.
Son is 10 months I’m 8 months pregnant it’s been hard but I’m getting their
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@@ay3696 wtf
Yeah... Letting a baby cry it out doesn't sit well with me. Sometimes my son can sleep through, other times he doesn't, when he does wake up and cry or moan he's communicating... Either too hot, or getting cold, may have peed through his diaper, a blocked nose, thirsty or just in need of some love and affection. He's 14months old now... I've never gotten the sense that he's testing us or being spoilt... It doesn't matter how tired my husband and I get sometimes, the needs of our little one needs to be met. We will have better sleep again somday if we are privileged to live.
This is why you check on them… if everything is fine.. what’s the problem?
Totally agree
I never felt that sleeping all night will be a bless until I had a baby who wake me up every 2hours
My son was sleeping 10-11 hours a night at about 4.5 months. It's such a blessing after going so long without having nights free. Now I can actually clean up the house, make dinner, sit on my bed. It's so convenient.
U have it easy
I don’t have the heart to let my baby boy cry like that. New mothers are often told that once they’ve fed, burped and changed their baby, they should leave their baby alone to self soothe and cry because all their needs have been met.
One day I hope all new mothers will smile confidently and say , “ I gave birth to a baby and not just a digestive system. My baby has a brain that needs to learn to trust and a heart that needs love. I will meet all my baby’s needs emotionally, mental and physical and I will respond to every cry because crying is communication not manipulation.”
Nicely said, im a new mom of a 4m old and my heart breaks if she cries, for whatever reason. I always tried to be patient and soothe her. Now she only cries when hungry or tired, i think she got used to me having her back. Ugh language barriers :d
Catalina Sima at this age they can’t get used to something yet. They just vocalize. I think around or over a year is when they get used to something. I’m a mom of a 19 month old too. She was born 2 months early, at 31 weeks and only 1kg. So it does really break my heart cause she has been through a lot but man, she is now using that to get her way in everything if I’m being honest😅 I of course try to make her understand right from wrong but at this age they still don’t understand much... I just can’t wait until she can speak and so she understands that all I’m doing is keeping her healthy, safe and guid her, that’s why certain things aren’t allowed.
@@tima2553 i understand what you mean :D its just that i feel like she doesnt bother crying anymore, i don t even need to hold her, if she sees me around it seems to be enough for her to be calm
Yes! Yes! Yes! I don't get how many parents can just act so much against the needs of their infants and their own instincts and do sleep training. A baby CAN not know that everything is allright and mommy is just next door. Sleep training is teaching your child to give up because nobody will listen to his calls for help. So cruel. Our son just sleeps next to us and we all get enough sleep although he doesn't sleep 11 hours straight.
Papayaguave my son also sleeps next to me. It’s just so much easier for night feeds as well!
Came across this TH-cam video after researching what the hell to do because my baby was waking up every hour!! I was so exhausted. I followed every step in this video and it completely changed my life. My 5month old is sleeping through the night after day 2. I definitely said to myself “every baby is different”. But i decided to give it a try and it worked.
If you’re a new mom, don’t be discouraged.
We are on day 3 . And here I’m up and my son is asleep😂🤦🏽♀️. He got me now up and he is sleeping lol
I don’t want to get discouraged but this is so hard. Since i left the hospital 2 months ago I haven’t been sleeping alright im tired
And dad
I am very exhausted my 7 months old baby is not sleeping at all wake in up at night every hour and she is not having naps in day time🤦♀️
Is there any advice that you can give me to help her to sleep well please?
What you done exactly to help your baby to sleep?
To all those saying proudly, no rocking, I want to say this: There is nothing wrong with rocking and cuddling to put a baby to sleep. Babies are not going to be babies forever. Don't let them cry themselves to sleep. They need to be held, cuddles, rocked and sung to! Also, don't try to make young babies sleep through the night. They need to eat in between.
@@SamanthaObrey This too shall pass. Just because of this, you cannot not rock or comfort a baby, sorry!
Comfort and connection will never spoil any child. Babies are not going to be babies forever.
@@mira6010 Well said!
This is wrong and you miss the point entirely. Sleeping through the night is learned behavior for babies. Rocking them or soothing them to sleep does not allow them to learn how to do it on their own. There’s plenty of time to rock and soothe when they are newborns. Once they are several months old, they need to start learning to self soothe.
And no, they don’t need to eat in the night once they reach a certain age, usually around 6 months, but some babies are good with sleep and will not wake up to feed at a younger age. The last thing any parent wants is a toddler that is totally dependent on a parent to sleep and nap. Whether that be sleeping in general, or sleeping in their own bed and room.
If it’s comfort for y‘all, when they turn 13-20, they will sleep like logs all the time. In the morning, afternoon, evening, be on tour through the night, go ahead sleeping, sleep in on Saturday and Sundays, not getting up before lunchtime. It will get better 🫣
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Awake two times a night?? My baby is awake every hour!
same here....
Hows it going ladies? Are u babes sleeping yet?
My. Baby. Is. Oreredy asleeyp
Same 😰
@@teleahmiranda3948 how old is ur baby?
11 hours a night?!?!? To me that’s the equivalent of winning the lottery! My baby wakes up several times a night and never sleeps through the night :(
Try a sleep blanket and a bath about 7pm they will cluster feed right after the bath no soap needed just keep the water super warm and have them play 15 min. I switched bathtime to night because my little one would be up all night and day. Now she sleeps 12 hours and I get 2 naps in the day.
*sleep sac micro fleece
@@HackerActivist how old was she when you did this?
@@themcdermottway6912 infant
@@themcdermottway6912 to 2 months
My son was sleeping perfectly at 4 months! Then the 4 month sleep regression started and I started breastfeeding him to sleep... And it got worse! When I saw this video, I followed the advise and after 3 nights he slept through the night again!!! Thank you so much, it changed our lives and we enjoyed the wake times even more :)
OMG ! I NEED TO TRY THIS. I HAVEN'T SLEPT FOR 9 MONTHS 😥
The only way I could ever let the baby "cry it out", is in the case the mom feels like she has had enough. When I say had enough, I'm meaning that she puts the baby in the crib and shuts the door to walk away from her baby so she doesn't lose it or hurt the baby, or maybe she needs a break. That's the only way I could ever do that. I'm a mother of two (a six, and now 4.5 week year old), I've had to walk away before, but I've never let my babies cry themselves to sleep and never will.
Exactly! I left the room for my own sanity and baby's safety. But NEVER would I let him cry! 2-3 times a night looks pretty normal for that little one. They often just need love and reassurance! If you decide to get a child you have to care for it!
Ok karen
I think this is not true. But everyone can have their own opinion. I really wanted children, but that doesn’t mean i have to get them to sleep the whole day / night. My baby was 3 months old when i let her cry (ofcourse not super long). And i would go inside her room every time to calm her down, but she would fall a sleep in her own crib. It last for 1 month, and then she slept so good! Day.. and night. From 19.00-07.00. And over the day she slept really good as well.
Because she knew how to sleep by her own and she knew her crib felt safe.
I know parents that always get their babies to sleep, and now their older, and now they still have sleep problems with their child. I think that’s not good for the parents as well for the children. Because sleep is so important.
@@jaylo3678 you don't have to let your baby cry in order for it to learn how to fall asleep alone. My second son is 4 month now and he falls asleep in his own 90% of the time without me ever letting him cry,. It's much more work for the parents to do it cry free. I agree that sleep is so important for them. BUT developing basic trust is just as important. A baby that stops crying just gave up. It did not self soothe. But that's just my opinion.
I did the Cry it out last night . I couldn’t watch him😭 He is my Baby🥺🥺but yeah whenever i feel like its enough i’ll consider this method looks effective
My baby started sleeping 11-12 hours straight when she turned 3 months. I made sure that i started a routine when she was 1 month old. I did the same thing at the same time every night and it worked like a magic! I do:
Bath time at 7
Made sure she’s well fed
Turn on white noise
Swaddle and dance her around for a bit until she fell asleep
Then put her down in her bassinet
I also make sure to give her a nap every 1 hour for an hour and that she’s well fed throughout the day.
When she got a little older I started giving her naps every 2 hours for an hour to 1 1/2 hours.
When she turned 6 months we moved her in her own room with the exact same routine except we stopped swaddling her at 4 months.
Bath time
Turn on white noise
Milk time until full
Dance her around
Then put her down in her crib
Let her fall asleep on her own
Only time she wakes up is when she’s not feeling well but that’s once in a blue moon.
She’s now 10 months and still sleeps 11-12 hours a night.
We do the same but baby only sleeps 3 hours at a time. I think luck factors in sometimes
My babe is a preemie so I’m always a little unsure of when to start certain things. I’m going to try this. At 6 weeks, she doesn’t sleep poorly and only gets two night feedings but she’s a super noisy sleeper that makes it challenging for us. Her sleep sounds similar to her waking.
@@sambito702 yeah my reaction was to laugh 😅 literally the exact same routine 🤷♀️ oh well!
Please, newborns are not meant to sleep through the night. Their stomach is tiny. They get hungry.
I feel a six month old is too young to sleep in a separate room. Some parents close the door too. Cannot agree with that.
My husband sleep trained our 3 month old baby. For nights I wasn’t getting any sleep. This eventually led me to be depressed and sleep deprived. I couldn’t get things done or be a mommy during the day like I wanted to, because I was so sleepy! She would wake up every 15-30mins from 12am -8am. However, after he sleep trained her , I was getting so much sleep. Of course, she woke up once during the night for a breastfeeding snack. Moreover, it didn’t create any weird connection between me and my baby. She’s 4 1/2 years old now, and we’re inseparable ❤️
Great video! Only thing that worked for my son was music. Only thing that put & kept him out.
Why did I start crying in the end? lol I loved this. im currently working on improving nights with my 1 year old. It's not joke. Bless your family.
I started writing stories for my train obsessed toddler who never wanted to go to bed. Just started recording audios weekly and releasing them on youtube. The premise is that the bed turns into a magic train once they close their eyes and each time they get to travel to a different part of the world. @
My baby sleeps 10-12 hours since 4 months old. We started sleep training since 3 weeks old. Warm lavender bath, Lights out, soothing sounds, bottle. Same routine every night. No rocking chair, no props.
Nice!!!
So jealous, but happy for you. We've tried everything we could think of.
Second to u! I also sleep trained both my girls when they were a month old. Not about making them cry to sleep but keeping consistent routine and no rocking, no feed to sleep really helps establish a great sleeping habit later in so I disagree with ppl saying babies under three months old should be spoiled and not be sleep trained
@@wong-douetdorothy9131 what was your routine every night?
Must be nice I can do all that and she still won’t sleep more than 4 hours straight
Babies wake up because they are either hungry, wet, sick or uncomfortable temperature wise. Dont ignore your child unless all these are sorted. Sometimes they just want to be held close. They are babies after all.
Unfortunately that creates a codependent relationship, very unhealthy. We would love to hold our children whenever they ask but sometimes we need to stop doing for them what they can do for themselves.
@@kitty2345 We are talking about babies here. Babies are by default dependent on their parents. They wont be babies forever.
@@kitty2345 eeeh…
My only question is when putting the baby to sleep would you still use the night time bottle? Or does that stop as well ?
i'm not even a mom lol what am I doing here
Me too lol...but i have no choice since i have to take care of my sister's child....i can't sleep at night lol......I got panda's eyes lmao😣🙄🙄
2-3 times a night? GTFOH! Talk to me when your baby wakes up every 30 minutes! Complaining about waking up 2-3 times is laughable. And this sleep method seems to be extremely similar to the Ferber method.
Facts smh
Facts I have a 2 year old and we tried everything now since he crawls out of crib, we lowered it long ago obviously. He won’t stop demanding breastfeeding and falls out of his new big boy bed, lays in my bed (bad habit) we used to not share a room, might have to try that, we only have one room downstairs the other is a guest room I want have
Step 1 (or 2) that Dana Obleman suggests says to make sure that a baby is well fed (not hungry) during a day. What If the baby is not a good eater? My son stopped being interested in food. When he wakes at night wanting me to breastfeed him, I can tell he's hungry because his stomach growls. Any advice?
My baby is 11 months still waking up at and if he feels like he isn’t being send it to you as quickly as possible he screams at the top of his Longs I have tried a lot of things and it’s really hard being a single mother and having a deal with this at nightl there are times where I literally have to just walk away and let him cry for two or three minutes.
You need to stop feeding him at night. Try to do a "go to bed ritual" thet includes food, bath and a song . After thet when he wakes up at night, if he crys hold him in your arms. when he relaxes immediately put him in bed so he knows it's bed time. After thet when in bed if he still struggles, put your hand on him till he calms down.. it's important to hold him whenever he crys to get him to feel secure. When he calms down immediately lay him back in bed. We need to help our babies learn that they can get themselfes go back to sleep without a parent's help. If we help a baby too much, he can develop bad sleeping habits that he will be dependent on and will only get worse with time. It's important to note thst every change that you do, weather it's feeding at night or teaching him to sleep on it's own, it's must be done gradually. This advise is only good for 5 month old babies or older. Before that, a baby is too young to be able to go all night without food or learn how to sleep on it's own.
@@zilbi20 do you have children ?? & do you understand that every baby is different ?
My baby sleeps 8-9 hours. I'm ok with that as long as she naps well during the day, but there are some days where the naps are too short. Just a lottery for me
Both my brother and I slept through the night straight away from birth. My mother was even had the nurse correct her for not feeding my brother during the night for the first 5 months because she was told to feed on demand but because he never woke up he didn’t demand.
My 10 month old sleeps 5 hours straight, gets up for 2 hours then sleeps 4 more hours. I've got to get him out of my bed so I can sleep better. To the crib he goes. Starting tonight!
My 5 month only sleeps around 30-40 min interval naps during the day and wakes almost every hour at night. HELP
I have the same problem now with my 4mo baby. How did it turn out for you?
Our baby is 13 months old now and it’s been a journey. So naps at this point are still very much a week-to-week thing, some weeks there consistent 1hr plus long naps and others its 30-40 mins. Nights got a whole lot better once we did sleep training AND got baby out of our room into crib around 8 months. Baby sleeps through the night pretty consistently now. It does get better/manageable it just takes time which I know may be hard to hear. My only suggestion would be to start sleep training as soon as it’s recommended.
@@hightimeskg Thank you for responding! I am happy to hear that it worked out for you!
I don't wish for my baby to sleep through the night yet, it's just that he wakes up every 40-60 minutes at night also. Sometimes he has a 2h, other nights has a 4h stretch but rarely.
So eventually you let him cry? How long did it take?
Please can you tell me step by step how you did the sleep training! I really can't seem to figure it out.
How old was her son when she did thins right now I’m trying to break that bottle sleep association but lessening the amount eat night till he get no more but naps are so hard for him to stay asleep when I try to put him down
What if your baby will only nap for 30 min a few times a day? My guy is almost 4mo and he doesn't like to nap... and every morning around 4 he gets into a weird noisy uncomfortable sleep...
I'm so distracted by how high that crib mattress is for how tall he is.
she said nothing i haven't heard before .. wow some expert
I know right!!
Lmao is everything ok? Seriously asking btw. I know this kind of frustration. I’m here to talk if you need it. Also a mom with a baby who refuses to sleep
@@reginesarai no I’m going crazy my one year old still doesn’t sleep throughout the night
@@damarimoland1613 i know how hard it can be. You can get seriously crazy without sleep. With my son it helped to keep a strict routine at nighttime. And the same routine when he wakes at night. But my 2 year old still wakes once a night most nights. My pediatrician said that is completely normal. They still learn soooo much. They still need so much reassurance. We are happier since we allowed him to come to our bed when he wakes in the night. We all sleep more and since he woke less often knowing we are here and accessable. But if you don't want that's completely understandable. Every mom and dad have to be ok with the methods to. Not only the children
@@schneeevchen that’s true I’m iffy on the bed just because I am told I am a wild sleeper so I might have to put three pillows as a barrier between me and my daughter
Just wandering if those parents that apply sleep training does atleast have thinking/wondering if that might impact childs mental health in a long term...
My son just turned 5 months. And when she said "I just slept through the night" not gonna lie.....i shed a tear.
How's your sons sleep now?
@@iambeezee He's still not a great sleeper, and may wake once or twice a night as a usual. But it improves for a while, then regresses. A couple good weeks, a couple bad weeks. Teething is a challenge, developmental spurts are a challenge, and little colds are a challenge. We'll get there eventually.
@@ctcollinthib if it helps I read a book called "the gentle sleep book" and it's VERY normal for babies under 2 to wake frequently so don't feel defeated or that you are doing anything wrong. It's only the western countries that expect this from babies! Even things like sleeping in a crib in their own room. Once you let go of that expectation it's quite a comfort to know that it's just biological ok for your baby to need you at night x
The torture is real lmao
@@iambeezee i agree. I was furious just 2 months ago with my now 5 mo expecting her to sleep for long stretches. Since I gave in after informing myself, what baby’s sleep really is about, especially before they even hit 3 yo, I stopped being so worried about every night. Sure, my baby still wakes up 3-5x a night, but hey, she is breastfed, she needs to be comforted but that’s my role in her life, isn’t it? She first must be dependent to become independent in the end. Enjoy these “sleepless” nights, they grow up so fast and then we will be remembering those nights with tears in our eyes. If everything would be easy breeze, nothing would be special ♥️
Why is it that The couple who got this help happen to be well off news journalist in the New York area? Couldn’t have them going to a regular families home? Only the entitled rich get help while the regular work and class stuff gets to watch a news article about it. What a joke.Look at that house, do you honestly feel bad for them?
“We’re about to fall asleep mid interview” 🤣🤣
My 9 month old baby sleeps at 9pm and wakes up 2 or 3am and gave him a bottle of milk. Then he will go back to sleep.
Maybe that baby is hungry and wants to drink milk
Babies need that bottle too to grow so sounds like you are doing exactly what baby needs. I just can’t do this to my baby. I’m talking about this method. It’s all out of convenience and not what’s good for the baby. I used to think the opposite but after reading up on some studies, I’m gona feed my baby. She goes back to sleep anyway
@@dinijay i am sad for the baby if they treat like that
Disgusting and unacceptable your baby should not be getting any milk day or night far too old that’s why your baby is waking up because you are rewarding him with milk stop giving him milk and he won’t wake up
@@dinijay rubbish no baby needs milk day or night at nine months old all night feeds should be stop by no later than 6/8 weeks old
My daughter is 19 month old and still does the same... I still give her milk when she wakes up... I’m torn on what to do...
My Baby sleeps in the room with us. He wakes up every 2-3 hours usually. I cannot allow my baby to cry non stop.
I share a room with my babe too. I feel like so much baby sleep advice is geared towards parents who don’t room share and it makes a lot of the advice hard to follow
The video didn’t advise to let baby cry non stop, she says to go in to soothe every 10 minutes.
Maybe once your baby has their own room, then you might be able to use this technique, if you wanted to.
Me too i will do anything to make him happy no way i let him cry i mean he well grow older in the end and sleep like us way the rush!!!
@@MultiNblue the rush is cuz lack of sleep causes learning problems later on. We all need good night sleep for healthy development and happiness. When mine was sleep trained ,the tantrums were gone,and before she was cranky like almost all day
My baby sleep a majority of the time when he was a newborn to about 3 or 4 months then he started waking up every couple of hours or less. I had a whole routine with sleep sounds, purple light, bottle but yet he still gets up to eat 😭 frequently..I’m suffering almost going crazy from a lack of sleep. I can’t let my baby cry he will wake everybody up. He sleeps with me he doesn’t have his own room so that’s another thing.
I don’t get it. Every time I put my baby to sleep he won’t fall into a deep enough sleep in the first place to even get to go to sleep for a little while. Nothing is working. If I don’t nurse him or hold him he won’t sleep in his bassinet. He naps fine during the day. But I don’t know if I need to shorten his naps or not or don’t nap at all. When I try to put him in the bassinet, the second his butt hits the bassinet he wakes up and cries and won’t stop until I pick him up and he won’t stop crying even if I stand over him rubbing his chest, he just won’t stop. My only option is to not sleep and nurse him. I tried to nurse and then read a book but he wasn’t awake enough to really care about it. And then I put him in the bassinet and the same thing happens- he won’t stop crying until I nurse or Rick him to sleep. Help I don’t get it. He’s almost 6 months old. And I keep waking up at 3, 4, 5, pm to start my day!!! That’s ridiculous. I hate waking up when it’s about to get dark!!!
My grandson is a year old and still breast feeds. We are trying to ween him off . He screams at the top of his lungs. My baby was never a crier. I was lucky he slept through the night without crying and fussing. Myself have never experienced this type of thing. What tips for a 1 year old little boy.
That is normal for a breastfed baby, shouldn’t wean before 2.5 years old either
is this routine to be done only on night time or also on the day time?
My baby has been sleeping through the night since 3 months.. now shes 7 months and adjusting to sleep training with ease, after 10 mins she was down i guess I'm just lucky!
You are lucky. But I'm happy for you!
I wish!
Omg MINE TOO. She is 2 months only now, but have been sleeping for 8 hours straight.. Although it is from like 12 at night until 8 in the morning. I hope that doesn’t change when she’s older😭
Please advise how you got baby into this routine and what exactly you do. Thanks
My baby has always been a good night sleeper but she falls asleep on the breast. I feel like she relies on me to fall asleep and for that reason only takes 10 minute naps during the day when I attempt to put her down she instantly wakes up. She's now almost 5 months old, should I wait longer to sleep train her? Last night I tried to for night 2 and didn't get much sleep and she threw up all over the place. She was legit waking up screaming every hour 😩 Am I trying to fix something that's not really broken?
Why is the mattress so high?!
Currently watching at 4 AM while dad takes a turn with our 15 month old, who's been up for an hour now. Every night he's up from like 2-2:30 til 6 or 6:30 and I'm so done. Wasn't always this bad but boy this sucks 💀 gonna try this
Any feedback?
😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣 webin the same shoes I feel like one can go crazy
It’s torture and these little cocky parents are on here like “yeah my baby has been sleeping for 11 hours since 3 months” 🙄 screw them lol
@@tikaroxanne7286 I am trying that stupid Ferber method now with my 1 year old. I can't take it anymore.
😂😂 I have been watching while my baby baby crying and not going to sleep.
Does anyone know if you start with the 10 minutes from the beginning or if they wake up? Can you hold them until they get drowsy and then put down? My baby is 8 months old.
My baby has the same routine.. asleep by 7pm and wakes up at 5-6am... thankful 🙏🏼
Can you please tell me how your baby was put into this routine, I have a newborn.
Epic_R Shutterbug I didn’t have professional help but I have 4 kids and it’s been trial and error. I write down every time they eat and how much if breast feeding I write what breast and how long and if it’s formula I write how many oz. I also write down every diaper change, this helps figure out why they’re crying because at times it’s not hunger. Before bed I make sure I’ve given them their usual amount of formula and their diaper is changed and then slowly they’re full at night so they don’t wake up, it’s hard but usually by 1 month they’re sleeping from through the night, I let them pick their time though, my daughter was asleep by 7pm and my son who is 2 months now is midnight, slowly I’ll wake him during the day and change the hour but for now I just let him pick the time with his feedings. I wish you the best of luck, it’s not easy at first but it does get easier
@@stephy8183 awww thank you for getting back to me. I have a 2 week old and he sleep from 3pm to 8pm in a deep sleep, and winges moans all night long, constantly gets up every 1 n half to 2 hours for a feed, its exhausting.
Epic_R Shutterbug my mother in law suggested that you open the windows and let the light in and try to get him to stay awake by talking to him or maybe not snuggling him so warmly, when he goes to sleep at night you keep the room dark so they can tell the difference between night and day. This has always worked for me to get them to sleep more at night. It’s hard but it does get better! You got this and congratulations! Enjoy him because time flies 🥺😭
That baby’s crib should have been lowered.
I will say that my first child I didn’t sleep train because it was so hard and sad and she is 3 and STILL wakes up at least once through the night and I regretted not sleep training because I honestly felt like a zombie most of the time and felt like I couldn’t be the best mom because of my moodiness from not sleeping. So I sleep trained my second one and she sleeps like a dream, she sleeps better than my 3 year old lol and it only took like 3 days! No regrets here!
Helpful thanks
What did you do? I'm like a zombie now 😥
Sleep during the day make sure you open blinds and let the light in.
At night, make sure there are no lights on or noise. Try not to carry her at night. It should change within a week. I had the same problem and put the sound of white noise.
Yeah what did you do I’m a 🧟♂️ as well
How do I do this if my baby sleeps in our room?🤷♀️
Okay so my 6 month old wakes up every 2-3 hours during the night. How does this work if he's waking up 5 times a night??:(
Has anyone experienced regression when the bed was changed to toddler bed? My daughter is 3 almost 4 yrs old and has become completely co-sleep dependent on us. It seems like all that sleep training went out the window the moment she started turning door knobs lol. Please share your experience.
Lock it maybe? Sorry mine is 2 I have no experience yet.
My daughter is about a year and she sleeps 10-12 hours but she doesn’t sleep until 12am or sometimes 2am. How can I fix this?
Amazing that little Miles slept 11 hours on night 3! Great work! Although it may have been a tough couple of days, you're giving your little guy the gift of sleep. Amazing! xx
Boarder, low noise light stimulation. No mobiles lights. Confotable, warm.
Yes research shows that its absolutely normal for babies to waking up at night as they don't have the same sleep cycle as adults. It's actually child abuse to allow a child crying for a prolonged period of time due to raised cortisol levels that are produced in the brain. This can cause irreversible brain damage. It's incredibly selfish for parents to make a child endure this stress just for their own comfort. It's incredible that Western country like the US and UK have made mothers think that night waking are abnormal and should be rectified. They want women not to be mothers but be contributing to the workforce and economy as soon as possible. Hence why all the gimmicks of breast pumping, baby led weaning, nursery and sleep training is to get the child independent as soon possible so the mother go back to work. Mother's are forced to put their children through what they don't deserve. Mother's are not being allowed to be actually mothers instead been left to feel guilty and torn between their careers and actually being a mother.
Seetal D wow. I have a 1 year old & a 7 week old. You couldn’t have said it better. 👍🏼
Oh please shut up. No one has ever died from crying
Well not everyone can be a stay at home mom. To say it is selfish of the parent is ridiculous because you can’t be a good mom while sleep deprived. And crying won’t cause brain damage
I agree
I agree with much of what you said except the "irreversible brain damage" and "baby-led weaning" bits. But parenting has become SO much about prioritizing the comfort of the parents. I am a huge proponent of self-care, of the concept of putting your oxygen mask on first, but this is NOT that. Many parents just don't want to be inconvenienced or for their life to shift.
So when the night 2 crying got so bad and you going in made him angrier, did you end up not going in?
I heard that there was something called sleep training. It is supposed to help your baby to get on the right schedule when it comes to sleeping. I want to know if anyone has heard about this.
Yes. You basically let them cry and scream themselves to sleep. It’s incredibly stressful for them and very outdated.
I’ve never sleep trained any of my kids and they all slept a full night on their own by 18 months. SAHM, bed, and room sharing allowed me to get my sleep needed.
not everyone can bedshare safely
All of that still isn’t working for me
18 months? That's a lifetime
@@mackenzie7768 That's why there's room-sharing....
My mum never sleep trained both her babies were sleeping through at six weeks old
Sleep training. It has been very easy so far. She’s 15 months.
What method did you use?
Teach me
how much 2 months have to sleep? can he also sleep though the night?
If a 2 month old wakes at night for a feed definitely feed bubs :)
@@brendasalinas8696 rubbish no baby is a newborn past four weeks old and they not only can sleep through the night they should be sleeping through with no feeds at least 12 hours
@@tawnyb1560 no two month olds neither need or have the right to have anything to eat at night they should be sleeping 12 hours with nothing to eat at that age
Nice way of saying, "let em tough it out."
can i use this advice with a 1 year old
This is just sleep training. People do it or not. I do not believe in sleep training. I joined a group called "Beyond Sleep Training" with other mothers who do not let babies "cry it out."
I am seeing this comment now and I am so glad you posted this comment. The Beyond Sleep Training group has been a blessing for us. I cannot assert how traumatic cry it out is for babies :(
How do I completely make my baby stop the pacifier during slp time coz sh really screams and shouts wen crying if it falls off while asleep. Am becoming a nyt zombie🤪😵😫 8months old.
So what do you do if your breast feeding?
With breastfeeding its the same don't let the baby fall asleep on the breast. When they wake go in every 10 minutes . You can extend the time to adding 5 minutes. For example 10. 15. 20. 25 minutes till they fall asleep. and try to avoid picking them up and rocking them back to sleep, they can become reliant on that. Being consistent is key
You co sleep. This is biologically normal for all humans. Babies know that they’re meant to be and sleep close to their mother, they’re following their correct instincts. Look up SAFE 7 on La Leche League International website. Cosleeping has nothing to do with SIDS, Japan has the highest cosleeping rates in the world and lowest SIDS rates. It’s unrelated.
@@jessicavergara1932 Cleary I think I asked this when I was sleep deprived looking for anything to help my girl sleep, but I’m happy to report back she just turned 2 in November and cosleeping is exactly what we did/still do!! 😊 I actually didn’t know that information regarding Japan that’s very interesting!!
TYSM
What about a 16 month old who needs back rubs, a bottle, her binkie, every 12 times to 36 times a night.
I’m also 9 months pregnant.
Wow. This kinda look like a magic. Might wanna try this tho.
I know its hard, frustrating taking care of babies. I have a 15 yr old kid and suddenly got pregnant again. I couldnt even remember his milestones. Its like im back to zero again on taking care of a baby. Its really really frustrating. But, these babies, they grow up so fast.
All i can say is enjoy each moment you are with them coz SOMEDAY, its just gonna be YOU and YOUR partner. Your children will have their own lives. Just enjoy taking care of them, just have fun.
P.s. My baby is now almost 3 months old and she takes a nap 4-5times a day.
Wakes up 2-3 times at night.
Frustrating but it gets easier. Remember, it shall pass. Just enjoy them while u can. ❤
Not once mentioned how old her baby is... 🤔
I have twins. Tried all the sleep training strategies. 20 months old and they still never sleep. They wake each other up too 😂
Currently holding my 1 year old because he keeps waking up every 2 hours...but! This won't last forever
Omg you poor thing!! 😆😩
Lmao that fuqin sucks, sorry to hear that
Nothing is wrong with that, just two very happy twin babies.
Same here with my 19 month old. I never tried sleep training though.
am i the only one that’s like, get to the point i’m freaking tired.
I was breastfeeding for my little one. she sleep alone when she was born but couldn't sleep through night. For the first three months she woke up every three or four hours. When she was five months old, she woke up one or two times for milk but it was not every night to sleep through the night. After feeding the milk then she could straight to bed. It was really tired. She doesn't like bottle milk. I heard bottle milk can sleep longer than breastfeeding but she didn't like power milk. I try the power milk when she was eight or night months old I should have watched this in that time then I can try. My girl is 21months old now. Tonight it is the first time I tried to train her to sleep alone complete without milk and co-sleeping. I tried to get her straight to bed when she started eight months old few times. She crying until 1:00am still not go to sleep. I couldn't leave her like that. So I put her to her own bed after she felt in sleep with me. I thought I should wait for her a bit older then do it again. So tonight I tried. She was crying in the beginning. It was quick she felt in sleep after half an hour and went inside the covering. I hope she could sleep without crying and through the night. In the day her nap is between 12pm-14pm, or 15pm-17pm. She couldn't sleep the same time that is the problem. Hope I change the routine can help a lot.
Please, never make a newborn baby sleep alone in a separate room!
Every baby is different, obviously don’t expect a newborn to sleep through the night. My daughter didn’t sleep through the night until she was like 7 months. I didn’t sleep train her, she did that all by herself. If you have an older baby and they wake up multiple times a night they probably feel alone in their crib they get scared. My daughter hates her crib but she’s about to be 1 so I’m getting her used to it by putting it next to my bed.
Disgusting you are a bad mother your daughter didn’t sleep through because you rewarded her with milk every time she woke up also at one year old she far too old for a crib no baby over 5/6 months fits in a crib she shouldn’t even be in a cot at a year old she should be in a full size single bed
No, a 1 year old should NOT be in a bed.
Now what do you do if he has eczema and scratches his face at night
Theres a great creme i use from mediderm
Put medicated cream and socks over his hands
My baby is 5 months and she sleeps from 8 pm -6 am sometimes 7 am .. shower the baby before bed clean pjs and full feed and stay around them all my 3 babies are the same
No feed at night
Babies don't learn to stop crying and to sleep by themselves, they learn to stop waiting for the parent, they still need it they just know that they are not coming anymore. it's sad
Yeah right. It's cruel. I will never let my baby cry!!!!
@@melaniagrund9615 more cruel than after years and years of not being able go into deep sleep and have physical and mental problem cuz of it ?
What about breastfeeding mommy?
Just have bathtime everynight around 6pm then if your breastfeeding. Hot water (not burning then) keep it very warm and have them play 15 min
No soap. Just water. Do this everynight. They should cluster feed once dried off in warm pjs.
Cosleep. Do some research, this crap is cruel, is isn’t biologically or anthropological normal. Baby wants mum, it’s primitive, it’s instinctual, the baby knows what he’s doing. Cosleeping and SIDS is unrelated so don’t worry about that, Japan has the highest cosleeping rates in the world with the lowest SIDS rates in the world. They’re unrelated! Cosleeping, soothe and rock them, breastmilk has chemicals specifically to make your baby sleep, they’re meant to fall asleep at the breast.
@@HackerActivistthat makes no sense. It doesn’t work that way I breastfeed and I know, he’s two and needs to quit. It’s hell. That won’t work, what you said or whatever even if it made sense.
I was already doing this. My 14 month old won't even sleep at nap time any more I'm so frustrated I don't know what to do I've done everything TH-cam has told me too lol everything Google has told me to everything people online suggested.. he was fine until over a week ago I'm just so exhausted I can't remember things or even function
My baby is 18 months old but he doesn't sleep whole if he sleep 10pm then he wake up 3am then he sleep again 7am I wake him up 9:30 or 10am again he sleep 2pm until 4pm them again 10pm this is his schedule I don't know how I let him to sleep whole night at least from 10pm until 6am please help 😭
My baby is exactly the same, last week I started a schedule. Btwn 8am-10.30 he wakes up , showers and breakfast. Plays a bit. By 11-12 he naps "surprisingly" (sometimes not fr long). Btw 12.30 n 1400 he has lunch, pudding and a drink, plays. Then naps around 3-5, then btwn 5 and 7 is dinner time and a bath. I give him milk when he wants to sleep. Try that n see
@@tanishakizito2605 Great. That's what I have started with my baby girl. But napping at 5pm is not a good idea. The baby wont sleep at 8pm. It's better to nap at 1pm to 2pm. Anyway my baby is energetic so this works well for us.
I don't see the problem. My baby sleeps next to me and when he wakes up I just breastfeed. I fall back asleep while doing it, and so does he. I don't even remember how many times he breastfeeds, because it doesn't bother me at all. And he's happy and relaxed. We both get enough sleep and he never had to get throught the traumatising experience of having to cry alone in the night. Btw, co-sleeping is perfectly safe for healthy infants if you keep your bed free of heavy pillows and thick blankets (just wear a warmer pyjama), the parents don't smoke and are not under the influence of alcohol or drugs. On the other hand, having a very young baby sleeping in a separate room is associated with higher SIDS rates.
Ok karen
Ignore the haters
we did the same, no issues what so ever but now 9 months and he is screaming and pushing himself if I don't stand up and walk... insanity
@@Ciana_Baby 😂😂😂
@@Ciana_Baby yeah you’re weird
My baby is 2.6 yrs old , he gets up every 2-3 hrs for bottle feed in night ...can I try this method for him , I haven't slept properly in night since 2.6 yrs....
Mines turning two he is two, he doesn’t sleep w out breast. It’s annoying me and no sleep. He insists and wants sleep in my bed I am diligent not letting him nurse and it’s for better idk what to do tried so much
My 1st kid was amazing at sleeping thru the night but my 2nd omg we r struggling my husband sleeps on the floor cuz she only falls asleep while feeding her
How to this for breast feeders
Today is my first day alone with my baby and I am dying, she's not sleeping for anything I need help a sure solution pleeeeeeaaaasssseeeeee
Searching this video because my 2 year old's Asthma is flared so breathing treatments every 4 hours then 5 month old has been up for 3 hours just playing. Dad doesn't help with nights and I'm ready to throw water on him right now 😡. I just want a couple hours before 2 year old gets up in an hour and a half ready to play but baby will be fast asleep!
its nice video 👍
I tried this and it worked. I have a 13 months old this worked in 2 days we only cried the first night.
That crib is still on its highest setting and that’s SO dangerous!
Totally agree! Thinking maybe they did this for filming only.... Hopefully.
Ok karen
Omg thank you! I was wondering if anyone would notice that the crib looked like it was at the highest setting! That baby would fall out of the bed so easily!
Sounds easy but when it comes to action it is freaking hard! Hearing your baby cry for hours breaks my heart
My baby is 2 years old, no bottle, but wakes up to look for us, she won’t sleep unless one of us is with her, help please
helpppp...my baby is 8mo now...she wake up almost every hour in the night ..also during a nap... 😢😢
I am just happy my baby doesn't screech.
He screams, but he doesn't screech.
How old is he?
Omg i can’t wait to try this!
how did it go?
Mine is awake 4-5 times with screaming. I am really struggling.
Mine too he wakes up every 2 hours or less. You are not alone🙏🙏🙏💝
This is basically the Ferber method lol
Well another solution is sleeping between the parents. the babies feel safe sleeping with parents as they can feel secure and warm around familiar people. Sometimes putting them in a crib in another room might when it's dark out can scare them. Sleep them next to you after a while if you want to sleep next to them they won't be willing anyway.
they should only sleep next to mother (preferably breastfeeding) as a baby - fathers don't have the same awareness and could roll on them.
But yes, room-sharing at a minimum is very important. A side sleeper is a good option for those who don't want to bed share.
No other mammal leaves their newborns on their own to sleep, and it's a very recent western idea for humans. Bed or room sharing makes it so much easier when you need to feed them as well if you are also breastfeeding because you barely even need to wake up.
@@trishna_6815 this is so right.
@@trishna_6815 look at all the cases were mothers have crushed their babies sleeping in the same bed don’t sleep with your babies
@@vixen7774 this only happens when person has taken alcohol or other drugs, or are so incredibly tired that they end up co-sleeping in an unplanned manner. If you plan to co-sleep, you will have correct set up, and will not be that tired.
So sleeping training is basically let your baby crying and screaming for hours until he is so tired of crying that he sleeps. Then next day he gives up amd now he knows you will not be there when he cries. I dont know, I have a little baby and he is struggling with the sleep, I want to do everything that it is possible to help him and also the mother. But to just let the baby crying does not seems right to me. And for those who say it does not affected the relation with the kid, that is not a good parameter. Even parents that abuse the kids are still loved sometimes by the kids, the child is dependent and cannot fully express himself. I don't want to judge anyone, only who is suffering and struggling knows the pain and I wish best of luck to everyone.